I feel like taking responsibility for putting up with being treated this way is almost more important in the healing process than knowing we have been done wrong. Thank you for making your videos uncle Kenny. It’s 2 way street and it’s easy to just point fingers and stay bitter and hurt but owning up to our own part is more important.
It’s hard to swallow but I’m grateful for the light being shone on this blind spot in myself. It is hard to restrain ones self from over giving, over caring, it’s a reflex that goes deep. I had no idea it was a survival mechanism picked up in childhood. I thought I was being a good Christian to-balance out the evil in this world and overcompensate for all that I thought I lacked. Good luck to us all as we open our eyes.
I always get insights when listening to you. Not only that I recognize these traits in my family members but how I too, carry some of this baggage. Thank you for sharing yourself with us. I appreciate a therapist who doesn’t feel they are judging others, and can recognize their own human needs and difficulties.
I almost dated a falsely empowered man. He's always the best person in the room ya know. I saw through that, and pray for him. We've been friends so long..just cannot work in a romantic relationship
Kenny! I discovered you on RUclips last week and I have been getting so much out of this video that I want to continue learning from you. I don’t want to share all the details but I have codependency and love addiction issues and my spouse has narcissistic traits and love avoidance issues. 😂 talk about fun times. We have 2 children and (4 yr old and 11 month old). I almost went through an emotional break recently but keeping myself strong and fortunately things are better. I struggle with needing things to be organized not perfectly but enough so I don’t feel as stressed as a parent. So, this weekend while my husband and girls are out of town, I am using time to organize, deep clean and binge watch self help videos! Thanks 🙏
What I also love about you is your accountability and awareness! That’s how I like to examine my story…looking at my responsibility in past issues so I can be a better version of me.
This is what happens when are abused as a child. You just never grow up. I see my kids going through the stages necessary to get to personal responsibility.
I f-ing love you, lol, I’m crazy, too! I’m very smart, got my degree in Behavioral Sciences, and the worst at taking my own advice. Thank you so much for sharing your personal experience with the content of your videos.
Kenny! You are doing great! I just stumbled on your channel today. Ive gone no contact with my whole family system about 3 weeks ago. I am 62 and here I am learning what I sensed all my life was abuse. Crazy! I like your topics. You have tools that I believe will be helpful for me to heal and change- become a better version of me. ( Sorry, I didnt quote that phrase) I spilled coffee on my keyboard... didnt notice it affected that particular key). I hear you 100%. Thanks for reaffirming truth.
Where have you been my whole life….just found you!! I’m on my journey to taking my power back and you’re helping me recognise patterns that I’ve accepted but I can now change. Thank you so much, love your work ❤
The falsely empowered lack boundaries of by ignoring that they are limited, when they cannot go any further into escapism, when they are too disconnected, etc.
It seems I choose sides in different kind of situations. Learned to take the "best" side at any moment but thats the abandonment letting in again I guess 😐
@kenny Kenny, you handsome devil! Hope all is well with you. I’ve started to date again and am wondering if you have any subtle questions that I can ask dates to determine if they have under/overpowered codependent behaviour or if they have balance? Would be a cool video too. Thanks for all you do. Matt
The narcissist boyfriend doesn’t know how to be a man either. Dominating girls. Please, not a fair fight. He was six feet one raging at me and I’m only five foot two and 105lbs! A man should be a gentleman always to a woman🐰
Falsely empowered sound like a lot of musicians and entertainers. And the other kind is their staff. The narcissists are their managers, and the CEO of the record label is a psycho.
Hey, Kenny, what do you do with others demands, gaslighting, controlling? I am pretty good with yellow or gray rock, but then a higher frequency of it gets to me, frustrated and upset with self. It feels trapping, ok, you'll say you trapped yourself, less self love, too people pleasing. I accept many folks, boundaries don't work with all friends in our group. I say no and the ex still hammers me over controlling a party in my house he was invited too due to a good friend of both. I think after that no invites. Too bad. Big cost for him. I don't need a response from the ex. He is very annoying, passive agressive, sarcastic, demeaning, others join in gaslighting to be included, just like family.. Ugh! Great talk. Back on track, but how to stay on track? If I was grandiose, it might help. I hate gaslighting. You are right on, I think exactly like you, I always thought he is codependent and I am too, just a different breed.
I feel like taking responsibility for putting up with being treated this way is almost more important in the healing process than knowing we have been done wrong. Thank you for making your videos uncle Kenny. It’s 2 way street and it’s easy to just point fingers and stay bitter and hurt but owning up to our own part is more important.
It’s hard to swallow but I’m grateful for the light being shone on this blind spot in myself. It is hard to restrain ones self from over giving, over caring, it’s a reflex that goes deep. I had no idea it was a survival mechanism picked up in childhood. I thought I was being a good Christian to-balance out the evil in this world and overcompensate for all that I thought I lacked. Good luck to us all as we open our eyes.
I always get insights when listening to you. Not only that I recognize these traits in my family members but how I too, carry some of this baggage. Thank you for sharing yourself with us. I appreciate a therapist who doesn’t feel they are judging others, and can recognize their own human needs and difficulties.
You are my top influencer for this topic because you take responsibility. That is how you win
I'm about 1/3 way through thinking of Jim Carrey in Liar,Liar. He's in the bathroom..... "I'm kicking my own ass!"
Perfectly said 👏
I almost dated a falsely empowered man. He's always the best person in the room ya know. I saw through that, and pray for him. We've been friends so long..just cannot work in a romantic relationship
that was one of my patterns in childhood, so when people are like that, I know it would not be good for me to be around
It's good to find someone to not only romantically but to help you on your issues. I've been single for 12 yrs now.
Kenny! I discovered you on RUclips last week and I have been getting so much out of this video that I want to continue learning from you. I don’t want to share all the details but I have codependency and love addiction issues and my spouse has narcissistic traits and love avoidance issues. 😂 talk about fun times. We have 2 children and (4 yr old and 11 month old). I almost went through an emotional break recently but keeping myself strong and fortunately things are better. I struggle with needing things to be organized not perfectly but enough so I don’t feel as stressed as a parent. So, this weekend while my husband and girls are out of town, I am using time to organize, deep clean and binge watch self help videos! Thanks 🙏
What I also love about you is your accountability and awareness! That’s how I like to examine my story…looking at my responsibility in past issues so I can be a better version of me.
I hope you stay strong and calm. Not easy 100% of the time with it going on...
This is what happens when are abused as a child. You just never grow up. I see my kids going through the stages necessary to get to personal responsibility.
I f-ing love you, lol, I’m crazy, too! I’m very smart, got my degree in Behavioral Sciences, and the worst at taking my own advice. Thank you so much for sharing your personal experience with the content of your videos.
Congratulations
Kenny! You are doing great! I just stumbled on your channel today. Ive gone no contact with my whole family system about 3 weeks ago. I am 62 and here I am learning what I sensed all my life was abuse. Crazy! I like your topics. You have tools that I believe will be helpful for me to heal and change- become a better version of me. ( Sorry, I didnt quote that phrase) I spilled coffee on my keyboard... didnt notice it affected that particular key). I hear you 100%. Thanks for reaffirming truth.
Kenny! Thank you, wow! The way you explain this?! I see myself so clear now and understand why I am who I am today. I am so glad I found you.
You are so welcome
Where have you been my whole life….just found you!! I’m on my journey to taking my power back and you’re helping me recognise patterns that I’ve accepted but I can now change. Thank you so much, love your work ❤
The falsely empowered lack boundaries of by ignoring that they are limited, when they cannot go any further into escapism, when they are too disconnected, etc.
Love your honesty Kenny
Really good info! I could relate to so much of this
Glad it was helpful!
Great info. Wish it was shorter or broken into smaller segments.
Have to take responsibility you are so right Kenny
It seems I choose sides in different kind of situations. Learned to take the "best" side at any moment but thats the abandonment letting in again I guess 😐
Kenny your brutal honesty is just delightful and extremely powerful.. thank you.
I just love you and what you share ! Thank you so much !
You are so welcome!
@kenny Kenny, you handsome devil! Hope all is well with you.
I’ve started to date again and am wondering if you have any subtle questions that I can ask dates to determine if they have under/overpowered codependent behaviour or if they have balance?
Would be a cool video too.
Thanks for all you do.
Matt
It's true, he is handsome guy, I wouldn't put it that way. But it makes me smile.
Thank you for this information…. This describes my exhusband and ex boyfriend……. Overt and covert narcissist…… Why do I still love and miss them?
So how do you tell the the difference between a narcissist and the falsely empowered, before you get to know them? Can a person be both?
I have videos on that you just have to go to my playlist
The narcissist boyfriend doesn’t know how to be a man either. Dominating girls. Please, not a fair fight. He was six feet one raging at me and I’m only five foot two and 105lbs! A man should be a gentleman always to a woman🐰
Falsely empowered sound like a lot of musicians and entertainers.
And the other kind is their staff.
The narcissists are their managers, and the CEO of the record label is a psycho.
@cori You know it!
Hey, Kenny, what do you do with others demands, gaslighting, controlling? I am pretty good with yellow or gray rock, but then a higher frequency of it gets to me, frustrated and upset with self. It feels trapping, ok, you'll say you trapped yourself, less self love, too people pleasing. I accept many folks, boundaries don't work with all friends in our group. I say no and the ex still hammers me over controlling a party in my house he was invited too due to a good friend of both. I think after that no invites. Too bad. Big cost for him. I don't need a response from the ex. He is very annoying, passive agressive, sarcastic, demeaning, others join in gaslighting to be included, just like family.. Ugh! Great talk. Back on track, but how to stay on track? If I was grandiose, it might help. I hate gaslighting. You are right on, I think exactly like you, I always thought he is codependent and I am too, just a different breed.
Your home is beautiful. Good explanation
Can your books 📚 be purchased in stores or only on line 🤔?
I think mostly online. Amazon is the easiest
You are so on point
Thanks 😊 Kenny
I see myself as a little bit of both.
🤜🏻💥🤛🏻🤝🏻🤝🏻🤝🏻 100% 🫡 great segment. Love your videos. They are always incredibly informative and insightful. 🥂 God bless and have a blessed Christmas.
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