How To Disconnect From Negative People With Kindness - Lisa Nichols
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- Опубликовано: 2 окт 2024
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The Lisa Nichols show is a place where you can come at any given time to get the step by step tools you need to live the life that you want. In this episode, Lisa talks about why it is important to disconnect from negative people using kindness.
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I have always struggled to tell people they're affecting me in a negative way without hurting them. Cuz I do love and appreciate these people. So usually I just end up in a toxic situation or I just cut them off completely.
This video has truly been life changing. It's really reassuring to hear from another person that there's a way to talk and keep someone's dignity intact! Thanks! Love you!
Same here I'm asking God for strength to help me do this. I had to unlearn the opinion that addressing a negative relationship would make me seem judgmental. Some relationships are seasonal and have reached their time to be complete. I'm praying for us. We got this in Jesus' name!
Thank you. My best friend, whom I’ve been friends with for 21 years has recently expressed some beliefs that I are just painful. I want to detach from her, but I want to do so compassionately because I love her. Thank you for this video.
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I watched you many years ago Lisa and everything you said resonated with me, but it was missing one key aspect for me, the acknowledgment of God, not the universe, but God. I realised the relationship that needed attention was not the one I had with myself, but the relationship I had with God. God recently led me to watch a video of yours and I heard you mention God, and that made my heart rejoice! This was the missing factor for me when I watched you so many years ago. It took some time before I realised God was what I was really searching for. However your teachings were such a blessing at that stage of my life. Thank you for helping me change my mindset, I look nothing like the person I used to be, and I know the best is yet to come. I can now relate all of these principles back to the bible, it has strengthened my faith and given me a sense of freedom that I could never have imagined before. I’m so happy to be listening to you again, I feel God is moving me into another season and I can’t wait to see the plan unfold 😊🙏
This conversation is great for leaving a job. Gratitude speaks volume
As usual this is right on time. There are a few in my life who I love dearly, however I realize they've become anchors instead of engines. Clinging to me to always be the one pulling them along, but have become comfortable dragging their legs, while Ive been doing all the pulling.
Wondering how to release them in love
Kasey Tucker ...👏👏👏👍
Wow! Kasey. That's deep. I hear Oprah and Steve Harvey talk about this very thing. Are they helping or do they have their feet up while you're doing all the pulling (the work). Tough conversations had to be had but Lisa definitely provided such a great tool to use. Good luck and wishing you the best.
Kasey Tucker ~ I totally relate! I have always been a “yes” girl. I am the first one to step up, embrace, advocate, support whether emotionally or financially to helping. With that being said, what I’ve come to realize is that sometimes I wasn’t really helping because the lesson to be learned was theirs.
I can relate to that. What I have learnt is that BOUNDARIES are crucial. Setting boundaries for them to respect our space, but most important setting boundaries for us , to refrain ourselves. The challenge is to recognize when we are, realistically, intruding in people's lives, crossing inadvertently THEIR own boundaries, even when we have the best intentions, and we think it is for their own good. Sometimes, unconsciously and voluntarily, we take their burdens away and end up carrying them on our shoulders. It is even worse if we want them to avoid experiencing certain emotions. They need to experience them anyway, that is life 101. It is part of their journey. Best luck!
I'm with Gratitude to Receive your Prosperity, Abundance and most importantly, your Inspiration! Thank you Lisa ❤...
OMG! I love this! This method is so classy. I like the idea of not leaving brain splatter on the ceiling.
Thank you Lisa. I am proud of you for two reasons. First, you could make it. Second, you want everyone to make it.
Yes!!!!!
Yes! Yes!!
Thanks Lisa, I enjoy listening to you! I have higher self esteem now putting myself first,not feeling guilty my children are grown it's my time to live, buy a house, start a business, travel.I just love your life story very powerful! Thanks 😊👍
This is the PERFECT template I need to leave my job today. I recently realized that not everyone has to be my cup of tea but it doesn't make them bad or my enemy. I'm glad I have this technique for today as I lovingly completed this relationship that was there for me when I most needed it, but no longer serves me at this juncture.
Once again thank you Lisa. I needed this video some months ago when I decided to end x2 relationships that were not serving me and was unhealthy for me.
I thought it was kinder to stop communication than destroy the individuals with my words.
Trust me I knew I had grown even then because a year ago or two, I would not have thought about leaving their dignity in tact. So the way I dealt with the situation was much kinder than what I would have done years ago.
However, I now know that I have a better tool to help me bring closure, if I ever need to do so again. Often that’s just it we don’t know what tools to use but we do know we need to exit the relationship ASAP. Again, thank you🙏🏾 🙏🏾🙏🏾
This video left me broken, in a good way, broke my old ways of leaving a toxic relationship with grudges and hurt. Now I know how to leave a relationship without any hate. 😊
This is wonderful. I am so glad I have continued content here. I have been rewatching talks of yours on youtube for at least a year now. My aha moment that I am taking into the new year with me is to leave every conversation ensuring the person you are talking to has there dignity intact. I think why that resonates with me is because I can apply it to every single conversation and not just hard ones. And that includes conversations with myself.
Have a happy and prosperous new year lovelies. I am over joyed to join the tribe.
I just love you sis! In doing this... I realise that leaving people's dignity intact keeps the friendship on even if its from a distance...
The first video today I got from RUclips was this video I needed it so badly...thank you for making me gain my consciousness about what I am doing and what I should be doing.....
Lisa....I went full blown ego over the weekend with my husband...knowing I was in it and not recalling a single tool to help me out of it lovingly or with dignity for us both...I received the email this morning with the link to this episode of your show and knew it was intended for me...I watched it twice already and took notes...while I don't know that I have made the decision to be complete with my marriage, what I do know is that I must have a dignified conversation with him. This Plus 3 Me gives me the tool and framework for having that conversation with him. I am grateful for the support that you and your team share with me from afar. I feel very isolated on this journey of starting my own business and the challenges and sabotage shows up in the most insidious ways...with much gratitude and love...Phil
I needed this a long time ago. I'm always at a loss for how to talk with people. Just breaking things off with the spouse after realizing what I've always seen was fated and not something that could be changed. Narcissists are very damaged people. Too bad since I've been with this one life times. But I realized he is teaching me certain things.
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I love you and believe in YOU! Thank you for your service to humanity.
Hi Lisa. My favorite plus one when I go through a “complete relationship” is to be grateful . My true words are:
1. I am grateful for the memories and laughter you have built with me.
2. I am proud of the person you are- I focused on the traits I admired him for.
3. I am honored to have the opportunity to love from my heart.
However:.
1. I feel we have grown to be different people now, and this is not working.
2. I want us to end before we make something that was so beautiful ugly.
3. We meet people for a reason and a season sometimes, and now I chose for this season to be over, while we still respect each other. Bcz we are not working anymore as a couple/friend, and it’s absolutely okay. Memories were made and lessons were learnt . :).
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Hi Lisa, Every day is a work in progress. Although this topic is a huge pill to swallow, surely it's a lesson learned. The norm for me was, folks seem to not quite understand that once I turn the page, I have already put a period on that chapter. Done is Done. Yet they still think all is well. Unbelievable!!! Thank you kindly for shining light on a more effective way to communicate and still love them from a very longgggg distance. You're AWESOME, LISA! Thank you! Many Blessings!
See why I love this woman. She teaches me something new everyday. Thank you so much for keeping me growing stronger and stronger. +3Me yayyy!
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This is what I love about Lisa. She is real. In the beginning of this video there was background noise and I LOVE her response. She wasn't interested in making it a perfect noise free recording, her focus was her MESSAGE. This small gesture is why I love listening to her, she is an authentic woman. 🥰
Plus 3 them (what I love, respect and appreciate/honour about you) and speak my truth in love (what I have recognized is that I am complete with this relationship as there are parts of the relationship that are not working for me. I realise I would like to love you from a distance and I would like that distance to begin now). I'm grateful to see that I have used this technique before. It's very important that I leave people with the dignity intact without feeling like I'm not speaking truth. I am grateful for this lesson Lisa.
BOL: Thank you so much Lisa now I know how to start the conversation off when I want to end my relationship. That way he will know the things I did appreciate about him.
Thank you Lisa Nichols for your love and support. You always give good advice and you want everyone to succeed. You are the best ❤️💖💝
I am so glad you shared that technique with us.I'll be certainly using it as it makes challenging talks easier to have adding positive notes. And having them without anyone feeling downgraded and not love. I am grateful for your videos, Thank you, Lisa.
Thank you SO much for this video!! I have a friendship that has definitely served its purpose and I feel complete with it. I have not wanted to take the cowardly way out of just not responding to her anymore but I haven't been able to figure out how to let her know. This is absolutely beautiful and is so much more in alignment with who I am. It's hard to complete a friendship, and I feel better knowing I can do it leaving her dignity in tact. Truly, thank you Lisa!!!
Thank you. I have been following you since the Power to Pivot with Dean G. I love you energy and convictions. I had a conversation with my daughter that i wanted to be validated ,but there are certain topics that we disagree on. I had a breakthough with a conversation that i had with my mother. I told my daughter she disagreed with the way i spoke to her. I found that at the end of the conversation with my daughter i needed to justify my actions about what i said to my mother to her( my daughter). I want a do over with my daughter.
I am 58 years old and am try to heal my past.
BOL !!! This message was delivered with dignity ; since I have never had to be cut off I didn’t know how to cut ppl off , it would always start with how this isn’t working for me or my spirit just doesn’t sit well with .... but building someone up so they don’t feel like trash make a better translation and transition so you don’t burn a bridge
I downloaded this and shared on Facebook. Thanks for your grace. You’re beautiful!
This is what I’ve been needing to hear . Never knew how to end relationships in a calm manner. Thank you !
Thanks Lisa. I love the way you deliver simple truths. Priceless. Have an amazing journey in this life and the next. Blessed.
Thank God lisa I did find you on u tube my life has improved from that day no turning back you really heal souls , tell you what LIsa you you can break the rock
I've found myself having a lot of Benihana conversations this week! Thank you for this video because I need to have complete my relationship with my best friend Monday and this will be a very helpful tool.
Hey Lisa another great video. I always had a problem with disconnecting negative ppl but I love this way it so important to leave ppl still feeling good about themselves after a relationship ends. Will be using this method from now on thank you again.
My sistah from another mista.. Yes, YES! Neutral to 3- 3 to neutral. COMPLETE AND AFFIRMED! thank you so very much! this really helps me in being an effective communicator as an employee, mother, family member.
Thank you,Lisa! I have tried to have right conversation with someone i find it difficult to be around. And its true it has become mutual but difficult ending. With this right tool you just mention about the '3me', i am looking forward to try this communication again. This relationship has been put off since early this year. Its time we need to grow in our own space before we can work as a team in this relationship.
Your videoshave always built me in so many ways.Am always out there mentoring youths quartely and have learnt alot from you .This quarter am going to mentor high school gils and trust me everytime i watch one video i find my self going for another.i believe one day i will be able to stand in big platforms to do this.Am pressing on......keep on
Wow, leave their dignity in tact. That is what I really needed to be told. Honestly it something new I'm really trying to learn and practice. Plus 3 me.
Until I started working on me I really never knew how many toxic people were around me🙏
I nee to Lisa and her skill to life transformation. Im loving it.
Love love this segment. Very insightful and on point with my current situation. Agreed walking away in a loving matter still shows that you respect self enough. It is hard step, but necessary to a healthy mind and grow into our purpose. 👏❤
the timing of this video for me is perfect. just saw it today. wasn't looking for it.. I am stepping into my life purpose and have noticed there are some toxic relationships, including my recent separation after 26 years of marriage.. what you said is so true about the ego, making , feeling like I have to be right and they have to be wrong.. I am going to try this strategy so I can move fwd with leaving them positive energy.. thank you so much
Thank you for the 3 steps. I have been needing this technique. This entire episode was a #bol especially leaving people with their #dignityintact. I think I just grew up a little more. I appreciate you and your team.
Miss Lisa Nichols ... I discovered you this week and you are such a blessing to me ... I listened to "The Secret To More Powerful Connections" I believed you held in Jamaica plus this video will tremendously help me in the new journey I want to take
This is something I really needed a week ago but I'm grateful to have ran across it now. I'll use this in the future, thanks my sista🙏💕
Hello everyone. I'm so happy to share my testimony on how I was able to get back my husband around June 2019 with the help of Doctor ojiezele. My husband left me and my kids for over Eight Months and went on with another lady and I was unable to move on with my life because of the love I have for him, On one faithful day I saw a testimony on the internet on how Dr ojiezele helped someone with a love spell and so many other testimonies I never believed it but just have to try my faith which I did and I contacted him and he told me what I need to do and after about 20 hours I received a call from my husband asking for forgiveness to come back to him, it was all like a dream to me, I am so happy now as we are back together again thanks to Dr ojiezele and i will advise anyone in need of help to contact+2348064539246 email: drojiezele@gmail.com
The +3 leaving someone’s dignity in take!
How can you do this with a family member that yells and cuts you off at every turn because their so toxic? Do you recommend it through technology? a letter? Thanks.
I watched a video of a mother who forgave her son's killer (who was also a teenaged boy) and hugged him in court, stating that she wants joy for him. This video reminds me of that. We don't forgive negative people for them, we do it for ourselves so that we can release ourselves from the invisible chains that bind us to them and let them go with love, so that they can become better people and so that we can be free
Wow, I did all the wrong thing in my past friends who I broke up with. This is a much better mindset to have.
I just got put on hold from a friendship without word of why. However what I did love about it was the honest open communication I felt we had with each other. I kept reaching out to make sure she understood I am still there and that my Faith in her is still there and whatever she is going through that I am there to listen. After a week i stepped back because I wanted to have a conversation of positive vibes to see what is needed of me with her decision to step back and surprisingly watching this video gave me validation that I was in the right mindset and thinking not to cut her off but to express the positive I liked about the friendship we have build but because of lack of communication I feel I should step back. At least this way I know what I am worth and she can't feel she can just come in and out with poor communication even though we as humans handle things sometimes in ways that don't work well for others. So thank you for your wisdom and videos and I'm more comfortable with myself alot more knowing that living a life of not burning bridges are not so bad after all.
Lisa! This is perfect! I have used the +3 but was shaking on the back to 0 which is really where the boundary is created! Thank you, brilliant!
This is the most beautiful message given by you mam ! I am sooooooo motivated by your speech .you are beautiful insideeee and outside ❤️
Oh, thank you so much on this Ms. Lisa. I really need this technique. I really love your videos all the time.😘
I love those steps
I love the fact that I can be complete in the relationship instead of so cold and cut throat about it. It helps me respect, and still add value to the person as well as myself. Thank you.
I LOVE THIS METHOD!
Thank you so much for this information. Thank you for what your doing it’s definitely going to make a impact on everyone who watches your video. Thank you❤️❤️
Good morning,
Thank you, so very much.
Hi Lisa.
I just needed to hear this. This technique is not for the future. Its for now. I. Gonna use it now
So so good! I could apply these tips when dealing with my children! Their dignity matters too!
B.O.L. Thank you for this. I had to break from people who did not add value to my life. This was helpful.
SO TIMELY...I NEED IT RIGHT NOW GOD KNOWS...I’ve become the targeted object of a manipulator’s agenda and am being made an enemy in my home
Wow Wow Wow! I Thank God for you and this living relevant Word. I truly needed this as I am in the mindset of detaching myself from a toxic relationship. I have been guilty of negative 1000 lol never mind 1-2-3- I send them back pureed Sister not even diced (pray for me) Lisa BUT this was so refreshing to hear how mature and graceful the other approach can be and I will use this tool I can't thank you enough. May He Continue to Pour In As You Pour Out
I am happy for this Lisa, I ended an intimate relationship a few months ago, it was truly hard but I had to do it for me, but I guess I didn't explain my self now I will fallow your advice and explain to him .thanks again. Love yiu
I respect this advice.
You are magic! Thank you!!
I love you, your advice has been changing my life.
I love this! I have definitely been guilty of allowing my ego take over conversations. I will use this going forward.
Yes! 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens was so good! I passed it on to my daughter and I have the adult version waiting for me on my bookshelf. It’s my next read. I’m excited 🤗
Leaving people with their dignity intact!!! 🔥💨💨-aha moment right there
Hi Lisa, thank you so much for your words of wisdom. I myself am having some difficulty in my personal relationship with a few people. After listening to your wonderful and encouraging mesage I have made a commitment to use the "plus 3 me" technique.
Lisa thank you for this. I never knew how to lovingly separate myself from relations that no longer serves me. I felt like I been starting at 0. My haha moment from this video was to start from +3. Thank you always for you words of inspiration.
I really need it. Thank you so much
I do a journal called my new vocabulary words: Investigate- possibilities. 2.Observe successful people. 3 Motivation-what gets my energy flow started 4.Influence-who influences me good or negative.
WOW! That makes so much since to me and it seems so simply! I have been afraid to say things and end toxic relationships because I simply didn't know how! I hung in there and got so hurt until I couldn't take it anymore. Then the only thing I said was, 'F U , I'm out!'. Thanks, Sis.
what conversation that i heard in the past that could have needed this technique is resignation from my previous job..the way i ended it was not fashionable...
Thank you so much Lisa. It's not so easy saying to someone, just like you said, but it's one whole of a more beautiful way to express ones self nicely.. Thanks dear. More Grace to you and your career in Jesus Name Amen. Some day, i really hope we get to meet! 😄😄💞
Thank you!
This is Divine Confirmation! Thank you!💝
Lisa - all I can say is WOW, WOW, and another WOW. I am a very kind and loving type of person, so these types of conversations are usually challenging for me to have as I never want to hurt anyone in the process. In the past, I usually just have told the person that I need some space and in time the relationship eventually dissolved. But your +3 approach is wonderful and allows the person to still be with dignity, even after you deem the relationship "complete". Love this. Adding this to my spiritual vault! You are wonderful and so appreciate you and all your inspiration throughout the years. Blessings!! :)
Needed this! I have been transforming how I want to go into my romantic relationships after divorce and I wanted to find ways to kindly bring up hard topics. ♥️ After being verbally abused, I tend to get reactive. I’m going to practice this to regain control over how I treat others. From a place of calm strength, not loud fear.
Thank you Lisa. A friend recommended you. I have been watching you everyday for two weeks.
Hello everyone. I'm so happy to share my testimony on how I was able to get back my husband around June 2019 with the help of Doctor ojiezele. My husband left me and my kids for over Eight Months and went on with another lady and I was unable to move on with my life because of the love I have for him, On one faithful day I saw a testimony on the internet on how Dr ojiezele helped someone with a love spell and so many other testimonies I never believed it but just have to try my faith which I did and I contacted him and he told me what I need to do and after about 20 hours I received a call from my husband asking for forgiveness to come back to him, it was all like a dream to me, I am so happy now as we are back together again thanks to Dr ojiezele and i will advise anyone in need of help to contact+2348064539246 email: drojiezele@gmail.com
Lisa, I love it. I have to do today with a co worker.
Firstly, thank you so much for the message- You’re so right about the need to make others wrong, I won’t say mine is ego driven though. I’ve realized that it’s because I don’t trust my intuition, or my own judgement, which is why I stay in bad relationships too long, it become a necessity for things.to go so badly that I must Benihana them to get out: any words of wisdom on how to trust myself more on when it’s time to leave?? AGAIN, many thanks!!
Just asked my sister the same question about 1hr ago... thank you for the video
Omg! I needed this soooooooo badly! I have a hard time letting go of relationships that need to come to an end. Or when I do end it, it's usually a result of a major blow up. Now I know how to maturely handle a let down. Thank you Lisa!
I LOVE YOU! I love your energy! I love your message! And I love your delivery! You are such an INSPIRATION! Much love Queen💖
Thank you so very much Ms. Lisa for that awesome advice. Have a bless day.
perfect timing, omg!!! I have been avoiding sticky conversations with people who mean alot to me. this +3 Me is a life saver. for me. and for those I love and will continue to love from a distance. thankyou for being you. and sharing you. xx
Needed this.
Plus 3 Me!! Lord, I needed this 3 days ago :)
Yes...… God sent this right on time.
THIS IS AMAZING!! Thank you!! Love the Plus 3 me!!! This is Great❤
Hello everyone. I'm so happy to share my testimony on how I was able to get back my husband around June 2019 with the help of Doctor ojiezele. My husband left me and my kids for over Eight Months and went on with another lady and I was unable to move on with my life because of the love I have for him, On one faithful day I saw a testimony on the internet on how Dr ojiezele helped someone with a love spell and so many other testimonies I never believed it but just have to try my faith which I did and I contacted him and he told me what I need to do and after about 20 hours I received a call from my husband asking for forgiveness to come back to him, it was all like a dream to me, I am so happy now as we are back together again thanks to Dr ojiezele and i will advise anyone in need of help to contact+2348064539246 email: drojiezele@gmail.com
Does this Apply to family members?
Extremely helpful
Iisa i am speechless because I am half of your story so many topics you have talked about conern me in real life from family, relationships, being bulled name it. I am
I really enjoyed this and thank you.
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Love you! I need more people like you in my life. Thanks so much for sharing this. I've just discovered you today and am anxious to watch more videos and read your books.
Brilliant video , i never broke up with someone before but there may come a time in the near future... my doctors told me today that they can't treat me for my chronic illness unless i make changes in my life and the relationship that is causing lots of stress .Big words to hear.still not sure how im gonna do it yet but this video is helpful. My partner is my addiction for sure. But is it worth risking my health? Love and light to all of you in the comments section.🙏