1.)As a way to not feel pressured for s*x .2.) Most gay men are amazing friends and it takes a strong friendship for a lasting marriage. 3) Family/Societal pressure to settle down. 4) Being abused previously and a gay man "feels" safer. 5)Just like gay men may use a woman as a beard a lesbian or bi woman may do the same.
A bigger question would b why do some gay men pretend to b straight & pressure/manipulate a woman for marriage when they know damn well they're gay??? (I have my own answer to this) but would like to hear others!
No we are not , we do our own chores and are sensitives towards our loved ones , doesn't meam we are feminine . Im Masculine and kindness is Masculine , femininity is weak amd gross .
2 gay men married me. Neither told me. Even after asked. Sometimes some women aren't wanted by others, and gay men who want someone to be their beard see these women as an attractive option.
You know when women see a bad man and think "No worries. I will change him". I guess this applies here too. Women believe that they have a "power" to change men or that they must change them but unless a man is willing to change himself, he won't. Another possibility could be that some women don't want to let him go because they're still in love with his gay husband. I only think there are two options: break up and be happy or have an open relationship.
Honestly the open relationship sounds like a good idea. Most gay men I've met are actually pretty sweet and a lil extra so it's like a schedule can be set up. Gay men are just more willing to communicate because we've disappointed the people around us so much we just stop giving a shit about what others think lmao
@@phoenixillusion7783 women are not so bad, they just get fixed up with the wrong guys. Once paired with more compatible men, life is better. Idk, I just pleasure women cause it feels right ✅️. Tough call
Those men are probably liars. It takes a lot of narcissistic inclination to drag someone into your closet with you. That kind of person doesn't want to be a villain. Of course, they don't want to admit in public that they defrauded their wives.
Possibly because gay men are less likely to try to dominate or be controlling in a relationship with a woman. Most other men in heterosexual relationships will see to dominate a woman on some level. Also, many women like the kindness of gay men and fell that, at least, their husbands will not be tempted to leave them for another woman.
Instead he’ll leave her for another dude instead maybe. Or chances are he’s actually Bi, not gay, but to marry a gay man when the attraction is completely one-sided (as in she’s attracted to him) doesn’t sound smart. Plus irl many gay men are not soft feminine dudes who are not dominate or mean, not to say they aren’t kind, but it depends on the dude.
I think there are a couple reasons. A lot of women, for whatever reason, want to believe they have the "womanly" power to change a man to make him "better." Females are socialized from early age to see themselves as nurterers, emotional managers of people. Sexuality is just one of many targets for that belief that she can "fix" her man. Second, they may have found it daunting to try to find a straight man with the qualities she admires in gay men she knows or has seen, so she may be motivated to make her gay catch her "improvement project," rather than settle for a mysogynist brute she thinks "all" straight men to be.
They fall in love with them I don’t think they try to change them but they think that they are nicer and kinder but you probably can’t change them because that is their feelings to be with a man
In my own experience, I would love to be a beard. I have no desire to ever be in a romantic relationship again because of trauma but I am lonely sometimes. If I can help someone out, even if it means there is no romantic love and it might be possible for a divorce I don't mind at all!
Perhaps the woman is bisexual herself? My step dad was bisexual according to my Mom, and I often wonder if SHE is, too. Personally, as a heterosexual woman,I'm not attracted to men who sex other men. I've had good gay men friends, only. No sex, and I had no desire to marry them.
Marriage is not always about sex, I know lots of happy married homosexuals both men and women who have no intentions of ever leaving there family . They all got same sex hookups or side people, . I guess love is love no matter who it is.
They don't think that the man is really gay and that he only needs to find the right woman to love him right. These women don't actually believe in homosexual pairings being valid as a real romantic attractions and relationships. They're also usually desperate and live in fantasy worlds of their own creations..
We also have some married women who will call us if they have deep problems or issues.....I Guess this is because they feel safe around us and because of the lack of real attention of their straight husband..... And ofcourse of our inner femininity.....Gay men often feel what is going on, and have more respect of womens feelings.....So that is dome explanation
Since I was young, my family would tease me for my predilection towards gay men. It’s something that started at a younger age and persists to this day. I also have a slightly higher level of androgens in my blood.
LOL, your experiences with communities in the traps of Chrisitan extremism doesnt make it 90%. You've coloured this with religious bias. A lot of women who are friendly and married to gay men are atheists, if Christian, in denial of his sexuality. Christian forced marriages on the basis of sexuality tend to fall in a very small percentage in the grand scale of all heterosexual coupled with LGBTQ relationships. I'd peg the dominant reason to ease & security (financially inclined security which comes in many forms). Security is the No.1 concern to women, especially after their late 20s and onwards. Younger women are more idealistic, while the older they get, the more pragmatic they are about survivability.
Desperate and/or lonely women in denial who want marriage at all costs and believe there are scarce "good" men so they take what they can get! Also women who think its just a sexual preference or phase or that they can change the men with religion or hope or "hard work".
Because her mother is a gay icon who can belt out show tunes from her small, frail body despite her years of drug and alcohol abuse that began when she was a child actor and had a stage mom who pushed her too hard and directors who wanted to keep her skinny and alert. All that jazz.
Maybe love is about more than sex? Human bonding and healthy emotional attachment and security. And either way is fine. Could be a straight man with another man, still fine. Even an asexual couple. Or other examples. -- The Pansexuals are really at the vanguard in thinking with their phrase : "Hearts not parts"
I can’t say much about west but here in India where homosexuality is still not that well accepted and where homosexual don’t have rights to marry, i think the women who many times marry gay men, themselves r either lesbians or r those straight women who have experienced trauma in any past relationship. I have a friend, who is married to a gay man, 7 yrs of childless marriage , they r like best friends turning best roommates. She knows he is gay, and she is completely fine with that, both r married but still dates separately. Her husband is such a wonderful nice sweet man, he is her bestfriend, they love each other more like siblings or bestfriendd but are not involved in any sort of physical relationship.
All I can say is wow sexuality and sexual identity is so complicated how can a person do that but I will say this she knows she's getting into and he knows what he's getting into everything in life and choices we make is cause and effects if they stay together there are repercussions that come with that regardless decision they make got to keep it real you got to be real they have to work out what works for them this is not easy I will say we have Society thanks for that
This is so common over here. Woman live in a house with 7 gay men. Women at my job hang and live with gay men. Women do weird things with gay men, these things be illegal and they adopt children. They are weird
Well just speaking about me I would feel ,Crazy, sorry no disrespect,; but you can't compete with that other man. Not even if you trying to make yourself more pretty. Well that's my comment that's the way I feel everybody else I respect your feelings about. This is also not fair to him
Joe you know neither you, nor I had any clue about my ex husband's same sex activity. Remember...you are only hearing one side of those hetero/gay men's stories.
They want financial stability without the pressure of having any kind of the actual responsibility that marriage traditionally entails. Its a purely selfish decision which they always deny. If you are not building a family, what is the point of marriage?
1.)As a way to not feel pressured for s*x .2.) Most gay men are amazing friends and it takes a strong friendship for a lasting marriage. 3) Family/Societal pressure to settle down. 4) Being abused previously and a gay man "feels" safer. 5)Just like gay men may use a woman as a beard a lesbian or bi woman may do the same.
Then she might as well Marry a woman
Denial, just like when women marry an alcoholic or drug addict whatever they think they could change them😅
A bigger question would b why do some gay men pretend to b straight & pressure/manipulate a woman for marriage when they know damn well they're gay??? (I have my own answer to this) but would like to hear others!
Some gay men wanted children.
I think gay men are more sensitive and kinder. Willing to help out with the chores that most straight men wouldn’t dream of!
No we are not , we do our own chores and are sensitives towards our loved ones , doesn't meam we are feminine .
Im Masculine and kindness is Masculine , femininity is weak amd gross .
They are nicer
@@melraggedythat not true gay men can be as misogynistic and violent as much as straight men can
@@sakurakou2009 homophobic
Thats a stupid reason to MARRY a gay man. You do know you can just be friends.
2 gay men married me. Neither told me. Even after asked.
Sometimes some women aren't wanted by others, and gay men who want someone to be their beard see these women as an attractive option.
You know when women see a bad man and think "No worries. I will change him". I guess this applies here too. Women believe that they have a "power" to change men or that they must change them but unless a man is willing to change himself, he won't. Another possibility could be that some women don't want to let him go because they're still in love with his gay husband. I only think there are two options: break up and be happy or have an open relationship.
Not sure, gay men are bread winners... they have money & stability 🤷♂️
Honestly the open relationship sounds like a good idea. Most gay men I've met are actually pretty sweet and a lil extra so it's like a schedule can be set up. Gay men are just more willing to communicate because we've disappointed the people around us so much we just stop giving a shit about what others think lmao
@@phoenixillusion7783 women are not so bad, they just get fixed up with the wrong guys. Once paired with more compatible men, life is better. Idk, I just pleasure women cause it feels right ✅️. Tough call
Those men are probably liars. It takes a lot of narcissistic inclination to drag someone into your closet with you. That kind of person doesn't want to be a villain. Of course, they don't want to admit in public that they defrauded their wives.
In our case we were young and naïve (17-18 years old) with strong dose of denial. Back then, not much conversation of the sorts was had.
Possibly because gay men are less likely to try to dominate or be controlling in a relationship with a woman. Most other men in heterosexual relationships will see to dominate a woman on some level. Also, many women like the kindness of gay men and fell that, at least, their husbands will not be tempted to leave them for another woman.
Instead he’ll leave her for another dude instead maybe. Or chances are he’s actually Bi, not gay, but to marry a gay man when the attraction is completely one-sided (as in she’s attracted to him) doesn’t sound smart. Plus irl many gay men are not soft feminine dudes who are not dominate or mean, not to say they aren’t kind, but it depends on the dude.
I think there are a couple reasons. A lot of women, for whatever reason, want to believe they have the "womanly" power to change a man to make him "better." Females are socialized from early age to see themselves as nurterers, emotional managers of people. Sexuality is just one of many targets for that belief that she can "fix" her man.
Second, they may have found it daunting to try to find a straight man with the qualities she admires in gay men she knows or has seen, so she may be motivated to make her gay catch her "improvement project," rather than settle for a mysogynist brute she thinks "all" straight men to be.
Was that nurturers or nutters?
Great question. My ex wife married two gay men. Safety?
Just shows that she’s suicidal? She might want to look at the cdc stats…
They fall in love with them I don’t think they try to change them but they think that they are nicer and kinder but you probably can’t change them because that is their feelings to be with a man
This isn't a complicated question like a lot of other cases. Like being awith a married man, these women are simply desperate.
Because they can’t wrap their heads around it and of course he played a fake part to bring it to such trouble.
In my own experience, I would love to be a beard. I have no desire to ever be in a romantic relationship again because of trauma but I am lonely sometimes. If I can help someone out, even if it means there is no romantic love and it might be possible for a divorce I don't mind at all!
I pray you gain Self Esteem n Confidence in Yourself One Day.
Sorry babe, No gay men wants to be with a women
I am curious about finding an arrangement like this with a gay man who could be a good friend.
Perhaps the woman is bisexual herself? My step dad was bisexual according to my Mom, and I often wonder if SHE is, too. Personally, as a heterosexual woman,I'm not attracted to men who sex other men. I've had good gay men friends, only. No sex, and I had no desire to marry them.
Nope there are many straight women who are after gay men , they are extremely straight .
The thing is gay men are not attracted to women at all more .
Marriage is not always about sex, I know lots of happy married homosexuals both men and women who have no intentions of ever leaving there family . They all got same sex hookups or side people, . I guess love is love no matter who it is.
I am living with a family member who is married to a gay man and I cannot understand why unless she is desperate❤
They don't think that the man is really gay and that he only needs to find the right woman to love him right. These women don't actually believe in homosexual pairings being valid as a real romantic attractions and relationships. They're also usually desperate and live in fantasy worlds of their own creations..
We also have some married women who will call us if they have deep problems or issues.....I Guess this is because they feel safe around us and because of the lack of real attention of their straight husband..... And ofcourse of our inner femininity.....Gay men often feel what is going on, and have more respect of womens feelings.....So that is dome explanation
Maybe they just love the guy
Since I was young, my family would tease me for my predilection towards gay men. It’s something that started at a younger age and persists to this day. I also have a slightly higher level of androgens in my blood.
Literally non of these comments stated the actual reason for 90% ish of the time.
CHRISTIAN EXTREMISM BRAINWASHING
LOL, your experiences with communities in the traps of Chrisitan extremism doesnt make it 90%. You've coloured this with religious bias.
A lot of women who are friendly and married to gay men are atheists, if Christian, in denial of his sexuality. Christian forced marriages on the basis of sexuality tend to fall in a very small percentage in the grand scale of all heterosexual coupled with LGBTQ relationships.
I'd peg the dominant reason to ease & security (financially inclined security which comes in many forms).
Security is the No.1 concern to women, especially after their late 20s and onwards. Younger women are more idealistic, while the older they get, the more pragmatic they are about survivability.
Well, I‘d marry someone who loves everything about me.
My body, my soul, my personality and more
Desperate and/or lonely women in denial who want marriage at all costs and believe there are scarce "good" men so they take what they can get! Also women who think its just a sexual preference or phase or that they can change the men with religion or hope or "hard work".
Because her mother is a gay icon who can belt out show tunes from her small, frail body despite her years of drug and alcohol abuse that began when she was a child actor and had a stage mom who pushed her too hard and directors who wanted to keep her skinny and alert. All that jazz.
😂
Love and the thought of
Divorce can put you in a strong state of denial
Because the relation ship will be more open to all types of illicit things & less abuse & better financial support
Maybe love is about more than sex?
Human bonding and healthy emotional attachment and security.
And either way is fine.
Could be a straight man with another man, still fine.
Even an asexual couple. Or other examples.
-- The Pansexuals are really at the vanguard in thinking with their phrase :
"Hearts not parts"
Dude, you look exactly like David Foster Wallace would look today if he were still alive!! 😊❤
I can’t say much about west but here in India where homosexuality is still not that well accepted and where homosexual don’t have rights to marry, i think the women who many times marry gay men, themselves r either lesbians or r those straight women who have experienced trauma in any past relationship.
I have a friend, who is married to a gay man, 7 yrs of childless marriage , they r like best friends turning best roommates. She knows he is gay, and she is completely fine with that, both r married but still dates separately. Her husband is such a wonderful nice sweet man, he is her bestfriend, they love each other more like siblings or bestfriendd but are not involved in any sort of physical relationship.
Most of the reasons on here make sense but the number one reason is that women don't want to be pestered for sekkz.
I think it’s desperation…. Women rather to be with a gay guy then alone
The gay man should not have even got into any not platonic thing with the woman. So don't put it just in the woman.
Because they want the best of both girls, get it.
All I can say is wow sexuality and sexual identity is so complicated how can a person do that but I will say this she knows she's getting into and he knows what he's getting into everything in life and choices we make is cause and effects if they stay together there are repercussions that come with that regardless decision they make got to keep it real you got to be real they have to work out what works for them this is not easy I will say we have Society thanks for that
Desperation and stupidity.
Uh handsome gay men exist or better yet gay men with chiseled faces or faces that attract women exist.
Loneliness is a doozy
This is so common over here. Woman live in a house with 7 gay men. Women at my job hang and live with gay men. Women do weird things with gay men, these things be illegal and they adopt children. They are weird
...it was probably for visa purposes
Some women dont want to die alone so they marry a gay man if they can't find Mr. Right. It's not fair on both parts.
I am 58 years old with a girlfriend. It is I who doesn't want to die alone. A woman provides stability, trust, and support. I provide her the same.
Because you love them?? I mean it is kind of simple.
Well just speaking about me I would feel ,Crazy, sorry no disrespect,; but you can't compete with that other man. Not even if you trying to make yourself more pretty. Well that's my comment that's the way I feel everybody else I respect your feelings about. This is also not fair to him
Money/Status/brains
Security.
❤❤❤
Joe you know neither you, nor I had any clue about my ex husband's same sex activity. Remember...you are only hearing one side of those hetero/gay men's stories.
❤Hey may work for some people ❤
They want financial stability without the pressure of having any kind of the actual responsibility that marriage traditionally entails. Its a purely selfish decision which they always deny. If you are not building a family, what is the point of marriage?
Heterosexually gay men? wtf?
Not always separating or gay but trapped because of relgion