GOT book writer is more Vata than Kapha or Pitha. He kept putting too many ideas in, and cannot finish them. That is why the wait is so damn long. He did not know to resolve it. Also, GOT tv shows sucked since season 4. Season 8 is the cream of the crop, it made me very happy the way it was turned. 80% of the original decisions in the TV shows came from the showrunners showing off the actors. The Dragon Demands channel featured the showrunnners thought process of their decisions. Maybe you can interview him about the topic of obsessions and anger management. The guy really need it.
I am not a gamer, so this channel is not branded towards me, but I’m so glad I found you. Every video of yours gives me some new insight into myself and how to approach my own mind. Your comments on anxiety, avoidance, perfectionism, procrastination, motivation, and self-doubt have already helped me change some bad mental habits I was stuck in for years. Thank you!!
I'm not a gamer at all, but for me it's more about the psychological insights. It's psychological help veiled by gaming haha.I really like the interviews as well, they are long but they are so super insightful. It really helps me to understand myself and my thinking patterns more when I see other people going through the process of better understanding themselves.
That’s one thing though about understanding yourself, when you understand yourself you come to understand ‘other-selfs’ and that simple action allows you to widen and heighten your consciousness above and below to others when interacting with them. This consequently allows you to sincerely take or leave any knowledge you have been made aware of.
@@isakg765 I think everyone has tried Minecraft, but imo just playing Minecraft doesn’t make you a gamer. I play stardew valley and overcooked 2 and fall guys with my boyfriend so we have something to do when we’re apart with the pandemic and all, but I don’t think of myself as a gamer since I only play once every month or so 😂
"Don't try to make it go away, try to understand where it's coming from! That's the biggest problem of our society today. We're so hellbent about trying to make things go away instead of understanding where they come from."
I would start seeing a psychologist instead. I firmly believe that you CAN psych yourself, but it's not as efficient as doing therapy or seeing a psychologist. I wouldn't have coped with specific therapies without seeing a psychologist for a few years first, though.
Within the span of eighteen minutes and forty seconds you can see him get bored of coaching and transition into the next topic, and the next, until he brings it back to coaching. Truly practicing what he preaches.
It always made me laugh how school was trying to force us to be little business people and they take it so seriously. We're like 3 feet tall and sand is falling out of our hair. All the while trying to make deadlines.
@@14rick88 this really hit me this summer. I've always been pretty good at school and getting good grades/staying on top of things. HOwever, I realized that I am terrible at working by myself, when there are no external things to motivate me (such as grades + peer pressure). I now view this summer as a challenge to break free of addictions that have plagued my entire childhood (RUclips, Reddit, Pron mainly) and learn the extremely valuable skill of working when nobody is forcing me to. Honestly, it made me a little angry when I realized how little school prepared me to be an adult. Maybe my current work ethic will serve me well to be mediocre at some mindless desk job for 8 hours a day, but it ain't gonna cut it if I wish to find fulfillment in life
To be fair, no other society has gotten to the point where everyone just learns and understands this, either. I'd argue it's the most important task of our generation to start finally establish teaching attentive, self-recognising life to people at a young age, and advance this knowledge as society progresses. And I'd also argue that it's not necessarily a shortcoming of previous generations that this isn't already established. It's only been very recently that we have reached a level of technological and societal structure where we have to take life into our own hands. Where what you enjoy matters in deciding what you dedicate your time to, because you no longer immediately starve if you don't do what you have to do.
@@TheHadMatters That doesn't work. It's precisely because you don't HAVE TO do anything necessarily, that you don't die unless you have to do something, that procrastination, avoidance and refusal of self improvement is so rampant. Rather than learn something you're told is good for you, you can always lay back, disconnect and play videogames, watch TV or read something. Which may or may not be a good thing depending on your point of view. People who take your word for it and those who intuitively see teachings as good will do it anyways but these people are not so numerous. I had the lucky opportunity and eye opening experience of teaching a class in high school, as a high school student. The amount of apathy, malice masqueraded as funneh jokes, and sheer disrespect teachers get is incredible and infuriating. I couldn't do it myself after that. You condition yourself and get conditioned into hating learning in general, and people wonder why their job isn't paid much. I spoke with one too many 20 year olds who are lost in life, and 30 year olds who barely manage to keep it together speak as if their teenage (and prior) life was in the hands of a complete moron one too many times, to believe you can efficiently teach anything that sticks to anyone who isn't interested already.
@@BygoneT And you really want to pretend you are making an honest defence of teachers here, BigBallZNiBBa? You want to place the majority of the responsibility for generational growth on the apathy and grandstanding malice of youth and call it an insurmountable task? Seems a bit defeatist, no? In order for teaching to work, first, the curriculum has to be good, and then the teacher has to either (!) follow the curriculum to lead their pupils through step by step, or be passionate about the progress of their pupils. Just one of them really isn't that much to ask. If you want to deny that classes mostly just fail because either the curriculum is terrible or the teacher has given up, go ahead and blame 15-year-olds. Just make sure you look back at where human kind has come from and reconsider how much sense your opinion makes every once in a while.
this was the most Vata video in the world. 5 minute tangent on game of thrones? talking about politics for a minute? bringing it back to coaching? amazing
somebody knows where i can get to know my dosha? i know that you need a good teacher to know this type of things so... i think maybe this is one of the best places to ask
@@tarabox2 you can try some questionnaire form on the internet. if that doesnt make you happy, just write how you view yourself on a piece of paper and think about it. like just the amount of hobbies you have and how you practice them can give you a good hint on your dosha. i dont think its that hard to figure out on your own tbh
“That’s the biggest problem of our society today: we’re so hellbent on trying to make things go away instead of understanding where they come from.” - Dr. K
what, exactly like me. minus the asian bit. and the successful bit. just the age bit. and the age im guesed at. apart from that im just his cliet audience. struggling and failing constantly
@@thestoebz The benefits of having some melanin. There is only 2 ways to have a pale complexion and not looking older: Using sunscreen; Drinking blood and sleeping in a coffin during the day.
He has shared many struggle stories of his own, mostly from college. Now he is inspiration of what we all can achieve if we pay attention to our mental health.
@@hgzmatt See this point would be valid… if he *didn’t* make HealthyGamer a non-profit foundation, where’s 100% of the funds(at least now, earlier you could tip) go into the fund. I’m sure his current jobs(especially with his private practice as a psychologist) is keeping him going pretty well.
from my perspective, each time DR K explains his inner dialogue and times when he says "i have this troll inside me that wants to say THIS but i understand that *I* don't agree with the way the troll inside me came to that conclusion, isn't that interesting?" He's sharing little pieces of what he struggles with almost every time he shares a video.... he's never actually "so focused" on helping others that he doesn't share some of what his internal struggles can look like. dr k is very genuine and i admire the way that he shares those things throughout genuine conversations with people
I'm happy you mentioned the need to understand the people who "do bad things" from our point of view, instead of just dismissing them as bad people. I've been thinking this for ages but never really come across anyone who thinks the same.
Title: *What Dr. K Struggles with* Dr. K 15 secs into the video: "I don't struggle much" We've Been Tricked, We've Been Backstabbed and We've Been Quite Possibly, Bamboozled.
@@rawadosa90210 and you don’t question how he never mentions medications. NEVER. Which by the way…. Is more than half the job of a psychiatrist. Lmao. He JUST wants your money. And there is nothing wrong with that.
@@c2819fnf Because prescribing medication without actually diagnosing someone in a professional manner is dangerous. Since he's just talking with on his streams to random people, he recommends things like meditation which is free of cost, available to everyone and can be tried by everyone. Skepticism does have its merits but atleast use your head.
I saw this on the Reddit and I really hoped that Dr K would talk about it! Even just to hear what you do in order to NOT struggle is really important - and honestly you seem like such a superhero of keeping-yourself-together that it's really nice to hear your secrets
You are the best find on youtube. I used to feel so lost and isolated. After finding your channel I have learnt a lot about myself and why I behave the way I behave and made my life a lot easier. Thanks a lot for doing what you are doing Dr. K.
I remember when he told this story about a year ago during a conversation with someone and it absolutely triggered an explosion of understanding within myself that I feel like it saved me years of discovery.
you have inspired me so much man i just wanted you to know that. Don't stop doing what you do because whether you are speaking to someone directly or just spreading a message indirectly, you still impact the life of your viewers and in a very positive way that is not a normal sight to see nowadays.. a Genuine person who wants good in the world. subscribed man.
Yup that’s currently what I’m trying to figure out. I’ve spent the last 6-7 years figuring out who I am, and what are my strengths and weaknesses, but for me i can never get a concrete answer. I feel like I’m 3 different people at once.
Eye opening... I didn't have the terms for it but I somehow discovered this on my own. One of my very many "oooh interesting let's learn that" things is dog training or animal training in general so I learned about animal motivation and somewhere along the lines experimented the methods on myself to keep myself engaged, interested but not over excited and in a good learning mindspace. I'm currently learning a language at home and it's truly my only true focus right now but to keep me interested, engaged and in a playful kind of place I have tons of ways to study. Books, apps, webtoons, podcasts, and listening practice with and without subtitles in varying difficulty all the way from "I understand 20-30% without subs" all the way to "I don't understand at all" but the no understanding level boosts my eagerness so while more success minded people would call it a waste of time its my favorite of them all. It reminds me what an adventure I can still have and still explore. I call it my gamer mode because its like wandering into a zone 20-30 levels higher than your character just to see the zone and where you'll be one day. Once I figured out that I can gameify learning I started to have so much fun cracking how to dodge boredom but it can't be done in a school setting.
I love your videos. Ever since I started watching them, I started realizing the the solution I'm looking for isn't actually the one that I can achieve, and that's honestly okay. I always thought that getting rid of my issues was the way to go about things, but I realized that the more I sit with my issues and have hard conversations with myself, the more I understand my issues and can actually control them to some extent. I remember a video where you mentioned that it is good to sit with discomfort, and that flipped a switch in my mind. It's so much easier to tackle negative feelings when I: 1.) understand them, and 2.) feel allowed to go through the emotions. Thank you for everything you do :)
The intro part about you describing your struggles with focus at school / getting overly excited was too relatable, to the point it gave me chills yk. I understand myself better now too, thank you for these pieces of philosophy. You are becoming one of my favourite RUclipsrs. Hopefully i can go back to Sri Lanka [homeland] at some point between or after university and do some cool spiritual things.
I’ve been watching your videos for months, but I’m so glad I clicked on this one. I really resonate with your story of not understanding how you operate and being an easily distractable person in a focused world. Your story is helping me realize to forge my own path and not be ashamed of failing at what I think I should be doing.
After Radiohead released 'OK Computer', they had so much financial success and they became so popular that they didn't have to keep worrying about the success of their later albums. This gave them a lot more freedom. Then again, their success was extraordinary, so the average artist can't follow in the exact same footsteps.
Thom Yorke had been very vocal about his writer's block and anxiety following OK Computer though- one of the most notable tracks off Kid A is about Thom's inability to cope with the touring and fame that OK Computer brought the band. True though, that having no deadline and no clear "next step" for their next album gave the band a lot of creative freedom.
Lol the description Dr K gave of himself was me to a T. Trying fifteen things, always jumping from hobby to hobby - languages, creative projects, training regimens for whatever skill I want. But quitting every one. And after years of it it's made me very jaded and distrustful of myself.
Confirms my hypothesis about myself. I loved being an indie dev, going from coding to shading to modeling to designing systems. I worked non stop and didn't feel tired at all. I should get back to that.
definitely felt like my whole life ive gotten bored of everything and structured schooling i sucked at but i knew i was smart at other things. the work example you gave is definityhow i am. this helped me alot thanks man cant thank you enough. im gonna binge your content to find ways to deal with being this way
bro you honestly have really helped me out in life im taking what your saying and applying it and its really working out for me i now have set a schedule for myself i appreciate you :)
okay legit I would love to see you talk to Scott Lynch! He's talked about his sometimes pretty severe anxiety before, and how he's managed it (and not) in the past, so him and Dr K would probably have a really cool conversation
I’ve figured myself out too and it’s remarkable. Used to play a lot of addicting games back in the day. Funny I just filmed a video releasing soon about how addicting games attract damaged people.
@@0715yt I think it’s impossible to not struggle at all in life, because life keeps throwing shit at you and you have to adapt through it. But I think the better you are at adapting, the less you will struggle.
13:28 As an artist, I really would like to hear Dr. K talk more about this kind of stuff. Because I can definitely relate to success feeling crippling.
I think I know why the person asked that question, because people who are often helpful to others are often times suffering internally and they give up hope that anyone will help them , so they end up helping others.
I am a very lateral thinker, and think of broad things as opposed to mastering one and being very detail orientated. Im a creative person in a creative job too. However I STILL am somewhat skeptical of just labelling myself as a "VATA" - something i just heard of, and avoid focusing and being dedicated to things. Even in my creative job - im still working 8 hours, need to keep notes and organise myself. Its taken me years to just build a little sense of organisation - but it helps. I fear identifying too much with being a free spirit that i'll just ignore these shortcomings forever.
Same here.. it sounds like a good excuse to stay messy. But I do well when I have lots of potential mini projects going as I work on a big one. I can't stand boredom, strict workflows and lack of innovation.
Oh... so me being Vata, combined with depression, is why I'm struggling with finishing my fanfic? It's like 70 pages by now and I would really love to finish it, before moving to something else, but my brain just DOESN'T WANT to continue. Like there is something, like mental force field, that's actively blocking me from writing. The last chapter (~8-10 pages) took me 1 year to write. :(
You're judging yourself, in turn hating yourself. Instead, you should accept this part of yourself and find ways to make this part of yourself more efficient
Yoo, get Brandon Sanderson on there for the author writing group because he has space-time bending abilities and writing an alarming amount of books a year. Its a full time job to truly read what he puts out xD
Here I thought I was being a jack-of-all-trades, and maybe I am, but Dr K is here telling me that it's okay to have as many things you need to do so you don't get bored. And I'm here for it.
If any of you are interested, I make videos on temperament theory and personality. What Dr. K describes here as a Pitta society vs a Vata mind can be categorized as an intuitive perceiver vs a Sensing judger in Jungian Analytical Psychology. There's obviously a lot more to it but some of the simpler terms are "Starter, Finisher, Structure & Background types" also known as "interaction styles" It has seriously revolutionized my life because it allows me to be more forgiving of my own temperament as well. I'm only 26 so I still have a lot to learn but I can already see the payoff this will have in 5-10 years. edit: One thing I notice about Vata minds is that there are actually 2 Vata types. Some Vata's like to start a lot of things and have a hard time finishing projects while there is another type of Vata mind that has the opposite problem. It has a hard time starting things because of performance anxiety but once they gets going, they're not able to stop until they completes their project. Structure types - Direct Initiating Control Krew ESTJ - Concrete Affiliative Systematic ESTP - Concrete Pragmatic Interest ENTJ - Abstract Pragmatic Systematic ENFJ - Abstract Affiliative Interest Starter types - Informative Initiating Progress ESFJ - Concrete Affiliative Systematic ESFP - Concrete Pragmatic Interest ENTP - Abstract Pragmatic Systematic ENFP - Abstract Affiliative Interest Finisher types - Direct Responding Progress ISTJ - Concrete Affiliative Systematic ISTP - Concrete Pragmatic Interest INTJ - Abstract Pragmatic Systematic INFJ - Abstract Affiliative Interest Background types - Informative Responding Control ISFJ - Concrete Affiliative Systematic ISFP - Concrete Pragmatic Interest INTP - Abstract Pragmatic Systematic INFP - Abstract Affiliative Interest
Hats off to you Dr. K. I find myself relating to a LOT of the topics talked about in a lot of your videos. Really helps me to think about things going on in my own life with a different perspective. Thank you for being you!
Like someone else said, I’m not a gamer (except very casually). I’m a psychotherapist in training and longtime student of eastern religion and philosophy. I LOVE your content. It’s engaging, wise, logical, and compassionate. What you’re doing is super super cool and I’d imagine it’s helping a whole lot of people. Keep up the great work Dr. K!
I honestly have this issue with video games. I played Overwatch in 2016, then fortnite for 3 years, switched back to Overwatch, then wanted to get back into WoW after a decade of not playing it, and pokemon Unite just came out too so that's been very exciting to play but when I get back to my other games i get excited to play them but get bored faster and faster everytime i come back especially when it comes to fortnite or World of Warcraft. Sometimes I Have to stop playing a game so i can miss it which reminds of a BLOOD ELF quote from WoW she says: "How Can I miss you if You don't go away?" There is so much truth to this especially when it comes to video games.
The life to video game comparison is really simple when you think about it, you need XP to get better. Whether that be through quantity or quality of time, eventually experience will teach you most of what you need to know.
Not struggling is an extremely odd concept to me. I’m not sure if I’ve just had a hard time lately, if I’m not living to my strengths, or if I just have an unpleasant mind but seriously struggling seems like a hard fact about life. But I’m glad it doesn’t necessarily have to be like this.
I don’t know if I entirely subscribe to the Dosha personality type of thing. I feel like I share too many traits with two of the personality types for it to be accurate, but I feel like that’s the case with trying to place any individual person into categories! Everybody’s gonna fall in between the lines in one way or another like a sliding scale! I feel like I most obviously fall in line with the Kapha dosha in the sense that I’m very mellow and collected/reserved and I go with the flow a lot and a lot of slow, deliberate thinking, but I still thrive with a structured day/environment supposedly like a Pitta. Like, I can’t do much on my own without some outside force or structure and planning a days events in my head one by one. I think I’m also somewhat Vatta because like the Doc, at least right now, I’ve finally found *some* fulfillment and enjoyment out of working on and practicing multiple things. The only thing I really enjoy and find fulfillment from is learning new things and practicing now, so I’m doing that everyday, just learning things I’m interested in, I’ve been meditating nearly every day, been practicing piano and guitar at least every other day for the first time in years where I used to be very invested in music, and I’ve been going on runs for the first time in my life to practice running and get my endurance/heart health up. I feel like doing all these things might be quite Vatta like. Either I’m a Pitta who just doesn’t care enough or I’m a Kapha with slight autism lmao. Maybe that was insensitive or inaccurate, but I don’t know how else to describe it. I think Vatta is just another way to say you might have ADHD too 😆 Idk lol. The concept of Dosha is very interesting tho Just some very random thoughts I had on it!
The conversation at the start about Vata vs other types reminds me of this video I watched where she was asked 'what's the best exercise plan?' And her response was that the best exercise plan is 'the one you can stick to.' I think that really applies to the whole concept discussed that 'kapha/other types are not better than vata.' In context, the meaning would be that if your type is vata, that's the best type for you. I do agree that it's a moot point, because they all have their drawbacks and strengths.
parents....oof ive been struggling all my like and i tried to push through, and it broke me. im so done with struggle. im done with "by gods grace we pain and suffer and thus learn. "
Could you maybe in the future give a more concrete explanation of how to tailor your surroundings/position in life as a vata? What does the day-to-day look like? Or have you already done that, if so, could someone please give me a link? What you said about your struggles in college really resonated with me, but from your short explanation I didn't really understand how to apply that to my own life. And this kind of struggle is very prevalent in my every-day experience, so it would help out a lot.
So good to see someone mention Patrick Rothfuss! The Kingkiller Chronicles... do yourself a favour and put yourself in another situation where you pray a writer doesn't die before they finish their masterpiece!
I wish I could get back to where I was before COVID shutdowns. I felt like I had figured out how I worked and was continually improving myself after my biggest struggles were in the past, only for this past year to make me feel like I’ve completely regressed into who I was before I learned how I worked. It sucks and I don’t know if I still work that way or if I’ve changed over the pandemic. Don’t know what to do beside constantly berate myself in my head forthright shortcomings I feel like I’ve already dealt with. I just feel like a lost soul
Bruh i avoided this video for so long because the thumbnail suggested he was deadass going through shit But after watching this, I'm more confident in my ability to deal with my struggles
I’m taking longer to finish college due to being afraid of failing classes or getting to a point where I feel like I might not be able to progress further. I have a 3.9 GPA and haven’t failed a class, but I still feel like I’m not good enough to graduate.
Dr. K's Guide to Mental Health is 20 years of learnings distilled into 70+ video chapters to help you understand how you work: bit.ly/3eAHhYQ
what day in august is it coming out, do you know?
Thank you for everything
Tentatively mid august!
GOT book writer is more Vata than Kapha or Pitha. He kept putting too many ideas in, and cannot finish them. That is why the wait is so damn long. He did not know to resolve it. Also, GOT tv shows sucked since season 4. Season 8 is the cream of the crop, it made me very happy the way it was turned. 80% of the original decisions in the TV shows came from the showrunners showing off the actors. The Dragon Demands channel featured the showrunnners thought process of their decisions. Maybe you can interview him about the topic of obsessions and anger management. The guy really need it.
Hi, will the guide have content to help us discover which personality type we are? If so which module will it be in? thank you
"Bros, or women, whatever, everything in between....homies"
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@@hikikomori9051 thanks
That had me rolling
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"what dr. k struggles with"
goes on a rant about game of thrones season 8
Bruh GoT season 8 is something we all struggle with
Is he repressing or hiding? PepeLaugh
In a life full of problems game of thrones Season 8 is still the worst thing that’s ever happened to me so I think that’s very fair
vatta mode activated
Dude too soon...
I am not a gamer, so this channel is not branded towards me, but I’m so glad I found you. Every video of yours gives me some new insight into myself and how to approach my own mind. Your comments on anxiety, avoidance, perfectionism, procrastination, motivation, and self-doubt have already helped me change some bad mental habits I was stuck in for years. Thank you!!
I'm not a gamer at all, but for me it's more about the psychological insights. It's psychological help veiled by gaming haha.I really like the interviews as well, they are long but they are so super insightful. It really helps me to understand myself and my thinking patterns more when I see other people going through the process of better understanding themselves.
That’s one thing though about understanding yourself, when you understand yourself you come to understand ‘other-selfs’ and that simple action allows you to widen and heighten your consciousness above and below to others when interacting with them. This consequently allows you to sincerely take or leave any knowledge you have been made aware of.
You should try to play Mincraft
@@isakg765 I think everyone has tried Minecraft, but imo just playing Minecraft doesn’t make you a gamer. I play stardew valley and overcooked 2 and fall guys with my boyfriend so we have something to do when we’re apart with the pandemic and all, but I don’t think of myself as a gamer since I only play once every month or so 😂
@@julieannelovesbooks I just said it as a joke
"Don't try to make it go away, try to understand where it's coming from! That's the biggest problem of our society today. We're so hellbent about trying to make things go away instead of understanding where they come from."
because even if they go away through one of the many doors, the door they're coming from is still open...
I just realized that's how I have been dealing with my game addiction.
Yes ACT or Acceptance Commitment Therapy! It’s a great new form of therapy that is fantastic for depression (unipolar)
"The reason i don't struggle much is because i know how i work" this quote single-handedly made me want to get into psychology
Or Indian/Far-East philosophy?
Does this make you want to get into psychology or do you want to learn how you work
That’s not what psychology is about
I would start seeing a psychologist instead. I firmly believe that you CAN psych yourself, but it's not as efficient as doing therapy or seeing a psychologist. I wouldn't have coped with specific therapies without seeing a psychologist for a few years first, though.
@@calgoulden8223 It's not?
Within the span of eighteen minutes and forty seconds you can see him get bored of coaching and transition into the next topic, and the next, until he brings it back to coaching. Truly practicing what he preaches.
wow man, you're genius fir noticing. That really speaks volumes by itself
It always made me laugh how school was trying to force us to be little business people and they take it so seriously. We're like 3 feet tall and sand is falling out of our hair. All the while trying to make deadlines.
😂
Beautifully said
@@14rick88 this really hit me this summer. I've always been pretty good at school and getting good grades/staying on top of things. HOwever, I realized that I am terrible at working by myself, when there are no external things to motivate me (such as grades + peer pressure). I now view this summer as a challenge to break free of addictions that have plagued my entire childhood (RUclips, Reddit, Pron mainly) and learn the extremely valuable skill of working when nobody is forcing me to.
Honestly, it made me a little angry when I realized how little school prepared me to be an adult. Maybe my current work ethic will serve me well to be mediocre at some mindless desk job for 8 hours a day, but it ain't gonna cut it if I wish to find fulfillment in life
The indoctrination gotta start early. That's not a joke btw.
"I don't stuggle much"
"Is it possible to learn this power?"
"Not from this society"
To be fair, no other society has gotten to the point where everyone just learns and understands this, either. I'd argue it's the most important task of our generation to start finally establish teaching attentive, self-recognising life to people at a young age, and advance this knowledge as society progresses. And I'd also argue that it's not necessarily a shortcoming of previous generations that this isn't already established. It's only been very recently that we have reached a level of technological and societal structure where we have to take life into our own hands. Where what you enjoy matters in deciding what you dedicate your time to, because you no longer immediately starve if you don't do what you have to do.
Did you ever hear the tragedy of Doctor K the wise?
@@TheHadMatters That doesn't work. It's precisely because you don't HAVE TO do anything necessarily, that you don't die unless you have to do something, that procrastination, avoidance and refusal of self improvement is so rampant. Rather than learn something you're told is good for you, you can always lay back, disconnect and play videogames, watch TV or read something. Which may or may not be a good thing depending on your point of view. People who take your word for it and those who intuitively see teachings as good will do it anyways but these people are not so numerous.
I had the lucky opportunity and eye opening experience of teaching a class in high school, as a high school student. The amount of apathy, malice masqueraded as funneh jokes, and sheer disrespect teachers get is incredible and infuriating. I couldn't do it myself after that. You condition yourself and get conditioned into hating learning in general, and people wonder why their job isn't paid much.
I spoke with one too many 20 year olds who are lost in life, and 30 year olds who barely manage to keep it together speak as if their teenage (and prior) life was in the hands of a complete moron one too many times, to believe you can efficiently teach anything that sticks to anyone who isn't interested already.
@@BygoneT And you really want to pretend you are making an honest defence of teachers here, BigBallZNiBBa? You want to place the majority of the responsibility for generational growth on the apathy and grandstanding malice of youth and call it an insurmountable task? Seems a bit defeatist, no?
In order for teaching to work, first, the curriculum has to be good, and then the teacher has to either (!) follow the curriculum to lead their pupils through step by step, or be passionate about the progress of their pupils. Just one of them really isn't that much to ask.
If you want to deny that classes mostly just fail because either the curriculum is terrible or the teacher has given up, go ahead and blame 15-year-olds. Just make sure you look back at where human kind has come from and reconsider how much sense your opinion makes every once in a while.
@@SolDizZo Makes sense.
this was the most Vata video in the world. 5 minute tangent on game of thrones? talking about politics for a minute? bringing it back to coaching? amazing
Dont for get his talk about accepting yourself, entrophy and drugs PSA.
somebody knows where i can get to know my dosha? i know that you need a good teacher to know this type of things so... i think maybe this is one of the best places to ask
And somehow it was still incredibly valuable and useful.
@@tarabox2 you can try some questionnaire form on the internet. if that doesnt make you happy, just write how you view yourself on a piece of paper and think about it. like just the amount of hobbies you have and how you practice them can give you a good hint on your dosha. i dont think its that hard to figure out on your own tbh
@@ezioauditore4461 thanks for your answers, i will do that ^^
“That’s the biggest problem of our society today: we’re so hellbent on trying to make things go away instead of understanding where they come from.” - Dr. K
Hard to believe that Dr. K is 38 years old. He looks and seems like a 28 year-old.
EDIT: I mean this in a positive way
what, exactly like me. minus the asian bit. and the successful bit. just the age bit. and the age im guesed at. apart from that im just his cliet audience. struggling and failing constantly
@@Pssst.ByTheWay We're all struggling and failing constantly... :')
Must be a monk thing
Benefits of meditation
@@thestoebz The benefits of having some melanin. There is only 2 ways to have a pale complexion and not looking older:
Using sunscreen;
Drinking blood and sleeping in a coffin during the day.
Chat: What does Dr .K struggle with?
Dr.K: "Game of Thrones season 8..."
Who doesn’t? Even D&D had to flee the country
He has shared many struggle stories of his own, mostly from college. Now he is inspiration of what we all can achieve if we pay attention to our mental health.
As if he has it all figured out.
@@acedupspade I appreciate what he shares with us.. but it's important to recognize he's also trying to sell his courses and coaching.
@@hgzmatt See this point would be valid… if he *didn’t* make HealthyGamer a non-profit foundation, where’s 100% of the funds(at least now, earlier you could tip) go into the fund. I’m sure his current jobs(especially with his private practice as a psychologist) is keeping him going pretty well.
@@beansntoastyt2616 Non profits still pay their employees don't they?
If struggling in college is the only hardship you've ever faced, you're extremely lucky lol
from my perspective, each time DR K explains his inner dialogue and times when he says "i have this troll inside me that wants to say THIS but i understand that *I* don't agree with the way the troll inside me came to that conclusion, isn't that interesting?" He's sharing little pieces of what he struggles with almost every time he shares a video.... he's never actually "so focused" on helping others that he doesn't share some of what his internal struggles can look like. dr k is very genuine and i admire the way that he shares those things throughout genuine conversations with people
Yes very
I'm happy you mentioned the need to understand the people who "do bad things" from our point of view, instead of just dismissing them as bad people. I've been thinking this for ages but never really come across anyone who thinks the same.
Title: *What Dr. K Struggles with*
Dr. K 15 secs into the video: "I don't struggle much"
We've Been Tricked, We've Been Backstabbed and We've Been Quite Possibly, Bamboozled.
lmaoo
Damn right. He wants your money.
@@c2819fnf He doesn't "just" want money.
@@rawadosa90210 and you don’t question how he never mentions medications. NEVER. Which by the way…. Is more than half the job of a psychiatrist.
Lmao. He JUST wants your money. And there is nothing wrong with that.
@@c2819fnf Because prescribing medication without actually diagnosing someone in a professional manner is dangerous. Since he's just talking with on his streams to random people, he recommends things like meditation which is free of cost, available to everyone and can be tried by everyone. Skepticism does have its merits but atleast use your head.
I saw this on the Reddit and I really hoped that Dr K would talk about it! Even just to hear what you do in order to NOT struggle is really important - and honestly you seem like such a superhero of keeping-yourself-together that it's really nice to hear your secrets
You are the best find on youtube. I used to feel so lost and isolated. After finding your channel I have learnt a lot about myself and why I behave the way I behave and made my life a lot easier. Thanks a lot for doing what you are doing Dr. K.
It scares me how much that description fits me, I envy driven people who can just take the money and do one thing
I remember when he told this story about a year ago during a conversation with someone and it absolutely triggered an explosion of understanding within myself that I feel like it saved me years of discovery.
Was it the mizkif?
Which one?😅
what interview was it?
we're very lucky to have this man talk, and on twitch of all things! so genuinely wonderful.
you have inspired me so much man i just wanted you to know that. Don't stop doing what you do because whether you are speaking to someone directly or just spreading a message indirectly, you still impact the life of your viewers and in a very positive way that is not a normal sight to see nowadays.. a Genuine person who wants good in the world. subscribed man.
Yup that’s currently what I’m trying to figure out. I’ve spent the last 6-7 years figuring out who I am, and what are my strengths and weaknesses, but for me i can never get a concrete answer. I feel like I’m 3 different people at once.
Eye opening... I didn't have the terms for it but I somehow discovered this on my own. One of my very many "oooh interesting let's learn that" things is dog training or animal training in general so I learned about animal motivation and somewhere along the lines experimented the methods on myself to keep myself engaged, interested but not over excited and in a good learning mindspace. I'm currently learning a language at home and it's truly my only true focus right now but to keep me interested, engaged and in a playful kind of place I have tons of ways to study. Books, apps, webtoons, podcasts, and listening practice with and without subtitles in varying difficulty all the way from "I understand 20-30% without subs" all the way to "I don't understand at all" but the no understanding level boosts my eagerness so while more success minded people would call it a waste of time its my favorite of them all. It reminds me what an adventure I can still have and still explore. I call it my gamer mode because its like wandering into a zone 20-30 levels higher than your character just to see the zone and where you'll be one day. Once I figured out that I can gameify learning I started to have so much fun cracking how to dodge boredom but it can't be done in a school setting.
He apparently struggles with GoT Season 8. Who can blame him tho
Thx for the summary :D
Thanks! Every time I watch your videos, I am in a better state of being.
I think this might be the favorite HG video I've seen. This makes me love Dr. K so much. The respect/glee with which he discussed the spoilers 😅
I love your videos. Ever since I started watching them, I started realizing the the solution I'm looking for isn't actually the one that I can achieve, and that's honestly okay. I always thought that getting rid of my issues was the way to go about things, but I realized that the more I sit with my issues and have hard conversations with myself, the more I understand my issues and can actually control them to some extent. I remember a video where you mentioned that it is good to sit with discomfort, and that flipped a switch in my mind. It's so much easier to tackle negative feelings when I: 1.) understand them, and 2.) feel allowed to go through the emotions.
Thank you for everything you do :)
The intro part about you describing your struggles with focus at school / getting overly excited was too relatable, to the point it gave me chills yk. I understand myself better now too, thank you for these pieces of philosophy. You are becoming one of my favourite RUclipsrs. Hopefully i can go back to Sri Lanka [homeland] at some point between or after university and do some cool spiritual things.
I’ve been watching your videos for months, but I’m so glad I clicked on this one. I really resonate with your story of not understanding how you operate and being an easily distractable person in a focused world. Your story is helping me realize to forge my own path and not be ashamed of failing at what I think I should be doing.
I love the idea of being called a Vata instead of having a ADHD.
Sounds like a super species of human haha
TIL that a life with little struggle is a real thing that exists, and is maybe therefore a reasonable goal to aim at
After Radiohead released 'OK Computer', they had so much financial success and they became so popular that they didn't have to keep worrying about the success of their later albums. This gave them a lot more freedom.
Then again, their success was extraordinary, so the average artist can't follow in the exact same footsteps.
Thom Yorke had been very vocal about his writer's block and anxiety following OK Computer though- one of the most notable tracks off Kid A is about Thom's inability to cope with the touring and fame that OK Computer brought the band. True though, that having no deadline and no clear "next step" for their next album gave the band a lot of creative freedom.
Whos radiohead?
@@Shadow77999 What is Google?
We all struggle most with our own attitude towards ourselves and the world alike
Not at the same intensity.
Yes
One can clearly see the "I switch interests easily" motivation tipe in action here with Dr K haha
13:09 "Is addiction to socialization a real thing?" This could be a really interesting topic
Lol the description Dr K gave of himself was me to a T. Trying fifteen things, always jumping from hobby to hobby - languages, creative projects, training regimens for whatever skill I want. But quitting every one. And after years of it it's made me very jaded and distrustful of myself.
Wait, I just realized something. Holy shit. Thank you so much. I think I can finish my phd.
Godspeed !
You got this brother
Confirms my hypothesis about myself. I loved being an indie dev, going from coding to shading to modeling to designing systems. I worked non stop and didn't feel tired at all. I should get back to that.
Came here for a cool conversation about learning how you function, leave thinking about all the MUCH better GoT stories that could have been...
I would love to learn more about the types of people Dr. K is talking about. I've never heard of them before.
it is called ayurveda and then you can just get a test
definitely felt like my whole life ive gotten bored of everything and structured schooling i sucked at but i knew i was smart at other things. the work example you gave is definityhow i am. this helped me alot thanks man cant thank you enough. im gonna binge your content to find ways to deal with being this way
Understanding is the key! Great explanation!
Thank you!
bro you honestly have really helped me out in life im taking what your saying and applying it and its really working out for me i now have set a schedule for myself i appreciate you :)
I wish Dr.K make videos with theramintrees it would be intresting to see them sharing their view and understanding
8:48
This hits very hard, thank you for reminding us, Dr. K.
okay legit I would love to see you talk to Scott Lynch! He's talked about his sometimes pretty severe anxiety before, and how he's managed it (and not) in the past, so him and Dr K would probably have a really cool conversation
I’ve figured myself out too and it’s remarkable. Used to play a lot of addicting games back in the day. Funny I just filmed a video releasing soon about how addicting games attract damaged people.
I love how he talks. Anything he says just holds my attention
Awesome and inspirational! Thanks!
Wait... it's possible not to struggle with something? This is legit new information.
lol, for you and me both
To be fair he just said he doesn’t struggle much. Still a position I dream to be in someday though.
@@0715yt I think it’s impossible to not struggle at all in life, because life keeps throwing shit at you and you have to adapt through it. But I think the better you are at adapting, the less you will struggle.
@@julieannelovesbooks agreed, like I said I dream to be in his position of “not struggling much”
@@0715yt same. That’s my therapy goal tbh
Bro the whole rotating through different interests as you get bored spoke to me so much. I learned that method without even realizing
13:28 As an artist, I really would like to hear Dr. K talk more about this kind of stuff. Because I can definitely relate to success feeling crippling.
I think I know why the person asked that question, because people who are often helpful to others are often times suffering internally and they give up hope that anyone will help them , so they end up helping others.
or they want to see the human side of him
@@treasurechest2951 that's strange.
me
@@PowerK1 But he is also s human, father to a daughter. Even they might go through bad time.l
"I don't struggle much"
Me: tell me your ways Master
That's why he made coaching + his guide to mental health!
@@HealthyGamerGG
"he"
"his"
Does Dr. K not run this youtube channel?
@@-khayri-4280 my life is a lie
@@-khayri-4280 considering he has a family and works a lot, I doubt he edits videos for youtube aswell and has people helping him wih it.
@@-khayri-4280 French runs the YT-channel I think. (He is head of digital marketing)
Blessed to be here at this video . i love to hear voice of DR. K. every single word with very clear pronunciation . help me to focus on listening .
I am a very lateral thinker, and think of broad things as opposed to mastering one and being very detail orientated. Im a creative person in a creative job too. However I STILL am somewhat skeptical of just labelling myself as a "VATA" - something i just heard of, and avoid focusing and being dedicated to things. Even in my creative job - im still working 8 hours, need to keep notes and organise myself. Its taken me years to just build a little sense of organisation - but it helps. I fear identifying too much with being a free spirit that i'll just ignore these shortcomings forever.
Same here.. it sounds like a good excuse to stay messy. But I do well when I have lots of potential mini projects going as I work on a big one. I can't stand boredom, strict workflows and lack of innovation.
Oh... so me being Vata, combined with depression, is why I'm struggling with finishing my fanfic? It's like 70 pages by now and I would really love to finish it, before moving to something else, but my brain just DOESN'T WANT to continue. Like there is something, like mental force field, that's actively blocking me from writing. The last chapter (~8-10 pages) took me 1 year to write. :(
You're judging yourself, in turn hating yourself. Instead, you should accept this part of yourself and find ways to make this part of yourself more efficient
The whole 'vata' thing (not sure if that's how you spell it) sounds very relatable to me. Thank you for the vid, Dr. K.
Yes, please get Patrick Rothfuss on stream. Anything to push boom 3 forward even just a tad
Haven't watched the video but let's be honest: he certainly isn't struggling with that hair. It's perfect 🤌🏾
Was going to say the same. Maybe his struggle is keeping his hair this perfect all day long
Ikr we need a hair routine
Don't use shampoo everyday
He's honestly super gorgeous. His hair is just the icing on the cake.
Skin too???
Yoo, get Brandon Sanderson on there for the author writing group because he has space-time bending abilities and writing an alarming amount of books a year. Its a full time job to truly read what he puts out xD
Here I thought I was being a jack-of-all-trades, and maybe I am, but Dr K is here telling me that it's okay to have as many things you need to do so you don't get bored. And I'm here for it.
The feeling of anxious and the feeling of awe are indistinctable for a lot of people.
5mins into this video and i can relate so much. thank you Dr.K for all these videos you are constantly putting out.
So many interesting and wonderful phrases in this video, thanks for uploading :)
If any of you are interested, I make videos on temperament theory and personality. What Dr. K describes here as a Pitta society vs a Vata mind can be categorized as an intuitive perceiver vs a Sensing judger in Jungian Analytical Psychology. There's obviously a lot more to it but some of the simpler terms are "Starter, Finisher, Structure & Background types" also known as "interaction styles"
It has seriously revolutionized my life because it allows me to be more forgiving of my own temperament as well. I'm only 26 so I still have a lot to learn but I can already see the payoff this will have in 5-10 years.
edit: One thing I notice about Vata minds is that there are actually 2 Vata types. Some Vata's like to start a lot of things and have a hard time finishing projects while there is another type of Vata mind that has the opposite problem. It has a hard time starting things because of performance anxiety but once they gets going, they're not able to stop until they completes their project.
Structure types - Direct Initiating Control Krew
ESTJ - Concrete Affiliative Systematic
ESTP - Concrete Pragmatic Interest
ENTJ - Abstract Pragmatic Systematic
ENFJ - Abstract Affiliative Interest
Starter types - Informative Initiating Progress
ESFJ - Concrete Affiliative Systematic
ESFP - Concrete Pragmatic Interest
ENTP - Abstract Pragmatic Systematic
ENFP - Abstract Affiliative Interest
Finisher types - Direct Responding Progress
ISTJ - Concrete Affiliative Systematic
ISTP - Concrete Pragmatic Interest
INTJ - Abstract Pragmatic Systematic
INFJ - Abstract Affiliative Interest
Background types - Informative Responding Control
ISFJ - Concrete Affiliative Systematic
ISFP - Concrete Pragmatic Interest
INTP - Abstract Pragmatic Systematic
INFP - Abstract Affiliative Interest
Ooohh shiiit! That explains so much! I get bored so fast but perfect in a crisis!
Dr.K, I'm a new follower. Appreciate your work. May you be bless with all the love and care that you deserve.
He really made it full circle there in end haha this was nice. Thank you
top tier video, thank you
Hats off to you Dr. K. I find myself relating to a LOT of the topics talked about in a lot of your videos. Really helps me to think about things going on in my own life with a different perspective. Thank you for being you!
Like someone else said, I’m not a gamer (except very casually). I’m a psychotherapist in training and longtime student of eastern religion and philosophy. I LOVE your content. It’s engaging, wise, logical, and compassionate. What you’re doing is super super cool and I’d imagine it’s helping a whole lot of people. Keep up the great work Dr. K!
thank you dr k for existing and doing all what you do for everyone
Can I come on your show to discuss my extreme PTSD from having watched game of thrones season 8?
Should have just stopped during season 4 …….
Great video, love Dr. K's vata way of doing things
OK I get it Dr. K is making build guides and walk-throughs for the outside. OP
I appreciate you, Dr. K. You're amazing.
this is so powerful. thank you Dr. K!!!
I honestly have this issue with video games. I played Overwatch in 2016, then fortnite for 3 years, switched back to Overwatch, then wanted to get back into WoW after a decade of not playing it, and pokemon Unite just came out too so that's been very exciting to play but when I get back to my other games i get excited to play them but get bored faster and faster everytime i come back especially when it comes to fortnite or World of Warcraft. Sometimes I Have to stop playing a game so i can miss it which reminds of a BLOOD ELF quote from WoW she says: "How Can I miss you if You don't go away?" There is so much truth to this especially when it comes to video games.
Thanks for replying to my Reddit post 🥰
thanks to dr K I now know what vata means and I found out my dosha too! it really does explain a lot
The life to video game comparison is really simple when you think about it, you need XP to get better. Whether that be through quantity or quality of time, eventually experience will teach you most of what you need to know.
Not struggling is an extremely odd concept to me. I’m not sure if I’ve just had a hard time lately, if I’m not living to my strengths, or if I just have an unpleasant mind but seriously struggling seems like a hard fact about life. But I’m glad it doesn’t necessarily have to be like this.
I don’t know if I entirely subscribe to the Dosha personality type of thing. I feel like I share too many traits with two of the personality types for it to be accurate, but I feel like that’s the case with trying to place any individual person into categories! Everybody’s gonna fall in between the lines in one way or another like a sliding scale! I feel like I most obviously fall in line with the Kapha dosha in the sense that I’m very mellow and collected/reserved and I go with the flow a lot and a lot of slow, deliberate thinking, but I still thrive with a structured day/environment supposedly like a Pitta. Like, I can’t do much on my own without some outside force or structure and planning a days events in my head one by one. I think I’m also somewhat Vatta because like the Doc, at least right now, I’ve finally found *some* fulfillment and enjoyment out of working on and practicing multiple things. The only thing I really enjoy and find fulfillment from is learning new things and practicing now, so I’m doing that everyday, just learning things I’m interested in, I’ve been meditating nearly every day, been practicing piano and guitar at least every other day for the first time in years where I used to be very invested in music, and I’ve been going on runs for the first time in my life to practice running and get my endurance/heart health up. I feel like doing all these things might be quite Vatta like.
Either I’m a Pitta who just doesn’t care enough or I’m a Kapha with slight autism lmao. Maybe that was insensitive or inaccurate, but I don’t know how else to describe it.
I think Vatta is just another way to say you might have ADHD too 😆 Idk lol. The concept of Dosha is very interesting tho
Just some very random thoughts I had on it!
The conversation at the start about Vata vs other types reminds me of this video I watched where she was asked 'what's the best exercise plan?' And her response was that the best exercise plan is 'the one you can stick to.'
I think that really applies to the whole concept discussed that 'kapha/other types are not better than vata.'
In context, the meaning would be that if your type is vata, that's the best type for you.
I do agree that it's a moot point, because they all have their drawbacks and strengths.
This is the only channel where I like all the video's. AOE healing
Wow, when you described a Kapha I felt like you were describing me... Thanks Dr K, I'll look into this.
parents....oof
ive been struggling all my like and i tried to push through, and it broke me. im so done with struggle.
im done with "by gods grace we pain and suffer and thus learn. "
I'm so glad I found you and actually took time to understand! You're feeding us some golden information :)
Could you maybe in the future give a more concrete explanation of how to tailor your surroundings/position in life as a vata? What does the day-to-day look like? Or have you already done that, if so, could someone please give me a link? What you said about your struggles in college really resonated with me, but from your short explanation I didn't really understand how to apply that to my own life. And this kind of struggle is very prevalent in my every-day experience, so it would help out a lot.
He made a video about this, go look up 3 motivational styles Dr k on yt.
@@abdullapankhawala3814 nice! Thank you
So good to see someone mention Patrick Rothfuss! The Kingkiller Chronicles... do yourself a favour and put yourself in another situation where you pray a writer doesn't die before they finish their masterpiece!
being so excited you try everything new that interests you just for it to burn you out a short while later is the most relatable thing i’ve ever heard
I wish I could get back to where I was before COVID shutdowns. I felt like I had figured out how I worked and was continually improving myself after my biggest struggles were in the past, only for this past year to make me feel like I’ve completely regressed into who I was before I learned how I worked. It sucks and I don’t know if I still work that way or if I’ve changed over the pandemic. Don’t know what to do beside constantly berate myself in my head forthright shortcomings I feel like I’ve already dealt with. I just feel like a lost soul
Bruh i avoided this video for so long because the thumbnail suggested he was deadass going through shit
But after watching this, I'm more confident in my ability to deal with my struggles
As soon as I hear someone say they never struggle all I can hear is bullshit.
It’s been a good couple years! Peace doctor K!
YOOOOOOOOOOO Imagine a stream with Patrick Rothfuss. Damn, I'd love that.
I’m taking longer to finish college due to being afraid of failing classes or getting to a point where I feel like I might not be able to progress further. I have a 3.9 GPA and haven’t failed a class, but I still feel like I’m not good enough to graduate.
Im pure chaos... Just like you used to be.. im here just to learn from the best. Thanks Dr. K i love you 😘