Please pray for my Indian hindu wife people. Please also pray for me I am unbaptised and bound tightly to sin and therefore death. God bless you all in the name of His eternal son Jesus Christ
There is hope for you brother. I married a muslim man. I, am Orthodox. After 17 years of praying, he became Orthodox as well. We are ALL bound to sin. Keep going. Don't give up!! Don't give in to false religions. May God bless your journey to HIM.
Please pray for the father of my children and I. We lived for ourselves when we were very young and had children outside of marriage. My heart has since turned toward Christ, but my husband can not be convinced to marry me because he has such distain for the government’s involvement in marriage. I tell him that I want to become one with him *in Christ alone* but his heart is still hardened to the idea. He does not understand why I need to be married if we are so committed to each other (it’s been 12 years).
At the marriage feast at Cana, Jesus brought agape-love to eros-love. Agape-love completes eros-love. A marriage won't last without it. Romance will wane in the best of marriages, but agape-love abides in the best of marriages. Faith and hope also abide. Faith + charity = fidelity.
@@MC-ze8wj so just going deeper into prayer? I guess that’s right, it applies for every other kind of question and decision so it makes sense that it also applies here.
I just feel like there still could be something to say about how one discerns whether this person is the one they should marry. There must be some specific way to approach this.
To paraphrase a story Fr. Josiah once told, make a list of all the qualities you want in a spouse. Once you have all those written down, write your name at the top of the list and see if you have those same qualities.
Father, will you please speak a word or two for dealing with anxieties about being married? How can one deal with thoughts that they are not ready for marriage even though they are of age and God has presented to them the right spouse.
And the devil tries everything to destory marriage. only in christ we can have a true holy marriage. It is truly a mystery. I pray that everyone can find his missing half and have a blessed marriage someday.
I am interested in Orthodoxy, but don’t know if I am allowed in. I am married (it is my first and only marriage) to a divorced man. I would love some answers on this if anyone who knows is willing to share.
I was civilly married once and remarried before coming into Orthodoxy. Husband and I had our 1st marriage Crowning Ceremony as neither of us had been married in the Church before.
If he divorced for any other reason than his first wife having sex with another person, then his divorce is not valid in the Lord's eyes. He is still married to her and both of you are living in sin, this is considered adultery. I hate to tell you, I know it's devastating, but this is written in scripture. I'll be praying for you, both.🙏
To quote Marx, "marriage is a great institution, but who wants to be institutionalized?" Pardon my cynicism and parchant to cite Groucho. I worry, am I too far gone, for the love and relationship which is found for and within marriage? 😢 pray for me.
what if you and your wife was protestant when you got married but now you feel lead to convert to holy orthodoxy and your wife refuses to even have a open heart and mind to it?
I'm praying for you brother. I'm in almost that exact situation. I am an Orthodox catechumen and my wife didn't want to convert from Catholicism. It is extremely difficult. But the only true church is the Orthodox Church, so it has to be this way. Good luck to you my friend
In my opinion all you can do is live and lead by example, and be open and empathetic to her objections. If she’s already closed off, pushing or pressuring will just make it worse. People need to relax before they will open up. Don’t judge, don’t push, just lovingly try to understand her. And pray of course.
My husband and I were atheists for the first 10ish years of our relationship; I started to search for the truth when I was 29. I found the Orthodox Church and attended for almost 2 years alone. I did not push it on him or fight about it with him, I would share if he showed interest, otherwise I simply attended and started to move towards a more Orthodox life myself. After a time he started to see the good in the church that he wasn't seeing elsewhere and he started joining me for services even though he still didn't believe. He was just moved by all the truth he saw the church, I don't know if I'm explaining well but that is was he noticed. He still didn't believe however, he thought it was superstition and more or less luck that the church had hit on so many truths. After around one more year, his eyes were opened we were baptized together with our three sons, praise God.
I saw him talking about his childhood. When an 8 year old boy he visited a schoolfriend who was Orthodox. I am looking for that clip again now but cannot find it again. Can anyone help please?
Before wedding ceremonies Orthodox Christians used to go to the magistrate first and then to the Parish priest to have their marriage blessed, and on Sunday partake of the Holy Eucharist together. After wedding ceremonies they still had the legal component.
@@LadyMaria Yes, and I'm sure you would be glad to destroy his life in the secular legal system in the case of a divorce. The Church would not allow such a thing to happen.
I know what I’m about to ask is a sensitive topic that people will say I need to go to a spiritual father for advice on, but I’m going to bring it up anyways hoping to get some insight. I still struggle with the idea that it is a sin to have any kind of sexual intercourse within marriage without the intention to procreate. If the couple is still doing their part by having children, why is this considered a sin if every interaction is not solely for having a baby? I’ve heard the argument that it is because we are seeking to have the pleasure without the responsibility, but again if the couple is having babies then why is it an issue? Does that then make it a sin to have dessert after dinner because we are abusing the pleasure system of eating? Thank you to anyone who takes the time to this and discuss!
Marriage is for child bearing. If you don't want to have children, not trying or won't even adopt, then you shouldn't get married. Authentic Human Sexual Experience is a undeserved gift from God, a cherry on top. This is opposed to simple animal mating where the enjoyment of the participants aren't a necessary factor. Misusing any gift from God is a sin. This begs the question: "Well, how do we know what sex is sinful or not?" and the answer is Sodom and Gomorrah Sodomy or "the sin of Sodom" isnt simply the sin of homosexuality (as the term sodomite is usually uses for); it's the sin of sexual immorality a.k.a sexual relations without morality a.k.a sexual relations without taking Good as God see it (truth) into consideration. Now as a creation, your parts were made with purpose. Were anal cavities made for genitals and objects or is it made for waste? Were mouths used for genitals or were they made for food going in and love/praise coming out? Touching/kissing is definitely a part of AHSE but there should be a clear line so that the couple doesn't put sexual pleasure over what is Good in God's eyes ever, even in the bedroom (And that line for most Christians should be "Don't have sex like a sodomite")
Even if a couple isn't having babies it isn't a sin in Orthodox marriage to have relations as long as there's nothing thwarting having children if God wills it. Another words, no artificial contraceptives, barrier methods, pulling out, etc. A couple has to be open to the possibility of having children even if remote like in the case of infertility or the woman is not on her ovulation cycle. We do not have marital relations on fast days, fasting periods, the evening before receiving Holy Communion, or the 12 Great Feasts of the Church. This was told to me by a devout Bishop and is part of the Faith (it actually used to be a lot more intense but has been relaxed as much as it can be). Fasting means fasting. On Great Feasts, our focus should be on Christ only. Of course for those who are weak, one's spiritual father might work with them and make temporary exception to long fasting periods, but it's not to be taken lightly.
@@SmiteD1925The Orthodox teaching is that marriage is for sanctification of the couple, and the fruit being children if God wills it. One does not have to adopt if one cannot have children. As long as they are open to children they can be married in the Church.
Father can you please do a practical video on how to quit pornography addiction? Been trying to quit for almost 7 years and I'm at a point where I feel like what's the use of even trying to quit since I've failed so many times.
OK, first, realise that OFTEN God will ALLOW you to continue to struggle with a sin. You have willingly, and out of love, taken up The Cross. What is that Cross? It is YOU confronting YOU. Over and over again. Do not allow the enemy to convince you that you are defeated. This is a marathon. It is a long war. A war of attrition. You must struggle. And your struggle may be exactly what God wants you doing - suffering the disappointments and failures in your journey, suffering with Him. And for Him. And while you must try to defeat this sin, remember that it may be the very works God has appointed for you. He is not yet ready to lift this curse from you. Orthodoxy is not a magic potion! It is the path of lifelong struggle. I think of my battle with temptation and sin as if it is this long war of attrition. There will be MANY days when the enemy will win tactical victories over me, convincing my flesh to sin, and he will succeed at the occasional ambush, BUT I am 100% convinced that just as the Allies defeated Germany in WW2, sometimes suffering very great counterattacks from the enemy, and suffering many enemy successes against them, they stayed the course, and the enemy won a great many battles, but still lost the war, so too will I prevail, in time. Get an icon of the Inexhaustible Cup. Get one of St. Mary of Egypt. Pray. Fast. You will find as you follow the Orthodox Path, as the years go by (and they WILL likely be years!) and you struggle against this sin, it will become less and less appealing over time. God bless you, and may the Mother of God help you through her prayers.
This talk with Fr. Johannes (Hans) might help. He tackles this issue very heavily and is easy to get ahold of. ruclips.net/video/fUmfJr2pMIw/видео.htmlfeature=shared
Delete all the apps etc that offer a port of entry, starve your lust and it will fade. Infuse your mind with songs of praise and worship and talks such as these . Pray and go to a good church . Exercise or play a sport when the sexual tension rises and you transform it. Best wishes and God bless !
“For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.” 1 Corinthians 7:14
The popups are a bit distracting imo. 4 different ones in 3 minutes might be a bit much. I understand its helping PnP but I already know about the kids channel and the book and the IG account etc., I am here for what Fr is saying but I can't focus on him
Recently engaged, pray for me and my bride to be!
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Prayers coming your way
Congratulations! I pray for your marriage.
I'm 22 years old, pray that me and my wife can convert to holy orthodoxy some day!
Someday? Why not today? ❤
Please pray for my marriage. I’m really struggling.
I pray everything is better in your marriage ❤🩹🙏
@@lifesagiftt it is! SO much better. Thank God!
@@psyche8187 I'm so glad!!! Glory to God❤️🩹
"God's institution is not to be blamed for the failures of Man."
Please pray for my Indian hindu wife people. Please also pray for me I am unbaptised and bound tightly to sin and therefore death.
God bless you all in the name of His eternal son Jesus Christ
Find a local Orthodox church ASAP and talk to a priest...from a Serbian Orthodox...
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I will pray for you
There is hope for you brother. I married a muslim man. I, am Orthodox. After 17 years of praying, he became Orthodox as well. We are ALL bound to sin. Keep going. Don't give up!! Don't give in to false religions. May God bless your journey to HIM.
Please come and preach this in the UK father
God bless you for this
I appreciate you, Father Josiah. Best wishes from North Carolina.
I love you father Josiah ☦️
Amen, thank you, Father.
Incredible talk, Glory to God
Thank you father, needed this
Please pray for the father of my children and I. We lived for ourselves when we were very young and had children outside of marriage. My heart has since turned toward Christ, but my husband can not be convinced to marry me because he has such distain for the government’s involvement in marriage. I tell him that I want to become one with him *in Christ alone* but his heart is still hardened to the idea. He does not understand why I need to be married if we are so committed to each other (it’s been 12 years).
You can always get married and not involve the government
Amen Praise the lord ☦️🛐.
At the marriage feast at Cana, Jesus brought agape-love to eros-love. Agape-love completes eros-love. A marriage won't last without it. Romance will wane in the best of marriages, but agape-love abides in the best of marriages. Faith and hope also abide. Faith + charity = fidelity.
I just received the book. Thank you For Josiah.
God, please bless me with a good husband ❤
Catechumen here. Any practical tipps on how to find a spouse? (Apart from growing my faith.) 😅
@@MC-ze8wj so just going deeper into prayer? I guess that’s right, it applies for every other kind of question and decision so it makes sense that it also applies here.
I just feel like there still could be something to say about how one discerns whether this person is the one they should marry. There must be some specific way to approach this.
To paraphrase a story Fr. Josiah once told, make a list of all the qualities you want in a spouse. Once you have all those written down, write your name at the top of the list and see if you have those same qualities.
Father, will you please speak a word or two for dealing with anxieties about being married? How can one deal with thoughts that they are not ready for marriage even though they are of age and God has presented to them the right spouse.
We are not alone, God is with us ❤☦🙏💪🤗
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Divorce is evil. It is nothing short of child sacrifice. Those that abandon a spouse, abandon the Lord
And the devil tries everything to destory marriage. only in christ we can have a true holy marriage. It is truly a mystery. I pray that everyone can find his missing half and have a blessed marriage someday.
Hopefully not everyone, monasticism needs revival too.
I am interested in Orthodoxy, but don’t know if I am allowed in. I am married (it is my first and only marriage) to a divorced man. I would love some answers on this if anyone who knows is willing to share.
I was civilly married once and remarried before coming into Orthodoxy. Husband and I had our 1st marriage Crowning Ceremony as neither of us had been married in the Church before.
Thank you! God bless!
If he divorced for any other reason than his first wife having sex with another person, then his divorce is not valid in the Lord's eyes. He is still married to her and both of you are living in sin, this is considered adultery. I hate to tell you, I know it's devastating, but this is written in scripture. I'll be praying for you, both.🙏
To quote Marx, "marriage is a great institution, but who wants to be institutionalized?"
Pardon my cynicism and parchant to cite Groucho. I worry, am I too far gone, for the love and relationship which is found for and within marriage? 😢 pray for me.
what if you and your wife
was protestant when you got married
but now you feel lead to convert to holy orthodoxy and your wife refuses to even have a open heart and mind to it?
I'm praying for you brother. I'm in almost that exact situation. I am an Orthodox catechumen and my wife didn't want to convert from Catholicism. It is extremely difficult. But the only true church is the Orthodox Church, so it has to be this way. Good luck to you my friend
In my opinion all you can do is live and lead by example, and be open and empathetic to her objections. If she’s already closed off, pushing or pressuring will just make it worse. People need to relax before they will open up. Don’t judge, don’t push, just lovingly try to understand her. And pray of course.
My husband and I were atheists for the first 10ish years of our relationship; I started to search for the truth when I was 29. I found the Orthodox Church and attended for almost 2 years alone. I did not push it on him or fight about it with him, I would share if he showed interest, otherwise I simply attended and started to move towards a more Orthodox life myself. After a time he started to see the good in the church that he wasn't seeing elsewhere and he started joining me for services even though he still didn't believe. He was just moved by all the truth he saw the church, I don't know if I'm explaining well but that is was he noticed. He still didn't believe however, he thought it was superstition and more or less luck that the church had hit on so many truths. After around one more year, his eyes were opened we were baptized together with our three sons, praise God.
@@MC-ze8wj Glory to God! That was beautiful. Thank you for sharing sister. Christ is Risen! ☦️
Pray for her heart to be softened to join Holy Orthodoxy with you, or after you.
I saw him talking about his childhood. When an 8 year old boy he visited a schoolfriend who was Orthodox. I am looking for that clip again now but cannot find it again. Can anyone help please?
We need the link for the book please
As an Orthodox christian i will never sign a marriage certificate. The state does not marry me and my wife. The Church should be in charge of divorce.
Before wedding ceremonies Orthodox Christians used to go to the magistrate first and then to the Parish priest to have their marriage blessed, and on Sunday partake of the Holy Eucharist together. After wedding ceremonies they still had the legal component.
@@LadyMaria Ok, but that still does not make a justification for Christians being married by state.
@Mill-wl9bx Again, the state will be in charge of divorce when i sign a contract between the state, me and my wife. not the church. that is the issue
@@ChillinC-b5m You don't make a good argument on why they shouldn't do as they've always done. I'm glad my husband and I are together in every way.
@@LadyMaria Yes, and I'm sure you would be glad to destroy his life in the secular legal system in the case of a divorce. The Church would not allow such a thing to happen.
Can an orthodox marriage be restored if infidelity has occurred?
I know what I’m about to ask is a sensitive topic that people will say I need to go to a spiritual father for advice on, but I’m going to bring it up anyways hoping to get some insight.
I still struggle with the idea that it is a sin to have any kind of sexual intercourse within marriage without the intention to procreate. If the couple is still doing their part by having children, why is this considered a sin if every interaction is not solely for having a baby?
I’ve heard the argument that it is because we are seeking to have the pleasure without the responsibility, but again if the couple is having babies then why is it an issue? Does that then make it a sin to have dessert after dinner because we are abusing the pleasure system of eating? Thank you to anyone who takes the time to this and discuss!
Marriage is for child bearing. If you don't want to have children, not trying or won't even adopt, then you shouldn't get married. Authentic Human Sexual Experience is a undeserved gift from God, a cherry on top. This is opposed to simple animal mating where the enjoyment of the participants aren't a necessary factor.
Misusing any gift from God is a sin. This begs the question: "Well, how do we know what sex is sinful or not?" and the answer is Sodom and Gomorrah
Sodomy or "the sin of Sodom" isnt simply the sin of homosexuality (as the term sodomite is usually uses for); it's the sin of sexual immorality a.k.a sexual relations without morality a.k.a sexual relations without taking Good as God see it (truth) into consideration.
Now as a creation, your parts were made with purpose. Were anal cavities made for genitals and objects or is it made for waste? Were mouths used for genitals or were they made for food going in and love/praise coming out? Touching/kissing is definitely a part of AHSE but there should be a clear line so that the couple doesn't put sexual pleasure over what is Good in God's eyes ever, even in the bedroom (And that line for most Christians should be "Don't have sex like a sodomite")
I have heard many priests say that is not the teaching of the Church.
Even if a couple isn't having babies it isn't a sin in Orthodox marriage to have relations as long as there's nothing thwarting having children if God wills it. Another words, no artificial contraceptives, barrier methods, pulling out, etc. A couple has to be open to the possibility of having children even if remote like in the case of infertility or the woman is not on her ovulation cycle.
We do not have marital relations on fast days, fasting periods, the evening before receiving Holy Communion, or the 12 Great Feasts of the Church. This was told to me by a devout Bishop and is part of the Faith (it actually used to be a lot more intense but has been relaxed as much as it can be). Fasting means fasting. On Great Feasts, our focus should be on Christ only. Of course for those who are weak, one's spiritual father might work with them and make temporary exception to long fasting periods, but it's not to be taken lightly.
@@SmiteD1925The Orthodox teaching is that marriage is for sanctification of the couple, and the fruit being children if God wills it. One does not have to adopt if one cannot have children. As long as they are open to children they can be married in the Church.
Father can you please do a practical video on how to quit pornography addiction?
Been trying to quit for almost 7 years and I'm at a point where I feel like what's the use of even trying to quit since I've failed so many times.
Don’t give up bruh. It will get better. You can go talk to your local priest if you want some advice.
OK, first, realise that OFTEN God will ALLOW you to continue to struggle with a sin. You have willingly, and out of love, taken up The Cross. What is that Cross? It is YOU confronting YOU. Over and over again. Do not allow the enemy to convince you that you are defeated. This is a marathon. It is a long war. A war of attrition. You must struggle. And your struggle may be exactly what God wants you doing - suffering the disappointments and failures in your journey, suffering with Him. And for Him. And while you must try to defeat this sin, remember that it may be the very works God has appointed for you. He is not yet ready to lift this curse from you. Orthodoxy is not a magic potion! It is the path of lifelong struggle.
I think of my battle with temptation and sin as if it is this long war of attrition. There will be MANY days when the enemy will win tactical victories over me, convincing my flesh to sin, and he will succeed at the occasional ambush, BUT I am 100% convinced that just as the Allies defeated Germany in WW2, sometimes suffering very great counterattacks from the enemy, and suffering many enemy successes against them, they stayed the course, and the enemy won a great many battles, but still lost the war, so too will I prevail, in time.
Get an icon of the Inexhaustible Cup. Get one of St. Mary of Egypt. Pray. Fast.
You will find as you follow the Orthodox Path, as the years go by (and they WILL likely be years!) and you struggle against this sin, it will become less and less appealing over time.
God bless you, and may the Mother of God help you through her prayers.
This talk with Fr. Johannes (Hans) might help. He tackles this issue very heavily and is easy to get ahold of.
ruclips.net/video/fUmfJr2pMIw/видео.htmlfeature=shared
Delete all the apps etc that offer a port of entry, starve your lust and it will fade. Infuse your mind with songs of praise and worship and talks such as these . Pray and go to a good church . Exercise or play a sport when the sexual tension rises and you transform it. Best wishes and God bless !
Are these blessings of marriage still possible if a couple is only married in a civil ceremony and only one is a Christian while the other a Buddhist?
“For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.”
1 Corinthians 7:14
It will not have the eternal bond nor be a marriage in the Church. It is a mere secular civil contract.
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The popups are a bit distracting imo. 4 different ones in 3 minutes might be a bit much. I understand its helping PnP but I already know about the kids channel and the book and the IG account etc., I am here for what Fr is saying but I can't focus on him
Totally agree, kinda reminds me of AFR…
Its propably not ideal, maybe changing the colors to be less distracting could help it, like a light brown