Came home and found my husband in bed with another woman. The "light bulb" went off in my head. I told him it was okay. I suddenly realized I no longer loved him. I had already been planning on leaving him but I was pregnant and afraid. When I saw that woman in the bed it gave me the courage to start packing and walk out. He expected me to yell and cry. When I did not he started to cry. He said he was deeply sorry he had hurt me so badly. I felt nothing for him. I responded "I'm glad you found someone because I am done". I moved to another state and started a whole new life. A few years later I met someone who treated me like a queen. My second husband and I remained married and in love for 30 years until he died of cancer. Trust God - not mankind.
TRUTH‼️ I told my ex husband before we divorced I sat down & calmly explained to him….if u keep on with your foolishness u gone end up a VISTOR with a call before u come to my house if I’m at home knocking on what use to be your own front door real talk heed my warning advice to u conversation….but obviously he chose the ex files so oh well 😂
Everyone is in formation. The movers are an hour away from pulling up, the locksmith is 2 hours away. Her brothers are already in the driveway securing the area. Her friends are holding steady, ready to roll the cameras. His big momma's on speed dial in case he wants to show dominance in exactly ONE hour!!!
This happened to me once and I said the same thing. I had prayed about it asking for peace of mind. I had my suspicions and then he reluctantly confirmed them. I had not cheated and I had nobody waiting. Even though I was heartbroken, I walked away. He was more afraid of me in my calm state then I think he would've been had I lashed out. I had never thought about getting back at him. I just prayed and asked God to take care of it. There are some women who aren't petty.
Amen! I’m sorry that happened to you, but you’ll be blessed for being the bigger person, even if it just comes in the form of internal peace, which is a huge blessing in and of itself!
You're right that everyone doesn't plot revenge. Some people know how to just cut someone off and walk away. We all know this channel is meant to make us laugh though, so the comments reflect that.
Women dont cheat better , men just keep they mouth shut to keep the access. I been around my brother Dope boys and business men. once women know u run your mouth they make sure it's known and they stop messing with you. Get with the game Bro
Why do so many people (including Shuler) think she has someone else? When you've been dealing with a lying SOB, the last thing you want to do is get up under another one. You chill by yourself for a bit and enjoy the peace.
Nah that chill by yourself mess is what got all these single church women sitting up there lonely 20 years later, after they’ve been done wrong. My aunt said God made the world in 6 days and rested on the 7th, she said take a week and get it out your system and get back out there. Life is too short to be miserable. Plus these men move on quickly and don’t be sitting alone single forever.
@queenprincess4life why would u assume somebody lonely just because they don't wanna lay up under some fool and enjoy their peace. Just because you can't function without being in a relationship doesn't mean others can't. YOU may be a lonely person who accepts crap for the sake of saying you have some1 but that doesn't apply to all women
1. That female intuition already checked her gut 2. She has text messages, call logs and pics 3. She has already met and had a whole convo w said side chick 4. She has already made arrangements for her new spot, new phone number and new life 5. “I ain’t even sorry, Charlie”
@@lindaburgundy5301 It's alot of black women will let that ride by leaving with their pride and power knowing that alone gone kill him for the rest of his life. You only cut up when you give a damn.
"Conscious- Acceptance" is a flowing State of being. She has accepted you are who you are, and your actions no longer leave her stuck in your 🐂💩 with you. Her new furniture has probably already been delivered to her new place. 😅
Yes ma'am women can compartmentalize very well so when you think you slick and cheating hasn't been detected...you will be the one shocked, hurt and in disbelief. She has had her life setup and left while you were at work telling the boys how cool she was about it.
Some men are so arrogant... Why do women always have to wreck house afterwards or have a dude on the side for some men to believe we can be calm and accepting in a situation? How about... and this is crazy, I know... we truly are emotionally done with you after we learn you cheated on us? I left my ex (who didn't even cheat on me) and the first thing he asked was "is it because of someone else??" Nevermind all the blow-ups we had had over the years, nevermind that particular argument where he laughed at me crying, nevermind his total lack of support for me eating just a LITTLE bit healthier, or exercising, or studying for my degree, or saving money, or having friends. Nevermind me having to act as his chauffeur while I'm also going to work and school, because he finally got a job like I demanded but refused to get a car until I threatened to kick him out. The only thing HE thought when I finally asked for a divorce was that I got someone else. There was no one else waiting to take his place. I was simply that tired of his shenanigans.
It never fails to amaze or entertain me when men cheat and get all in their feelings if and when a woman does it! They've even got the nerve to be angry when you don't trust them!
•She either cheatin’ herself •She just using him or •She don’t even like him. Chile it could mean one of the three but that’s a relationship no one should’ve invested time in 🤣
My husband made his confession and I said the same thing! He’s so concerned I didn’t blow up he’s not sleeping. Matter of fact he’s getting the best treatment of his life. Have I cheated? Nope. Just seeing him sweat worrying what I’m doing is enough payback 😂. He put tracking devices in my car , purse and God knows where else 😂. I’m always present and accounted for. His blood pressure is skyrocketing cause he’s a mess wondering why? How? I never brought it up again. I wake up at night and he’s staring at me sleeping. It’s so hilarious.
Don't get caught up in thinking that he's not thinking. He could hurt you because, he's feelings some kinda way. It's never hilarious when you wake to someone watching you sleep. Be careful. IJS
My ex burst out in tears one night and told me that he cheated. I was quiet for a second because I was trying to come up with a reaction to show I was upset. I hope that I was convincing, because I really didn't care. I left that relationship long before he told me that. I didn't cheat, but I was over it.
Many possibilities, thinking of two: 1. Sleep with one eye open, she already knew and she's playing chess with your brain. She knows full well you expect her to go off the rails but no, she knows her being "cool" about it will kill you inside. Imma say this, this type of woman is scary dangerous... 2. She really couldn't care less because she already has someone for herself.
Or 3.... Shes accepted that he doesn’t care about her and she’s done with his trifflin ways. She has turned numb to the hurt. When a woman stops crying and yelling and turns quiet and doesn’t fight about it anymore that means she quit caring about him and has accepted that she deserves better. He’s played her for the last time and she’s decided it has nothing to do with her and everything to do with him. When she use to yell, cry, scream and try to talk about it then one day she just stops you know her “ give a darn” is broke. Men, when she stops responding with her emotions and stops fighting and just walks away, yeah, you should be very afraid. Just know it takes a lot for a woman to reach this point. Somewhere along the way he broke something inside her. When someone shows you they don’t really respect you at all then you have to be at peace knowing you tried but you ain’t gonna be sloppy seconds. She has been enlightened to the fact that real love don’t do that. It’s a beautiful thing when God gives you that kind of peace. Just knowing he’s baffled by her response, questioning her motive and expecting retaliation is the best revenge. She’s stopped fighting for him to care for her. She’s DONE.
That means she already prayed for God to remove you and for YOU to find someone else. She dont need a replacement, baby. She asked for peace in her household. No other man is required for that. The narrative that all women need a replacement is false. That's society that thinks that. Some get tired and need a mental break for a while.
We don't always have someone else lined up. I was over by my ex's house when I found evidence he was cheating, he wasn't home. He went on an errand using my car so I was stuck there until he got back. When he got back I confronted him about it. He denied it at first but then finally admitted it. I said ok calmly. Told him I gotta go right now. He begged me to stay. Told him it was over but he insisted to call me later to talk about it. I agreed since he wouldn't let me leave. He called later and told him it was over. In the months that followed, he tried to get back but I never budged, the trust was gone. You made your bed now you gotta lie in it.
Its the calm before the storm. The tremor before the quake. When you think everything has settled down youre about to get a gut punch that will make you rethink life.
She has moved on, even if it isn't physically. I reacted the same way when my ex husband told me his extracurricular activities. I had already known by intuition, was in the process of filing for divorce, and getting the hell on.
That means she’s at peace with your trifling ways. That means she’s learned to love herself enough to not let you define who she is. She’s learned to love herself enough to know that she doesn’t deserve second best and the crumbs you offer ain’t sustainable anymore. She’s past crying. She’s past caring. Yeah, he should be worried.
As a woman I'm not the type to yell and scream at a man as if he's my son and I'm disciplining him. The relationship would simply be over. There is no cursing out or trying to teach him a lesson, or trying to get back at him to hurt his feelings. It would be me moving on with my life because he doesn't love or respect me and/or our relationship and there is nothing I can do to change that. So I could see myself having a seemingly mild reaction. I wouldn't use the words "It's cool" though. lol
This happened to a friend of mine. She'd told me that a guy who liked her kept telling her what he'd do if he had a chance with her. She was married and trying to hold on and resist cause she loved her hubby, but I could tell she liked the other guy. She was a Good Church going but not holier than though young lady. Baby, as soon as she caught her husband of 12 years cheating, actually saw it, she had no problem going to the other guy. She and her husband were both serving and well known in the church. She had remarried now and seem to be living their best lives. She left him, changed careers, and still attends the same church.
When Shuler said she already had a chosen one in mind, I lost it. I was in a bad relationship and I had a gut feeling that he was cheating. You damn right I had a pre-selected chosen one on standby; a man like that is like having money in your savings account or 401K; hope you don't need it but nice to have it available when you do.
That means that she already knew, had already broken up with him emotionally, and now with confirmation that they can physically break up, she can move on to the man she has prepared to be next in line. 👋🏾
Lmfao that mean she already knew before he told her and she got something up her sleeve. She bouta hurt his feelings now...probably been cheating on him back when she first found out before he even confessed it to her.
1.She already knew. We always know in our gut when a man is cheating even if we don’t confront you. 2. She left the relationship emotionally 6 months before he told her and probably has a side dude. Women always leave a man emotionally before we leave physically. That’s why she was so calm. 3. She’s planning her exit strategy and she’s just letting him think it’s cool so he won’t bother her while she’s saving up for the security deposit on her new place. 🤷🏽♀️
When women getting older they are more concerned about the kids bills and house. It’s enough for a man to smile and say hello. To keep tripping over the same thing is not smart. That’s why she ain’t pressed. Weather he is dead or alive , your behaviors shouldn’t be because of other folks actions. SHE ALREADY KNEW.
I've been there. I honestly didn't care. I checked out and didn't know how to say it. I didn't have anyone lined up. I moved back home and put my life back together.
That means she already knew,or at least suspected that he was cheating on her,and now she's about to go buck wild with no regrets or guilt whatsoever! In other words "it's on till the break of dawn!"
My neighbors used to always fight and one night I woke up to hear them fighting and he had locked her out of the house. I heard her say “You f*****d with the wrong person Jerome!”. I said “ Oh s***” and got up and replaced the batteries in my smoke detectors. 😳
She straight took his power. He expected a scene and she gave him serene. He will never understand her reaction and he knows that it does not bode well for him. Works everytime.
Nah, as a woman, it means she don't give af. She is leaving and that's all. Nobody got time for bleach on the clothes, busting out windows, bleach in the cool-aid, sugar in the gas tank, aint nobody got time for that. Who got time be screaming, yelling, crying, you all emotional, blood pressure up cmon man...why waste time on individuals who are not going to elevate you to your higher purpose...why?
This happened to me once when I responded like this. He got mad as hell about my reaction. I truly didn't care any longer. Definitely was planning my exit long before.
My son is 14 and I have already explained to him when a woman says it's cold, it's alright or okay in a very calm tone..it's a problem for him..its cool cus she doin her too and he pays the cellphone🤣..guys always think they so special..we know when a guy is fully into us verses...giving us "time".🤭
Sooo he cheated and told her something she pretty much already knew, but her reaction got him startled🤷🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️the unmitigated gall of some men 🙄🙄. Dude just gon back to whomever you cheated with because bro you bet yo ass she is no longer your woman 💯 SMDH
She was already gone where it counts...her heart and her mind. The both of these things together. Women leave a relationship emotionally before they leave it physically. When a woman questions and argues with you, she still cares. It's when she goes silent that you know you've lost her.
It means you about need Therapy. Physical, mentally, and maybe even occupational and speech therapy. You may need to make sure your life insurance is in good standing. However, Mr. King is speaking my exact thoughts.
People know when they are being mistreated, whatever form the mistreatment takes. Those that stay expect their compromise to pay dividends and that is not always monetary. Vacate having been truthful or proceed with caution knowing that hurt people hurt people.
That calm before the storm will get you every time. When I'm quiet and I don't look angry, thats the time to pack your things and go. That storm when it hits is like a Tsunami of anger that's going to wash away your entire life.
She found out and was waiting on him to confess, she tired and fed up with the bullshit, now she about to live her best life, might as well say ok and go back to the other girl sir, it's a wrap.
OMG, this literally just happened to me 😭 he said he cheated and I said coo, it's all good!! Only thing I ment was, good bye, Period 🙄 be gone, and I don't gaf... Sometimes it's just that simple, I don't wish him any ill nothing, just stay TF away from me ☺️
Hes going to be at work, at the card table, at the gas station, over his momma house, at the grocery store thinking all day about where she at, why she hadnt called lately, and why she gets home calm, relaxed and too tired to cook.
She has already emotionally moved on from him and/or she already has plenty of receipts on what he’s been doing to state her case in a court of law and bounce.
Cheating is such a common thing that I've come to expect it, so I've had this reaction myself numerous times. No point in getting all worked up about it, there's nothing that can be done because it's happened already. When I do get an admission or confirmation, I simply just walk away. I'm not going to waste energy better spent elsewhere.
The fact that he asked, "tf that mean" tells me he's already worried. 🤣
She got his mind playing tricks on him... (Like the Ghetto Boys)
LMAOOOO That ass is NERVOUS
Yup! 😂😂😂
Yep, and that's a good start!
I know right🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🙄🥺🥺
Came home and found my husband in bed with another woman. The "light bulb" went off in my head. I told him it was okay. I suddenly realized I no longer loved him. I had already been planning on leaving him but I was pregnant and afraid. When I saw that woman in the bed it gave me the courage to start packing and walk out. He expected me to yell and cry. When I did not he started to cry. He said he was deeply sorry he had hurt me so badly. I felt nothing for him. I responded "I'm glad you found someone because I am done". I moved to another state and started a whole new life. A few years later I met someone who treated me like a queen. My second husband and I remained married and in love for 30 years until he died of cancer. Trust God - not mankind.
Amen.
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@Denise E Dodson,you better tell it girl!!! Preachhhhhh
#BiggernBetterBlessings
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Aww I’m sry for your loss tho!!
That's what God does. So sorry for your loss.
When a woman is calm about something she should be upset by, you better brace yourself! 💯🤷🏽♀️
Agreed!
Especially if she's a Aries ♈
🔥🔥🔥🔥 and Brimstone
Oh yeah
Hmm hmmmm. A hurricane and tornado are coming mixed together.
"The CIA ain't got sh-t on a woman with a plan."
Correct!
SURE DONT
Two can play that game! 😂😅
Two can play that game!😂😅
'SHO AIN'T 😂😂😂
A mentor of mine says that a woman can make your food, keep your house and EVICT you from her heart. This dude BEEN evicted!
TRUTH‼️ I told my ex husband before we divorced I sat down & calmly explained to him….if u keep on with your foolishness u gone end up a VISTOR with a call before u come to my house if I’m at home knocking on what use to be your own front door real talk heed my warning advice to u conversation….but obviously he chose the ex files so oh well 😂
When I no longer argue with you, it literally means there is nothing left to fight for and mentally I'm already gone.
Checked Out Months Ago
Exactly 💯
Right
Just waiting on confirmation. We just wanted you to tell the truth.
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She was waiting for him to say it out loud so she can proceed accordingly. Her girls are in formation and everything.
It’s showtime 🤡💀
Everyone is in formation. The movers are an hour away from pulling up, the locksmith is 2 hours away. Her brothers are already in the driveway securing the area. Her friends are holding steady, ready to roll the cameras. His big momma's on speed dial in case he wants to show dominance in exactly ONE hour!!!
I am just waiting on the TikTok show.
Facts! Sir just leave. Cause if I say that...... I'm about to take yo azz through it.
preach on it! 🤣🤣
When you hear those words
especially from a black woman,
know that it’s definitely not cool.
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It means you're going to die
The shade, tho. 🤔😂😂.
That's Not true
That means sleep with one eye open or you better not close your eyes in here presence 🤣
Not cool is right hell he better pack his stuff and leave it's about to get ugly 🤣🤣🤣
He just became the most insignificant blip in her universe. Mentally and emotionally, she's already light years away.
She no longer requires your services. Your severance pay is this garbage bag to put your belongings into. Good Day.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣!!!
This happened to me once and I said the same thing. I had prayed about it asking for peace of mind. I had my suspicions and then he reluctantly confirmed them. I had not cheated and I had nobody waiting. Even though I was heartbroken, I walked away. He was more afraid of me in my calm state then I think he would've been had I lashed out. I had never thought about getting back at him. I just prayed and asked God to take care of it. There are some women who aren't petty.
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Amen! I’m sorry that happened to you, but you’ll be blessed for being the bigger person, even if it just comes in the form of internal peace, which is a huge blessing in and of itself!
You're right that everyone doesn't plot revenge. Some people know how to just cut someone off and walk away. We all know this channel is meant to make us laugh though, so the comments reflect that.
Solid response.
@@TheeAntisocialXxtrovert Exactly!!! I dont do drama. I come in peace and leave in peace. You either want to be with me or you dont. 😉
Just remember that if you can do it, she's gonna do it better.
Amen😊
Facts!
Women dont cheat better , men just keep they mouth shut to keep the access. I been around my brother Dope boys and business men. once women know u run your mouth they make sure it's known and they stop messing with you. Get with the game Bro
Now that I believe!
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Ah hell, she ain't even mad. That means she's already left and he just don't know it yet
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Exactly
EXACTLY!!!!!
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Instead of bye Felicia….it’s bye Fred. Just don’t care.
Bye Felix
@@DanetteShumpert"Felix" 💀🤣🤣🤣😭
Why do so many people (including Shuler) think she has someone else? When you've been dealing with a lying SOB, the last thing you want to do is get up under another one. You chill by yourself for a bit and enjoy the peace.
Nah that chill by yourself mess is what got all these single church women sitting up there lonely 20 years later, after they’ve been done wrong. My aunt said God made the world in 6 days and rested on the 7th, she said take a week and get it out your system and get back out there. Life is too short to be miserable. Plus these men move on quickly and don’t be sitting alone single forever.
Say it! When you're fed up, you don't have to have someone waiting in the wings..you're just done with his sorry a**!
@queenprincess4life why would u assume somebody lonely just because they don't wanna lay up under some fool and enjoy their peace. Just because you can't function without being in a relationship doesn't mean others can't. YOU may be a lonely person who accepts crap for the sake of saying you have some1 but that doesn't apply to all women
Because he’s a man and they think it’s someone else rather than Women will be alone rather than deal w someone’s BS .
So don’t get under another one. Go find a man that got his ducks in a row.
1. That female intuition already checked her gut
2. She has text messages, call logs and pics
3. She has already met and had a whole convo w said side chick
4. She has already made arrangements for her new spot, new phone number and new life
5. “I ain’t even sorry, Charlie”
All that!!!!🤯🤯🤯🤯
You better speak it.💯
I was a professional mover when he’s at work. 😂😂😂 I never hesitated.
😂😂🤣🤣😂😂🤣🤣
EXACTLY!!
Facts 💯
That’s means she was already planning to leave. It doesn’t matter anymore.
Don't ever think that va black woman is going to let that ride watch your back
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RRRIIIIGGGHHTT! She probably was already mentally checked out of the relationship
@@lindaburgundy5301 It's alot of black women will let that ride by leaving with their pride and power knowing that alone gone kill him for the rest of his life. You only cut up when you give a damn.
"Conscious- Acceptance" is a flowing State of being. She has accepted you are who you are, and your actions no longer leave her stuck in your 🐂💩 with you. Her new furniture has probably already been delivered to her new place. 😅
Already! I did that. Lol Got my own spot 8 months now and love it.
Amen
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When a person becomes numb to toxicity….. brace yourself.
Yup. There's def something wrong.
Hell hath no fury like….
She finally received the golden ticket she had been waiting for..am out of here! thank you very much💃💃..
if he's smart he'll leave her right after that conversation lol
She left a long time ago in her heart.
Yes ma'am women can compartmentalize very well so when you think you slick and cheating hasn't been detected...you will be the one shocked, hurt and in disbelief.
She has had her life setup and left while you were at work telling the boys how cool she was about it.
Exactly 💯
Yep
When a woman says “it’s cool” these are the truest opposite words ever said.
💯💯💯✅ LOL!!!!!
Best comment on here
Hehe!
Dont'cha know 💯💯
🤣🤣💩🤷🏾♀️ Joe@ 😩🤣🤣Wussy Juice getting ready to start flying everywhere
I say, don’t ever eat at home ever again! Just tell her you ate already and you ain’t hungry!
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Lol
"Oh so you not hungry"/ "where you get food from?"
It's cool tho
Don't eeen worry about it
😐🤨😑🤦🏽♀️watch out
Some men are so arrogant... Why do women always have to wreck house afterwards or have a dude on the side for some men to believe we can be calm and accepting in a situation? How about... and this is crazy, I know... we truly are emotionally done with you after we learn you cheated on us?
I left my ex (who didn't even cheat on me) and the first thing he asked was "is it because of someone else??"
Nevermind all the blow-ups we had had over the years, nevermind that particular argument where he laughed at me crying, nevermind his total lack of support for me eating just a LITTLE bit healthier, or exercising, or studying for my degree, or saving money, or having friends. Nevermind me having to act as his chauffeur while I'm also going to work and school, because he finally got a job like I demanded but refused to get a car until I threatened to kick him out. The only thing HE thought when I finally asked for a divorce was that I got someone else.
There was no one else waiting to take his place. I was simply that tired of his shenanigans.
I agree. It’s not about having another person. It’s about just being sick and tired of the BS.
It’s called: The “calm” before the “STORM”and there isn’t a raincoat big enough for his a*s when it hits him🤣
That means she knew he cheated before he did 😂😂😂😂😂
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it could mean either:
she already knew
she is cheating herself
she was just waiting for a reason to leave you
Possibly all 3 🤔😂
Great points.
@@larondabillups9322 damn! 💀
The last one hitting on something
@@larondabillups9322 thank you
It never fails to amaze or entertain me when men cheat and get all in their feelings if and when a woman does it! They've even got the nerve to be angry when you don't trust them!
I asked a man "why do you get mad when you know you're lying". He said you get mad because you can't convinced her to believe what your saying . smh
Chii the audacity they have lol
I mean period 💅🏾
Angry when you no longer trust is such manipulation🤦♀️
The whole nerve! Like ninja you was having whole dates without me👀👀
It is true, when a Woman is fed up, you could cry her a river and she will not care. If she gets quiet, then she is done.
"If you think your lonely now, wait untill tonight" Bobby Womack
You better know it! 😂
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If she ever says she going to the hardware store RUN… she about to get all the supplies she needs to show you how Alright she is 😭😂
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🤣🤣🤣 Lawd in heaven, he ain’t worth it!!!
•She either cheatin’ herself •She just using him or •She don’t even like him. Chile it could mean one of the three but that’s a relationship no one should’ve invested time in 🤣
My thoughts exactly lol
Right. These people relationships are messy.
right lol
Exactly
exactly. does he have money? or is she used to him playing games and is over it?
When a woman says this in a calm manner then you better just stay far gone from her😂😂
My husband made his confession and I said the same thing! He’s so concerned I didn’t blow up he’s not sleeping. Matter of fact he’s getting the best treatment of his life. Have I cheated? Nope. Just seeing him sweat worrying what I’m doing is enough payback 😂. He put tracking devices in my car , purse and God knows where else 😂. I’m always present and accounted for. His blood pressure is skyrocketing cause he’s a mess wondering why? How? I never brought it up again. I wake up at night and he’s staring at me sleeping. It’s so hilarious.
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The best payback
Child, you’re making him squirm. 🤣
You are my hero.
Don't get caught up in thinking that he's not thinking. He could hurt you because, he's feelings some kinda way. It's never hilarious when you wake to someone watching you sleep. Be careful. IJS
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My ex burst out in tears one night and told me that he cheated. I was quiet for a second because I was trying to come up with a reaction to show I was upset. I hope that I was convincing, because I really didn't care. I left that relationship long before he told me that. I didn't cheat, but I was over it.
You are a keeper.
So if u didn't care why u stay with someone who u didn't care about? leave y'all need to stop it with the mind games
She tell you it’s “COOL” You can Guarantee yep she knew and doing her thang!!
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Many possibilities, thinking of two:
1. Sleep with one eye open, she already knew and she's playing chess with your brain. She knows full well you expect her to go off the rails but no, she knows her being "cool" about it will kill you inside. Imma say this, this type of woman is scary dangerous...
2. She really couldn't care less because she already has someone for herself.
I say 2. Lol
Danger!!! 😂😂😂
There Ya go!
Or 3.... Shes accepted that he doesn’t care about her and she’s done with his trifflin ways. She has turned numb to the hurt. When a woman stops crying and yelling and turns quiet and doesn’t fight about it anymore that means she quit caring about him and has accepted that she deserves better. He’s played her for the last time and she’s decided it has nothing to do with her and everything to do with him. When she use to yell, cry, scream and try to talk about it then one day she just stops you know her “ give a darn” is broke. Men, when she stops responding with her emotions and stops fighting and just walks away, yeah, you should be very afraid. Just know it takes a lot for a woman to reach this point. Somewhere along the way he broke something inside her. When someone shows you they don’t really respect you at all then you have to be at peace knowing you tried but you ain’t gonna be sloppy seconds. She has been enlightened to the fact that real love don’t do that. It’s a beautiful thing when God gives you that kind of peace. Just knowing he’s baffled by her response, questioning her motive and expecting retaliation is the best revenge. She’s stopped fighting for him to care for her. She’s DONE.
@@melissajkrebbs like i said, many possibilities, and yours is another one. Best put, nuff said.
She in a whole other relationship my boy 💪🏾don’t stress about it now
ha!!😜
that is hilarious😂😂
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She don’t even remember your name: “Okay, we met where? And when was this…?”
that's good then both sides can go in peace
That means she already prayed for God to remove you and for YOU to find someone else. She dont need a replacement, baby. She asked for peace in her household. No other man is required for that. The narrative that all women need a replacement is false. That's society that thinks that. Some get tired and need a mental break for a while.
We don't always have someone else lined up. I was over by my ex's house when I found evidence he was cheating, he wasn't home. He went on an errand using my car so I was stuck there until he got back. When he got back I confronted him about it. He denied it at first but then finally admitted it. I said ok calmly. Told him I gotta go right now. He begged me to stay. Told him it was over but he insisted to call me later to talk about it. I agreed since he wouldn't let me leave. He called later and told him it was over. In the months that followed, he tried to get back but I never budged, the trust was gone. You made your bed now you gotta lie in it.
Its the calm before the storm. The tremor before the quake. When you think everything has settled down youre about to get a gut punch that will make you rethink life.
True! Lol!
B.O.O.M just like that. Women are incredible and very intuitive.
BOOM!!!!!POW!!!! 🤣
Well put
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It’s said the wife is the last to know. NO! They are the first to know
Always, that’s when the gaslighting starts!
That means she was contemplating leaving you anyway and now she finally has a good reason...😁
This is so true
She has moved on, even if it isn't physically. I reacted the same way when my ex husband told me his extracurricular activities. I had already known by intuition, was in the process of filing for divorce, and getting the hell on.
That means she’s at peace with your trifling ways. That means she’s learned to love herself enough to not let you define who she is. She’s learned to love herself enough to know that she doesn’t deserve second best and the crumbs you offer ain’t sustainable anymore. She’s past crying. She’s past caring. Yeah, he should be worried.
Well said!!!!
She is about to remodel the house 💰 💰 💰 you'd better call Tyrone
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CAP
What if he wants to stay with the side chick?
It means that you already paid for cheating in advance, you're paying, or you're about to pay. Shalom, my brother.🥺
Uh-huh. That means, “NEXT!”
Why are you worried about him though? He's about to get what he deserves and the world will be balanced again.
Funny thing is there are people out there cheating and get pissed off when they hear you are cheating too. Wtf 🤣.
As a woman I'm not the type to yell and scream at a man as if he's my son and I'm disciplining him. The relationship would simply be over. There is no cursing out or trying to teach him a lesson, or trying to get back at him to hurt his feelings. It would be me moving on with my life because he doesn't love or respect me and/or our relationship and there is nothing I can do to change that. So I could see myself having a seemingly mild reaction. I wouldn't use the words "It's cool" though. lol
Right, why expend any extra energy, its not worth it. Just disappear like a ghost from his life and move on.
My sentiments exactly.
She paid that woman to take him off her HANDS.
@@lizyahbethyahsraela3034 LOL
@@lizyahbethyahsraela3034 Damn 😆
This happened to a friend of mine. She'd told me that a guy who liked her kept telling her what he'd do if he had a chance with her. She was married and trying to hold on and resist cause she loved her hubby, but I could tell she liked the other guy. She was a Good Church going but not holier than though young lady. Baby, as soon as she caught her husband of 12 years cheating, actually saw it, she had no problem going to the other guy. She and her husband were both serving and well known in the church. She had remarried now and seem to be living their best lives. She left him, changed careers, and still attends the same church.
When Shuler said she already had a chosen one in mind, I lost it. I was in a bad relationship and I had a gut feeling that he was cheating. You damn right I had a pre-selected chosen one on standby; a man like that is like having money in your savings account or 401K; hope you don't need it but nice to have it available when you do.
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That means that she already knew, had already broken up with him emotionally, and now with confirmation that they can physically break up, she can move on to the man she has prepared to be next in line. 👋🏾
In that order...Holla!
Period sis we too old we no longer fighting the side chick we not calling or texting them we just going to leave homeboy on the spot nice and calmly 🤣
Lmfao that mean she already knew before he told her and she got something up her sleeve. She bouta hurt his feelings now...probably been cheating on him back when she first found out before he even confessed it to her.
1.She already knew. We always know in our gut when a man is cheating even if we don’t confront you.
2. She left the relationship emotionally 6 months before he told her and probably has a side dude. Women always leave a man emotionally before we leave physically. That’s why she was so calm.
3. She’s planning her exit strategy and she’s just letting him think it’s cool so he won’t bother her while she’s saving up for the security deposit on her new place.
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Exactly lol we been knew wassup and been working on the exit strategy for months. 😆
When women getting older they are more concerned about the kids bills and house. It’s enough for a man to smile and say hello. To keep tripping over the same thing is not smart. That’s why she ain’t pressed. Weather he is dead or alive , your behaviors shouldn’t be because of other folks actions. SHE ALREADY KNEW.
Yes, we always know
That part. We got to unravel ❤😂
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I didnt have anyone waiting in the wings when he acted the fool. I just went on ahead about my business and I couldn't be happier 😂❤🎉
I've been there. I honestly didn't care. I checked out and didn't know how to say it. I didn't have anyone lined up. I moved back home and put my life back together.
Translation: "I got'cho ass."
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That's it, that's all 🤷🏾
Grab a passport, if you can. Run for the border, Chico.🏃🏾♀️ 🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️
Nah it means:
Come get anything you may have left at my place, you got till 5pm I gotta cook before BIG DADDY get home 😅🤣😂🤪
She gonna bust the windows out your car,
pour the hot grits,
and everything in between.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
In the words of The Rev Al Green, "Love And Happiness". Take that for what it is/was in his case.
His credit is done.
Nope. She will do nothing that would make her catch a charge. Your life will be destroyed in silence and she will observe from afar.
@@PopsieLouisiana59 make you come home early; make you stay out all night long!
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He's an afterthought. Backup plan has been activated. Auxiliary plan is on standby.
💀Yes, She Grieved That Relationship Already. It Is Basically On Life Support. She's About To Pull The Plug. I Kinda Had An Experience Like This.
There will be no applications filled out, and no interviews given. That position has already been filled, dude! 😂
That means she already knew,or at least suspected that he was cheating on her,and now she's about to go buck wild with no regrets or guilt whatsoever! In other words "it's on till the break of dawn!"
It means she's gonna burn everything you own.
😂😂😂😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Like Angela Bassett did in Waiting to Exhale. LOL!!!!!! And then sale what wasn’t burned.
Not the Lisa "Left Eye" Lopes approach. 😉🔥
My neighbors used to always fight and one night I woke up to hear them fighting and he had locked her out of the house. I heard her say “You f*****d with the wrong person Jerome!”. I said “ Oh s***” and got up and replaced the batteries in my smoke detectors. 😳
@@tangyjoe4326 😂😂😂😂
When a woman says “That’s ok honey”,when it comes to cheating. It means ITS DEFINITELY NOT OK. AND WE DO THINGS 100%. Lol.
She straight took his power. He expected a scene and she gave him serene. He will never understand her reaction and he knows that it does not bode well for him. Works everytime.
“Already been chosen….” FACTS!!!!!🙀
Run. It means run.
….like the wind! Shoot! Be the wind and go far, far away!
Definitely look both ways before he make any moves.
When you hear those words, you better worry about it!
That means she either has someone already lined up....or she got her another man already😆🤣
She wants the brother to be unhinged for a while. He don't know where she is coming from.
Nah, as a woman, it means she don't give af. She is leaving and that's all. Nobody got time for bleach on the clothes, busting out windows, bleach in the cool-aid, sugar in the gas tank, aint nobody got time for that. Who got time be screaming, yelling, crying, you all emotional, blood pressure up cmon man...why waste time on individuals who are not going to elevate you to your higher
purpose...why?
Pulling doors off of hinges!
This happened to me once when I responded like this. He got mad as hell about my reaction. I truly didn't care any longer. Definitely was planning my exit long before.
My son is 14 and I have already explained to him when a woman says it's cold, it's alright or okay in a very calm tone..it's a problem for him..its cool cus she doin her too and he pays the cellphone🤣..guys always think they so special..we know when a guy is fully into us verses...giving us "time".🤭
Or, she say "it's cool" means you should not go to sleep tonight, at least not at home.
Sooo he cheated and told her something she pretty much already knew, but her reaction got him startled🤷🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️the unmitigated gall of some men 🙄🙄. Dude just gon back to whomever you cheated with because bro you bet yo ass she is no longer your woman 💯 SMDH
She was already gone where it counts...her heart and her mind. The both of these things together. Women leave a relationship emotionally before they leave it physically. When a woman questions and argues with you, she still cares. It's when she goes silent that you know you've lost her.
she then started singing in her Jazmine Sullivan voice "Don't forget to pick up all of your ooh ooh feelings; don't leave no pieces!!!
It means you about need Therapy. Physical, mentally, and maybe even occupational and speech therapy. You may need to make sure your life insurance is in good standing. However, Mr. King is speaking my exact thoughts.
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People know when they are being mistreated, whatever form the mistreatment takes. Those that stay expect their compromise to pay dividends and that is not always monetary. Vacate having been truthful or proceed with caution knowing that hurt people hurt people.
You are 💯 % right about that! People DO know when they are being mistreated no matter what form it takes!
So excellently put, I 100% agree.
That mean sleep with one eye open, cook your own meals, watch your back, and check your brakes. 🤣🤣
This is me all day every day. I'm not raising my voice and I'm not fighting in the street but that bee sting gon hurt.
That calm before the storm will get you every time. When I'm quiet and I don't look angry, thats the time to pack your things and go. That storm when it hits is like a Tsunami of anger that's going to wash away your entire life.
She found out and was waiting on him to confess, she tired and fed up with the bullshit, now she about to live her best life, might as well say ok and go back to the other girl sir, it's a wrap.
That's me right now lol
@@prettybrown209 sorry that happened to you, go do you sis
That means she already had another dude on the side so she ain't mad at all. She good 🤣🤣
"A Thin Line Between Love and Hate".
OMG, this literally just happened to me 😭 he said he cheated and I said coo, it's all good!! Only thing I ment was, good bye, Period 🙄 be gone, and I don't gaf... Sometimes it's just that simple, I don't wish him any ill nothing, just stay TF away from me ☺️
This!!!🙌🏾💯❤
She is about to show him how its DONE! He better have on his big boy pants.
You might even know him 🤣🤣 back up plan was already in play tf he thought
My ex didn't understand either. After 7 years of cheating with people I knew, he was surprised when I said you do you...sad..
Did you decide to leave him?
@@jones4262 ..he left me...lol couldn't take the heat.
@@inita228 Thank you for replying. Was he the type to be mad if you decided to do the same?
@@jones4262 of course.
Ok three reasons she's so calm. (1) She's is cheating as well. (2) She's leaving him. (3) She has a replacement already.
4) she was so hurt and in shock that she didn't even know where to begin, so she just decided it was a waste of time and not even worth it.🤷🏾♀
4 she's done
That's so true! Not only that she's leaving but she already has someone else in the the line 😂😂😂
As Teddy Pendergast said “Look like another TKO!”
Hes going to be at work, at the card table, at the gas station, over his momma house, at the grocery store thinking all day about where she at, why she hadnt called lately, and why she gets home calm, relaxed and too tired to cook.
Him*dropping everything running home*, oh goodness say it ain't so!
It means you Betta call Tyrone 🤣🤣🤣🤣
🎵Call him 🎵
@@icametomakecupcakes71 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Every word Shuler said was so true..😂😂😂😂😂😂
SPIT THAT TRUTH SHULER KING 👏👏👏💯💯💯
This seems like a “took you long enough” situation. 😂🤣😂🤣😂
She has already emotionally moved on from him and/or she already has plenty of receipts on what he’s been doing to state her case in a court of law and bounce.
Cheating is such a common thing that I've come to expect it, so I've had this reaction myself numerous times. No point in getting all worked up about it, there's nothing that can be done because it's happened already. When I do get an admission or confirmation, I simply just walk away. I'm not going to waste energy better spent elsewhere.
That's the truth ❤
I'm a woman and approve Shuler's opinion 👏👏👏👏
Okay take his players card because buddy you’re out of the game on soooooo many levels!☠️ R. I.P
Lmao 🤣🤭🤣🤭🤣🤭🤣🤭