African Parents, let your children know that they can talk to you about anything. Encourage them to tell you things, big and small. Don’t react with alarm in their presence so that they don’t shut down. Remind them that if anyone hurts them, no matter who, you will always stand up for them. And keep your promises. Life is hard but we should be a soft place for our children.
Very true. A close relationship with our chiren is very very key. Gv dem d confidence 2confide in u. As a parent make dem feel comfy enough 2open up on ANYTIN. Lik u said, big or small let dem freely talk about it. It will save us a lot of problems.
Dear Parents, Holidays are here, pls take note of the following : Child molestation Sexual abuse, Rape Child predators are everywhere seeking for whom to devour. You really don't want to see this happen to your princes and princesses. Be extra careful. A. Know where your children or wards are per time. B. Leave them with very responsible and reasonable, not just some respectable adult jerks. B. Avoid leaving children alone for too long. C. Apply safety measures in and around the house. D. Secure your home and be vigilant. E. Check and understand why your kids like an adult and check why some adults repel them. F. Don't be caught up in this wayward society. Wear modest and decent clothing for your girls. G. Holidaymakers. ....🎒. Don't send your kids off to their grannies without helps around. Most Grannies are weak, vulnerable and not so disciplined anymore. Don't burden them with children stress. H. Don't accommodate other kids you can't care for in the name of holiday. I. Watch your teenagers. J. Get closer to your children and wards this holiday. Keep close, embrace your children ,pray and play together. They can watch television but be mindful of what goes into their mind. Most of the time ,a lot of accidents could have been avoided. Always give them reasons to appreciate life more. Do have a wonderful week and a lovely fun filled holiday. Please help post on all platforms you can reach out to. Its Joy All the Way.
Even with mother's that are full-time house wife children can still be abused under their watch without them knowing so it has nothing to do with the working status of a mother .
Such a strong woman. You can only know people after you have heard their pain, struggles and process. That is why I am a fan of reading biographies. "Don't use the narrative someone sells to you". See and know people genuinely for yourselves.
A girl child is at risk in Nigeria, this phenomenon is hidden, not talked about and happening in every household. Especially with the change in roles of mothers where the children are left at the mercy of so called 'uncles'. May they rot in hell.
I'm so sorry it happened🤍 sending you all my love 🤍 you're an awesome inspiration to many😊a beautiful and brilliant woman ✨the industrious part of her is so inspiring!
I wished the ladies such as Iyabo and Toyin used the Real Housewives of Lagos as a platform of educating women and empowerment. All the drama has taken away the humanity in these women, who are multifaceted with dynamic personalities.. This is a story that would have really uplifted everyone
The entire HOUSEWIVES FRANCHISE is not for empowering anyone. Watch Atlanta, Dallas, SA, Dubai etc. it’s about DRAMAAAAAA. Anyone who signs up for the show, should be ready to expose their lives.
Toyin is amazing. I only got to know about her two weeks ago when I stumbled across Real Housewives of Lagos. She is just IT. I like how sincere, hilarious and positive her energy is. 👏🏾
I have the similar experience of sexual assault for several times untill 2008 I fight for myself when nobody is ready to listen to my pains😭😭😭😭. Please try and create a very good relationship with your children 😭😭😭 may God forgive our parents and us.
Why I can’t let my kids with even family members hmmm. I advise my triplets and their brother almost everyday “don’t let anyone touch you” if they do let me know chai! Today I even spoke with my last son🤔
I see comments about mothers being close to their kids and all that but believe you me some children are so coded No matter how close their parents esp mothers are to them,they refuse to open up I'm 24 and I'm still accountable to my granny I always let her know my whereabouts Transparency from kids is key too!
It still boils down to the root...when you create an environment of openness around your children ..it'll be easier for them to easily open up to you as the years pass by
Now, I remember when I joined a group on Facebook and the amount of women who shared stories were sexually abused is alarming! There are multiple issues here.1. The daughter and mother relationships are not open enough 2. Too many sexual abusers are in the family 3. Safe abortions should be legal especially because of point 2
Xactly wot I just commented ! Mother daughter relationships shud b stronger dan diamond 💎 o, so dat chiren, particularly daughters can open up, tell anything & evrytin. Me, frm a very young age, infact tender age my mom was point blank with me & my elder sis bout sex education, rape, etc. So wen eventually relatives & evn outsiders attempted I already sabi wetin dey, I tell my mama one hand ! 2dis day, I neva xpirienced any form of molestation & I hv my mom 2thank 4dat. I'm following my daughter d way momsy did with me, infact evn more open dan my mom was with me. Frm d moment my daughter cud speak clearly, I began educating her about molestation, sex education & 4her 2b open with me, tell me anytin & evrytin.
Your mentality is part of the problem. no1 is the grown perverted men dt need to be curtailed and removed from the home, or the justice system dt shld punish culprits harder. The victims should not be the first ones blamed. Yuck🤮
Wow.. Toyin so sad. Now I understand some of the posts she makes on Instagram. Stems from unhealed sexuality. Would you mind seeing a therapist or working through your traumas so you can be your whole self again? Most of us end up damaged through this experience, the only way out is to go deep in to the dark places to heal. Wish you all the best ❤️
Parents pls b close 2ur kids, especially d girl child. How can a 15yr old b raped & impregnated by an uncle & couldn't open up 2ur own mother, but cud open up 2an aunt? Pls parents, especially mothers b very very very close 2ur chiren. My mom was lik a sister 2us, wen my cousins & oda persons tried molesting me ad a child, I knew how 2handle it, I told my mom straight up cos she had already coached & talked 2me & my elder sis bout sex,rape, molestation, pregnancy, etc
@Darey Tom so wot d fuck is my bizness with ur HIV? How does dat affect me? Y r u telling me about it? Do u also want 2cure me of HIV? U want 2gv me d drugs or something? I don't understand u
Some human beings hurt others because they are not nice people. They have no conscience They are selfish & self centred If abuse is discussed openly it will help create awareness Thank you sister Toyin for sharing God bless you
My student was raped by her senior sister's husband. Her classmates told me. I was like an aunt to my students and I talked to them about friendships, trust, abuse, marriage etc in a way they can understand.
Don't trust anyone with your child. Child abuse becomes a huge mental struggle for the victim, it takes the grace of God and a renewal of mind to overcome.
Me I don't accept any male too close to my daughter be it close family or friends. This world is a dangerous place for kids especially the girl child. Don't trust anyone please even family sometimes they are the ones that kill you.
The abuse of women & children going on in that country with no justice for them. Maybe that’s why Nigeria is like that, that country is full of oppressors
Honestly so many ladies seriously undergone so much painful experiences in life but kept it within themselves. Imagine been raped by man whom are supposed to be your keeper and guidance.
Chude men go soon dey fight you oh,all these women with stories of animals, I wish it will cause a change for good in gender relations and dynamics in our country. The ego trip too bad and hurtful
Hi Chude,you are doing a great work but your interviews are mostly one sided..Let’s hear from Men too.It’s only women you usually bring to tell their sides of story,no chance to hear from those they are accusing and alleging.We can’t choose to believe everything these women comes to say because we encourage women to speak up,not every speaking up is the truth.If you are saying your husband hit you from the wedding altar,let us have the husband interviewed too and confirm these stories and hear his sides..And you are most times too emotional than logical in the questions you ask your guests. Once again,you are doing a great work✌️
Imagine dis nonsense so women shouldn't say wat they experienced without u involving men wow! whether they interview men or not they are always favoured in d society no matter wat women do even women like them will criticize them bcos of d barbaric mindset and level of hypocrisy we have in d society it is even now women are open to talk abt rape and other abuses they've experienced boldly bcos of wat people will say bullshit or he should also bring d rapists to tell u why they raped d victims so he should bring ex husbands too as per therapist or is it family discussion which we don't know abt dis is shitty it doesn't make any sense
Dear Parents, Holidays are here, pls take note of the following : Child molestation Sexual abuse, Rape Child predators are everywhere seeking for whom to devour. You really don't want to see this happen to your princes and princesses. Be extra careful. A. Know where your children or wards are per time. B. Leave them with very responsible and reasonable, not just some respectable adult jerks. B. Avoid leaving children alone for too long. C. Apply safety measures in and around the house. D. Secure your home and be vigilant. E. Check and understand why your kids like an adult and check why some adults repel them. F. Don't be caught up in this wayward society. Wear modest and decent clothing for your girls. G. Holidaymakers. ....🎒. Don't send your kids off to their grannies without helps around. Most Grannies are weak, vulnerable and not so disciplined anymore. Don't burden them with children stress. H. Don't accommodate other kids you can't care for in the name of holiday. I. Watch your teenagers. J. Get closer to your children and wards this holiday. Keep close, embrace your children ,pray and play together. They can watch television but be mindful of what goes into their mind. Most of the time ,a lot of accidents could have been avoided. Always give them reasons to appreciate life more. Do have a wonderful week and a lovely fun filled holiday. Please help post on all platforms you can reach out to. Its Joy All the Way.
Well articulated, most importantly, no dey share share pikin for family members, I know it's hard, the economy and all but your kids are meant to be your life.
@@fashionmeetmodesty it is advisable to give birth to the number of kids one can comfortably raise not to give birth to many and be sharing them to family members
One thing you can't say about Toyin is Her Hustle spirit. It's clear that she's very hard working and people need to give her her flowers 💐 ❤️
Very true, Toyin is so hard working that there's nothing bad you can say about her
💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐
African Parents, let your children know that they can talk to you about anything.
Encourage them to tell you things, big and small. Don’t react with alarm in their presence so that they don’t shut down. Remind them that if anyone hurts them, no matter who, you will always stand up for them. And keep your promises. Life is hard but we should be a soft place for our children.
Very true. A close relationship with our chiren is very very key. Gv dem d confidence 2confide in u. As a parent make dem feel comfy enough 2open up on ANYTIN. Lik u said, big or small let dem freely talk about it. It will save us a lot of problems.
You're very correct
This is super important cuz the environment can scare children off and make them not to tell you things
I agree
People are coming out about rape. It's very healthy for the community. Thank you for speaking out.
The number of women abused by close family members is alarming honestly
Dear Parents,
Holidays are here, pls take note of the following :
Child molestation
Sexual abuse,
Rape
Child predators are everywhere seeking for whom to devour.
You really don't want to see this happen to your princes and princesses.
Be extra careful.
A. Know where your children or wards are per time.
B. Leave them with very responsible and reasonable, not just some respectable adult jerks.
B. Avoid leaving children alone for too long.
C. Apply safety measures in and around the house.
D. Secure your home and be vigilant.
E. Check and understand why your kids like an adult and check why some adults repel them.
F. Don't be caught up in this wayward society. Wear modest and decent clothing for your girls.
G. Holidaymakers. ....🎒. Don't send your kids off to their grannies without helps around. Most Grannies are weak, vulnerable and not so disciplined anymore. Don't burden them with children stress.
H. Don't accommodate other kids you can't care for in the name of holiday.
I. Watch your teenagers.
J. Get closer to your children and wards this holiday.
Keep close, embrace your children ,pray and play together.
They can watch television but be mindful of what goes into their mind. Most of the time ,a lot of accidents could have been avoided.
Always give them reasons to appreciate life more.
Do have a wonderful week and a lovely fun filled holiday.
Please help post on all platforms you can reach out to.
Its Joy All the Way.
True common in the 70s and 80s but parents of that age were not used to talking about such things.Such evil that she had to go through this.
Even with mother's that are full-time house wife children can still be abused under their watch without them knowing so it has nothing to do with the working status of a mother .
? , how , please explain what you mean How wouldn't she know if she were a full time housewife
According to statistics over 80% of rape cases are carried out by close relatives.
Such a strong woman. You can only know people after you have heard their pain, struggles and process.
That is why I am a fan of reading biographies.
"Don't use the narrative someone sells to you".
See and know people genuinely for yourselves.
Toyin Lawani, thank you so much for sharing your story.
A girl child is at risk in Nigeria, this phenomenon is hidden, not talked about and happening in every household. Especially with the change in roles of mothers where the children are left at the mercy of so called 'uncles'. May they rot in hell.
I'm so sorry it happened🤍 sending you all my love 🤍 you're an awesome inspiration to many😊a beautiful and brilliant woman ✨the industrious part of her is so inspiring!
I wished the ladies such as Iyabo and Toyin used the Real Housewives of Lagos as a platform of educating women and empowerment. All the drama has taken away the humanity in these women, who are multifaceted with dynamic personalities.. This is a story that would have really uplifted everyone
I think it was scripted....for views
Or was it real ?? 😳😲
The entire HOUSEWIVES FRANCHISE is not for empowering anyone. Watch Atlanta, Dallas, SA, Dubai etc. it’s about DRAMAAAAAA. Anyone who signs up for the show, should be ready to expose their lives.
Why only Toyin and Iyabo??? All the ladies should have done that..
Its really important for children to know that they can talk to their parents about everything and anything. I love Toyin, she’s a great mother.
Toyin is amazing. I only got to know about her two weeks ago when I stumbled across Real Housewives of Lagos. She is just IT. I like how sincere, hilarious and positive her energy is. 👏🏾
M so glad Chude of how vulnerable and safe you make your guest be.♥️♥️
The level of high rate of rapes by family members is cringing each time I read about it. Ugh 💔
So annoying that's why am like an eagle? I don't care how close you are.
I have the similar experience of sexual assault for several times untill 2008 I fight for myself when nobody is ready to listen to my pains😭😭😭😭. Please try and create a very good relationship with your children 😭😭😭 may God forgive our parents and us.
Why I can’t let my kids with even family members hmmm. I advise my triplets and their brother almost everyday “don’t let anyone touch you” if they do let me know chai! Today I even spoke with my last son🤔
Well done,that beautiful
Mummy triplets 😍😘
I see comments about mothers being close to their kids and all that but believe you me some children are so coded
No matter how close their parents esp mothers are to them,they refuse to open up
I'm 24 and I'm still accountable to my granny
I always let her know my whereabouts
Transparency from kids is key too!
It still boils down to the root...when you create an environment of openness around your children ..it'll be easier for them to easily open up to you as the years pass by
Now, I remember when I joined a group on Facebook and the amount of women who shared stories were sexually abused is alarming! There are multiple issues here.1. The daughter and mother relationships are not open enough 2. Too many sexual abusers are in the family 3. Safe abortions should be legal especially because of point 2
Xactly wot I just commented !
Mother daughter relationships shud b stronger dan diamond 💎 o, so dat chiren, particularly daughters can open up, tell anything & evrytin.
Me, frm a very young age, infact tender age my mom was point blank with me & my elder sis bout sex education, rape, etc. So wen eventually relatives & evn outsiders attempted I already sabi wetin dey, I tell my mama one hand ! 2dis day, I neva xpirienced any form of molestation & I hv my mom 2thank 4dat.
I'm following my daughter d way momsy did with me, infact evn more open dan my mom was with me. Frm d moment my daughter cud speak clearly, I began educating her about molestation, sex education & 4her 2b open with me, tell me anytin & evrytin.
The abuser is always a family member or a close friend
@Darey Tom so y r u mentioning my name & tagging me ?
Wot's my bizness with ur HIV matter?
C me c wahala o ! Fake, liar.
Your mentality is part of the problem. no1 is the grown perverted men dt need to be curtailed and removed from the home, or the justice system dt shld punish culprits harder. The victims should not be the first ones blamed. Yuck🤮
@@beautifyyourlife6912 I’m sorry you can not comprehend my statement. I would like for you to point out where I blamed the victim?
Chude is a king in this interview game. Such a good listener . how do you do it sir
The abuser is always a family member or a close friend
I even broke your Fadas heart 😭😭😭 toyin pleasee
Werrrr God...please, show mercy on this lady and bless her.
Wow.. Toyin so sad. Now I understand some of the posts she makes on Instagram. Stems from unhealed sexuality. Would you mind seeing a therapist or working through your traumas so you can be your whole self again? Most of us end up damaged through this experience, the only way out is to go deep in to the dark places to heal. Wish you all the best ❤️
Parents pls b close 2ur kids, especially d girl child.
How can a 15yr old b raped & impregnated by an uncle & couldn't open up 2ur own mother, but cud open up 2an aunt?
Pls parents, especially mothers b very very very close 2ur chiren.
My mom was lik a sister 2us, wen my cousins & oda persons tried molesting me ad a child, I knew how 2handle it, I told my mom straight up cos she had already coached & talked 2me & my elder sis bout sex,rape, molestation, pregnancy, etc
@Darey Tom so wot d fuck is my bizness with ur HIV? How does dat affect me? Y r u telling me about it?
Do u also want 2cure me of HIV? U want 2gv me d drugs or something? I don't understand u
Some human beings hurt others because they are not nice people. They have no conscience They are selfish & self centred
If abuse is discussed openly it will help create awareness
Thank you sister Toyin for sharing
God bless you
My student was raped by her senior sister's husband. Her classmates told me. I was like an aunt to my students and I talked to them about friendships, trust, abuse, marriage etc in a way they can understand.
I am noticing something....her personality changes...she is calm when speaking about her trauma and then switches when talking about her social life.
🤣
It shows when she is talking about it, she is open and vulnerable. The social life is a cover up…she still needs to heal
WOMEN are actually stronger than we think
This is common in Nigeria but they usually swept it under the carpet by family relatives.
Don't trust anyone with your child. Child abuse becomes a huge mental struggle for the victim, it takes the grace of God and a renewal of mind to overcome.
This is the common story of African parents, never believing their kids!!! Things have got to change.....
I LOVE TOYIN LAWANI SHE'S A ROLE MODEL TO EVERY WOMAN OUT THERE🥺💯💯💯
A lot of ladies went through a lot and kept silent because of stigmatization.. It hurts..
Love her honesty, couraged
May The Almighty Jehovah God Bless Your Hustle in Jesus Mighty Name Amen.
❤💯thanks for sharing stay strong beautiful 💔💔💔
The drunk editor is back ooooo 😂😂😂 repeating scenes again!! Jesus is lord 😂😂😂
🤦🏾♀️😂😂😂😂😂
💀🤣
I concur with your comment, the editor was indeed drunk at the time of editing this clip LOL
Ooh my dear so sorry
'ANYBODY CAN BETRAY YOU'!!!!!!!!!
L love her she speak out her mind and very creative
Wao what a shame. She’s gone through a lot
So sorry to hear
Always love you sis❤❤❤❤
Thanks
What people go thru dat one doesn't know till they speak out
Where is this uncle bring him to justice is not too late he need to be punish
Not in a law court abi?because there won’t be any concrete proof only her words against his unfortunately
@@Avy999 unfortunately in Nigeria this is the truth.
Please how can I met this wonderful woman
Never trust anybody with your children
So true!!. 🤔
! Never
Yes o !
Nobody @ all !
Older cousins living with us tried abusing me but my mom already prepared me long b4 so I opened up 2my mom straight !
Alot of us have been true alot of sad story so sad
Me I don't accept any male too close to my daughter be it close family or friends. This world is a dangerous place for kids especially the girl child. Don't trust anyone please even family sometimes they are the ones that kill you.
My woman ❤❤❤
Hmmmmmm!! This life is so sensitive and fragile. Your first enemy is always from your family 🤔🤔🤦🏻
I love her courage courage
The abuse of women & children going on in that country with no justice for them. Maybe that’s why Nigeria is like that, that country is full of oppressors
I love tiannah sha, just love her
You’re a fighter 💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾
Honestly so many ladies seriously undergone so much painful experiences in life but kept it within themselves. Imagine been raped by man whom are supposed to be your keeper and guidance.
Love her fashion
This editor is high on something different.
I'm saying..
Aiswear !
Mkpulumiri
@@ayebatarijuliapaxagiri2767 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Rape is the worst scar for a woman to carry 😕
Where can I find the podcast?
Why does it seem this was not properly arranged?
Chude men go soon dey fight you oh,all these women with stories of animals, I wish it will cause a change for good in gender relations and dynamics in our country. The ego trip too bad and hurtful
Chuddy how do I watch the remaining your interviews abeg
*Mrs Charlotte is legit and her method works like magic I keep on earning every single week with her new strategies *
Wow I' m just shock someone mentioned expert Mrs Charlotte I thought I'm the only one trading with her
She helped me recover what I lost trying to trade my self
Mrs Charlotte is obviously the best, I invested $3,000 and she made profit of $28,000 for me just in 15 days
everyone is talking about her success story
@Patricia Mateus thanks for the recommendation
This is sad 😞
I❤️toyin
Strong woman
Why don't they name these shameless men though? They should still be arrested
Pls work on it editing
Who's editing these videos?
❤️❤️❤️
Why her voice come dey sound like Bob own laik this?🤣🤣🤣🤣
Hi Chude,you are doing a great work but your interviews are mostly one sided..Let’s hear from Men too.It’s only women you usually bring to tell their sides of story,no chance to hear from those they are accusing and alleging.We can’t choose to believe everything these women comes to say because we encourage women to speak up,not every speaking up is the truth.If you are saying your husband hit you from the wedding altar,let us have the husband interviewed too and confirm these stories and hear his sides..And you are most times too emotional than logical in the questions you ask your guests.
Once again,you are doing a great work✌️
Imagine dis nonsense so women shouldn't say wat they experienced without u involving men wow! whether they interview men or not they are always favoured in d society no matter wat women do even women like them will criticize them bcos of d barbaric mindset and level of hypocrisy we have in d society it is even now women are open to talk abt rape and other abuses they've experienced boldly bcos of wat people will say bullshit or he should also bring d rapists to tell u why they raped d victims so he should bring ex husbands too as per therapist or is it family discussion which we don't know abt dis is shitty it doesn't make any sense
Shut up please! Ode gidi
Crazy how she looks and sounds like Bobrisky
Why is she yelling
Dear Parents,
Holidays are here, pls take note of the following :
Child molestation
Sexual abuse,
Rape
Child predators are everywhere seeking for whom to devour.
You really don't want to see this happen to your princes and princesses.
Be extra careful.
A. Know where your children or wards are per time.
B. Leave them with very responsible and reasonable, not just some respectable adult jerks.
B. Avoid leaving children alone for too long.
C. Apply safety measures in and around the house.
D. Secure your home and be vigilant.
E. Check and understand why your kids like an adult and check why some adults repel them.
F. Don't be caught up in this wayward society. Wear modest and decent clothing for your girls.
G. Holidaymakers. ....🎒. Don't send your kids off to their grannies without helps around. Most Grannies are weak, vulnerable and not so disciplined anymore. Don't burden them with children stress.
H. Don't accommodate other kids you can't care for in the name of holiday.
I. Watch your teenagers.
J. Get closer to your children and wards this holiday.
Keep close, embrace your children ,pray and play together.
They can watch television but be mindful of what goes into their mind. Most of the time ,a lot of accidents could have been avoided.
Always give them reasons to appreciate life more.
Do have a wonderful week and a lovely fun filled holiday.
Please help post on all platforms you can reach out to.
Its Joy All the Way.
👊🏾👊🏾👊🏾👊🏾👊🏾👊🏾👊🏾
Well articulated, most importantly, no dey share share pikin for family members, I know it's hard, the economy and all but your kids are meant to be your life.
@@fashionmeetmodesty it is advisable to give birth to the number of kids one can comfortably raise not to give birth to many and be sharing them to family members
😂😂😂Wow my dear I
❤️
Because you where wide
Hmmmm