Thank you so much for watching! You can find Diana's Friendship Workshop here: www.biblestudy.co/friend-workshop Also, feel free to leave any new twin questions here, too! - We love you and hope you have a great weekend! - Dawn
Oh I have empathy tears in my eyes for the hurt I can see on your face, Dawn. I'm so sorry you had such startling changes in your friends. This interview somehow made me decide to join. It is easy to feel shame and "what's wrong with me" rather than do something about it!
I have been watching you two for years now, and you know what my very favorite thing is about you being twins? When you two start laughing together!! I love the sound of it so much and imagine you must have been crazy adorable as giggling toddlers!! With much love and appreciation. 💕💕💕
I am old - turning 74 next month - and I was married to my best friend for over 47 years. When he passed away in 2017, I discovered how I had many acquaintances, yet no real friendships. The loneliness is awful, especially over weekends. Now, I am fortunate in that the Lord has blessed me with talents and skills - I still work as a professional calligrapher, graphic designer and artist, and I still have a fine singing voice and also play the piano. I am very involved with my retirement community where I live, yet I do not really have friends. Oh, folk are friendly, and I regularly try to make a gentle connection with folk where I live, but at our age, it is less likely to happen. There ARE some very dear folk who obviously care about my welfare - we all go to functions and attend our chapel services together - but a have not found the kind of connection with another person like I had with my late husband....maybe it is simply different, because we loved each other so dearly?
Funny story - I started watching Minimal Mom about 4 years ago and one day Dawn was filming in her kitchen with this other lady. I thought to myself "I don't know who this is but they have to be sisters because this other lady looks just like Dawn." Hahaha
You two crack me up! My sister is 13 months and 17 days younger than me, but many people think we are fraternal twins because we were so alike (personality, style choices, our voices). We even had "twin speech" when we were younger. Sister power....BFF's for life.
My best friend of 25 years died almost 2 years ago. She was my boss when I was in college. We discovered that both of our moms died when we each were 13. That opened an understanding of each other like twins. She was loyal and kind and fun. She was my emergency contact! I have other friends but she was my person. I notice that I’ve been really reserved with friends since she died. That bond was once in a lifetime and I was blessed!
I had a few close friend pass away since 2020. None died of Covid but other illnesses. Haven't really found a "replacement" for any of them but I'm doing ok. ❤ So sorry for your loss!!!
I have that friend as well. In fact, I consider that she is my one and only true friend. We met at age 4 and are no in our early 60's and just recently lost our mothers. I'm so sorry for your loss.
I went to school with a set of identical twins. No one could tell them apart. I realized one always wore t-shirts and one always wore button-up shirts. Whenever I passed them in the hall, I could easily say, “Hi Mike!” or “Hi Chris!” They were amazed I could tell them apart so easily. I never told them how I knew 😂
Love you ladies ! Thank you for being my RUclips friends!! You mean so much to me. Anyone local to you would be SO blessed to have either one of you as a friend ! Love , Liz
When my twin brothers were born in the late 50’s, the dr told my parents they were fraternal twins. They looked identical, people always had trouble telling them apart, and they constantly had to answer the question or statement “you all are identical, right?”. They both worked for the same large company and the mixup continued. When they were in their early 60’s a few years ago, they decided to have DNA testing. Result: identical!
I think this is why I love my smaller church. It's easier to plug in and get to know each other well. Coming from a very broken, dysfunctional family and then marrying into one, I don't know what I'd do without my church family.
Yes, a small church is what I'd prefer. Until they freeze you out, and we essentially get kicked out. I still don't have a great community. But we've rebuilt with some new connections.
Dawn, Please know that when I began watching your channel about 5 years ago, I IMMEDIATELY felt a connection with you!!! You got me through an extremely rough season in my life...twice.❤❤ Then, as Diana began appearing on your channel, and then you did episodes together weekly, I connected with her so strongly, too! It is like I am an equal combination of you and Diana! My family teases me because even though we have never met in person, I continually say, " My friend, Dawn." When you sent an email to me as part of your membership group, I thought is though I was getting an email from a celebrity, but equally from a great friend! You have been on my mind so strongly to email again. You and Diana have both enriched my life in innumerable ways, and though we live hours apart and have never met in person, when you were having an event at a thrift store once, I tried so much to be able to travel in order to be there. You are a friend to the world!! I understand that you need a close tribe in your life, as Dr John Delony mentions often, and if I lived closer, I would want to be a part of that circle as it would be such an honor. Dawn, you are beautiful inside and out! As I was watching your back to school video the other day, I was thinking to myself how well you interact with your kids...... just another one of your amazing qualities to show the world!: a way to inspire all of us to be better parents Diana, I feel the same about you. I am the talker like you!! Pregnancy looked wonderful on you, but you are rocking postpartum! You look radiant! Please share your secrets! ❤ I love both of you, my friends!!!
My best friend ,Colleen, died at 52. It's been 11 years and I still struggle. I have other friends but she was everywhere in my past. I love my current friends, but it's just not the same. If you have a best friend, give them a hug and tell them how much they mean to you.
I’m the mother of 38-year-old fraternal twin guys. I love this question and answer video! Your twin experiences are so similar to my sons’ experiences. I’m especially amazed at their ability to carry on conversations in half sentences where only they know what they are talking about. 😊 They have been such a double blessing in our lives, and I can tell you two have been a double blessing in your parents’ lives as well!
I've often thought the same thing. As long as that twin is a person that you get along with (I've heard some really don't at all). I was thinking while watching this video, one of the nicest things about having a twin that you get along with would be just being able to 100% be yourself, because that other person has known you from day one, so you know that person knows everything about you and yet likes you. What a wonderful thing that would be.
I was burned pretty bad by my best friend of 10 years. It just turned into a toxic relationship so I decided to end the friendship (yes, i talked to her about it) and it STILL took me 5 years of grieving the loss, even though I'm the one that ended the friendship 😢 Dawn, I live in Texas, my husband's a mechanical engineer, we do Fostering and we travel to Mexico once a year and do kind deeds... We would totally be besties! 🤍 I wish for your heart to heal soon. Sending you much love! ❣️
My twin brother, Charles, and I both weighed over 8 pounds, and we were born at home. Our Mom had a midwife, and her doctor came to our house to check and weigh us. Back in 1946, doctors made house calls and home births were more common. A funny story happened at one of my high school class reunions when my classmate Sharon asked me if Charles and I were identical twins! She was the valedictorian of our class. I had to explain to her that identical twins have to be the same sex. She said, "Oh, is that right!" That's not the only time I was asked that same question! Ha. 😊
Failed friendships are so devastating but sometimes it's God's way of protecting us from people who might have been a bad influence or who might have distracted us too much from the things the Lord wants us to be focusing on. I've had multiple relationships crumble since becoming a mom 6 years ago and I can see now the negative influence those people had on my life, even if they were wonderful godly women.
The loneliness is so real! My husband is a retired police officer. The Law Enforcement life does not grow friendships. Now that we are empty nesters, we both work from home and true friendships are so rare.
Sometimes, me and my best friend of 40 years don't communicate for months... mostly because we've lived in different countries at various times. But as soon as we connect, it's the same as always. I make her belly-laugh and she doesn't judge my bad choices or try to change me. I love her and she loves me... it's as simple as that. Now that I have cancer, she checks in more often. But even if I don't hear from her for a few weeks, I know it's because she has a very busy life, not because she doesn't care. And I'm lucky enough to be married to (my other) best friend, so I don't get lonely.
1.8??? Wow 😮 I am 59 & still friends with my childhood friends. After living in Florida for my first 50 years, I moved to Montana. I now have some new amazing friends, but stay in close touch with the ones I grew up with. Last year I helped give hospice care to my childhood best friend. 💔 I love & cherish all my friends!!! ❤
Thanks. I'm a twin too and your answers were pretty right on. Love my sis. I would say I'm the lonelier one . She always reached out to her friends. I had husband's friends their wives. But with C19 and political difference they have gone away. I feel your frustration. Love watching you two. Twins ROCK. blessing
My mom didn’t know she was having twins either! We were born in August 1982. My sister was born and then the doctor says to my mom I think there’s another one in there (that was me) and my mom said another what? lol I’m sure it was a shocking moment!
A deep friendship which hurts us is worse than the physical death of a dear friend. I have experienced both. 'People are doing the best they can at this particular time in their lives' is my mantra. The experiences have made me cautious in friendships & yes, somewhat lonelier.
I’ve realized that there are seasonal friends and life long friends. When a seasonal friendship ends it isn’t because anyone did anything wrong, the friendship has just run its course. Because I moved so much most of my friendships have been seasonal. I am ok with that, maybe we were friends largely because we were neighbors and our kids were in the same scout troop. After one of us moved we now lead different lives and that is ok that the friendship withers and we lose touch. I am probably older than your parents. I am starting to lose friends to death. While I miss those people, I don’t want to live in a vacuum, and I am not trying to replace irreplaceable friendships, but I have learned to put myself out there and make new friends. Most of these friendships will be seasonal but that is okay, because some of them may last the rest of our lives there is no way to know. For me trying new activities is the way to go. Physical activities, volunteering and special interest groups are ways I meet people and if we naturally click great, if we don’t I enjoyed a new activity. Once a friendship starts to develop, I don’t rely solely on electronic communication I put effort into face to face communications, depending on the person it may be a couple of times a week or only once every few months, but we spend time together as we are able. I had to laugh about not finding friends where you expect them. My best friend is a devout Catholic, I call myself her “heathen” friend as I belong to no religion. My sil and I are about as far apart politically as it is possible to be but we are building a friendship despite our differences.
I realize I am replying to,y own post but I want to add that I am an introvert who is naturally shy. But I can put myself out there in an activity and usually I meet someone with whom I can become at least casual friends, if it develops beyond that great, if it doesn’t it wasn’t meant to be.
I was just talking about how awesome my mom had it when she was a younger mother. She had a group of friends and they would get together at each other‘s house have coffee cake, and coffee and the children would play and the moms would visit. And they would rotate houses who wanted to host this week. It happened at least weekly. What a great time in history.
That can still be a reality for us today! We've just become too busy and a lot of moms work. Back in the day I think it was more common for mothers to stay at home with their children which is why they could get together more often.
My daughter has several friends like that. But. YES, she is a stay at home mom. My DIL works full time. Her kids are in school / daycare sometimes up to 11 hours a day. It breaks my heart. The girls are so tired and so clingy. But they are 5 yrs, 3 yrs, and 20 months old and have been in day care since 8 months. So hard on the kids. And the parents. Then the parents are on their phones trying to get their "me" time and connect with friends in the evenings when the kids have so little time with them.
This was so great! I had tears at the end when Dawn said thank you to Diana, waterworks! My sister is 2 years younger than me and just moved to another country on the other side of the world. We are super close and I feel a bit lost now. Questioning life! Ugh! With time I’m sure I’ll be fine! Love you guys 🩵🩷💙
Dawn , I can see the pain in your eyes and I totally feel the same way! I think I had one really close friend who would do anything for me but as soon as I moved to another neighborhood where I wasn’t the person that she could just pop in on her way everywhere she went. She totally stopped interacting and trying to be my friend… It really hurts! I tried to rekindle by bringing Christmas gifts but nothing… She doesn’t hate me! She says very nice things on Facebook… But she prefers friends that are in her circle of influence meeting at her church and Rite in her neighborhood.I would love to have a real friend that I could actually hang out with and do things with ... I’m praying for you. I’m praying for me.❤
Before I knew Dawn has twin, I use to tell my husband, that I found my twin on RUclips. Everything Dawn said just resonated with me so much and there are so many similarities between Dawn and me I couldn't belive it. Sending you greetings from Poland.
I find that people don’t take friendships seriously and don’t put effort in unless it’s convenient and they’re not too distracted. And I agree empathy in texting is lacking!
What you were saying about not conveying emotion in text messages, I was saying that about e-mail 25 years ago. I was seeing issues between my sisters (I’m the youngest of 6 girls and one boy) and I knew that this was an issue! I’m not surprised AT ALL that this is affecting friendships in regards to texting. I totally believe that COVID took a toll on our mental health and even our desire to pursue friendships. Some people are just figuring it out sooner than others. Great pursuit, ladies!!
Maybe it was on this channel that I commented before about this…But I am a pastor/missionary wife and that has been one of the toughest things for me…to not have real friends. It just never worked…even with other missionary wives. But Jesus is my best Friend and that‘s my comfort.
My closest friends don’t live in the same state as I do but we keep in close touch with each other. However, I do not have any good friends where I live. I get along with everyone but I don’t have any close friends that live by me. But, God is bringing new friends into my life which I am so grateful for. It is just hard to be on my own. I am married and have an almost 17 year old daughter still at home (thankfully). And while they are great, it is still not the same as having a good girl friend. I have always told my kids, “All you need is one good friend to get through life” and that is so true!
What about influencer friends? I truly believe that my youtubers are my friends, meeting specific needs I have when I need them. I know it's different than having reciprocal relationships but it works with my schedule and other commitments. Dawn, like what others said here, I feel that we could truly be friends. I appreciate how genuine and good-sensical you are and each time you say "I love you" at the end of your videos its a shot straight to my heart that I feel deeply. Much love to the both of you.
Oohhh Dawn and Dianna I wish we lived closer. I think we could really be great friends!! Well we could still be good friends!!! Dawn I would love to just walk and talk!!! I know exactly what you are saying, I get so tired of being the one EVERY single time to call or text. Then when I quit the friendship just dwindles. So I see how it does happen so easily. Love you girls!! Have a great day!!
One of my favourite books is about a 'quieter twin' and when she and her sister are for the first time seperated for a longer time she realises that people have some really wrong assumptions about her because of her sister always taking center stage. She never felt left out but people assumed that the talkier sister had all the good ideas and did all the work around their projects. Through this she learned to take a little more place in life. So interesting to see that you two had a similar experience, I guess this author is as good as I think! As to sleeping together, our youngest daughters, two years apart, had really hard to sleep through the night until we put them together at ages 1 and 3 and then they slept really well. And they were very close throughout childhood. We are too fast at seperating both siblings and our children from ourselves nowadays, it creates loneliness, I believe.
Diana, when you talked about Cora and her being the most talkative, I remember you talking recently about your words. You said, “I have so many words that are still in me” I died laughing
I enjoyed this so much. I think Covid tore many friendships apart as well as politics today. I made a special point to keep my friends despite our differing opinions but many just cannot accept people who don’t think exactly like them. God bless you both. You are positive influences ❤
Oh, Dawn and Diana! I noticed while I was home schooling our four kids, I was so engrossed in caring for them that I did not have friends I could hang out with. Now that season is over and God is bringing friends from the past back into my life.
Thank you so much for mentioning how hard and traumatizing it can be to be totally ghosted by friends. And how it is hard not to ruminate. You are both very wise. Thank you for sharing a little about your experience Dawn.
Not just the technical age we live in, but health challenges isolate many of us too. It's why I started my decluttering journey 19 months ago, to make my 4 walls so much easier to stare at. Boy has it ever. While I spend 95% of my time in these 4 walls, at least with less clutter, I have energy to start some new hobbies and revisit from old ones.
As for going off on your own little tangents when with your mom, that might not be indicative of just twins. It happens in my family with my siblings, too. Growing up together, we have our own inside jokes that mom doesn't get.
Childhood experiences are so powerful, whether good or bad! When I was about 10 I had a “friend” who was very on and off with our friendship. For years afterwards, I was so quick to assume people didn’t like me. If someone said they were too busy to meet up, I’d assume it was an excuse because they didn’t want to see me etc etc. When I realised that my insecurities went back to a bad friendship when I was a child, I was able to see my adult friendships in a much more realistic way. Lives are busy and people forget to reply etc, but I don’t take it personally anymore. I’m so grateful for the friendships I have now.
I've been ghosted by two close friends (different reasons) but the same feeling of 'what is wrong with me?' came out. It took me years to finally be able to grieve the losses of those friendships. I have a close friend now, but I feel like I am so careful with who I let in because I don't want to be hurt again. It was so much easier when we were kids to make friends.
I love this episode about identical twins. My identical twin brothers are 13 months younger than me (we are practically triplets) and I have seen it all growing up (we are now in our 60's). To me, my brothers don't even look alike even from their birth photos, but I have known them since birth. I was born August 1956 and my brothers were born October 1957 and my mom did not know until they were born that she was having twins (no ultrasounds in the 1950s and her OB/Gyn was chiding her for getting so much bigger than when she was pregnant with me and she swore up and down she was eating no more than before and he could not fall all over himself apologizing to her once my brothers arrived). I have had the joy of them all through life and I consider it one of the biggest blessings of my life. They are each other's very best friends and I am in that circle with them - their names are Bob and Brian and it occurs to me that their names start with the same letter the way Dawn and Diana's do. Twins are a real treasure.
I have three sets of twin nephews-one identical, one fraternal but they look so similar that it takes a while for people to learn to tell them apart, and one fraternal and they barely even look like brothers-and I can confirm these are the questions. Twins are fun. :-)
❤ My mum didn't know she was having us twins. Mum said it was just as well as she would have worried. I was born 1st weighing 5 lb 10 oz & my sister 2nd weighing 6 lb 1 oz. I was small & was given the shorter name & my sister the longer name. Yes we did have our own language. I was braver & louder back then but now my sister to me is the mommy figure (& is a mom) & is more sensible than I. We emotionally support & help each other. We fell out once as children and cried as we couldn't stand not being friends. When my sister was expecting her son I had the worst period pains ever. We had our own wedding days. We are our own best friends. x
I'm a twin mom. Twin daughters who have given us 7 grands. Enjoyed this twin talk. I also can identify with your friendship conversation. God bless you both.
I am so blessed I have many friends and family I am close too I have different groups sometimes it is hard to keep up with them all but I think what helps me is I volunteer for different things ie. farmers market, Main Street, high hope cafe at Hamlin church I also help with my own church’s outreach program the adult center you name it now I meet these people for coffee, bible study, lunch with previous coworkers breakfast, movies concerts I am a joiner to library events community center too our little town Lawrenceburg Indiana it has a lot to offer I have been very outgoing off my life but I am so glad we moved right before I retired now I am a widow and have had so much love and support as I have been living through this time of greif
I am definitely in the same situation (experiencing disappointment with friendships/ loneliness). I feel so fortunate to have a twin. My experience is that most twins are closer than other siblings. My sister will be my forever friend.
Love this. I have two sets of twins one are identical, I can tell you guys apart, it's probably because I have my own twins and can pick up the differences. I can tell the boys from their faces. And both sets have had their own languages when they were little.
What you said about how friendships die is so true. Been there. What does it say when a close friend just doesn't seem to think you are with the time anymore. Hurts. I meant to sign up yesterday but had to go find my credit card 😏 I need to sign up.
I love both of your RUclips channels and I love it when you are together! I’m the grandmother of mirror twins, they are so much fun! From the day they were born they have to be touching each other when they are sleeping.
This was so reassuring! Having identical (we think) 13 year old twin girls, I often worry that they don't enjoy their twin-ness or won't get along as adults! I hope they are as close as you both when they are grown!
I have to stop the video and just say, hearing you too laugh that cute infectious laugh together - well, I want it as my ringtone! It brightened my day ❤❤
I''ll be your friend! On the topic of making friends, here in Sweden it takes about 10 years... So if you move around you will be a bit lonely. I had a few years where I thought that I might not be good with female groups, but then we moved to Spain for a winter season and I made friends with the best group of parents in just a couple of weeks. These days I try to be patient, clear of distractions and value the opportunity if someone comes along. But also accept that friendships are a bit hard here and it's fine.
You were talking about friendships and how easy to just send a text message. I had been thinking that I would text my friends and let them know I was praying for travel mercies as they travel to a family funeral. I decided to call and pray with them instead. I’m so glad that I did! Thank you for sharing!
Dawn - you are my friend, you just don't know it. The first time I watched your channel, I thought to myself - she must be a Christian, and I'm so glad you have a Godly perspective on life that you share. You got me through covid and a nervous breakdown and loosing all my friendships. I'm single and my daughter has moved out since graduating. I'd love to meet you one day - or your family are welcome to stay at my home in London if you ever decide to visit the UK and do a tour!!!! I did pray and think I'd done everything wrong - but now I realise God has a plan and a purpose and I always hold onto Diana saying once "God puts the lonely in families" (I've noted down the verse).
Re: Friendships... Just like you always say, Dawn, Is it serving me in this season of life? Friendships change, people change, seasons change. Sometimes the people who have *been* with us are not going in the same direction and don't continue on with us down the timeline. Deep breath, God has you. Not being flippant, but just encouraging you not to blame yourself...
Hello there! I can’t thank you both for all of the help you have given me … and we have never met🥰taking care of disabled parents for over 20 years I have watched my friends drift away…but others that surprised me drifted in with great understanding…but still taking care of children, parents, grandparents, elderly friends and my husband’s practice life was very lonely…when I came across Dawn’s videos (I would watch while I exercised during my parent’s nap time)… I was hooked! I really like to keep things clean and picked up, it just always helped me … if my children would bring things into the house they knew they needed to donate something out…it was just good practice…and of course they had to write thank you notes 🥰well I could go on and on but just wanted to thank you both as my father recently went to Heaven and I find a different layer of loss and watching your videos continue to help me in so many ways … have a blessed weekend…I did sign up for the friendship course 😊💗thank you all around ~Angela (why my account has my Dad’s name on it we do not know🥰)
I would love it if you two would put your pictures up when you were children and THEN after a moment, put your names by each of you. I’m always trying to figure out who’s who in the pictures, because you do look different to me as adults, but I never know if I’m right. This would be so fun!! Great video, ladies! Thank you!
My sister (younger by 3 years) does the talking in our mutual friend group. When she's not there my friends have commented on how much more I talk when I'm without her. I'd never noticed or cared. I am the support for her stream of conversation😅
Friend-Making Workshop is the best workshop I’ve ever heard of 😍 Your passions go together so well. Being mindful and minimal gives you space for what is important. And what is more important than relationships?! While holding deep friendship can bring fulfillment and allows a release of your material possessions. Thank you for sharing your lives with all of us out here.
We have twin granddaughters that are not identical but they certainly look so much alike. I have to really study them but in my defense they live a distance from us so don’t get to see them as much as we’d like. They are beautiful of course. 💚💚
I have lost all of my friends as an adult, too, and I have wondered what it is about me that has made it happen. I've devoted myself so much to my kids and grew up in a unique situation, so I think that may have something to do with it. As to twinning, I'm curious to know if there are any Indian traditions or beliefs related to being a twin. Thanks for sharing ladies!
Love your podcast and times together! I could really relate to friendship thing. I finished working as a teacher after a terrible car accident …neck and back injuries about 14 years ago and now at almost 64 my friends are really all church friends and especially those with young families! We love being grandparent figures and being accepted as we are! We have a married son but they are still studying at this point in married life and someday they may have a family. But we are not going to waste these years we are enjoying grand parenting even if they aren’t ours. ❤😊
Our children, numbers six and seven, are identical twin boys. It is so much fun! We deal with all of these same questions. Our twins get along very, very well.
Having close friends has been priceless in my life. We have a group of friends we see almost weekly. We are all going camping together on labor day weekend. Looking so forward to all the laughs, boat rides, good food, game time and just hanging out. :)
This is so good! I love when y'all chat with us! I am excited to take the friendship course! Over the past couple of years, I've lost almost all of my friends. Last year, I got some potentially really hard news at a doctor and two of my friends responded really awfully. It was then that I realized my friendships aren't what I thought they were. I've made my word for the second part of this year "friendship" and I'm really trying to work hard to be a good friend and put myself out there to make new ones because I do not believe that my old friends truly cared, or were a good fit for my life.
Dawn, f you are anywhere near Elk River, MN, you have 2 introverted homwschooling mama fans here that would also be your friends. (There is also a mountain biking trail here that's supposedly one of the best in the state for Diana. 😄)
Man, I felt the friendship thing so much. Like literally finishing Dawn's sentences as she talked. I've had a best friend since 2nd grade....33+ years. We've drifted so much over the last few years and it makes me so, so sad. My other close friend, since we were 10, cut me out of her life when I got married and had kids. I wracked my brain and made myself sick with anxiety trying to think of what I did. I hate when people are mad at me. Several other friends have moved to other states. It's so hard! I worked until I had second baby, then became a stay at home mom. It's harder to meet people and much easier to isolate. I'm an extrovert, so it was a really hard adjustment at first!
I had a friend struggling recently after a falling out with her best friend. She aches over it for months and agonized over trying to revive the friendship since she just wanted it back “the way it was”. But they had grown apart and made different choices, and she knew it was time to move on. Finally one day she had a thought to the effect of: “Think of all the good things you could be focusing on if you weren’t so wrapped up in worrying about this.” She was able to let go in that moment and move forward regardless of what the friend thought of her, and is no longer grieved and distracted every day by the hurt. It can take time, but sometimes we just have to keep looking forward!
Hey Dawn! You have a life-friend in me. I'm among the many who love you. Can't get enough of you. My husband and I live in Fla. Let us know if you're in the area. We'd love to see you!!!
You have to be trustworthy to have great friends. Im not gonna go deep with someone until i know they wont disrespect that trust. My besties have been there in the really, really, really hard times. I have just two, but I know they'll be there when life goes sideways.
So if Dawn got dumped off by friends it's bc she isn't trustworthy? I have had friends dump me and I'm very loyal and very trustworthy, had nothing to do with that!
Awwww Dawn. It might help if you do the thing where you write your former friend(s) a letter and then just seal the letter up and either stick it at the back of a drawer or destroy it. I will never forget an older friend I had...we still are "friends" on fb but she was so ugly to me (in my opinion) telling me we needed to take a break or something like that. I don't even remember what I did or why she wanted this break but I remember crying and crying about it and I am not even much of a crier anymore but it hurt my feelings soooo badly. We still "talk" on occasion but it's never been the same again. I def think of her as more of an acquaintance now. It's sad. 😢 I'm so sorry this happened to you. I don't think you deserved that treatment at all.
This was enlightening. My older sisters are twins and I enjoy spending time with either of them one on one, but I often feel excluded or ganged up on when the three of us are together. That your mom sees this made me feel better about it. Guess it is an unintentional twin thing!
Diane, You hit the nail on the head. I'm 72 and thought certain friends were "forever". It's almost shocking at my age to have friends completely ghost you. It's hard to process. Even in church I find it hard to have meaningful friendships. You two inspire me on many levels. Keep up the good work.
Aw! You have a Kora! I have one too. She’s the youngest of my 3 girls and 21 now. She is my sweetest most compassionate child. I love all my girls but I can’t imagine loving someone more than I do her!!
On friendships, I TOTALLY get it! I've been burned by friends I thought would be around a long time! I've also watched it happen to my girls especially. It's so painful. In 2020 we lost literally ALL of our connections. All activities stopped and didn't ever really recover. We left our church. We lot almost all of our friends. I left all social media attached to my name. We've not recovered. At this point, I'm not sure I even want to try.
@@lauramitchell6725 Yes, it's a long and complicated story but after we were not invited to any gatherings anymore and my daughter was told she couldn't attend activities we chose to leave! thereby leaving our community that had been tight. We could still show up to service but we were essentially ghosted. Social media became so toxic I walked away and didn't miss it other than casually keeping up with people. Thanks for the empathy though.
@@jodieh4739 Sorry if my comment came across harshly.(I should never use capital letters.😬)2020 was weird and life changing for many people,I lost touch with friends,some my fault,but am so happy to have reconnected with some. If they were really important to you,try extending an olive branch,no questions asked. Life is too short.🫤
Hi Dawn. I have been watching you for years now. I live in Switzerland up in the mountains. I'm so sorry to hear about your friends leaving you. I have down seized my home because of you. I think you are so inspiring and sunny. It really help me. I was surprised with whom you worked. They where nice but had a different spirit and I think in this time it doesn't work any more. I can feel with you, sometime it can hurt get lonely, but it's better to look for the right friends. I'm still on the journey. I'm so strait forward as you and not many people can handel it! If you would be around Switzerland I know we would get along well. It's a long journey but you will find better friends. I will pray that you can see them. Maybe they are just around the road or on your camping trip. Love from Switzerland Sabina
Love love love!!! I have sisters who are fraternal but they share inside stuff and drive each other crazy but can’t live without each other. It’s so fun to watch!!
I have long time friends but I have met newer friends through activities I enjoy, like bootcamp and recently car camping 😊. I still have three long term friend’s, thankfully.
Thank you so much for watching! You can find Diana's Friendship Workshop here: www.biblestudy.co/friend-workshop Also, feel free to leave any new twin questions here, too! - We love you and hope you have a great weekend! - Dawn
Oh I have empathy tears in my eyes for the hurt I can see on your face, Dawn. I'm so sorry you had such startling changes in your friends. This interview somehow made me decide to join. It is easy to feel shame and "what's wrong with me" rather than do something about it!
I have been watching you two for years now, and you know what my very favorite thing is about you being twins? When you two start laughing together!! I love the sound of it so much and imagine you must have been crazy adorable as giggling toddlers!! With much love and appreciation. 💕💕💕
I knew another set of twins-they were not identical-I don't remember them having a lot of friends. We went to church together- so we were friends.
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That's terribly painful when friends don't want to be friends anymore and they won't even tell you why I've had that happen too.I'm so sorry
I am old - turning 74 next month - and I was married to my best friend for over 47 years. When he passed away in 2017, I discovered how I had many acquaintances, yet no real friendships. The loneliness is awful, especially over weekends. Now, I am fortunate in that the Lord has blessed me with talents and skills - I still work as a professional calligrapher, graphic designer and artist, and I still have a fine singing voice and also play the piano. I am very involved with my retirement community where I live, yet I do not really have friends. Oh, folk are friendly, and I regularly try to make a gentle connection with folk where I live, but at our age, it is less likely to happen. There ARE some very dear folk who obviously care about my welfare - we all go to functions and attend our chapel services together - but a have not found the kind of connection with another person like I had with my late husband....maybe it is simply different, because we loved each other so dearly?
Will be praying that you find a special, dear friend in your life.❤
Funny story - I started watching Minimal Mom about 4 years ago and one day Dawn was filming in her kitchen with this other lady. I thought to myself "I don't know who this is but they have to be sisters because this other lady looks just like Dawn." Hahaha
You two crack me up!
My sister is 13 months and 17 days younger than me, but many people think we are fraternal twins because we were so alike (personality, style choices, our voices). We even had "twin speech" when we were younger. Sister power....BFF's for life.
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… And I thought… “Awww nice… Dawn brought a friend.” 🤭
My best friend of 25 years died almost 2 years ago. She was my boss when I was in college. We discovered that both of our moms died when we each were 13. That opened an understanding of each other like twins. She was loyal and kind and fun. She was my emergency contact! I have other friends but she was my person. I notice that I’ve been really reserved with friends since she died. That bond was once in a lifetime and I was blessed!
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I had a few close friend pass away since 2020. None died of Covid but other illnesses. Haven't really found a "replacement" for any of them but I'm doing ok. ❤ So sorry for your loss!!!
I have that friend as well. In fact, I consider that she is my one and only true friend. We met at age 4 and are no in our early 60's and just recently lost our mothers. I'm so sorry for your loss.
I went to school with a set of identical twins. No one could tell them apart. I realized one always wore t-shirts and one always wore button-up shirts. Whenever I passed them in the hall, I could easily say, “Hi Mike!” or “Hi Chris!” They were amazed I could tell them apart so easily. I never told them how I knew 😂
Love you ladies ! Thank you for being my RUclips friends!! You mean so much to me. Anyone local to you would be SO blessed to have either one of you as a friend ! Love , Liz
Exactly my same thoughts! I'm more like Dawn and know how difficult it is to make friends.
I'm in az. Can I be your friend.
When my twin brothers were born in the late 50’s, the dr told my parents they were fraternal twins. They looked identical, people always had trouble telling them apart, and they constantly had to answer the question or statement “you all are identical, right?”. They both worked for the same large company and the mixup continued. When they were in their early 60’s a few years ago, they decided to have DNA testing. Result: identical!
I think this is why I love my smaller church. It's easier to plug in and get to know each other well. Coming from a very broken, dysfunctional family and then marrying into one, I don't know what I'd do without my church family.
Absolutely agree a small church they all become your friends
Yes, a small church is what I'd prefer. Until they freeze you out, and we essentially get kicked out. I still don't have a great community. But we've rebuilt with some new connections.
Dawn, Please know that when I began watching your channel about 5 years ago, I IMMEDIATELY felt a connection with you!!! You got me through an extremely rough season in my life...twice.❤❤ Then, as Diana began appearing on your channel, and then you did episodes together weekly, I connected with her so strongly, too! It is like I am an equal combination of you and Diana!
My family teases me because even though we have never met in person, I continually say, " My friend, Dawn."
When you sent an email to me as part of your membership group, I thought is though I was getting an email from a celebrity, but equally from a great friend! You have been on my mind so strongly to email again.
You and Diana have both enriched my life in innumerable ways, and though we live hours apart and have never met in person, when you were having an event at a thrift store once, I tried so much to be able to travel in order to be there. You are a friend to the world!! I understand that you need a close tribe in your life, as Dr John Delony mentions often, and if I lived closer, I would want to be a part of that circle as it would be such an honor. Dawn, you are beautiful inside and out! As I was watching your back to school video the other day, I was thinking to myself how well you interact with your kids...... just another one of your amazing qualities to show the world!: a way to inspire all of us to be better parents
Diana, I feel the same about you. I am the talker like you!! Pregnancy looked wonderful on you, but you are rocking postpartum! You look radiant! Please share your secrets! ❤ I love both of you, my friends!!!
My best friend ,Colleen, died at 52. It's been 11 years and I still struggle. I have other friends but she was everywhere in my past. I love my current friends, but it's just not the same. If you have a best friend, give them a hug and tell them how much they mean to you.
I’m the mother of 38-year-old fraternal twin guys. I love this question and answer video! Your twin experiences are so similar to my sons’ experiences. I’m especially amazed at their ability to carry on conversations in half sentences where only they know what they are talking about. 😊 They have been such a double blessing in our lives, and I can tell you two have been a double blessing in your parents’ lives as well!
I think I can totally tell yalls voices apart.
I’d rather have a twin than a friend. How lucky you both are!
I've often thought the same thing. As long as that twin is a person that you get along with (I've heard some really don't at all). I was thinking while watching this video, one of the nicest things about having a twin that you get along with would be just being able to 100% be yourself, because that other person has known you from day one, so you know that person knows everything about you and yet likes you. What a wonderful thing that would be.
I was burned pretty bad by my best friend of 10 years. It just turned into a toxic relationship so I decided to end the friendship (yes, i talked to her about it) and it STILL took me 5 years of grieving the loss, even though I'm the one that ended the friendship 😢
Dawn, I live in Texas, my husband's a mechanical engineer, we do Fostering and we travel to Mexico once a year and do kind deeds... We would totally be besties! 🤍 I wish for your heart to heal soon. Sending you much love! ❣️
I asked if she’d interview us so we can get the chance to be in her friend circle 😂❤
@@NovasRUclipsNameRight?! 😂 She'd have so many friends. We all love her so much ❤
My twin brother, Charles, and I both weighed over 8 pounds, and we were born at home. Our Mom had a midwife, and her doctor came to our house to check and weigh us. Back in 1946, doctors made house calls and home births were more common.
A funny story happened at one of my high school class reunions when my classmate Sharon asked me if Charles and I were identical twins! She was the valedictorian of our class. I had to explain to her that identical twins have to be the same sex. She said, "Oh, is that right!" That's not the only time I was asked that same question! Ha. 😊
Failed friendships are so devastating but sometimes it's God's way of protecting us from people who might have been a bad influence or who might have distracted us too much from the things the Lord wants us to be focusing on. I've had multiple relationships crumble since becoming a mom 6 years ago and I can see now the negative influence those people had on my life, even if they were wonderful godly women.
Not only loss of friends but cousins who were lifelong friends- had this happen at age 72....that hurts!
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People are in your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
The loneliness is so real! My husband is a retired police officer. The Law Enforcement life does not grow friendships. Now that we are empty nesters, we both work from home and true friendships are so rare.
Sometimes, me and my best friend of 40 years don't communicate for months... mostly because we've lived in different countries at various times. But as soon as we connect, it's the same as always. I make her belly-laugh and she doesn't judge my bad choices or try to change me. I love her and she loves me... it's as simple as that. Now that I have cancer, she checks in more often. But even if I don't hear from her for a few weeks, I know it's because she has a very busy life, not because she doesn't care. And I'm lucky enough to be married to (my other) best friend, so I don't get lonely.
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I am 59 & still friends with my childhood friends. After living in Florida for my first 50 years, I moved to Montana. I now have some new amazing friends, but stay in close touch with the ones I grew up with.
Last year I helped give hospice care to my childhood best friend. 💔
I love & cherish all my friends!!! ❤
Thanks. I'm a twin too and your answers were pretty right on.
Love my sis. I would say I'm the lonelier one . She always reached out to her friends. I had husband's friends their wives. But with C19 and political difference they have gone away. I feel your frustration.
Love watching you two. Twins ROCK. blessing
there's definitely nothing wrong with you, Dawn ⚘️ glad ur feeling loved in this community; you both are incredible people
My mom didn’t know she was having twins either! We were born in August 1982. My sister was born and then the doctor says to my mom I think there’s another one in there (that was me) and my mom said another what? lol I’m sure it was a shocking moment!
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A deep friendship which hurts us is worse than the physical death of a dear friend. I have experienced both. 'People are doing the best they can at this particular time in their lives' is my mantra. The experiences have made me cautious in friendships & yes, somewhat lonelier.
I’ve realized that there are seasonal friends and life long friends. When a seasonal friendship ends it isn’t because anyone did anything wrong, the friendship has just run its course. Because I moved so much most of my friendships have been seasonal. I am ok with that, maybe we were friends largely because we were neighbors and our kids were in the same scout troop. After one of us moved we now lead different lives and that is ok that the friendship withers and we lose touch.
I am probably older than your parents. I am starting to lose friends to death. While I miss those people, I don’t want to live in a vacuum, and I am not trying to replace irreplaceable friendships, but I have learned to put myself out there and make new friends. Most of these friendships will be seasonal but that is okay, because some of them may last the rest of our lives there is no way to know. For me trying new activities is the way to go. Physical activities, volunteering and special interest groups are ways I meet people and if we naturally click great, if we don’t I enjoyed a new activity.
Once a friendship starts to develop, I don’t rely solely on electronic communication I put effort into face to face communications, depending on the person it may be a couple of times a week or only once every few months, but we spend time together as we are able.
I had to laugh about not finding friends where you expect them. My best friend is a devout Catholic, I call myself her “heathen” friend as I belong to no religion. My sil and I are about as far apart politically as it is possible to be but we are building a friendship despite our differences.
I realize I am replying to,y own post but I want to add that I am an introvert who is naturally shy. But I can put myself out there in an activity and usually I meet someone with whom I can become at least casual friends, if it develops beyond that great, if it doesn’t it wasn’t meant to be.
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I was just talking about how awesome my mom had it when she was a younger mother. She had a group of friends and they would get together at each other‘s house have coffee cake, and coffee and the children would play and the moms would visit. And they would rotate houses who wanted to host this week. It happened at least weekly. What a great time in history.
That can still be a reality for us today! We've just become too busy and a lot of moms work. Back in the day I think it was more common for mothers to stay at home with their children which is why they could get together more often.
My daughter has several friends like that. But. YES, she is a stay at home mom. My DIL works full time. Her kids are in school / daycare sometimes up to 11 hours a day. It breaks my heart. The girls are so tired and so clingy. But they are 5 yrs, 3 yrs, and 20 months old and have been in day care since 8 months. So hard on the kids. And the parents. Then the parents are on their phones trying to get their "me" time and connect with friends in the evenings when the kids have so little time with them.
This was so great! I had tears at the end when Dawn said thank you to Diana, waterworks! My sister is 2 years younger than me and just moved to another country on the other side of the world. We are super close and I feel a bit lost now. Questioning life! Ugh! With time I’m sure I’ll be fine! Love you guys 🩵🩷💙
Dawn , I can see the pain in your eyes and I totally feel the same way! I think I had one really close friend who would do anything for me but as soon as I moved to another neighborhood where I wasn’t the person that she could just pop in on her way everywhere she went. She totally stopped interacting and trying to be my friend… It really hurts! I tried to rekindle by bringing Christmas gifts but nothing… She doesn’t hate me! She says very nice things on Facebook… But she prefers friends that are in her circle of influence meeting at her church and Rite in her neighborhood.I would love to have a real friend that I could actually hang out with and do things with ... I’m praying for you. I’m praying for me.❤
Before I knew Dawn has twin, I use to tell my husband, that I found my twin on RUclips. Everything Dawn said just resonated with me so much and there are so many similarities between Dawn and me I couldn't belive it.
Sending you greetings from Poland.
I find that people don’t take friendships seriously and don’t put effort in unless it’s convenient and they’re not too distracted.
And I agree empathy in texting is lacking!
What you were saying about not conveying emotion in text messages, I was saying that about e-mail 25 years ago. I was seeing issues between my sisters (I’m the youngest of 6 girls and one boy) and I knew that this was an issue! I’m not surprised AT ALL that this is affecting friendships in regards to texting. I totally believe that COVID took a toll on our mental health and even our desire to pursue friendships. Some people are just figuring it out sooner than others. Great pursuit, ladies!!
Maybe it was on this channel that I commented before about this…But I am a pastor/missionary wife and that has been one of the toughest things for me…to not have real friends. It just never worked…even with other missionary wives. But Jesus is my best Friend and that‘s my comfort.
I wonder if there aren't a lot of true Christians who are alone. I think God uses it to His purposes.
I love watching videos with both of you together. It's always a joy! LOVE the baby pics haha so cute!
My closest friends don’t live in the same state as I do but we keep in close touch with each other. However, I do not have any good friends where I live. I get along with everyone but I don’t have any close friends that live by me. But, God is bringing new friends into my life which I am so grateful for. It is just hard to be on my own. I am married and have an almost 17 year old daughter still at home (thankfully). And while they are great, it is still not the same as having a good girl friend. I have always told my kids, “All you need is one good friend to get through life” and that is so true!
What about influencer friends? I truly believe that my youtubers are my friends, meeting specific needs I have when I need them. I know it's different than having reciprocal relationships but it works with my schedule and other commitments. Dawn, like what others said here, I feel that we could truly be friends. I appreciate how genuine and good-sensical you are and each time you say "I love you" at the end of your videos its a shot straight to my heart that I feel deeply. Much love to the both of you.
I've often felt this way, too. Then a couple times they removed their channels without explanation and you're left feeling sad and confused.
Oohhh Dawn and Dianna I wish we lived closer. I think we could really be great friends!! Well we could still be good friends!!! Dawn I would love to just walk and talk!!! I know exactly what you are saying, I get so tired of being the one EVERY single time to call or text. Then when I quit the friendship just dwindles. So I see how it does happen so easily. Love you girls!! Have a great day!!
One of my favourite books is about a 'quieter twin' and when she and her sister are for the first time seperated for a longer time she realises that people have some really wrong assumptions about her because of her sister always taking center stage. She never felt left out but people assumed that the talkier sister had all the good ideas and did all the work around their projects. Through this she learned to take a little more place in life. So interesting to see that you two had a similar experience, I guess this author is as good as I think!
As to sleeping together, our youngest daughters, two years apart, had really hard to sleep through the night until we put them together at ages 1 and 3 and then they slept really well. And they were very close throughout childhood. We are too fast at seperating both siblings and our children from ourselves nowadays, it creates loneliness, I believe.
Stop right there. Seconds into this.... YOU two are the CUTEST babies I think I've ever seen!
Diana you looked absolutely AMAZING in your wedding photos!
I can relate in every way. I have an identical twin and you two summed up what my life has been like.
Diana, when you talked about Cora and her being the most talkative, I remember you talking recently about your words. You said, “I have so many words that are still in me” I died laughing
I enjoyed this so much. I think Covid tore many friendships apart as well as politics today. I made a special point to keep my friends despite our differing opinions but many just cannot accept people who don’t think exactly like them. God bless you both. You are positive influences ❤
Oh, Dawn and Diana! I noticed while I was home schooling our four kids, I was so engrossed in caring for them that I did not have friends I could hang out with. Now that season is over and God is bringing friends from the past back into my life.
Thank you so much for mentioning how hard and traumatizing it can be to be totally ghosted by friends. And how it is hard not to ruminate. You are both very wise. Thank you for sharing a little about your experience Dawn.
Not just the technical age we live in, but health challenges isolate many of us too. It's why I started my decluttering journey 19 months ago, to make my 4 walls so much easier to stare at. Boy has it ever. While I spend 95% of my time in these 4 walls, at least with less clutter, I have energy to start some new hobbies and revisit from old ones.
As for going off on your own little tangents when with your mom, that might not be indicative of just twins. It happens in my family with my siblings, too. Growing up together, we have our own inside jokes that mom doesn't get.
You guys are the best! Thank you for touching on real life changing topics!
You two are such a delight! Thank you for your authenticity and joy!
Childhood experiences are so powerful, whether good or bad! When I was about 10 I had a “friend” who was very on and off with our friendship. For years afterwards, I was so quick to assume people didn’t like me. If someone said they were too busy to meet up, I’d assume it was an excuse because they didn’t want to see me etc etc. When I realised that my insecurities went back to a bad friendship when I was a child, I was able to see my adult friendships in a much more realistic way. Lives are busy and people forget to reply etc, but I don’t take it personally anymore. I’m so grateful for the friendships I have now.
I've been ghosted by two close friends (different reasons) but the same feeling of 'what is wrong with me?' came out. It took me years to finally be able to grieve the losses of those friendships. I have a close friend now, but I feel like I am so careful with who I let in because I don't want to be hurt again. It was so much easier when we were kids to make friends.
I love this episode about identical twins. My identical twin brothers are 13 months younger than me (we are practically triplets) and I have seen it all growing up (we are now in our 60's). To me, my brothers don't even look alike even from their birth photos, but I have known them since birth. I was born August 1956 and my brothers were born October 1957 and my mom did not know until they were born that she was having twins (no ultrasounds in the 1950s and her OB/Gyn was chiding her for getting so much bigger than when she was pregnant with me and she swore up and down she was eating no more than before and he could not fall all over himself apologizing to her once my brothers arrived). I have had the joy of them all through life and I consider it one of the biggest blessings of my life. They are each other's very best friends and I am in that circle with them - their names are Bob and Brian and it occurs to me that their names start with the same letter the way Dawn and Diana's do. Twins are a real treasure.
I have three sets of twin nephews-one identical, one fraternal but they look so similar that it takes a while for people to learn to tell them apart, and one fraternal and they barely even look like brothers-and I can confirm these are the questions. Twins are fun. :-)
❤ My mum didn't know she was having us twins. Mum said it was just as well as she would have worried. I was born 1st weighing 5 lb 10 oz & my sister 2nd weighing 6 lb 1 oz. I was small & was given the shorter name & my sister the longer name. Yes we did have our own language. I was braver & louder back then but now my sister to me is the mommy figure (& is a mom) & is more sensible than I. We emotionally support & help each other. We fell out once as children and cried as we couldn't stand not being friends. When my sister was expecting her son I had the worst period pains ever. We had our own wedding days. We are our own best friends. x
As an identical mirror twin (I'm left handed and she's right) these are for sure spot on questions that are asked all the time.
I'm a twin mom. Twin daughters who have given us 7 grands. Enjoyed this twin talk.
I also can identify with your friendship conversation. God bless you both.
I am so blessed I have many friends and family I am close too I have different groups sometimes it is hard to keep up with them all but I think what helps me is I volunteer for different things ie. farmers market, Main Street, high hope cafe at Hamlin church I also help with my own church’s outreach program the adult center you name it now I meet these people for coffee, bible study, lunch with previous coworkers breakfast, movies concerts I am a joiner to library events community center too our little town Lawrenceburg Indiana it has a lot to offer I have been very outgoing off my life but I am so glad we moved right before I retired now I am a widow and have had so much love and support as I have been living through this time of greif
I am definitely in the same situation (experiencing disappointment with friendships/ loneliness). I feel so fortunate to have a twin. My experience is that most twins are closer than other siblings. My sister will be my forever friend.
Love this. I have two sets of twins one are identical, I can tell you guys apart, it's probably because I have my own twins and can pick up the differences. I can tell the boys from their faces. And both sets have had their own languages when they were little.
What you said about how friendships die is so true. Been there. What does it say when a close friend just doesn't seem to think you are with the time anymore. Hurts.
I meant to sign up yesterday but had to go find my credit card 😏
I need to sign up.
I love both of your RUclips channels and I love it when you are together! I’m the grandmother of mirror twins, they are so much fun! From the day they were born they have to be touching each other when they are sleeping.
This was so reassuring! Having identical (we think) 13 year old twin girls, I often worry that they don't enjoy their twin-ness or won't get along as adults! I hope they are as close as you both when they are grown!
I have to stop the video and just say, hearing you too laugh that cute infectious laugh together - well, I want it as my ringtone! It brightened my day ❤❤
I''ll be your friend!
On the topic of making friends, here in Sweden it takes about 10 years... So if you move around you will be a bit lonely. I had a few years where I thought that I might not be good with female groups, but then we moved to Spain for a winter season and I made friends with the best group of parents in just a couple of weeks.
These days I try to be patient, clear of distractions and value the opportunity if someone comes along. But also accept that friendships are a bit hard here and it's fine.
You were talking about friendships and how easy to just send a text message. I had been thinking that I would text my friends and let them know I was praying for travel mercies as they travel to a family funeral. I decided to call and pray with them instead. I’m so glad that I did! Thank you for sharing!
Dawn - you are my friend, you just don't know it. The first time I watched your channel, I thought to myself - she must be a Christian, and I'm so glad you have a Godly perspective on life that you share. You got me through covid and a nervous breakdown and loosing all my friendships. I'm single and my daughter has moved out since graduating. I'd love to meet you one day - or your family are welcome to stay at my home in London if you ever decide to visit the UK and do a tour!!!! I did pray and think I'd done everything wrong - but now I realise God has a plan and a purpose and I always hold onto Diana saying once "God puts the lonely in families" (I've noted down the verse).
You both seem like you would be a great friend!
I've gotta know what Dawn said that pushed Diana's buttons 😆
@dianasimplifies, Hah, I was thinking the exact same thing!
Re: Friendships... Just like you always say, Dawn, Is it serving me in this season of life? Friendships change, people change, seasons change. Sometimes the people who have *been* with us are not going in the same direction and don't continue on with us down the timeline. Deep breath, God has you. Not being flippant, but just encouraging you not to blame yourself...
Hello there! I can’t thank you both for all of the help you have given me … and we have never met🥰taking care of disabled parents for over 20 years I have watched my friends drift away…but others that surprised me drifted in with great understanding…but still taking care of children, parents, grandparents, elderly friends and my husband’s practice life was very lonely…when I came across Dawn’s videos (I would watch while I exercised during my parent’s nap time)… I was hooked! I really like to keep things clean and picked up, it just always helped me … if my children would bring things into the house they knew they needed to donate something out…it was just good practice…and of course they had to write thank you notes 🥰well I could go on and on but just wanted to thank you both as my father recently went to Heaven and I find a different layer of loss and watching your videos continue to help me in so many ways … have a blessed weekend…I did sign up for the friendship course 😊💗thank you all around ~Angela (why my account has my Dad’s name on it we do not know🥰)
I would love it if you two would put your pictures up when you were children and THEN after a moment, put your names by each of you. I’m always trying to figure out who’s who in the pictures, because you do look different to me as adults, but I never know if I’m right. This would be so fun!! Great video, ladies! Thank you!
You would BOTH make a great friend. I'm positive of that. You are both very genuine and smart!
I was born a lone twin and I just love seeing your relationship 💕
My sister (younger by 3 years) does the talking in our mutual friend group. When she's not there my friends have commented on how much more I talk when I'm without her. I'd never noticed or cared. I am the support for her stream of conversation😅
Friend-Making Workshop is the best workshop I’ve ever heard of 😍
Your passions go together so well. Being mindful and minimal gives you space for what is important. And what is more important than relationships?! While holding deep friendship can bring fulfillment and allows a release of your material possessions.
Thank you for sharing your lives with all of us out here.
We have twin granddaughters that are not identical but they certainly look so much alike. I have to really study them but in my defense they live a distance from us so don’t get to see them as much as we’d like. They are beautiful of course. 💚💚
I have lost all of my friends as an adult, too, and I have wondered what it is about me that has made it happen. I've devoted myself so much to my kids and grew up in a unique situation, so I think that may have something to do with it.
As to twinning, I'm curious to know if there are any Indian traditions or beliefs related to being a twin.
Thanks for sharing ladies!
Love your podcast and times together! I could really relate to friendship thing. I finished working as a teacher after a terrible car accident …neck and back injuries about 14 years ago and now at almost 64 my friends are really all church friends and especially those with young families! We love being grandparent figures and being accepted as we are! We have a married son but they are still studying at this point in married life and someday they may have a family. But we are not going to waste these years we are enjoying grand parenting even if they aren’t ours. ❤😊
Our children, numbers six and seven, are identical twin boys. It is so much fun! We deal with all of these same questions. Our twins get along very, very well.
Having close friends has been priceless in my life. We have a group of friends we see almost weekly. We are all going camping together on labor day weekend. Looking so forward to all the laughs, boat rides, good food, game time and just hanging out. :)
Great video!! Social media has ruined "social ability ". No one knows how to communicate in the age of the most communication ever. Sad.
This is so good! I love when y'all chat with us! I am excited to take the friendship course! Over the past couple of years, I've lost almost all of my friends. Last year, I got some potentially really hard news at a doctor and two of my friends responded really awfully. It was then that I realized my friendships aren't what I thought they were. I've made my word for the second part of this year "friendship" and I'm really trying to work hard to be a good friend and put myself out there to make new ones because I do not believe that my old friends truly cared, or were a good fit for my life.
Dawn, f you are anywhere near Elk River, MN, you have 2 introverted homwschooling mama fans here that would also be your friends.
(There is also a mountain biking trail here that's supposedly one of the best in the state for Diana. 😄)
Man, I felt the friendship thing so much. Like literally finishing Dawn's sentences as she talked. I've had a best friend since 2nd grade....33+ years. We've drifted so much over the last few years and it makes me so, so sad. My other close friend, since we were 10, cut me out of her life when I got married and had kids. I wracked my brain and made myself sick with anxiety trying to think of what I did. I hate when people are mad at me. Several other friends have moved to other states. It's so hard! I worked until I had second baby, then became a stay at home mom. It's harder to meet people and much easier to isolate. I'm an extrovert, so it was a really hard adjustment at first!
I had a friend struggling recently after a falling out with her best friend. She aches over it for months and agonized over trying to revive the friendship since she just wanted it back “the way it was”. But they had grown apart and made different choices, and she knew it was time to move on. Finally one day she had a thought to the effect of: “Think of all the good things you could be focusing on if you weren’t so wrapped up in worrying about this.” She was able to let go in that moment and move forward regardless of what the friend thought of her, and is no longer grieved and distracted every day by the hurt. It can take time, but sometimes we just have to keep looking forward!
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I love hanging out with you two! Your laughs are infectious. What day in September are your birthdays?
Hey Dawn! You have a life-friend in me. I'm among the many who love you. Can't get enough of you. My husband and I live in Fla. Let us know if you're in the area. We'd love to see you!!!
You have to be trustworthy to have great friends. Im not gonna go deep with someone until i know they wont disrespect that trust.
My besties have been there in the really, really, really hard times. I have just two, but I know they'll be there when life goes sideways.
So if Dawn got dumped off by friends it's bc she isn't trustworthy? I have had friends dump me and I'm very loyal and very trustworthy, had nothing to do with that!
Awwww Dawn. It might help if you do the thing where you write your former friend(s) a letter and then just seal the letter up and either stick it at the back of a drawer or destroy it. I will never forget an older friend I had...we still are "friends" on fb but she was so ugly to me (in my opinion) telling me we needed to take a break or something like that. I don't even remember what I did or why she wanted this break but I remember crying and crying about it and I am not even much of a crier anymore but it hurt my feelings soooo badly. We still "talk" on occasion but it's never been the same again. I def think of her as more of an acquaintance now. It's sad. 😢 I'm so sorry this happened to you. I don't think you deserved that treatment at all.
This was enlightening. My older sisters are twins and I enjoy spending time with either of them one on one, but I often feel excluded or ganged up on when the three of us are together. That your mom sees this made me feel better about it. Guess it is an unintentional twin thing!
Diane, You hit the nail on the head. I'm 72 and thought certain friends were "forever". It's almost shocking at my age to have friends completely ghost you. It's hard to process. Even in church I find it hard to have meaningful friendships. You two inspire me on many levels. Keep up the good work.
Aw! You have a Kora! I have one too. She’s the youngest of my 3 girls and 21 now. She is my sweetest most compassionate child. I love all my girls but I can’t imagine loving someone more than I do her!!
The twin with the bigger head is the first one through the birth canal for obvious reason. My father is an identical twin...and what a big head!!
On friendships, I TOTALLY get it! I've been burned by friends I thought would be around a long time! I've also watched it happen to my girls especially. It's so painful. In 2020 we lost literally ALL of our connections. All activities stopped and didn't ever really recover. We left our church. We lot almost all of our friends. I left all social media attached to my name. We've not recovered. At this point, I'm not sure I even want to try.
I’m puzzled by this comment,YOU left your church and YOU left social media,why are you surprised that you have less friends?
@@lauramitchell6725 Yes, it's a long and complicated story but after we were not invited to any gatherings anymore and my daughter was told she couldn't attend activities we chose to leave! thereby leaving our community that had been tight. We could still show up to service but we were essentially ghosted. Social media became so toxic I walked away and didn't miss it other than casually keeping up with people. Thanks for the empathy though.
@@jodieh4739 Sorry if my comment came across harshly.(I should never use capital letters.😬)2020 was weird and life changing for many people,I lost touch with friends,some my fault,but am so happy to have reconnected with some. If they were really important to you,try extending an olive branch,no questions asked. Life is too short.🫤
@@jodieh4739I'm so sorry this happened to you and your family! ❤❤❤❤❤😢😢😢
Just what I needed ❤ you 2 are gifts to the world 👭
Hi Dawn. I have been watching you for years now. I live in Switzerland up in the mountains. I'm so sorry to hear about your friends leaving you. I have down seized my home because of you. I think you are so inspiring and sunny. It really help me. I was surprised with whom you worked. They where nice but had a different spirit and I think in this time it doesn't work any more. I can feel with you, sometime it can hurt get lonely, but it's better to look for the right friends. I'm still on the journey. I'm so strait forward as you and not many people can handel it!
If you would be around Switzerland I know we would get along well.
It's a long journey but you will find better friends. I will pray that you can see them. Maybe they are just around the road or on your camping trip.
Love from Switzerland
Sabina
Love love love!!! I have sisters who are fraternal but they share inside stuff and drive each other crazy but can’t live without each other. It’s so fun to watch!!
I have long time friends but I have met newer friends through activities I enjoy, like bootcamp and recently car camping 😊. I still have three long term friend’s, thankfully.
I just love the two of you. ❤
Dawn if I lived close I’m certain we would be besties!! ❤
Right? I agree.