My Spoilt Daughter Gets Whatever She Asks For | Jo Frost: Extreme Parental Guidance | Real Families
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- This Week, Supernanny Jo Frost helps with a young girl who is being enabled by her parents to continue being bossy and spoilt. Jo also meets with a boy who spends more than 80 hours a week playing video games, rather than with family or friends.
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From: Jo Frost: Extreme Parental Guidance S1 E2
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Madison is literally a real-life Veruca Salt; and Bailey is like Mike Teevee in real life! I wonder if they received the Golden Ticket to Willy Wonka's chocolate factory yet?
lol
Omg yes
And just like in that story they were that way because their parents
At least Veruca Salt's Dad is minted and could afford it!🤭😂
Lol perfect 👌
Kids are what parents make them. Stop trying to be your kids friends and actually parent them
@Ronin Rief OMG I SEARCHED IT UP it's Spiderman and Elsa having ***
being a friend to your child is important but that's just supposedly a secondary to being a parent. the importance of being your child's friend is that they get to tell you their secrets (like their new crushes etc). they are more comfortable to open up to you with their struggles in school.. i've seen the good effect of it to my former neighbor who parent and befriend their children. I used to envy it and wished that my parents would treat us the same. their kids today are extremely successful in career and family life. role model to me
@@persona5305 people take being friends with their kids to the extreme and don't parent them. That's why there's so many brats, they're not taught and their parents are scared to make their kids upset by saying no. My parents were my parents growing up and we became friends once I grew up🤷 that's how it is in my household as well
This is the worst statement I've ever heard
@@jamiestrand1007 that's your opinion. I'll not have brats because I'm my kids parent
15:14 This is bullying IMHO. They are both cornering the daughter, she doesn't do anything and is reprimanded for her facial expression. Is she not allowed to feel shocked, angry, at a loss, insecure etc. due to suddenly being confronted with the idea that the life she knew is now labelled lazy and spoilt? It was she life she was used to, she was brought up to expect! You should not reprimand someone for their FEELINGS, should you?!
I know for sure you're not Caribbean but its not of not being allowed to have feelings but when parents are speaking to you its disrespectful to react a certain way....she seems annoyed they're speaking to her thats why they reacted the way they did 🙄💀
Is not about how you feel. It is about how you express your feelings. Just bcz someone is sad or angry doesnt mean this person should be violent or dusrespectful. I observed that not only to entitked kids but at some of my teachers. I hate it when they will uoset us all just bcz they had a bad day.
Yeah
i understand where your coming from but i feel that they are being so uptight and strict to show her that they are as serious as can be. Any slight disrespect will not be tolerated at all.
Do you have children
The mum created the spoilt behavior and then she punishes her for it? Wow
Moya Wren was running massive debts at the time, the moral is be careful what you wish for. Pageants cost a lot of money
@@lisamcdonald1014 children pageants are probably the dirtiest of industries. We all know that it's never the will of the kids, but of the parents (especially moms). We all know the severe damages that it causes, and yet we have suckers putting their kids through it
Precisely, Moya Wren’s beauty salon business wasn’t going too well, and she was left penniless, had her house repossessed after running massive debts, spent £5,000 a year on beauty pageants across the world trying to turn her daughter, Madison into a famous model fit for catwalks in Paris, France and Milan, Italy
You have to punish them for that if you don't want that behaviour to be aggravated she's punishing herself at the same time because she had to deal with being called a horrible mom which is the most thing that a mom feels slapped with and hurtful.
madison did not even seem like she liked it @@lisamcdonald1014
The SECRET is once you start to put
the BOUNDARIES & RULES IN you
HAVE to FOLLOW THROUGH & STAY
CONSISTENT then the KIDS behavior will start to change because they KNOW you
MEAN WHAT YOU SAY & it CREATES STABILITY & SECURITY which
is what they NEED MOST. 💙
EXACTLY , AMEN VERY WELL SAID 😀
Love Jo, so down to earth gal....bless her heart 🥰
I grew up in the 80s and 90s, in a rural area of sweden. Yes we had our toys, but what we loved the most was waking up, eating breakfast and then runt straight out into the woods. I would not trade that gor ANYTHING!!! It was absolutly amazing and I am forever grateful to my parents for giving that to me and my brother. ❤❤❤
My daughters are grown up now but I remember another parent saying to me that they would do anything to get their children the best of everything. I felt bad as I ‘only’ got them what I thought they needed, and I could afford. We were part of the Irish dancing scene in London and some children had dresses that were more than a month’s wage. I felt quilty but because I didn’t want to go into debt stuck to my guns! Parent pressure is real.
As for computer games…I would take a hammer to it…end of!
I’m glad Jo highlighted this issue.
I think the girl Leah (older sister of Madison) summed it up nicely at 29:14, this mum has a history of not being consistent so Madison naturally pushes the boundaries. Also, I do not feel any emotions from mum towards Madison, only power play, I do not blame Madison for feeling mum is not genuine. My feeling mum is sort of enjoying her power
It’s nice to have whatever you want when you want it but sometimes you have to wait and listen. because if you get spoiled too much then you’ll grow up expecting people giving you what you want. if your parents says no, no means no. if they say wait. be patient
Even if I could afford to spoil my kids…I wouldn’t. They know they have to earn/work for anything they want.
Refrigerator boxes were the best. Crayons to color it .
The recipe to raise narcissists is simple - overindulge things and under support emotional needs.
I’m sorry, but Madison’s attitude needs a HUGE adjustment.
I have 4 kids and they would not DARE talk back to me, just as I STILL would not even consider talking back to my mother (I’m 41, but Mom’s don’t stop being your Mom because you grow up). My mom’s asian. She would have beaten me with a shoe if I was disrespectful.
Madison's mother sitting holding the whole wine bottle is a whole parenting mood
Nanny reminds me of EastEnders Stacey 🤣 like her face looks like Lacey Turner!
I remember this episode I watched it already like 3 times
Me 2
How these parents take so much stupidity from their children beats me. Like that computer, I would not let my children access those games and if they did like that boy Bailey, I would simply switch it off, unhook it and take it away. Simple. I would teach them games like Chess, Scrabble and Jenga instead. As for the spoilt girls, they would have to learn chores from the youngest age to learn that everything in life has to be earned; and NO child can dare talk back or be rude to me.
Madison isn’t a bad kid at all, my kid is way worse to me… wow, I realize I’ve spoiled my girls way worse. 😬 But I can’t punish them… I feel so bad. But Madison is just expressing her emotions. Leave the girl alone, and to take her teddy that was horrible! They listen so well. As long as they do what you ask they should be able to express their emotions.
You wouldn't pay 10. for some of those outfits she's paying hundreds for... Pathetic. Further, if you reward bad behaviour, or you reward good behaviour, that's exactly what you'll keep getting. It's so simple.
It brings me SO much joy seeing families heal and thrive!!💞
You ever heard of switching it off and unplugging the system, then take it away? Why did you give it to him in the first place? I
have four granddaughter from 12 to 4 and they are not allowed this pc time apart from schoolwork!
When she binned her teddies I felt angry that’s horrible
she didnt throw them away, she was just taking them away until the kid acted good again
That kettle didn't have enough water in it to boil... Just saying. Light have been even empty!
I’ll never understand how these parents who spoil their kids rotten and don’t provide discipline or structure are so clueless. Madison’s Mom even seems completely clueless. Zero self respect and her kids behavior is the result. Madison will grow up and find the world won’t put up with her. Nobody’s that fabulous.
Changing lives! Thank you.
I agree with Madison, that woman is really a horrible mother! She made the child angry and cry on purpose, while being on a power trip. I would have slapped that sad excuse of a mother in the face and told her to behave.
Madison's Mum did need to get her to do more things but a "please" goes a long way.
The reason they buy so much toys is so they don’t have to bother with them the kids don’t know how to use there imaginations to keep them selfs Busy
That’s like almost 250 in American money per outfits that’s insane I get a whole wardrobe for 250 for my granddaughter the most I paid for an outfit was 20 to 25 dollars and that’s a lot to me
No, it’s more in USD.
Look at how much a pound is compared with the US dollar.
I cant get over how unfit the kids are today. Besides that, this made me smile!
Madisons Mother has an anger issue. She is letting everything from the past out on her.
Madison's mother is the first accused in the bad upbringing of her daughter, because of the mother , Madison is a selfish and narcissistic girl.
LOVE this woman!! 👍💓🤗💕
The first house Iooks a little like the Dunphy house structure-like
Taking her teddy away? What about a good old Time Out??
All of these kids now have phones and are on them all the time
I absolutely love Joe. Like forever. I've watched her since I was young girl. She taught me so much to be the woman I am today. 💟🌺
Madison's mother is a massive part of the problem. She provokes her into snapping back. Change your mood and it will be better? Really that was some unwanted back talk from you mom and you taught her that. She was doing the chores just shut up, so what if she wasn't smiling and singing while she did them.
Love this response OMG. You are spot on. She seemed to be all punishment and baiting her daughter. She needed a lot more love in her tone of voice and go more slow with changes.
My thoughts exactly!!! She provokes her !
Absolutely. She’s antagonistic.
I know. The mom said, "Fine. Don't have a hug." then punished Madison for responding, "I don't care." If you don't want your kids to be "cheeky" then don't act that way towards them. Kids learn by example.
I agree. Madison says some of those things to get a reaction and her mother falls into it. There should be no argument as the parent is in control. I get Madison is a brat who thinks the world revolves around her and she needs to learn to speak to people. But Madison is ten and she needs some space. If she's in a bad mod let her be in a bad mood and just exclude her from things.
Kudos to the woman who mentioned a cardboard box as a perfectly fine play thing. It fosters imagination in children when they use their mind to create. Especially when you spend time with a child, they'll enjoy playing with you with just rocks!
I always laugh because we have a couple of bins of outdoor toys, and my kids end up playing with sticks and rocks!!! Lol! Seriously… imagination is the best !
@@sarahlantto8913 nothing better than smacking your sibling with a stick in the backyard lmao builds character 🤣
Imagination is a great tool kids need to be encouraged to use.
I was a military brat and Always had cardboard boxes. I loved making spaceships and cars out of the them for days!
One of my fondest childhood memories is actually painting rocks with my mom lol
I legit don't understand tho why the girl was punished like that over the fact she just didn't want a hug- everything else was necessary, but I don't think parents need to take it so personally when their kids just don't want to be hugged.
Yeah, the mom went from one extreme to another. Don't refuse a hug, don't mope, don't talk when I'm talking, etc.
@@pfifltrigg right! mom and her girls will have to find their equilibrium.❤
Yeah I think it was more that she sassed her mom afterwards, but it was not a clear line. Kids should definitely be allowed to decide when they hug or not.
she's clearly upset about new rules. she should have given her a space and then ask about it it later when she's ready.
Don't force kids to hug , just don't.
"Is that a mood?"
"No, it isn't a mood."
"Is that answering back??"
gurl... I hate to break it to you but... you asked a question. Thats how communication works. Would you rather she walked off while ignoring you??? My brain just did three backflips cuz of that bs wtf
IKR??
The mom wanted someone to fight with I swear. Like imagine how you would want your mom to raise you and make you feel.. then do that. Constant badgering and negativity is a killer. If she does not change, her daughter will have serious issues.
That wino is a shrew
Madison the scapegot
"JonBenet' wanted her childhood transitional object not 5k worth of clothes (which shrink daily...)
This woman is living vicariously through Madison. She is so concerned with how her kids Look and her daughter winning pageants. In the opening scene she is wearing a tank top "emeralds, rubies, and diamonds, woo hoo." That's about all you need to know to figure out where the problem lies.
Madison was perfectly fine with getting normal clothes and hand-me-downs from her sister for school. That makes me think it's only the mom who cares about expensive, brand name clothes.
@Marina Marina kids also can outgrow activities
@@Asphyxia612 both.. actually
madison’s mother doesn’t know to interact with her child. madison honestly isn’t that bad. there’s a real lack of communication here. the mother has an attitude from the getgo and her child is just mimicking it. madison is clearly attempting to do what is asked of her.
Madison never had boundaries....
I was thinking the same thing. Instead of communicating what is wrong with the girl and why she’s upset, the mother immediately jumps on her. I understand that the attitude needs addressing, but the mother isn’t really handling it well…
I feel like there’s an element of the mum enjoying playing the martyr victim- it’s all woe is me look how bad I’m treated. She keeps goading the kid to misbehave rather that genuinely trying to effect a positive change.
I honestly felt really bad when her teddy got taken. I understand taking away privileges from her, but I think that was too harsh, it functions as a comfort for her and that’s important for a child. I agree with the rest of the comments here, there needs to be more communication.
I also feel like “attitude” and “cheek” are very very blurry categories. A child sulking and saying “I don’t care”, honestly, does not strike me as that severe an issue. Drawing a line at yelling or cursing is understandable, but this seems to be punishing the child just for expressing her discontent, and that doesn’t seem fair at all.
Let Maddison be in a mood and be angry. For God's sake she had the intelligence to go to her room and the mom puts oil on fire. Why?
I agree. The mum seems to be looking for confrontation at any opportunity. Taking a calm while no nonsense approach, is what's needed here. The mum has just turned into her daughter.
I sense the mother has quite an immature skewed outlook on life and that has impacted how she related to her children. A bit of positive enjoyable interaction with her mother is way more valuable than all that designer stuff. She is teaching her child to fill an emotional void with material objects - that poor indulged child is terribly unhappy and dissatisfied with life because mum hasn’t taught her healthy ways to find intrinsic reward.
Reality show with script and director, that's why...
Ikr,she literally did the smart thing and went into her room to calm down
@dinastergiou709
Those are real emotions.
I feel like 90% of parenting issues are from pure laziness. It’s easier to buy them stuff then address the tantrums. 😒
That's because no is the most difficult word to say for some parents.
Totally agree Antisocial Society & Sarah Humphreys
💯RIGHT
And let them stare at screens, etc. There is always a quick fix but nothing good comes easy
@@cassiemarkland I’m 100% sure that you know 0% about me.
Uninvolved fathers have no idea what single mothers and children go through. Women are totally on their own attempting to fulfill every parental role and duty while working full time to provide financially. It's a ludicrous amount of work for one to balance and virtually impossible to do perfectly all the time. Grow up, dads. Get the help you need to fix yourselves and get involved with your children! They're more than worth it!
Ugh so many deadbeat "dads", isn't helping society as a whole either
Men have been hearing for ages that women know everything better. Girl power...etc. I am not surprised at all. Women have raised these men too.
Well said. I'm ensuring my son grows up being respectful towards others regardless of gender and to treat me being his mother along with future a girlfriend/wife with respect and to be an active parent if he wishes to have child/ren and to make sure he does make others feel cared about & loved so he doesn't turn out like some of the trash scum i've ended up with where those guys weren't raised right & had been super disrespectful, not there when they should be & to act right
@@bareszko theyre not going to pick you Barbara
@@thatsonyou6093 Thanks. I am happily married raising two children and my main goal is to raise them as dutiful strong adults
No one should be punished for not wanting a hug, AND taking a child's comfort items is NOT a good punishment at all
Confiscation of something is appropriate.
@pauljordan4452 She could have taken away something else, like toys or her pretty dresses. Or at least let her have one teddy, no need to take them all.
@@pauljordan4452That’s how PTSD is caused.
You never take "the" comfy item off your child ever. That is cruel
Yes!! It's how kids cope with sadness, and she has a lot to be upset about at the moment, it just seems mean
True!!
You could see how much it stressed her out. Now she's going to learn that her comfort and the right to set boundaries are things she has to "earn"
It made me cry to see
My parents did it with my stuffed animal when I was 4 or 5
They threw him in the freaking trash because they deemed him damaged beyond repair.
The only thing missing was his nose.
The result was me having a full grown anxiety attacks at random and nothing to cope with until my aunt took pitty on me and gave me hers (she is 2 years younger than me and it was the same one).
As a result I grew overly attached to him and refused to give him to my parents under any circumstances.
I had no trust towards them anymore regarding my beloved stuffed animal.
Honestly, I feel like Madison's mom is too controlling. Madison is doing all her chores but her mom is still bugging her 24/7. Madison tries to get away from her mom pestering her, but she's in trouble because she's "in a mood". She can't even have alone time in her own room.
I agree. She went from letting her do whatever she wanted to being too controlling
I agree, her mom needs to let Madison have her freedom while making sure she behaves and does her chores
100%
Yeah. When mom walked into her room without knocking.
That is disrespectful.
It's not enough for Madison to do what she's told. She has to pretend to be happy while doing it. This is just teaching her that her feelings aren't important and that she'll get in trouble if she doesn't pretend to be cheerful.
Bailey is an incredible child! What a great boy. His mum is probably depressed and seems exhausted.
I agree! He's an awesome boy. He wasn't addicted, he was bored with nothing else to do bc his mom was so involved with the little girls, plus feeling sorry for herself. U have to deal with what life throws ur way, especially when u have children. Bailey was totally ignored. I'm happy Jo got her on a path that brought fun, love and laughter to the entire family.
Bailey is such a beautiful boy ,you can see it ,and he is not one bit cheeky he loves his mum and his sister's, it's not easy being a single mum and we do get tired with little ones who are close in age , I think mum did really well and I praise her for getting up and taking the children out , I think they are a beautiful little family
Mum looks so much happier and so do the kids ,keep up the good work and remember know one is perfect 💕💕💕
I agree. The father of the children should be shamed. It’s always the mothers baring the brunt of things.
They seem like lovely people. The mother is just overwhelmed and needed someone to point her in the right direction and tell her she could do it
Bailey was a nice kid. He was just bored as Jo discovered. Putting his meals in front of the computer did not improve things at all. He should have eaten at the dinner table with the others.
Madison’s mother is so antagonistic. Literally going after her child every chance she gets. She has no room to even feel or express her frustration or disappointment or hurt. Every emotion is a problem for her mom if it’s not a smile or a hug. It’s so sad. She didn’t even ask her about her feelings, just straight to reprimanding her for having them. Not to mention punishing your child for them setting personal boundaries and not wanting someone to touch them. We need to respect a child’s boundaries so they feel comfortable setting them with others. It was just so sad to watch. You mess up your child and then antagonize them when you finally decide to try to get your stuff together? A mess.
You do realize that this show is edited and scripted....they do not show everything and yes they can even portray someone a certain way by what they do and do not show on tv. Mom gathered up all those stuffed animals for being cheeky at the front door after a rule was placed that being cheeky was not allowed.
She's a narcissist. She indulges her own glamour fantasies by making her do pageants, but also uses her as an emotional trashcan. And then plays victim and says the CHILD "gets in her head".
It not the refusing the hug its the Attitude . There is a Polite and respectful was to go about it. Not being rude. And by letting a child know it is ok ok to refuse the hug but to not be rude to her parents. There is way of voicing feelings that isn't rude. And parents should be open to finding what works for both
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@@wombofthevoid Its not about "physical contact", its about the reason and the attidute behind the desission. If she had been polite and calm and not demonstrative, it wouldnt have been a problem. You "C is for concent" people are the reason kids these days are so used to geting exactly what they want and not having to take responsability for their own actions.
Madison doesn’t seem all that bad. She seems like she just needs someone to talk to her and hear her out, and to stop being so spoiled.
Fr
Punishing your kid cause they dont want a hug and have you make a comment at her expence, then expect her to not make a comment, poor child didnt understand why she was being punished, this is the kind of stuff that gets kids to not understand the bounderies they have about their bodies, not having them respected or being punished for setting them up in the first place. The kid has an attitude problem, but with the little comments the mom makes constantly, we can see the apple didnt fall far from the tree
I couldn’t agree more. It is so sad that these parents don’t see how much their actions really affect their child s life in many aspects
I don't think it's right for Madison to be punished just for sulking or not hugging her mother. She should be allowed to feel how she feels. The mother just keeps picking fights. "You're not being nice to me, so why should I be nice to you?" Um, because you're the adult and should be setting the example.
It teaches her that her feelings don't matter, that she should allow constant harassment and negativity into her life, that she doesn't deserve better. Poor thing. The mom needs therapy. Be NICE is rule #1.
Yeah, you can’t hold your kid accountable for the times YOU didn’t speak up. She should have taken ONE toy for the smart mouth and set it as a precedent going forward.
Fr
Parents are parenting out of guilt & pity and the BIGGEST problem is?
They are looking for their child’s approval. Child quickly catches on and begins manipulating & demanding. The child becomes extremely insecure & dissatisfied with life because they NEED a break from parenting their parents! Looking for someone who can guide with confidence & love & set /. teach / model healthy boundaries!
Extremely well said! Thank you💙
EXACTLY AMEN 😃
My niece let's her 3 yr old get by with being a brat 99% the time, yells but doesn't actually deal with the behavior until she's fed up, then spanks him. We were in the store the other day, he grabbed a toy, opened the package even after being told no, so mom bought the toy and gave it to him. Same child decided he didn't want to hold our hands walking to the car, jerked away and threw himself on the ground in the middle of the parking lot then had a screaming fit! He tells at her, hits her, throws stuff at any adult who dares tell him no about anything. His dad tries to make him mind, mom gets on him for it. He's still in diapers, takes it off and plays in his poo, smearing it on beds, walls, etc but she's too unmotivated to even attempt potty training. Little girl is almost 2, still on the bottle, both kids want their milk heated or they won't drink it, most meals they refuse to eat, waste more than they eat. He tears the feet off of his Sonic toys, mom buys him more the next time they go out!
When Jo says "Let's put the kettle on" when the mother is about to cry. That is the most British thing
😂crisis therapy indeed
I was disappointed at Madison’s mom taking away her comfort stuffed animal. That is something you never ever do no matter how mad you’re at someone. I don’t believe Madison is the problem, it’s her mother, her mom has been refusing and not holding up to her own words on punishing her and instead just buys her new stuff because spending is easier than punishing while it is it’s not effecting what so ever and makes it even worse because you’re rewarding them. Which is why Madison constantly acts the way she acts because she knows her mom won’t do anything and will just buy her something after.
Thank you for having a level head and pointing this out. I agree.
Mom is the problem but her taking away the stuffed animal was just a consequence to correct Madison’s behavior. She’ll live…💅🏾
That type of attachment to any object is unhealthy.
She was disciplining her.
@@lucy165 She was sulking because her mom was putting her foot down.
Mum of Bailey what a gal! She didn’t try to blame it all on her son she realised she needed to change as well. Now a lovely happy family.
So cruel to take away Madison's Teddy. It's her comfort and she clearly communicates that her only wish is to have her Teddy back. Geez this mom is so controlling. Madison seems to be a quite sad girl
No, Madison was being a little brat. Being a brat has a consequence.
I don’t feel bad for Madison’s mom. I’m sorry, but that’s her fault.
I agree!
yes
No need to apologize for the truth!
Wow that girl was spoiled rotten, but like Jo said: the mom made that happen. Sad.
The saddest part is, if you grow up like that, of course you never FEEL like you were spoiled, it is just your normal way of living. So, if budgets are cut down and you suddenly receive only what average children receive, of course you feel deprived.
@@Fidi987 even average kids can be spoiled if their parents just let them have tv and electronics without limits or rules, or act like their maids doing everything for them.
She has two daughters. What about the other one? Does she get the same attention? I don't see it.
If jo made the same fitness test for kids of 2020 she will be shocked and say that 2009 kids results were really good 😁
Yes
Omg true!
Whatever happens between you and your child, you are NEVER supposed to take away their means of consolation, like in this case, Madison's Teddy. This is a very cruel act of superiority and it will only lead to the child trying to break that.
But she didn't pretend to be happy while doing her chores, she didn't want a hug, and she responded to her mom's sarcastic comments with sarcastic comments of her own. Children must never show negative emotions and should ignore adults who antagonize them.🙄
I agree that she pushed too far, and responded to anger/yelling with anger. (I do that too much too and am working on that myself so no judgment) But she gave that consequence and needed to stick with it, but could have also given Madison the chance to earn Teddy back. If she told Madison to calm down, listen and apologize and then she could EARN the teddy back. That would've been more middle ground. She had already taken the dolls and DS in the same punishment. Totally agree with the chores thing, she doesn't need to smile the whole time. But if mom left her alone a little, showed her some confidence she could do it, and tried to make the chores more fun or positive (maybe play some music or have a conversation of what they could do when done) it would've gone better
Madison has a lot of material things and she doesn't appreciate them. She can earn it back and she won't die. Madison's mother should by all means discipline her when she's rude. But only once. When Madison tries to escalate it then her mother should ignore her bad moods though and include her when she's in a good one. Madison will realise good things happen when she's in a good mood and she gets nothing when she is being a pill. She needs some space to work it out.
she wasnt going into foster care or surgery, she was screaming at her mom next to thousands of dollars in merch… holy moly donut shop… (ive never hit or grounded my 4 kids 13-24, now…if they like me and their home i provide, they will let me be king or they can go get adopted. they believe me. i am consistently honest.)
seriously. she didn’t ask for anything else BUT the teddy bear after getting backhanded comments from her mum all day. you seriously shouldn’t take away what makes a child feel safe or calm.
Madison is going to learn that nothing is hers, nothing is safe, everything can be taken from her anytime. Won't that breed some insecurities? Like taking the one stuffed animal she needs to sleep teaches her that she deserves no comfort at night. The mother really comes across as a bully
Madison is made to feel as if she should swallow all her feelings, never show them, just function. So, basically, to emotionally detach from her mother?=
And to make herself feel like LESS of a bully, she buys the little girl gifts. Such a confusing way to grow up
Agreed. Punishing a child because she didn’t want a hug is disgusting. This made me so angry.
That's the way I was raised my mom would take my stuff whenever I talked back or argued with her I learned to never stand up for myself or I would be punished with doesn't help me as an adult
She'll learn that things need to be earned. The value of work and reward is more important than a teddy
She needs affection from her mother not an object and she rejects her mom’s affection with a nasty attitude. Sorry letting her keep her toy is a form of coddling. She can earn things back but she shouldn’t need to earn human affection she’s entitled to that because she’s the child but she needs to learn attitude is everything. Her mom needs to first change hers or it won’t stick.
The part with the stuffed animals made me really sad. When i was that age i still needed them for comfort. On the other hand i had an anxiety disorder, but still
I was that with my iPod when I was in my teens.
I think even as adults we still need that comfort because we learn anxiety during the most crucial times and unfortunately she doesn't have a mom that can comfort her this is a lifetime abuse that this child is going to have to live with it doesn't just go overnight
That's the point I could watch this anymore, it's just a terrible punishment.
Jo... Wasn't it dr. Frankenstein that created the monster? So mom is Dr. Frankenstein and her little wannabe honey boo boo is the monster.
i lost it at wannabe honey boo boo lmao
HAHAHA HAHAHA HILARIOUS , BUT SO TRUE 😂😂😀
Just because a kid is not smiling and being happy 24/7 doesn't mean that they have an attitude.
I think beauty pageants are TOXIC
& DAMAGE our kids & SPOILING them without ALLOWING them to GIVE BACK & have WHATEVER THEY WANT WITHOUT EARNING it IS a MASSIVE DISSERVICE. 🙈💙
Iv seen a few kids in pageant that ain't spoiled but most are
And it causes unnecessary insecurities in young children
Agree 👍😊🥰👍😊
I am from the Netherland and pageants is forbitten her
Please do not call your children "bad" that is toxic and not helpful! The girl had behavior issues because of you, and the child was not "bad" the behavior was not acceptable but never refer to your child as being "bad".
I work at a school and I see the same thing with some of the teachers. They refer to some kids as "the bad kids," and the kids hear them say this. Well of course they will keep having bad behavior, because they already think they are bad kids. It's a self-fulling prophesy.
You'd think that educated adults would know better :/
We are all born bad🤷🏻♀️
@@sofiabravo1994 speak for yourself.
@@sofiabravo1994 🤣 I wouldn't say opportunistic and naughty, not necessarily bad lol
That's exactly why my kids gonna grown up playing outside like kids suppose to , not have electronics at a young age . That's what's wrong how
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Our son did not get a cell phone until he entered high school. No computer allowed in his room until this year as a junior. He survived and so will your kids. Good luck. 👍
I was brought up the same, got my first console when I was 9 and my first laptop and phone when I entered highschool, and I'll do it to mine. Kids really don't need electronics. Everytime I see a 2 year old using a massive tablet yet don't know how to hold a crayon I cringe dude
There should be a happy medium. Especially because the whole world is all electronic now. With school, work ect. It's insane.
Yes I can't judge...this is me with my 11year old son. It doesn't get better..the more you buy the worser it gets ..so yes...I truly come a long way.and had to cut back..once I seen the ungratefulness ..disrespect and the horrible behavior that comes with it!!!. I'm still working on this daily..to teach him life isnt going to serve you with a gold platter...you have to earn rewards the postive way🌷🙏(please forgive misspell words here😉)
good luck 4 the future
Children are raising parents now!!!WOW.OH WELL!!!
Hang in their Momma...🤗❤️
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Re: Bailey...I was reading books ~80 hrs a week at his age. It was how my ADHD brain got dopamine. Is perhaps Bailey's brain getting the dopamine it needs from the video games? "They know he can do the work, but he won't do the work" is often feedback ADHD kids get/hear.
Interesting correlation. I think you have a great point here
100% agree. I wasn't diagnosed until I was 32, but as a child and teenager, books (and games, to a lesser extent) were my go-to. My (still undiagnosed, but more severely affected) sister literally lost years of her life to League of Legends and was always the "has the brains, but she's too lazy. if only she made an effort..." student.
I mean giving a child a shirt with "model with an attitude" written on it just shows the extent to which the mother tolerated the behavior for far too long and encouraged it even
The older daughter seems sweet.
Indeed! Very mature and calm
My twin sister has the same name
Hugging and kissing a stranger would be a horror for me. Serving food at the computer is stupid too. Just like putting a TV set in the children's room.
Take the computer away. Take the gaming system away.
Yes ! Alot of kids need that.
I agree. With an unruly kid, a parent needs to hit ‘em where it really hurts: Take away their “toys.” I knew of one mother whose son was getting low grades because he wasn’t doing his homework. She was told (by his teacher) to take away his computer for one month for every time he didn’t complete his assignment. His disobedience had accumulated 12 months of punishment time; so she put his computer in the garage for one year. Instead of using a PC…her son began reading more books, doing his chores, and yes…completing his homework assignments. After the year had passed (and his grades markedly improved) her son told her he didn’t care about getting his computer back! 😉
Yes. Besides, parents should set limits. There should be a limited computer time a day, and that should be discussed before even buying the computer. Parents need to let them kids know that too much screen time can cause serious addictions and affect their mental health.
It should be like 2 hours a day max. But this boy was using it more than 11 hours a day... thats insane.
She was the one who made him play it because she was too tired
Jo Frost should receive a royal recognition for her work. Honestly, she fully deserves it!
This test was actually conducted before smartphones and tablets. 😯 So how about now, what would the results be like 😔
Much worse
I can't believe Madison's mother punished her for not wanting a hug - at least that's what it looked like.
It was a very emotion-driven, victim-mindset reaction. She wanted her nine-year-old to acknowledge what she perceives as her victimhood in this story. The problem is, she’s NOT the victim. As Jo said, if you let your kids get away with stuff, they’ll keep doing it. This mother perfunctorily accepted Jo’s criticism, but you can tell in this interaction that she wanted Madison to effectively say “you were the victim, Mummy.” Hence this reaction.
Poor Madison. Yes, she had some attitude problems, but her mom really just keeps going after her for having emotions. Her screaming and crying that she wanted her teddy back was heart wrenching and her mom just kept going back in her room and starting fights. Mom’s the one who needs to control her emotions (anger) before she lashes out at Madison for an ‘attitude’ (sulking is such a normal thing for a girl her age and talking through why is always going to turn out better than yelling at her for doing it)
"Im gonna have to sell my house to pay it" omg, they're in urgent need of an adult there
Madison's mom hoovers over this child waiting so she can open on her with rapid firing of arguing. Leave the child be woman you pick on her. The child would probably let her guard down a bit if she wasn't waiting to be screamed at
Some people should not have kids. It's not easy as you must parent which means discipline, participating in activities, active with schooling, listening, monitoring computers, phones, friends, school work and their health. It's tough.
I wish there was a JoJo for every family who needs one.
AMEN AMEN AMEN HALLELUJAH 😀
jo is stupid nanny what does she know she is not even a parent herself she is like a paid babysitter
@@amandayee906 You are either a child or have never seen jo at all 🤦♀️
@@celianunn2070 i don’t care she is not a parent herself she has no experience she is just a paid babysitter u have to learn from parents if u want to be a parent cause they r the ones that r with u 24/7 not some famous stranger that just with u fora few hours or an episode
@@amandayee906 Shes been in the "parental arena" for 30+ years and is WAY more qualified than a "babysitter" and as it has been shown NUMEROUS times, in her shows and reality, that just because you are a parent does not mean you automatically know what you are doing!
Tbh, I'm 25 and I have like 20 stuffed animals! I have 5 that I could never part with, but the rest I could give up if I had too, well 4 one of them is a doll!
I'm 54 and I still have a doll and some teddy bears 🐻.
That's cute, I'm sure there's a good reason for that. I threw mine away to force myself to grow up.. even my dog teddy that I grew up with. I guess it's the memories that count more than the item, but it would've been nice to pass it down to a kid.
I am 22 I still sleep with a teddy bear
Im also 25 and I have a stuffie I’ve had since I was 7
I’m in college and I brought my 6 South Park plushies with me, I couldn’t give them up
That girls wardrobe cost more than my entire family's wardrobe. My own, my daughters, my mothers, my grandma's, my aunt, my two sisters, and her kids. MY GOODNESS!!!
The Nanny was absolutely correct.
I fully understand needing to show your kid you mean business and disciplining them but when Madison was upset about the bear it seemed like the mom just wouldn’t back down when it seemed like that was a comfort item as someone who has strong connections to comfort items like a stuff animal or blanket or even a song when it’s taken from you it feels like your since of security was just ripped away from you and when she said “take everything just not teddy” I could feel that must have been an item she had a big connection with I feel like when it comes to comfort items those are something that should never be taken take the tv phone toys but when it comes to a comfort item those should be the one thing that you don’t take also her mother just seems like she likes to antagonize her daughter if it wasn’t a comfort item and she took it as a punishment leave it at that take it tell them why and then leave if they are upset let them be upset don’t keep going back to argue cuz that just pushes your kids who’s even more upset because you won’t quit
Also, it tells Madison never to tell her mom again what she values most because that will be taken away.
I watched my step dad enjoying to punish my brother for random things with privileges taken away such as being allowed to go out at night, see friends, do sports etc. And I became proud not to want to do anything that could be taken away.
There is a difference between privileges taken away for a day or week and the parents explaining what you did wrong and how you can do better and the feeling that parents just enjoy to disappoint or frustrate you by randomly taking away privileges. The latter seems to be the case with Madison. The result is an emotional detachment from the parent and possibly growing inactvitiy and reduced openness. You stop saying what you like, doing what could be restricted, being interested in things that could be forbidden as a form of punishment. But you might then also not open up to that parent when it is important, when you are bullied or threatened or harassed, because you have learned that your emotions are not important to that parent.
I love the way Jo reacts when ever she hears "I don't like Jo Jo" but when she was snickering on the stairs....perfect 😂
29:10 It’s called an extinction burst! It gets worse before it gets better, but if you give in it’ll just be worse next time.
We call it detoxing lol. When our kids tracel to our in laws for a week and come back, we always say we need to detox them from getting everything they want.
Yes. I learnt that with dog training.
A punishment for not hugging? Wow, prepare a human being for abuse.
Well it’s about respect but you shouldn’t have to say I love you or hug or kiss if you don’t want to. It’s a relatively new view of the idea kids deserve respect and boundaries
We had to do chin-ups, sit-ups, broad jumps, runs,, high jumps, etc. It was initiated by JFK called Presidential Fitness Test and our scores were kept on a fancy card.
I had patches for being in the 100th percentile!
When I realized the family lives close to the beach… I’d be with them there all the time!!!!
Jo is such a sweet beautiful soul!🥺❤️ She really truly is! If I was there or one of these families she has helped, I’d get together with all the other families she has helped and do something big & nice for her!!!!❤️🥰🙏 At this point jo is considered “family” to all the families she has helped and saved! I love her so much!🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🙌🏻💕🙏❤️
Taking away a child's comfort/de-escalation toy is abusive.
Do better
If one of the toys was her favorite comfort toy I would agree but like the rest of her life it's just excess that she probably never gives a second glance. It's a power struggle between mom and daughter.
@@auzzygirl8175 Watch the teddy scene again!
"I take her to all her pageants." as if that was something you would do for her lol (hint: you do that for yourself!)
That fitness test was in 2009. Notice how most of the kids are within normal weight range. Now, 12 years later, there are so many more overweight, even obese kids; and they are even less fit.