@@TamsPsychAdvice I understand, especially if you’re American. Take care of yourself first, love on yourself hard, 🖤 break out of this system. Help the ones that want to follow. You got this. ✨
ENFJs have a number of talents but do they say formal event organisation is a primary talent of ENFJs. Are ESFJs the most talented in this? Maybe Tam your sensor self was overstretched and you need stronger sensors to advise you and of course drop any INTPs who are surely the least talented of all organisers. I know ENFJs relish responding to the moment when among a tribe. Is anything easy of which it is said 'it looks easy for you' ? I received a top of educational certificate when younger that puts me in the 1% or 0.1% percentile blah blah blah and never in those years did I find it easy, I was always struggling and stressed by the system. I have cycled over 2000 miles on a trip and trained for it and I am now again training and not one day do I find it easy, I body is always struggling and often in pain. I find ideas and it is not easy yet others say it is easy for you so I ask you. In the work place also I have found that the word easy is used most often by those who command the work to be done saying 'its easy'.' A snr manager once asked me 'how easy is it to do such and such?' and I was silent, I did not understand the question and I told him so and said I don't know how to measure easiness. I asked him whether he was asking 'how hard is it to do such and such?' Maybe those who say things are easy are those who have never done it and expect others to do it for them. I wish I'd asked the snr manager how easy is it to be a manager. It seems there is a hidden strong man in the room and those who look for him to do the task or solve the problem pass it from themselves to the next stronger until there is no one stronger to be found and everyone in the room says you are the strongest so you must do it and maybe he walks out the door looking for someone stronger. I call it having strong man syndrome. For me its a red flag when someone praises my ability for I can quickly see it as the fore-runner to hearing the words you can do it, you do it for me. Being who I am my preference is to do it myself regardless of my ability and the ability of others or else do without. Indeed I have declined praise or recognition if what I do is commanded or requested by another. I do it but do not want to receive any benefits. I was as though a dead man walking and talking as they requested or commanded. On the other hand is it wise to choose those who want to help. Maybe the better helpers are those who do not want to help as the better leaders are those who do not want to. Is the most able also the most unwilling and the least able the most willing? It made me smile to hear you ranting Tam. Nice to hear the other side of you. Glad you were able to rant it out.
Haha Girrrl I get it. It’s called being extremely busy With a full-time job. So I have to video and schedule when the opportunity arises. Because there are long periods of time when I have zero time to spare and this is extremely time-consuming. Thanks for your honesty I ❤️ it!!
You the greatest Tam. Thank you ✨🥺
Gosh it’s so nice when you’re having a moment and someone says something so kind. Thanks for lifting my spirit!
@@TamsPsychAdvice I understand, especially if you’re American. Take care of yourself first, love on yourself hard, 🖤 break out of this system. Help the ones that want to follow.
You got this. ✨
You sound extremely stressed, Tammie. You need a hug?
~ENFJ
U are correct-thanks for the hugs! I think I was a little sick when I made that video 😊
ENFJs have a number of talents but do they say formal event organisation is a primary talent of ENFJs. Are ESFJs the most talented in this? Maybe Tam your sensor self was overstretched and you need stronger sensors to advise you and of course drop any INTPs who are surely the least talented of all organisers. I know ENFJs relish responding to the moment when among a tribe.
Is anything easy of which it is said 'it looks easy for you' ? I received a top of educational certificate when younger that puts me in the 1% or 0.1% percentile blah blah blah and never in those years did I find it easy, I was always struggling and stressed by the system. I have cycled over 2000 miles on a trip and trained for it and I am now again training and not one day do I find it easy, I body is always struggling and often in pain. I find ideas and it is not easy yet others say it is easy for you so I ask you.
In the work place also I have found that the word easy is used most often by those who command the work to be done saying 'its easy'.' A snr manager once asked me 'how easy is it to do such and such?' and I was silent, I did not understand the question and I told him so and said I don't know how to measure easiness. I asked him whether he was asking 'how hard is it to do such and such?' Maybe those who say things are easy are those who have never done it and expect others to do it for them. I wish I'd asked the snr manager how easy is it to be a manager.
It seems there is a hidden strong man in the room and those who look for him to do the task or solve the problem pass it from themselves to the next stronger until there is no one stronger to be found and everyone in the room says you are the strongest so you must do it and maybe he walks out the door looking for someone stronger. I call it having strong man syndrome. For me its a red flag when someone praises my ability for I can quickly see it as the fore-runner to hearing the words you can do it, you do it for me. Being who I am my preference is to do it myself regardless of my ability and the ability of others or else do without. Indeed I have declined praise or recognition if what I do is commanded or requested by another. I do it but do not want to receive any benefits. I was as though a dead man walking and talking as they requested or commanded.
On the other hand is it wise to choose those who want to help. Maybe the better helpers are those who do not want to help as the better leaders are those who do not want to. Is the most able also the most unwilling and the least able the most willing?
It made me smile to hear you ranting Tam. Nice to hear the other side of you. Glad you were able to rant it out.
premier in 16 days?😂 girl are u ok 😂
Haha Girrrl I get it. It’s called being extremely busy With a full-time job. So I have to video and schedule when the opportunity arises. Because there are long periods of time when I have zero time to spare and this is extremely time-consuming. Thanks for your honesty I ❤️ it!!
LMFAO It said "premiering in 24 hours" yesterday. Lol