BM and Ashley Choi Reflect on Being Bullied as Kids | GET REAL Ep. #36 Highlight
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- Опубликовано: 12 сен 2024
- KARD's BM and Ashley Choi share their stories from being bullied as kids.
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BM got bullied? My dude is literally the leader of the big tiddie committee he proved his bullies wrong
When he was younger he was tall and bigger, my brother goes through the same thing. He’s like 6’4 in HS and he got bullied it’s so sad.
i really heard many celebrities saying they build up their body so that people wont bully them... damn sad doe.
when jamie said 'teachers doesn't help' literally can relate
It's so sad, they just generalize bullying ;`)
FACT👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
Same
Same
so true😔
"Cardi b sunbae-nim" 😂 was not expecting that
Haha
😂😂😂
Bullying is seriously the biggest fucking problm
Damn, that's so sad, a bully doesn't know how much pain they can cause to the person they target.
no they know what they're doing they just want to see you in pain/tears because you won't tell them to stop firmly
They prob know they just don't care man, of they bully people just like that is because they don't care about the consequences that might come with it
they're just "joking around"
Ashley's comment + BM's swearing + editor-nim, what's not to love
"Its because your too nice so understand"- teacher
Me: And worst teacher award goessss tooo... "drum roll please" yoooooooooooooouuuu
Teacher: 👁👄👁👈
1:11 LMAO ashley choi just caught me off guard! Love her!
Tiddie scoup became THEEE Tiddie Commitee ... The glow up though!
Honestly I relate to Ashley on that,,,, I got bullied in school for being shy and introverted af too like once this girl literally pushed me to the ground on purpose and everyone in class just laughed at me and I still did not say anything because I was so scared that they would hurt me lol PLUS I thought I deserved it for not fitting in anyway lol
For me, I have been bullied. But, it was because I was too nice so people took advantage of me and then it would snowball effect into something toxic. I appear very extroverted, but I'm definitely more of an introvert at heart. I used to also get pushed or once I had snow shoved down my shirt and pants. But from being bullied for years I learned how to be a stronger and more passionate person, because I realized how pointless material things, like the: # of likes on social media or the # of friends you have really is. My MATO is: To live a happy life you only need a few best friends, be proud of who you are, don't compare yourself to other, admit your flaws, and most importantly no matter what anyone says, being yourself is more important than trying to be someone you are not just to fit in with the "popular" crowd.
@@kat_g56 Yess I agree I used to always get picked on in some way or the other but it has definitely made me a much stronger person now like I’m literally studying law now because I want to fight for ppl who can’t fight for themselves because I know how it feels to be helpless. Also I am so sorry you had to go through that
@@iovkeeho5078 The reason I got bullied was because I was so nice and my passion from a young age until now I have always embraced and did not care that I knew too much about it. Now I am pursuing my passion and dream in college as an Environmental Studies major.
Actually u don’t deserve to get bullied
And especially not because you don’t fit in, it might feel weird and lonely but it’s okay to be different and they should have just accepted you for who you are instead of bullying you for being you
@@gjh3646 Trust me I didn't sign up to get bullied for years but looking back I know I grew so much because of being unfortunately bullied while growing up.
As a teacher myself, I would never tolerate any kind of bullying because I experienced being bullied when I was younger because of how I looked and even when I fought back, It still made me feel crap about myself to have the need to defend myself for being me. Thank God, I had an older brother and I remember teachers who confronted those bullies. So I feel ashamed for others teachers, who will not address the issue and thinks that those are normal for kids and that they will outgrow it. The victim needs comfort and help. The bullies also need help and guidance because most of the times, they are victims also (bad parenting, broken family, abuse, bad enviroment etc.)
Really good for you, hope more teachers are aware of the impact of being bullied to a kid.
"BE A BUDDY, NOT A BULLY"
BM said that victims of bullying are unable to say "stop", but when I was bullied and I yelled at my bullies "stop it!", they just kept bullying me anyway
Yep but honestly for bullies I think fighting with your hands is better if they don't stop they need to know you are stronger
"cardi b sunbae nim" and peniel saying " this is the end of this episode " 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂. Man this is gem 💎.
This is a really timely thing to talk about given what's going on in Korea. BM, I know a lot is going on right now related to DSP that might affect KARD... if you're having a hard time, please do whatever you need to do to take care of yourself. Thanks for keeping it real and being you. You got this!
This came out impeccable timing. I hope BM survives the crap dsp is going through or moves companies
What's going on with his company?
@@user-zf4qm6tr6d April members (with the exception of Rachel and Chaekyung) are being accused of bullying former member Hyunjoo. Knetizens are re-uploading clips of April during their debut, which shows how Hyunjoo would be ostracized from the group. Naeun already lost a lot of advertisements , and unfortunately this is also hurting Somin as well.
@@YoungMoneyHoneys the nerve to drag Somin into this mess even though the events described happened after she left the group. You can have differences while you're with someone but if you're members after you leave turn it into bullying it's not your fault. I appreciate the courage to finally speak up (granted that the accusations are proved true) but they should have been clearer when they talked about the individuals involved. And DSP.... Dear God DSP, I won't even begin with how unprofessionally they handled the situation...
@@simonarattu7230 oh wow I’ve seen the articles but nobody ever referenced the fact they’re talking events that happened after she left! Thanks for your comment. I wish people wouldn’t jump to conclusions so quickly
@@simonarattu7230 That's not actually true, in Hyunjoo's brother's statement, he said that Somin was actually the one who started the bullying and that another member of April used to make up things that Hyunjoo said to Somin to get closer to her so unfortunately, Somin is directly involved in the case.
I love the editernim a lot! Especially the edits when Ashley is talking about her being bullied by unnies omg lol I can’t
Welp, I wonder what BM thinks of Somin’s bullying scandal
He must be disappointed coz he was bullied too!
BM is such a good guy. I hope Kard doesn't lose the little hype they got in Korea because of Somin bullying that girl 😬
i liked somin before, but if the rumours are true she deserve to be kick out of the group
Let's not jump to conclusions. The events described by that guy happened after Somin left the group so until this whole mess end we'll need to stay as neutral as possible.
I’m confused, are the allegations proved to be true or are we still unsure? I really hope they’re false.. ;-;
I can relate to ashley and bm:) ppl around me keep making fun of my biggest insecurities and all i can do is laugh along with them eventho i want it to stop:) they bodyshame me and even told to k word myself. Being told things like that face to face it's really hard:) the one who bully me seem to have a happy live rn and here iam being extra introvert person, dealing with social anxiety don't know how to interact with ppl around me bcs im scared they will talk bad abt me
Sorry for my bad english/grammar
I'm sorry to hear that. As someone who was bullied for years I can definitely relate. But what helped me is that I told myself to be a bigger person and just ignore them. If someone has to say mean things about you, that just means they are extremely shallow and insecure about themselves so they need to make other feel bad to make themselves feel better about themselves. I hope you can start just loving yourself for who you are and just ignore the haters. You are Strong, You are Beautiful, and You are an Amazing Human-being!!! ❤️❤️❤️
@@kat_g56 thnkyou for the beautiful words❤️❤️
@@wpsl9556 No problem, I've been bullied from 2nd to 7th grade and by many different people, so I have come up with a personal Moto that I have strived to live by since 8th grade. Be yourself don't change who you are just to "fit-in".
my own so-called friends point out my insecurities and act like it's okay. I have an issue with acne and they'll be like making comments about it and talking about my face. Like why do you have a beauty mark here/????????? I'm always so confused like wtf
@@FlamingYoungho Those don’t sound like true friends then
This podcast feels like home. Love this crew! 🤍
Ashley makes it so easy to listen but it might be not that easy. Claps for her!
cardi b sunbae-nim PLEASE
😂😂😂
Hahaha
Wait do you read lost in translation?
@@Ellie-xj1sc yeah! I help manage one of the roleplay accounts too ;-;
Bm is so cute. He didn't deserve to be bullied. smh
“Thank u cardi b sunbae-nim”
I FREAKING LOVE THE EDITOR HE/SHE MUST BE A GEN-Z 🤣
The editor's the real og😎
ashley's so gorg omg
I STAN THE EDITOR
the title makes me wonder what Matthew feels after Somin's recent rumor thingy
It's so sad, they just generalize bullying, hope I'm not gonna be 'that' kind of teacher ; )
You guys make such a good team
good to see BM
These videos have become the highlight of my week, I always wait for you guys to release them
damn i relate to that "laughing it off" so bad.. now i can laugh about me prolly looking like i wanted more at that time too cos i just laugh it off but seriously, people like those destroyed the shit out of my school days :(
It would be great if you have Ikon Bobby, DK and Jay on Dive Studio someday.
DK and Jay speak english ?
@@saraone359 yes DK is really fluent and Jay is confident and trying hard these days
@@nguoivohinh2851 that's nice, they can add Junhoe too, i got an unbelievable
KooJune is no joke 😂😂😂 he would make everyone laugh their heads off
I was bullied too in school.
I still remember vividly when my family were taking picture, my male cousin pinched me behind everyone while smiling :'( it hurt so bad that my skin bleed because his nail is too long :( i can never forgive him.. Till this day all of his words and insults would follow me everywhere I go cus I keep hearing his voice.
I think jimin debuted before cardi hahahaha .. editor-nim you are funny
Give us the names and we’ll do the rest
All I will say is that no matter how much someone is bullied, it's better to just be the bigger person and move on, instead of retaliating. This also comes from someone who was bullied for years.
@@kat_g56 I know you mean well but I don't think this is a great message to pass on to people especially children getting bullied. Why does the victim always have to "be the bigger person"? They're already stuck with the trauma of it all. It's unfair to expect them to just brush it off & move on without consequence.
@@BRiGHT-CHilD Well that's just what I personally had to do to get through all the years of bullying and although it took many years. I'm in a better place now. My school didn't do much for me so the best thing I could do was try and ignore it so it wouldn't eat me alive
@@BRiGHT-CHilD Also my comment was based on what I had to do, I understand that ever persons case when bullied is different. Also, how one gets bullied varies
@@kat_g56 you must have been strong but im happy you are in a better place now
now talk about how your bandmate is a bully, Matthew ❤️
I relate to Ashley because when i was in elementary school some kids used to grab my hair or throw my backpack they even followed me to know where i live and slap me so when i told the teacher he was just like "oh that's okay they're just playing with you don't make a big deal of it" DOES A CRYING KID COMING UP TO YOU LOOKS LIKE THEY ARE PLAYING WITH FRIENDS!!!!??
I walked home from school every day with another girl in elementary school. In 2nd grade there was a boy who was a year younger but much bigger than us that suddenly started walking the same way we did and he would follow us all the way home and be mean and swing his backpack at us. At a busy corner while we waited to cross the street he swung his backpack at us and we almost fell into the road. My mom saw him following us one day and she ask who it was and I said I didn't know. It was like she just knew, I think she would watch for us every day to turn the corner down my street so she must have been watching what he was doing, but she yelled at him so bad. It must have scared him real bad because he never followed us again throughout all of elementary school. I think sometimes all it takes it just one adult to pay attention and speak up to make them stop. I'm sorry that happened to you and no one did anything.
@@Allydo15
Actually the school didn't do anything but my mom did she even went to speak to their parents and they stopped bothering me but what's triggering here is the adults who are supposed to take care of kids in school are the ones who don't gaf
i like how the video is edited😭
Would love to hear what BM haves to say about his Kard bandmate, Somin, bullying her old bandmate to the point she tried commiting...
this entire episode was recorded about a month or so ago before the bullying scandal so they wouldn't be mentioning anything about it.
@@jennifernguyen3877 but how come BM said fuck bullying in the last episode so this came out at the start of the bullying scandals in Korea but not when S**** kard one came out
@kay whatever somin did or did not when she was in April has nothing to do with BM. If it’s true that she was part of the bullying, maybe BM did not know. All I’m saying is to stop connecting unrelated dots. They are in the same group but that doesn’t mean their whole lives are related
Why are you acting like it has been confirmed?? It's all accusations now.. Not when someone commits means that it is because of bullying and the bullying is true. Why can't kpop fans understand that??
It is not your business what he has to say about somin that will surely be discussed in private little Machiveic head
When I was getting bullied I had two teachers who helped the bullies and help cover it up
I remember laughing at my bullies and acting like they were my friends because they were my only friends... I will never forget when in middle school I tried to commit for the first time, told one of my so called friends I had taken a few pills (mind you I took like four thinking it would work) and was scared and she told me along the lines of “ Your stupid, you’d need a lot more then four if you actually wanted to actually die” then ended the call. When I look back at it I’m not mad at her anymore, I just can’t help recalling that one memory almost every day for some reason.
Been loving this podcast for quite a while now and I really LOVE all Get Real episodes. They're the realest people in the industry I should say :)
1:18 ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ
내가 좋아하는 프니옵 드립
"CARDI B SUNBAENIM" IS BACKKKK
It is hurt, when I was being bullied my classmates were laughing at me !!!! No one cared !!! Still cannot understand 😔
And the fact that topic for this podcast is very timely too esp with what's happening the past few weeks
Ok sorry if I am standing on a soap box, but I wanted to address something that has been bothering me, especially in these past 2 years that has to do will bullying accusations. Let me start by saying that I have Personally gotten bullied a lot throughout all my years in school, but what absolutely is pissing me off is that these idols are constantly getting assessed by people that they are bullying them. As a person who has been bullied, I don't like it but I feel no one after so many years should still have their entire career jeopardized just because they were a bully when in high school or younger. Also, like only if you are famous does your career actually get impacted if you were a "bully", because otherwise you are no important in society. Like if I were to call out all those that have bullied me, those people would not even be affected since they are not "celebrities or famous". Also like honestly playing the victim card is a low blow. I've been bullied by so many people, but what made me stronger is that I did not let those bad school experiences impact my future. I think it's pathetic how people are accusing idols that were at one time a bully, just because they are famous and probably are trying to get some money from it. If you ask me, by accusing anyone after years of a time when you were bullied then that personally makes you a bully and very shallow.
I kinda agree, especially if that person CHANGED and they no longer do the things they used to when they’re TEENAGERS.
I do agree with you but it depends for example if it's sever that the victim is still mentally unstable not able to work his/her life then yaaah call them out but if it's the normal bollying about Shap etc.. people should move on because the celebrity might admit suicide or get severely affected
I've also been in situation that hurts me but I moved on and it's years ago.
Unless it's not sever and your life is not damaged and you moved on let people live and become better people
@@esramokzangi1594 I agree, also I am speaking from my own experiences and now looking back although this may sound strange, but I'm actually happy I got bullied. Not because it was fun, but it made me into a stronger person and also I was able to see how unimportant so many material things are that people my age still hold onto as their "identity"
@@kat_g56 yaah I feel you 💜 I learned to see things from another perspective
@@et9418 Yah also like by retaliating years later only to completely destroy the persons career, only makes you look worse. Also, like if I still wasn't over someone who bullied me and found out they were famous. I wouldn't rat it out to the world I would keep it on the DL. By making it public it makes it sound like you are only doing it to draw more attention to something that was originally only between you and a person.
0:09 "Cardi b sunbae-nim"
I can't😂😂😂😂
love the edits, how it always blends and fits in
I dont know if theres smthg wrong w me, but penial qute voices is truly a charm 💙
I live for the editing of the highlight videos 😂
Sometimes I wish they’d incorporate them into full episodes lol (that would be too much work for the editors though probably)
I'm really grateful I was never bullied bullied. I probably just had a few people trying to test me and push my buttons, but I would always ignore them or give off the heaviest don't f with me aura. However, my older sister did get bullied by a boy in elementary school when she was in after school care. It got so bad to where she actually beat the crap out of him one day. It's always a funny story to remember when my parents tell it, but yeah, like BM said, violence is never the answer 😂
Can't wait to see the full episode!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
Me too❣!!!!
Who could bully someone perfect
I'm being bullied by some childrens (but the reason was different from BM & Ashley)
At that time I was in middle semester of 6th grade,..
I'm not longer 'have' Mom, GOD loves my Mom more, so GOD takes My Mom from this earth..
My heart literally flood by tears..
Being children that don't have Mom was so hard to me.. + that happen near my puberty, I don't have someone to lean on my puberty thing (especially I'm a girl) ;`( I'm actually have sisters but they don't help me, they being melancholy on their own live & business..
Some children (boys) for two years was make fun of me, not only verbally ('u don't have any Mom haha, u gotta go to orphanage' & many other words) they'll also hurtly pinch my hand, pinch my leg,
During recess they took school equipment without me knowing, so the helper that I thinking at that moment was my home room teacher (coz I'm very very not close to my Dad), but what he said just ignore me & say that unnecessary things, people one day would n't have parents either so *just be patient! Be nice to the others!* I'm so mad, but I couldn't help it ;`(
Thankfully I've some friends that always by my side for long time♡ That bullying things make me stronger than before ಥ‿ಥ ❣~ Also hope I'll not be *'that'* kind of teacher!
What type of low life would bully someone for not having s mom?
@@justSunny7 I don't know why, but don't misunderstand me, maybe not all of children in my country, may just in my region 😔
I've been bullied by both students AND TEACHERS .
i feel like before i had the opposite problem as bm bc i was really skinny and underweight i felt like people would target me bc they knew i physically couldnt have done anything 😅
Those culture bullier are the worst. When I first moved to the state, it made me more introverted bec they would made fun of my food, my clothes, my languages, etc lots. But it made we r stronger.
I still don't know if what I've been through can be considered as bullying. The girls that I've tried to approach to be friends with would shout at me one day and then be nice . They would also made racist jokes, the weirdest thing was that after living this I didn't get any bad "feeling" from it but after a few years I've started to experience anxiety
"Oh it's because you're too nice, just understand.." WHAT. THE. HECK.
Before teachers get all of the blame, people have to realize. We cannot say ANYTHING to a person's child that would hurt their feelings. Most parents would demand to know what you did or what the other child did before they even entertain that their child just might be the worst. We can't rely on parents to even discipline and instill values in their child, so I have to do it in my room. I don't ask my parents for help and just deal with it myself. The jerks in our ranks do not get to have a good time and know not to ask me for anything until they check their attitude. My expectations are made clear on what that entails, and they fix it. Now you can act like little terrors when you're at home and if Mom and Dad tolerate that, but not in my domain.
Now, with that, I also try to promote peer-to-peer facilitation when the kid's at our odds with each other. Yes, I can always come in and save, but I or another teacher is not always going to be there. When you're an adult, there's no teacher to tattle to if someone's being "mean" or bothering you. This may sound harsh, but we do have to learn how to handle it. Coping is a serious skill we are lacking in many societies. I have not forgotten what it is like to be bullied and made fun of. But my bullies learned quick that they weren't going to get a rise out of me, so they eventually moved on. I was taught that I am stronger than the situation, and I decide how I let it affect me. More children need to be equipped with this knowledge, and I'm sure even bullying can come to an end.
1:12 I felt that Ashley. 😭🤣
Ohhh no again bullying. My mind is full of this word!!
My experience with bullying at school is older student bullying younger students for fun. 😞 When it came to ppl on the same age it was the popular kids who looked down on the other kids. GUYS it's not ok to bully. Being weak or too nice isn't a reason to attack someone Dx
In my case, my bullies were my "friend" and by the time I went to jr high I left them all. Being friendless isn't that scary 🤣
when I was 10/11, a dude threw a half-full 2000ml water bottle to my head from the back of the bus and thought it was funny that shit hurt bruh he was lucky my head didnt bleed
Love you guys!
So did BM just confirm he's got bigger teddies than Ashley?
Somin's bullying scandal tho....and this..lol
i really love the edit💘
Can't wait for the full episode
A much need conversation amidst the Bullying Scandal blowing up in the Korean Entertainment Industry. However I feel they could have touched upon their stance on the scandals.
i think this is recorded even before all the bullying controversy in korea.
This is just a clip. They probably speak a little more about it in the full episode. If I'm not mistaken, I think they've already done a whole episode about bullying a while ago
@@justSunny7 The full podcast version is already available on Apple podcasts. They steered clear from the current events. Wouldn’t blame them since it’s a very sensitive topic to touch upon.
@@zicoislab2905 If that’s the case then great timing.
@@naznaz8903 this was recorded before the current bullying scandals so it would make sense that they don't talk about it.
What you do when you know your friend do bullying?
my question is... if they apologized, would you forgive the person now who did that to you?
Why the fuck would somebody bully B.M.?!?! He has to be the sweetest, nicest, and most extremely caring person in K-Pop.
someone cutted my hair in front of the teacher and she did NOTHING just when this guy said that it was false that he was doing something to me she said "i have been watching for a while, stop" DO YOU THINK HE STOPPED?! i had to cut my whole hair :v
Funny this came out when BM's bandmate is accused of bullying her old bandmate.
Who??
Who now??
@@shreyosibanerjee4906 somin
I mean nothing has been confirmed still so
I wonder how do the bullies feel now that you are famous
I was definitely bullied when I was younger, I have had someone pour a whole 20oz soda on me at the bus stop while waiting to go to school, I have had my school books stolen, I have had rocks thrown at me, I had a girl on my bus offer someone five bucks to put gum in my hair, who also offered money to have someone punch me in my face, made fun of cause I was “fat” but shit back then ur gurl was thicc I’m just thicc with a lot of fluff....lol so yeah I had absolutely no confidence when I was younger. Bullying is my biggest enemy.
Teacher you wack! It's so sad when you are a kid and you think you can turn to the adult who is supposedly wiser but all they do is disappoint you. Maybe these folks should UNDERSTAND their behavior can have lasting impact on people. I wish the world was a kinder place 😢
The timing of this oof
cardi b sunbaenim bruh im dead
I ship BM and Ashley so much. Just the way he looks at her! I know they are friends but I think they would work together.
Stop... it’s really uncalled for.
he calls her the ‘mom’ of the group...
let’s not
What schools did yall go to damn
In the uk you get bullied by the teachers more than the kids, my teachers made me feel worthless, talk down to me and said I’ll never make anything of my life because I would spend about half the year off with illness.
Kids on the other hand went round dashing people behind the knee with the metal part of their clip on ties which was even worse for girls in skirts, roast the fuck out of everyone in your family, steal your shit and on occasion attempt wrestling moves on you out of nowhere and this happened to everyone.
Heyyyyy!!!
BM was bullied, snd somin was a bully.. what an ironic group..
CARDI B SUNBAENIM HAHAHAHAAHAH IM DEADDD
Poor BM, friends don't do that 😔
Can we just make Jamie as permanent alreadyyyyyy
Ashley 😂😂🤚
Thank u cardi b sunbaenim 👍🏻
cardi b sunbae-nim is baacckk!!
You all look so good
This is freaking sad
I was bullied at school and in life in general for being half asian. Haha funny. 🙄