My favorite part of the video was 8:00 - end. It is so real, so raw... the transition, the move, and the feelings.. I've been thinking about moving to Texas too because my company has another office out there but I have the same questions -- how do I meet friends and people and how do join a community. I would just be doing it alone too... I want to start fresh but I'm afraid of leaving my past and my friends behind but the cost of living is so much cheaper and I'm sure there's a lot of opportunities as well. Of course, everything takes adaptation and time will solve everything or you'll figure it out. thanks for inviting us to your journey though!!
Texas is generally a very welcoming place! If you move to a large city like Dallas, you'll have no problem finding ppl. There are tons of free events for all interests and living costs vary depending on what part of town you're looking.
Yeah I really felt it in the end. I recently moved across the country for a new job. Financially it made sense because I'm making way more and I had savings so I didn't have to spend too much of my new income for the actual move, but now that I'm here...boy is it rough. Where do you make friends when you're in your 30s? In the middle of a pandemic with social distancing measures? Aja's anxiety is 100% valid and I definitely urge anyone who is planning a big move at this time to REALLY consider the social implications. Yeah I'm making money but I spend everyday alone in my apartment not knowing anyone or where to go. It sucks. Hopefully whatever she decides will be the best (and happiest) thing for her. Good luck, Aja!
Trust in your bond with your friends. I have friends who travel all over and we are bonded for life. You should never have to think that you are missing out or leaving anything behind when you know you have a strong bond with family and friends, both my sister live 2hr away and i never feel like I’m missing out even with out busy schedule. Do it so you don’t regret it.
On the plus side Houston has Daiso and a huge Asian community. I’m sure you will make friends in no time. Also Houston is a major airport so it will be easy to travel everywhere. Sometimes you have to take risks and just do it. If anything it will be a new experience. Also I live in San Antonio and could introduce you to my friend in Houston. We are in our early mid 30s.
I love that you included yours and Brian’s convo at the end of the video. It’s nice to see the discussion/thought process even though it’s a personal convo. Thanks for including your viewers in this aspect of your life ☺️
You will make new friends. You will get to know the area. You will start to develop attachment to the new place. 7 years ago when my job brought me to the new city, I did not know a single person. But the journey of me exploring the new city and branching out to make new friends is the most rewarding process. California is amazing but girl the cost of living tho. I swear later when you live in a nice neighborhood in a 5 bedroom house with a huge backyard you 'd be like why didnt I move here earlier?
The amount of extra real estate you get for the cost is really amazing. Others have said it here though, more house = more costs/bills/maintenance. Moving costs are also going to be crazy. Remember Aja, the walls don't build a home. Home is where you feel comfortable and home is where you can be yourself. Brian may be from Houston, but even from this vid, he projects that he's made a home in LA. If you both feel LA is home, stay in LA. Your dreams of a house will come. And your guys' careers continuously keep evolving. Stay motivated and work hard to buy a house, but don't compromise what you know as home :(
right? It's not like I'm school anymore and I stay home most of the time outside of running errands/groceries/working out. Opportunity to make new friends as a 30 yo is lowwwww
I feel the same, I moved to Chicago 5 years ago by myself and don't really have a friend group, just friends I made through work. I tried bumblebFF but it's more awkward than dating! I met my boyfriend here who has a friend group but I want my own friends! I miss college
When I moved to Madrid (from Chicago) in my late 20s 7 years ago, I had no faith that I could make good friends. Now I have a wonderful community here with great friends. But real talk, I don't think I could move and start from scratch again. Not sure I have it in me.
I feel once you hit your mid 20s its not really easy making genuine friendships unless you're part of a community of some sort or if you have great group of workmates that youre surrounded by. I live in the Bay currently and as much as I love it here I am really considering moving somewhere more affordable.
Chris and I have been thinking about leaving LA seriously for awhile now, but we both are so hesitant because we’ve made our home here since our early 20’s. So much of our lives are ingrained in in LA. Everything we know. We also have no idea where we’d go. So I feel ya guys so much here.
If you guys wana stay in LA why not move to the Valley?? Around Woodland Hills, Canoga park, Northridge , Chatsworth etc or even out to Ventura County . You can rent newly built townhouses for under or around $3000, (I live in a 3 floor ,2bedroom 2 1/2 bath townhouse 7 mins from calabasas for $2200) you get a lot more space for your money in the valley than in downtown LA. These areas are only about an 45mins- an hour drive to downtown LA. Also it's normal to be afraid of change, that's the human in us but don't allow your fear to block your blessings. You never know what could be if you take the leap. I'm looking forward to seeing your journey, all the best🤗
Omg where did you find a townhouse for that cheap with 3 bedrooms?! I’m looking in the Woodland Hills/Northridge/ chatsworth area and 3 bedrooms are at least 3k! Sounds like you found a great deal!
we've seen a few but the layouts haven't worked for what we need. And the ones we've seen have been poorly made. I ain't living in a poorly made townhome next to the Northridge fault line.
secondbest I found mine through a friend that lived in the compound. They have several buildings in the area. Google Sierra Investment properties, give them a call they should have something available or coming up.
Aja Dang haha I don't blame you. I've been in mine for 4 years now no major earthquake issues aside from the one from a month or 2 ago that was felt through out LA. I'm sure you'll something that works for your budget and makes you happy, that's all that matters at the end of the day!
Oh man, I feel this. My husband and I made a somewhat similar decision 2 years ago. We moved from San Francisco to Austin. Unlike you, all of our family lives in CA - so we had to weigh being near family vs moving to a better lifestyle. So far, we are 100% glad we moved to TX. It's shockingly more affordable. We were able to buy our first house and are enjoying making it a home. We also had an easy time making new friends here. It seems like Texans prioritize relationships - friends and family - whereas our SF friends were very focused on their careers. Nothing wrong with that, but we end up socializing a lot more here in TX. It's a nice change. As far as finances go - our lives have completely changed for the better. We come out way ahead here in TX. With all the savings, we're able to travel back home frequently to see our loved ones. And plus, friends and family enjoy coming to visit us.
I've lived in Houston all my life! I actually stay in River Oaks/Washington area, and I love it. I have a son who's 4 and we will be moving in the next 6 months ( so we think ) to build a home out in suburbia (where...we don't know yet). I just found your channel today & I just wanted to send you both good vibes. I totally agree on focusing on "your next chapter" and doing what you need to do to get there. My husband and I love the area we are in now. We can walk to everything. It's perfect for young professionals, however, I want my son to have a backyard and a great education. That's what's important to me right now. So we gotta do what we gotta do (and we can't afford a house in the city and private school. We ain't got it like that....YET!) Anyways, I'm rambling...but I know y'all will make the right decision!
We live in League city. It's ccisd it is one of the best school districts in Texas. We are close to Galveston Kemah and Baybrook has build up so nicely. Our house is under 2k a month.
If you want to move, Katy is a good option. My wife and I bought our first home after we graduated and started working near Washington Avenue/Memorial Park (right behind Benjy's or The Classic after the rebranded and Blue Fish). It was great since it's near fast to commute to downtown (where we work), between Memorial and Buffalo Bayou parks, the freeways, Galleria, the Heights, and a quick drive to Chinatown. It was great with only one kid, but with twins on the way at the time, it was going to be crowded and inconvenient for my wife and kids to walk up and down a 4 story town home every day. We were deciding between either moving to the Memorial, Spring Branch, Energy Corridor and Sugar Land area and eventually decided on a new build in Katy (the floor plan was similar to the Ashton Woods' model home and it was still much cheaper than older homes in the areas we were looking at). The school districts in Katy are great for kids if you plan on enrolling yours in public school, i10 will lead you into the city without having to pay toll tag, it's mostly developed now as opposed to how barren it was a little over a decade ago, it's still constantly expanding (especially Katy Chinatown area), and the park and ride at i10 and 99 is very convenient. You get so much bang for your buck compared to the city. We sold our home on Knox street back in 2019 and it was 4 stories, largely basic inside, had a tiny yard in the front, you could touch the neighbors' house from your house since they are that close together, and felt pretty cramped even though it really wasn't. Our new home is a new build and cost even less than our old home with so many things we didn't have before (specifically a backyard, a pool, and a drive way). If you're fine with older homes most of them are below $300k and they're still nicer and cheaper than what you would find in Sugarland, Spring Branch, and the suburbs heading down 45 south. There are plenty of newer homes being built or are a few years old if you're willing to drive slightly further east of Katy in Fulshear as well. As for the demographic, we have so many people from California moving to the area. It's probably one of the reasons Katy's Chinatown and Katy's (as well as the surrounding areas) Asian population is growing so rapidly. I'm half Asian and it's nice to see many people I could relate to here as oppose to many other suburbs.
I love how you added the conversation towards the end. At the end of the day, you guys should pick whatever will work out for yall. We love your videos and we appreciate you showing us your journey with savings, budgeting, and all that adulting stuff.
xoladiihoneyxo how do you like it? I’m excited and nervous at the same time. I hate the cold and the snow but I feel like I will miss it for some reason lol
Noami, you would love it here! There is so much benefits of being in Houston in terms of getting great value for what you are paying for a place to stay. If you do decide to move, I'm a realtor here and I would love to assist you with finding some great options around town. When were you thinking of moving?
This was such an insightful video - really, really great Aja! I can’t believe how much more you get for your money in Houston. All the homes were so beautiful. Brian speaking about progressing forward towards your dream home and family made me teary 🥺 sending love and hugs - I know the tough decision has probably already been made, but still sending strength and good vibes! 💛
Just remember: more house = more to clean and maintain. You may want to factor in the cost of a house cleaner. And if you’re saving to buy, paying ~$2k for 2bed/2bath for the two of you should be good for now? And awww Aja, I think you could make friends anywhere! But if moving to Houston will make you give up too much personally and professionally, follow your gut.
Yeah I actually don't understand why they wouldn't just get a similar sized place or even slightly bigger and actually save more money. Why a 4 bdrm lol.
I moved from CA to TX for grad school and it’s definitely tempting to go bigger than you need cause it feels “cheap”, though the cost of AC in all those rooms during the summer adds up fast! It does sound like they want more space (talked about having a dance room and they could use the 3rd or 4th bedroom an office/guest bedroom) and it could be an incentive to move to Houston (get something cheaper and bigger than they could in LA).
That's tough decision! I'm a person who wouldn't move just for a lower cost of living. I have to feel comfortable there, etc in order to make the decision.
Moving to a big city like Houston is going to be such an easier transition! The larger cities in TX are diverse so you get a good range of different political views, religions, etc. So, it's easier to find ppl you clique with! Also, the food is really varied and amazing. Events are easy to find via Facebook, and ppl are generally open and welcoming. I might be biased, but I think you will have an easier time finding more grounded ppl like yourself here than in LA.
I’ve been living in Houston for forever, and besides the heat. It’s an amazing place to live in. Living is affordable, the people are great, the food is great. Almost everything is literally just... great
As a native houstonian, this video fills me with so much pride, happiness, and joy. Welcome to Houston life y'all!! Hope y'all enjoy the cheap housing, cheap taxes, and museums!
Aja I know you will make the right decision and even if it doesn’t work out I know you are resilient enough to move wherever your will thrive and be happy. With that said, I must admit that every time you mention moving to Houston you seem to not want to move there (at times it’s like your forcing yourself into the move) or like the though of it depresses or doesn’t set well with you. Meanwhile your boyfriend seems to be the primary one that wants to move there. Have you both thought of other places that you would mutually be excited to move to? I know moving is a big decision and it can strengthen a relationship or create division/resentment especially if there are underline issues that haven’t been resolved in the relationship... You seem to be a lovely strong women so I know you will make friends no matter where you live (and yes it can be a little more challenging for adults or when one has been transplanted into a new area). I think having a healthy relationship with your boyfriend’s family can help since you will be moving where he has a preexisting support system. I know you will do well either way because the same skills and tools you developed and applied to get out of debt you can tap into no matter where you live. Personally, I don’t cohabitate for many of the reasons listed above (and so many more). Yes the above can happened in a marriage but that commitment level seems to also create an underline understand to work together on doing life together (which for me isn’t quite the same when dating situation). This isn’t a judgement on you or anyone else, it just seems like there are some things that I would want to complete before making big life decisions. Finally, I travel to Texas annually and I thought Houston is a nice city to visit but I wouldn’t want to live there because of the weather, it is prone to flooding, and how the city/state has handled the pandemic. I like the Dallas-Forth Worth and Austin areas the most. All three homes where nice but I wouldn’t want to rent a home for the same or even higher amount than most reasonable mortgages in that area (that also includes L.A., New York, and the DMV area etc.). Be well and be safe!
I’m so happy to see a video like this because I’m actually planning to move to Houston in the spring next year. And all of the comments are making me more excited to move !
Love seeing videos like this! But it's so tough to make life decisions like this, especially with a partner. It's definitely so hard to make friends in your 30s... but I think having dogs really helps because there are groups and meet ups in parks that you can go to and meet other dog owners, I'm assuming.
Claudia Patrice Patrice LA is way too expensive, full of people obsessed with self image and even though Houston traffic is bad I’ve never heard of it as bad as LA. Houston is diverse and full of different types of people and culture.
I left a state where I lived for 8 years and had lots of family and friends from college years and on to a different state and I have zero regrets! I definitely miss the people in the last state, but the growth and experiences I’ve had in this new state have been priceless. We moved knowing 1 person here and we have made friends through my new job, church, getting involved with the community theatre, volunteering locally, etc. Put yourself out there and you’ll meet great people ❤️ Good luck with your decision! Those places in TX look awesome.
My whole family lived in the heights area during the 70s when they came from Mexico. It’s a huge difference and the racism that has came from gentrifiers is one of the saddest parts of it
Thank you for letting us in through this very stressful decision. I feel very connected to you bc i feel you dont hide the uncertainty, the stress, the questions, the anxiety of a move. Most youtubers hide behind those feelings. I moved from ohio to Houston to go to the art institute a while back and if i was still there i would totally be your friend and go have a girls day with. I hope whenever i go back and visit that i meet you bc i am a huge fan of yours. I believe you will both make the right decision and i love your videos and love you guys and will send love your way through this difficult time in your lives... you got this girl!!!!!
Aja, I’m so glad you posted this honest conversation between you and your significant other. It’s so easy to say you want to maximize your funds but another to move states for it. Moving outside your comfort zone makes you realize you didn’t really know who you were until you find yourself again. Good luck! Sending good vibes!
Matchbox notice the 12 thumbs up. The lady asked how she was going to make friends here and it is family or clan vibes. People are so uptight and has a strong conservative core that the majority of locals stick to their own family or friends and transplants are always in flux. The transplants are friendlier/more social and outgoing (for a reason as Houston is a suburban sprawl with the highlight spots imitating California in aesthetic and pricing) and the native locals hate that as transplants are seen as a threat to their housing costs and job markets (which is also true as we do not mind a higher cost of living). Houston is a lot of things, but welcoming and full of deep connection opportunities for transplants it is not. A lot of people relocate and leave within 5 years or less if they are not from this region of Texas and Louisiana. It is a different mentality out here than California and Florida. Do not expect to find a group of people looking to casually hang out. It’s alot of suburbs, pre-existing cliques, career climbers, and the most annoying question of what do you do for a living.
Lived in Houston for 6 years and just moved to Austin. You 2 should consider Austin. It’s only 2.5 hours from Houston and you can go and visit his family so often. So much more outdoor activities in Austin and character.
I appreciate that the two of you were willing to have this dialog so that we could all get a glimpse into your thoughts and this moving process. It is so stressful to make the decision to move, especially when it doesn't feel like a necessity. I can't wait to hear what decision the two of you make!
I moved to Houston from New Jersey and have been living here for about 9 years. Houston is honestly the best place to live imo with everything so accessible (food, parks, museums, beach in Galveston even though it’s gross water, Chinatown, bars, medical center) and plus, many of the suburbs around Houston have really good school systems like Katy and Fort Bend for the intentions of starting a family. 🙂 Whenever I commute to school, I take this one particular road and know very well where one of those apartments are and I finally get to see what it’s like inside this video!! Glad to see you guys back in Houston! I always loving bringing my family and friends down here. It’s honestly the best place to live, except the traffic!! 😝
I left CA too and I’m in my 30s. There was a def a transition period. But you can find friend doing local meetups or meet people at coffee shops or the gym/yoga studio. You’ll def get more bang for your buck in Texas. Good luck w your decision 🤍
I’m planning on leaving Cali to Texas as well. I don’t have any families nor know anyone there. How did you do meet up? Is it through a Facebook group or site?
Cecilla Khorn yeah I just looked up local meet ups on fb. So for me since I’m vegan I looked up vegan groups and met people that way. I also made friends w people I work with and at the yoga studio :) good luck on your move. I cried a lot in the beginning but that’s bc I moved from CA to the east coast and I left my family lol but you’ll get through it. Just have fun and my number one tip is try not to compare CA to where you move. It doesn’t help just made me miss CA more lol
There’s meetup.com just put in the location and what interests you. There are also city reddit forms. I met really chill people that way on a discord server.
You guys are discussing like true life partners! So happy for you guys. I say keep talking through it and make sure you guys both support the major life decision together!
I've moved from Mississippi, to Seattle, to Austin, and now in Dallas. Making friends is VERY tough, but not impossible. If I can do it being as introverted and awkward as I am, you can find friends no problem.
Vanessa Little Wow thats quite a bit. Thoughts of Seattle Austin and Dallas? Im thinking of moving to either WA AZ or TX. So hard to make a decision since I live in the midwest.
@@ChristineCho91 Seattle is beautiful, but really expensive. Austin is cool, but extremely overpopulated and the traffic shows. I like visiting, but I wouldn't want to live there again. I love Dallas because it's huge, there is so much to do, and the jobs in tech are plenty. It also has several cities on the outskirts that are really booming. Been here since 2015 and I think of it as home.
Vanessa Little Once Covid slows down hopefully I will be able to travel to TX and check it out myself. I lived in Seattle from 09-11 which is forever ago and Im sure living cost is even much higher now. Thank you for being so helpful! Happy Dallas living!!!
Youn Christine Cho Yes living is Seattle is super high. I never been but I live in Dallas and work from home. I work for a major company that is based in The Seattle area. My coworkers are talking about the cost of living. I started this job a few months ago and the guy that trained me showed me his new that cost $600k. That’s house here is 260-280k max here. I couldn’t believe it lol
Seems like the biggest reason you want to move is to save money. Maybe I missed it, but I didn't pick up on any other real reasons. I heard "starting a new chapter," moving into a "new life," "one step closer to an actual home," saving is important today due to "the uncertainty in the world" but those are vague and don't exist in reality. Like you said, it's not like you NEED to move to pay the rent, so optimizing life around financial decisions at this point is not going to increase happiness/satisfaction/fulfillment. You're probably having these discussions off camera, but dig deep to find the real reason for the desire to move. I'll bet it's not to save money. When your lease ends, doesn't it switch to month-to-month?
Such a realistic raw video of what couples go thru when faced with change. I love LA too I was born and raised there but we eventually moved east to San Gabriel Valley. It's more affordable than moving west towards "the valley" (Northridge ect). Cities in SGV like west covina, arcadia, diamond bar, Claremont are way more affordable than directly in downtown and its usually a 35min drive to downtown...best of luck on your search
Been living in LA for 5 years. The bf is born and raised in LA. His great grandparents settled here and the family has been here ever since. We wanted to continue with “tradition” and continue to make LA our home, but in thinking about our future and potential children, we have been considering TX as well. We had two scary incidents in the past year, theft of $7k worth of property from our garage and waking up to a drugged out man in our backyard. We are getting sick of the homeless and crime here. Another point to think about, no income tax and low gas prices! Our plan would be to fly out to LA a couple of times a year for a long weekend getaway. Ticket prices are very affordable between TX and LAX. Good luck! And also keep in mind you can always move back! You are not stuck with the decision for life, especially if you are renting in Houston.
TX has sales taxes on clothes. The only thing that doesn’t is food. However, there is one weekend out of the year called Tax Free Weekend that had no tax on a bunch of back to school things and clothes are included that weekend.
Montrose is super walkable and nice! Happy to answer any questions on Houston and neighborhoods as a Northeast transplant who has been in Houston for 7 years.
I feel you girl! When you have made roots in one place it’s difficult to want to move and create a new life. During these crazy times I have lost loved ones that I thought would still be here. I am learning that life has many unexpected turns and choices that we have to face whether or not we are ready. I hope whatever choice you made that you are happy. Because one thing you can’t get back is time.
the Heights is probably Houston’s coolest neighborhood! Relatively safe, great shops and restaurants, super centric and doesn’t flood as bad or at all as other areas here.
*I'm from LA* and I'm watching these *cheap places* like... 👁👄👁 Why am I in LA again!?😭 This year I've been planning (for 2021) to *adopt a dog* and I'm realizing *how difficult it is to move if you have a dog* 🐶 in LA. Moving is difficult more for the *social aspect* (especially as an adult), so I feel you Aja, even if it's saving money. *Q:* Wouldn't you be leaving doing commercials behind, would that affect your finances (as in, would it just all equal out financially roughly the same)?
I think it’s smart of you to rent first. If you end up not liking the neighborhood you can easily move after a year. Not so easy to do when you buy a place. A friend of mine moved to Dallas a few years ago and loves it so much more than LA. Her whole family ended up moving out there after she did, mom, brothers, brother in law! It doesn’t hurt to try it out if your job allows for it.
Hi Aja! I used to work with Brian’s friend. He’s a nurse. We work at the Med Center. I’m from LA too and moved to Houston four years ago. It was so hard at first because I had to leave everything behind and start a new job here. I remember crying to my mom almost everyday and wanting to go back. But things eventually got better. I met friends at work. Two college friends moved to Houston and we spent a lot of time with each other. If you need some girl friends, there’s a lot of us here! :)
I just discovered your channel and it was so relatable! I'm from LA and I grew up in OC my whole life. I plan to move to Houston in the next two years to be with my boyfriend and I completely understand your fears and struggles. Me and my boyfriend made the decision to move out there (even though we would prefer CA) because of living cost and what we want to do in terms of family, traveling and the lifestyle we want to live. The dollar goes a lot further in TX than in CA because lifestyle is much slower over there than in LA, but I can see Houston growing and becoming like LA in the next few years - so it could be a good investment in the long run. Stay positive and really focus on what is best for you both and for your future family because that will come first :)
Hi Aja. Moving to Texas would be great in terms of saving money and more space but I think the most important thing you have to think about is your happiness. If you're not happy then saving money really doesn't matter. I'm Asian and as you know we love our family & I don't see myself moving too far away from my family. You guys are young and you have your whole life ahead of you...if anything Texas would be a great alternative when you are older & Texas can eventually your forever home. Can't wait to see your next video to see what decision you both made. ;D
Houston is huge, much bigger than it seems. I’ve never been to LA but from what I see I would say Houston offers you a bit of that metropolitan vibe and that escape from the inner city. There’s plenty of opportunity to make friends if you position yourself to do so but I know the decision to leave everything that you know and makes you comfortable is going to be a hard one. Best of luck to the two of you on this journey, wherever it may lead!
Houston, wow it’s beautiful and the people here are welcoming. Especially in the area you are looking at! It’s big moves but I love my city! Good luck! ☺️
Sounds like you should stay in L.A. I expect you could find other ways to save money. But I do recommend the tacos in Houston, especially Torchy's Tacos!
This was such a sweet insight into moving struggles. My partner and I moved from East Coast to West Coast of Australia. He was moving for work and had friends already. I had 0 friends in the same city. I guess with COVID, video calling, social distancing/gathering limitations, most of my friends back home at the time were not able to see each other either. Pre-COVID and now when restrictions have eased, my partner's friends introduced us to their friends who introduced us to their friends. Making friends will eventually happen, I did try Bumble BFF but didn't vibe with some of them. After 10 months of not being able to go back home (our state has banned interstate travel), I'm very happy to have made the move because exploring a new city is really enriching. And to have that opportunity doesn't come very often (at least for us). We plan on moving back home after a couple of years so that's always an option too :)
I haven’t seen other videos to know your goals and if they include kids, but if it does, you may learn that while the glamorous LA life style is fun now, there’s nothing more valuable than being by family and having someone to help out who you know and trust. If it doesn’t include kids in your future plan, you do you and what makes you happy!!
From Florida, moved to Houston 2000, flooded twice now in Katy TX Love Love Love huge house, pool, nice places to go, everything out here too💗, my hubby our teenage daughter and I all love it.....Wish you all the best...your video/channel just popped up today, gorgeous couple!
I'm from Houston, lived in California for 3 yrs *I loved California because there is so much to do, weather etc. Houston, it's home and not a lot to do - California is so much better!
I appreciate you Aja! It is beautiful to see how a relationship goes through plans and knowing that life happens, and how transparent you guys are is very relatable and encouraging! Thank you so much, and all of my thoughts to you guys for the decision you’ll be making 💛
Don’t be so hard on yourself girl. If you don’t want to move just don’t. We all want you and your partner to be happy where you live. Me and my husband went to Austin Texas this august. It was a great experience. People are friendly and easy to talk to. I’m pretty sure you’ll meet wonderful people in Texas if you move there. So don’t be so stressed.
Aww Aja! Girl you're looking at places right around my area, I'll take you out and show you around!! You'll make friends so easily, don't worry about that part. Change is so scary but it can be so exciting too! I think if change isn't scary, then it might not be worth it. Whether it's LA or Houston, you're going to be fine :)
There are more houses to see tho, hope you get to see them. Those prices where way to high . Moving to where there is family is good, cause once you start your family, it will good to have people around. Saving money is so important no matter how much is in your account. Saving money should be a priority over emotions.
This is so true. Friends are great but I remember how much easier it was for my parents to raise us with family around. It's a built in support system.
Thank you for sharing this process with us! As a recent grad receiving offers only from employers far away from my current home, seeing you face this dilemma with such vulnerability and transparency is so encouraging. It’s such a hard call to decide your priorities when it comes to investing in the future. But as always, you’re like a true older sister - giving the best advice and providing a realistic perspective. Thank you, and best of luck with everything you do! 💕 PS Houston is great! There are a ton of fantastic Vietnamese/Asian spots along Bellaire Boulevard that you should check out if you have the time!
I had an awesome time when I visited Houston. Being from the Bay Area where housing and rental property prices are out of control, I was surprised to see Houston's prices were pretty high as well. Still an AWESOME City none the less.
this would be a great opportunity to see if TX is a place you'd ever buy a home at! Since I know that's something you've mentioned before. Good luck to you both! :)
For those prices, you should definitely go for it, Aja! Change is good. Maybe it's time for a new chapter in your lives. You never know what Houston can bring!
I moved to Houston and didn’t know anyone and within a couple months Had made some great friends and now a year later I’ve really settled in and have tons of people I hang out with. Bumble BFF is awesome for it! Went to multiple ladies nights on there and it made everything so easy. The city is huge and full of so many types of ppl who also don’t know anyone. You’ll find your people if you want to :)
Houston is great and definitely underrated. I'm even hesitant to say this out loud because this city is such a gem. I know making new friends and creating a support system in a new city is scary. But don't let this feeling stop you from getting out of your comfort zone if you feel this is the right move at the time.
Aja, it doesn’t seem like ur heart is ready to leave LA. I get it, I’m a Cali girl. At the end of the day, u need to do what makes u n Bryan happy. You’ve been budgeting n paying off ur debt the last couple of years. Go live ur best life! LA, Houston?? Who cares! Like Bryan says, home is where u r. Made me tear up a bit. Love that he’s not pressuring u to move n u guys r actually sitting down n talking this through. I hope u make the best decision for the two of u n u guys only. Lots of love from LA, SGV 🌴🌴❤️❤️
making friends as an adult is a lot harder than as a kid however it's not imposable. I have struggled with this for a while as an adult. I still live in texas but a lot of my friends at this point have moved to other states. I ended up finding myself alone wanting to hang out and didn't know who to call or what to do. I ended up finding a bar or coffee shop and just have a drink. Id tell myself after one drink I can leave if I want too but no to-go cups. The took the pressure off. And from there treat it like dating. Walk up to someone and say "Hi my name is..." and out of habit people respond and that starts a conversation. Also, you are in the south let the southern hospitality and politiness work FOR you!
You can do it, girl! I moved to Las Vegas from California to be with my boyfriend after dating for 2 years; without knowing anybody except his family and friends. I thought it will be hard because I like going out with my friends too. Now we have 2 kids, ages 5 and 7. Once you start having your own family, you will not care about being around friends. The houses are much cheaper here too, newer and a lot bigger compare to Cali. It’s a new chapter of your life. Sometimes we need that change, plus you could always go back to LA if things don't work out.
TX resident for the past 7 years and I love it. Lived in both Austin and DFW. Both have their downsides, but each have even better perks. Just depends on the vibe you're looking for.
Thanks for sharing the conversation between you and Brian, super helpful to see how other couples in their 30s work through life planning and decisions together!
Hi Aja, I was in the same exact situation as you. My bf and I moved from CA to Dallas, TX about a year and a half ago! The both of us are originally from San Diego. He got a job offer he couldn't turn down and asked me to come along. We've been together for 5 years so this was a HUGE step for us, I feel your pain 100%. Leaving all our family and friends behind and moving to a new place was tough, neither of us had any family or friends out here. Meeting people was a little hard because you have to make the effort to go out and socialize~ (Me being an introvert and homebody lol) but when the two of you settle, go out and explore! The farmers market is a good start! People are super friendly out here, it's that southern hospitality :) They will recommend bars and restaurants! From there you'll start to get the vibe of the city. If you're comfortable, there's also apps like Bumble Friends you can use. You'll realize that you're not the only one new to the city! Moving out of your comfort zone and transitioning is HARD, not going to lie. We were homesick for a bit BUT we both knew it was for the better. I, myself and my bf were able to grow as individuals and together as a couple. It was the best decision we've ever made! We recently got our first fur baby and are currently looking for a townhome too as our little family continues to grow
One thing about Houston is that its super diverse and everyone for the most part are super nice, if you join some type of community/gym/etc. You can easily make friends in no time and as for the area, everything is within driving distance or even walking/biking depending on the area you choose which is what I like more than Cali.
Exciting to see your journey! I'm not to far from you guys in Montrose! Hope your decision making process goes smoothly and easily! Welcome to Houston!
So exciting! Seems like you didn’t want to move and that is understandable. Not having your friends too close to home is really something to sacrifice when making big moves like this. I just want to say based from my experience that eventually you will be fine and it will give you so much peace of mind having your own place. If you two decide to stay in LA that’s awesome too because you’re familiar with everything/everybody and work I guess is better for you. BUT if you two decide to move to a different state, own a place, and plan for a family? It’ll be the best decision moving forward.
I really appreciate your guys honest conversation about life things. I really felt it when you were like "but friends!" I get it. It's such a hard decision. Whatever it is, you will make it work. I'm a firm believer things happen for a reason!
Houston is so welcoming! Everyone here is from somewhere else. You’ll make friends so fast... both of you seem cool and fun. I live in Shady Acres / Heights. Lots of great choices.
I don't have a lot of things figured out, but the one thing I have learned the hard way is that you need to get rid of any cultural or societal "have to do" influences in your life, especially related to age. Do things on your terms and because you want to do them or because they are genuinely the best thing for you, not because it's what you "should" do. You're obviously a smart cookie though so I think you'll do what's best for you at the end of the day :)
I purchased a home in Houston and been here for about a year now from Boston. Let me tell you, I miss Boston every single day. The charm, Charles River, being close to the beach/water, all the restaurants, knowing some of the backroads, the people, knowing local business owners and supporting them, the connections, the driving, the vibe, no racism or at least I never encounter any as an Asian girl, and just what I'm used to... but sometimes you need to think about what do you need to do for the next chapter. I get a big yard and a decent house (not a mansion yet) in an up and coming neighborhood. If you want to continue to stay in LA, I can totally understand. For me, if I continue to stay where I'm comfortable, I won't be able to grow as a person. But hey, if you ever decide to move to Houston, I hope I get to bump into you some day and let you know my favorite restaurants prior to this pandemic! I didn't get the chance to explore Houston much so I still sorta hate it. lol. Traffic in downtown can be bad during rush hours so just depends on what you do for a living and your need and from my research, there are certain communities you shouldn't walk in/drive by. Oh, and if you ever decide to purchase a home in Houston on the long term, just know that property tax is up there.
So I live in the Heights. Its a great community that has great food options, great community, we have a Women's club, and a Association that really cares about the schools, our parks, streets. I ride my bike all of the time on the bike trails and to local restaurants. Im not going to say it is easy to make friends, but in this neighborhood there are lots of opportunities. Museum District is a bit of an older person neighborhood , but is one of the cultural centers of the city. EaDo is an up and coming neighborhood and is more diverse in income and backgrounds. It has had a surge of new restaurants, and businesses. It has been a slow transition, but it is how the Heights was 20 years ago. Good luck in your decision making and as a native Houstonian, we would love to have you!
My favorite part of the video was 8:00 - end. It is so real, so raw... the transition, the move, and the feelings..
I've been thinking about moving to Texas too because my company has another office out there but I have the same questions -- how do I meet friends and people and how do join a community. I would just be doing it alone too...
I want to start fresh but I'm afraid of leaving my past and my friends behind but the cost of living is so much cheaper and I'm sure there's a lot of opportunities as well.
Of course, everything takes adaptation and time will solve everything or you'll figure it out.
thanks for inviting us to your journey though!!
Texas is generally a very welcoming place! If you move to a large city like Dallas, you'll have no problem finding ppl. There are tons of free events for all interests and living costs vary depending on what part of town you're looking.
Yeah I really felt it in the end. I recently moved across the country for a new job. Financially it made sense because I'm making way more and I had savings so I didn't have to spend too much of my new income for the actual move, but now that I'm here...boy is it rough. Where do you make friends when you're in your 30s? In the middle of a pandemic with social distancing measures? Aja's anxiety is 100% valid and I definitely urge anyone who is planning a big move at this time to REALLY consider the social implications. Yeah I'm making money but I spend everyday alone in my apartment not knowing anyone or where to go. It sucks. Hopefully whatever she decides will be the best (and happiest) thing for her. Good luck, Aja!
Trust in your bond with your friends. I have friends who travel all over and we are bonded for life. You should never have to think that you are missing out or leaving anything behind when you know you have a strong bond with family and friends, both my sister live 2hr away and i never feel like I’m missing out even with out busy schedule. Do it so you don’t regret it.
On the plus side Houston has Daiso and a huge Asian community. I’m sure you will make friends in no time. Also Houston is a major airport so it will be easy to travel everywhere. Sometimes you have to take risks and just do it. If anything it will be a new experience. Also I live in San Antonio and could introduce you to my friend in Houston. We are in our early mid 30s.
Ig will make you friends! Lol
I love that you included yours and Brian’s convo at the end of the video. It’s nice to see the discussion/thought process even though it’s a personal convo. Thanks for including your viewers in this aspect of your life ☺️
He sounds very supportive :)
Having a supportive partner is invaluable
You will make new friends. You will get to know the area. You will start to develop attachment to the new place. 7 years ago when my job brought me to the new city, I did not know a single person. But the journey of me exploring the new city and branching out to make new friends is the most rewarding process. California is amazing but girl the cost of living tho. I swear later when you live in a nice neighborhood in a 5 bedroom house with a huge backyard you 'd be like why didnt I move here earlier?
But sometimes roller coaster riding would the part of the Journey. But I bet you can do enjoy it Aja..
YES COME TO HOUSTON!!! We made the move and it’s been so great, financial wise. the food is 💣 too!
The amount of extra real estate you get for the cost is really amazing. Others have said it here though, more house = more costs/bills/maintenance. Moving costs are also going to be crazy. Remember Aja, the walls don't build a home. Home is where you feel comfortable and home is where you can be yourself. Brian may be from Houston, but even from this vid, he projects that he's made a home in LA. If you both feel LA is home, stay in LA.
Your dreams of a house will come. And your guys' careers continuously keep evolving. Stay motivated and work hard to buy a house, but don't compromise what you know as home :(
agreed. sounds liye they should both wait a year.
I felt that “but how do I make friends”
Kimmi Wynn You will make great friends fast. It is Texas!!!
right? It's not like I'm school anymore and I stay home most of the time outside of running errands/groceries/working out. Opportunity to make new friends as a 30 yo is lowwwww
I feel the same, I moved to Chicago 5 years ago by myself and don't really have a friend group, just friends I made through work. I tried bumblebFF but it's more awkward than dating! I met my boyfriend here who has a friend group but I want my own friends! I miss college
When I moved to Madrid (from Chicago) in my late 20s 7 years ago, I had no faith that I could make good friends. Now I have a wonderful community here with great friends. But real talk, I don't think I could move and start from scratch again. Not sure I have it in me.
I feel once you hit your mid 20s its not really easy making genuine friendships unless you're part of a community of some sort or if you have great group of workmates that youre surrounded by. I live in the Bay currently and as much as I love it here I am really considering moving somewhere more affordable.
Chris and I have been thinking about leaving LA seriously for awhile now, but we both are so hesitant because we’ve made our home here since our early 20’s. So much of our lives are ingrained in in LA. Everything we know. We also have no idea where we’d go. So I feel ya guys so much here.
To do the move, babe! You get so much bang for your buck elsewhere. ❤️
Hey girl. I'm from San Diego and lived in LA for a bit. I left Cali in 2014 and it was the best decision of my life.
If you guys wana stay in LA why not move to the Valley?? Around Woodland Hills, Canoga park, Northridge , Chatsworth etc or even out to Ventura County .
You can rent newly built townhouses for under or around $3000, (I live in a 3 floor ,2bedroom 2 1/2 bath townhouse 7 mins from calabasas for $2200) you get a lot more space for your money in the valley than in downtown LA. These areas are only about an 45mins- an hour drive to downtown LA.
Also it's normal to be afraid of change, that's the human in us but don't allow your fear to block your blessings. You never know what could be if you take the leap. I'm looking forward to seeing your journey, all the best🤗
Omg where did you find a townhouse for that cheap with 3 bedrooms?! I’m looking in the Woodland Hills/Northridge/ chatsworth area and 3 bedrooms are at least 3k! Sounds like you found a great deal!
we've seen a few but the layouts haven't worked for what we need. And the ones we've seen have been poorly made. I ain't living in a poorly made townhome next to the Northridge fault line.
secondbest I found mine through a friend that lived in the compound. They have several buildings in the area. Google Sierra Investment properties, give them a call they should have something available or coming up.
Aja Dang haha I don't blame you. I've been in mine for 4 years now no major earthquake issues aside from the one from a month or 2 ago that was felt through out LA. I'm sure you'll something that works for your budget and makes you happy, that's all that matters at the end of the day!
@@frankybanky1 Thank you! I will search them :)
Oh man, I feel this. My husband and I made a somewhat similar decision 2 years ago. We moved from San Francisco to Austin. Unlike you, all of our family lives in CA - so we had to weigh being near family vs moving to a better lifestyle.
So far, we are 100% glad we moved to TX. It's shockingly more affordable. We were able to buy our first house and are enjoying making it a home. We also had an easy time making new friends here. It seems like Texans prioritize relationships - friends and family - whereas our SF friends were very focused on their careers. Nothing wrong with that, but we end up socializing a lot more here in TX. It's a nice change.
As far as finances go - our lives have completely changed for the better. We come out way ahead here in TX. With all the savings, we're able to travel back home frequently to see our loved ones. And plus, friends and family enjoy coming to visit us.
Plus Austin is the California of Texas 😂. I love Austin too
I've lived in Houston all my life! I actually stay in River Oaks/Washington area, and I love it. I have a son who's 4 and we will be moving in the next 6 months ( so we think ) to build a home out in suburbia (where...we don't know yet). I just found your channel today & I just wanted to send you both good vibes. I totally agree on focusing on "your next chapter" and doing what you need to do to get there. My husband and I love the area we are in now. We can walk to everything. It's perfect for young professionals, however, I want my son to have a backyard and a great education. That's what's important to me right now. So we gotta do what we gotta do (and we can't afford a house in the city and private school. We ain't got it like that....YET!) Anyways, I'm rambling...but I know y'all will make the right decision!
We live in League city. It's ccisd it is one of the best school districts in Texas. We are close to Galveston Kemah and Baybrook has build up so nicely. Our house is under 2k a month.
You can move to cypress. It’s affordable and a good school district.
If you want to move, Katy is a good option. My wife and I bought our first home after we graduated and started working near Washington Avenue/Memorial Park (right behind Benjy's or The Classic after the rebranded and Blue Fish). It was great since it's near fast to commute to downtown (where we work), between Memorial and Buffalo Bayou parks, the freeways, Galleria, the Heights, and a quick drive to Chinatown. It was great with only one kid, but with twins on the way at the time, it was going to be crowded and inconvenient for my wife and kids to walk up and down a 4 story town home every day. We were deciding between either moving to the Memorial, Spring Branch, Energy Corridor and Sugar Land area and eventually decided on a new build in Katy (the floor plan was similar to the Ashton Woods' model home and it was still much cheaper than older homes in the areas we were looking at). The school districts in Katy are great for kids if you plan on enrolling yours in public school, i10 will lead you into the city without having to pay toll tag, it's mostly developed now as opposed to how barren it was a little over a decade ago, it's still constantly expanding (especially Katy Chinatown area), and the park and ride at i10 and 99 is very convenient. You get so much bang for your buck compared to the city. We sold our home on Knox street back in 2019 and it was 4 stories, largely basic inside, had a tiny yard in the front, you could touch the neighbors' house from your house since they are that close together, and felt pretty cramped even though it really wasn't. Our new home is a new build and cost even less than our old home with so many things we didn't have before (specifically a backyard, a pool, and a drive way). If you're fine with older homes most of them are below $300k and they're still nicer and cheaper than what you would find in Sugarland, Spring Branch, and the suburbs heading down 45 south. There are plenty of newer homes being built or are a few years old if you're willing to drive slightly further east of Katy in Fulshear as well. As for the demographic, we have so many people from California moving to the area. It's probably one of the reasons Katy's Chinatown and Katy's (as well as the surrounding areas) Asian population is growing so rapidly. I'm half Asian and it's nice to see many people I could relate to here as oppose to many other suburbs.
I love how you added the conversation towards the end. At the end of the day, you guys should pick whatever will work out for yall. We love your videos and we appreciate you showing us your journey with savings, budgeting, and all that adulting stuff.
I'm from Houston, just beware of areas that flood! Good luck!!!
This was so raw. I’m having all those thoughts myself moving from Boston to Houston with my two girls. You will be okay! We both will 🥰
Yall gonna love it...my only dislike is the humidity lol
Born and raised in Boston for the majority of my life! I moved to Houston a year ago. Would be nice to get more Bostonians in the area. lol.
xoladiihoneyxo how do you like it? I’m excited and nervous at the same time. I hate the cold and the snow but I feel like I will miss it for some reason lol
Noami, you would love it here! There is so much benefits of being in Houston in terms of getting great value for what you are paying for a place to stay. If you do decide to move, I'm a realtor here and
I would love to assist you with finding some great options around town. When were you thinking of moving?
This was such an insightful video - really, really great Aja! I can’t believe how much more you get for your money in Houston. All the homes were so beautiful. Brian speaking about progressing forward towards your dream home and family made me teary 🥺 sending love and hugs - I know the tough decision has probably already been made, but still sending strength and good vibes! 💛
Just remember: more house = more to clean and maintain. You may want to factor in the cost of a house cleaner. And if you’re saving to buy, paying ~$2k for 2bed/2bath for the two of you should be good for now?
And awww Aja, I think you could make friends anywhere! But if moving to Houston will make you give up too much personally and professionally, follow your gut.
Good point! I hope she reads this
Yeah I actually don't understand why they wouldn't just get a similar sized place or even slightly bigger and actually save more money. Why a 4 bdrm lol.
I moved from CA to TX for grad school and it’s definitely tempting to go bigger than you need cause it feels “cheap”, though the cost of AC in all those rooms during the summer adds up fast! It does sound like they want more space (talked about having a dance room and they could use the 3rd or 4th bedroom an office/guest bedroom) and it could be an incentive to move to Houston (get something cheaper and bigger than they could in LA).
That's tough decision! I'm a person who wouldn't move just for a lower cost of living. I have to feel comfortable there, etc in order to make the decision.
Moving to a big city like Houston is going to be such an easier transition! The larger cities in TX are diverse so you get a good range of different political views, religions, etc. So, it's easier to find ppl you clique with! Also, the food is really varied and amazing. Events are easy to find via Facebook, and ppl are generally open and welcoming. I might be biased, but I think you will have an easier time finding more grounded ppl like yourself here than in LA.
I’ve been living in Houston for forever, and besides the heat. It’s an amazing place to live in. Living is affordable, the people are great, the food is great. Almost everything is literally just... great
As a native houstonian, this video fills me with so much pride, happiness, and joy. Welcome to Houston life y'all!! Hope y'all enjoy the cheap housing, cheap taxes, and museums!
Aja I know you will make the right decision and even if it doesn’t work out I know you are resilient enough to move wherever your will thrive and be happy.
With that said, I must admit that every time you mention moving to Houston you seem to not want to move there (at times it’s like your forcing yourself into the move) or like the though of it depresses or doesn’t set well with you. Meanwhile your boyfriend seems to be the primary one that wants to move there. Have you both thought of other places that you would mutually be excited to move to? I know moving is a big decision and it can strengthen a relationship or create division/resentment especially if there are underline issues that haven’t been resolved in the relationship...
You seem to be a lovely strong women so I know you will make friends no matter where you live (and yes it can be a little more challenging for adults or when one has been transplanted into a new area). I think having a healthy relationship with your boyfriend’s family can help since you will be moving where he has a preexisting support system. I know you will do well either way because the same skills and tools you developed and applied to get out of debt you can tap into no matter where you live.
Personally, I don’t cohabitate for many of the reasons listed above (and so many more). Yes the above can happened in a marriage but that commitment level seems to also create an underline understand to work together on doing life together (which for me isn’t quite the same when dating situation). This isn’t a judgement on you or anyone else, it just seems like there are some things that I would want to complete before making big life decisions.
Finally, I travel to Texas annually and I thought Houston is a nice city to visit but I wouldn’t want to live there because of the weather, it is prone to flooding, and how the city/state has handled the pandemic. I like the Dallas-Forth Worth and Austin areas the most. All three homes where nice but I wouldn’t want to rent a home for the same or even higher amount than most reasonable mortgages in that area (that also includes L.A., New York, and the DMV area etc.).
Be well and be safe!
I’m so happy to see a video like this because I’m actually planning to move to Houston in the spring next year. And all of the comments are making me more excited to move !
Giiiiiiirl, I'm from Houston and still live here. With everything going on in this nation. Houston/Texas is an awesome place to be.
Love seeing videos like this! But it's so tough to make life decisions like this, especially with a partner. It's definitely so hard to make friends in your 30s... but I think having dogs really helps because there are groups and meet ups in parks that you can go to and meet other dog owners, I'm assuming.
"whatevers smarter for our next chapter"
i felt that. 😭
Your logic seems to push for Houston but your heart’s in LA 🥺 I can’t wait to see where you chose to live!
LA is a lot better than Houston, hands down.
Claudia Patrice Patrice LA is way too expensive, full of people obsessed with self image and even though Houston traffic is bad I’ve never heard of it as bad as LA. Houston is diverse and full of different types of people and culture.
I left a state where I lived for 8 years and had lots of family and friends from college years and on to a different state and I have zero regrets! I definitely miss the people in the last state, but the growth and experiences I’ve had in this new state have been priceless. We moved knowing 1 person here and we have made friends through my new job, church, getting involved with the community theatre, volunteering locally, etc. Put yourself out there and you’ll meet great people ❤️ Good luck with your decision! Those places in TX look awesome.
Welcome to Houston. Be Someone. All my houstonians like if know what im talking about.
The neighborhood gentrification going on in Houston is wild. Those tall, boring townhomes look ridiculous next to the original houses.
I know. It's really sad to see.
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man you have no idea! there is this area in the north side that they are slowly evicting people and you can totally tell gentrification is happening!
My whole family lived in the heights area during the 70s when they came from Mexico. It’s a huge difference and the racism that has came from gentrifiers is one of the saddest parts of it
Same going on in Denver, CO
Thank you for letting us in through this very stressful decision. I feel very connected to you bc i feel you dont hide the uncertainty, the stress, the questions, the anxiety of a move. Most youtubers hide behind those feelings. I moved from ohio to Houston to go to the art institute a while back and if i was still there i would totally be your friend and go have a girls day with. I hope whenever i go back and visit that i meet you bc i am a huge fan of yours. I believe you will both make the right decision and i love your videos and love you guys and will send love your way through this difficult time in your lives... you got this girl!!!!!
Aja, I’m so glad you posted this honest conversation between you and your significant other. It’s so easy to say you want to maximize your funds but another to move states for it. Moving outside your comfort zone makes you realize you didn’t really know who you were until you find yourself again. Good luck! Sending good vibes!
I live in Hou and girlllll. The heat, no beach, traffic, weirdly conservative, ambitious, family or clan vibes are food for thought 🥺
Texas is a red state dear . And Galveston is a pond .drive further down to Corpus Christi .
Clan vibes? Wtf are you on about
Matchbox notice the 12 thumbs up. The lady asked how she was going to make friends here and it is family or clan vibes. People are so uptight and has a strong conservative core that the majority of locals stick to their own family or friends and transplants are always in flux. The transplants are friendlier/more social and outgoing (for a reason as Houston is a suburban sprawl with the highlight spots imitating California in aesthetic and pricing) and the native locals hate that as transplants are seen as a threat to their housing costs and job markets (which is also true as we do not mind a higher cost of living). Houston is a lot of things, but welcoming and full of deep connection opportunities for transplants it is not. A lot of people relocate and leave within 5 years or less if they are not from this region of Texas and Louisiana. It is a different mentality out here than California and Florida. Do not expect to find a group of people looking to casually hang out. It’s alot of suburbs, pre-existing cliques, career climbers, and the most annoying question of what do you do for a living.
Lived in Houston for 6 years and just moved to Austin. You 2 should consider Austin. It’s only 2.5 hours from Houston and you can go and visit his family so often. So much more outdoor activities in Austin and character.
I like Austin except for what the Cali yuppies have done to real estate there.
I appreciate that the two of you were willing to have this dialog so that we could all get a glimpse into your thoughts and this moving process. It is so stressful to make the decision to move, especially when it doesn't feel like a necessity. I can't wait to hear what decision the two of you make!
Always love when people give Texas love
I moved to Houston from New Jersey and have been living here for about 9 years. Houston is honestly the best place to live imo with everything so accessible (food, parks, museums, beach in Galveston even though it’s gross water, Chinatown, bars, medical center) and plus, many of the suburbs around Houston have really good school systems like Katy and Fort Bend for the intentions of starting a family. 🙂
Whenever I commute to school, I take this one particular road and know very well where one of those apartments are and I finally get to see what it’s like inside this video!! Glad to see you guys back in Houston! I always loving bringing my family and friends down here. It’s honestly the best place to live, except the traffic!! 😝
I left CA too and I’m in my 30s. There was a def a transition period. But you can find friend doing local meetups or meet people at coffee shops or the gym/yoga studio. You’ll def get more bang for your buck in Texas. Good luck w your decision 🤍
I’m planning on leaving Cali to Texas as well. I don’t have any families nor know anyone there. How did you do meet up? Is it through a Facebook group or site?
Cecilla Khorn yeah I just looked up local meet ups on fb. So for me since I’m vegan I looked up vegan groups and met people that way. I also made friends w people I work with and at the yoga studio :) good luck on your move. I cried a lot in the beginning but that’s bc I moved from CA to the east coast and I left my family lol but you’ll get through it. Just have fun and my number one tip is try not to compare CA to where you move. It doesn’t help just made me miss CA more lol
There’s meetup.com just put in the location and what interests you. There are also city reddit forms. I met really chill people that way on a discord server.
You guys are discussing like true life partners! So happy for you guys. I say keep talking through it and make sure you guys both support the major life decision together!
I've moved from Mississippi, to Seattle, to Austin, and now in Dallas. Making friends is VERY tough, but not impossible. If I can do it being as introverted and awkward as I am, you can find friends no problem.
Vanessa Little Wow thats quite a bit. Thoughts of Seattle Austin and Dallas? Im thinking of moving to either WA AZ or TX. So hard to make a decision since I live in the midwest.
Everyone’s moving to Dallas or anywhere in Texas. The cost of living is cheaper here
@@ChristineCho91 Seattle is beautiful, but really expensive. Austin is cool, but extremely overpopulated and the traffic shows. I like visiting, but I wouldn't want to live there again. I love Dallas because it's huge, there is so much to do, and the jobs in tech are plenty. It also has several cities on the outskirts that are really booming. Been here since 2015 and I think of it as home.
Vanessa Little Once Covid slows down hopefully I will be able to travel to TX and check it out myself. I lived in Seattle from 09-11 which is forever ago and Im sure living cost is even much higher now. Thank you for being so helpful! Happy Dallas living!!!
Youn Christine Cho Yes living is Seattle is super high. I never been but I live in Dallas and work from home. I work for a major company that is based in The Seattle area. My coworkers are talking about the cost of living.
I started this job a few months ago and the guy that trained me showed me his new that cost $600k. That’s house here is 260-280k max here. I couldn’t believe it lol
Idk why but I’ve never found Aja more relatable than in this video. Loved this ♥️
Seems like the biggest reason you want to move is to save money. Maybe I missed it, but I didn't pick up on any other real reasons. I heard "starting a new chapter," moving into a "new life," "one step closer to an actual home," saving is important today due to "the uncertainty in the world" but those are vague and don't exist in reality.
Like you said, it's not like you NEED to move to pay the rent, so optimizing life around financial decisions at this point is not going to increase happiness/satisfaction/fulfillment. You're probably having these discussions off camera, but dig deep to find the real reason for the desire to move. I'll bet it's not to save money.
When your lease ends, doesn't it switch to month-to-month?
Such a realistic raw video of what couples go thru when faced with change. I love LA too I was born and raised there but we eventually moved east to San Gabriel Valley. It's more affordable than moving west towards "the valley" (Northridge ect). Cities in SGV like west covina, arcadia, diamond bar, Claremont are way more affordable than directly in downtown and its usually a 35min drive to downtown...best of luck on your search
Everyone please STOP moving to Texas specifically Houston thanks ! Haha lol 😂
Been living in LA for 5 years. The bf is born and raised in LA. His great grandparents settled here and the family has been here ever since. We wanted to continue with “tradition” and continue to make LA our home, but in thinking about our future and potential children, we have been considering TX as well.
We had two scary incidents in the past year, theft of $7k worth of property from our garage and waking up to a drugged out man in our backyard.
We are getting sick of the homeless and crime here.
Another point to think about, no income tax and low gas prices!
Our plan would be to fly out to LA a couple of times a year for a long weekend getaway. Ticket prices are very affordable between TX and LAX.
Good luck! And also keep in mind you can always move back! You are not stuck with the decision for life, especially if you are renting in Houston.
TX has sales taxes on clothes. The only thing that doesn’t is food. However, there is one weekend out of the year called Tax Free Weekend that had no tax on a bunch of back to school things and clothes are included that weekend.
Montrose is super walkable and nice! Happy to answer any questions on Houston and neighborhoods as a Northeast transplant who has been in Houston for 7 years.
I feel you girl! When you have made roots in one place it’s difficult to want to move and create a new life. During these crazy times I have lost loved ones that I thought would still be here. I am learning that life has many unexpected turns and choices that we have to face whether or not we are ready. I hope whatever choice you made that you are happy. Because one thing you can’t get back is time.
🥺 I’m praying for you guys, you guys deserve the best. It will be worth it
the Heights is probably Houston’s coolest neighborhood! Relatively safe, great shops and restaurants, super centric and doesn’t flood as bad or at all as other areas here.
*I'm from LA* and I'm watching these *cheap places* like... 👁👄👁
Why am I in LA again!?😭
This year I've been planning (for 2021) to *adopt a dog* and I'm realizing *how difficult it is to move if you have a dog* 🐶 in LA.
Moving is difficult more for the *social aspect* (especially as an adult), so I feel you Aja, even if it's saving money.
*Q:* Wouldn't you be leaving doing commercials behind, would that affect your finances (as in, would it just all equal out financially roughly the same)?
no, I haven't booked a commercial in over a year so I'm not missing out on any money there.
@@AjaDang Got it!
I think it’s smart of you to rent first. If you end up not liking the neighborhood you can easily move after a year. Not so easy to do when you buy a place. A friend of mine moved to Dallas a few years ago and loves it so much more than LA. Her whole family ended up moving out there after she did, mom, brothers, brother in law! It doesn’t hurt to try it out if your job allows for it.
Goodluck to whatever you choose or will choose! Im sure you guys will thrive whereever you guys are!
Hi Aja! I used to work with Brian’s friend. He’s a nurse. We work at the Med Center. I’m from LA too and moved to Houston four years ago. It was so hard at first because I had to leave everything behind and start a new job here. I remember crying to my mom almost everyday and wanting to go back. But things eventually got better. I met friends at work. Two college friends moved to Houston and we spent a lot of time with each other. If you need some girl friends, there’s a lot of us here! :)
I just discovered your channel and it was so relatable! I'm from LA and I grew up in OC my whole life. I plan to move to Houston in the next two years to be with my boyfriend and I completely understand your fears and struggles. Me and my boyfriend made the decision to move out there (even though we would prefer CA) because of living cost and what we want to do in terms of family, traveling and the lifestyle we want to live. The dollar goes a lot further in TX than in CA because lifestyle is much slower over there than in LA, but I can see Houston growing and becoming like LA in the next few years - so it could be a good investment in the long run.
Stay positive and really focus on what is best for you both and for your future family because that will come first :)
Hi Aja. Moving to Texas would be great in terms of saving money and more space but I think the most important thing you have to think about is your happiness. If you're not happy then saving money really doesn't matter. I'm Asian and as you know we love our family & I don't see myself moving too far away from my family.
You guys are young and you have your whole life ahead of you...if anything Texas would be a great alternative when you are older & Texas can eventually your forever home. Can't wait to see your next video to see what decision you both made. ;D
Houston is huge, much bigger than it seems. I’ve never been to LA but from what I see I would say Houston offers you a bit of that metropolitan vibe and that escape from the inner city. There’s plenty of opportunity to make friends if you position yourself to do so but I know the decision to leave everything that you know and makes you comfortable is going to be a hard one. Best of luck to the two of you on this journey, wherever it may lead!
Houston, wow it’s beautiful and the people here are welcoming. Especially in the area you are looking at! It’s big moves but I love my city! Good luck! ☺️
I love how raw this video was with talking about moving there's so many more factors.
Sounds like you should stay in L.A. I expect you could find other ways to save money. But I do recommend the tacos in Houston, especially Torchy's Tacos!
Velvet Taco is hands down better than Torchy's.
What ?! Torchy’s is not tacos lol. That nasty shit.
Velvet also . That bullshit. Go to edgbrook and get some real ass tacos.
The honesty and rawness of your content is so much appreciated, Aja
This was such a sweet insight into moving struggles. My partner and I moved from East Coast to West Coast of Australia. He was moving for work and had friends already. I had 0 friends in the same city. I guess with COVID, video calling, social distancing/gathering limitations, most of my friends back home at the time were not able to see each other either. Pre-COVID and now when restrictions have eased, my partner's friends introduced us to their friends who introduced us to their friends. Making friends will eventually happen, I did try Bumble BFF but didn't vibe with some of them. After 10 months of not being able to go back home (our state has banned interstate travel), I'm very happy to have made the move because exploring a new city is really enriching.
And to have that opportunity doesn't come very often (at least for us). We plan on moving back home after a couple of years so that's always an option too :)
This is why Texas is going up. Everyone from California is moving here.
I haven’t seen other videos to know your goals and if they include kids, but if it does, you may learn that while the glamorous LA life style is fun now, there’s nothing more valuable than being by family and having someone to help out who you know and trust.
If it doesn’t include kids in your future plan, you do you and what makes you happy!!
From Florida, moved to Houston 2000, flooded twice now in Katy TX Love Love Love huge house, pool, nice places to go, everything out here too💗, my hubby our teenage daughter and I all love it.....Wish you all the best...your video/channel just popped up today, gorgeous couple!
I'm from Houston, lived in California for 3 yrs *I loved California because there is so much to do, weather etc. Houston, it's home and not a lot to do - California is so much better!
I appreciate you Aja! It is beautiful to see how a relationship goes through plans and knowing that life happens, and how transparent you guys are is very relatable and encouraging!
Thank you so much, and all of my thoughts to you guys for the decision you’ll be making 💛
Thank you for filming all the places! It was so cool to see. Cannot wait to hear what you two have decided!!! 😆
Don’t be so hard on yourself girl. If you don’t want to move just don’t. We all want you and your partner to be happy where you live. Me and my husband went to Austin Texas this august. It was a great experience. People are friendly and easy to talk to. I’m pretty sure you’ll meet wonderful people in Texas if you move there. So don’t be so stressed.
Aww Aja! Girl you're looking at places right around my area, I'll take you out and show you around!! You'll make friends so easily, don't worry about that part. Change is so scary but it can be so exciting too! I think if change isn't scary, then it might not be worth it. Whether it's LA or Houston, you're going to be fine :)
I love your honesty and openness. Sharing the real journey - thank you.
There are more houses to see tho, hope you get to see them. Those prices where way to high . Moving to where there is family is good, cause once you start your family, it will good to have people around. Saving money is so important no matter how much is in your account. Saving money should be a priority over emotions.
This is so true. Friends are great but I remember how much easier it was for my parents to raise us with family around. It's a built in support system.
Very true!
Love how real you two are. Wish you two the best in any decision you make.
A born and raised Houstonian here to say H-TOWN HOLD IT DOWN!!!! Hope you figure out what the best decision is for you both 💛
I moved to Houston two years ago. I love it here.
Thank you for sharing this process with us! As a recent grad receiving offers only from employers far away from my current home, seeing you face this dilemma with such vulnerability and transparency is so encouraging. It’s such a hard call to decide your priorities when it comes to investing in the future. But as always, you’re like a true older sister - giving the best advice and providing a realistic perspective. Thank you, and best of luck with everything you do! 💕
PS Houston is great! There are a ton of fantastic Vietnamese/Asian spots along Bellaire Boulevard that you should check out if you have the time!
I had an awesome time when I visited Houston. Being from the Bay Area where housing and rental property prices are out of control, I was surprised to see Houston's prices were pretty high as well. Still an AWESOME City none the less.
this would be a great opportunity to see if TX is a place you'd ever buy a home at! Since I know that's something you've mentioned before. Good luck to you both! :)
I live in Houston (EaDo area) and we love it so far. All young people in their 20s and 30s too!
We’ll be your friend!! Haha
For those prices, you should definitely go for it, Aja! Change is good. Maybe it's time for a new chapter in your lives. You never know what Houston can bring!
The one for 3600 is niiiiceee. The vibes are dope and a unique space for sure.
I moved to Houston and didn’t know anyone and within a couple months Had made some great friends and now a year later I’ve really settled in and have tons of people I hang out with. Bumble BFF is awesome for it! Went to multiple ladies nights on there and it made everything so easy. The city is huge and full of so many types of ppl who also don’t know anyone. You’ll find your people if you want to :)
Houston is great and definitely underrated. I'm even hesitant to say this out loud because this city is such a gem. I know making new friends and creating a support system in a new city is scary. But don't let this feeling stop you from getting out of your comfort zone if you feel this is the right move at the time.
Aja, it doesn’t seem like ur heart is ready to leave LA. I get it, I’m a Cali girl. At the end of the day, u need to do what makes u n Bryan happy. You’ve been budgeting n paying off ur debt the last couple of years. Go live ur best life! LA, Houston?? Who cares! Like Bryan says, home is where u r. Made me tear up a bit. Love that he’s not pressuring u to move n u guys r actually sitting down n talking this through. I hope u make the best decision for the two of u n u guys only. Lots of love from LA, SGV 🌴🌴❤️❤️
making friends as an adult is a lot harder than as a kid however it's not imposable. I have struggled with this for a while as an adult. I still live in texas but a lot of my friends at this point have moved to other states. I ended up finding myself alone wanting to hang out and didn't know who to call or what to do. I ended up finding a bar or coffee shop and just have a drink. Id tell myself after one drink I can leave if I want too but no to-go cups. The took the pressure off. And from there treat it like dating. Walk up to someone and say "Hi my name is..." and out of habit people respond and that starts a conversation.
Also, you are in the south let the southern hospitality and politiness work FOR you!
You can do it, girl! I moved to Las Vegas from California to be with my boyfriend after dating for 2 years; without knowing anybody except his family and friends. I thought it will be hard because I like going out with my friends too. Now we have 2 kids, ages 5 and 7. Once you start having your own family, you will not care about being around friends. The houses are much cheaper here too, newer and a lot bigger compare to Cali. It’s a new chapter of your life. Sometimes we need that change, plus you could always go back to LA if things don't work out.
wow this makes me want to move to texas
TX resident for the past 7 years and I love it. Lived in both Austin and DFW. Both have their downsides, but each have even better perks. Just depends on the vibe you're looking for.
lol You can’t feel the swamp Houston heat on your phone
we can start a little "creative community" there. don't make me move there alone!
I was thinking the exact same thing
@@AjaDang I'd visit Houston!
Thanks for sharing the conversation between you and Brian, super helpful to see how other couples in their 30s work through life planning and decisions together!
Hi Aja,
I was in the same exact situation as you. My bf and I moved from CA to Dallas, TX about a year and a half ago! The both of us are originally from San Diego. He got a job offer he couldn't turn down and asked me to come along. We've been together for 5 years so this was a HUGE step for us, I feel your pain 100%. Leaving all our family and friends behind and moving to a new place was tough, neither of us had any family or friends out here. Meeting people was a little hard because you have to make the effort to go out and socialize~ (Me being an introvert and homebody lol) but when the two of you settle, go out and explore! The farmers market is a good start! People are super friendly out here, it's that southern hospitality :) They will recommend bars and restaurants! From there you'll start to get the vibe of the city. If you're comfortable, there's also apps like Bumble Friends you can use. You'll realize that you're not the only one new to the city! Moving out of your comfort zone and transitioning is HARD, not going to lie. We were homesick for a bit BUT we both knew it was for the better. I, myself and my bf were able to grow as individuals and together as a couple. It was the best decision we've ever made! We recently got our first fur baby and are currently looking for a townhome too as our little family continues to grow
I live in the heights in Houston for 2400 a month....two stories with front and back yard with gate. I love it here soooo much.
I loved the honesty of this video and I hope you’re happy with the option you chose.
One thing about Houston is that its super diverse and everyone for the most part are super nice, if you join some type of community/gym/etc. You can easily make friends in no time and as for the area, everything is within driving distance or even walking/biking depending on the area you choose which is what I like more than Cali.
Exciting to see your journey! I'm not to far from you guys in Montrose! Hope your decision making process goes smoothly and easily! Welcome to Houston!
Love you, Aja! Thanks for the insightful videos 🙌🏼
So exciting! Seems like you didn’t want to move and that is understandable. Not having your friends too close to home is really something to sacrifice when making big moves like this. I just want to say based from my experience that eventually you will be fine and it will give you so much peace of mind having your own place. If you two decide to stay in LA that’s awesome too because you’re familiar with everything/everybody and work I guess is better for you. BUT if you two decide to move to a different state, own a place, and plan for a family? It’ll be the best decision moving forward.
I really appreciate your guys honest conversation about life things. I really felt it when you were like "but friends!" I get it. It's such a hard decision. Whatever it is, you will make it work. I'm a firm believer things happen for a reason!
Houston is so welcoming! Everyone here is from somewhere else. You’ll make friends so fast... both of you seem cool and fun. I live in Shady Acres / Heights. Lots of great choices.
I don't have a lot of things figured out, but the one thing I have learned the hard way is that you need to get rid of any cultural or societal "have to do" influences in your life, especially related to age. Do things on your terms and because you want to do them or because they are genuinely the best thing for you, not because it's what you "should" do. You're obviously a smart cookie though so I think you'll do what's best for you at the end of the day :)
Don’t wait, just do it!! You can always move back to LA or to another city.
i really appreciated the candid conversation at the end
I purchased a home in Houston and been here for about a year now from Boston. Let me tell you, I miss Boston every single day. The charm, Charles River, being close to the beach/water, all the restaurants, knowing some of the backroads, the people, knowing local business owners and supporting them, the connections, the driving, the vibe, no racism or at least I never encounter any as an Asian girl, and just what I'm used to... but sometimes you need to think about what do you need to do for the next chapter. I get a big yard and a decent house (not a mansion yet) in an up and coming neighborhood. If you want to continue to stay in LA, I can totally understand. For me, if I continue to stay where I'm comfortable, I won't be able to grow as a person. But hey, if you ever decide to move to Houston, I hope I get to bump into you some day and let you know my favorite restaurants prior to this pandemic! I didn't get the chance to explore Houston much so I still sorta hate it. lol. Traffic in downtown can be bad during rush hours so just depends on what you do for a living and your need and from my research, there are certain communities you shouldn't walk in/drive by. Oh, and if you ever decide to purchase a home in Houston on the long term, just know that property tax is up there.
So I live in the Heights. Its a great community that has great food options, great community, we have a Women's club, and a Association that really cares about the schools, our parks, streets. I ride my bike all of the time on the bike trails and to local restaurants. Im not going to say it is easy to make friends, but in this neighborhood there are lots of opportunities. Museum District is a bit of an older person neighborhood , but is one of the cultural centers of the city. EaDo is an up and coming neighborhood and is more diverse in income and backgrounds. It has had a surge of new restaurants, and businesses. It has been a slow transition, but it is how the Heights was 20 years ago.
Good luck in your decision making and as a native Houstonian, we would love to have you!