There’s Light at the End Of the Tunnel! The Pains Of Separation And Divorce.

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  • Опубликовано: 8 ноя 2024

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  • @bambihargrove6499
    @bambihargrove6499 4 года назад +3

    Thank God he kept you and your kids safe during the years or torment. I pray peace, love and joy for all of you. God Bless 👍😊

  • @dandydan2037
    @dandydan2037 4 года назад +71

    That took strength to tell that story. Not everyone will understand that but that's ok.

  • @jimboheadspace1788
    @jimboheadspace1788 4 года назад +9

    It is a sad fact that people fall into madness and engage in hatred but this is darkness all of us must confront. Both in our selves and others. Love and kindness will prevail but strategic moves to assertively protect yourself and other Innocents is crucial. May your way forward be increasingly filled with God's love and light.

  • @nomadicexperience9742
    @nomadicexperience9742 4 года назад +26

    Sounds like a horror movie. I dated a bi polar person and know exactly how shocking and damaging the false claims can be. I snapped out of "love" and moved on with my life before any kids were added to the equation. So glad I did.

    • @roscoeelcocko1863
      @roscoeelcocko1863 4 года назад

      Lucky, lucky, lucky!!!!!!!

    • @flowerchild777
      @flowerchild777 3 года назад

      GREAT to read this👍 (That you were able to escape without children to get harmed in the process) I'm guessing you never married the person who tried to cause you harm. I feel so sorry for those who actually get the certificate now, KNOWING IT'S A CONTRACT BETWEEN THREE! You, your spouse AND THE STATE! (Or is it the government?🤔 I was shocked when I learned) What a deception. Good luck

  • @MsCar2008
    @MsCar2008 4 года назад +8

    By the grace of God you are finally free enjoy your kids and do for yourself and them

  • @keepinupjonesy3681
    @keepinupjonesy3681 4 года назад +6

    Thank you!
    You may have saved my life.
    I too, made a life commitment to God for better or worse. This was confirmation!

  • @suzgregz2967
    @suzgregz2967 4 года назад +25

    My kids hated me at first too but someone kept telling me, "give them time. Kids are smart, they'll figure it out." They did eventually just like yours. You're right - there is light at the end of the tunnel... be patient, they'll get it sooner or later. I had to just stay steady, say a lot of, "I'm sorry's" until they figured it out. Thanks for sharing. I pray many will be encouraged by your sharing today.

  • @girlandherrv2225
    @girlandherrv2225 4 года назад +1

    Wow,,,you r a good father, better times coming to u now....your FAITH IS GREAT.

  • @annahorton650
    @annahorton650 4 года назад +12

    Thank you for telling your story as painful as it was. I worked for many years in protective services and can tell you children care often caught in the crossfire. It's so sad what everyone goes through... including grandparents.
    I like...no love...what you ended with. Don't talk negatively about your ex. Tell the truth. Love your kids. Show up. Be there for them even if they are angry..which is often just broken hearts. Eventually...life will be okay.

  • @BjMrozek2010
    @BjMrozek2010 4 года назад +5

    Your faith kept you going and will always keep you where you need to be. My story is similar but it was my husband who was the damaged one...always drunk & loved to beat me. We live to see another BETTER day. I lost my daughter ( 7 years now) but my son has never been closer. Even to this day, I have never spoken a bad word, to my son, against his father. God Bless Louis....you are a good man.

    • @roscoeelcocko1863
      @roscoeelcocko1863 4 года назад +1

      Youre one of the good ones and im sorry you had a shi tt y husband. It does work both ways.

  • @jo-lynnhodgson6363
    @jo-lynnhodgson6363 4 года назад +1

    I know of 3 women who did press false assault charges; one in which I was witness to the non assault, Police seem to believe by default that the women are always telling the truth. All three men were found guilty. I was offended by this as I am a woman and a social worker.. It does get better.

  • @bevtrue6937
    @bevtrue6937 4 года назад +1

    What a nightmare. I was divorced but we kinda shook hands and walked away. We shared custody of my son. He lived in a well off neighborhood so my son, lived with him in the school year and me during vacations and summers. Dad paid his way back and forth until 18. We never had an argument or any mean words ever. Very civil, no police ever. We only used an atty for divorce. That was it.
    Rarely talked except plane issues or school discussions. We were saints compared to all these stories. My son loves both of us equally, no bad feelings anywhere. What a shame that people have to go thru what you did. How horrible and sad. I feel so bad for you.

  • @pamelaandrade6930
    @pamelaandrade6930 4 года назад

    My heart goes out to you and your children. You are a strong man to tell your story and I’m sure some have gained comfort from your telling. I admire you greatly for staying for your children, I did the same for as long as I could. Thank heavens I had a good career, a Registered Nurse, so when I did walk I could support the three of us with out any help from him or the government. I stand proud to have been able to do this. God Bless you Louis and continue to protect you.

  • @helentrulli2586
    @helentrulli2586 4 года назад +1

    When going through tough times it's heartening to hear encouraging words from someone who has experienced similar depths of despair and hopelessness. Thank you for sharing your story.

  • @bonniericica6895
    @bonniericica6895 4 года назад +1

    You are a good man and I am so sorry that you had to deal with all that pain! Prayers for your children and am glad that mess is all behind you!

  • @LastUsername
    @LastUsername 3 года назад

    I sincerely appreciate your struggle. TY for sharing. I am one of those few females suffering from from divorce & discernment. Your journey helps me manage my solo journey. TY for your transparency.

  • @BrokerBarbara119
    @BrokerBarbara119 4 года назад +6

    A song comes to mind, "There's A Thin Line Between Love & Hate." I'm glad you & your kids have forgiven their mom and have moved on. I'm glad you will continue to be there for your kids. They'll still need you for a little while. You have the rest of your life to live the best life you can. As a man of faith, I know you will! God Bless you, her and your kids. Mental illness is a tough yoke. You are free! She sadly will need to continue working on her mental health issues for the rest of her life.

  • @keithgraham3295
    @keithgraham3295 4 года назад +1

    You are a very strong person and an inspiration. Thank you for rerecording and posting this.

  • @scottscott8230
    @scottscott8230 4 года назад +1

    My ex did the exact same s*** got the restraining order had me arrested for break and I when I left her a message to send address with my daughter for the weekend because she had a birthday party to go to went to jail for breaking a restraining order I never touched her and she never did accuse me of touching her are crazy ass legal system is always for the woman, so when we go to court for custody she quit her $50,000 a year job she wanted to study of course even though and Court we proved my daughter was with me 78% of the time my daughter still is with me 3/4 of the time and I pay the damn child support just to keep peace the whole system is a crock of s*** if you're a guy

  • @timallbritton3716
    @timallbritton3716 4 года назад +10

    Heartfelt video, I could feel the anguish in your words. I can relate to most of what you said because I lived it for years. Even today I don't speak to two of my children because I had enough of the situation. My therapy is the same as yours... I straddle my Hog and ride off into the wind...

    • @valeriehancotte-galan4790
      @valeriehancotte-galan4790 4 года назад +1

      Unfortunately, it seems that the one with the most money wins...in divorce, life, and court :(

  • @escapeartist8581
    @escapeartist8581 4 года назад +1

    I have God to thank that I was never in that situation, but have seen and heard from others such as yourself about the trials and heartache. You shine a light for others with this video. I am sorry you and your kids have had to go through such difficult times, but you have proven to yourselves and others that you can endure and be stronger in the end. You are an inspiration for others in that unfortunate situation. God Bless, Luis!

  • @kathockman765
    @kathockman765 4 года назад +2

    married and divorced twice. Done...I rescue dogs now...Life is awesome!

  • @boondocksteveo1586
    @boondocksteveo1586 4 года назад +7

    Powerful story Lou, there is light at the end of the tunnel, stay strong and head back to lake mojave you seemed really happy there.

  • @ginnyzoo
    @ginnyzoo 4 года назад +3

    Thank you for sharing your heart, I appreciate the encouragement to look for the light

  • @joannsjourneys5904
    @joannsjourneys5904 4 года назад +1

    I have been watching your videos for quite some time, and enjoy them so much. I sensed with your video just before this one, that something was really off. There was such a sadness, that seemed to be way more than sadness from your children moving out on their own. Now it all makes sense, and my heart goes out to you. Mental Illness is such a huge demon to battle, but it sounds like you fought it way longer and harder than alot of folks would have. Find peace in knowing that you gave it your all, and that you raised your children to be strong intelligent humans , who have very good sense to know that their father is a really good man! I pray that your future will shine brighter now that the shadows will slowly start to fade away. Be happy and free.

  • @virginiawestcot2448
    @virginiawestcot2448 4 года назад +26

    Your story surprised me my mother did the same to my brothers and myself all her life even on her deathbed put my father down.
    No one in my family knew she beat me every day when I got home from school why because I looked like my Dad. I tried all my life to be friends with her to love her but she hated me so much we were never close. I feel your pain I am glad you chose to have a life. My parents and my older brother have passed. I grew up never hearing I love you never being held or cuddled. I. Pray every day for someone to love me. I enjoy your videos have followed you nany years you look great on your new bike go and enjoy your life.

    • @celticwarrior777
      @celticwarrior777 4 года назад +3

      so sadyou got beat by your mom

    • @lleemcdermitt1892
      @lleemcdermitt1892 4 года назад +3

      I grew up with a mother who was violent...... but u know what. She's old and very alone . None of us children want nothing to do with her. My 20 yr. Old has never met her grandma and its the best choice. God watches his Lambs

    • @virginiawestcot2448
      @virginiawestcot2448 4 года назад

      Just a follow-up don't understand life I'm sitting tonight in the hospital facing spine surgery (cancerous tumors I never knew I had) blood clots in my lungs surgeon said I may die during surgery but without Amputation of my legs WHAT... None of this is sinking in well it all came on suddenly my leg buckled I went down numb from waist to toes, I'm on a journey life or death what do you chose for me God...is this how my story ends. No love no ugs no legs guess I will find out surgery Thursday. Thank you all that commented my story meant a lot to me knowing someone cared.

    • @DreamingDarlin
      @DreamingDarlin 3 года назад +1

      @@virginiawestcot2448 oh, Virginia I hope you're doing better. God is so good and when we're at our lowest He pulls us through, He's always there for us if we trust in His Son Jesus Christ. I want you to know that as a Christian I love you but better than that God loves you. I don't do hugs much but wish I could reach out and hold onto you so tight! I hope you update again. I will always keep you in my prayers, Virginia.

    • @flowerchild777
      @flowerchild777 3 года назад

      @@virginiawestcot2448 Wow, does this sound so familiar. (Abusive mom, not amputation) I guess it happens more than we realize. Too bad we're not more vocal about it; maybe then we could support one another with the love we don't/didn't get from said parent. Hope and pray you're doing better

  • @CITAP1
    @CITAP1 4 года назад +6

    Glad you made it out alive Luis! Like many, I too have a similar story, thankfully no kids or cops involved. About 10 years in, 7 married, she started getting the manic depressive condition. For diversion, whenever she felt a bout coming on, her shrink gave her a little necklace she could use to blow bubbles with as a distraction. She decided to divorce, decided she didn't want kids, never did either. I could tell in the beginning something wasn't right but she was always nice to me but she did alienate all my friends and family. I have a great girl now. Sadly, never got to have a family as age caught up to us and it just wasn't going to happen. Count your blessings you do have. My opinion, probably a good thing you aren't seeing somebody else anymore either.
    People need to realize you have to see people for who they are and not who you wish them to be. I can't stress that enough. Frankly, I feel sorry for kids looking to find a special someone these days with everybody being so self centered, selfish, unforgiving, unswaying, and thinking only of themselves. Seriously you young people, look long and hard before you think to commit to somebody. If the social graces aren't there, they never will be! If the work ethic isn't there, it never will be. Don't settle for just someone. Settle for someone who impresses you and has a determination inside.

  • @anitasimmons3599
    @anitasimmons3599 4 года назад

    Wow, Thank you for sharing. Working in heavy construction management, I have seen, mostly men, taken from the work place, in handcuffs. So sorry you and your children had to go through that. Mental illness is a really sad situation. I'm glad you are there for your children. I hope your future is brighter and more uplifting. You deserve it.

  • @tburda823
    @tburda823 4 года назад

    Thank you for sharing your story with us. Many men need to know that if you remain calm and persevere things will eventually be ok. You and your children have been through so much yet your channel is often so positive. Thank you for reminding us that life still goes on.

  • @cristinaferreira2230
    @cristinaferreira2230 4 года назад +3

    You are a brave and strong man to deal with what you dealt with for many years, I am glad your kids are free to do as they wish they will be better people because of you, I wish you many blessings and happiness you deserve to be happy and take care of yourself God bless.

  • @gdarts7421
    @gdarts7421 4 года назад

    You are encouraging so many. This video will touched a variety of lives in people who have gone through what you have experienced. I have to believe that the spirit of Jezebel is still active, breaking up marriages that God would like to be strong and happy. Thank you for your transparency and just know you have helped and will be helping those that need to hear your words.

  • @hotheadedjoelhaha
    @hotheadedjoelhaha 4 года назад

    Many men don't live to tell this tale. Having your children and your finances Taken is more than many can stand. 16 years of this almost killed me. Thanks for this video.

  • @rogerkilpatrick8617
    @rogerkilpatrick8617 4 года назад +2

    Many of us have already traveled the road you are on, having done that personally I can tell you from experience to look forward to what the future holds for you and keep trust in the Lord. Things that have happened can not be changed so do not dwell on the past move forward enjoy your life the choices are yours now........good luck to you!

  • @jocichon2922
    @jocichon2922 4 года назад

    God Bless you and I will keep you and your kids in prayer I know what your saying from a bitter divorce

  • @titalinda8515
    @titalinda8515 4 года назад +7

    Oh my goodness Luis, what a difficult life you and your beloved children have had. How painful, and the one thing you cannot recupérate is time and the pain in your heart you must have due to the difficult time your children have had to live. However, you are such a loving father to them, and they know their mother acts in this crazy manner due to her mental health issues, they will make it, and they love each other so much, it is an example to other kids their same age. I hope God continues to give you the strength you need to live your life and be happy, you deserve it, you are a good decent man. 🌈🚐🌞🙏🏼🌷

  • @carolmadge4012
    @carolmadge4012 4 года назад

    wow I am so sorry all these things happen to you! most of us go through bad and Horrific things in life, this should not be. But by the
    GRACE OF GOD we get through. Blessed be the NAME of the LORD!

  • @michellepotts5104
    @michellepotts5104 4 года назад

    Luis, you are a great man and a great friend to Rob and I. We love you brother!!!!

  • @kathryntaylor4608
    @kathryntaylor4608 4 года назад +3

    Always be available for your kids, text, phone and in person. Thay will come around. Keep the faith.

  • @bodabing3
    @bodabing3 2 месяца назад

    It's a thousand times worse when dealing or divorcing a narcissist. And it sounds like that was what you were dealing with. 😢 I'm glad you made it through the tunnel, brother, and back into the light.😊

  • @JackSchytt
    @JackSchytt 4 года назад +3

    I was raised Catholic.
    The church taught me that marriage is a sacrament of the church.
    When the government gets involved in church sacraments this is what happens.

  • @nancyyow2830
    @nancyyow2830 4 года назад +3

    Wholly cow... hats off to you... for trying.
    God be with you as you move on in life.

  • @kellyatthedoublekranch5134
    @kellyatthedoublekranch5134 4 года назад

    Hi Luis. Thanks for being vulnerable and courageous in sharing your story. I’m no stranger to the destruction our adversary can cause and there were days I thought I’d never make it through. Too much pain and too much sorrow. But Jesus took me on a journey, and he healed the traumas and devastation from my past. He made the sun shine in my heart again and made me know how much I am loved by Him. I will be praying for healing for you and your son and daughter...sincerely.

  • @glamperjan
    @glamperjan 2 месяца назад

    We know you are a good honest person And Never say anything derogatory About anybody. I just happened upon this older video And understand what you were going through. I have been there myself. We get over it. Happy trails and live your life. The kids will survive.

  • @jajs283
    @jajs283 4 года назад +3

    I went through it in 94. I know exactly what you have been through. It’s a hard thing for a Christian to go through. I started going to church because of my first wife. She has an amazing Christian mother. I got saved and started to live for god and she took off with our neighbor friend. Had to go to court ordered child psychiatrist, therapy. She said that I Threaten to kill my children. Police showed up on a Friday night at 11 PM and drug me out of my home and spent overnight in a psychiatric ward. I eventually was given majority physical custody. A lot of heart aches and pain through it all. Didn’t see my daughters for 5 years. The light at the end of the tunnel was my current wife. It has been an amazing 25 years together. We have just put a deposit on a new escape trailer and will be hitting the road as nomads soon. Hope to see you on the road.

  • @alr1020
    @alr1020 4 года назад

    Amen brother, Thanks for sharing, I been there 34 years trying to help my ex wife with bipolar. Long story, but got devorced. 5 years later I'm happy Remarried and doing fine. I'm so glad you never lost your faith in Christ, He is the one who got me through it all.

  • @lezamcB116
    @lezamcB116 2 года назад

    Luis, I am happy that you have Jesus in your life as I know thru prayer this is how you were able to go thru the horrible situation that you were in. You and you kids are in my prayers.........🙏🏻 you baby granddaughter as well......looking forward to see more pictures of her.
    Stay safe, take care........God Bless you and your travels.....🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
    Love you Bible verse at the end of your videos. 🙏🏻
    If it gets to cold were you are, weather in south La. is great........43 today.........😉

  • @sloburnnn
    @sloburnnn 4 года назад +1

    Thank you for sharing, Luis. Sorry that you have had a tough life. I’m glad you made it safely to the other side.

  • @kathydaniels5275
    @kathydaniels5275 4 месяца назад

    Praying for you always! ❤

  • @o.c.bobbie5538
    @o.c.bobbie5538 4 года назад

    Thanks for sharing. God has a plan for you and a blessing bigger than you can imagine. 🙏🏼

  • @rt3156
    @rt3156 4 года назад +13

    I grew up being a by product of divorced parents. Sadly all 5 of us children were taught to have nothing to do with our dad because he wanted nothing to do with us or atleast that's what our mother wanted us to believe. I was 23 years old when I found out that our dad had tried several times to come and see us, but she would have him arrested for not paying child support. Sadly I never got to see my dad because he was killed on the job and the truth was shared with me via other family members on his side of the family which we were never allowed to see. My mother had many issues in her life and I could tell you things that no one could imagine. But nonetheless I never stopped loving her and had always hoped she would give her life to Jesus. But she never did so sadly I doubt I will see her in Heaven. I only share this small portion of my story so as to let you know I believe and fully understand where you and your beautiful children have come from. No parent should manipulate the relationship between their children and the other parent unless of course their life was in danger. I will keep all of you in my prayers. Their are some people no matter how much we love them, that we need to walk away from. As the Bible says what does light have to do with darkness. Not all will be saved. And for sure the Joy of the Lord is my strength. I think you are a wonderful human being and I wish the absolute very best for you and yours. Thank you for sharing your story. God Bless you keep you always and forever. Jesus is Lord!

    • @celticwarrior777
      @celticwarrior777 4 года назад

      thats so sad your dad died before you could meet him

    • @PepeDeezNutz
      @PepeDeezNutz 4 года назад

      Dang

    • @robwright5940
      @robwright5940 4 года назад +1

      She had 5 children with him. Sort of irresponsible for that much hatred. Sometimes one side feel so wronged. I try never take sides between my parents because there is a lot I'll never know

  • @robertottwell605
    @robertottwell605 4 года назад +8

    Manipulation and gaslighting. My mother was a expert at it. Glad you survived.

  • @ambitiousantique7138
    @ambitiousantique7138 4 года назад

    I am a very sensitive 67 year young woman and I'll say it again...the night your son ran into your arms when you returned from your much needed amazing therapeutic journey I cried a little stream .. but this time after hearing your healing testimony I cried a lot harder for you and the kids. They have you back forever. Healing will take some time , and you Luis are an answer to a lot of folks that are still hurting. I don't know your plans dear but I'm looking forward to maybe seeing you having a joyous Christmas with them. ⏳LIVE LAUGH LOVE❤ 💪👫🤗🙆☕🌲🍁🍂⛄😍

  • @weekendlovinggypsy1737
    @weekendlovinggypsy1737 4 года назад +24

    I was on the other end where my ex-husband has actually beat the crap out of me I have broken teeth because of it I had my neighbors call the police cuz they saw him through the window throwing me in the air across the room and I was told if I didn't tell those police nothing happened that he would beat the crap out of me and when the last cop car turned the corner he beat the crap out of me I didn't let it go that far 3 years was enough of beatings and being treated that bad and thank God there was no children born in that marriage at all. And during the divorce I said no I don't want anything I never got the car that he is supposed to supply me with I never got any kind of support while the divorce was going on nothing and you know what I don't care because I'm the better person there.

    • @BjMrozek2010
      @BjMrozek2010 4 года назад +1

      I suffered through it for 10 years...looking back, I'm lucky God gave me the strength to survive

    • @pam164
      @pam164 4 года назад +2

      He sounds like a narcissist they are normally very violent my ex husband is one and he beat me for 11 years until i divorced him, but he turned our children against me and smeared me to everyone its been 28 years and he still makes trouble for me.

    • @weekendlovinggypsy1737
      @weekendlovinggypsy1737 4 года назад

      @@pam164 I'm so sorry you had went through that especially for that long. Hi wasn't together with him for three, I left him after 2. I rather be alone than with somebody like that. I think a lot of guys had a problem with strong women so they beat them to try to keep them under control. Although domestic violence has been around for many many many years but it was never talked about as much as it is now because of social media, just like all crimes

    • @weekendlovinggypsy1737
      @weekendlovinggypsy1737 4 года назад

      @@BjMrozek2010 I'm sorry, hope all is well now.

    • @pam164
      @pam164 4 года назад +1

      @@weekendlovinggypsy1737 I think i stayed with him as my parents died when i was 18 and i married him at 19 i felt so insecure and scared and clung to him of course this made him abuse me more as he knew i had no one to help me. But thank god i got away eventually from him! I am strong and he would hit me to shut me up and to control me living in fear of his moods. But he has caused havoc in my life for years i hate him! I'm glad you got rid of yours we are all survivors.

  • @mahdiomran6345
    @mahdiomran6345 4 года назад

    God bless you and your kids Louis ✋✌💚 My best regards from Saudi Arabia

  • @norasteel5648
    @norasteel5648 4 года назад +2

    Wow, Louis. Thank you so much for sharing that personal part of your life. Sad. But the up side is that your kids can now see who their Dad really is. They now understand, louis. God Bless you and your family! stay strong!

  • @ritaosborne9449
    @ritaosborne9449 Год назад

    You are right about dealing with your children , they will see the truth as they become adults. I never said anything negative about there dad . Even though he told them lies about me. The truth will come to the light and be known. Blessings and Best wishes😊

  • @colleenphillips6103
    @colleenphillips6103 4 года назад +6

    That's heartbreaking. You're correct though the truth will always come out.

  • @pauline3735
    @pauline3735 4 года назад +2

    Luis, I can not relate to this too much because I’ve been married a long time to a good Christian man. I do know others in my life who have traveled down the same road as you though. I’ve witnessed the pain and misery. You have described yourself & the whole situation well. So relatable. I am so glad you chose to do your video again because I think it will be very impactful and encouraging to those who need to hear what you have to share. God bless you, Luis. Yes, there IS light at the end of the tunnel.

  • @rosyortega3512
    @rosyortega3512 4 года назад +2

    l wish you find a woman that make you very happy, and that you received from her a lot of love, and you share in harmony a wonderful life

    • @thevanman4498
      @thevanman4498 4 года назад

      Luis should hopefully forget women. You are nothing but trouble and drama!

    • @valeriehancotte-galan4790
      @valeriehancotte-galan4790 4 года назад

      Love and respect is a two-way street!

    • @thevanman4498
      @thevanman4498 4 года назад

      @@valeriehancotte-galan4790 you bet that is how it should be. Luis got treated poorly by someone he cared about. He seems far happier without a woman, don’t you agree Valerie?

    • @DianaHouston-y5b
      @DianaHouston-y5b 8 месяцев назад

      @@thevanman4498 Are you saying Luis is trouble and drama? Surely not. The only drama I ever see is what he puts online to make us laugh. It's a gift.

    • @thevanman4498
      @thevanman4498 8 месяцев назад

      @@DianaHouston-y5b he seems a lot happier doing his own thing without the drama he was getting. Great guy and free to do whatever he wants. Seeing him on his bike is the epitome of freedom!

  • @michaelmeeng5227
    @michaelmeeng5227 4 года назад

    Your story is a painfull lesson for everyone involved in a divorce situation , sadly we as parents can't protect our cildren for all darkness Louis. I have a similar story and its a hard experience. Your struggles payed off now the kids are adults and you can visit and hug them every time you want . Each morning I thank our Lord we have a new change to makeup for our losses and mistakes. See the future and learn from the past , were only human, and you are on the right track. Thanks sharing these warm feelings !

  • @johnny5048
    @johnny5048 4 года назад

    Hi Louis
    Thank you for sharing it with us, it was very brave. And I think you're helping a lot of people by sharing it with us.
    You are definitely not alone in experiencing this.
    You talk kindly about your ex and it just tells everybody what a sweet person you are and how much empathy you have. I have no doubt that you have experienced many unreasonableness by virtue of this disease.
    No one wants to suffer from a bipolar disorder, but it does make it difficult to live in a relationship.
    Unfortunately, that disease tends to destroy a lot around it.
    Like many others in the world, you have done your best, but had to admit that you can not always safe the one you love.
    Sincerely, your friend Johnny from Denmark.

  • @debbiea6782
    @debbiea6782 4 года назад

    I’m so very sorry. I hope you and your kids continue to be there for each other. Wishing you all the very best and much much happiness.

  • @kenp8704
    @kenp8704 4 года назад

    God bless you and your kids brother you walked through hell and came out. Stay strong and it was good of you to forgive her. Your time here with us has made and impact please keep it up. K. Petry!

  • @randypierce9485
    @randypierce9485 4 года назад +6

    You did the right thing Luis. I went through the same except I only had one child.

  • @chefMags
    @chefMags 4 года назад

    Its a lesson. We are here to learn. Let's move on. Been thru divorce and I've moved on and a better life found me. Sure I get memories that come back but I feel them, forgive myself and the others and I keep moving. Hurts take time and work to be healed. Its good to talk about it.

  • @glamperjan
    @glamperjan 4 года назад

    You handled that very well Luis. Know that your kids love you for being very honest with them.

  • @cynthiawilliams4723
    @cynthiawilliams4723 4 года назад +1

    Glad you’re over the hard times now and moving on and the children too

  • @bexxoo1
    @bexxoo1 4 года назад

    Thank you Louis, God Bless You.

  • @rasch760
    @rasch760 4 года назад

    Hi Luis. Your story mirrors my own story so much, in so many ways. My son was also born in 2002. Today is his 18th birthday. I haven't had any contact for so long, but, today i actually got to talk to him. I had to hold it together for him. Ive been paying child support since 2005. Its hard yes. But you do it. Take care Luis. Look after yourself, your a good man and father.

  • @ricks.1318
    @ricks.1318 4 года назад

    I'm speechless .... So much "unnecessary" PAIN in your life, and in both your kids lives .... Very SAD !!! Took a lot for you to "open up" publicly... I am glad that your kids have matured to point of being able to KNOW THE TRUTH .... You are a GOOD parent Luis !!!!

  • @bdubz5150
    @bdubz5150 3 года назад

    May God Bless you brother!

  • @douglansburg4545
    @douglansburg4545 4 года назад

    God bless ,been there I to have two great kids,for better or worse means nothing anymore thanks for sharing

  • @maryjones7547
    @maryjones7547 4 года назад +20

    This sounds like my x husband..he's made our kids hate me and I've done nothing wrong..when people have a sickness all you can do is love them enough to leave and pray for them...but never go back like I did it just got worse ..I learned my lesson to say

    • @celticwarrior777
      @celticwarrior777 4 года назад +4

      ya never go back it wont change

    • @pam164
      @pam164 4 года назад +3

      My ex husband turned my kids against me as i divorced him as he was very violent and had horrible life with him but he made my life hell for next 25 years! Its only now my son is 39 he is closer to me and realises his father has told a lot of lies about me but he still loves his dad even though he takes money off him and my son is disabled so is on benefits! I could scream but i can't win.

    • @valeriehancotte-galan4790
      @valeriehancotte-galan4790 4 года назад +1

      Yes, very little help out there for women. Male-dominate churches are useless!

  • @StepvanDan
    @StepvanDan 4 года назад +1

    thank you for sharing,,big hugs from MN

  • @frankh.5378
    @frankh.5378 4 года назад

    Luis, may God bless you... I have been married for 17 yrs to a 'devout' Christian, and it is a hell going through each day with her cursing at home and then pretending to be good Christian at the church. I stay bc of my 12 yr old son. I also bought her a new car twice. But she cursed at me for buying them but drives it around. My wife also changed after having my son. Her family used to say that they were envious of how much we loved each other. I still do love her. But, bc she knows that I cannot divorce her due to my beliefs, she uses it to test me everyday. God has a will and I need to persevere. And like you said I am waiting for a light at the end of the tunnel. Only God can change the hearts of men.

  • @michaelkloeckner6353
    @michaelkloeckner6353 4 года назад +3

    I've been Divorced since 0ct 2000, My kids are 39 and 37.. we all are doing great. I don't want to see my X either but I do see her at Family Birthday parties and Christmas.. It's the hardest moments of my year. God have taught me forgiveness and boundaries. But I will never trust her again. PTL I am free

  • @sandylee1717
    @sandylee1717 4 года назад

    As a child of divorce I know this story all too well. Your children will be strong for what they have experienced and they are very lucky to have You!
    God bless

  • @peterpiper9376
    @peterpiper9376 9 месяцев назад

    That’s a tough story, loving unconditionally in an unrequited situation is rough, I know that life. Good to see you took control of your life and found your own path/happiness.

  • @barnyjessie
    @barnyjessie 4 года назад +1

    Genuinely feel for you, good luck for the future ( from the UK), much love 👍❤️

  • @sherrygiordano6478
    @sherrygiordano6478 4 года назад

    Omg ! Louis ! I feel like this video was meant for me to hear ! I have no children with my husband but he’s basically did the same thing to me , self inflicted wound on his face after a argument and accused me of doing it ! I’m sixty years old ! I went to jail for the 1st time in my whole life ! Not only did he get a restraining order but I have a no contact order !! And today he has a deposition with my attorney! My court dates are next week! I never would have thought someone could be soo ugly to there spouse ! But he’s also mentally sick too and stop taking medication! But I truly feel this video was meant for me to hear ! That there is light at the end of the tunnel! And by God’s grace , I’ll will come through this ! Thank you !

  • @tri2befit
    @tri2befit 4 года назад

    It seems like there are so many people that suffer with Bipolar or other mental illnesses. I am sorry you had to deal with this for so many years. I pray your children and yourself have healing. All things are good.

  • @mr.c6383
    @mr.c6383 4 года назад +9

    good advice to anyone in the situation

  • @davidhumber47
    @davidhumber47 4 года назад

    I'm sorry you went through that . I enjoy your vids with your children. I'm praying for you, and everyone who's lives have been affected by divorce. I've been through it. It's tough.
    Thanks for your great videos. God bless !

  • @elflordsjourneys
    @elflordsjourneys 4 года назад

    Thanks for sharing this Luis. I know its taken you years to get to this point.My folks split up when I was a kid too, it was tough, we hated our stepmom but got through it.

  • @pauloduarte3095
    @pauloduarte3095 4 года назад

    Hey brother, you are a big inspiration for me
    Because of your videos i managed to get some of my head in order.
    Thanks for all the help and God bless brother

  • @nm-ge4tb
    @nm-ge4tb 4 года назад +2

    👍👍Wise words from someone who has been through it👍👍👌✌🙏

  • @irresistible72
    @irresistible72 4 года назад +1

    I loved your story and I was in a very- VERY similar situation as you and eventually I moved on, remarried and have been married to my best friend, soulmate for 15 years. There is a song called “Forgiveness” by Matthew West that I can’t tell you how many times I bawled my eyes out trying to “forgive” that man for bashing me around my kids. Today my kids are all adults and like you said, eventually it does get better. It just takes time. Kids will come around and in the end- they will know it wasn’t your fault. (Hugs) Vicki.

  • @Nannygoat
    @Nannygoat 4 года назад

    Thanks for sharing your past. You kids are survivors, and are moving forward. Good things happen to good people. All 3 of you guys will God will bless you beyond comprehension. You know His grace.
    I hope you find that perfect person one day you can spend the rest of your life with.
    Praying for your kids mom that she gets good meds to help her where she can renew her relationship with loved ones. It happens but she has to take meds and get good therapy. I hope she watches your video, and reads the comments.
    Rock on brother.

  • @messenger4969
    @messenger4969 9 месяцев назад

    Lots of disturbed people in "the church". I married a church counselor and ended up in a nightmare. I feel for you and am glad you are so far past all of that now.

  • @norcalvandweller8401
    @norcalvandweller8401 4 года назад +1

    Great episode brother, I am glad you took the time to do it the 2nd time
    I have been screwed over twice with cheaters in a similar fashion and your advice is good advice
    Hope life is good now
    I am 10 yrs single and enjoying it and not looking

  • @Goliath-jd4xq
    @Goliath-jd4xq 4 года назад

    It’s good for our peace of mind as our Apostle tells us...
    Ephesians 4:32 KJV
    [32] And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you.

  • @SoCalKevin
    @SoCalKevin 4 года назад +1

    Thank you for making this video and sharing your experience. 👍

  • @LOCDLIFE
    @LOCDLIFE 4 года назад

    I went through the same thing after 16 year's of marriage. I asked 4 him to clean up his act and to give up drugs. And I went through the courts. Was lied on. But God is faithful. God got me through it all. It was his way of trying to make me lose 2 jobs that I have to be cleared for the DOJ Department. But no weapon formed against me prospered! When I forgave him & his family God began to open up doors for me! God knows your heart! Stay prayed up!🙏🙏🙏🙏Stay positive & blessed and strong in your faith!

  • @bigtex5796
    @bigtex5796 4 года назад +1

    hello sir
    thanks for sharing
    wish you a bright future.

  • @shelleyelizabeth8946
    @shelleyelizabeth8946 4 года назад

    I’m so very sorry!! Separations and the things that go with it are absolutely horrible. I just recently went through it and I truly wouldn’t wish it on my enemy. I can honestly say that with Our Heavenly Father’s strength and with time, all these things will heal.
    Through everything between my ex and myself, my kids have grownup and have come to understand things. It definitely didn’t happen overnight, but it came! ❤️
    I pray for you and your family my friend, for the peace and serenity that you guys greatly need through the trying times.🙏

  • @jazzman5598
    @jazzman5598 4 года назад +2

    Fine vid Luis. There is indeed light at the end of the tunnel. GBU Dude

  • @2slowrcer386
    @2slowrcer386 4 года назад +2

    Words from a very wise man 🙏

  • @hyhy45555
    @hyhy45555 4 года назад

    Thank you for sharing your story, that is so true......... things will always get better.... glory be to God....... let's keep run in the good race. I missed your scripture at the end

  • @bobcruikshank2010
    @bobcruikshank2010 4 года назад

    I went through divorce six years ago, Louis. That is when I found God and Jesus. They have always had my back! Now because of your videos and others, I was inspired to take early retirement three weeks ago. Sold my house last week! . And I am heading out to Nevada in a suburban to finally live my life. Thank you!

  • @oei301
    @oei301 4 года назад

    I dig your videos. I have a van now and just traveled through Colorado. Sleeping in my van is one of the most relaxing sleeps.