Taking that worker to the beach , feeding him is a mistake. You think you’re being friendly and inclusive , he sees you as weak and a potential mark. Don’t fraternise with employees
@@jameshepburn4631 It actually may work in his favour. Philippines culture dislikes total victory by either party in a dispute even when it’s entirely merited. So the loser is allowed to keep face even when he deserves a fist in the same face.
@@jameshepburn4631 The real decision was on my girlfriend, she was the one summoned. I doubt the guy will return to work, he hasn't yet and the other workers don't approve of what he did so if he does it isn't going to be a good work enviroment for him
Right on point! Buying Filipinos alcohol, food, and recreation? To a Filipino that was exposing your personal finances.The Filipino smile is a social mask perceived by the expat as friendliness. In the Philippines the expats are perceived as multimillionaires while living among impoverished Filipinos. None of these expats would choose to live in South Chicago or Englewood/Compton.
The Philippines 🇵🇭 is a banana 🍌 republic. Mexico 🇲🇽 and other nations in the tropics 🏝. are no better! Exception is Singapore 🇸🇬. Less corrupt there. I was there in 2023.
There’s all sorts of undercurrents in a Barangay. Family loyalties, old feuds , shared corrupt dealings ….all of which you as an outsider are ignorant of and which play into any outcome.
We had similar issue had to be resolved in barangay. About a year ago our neighbor told us that our 7 year old kid (my gf daughter) had scratched her car and we had to pay her 80k pesos for the damages as she took that car to Toyota and they gave her estimate for fixing all the damages on her two year old Toyota Vios meanwhile that car is a rental car and it’s driven daily by new customers of theirs To make the story short they knew that if they will Blame these scratches all over the car on a small child whom is living with his mother at boyfriends house and he is foreigner he will just pay what ever the bill is (obviously those scratches were not made by our kid) At the barangay we had to go there three times to make it final because all barangay captain and his other helpers knew they are trying to scam us out of money they took our side and told us after those three appearances this will be over and their decision is that they don’t believe our kid those damages. BTW just yesterday we received a letter now she that crazy neighbour is taking us to court next month first week of October for same damages on her rental car.
Those people are there and they think nothing about telling lies and it's not just your wife or girlfriend they will come after ... It's your wife's family too.... They will make things up , to cause trouble, knowing the Foreigner will pay , to help his woman's family.... It's almost like the court system there , is geared to help them... The women who come to the states , They send lots of money back to the Philippines and it changes her family's life , and these people see this ... They know there's money there... The money these women send back also Stimulates the Philippines economy . And I have no doubt , it causes the opposite here . Be careful. ...
No. Just no. If you get this sort of shit, just say no, however firmly may be required. Let them sue you. Heck, tell them to sue you. Then they'll have to cough up money for an attorney.
Your down in the wild west of Mindanao. Don't be surprised if someone from that workers family comes to get revenge for insulting the mother's pride. Thanks for the video.
I also had someone reported to the barangay to settle the matter of non payment of personal debt. The barangay (pronounced "barang-guy" not "barang-gey" just so people could understand you more) is the smallest unit of government; it is not a court of law but they are allowed to settle matters that you described. That is a form of "out of court settlement." The first point when going for settlements is the barangay (not all cases apply) if the problem is not settled there, that's when you can elevate it to the actual court. If my case was not settled at the barangay level, I was prepared to go to small claims court. Thankfully, the other party paid their debt. If you really want to live there for good, try to learn the local language. If it's Bisaya, "para dili ka mabaligya." If your girl speaks Bisaya, ask her what it means. Have a nice day.
Thanks for watching and telling your story. I appreaceate the advice too. I'm learning a little Bisaya but its hard to remember for me. Doing a little at a time but don't think I'll ever get it good enough to carry on a conversation.
Interesting..... im about to start a small build in Bukidnon. Health and safety is non existent here maybe I need to consider this as potentially I am liable for any mishaps.😮
I am from Central Mindanao, Bukidnon is nice and huge! I've stayed at Malaybalay long time ago. Gorgeous! From where you want to build, find out where the nearest local hospital is, how equipped it is, whether it has the medical specialties you need and how to get there then rethink. Learn the language, it will help you go far, if you really want to live there for the long term.
My wife is from Mindanao as well as being a former Major in the Philippine army, and she has a reputation in town that no one had better mess with her. She will give you a dressing down that isn't to be believed. And she is good friends with the Mayor, the Vice Mayor as well as the Barangay Captain. I just sit back and watch the show. LOL
I get warnings like this all the time. I never know if I should take it as helpful advice or a threat. After three years, my wife and I have a sort of reputation for not putting up with a lot of crap. We are in Mindanao as well.
@ReubenMoore67 what does "not putting up with crap" have to do with the very good advice to not come across as a loud irate Westerner in a country that is not highly confrontational. If I ever move there, I'll be avoiding loud blowhard types.
@@GUITARTIME2024 Who said anything about loud or irate? Just don't deal with the crap. Sometimes that requires a firm "no." RUclips is full of stories of westerners getting scammed to one degree or another. Just like the story told in this video, there are no victims, only volunteers.
I am part Filipino. Please be very careful and never give anyone money for any reason. Good quality Filipinos or Filipinas never ask for money. Bad and worthless quality always ask. Avoid the bad ones. You are getting so scammed sir.
@Expat225 yeah my wife says some locals don't care if you someone is a local if they have money they will try to scam you. That is why they try to scam your girlfriend even though she's a local they assume she has money because she's with you
How come you think he won’t show up to work? I thought both parties agreed he would work and it is documented in court. If either party breaks the agreement, someone would be in REAL TROUBLE!
My Filipina had many requests for money from people ( not close family ) but distant relatives and people she said would not usually bother with her once they knew she was with me, greetings from the UK
Filipina married to European. Never dole out money. Once you do it might never stop. When our relationhip was new, I had some friends did try but I told them, "My bf is not an ATM." Not all ladies are like that. Some see having a foreign bf as a social status. Have a nice day.
Hopefully you're taking this seriously and not feeling confident that it ended. When Filipinos feel shamed, they go to the next level. Your wife knows what can happen to you, so better have a serious talk about it. Hope you and your family stay safe.
Me and my Australian wife are looking at retiring in Mindanao. We have friends and family around CDO, Magsaysay and Butuan areas. In your opinion which place is the safest, cheapest and has the most services?
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rethink your relocation plan . i know u wish to stretch your dollar , but its not worth it living in a nonwhite country ------they will rob u , extort u , target u , they think there are no poor caucasions . i mean all nonwhite countries====japan /korea/china, all southeast asia , south asia, africa, pacific , latin america, caribbean . heck even the minorities in white nations think all whites are rich
@rickymead5282 You both must visit first each of the places you mentioned to gather information. There's nothing like seeing and feeling it for yourselves. I'm saying this as someone coming from Central Mindanao who moved abroad.
Look at your surroundings, look at yourself, and then this pitying lecture. Full of negativity. Do you really believe the stuff that leaves your mouth? Realise that you attract your own destiny and that you are fully responsible for everything that happens in your life!
@@alfredopampanga9356 Exactly. It's in her name and can only be in her name. He hints this in the vid saying they couldn't legally turn to him but his lady, but his presence as the foreigner is what leads to the spin to rip him off. Building a house for a gf (and yourself) in the Phils - as you know - can only be in her name, and she can throw you out whenever she desires. Personally, I wouldn't allow this to be the circumstance regarding the roof over my own head.
@@-BigIi- There are very few women I would trust to that extent. It’s asking for trouble PS The land must be in the name of the Filipina but the house structure can be his. Not ideal but better than being nowhere on any title
@@Decapitorr yeah.. I stopped saying long ago words like ''such a nice people'' 🤨🙄the dishonesty, lies, scams are off the charts. Never be fooled by the smiles. Foreigners are increasingly even avoiding employing maids now because of the stealing, whether money left somewhere or card details being copied. This vid is just another reminder how dishonest many of these guys can be towards foreigners. Imagine how low this mother and son were being, after being treated so well by this foreigner, they came back with a fake injury story, then after asking 1000, the asking went to 1500, and after getting this they still went to the Local Officer in hopes of dishonestly draining more money from the foreigner, hoping the officer would be on their side. Thankfully there was cam-footage to expose their greediness and dishonesty.
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Taking that worker to the beach , feeding him is a mistake. You think you’re being friendly and inclusive , he sees you as weak and a potential mark. Don’t fraternise with employees
Yeah, I leaned my lession on that one
This guy IS weak and an easy mark. After lucking out with the barangay he agreed to let the scammer come back to work. Time to wise up.
@@jameshepburn4631 It actually may work in his favour. Philippines culture dislikes total victory by either party in a dispute even when it’s entirely merited. So the loser is allowed to keep face even when he deserves a fist in the same face.
@@jameshepburn4631 The real decision was on my girlfriend, she was the one summoned. I doubt the guy will return to work, he hasn't yet and the other workers don't approve of what he did so if he does it isn't going to be a good work enviroment for him
Right on point! Buying Filipinos alcohol, food, and recreation? To a Filipino that was exposing your personal finances.The Filipino smile is a social mask perceived by the expat as friendliness. In the Philippines the expats are perceived as multimillionaires while living among impoverished Filipinos. None of these expats would choose to live in South Chicago or Englewood/Compton.
Spent 3 years in the Philippines all the corruption is one of the reasons i left
I can understand why you left, its come to my mind a couple of times
The Philippines 🇵🇭 is a banana 🍌 republic. Mexico 🇲🇽 and other nations in the tropics 🏝. are no better! Exception is Singapore 🇸🇬. Less corrupt there. I was there in 2023.
Well stated fact! An expat is a target with 1000s of eyes studying the expat that are actively plotting money scams that could never be imagined.
I came from the USA to get away from all of the corruption, and I am here to say that the Filipinos are amateurs when it comes to corruption.
I just came back from there.. to me, it gives me vibes of being in a comunist country.
Great story and good video. I subscribed today. I hope to hear more of your stories in the future.
Thank you for subbing and viewing
The contractor who hired to guy is the one responsible to pay his employees accidents .
Correct, Thats what the Barangay told him as well
There’s all sorts of undercurrents in a Barangay. Family loyalties, old feuds , shared corrupt dealings ….all of which you as an outsider are ignorant of and which play into any outcome.
Yeah, and probably a lot I don't want to know
We had similar issue had to be resolved in barangay. About a year ago our neighbor told us that our 7 year old kid (my gf daughter) had scratched her car and we had to pay her 80k pesos for the damages as she took that car to Toyota and they gave her estimate for fixing all the damages on her two year old Toyota Vios meanwhile that car is a rental car and it’s driven daily by new customers of theirs
To make the story short they knew that if they will Blame these scratches all over the car on a small child whom is living with his mother at boyfriends house and he is foreigner he will just pay what ever the bill is (obviously those scratches were not made by our kid)
At the barangay we had to go there three times to make it final because all barangay captain and his other helpers knew they are trying to scam us out of money they took our side and told us after those three appearances this will be over and their decision is that they don’t believe our kid those damages.
BTW just yesterday we received a letter now she that crazy neighbour is taking us to court next month first week of October for same damages on her rental car.
It never ends, They don't know when to stop, gives all other filipinos a bad name
I told my wife as soon as they find out she's with an American, she's a target too. The assumption is she's rich too
Yep, even their own family will try to take advantage
Those people are there and they think nothing about telling lies and it's not just your wife or girlfriend they will come after ... It's your wife's family too.... They will make things up , to cause trouble, knowing the Foreigner will pay , to help his woman's family.... It's almost like the court system there , is geared to help them...
The women who come to the states , They send lots of money back to the Philippines and it changes her family's life , and these people see this ... They know there's money there...
The money these women send back also Stimulates the Philippines economy .
And I have no doubt , it causes the opposite here .
Be careful. ...
They picked the wrong guy, I have limits on how far I'll go with them.
Yep! There is more unimaginable trouble coming.
No. Just no. If you get this sort of shit, just say no, however firmly may be required. Let them sue you. Heck, tell them to sue you. Then they'll have to cough up money for an attorney.
Thanks for watching and the comment, I learned my lession.
Your down in the wild west of Mindanao. Don't be surprised if someone from that workers family comes to get revenge for insulting the mother's pride. Thanks for the video.
@mattm5001 thanks for watching
Or insulting their dogs or chickens. Be aware folks!
@@tomolavpettersen2070 Hopefully, nothing happens to him and his household, in that region!!
100% the ramifications of shaming the laborer and his mother will be in play for years.
I also had someone reported to the barangay to settle the matter of non payment of personal debt. The barangay (pronounced "barang-guy" not "barang-gey" just so people could understand you more) is the smallest unit of government; it is not a court of law but they are allowed to settle matters that you described. That is a form of "out of court settlement." The first point when going for settlements is the barangay (not all cases apply) if the problem is not settled there, that's when you can elevate it to the actual court. If my case was not settled at the barangay level, I was prepared to go to small claims court. Thankfully, the other party paid their debt.
If you really want to live there for good, try to learn the local language. If it's Bisaya, "para dili ka mabaligya." If your girl speaks Bisaya, ask her what it means. Have a nice day.
Thanks for watching and telling your story. I appreaceate the advice too. I'm learning a little Bisaya but its hard to remember for me. Doing a little at a time but don't think I'll ever get it good enough to carry on a conversation.
The family saw dollar signs $$. 😢
Yes, thankfully it didn't work out for them
It's tough buddy. Be careful. I've had my future sister-in-law try to shame us into giving her money. And alot😂
Sorry to hear that, Thanks for watching and commenting
New subscriber to your channel. Great video… I learned a lot! Please please be careful and watch your back. My gf is from Mindanao as well.
Thanks for the sub and the comment, Mindanao girls are wonderful
Interesting..... im about to start a small build in Bukidnon. Health and safety is non existent here maybe I need to consider this as potentially I am liable for any mishaps.😮
Its best to sit some ground rules with the workers before even starting a project
@@Expat225 Yes I will and good luck with the build.
I am from Central Mindanao, Bukidnon is nice and huge! I've stayed at Malaybalay long time ago. Gorgeous! From where you want to build, find out where the nearest local hospital is, how equipped it is, whether it has the medical specialties you need and how to get there then rethink. Learn the language, it will help you go far, if you really want to live there for the long term.
You are going to have problems and always have to pay against accusations.
My wife is from Mindanao as well as being a former Major in the Philippine army, and she has a reputation in town that no one had better mess with her. She will give you a dressing down that isn't to be believed. And she is good friends with the Mayor, the Vice Mayor as well as the Barangay Captain. I just sit back and watch the show. LOL
Thats a good wife to have LOL
Dude, your tone could cause you issues with those people. Be careful.
Yeah, I try to keep a calm tone,
I get warnings like this all the time. I never know if I should take it as helpful advice or a threat. After three years, my wife and I have a sort of reputation for not putting up with a lot of crap. We are in Mindanao as well.
@ReubenMoore67 what does "not putting up with crap" have to do with the very good advice to not come across as a loud irate Westerner in a country that is not highly confrontational. If I ever move there, I'll be avoiding loud blowhard types.
@@GUITARTIME2024 Who said anything about loud or irate? Just don't deal with the crap. Sometimes that requires a firm "no." RUclips is full of stories of westerners getting scammed to one degree or another. Just like the story told in this video, there are no victims, only volunteers.
you embarrassed the hell out of mom you now have a bullseye drawn on you family feud are not a joke here watch your back
Thanks for the advice, I am watching everyone a lot closer and my girlfriend won't let me go out alone
100%
So they're just thugs?
I am part Filipino. Please be very careful and never give anyone money for any reason. Good quality Filipinos or Filipinas never ask for money. Bad and worthless quality always ask. Avoid the bad ones. You are getting so scammed sir.
Thanks for watching and commenting, I agree, I rarely ever get asked for money except for the street beggers
@@Expat225you can't give 1500 pesos so easily like that for feeling bad for him. He scam you badly
@@youngandfree93 Yes, @youngandfree93 is correct. NEVER give money.
That is why you dont go with her let her go by herself
Yep, best to stay in the background
@Expat225 yeah my wife says some locals don't care if you someone is a local if they have money they will try to scam you. That is why they try to scam your girlfriend even though she's a local they assume she has money because she's with you
How come you think he won’t show up to work? I thought both parties agreed he would work and it is documented in court. If either party breaks the agreement, someone would be in REAL TROUBLE!
He may, but everyone who knows him says he wont
My Filipina had many requests for money from people ( not close family ) but distant relatives and people she said would not usually bother with her once they knew she was with me, greetings from the UK
Greetings and thank for the comment and watching
Filipina married to European. Never dole out money. Once you do it might never stop. When our relationhip was new, I had some friends did try but I told them, "My bf is not an ATM." Not all ladies are like that. Some see having a foreign bf as a social status. Have a nice day.
@@darktheme2192 Thenks for viewing and the comment, Yes there are many very good people here, just a few bad eggs
Barangay is a municipality of that city 👍 who owns that lot in the title?...nahh that guy is feeling lazy shame on that guy..
My girl friend is on the title since I can not own land here
Honestly the Philippines can be a bit like the wild west dog eat dog mentality,
Stay safe 🙏
Sounds like it worked out just fine
Yes, the Barangay is very fair here
Hopefully you're taking this seriously and not feeling confident that it ended.
When Filipinos feel shamed, they go to the next level. Your wife knows what can happen to you, so better have a serious talk about it.
Hope you and your family stay safe.
My girlfriend dosen't want me going anywhere alone now but I'm more worried about her safety
Extremely valuable advice! This expat is a perceived multimillionaire living among the impoverished Filipinos.
New supporter here ❤ new subscriber here too❤ 😊
Thenks for subbing and watching, I hope I can continue to make content worth watching
Me and my Australian wife are looking at retiring in Mindanao. We have friends and family around CDO, Magsaysay and Butuan areas. In your opinion which place is the safest, cheapest and has the most services?
rethink your relocation plan . i know u wish to stretch your dollar , but its not worth it living in a nonwhite country ------they will rob u , extort u , target u , they think there are no poor caucasions . i mean all nonwhite countries====japan /korea/china, all southeast asia , south asia, africa, pacific , latin america, caribbean . heck even the minorities in white nations think all whites are rich
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@@rickymead5282 I can't give good advice on those places, I have never been to them
pare, marami FUCKING MUSLIMS doon!!! wug na punta doon
@rickymead5282 You both must visit first each of the places you mentioned to gather information. There's nothing like seeing and feeling it for yourselves. I'm saying this as someone coming from Central Mindanao who moved abroad.
Look at your surroundings, look at yourself, and then this pitying lecture. Full of negativity. Do you really believe the stuff that leaves your mouth? Realise that you attract your own destiny and that you are fully responsible for everything that happens in your life!
I just told the story of what happened, you don't like it don't watch.
Thanks for watching and commenting anyway.
Expats are blinded by the beauty of the Filipina and deceived by the friendly smiles.
Sorry late to the channel but did you say you're building a house for your girlfriend and her family using your retirement savings?
@@bernardquasaar1254 building it for her and myself
Whose name is on the title?
@@alfredopampanga9356 Exactly. It's in her name and can only be in her name. He hints this in the vid saying they couldn't legally turn to him but his lady, but his presence as the foreigner is what leads to the spin to rip him off. Building a house for a gf (and yourself) in the Phils - as you know - can only be in her name, and she can throw you out whenever she desires. Personally, I wouldn't allow this to be the circumstance regarding the roof over my own head.
@@-BigIi- There are very few women I would trust to that extent. It’s asking for trouble
PS The land must be in the name of the Filipina but the house structure can be his. Not ideal but better than being nowhere on any title
Oh dear
Your crying over P1500? You’re screwed already.
It's not over the 1,500 pesos, is the moral principle that he's trying to convey, why is so hard for you to comprehend it??
"moral principle" lol...u picked the wrong country
@@Decapitorr yeah.. I stopped saying long ago words like ''such a nice people'' 🤨🙄the dishonesty, lies, scams are off the charts. Never be fooled by the smiles. Foreigners are increasingly even avoiding employing maids now because of the stealing, whether money left somewhere or card details being copied. This vid is just another reminder how dishonest many of these guys can be towards foreigners. Imagine how low this mother and son were being, after being treated so well by this foreigner, they came back with a fake injury story, then after asking 1000, the asking went to 1500, and after getting this they still went to the Local Officer in hopes of dishonestly draining more money from the foreigner, hoping the officer would be on their side. Thankfully there was cam-footage to expose their greediness and dishonesty.
The 1500 pesos are nothing, but if you have to sit boundrys here, if you don't you are asking to be taken advantate of
@@Decapitorr LOLOL