Mother thinks her reborn doll is her real baby | Chicago Med
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- Опубликовано: 9 фев 2025
- Dr. Charles is facing a complicated situation when a mother and her baby are admitted to the ED, the doctors realise that the baby is just a doll.
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Season 06, Episode 08, Fathers and Mothers, Daughters and Sons,
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For that husband to have to relive it, and her actually not being able to say goodbye is so fucking heartbreaking!!!
Ya. I burst into tears. So sad 😭
I see doctor Charles I click
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Me too 😊
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Me too.
Terrible for the father to have to endure this situation again.
Sure, completely disregard the mother.
I mean not really
Its hard on both of them
@@chrisidornigie I think they mean that the father had to suffer not only his kid gone but that her wife can’t let go of the past and had to be the person to maintain everything in order alone.
he did great tho
@@chrisidornigie I think you kinda underestimate what the father was going through. Not only did he lose his kid a year ago but he had to deal with the fact that his wife was not really alright mentally after it (and who would be, honestly). His wife was in a sweet delusion, so mentally she was not even aware that the kid was dead (or not to a conscious point). Life is full of harsh realities, and we seek relief from them in a variety of pleasing delusions, that is something that can be applied here. But the man had to play the role again to see the whole "scene" unfold before his eyes again when they had to take her out of her delusion. In short, they both suffered, and really in a real-life scenario, no one should go through that (even tho it happens).
That man has been so strong and the fact that he’s been there for her through this is amazing
So like he's just supposed to leave her? The standards for mem are soo low
@@user-ml4ps5cq3v In this society? Yes, yes they are. Because unfortunately it happens in real life. Be realistic.
@@user-ml4ps5cq3v It's not the standard for men it's the standard OF men and yes it's very low
@@user-ml4ps5cq3v no it’s obviously just the standard they are used to! Real men stand by their family no matter what 👍🏼 so I agree with you, getting boring these feminists putting our good men down cause they look in the wrong places themselves.
@@jfzzlc That's what I said. And then males complain about feminism when standards for men are dirt low. And them complain why women chose to remain so single
I love how Dr. Charles is just like: 'Yup Ma'am, we're gonna take excellent care of your totally real, not a doll baby.'
Psychology 101: "Never antagonize the delusions of a patient, that will only be responded with anger and aggressiveness"
She would be angry and get berserk mode because doctors are neglecting her "baby"
@@hasturthekinginyellow5003 yeah from a personal view this is really important i have some issues and for me i kinda know it can't be real but it is so real to me. and one time we went to the doctors and instead of doing as you say she just said " oh so you think that?" to each thing i said didn't hear me through i got angry and if i wasn't so scared (anxiety ) i would have properly outward shown maybe even physical aggression i can say oh i feel delusional that doesn't mean i no longer am living in that Delusion it's like weirdly being selfaware that it's a simulation but it still feels way to real to be fake
Well that's genuinely how to deal with a delusional patient
There is no point challenging the delusion at that moment.
the internet hates on those real-looking dolls but clearly this mom needed that to help her heal. I just wish the real people who need them got the same sympathy as in these comments
Yes I'm a reborn doll collector and their is a stigma for those of us that have them I'm just a collector it's a hobby.i enjoy but to others they act like they are their own babies I don't understand that but it's not for me to understand they are very therapeutic for most people who have them
I think for a lot of people it becomes off putting when it's a replica of a child who has passed because grief is sometimes too personal. Where it gets scary is when someone tries to take your baby to replace their reborn one. I speak from experience.
I have one. I love babies, but I have never been called to a relationship that would lead to such an opportunity such that I would have obe of my own. Mine is therapeutic in thst it makes me feel like I have a baby to adore.
But did it help, really?
@@faith6833 as crazy as it was, it gave her the chance to say goodbye and come to terms with what happened. At least that's how it makes it look it's hard to say if she kept using the doll after.
This is so so sad. The unimaginable grief of losing a child, especially if you feel responsible
This is why I never hold babies. Too fragile.
I didn’t drop my baby.. but I too feel like guilt over the fact my baby girl is dead everyday and it necker lesves
@@natashawest8918 🫂
@@natashawest8918 I’m so sorry for your loss. If you don’t mind me asking, what happened I get she fell but….? You don’t have to answer
@@natashawest8918 It's not your fault. Listen to me it's not your fault. I'm sorry for your loss.
This is so hard to deal with but Dr Charles and the husband really did handle it with such grace, this is brilliant acting bruh
I salute the husband for staying calm
It's a show...
@@Salviamente_Celes huh? How else is he suppose to react?
@@Salviamente_Celes no really? I thought these were recordings of an actual hospital 😐
@@Salviamente_Celes Your point?
@@Salviamente_Celes yeah I think they're complimenting the acting/writing choices, not having the dad be weird, abandoning his wife or getting angry or yelling at the wife for being 'crazy' or whatever
And shows like this usually reflect real life, however rare, uncommon etc the situation it draws light in how grief can affect people so deeply and severely it causes issues like this
The role playing is very therapeutic for the mom to say goodbye to her baby
In this case it looks like it was in the end yes... it's also often delaying grief + suffering, prolonging it rather than facing + processing it.
What she is doing is perfectly natural the reborn is a device to help her with her grief. We all do it, we us rosaries, black armbands, poor wine or beer as a libation, folded flags, wakes, even the dead themselves become a centre for mourning.
There simply isn't a cultural purpose in industrialised societies for it.
@@madH9793 exactly. Delayed or complicated grief - seemed like a very sensitive and compassionate way of dealing with it and giving her closure.
It was so nice to see everyone be so accommodating to her condition and to play things out, letting her say goodbye.
As a mother of a stillborn (39 weeks pregnant) I can relate to the mother at some point.
I went through a difficult time but I think, a reborn baby would make it even worse for one mental health.
I’m so sorry for your loss!
And I have too lost a baby, she was 4,5 months old and had several complicated heart defects but her doctors believed she would be fine so her death was a bit of a shock (but I knew, probably because of my maternal instincts).
Replacing her with a doll would definitely have hindered my grieving process, I strongly believe it’s unhealthy to try to do such a thing.
I pray for both of you. And I totally agree about the doll.
I'm so sorry for your loss. It depends on the person, tbh. Some people (especially people grieving the loss of children they were never able to conceive, rather than actual deaths) are able to use it to sort of soften the landing and redirect their feelings in a non-harmful way. Some people will get too deep, like this lady.
When my oldest died right after birth ( we knew she would), I found it so hard to say goodbye. I held her in my arms and didn’t wanna let go. For months I kept seeing her little face everywhere. Thank God nobody bought me one of those dolls. It would have made it even harder to accept.
Dr Charles is so tender… he’s definitely my fav. My heart breaks at the point at the end when she’s finally saying goodbye to her baby and seeing her cry… so hard
okay? no one cares
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@@iPodCharger69420be quiet you miserable cu next Tuesday
The mother who has a reborn doll and believes its her baby sarah that passed away a yr prior is heartbreaking it was nice that the hospital allowed them to give her closure and grieve the loss of her daughter useing the doll
At where I work, there was a pregnant woman who had a terrible car accident and she had bleeding in her abdomen. After surgery the mother was doing somewhat okay and regained her consciousness, but the baby was not in a good condition. He had like massive bleeding in his brain and severe brain hypoxia. The doctors said he wouldn’t make it. The mother asked to hold her baby for the first and last time. We transferred the baby with all the equipment from NICU to SICU to his mother so they can have a brief moment together. A very sad day for all the staffs.
How could she hold a baby she hasn't even given bitrh to yet?
@@klarabarunovic9841 im assuming they did an emergency c-section while performing surgery on the mother?
@@umevelvets exactly
Dr. Charles belongs in a fairytale. The way he always assure mentally struggling patients and showing that he is believing in them, that require so much patience.
The husband is very understanding and sweet,Dr Charles handled this with a lot of compassion too
it must be heartbreaking for the dad to relive the trauma, but i get how it could help the mum say goodbye properly.
I think it helped him, to know it wouldn't have changed anything
I’ve watched this episode before, and rewatching it now hits like a tank having had my very young mother pass on abruptly, I never got to say goodbye. And while it’s not an identical experience, I still feel with the mom and anyone else who’s gone through this
I am very sorry for your loss . We never get over loss, we just get used to live with it .. stay strong .. she is your guardian angel
Sadie
Can i offer u a virtual hug ? 🤗🤗🤗
just a gentle reminder that we r here for u .
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praying for you.💖💖💖
stay blessed.
Oh my gosh. What an episode. And having the father relive all that was brutal. As always superb story.
The 2 of them relieving the pain so she can finally say goodbye to their little angel.
I am not a mom but... wow, that is lot to process.
The actor playing the ex-husband does such a good job playing someone who is NOT an actor, awkwardly acting his way thru this scenario where he has to pretend all this is really happening.
I think they are still married ? He just said it ruined their marriage
People have these dolls for lots of different reasons. They aren’t crazy, at times it’s the only way you cope with the world
Sometimes, meeting a person right where they are is the most caring and therapeutic thing you can do.
As an adult who has a baby doll that goes everywhere with me, I've seen many different reactions to having her with me. And personally, I'm quite impressed with how the doctors there handled the situation even before knowing exactly what was going on. They didnt just kick her out, they actually tried to help. So. Good on them.
Incase anyone was wondering why I have my baby doll, I have autism. As well as a few other things that we know are there but they haven't been officially diagnosed yet. My baby helps with communication, she helps with staying calm especially in shopping centres and cars and stuff like that where it can get extremely overstimulating. And she provides a little bit of companionship, I guess? I think it's also related to early childhood trauma that I got. Unlike the lady in this video, I know my baby isn't real. But she wears real baby clothes and she has her own personality and if she gets hurt I get upset. Stuff like that. So.. she's real to me, even though I know she isn't technically alive.
Now, please don't reply to this with anything negative, I get enough of that just leaving my house with baby. I'm only posting this to say my opinion on the video, and explain why I have that opinion so that people understand. If you don't like it, just leave me alone..
I'm glad you have that to help you. I try to take stuffed animals with me when i go places as they calm me and help me.
I have Autism too so I carry a toy horse with me
That actually sounds like safe way to cope with the world. I hope people around You have been understanding.
That is weak.
Cease concretization, immerse in the abstract. Study mathematics, logic and philosophy.
I'm autistic, am also a writer/speaker in my field, and I have soft toys that I take with me to events and engagements. It's how I cope and manage my anxiety and overload. I've delivered talks to full conference rooms whilst holding a teddy bear. We need to normalize adults having soft toys, dolls etc. It doesn't do anyone any harm, and for those of us who need them, they really do help.
They are freakishly real looking. I once picked up a reborn for a friend in my car and the whole way home I freaked out “what if a cop sees a baby laying in the passengers seat?!?”
They're real? In a real baby's likeness?
@@elsagreen1476 Yes I've known them to be used for mothers who have experienced loss and elderly patients who may be experiencing dementia and may think they have a baby,
They are weighted just like a baby & they feel and look like a baby
@@elsagreen1476 Some of them are made to look like a specific real baby, but most are just make to look as real as possible without being a replica of a specific person. Most of the people who have them know that they're not real though.
That's a little unnerving gotta be honest
@@elsagreen1476 They are to those of us who are fully cogniscent, but for those who are mentally/emotionally compromised through extreme grief, trauma or dementia they can provide comfort for whatever time it takes to process.
I got two reborn dolls as a little kid, they were so nice to play with, especially because I played nicely with dolls generally. I still have them, they're super cute. Sometimes i take them out and hug them when I'm going through my childhood toys and they make me feel like a child again
I have dolls too mines are so cute I still play with them but I’m 12
@@anoniempje2134 (shh, 17 and sometimes play with them too xD) but you're still a kid :)
@@idontreadorreply hihi (they so cute I can’t let them lay on my bed alone) I love them they are the only one they understand (I talk too them)
@@anoniempje2134 im 30 and i still sleep with my teddybear too.
@@imanadultsmile8307 that's nice :)
I so appreciate how compassionate Dr. Charles is... Our minds are really very fragile and when someone has gone so far as to slip into a delusion like this they really do need someone who can help them regain their footing in reality in a patient, gentle way- not someone who just callously rips away their emotional crutch... I hope there are psychiatrists in real life who treat their patients in a dignified, empathetic way like this
One thing that struck me is the fact that new mothers fear that scenario. Dropping our babies. We stay awake watching them breathe. I don’t know a new mom that hasn’t had thoughts of “what if” in the really early days and been frightened of hurting their baby all the while feeling such an over abundance of love and protection for them.
That's one reason why I HATE episodes like this. It only puts more fear into new parent's minds for drama reasons. Yes, it is possible that you drop your baby, and it is possible that they get hurt badly by it. But adding more fear will prevent nothing
I am not a mother but even when I held my friends daughter at 8 weeks I never got of the couch because I was worried I could drop her. It just felt safer to stay in the couch.
To understand the mother you need to understand how grief works. I finally got work just before my benefits ran out. My boss was quadraplegic and I had to drive his van. I turned too quickly and his wheelchair tipped. Soon after that my boss died of a nosebleed. I had to go to the office, call his patients to cancel the appointments.
I still cleared the snow from the wheelchair ramp and kept his office door closed. At the funeral i was convinced it was a celebration tribute. I did not sleep for a week.
Sometimes grief is powerful enough that the mind just will not accept it. What Dr. Charles did was recognize that and help her get closure. Good episode.
I bought a reborn after I found out I can't have kids. It got me through a difficult time.
What's a reborn doll
@@1995robin hyper realistic dolls, they look exactly like a real baby and often help people cope with child loss or in this persons case, infertility
@@1995robin it's a lifelike doll of a baby. A lot of people buy them after having a miscarriage or infant loss to help them cope.
I'm sorry to hear that. Are you coping better with it now?
@@katiebeanz9960 I see, thank you!
So tragic. To have to relive the worst moment of your life twice even if only in your head.
There was a movie actress in my country who couldnt have child or has miscarriage or something, so she ended up doting on these stuffed dolls and she treats them as her children. Not as extreme as this and she still acknowledges that the dolls are not real babies but seeing them made me understand that these traumas really can happen.
Reborn dolls are such good therapy for those struggling with grief. These people do not need ridicule, they need support.
They also help if someone is unable to have a baby.
As a Dr aspiring to be a psychiatrist, i love how all the rarest of the psychiatrist diseases come in this show.
Gives me an idea on how to approach patients like these if i come into contact with them even if its 1 in a million possibility for that to happen
I think it's the ability to see patients not just as patients, but as human beings, and to treat each and every one with dignity.
I feel bad the dad, he seemed drained.
✨I wish drs were paid enough and had enough time with people to care as much as they have 💞✨
so well said!
I have to comment that I think all of you with any extra challenges facing the world we live in today are truly courageous and beautiful in your adaptations that assist you. So many of us supposedly ‘normal’ folk have invisible crutches that we rely on to get us through like drink, drugs, etc. I hope you can take strength from the positive comments on here and know that there are those of us out in the world that applaud you.
❤
I see a lot of comments about how horrible it is for the father but 1. he got to grieve, while the mom was stuck in a state of nothingness. 2. He is a wondeeful man and husband standing by her during that and actually supporting whatever she needs so she could try to grieve too.
I only wish real doctors are as invested in their patients as these drs in all the medical dramas.
At the start i didn't really understood, but now this is actually so sad when i think about it and can totally understand how it could happen in real life..
Dr Chalse makes u feel calm just with his tone while speaking. The fictional character can make u feel calm is something weird.
That Mum is an amazing actress.
Agreed, she had to show no hints of faking it so the audience was convinced she was delusional.
Mental health is real. A little issue can cause a complete override of our mental faculties🤔
This is similar to "reliving" which is part of the treatment for PTSD.
Dr Charles rocks all of our worlds 🌎
This was the best thing, Sarah's mother was unconscious during Sarah's end-of-life decision making. She needed peace and closure.
Excellent acting in this episode. You can see and feel the empathy.
Omg heart breaks for everyone all round... father would have to be so strong to endure this all over again and deep down the mother is grieving all over again aswell. But as they said "she's finally saying goodbye to her baby"🍼... can you imagine a medical system that would support and enact this in order to help a grieving couple for a loss of their baby from a year ago?! I don't think they would, but I'd like to think they would...
Sorry dad😢😢😢😢. Soooo glad mum can finally find peace😭😭😭❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
What makes this episode better is that the show probably uses baby alive-like baby body doubles for certain scenes where they need a baby in a precarious situation (I.e. when they give them cpr) all the time. It gives this story about a realistic baby alive doll this kinda funny meta layer to it.
I’m going to hell for laughing when he said, “this is a doll.” Lmao
i'll be joining you lmao 🤣
You will have company 😅
This is already the second chicago med clip I've watched where they handle delusions very well. You need to acknowledge the delusion and not deny it
You just don't know what someone may have been experiencing...be as gentle as you can with others & yourself.
I know this is just a show, but I couldn’t help the tears..😢
Apparently this is a pretty common thing that can happen. In my home town there was a elderly woman carrying around a baby doll and feeding it with a small golden spoon. Turns out when she was young and pregnant she was r@ped by two men and lost the baby.
That’s heartbreaking 😢
oh wow poor thing 💔
men.....
Wow, the world could be soo ugly sometime
If only these situations were treated with this much compassion and understanding in real life.
This is heartbreaking
This is sad for new parents or even the not so new ones. Losing a child at this really young age is devastating. I appreciate Dr. Charles by letting her still be in that moment to straighten things out. I know it's TV show, but still, my heart goes to these grieving parents..
I used to volunteer delivering meals to the elderly, one time I was delivering two meals to what I thought was an elderly couple, turns out it was an old lady and a stuffed bear who she thought was her husband who passed away, I enquired and she didn't have dementia or anything that prevented her from living by herself, it was eye opening, I've seen people with degenerative conditions who are similar but never someone who was otherwise healthy and came off completely normal.
Hoping for a Chicago Psych with Doc Charles!!
Oh boy 😭 so poignant but compassionate
This pulls my heartstrings.
Oh wow I did not expect to cry. That was heartbreaking
It broke my heart. 😢😢😢 It must be an inimaginabil pain. 😢😢😢
Oh and would you look at that, Dr Charles brought in to be a f*cking legend again
The loss of a child is a pain that never really goes away. May all who read this NEVER know that pain. ❤😢❤❤❤❤❤
This hit so hard with me…I held my daughter as she died…she was born too early…this is just a lot…that poor family. 😢
This is really heartbreaking 😢
I didn't expect to cry
Oh wow, very sad very moving 😢 I have tears in my eyes.
Well this one raised a few tears! 😢
They did a beautiful thing for her
Anyone else cry like hell at the end? I know Idid
Sometimes you just have to play along to help someone move on
Interesting, so it's like a PTSD dissociation
This looks heartbreaking just reading the title
They are beautiful dolls. They take a lot of work to make and they are surely a one-of-a-kind work of art. It's lots of fun to role play with them etc. I don't know when many of us in the community that collect that would have ever taken it this far. If you watch the Apple series servant you will see how they use a beautiful silicone doll to get her through the loss of her baby.
Reborn can help with lose. But sometimes it goes to far, but much better to be Reborn role play than someone who take a real baby. The husband being supportive and sticking it out is amazing. Dr. Charles really handled the mental illness with Grace. Their need to be more doctors and nurses like this. Thank God we do have some skilled nurses and doctors in this country to hand these kind of situations. Tragedies and Mental illness is very sad 😢
if this happened in a public hospital in South Africa no one would be indulging this woman, they will voetsek you out of the waiting area, doctors don't have the time for this in the public system.
You are not lying shame. They'll say tsek uyahlanya and call the other staff to come and laugh at you.
@@kwenzandlovu7495 🤭 I don't mean to laugh but that's the reality...
In Zimbabwe worse they wud call her mad record her n stuff
Heartbreaking story.....
I love that the husband understood the importance of letting her make the choice that he already did, just to hopefully give his wife, whom he clearly still loves, some closure. Letting her say goodbye, even though he knew it would be difficult to relive the moments, but that it was important for her and their marriage. You could see the understanding as well as the pain in his eyes when he looked at Charles after she made the choice.
i cant imagine her pain
Really great show. This show is very well made. This is my next show to binge watch.
why is maggie’s hair always looking fire??
always 💯
So, she was trying to change the outcome, but she made the same decision her husband did?
She just wanted to participate, right?
it's more that she needed to face that same decision herself. by the time she woke up the first time her daughter was already gone and all the info was given to her secon-hand by the husband. i guess because she felt guilty over dropping the baby and causing this to happen, her brain convinced her that if she had been involved then she could have saved her child.
but when they reinacted the situation she ws finally able to accept that there was nothing she chould have done to help
I think if she had not been given the doll then as hard as it would be she would eventually work through all the grief and be able to mourn.
Getting the doll just gave her traumatised mind a way to not completely deal with the loss.
@@xenalovesares I don't think so, then she wouldn't have a way to cope
Thats right. Her daughter sadly passed when she was unconscious, she had no say, no way to process what was happening. This gave her a change to say goodbye.
I had a patient like this in my last office. The woman honestly believed her doll was her baby. She celebrated the doll’s birthday even. It was definitely something I had to get used to. Turns out she had lost a pregnancy in the past and she couldn’t get past it.
Sad😢
Well that got me tears rollin'
I can't imagine how it is losing a child at such a young age, my heart goes out to all the parents whom ever went through losing a child. My niece was 2 when she was killed in a car accident 18 years ago along with a 6 month old ,8,9 and the mother of the 2 boys when a 18 yr old 4 times ovr the limit t boned their suv causing it to.flip n exploded. My husband had o verify her remains n its was the most traumatizing thing he had to do because our son now 20 was the same age. The mother was in a coma for 2 weeks n didn't get a chance to bury her child n she went insane so for all those parents whom had to go through such a traumatizing situation prayers n condolences for you n your fam. And may your lil angel be with you again when it's time but for now live life to the absolute fullest in remembrance of your angel 🙏 n Anna we miss you lil one we love you.... 🥺Eres un ángel en el cielo que nos cuida, te veremos pronto, pero cuando sea nuestro momento, por ahora, obsérvanos y protégenos mija.
They are reliving her babies death.....
I hope we'll see the continuation of the crossover with Dylan in this series. Maybe with him that I want to make amends for Olinsky's daughter's death in him way by making himself him fortieth victim. I would find it satisfactory.
Glad you’re posting
Dude wasn't even trying 😑: you're the mother you decide
When she brought in the doll and was like help it I was like yeah you need a different kind of help, from the psychological kind.
I have always liked Dr. Charles. In fact, I like the fictional character so much that I forgot about the actor who plays him! Last week I was watching Man in the Iron Mask. John Malkovich plays Athos in that movie. Well, watching that made me want to watch The Three Musketeers on Disney Plus. Guess who plays Athos in that movie? The same guy who plays Dr. Charles! Also, Athos is my favorite Musketeer because all of my friends in high school called me the female Athos. I know that no one asked about my life story but I figured that my post might be considered nonsense because I didn't give any context. Thank you for coming to my TED talk.
What a sad and touching scene. And what a good man! Did I understand correctly that they had gotten divorced, but he still stepped up and helped her through this? Their "marriage fell apart"? Whether they were divorced or not, that was a very compassionate way to help her heal. And kudos to the doctors, so kind and respectful and creative in dealing with such a difficult experience! I mean... It's scripted, but still nice to see!
That’d never happen in the hospital, not enough beds or staff to give one up for a doll
It would happen in Scotland. Why would you not accommodate an emergency mental health situation? Do you not have a mental health section in your emergency part of the hospital? Or a mental health ward? Doesn't seem right
@@Leleche We do have a mental health section, but not enough nurses/drs to safely staff it :/ they would likely be refered to outpatient services on a waiting list
@@Leleche 'Murika sucks balls when it comes to mental health care. A senile old man named Reagan pretty much defunded the mental health care system in the 80s, destroying 'Murika in the process, and it's never recovered.
yay! these videos are amazing
Why those hospital staff sound like police 😂
Im crying 😢😢😢
Thank you for sharing and therefore helping me understand. ♥️