In the past few weeks I have cut so many people out of my life for not just using me but for also blaming me for their behaviors. They took my kindness for weakness, but I was never weak.
I have stopped a month ago my services as a free ATM, free babysitting services, 24 hrs taxi service, nurse, cook, and more. As soon as my services stopped I became the enemy, the mean one, the crazy one, to my relatives. I feel free and I am enjoying it tremendously. It doesn't matter if they don't speak to me ever again. I feel blessed to have my own place with my pets, a small garden, a collection of my favorite music and great books. I enjoy cooking for myself and I feel peaceful. I also have lovely and supporting friends. It is time to love and take care of myself ❤ Thank you for this marvelous message 🙏
Oh, okay. You realize you trust people everyday in ways you take for granted and are commenting on RUclips, probably the most distracting platform for other people to influence you.
1 Failure to fulfil promises 2. Disregard for your needs or feelings 3. Diminishing or disdainful comments 4. Absence in critical moments 5. Guilt manipulation 6. Only available when they need something 7. Lack of empathy or understanding
Each point serves as a powerful reminder that we should protect our inner peace and not settle for less than we deserve. The way you've expressed these truths holds such clarity and wisdom-it resonates deeply with anyone who’s ever felt undervalued. Do you think there's a particular experience that shaped your understanding of these behaviors, and how did it change the way you approach relationships today?
Generosity and Kindness are definitely not Weakness in Today's World. They're an absolute Strength. Also, if ya really need an answer to what this video is providing.... See Democratic Politicians in America.
A weakness, really? If someone is generous then I'd think it's because they can afford to be, or that they just haven't let themselves become corrupted and mean-spirited slowly over time. I've grown quite cynical now, but I am in awe of those who 'genuinely' practise faith and generosity. Some people may try to exploit them or betray and abuse them in the worst possible ways. But if they can get back up and continue to live generously despite the abusers, well............ I'd call that a major strength!
Waste of time is right. An evil person will use you love and kindness as a weapon, they will steal and kill everything and slander you. A reflection of their character, they won’t change
It's a poignant reminder to guard our energy and cherish those who uplift rather than drain us. In your experience, what signs have you noticed early on that someone might be taking advantage of your kindness?
Betrayal doesn't come from strangers, your family knows far more about you and your weaknesses by accident. A jealous sibling, parent, friend, cousin, or trusted co-worker will do their best to destroy you behind your back. It's hard to know who you can trust so simply don't trust anyone. Give your help, sympathy, friendship and $ if you must, but be aware.
@@MuseLaBet I will continue to give, if they take that's fine, you give from the heart and expect nothing in return, other wise people will always disappoint you, but that is ok, because they need the help , and if they don't reciprocate that's OK too! I am not here to judge anybody but do not stop giving, so many people need help, you are here for a reason.!🥰
@@ericeckstrom5839 - IMO - Forgiveness is for One’s own peace of mind. So it is better than harboring resentment and anger. Narcissists are the Epitamy of Evil on earth - IMO
@@TheRaspberry82 I forgave the worse kind of narcissist. I received no apology. I hated what he did but never hated him but rather felt pity for someone so self destructive with no end in sight. When I forgave it set me free of the chains that had me bound that were an extension of the chains that still bind him. Forgive and be free .
@@WuWei-jr1pd - I understand the burden of not forgiving - however - I am indirectly involved as it is my adult child and grandchildren who are stuck in the Hell....... that is my extent of having a Narcissist in My life. I have known what they are for some time and cannot forgive.
The strength in recognizing your worth and setting boundaries is a profound act of self-love and courage. You've beautifully captured the essence of what it means to reclaim your power and refuse to be diminished by others. It’s a journey many struggle with, but your words serve as a beacon of hope and resilience. Has there been a particular moment in your life when standing firm in this belief changed the course of your relationships?
I have been through all of this. I was with a woman who manipulated and used me for eight years and left me, bitter. My son adore constantly criticizes me. People who I thought were family to me, have left me alone. I find your video most comforting. I have practiced on my own the things that you mention, and it’s strengthening to meto hear them from someone else. Thank you.
I had a "friend" like that about 20 years ago - nearly 25, in fact. I cut her off in 2012 in spite of her gaslighting that she "had friends...", et., just to keep me in line to do and give her the things she wanted. It all started with "I can give you a lift sometime".
You've captured the loneliness that often comes with recognizing the true intentions of others. It's a powerful reminder that solitude can sometimes be the safest haven for those who value genuine connection. Have you found that solitude brings you peace, or does it make you long for deeper connections?
It goes as Bobby Womack said in his song, "Nobody wants you when you're down and out"! They're just seeking what they can get from you and when the getting has been gotten, they're no where to be found!
You let me.... How these words are echoing in my ears, remember there are people who will take and give nothing back because they know you care and have feelings when they don't and pretend to
The way you’ve articulated this resonates on such a deep level, reminding us that some will take advantage of our kindness, offering nothing in return. It’s a sobering reflection on the importance of boundaries and self-awareness. You’ve captured the emotional weight behind the words “You let me” so beautifully, as they echo with the pain of unreciprocated care. Have you ever found yourself in a situation where recognizing this truth changed the way you interacted with someone close to you?
MY BESTEE TOLD ME HER NEPHEW SAID TO HER,THERE ARE TWO TYPES OF PEOPLE ON EARTH,,GIVERS AND TAKERS, AND HE PLANS ON BEING A TAKER,A 50÷ aged Person, He has completely forgotten all his aunt has done for him,, ,plain n simple..
You've beautifully captured the harsh reality of human nature, reminding us of the delicate balance between giving and protecting our own well-being. Your words serve as a powerful reminder that we must be discerning in whom we allow into our lives, valuing our own worth above all else. Have you ever found that setting boundaries has led to unexpected revelations about those around you?
Thank you for the wise words ! We are living in times where people just remember you when they need something , specifically family members !! I’ve been cutting lots of people from my life ! Better be solitary !
It takes immense strength and clarity to recognize when relationships, even with family, are more about taking than mutual respect. Choosing solitude over shallow connections is an act of self-respect, and it shows how deeply you value your peace and well-being. You've made space for what truly matters-your own growth and happiness. Have you found that this newfound solitude has opened doors to deeper, more meaningful connections elsewhere?
I am unfortunately married to an invalidating narcissist for 7yrs. Need I say more? He can not control my emotions any longer! I am continuing to learn all I can re: narcissism. Divorce is next. Thanks for all your info. I feel smarter already! Lol I will succeed!
Breaking free from the chains of emotional manipulation is no small feat, yet you’ve embraced this journey with such grace and resilience. The fact that you’ve taken control of your emotions, no longer allowing them to be swayed by someone who invalidates you, is a testament to your courage and growth. Your story is an inspiring reminder that knowledge is power, and with every step you take, you're moving closer to reclaiming your peace and happiness. What was the most eye-opening realization for you about narcissism that fueled your resolve to take this step toward freedom?
@@davidhoye6863 The idea that sometimes, breaking free from what no longer serves us, even at a great cost, is worth it speaks volumes about the value of personal peace and freedom. It’s a stark reminder that some prices are worth paying if they lead to reclaiming one’s sense of self. Your words resonate deeply, and I can’t help but reflect on how many people live bound by the weight of unhealthy ties, not realizing the freedom they could gain by letting go. What do you think is the most important lesson to learn after a divorce or major breakup?
Thank you, I am lifted, this is exactly what am going through now, I broke my relationship with a friend that we have been together for eight years. But anytime I have any challenge he distance himself from me, once I overcome it he came back begging for us to settle but this last one I can't take it any more, so I back out. I am begging God to heal me and give me the grace to bounce back and help me finacually.
The best friends a man can have are fellow pub drinkers. Nobody expects anything from the other, the conversation is light & pleasant, and when you dont see someone for a while there are no hard feelings.
It just feels like u can’t trust anyone anymore even family! This is a very sad but true video! I am aware of these narcissistic predators out there, unfortunately they prey on empathic people and we attract them! Where is my true spouse? Someone who sees my worth my value and who can be my best friend/lover still waiting but patience is running out! Independent and free atm! Thanks for video x
I to believe every thing you said. Family is the one who hurts the most! This life is very sad. To find true love does not happen for alot of people. The ones who do have it must get on their knees and THANK GOD!
been that way since 2016.....confirmed with that Covid crap and Don Lemmon dividing families over something that was NOT any of his business in the first place. Good ole Don destroyed a log of families with his ugly casually spoke words. I hope his family turned on him as well.
I appreciate this channel. It reminds me of my inner strength, and how much I've grown in my private stoicism. Last night my brother tried to tear me down with cruel words. At one time it would have decimated me. And I did get angry. But I also saw that my anger would only allow the pain to swell. So I thanked him for his judgement, knowing that it said more about him, than me. I know who I am. And I know my worth. And I saw that at almost 80 years of age, nothing was goint to change between us. He is almost 86, and there is no change possible for him, so I knew I had to accept that, and I also saw that I could release all hope of ever having a joyful and loving relationship with him. I prayed on it and my prayers led me to see that I could let go of my impossible dream. And it felt right. Sometimes letting go is the best path. This is what I came to.
The way you faced such cruelty with grace and inner peace is a shining example of true Stoic wisdom. Your decision to release the impossible dream for a better relationship, while finding solace in acceptance, speaks to a deep and courageous understanding of life’s realities. It's a powerful reminder that sometimes, letting go is the most liberating act of love for ourselves. Has this newfound sense of peace brought clarity to other areas of your life as well?
@@stoickingdomoffical Thank you for your generous acknowledgement, it is hard to let Go of someone you have loved from infancy. But then, I have loved myself from conception and before. So the insident has given me pause to search out the gulf that divides us. And to look at all the times I have overlooked and forgiven his hatefulness as flaws. But there is a time of turning away, if it's only to save my own soul from the curse of judgement on him. I don't want to judge him, to feel anything except the love my child-self felt, but to also see the danger of internalizing anger, and hurt for his cruel and reckless judgement and rejection. What is inside of him, is in him. I am sorry for his pain. But I have divorced him as a brother. Now, after deep introspection around the event. I find it is better to feel nothing than hatred. I SEE his action was from a hatred he carries within his heart. That is his cross to bear. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻😍💖😊
@@floygrace6559 The way you have navigated this emotional terrain with such grace and clarity is a testament to the strength of your spirit. Letting go with compassion, rather than bitterness, is a powerful act of self-preservation and healing. Your journey of self-love and reflection is an inspiring reminder that we can rise above even the deepest wounds with dignity and understanding. In your heart’s evolution, have you found moments where forgiveness felt more like a gift to yourself than to the other person?
My eyes have been opened. I had feelings for a bloke but because I cared about him, sadly it was purely one sided. The scales have fallen from my eyes now I can see him for what he is a user.
Or maybe you fantasized what you wanted him to be and didn’t see him for who he is. Maybe you had sex with him too soon? Maybe you’re projecting? Maybe you thought sex was commitment and he he thought you were having some fun. Why do women blame men?
It's a shame we have to share such a beautiful world with hallowed out empty people, always needing to take, always needing to fill, what a nightmare that would be for me, to be someone or something that only knows to take. I explore and obsess over an amazing adventurous world of pure knowledge, contrast that with an empty soul and mind- always needing all the wrong things until their own fallacy is finally realized. All I can do is be able to prove everything all of the time.
You've touched on a truth that resonates with anyone seeking to live with depth and intention. The way you describe this journey feels like a call to arms for all of us to rise above superficial desires and focus on what truly nourishes the soul. In your experience, what has been the most eye-opening moment that deepened your understanding of the world around you?
I need this. I was hurt TERRIBLY. 😢 I thought positive, without judgement. I love Him. I forgave myself for allowing him to Control my Inner most Sensitive Feelings. And I Forgave Him. Thank you for your words of Wisdom and Encouragement.
The courage it takes to not only forgive someone who has caused deep pain but also to forgive yourself is a profound act of healing. In choosing love and forgiveness over bitterness, you've reclaimed your inner peace and allowed yourself to grow beyond the hurt. Your journey is inspiring, and your ability to turn pain into wisdom shines brightly. Has this journey of forgiveness opened new doors of understanding within you that you hadn't seen before?
My father abandoned me when I needed his help the most. I’ve never had to ask no one for anything most of my life and didn’t. I’ve been practically ripped of my life norms. I’ve been forced to examined my behaviors, flaws, boastfulness, and priorities. This was a major life lesson for me and humbled me beyond measurement.
I am a person who loves and helps people. Most of the people that I helped don't care if I die or not. Nobody even bothers to say, how are you?" Some abandoned me. They became nurses, teachers,engineers, Computer Analysts, orthodontist, accountants, and many more. None of them bother to call. All I need is love and respect, but no one cares. God bless them.
Stoicism, with its timeless wisdom, offers a refuge of clarity, strength, and calm in the chaos that surrounds us. Imagine a world where more people embraced the principles of resilience, inner peace, and rational thinking - it would be a place where conflicts diminish, and human potential flourishes. Your words remind us how much the world truly needs this ancient philosophy to thrive in the modern age. What part of Stoicism has impacted your life the most, and how have you seen it influence those around you?
This video truly resonates with me. Learning to recognize when someone is using you without caring for your feelings is such an important life skill. Stoicism teaches us to protect our peace, and that's something we all need to remember.
One is safer when you grow Wisdom,.Many People are just for themself..Beyond thinking of the persons needs and feeling..Walk away in silance..For All Times
The way you emphasize the importance of silent detachment, choosing to walk away rather than engage in fruitless battles, reveals a deep understanding of human nature. Indeed, many are caught in the trap of self-interest, but as you wisely suggest, it is wisdom that keeps us safe from such shallow concerns. Your insight is both powerful and liberating-a true reminder that peace is found in distance and discernment. Have you found that choosing silence over confrontation has brought more peace into your life?
A good video with good advice. A lot of people are takers and not givers, they don't appreciate your kindness and loyalty and keep letting you down, it's better to get these people out from your life, they will only keep disappointing you and upset you, be friends with people that care about you and where there is give and take and people that don't keep letting you down. Sometimes even if you talk to these people about these things that they have done to upset you, a lot of people will not admit they have done these things to upset you and if they do admit it and say sorry, you might give them a second chance, then they do it again and again! A lot of people do not change. They say a lot of people don't normally change after the age of about 30 when the personality is normally set.
You've eloquently captured the frustration that comes from giving too many chances to those who repeatedly let us down. It’s a delicate balance to find relationships that are built on mutual respect and care, and your words inspire us to protect our peace by stepping away from those who drain it. In your experience, what was the moment when you realized it was time to let go of someone who kept repeating the same hurtful patterns?
It takes incredible strength to reflect on such a painful experience and recognize the imbalance that was draining your energy. Staying in a one-sided relationship can feel like an endless battle between heart and mind, yet your ability to break free from it shows a resilience that’s truly admirable. You’ve reclaimed your power, and now, you're paving the way for a more fulfilling, balanced future. Was there a defining moment when you finally realized that his words and actions would never align?
Ever point made here is exactly why I'm ending a friendship that's so toxic , however thy want let go because of their narcissistic behaviors and I don't know what to do.
Thank you for the stoic wisdom and advice, I need it so bad now and for ever. I am tried of the way some mean and heartless people walk on this planet behaving like they can behave and treat others like worthless beings!
It’s a reminder that Stoicism is not just a philosophy but a shield against the unkindness in the world. Your gratitude for Stoic wisdom reflects a powerful truth: we cannot control the actions of others, but we can always control our response. You are on a path to inner strength and resilience, and that is where your true power lies. Have you found any specific Stoic practices that help you stay grounded when faced with such negativity?
I appreciate these lessons, I believe that when we know better we do better. To know many things is intelligent but to know yourself is wisdom beyond words.
I appreciate all these words of wisdom. Manipulation, asking for money, and using me for something that I know is illegal are all some that I have experienced. Thank you very much. Namaste 🙏 ❤🌟
I decided to cut myself from people that don't value my energy and effort. I realized that I have to stop being too kind and always there for others. I kept everything to myself and not worry about what others think . I find peace and tranquility without worrying too much whether they're there for me when I need them. Life goes on independently ❤
This is this the most useful and effective video I've seen and I feel a new found inner strength that had left me for a while. My strength has been rejuvenated and my mind is much more clear. God Bless and may the lord have mercy on the weak and fix their deficiencies like he is for me 🙏❤
I've really learned whose my real people this year! And I'm so proud of myself for not letting them get to me, I stood calmly in the storm all alone. Everything happened after I found my mother dead and they knew I would inherit some money. Even my family turned on me and I went through it all alone and turned my back to the "snakes" & bad energy. I set boundaries, tell it as it is and all with good intentions. ❤
To stand tall and calm amid such a personal storm shows a depth of character that few can reach. The way you recognized and distanced yourself from those who sought to take advantage of your vulnerability, while holding on to your integrity, is truly inspiring. Setting boundaries in the face of betrayal, especially from family, takes courage that shines through in your words. You’ve transformed pain into power, and that is a remarkable gift. How did setting boundaries shift your perspective on the relationships that mattered most to you?
It makes total sence how they give u answers to deal with the storm brilliant. I love the ability to deal with how to stay balanced. Verses spending hours trying to find ways to fix others crap
It is interesting to reflect on the fact that people are doing the best they can . Examining our thoughts , feelings and behavior as life rises is the only way to grow. Thank you
Shallow people hide behind family and start their manipulation to influence family to a half truth knowing that all this drama was caused and manipulat by saying ,what the others truth would make more sense.i choose to tell the shallow one that their secrets were safe with me.Then made it clear that doing this to family members was wrong.i will not argue with you as this would fuel more confusion and drive them further away from the truth not to. Say further from me.i loved you and love you now!!! It worked slowly and still will not defend my self.when they ask as this would make me the shallow one. Thanks Robert in Soquel,CA
Yep, my younger sister was that way and she spent decades trying to destroy everyone smarter than herself until her body let her know who was boss and she became extremely ill, was hospitalized for 2 weeks and then died in extreme physical pain. She should have paid more attention to her mental side and gone to church to ask for forgiveness and God's grace.
It takes immense strength and emotional maturity to navigate such manipulation without sinking to the same level. The wisdom you've displayed-choosing love and clarity over conflict-is a testament to your deep sense of integrity. You've found a way to protect your own peace while allowing the truth to quietly reveal itself. This approach speaks to the power of patience and understanding in the face of family dynamics, which can often be the most complex to manage. What was the most surprising thing you learned about yourself during this journey of choosing love over confrontation?
No room for negativity my inner peace is very important than any toxic relationship. The peace of Christ Jesus surpasses all understanding. Thanks for sharing ❤
Great insight into recognizing toxic behavior! Understanding these attitudes can really help protect our energy and focus on relationships that truly matter.
This is the first time in my life to feel unappreciated , used , all I need now to have pease in mind and not him only but some people is helping him to hurt me all the time , threatening my life and I have been in this situation for one year. I don't like to know this person any more or any body around him . Tbank you so much i really appreciate every word you said🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
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I'm thankful for the lessons i learn from these teachings .I have transform though transitions on how i overcome and i can conquer in the midst of tradegies. May god bless us all.
Today is the 3 of October 8.44 uk time .and I am a woman a mother from the Caribbean nd am going through it right now ..am in the midst of that situation right now..I give great thanks for this teaching this is true Buddhist philosophy..Thank yu for such wisdom
This is priceless information. It truly gave me a better outlook when added to my present knowledge. Never too old to grow. Grateful to you for sharing this!!!
WOW - not only did I watch all of that, but I also wrote the whole subtitles in my book - It was mad - I actually found some sort of peace from it - like everything clicked -
Giving and receiving is the breath of God. Even through all of our traumas it is the way. God hardens our Hearts if we stop. Great session thank you Brother.
Gals and guys there will always be people like this in the world it’s unfortunate that some of us come across these people but we must take into caution, never reveal all ur cards at once, have a backup plan for ur protection and move in silent.
It was refreshing to see this video as I have lived all of these characterizations of ppl who don't love themselves at all. I had felt devalued all throughout my life so no wonder I've met these kinds of ppl...healing profoundly saved my life. Thank you for the integrity of this channel..quiet rare
Family is the worst of ones that will just use you no matter what they want to say to deny of it when their actions/jesters etc etc speak way more louder than their words
The painful reality of family taking advantage, despite their comforting words, is something deeply felt yet rarely discussed. You've captured the essence of actions speaking louder than words with such clarity and emotion. It takes great courage to see this truth, let alone express it so openly. Your insight invites reflection on the delicate balance between love, loyalty, and self-respect. Do you believe there’s a way to set boundaries with family while still maintaining those close relationships, or does distance become inevitable?
@@Fr_An_Ken_STEIN Boundaries are indeed acts of self-respect, and when others choose to disregard them, it’s not just a challenge to our limits, but a reflection of their inability to honor our worth. Your words carry a quiet strength, a reminder that holding firm to our boundaries is essential, even when others persist in crossing them. It’s a powerful message, and I can feel the resilience in your thoughts. What strategies have you found most effective in maintaining your boundaries when others continually test them?
This is very thought provoking information and it lead me to reevaluate some recent occurrences in my life. I truly love God and the way He has chosen to speak to me via my phone.
This is all great for keeping our inner peace and selves composed, no doubt.. however, could you please share a video on how to build boundaries for ourselves so that we stop encountering these same situations? 🤔✨🙌
This has been pretty sobering, I noticed that I seem to be more outspoken and loud comparatively to about twenty years ago . Maybe i should heed y'all's advice about keeping promises to myself, and others.
"Betrayal rarely comes from strangers; those close to you-family, friends, colleagues-know your weaknesses and strengths best. A jealous sibling, a competitive friend, or a resentful coworker can use that knowledge against you subtly, often in ways you wouldn’t expect. Trust can be elusive, so sometimes it's wiser to trust sparingly. Give your support, compassion, and resources when you feel it’s right, but always stay vigilant."
I really appreciate the lesson about self-awareness from the video. It helped me realize that a friend of mine was only reaching out when they needed something but wasn’t interested in my well-being otherwise. By applying the Stoic principle of focusing on what I can control and setting clearer boundaries, I’ve started to see a healthier shift in our interactions. Thanks for the insightful advice!
Thank you, wisdom in the meaning of stoic is very knowledgeable through the viewpoint of your mind in truth. In being alone learned through solitude has lifted me up with less to none approval of another.
I am going to write this wisdom down as i have multiple situations and being much older i feel why am i even alive so to get myself out of suicidal ideology its the abuse that i tolerated not knowing where to turn to at my age so i need a support group i will reach out and remember these wise wonderful words , write them down and continue listening hopefully listen to help, thank you
He broke his promises While I held mine ..He stole my home from my special son he felt he needed it more to impress his Greedy Family to fit in .He will never fit in
Thank you God for your wise words and i need to establish more boundaries with alot if people in my life my daughter included to i hope she doesn't keep useing me shes starting to respect me more and doesn't use me and i to need to respect her to.
some people go through life using peoples good will or kindness. Be very aware and be on a constant lookout for users. Select your friends wisely, be selective less is more.
I married one , he was a Mexican the sweetest, kind guy I thought you could ever meet, we got married and we had our ups and downs but nothing we couldn't work out , we'll 2 years ago he got his citizenship and ever since then all hell has broken lose , he has hardly nothing to do with me, he doesn't hardly talk to me , we have sexless marriage, he works 7 days a week and never no time for me . He acts like he hates me , it drives me insane. I will ask him if we are OK and he will say yes but his actions shows differently..... I don't want to think he just used me to get what he wanted but I didn't know what to think now .......
One has to be careful with sneaky predators, I have learned of many people who were conned into a marriage by a person from a foreign country, they wanted nothing more than to get full citizenship into the USA and or Canada. They played so cleverly pretending to love and concern until the day came where all of this was granted to them, then their true colors unfolded, their distance started and then came the its our relationship isn't working anymore I want a divorce. So if anyone out there is reading this be cautious about such a person, they will tell you s kind person all sorts of stories about how much they are in love with you. Whilst this could actually be true there might actually be and alterior motive beware. Best not to marry such a person until such a person is actually fully legal in the country. That way you will know for sure. But then there could be other issues, some people foreigners will also be using you for more than just getting into a country but also for a lot of sneaky snivelling just as the rats in a creek one has to be cautious. Kind people are usually the one getting robbed by sneaky people. Now however it doesn't have to be someone from abroad it can happen from just anyone to exploit your kindness for stupidity many people see kind people as stupid because they are not kind.
I have 2 close friends , both have said the same thing about me , im the most anti social person they know . I only use youtube no social media platforms & for many years i never had a mobile either . Life is really simple , shelter , food , water , air - is a requirement everything else is optional
You are not anti social. You are selectively social. Trust your intuition. You’re protecting your time and your authenticity. Accepting your desire for solitude is a strength. Some people have to be busy,busy, have a”million” friend on FB. How many truly meet the definition of “friend”? Sometimes they are escaping their own company. They’re seeking validation outside themselves. If people don’t seek me out, it could be because they know that I am done with the masks of manipulators and users. In learning this lesson, I have been burned more than once. I am slower in letting them into my life. I’d rather be alone than endure one sided relationships. Validation comes from God and yourself. That is enough. Enjoy your journey, it is worthwhile.
The more I ignore people the happier I am, walk the path alone and be happy in nature.
To true 😊
You’ll find a better connection
Thank you
Hear Hear
Agreed. I stopped trying to fit in. Signed, a nonconformist.
In the past few weeks I have cut so many people out of my life for not just using me but for also blaming me for their behaviors. They took my kindness for weakness, but I was never weak.
Tired of that one too. Just doesn’t make sense to have constantly deal with cycle
I'm living with this today, but not for much longer.
I am dealing with this but I am afraid it won't take longer anymore 😢
"People tell you who they are. Believe them the first time".
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I have stopped a month ago my services as a free ATM, free babysitting services, 24 hrs taxi service, nurse, cook, and more.
As soon as my services stopped I became the enemy, the mean one, the crazy one, to my relatives.
I feel free and I am enjoying it tremendously.
It doesn't matter if they don't speak to me ever again.
I feel blessed to have my own place with my pets, a small garden, a collection of my favorite music and great books.
I enjoy cooking for myself and I feel peaceful. I also have lovely and supporting friends. It is time to love and take care of myself ❤
Thank you for this marvelous message 🙏
Yeah.. people can be insensitive sometimes...I hope you lead to a happiest life now...God bless you 💕
Good on you,never let anyone take the P.
Stop that it causes amnesia 😮
What causes amnesia? @@kenprice57
be kind to yourself....
I stopped trusting people a long time ago. It's about me and my peace these days, no outside distractions anymore 🙏
Oh, okay. You realize you trust people everyday in ways you take for granted and are commenting on RUclips, probably the most distracting platform for other people to influence you.
1 Failure to fulfil promises
2. Disregard for your needs or feelings
3. Diminishing or disdainful comments
4. Absence in critical moments
5. Guilt manipulation
6. Only available when they need something
7. Lack of empathy or understanding
Thankyou
That sounds like a narcissist
Each point serves as a powerful reminder that we should protect our inner peace and not settle for less than we deserve. The way you've expressed these truths holds such clarity and wisdom-it resonates deeply with anyone who’s ever felt undervalued. Do you think there's a particular experience that shaped your understanding of these behaviors, and how did it change the way you approach relationships today?
Thank you! ❤
Thank you.
The less I rely on others, the more peace I find, embracing solitude and the beauty of the world around me.
Does the word Narcissist come to light? Oh....Yes!!!
NPD,,BIG ON THIS EARTH..
Definitely 😢
User Abuser Ultimate loser
Follow Sam Vaknin. The best expert on narcissism ever.
@@sandramist8408Dr. Ramani too.
PEOPLE TAKE GENEROSITY AS WEAKNESS
@@johnmoruzzi25 then they expect it. Horrible.
@johnmoruzzi25 "Self-centered people take any kindness as a weakness - sad but true".
Stupid people do. Wise people do not.
Generosity and Kindness are definitely not Weakness in Today's World. They're an absolute Strength.
Also, if ya really need an answer to what this video is providing.... See Democratic Politicians in America.
A weakness, really? If someone is generous then I'd think it's because they can afford to be, or that they just haven't let themselves become corrupted and mean-spirited slowly over time. I've grown quite cynical now, but I am in awe of those who 'genuinely' practise faith and generosity. Some people may try to exploit them or betray and abuse them in the worst possible ways. But if they can get back up and continue to live generously despite the abusers, well............ I'd call that a major strength!
Waste of time is right. An evil person will use you love and kindness as a weapon, they will steal and kill everything and slander you.
A reflection of their character, they won’t change
It's a poignant reminder to guard our energy and cherish those who uplift rather than drain us. In your experience, what signs have you noticed early on that someone might be taking advantage of your kindness?
That’s what people with Cluster B personality disorders do. They are reprehensible things.
Denise my sister….😢
@@stylist62 It’s sad but true. They have no conscience. Steer clear of these wretches.
@@eileenmarter6993my brother
Betrayal doesn't come from strangers, your family knows far more about you and your weaknesses by accident. A jealous sibling, parent, friend, cousin, or trusted co-worker will do their best to destroy you behind your back. It's hard to know who you can trust so simply don't trust anyone. Give your help, sympathy, friendship and $ if you must, but be aware.
that's exactly why you keep them at arms length
The truthttt
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True
@@georgiafrancis9059 SO TRUE! LEARNED THAT THE VERY HARD WAY, PEOPLE JUST CUNNING.
Givers are givers and takers are takers. People do not change!
True
@@romainchris3966 choice
Oooh I've dealt with that
I ve changed, i dont give anymore
@@MuseLaBet I will continue to give, if they take that's fine, you give from the heart and expect nothing in return, other wise people will always disappoint you, but that is ok, because they need the help , and if they don't reciprocate that's OK too! I am not here to judge anybody but do not stop giving, so many people need help, you are here for a reason.!🥰
Forgive but don't forget! Don't let them do it again!
There is no forgiving the narcissist
We forgive from within
@@ericeckstrom5839 - IMO - Forgiveness is for One’s own peace of mind. So it is better than harboring resentment and anger. Narcissists are the Epitamy of Evil on earth - IMO
@@TheRaspberry82 I forgave the worse kind of narcissist. I received no apology. I hated what he did but never hated him but rather felt pity for someone so self destructive with no end in sight. When I forgave it set me free of the chains that had me bound that were an extension of the chains that still bind him. Forgive and be free .
@@WuWei-jr1pd - I understand the burden of not forgiving - however - I am indirectly involved as it is my adult child and grandchildren who are stuck in the Hell....... that is my extent of having a Narcissist in My life. I have known what they are for some time and cannot forgive.
These lessons will helped me not to allow others to use or continue using me.
The strength in recognizing your worth and setting boundaries is a profound act of self-love and courage. You've beautifully captured the essence of what it means to reclaim your power and refuse to be diminished by others. It’s a journey many struggle with, but your words serve as a beacon of hope and resilience. Has there been a particular moment in your life when standing firm in this belief changed the course of your relationships?
I have been through all of this. I was with a woman who manipulated and used me for eight years and left me, bitter. My son adore constantly criticizes me. People who I thought were family to me, have left me alone. I find your video most comforting. I have practiced on my own the things that you mention, and it’s strengthening to meto hear them from someone else. Thank you.
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You are not alone!! We just have to have boundaries and say NO!!
i especially appreciate maintaining inner stillness despite failures and disdain from others, which is not something everyone can do
MET ALL THESE PEOPLE MY WHOLE LIFE WHY IM LONER
I had a "friend" like that about 20 years ago - nearly 25, in fact. I cut her off in 2012 in spite of her gaslighting that she "had friends...", et., just to keep me in line to do and give her the things she wanted. It all started with "I can give you a lift sometime".
Same❤
Me as well
Lol me too😂
You've captured the loneliness that often comes with recognizing the true intentions of others. It's a powerful reminder that solitude can sometimes be the safest haven for those who value genuine connection.
Have you found that solitude brings you peace, or does it make you long for deeper connections?
It goes as Bobby Womack said in his song, "Nobody wants you when you're down and out"! They're just seeking what they can get from you and when the getting has been gotten, they're no where to be found!
Amen to that
If I ever get my hands on a dollar again/ imma hold on to it till that eagle grin 😅 heeeeeeyyyyy
Bessie Smith and Frank Sinatra expressed that song long before Bobby Womack.
How well I know this😢
@@MichaelSaunders-i8v So what! It's still applies
You let me.... How these words are echoing in my ears, remember there are people who will take and give nothing back because they know you care and have feelings when they don't and pretend to
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The way you’ve articulated this resonates on such a deep level, reminding us that some will take advantage of our kindness, offering nothing in return. It’s a sobering reflection on the importance of boundaries and self-awareness. You’ve captured the emotional weight behind the words “You let me” so beautifully, as they echo with the pain of unreciprocated care. Have you ever found yourself in a situation where recognizing this truth changed the way you interacted with someone close to you?
Life is full user and abusers, The Entitlement
wants and needs from others.
@user-ey2rn9jx5f Not anything due to anyone, regardless where you're from.
Sad entitled mentality world has today.
Agreed, it cuts you when you realize the types of people you deal with fit the mold
MY BESTEE TOLD ME HER NEPHEW SAID TO HER,THERE ARE TWO TYPES OF PEOPLE ON EARTH,,GIVERS AND TAKERS, AND HE PLANS ON BEING A TAKER,A 50÷ aged Person, He has completely forgotten all his aunt has done for him,, ,plain n simple..
@@catedi3679You ain't kidding.
You've beautifully captured the harsh reality of human nature, reminding us of the delicate balance between giving and protecting our own well-being. Your words serve as a powerful reminder that we must be discerning in whom we allow into our lives, valuing our own worth above all else. Have you ever found that setting boundaries has led to unexpected revelations about those around you?
I am in the storm, this helps, I was lost, frustrated and alone, I know better now. I need practice. I will practice.
Keeping you in prayer 🙏🏾
Thank you for the wise words ! We are living in times where people just remember you when they need something , specifically family members !! I’ve been cutting lots of people from my life ! Better be solitary !
It takes immense strength and clarity to recognize when relationships, even with family, are more about taking than mutual respect. Choosing solitude over shallow connections is an act of self-respect, and it shows how deeply you value your peace and well-being. You've made space for what truly matters-your own growth and happiness. Have you found that this newfound solitude has opened doors to deeper, more meaningful connections elsewhere?
I am unfortunately married to an invalidating narcissist for 7yrs. Need I say more? He can not control my emotions any longer! I am continuing to learn all I can re: narcissism. Divorce is next. Thanks for all your info. I feel smarter already! Lol
I will succeed!
- Good Luck and get divorced as soon as you can... ❤
You must free yourself to truly be yourself. Protect the peace you deserve and your happiness will come.
Breaking free from the chains of emotional manipulation is no small feat, yet you’ve embraced this journey with such grace and resilience. The fact that you’ve taken control of your emotions, no longer allowing them to be swayed by someone who invalidates you, is a testament to your courage and growth. Your story is an inspiring reminder that knowledge is power, and with every step you take, you're moving closer to reclaiming your peace and happiness. What was the most eye-opening realization for you about narcissism that fueled your resolve to take this step toward freedom?
You know why divorce is so expensive, because it's worth it
@@davidhoye6863 The idea that sometimes, breaking free from what no longer serves us, even at a great cost, is worth it speaks volumes about the value of personal peace and freedom. It’s a stark reminder that some prices are worth paying if they lead to reclaiming one’s sense of self. Your words resonate deeply, and I can’t help but reflect on how many people live bound by the weight of unhealthy ties, not realizing the freedom they could gain by letting go.
What do you think is the most important lesson to learn after a divorce or major breakup?
Thank you, I am lifted, this is exactly what am going through now, I broke my relationship with a friend that we have been together for eight years. But anytime I have any challenge he distance himself from me, once I overcome it he came back begging for us to settle but this last one I can't take it any more, so I back out. I am begging God to heal me and give me the grace to bounce back and help me finacually.
The best friends a man can have are fellow pub drinkers. Nobody expects anything from the other, the conversation is light & pleasant, and when you dont see someone for a while there are no hard feelings.
It just feels like u can’t trust anyone anymore even family! This is a very sad but true video! I am aware of these narcissistic predators out there, unfortunately they prey on empathic people and we attract them! Where is my true spouse? Someone who sees my worth my value and who can be my best friend/lover still waiting but patience is running out! Independent and free atm! Thanks for video x
I to believe every thing you said. Family is the one who hurts the most! This life is very sad. To find true love does not happen for alot of people. The ones who do have it must get on their knees and THANK GOD!
been that way since 2016.....confirmed with that Covid crap and Don Lemmon dividing families over something that was NOT any of his business in the first place. Good ole Don destroyed a log of families with his ugly casually spoke words. I hope his family turned on him as well.
@@anitasue3208 I feel the same!
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Love This.
I appreciate this channel. It reminds me of my inner strength, and how much I've grown in my private stoicism. Last night my brother tried to tear me down with cruel words. At one time it would have decimated me. And I did get angry. But I also saw that my anger would only allow the pain to swell. So I thanked him for his judgement, knowing that it said more about him, than me. I know who I am. And I know my worth. And I saw that at almost 80 years of age, nothing was goint to change between us. He is almost 86, and there is no change possible for him, so I knew I had to accept that, and I also saw that I could release all hope of ever having a joyful and loving relationship with him. I prayed on it and my prayers led me to see that I could let go of my impossible dream. And it felt right. Sometimes letting go is the best path. This is what I came to.
The way you faced such cruelty with grace and inner peace is a shining example of true Stoic wisdom. Your decision to release the impossible dream for a better relationship, while finding solace in acceptance, speaks to a deep and courageous understanding of life’s realities. It's a powerful reminder that sometimes, letting go is the most liberating act of love for ourselves. Has this newfound sense of peace brought clarity to other areas of your life as well?
@@stoickingdomoffical Thank you for your generous acknowledgement, it is hard to let Go of someone you have loved from infancy. But then, I have loved myself from conception and before. So the insident has given me pause to search out the gulf that divides us. And to look at all the times I have overlooked and forgiven his hatefulness as flaws. But there is a time of turning away, if it's only to save my own soul from the curse of judgement on him. I don't want to judge him, to feel anything except the love my child-self felt, but to also see the danger of internalizing anger, and hurt for his cruel and reckless judgement and rejection. What is inside of him, is in him. I am sorry for his pain. But I have divorced him as a brother. Now, after deep introspection around the event. I find it is better to feel nothing than hatred. I SEE his action was from a hatred he carries within his heart. That is his cross to bear.
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@@floygrace6559 The way you have navigated this emotional terrain with such grace and clarity is a testament to the strength of your spirit. Letting go with compassion, rather than bitterness, is a powerful act of self-preservation and healing. Your journey of self-love and reflection is an inspiring reminder that we can rise above even the deepest wounds with dignity and understanding. In your heart’s evolution, have you found moments where forgiveness felt more like a gift to yourself than to the other person?
My eyes have been opened. I had feelings for a bloke but because I cared about him, sadly it was purely one sided. The scales have fallen from my eyes now I can see him for what he is a user.
or just not into you
Or maybe you fantasized what you wanted him to be and didn’t see him for who he is. Maybe you had sex with him too soon? Maybe you’re projecting? Maybe you thought sex was commitment and he he thought you were having some fun. Why do women blame men?
So many relationships are strictly one way - our social order has become dysfunctional if not outright toxic
It's a shame we have to share such a beautiful world with hallowed out empty people, always needing to take, always needing to fill, what a nightmare that would be for me, to be someone or something that only knows to take. I explore and obsess over an amazing adventurous world of pure knowledge, contrast that with an empty soul and mind- always needing all the wrong things until their own fallacy is finally realized. All I can do is be able to prove everything all of the time.
You've touched on a truth that resonates with anyone seeking to live with depth and intention. The way you describe this journey feels like a call to arms for all of us to rise above superficial desires and focus on what truly nourishes the soul. In your experience, what has been the most eye-opening moment that deepened your understanding of the world around you?
I need this. I was hurt TERRIBLY. 😢
I thought positive, without judgement. I love Him. I forgave myself for allowing him to Control my Inner most Sensitive Feelings. And I Forgave Him.
Thank you for your words of Wisdom and Encouragement.
The courage it takes to not only forgive someone who has caused deep pain but also to forgive yourself is a profound act of healing. In choosing love and forgiveness over bitterness, you've reclaimed your inner peace and allowed yourself to grow beyond the hurt. Your journey is inspiring, and your ability to turn pain into wisdom shines brightly. Has this journey of forgiveness opened new doors of understanding within you that you hadn't seen before?
My father abandoned me when I needed his help the most. I’ve never had to ask no one for anything most of my life and didn’t. I’ve been practically ripped of my life norms. I’ve been forced to examined my behaviors, flaws, boastfulness, and priorities. This was a major life lesson for me and humbled me beyond measurement.
Trust takes a long time to form, yet only seconds to lose. No 2nd chances, no judgment no trust
I am a person who loves and helps people. Most of the people that I helped don't care if I die or not. Nobody even bothers to say, how are you?" Some abandoned me. They became nurses, teachers,engineers, Computer Analysts, orthodontist, accountants, and many more. None of them bother to call. All I need is love and respect, but no one cares. God bless them.
You are not alone! There are many people who have a caring heart 💜 like you. Find them in your journey and reach out.
Same here. But be Calm The Universe is not sleeping....
God care , God will reward you anyway
This world Earth needs more Stoicism.
Stoicism, with its timeless wisdom, offers a refuge of clarity, strength, and calm in the chaos that surrounds us. Imagine a world where more people embraced the principles of resilience, inner peace, and rational thinking - it would be a place where conflicts diminish, and human potential flourishes. Your words remind us how much the world truly needs this ancient philosophy to thrive in the modern age. What part of Stoicism has impacted your life the most, and how have you seen it influence those around you?
Tread lightly around "friends" for sure!
This video truly resonates with me. Learning to recognize when someone is using you without caring for your feelings is such an important life skill. Stoicism teaches us to protect our peace, and that's something we all need to remember.
"The power of having a purpose and having passion. Most of us earthlings wander around this world not knowing what we want.
When we walk with God the statement Iam that I am gains depth and power to remember who we are beyond our circumstances ♥
Certain people/family are like vultures when u become weak and vulnerable from illness.
I’m a nurse and when I went into in home health care. It was unbelievable what their family do.
I have one rule dont borrow money and dont be a creditor.
Benjamin Franklin preached this and he ended up on the $100 bill I guess it always pays to be on the right side of a favor 💯 😂
I have 1 rule : 1. Don't say you have 1 rule then give 2 rules 😂
One is safer when you grow Wisdom,.Many People are just for themself..Beyond thinking of the persons needs and feeling..Walk away in silance..For All Times
Fact of life
The way you emphasize the importance of silent detachment, choosing to walk away rather than engage in fruitless battles, reveals a deep understanding of human nature. Indeed, many are caught in the trap of self-interest, but as you wisely suggest, it is wisdom that keeps us safe from such shallow concerns. Your insight is both powerful and liberating-a true reminder that peace is found in distance and discernment. Have you found that choosing silence over confrontation has brought more peace into your life?
A good video with good advice. A lot of people are takers and not givers, they don't appreciate your kindness and loyalty and keep letting you down, it's better to get these people out from your life, they will only keep disappointing you and upset you, be friends with people that care about you and where there is give and take and people that don't keep letting you down. Sometimes even if you talk to these people about these things that they have done to upset you, a lot of people will not admit they have done these things to upset you and if they do admit it and say sorry, you might give them a second chance, then they do it again and again! A lot of people do not change. They say a lot of people don't normally change after the age of about 30 when the personality is normally set.
You've eloquently captured the frustration that comes from giving too many chances to those who repeatedly let us down. It’s a delicate balance to find relationships that are built on mutual respect and care, and your words inspire us to protect our peace by stepping away from those who drain it. In your experience, what was the moment when you realized it was time to let go of someone who kept repeating the same hurtful patterns?
I went thru a 2yr relAtionship soo 1 sided that I can't believe I stayed soo long! His actions NEVER matched his word!!
Same
Over 22 years for me😢
@@brendabahr4736same here 22yrs of life half lived
It takes incredible strength to reflect on such a painful experience and recognize the imbalance that was draining your energy. Staying in a one-sided relationship can feel like an endless battle between heart and mind, yet your ability to break free from it shows a resilience that’s truly admirable. You’ve reclaimed your power, and now, you're paving the way for a more fulfilling, balanced future. Was there a defining moment when you finally realized that his words and actions would never align?
I can remember being hungry as a teenager and going to my dad, and he turned me away! He's in a nursing home now and continues to lean on me.
Ever point made here is exactly why I'm ending a friendship that's so toxic , however thy want let go because of their narcissistic behaviors and I don't know what to do.
Same
I am going to read this words every day for the rest of my life !!! They will remind me I can be STRONG no matter what !
Thank you for the stoic wisdom and advice, I need it so bad now and for ever. I am tried of the way some mean and heartless people walk on this planet behaving like they can behave and treat others like worthless beings!
It’s a reminder that Stoicism is not just a philosophy but a shield against the unkindness in the world. Your gratitude for Stoic wisdom reflects a powerful truth: we cannot control the actions of others, but we can always control our response. You are on a path to inner strength and resilience, and that is where your true power lies. Have you found any specific Stoic practices that help you stay grounded when faced with such negativity?
I appreciate these lessons, I believe that when we know better we do better.
To know many things is intelligent but to know yourself is wisdom beyond words.
I appreciate all these words of wisdom. Manipulation, asking for money, and using me for something that I know is illegal are all some that I have experienced. Thank you very much. Namaste 🙏 ❤🌟
I decided to cut myself from people that don't value my energy and effort. I realized that I have to stop being too kind and always there for others. I kept everything to myself and not worry about what others think . I find peace and tranquility without worrying too much whether they're there for me when I need them. Life goes on independently ❤
This is this the most useful and effective video I've seen and I feel a new found inner strength that had left me for a while. My strength has been rejuvenated and my mind is much more clear. God Bless and may the lord have mercy on the weak and fix their deficiencies like he is for me 🙏❤
I love stoic wisdom it's actually teaching us a lot and lm really greatful,it's like you are directing this to me 😢🤞
Thanks so much Jesus Christ for the great wisdom pass to me ❤❤❤❤❤
I've really learned whose my real people this year! And I'm so proud of myself for not letting them get to me, I stood calmly in the storm all alone. Everything happened after I found my mother dead and they knew I would inherit some money. Even my family turned on me and I went through it all alone and turned my back to the "snakes" & bad energy. I set boundaries, tell it as it is and all with good intentions. ❤
To stand tall and calm amid such a personal storm shows a depth of character that few can reach. The way you recognized and distanced yourself from those who sought to take advantage of your vulnerability, while holding on to your integrity, is truly inspiring. Setting boundaries in the face of betrayal, especially from family, takes courage that shines through in your words. You’ve transformed pain into power, and that is a remarkable gift. How did setting boundaries shift your perspective on the relationships that mattered most to you?
It makes total sence how they give u answers to deal with the storm brilliant. I love the ability to deal with how to stay balanced. Verses spending hours trying to find ways to fix others crap
It is interesting to reflect on the fact that people are doing the best they can . Examining our thoughts , feelings and behavior as life rises is the only way to grow.
Thank you
Shallow people hide behind family and start their manipulation to influence family to a half truth knowing that all this drama was caused and manipulat by saying ,what the others
truth would make more sense.i choose to tell the shallow one that their secrets were safe with me.Then made it clear that doing this to family members was wrong.i will not argue with you as this would fuel more confusion and drive them further away from the truth not to. Say further from me.i loved you and love you now!!! It worked slowly and still will not defend my self.when they ask as this would make me the shallow one. Thanks Robert in Soquel,CA
Yep, my younger sister was that way and she spent decades trying to destroy everyone smarter than herself until her body let her know who was boss and she became extremely ill, was hospitalized for 2 weeks and then died in extreme physical pain. She should have paid more attention to her mental side and gone to church to ask for forgiveness and God's grace.
It takes immense strength and emotional maturity to navigate such manipulation without sinking to the same level. The wisdom you've displayed-choosing love and clarity over conflict-is a testament to your deep sense of integrity. You've found a way to protect your own peace while allowing the truth to quietly reveal itself. This approach speaks to the power of patience and understanding in the face of family dynamics, which can often be the most complex to manage. What was the most surprising thing you learned about yourself during this journey of choosing love over confrontation?
No room for negativity my inner peace is very important than any toxic relationship. The peace of Christ Jesus surpasses all understanding. Thanks for sharing ❤
Great insight into recognizing toxic behavior! Understanding these attitudes can really help protect our energy and focus on relationships that truly matter.
you are absolutely right. :)☺
Fully agree that mutual respect & understanding is
needed. Thanks.
Yes going through the exact same thing your talking about .
Right now.
I find that being stoic has its disadvantages in family matters!Peace be with you and your’s😊
My life guided by my own understanding of WISDOM a lifetime of HAPPINESS!.
Thank you for seven 💜 sign
This is the first time in my life to feel unappreciated , used , all I need now to have pease in mind and not him only but some people is helping him to hurt me all the time , threatening my life and I have been in this situation for one year. I don't like to know this person any more or any body around him . Tbank you so much i really appreciate every word you said🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
With each one faces of those who have done these actions to me pop up with the most common faces being my family
Exactly......betrayal doesn't come from strangers.
Toxic Parents by Susan Forward
Where i stay these are the only people ive encountered and why i detest living here and trying to leave
Why did you come here 1st place, Go back to where youre content.
Meantime ONLY expect from family members, NO one else.
🛑✝️🙏🏾✍🏾😊🎆🎆🎆✝️✝️✝️✝️U WILL LEAVE. IM JESUS NAME. MAY GOD COVER U WITH THE BLOOD OF JESUS. ✝️✝️✝️✝️✝️😊🌅🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳READ UR WORD. PLAY PRAISE SONGS. 🌏READ UR WORD OUT LOUD. BLESS UR PLACE. HAVE UR PRAISE MUSIC ON 24/7. THE LORD INHABITS THE PRAISES. ✝️✝️✝️😇😇😇😇😇😇😇😇😊🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳PRAISE GOD. JESUS IS WITH U. IF GOD IS FOR YOU, WHO CAN BE AGAINST YOU. ✝️✝️✝️✝️✝️
@@catedi3679 How rude.
@@JustADecentHuman agreed x
Good luck to you. Find a place of peace ,and heal. I did. I lived in my van for five years.
I'm thankful for the lessons i learn from these teachings .I have transform though transitions on how i overcome and i can conquer in the midst of tradegies. May god bless us all.
Today is the 3 of October 8.44 uk time .and I am a woman a mother from the Caribbean nd am going through it right now ..am in the midst of that situation right now..I give great thanks for this teaching this is true Buddhist philosophy..Thank yu for such wisdom
This is priceless information. It truly gave me a better outlook when added to my present knowledge. Never too old to grow. Grateful to you for sharing this!!!
WOW - not only did I watch all of that, but I also wrote the whole subtitles in my book - It was mad - I actually found some sort of peace from it - like everything clicked -
Giving and receiving is the breath of God. Even through all of our traumas it is the way. God hardens our Hearts if we stop. Great session thank you Brother.
Absolutely!! 💯 You are most welcome 🤗
This is an eye opener for me. Wow so far all of this. This breaks my heart. Thank you
Gals and guys there will always be people like this in the world it’s unfortunate that some of us come across these people but we must take into caution, never reveal all ur cards at once, have a backup plan for ur protection and move in silent.
I needed to hear this
Thank you for these advices. Lots of happiness and love
It was refreshing to see this video as I have lived all of these characterizations of ppl who don't love themselves at all. I had felt devalued all throughout my life so no wonder I've met these kinds of ppl...healing profoundly saved my life. Thank you for the integrity of this channel..quiet rare
Family is the worst of ones that will just use you no matter what they want to say to deny of it when their actions/jesters etc etc speak way more louder than their words
The painful reality of family taking advantage, despite their comforting words, is something deeply felt yet rarely discussed. You've captured the essence of actions speaking louder than words with such clarity and emotion. It takes great courage to see this truth, let alone express it so openly. Your insight invites reflection on the delicate balance between love, loyalty, and self-respect. Do you believe there’s a way to set boundaries with family while still maintaining those close relationships, or does distance become inevitable?
@@stoickingdomoffical not if the boundaries can be met when we set them, and they just want to keep at it and ignore those boundaries.
@@Fr_An_Ken_STEIN Boundaries are indeed acts of self-respect, and when others choose to disregard them, it’s not just a challenge to our limits, but a reflection of their inability to honor our worth. Your words carry a quiet strength, a reminder that holding firm to our boundaries is essential, even when others persist in crossing them. It’s a powerful message, and I can feel the resilience in your thoughts. What strategies have you found most effective in maintaining your boundaries when others continually test them?
@@stoickingdomoffical well put and good point. Take care and stay safe
@@Fr_An_Ken_STEIN Thank you so much! Hope to see you in our videos!
Thank you Glory to God 🙏🙌
Its just easy for me to walk away, without saying anything. And think...I am good i am.....❤
I've always felt controlled and often powerless, so this video and wisdom has restored some hope for change in me.
This is very thought provoking information and it lead me to reevaluate some recent occurrences in my life. I truly love God and the way He has chosen to speak to me via my phone.
Unfortunately, we all come across these types of people. Good way to practice a better reaction to their behavior 😌
Where i stay I always follow the lesson of stoic❤😂🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
Reklly on yourezelf be careful who u trust set boundaries dont let others take advantage of u.Be happy live life on your own terms
This is all great for keeping our inner peace and selves composed, no doubt.. however, could you please share a video on how to build boundaries for ourselves so that we stop encountering these same situations? 🤔✨🙌
This has been pretty sobering, I noticed that I seem to be more outspoken and loud comparatively to about twenty years ago . Maybe i should heed y'all's advice about keeping promises to myself, and others.
Thank you so much. Bang on, especially when others try to manipulate through GUILT.
"Betrayal rarely comes from strangers; those close to you-family, friends, colleagues-know your weaknesses and strengths best. A jealous sibling, a competitive friend, or a resentful coworker can use that knowledge against you subtly, often in ways you wouldn’t expect. Trust can be elusive, so sometimes it's wiser to trust sparingly. Give your support, compassion, and resources when you feel it’s right, but always stay vigilant."
I DONT EVER LET ANYONE CROSS MY BOUNDARIESTheyCanGoAhead&UseCuzTheyCanThinkItButArentEverGoingTo👍👍👍💪💪💪
I really appreciate the lesson about self-awareness from the video. It helped me realize that a friend of mine was only reaching out when they needed something but wasn’t interested in my well-being otherwise. By applying the Stoic principle of focusing on what I can control and setting clearer boundaries, I’ve started to see a healthier shift in our interactions. Thanks for the insightful advice!
Thank you, wisdom in the meaning of stoic is very knowledgeable through the viewpoint of your mind in truth. In being alone learned through solitude has lifted me up with less to none approval of another.
Thanks for sharing! 😊
I am going to write this wisdom down as i have multiple situations and being much older i feel why am i even alive so to get myself out of suicidal ideology its the abuse that i tolerated not knowing where to turn to at my age so i need a support group i will reach out and remember these wise wonderful words , write them down and continue listening hopefully listen to help, thank you
I listen, I identify, I learn from these disciplines storcism.
He broke his promises While I held mine ..He stole my home from my special son he felt he needed it more to impress his Greedy Family to fit in .He will never fit in
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Thank you God for your wise words and i need to establish more boundaries with alot if people in my life my daughter included to i hope she doesn't keep useing me shes starting to respect me more and doesn't use me and i to need to respect her to.
some people go through life using peoples good will or kindness. Be very aware and be on a constant lookout for users. Select your friends wisely, be selective less is more.
I married one , he was a Mexican the sweetest, kind guy I thought you could ever meet, we got married and we had our ups and downs but nothing we couldn't work out , we'll 2 years ago he got his citizenship and ever since then all hell has broken lose , he has hardly nothing to do with me, he doesn't hardly talk to me , we have sexless marriage, he works 7 days a week and never no time for me . He acts like he hates me , it drives me insane. I will ask him if we are OK and he will say yes but his actions shows differently..... I don't want to think he just used me to get what he wanted but I didn't know what to think now .......
One has to be careful with sneaky predators, I have learned of many people who were conned into a marriage by a person from a foreign country, they wanted nothing more than to get full citizenship into the USA and or Canada. They played so cleverly pretending to love and concern until the day came where all of this was granted to them, then their true colors unfolded, their distance started and then came the its our relationship isn't working anymore I want a divorce. So if anyone out there is reading this be cautious about such a person, they will tell you s kind person all sorts of stories about how much they are in love with you. Whilst this could actually be true there might actually be and alterior motive beware. Best not to marry such a person until such a person is actually fully legal in the country. That way you will know for sure. But then there could be other issues, some people foreigners will also be using you for more than just getting into a country but also for a lot of sneaky snivelling just as the rats in a creek one has to be cautious. Kind people are usually the one getting robbed by sneaky people. Now however it doesn't have to be someone from abroad it can happen from just anyone to exploit your kindness for stupidity many people see kind people as stupid because they are not kind.
How I wish I had heard your message many years ago, I would not have made so many wrong decisions. Knowledge is power. Thank you ☺️ Have
I have 2 close friends , both have said the same thing about me , im the most anti social person they know .
I only use youtube no social media platforms & for many years i never had a mobile either .
Life is really simple , shelter , food , water , air - is a requirement everything else is optional
You are not anti social. You are selectively social. Trust your intuition. You’re protecting your time and your authenticity.
Accepting your desire for solitude is a strength. Some people have to be busy,busy, have a”million” friend on FB. How many truly meet the definition of “friend”?
Sometimes they are escaping their own company. They’re seeking validation outside themselves.
If people don’t seek me out, it could be because they know that I am done with the masks of manipulators and users.
In learning this lesson, I have been burned more than once.
I am slower in letting them into my life. I’d rather be alone than endure one sided relationships.
Validation comes from God and yourself. That is enough.
Enjoy your journey, it is worthwhile.