By calculation, to meet the salary requirement of an average Japanese single woman, a guy needs to work hard until their 40s. The guy also needs to live frugally and be financially savvy. Also, the guy need to take care of his health to be sufficiently fertile by the time he actually gets married. Sounds like a lot of work for an average man. 2D girls will only ask for your attention lol
The real question is who really wants to do all of that just to have the access to extra baggage that weighs you down further?! Legs are strong but can only carry everything so far
I think the marriage problem is the same in America as in Japan. Fortunately I found a kind woman who thought I was fun to be with and didn’t care that I only had a part-time job and was short and ugly. We are now no longer poor, we both have white hair, and we are now even shorter than when we married. Most importantly, we still laugh together.
Marriages planned wasn't just in Japan. I know that tradition was practiced in America as well as Europe in the past at least 100 years ago. I believe such Marriages aren't lacking in love. I think couples in planned Marriages will learn to love each other. But in the end it is a choice. There is no man who doesn't want help in finding a woman. I support planned marriage. Companies need to encourage it. Great video.
Marriage is a remnant structure from the days without birth control. It still has values nowadays but it's no longer for everyone. Marriage requires a lot of sacrifice and contains enormous risks. So everyone needs to do their due diligence and society should stop coercing young people into it.
10:26 Don't worry Meshida-san, you are soon going to be a rich man and will be able to enter a sexless marriage because as devoted disciples, we watch your videos everyday . 🤣
Hundreds years ago family was necessary for survival, not mentioning the pressure. You lasted in marriage not because you liked your spouse (nice if it was so), but you both knew, that without the support of the family there was much greater probability of premature death. People living out of growing crops manually could work for maybe 20 years of their life. Without children at the age of 40 you were an elder person in the autumn of your life, unable to do any hard, physical work. You needed as many children as your wife could bear in her "prime years" - 16 - 28, to be your "pension" in your old age. Moreover, children were like two additional hands for work and only one mouth to feed. Today you can live like 80 - 100 years without ever getting married and having children. Hundreds years ago 80 years person was like a 120+ years now.
@@pokrec Sadly with this mindset, just like Meshida said, children will become endangered. Majority dont want to take risk of having kids > The population will crumble, labor shortage forcing them to import people from lesser developed countries > they start to settle there just like in western countries > Then ultimately, the native will become minority. If they dont change this.
@@audizul No, my soul is absolutely other thing. It will just be in other place, where nothing from earth matters. I just try my best to earn the eternity, like a monk. Children are not needed to save soul from this valley of tears. Having family actually is a handicap in this task.
same in Poland marriage rate drop down, but here enforce it law cuz for man get marriage is like sign the paper for lost half of your fortune, cuz when divorce, judges are almost always on women side you can even lost your home bcs she reported you to police (reason you use domestic violence, even if you didn't she don't need a proof and can by one word destroy your whole life), even after divorce she can go to the court for alimony bcs she's standard of life droped after divorced, and court will enforce you to pay like 250-2000$ per month to her, it's fcking sick.
I also want to marry a Japanese woman . So strange my 40 yr old Japanese friend, whom I've known for 20 years, didn't want to marry me , I'm rich , not too old , not ugly But instead she married a 75 yr old Japanese man whom she just met last week .
Dear Meshida, What you described is a global phenomenon. It is all okay. The only worrying part is that many single men in Eastern countries, like Japan, China, India etc, feel that they are missing out something (FOMO) because of not being able to get married, and many resort to ending their own lives. Poor souls, they don't realize that many men with toxic marriages, and even many divorced men, envy them and consider them to be lucky guys!
If only these men could realize how to make the most of the freedom of being single, marriage isn't the end all, be all it's being promoted to be. If these men earn a decent living, they have the resources to go out into the world and seek out adventures, experience new things, find a hobby and learn to enjoy life. In today's climate marriage brings a new set of hardship, women who demand more and offer less while bringing a load of excess emotional baggage for a man to have to deal with.
@@Phanbot01 Only the lucky ones go their own way and enjoy their blessings. A large number of men prefer to die as slaves. The reality is that marriage has always been a scam promoted by the elite to control the masses. Most men don't realize that they miss out NOTHING by not getting married. On the other hand, they would lose almost everything when they get divorced.
The whole culture of social credibility of married men is not necessarily a good thing. How marriage (used to) give men credibility may be because a company would probably feel that a married man is less likely to quit because he has to support a family, but that also means the company knows it can push around married employees more easily. A single male employee who has plenty of savings can potentially say "the hell with you people, I'll take some time off to find a better job", whereas a married man just can't. A lot of my single male colleagues have actually done something similar to negotiate for a better condition. Many of them can afford to work less, so they negotiated for less work, though with a pay cut (which they don't mind), when they were being stressed out with the work load. The company would rather negotiate with them than to have to go through with hiring someone new and training them.
This is what i have done. I`m a single man, with my own apartment and savings. I negotiated for working less, with a pay cut. And i work on comission so actualy my pay is the same. But i don`t need more money. This is the problem with modern workplaces. They need you to work more, for money alot of people realy don`t need. So you can consume stuff you don`t need. When in reality couples in Japan don`t need more money but more time. That is time to live life, have sex, to get the children without beeing stressed out
Good point! When I lost my job a few years ago, it turned out to be a big win-win for me: I didn't like that job anyway and I got rid of my toxic Japanese wife! BTW I'd like to see an episode about divorce in Japan!
@@Ikaros23 Do a job you hate to buy stuff you don't need - this reminds me of a cool movie called Fight Club... Well done! I have not dared to negotiate for shorter work hours yet. I'll make savings until I do.
@@employee8449 " The things you own end up owning you". This way of thinking also seem`s Japanese in a way. That is that the materialistic things has a form of spirit/ghost, that can posess/control the owner. And in reality become the owner. My boss only cares about the bottom line. So as long that i`m productiv in the hours i am at work he don`t care about the total amount of hours.
My wife is Japanese. She has told me about this. Her issue was just wanting someone who wanted a family. Many in Japan don't want a family, for various different reasons.
@@nullset2 kinda lol. She's actually kind of a Japanese unicorn in a way. Very extroverted, and didn't fit in very well in a collectivist society. I met her when I was stationed in Japan.
"This income problem between men and women will be fixed in the near future, because all Japanese people will be poor soon!" Definately! More Japanese youth also decided to find job overseas, especially in ASEAN countries and Australia.
I can easily imagine my former sociology professor saying the same exact things in one sleep-inducing boring hour since it's not delivered Meshida-san style.
On a serious note, I totally agree on the "peer pressure" factor. "Love" can be argued to be a fleeting feeling, if you rely on love to sustain a relationship, it is very fragile. Peer pressure can lead to a sense of responsibility, a pressure to make things work. Sounds crude, but it's the reality. And I love how you can use humour to show that conservative Japanese/Asian values and practices actually make sense. I need and miss the omiai marriage system, sadly.
There is a full web of problems too: - everything getting expensive -> don't want kids - overtime -> no time to go on dates/spend more time with their partners, etc The solution? The culture itself needs to change/evolve because PRIDE IS NOT NECESSARY for things like that: - less overtime? more freedom to go on dates and stuff - less stress? less dying/suiciding, more time to go on dates - too expensive to want to get married and ultimately have kids? no overtime -> no stress -> no dying/no suiciding -> more taxpayers -> more money to help make things cheaper As it stands, the remaining young people are just working to pay the old people's pension, the more young people die, the few taxpayers Japan has to help maintain stuff So the other solution to that is increasing the population but Japan "does not want immigrants" (only temp workers from overseas lol) so they need to compromise with the Japanese born abroad (who in the eyes of the government are "not really Japanese") or Japanese who threw away their passport to live in other less stressful countries and give them dual citizenship, which means that there would be more workers and therefore more taxpayers, if they were to bring their kids, that means more daycares and schools, which means more jobs and therefore more taxpayers.... These solutions ARE REALLY SIMPLE!! The question is whether the old people in charge want to change for the better.....
As a single middle aged man I fit into this Japanese stereotype but it does seem like many Americans successfully still get married somehow. I wonder if the overtime work culture in Japan contributes to the low marriage rate. Who has time to date and get married when they’re always working?
This was very interesting. I had a job interview today and was asked what salary I expect and I wasn't sure what to answer. Now I know what salary to ask for. Thank you
Research the salary for your specialty and ask for 80-90% of that. Tell them you didn’t ask for more than that since they don’t know you yet but you will prove yourself to them- your worth it!
@@johnhugo886 Why should he ask for less than his worth??? you should usually either say the exact figure or more than you expect and then accept a reduced "salary" version aka 120% rfeduced to 100% asking for less salary is the worst advice you can give
@@aleyte1913 For new graduates asking for 80-90% is good advice. If you have an experience for the job you are applying for it is usually best to aim 120%.
No Meshida, it's not that men have that PRIDE to reject a woman earning a higher salary than them, it's that men understand the problems that come from that type of relationship or marriage due to women's nature of hypergamy that dates UP financially and prefers men earning more than them. A man's money is HIS and HER money, a woman's money is HER money only. Women are not designed to share resources with men, while men have the RESPONSIBILITIES to provide and protect. I as a man have no problem with marrying a woman earning 2x - 10x more than me, it's a huge bonus and a relief for me as a man, but is she going to be okay with it? Will she tolerate my low income and respect me the same? Absolutely not.
Talking about serious social issues in a society where you are encouraged to hide your emotions and dont cause disruption in a comedy sketch, just brilliant. Seeing quite a few Japanese creators talking about social issues Japan is facing, lets hope something good comes out for people of Japan and politicians will be trying their best not to let that happen.
Meshida, many thanks for yet another excellent video. Funny, but also an interesting deep dive into Japanese culture and history. Incidentally I suspect the trend can be found in many other countries and cultures around the world.
Great video. I'm a huge Japanese music fan. Especially the All girl bands. Band Maid. Nemophila. Love Bites. Etc... But there also incredibly talented Jazz Blues and Pop artists. How Is it possible for one country to have so many women incredibly talented at music. Love your channel. 😊😎✌️
Not so. Can you think of one woman who is loved unconditionally with nothing to offer? Even children are expected to be obedient as long as they live with their parents. Dogs and cats need to fit the requirements as well.
@@mayshusakuhanamurasufferli5438 you go to athome maid cafe in Akihabara and ask them for food and don't pay. They'll kick you out. Nothing is free, stop making up stuffs.
as a man i would say this is the most uneducated lines i usually come across with. everyone got a conditioned its not a bad thing either everyone deserves to choose the life they wish to live and for women there is tonnes of conditions to be loved unlike man whos sole condtions is that he earns it but for women she must be beautiful which is not even in her conrol, most importantly they need act like women defination and criteria of which is immeasurable and the list goes on. grow up man, try to be on other side or atleast talk with mother and sister how its like to be a women rather than commenting here like idoit.
With the exception of you and Ken-san, most men prefer a younger woman as well. There is an age limit where most men find them undesirable. In Japan, these woman are called Christmas cakes. In America, men say the woman hit the wall.
I do want to marry a woman later in life, but considering that im just shy of 21, especially with how volatile the dating scene is in the U.S., maybe even worldwide, finding a woman to marry is quite the task and it’s better for me and I daresay most other men to focus on themselves over women. Including myself I think a lot of us men would be happier living out our own lives and not trying to please everyone else.
I've always wondered why Japanese love asking foreigners "Are you married?". They ask this a lot and it is not a personal question at all in Japan. It's similar to "How are you?". I guess now they won't be asking this question much to foreigners and Japanese in the future since many will be not married.
Thank You Meshida for these videos. I plan on visiting many countries for longer periods of time in the future and you never know what may happen. The older I get the more I realize it’s important to make a type of list where you write down everything that you would like to have when you and your partner are married, so for example you often say sexless marriages are common, so on my list would be enough sex in marriage and if the partner isn’t okay with that I’m not gonna marry her. I mean good woman here or there but if it leads to a sexless marriage then all I can say is Goodbye.
Konichiwa! I love how you put it so simply and hit the nail on the head and better explain the issues. And so hilarious at that. Very informative though.
Seems like the patriarchy system imposed by the Samurais served Japan well. Everyone was married and happy. Now modernity has made everyone lonely and miserable.
That's why there are many male tourists (western, arabs, east asians, etc) go to Southeast Asia (especially Thailand, Philippines, and Vietnam). Welcome to Southeast Asia. Your truly love destination 🗿🗿🗿
There must be a lot of wizards lol, but seriously thank you for the vid. I'm not a fan of marriage and in the past it had a real reason as you've mentioned...but nowadays with the way divorce works, not actually sure if it works that way in Japan...being unhappy can lead to a one sided windfall. I do realize this is a more complex issue and this is a small window. Honestly you've made some videos that are giving extra insight. Thank you Meshida!
Rest assured, brother, divorce works exactly the same way in Japan, as in the West. As far as I know, the modern Japanese legal system was mostly inspired by the French legal system.
@@Sin606 You mean, women should get married after a full risk assessment, right? Because, for men, the writing is clear on the wall, ALL OVER THE WORLD, unless they choose to fool themselves.
In the current dating scene, few demonstrations, indicate desiring a healthy relationship “Lets purposely abuse people, because the strong will survive” This mentality, is demonstrated by those who are the problem in a situation. “Look what you made me do” Is also a very unhealthy mindset. Unless someone holds a gun to their head, no one is making anyone do anything. It is a choice to emulate shit.
I think the issue that’s going on around the world, is the belief that “Love” is purely an emotion. It’s actually, a combination of emotion and action. So, commitment, respect, passion, and connection. If people focus purely on the emotion aspect, problems occur. If one focuses primarily on the commitment aspect, you lose the other valuable things and just learn to tolerate each other. I think the key is balance. With this said, marrying for “Love” is not bad, it depends on if you define it correctly. I wouldn’t recommend marrying purely based on emotions. I think of my parents marriage being one of genuine love, being that they don’t rely on emotion, but also don’t rely on commitment, they strive for a healthy balanced relationship. I believe most people who seek marriage are seeking this. Finding it is really hard. With this being said, I personally, wouldn’t want a marriage that centred on emotions or purely commitment based. And I definitely don’t care for arranges marriages. I hate the idea of spending my life with someone I don’t like, nor am I in love with him and will be even harder to learn how to love. If I’m going to marry, I have to like him, be in love with him and have to know that he’s someone I’m can to learn how love over time. I hate wasted time and don’t want to look back over my life and regret many things.
Thank you for your info. Many countries actually still do 'omiai' in a certain sense. It's actually called mama matchmaking networking service. The goal is simple - verify matching economic status, education and criminal record.
change your channel to "Japanese Redpill Meshida" haha I'm in my 20s, my whole life I have not seen any girls my age has the image of a mother and they are addicted to social media so that's my reason
The pop-up of Ken Suzuki again caught me by surprise. Hilarious. The LP analysis is quite true, which indeed applies to the rest of the world. Good info 👍
I've love your perspective on Japanese society; It was so amazing to hear about matrimonial practices that are so common to India. We have almost all the same problems - Number of Male/Female births; expectations, love marriage ending but arranged marriages last 50 yrs; social credibility etc., I see a lot of unmarried or divorce people in US - I now believe marriage being optional is now gone global. This is very bad for demographics and overall health of Global economies.
There are "conspirative" theories that claim that they wanted to do it this way so we lose our cultures (both culturally and demografically) and are more easily controlled by superpowers or hidden global elites. What to do... some will survive and will start all over again. I shallowed the pill of "marriage is bad" and "traditional roles are bad" when younger and I am already paying the price for that. But anyway we'll make the most of what we get.
I really appreciated the part where you say that love is a temporary emotion. If not even a misunderstanding. Also, the part about marriage being like a rollercoaster. Just a point of clarity, Meshida san; there are probably more women than men (globally, cumulatively speaking). Here, in southern Africa, for example; a population of ten million people will normally contain 500 000 more women than men. We men are sometimes being encouraged to marry two women each. Unfortunately, the phenomenon of single men is also growing. Not because we are too shy. But, actually because marriage is increasingly becoming too much of a hassle. Moreover, it is being viewed as tipping more in favour of women (legally). We have never had a one child policy here. Furthermore, and because we are former western colonies, we don't really care that much, whether a pregnancy is that of a boy or girl. There are still those very few men, here; who leave their wives, if the wife churns out only girls (but, it is no longer such a big deal. The extended family will ensure that the girls get an education anyway).
Postmodernism gave birth to high levels of materialism and solipsism. We replaced religion with nihilism and have fallen prey to all the things most religions tried to warn us about. This is the result, unfortunately. A generation of feminists dead set on competing with men for their jobs instead of cooperating with men to raise the next generation.
This is very much the case in a certain large east Asian nation near Japan where they often complain about '996' which is short for 9am-to-9pm 6 days a week. Weirdly, that increases to compensate for holidays. (so, if there is 1 day off, workers must add more hours to the preceding weak) but here's the same thing as Meshida describes: 12 hours a day where they waste time, stall, play little kinds of confusion games to pretend they're solving a lot of problems, interchanging duties and responsibilities so nobody ever really knows who's doing what or not doing what and stalling off everything. I have never in my life seen so many people in a single office accomplishing so few things in so many long long days and hours. Without exaggerating, a typical Canadian version would be somewhere near 5X more efficient in half the total time in a day. Seriously.
I don't know what happened to my last reply. I think I said Omimai was a great idea since there are less marriages in Japan and the country is suffering. I love Japan. And I hope it will increase it's population. I myself practice Shinto and Zen Buddhism. And like I said before I love this video. ❤
"Love Points" should be figured out before marriage. That's what dating is for! I've noticed that many Asian girls associate multiple dates with engagement, rather than "making sure this is the right person for me to marry." Also, out of the last 4 women I've gone out with (here in Japan), I discovered that 3 of them were still married and living with their husbands. It appears easier to find a married woman for a relationship than it is a single woman!
as the video points out LPs are inflated before marriage due to unrealistic expectations and deflated after marriage due to continuing unrealistic expectations.
3. Women can start supporting low income men. Be progressive! Men have been doing this for thousands of years, time for ger role change. 4. Women can take in foreign men, low income or not. Maybe help the refugees after all? 5. Women can also join a polygamy marriage with a rich man, but I don't know whether it is allowed in Japan.
Japanese society sure is complex. The fact that Japanese people are known for uncomplaining endurance exacerbates this problem. Unlike other countries where people will try to improve their situation, Japanese tend to make good of a situation.
So. It seems to me as a man if Japanese men work hard and make good money that Japanese women are looking for, then its up him to select a woman from a variety of choices....and up to him to decide if HE really cares about her. Then he has to deal with her family etc and vice versa. The problem also is he has to know if the gal he really likes REALLY like him or if its just his money. A big problem. If they dont make enough money...they already know the road is not easy. If you are a woman in Japan, you cant win. If you marry a man with lots of money, you will be call a gold digger even if you say you really like him. If you marry a man with less money, you will be call foolish for marrying a loser. Right? I am sure there are women in Japan who dont care either way....but its harder for them in that respect. For men...who dont seem to give a s**t at this point, it could be kind of depressing. Even if they dont give a s**t. I am sure there are couples in Japan who hit the right spot. They realize their equality in the marriage. Each give 100% to it and I am sure these are very few of the marriages there. But Japan is not alone. Marriage is not easy in any country. People get married for the wrong reasons. For me.... I am married for 28 years. My wife is Vietnamese. I am Puerto Rican. We keep it interesting. Maybe mixed marriage is better. haha. We have our days dont get me wrong. But we always remind ourselves why we are married. We did fall in Love one time. We still are. But its a mature love of respect and consideration now. We live in US--California. I think also Japan has too many rules from traditions that today are outdated. Many Japanese of today dont want to deal with that. I have a friend in Osaka. He talks about that to me. But His daughter just married 3 years ago. I know they married for love. He works, she works, they have a daughter and all is good. They met at their jobs...so they do similar work. Maybe thats the Japanese perfect marriage. Not about money, but about similar interest regardless of money. And this is how they are making it work. Great couple. They have almost identical interest in life and doing things. Money is not mentioned. Okay....good video. Arigato!
I think the media always blames Japanese men for the low marriage rate and birth rate. However, after living in Japan for almost 15 years, I think Japanese women are a big reason why Japanese marriage and birth rates are low.
The more developed civilization, the less fertility rate. If you have to work long, long hours to feed yourself and your family, seeing it just for the hour or two daily, while they are already sleeping - why bother with establishing a family in the first place? Hundreds years ago children helped parents in the field to grow crops. Only one mouth to feed, two hands to work. Children just were a necessity, family was crucial for the survival. Today, machines grow our crops and manual labor in agriculture is performed only by hobbyists in backyard gardens. Family is just a pure cost, an expensive luxury, child is still one mouth to feed and... no work for two hands. Then children needed just nothing, just a shirt, and they could run around barefoot. Today - full clothing, school, doctor, a smartphone, computer, books, toys... Children are now A LOT more expensive for their parents than hundreds years ago. Why? Because they can be expensive. Then there even were no doctors, smartphones, toys, school was an extravagant luxury affordable only for elites and not compulsory. It was perfectly normal, that a child if got sick, it either healed or died. Today parents of a sick child move heaven and earth to get these hundreds of thousands of dollars for therapy. Death is no alternative, at least not before falling in debts like mountains. Then, they mourned for some time and made a new one. They did not have any debt after. This was the life then, with all of it's cruelty, it was just accepted as normal. In such circumstances people fought for survival, day and night, they had no time for any romance or "falling in love" - either you get married, or you will die. Omiai and any other forms of "arranged marriages" were just normal practice and a strategy for survival. Divorce rates were almost none. Because both sides knew, that their family is not to please them, but to keep them alive.
In addition, children eventually became pension insurance. Industrialization ensured that pensions were best insured by things like savings, stock markets, and real estate.
For a rich country, Japanese salaries are ridiculously low. How come people survive when cities like Tokyo and Osaka rank among the most expensive in the world?
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By calculation, to meet the salary requirement of an average Japanese single woman, a guy needs to work hard until their 40s. The guy also needs to live frugally and be financially savvy. Also, the guy need to take care of his health to be sufficiently fertile by the time he actually gets married. Sounds like a lot of work for an average man. 2D girls will only ask for your attention lol
The real question is who really wants to do all of that just to have the access to extra baggage that weighs you down further?! Legs are strong but can only carry everything so far
@@timothyharris1125 There's just no benefits..lol
ANNNND they're starting to feel the freedom. I think it's not only a choice. It's likely to be a "trend"
2D>3d
No different here in America the older they get while they are single the higher there requirements become.
I think the marriage problem is the same in America as in Japan. Fortunately I found a kind woman who thought I was fun to be with and didn’t care that I only had a part-time job and was short and ugly. We are now no longer poor, we both have white hair, and we are now even shorter than when we married. Most importantly, we still laugh together.
Personality is something that a lot of men dont think about it .
Also if you a good dancer , you score very pretty girls
@@robertsantiago953 *runs to the nearest dance center to sign up for dance classes*
@@robertsantiago953 i think many men do think about it, its usually western women who dont.
Not sure if serious...
Laughing together is very, very important!
"Love is a misunderstanding." Truer words have never been spoken on the interweb.
Lol
Love is awareness of lack.
As a person from a country with low divorce rate (3%), I can't relate, and I don't want to relate.
Marriages planned wasn't just in Japan. I know that tradition was practiced in America as well as Europe in the past at least 100 years ago. I believe such Marriages aren't lacking in love. I think couples in planned Marriages will learn to love each other. But in the end it is a choice. There is no man who doesn't want help in finding a woman. I support planned marriage. Companies need to encourage it. Great video.
Marriage is a remnant structure from the days without birth control. It still has values nowadays but it's no longer for everyone. Marriage requires a lot of sacrifice and contains enormous risks. So everyone needs to do their due diligence and society should stop coercing young people into it.
10:26 Don't worry Meshida-san, you are soon going to be a rich man and will be able to enter a sexless marriage because as devoted disciples, we watch your videos everyday . 🤣
Lol
Keep uploading meshida san.
Can you talk about young japanese man. Send to oversea office for work.
"if you want a long lasting marriage, the most important thing is not love, it's peer pressure." Golden quote
Hundreds years ago family was necessary for survival, not mentioning the pressure. You lasted in marriage not because you liked your spouse (nice if it was so), but you both knew, that without the support of the family there was much greater probability of premature death. People living out of growing crops manually could work for maybe 20 years of their life. Without children at the age of 40 you were an elder person in the autumn of your life, unable to do any hard, physical work. You needed as many children as your wife could bear in her "prime years" - 16 - 28, to be your "pension" in your old age. Moreover, children were like two additional hands for work and only one mouth to feed. Today you can live like 80 - 100 years without ever getting married and having children. Hundreds years ago 80 years person was like a 120+ years now.
@@pokrec Sadly with this mindset, just like Meshida said, children will become endangered. Majority dont want to take risk of having kids > The population will crumble, labor shortage forcing them to import people from lesser developed countries > they start to settle there just like in western countries > Then ultimately, the native will become minority. If they dont change this.
@@audizul I am not concerned with who pees on my grave. Be it my national or other. I will be dead anyways.
@@pokrec ah okay, a nihilist. Thanks for existing and passing by in this lifetime. Id say RIP as your soul seem like its dead already.
@@audizul No, my soul is absolutely other thing. It will just be in other place, where nothing from earth matters. I just try my best to earn the eternity, like a monk. Children are not needed to save soul from this valley of tears. Having family actually is a handicap in this task.
LMAO That "LGBTQ+ was made to save the lives of miserable men" part really got me 😂
same in Poland marriage rate drop down, but here enforce it law cuz for man get marriage is like sign the paper for lost half of your fortune, cuz when divorce, judges are almost always on women side you can even lost your home bcs she reported you to police (reason you use domestic violence, even if you didn't she don't need a proof and can by one word destroy your whole life), even after divorce she can go to the court for alimony bcs she's standard of life droped after divorced, and court will enforce you to pay like 250-2000$ per month to her, it's fcking sick.
meshida trying to do comedy end up making really good points for forced marriage
I also want to marry a Japanese woman .
So strange my 40 yr old Japanese friend, whom I've known for 20 years, didn't want to marry me ,
I'm rich , not too old , not ugly
But instead she married a 75 yr old Japanese man whom she just met last week .
isnt it more like arranged marriage tho?
@@dongshengdi773 Dude, your name sound non japanese ( chinese? ) , you know the japanese...
@@dongshengdi773 rip friendzoned
@@dongshengdi773 he'll die, she'll get his money, and you can go after her again
Dear Meshida,
What you described is a global phenomenon. It is all okay. The only worrying part is that many single men in Eastern countries, like Japan, China, India etc, feel that they are missing out something (FOMO) because of not being able to get married, and many resort to ending their own lives. Poor souls, they don't realize that many men with toxic marriages, and even many divorced men, envy them and consider them to be lucky guys!
That’s due to a shortage of women
@@qjtvaddict It's actually a shortage of women with qualities to be good wives.
If only these men could realize how to make the most of the freedom of being single, marriage isn't the end all, be all it's being promoted to be. If these men earn a decent living, they have the resources to go out into the world and seek out adventures, experience new things, find a hobby and learn to enjoy life. In today's climate marriage brings a new set of hardship, women who demand more and offer less while bringing a load of excess emotional baggage for a man to have to deal with.
@@Phanbot01
Only the lucky ones go their own way and enjoy their blessings. A large number of men prefer to die as slaves. The reality is that marriage has always been a scam promoted by the elite to control the masses. Most men don't realize that they miss out NOTHING by not getting married. On the other hand, they would lose almost everything when they get divorced.
FOMO exists in Western countries as well. It was part of the reason why I made the mistake of getting married. Now I'm divorced...
The whole culture of social credibility of married men is not necessarily a good thing. How marriage (used to) give men credibility may be because a company would probably feel that a married man is less likely to quit because he has to support a family, but that also means the company knows it can push around married employees more easily. A single male employee who has plenty of savings can potentially say "the hell with you people, I'll take some time off to find a better job", whereas a married man just can't. A lot of my single male colleagues have actually done something similar to negotiate for a better condition. Many of them can afford to work less, so they negotiated for less work, though with a pay cut (which they don't mind), when they were being stressed out with the work load. The company would rather negotiate with them than to have to go through with hiring someone new and training them.
Exactly! Marriage has always been a scam promoted by the elite to control the masses.
This is what i have done. I`m a single man, with my own apartment and savings. I negotiated for working less, with a pay cut. And i work on comission so actualy my pay is the same. But i don`t need more money.
This is the problem with modern workplaces. They need you to work more, for money alot of people realy don`t need. So you can consume stuff you don`t need. When in reality couples in Japan don`t need more money but more time. That is time to live life, have sex, to get the children without beeing stressed out
Good point!
When I lost my job a few years ago, it turned out to be a big win-win for me: I didn't like that job anyway and I got rid of my toxic Japanese wife!
BTW I'd like to see an episode about divorce in Japan!
@@Ikaros23 Do a job you hate to buy stuff you don't need - this reminds me of a cool movie called Fight Club...
Well done!
I have not dared to negotiate for shorter work hours yet. I'll make savings until I do.
@@employee8449 " The things you own end up owning you". This way of thinking also seem`s Japanese in a way. That is that the materialistic things has a form of spirit/ghost, that can posess/control the owner. And in reality become the owner.
My boss only cares about the bottom line. So as long that i`m productiv in the hours i am at work he don`t care about the total amount of hours.
My wife is Japanese. She has told me about this. Her issue was just wanting someone who wanted a family. Many in Japan don't want a family, for various different reasons.
Money my dude, you need a lot of money to raise a kid. Avg guys don't have that kind of money to spend and maintain a family
I want a family, she got any friends?
@@nullset2 kinda lol. She's actually kind of a Japanese unicorn in a way. Very extroverted, and didn't fit in very well in a collectivist society. I met her when I was stationed in Japan.
If you think money is the issue you believe the lies governments say. The poorest nations have the most kids. Money is not an issue.
@@AJM2408 Money is a issue but not in the way you think. Lack of money will cost your child to turn out wrong.
"This income problem between men and women will be fixed in the near future, because all Japanese people will be poor soon!" Definately! More Japanese youth also decided to find job overseas, especially in ASEAN countries and Australia.
Meshida is right because Japan is going broke.😊👎
At the same time more foreigners including ASEAN people and Australians are moving to Japan though 😂
I can easily imagine my former sociology professor saying the same exact things in one sleep-inducing boring hour since it's not delivered Meshida-san style.
On a serious note, I totally agree on the "peer pressure" factor. "Love" can be argued to be a fleeting feeling, if you rely on love to sustain a relationship, it is very fragile. Peer pressure can lead to a sense of responsibility, a pressure to make things work. Sounds crude, but it's the reality.
And I love how you can use humour to show that conservative Japanese/Asian values and practices actually make sense. I need and miss the omiai marriage system, sadly.
There is a full web of problems too:
- everything getting expensive -> don't want kids
- overtime -> no time to go on dates/spend more time with their partners, etc
The solution?
The culture itself needs to change/evolve because PRIDE IS NOT NECESSARY for things like that:
- less overtime? more freedom to go on dates and stuff
- less stress? less dying/suiciding, more time to go on dates
- too expensive to want to get married and ultimately have kids? no overtime -> no stress -> no dying/no suiciding -> more taxpayers -> more money to help make things cheaper
As it stands, the remaining young people are just working to pay the old people's pension, the more young people die, the few taxpayers Japan has to help maintain stuff
So the other solution to that is increasing the population but Japan "does not want immigrants" (only temp workers from overseas lol) so they need to compromise with the Japanese born abroad (who in the eyes of the government are "not really Japanese") or Japanese who threw away their passport to live in other less stressful countries and give them dual citizenship, which means that there would be more workers and therefore more taxpayers, if they were to bring their kids, that means more daycares and schools, which means more jobs and therefore more taxpayers....
These solutions ARE REALLY SIMPLE!! The question is whether the old people in charge want to change for the better.....
81% of japanese young adults earn less than 40k USD? Considering the cost of living in Japan, that's pretty tough
Although it’s under the comedy banner in reality it’s a very well researched presentation. Top excellent
As a single middle aged man I fit into this Japanese stereotype but it does seem like many Americans successfully still get married somehow. I wonder if the overtime work culture in Japan contributes to the low marriage rate. Who has time to date and get married when they’re always working?
Well, that makes sense. To make babies, you have to have some energy.
many Americans successfully get divorced too
This was very interesting. I had a job interview today and was asked what salary I expect and I wasn't sure what to answer. Now I know what salary to ask for. Thank you
Research the salary for your specialty and ask for 80-90% of that. Tell them you didn’t ask for more than that since they don’t know you yet but you will prove yourself to them- your worth it!
@@johnhugo886 Why should he ask for less than his worth??? you should usually either say the exact figure or more than you expect and then accept a reduced "salary" version aka 120% rfeduced to 100%
asking for less salary is the worst advice you can give
@@aleyte1913 For new graduates asking for 80-90% is good advice.
If you have an experience for the job you are applying for it is usually best to aim 120%.
No matter what the topic being discussed is, I always come to the same conclusion; poverty is the root of all that's shit in the world 😬
Human nature is the root of all human troubles in the world
This is the most informative channal on Japan and Japanese culture and people! I love it! I'm hooked on this channel!
No Meshida, it's not that men have that PRIDE to reject a woman earning a higher salary than them, it's that men understand the problems that come from that type of relationship or marriage due to women's nature of hypergamy that dates UP financially and prefers men earning more than them.
A man's money is HIS and HER money, a woman's money is HER money only. Women are not designed to share resources with men, while men have the RESPONSIBILITIES to provide and protect.
I as a man have no problem with marrying a woman earning 2x - 10x more than me, it's a huge bonus and a relief for me as a man, but is she going to be okay with it? Will she tolerate my low income and respect me the same? Absolutely not.
Talking about serious social issues in a society where you are encouraged to hide your emotions and dont cause disruption in a comedy sketch, just brilliant. Seeing quite a few Japanese creators talking about social issues Japan is facing, lets hope something good comes out for people of Japan and politicians will be trying their best not to let that happen.
Meshida, many thanks for yet another excellent video. Funny, but also an interesting deep dive into Japanese culture and history. Incidentally I suspect the trend can be found in many other countries and cultures around the world.
Great video. I'm a huge Japanese music fan. Especially the All girl bands. Band Maid. Nemophila. Love Bites. Etc... But there also incredibly talented Jazz Blues and Pop artists. How Is it possible for one country to have so many women incredibly talented at music. Love your channel. 😊😎✌️
Again... A perfectly summed up video on the topic no one talks about!
#Respect
Perfect explaination
You are correct when you say " Women marry for Money "
And when a man has nothing left for a woman to steal she walks out the door.
Then what else a man can do? Most men dont take care of kids, dont cook, dont clean lmao
Ask him to live as leech?
@@mayshusakuhanamurasufferli5438 American men do all those things. it's the women who are LEECHES .
Good point!!!
@@Meshida are you an incel?
Only women, children and dogs are loved unconditionally. A man is only loved under the condition that he provides something - Chris rock
Not so. Can you think of one woman who is loved unconditionally with nothing to offer? Even children are expected to be obedient as long as they live with their parents. Dogs and cats need to fit the requirements as well.
Yet u guys want a hot free maid🙄
@@mayshusakuhanamurasufferli5438 you go to athome maid cafe in Akihabara and ask them for food and don't pay. They'll kick you out. Nothing is free, stop making up stuffs.
@@crysed7897 i know plenty of men who dont do anything at home yet eating their wife 's money
Those wives are stupid and despo for men
as a man i would say this is the most uneducated lines i usually come across with. everyone got a conditioned its not a bad thing either everyone deserves to choose the life they wish to live and for women there is tonnes of conditions to be loved unlike man whos sole condtions is that he earns it but for women she must be beautiful which is not even in her conrol, most importantly they need act like women defination and criteria of which is immeasurable and the list goes on. grow up man, try to be on other side or atleast talk with mother and sister how its like to be a women rather than commenting here like idoit.
I love even though your partner in comedy is not in the sketch you still include him.
With the exception of you and Ken-san, most men prefer a younger woman as well. There is an age limit where most men find them undesirable. In Japan, these woman are called Christmas cakes. In America, men say the woman hit the wall.
this is why we are happier without such shallow men.
I do want to marry a woman later in life, but considering that im just shy of 21, especially with how volatile the dating scene is in the U.S., maybe even worldwide, finding a woman to marry is quite the task and it’s better for me and I daresay most other men to focus on themselves over women. Including myself I think a lot of us men would be happier living out our own lives and not trying to please everyone else.
Try to find someone from outside the US. I feel like that would be better in the long run
21? You have so much living to do, don’t stress about relationships now.
Do find one though. At the end kids are needed.
11:57 The #1 advantage for marriage was .... peace of mind.
🤣🤣😂😭 nonononono nope
That's just inviting a house yakuza into your life.
So many great quotes in this video.
I believe marriage should be more than love! It is a partnership!
5:02 Ken-San Cameo was so unexpected! 🤣🤣
yeah, nice sidekick!!! love them!
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You're the most RedPilled Japanese person I kinda know!😂
I've always wondered why Japanese love asking foreigners "Are you married?". They ask this a lot and it is not a personal question at all in Japan. It's similar to "How are you?". I guess now they won't be asking this question much to foreigners and Japanese in the future since many will be not married.
Same to S Koreans
Thank You Meshida for these videos. I plan on visiting many countries for longer periods of time in the future and you never know what may happen. The older I get the more I realize it’s important to make a type of list where you write down everything that you would like to have when you and your partner are married, so for example you often say sexless marriages are common, so on my list would be enough sex in marriage and if the partner isn’t okay with that I’m not gonna marry her. I mean good woman here or there but if it leads to a sexless marriage then all I can say is Goodbye.
Meshida-san: Truths about Japan
Japan does what's best for Japan. I suspect Westen influence is to blame for the change in marrige.
True
This poor comedian will end up in the smacking spree open season with the man-o-sphere once the laughter dies off.
This is gold.
Konichiwa! I love how you put it so simply and hit the nail on the head and better explain the issues. And so hilarious at that. Very informative though.
Seems like the patriarchy system imposed by the Samurais served Japan well. Everyone was married and happy.
Now modernity has made everyone lonely and miserable.
Ken Ojii-san's cameo is the most important part of this video 🤣
That's why there are many male tourists (western, arabs, east asians, etc) go to Southeast Asia (especially Thailand, Philippines, and Vietnam).
Welcome to Southeast Asia. Your truly love destination 🗿🗿🗿
Those girls are so poor they will pick any average American or European man.
Really OMOSHIROI, what u've said is true ..i subscribed‼️😍
There must be a lot of wizards lol, but seriously thank you for the vid. I'm not a fan of marriage and in the past it had a real reason as you've mentioned...but nowadays with the way divorce works, not actually sure if it works that way in Japan...being unhappy can lead to a one sided windfall. I do realize this is a more complex issue and this is a small window.
Honestly you've made some videos that are giving extra insight.
Thank you Meshida!
Wizards? Please elaborate
Rest assured, brother, divorce works exactly the same way in Japan, as in the West. As far as I know, the modern Japanese legal system was mostly inspired by the French legal system.
@@Drevenhaven They say if you make it to 30 without boinking you're a wizard in japan...most likely a meme honestly
@@AndroidTheLeader I...I hope people only marry now if they want to after a full risk assessment
@@Sin606
You mean, women should get married after a full risk assessment, right? Because, for men, the writing is clear on the wall, ALL OVER THE WORLD, unless they choose to fool themselves.
In the current dating scene, few demonstrations, indicate desiring a healthy relationship
“Lets purposely abuse people, because the strong will survive”
This mentality, is demonstrated by those who are the problem in a situation.
“Look what you made me do”
Is also a very unhealthy mindset. Unless someone holds a gun to their head, no one is making anyone do anything. It is a choice to emulate shit.
The main issue is because now a days, equality is demonstrated as, “now its my turn”. Instead of what equality actually is.
I think the issue that’s going on around the world, is the belief that “Love” is purely an emotion. It’s actually, a combination of emotion and action. So, commitment, respect, passion, and connection. If people focus purely on the emotion aspect, problems occur. If one focuses primarily on the commitment aspect, you lose the other valuable things and just learn to tolerate each other. I think the key is balance. With this said, marrying for “Love” is not bad, it depends on if you define it correctly. I wouldn’t recommend marrying purely based on emotions. I think of my parents marriage being one of genuine love, being that they don’t rely on emotion, but also don’t rely on commitment, they strive for a healthy balanced relationship. I believe most people who seek marriage are seeking this. Finding it is really hard.
With this being said, I personally, wouldn’t want a marriage that centred on emotions or purely commitment based. And I definitely don’t care for arranges marriages. I hate the idea of spending my life with someone I don’t like, nor am I in love with him and will be even harder to learn how to love. If I’m going to marry, I have to like him, be in love with him and have to know that he’s someone I’m can to learn how love over time. I hate wasted time and don’t want to look back over my life and regret many things.
This one is really good. Lots of really funny humor! Really explains the sociology too. Much better than those awful NY Times articles lol
素晴らしい, very good content
Thank you for your info. Many countries actually still do 'omiai' in a certain sense. It's actually called mama matchmaking networking service. The goal is simple - verify matching economic status, education and criminal record.
change your channel to "Japanese Redpill Meshida" haha
I'm in my 20s, my whole life I have not seen any girls my age has the image of a mother and they are addicted to social media so that's my reason
No skipping of ads as a support ❤❤❤
Love how this is funny and educational.
Thanks!
The pop-up of Ken Suzuki again caught me by surprise. Hilarious. The LP analysis is quite true, which indeed applies to the rest of the world. Good info 👍
Thank you, Sensei Meshida! Your video reminded me to be depressed 😢.
This guy almost convinced me of forced marriage 😂
you must be a guy ....LOL
@@janegarnham
👽 Yep
Great explanation
Sometimes I believe that Japanese women don't want a man to love but they want to fall in love with their wallet
Please don't single out only Japanese women in this regard, when it's clearly a global phenomenon!
@@AndroidTheLeader I know that not only Japanese women want someone who has a huge income but in that case I thought it was suitable
Then what? Most men dont clean, dont cook, dont take care of kids. Marry a leech and suffer in poverty?
That's internationally the case.
I've love your perspective on Japanese society; It was so amazing to hear about matrimonial practices that are so common to India. We have almost all the same problems - Number of Male/Female births; expectations, love marriage ending but arranged marriages last 50 yrs; social credibility etc.,
I see a lot of unmarried or divorce people in US - I now believe marriage being optional is now gone global. This is very bad for demographics and overall health of Global economies.
There are "conspirative" theories that claim that they wanted to do it this way so we lose our cultures (both culturally and demografically) and are more easily controlled by superpowers or hidden global elites. What to do... some will survive and will start all over again. I shallowed the pill of "marriage is bad" and "traditional roles are bad" when younger and I am already paying the price for that. But anyway we'll make the most of what we get.
May the algorithm bless this channel
So essentially what you're saying is that the key to a great relationship is having lowered expectations on both sides?
Meshida u are so interesting. Good jokes n very charismatic...
I really appreciated the part where you say that love is a temporary emotion. If not even a misunderstanding. Also, the part about marriage being like a rollercoaster.
Just a point of clarity, Meshida san; there are probably more women than men (globally, cumulatively speaking).
Here, in southern Africa, for example; a population of ten million people will normally contain 500 000 more women than men. We men are sometimes being encouraged to marry two women each.
Unfortunately, the phenomenon of single men is also growing. Not because we are too shy. But, actually because marriage is increasingly becoming too much of a hassle. Moreover, it is being viewed as tipping more in favour of women (legally).
We have never had a one child policy here. Furthermore, and because we are former western colonies, we don't really care that much, whether a pregnancy is that of a boy or girl. There are still those very few men, here; who leave their wives, if the wife churns out only girls (but, it is no longer such a big deal. The extended family will ensure that the girls get an education anyway).
Your explanation is way too good.
In the Indian subcontinent
It’s called arranged marriage
Still goes on a lot
Postmodernism gave birth to high levels of materialism and solipsism. We replaced religion with nihilism and have fallen prey to all the things most religions tried to warn us about. This is the result, unfortunately. A generation of feminists dead set on competing with men for their jobs instead of cooperating with men to raise the next generation.
Well researched, informative and funny too. Keep up the good work.
This is very much the case in a certain large east Asian nation near Japan where they often complain about '996' which is short for 9am-to-9pm 6 days a week. Weirdly, that increases to compensate for holidays. (so, if there is 1 day off, workers must add more hours to the preceding weak) but here's the same thing as Meshida describes: 12 hours a day where they waste time, stall, play little kinds of confusion games to pretend they're solving a lot of problems, interchanging duties and responsibilities so nobody ever really knows who's doing what or not doing what and stalling off everything. I have never in my life seen so many people in a single office accomplishing so few things in so many long long days and hours. Without exaggerating, a typical Canadian version would be somewhere near 5X more efficient in half the total time in a day. Seriously.
such great and intelligent video Meshida-san 👍🏻👍🏻
How to have people getting marriage is of paramount important for maintaining the population
You cannot invade America because Americans have guns.
Well, you cannot invade Japan either, they have a massive population of wizards.
Fear Or Love
Death Or Life
Yin Or Yang
I don't know what happened to my last reply. I think I said Omimai was a great idea since there are less marriages in Japan and the country is suffering. I love Japan. And I hope it will increase it's population. I myself practice Shinto and Zen Buddhism. And like I said before I love this video. ❤
"Love Points" should be figured out before marriage. That's what dating is for! I've noticed that many Asian girls associate multiple dates with engagement, rather than "making sure this is the right person for me to marry."
Also, out of the last 4 women I've gone out with (here in Japan), I discovered that 3 of them were still married and living with their husbands. It appears easier to find a married woman for a relationship than it is a single woman!
as the video points out LPs are inflated before marriage due to unrealistic expectations and deflated after marriage due to continuing unrealistic expectations.
This is a brilliant and comprehensive explanation of your marriage culture Meshida San! Really enjoyed it!
Meshida san, your videos are good, thank you!
3. Women can start supporting low income men. Be progressive! Men have been doing this for thousands of years, time for ger role change.
4. Women can take in foreign men, low income or not. Maybe help the refugees after all?
5. Women can also join a polygamy marriage with a rich man, but I don't know whether it is allowed in Japan.
A well researched video. It's (content) seems credible.
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Nice story. Nice video.
Japanese society sure is complex. The fact that Japanese people are known for uncomplaining endurance exacerbates this problem. Unlike other countries where people will try to improve their situation, Japanese tend to make good of a situation.
So. It seems to me as a man if Japanese men work hard and make good money that Japanese women are looking for, then its up him to select a woman from a variety of choices....and up to him to decide if HE really cares about her. Then he has to deal with her family etc and vice versa. The problem also is he has to know if the gal he really likes REALLY like him or if its just his money. A big problem. If they dont make enough money...they already know the road is not easy. If you are a woman in Japan, you cant win. If you marry a man with lots of money, you will be call a gold digger even if you say you really like him. If you marry a man with less money, you will be call foolish for marrying a loser. Right? I am sure there are women in Japan who dont care either way....but its harder for them in that respect. For men...who dont seem to give a s**t at this point, it could be kind of depressing. Even if they dont give a s**t. I am sure there are couples in Japan who hit the right spot. They realize their equality in the marriage. Each give 100% to it and I am sure these are very few of the marriages there. But Japan is not alone. Marriage is not easy in any country. People get married for the wrong reasons. For me.... I am married for 28 years. My wife is Vietnamese. I am Puerto Rican. We keep it interesting. Maybe mixed marriage is better. haha. We have our days dont get me wrong. But we always remind ourselves why we are married. We did fall in Love one time. We still are. But its a mature love of respect and consideration now. We live in US--California. I think also Japan has too many rules from traditions that today are outdated. Many Japanese of today dont want to deal with that. I have a friend in Osaka. He talks about that to me. But His daughter just married 3 years ago. I know they married for love. He works, she works, they have a daughter and all is good. They met at their jobs...so they do similar work. Maybe thats the Japanese perfect marriage. Not about money, but about similar interest regardless of money. And this is how they are making it work. Great couple. They have almost identical interest in life and doing things. Money is not mentioned. Okay....good video. Arigato!
Excelent video.
very interesting video!
I think the media always blames Japanese men for the low marriage rate and birth rate. However, after living in Japan for almost 15 years, I think Japanese women are a big reason why Japanese marriage and birth rates are low.
Lol
wdym? elaborate pls
If I was either Japanese man or woman I wouldn't want to be married either.
The more developed civilization, the less fertility rate.
If you have to work long, long hours to feed yourself and your family, seeing it just for the hour or two daily, while they are already sleeping - why bother with establishing a family in the first place?
Hundreds years ago children helped parents in the field to grow crops. Only one mouth to feed, two hands to work. Children just were a necessity, family was crucial for the survival.
Today, machines grow our crops and manual labor in agriculture is performed only by hobbyists in backyard gardens. Family is just a pure cost, an expensive luxury, child is still one mouth to feed and... no work for two hands. Then children needed just nothing, just a shirt, and they could run around barefoot. Today - full clothing, school, doctor, a smartphone, computer, books, toys... Children are now A LOT more expensive for their parents than hundreds years ago. Why? Because they can be expensive. Then there even were no doctors, smartphones, toys, school was an extravagant luxury affordable only for elites and not compulsory. It was perfectly normal, that a child if got sick, it either healed or died. Today parents of a sick child move heaven and earth to get these hundreds of thousands of dollars for therapy. Death is no alternative, at least not before falling in debts like mountains. Then, they mourned for some time and made a new one. They did not have any debt after. This was the life then, with all of it's cruelty, it was just accepted as normal. In such circumstances people fought for survival, day and night, they had no time for any romance or "falling in love" - either you get married, or you will die. Omiai and any other forms of "arranged marriages" were just normal practice and a strategy for survival. Divorce rates were almost none. Because both sides knew, that their family is not to please them, but to keep them alive.
In addition, children eventually became pension insurance. Industrialization ensured that pensions were best insured by things like savings, stock markets, and real estate.
The would needs to go bacck to traditionalism.....
How will you put the genie back in the bottle?
5:01 Why did you do my man Suzuki like that?! LOL! I learned a lot, thank you!
Please subscribe his channel. lol
I promoted his channel!!!!
For a rich country, Japanese salaries are ridiculously low. How come people survive when cities like Tokyo and Osaka rank among the most expensive in the world?
Japan can be very affordable to live if you know where to look. Even within Tokyo, a salary of 3mil yen is enough for a single person.
How come people survive? By staying single, of course.
Living in Japan is not expensive. everything are cheap now
@@Meshida Malaysia is way cheaper😂🤣
Does someone have to live in such cities?
It could be argued the USA has an extreme cost of living if you focus on New York City or San Francisco.
You're info bomb punchlines are on point today...
X'D
enjoyed the detailed explanations and comedy 👌🏿😄😆
Good job Meshida.
Not only in japan. Owing to skyrocketing cost of living, so many young adults are afraid to get marry as they’re afraid they won’t be able to provide for their children
good video
Well done sir, well done and all with a smile and the ocassional wink . . .
5:35 love is a temporary emotion.