So we're doing IVF...
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- Опубликовано: 31 июл 2024
- Sorry I couldn't answer all of your questions in this video- I did film answers to all of them but it was just too long.
This is our IVF story up until this point. It's really hard and a huge challenge but it has hands down been the best thing we've ever done.
A lot of people asked me about how I can talk about this stuff and be so open... but I find it much more strange that I would gush so much about handbags than talking about something like this which is so important.
My hope is that this is helpful to someone who is struggling with this process- much in the same way others being open with me about their struggles was a huge benefit to me.
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I’m an open book too and I find it has served me well. I think being able to talk about difficulties and life’s challenges has been huge for my mental health and working through situations. Also by sharing you often find people with similar issues and you can help them as well. I think by sharing here on RUclips you will be helping people who are struggling right now. It’s a very emotionally painful journey and by sharing we give others a chance to share their stories too.
I spoke about my journey too, I wanted to demystify it and normalise it for both myself and the people around me who knew I was doing it and didn’t know how to engage with me about it. Good for you x
I had two ectopic pregnancies, had to have an emergency operation to remove my Fallopian tube, the other was blocked. I did one cycle of IVF. Never did have a child in the end. Things happen for a reason. 12 years ago, I was filled with resentment at all my friends seemingly getting pregnant upon first try. I still get the ‘why don’t you have kids?“. Just not part of my story. Wishing you the very best. X
You seem like such an amazing mom to Henry. I am positive any baby would be so happy to have you as a mom. Fingers crossed and positive thoughts being sent your way that this works for you. Thank you for sharing your story.
Thank you Elizabeth… I really appreciate everything x
Emma, I truly appreciate your honesty and vulnerability. This is a topic a lot of women carry a lot of shame about and without even knowing it, you are helping women to break out of a self-imposed prison of secrecy and shame on this topic. I started following you years ago for handbag reviews and I love your evolution into "real topics" through this channel. Blessings to you. It must not be easy to be going through this but you still record your videos with enthusiasm and a smile. You are much loved and I truly hope you get the blessing of the second child you desire ❤❤
Good luck to you. Hope things turn out positively no matter what happens in the next few weeks. Sending love xx
Thank you doing this video! Wishing you all the best with your IVF journey. 💖
Such an amazing video and strength for sharing it with everyone. Fingers crossed for you all ❤
Thank you so much x
Just found your channel! Great video...I definitely feel you with the private clinic positives even though I love the NHS!
Looking forward to learning about the process of IVF from you, before we start our journey this Summer!
IVF has been difficult and I find your video very helpful as you talked about how you felt while doing IVF. All the best to you.
You must have been a wonderful GP Emma. It’s the NHS’s loss that you are no longer working. GP practices are using more and more remote ways of treating their patients and if they could have an ounce of your common sense and compassion when they are giving you bad news over the telephone, not even seeing you face to face then the world would be a better place. Good luck with IVF and thanks for your brave openness. ❤
I agree let’s all do whatever we want with our own bodies and not pass judgment on others for doing the same. I’m sending you and your family all the positive vibes!
100% thank you
Thank you so much for sharing. I do believe that many women can benefit from hearing your story. Sending you positive vibes and prayers!
Wishing you every success with IVF and thank you for such an amazing message to others in the same situation. I’m saying my prayers for you and Mark ❤️
Thank you x
I really appreciate your open and easy manner of communicating ❤
I’m same age as you and with my long time boyfriend who is 5 yr younger and was not as solid on financial grounds when we first met 7 years ago. Long story short we are planning to get married and getting our first home together soon but each day I’m mindful of the (un)likelihood due to my age cf his. It feels like each day, each month is a countdown reducing my chances to have a complete family. I completely feel what you mean by feeling hurtful when people are too openly sharing their fertility stories and I only wish I have the same courage to share as much too! I wish you best and looking forward to your update 🥰
Thank you for sharing your journey with us. Fingers crossed it all works out
wishing you all the very best Emma 🫶🏼
Emma, as always I am in awe of your courage in sharing this, and I can see it is so clearly only done to help others. Your strength of character shines through as always. Sending you and your family lots of love. A long time viewer.♥♥
Thank you so much x
Wishing you the best of luck, Emma! ☘️
Wishing you the very best with your IVF journey❤️
Godspeed Emma❤ sending you Gods favor your way😊
Thanks for sharing! Wishing you and your family all the best! ❤
Good luck waiting the good news. Thank you for this video it give me good vibes.
all the best for the ivf - hugs x
Good luck. I hope it works out well for you. Best wishes.
Thank you for sharing your experiences. You are going to help a lot of women going through this process
Good Luck Emma, I hope it works out for you guys. Looking forward to hearing soon. ❤
Thank you x
I’m not going through issues relating to fertility and I don’t but luxury goods, I just watch your videos because I love your outlook on life and you’re so kind and open minded, even when facing unfortunate situations or reactions from people ❤ I’m lucky enough to have just had a wonderful experience with my new doctor but I bet you were such a lovely doctor 🥰
Thank you Emma! I completely agree about the waiting, and how devastating it is to not be able to get pregnant! I felt so utterly self-involved for being so completely devastated and was really self-conscious about that, it's so nice to have someone share so that someone in the same place doesn't have to feel so alone. Wishing you and your family the very best ♡
Wishing you the best for a successful transfer, Emma! Thank you for sharing, it’s helping so many, I’m sure. For me the worst part had to be the progesterone in oil shots to the butt for the 10+ weeks after the successful transfer. My hubby gave me those shots and at first he was aiming in the wrong area, I think, which made him hit a nerve and it would be so painful and I would bleed. I remember crying a lot towards the end. Other than that everything else was fine, but agree that waiting all along the steps was challenging! ❤
Good luck, lovely brave Emma!
Wishing you lots of good luck Emma xxx
Emma wishing you all the best in your IVF journey.❤️🙏 I’m sure Henry will have a sibling in the near future. My husband and I struggled with infertility for years and went through the IVF journey around 30 years ago. As I have Crohn’s disease and scar tissue from four surgeries it had damaged much of my reproductive system. IVF or surgery were our only options. IVF was our choice. At the time they were just starting the frozen embryos so that gave us more hope. Over several years we went through some fresh and frozen cycles with no success. It is such a roller coaster of emotions and very difficult to go through. I did find it painful but I’m sure it had more to do with my previous abdominal surgeries and scar tissue. The doctors thought I might have endometriosis but because of my history they wouldn’t scope to see. In the end we decided to go the adoption route. After trying for one year in Canada we decided to go international. It was the single best decision we ever made. Today our son is 26 years old. He has been the light of our life and still is. Being parents was our ultimate goal and I’m just so happy that we never gave up.
Fingers crossed for you both🤞🏽❤
Good luck!❤
Good luck! IVF seems like such a hard thing to go through.I have twins and everyone asks if they’re IVF.
All the best Emma 🙏🙏🙏
Really hoping things go well ❤ xx
Thank you for sharing, I've really enjoyed the transition of your video content...Hope this message finds you well.🙂
Thank you Emma. As usual your candour is so refreshing. It’s so important that these conversations are normalised. I had my most precious gift …my daughter …after 3 ivf cycles following 6 miscarriages. Like you …unexplained infertility. All the hurtful, stupid things people said…adopt ( practically impossible here in Ireland )…use a surrogate ( don’t have a spare 100k lying around)….. very best wishes for this cycle. You are wonderful
It’s so easy for people to give you “options”. When don’t they think you’ve already thought about it and researched the heck out of it. Also congrats on your daughter.
@@lolipena8051 thank you so much 💖
all the best for the transfer! fingers crossed :)
Had my one IVF cycle with NHS which ended in tears, seems I can get pregnant (8 times in 10 years) but they never stick but we still hope for a one in a million.
We did consider private early on but decided to pay off our mortgage instead, we are now lates 30s with no mortgage and are saving for a private cycle.
The question about children from people breaks me every time.
Have my fingers crossed for you.
Read these books: Real Foods For Fertility by Lily Nichols, Nourishing Traditions by Sally Fallon, Nutrition and Physical Degeneration by Weston A Price, Toxic Superfoods by Sally Norton, Cultured Food For Health by Donna Schwenk, A Healthier Home by Shawna Holman and Speak Life by Katherine Rounala.
Supplements to consider: Bio-identical Progesterone with Vitex (from hope creek acres as wild yam cream or wild yam serum), Zeolite Detox (from hope creek acres), Liver (from mk supplements) and Oysters (from marine health foods).
Book Disclaimer: I agree with some but not all information in the health books. Food in the Bible is balanced (animal + plant food) and in variety so that's my approach. Am neither carnivore nor vegan. My focus is how food is sourced (raised/grown), processed and eating in balance compared to elimination eating (dairy-free, fruit-free, grain-free, meat-free, veggie-free, wisdom-free, etc).
Health Disclaimer: This is medical advice. Am not an expert. Do your own research on the information above e.g the benefits of liver for fertility, the role of progesterone in fertility and pregnancy, the benefits of vitex for fertility, etc.
God loves you so very much and all the best ❤.
Thank you for sharing, wishing you luck!!!
Wishing you all the luck in the world ❤
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Thanks for sharing your story.
Sending baby dust! ❤
Cheering you on! My IVF fresh cycle is a boy who will be 20 this summer and my frozen cycle became boy/girl twins that are turning 17! I’m soooo grateful for this technology. ❤❤❤
How old were you at that time? Am now 44 and if it is possible to do ivf
It is so wonderful for you to share your story , endometriosis is so often missed by Doctors . I was lucky to find a godsend of a Dr who actually listen to my symptoms and did not dismiss them. After being treated with 2 rounds Lupron Depot I felt so much better and suddenly found out I was pregnant at 39 ❤. . My pregnancy was wonderful without complication . My goal was not even to get pregnant I just wanted to feel better it was definitely the biggest blessing I received my handsome son who is now 21 . Thinking of you and family sending loving and positive thoughts ❤
So true. Thank you x
I wish you all the best and hope for a second child for you! ❤
Thank you so much for sharing, I hope you don't mind (I know you say you're not religious), but I'm praying for you and your beautiful family that the IVF is successful ❤ thank you for being so raw and open, and taking us along the way
Thank you. That’s so kind of you x
Thank you for making this video
Good luck. Also I just wish no one would ask if you’re having kids. It’s so awkward. It’s too personal to me and no matter what I say I always feel attacked or judged. I am happy that it’s a question that people are starting to realize it’s not okay to ask. So it’s slowly going away.
I'll admit I did used to be one of those people who asked this- until I realised- and it really is so much more personal than people think
It’s normal conversation to ask if one is having children. For some reason the younger generation finds awkward and judged? That’s on you. People don’t intend to make anyone feel that way. That’s why they ask.
@@katemiller7874 It isn’t ‘feeling’ judged- it is being judged. When I used to dismiss this question I was outright told I ‘your clock is ticking’ - I absolutely knew this- ‘don’t be so career focused’- ‘watch your priorities’. Read some of the other comments on this. A lot of people struggle with this and you can choose to be sensitive to it or not. That reflects on you. I’m not a delicate flower. And I don’t always get my interactions with other people right. But I do my best. I don’t think ‘this isn’t a problem for me or this is something that wouldn’t bother me’. But how we act reflects our own character
@@katemiller7874 with me I’ll answer oh I don’t want any now, queue judgment and questions. Then I tell it’s because I can’t have any. Queue awkwardness. When it could had all been avoided by not asking.
Sending you lots & lots & lots of good wishes! 😘😘😘
Thank you x
I did IVF at 37 and too had an early miscarriage. It sucks, but you have a good mindset. I had my first son at 31 naturally and got pregnant is 2 months! I have a diagnosis of secondary unexplained infertility and it’s so frustrating! I find it upsetting when people say ‘at least you already have a child!’ I just feel our family isn’t finished and want a sibling for my son. Good luck on your next round x
Thanks. I hope you manage to complete your family. It’s so hard when these things are completely out of our control xx
I have PCO and haven’t had my period since I was 15. I saw three doctors at the age of 35 and was just about to start treatment to have a chance to conceive, when I found out that I was pregnant naturally after years and years of trying. Now I’m 38 and have a 1-year-old and a 2-year-old. To anyone out there trying, please don’t give up!!! And for anyone in Australia I can highly recommend infertility specialist Dr Joseph Segroi in Melbourne. He can make wonders!
So hoping it works out for you this time. And so great that you're sharing your story, I'm sure it'll help other people.
But, I do wish people would stop asking women when they're having kids, it's not their business, even if they're nosey Aunt Edie and think they have the right to know!
I also wish that as a standard part of ivf there would always be some counselling, partly because studies have suggested that it increases the chances of pregnancy (for some even before the actual ivf treatment starts), but also because there is not a 100% certainty of pregnancy.
Absolutely. The chances with IvF are not great and it can be a long and drawn out process so that support and expectation setting would be so helpful.
Twins on the way
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Hi Emma
Just wanted to wish you well and hope your IV goes well and you have a healthy beautiful baby, boy or girl, whatever you wish.
I'm not a doctor or a health expert of any sort, but just wanted to give you an advice from an old woman, which is kind of an old wives taIe, may be correct maybe not.
I know you like doing weight lifting, which, in my humble opinion and by personal suffering, is very bad for us women, as it puts a lot of pressure on the pelvic area, as well as our back, which is naturally created weaker than a man's back.
Again, not an expert of any kind, but I often hear doctors advice pregnant women, or those who are trying to conceive, to avoid carrying heavy objects.
I was an unwanted child, and my mother always told me how she tried to abort me by lifting heavy things, jumbing down the stairs and so on. Obviously, that did not work, but it did make my birth the toughest out of her other 9 births.
My niece, who is less than 40, went into early menopause because she was obssessed with weight training.
My advice, if you would like to consider taking it, is to stop weight lifting, and any other tough excercise, until after at least 4 months of your (hopefully) new child's birth.
Wishing you all the best.
Good luck this two weeks. I think the things I found the hardest when trying to get pregnant is people assuming you don’t want children, we were selfish, or we weren’t trying. Finally I did get pregnant after a hysterosalpingogram. No one mentions this test, but it led to a healthy baby boy for me. Thank you for sharing and being so forthright. It can be a lonely journey when trying to get pregnant.❤️
Yes it wasn't mentioned to us... I was aware of the procedure but assumed that if our clinician didn't mention it then it wasn't appropriate for us. Needless to say I am much more direct now and assume nothing. I used to have people telling me to 'get a move on' if I wanted children, and saying 'stop prioritising work'.... it's hard. But we have our boys ❤️❤️
Yes, I heard get a move on too. People just assume that everyone can just get pregnant easily, but that is not true. My fallopian tubes were clogged. The hysterosalpingogram flushes out the tubes as they shoot dyes into your tubes to get an X-ray. Good luck with your baby journey!
I'm a radiographer, and it's been decades since I've been involved in hysterosalpingograms, I'm not sure they're very common now. I know a colleague had an endoscopy instead, and after 10 years of trying (they already had a son at this point), she had an ectopic pregnancy, followed by a normal pregnancy. She is definitely of the opinion that the endoscopy helped!
As for the selfish thing, is it more selfish to want kids or not to want them? It's (hopefully) a personal choice, and either choice is valid as well as being selfish/ unselfish depending on your viewpoint.
@@danishpastry6137 I agree, it's a huge responsibility to bring children to this already overpopulated and struggling world. One has to ponder really carefully now. Si many things to consider. XxC
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I know it's such a cliche to say this but you (and Mark and Henry) really are in my thoughts and prayers. ❤❤❤
Thanks Shaiza x
Hi Emma, thank you for sharing, this is very informative and helpful.
Most of my immediate friends went for IVF.
How many cycles is the NHS funding? And do you think the NHS should fund IVF in the first place? Thank you :-)
It is cost effective to offer 3 cycles of IVF on the NHS and this is the National recommendation. The effects of infertility can be huge. But unfortunately different areas decide how much they want to follow the guidance so some areas offer 0 or only 1-2 cycles. In other counties 3 cycles of state funded ivf are offered and I think- I could be wrong- that in Scotland people are still entitled to 3
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Also, what do you think about adoption?
I think adoption should never be a ‘consolation’ option for not being able to conceive and something people should pursue specifically because that is what they want to do. I have friends who were adopted, friends who work in adoption and friends who have adopted so I’ve spent a long time considering this.
@@Emmaandersyes, agree about the consolation aspect.I am also very familiar with the adoption process. However, I was not raising the adoption topic as a 'consolation' option, but as conversation topic. Thank you. All the best for you and your family xxx
After 14 years of IVF my son is now 17 he’s my lottery win 🫶🏻 wishing you all the luck in the world 💕
😍 They’re worth every moment of it x
@@Emmaanders They absolutely are 🥰 lots of love x
How old were you at that time ??am 44 and I don’t know if it is possible to do the same.
@@User1-qp3vq hi I was 38 when I got pregnant if your going private I don’t think there is an age limit the NHS have a cut off though, women are having babies in their 50s and 60s now there is always a way x