1. Work on yourself and develop a abundance mindset 2. Don't go out there with a hidden agenda 3. Don't be too available 4. Don't be clingy and want to talk all the time 5. Don't double text 6. Don't pursue him and let him pursue you 7. Don't be too impatient 8. Don't ask for relationship status update all the time 9. Keep high standards 10. Don't try to get his attention by posting on social media And lastly value yourself above the relationship
You need to have this mindset: “if I don’t find someone that gives me love, so what? Is that the end of the world? No! You can have everything you want by working hard on yourself and build your confidence. You are lovable by yourself! By the world! The world is in your hands if you are confident!”
@@Jamhael1as long as we are happy within ourselves, I wouldn’t complain. If I have to choose between happiness and hug, happiness is gonna be what I choose everyday.
No one ever told me that men take advantage of women who show too much intrest in a man. Im so greatful for these channels because i never had a positive male role model in my life that taught me these things and also growing up with an abusive mother made me seek love with men who didn't have my best intrest.
This is very true. Dated a man who was painfully insecure and lacked self esteem. Rather than outwardly complimenting himself (cause that would be too obvious) he would always say things such as “my friends say I’m a good guy” or “my friend says I have a nice body and I should show it off by wearing tighter fitting clothes” or “my FRIENDS say [insert something complimentary] about me” and it was a complete turn off as it comes across not only insecure but very self-serving. He was a decent looking fellow but I couldn’t get over the desperation vibes he was putting forth.
LADIES ALSO REMBER EMOTION IS THE FIRST MANIFESTATION (how you feel will manifest on a situation example: if you are feeling sad,scared,depressed,clingy to find a bf you will not find him or you will attract wrong men,if u feel happy,thankful,worthy u will attract right men)
Correction control in reacting to emotions. Emotions cannot be controlled they are an indicator to us. Control of how we react to emotions These are really good points though.
Thank you!!! Why is it hard for people to understand that people who are neurodivergent (people who developed, or were born with a mental disorder/illness/disability) have a harder time getting over these issues is because their brain is WIRED to react like this. 🙄🙄🙄
Yes it is hard enough for people to buoy their self-esteem bcos they are wired differently but to be judged for it is not o.k. There are alot of people especially young men who really struggle with a sense of worthlessness and is possibly a reason for high suicide amongst them. Come on people try to be kinder you never know what someone else is dealing with. ❤
She’s understanding which is why she’s giving you tips to help. I found this very helpful so my goal now is to Incorporate these things as I continue to work on my self. Also those things you ladies are mentioning are ok however, now that you’re aware why you/we do these things you now have the power and knowledge to change for the better to help you attract the right person for you. 💓💓
Gosh, why did I come across this just now? I did all these mistakes and lost the man who really loved me in the beginning.... He was love of my life and I never wanted to lose him so I tried too hard not to lose him and did all these mistakes. Of course he left me at the end. :(
Listening to you, I feel that my inner self is confronting me for all the mistakes that I have done. I am jocund that I have found this RUclips channel, thank you for guiding many woman like me through your existence.
I have seen some videos made by male coaches on man psychology or to say on dating tips. But i find your videos are more interesting, more to the point, more practical and more informative. I am just not finding appropriate words to compare your videos with others on similar topics. Thanks for making such videos. 👌❤🙏
Yes, there's a male coach advising men to be treating women really badly, to cheat constantly etc., how horrible! Teaching the men to constantly be rude and try to make women insecure, so that the men can make her under control. It's abusive, he's telling them to constantly add nastiness to their chat. He calls it 'game'... he teaches 'how to 'shit test' women, really horrible, manipulative, sneaky tactics,,,, .... just making men more horrible... They really believe women like it
If u have a guy u love ...just lead a normal life as u do it always...waiting for guys texts call will make u more uncomfortable and also give negative vibes....so let them contact u
Tysm for the video...this is the bestest channel for self growth, please keep making videos, it motivates a lot...also this is the only channel where i found videos on exactly what i wanted , tysm once again🌟💎
And thats why you need to get as much out of them before they move onto the next.Nothing is forever but when I start dating I will have this approach,not giving my time away and ending up the same as before.
Whatever u said is true, but buddy, when u love, when u put your everything into it.. you expect buddy, that's human nature.. these are mind games buddy, i advice when u love u just love 💗
Just got introduced to this channel, and I'm just loving the content on this channel. I understood that I can get the exact information I'm looking for on this channel. And watching the videos on this channel is definitely worth my time. Keep posting amazing content. Thankyou @Dark Femininity for such an amazing content
I wish many more 'better options ' would help with this situation. I did used to completely give commitment. But yes, they abused it. Found it hard to not talk all the time to him, when he didn't respond. Yes, so much gave him my views, when he didn't bother to reply. Did that a lot because I loved him more than loving myself. Learned the hard way. Other men showed me, he's not the only one who I should care about! Especially as he hardly does anything for me. Always surprised that so many men care. To think I was prepared to give my life to him, but he offered nearly nothing! I am open to finding a happier future with better people, treating me nicer now... my love for him, has not proven to 'inspire him, to hardly do anything for me '.... I hope someone wants me, even more than I want & fancy him, this time.... I don't know... it's hard to understand all this emotional stuff xx
My psychiatrist said that we are social animals and we need love from others, unfortunately, it’s just pure biology. I can not cuddle with myself. I just need to pretend that I don’t need anyone 😂 Fake or till you make it…
I am a guy and I can tell you that most of this is true for the opposite as well. However it would not hurt if a woman is interested in me too come up and make innocuous conversation that's how I know
Good job 👍 keep up good work. Wonderful tips for young ones to value & love themselves. Their own Soul will bless them abundantly what they want🙏. Keep up ur self respect ladies😊
I Think 100% that she guides all the ladies same stuff that other so cold dating Coaches told to another man in very very strange situation because if both (Ladies & men) gets too serious about small things then every relationship will end up in losing their partner So Ladies Don't be too serious about each and everything!
As a man i recommend woman to give some initial flirtatious signs to the man u like..let the man to chase u...👍 If he's interested... If woman is too clingy..then man are more likely not interested in that woman for long term relation..i mean they prefer short term relation.you know what i mean 👍
Can I ask you a question? Will a man come back for you if he's really interested even if he disrespected you and you told him to then leave you alone ?
Well iv done all the wrong things I’m so sorry iv been so needie for 14 years iv been needie I don’t hav two be I’m a good woman just needie god I’m not going two be now no more I’m done thank yu
Relationship has become business now days because is quite convenient to go on dating apps ,so many people profit from the attempt people trying to find love that if we do all of you who makes content, dating couches, data brokes will go out of business!
Since yesterday I came across your videos.. I just feel so blessed. Thank you so much for sharing this beautiful piece with us.. I just wish for a communication with you.. With love from Nigeria.
What's the diff if u have lots of men who want me? But I'm u single minded in love when I meet someone I love... Why is it known as desperate and needy?
Sometimes it's too late to fix it if the damage is beyond repair ( the person has a clair idea about how desperate you were ) but you can still start working on yourself and go no contact and months down the line maybe you will meet the person again and they will see you completely differently if you changed.
so you say don’t post on social media for his attention, does this include just like life updates? like posting a picture when i’m with my friends or something
It all depends on your intention, if it's a post you would have put on social media anyway and it's organic life update, it is okay...but even in this case don't overdo it. One picture is enough for a life update every now and then.
@@Theblackswan55 what if you broke things off with the guy and then he left you alone and then you went chasing after him and then he didn't want anything to do with you after sexual intimacy and then you try your best ro make it work and then later out of anger you tell him to leave you alone or else you'll involve authorities will he come back even then or no?
@@Theblackswan55 and it's been a month I haven't reached out nor has he. In the beginning I felt like he was being fake love bombing me so I would break it off often and then when he actually left me alone I used sex to get him back and he just mechanically used me and literally kicked me out of his house and after that I kept chasing for closure and he just wanted to remain friends and I tried my best to communicate and work things but he was blaming everything on me and in my last message to him I told him if he messages me again I will involve police and after that he never messaged me again
1. Work on yourself and develop a abundance mindset
2. Don't go out there with a hidden agenda
3. Don't be too available
4. Don't be clingy and want to talk all the time
5. Don't double text
6. Don't pursue him and let him pursue you
7. Don't be too impatient
8. Don't ask for relationship status update all the time
9. Keep high standards
10. Don't try to get his attention by posting on social media
And lastly value yourself above the relationship
the gist would be:
1. be patient
2. keep high standards
3. let him pursue you
In other words:
Be so unaproachable that no one will even try.
You need to have this mindset: “if I don’t find someone that gives me love, so what? Is that the end of the world? No! You can have everything you want by working hard on yourself and build your confidence. You are lovable by yourself! By the world! The world is in your hands if you are confident!”
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Confidence do not hug, nor make love to you.
@@Jamhael1as long as we are happy within ourselves, I wouldn’t complain. If I have to choose between happiness and hug, happiness is gonna be what I choose everyday.
@@Afternoon99 aaaand you miss the point...
@@Jamhael1 hmm what am I missing?
No one ever told me that men take advantage of women who show too much intrest in a man.
Im so greatful for these channels because i never had a positive male role model in my life that taught me these things and also growing up with an abusive mother made me seek love with men who didn't have my best intrest.
seriously? i remember all elder women always taught to not serve men
I had the same mother, she was very abusive, I was constantly seeking love from outside 😢
"Value yourself above the relationship"! Well said 👏👌☺️
This is very true. Dated a man who was painfully insecure and lacked self esteem. Rather than outwardly complimenting himself (cause that would be too obvious) he would always say things such as “my friends say I’m a good guy” or “my friend says I have a nice body and I should show it off by wearing tighter fitting clothes” or “my FRIENDS say [insert something complimentary] about me” and it was a complete turn off as it comes across not only insecure but very self-serving. He was a decent looking fellow but I couldn’t get over the desperation vibes he was putting forth.
Oh Ew. Yikes that’s so obvious.
LADIES ALSO REMBER EMOTION IS THE FIRST MANIFESTATION (how you feel will manifest on a situation example: if you are feeling sad,scared,depressed,clingy to find a bf you will not find him or you will attract wrong men,if u feel happy,thankful,worthy u will attract right men)
Never allow yourself to be so desperate that you end up settling for far less than what you deserve.....💕
We don’t always get what we deserve in this life
Correction control in reacting to emotions. Emotions cannot be controlled they are an indicator to us. Control of how we react to emotions
These are really good points though.
I love myself, and I feel proud of the human being I have evolved, every disappointment has to impulse myself to get better and better in general !!
Desperation only shows how weak n foolish one is!! Seeking validation from ANYONE N ANYWHERE is a sign of low self esteem !!👍
Exactly
Some people bcos of developmental delays are born with low self-esteem think yourselves lucky and stop judging what you OBVIOUSLY don't understand.
Thank you!!! Why is it hard for people to understand that people who are neurodivergent (people who developed, or were born with a mental disorder/illness/disability) have a harder time getting over these issues is because their brain is WIRED to react like this. 🙄🙄🙄
Yes it is hard enough for people to buoy their self-esteem bcos they are wired differently but to be judged for it is not o.k. There are alot of people especially young men who really struggle with a sense of worthlessness and is possibly a reason for high suicide amongst them. Come on people try to be kinder you never know what someone else is dealing with. ❤
She’s understanding which is why she’s giving you tips to help. I found this very helpful so my goal now is to Incorporate these things as I continue to work on my self. Also those things you ladies are mentioning are ok however, now that you’re aware why you/we do these things you now have the power and knowledge to change for the better to help you attract the right person for you. 💓💓
Gosh, why did I come across this just now? I did all these mistakes and lost the man who really loved me in the beginning....
He was love of my life and I never wanted to lose him so I tried too hard not to lose him and did all these mistakes. Of course he left me at the end. :(
If he really did love you, he'd never have left you dr
Listening to you, I feel that my inner self is confronting me for all the mistakes that I have done. I am jocund that I have found this RUclips channel, thank you for guiding many woman like me through your existence.
🍻🏆🍻🏆🍻 IceSpice
*2:20** Self love - marriage and kids*
*4:24*
*5:50*
*7:04** They will test you early on*
I do all the right things and still can't fine true love actually there is no formula for it if it happens it will if not it won't.
Totally agree,best of luck to you 😊
I have seen some videos made by male coaches on man psychology or to say on dating tips. But i find your videos are more interesting, more to the point, more practical and more informative. I am just not finding appropriate words to compare your videos with others on similar topics. Thanks for making such videos. 👌❤🙏
Thank you ❤️❤️
Yes, there's a male coach advising men to be treating women really badly, to cheat constantly etc., how horrible! Teaching the men to constantly be rude and try to make women insecure, so that the men can make her under control. It's abusive, he's telling them to constantly add nastiness to their chat. He calls it 'game'... he teaches 'how to 'shit test' women, really horrible, manipulative, sneaky tactics,,,, .... just making men more horrible... They really believe women like it
If you start being desperate around him, he'll lose his interest. Man like challenge.
As a man i like woman making a warm intial moves like smile and fidgeting her hair 👍.
Let the man chase ,if he's interested in u
thank you very much.....I needed to hear this. I need to put myself first and love myself....being desperate is a big turn off.......
If u have a guy u love ...just lead a normal life as u do it always...waiting for guys texts call will make u more uncomfortable and also give negative vibes....so let them contact u
In other words don’t be a “pick me”
Tysm for the video...this is the bestest channel for self growth, please keep making videos, it motivates a lot...also this is the only channel where i found videos on exactly what i wanted , tysm once again🌟💎
Thank you so much for your kind words ❤️❤️❤️
Really needed this; I need to work on myself
Thank you so much ❤️
I’m so privileged to accidentally come across your Chanel although I learned all these tips from Greta the ladies relationship coach on RUclips
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I did everything opposite 😂but I just realised I don't want him ...I was just lonely
You better get over it if your gonna date. It's called catch and release now days. They will chew you up and spit you out then move on to the next.
And thats why you need to get as much out of them before they move onto the next.Nothing is forever but when I start dating I will have this approach,not giving my time away and ending up the same as before.
All of these u just said was my mistake in my previous relationship
I feel so ashamed of myself
Much needed advice ❤️. God bless you for this 😘
Whatever u said is true, but buddy, when u love, when u put your everything into it.. you expect buddy, that's human nature.. these are mind games buddy, i advice when u love u just love 💗
As man do not like woman making direct 1st move in long term relation...
Just got introduced to this channel, and I'm just loving the content on this channel. I understood that I can get the exact information I'm looking for on this channel.
And watching the videos on this channel is definitely worth my time. Keep posting amazing content. Thankyou @Dark Femininity for such an amazing content
I wish many more 'better options ' would help with this situation. I did used to completely give commitment. But yes, they abused it. Found it hard to not talk all the time to him, when he didn't respond. Yes, so much gave him my views, when he didn't bother to reply. Did that a lot because I loved him more than loving myself.
Learned the hard way. Other men showed me, he's not the only one who I should care about! Especially as he hardly does anything for me.
Always surprised that so many men care.
To think I was prepared to give my life to him, but he offered nearly nothing!
I am open to finding a happier future with better people, treating me nicer now... my love for him, has not proven to 'inspire him, to hardly do anything for me '....
I hope someone wants me, even more than I want & fancy him, this time.... I don't know... it's hard to understand all this emotional stuff xx
thank you so much for making this words so that we can understand what is right and wrong💞
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Thank you so much for creating value contents. I am such a big fan of your channel. ❤️
❤️❤️❤️ This goes straight to my heart. Thank you for being a supporter.
My psychiatrist said that we are social animals and we need love from others, unfortunately, it’s just pure biology. I can not cuddle with myself. I just need to pretend that I don’t need anyone 😂 Fake or till you make it…
Wanting it or needing it desperately are two different things
No need to date I will opt for arrange marriage 🙊 it's too much
Well i have been doing all those mistakes
This is Timely ! Thank You so much, Bless your heart💕
Have done all these mistakes
Sorry to hear that. You can learn now to avoid them and create better relationships in the future ❤️❤️
Same !
I am a guy and I can tell you that most of this is true for the opposite as well. However it would not hurt if a woman is interested in me too come up and make innocuous conversation that's how I know
thank you !!
This video is so much helpful and healing... Thank u so much...
Good job 👍 keep up good work. Wonderful tips for young ones to value & love themselves. Their own Soul will bless them abundantly what they want🙏. Keep up ur self respect ladies😊
I Think 100% that she guides all the ladies same stuff that other so cold dating Coaches told to another man in very very strange situation because if both (Ladies & men) gets too serious about small things then every relationship will end up in losing their partner So Ladies Don't be too serious about each and everything!
Its a wonderful message to anyone thank you.
Well explained.... Thanks ❤
As a man i recommend woman to give some initial flirtatious signs to the man u like..let the man to chase u...👍 If he's interested...
If woman is too clingy..then man are more likely not interested in that woman for long term relation..i mean they prefer short term relation.you know what i mean 👍
Can I ask you a question? Will a man come back for you if he's really interested even if he disrespected you and you told him to then leave you alone ?
Yep olde: Drop the handkerchief
Love this channel. Trueee. Btw, where is your accent from? Love your voice
Well iv done all the wrong things I’m so sorry iv been so needie for 14 years iv been needie I don’t hav two be I’m a good woman just needie god I’m not going two be now no more I’m done thank yu
Really nice I really like ur concept and Ur voice and advices !
Great video - thank you so much
Got damnit, I've broken a good majority of these rules 🙆🏾♀️
Relationship has become business now days because is quite convenient to go on dating apps ,so many people profit from the attempt people trying to find love that if we do all of you who makes content, dating couches, data brokes will go out of business!
Another person with a broken mindset
Thank you :)
Thanks very much ☺️😊
Thank you so much
Thank you ❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏
Try to give more importance to things like your carrier and stuff it will ease your mind
👍👍👍excellent video
Since yesterday I came across your videos.. I just feel so blessed. Thank you so much for sharing this beautiful piece with us.. I just wish for a communication with you.. With love from Nigeria.
AWESOME inputs.... ❤️
thank you for advice 😃🙂
I really like this channel x
Thank you ❤️❤️
Ughhh wish I had seen this before
What's the diff if u have lots of men who want me? But I'm u single minded in love when I meet someone I love... Why is it known as desperate and needy?
Good video
Thank you ❤️❤️❤️
thank you for this, and what is the meaning high standards? Like luxury
What if you already made this mistake? How can you fix it?
Sometimes it's too late to fix it if the damage is beyond repair ( the person has a clair idea about how desperate you were ) but you can still start working on yourself and go no contact and months down the line maybe you will meet the person again and they will see you completely differently if you changed.
Thanks
so you say don’t post on social media for his attention, does this include just like life updates? like posting a picture when i’m with my friends or something
It all depends on your intention, if it's a post you would have put on social media anyway and it's organic life update, it is okay...but even in this case don't overdo it. One picture is enough for a life update every now and then.
@@Theblackswan55 what if you broke things off with the guy and then he left you alone and then you went chasing after him and then he didn't want anything to do with you after sexual intimacy and then you try your best ro make it work and then later out of anger you tell him to leave you alone or else you'll involve authorities will he come back even then or no?
@@Theblackswan55 and it's been a month I haven't reached out nor has he. In the beginning I felt like he was being fake love bombing me so I would break it off often and then when he actually left me alone I used sex to get him back and he just mechanically used me and literally kicked me out of his house and after that I kept chasing for closure and he just wanted to remain friends and I tried my best to communicate and work things but he was blaming everything on me and in my last message to him I told him if he messages me again I will involve police and after that he never messaged me again
But what I'll do if he is cheating me?i Won't check on?
@00:57 either way it seems like trying to impress the male! 👀🧐🤔
i dont get it are we playing mind games or falling in love
Omg this a lot 😢.. I give up
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What’s the point of playing these games anyway…
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Oh yeah, this girl definitely used to watch Greta 😅
Ma'am, with all due respect, your approach is simply wrong...
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