I'm an ESFP and my ENFP best friend preferred watching your video over a movie, we enjoyed it thoroughly and discussed all the aspects that you mentioned, and how we need overcome our fear of failure, my ENFP friend actually reads A LOT but i don't that's why i have more fear than her, cause there's so many things i don't know i just need to read more thank you so much.
Out of curiosity so I’m an ENFP and my best friend for 10 years is an ESFP well I understand my friend is very in the moment but what kinda bugs me is we will make a plan to hang out right and i’ll be excited looking forward to it, but then the day comes and they’ll text me being like I don’t know if i’m coming. I just don’t like making plans with them because of how they’ll feel in the moment I don’t want to look forward to something that might not happen. Any advice on how to make plans without expecting anything? Like how do i over come this feeling of disappointment in our plans never happening.
MitzyEditz If the reason was reasonable like feeling depressed or tired try to understand her more, some days you just don’t feel like going out without reason, but shouldn’t be frequent, to me i have been in your situation many times where friends bailed on me and didn’t keep their plans of hanging out, that’s why i made a rule for myself that I would never plan something I wouldn’t follow specially related to other people, cause I experienced how bad it felt. I say if you’re friend not aware yet of the weight and responsibility of her words, don’t take them to heart, try spontaneously going out or tell her to inform you sooner because it would be more reasonable and you wouldn’t feel as bad as knowing the same day, and try to make her see the situation in your shoes, i hope this help 💗
@@mitzyeditz8999 as an ESFP, I struggle with consistency with following through on my plans with friends sometimes. When my friends told me how important it was to them to be able to depend on me, I became much more consistent and diligent about showing up unless there was a kid issue.
Great presentation, thank you. I'm a 50 year old male ENFP married to a 45 year old female ESFP. We've been married 23 years and it's been nothing short of an absurd adventure. I can attest to the correctness of the information in this presentation. Marriage has been a challenge but, there's been no deal breakers along the way, we managed to stay together. Needless to say now that we are older and melted together over the years the struggles have really developed both of us for the better. 💆 Failure is the key to success for both ESFP and ENFP. Look at it as studying life in regards to all the failures. It's all to become a polished diamond of a human. Funny thing is both our types try in the now not understanding that we are developing that we are ultimately creating a brand, sorta speak.❤
As an ENFP calling ENFP's depraved losers is actually super motivating to strive towards the opposite and I find your videos endlessly addictive in building structure around my approaches to building balance in interpersonal connections and mastery over self. Keep crushing it C.S. Josepg
ENFP here who literally got 100% in calculus in high school and I currently work with excel using all the logical formulas! Haha love this ❤️ That said, I totally struggled with free writing in like English class - I was like what? I can't do it without a formula! 😅 Thank God for the 5-paragraph essay framework!
Thanks for reminding me of the person I used to be, it's true that before giving up on something I should think of why did I start in the beginning. Giving people a shot in life is what made me me. Thanks Joseph, your honesty saved me from a making decision I would regret for life.
ESFPs don't care too much about putting together patterns and concepts because it takes away from enjoying life in the moment. They care about enjoying what they see in front of them at that moment. ENFPs live for dreaming with their eyes wide open putting together patterns and concepts based on how they feel not what is logical. Both have Fi so they tend to focus on how they feel. This video can actually help understand the difference between ESTJs and ENTJs and ESTPs and ENTPs as well. You will see that ESTJs live in the moment but in a more strict responsible organized way than ESFPs and ESTPs. I thought I was an ISFP because I am introverted when uncomfortable in my surroundings, focus a lot on my feelings, love nature, and use art to express my inner feelings. However, I am not a good finisher. I earned my associate's degree in business administration because I was a business student in high school and my dad payed for my community college education so I finished in that sense but I changed my major three times when I went back to college and I have yet to earn my bachelor's degree because I am afraid that I am not that smart. I had ADHD as a child in elementary school. I talk a lot to strangers like the cashier or someone on a bus. I am terrified of doing rehearsals in a play but I love to dance and put on a dance show in front of strangers when bored. I am terrified of failure. I get overwhelmed at work or in school sometimes.
You will find an ESFP at a club or a bar because they love either dancing or being where they can be admired and an ENFP at Disneyland because they love to live in fantasyland and get bored very easily.
As an ESFP i certainly love Disneyland(never been there though not in my country) but i love funfairs and waterparks since i love a bit of adrenaline but clubs are good too like i love dancing and showing off
@@maria_s3731 ENFPs are the biggest Disneyland fans. That is a fact! They love the extroverted intuition dominance at Disneyland. Walt Disney was an ENFP. It is not typical of ESFPs to be into theme parks. ESFPs like more adventurous concrete stuff when they are not dancing much like ESTPs due to Se hero. They love nature as well. ESFPs enjoy more concrete things not like fantasy places like Disneyland.
Crazy!!! I like both!! This is why I can’t decide if I’m ESFP or ENFP 😩😪 but I do prefer going out clubbing more or being more adventurous rather than being at a theme park so maybe I am an ESFP? 🤔
@@sandradibiaso7316 nha f*ck stop lisening idiot talking about MBTI I am not a f***** unicorn ! I hâte that stereotype I'll kick the ass of the person made up that
This was one of the most insightful and useful information download I have ever encountered on yt. Thank you for the honesty. ❤ I appreciated the shouting part the most. 😅 Newly subscribed ENFP
Me being a newcomer in your headspace... I'm glad for seeing the English subtitle here. It really helps me because I struggle with my own listening ability 🥺
Also. I trained an ESFP female about 15 years ago. She amazed me. She would take 911 calls and she would not write down anything. She would complete the call and then enter in everything directly into the computer. She would remember ALL of the details. My jaw was on the ground. She could easily absorb everything in the moment and keep it stored temporarily in her brain and remember everything. She would do this again and again. I was proud of her ability with 911 calls. That being in the moment thing is for real. She rocked it in ways so many of my trainees could not.
@@ToddHa She would not have been able to enter all that info into the computer during the call because she would have been too distracted by the situation on the phone during the call. ESFPs are easily distracted. She had to wait till she was off the phone to enter all the information she was given.
Chase, incredible. Thank you- first off. For your insight and unique schematic representation of various archetypes linking with cognitive functions. Very creative and reasonably easy to conceptualize. I hope to work with you sometime in the future. I would be happy to donate some time and experience to your channel and public curriculum- if that would be useful for you. I have been following your channel since the start of the pandemic when my friend (studying psychology; now partner; you would call him an ‘INFJ’) sent me a video. Immaturity, and my conformation bias, caused me to mistype myself initially as an ‘ESFP’- though I now would type myself as an ‘ENFP’. I have found your work very helpful in understanding the behaviour and thought patterns of myself and others.
my best friend is an esfp. she’s always giving me a fun experience and making me laugh and I’m always getting distracted and asking random questions. she has more direction in life than I do though, she has this Ni vision for herself but I just have a looot of options for what I want to do. she’s the strongest friendship I have with anyone on earth, we have so much in common and the same humor and mindset because I’ve been around her for so long.
Enfp here; starting to explore personality typology including the MBTI. So happy when I came across your channel. THIS IS PRIMO MATERIAL BRO, THANK YOU! Thank you so much, this is great.
I like how you put these two types together in this lecture!! I must be split personalities. I can distinguish myself between both for different reasons. I must somehow be 50/50. I never saw myself as manipulative, but I do know that my kids must see it, they have just identified it as, “No one can tell mom ‘no’”, and also, “mom doesn’t take no for an answer”. I always live by ‘rules are suggestions’, and especially if they are arbitrary. I’ve always told my kids, it never hurts to ask for what you want, the worst they can say is no. I know that my INTJ husband of 25 years has always said he hates to tell me no, he likes to give me more than I really deserve. He has spoiled me and the kids. You’re very proficient in personality types and I appreciate your hard work to help educate people on the types. It helps us understand each other better.
Thank you so much for clearing this up for me! I always wondered which type I was, because the results I received the most while taking these tests (from various sources) were either ENFP (usually always, ENFP), ESFP or ENTP. But after this video, it's become clear to me that I'm an ENFP. And no offense, but I zoned in and out for most of your video and doing different things in the background. Anyway, dope video CSJ!
Hmmm, I don't understand how you could mistype yourself. I'm an ENFP, and i recently dated an ESFP. Totally different perception of things. Total communication break down.
How so? I think I mistyped myself as an ENFP, and I might be a ESFP. It makes me sad, which makes me think I must have mistyped myself if I felt such a longing to be ENFP. I am dating a ENFP right now and we have communication breakdowns. I would love to see if your anecdotes are similar to my experiences.
@@ScotianSouthy I think for me it is the same. I feel so lost looking for the reasons why. Is it because I want to be someone else? Or had to be someone else? How do you feel?
@@TheSuperSweetest i feel the same. i always thought i‘m esfp but i think i‘m enfp now and it makes me sad. like you said, maybe it‘s because we just want to be someone else..
You remind me of my marketing professor. He was an ENTP. Never sugar coated anything. He cut the bullshit from his students. Not the warmest professor, but I'll never forget what he taught me.
The fact that there are only 62k subscribers to this channel is a plight against humanity. I'm gonna watch everything. And of course, I'm exaggerating.
I knew ESFP and ENFP was going to be the next pair. Unless you decide to change your routine on a whim, I think I know what the next pair is going to be.
Yooooo!!! you just don't know how much you've changed me from inside, i mean no one would teach me these things and scold me at the same time ( it hurts but I'm grateful 😂) as an ESFP YES i want to try everything out to know what i want like how tf would i know if I didn't try??? I've tried medicine and IT and now I'm studying translating languages ( still don't know if that's the right choice but duh i have to move on!) and taking courses in leadership and management and really want to try teaching and psychology 😂 but I'm losing my time trying things out! I will forever owe you for teaching me all these lessons I swear ! and sometimes i think i want to marry you (yes I've thought about that before) Thanks for the book recommendation I really appreciate it and will read the book definitely today and will change the future definitely.
it would be interesting to see your comparison between the ENFP and ENTP, both unbalanced and Ne dom Observers, both balanced but different judgement axis'.
time for another reference to the japanese society: there's a very interesting ability a character from hakumari (utsuro no hako to zero no Maria) has. it's that she can actually "stop time" in order to think through a problem without actually having to spend a lot of time on understanding it. Imo it's either a Ti hero + Se - Ni(or a Te Ni Se Fi) combo, which makes it possible for her to dilute time(higher mental acuity) in order to time for another reference to the japanese society: there's a very interesting ability a character from hakumari (utsuro no hako to zero no Maria) has. it's that she can actually "stop time" in order to think through a problem without actually having to spend a lot of time on understanding it. Imo it's either a Ti hero + Se - Ni(or a Te Ni Se Fi) combo, which makes it possible for her to dilute time in order to process information and come to the results.
Hell yeah I'm enlightened! I feel like binging my shit. I'm feeling like shaking the universe right now. (in the right way, after a lot of attempts and with no more fear, of course) Thanks for this dude, I really owe you one! Right now it feels like you've changed my entire course of destiny (for the better) haha. I'm so ready to take on this rocky road! Bring it on world!
Omg, my fear of returning home spurned me to choosing a practical career major in college which I could at least tolerate. It sucked, but better of two choices that I saw at the time. It meant freedom!ESFP ....ended up in sales much later in life and love it!
I know an ESFP friend whose freedom of choice was taken at her workplace by her boss. After a while, she collected all the data she could to show that her boss is doing a lousy job, wrote it in a letter and sent to the managers of her boss. She also managed to convince other people who also struggled from that boss to share their negative experiences in letters. Meanwhile, my friend found another good job elsewhere. Eventually, she literally destroyed her bosses future at this workplace, as the boss got fired because of her actions. Is that a Ne demon thing? And the letter she wrote was so advocate-like, is that an INTJ sub in action?
I really do appreciate your video and don't know the reason why i know your video so much late, after your video may be i still can't clearly realize who i am exactly, ha ha, may be because of my middle self :)). By the way, u let me know what i should do know to develope my skill. really really appreciate. Looking forward to seeing your video more.
Why aren't ESTP considered as starters? They have ni inferiour, just like ESFP. Meaning they shouldn't follow through with their own future. Which is interesting cause ESTP still fit the control, direct and initiating interaction style.
They are direct, initiating control, not informative initiating movement. Interaction styles are not about individual functions but combinations of functions.
I (ENFP) dated an ESFP a couple years ago. I was actually in love with his best friend an ENFJ, but the ESFP was super manipulating and destroyed our relationship to be with me. So we dated for almost 3 years then I broke up with him, and he literally destroyed my entire social life. He suddenly turned into an evil plotting genius and took everything from me - even my own family. To this day my (wider) family loves him and hates me. Recently family of mine had a big wedding - didn't invite me, but he was their best man and stuff. Super awesome. Wish I had known all this information before. Thank you for that, better late than never xD
Sounds like he might have been a narcissist which has nothing to do with MBTI type. I’m SO sorry he did that to you! As an ESFP myself, I could never do that to someone I love!
Apropos Ne and Ni : did you maybe watch "Mirai Nikki"? Imo yuno Gasai's ability is actually an example of Ni(but focused on yukiteru) and yukiteru's ability is an example of Ne.
@27:30 "force them to read non-fiction". OR give them non-fiction TV shows and movies to watch if they're like me and they find reading too slow and inefficient. God knows I, an ENFP, was OBSESSED with shows like the magic school bus, popular mechanics for kids, and kratt's kreatures when I was growing up, and I had little interest in books because they took too long to consume.
I CANNOT believe I have been trying to approach my difficulties with my 7 yo, and his difficulties in the world, through the lens of my mistyping him as an esfp (and being extremely in resistance to that); when (obviously) he's been an enfp all along. Everything makes so much sense now! And this is also reassuring bc intuitively I've been aiming at heightening his empathy, consideration of others' feelings needs and wants instead of just his own, etc. Being spiritual and all, I was trying to figure out why the f the universe bothered to bring the 2 of us together. Me infj + Him enfp = A--ha!!!
hmmmm...i still dont know if im ENFP or ESFP. Both DemonModes are real to me. Either i go for their heart...if that doesnt work...i can see myself go violent. :( with esfp is the thing...im not always the loudest person...only if im in good mood and my moods change rly quick. im not colorful..that was true in my teens and twenties.
As an ESFP who has to decide what i want to do in my future career and need to decide for a college i know i want to do something creative and i don’t know what(like interior design fashion design architecture or graphic design) so i found a strategy to pick a college course that actually gives me more options and i chose architecture like it’s harder than the others but at least i got more options from there and can easily switch up if i think about graphic or fashion design instead of actually being an architect. Like i wanted to go to fashion design courses only but then i was thinking:”what if I’ll change my mind and won’t have too many options from there”. Like i just know i want something creative but don’t know 100% what exactly
It'd be hard to give accurate advice on this one without drilling down a little more. Could always do a career coaching session I guess. For what it's worth, there are some people that say having a degree at all is more important than the relevancy of your degree.
If an ESFP taps well into their INTJ subconscious, do they become more socially and romatically compatible with types that an INTJ would typically be compatible with or does the compatibility stay the same ( ISFJ, ESFJ..etc.)?
@@CSJoseph Interesting, so the compatibility switches. So if a person marries someone who is in their ego social compatibility and later grows into which they are more often than not in their subconscious, I wonder if there could end up being issues since the person is now less compatible with the person they married. An ISFJ and an INTJ dont have high compatibility but an ESFP and ISFJ does. Could that switch ( ESFP to INTJ subconscious ) possibly cause compatibility issues for an ESFP ego and SFJs?
I agree. I've developed my my INTJ subconscious, and I have had odd people attracted to me, that normally wouldn't be. I had a ESFJ man totally attracted to me, thinking I was an INTJ 😂🤣😆 We ended up being good buddies, and he was a good supporter for me. Unfortunately, he passed in 2019 😭
Esfps have qualities I would like to have. We don’t get along tho as I’ve mentioned before. I am infp. Too bad not tony Robbins enfp. I like the whole look at all the possibilities ability. It is a great ability.
ESFP definitely sounds more like me than ENFP. I am afraid of wanting the wrong thing and have failure to launch because I'm afraid of wanting the wrong thing. I dream of putting on a great performance as a community theater actress and want to teach youngsters how to act on stage and have the audience think it's the best children's play ever.
Can you please give me an example of what it would look like when an enfp 7 year old, who's NOT a drug dealer 🤣, feels unsafe etc and goes into Se demon/ESTP super.?
Do you have a series/season for specifically raising kids of a specific type? I am an INTJ with an ENFp kid abd I want to give him the best tools for success and happyness.
I test as both ENFP and ESFP. I happen to be a semi-professional singer. However, I don't necessary think that automatically makes me an ESFP. But I recently have interacted with 2 ENFP's and they seem a little more neurotic than me (if that's possible). I am definitely NOT about branding. I have never identified with that. But my ENFP friend is always saying she's the Louisiana Girl. And branding herself, I guess. I have always been into having flashy, unique hair. So maybe I am an ESFP. I have just always identified as an ENFP from previous tests.
@@CSJoseph So if stuff isn't really going easy in my life and I don't know what's gonna happen to me and both afraid and worried? What of the two is it?
Thanks! I really wanted compare this two, me and my friend are very diferent and we both got ENFP, but i think one of us are diferent, and i barely saw a comparation of these two types
Incredible video! It really made me consider whether I'm actually an ENFP or an ESFP after all. When I was in the depths of my OCD, I used to believe choosing a certain item of clothing to wear or taking a certain bus would lead to some kind of scary, terrible future event, despite there being absolutely no logical connection. I'd end up staying at home and not attending lectures while trying to investigate this distorted connection. It was like some messed up psychometry AND an inability to see the future. Any thoughts?
Download the free type grid companion at csjoseph.life and work through that, you'll get your answer. Or if you're impatient you can always get a 15 min typing session.
ENFP here. The Ti trickster illogical thinking has been bothering me for some time. I've had sleepless nights paranoid that I'm blind cognitively. I even asked some people I know if they think I'm good with logic and to my surprise they praised me for my logical ability and I think I agree. When I'm tired my thinking starts to lose some structure and tends to go in circles but to say we are not aware of true vs false seems like a bit of an overstatement. I've also seen huge improvements the more I train this ability. I mean It is painful and confusing at first. Don't you think the trickster like any other function can be developed?
It can be eventually yes. Rationale users find the truth too, it's just a different method. Instead of an if this then that process, they gather and weigh information.
@@CSJoseph I do do a bunch of weighing, measuring and statistics. I also found your lectures on emulation and development of trickster after having shadow and subconscious integrated. I really like how extensive and easily implementable your lectures are, thank you for the dedication!
Hello Mr. Joseph :) thank you for your amazing videos! Could you make an entp vs enfp video whenever you get the chance? Although I test as entp, my istp partner sees me as overly emotional and doesn't believe in the results. I would be very interested in your breakdown of the differences between the two. Thank you :)
Hello! I love you and your channel and podcasts! I have a request please! Could you compare ENFP to ENTP? I score both on tests and would love some more clarification 😊 thank you for all you do!
I’ve typed myself as an enfp for the longest time due to my fi and bubbly personality (along with other things of course but I can’t remember them off the top of my head lol) , but my best friend of seven years is literally an istj and I’ve always had an eye for fashion and aesthetics and like everything in a “superficial” way if that makes sense lol, for example if I like a painting I won’t like it because it’s deep or anything I’ll just be looking at the pretty colors. What do y’all think?
I was in the situation where i was with a girl who was with a drunk friend: her friend started to talk shit to the guys who just came there. and i felt something inside me , it wasn't in words, but it was fuck simply an uhh uncomfy feeling, like this shit is going to be bad, after like 1min, i was the only guy, so they started to come at me, provocating a fight, my friend was driving off. Was i using Se or Ne?
I wouldn't use this to type yourself, this isn't a great example but... Assuming you noticed "this is not going well" that's more Se, If you said "this is not going to go well" that seems more Ne.
Do not catcall me -_- I assure you my only impression of someone who catcalls me will be "how odd humans are". -> If you want my attention (or any Ne-dominant for that matter) say something interesting xD
Hmm so if someone is into fashion or design they are more likely an ESFP? Or can ENFPs appreciate aesthetics. I feel like I have seen ENFPs into it as well unless I have typed everyone wrong. The same person has to write down names in their note pad and where each person is from because they have trouble remembering names ... cant remember name after someone tells them. is that Se hero/Si Nemesis (ESFP) or Si inferior/Se demon (ENFP) ?
Please someone tally the total number of “GUESS WHATS” 🤣😂. From the beginning. Cs Joseph: GUESS WHAT me: 👀 Cs Joseph: GUESS WHAT Me: *stands up like a meerkat* what what what Cs Joseph: GUESS WHAT Me: IDK WHAT 😂 👀 stop that I’m trynna listen 🎧 gahhhhhd
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Nothing can beat an educated ENFP! You will learn so much from them even through small talks
I love you
That's where y'all get charismatic. Enough with this BS bubbly stereotype.
Chase you love us ENFP's so much. We are lumps of coal waiting to be pressured into being diamonds. Your tough love is appreciated.
thank you sir!
@@sandradibiaso7316 huh?
"get off your ass!!"
me, an ENFP: "I have never heard such words of wisdom in my life. so true. thank you for being straight to the point".
I'm an ESFP and my ENFP best friend preferred watching your video over a movie, we enjoyed it thoroughly and discussed all the aspects that you mentioned, and how we need overcome our fear of failure, my ENFP friend actually reads A LOT but i don't that's why i have more fear than her, cause there's so many things i don't know i just need to read more thank you so much.
you are most welcome.
Out of curiosity so I’m an ENFP and my best friend for 10 years is an ESFP well I understand my friend is very in the moment but what kinda bugs me is we will make a plan to hang out right and i’ll be excited looking forward to it, but then the day comes and they’ll text me being like I don’t know if i’m coming. I just don’t like making plans with them because of how they’ll feel in the moment I don’t want to look forward to something that might not happen. Any advice on how to make plans without expecting anything? Like how do i over come this feeling of disappointment in our plans never happening.
MitzyEditz If the reason was reasonable like feeling depressed or tired try to understand her more, some days you just don’t feel like going out without reason, but shouldn’t be frequent, to me i have been in your situation many times where friends bailed on me and didn’t keep their plans of hanging out, that’s why i made a rule for myself that I would never plan something I wouldn’t follow specially related to other people, cause I experienced how bad it felt. I say if you’re friend not aware yet of the weight and responsibility of her words, don’t take them to heart, try spontaneously going out or tell her to inform you sooner because it would be more reasonable and you wouldn’t feel as bad as knowing the same day, and try to make her see the situation in your shoes, i hope this help 💗
@@mitzyeditz8999 as an ESFP, I struggle with consistency with following through on my plans with friends sometimes. When my friends told me how important it was to them to be able to depend on me, I became much more consistent and diligent about showing up unless there was a kid issue.
Great presentation, thank you. I'm a 50 year old male ENFP married to a 45 year old female ESFP. We've been married 23 years and it's been nothing short of an absurd adventure. I can attest to the correctness of the information in this presentation. Marriage has been a challenge but, there's been no deal breakers along the way, we managed to stay together. Needless to say now that we are older and melted together over the years the struggles have really developed both of us for the better. 💆 Failure is the key to success for both ESFP and ENFP. Look at it as studying life in regards to all the failures. It's all to become a polished diamond of a human. Funny thing is both our types try in the now not understanding that we are developing that we are ultimately creating a brand, sorta speak.❤
As an ENFP calling ENFP's depraved losers is actually super motivating to strive towards the opposite and I find your videos endlessly addictive in building structure around my approaches to building balance in interpersonal connections and mastery over self. Keep crushing it C.S. Josepg
Also as a follow up, which types have the Fe parent as you were mentioning the video?
ISFJ and INFJ
I'm proud to be an ESFP.
Me too!
Two videos in one day? I appreciate your hard work and dedication. Really enjoyed the video.
you are most welcome
💯 agreed
Keep switching between esfp and enfp in my personality tests, so I find this video highly enlightening. Thank you!
ENFP here who literally got 100% in calculus in high school and I currently work with excel using all the logical formulas! Haha love this ❤️
That said, I totally struggled with free writing in like English class - I was like what? I can't do it without a formula! 😅 Thank God for the 5-paragraph essay framework!
Lol my SJ parents gave birth to an intj (myself) and an enfp (my sister). They are going through whiplash with that triple movement
hahahaha yes
@@CSJoseph to make it even better, they are both control types
Half of the SJ types are triple movement: ISTJ and ISFJ. Yes, despite being a control type, the other 3 sides of their mind are movement types.
@@astonish_injurer5598nope chase doesn't count the superego
Thanks for reminding me of the person I used to be, it's true that before giving up on something I should think of why did I start in the beginning. Giving people a shot in life is what made me me. Thanks Joseph, your honesty saved me from a making decision I would regret for life.
ESFPs don't care too much about putting together patterns and concepts because it takes away from enjoying life in the moment. They care about enjoying what they see in front of them at that moment. ENFPs live for dreaming with their eyes wide open putting together patterns and concepts based on how they feel not what is logical. Both have Fi so they tend to focus on how they feel.
This video can actually help understand the difference between ESTJs and ENTJs and ESTPs and ENTPs as well. You will see that ESTJs live in the moment but in a more strict responsible organized way than ESFPs and ESTPs.
I thought I was an ISFP because I am introverted when uncomfortable in my surroundings, focus a lot on my feelings, love nature, and use art to express my inner feelings. However, I am not a good finisher. I earned my associate's degree in business administration because I was a business student in high school and my dad payed for my community college education so I finished in that sense but I changed my major three times when I went back to college and I have yet to earn my bachelor's degree because I am afraid that I am not that smart. I had ADHD as a child in elementary school. I talk a lot to strangers like the cashier or someone on a bus. I am terrified of doing rehearsals in a play but I love to dance and put on a dance show in front of strangers when bored. I am terrified of failure. I get overwhelmed at work or in school sometimes.
You will find an ESFP at a club or a bar because they love either dancing or being where they can be admired and an ENFP at Disneyland because they love to live in fantasyland and get bored very easily.
As an ESFP i certainly love Disneyland(never been there though not in my country) but i love funfairs and waterparks since i love a bit of adrenaline but clubs are good too like i love dancing and showing off
@@maria_s3731 ENFPs are the biggest Disneyland fans. That is a fact! They love the extroverted intuition dominance at Disneyland. Walt Disney was an ENFP. It is not typical of ESFPs to be into theme parks. ESFPs like more adventurous concrete stuff when they are not dancing much like ESTPs due to Se hero. They love nature as well. ESFPs enjoy more concrete things not like fantasy places like Disneyland.
Crazy!!! I like both!! This is why I can’t decide if I’m ESFP or ENFP 😩😪 but I do prefer going out clubbing more or being more adventurous rather than being at a theme park so maybe I am an ESFP? 🤔
@@sandradibiaso7316 nha f*ck stop lisening idiot talking about MBTI I am not a f***** unicorn !
I hâte that stereotype I'll kick the ass of the person made up that
enfps are common in bars and nightclubs. more so, bars tho.
This was one of the most insightful and useful information download I have ever encountered on yt. Thank you for the honesty. ❤ I appreciated the shouting part the most. 😅
Newly subscribed ENFP
24:09 forward: your description of our Se w/ memory and focus is SPOT ON. And with studying, too.
Me being a newcomer in your headspace... I'm glad for seeing the English subtitle here. It really helps me because I struggle with my own listening ability 🥺
This video was very necessary. So many ESFPs make this mistake.
Also. I trained an ESFP female about 15 years ago. She amazed me. She would take 911 calls and she would not write down anything. She would complete the call and then enter in everything directly into the computer. She would remember ALL of the details. My jaw was on the ground. She could easily absorb everything in the moment and keep it stored temporarily in her brain and remember everything. She would do this again and again. I was proud of her ability with 911 calls. That being in the moment thing is for real. She rocked it in ways so many of my trainees could not.
wow, awesome anecdote
@@ToddHa She would not have been able to enter all that info into the computer during the call because she would have been too distracted by the situation on the phone during the call. ESFPs are easily distracted. She had to wait till she was off the phone to enter all the information she was given.
@@sandradibiaso7316 yes! We are SO present!
Chase, incredible. Thank you- first off. For your insight and unique schematic representation of various archetypes linking with cognitive functions. Very creative and reasonably easy to conceptualize. I hope to work with you sometime in the future. I would be happy to donate some time and experience to your channel and public curriculum- if that would be useful for you. I have been following your channel since the start of the pandemic when my friend (studying psychology; now partner; you would call him an ‘INFJ’) sent me a video. Immaturity, and my conformation bias, caused me to mistype myself initially as an ‘ESFP’- though I now would type myself as an ‘ENFP’. I have found your work very helpful in understanding the behaviour and thought patterns of myself and others.
Congrats on your golden pair. Grass won't be greener elsewhere.
my best friend is an esfp. she’s always giving me a fun experience and making me laugh and I’m always getting distracted and asking random questions. she has more direction in life than I do though, she has this Ni vision for herself but I just have a looot of options for what I want to do. she’s the strongest friendship I have with anyone on earth, we have so much in common and the same humor and mindset because I’ve been around her for so long.
Enfp here; starting to explore personality typology including the MBTI. So happy when I came across your channel. THIS IS PRIMO MATERIAL BRO, THANK YOU! Thank you so much, this is great.
I like how you put these two types together in this lecture!! I must be split personalities. I can distinguish myself between both for different reasons. I must somehow be 50/50. I never saw myself as manipulative, but I do know that my kids must see it, they have just identified it as, “No one can tell mom ‘no’”, and also, “mom doesn’t take no for an answer”. I always live by ‘rules are suggestions’, and especially if they are arbitrary. I’ve always told my kids, it never hurts to ask for what you want, the worst they can say is no. I know that my INTJ husband of 25 years has always said he hates to tell me no, he likes to give me more than I really deserve. He has spoiled me and the kids. You’re very proficient in personality types and I appreciate your hard work to help educate people on the types. It helps us understand each other better.
An ENFP in the library of Alexandria lol. ENFPs are actualy very ISTJs persons when they want it
ISTJs are an ideal partner for ESFP, so an ENFP would be a good partner for an ESFP
Your back story always makes me tear up. I feel for you man. Stay strong!
Thank you so much for clearing this up for me! I always wondered which type I was, because the results I received the most while taking these tests (from various sources) were either ENFP (usually always, ENFP), ESFP or ENTP. But after this video, it's become clear to me that I'm an ENFP. And no offense, but I zoned in and out for most of your video and doing different things in the background. Anyway, dope video CSJ!
“Literally become a walking encyclopedia.” I’d be scared if this happened to my ENFP wife. How would intimacy look?
Hmmm, I don't understand how you could mistype yourself. I'm an ENFP, and i recently dated an ESFP. Totally different perception of things. Total communication break down.
How so? I think I mistyped myself as an ENFP, and I might be a ESFP. It makes me sad, which makes me think I must have mistyped myself if I felt such a longing to be ENFP. I am dating a ENFP right now and we have communication breakdowns. I would love to see if your anecdotes are similar to my experiences.
@@ScotianSouthy I think for me it is the same. I feel so lost looking for the reasons why. Is it because I want to be someone else? Or had to be someone else? How do you feel?
@@TheSuperSweetest i feel the same. i always thought i‘m esfp but i think i‘m enfp now and it makes me sad. like you said, maybe it‘s because we just want to be someone else..
We ESFP are more concerned with practical rather than theoretical
You remind me of my marketing professor. He was an ENTP. Never sugar coated anything. He cut the bullshit from his students. Not the warmest professor, but I'll never forget what he taught me.
This was a way better video to explain ENFP. Just FYI :)
Great content! Excellent delivery!
Gosh you're so phucking smart and insightful.
Your personal story made me cry.
love your delivery
Wow. Great analysis on ENFP. Loved the video!
you are most welcome
C.S. Joseph Could you do one on INFP vs INTP?
The fact that there are only 62k subscribers to this channel is a plight against humanity. I'm gonna watch everything. And of course, I'm exaggerating.
I knew ESFP and ENFP was going to be the next pair. Unless you decide to change your routine on a whim, I think I know what the next pair is going to be.
Definitely not going to change, but I will toss in different kinds of content at random
Yooooo!!! you just don't know how much you've changed me from inside, i mean no one would teach me these things and scold me at the same time ( it hurts but I'm grateful 😂) as an ESFP YES i want to try everything out to know what i want like how tf would i know if I didn't try??? I've tried medicine and IT and now I'm studying translating languages ( still don't know if that's the right choice but duh i have to move on!) and taking courses in leadership and management and really want to try teaching and psychology 😂 but I'm losing my time trying things out!
I will forever owe you for teaching me all these lessons I swear ! and sometimes i think i want to marry you (yes I've thought about that before) Thanks for the book recommendation I really appreciate it and will read the book definitely today and will change the future definitely.
it would be interesting to see your comparison between the ENFP and ENTP, both unbalanced and Ne dom Observers, both balanced but different judgement axis'.
ENFP here - i just stopped being friends with an ESFP, they were extremely insufferable to me, and i do not like them at all. very egotistical
I'm an ESFP. That hurts.
that's just an unhealthy individual though lol, i've met enfp individuals exactly like that
@@quincyhickman6169 you are the only exception quincy...
@@woof1495 tru i was just mad idek why
That was that person. I am ESFP and not egotistical
This is very helpful since these two are so similar!
time for another reference to the japanese society:
there's a very interesting ability a character from hakumari (utsuro no hako to zero no Maria) has. it's that she can actually "stop time" in order to think through a problem without actually having to spend a lot of time on understanding it.
Imo it's either a Ti hero + Se - Ni(or a Te Ni Se Fi) combo, which makes it possible for her to dilute time(higher mental acuity) in order to time for another reference to the japanese society:
there's a very interesting ability a character from hakumari (utsuro no hako to zero no Maria) has. it's that she can actually "stop time" in order to think through a problem without actually having to spend a lot of time on understanding it.
Imo it's either a Ti hero + Se - Ni(or a Te Ni Se Fi) combo, which makes it possible for her to dilute time in order to process information and come to the results.
Love your intensity :D
Hell yeah I'm enlightened! I feel like binging my shit. I'm feeling like shaking the universe right now. (in the right way, after a lot of attempts and with no more fear, of course) Thanks for this dude, I really owe you one! Right now it feels like you've changed my entire course of destiny (for the better) haha. I'm so ready to take on this rocky road! Bring it on world!
P. S. Got hella goosebumps the entire video whoa
Super helpful video.
This is gold, thank you- ENFP
My English isn't good enough to understand this video. I really need it 💔
So great, thank you!
Omg, my fear of returning home spurned me to choosing a practical career major in college which I could at least tolerate. It sucked, but better of two choices that I saw at the time. It meant freedom!ESFP ....ended up in sales much later in life and love it!
I know an ESFP friend whose freedom of choice was taken at her workplace by her boss. After a while, she collected all the data she could to show that her boss is doing a lousy job, wrote it in a letter and sent to the managers of her boss. She also managed to convince other people who also struggled from that boss to share their negative experiences in letters. Meanwhile, my friend found another good job elsewhere. Eventually, she literally destroyed her bosses future at this workplace, as the boss got fired because of her actions. Is that a Ne demon thing? And the letter she wrote was so advocate-like, is that an INTJ sub in action?
I really do appreciate your video and don't know the reason why i know your video so much late, after your video may be i still can't clearly realize who i am exactly, ha ha, may be because of my middle self :)). By the way, u let me know what i should do know to develope my skill. really really appreciate. Looking forward to seeing your video more.
Why aren't ESTP considered as starters? They have ni inferiour, just like ESFP. Meaning they shouldn't follow through with their own future. Which is interesting cause ESTP still fit the control, direct and initiating interaction style.
They are direct, initiating control, not informative initiating movement. Interaction styles are not about individual functions but combinations of functions.
Maybe the “control” aspect of their interaction style makes them less impulsive.
"Do us all a favor and get off your ass" yezzir u really know how to persuade me
This is perfect for me, I have an 8 year old enfp and a 6 year old esfp!
I (ENFP) dated an ESFP a couple years ago. I was actually in love with his best friend an ENFJ, but the ESFP was super manipulating and destroyed our relationship to be with me. So we dated for almost 3 years then I broke up with him, and he literally destroyed my entire social life. He suddenly turned into an evil plotting genius and took everything from me - even my own family. To this day my (wider) family loves him and hates me. Recently family of mine had a big wedding - didn't invite me, but he was their best man and stuff. Super awesome. Wish I had known all this information before. Thank you for that, better late than never xD
Sounds like he might have been a narcissist which has nothing to do with MBTI type. I’m SO sorry he did that to you! As an ESFP myself, I could never do that to someone I love!
Apropos Ne and Ni :
did you maybe watch "Mirai Nikki"?
Imo yuno Gasai's ability is actually an example of Ni(but focused on yukiteru) and yukiteru's ability is an example of Ne.
Wtf when I was watching that, that is what I was thinking
@27:30 "force them to read non-fiction". OR give them non-fiction TV shows and movies to watch if they're like me and they find reading too slow and inefficient. God knows I, an ENFP, was OBSESSED with shows like the magic school bus, popular mechanics for kids, and kratt's kreatures when I was growing up, and I had little interest in books because they took too long to consume.
I CANNOT believe I have been trying to approach my difficulties with my 7 yo, and his difficulties in the world, through the lens of my mistyping him as an esfp (and being extremely in resistance to that); when (obviously) he's been an enfp all along.
Everything makes so much sense now!
And this is also reassuring bc intuitively I've been aiming at heightening his empathy, consideration of others' feelings needs and wants instead of just his own, etc.
Being spiritual and all, I was trying to figure out why the f the universe bothered to bring the 2 of us together. Me infj + Him enfp = A--ha!!!
hmmmm...i still dont know if im ENFP or ESFP. Both DemonModes are real to me. Either i go for their heart...if that doesnt work...i can see myself go violent. :( with esfp is the thing...im not always the loudest person...only if im in good mood and my moods change rly quick. im not colorful..that was true in my teens and twenties.
If you are more about what you experience through your five senses, you are ESFP
@@JamesTyreeII ty..i figured that i am an ESFP a while ago now :)
@@kadsenvieh you’re welcome. Good
As an ESFP who has to decide what i want to do in my future career and need to decide for a college i know i want to do something creative and i don’t know what(like interior design fashion design architecture or graphic design) so i found a strategy to pick a college course that actually gives me more options and i chose architecture like it’s harder than the others but at least i got more options from there and can easily switch up if i think about graphic or fashion design instead of actually being an architect. Like i wanted to go to fashion design courses only but then i was thinking:”what if I’ll change my mind and won’t have too many options from there”. Like i just know i want something creative but don’t know 100% what exactly
It'd be hard to give accurate advice on this one without drilling down a little more. Could always do a career coaching session I guess. For what it's worth, there are some people that say having a degree at all is more important than the relevancy of your degree.
As an ESFP-T, I recommend a social sales type hon because it meets our socializing needs and we make great natural sales people and we are ethical
If an ESFP taps well into their INTJ subconscious, do they become more socially and romatically compatible with types that an INTJ would typically be compatible with or does the compatibility stay the same ( ISFJ, ESFJ..etc.)?
Yes
@@CSJoseph Interesting, so the compatibility switches. So if a person marries someone who is in their ego social compatibility and later grows into which they are more often than not in their subconscious, I wonder if there could end up being issues since the person is now less compatible with the person they married. An ISFJ and an INTJ dont have high compatibility but an ESFP and ISFJ does. Could that switch ( ESFP to INTJ subconscious ) possibly cause compatibility issues for an ESFP ego and SFJs?
I agree. I've developed my my INTJ subconscious, and I have had odd people attracted to me, that normally wouldn't be. I had a ESFJ man totally attracted to me, thinking I was an INTJ 😂🤣😆 We ended up being good buddies, and he was a good supporter for me. Unfortunately, he passed in 2019 😭
When does this video start? Di man can talk.
I also have NE hero (as you said bc I am an ENFP) and I think we speak similarly
I have tons of trouble distinguishing between these two types
Esfps have qualities I would like to have. We don’t get along tho as I’ve mentioned before. I am infp. Too bad not tony Robbins enfp. I like the whole look at all the possibilities ability. It is a great ability.
Unless I mistyped, but he seems very much an entertainer, movement, extravert etc
ESFP definitely sounds more like me than ENFP. I am afraid of wanting the wrong thing and have failure to launch because I'm afraid of wanting the wrong thing. I dream of putting on a great performance as a community theater actress and want to teach youngsters how to act on stage and have the audience think it's the best children's play ever.
I think my sister is an ENFP. We constantly butt heads for some reason (I’m an ISTP)
Same but I'm INTP.
Feelers and thinkers definitely butt heads!
Isn’t an ENFP a campaigner not an advocate?
same diff
We are both. Different names, but both are ENFP
Not-First...I must not be a
"Type A Personality." Ha!
Can you please give me an example of what it would look like when an enfp 7 year old, who's NOT a drug dealer 🤣, feels unsafe etc and goes into Se demon/ESTP super.?
Do you have a series/season for specifically raising kids of a specific type? I am an INTJ with an ENFp kid abd I want to give him the best tools for success and happyness.
I replayed 10:25 - 10:34 about 5 times! ‘Little fru fru’ 😆😆 I love it!
so far this is the most i've been accurately described in my life :0 this is legit! (ENFP)
Im an ENFP, I do get outside of my comfort zone and put myself out risking failure, yet each time I hate it so much...xd
I test as both ENFP and ESFP. I happen to be a semi-professional singer. However, I don't necessary think that automatically makes me an ESFP. But I recently have interacted with 2 ENFP's and they seem a little more neurotic than me (if that's possible). I am definitely NOT about branding. I have never identified with that. But my ENFP friend is always saying she's the Louisiana Girl. And branding herself, I guess. I have always been into having flashy, unique hair. So maybe I am an ESFP. I have just always identified as an ENFP from previous tests.
I'm almost sure I'm an ESFP, although I tested on ENFP on Human Metrics. I am definitely not an "intuitive". My fiance is intuitive though
I too was typed both ways… a couple of times. If you are more concerned with reality rather than concepts, you are ESFP
What's the difference of being afraid and worried about your future?
fear is about putting your fiath into the wrong thing, worry is that you expect it.
@@CSJoseph So if stuff isn't really going easy in my life and I don't know what's gonna happen to me and both afraid and worried? What of the two is it?
How to know if i have SE hero or NE hero i am still confused ??
ENFPs appreciate when they are appreciated but they are not controlled by what people think
You’re wrong. Don’t mix ENXPs
Thanks! I really wanted compare this two, me and my friend are very diferent and we both got ENFP, but i think one of us are diferent, and i barely saw a comparation of these two types
Would you say ISFPs can be manipulative too with Fi hero?
Incredible video! It really made me consider whether I'm actually an ENFP or an ESFP after all. When I was in the depths of my OCD, I used to believe choosing a certain item of clothing to wear or taking a certain bus would lead to some kind of scary, terrible future event, despite there being absolutely no logical connection. I'd end up staying at home and not attending lectures while trying to investigate this distorted connection. It was like some messed up psychometry AND an inability to see the future. Any thoughts?
Download the free type grid companion at csjoseph.life and work through that, you'll get your answer. Or if you're impatient you can always get a 15 min typing session.
@@CSJoseph Thank you!
@@CSJoseph Yes, I'm an ENFP. I can get scared of anything out of my comfort zone.
What Books for ENFP ?
I like Fi user's openness and i hate their selfishness
I just want to know what type I am I feel like I’m ENFP and ESFP
If you are more reality focused, you are ESFP. If more focused on the theoretical, you are ENFP
ENFP here. The Ti trickster illogical thinking has been bothering me for some time. I've had sleepless nights paranoid that I'm blind cognitively. I even asked some people I know if they think I'm good with logic and to my surprise they praised me for my logical ability and I think I agree. When I'm tired my thinking starts to lose some structure and tends to go in circles but to say we are not aware of true vs false seems like a bit of an overstatement. I've also seen huge improvements the more I train this ability. I mean It is painful and confusing at first. Don't you think the trickster like any other function can be developed?
It can be eventually yes. Rationale users find the truth too, it's just a different method. Instead of an if this then that process, they gather and weigh information.
@@CSJoseph I do do a bunch of weighing, measuring and statistics. I also found your lectures on emulation and development of trickster after having shadow and subconscious integrated. I really like how extensive and easily implementable your lectures are, thank you for the dedication!
Could you elaborate on the ENFP's SE Demon? Could this be physical violence?
watch season 16 episode 8
Hello Mr. Joseph :) thank you for your amazing videos! Could you make an entp vs enfp video whenever you get the chance? Although I test as entp, my istp partner sees me as overly emotional and doesn't believe in the results. I would be very interested in your breakdown of the differences between the two. Thank you :)
check season 10.
Hello! I love you and your channel and podcasts! I have a request please! Could you compare ENFP to ENTP? I score both on tests and would love some more clarification 😊 thank you for all you do!
if I haven't compared them already, they are on the schedule.
This is why even tho I have a big girl job i still have my starting job in case I get fired or something
I’ve typed myself as an enfp for the longest time due to my fi and bubbly personality (along with other things of course but I can’t remember them off the top of my head lol) , but my best friend of seven years is literally an istj and I’ve always had an eye for fashion and aesthetics and like everything in a “superficial” way if that makes sense lol, for example if I like a painting I won’t like it because it’s deep or anything I’ll just be looking at the pretty colors. What do y’all think?
'And then I waited 1.5 hours for the ENFP to show up....'
As an ENFP I laughed a little too hard at this.
I was in the situation where i was with a girl who was with a drunk friend: her friend started to talk shit to the guys who just came there. and i felt something inside me , it wasn't in words, but it was fuck simply an uhh uncomfy feeling, like this shit is going to be bad, after like 1min, i was the only guy, so they started to come at me, provocating a fight, my friend was driving off. Was i using Se or Ne?
I wouldn't use this to type yourself, this isn't a great example but...
Assuming you noticed "this is not going well" that's more Se, If you said "this is not going to go well" that seems more Ne.
Do not catcall me -_-
I assure you my only impression of someone who catcalls me will be "how odd humans are". ->
If you want my attention (or any Ne-dominant for that matter) say something interesting xD
Don't forget, you could easily be an EXFP if your are in the middle on S and N. It's a spectrum, not one or the other.
No it's not. Everyone has both Sensing and Intuition functions.
Whoa, this is deep....
Hmm so if someone is into fashion or design they are more likely an ESFP? Or can ENFPs appreciate aesthetics. I feel like I have seen ENFPs into it as well unless I have typed everyone wrong. The same person has to write down names in their note pad and where each person is from because they have trouble remembering names ... cant remember name after someone tells them. is that Se hero/Si Nemesis (ESFP) or Si inferior/Se demon (ENFP) ?
Into fashion vs good at fashion are very different things. Sounds a lot like Si trickster.
Can you fix my life? I'm between career changes and no long-term community and living with my parents.
enfp precognition, Superpower? Now Im very curious about it can you explain better joseph tank you very much for this video very well articulated
What is your beef with fi , ? Fi is about following moral values it's the opposite of selfishness. Fi user must have dumped you.
*facepalm
Are you filtering comments ? It didn’t post my other one.
only comments where people are shilling.
Not sure what you mean exactly
Please someone tally the total number of “GUESS WHATS” 🤣😂. From the beginning.
Cs Joseph: GUESS WHAT
me: 👀
Cs Joseph: GUESS WHAT
Me: *stands up like a meerkat* what what what
Cs Joseph: GUESS WHAT
Me: IDK WHAT 😂 👀 stop that I’m trynna listen 🎧 gahhhhhd