Hi there! 👋 Feel free to contribute to the topic.....drop a comment below! I plan to answer all comments. 👍 Keep in mind, despite negativity in the culture and laws, there is still the opportunity to pursue marriage, motherhood and homemaking and most importantly God. 🙏 💙
My mother was born in 1958. My grandmother was one of the few married women in her all black neighborhood that worked full time. All of the women on the neighborhood were married. And the families were large. My grandparents had 3 children which was a bit smaller for that time. Everybody looked out for each other and knew each other by first and last name. They all attended church together and went to school together. It was not perfect, but it was pretty darn close.
This was a very nice episode! Thank you for it. I had the blessing of being raised by my grandmother who was born in 1924. It was the norm for her to talk about black families and black marriages as intact, expected, and culturally preferred. Yes, out of marriage births have always occurred in every culture and every time of history, but it was no more acceptable for single black women than other ethnicities no matter what popular media would have the world believe. In my family, as much as 30 years ago, if you were a young man and played the Russian roulette game with this girl and that girl, and one of them came up pregnant, I PROMISE you that you married that girl. It was looked at as an insult to your own ancestry for you not to. It was dishonorable amongst the men to have children here and there. An embarrassment that you, as a man, dishonored your family name that way. It was not anything you bragged about. My mother talks about dating in the 50's and that the African American girlfriends she was friends with did not sit on their African American boyfriends laps without 2 packages of notebook paper between his thighs and her rump. It was 2 packages because there was a 2 inches of paper rule in place socially! A lot of what is out there for public consumption, works HARD to paint African American women as not only sorrowful victims, but as a type of "rabble" when it comes to virtue; that the concept that an African American woman is worthy of the psychological "halos", silently attached to and then manifested in a million day-to-day ways, toward women of other ethnicities is "ridiculous" to suggest for her. The truth of black women and the black family, (and I will use 1879 as a personal reference, since that's a date I have personal, family, printed-on-paper marriage certificates on, if my own family is a random enough sample), is that 99.9% of them were wives, in traditional marriages, that belonged to and attended church, and typically attended with husband and children as a family. Yes, they worked on farms and were share croppers and all of this, but they very much adhered to traditional values and family structures. And those values, AND legitimized marital and family units, were of great importance generation after generation! I really thank you for the photos you utilized 🧡 So many of us have these types of photos within our lives -the weddings, cotillions, graduations...- and they are beautiful in our individual possessions, but they never get the opportunity to be presented "en masse" to illustrate the culture as a population. Thank you for doing that.
I'm glad you enjoyed the video! 😊 Thanks for sharing your story, I really loved hearing this! 🥰 It's pretty much spot on. I plan on making another video on *why* marriage and family has gone down in the modern Black community today. Stay tuned! 👍
Not only the progressive movement, but also the Welfare that rewards women for being single moms so as not to lose their Welfare check. That was our family situation growing up and we're Puerto Rican. That meant boyfriends yes, a stable husband and father figure: no. And I suffered a lot because of it.
Didn't the housing projects in the 70's contribute to beginning of most of the fatherless homes in the black community? I'm a black homemaker and homemaking became difficult for us after a while because of black men's ability to sufficiently provide for a family. Most black women had no other choice but to leave the home as well to provide for their children. Stepping away from Godly standards as far as marriage, courting, and child rearing has also contributed to why most of the community is in shambles with these things. We are of west African lineage; broken homes are not apart of our natural heritage, so this behavior is abnormal.
Correct! Yes, stepping away from God's principles will certainly create disorder in the family unit. 💔 I'll discuss more about this in the next video of the topic 👍
This video is everything. I loved the pictures of these beautiful families. Thank you for the narration. It was educational. You really compiled a nice “documentary” here. Gosh bless you!
I've heard the name "Thomas Sowell" but I'm not too familiar. With a change of heart by Christ led me to relearn the truth about history! 🙏 So much of American history is rewritten and manipulated. 👍 Thanks for watching 😊
@@LifeWithBerylanneYou'd like Thomas Sowell. He's taught the same history you talk about in this video for decades. I definitely recommend any videos of him or books written by him. God Bless.
Have the CHANCE to be housewives? My love, please understand that there were plenty of wealthy Black people here in the "United States". WE are the indigenous people here. Also the real jews. Black was here first, MOTHER of all. "In the beginning there was darkness" is a stretch for a newbie to come to terms with but once you realize the Bible is to be decoded and not taken as religion, you will see. What they used for bad and control, our ancestors gave a road map, as they always did historically. WE knew how to build, farm, and civilize Villages and towns. This is still most evident today as far as building and farming goes..its natural to us. As far as civilization goes...look up the Black Moors. Wyte people knew none of that, Black people civilized white people all around from showing them how to take baths, teaching them to walk upright, how to use utensils all the way down the timeline to how to design and structure their own cities. There was just a time in history where Black (indigenous) people should have kept their wisdom to themselves because you see the wyte man turned on them. Picture the Pocahontas movie but Black skin. Another thing is that the Europeans raped the Black indigenous thus creating the half and half looking "Indians" youve seen in history. Sickening in itself but they went on to lie and say that these were the only people here when they "landed"..this was to hide "Black history". Many wyte Europeans came here because they were convicts and prisoners over there. THATS who came on boats. Slavery didn't come about as history says. Our people EVENTUALLY needed work because a new currency system was set in place by the asians...WE'VE always used the bartering system in our communities...what worth was paper, silver or gold...those were RESOURCES and medicine (depending on how it was used). When other countries started pouring into our territories, things got real. Basically the SAME thing going on now. GENTRIFICATION...Slavery came as a trick to overwork US indigenous people because we KNEW how to farm when they didnt and that brought them money...they took our homes and land then another group of tricksters within the same klan (family) turned and "offered" us places to stay in exchange for working and helping grow the farm....YES some "owners/masters" were cruel just like some supervisors, CEOS and managers are cruel today. Black/indigenous people werent the only ones working on the farms and fields. ALSO, please look up how many "slaves" unalived their "masters" and their families for mistreatment! 😂 Rootwork included...thats why the slave Bible mentions that we shouldnt do witchcraft or astrology...they KNEW it was our superpower 😂 A clue there! Lol. Its not evil at all. Its protection against cruelty. They use witchcraft all day...look at American symbolism...they took our power to use for themselves, told us it was bad and gave us the Bible and the Law! It is beyond dumb for anyone to think that it was more of them than it was of the "masters" and believe that ALL thst time it was beating and overworking loll. THINK about it. What group of wyte people would survive trying to bring HUNDREDS of big, strong Black people to "America" on a BOAT 😂😂😂 Wyte people have whitewashed history so much to drive illusions of superiority. Look at the govt system today...its just that the poor (not wealthy) white people are looped into the modern day work mill (Slave mill) also so no one sees the govt as what it really is. Division keeps the citizens ignorant and weak. Do you know what a Birth Certificate really is, do you know if collecting taxes is legal or not 😂😂😂 Girl please take a journey for yourself and THEN Report back to the people. You won't have time to edit and record once you start digging. And Google is cool if you look in the right place but you will have to probably travel to different places to gather documents and records and things like that to pull the SOLID truth together. Girl, please surround yourself with REAL LIFE wealthy Black people who came from a healthy, wealthy lineage. They are tucked in the South, happy, quiet and minding their business 😂 & a lot of them are in Illinois..out of the way. The chance to be a housewife?! Lol. It wasn't glorified and idk why women glorify it now. Staying home with the kids is what you are supposed to do. You shouldn't want your kids raised by anyone else but you. If women are single and they need to get out and work then they deserve the UTMOST respect because they take care of the entire WORLD of their family and it doesn't seem easy. I'm married but I stay home when I want and I work when I want. I have a career so what I do doesn't feel like work and it brings in good COIN. My hubby doesn't ask me for anything so I save mostly, invest and then take care of HIM when he wants to take off work for months at a time. Even when I need a break during times that I choose not to work, he still cleans or cooks with a smile because we built a household together. Real man. It pays to be a real woman overall...no one is stressed out and we don't have to restrict ourselves from anything. At the same time, we know our limits and boundaries when it comes to dishing out finances if it is making other people rich. We don't buy crazy expensive things...quality, yes. Either way....Black people are low key the BOMB, the Black wombman is God (patriarchal religion comes from 'slave masters') and the media has been making us look whatever way they want so that our truth is hidden from those who don't feel and seek. You have neuromelanin...lots of it from your skin tone. Use it...its not just a scientific or medical term. Certain types of wyte people will be pissy mad about this information and try to deter you so if you allow that then good luck living in the way THEY intended for you. We are living abundantly and unbothered over what wyte HIStory and media has to say about us over here 😂😂 never let anyone make you feel bad for changing as you learn and grow more. Just because you KNOW who you are as a neuromelanated person with DEA vs DNA doesn't mean that you are anti-wyte. They will try to hit you with that too. Keep pushing, you deserve to know the truth. Your life is worth living as you care truly called to live. Hopefully your husband loves you as the Bible instructs him in 1 Corinthians and supports you 100% on the journey of learning who you are as a Neuromelanted woman..it may be uncomfortable at times as you uncover the truth but just ask him to stand beside you and support as YOU sort through it all yourself. This journey should NOT break up any interracial marriage unless there is negative influences...your husband should know that you are NOT blaming him for anything. There will be anger that comes up but find another person on the journey to vent to. Not your hubby lol. It's just fair, lol. Understanding that there will be ups and downs on this journey is key but there is no way he will ever fully understand the depth of it so thats why venting to him may cause problems that youd never imagine... its best that he is just ready to love on you at the end of the day, make your favorite dessert, give you booty rubs 😂, and always ask questions about your mood vs assuming if he needs to. Yall will get through it ❤
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Hi there! 👋 Feel free to contribute to the topic.....drop a comment below! I plan to answer all comments. 👍 Keep in mind, despite negativity in the culture and laws, there is still the opportunity to pursue marriage, motherhood and homemaking and most importantly God. 🙏 💙
My mother was born in 1958. My grandmother was one of the few married women in her all black neighborhood that worked full time. All of the women on the neighborhood were married. And the families were large. My grandparents had 3 children which was a bit smaller for that time. Everybody looked out for each other and knew each other by first and last name. They all attended church together and went to school together. It was not perfect, but it was pretty darn close.
Aw thank you for sharing! 😊
There was tons of Black homemakers and housewives. In the neighborhood my parents used to live in, there was 5 Black housewives.
Really!? That's good to know! 😊
This was a very nice episode! Thank you for it. I had the blessing of being raised by my grandmother who was born in 1924. It was the norm for her to talk about black families and black marriages as intact, expected, and culturally preferred.
Yes, out of marriage births have always occurred in every culture and every time of history, but it was no more acceptable for single black women than other ethnicities no matter what popular media would have the world believe. In my family, as much as 30 years ago, if you were a young man and played the Russian roulette game with this girl and that girl, and one of them came up pregnant, I PROMISE you that you married that girl. It was looked at as an insult to your own ancestry for you not to. It was dishonorable amongst the men to have children here and there. An embarrassment that you, as a man, dishonored your family name that way. It was not anything you bragged about.
My mother talks about dating in the 50's and that the African American girlfriends she was friends with did not sit on their African American boyfriends laps without 2 packages of notebook paper between his thighs and her rump. It was 2 packages because there was a 2 inches of paper rule in place socially! A lot of what is out there for public consumption, works HARD to paint African American women as not only sorrowful victims, but as a type of "rabble" when it comes to virtue; that the concept that an African American woman is worthy of the psychological "halos", silently attached to and then manifested in a million day-to-day ways, toward women of other ethnicities is "ridiculous" to suggest for her.
The truth of black women and the black family, (and I will use 1879 as a personal reference, since that's a date I have personal, family, printed-on-paper marriage certificates on, if my own family is a random enough sample), is that 99.9% of them were wives, in traditional marriages, that belonged to and attended church, and typically attended with husband and children as a family.
Yes, they worked on farms and were share croppers and all of this, but they very much adhered to traditional values and family structures. And those values, AND legitimized marital and family units, were of great importance generation after generation!
I really thank you for the photos you utilized 🧡 So many of us have these types of photos within our lives -the weddings, cotillions, graduations...- and they are beautiful in our individual possessions, but they never get the opportunity to be presented "en masse" to illustrate the culture as a population. Thank you for doing that.
I'm glad you enjoyed the video! 😊 Thanks for sharing your story, I really loved hearing this! 🥰 It's pretty much spot on. I plan on making another video on *why* marriage and family has gone down in the modern Black community today. Stay tuned! 👍
I believe there have been wives and home makers since the days of Eve and Adam
Not only the progressive movement, but also the Welfare that rewards women for being single moms so as not to lose their Welfare check. That was our family situation growing up and we're Puerto Rican. That meant boyfriends yes, a stable husband and father figure: no. And I suffered a lot because of it.
Yes! That's true as well unfortunately. 😔 I'll discuss more on the "welfare situation" in the next video on the topic. 👍
I ablosolutly agree. It's sad to learn that 30 years of welfare did more damage to black families than 400 years of slavery.
@triclopsgamer5934 Self-sufficiency is a lost cause nowadays. 👍 😔
Didn't the housing projects in the 70's contribute to beginning of most of the fatherless homes in the black community? I'm a black homemaker and homemaking became difficult for us after a while because of black men's ability to sufficiently provide for a family. Most black women had no other choice but to leave the home as well to provide for their children. Stepping away from Godly standards as far as marriage, courting, and child rearing has also contributed to why most of the community is in shambles with these things. We are of west African lineage; broken homes are not apart of our natural heritage, so this behavior is abnormal.
Correct! Yes, stepping away from God's principles will certainly create disorder in the family unit. 💔 I'll discuss more about this in the next video of the topic 👍
This video is everything. I loved the pictures of these beautiful families. Thank you for the narration. It was educational. You really compiled a nice “documentary” here. Gosh bless you!
Aw! I'm so glad you enjoyed it. Thanks for watching! 😊😊
I’m so happy for the family that you and your husband have created. God bless your family
✝️
Thanks so much! 🥰
You sound like you've studied history. Be careful, facts can upset people. Do you read Thomas Sowell?
I've heard the name "Thomas Sowell" but I'm not too familiar. With a change of heart by Christ led me to relearn the truth about history! 🙏 So much of American history is rewritten and manipulated. 👍 Thanks for watching 😊
@@LifeWithBerylanneYou'd like Thomas Sowell. He's taught the same history you talk about in this video for decades. I definitely recommend any videos of him or books written by him. God Bless.
I'll add Sowell to my list of videos to watch! Thanks for the suggestion too 👍
Have the CHANCE to be housewives? My love, please understand that there were plenty of wealthy Black people here in the "United States". WE are the indigenous people here. Also the real jews. Black was here first, MOTHER of all. "In the beginning there was darkness" is a stretch for a newbie to come to terms with but once you realize the Bible is to be decoded and not taken as religion, you will see. What they used for bad and control, our ancestors gave a road map, as they always did historically. WE knew how to build, farm, and civilize Villages and towns. This is still most evident today as far as building and farming goes..its natural to us. As far as civilization goes...look up the Black Moors. Wyte people knew none of that, Black people civilized white people all around from showing them how to take baths, teaching them to walk upright, how to use utensils all the way down the timeline to how to design and structure their own cities. There was just a time in history where Black (indigenous) people should have kept their wisdom to themselves because you see the wyte man turned on them. Picture the Pocahontas movie but Black skin. Another thing is that the Europeans raped the Black indigenous thus creating the half and half looking "Indians" youve seen in history. Sickening in itself but they went on to lie and say that these were the only people here when they "landed"..this was to hide "Black history". Many wyte Europeans came here because they were convicts and prisoners over there. THATS who came on boats.
Slavery didn't come about as history says. Our people EVENTUALLY needed work because a new currency system was set in place by the asians...WE'VE always used the bartering system in our communities...what worth was paper, silver or gold...those were RESOURCES and medicine (depending on how it was used). When other countries started pouring into our territories, things got real. Basically the SAME thing going on now. GENTRIFICATION...Slavery came as a trick to overwork US indigenous people because we KNEW how to farm when they didnt and that brought them money...they took our homes and land then another group of tricksters within the same klan (family) turned and "offered" us places to stay in exchange for working and helping grow the farm....YES some "owners/masters" were cruel just like some supervisors, CEOS and managers are cruel today. Black/indigenous people werent the only ones working on the farms and fields. ALSO, please look up how many "slaves" unalived their "masters" and their families for mistreatment! 😂 Rootwork included...thats why the slave Bible mentions that we shouldnt do witchcraft or astrology...they KNEW it was our superpower 😂 A clue there! Lol. Its not evil at all. Its protection against cruelty. They use witchcraft all day...look at American symbolism...they took our power to use for themselves, told us it was bad and gave us the Bible and the Law! It is beyond dumb for anyone to think that it was more of them than it was of the "masters" and believe that ALL thst time it was beating and overworking loll. THINK about it. What group of wyte people would survive trying to bring HUNDREDS of big, strong Black people to "America" on a BOAT 😂😂😂 Wyte people have whitewashed history so much to drive illusions of superiority. Look at the govt system today...its just that the poor (not wealthy) white people are looped into the modern day work mill (Slave mill) also so no one sees the govt as what it really is. Division keeps the citizens ignorant and weak. Do you know what a Birth Certificate really is, do you know if collecting taxes is legal or not 😂😂😂 Girl please take a journey for yourself and THEN Report back to the people. You won't have time to edit and record once you start digging. And Google is cool if you look in the right place but you will have to probably travel to different places to gather documents and records and things like that to pull the SOLID truth together. Girl, please surround yourself with REAL LIFE wealthy Black people who came from a healthy, wealthy lineage. They are tucked in the South, happy, quiet and minding their business 😂 & a lot of them are in Illinois..out of the way.
The chance to be a housewife?! Lol. It wasn't glorified and idk why women glorify it now. Staying home with the kids is what you are supposed to do. You shouldn't want your kids raised by anyone else but you. If women are single and they need to get out and work then they deserve the UTMOST respect because they take care of the entire WORLD of their family and it doesn't seem easy. I'm married but I stay home when I want and I work when I want. I have a career so what I do doesn't feel like work and it brings in good COIN. My hubby doesn't ask me for anything so I save mostly, invest and then take care of HIM when he wants to take off work for months at a time. Even when I need a break during times that I choose not to work, he still cleans or cooks with a smile because we built a household together. Real man. It pays to be a real woman overall...no one is stressed out and we don't have to restrict ourselves from anything. At the same time, we know our limits and boundaries when it comes to dishing out finances if it is making other people rich. We don't buy crazy expensive things...quality, yes. Either way....Black people are low key the BOMB, the Black wombman is God (patriarchal religion comes from 'slave masters') and the media has been making us look whatever way they want so that our truth is hidden from those who don't feel and seek. You have neuromelanin...lots of it from your skin tone. Use it...its not just a scientific or medical term. Certain types of wyte people will be pissy mad about this information and try to deter you so if you allow that then good luck living in the way THEY intended for you. We are living abundantly and unbothered over what wyte HIStory and media has to say about us over here 😂😂 never let anyone make you feel bad for changing as you learn and grow more. Just because you KNOW who you are as a neuromelanated person with DEA vs DNA doesn't mean that you are anti-wyte. They will try to hit you with that too. Keep pushing, you deserve to know the truth. Your life is worth living as you care truly called to live. Hopefully your husband loves you as the Bible instructs him in 1 Corinthians and supports you 100% on the journey of learning who you are as a Neuromelanted woman..it may be uncomfortable at times as you uncover the truth but just ask him to stand beside you and support as YOU sort through it all yourself. This journey should NOT break up any interracial marriage unless there is negative influences...your husband should know that you are NOT blaming him for anything. There will be anger that comes up but find another person on the journey to vent to. Not your hubby lol. It's just fair, lol. Understanding that there will be ups and downs on this journey is key but there is no way he will ever fully understand the depth of it so thats why venting to him may cause problems that youd never imagine... its best that he is just ready to love on you at the end of the day, make your favorite dessert, give you booty rubs 😂, and always ask questions about your mood vs assuming if he needs to. Yall will get through it ❤