To Hell And Back Season 1 Episode 4
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- Опубликовано: 8 сен 2024
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Thanks, Owamie, for bringing such stories even though I am so emotional about this story, and she is so beautiful and humble. I wish her a bright future ahead
First things first, this lady is so breathtakingly beautiful🥺❤️
I’m sorry that you had to go through so much Sisi. What I have learnt from this story is that:
- As African parents we can do better and change the narrative, as a parent it is your responsibility to educate your children especially a girl child about Sex Education, teach them that when you engage with a man you will fall pregnant and have a child, imagine this 14 year old at the time knew nothing about the dangers and consequences of sexual activities.
- Children will mess up and make mistakes but as a parent you can’t do this to your child, throw them away and allow a man to abuse them like this all in the name of punishment💔
- There is a thin line between being evil and being a strict parent, what this lady’s father did was evil and very wrong😩
In summary “Childhood traumas and underlying issues” are serious bethuna, let us be kind to each other we really don’t know what people have been through😭😭 what a painful story, your life was ruined at a very young age but we thank God that he carried you through it all🙏❤️
Sending you so much love and light🫂❤️
😢 thank you sisi for your wise words. I wish I can share some of my vn between me and my X but I don't know how.
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You haven't gotta do too much talking take them to a clinic and get contraception, either the pill, implant, coil etc
@@Vhhandle I know you probably mean well, but that does not help except 'keep the babies away'. What we should be encouraging is CONVERSATION. Talk to your child about these things and then both decide if contraception is something that she even wants to do, because that in itself(the pill) can have major effects on her in the long run. Some of which she could hate you for if you never spoke to her about it in the first place.
Surely if you are willing to make her contracept, she is old enough for you guys to speak about sex. 14 and 15 year olds are old, you cannot take such decisions on their behalf unless you are THAT kind of parent.
, good lp
A round of applause for Owamie please, she is doing the most 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
Thank you 😊
@@dikolizaskk5847at least she is trying🙃
@@dikolizaskk5847this comment is so untrue and unnecessary
@dikolizaskk5847 lol, I agree and I would like to add that only those who try hard reap greater rewards 🤷
@@dikolizaskk5847 if you also tried hard your channel would grow mamma😊
The trauma that comes with having an overly strict parent where it even borders on abuse ... 💔 I wish Mandy nothing but the best from life... may she be elevated, may her blessings flow in abundance, may she be surrounded by peace, gentleness, genuine love and good people. Protect her Lord❤
Thank you Sisi. Your words are much appreciated 🙏
Amen!!!
She makes me see how important for South Africans to be kind to all foreign nationals coming to find refuge in our country 🙏 Stronger Together ❤️
We also have storeis like this in South Africa
This is nothing new in the African continent.
This episode has nothing to do with refuge, it's about GBV
We have worse stories and we don't run to other countries
@zindela210 Just ignore the negative and bitter responses to your comment. Your comment was not meant to trigger people but just to spread some kindness.
The elders failed her. I hope she can heal from the trauma and have a good life and peaceful life
Honestly 😢 they had ONE job, which was to protect her and they didn’t even try
Ohh Queen this is commendable ❤. You've found your lane and you are doing the most sis❤
I'm so sorry to the lady, may God bless you both🤗.
Thank you so much❤️
Owamie, i love how you just allow the guest to speak and tell the story. You’re doing well mama❤ keep it up.
The danger of telling daughters to stay in a toxic marriage 😢😢😢 am sending love to Mandy and her daughter, and prayers to her mom..
Cishe ngafa sisi. I wish I can share my conversation I had with my X after seeing this interview. 😢😢😢he is a monster
Askies Love it is owk to speak your hear is therapeutic, sending love to you and hugs❤❤❤
I hope she & her daughter are going to see someone, u can hear through her voice da pain...
I suggest a coach/sofa for a more intimacy as the podcast is an emotional session... I'm loving the growth
True, this is too formal, a couch will be better.
True hey , maybe a couch and also a glass of water or juice cause talking for some time sometimes your mouth becomes dry unless they do drink something but off camera 🙃😉
The black camera lens next to Mandy is a cup, probably has something to drink.
I'm glad she was able to come out of it stronger rather than sitting and blaming her father and ex husband for making life miserable
This women is so beautiful and forgiving 🥺♥️
Kudos to you Queen Nonja 👏🏽♥️
I remember my father as a very abusive man to both my mother and us, whenever I see or hear a man abusing a woman it triggers all the trauma back
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Sorry but forgive him
i get you i confronted my father about the abuse and it got worse
I@@emeritatee1597I'm sorry love please find help
I hate abuse because it makes you think things are fine when they are not. She said she now has a relationship with her dad, my 2 cents is that; that’s not a relationship, dad is now just old, alone, and he has no one else!
True. If he had a girlfriend/wife, he would probably not talk to his daughter.
@@lucelletadiwanashemakubika7636exactly
But God says forgive to be forgiven
@@maiyeukai9346 your view is correct as well, mine tends to differ, as forgiveness is for the wise and it does not always mean going back. Some situations require a lot of therapy, than returning back to the place of war. My 2 cents...
My baby your story take me back the life my mother lived with my father i won't forget that 💔💔😭😭😭
Great job Owamie. Just a small one, please keep a box of tissues for your guests.
And for us too. Ninjas cry too😢😢😢. This was too much for me.
Soon Owamie will be on a Tv. This is her calling.
I cant believe this,this lady is so young,matured n strong.you are a hero.much respect for u .cant believe im crying rite now
Her Father indirectly gave this man permission to abuse his daughter.
I hope she knows how beautiful she is and how much her life is worth.
Her daughter should never be forced to relate to this man because toxic relationships generate cycles of trauma.
She's really been through the most. I hope her mother is okay where she is.
Good work sis Owamie. We need stories like this so we know we are not alone in our hardships. Please provide structure to your interviews. Guide the stories using structured questions and timeline of events so the guests don't just narrate randomly. Take a few tips from Relebogiles's Unpacked series. You are going far.
I would have loved a more indepth conclusion of her story. I really wanted to know where she is today and how she arrived at having her peace and joy. Structure would really have all our questions answered in future episodes.
One thing about abusers they'll never say am sorry. Thank you for sharing her story.
12:51 yoh. That lady had ONE job, to protect a girl child and she couldn’t do it
Mandy hun I'm so sorry for the hardships you endured. You're strong, gorgeous and capable momma. Keep going, you're doing great. Sending you and your baby all my love ❤😊
❤❤❤ thank you sisi❤
Owamie, I love how you listen to our constructive inputs. You surely are goals❤
You get better at this with each episode mama🎉❤
The Zimbabwean Lady is so pretty, I really wish her well in Life , the number of I come to you as a woman she had to do!!! Ladies him cheating once is enough. Indoda ejola while nishadile never gets better. Leave that toxic situation before you leave in a coffin
She never cheated she was rape by his boyfriend.
We have a lot of problems to deal with in sub Saharan Africa. These stories are similar to what i have watched across other cultures. Let us work hard to build our communities and protect innocent children like this. My heart bleeds hearing these stories. Love from Cameroon and UK.
This lady was just too patient. I would have gone away to find a mokhukhu just so i am independent of this guy. He was just too "dirty" and disgusting
She has been independent al along.its just that she always thought what about my child..even people who have where to go find it difficult to leave their abusive partners
We do appreciate your story. We can't always avoid entering abusive relationships, but we can leave by empowering ourselves mentally, emotionally, and physically.
Some died trying to leave. So avoid!
Sorry for all that you you, your mom and daughter went through Mandy. I hope you guys heal, especially your daughter and break this generational curse of a daughter witnessing their mom being abused.❤❤❤
That's what I'm trying to do Sisi. My daughter means a lot to me
First signs of trauma she remembers how young she was.... But age timelines confused me
😢❤❤I noticed that Sisi . I'm so sorry 🙏
She got pregnant at 14, gave birth at 15. From the I just added the child's age
Ýeah I think she is confused..when her daughter was 4 and he beat her she must have been 18
Johhh in Zimbabwe you come back home late they will tell you to go back where you are coming from....even if you are under 18....the family toxicity is on another level
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In Zimbabwe you impregnate my daughter she is your wife it's fair and first things first don't do adult stuff when you are young fullstop
Even in SA I remember my mom used to do the same thing. Toxicity is everywhere
I remember I used to fear that because my father was very strict so I never played that game but I know alot of people that were sent back to their boyfriends and you end up not finishing school. I only know of 1 person where the parents didn't send her away and helped raise the child.
My aunt used to come over to the house to cook for my uncle and one day she stayed over too late and when she got home they told her to go back where she came from, she came back and never returned home ever again- and they got married they were so young and we came from a family which didn’t have much there was 11 of us in the house. I can honestly say my uncle never loved her and still doesn’t but just because of that one mistake their future was decided for them.
The story starts getting juicy once she starts talking about the cousin 😮
The headboy/prefect of the ninjas just arrived, please sit back, relax and enjoy, by the way, make sure you have subscribed, like and shared
You really are 😂😂😂
🤣🤣🤣 you are indeed the head boy
This reminds me,that my dad,when i was getting married,he said,i must never come back from marriage,after they spent sooo much money,meaning even if i can be abused,i must never come back😢😢😢
Mandy, you are strong. You did well leaving that monster. May God bless you and your daughter. I pray all goes well with/for your mother and that you will be together again some day.
Thank you for sharing your story
Thank you so much 🙏❤❤
It’s such a blessing to be born to parents who are prepared to give you the right guidance in life, it’s so important. I’m so sorry you went through all of this and I wish you all the healing in abundance
So sickening , the dad is so evil. She must stop talking to him, he dosent deserve her attention and love.
I'm trying my best to stay away from him but he keeps on calling me with different phone numbers😢
@@werise1577saying what?😢 he was so evil towards you 🥹
You are a very brave woman to share your story. Most of us women have gone through the same predicament with no help. Our zim culture has a lot to change. Once you make a mistake you become a tool for abuse from all angles. This situation can be viewed as normal. Help is a difficult word.
I'm from SA & have a child with a Zimbabwean but he passed on. Now his family wants my child...I will never understand the undermining they have towards me thinking they can love her better than I can...It's funny they want her irrespective of how thier son assured them how much of a great mom I am with or without him in the picture 😢.
This thing of forcing kids to marry because they have a boyfriend is still happening
It’s bad 😢
In zim, you impregnate you marry
@@neosjournal_ imagine ...even if the child is 14......it's really bad
Its utter rubbish.....these parents are mentally unstable
Very touching story.
In my case..my mom is making me her worst enemy.. she also influenced all my family.. relatives and my siblings to hate me... I'm alone.. doing my things...it doesn't doing me any good to beg such people to live in harmony with...
Wamhle umntwana wase Plumtree, model material! Inspiration from such a young lady. Kudos for all the strides that she's made.
Thank you ❤
Very good heart, Mandy, No wonder she's beautiful. She doesn't hold any grudges. As for her father, he doesn't lead by example. Stay beautiful and raise your child my dear.
Thank you 🙏
Queen ninja you really did this interview like a pro girl you gave your guest a platform to take us through their story without interfering and asking the relevant questions where need be💐💐💐💐❤❤
She was about 17 or 18 when she was beaten 'cause the baby was already 3yrs
My sister ,you are the chosen one in the family to break this genertional curse in your family .
Proud of the both of you for discussing such sensitive topics with such poise... I pray that as parents we keep growing and learning to do better... we heal and are able to raise even more fruitful babies...
I love how you let them tell their story and only ask questions for things that are not clear
This type of content is so unique owamie wow its only gonna be success from here onwards
Thank you ❤❤❤
Sis bekezelad too much though, I pray she finds healing 🙏🙏🙏.. I think her mum also failed her
The hardships she went through is painful and traumatizing
Yoh..very heart breaking..im so glad that mama Vanessa is now okay and shes still fighting for her child..but i also think she shouldnt force her child to have a relationship with her dad..that guy can go to the nearest hell..hes going to traumatize mntwana
I'm not going to force her Sisi. I know how hurtful things are. I will definitely do my best to protect my daughter
@@werise1577 wishing you all the best mama❤I know and trust that you will protect Vanessa..You've done a great job and please keep it up❤❤may God heal you and may he abundantly bless you ❤❤❤🌻
5 star content as usual 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟
God Bless my daughter. God saw you sorrows and has set you fee. The wrong shall face his on consequences.
Queen Ninja. Well done! Thank you for sharing these stories. May our generation change the narrative and do better towards our children ❤
Usisi omuhle kangaka going through the most...Well done mummy when I see you I will give you a hug Sis. You deserve it maarn.
I need a strong cup of coffee 😂but thank you 🙏❤
Tjo! This is beyond heartbreaking 💔 may everything be in your favor and that of your daughter.
Thank you sisi. I'm trying my best to protect my daughter 🙏
Mandy ❤. You are such a beautiful and strong lady. You deserve so much more.
When you spoke of lawyer friend I realised you might have missed opportunities coz of this experience. I wish you can go back to school coz you are still young. You can do this girl. All the best.
Thank you sisi❤❤
You very right sisi parents destroy our lives because of their stupid strict especially Zimbabwean dads are the worst nxaaaaaa am very sorry sisi you know I cried so hard pls take care of your daughter❤
She’s so beautiful man 😢😍🔥 I pray that she finds her peace & may God bless her with a loving partner.
Thank you so much for this Owamie!! I totally love that you give your guests the time and patience to express themselves without rushing and most importantly the empathy for them to develop the story. ❤❤❤ Love from London, UK 🇬🇧
Wooooow that’s exactly what the father of my children does aw my goodness I’m shocked!!! Even the dreaming😂😂 sometimes calling in the middle of the night stating bad dreams about the children and asking to come and ‘pray’ for them 😂😂 yet he won’t step up to his responsibilities. I remember asking myself where do all these dreams come from and even what’s the point of giving someone like this dreams about children he doesn’t take care of.
Well done my dear I know what you’ve been the!! Keep focused God shall remain your strength ❤❤❤
Just delete him in your life sisi. God will definitely deal with him 😅
It's God telling him to protect his kids and be a father not a stranger, but he is just an idiot who think it needs prayer. It needs him to act like a father .
I know I'm not the only one obsessing with this channel
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I'm here oooo
What a story. I feel for this young lady(my first daughter’s age). I pray that God Almighty with comfort you and bless you beyond your imagination.
Wow, what a beautiful lady.
Im glad you came out of this alive,I hope you find healing Mandy. Sending you all the love, light and peace that surpasses all human understandings. We love you Sis🤍 pls consider therapy for you and your beautiful daughter….❤️
Thank you sisi. I love you too ❤️
I wished to get an insight of what happenned with school when she fell pregnant at 14yrs....i get tht when the husband came bck the daughter was 3 yrs already and same time/year husband strts beating her she is 15yrs into 16yrs...the age kinda not correspond to the events. Mandy is sch a beatiful woman🔥👌... N you look stunning queen ninja
I had the same question but I also get there is a language barrier as well
I was looking for this comment.
Mandy when he sees you glowing he will try coming back to disrupt your peace. Please even if buy you Mercedez do not take him back.
Run and never look back. May you find healing and love sisi
I'm not going back there sisi. 😅ngihappy la ngikhona
Abusers do not change!!!!!
Wow, I like the direction your podcast is going. Please if you can get your speakers to also feel comfortable expressing themselves in their languages would make their messages resonate even stronger, I know it maybe costly interms of getting a translator and edit in subtitles so for that, I don't mind I would join and pay a member fee for this channel.❤😊
The effort owamie has put in this show
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No man is worth going to prison for. May God continue to heal and guide you Always 🙏🏾
I think this episode will hit 100k before friday
Amen 🙏 Amen 🙏
The love and empathy shown in these stories is beautiful, this space allows guests to be comfortable with being vulnerable and it really shows why we need to be determined to be kind to one another every single day ❤. Thank you❤
We honestly have to be better parents than our parents were. Some of these customs are soooo backdated and really won't work in today's world. The world has so many pressures now and life has become hard. Back then a girl child would be chucked to the boy's home no matter then age because people were self sufficient and life demanded very little and was simpler. As time goes, your daughter get pregnant look for a baby sitter and send her right back to schooled before she becomes abused by the guy responsible and experience what Mandy experienced. At the end of the day the girl child is the one who'll probably end up being the single parent looking after that child anyways. Better equipped than thrown to the wolves.
She sounds hurt😢 remain strong my love we all have been there. 😊
Nice setup. Didn’t know about this channel , don’t even know how I stumbled across it. Glad I did. Quite interesting
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Umuhle sisi.Definitely can relate. Some girls were raped impregnated and chased from home. Some commited suicide out of desperation.Our parents didn't know better, at all.
She is GORGEOUS😍, can she put him on child support?
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Beautiful attire Ninja, you are doing very well mugal ❤ Mandy she's pretty too but I wish she could have conducted her story in her language to express herself more and it is a very sad story indeed. She went through a lot at her early age. Keep it up Ninja we are behind you to support you mbokodo❤ I feel sorry for Mandy and be strong girl. We all learn through hard times all in the name of love dearest and you know what??? He is a loser ❤❤
Thank you sisi ❤
What a beautiful young woman ❤we are going through a lot ,Owamie keep doing a good job🙏
Some parents are too strict as if they were not young it seems they didn't learn anything from their own mistake s as a mother my self i refuse strict parenting method wishing you the best ❤️ 🇳🇦
Heartbreaking story. You are beautiful Mandy. Wishing you nothing but the best in life. You deserve all the good things in life nana.
I receive 🙏thank you so much sisi❤
I thoroughly enjoyed this episode, I learnt a lot and it was really entertaining
Thank you ❤❤❤
THIS STORY WAS SO HEARTBREAKING! WISHING YOU SO MUCH LOVE AND LIGHT FOR YOUR JOURNEY GOING FORWARD FOR YOU HAVE GONE THROUGH MORE THAN ANYONE SHOULD IN A LIFETIME! MAY THE UNIVERSE SHELTER YOU FROM NOW!
Women need to know from early in a relationship that the red flags are real.....get out as the first drama starts its safer for everyone that way especially your children what they see or hear will only mess up their outlook/decisions in life in the future
Ey maan...many red flags but she stayed🙆
That's why we always have to be kind to each other you don't know wht ppl are going through 😢
Beautiful lady, I respect her for being strong for her daughter even when she thought life was no longer worth living
Owami... I have a story as well. But not in JHB/SA
That parents should go to jail
This was a lot and this guy lost a beautiful soul and he keeps communicating with her it's because he knows messed up big time, it could also be that he keeps comparing his girlfriends with Mandy and non come close.
Ngiyabonga 🙏
❤what a beautiful soul may you find peace and God bless your hand so that everything you touch prosper
Amen sisi thank you 🙏
Run for your life that is deep my sisters thank you ladies❤
This story is not adding up, this lady was 14 when she,her mom and siblings were abused by the aunt, she got pregnant ran away from home lived her aunt(father’s sister) found out she’s pregnant got married. Gave birth then came to South Africa 2008 stayed here 2009 and 2010 ,2011 went home to start building then husband started cheating with his cousin and 2012 January when her husband started abusing her she was 15 😳 the years could be confusing her🤷🏽♀️ @Owami you are a great host by the way🙏
You are right about the age gap. I think I was nervous. But trust me I went through hell
What matters is th story and when she got married off losing everything..we don't really care about when the dead beat husband started cheating ..the point is she was still young when all happened and good side she came out strong
@@krisjoh1465 thank you 🙏
And you typed ALL THAT???? Lacking the empathy but having time to type the timelines😢😢😢😢😢
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Sending love and healing to Mandy she’s beautiful she didn’t have to experience this pain
I do blame myself sometimes
@@werise1577it happens to all but it aint your fault..be glad you came out strong and your daughter looks up on you as some inspiration.. she will take no nonsense
Big up beautiful girl....Enkosi for sharing your story....for a little girl who left school at the age of 14....you are going to be fine...your bravery is healing...be healed.....
This girl is beautiful bathing. I wish you find a good, loving and caring man
Owamie I have been listening to your stories, You are a great person you really give your guest time to explore their stories, We thank you home gal for standing up and rebuilding the dignity of African womens out there,, we have past lives and hearing others sharing gives us strength and hope to look forward that one day, we will share our Hell and back, it really pains when you are being abandoned by your own family first and you try marriage and it comes the worst but because we have a purpose to live then we come to understand that indeed life is a journey, lot's of love to Ninjaas
Yoh sorry Mandy everything will be fine God is with you what your father did was very wrong...as for me i was dealing with black tax it was very hard i tried to talk about it and my father said i am no longer his child since then he blocked me and he is so manipulative
I'm sorry to hear that Sisi. All I can say is that time heals. God knows how much you tried so if he does not want you to be in his life, let it be. Life is too short to worry about people who does not want to be in your life.
Owamie is living in purpose and it's gonna change and save lives. ✨️ ❤ so beautiful to watch
Owamie you need to bless us with your fits of each episode please hle, you look amazing❤😍
I will ❤❤❤
Plumtree ,kutitshi ,hugs hugs girl hugs 🫂 hugs 🫂
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