Marriages planned wasn't just in Japan. I know that tradition was practiced in America as well as Europe in the past at least 100 years ago. I believe such Marriages aren't lacking in love. I think couples in planned Marriages will learn to love each other. But in the end it is a choice. There is no man who doesn't want help in finding a woman. I support planned marriage. Companies need to encourage it. Great video.
Marriage is a remnant structure from the days without birth control. It still has values nowadays but it's no longer for everyone. Marriage requires a lot of sacrifice and contains enormous risks. So everyone needs to do their due diligence and society should stop coercing young people into it.
I think the marriage problem is the same in America as in Japan. Fortunately I found a kind woman who thought I was fun to be with and didn’t care that I only had a part-time job and was short and ugly. We are now no longer poor, we both have white hair, and we are now even shorter than when we married. Most importantly, we still laugh together.
Hundreds years ago family was necessary for survival, not mentioning the pressure. You lasted in marriage not because you liked your spouse (nice if it was so), but you both knew, that without the support of the family there was much greater probability of premature death. People living out of growing crops manually could work for maybe 20 years of their life. Without children at the age of 40 you were an elder person in the autumn of your life, unable to do any hard, physical work. You needed as many children as your wife could bear in her "prime years" - 16 - 28, to be your "pension" in your old age. Moreover, children were like two additional hands for work and only one mouth to feed. Today you can live like 80 - 100 years without ever getting married and having children. Hundreds years ago 80 years person was like a 120+ years now.
@@pokrec Sadly with this mindset, just like Meshida said, children will become endangered. Majority dont want to take risk of having kids > The population will crumble, labor shortage forcing them to import people from lesser developed countries > they start to settle there just like in western countries > Then ultimately, the native will become minority. If they dont change this.
@@audizul No, my soul is absolutely other thing. It will just be in other place, where nothing from earth matters. I just try my best to earn the eternity, like a monk. Children are not needed to save soul from this valley of tears. Having family actually is a handicap in this task.
By calculation, to meet the salary requirement of an average Japanese single woman, a guy needs to work hard until their 40s. The guy also needs to live frugally and be financially savvy. Also, the guy need to take care of his health to be sufficiently fertile by the time he actually gets married. Sounds like a lot of work for an average man. 2D girls will only ask for your attention lol
The real question is who really wants to do all of that just to have the access to extra baggage that weighs you down further?! Legs are strong but can only carry everything so far
10:26 Don't worry Meshida-san, you are soon going to be a rich man and will be able to enter a sexless marriage because as devoted disciples, we watch your videos everyday . 🤣
I also want to marry a Japanese woman . So strange my 40 yr old Japanese friend, whom I've known for 20 years, didn't want to marry me , I'm rich , not too old , not ugly But instead she married a 75 yr old Japanese man whom she just met last week .
Dear Meshida, What you described is a global phenomenon. It is all okay. The only worrying part is that many single men in Eastern countries, like Japan, China, India etc, feel that they are missing out something (FOMO) because of not being able to get married, and many resort to ending their own lives. Poor souls, they don't realize that many men with toxic marriages, and even many divorced men, envy them and consider them to be lucky guys!
If only these men could realize how to make the most of the freedom of being single, marriage isn't the end all, be all it's being promoted to be. If these men earn a decent living, they have the resources to go out into the world and seek out adventures, experience new things, find a hobby and learn to enjoy life. In today's climate marriage brings a new set of hardship, women who demand more and offer less while bringing a load of excess emotional baggage for a man to have to deal with.
@@Phanbot01 Only the lucky ones go their own way and enjoy their blessings. A large number of men prefer to die as slaves. The reality is that marriage has always been a scam promoted by the elite to control the masses. Most men don't realize that they miss out NOTHING by not getting married. On the other hand, they would lose almost everything when they get divorced.
My wife is Japanese. She has told me about this. Her issue was just wanting someone who wanted a family. Many in Japan don't want a family, for various different reasons.
@@nullset2 kinda lol. She's actually kind of a Japanese unicorn in a way. Very extroverted, and didn't fit in very well in a collectivist society. I met her when I was stationed in Japan.
I can easily imagine my former sociology professor saying the same exact things in one sleep-inducing boring hour since it's not delivered Meshida-san style.
Talking about serious social issues in a society where you are encouraged to hide your emotions and dont cause disruption in a comedy sketch, just brilliant. Seeing quite a few Japanese creators talking about social issues Japan is facing, lets hope something good comes out for people of Japan and politicians will be trying their best not to let that happen.
The whole culture of social credibility of married men is not necessarily a good thing. How marriage (used to) give men credibility may be because a company would probably feel that a married man is less likely to quit because he has to support a family, but that also means the company knows it can push around married employees more easily. A single male employee who has plenty of savings can potentially say "the hell with you people, I'll take some time off to find a better job", whereas a married man just can't. A lot of my single male colleagues have actually done something similar to negotiate for a better condition. Many of them can afford to work less, so they negotiated for less work, though with a pay cut (which they don't mind), when they were being stressed out with the work load. The company would rather negotiate with them than to have to go through with hiring someone new and training them.
This is what i have done. I`m a single man, with my own apartment and savings. I negotiated for working less, with a pay cut. And i work on comission so actualy my pay is the same. But i don`t need more money. This is the problem with modern workplaces. They need you to work more, for money alot of people realy don`t need. So you can consume stuff you don`t need. When in reality couples in Japan don`t need more money but more time. That is time to live life, have sex, to get the children without beeing stressed out
Good point! When I lost my job a few years ago, it turned out to be a big win-win for me: I didn't like that job anyway and I got rid of my toxic Japanese wife! BTW I'd like to see an episode about divorce in Japan!
@@Ikaros23 Do a job you hate to buy stuff you don't need - this reminds me of a cool movie called Fight Club... Well done! I have not dared to negotiate for shorter work hours yet. I'll make savings until I do.
@@employee8449 " The things you own end up owning you". This way of thinking also seem`s Japanese in a way. That is that the materialistic things has a form of spirit/ghost, that can posess/control the owner. And in reality become the owner. My boss only cares about the bottom line. So as long that i`m productiv in the hours i am at work he don`t care about the total amount of hours.
On a serious note, I totally agree on the "peer pressure" factor. "Love" can be argued to be a fleeting feeling, if you rely on love to sustain a relationship, it is very fragile. Peer pressure can lead to a sense of responsibility, a pressure to make things work. Sounds crude, but it's the reality. And I love how you can use humour to show that conservative Japanese/Asian values and practices actually make sense. I need and miss the omiai marriage system, sadly.
same in Poland marriage rate drop down, but here enforce it law cuz for man get marriage is like sign the paper for lost half of your fortune, cuz when divorce, judges are almost always on women side you can even lost your home bcs she reported you to police (reason you use domestic violence, even if you didn't she don't need a proof and can by one word destroy your whole life), even after divorce she can go to the court for alimony bcs she's standard of life droped after divorced, and court will enforce you to pay like 250-2000$ per month to her, it's fcking sick.
This was very interesting. I had a job interview today and was asked what salary I expect and I wasn't sure what to answer. Now I know what salary to ask for. Thank you
Research the salary for your specialty and ask for 80-90% of that. Tell them you didn’t ask for more than that since they don’t know you yet but you will prove yourself to them- your worth it!
@@johnhugo886 Why should he ask for less than his worth??? you should usually either say the exact figure or more than you expect and then accept a reduced "salary" version aka 120% rfeduced to 100% asking for less salary is the worst advice you can give
@@aleyte1913 For new graduates asking for 80-90% is good advice. If you have an experience for the job you are applying for it is usually best to aim 120%.
Meshida, many thanks for yet another excellent video. Funny, but also an interesting deep dive into Japanese culture and history. Incidentally I suspect the trend can be found in many other countries and cultures around the world.
Not so. Can you think of one woman who is loved unconditionally with nothing to offer? Even children are expected to be obedient as long as they live with their parents. Dogs and cats need to fit the requirements as well.
@@mayshusakuhanamurasufferli5438 you go to athome maid cafe in Akihabara and ask them for food and don't pay. They'll kick you out. Nothing is free, stop making up stuffs.
as a man i would say this is the most uneducated lines i usually come across with. everyone got a conditioned its not a bad thing either everyone deserves to choose the life they wish to live and for women there is tonnes of conditions to be loved unlike man whos sole condtions is that he earns it but for women she must be beautiful which is not even in her conrol, most importantly they need act like women defination and criteria of which is immeasurable and the list goes on. grow up man, try to be on other side or atleast talk with mother and sister how its like to be a women rather than commenting here like idoit.
Great video. I'm a huge Japanese music fan. Especially the All girl bands. Band Maid. Nemophila. Love Bites. Etc... But there also incredibly talented Jazz Blues and Pop artists. How Is it possible for one country to have so many women incredibly talented at music. Love your channel. 😊😎✌️
As a single middle aged man I fit into this Japanese stereotype but it does seem like many Americans successfully still get married somehow. I wonder if the overtime work culture in Japan contributes to the low marriage rate. Who has time to date and get married when they’re always working?
Konichiwa! I love how you put it so simply and hit the nail on the head and better explain the issues. And so hilarious at that. Very informative though.
The pop-up of Ken Suzuki again caught me by surprise. Hilarious. The LP analysis is quite true, which indeed applies to the rest of the world. Good info 👍
Thank You Meshida for these videos. I plan on visiting many countries for longer periods of time in the future and you never know what may happen. The older I get the more I realize it’s important to make a type of list where you write down everything that you would like to have when you and your partner are married, so for example you often say sexless marriages are common, so on my list would be enough sex in marriage and if the partner isn’t okay with that I’m not gonna marry her. I mean good woman here or there but if it leads to a sexless marriage then all I can say is Goodbye.
Thank you for your info. Many countries actually still do 'omiai' in a certain sense. It's actually called mama matchmaking networking service. The goal is simple - verify matching economic status, education and criminal record.
"This income problem between men and women will be fixed in the near future, because all Japanese people will be poor soon!" Definately! More Japanese youth also decided to find job overseas, especially in ASEAN countries and Australia.
I do want to marry a woman later in life, but considering that im just shy of 21, especially with how volatile the dating scene is in the U.S., maybe even worldwide, finding a woman to marry is quite the task and it’s better for me and I daresay most other men to focus on themselves over women. Including myself I think a lot of us men would be happier living out our own lives and not trying to please everyone else.
I think the issue that’s going on around the world, is the belief that “Love” is purely an emotion. It’s actually, a combination of emotion and action. So, commitment, respect, passion, and connection. If people focus purely on the emotion aspect, problems occur. If one focuses primarily on the commitment aspect, you lose the other valuable things and just learn to tolerate each other. I think the key is balance. With this said, marrying for “Love” is not bad, it depends on if you define it correctly. I wouldn’t recommend marrying purely based on emotions. I think of my parents marriage being one of genuine love, being that they don’t rely on emotion, but also don’t rely on commitment, they strive for a healthy balanced relationship. I believe most people who seek marriage are seeking this. Finding it is really hard. With this being said, I personally, wouldn’t want a marriage that centred on emotions or purely commitment based. And I definitely don’t care for arranges marriages. I hate the idea of spending my life with someone I don’t like, nor am I in love with him and will be even harder to learn how to love. If I’m going to marry, I have to like him, be in love with him and have to know that he’s someone I’m can to learn how love over time. I hate wasted time and don’t want to look back over my life and regret many things.
There must be a lot of wizards lol, but seriously thank you for the vid. I'm not a fan of marriage and in the past it had a real reason as you've mentioned...but nowadays with the way divorce works, not actually sure if it works that way in Japan...being unhappy can lead to a one sided windfall. I do realize this is a more complex issue and this is a small window. Honestly you've made some videos that are giving extra insight. Thank you Meshida!
Rest assured, brother, divorce works exactly the same way in Japan, as in the West. As far as I know, the modern Japanese legal system was mostly inspired by the French legal system.
@@Sin606 You mean, women should get married after a full risk assessment, right? Because, for men, the writing is clear on the wall, ALL OVER THE WORLD, unless they choose to fool themselves.
I don't know what happened to my last reply. I think I said Omimai was a great idea since there are less marriages in Japan and the country is suffering. I love Japan. And I hope it will increase it's population. I myself practice Shinto and Zen Buddhism. And like I said before I love this video. ❤
I've always wondered why Japanese love asking foreigners "Are you married?". They ask this a lot and it is not a personal question at all in Japan. It's similar to "How are you?". I guess now they won't be asking this question much to foreigners and Japanese in the future since many will be not married.
I really appreciated the part where you say that love is a temporary emotion. If not even a misunderstanding. Also, the part about marriage being like a rollercoaster. Just a point of clarity, Meshida san; there are probably more women than men (globally, cumulatively speaking). Here, in southern Africa, for example; a population of ten million people will normally contain 500 000 more women than men. We men are sometimes being encouraged to marry two women each. Unfortunately, the phenomenon of single men is also growing. Not because we are too shy. But, actually because marriage is increasingly becoming too much of a hassle. Moreover, it is being viewed as tipping more in favour of women (legally). We have never had a one child policy here. Furthermore, and because we are former western colonies, we don't really care that much, whether a pregnancy is that of a boy or girl. There are still those very few men, here; who leave their wives, if the wife churns out only girls (but, it is no longer such a big deal. The extended family will ensure that the girls get an education anyway).
Not only in japan. Owing to skyrocketing cost of living, so many young adults are afraid to get marry as they’re afraid they won’t be able to provide for their children
There is a full web of problems too: - everything getting expensive -> don't want kids - overtime -> no time to go on dates/spend more time with their partners, etc The solution? The culture itself needs to change/evolve because PRIDE IS NOT NECESSARY for things like that: - less overtime? more freedom to go on dates and stuff - less stress? less dying/suiciding, more time to go on dates - too expensive to want to get married and ultimately have kids? no overtime -> no stress -> no dying/no suiciding -> more taxpayers -> more money to help make things cheaper As it stands, the remaining young people are just working to pay the old people's pension, the more young people die, the few taxpayers Japan has to help maintain stuff So the other solution to that is increasing the population but Japan "does not want immigrants" (only temp workers from overseas lol) so they need to compromise with the Japanese born abroad (who in the eyes of the government are "not really Japanese") or Japanese who threw away their passport to live in other less stressful countries and give them dual citizenship, which means that there would be more workers and therefore more taxpayers, if they were to bring their kids, that means more daycares and schools, which means more jobs and therefore more taxpayers.... These solutions ARE REALLY SIMPLE!! The question is whether the old people in charge want to change for the better.....
Meshida san, this is another great video that points to the reasons Japan is in that marriage crisis. Yes, love seems to be a misunderstanding, but I still want to marry a japanese woman (if she can watch and understand your videos). Thanks for another great video.
This is very much the case in a certain large east Asian nation near Japan where they often complain about '996' which is short for 9am-to-9pm 6 days a week. Weirdly, that increases to compensate for holidays. (so, if there is 1 day off, workers must add more hours to the preceding weak) but here's the same thing as Meshida describes: 12 hours a day where they waste time, stall, play little kinds of confusion games to pretend they're solving a lot of problems, interchanging duties and responsibilities so nobody ever really knows who's doing what or not doing what and stalling off everything. I have never in my life seen so many people in a single office accomplishing so few things in so many long long days and hours. Without exaggerating, a typical Canadian version would be somewhere near 5X more efficient in half the total time in a day. Seriously.
Wow, in spite of cultural differences, human nature is really universal. I can't cite statistics, but my impression is that many if not most of your correlations are true right here in the USA.
I've love your perspective on Japanese society; It was so amazing to hear about matrimonial practices that are so common to India. We have almost all the same problems - Number of Male/Female births; expectations, love marriage ending but arranged marriages last 50 yrs; social credibility etc., I see a lot of unmarried or divorce people in US - I now believe marriage being optional is now gone global. This is very bad for demographics and overall health of Global economies.
There are "conspirative" theories that claim that they wanted to do it this way so we lose our cultures (both culturally and demografically) and are more easily controlled by superpowers or hidden global elites. What to do... some will survive and will start all over again. I shallowed the pill of "marriage is bad" and "traditional roles are bad" when younger and I am already paying the price for that. But anyway we'll make the most of what we get.
Meshida has discussed so much going wrong in a single video! Congratulations! This is the way of the world bringing population back into control. Ying Yang.
Very useful - Japan now on the way to becoming a country of just the elderly. Topic for a future video: where will all the young workers come from to support so many people collecting pensions?
This is humorous of course but also makes perfect common sense 👌 I will ask you for advice if I'm ever in romantic love again with a woman. Wish to all Buddhas and gods I knew 50 years ago the vanity of love! Actually humor does heal, Thank You!
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"Love is a misunderstanding." Truer words have never been spoken on the interweb.
Lol
Love is awareness of lack.
As a person from a country with low divorce rate (3%), I can't relate, and I don't want to relate.
Marriages planned wasn't just in Japan. I know that tradition was practiced in America as well as Europe in the past at least 100 years ago. I believe such Marriages aren't lacking in love. I think couples in planned Marriages will learn to love each other. But in the end it is a choice. There is no man who doesn't want help in finding a woman. I support planned marriage. Companies need to encourage it. Great video.
Marriage is a remnant structure from the days without birth control. It still has values nowadays but it's no longer for everyone. Marriage requires a lot of sacrifice and contains enormous risks. So everyone needs to do their due diligence and society should stop coercing young people into it.
I think the marriage problem is the same in America as in Japan. Fortunately I found a kind woman who thought I was fun to be with and didn’t care that I only had a part-time job and was short and ugly. We are now no longer poor, we both have white hair, and we are now even shorter than when we married. Most importantly, we still laugh together.
Personality is something that a lot of men dont think about it .
Also if you a good dancer , you score very pretty girls
@@robertsantiago953 *runs to the nearest dance center to sign up for dance classes*
@@robertsantiago953 i think many men do think about it, its usually western women who dont.
Not sure if serious...
Laughing together is very, very important!
"if you want a long lasting marriage, the most important thing is not love, it's peer pressure." Golden quote
Hundreds years ago family was necessary for survival, not mentioning the pressure. You lasted in marriage not because you liked your spouse (nice if it was so), but you both knew, that without the support of the family there was much greater probability of premature death. People living out of growing crops manually could work for maybe 20 years of their life. Without children at the age of 40 you were an elder person in the autumn of your life, unable to do any hard, physical work. You needed as many children as your wife could bear in her "prime years" - 16 - 28, to be your "pension" in your old age. Moreover, children were like two additional hands for work and only one mouth to feed. Today you can live like 80 - 100 years without ever getting married and having children. Hundreds years ago 80 years person was like a 120+ years now.
@@pokrec Sadly with this mindset, just like Meshida said, children will become endangered. Majority dont want to take risk of having kids > The population will crumble, labor shortage forcing them to import people from lesser developed countries > they start to settle there just like in western countries > Then ultimately, the native will become minority. If they dont change this.
@@audizul I am not concerned with who pees on my grave. Be it my national or other. I will be dead anyways.
@@pokrec ah okay, a nihilist. Thanks for existing and passing by in this lifetime. Id say RIP as your soul seem like its dead already.
@@audizul No, my soul is absolutely other thing. It will just be in other place, where nothing from earth matters. I just try my best to earn the eternity, like a monk. Children are not needed to save soul from this valley of tears. Having family actually is a handicap in this task.
By calculation, to meet the salary requirement of an average Japanese single woman, a guy needs to work hard until their 40s. The guy also needs to live frugally and be financially savvy. Also, the guy need to take care of his health to be sufficiently fertile by the time he actually gets married. Sounds like a lot of work for an average man. 2D girls will only ask for your attention lol
The real question is who really wants to do all of that just to have the access to extra baggage that weighs you down further?! Legs are strong but can only carry everything so far
@@timothyharris1125 There's just no benefits..lol
ANNNND they're starting to feel the freedom. I think it's not only a choice. It's likely to be a "trend"
2D>3d
No different here in America the older they get while they are single the higher there requirements become.
10:26 Don't worry Meshida-san, you are soon going to be a rich man and will be able to enter a sexless marriage because as devoted disciples, we watch your videos everyday . 🤣
Lol
Keep uploading meshida san.
Can you talk about young japanese man. Send to oversea office for work.
meshida trying to do comedy end up making really good points for forced marriage
I also want to marry a Japanese woman .
So strange my 40 yr old Japanese friend, whom I've known for 20 years, didn't want to marry me ,
I'm rich , not too old , not ugly
But instead she married a 75 yr old Japanese man whom she just met last week .
isnt it more like arranged marriage tho?
@@dongshengdi773 Dude, your name sound non japanese ( chinese? ) , you know the japanese...
@@dongshengdi773 rip friendzoned
@@dongshengdi773 he'll die, she'll get his money, and you can go after her again
Dear Meshida,
What you described is a global phenomenon. It is all okay. The only worrying part is that many single men in Eastern countries, like Japan, China, India etc, feel that they are missing out something (FOMO) because of not being able to get married, and many resort to ending their own lives. Poor souls, they don't realize that many men with toxic marriages, and even many divorced men, envy them and consider them to be lucky guys!
That’s due to a shortage of women
@@qjtvaddict It's actually a shortage of women with qualities to be good wives.
If only these men could realize how to make the most of the freedom of being single, marriage isn't the end all, be all it's being promoted to be. If these men earn a decent living, they have the resources to go out into the world and seek out adventures, experience new things, find a hobby and learn to enjoy life. In today's climate marriage brings a new set of hardship, women who demand more and offer less while bringing a load of excess emotional baggage for a man to have to deal with.
@@Phanbot01
Only the lucky ones go their own way and enjoy their blessings. A large number of men prefer to die as slaves. The reality is that marriage has always been a scam promoted by the elite to control the masses. Most men don't realize that they miss out NOTHING by not getting married. On the other hand, they would lose almost everything when they get divorced.
FOMO exists in Western countries as well. It was part of the reason why I made the mistake of getting married. Now I'm divorced...
My wife is Japanese. She has told me about this. Her issue was just wanting someone who wanted a family. Many in Japan don't want a family, for various different reasons.
Money my dude, you need a lot of money to raise a kid. Avg guys don't have that kind of money to spend and maintain a family
I want a family, she got any friends?
@@nullset2 kinda lol. She's actually kind of a Japanese unicorn in a way. Very extroverted, and didn't fit in very well in a collectivist society. I met her when I was stationed in Japan.
If you think money is the issue you believe the lies governments say. The poorest nations have the most kids. Money is not an issue.
@@AJM2408 Money is a issue but not in the way you think. Lack of money will cost your child to turn out wrong.
Although it’s under the comedy banner in reality it’s a very well researched presentation. Top excellent
I can easily imagine my former sociology professor saying the same exact things in one sleep-inducing boring hour since it's not delivered Meshida-san style.
Talking about serious social issues in a society where you are encouraged to hide your emotions and dont cause disruption in a comedy sketch, just brilliant. Seeing quite a few Japanese creators talking about social issues Japan is facing, lets hope something good comes out for people of Japan and politicians will be trying their best not to let that happen.
How to have people getting marriage is of paramount important for maintaining the population
The whole culture of social credibility of married men is not necessarily a good thing. How marriage (used to) give men credibility may be because a company would probably feel that a married man is less likely to quit because he has to support a family, but that also means the company knows it can push around married employees more easily. A single male employee who has plenty of savings can potentially say "the hell with you people, I'll take some time off to find a better job", whereas a married man just can't. A lot of my single male colleagues have actually done something similar to negotiate for a better condition. Many of them can afford to work less, so they negotiated for less work, though with a pay cut (which they don't mind), when they were being stressed out with the work load. The company would rather negotiate with them than to have to go through with hiring someone new and training them.
Exactly! Marriage has always been a scam promoted by the elite to control the masses.
This is what i have done. I`m a single man, with my own apartment and savings. I negotiated for working less, with a pay cut. And i work on comission so actualy my pay is the same. But i don`t need more money.
This is the problem with modern workplaces. They need you to work more, for money alot of people realy don`t need. So you can consume stuff you don`t need. When in reality couples in Japan don`t need more money but more time. That is time to live life, have sex, to get the children without beeing stressed out
Good point!
When I lost my job a few years ago, it turned out to be a big win-win for me: I didn't like that job anyway and I got rid of my toxic Japanese wife!
BTW I'd like to see an episode about divorce in Japan!
@@Ikaros23 Do a job you hate to buy stuff you don't need - this reminds me of a cool movie called Fight Club...
Well done!
I have not dared to negotiate for shorter work hours yet. I'll make savings until I do.
@@employee8449 " The things you own end up owning you". This way of thinking also seem`s Japanese in a way. That is that the materialistic things has a form of spirit/ghost, that can posess/control the owner. And in reality become the owner.
My boss only cares about the bottom line. So as long that i`m productiv in the hours i am at work he don`t care about the total amount of hours.
On a serious note, I totally agree on the "peer pressure" factor. "Love" can be argued to be a fleeting feeling, if you rely on love to sustain a relationship, it is very fragile. Peer pressure can lead to a sense of responsibility, a pressure to make things work. Sounds crude, but it's the reality.
And I love how you can use humour to show that conservative Japanese/Asian values and practices actually make sense. I need and miss the omiai marriage system, sadly.
same in Poland marriage rate drop down, but here enforce it law cuz for man get marriage is like sign the paper for lost half of your fortune, cuz when divorce, judges are almost always on women side you can even lost your home bcs she reported you to police (reason you use domestic violence, even if you didn't she don't need a proof and can by one word destroy your whole life), even after divorce she can go to the court for alimony bcs she's standard of life droped after divorced, and court will enforce you to pay like 250-2000$ per month to her, it's fcking sick.
I love even though your partner in comedy is not in the sketch you still include him.
This is the most informative channal on Japan and Japanese culture and people! I love it! I'm hooked on this channel!
LMAO That "LGBTQ+ was made to save the lives of miserable men" part really got me 😂
This was very interesting. I had a job interview today and was asked what salary I expect and I wasn't sure what to answer. Now I know what salary to ask for. Thank you
Research the salary for your specialty and ask for 80-90% of that. Tell them you didn’t ask for more than that since they don’t know you yet but you will prove yourself to them- your worth it!
@@johnhugo886 Why should he ask for less than his worth??? you should usually either say the exact figure or more than you expect and then accept a reduced "salary" version aka 120% rfeduced to 100%
asking for less salary is the worst advice you can give
@@aleyte1913 For new graduates asking for 80-90% is good advice.
If you have an experience for the job you are applying for it is usually best to aim 120%.
So many great quotes in this video.
Meshida, many thanks for yet another excellent video. Funny, but also an interesting deep dive into Japanese culture and history. Incidentally I suspect the trend can be found in many other countries and cultures around the world.
Only women, children and dogs are loved unconditionally. A man is only loved under the condition that he provides something - Chris rock
Not so. Can you think of one woman who is loved unconditionally with nothing to offer? Even children are expected to be obedient as long as they live with their parents. Dogs and cats need to fit the requirements as well.
Yet u guys want a hot free maid🙄
@@mayshusakuhanamurasufferli5438 you go to athome maid cafe in Akihabara and ask them for food and don't pay. They'll kick you out. Nothing is free, stop making up stuffs.
@@crysed7897 i know plenty of men who dont do anything at home yet eating their wife 's money
Those wives are stupid and despo for men
as a man i would say this is the most uneducated lines i usually come across with. everyone got a conditioned its not a bad thing either everyone deserves to choose the life they wish to live and for women there is tonnes of conditions to be loved unlike man whos sole condtions is that he earns it but for women she must be beautiful which is not even in her conrol, most importantly they need act like women defination and criteria of which is immeasurable and the list goes on. grow up man, try to be on other side or atleast talk with mother and sister how its like to be a women rather than commenting here like idoit.
Perfect explaination
Great video. I'm a huge Japanese music fan. Especially the All girl bands. Band Maid. Nemophila. Love Bites. Etc... But there also incredibly talented Jazz Blues and Pop artists. How Is it possible for one country to have so many women incredibly talented at music. Love your channel. 😊😎✌️
Again... A perfectly summed up video on the topic no one talks about!
#Respect
This is gold.
5:02 Ken-San Cameo was so unexpected! 🤣🤣
yeah, nice sidekick!!! love them!
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Ken Ojii-san's cameo is the most important part of this video 🤣
As a single middle aged man I fit into this Japanese stereotype but it does seem like many Americans successfully still get married somehow. I wonder if the overtime work culture in Japan contributes to the low marriage rate. Who has time to date and get married when they’re always working?
Well, that makes sense. To make babies, you have to have some energy.
many Americans successfully get divorced too
Meshida-san: Truths about Japan
Konichiwa! I love how you put it so simply and hit the nail on the head and better explain the issues. And so hilarious at that. Very informative though.
The pop-up of Ken Suzuki again caught me by surprise. Hilarious. The LP analysis is quite true, which indeed applies to the rest of the world. Good info 👍
Thank You Meshida for these videos. I plan on visiting many countries for longer periods of time in the future and you never know what may happen. The older I get the more I realize it’s important to make a type of list where you write down everything that you would like to have when you and your partner are married, so for example you often say sexless marriages are common, so on my list would be enough sex in marriage and if the partner isn’t okay with that I’m not gonna marry her. I mean good woman here or there but if it leads to a sexless marriage then all I can say is Goodbye.
Thank you for your info. Many countries actually still do 'omiai' in a certain sense. It's actually called mama matchmaking networking service. The goal is simple - verify matching economic status, education and criminal record.
"This income problem between men and women will be fixed in the near future, because all Japanese people will be poor soon!" Definately! More Japanese youth also decided to find job overseas, especially in ASEAN countries and Australia.
Meshida is right because Japan is going broke.😊👎
At the same time more foreigners including ASEAN people and Australians are moving to Japan though 😂
No skipping of ads as a support ❤❤❤
5:01 Why did you do my man Suzuki like that?! LOL! I learned a lot, thank you!
Please subscribe his channel. lol
I promoted his channel!!!!
Love how this is funny and educational.
Thanks!
素晴らしい, very good content
I do want to marry a woman later in life, but considering that im just shy of 21, especially with how volatile the dating scene is in the U.S., maybe even worldwide, finding a woman to marry is quite the task and it’s better for me and I daresay most other men to focus on themselves over women. Including myself I think a lot of us men would be happier living out our own lives and not trying to please everyone else.
Try to find someone from outside the US. I feel like that would be better in the long run
21? You have so much living to do, don’t stress about relationships now.
Do find one though. At the end kids are needed.
Well researched, informative and funny too. Keep up the good work.
Really OMOSHIROI, what u've said is true ..i subscribed‼️😍
Thank you, Sensei Meshida! Your video reminded me to be depressed 😢.
This is a brilliant and comprehensive explanation of your marriage culture Meshida San! Really enjoyed it!
I think the issue that’s going on around the world, is the belief that “Love” is purely an emotion. It’s actually, a combination of emotion and action. So, commitment, respect, passion, and connection. If people focus purely on the emotion aspect, problems occur. If one focuses primarily on the commitment aspect, you lose the other valuable things and just learn to tolerate each other. I think the key is balance. With this said, marrying for “Love” is not bad, it depends on if you define it correctly. I wouldn’t recommend marrying purely based on emotions. I think of my parents marriage being one of genuine love, being that they don’t rely on emotion, but also don’t rely on commitment, they strive for a healthy balanced relationship. I believe most people who seek marriage are seeking this. Finding it is really hard.
With this being said, I personally, wouldn’t want a marriage that centred on emotions or purely commitment based. And I definitely don’t care for arranges marriages. I hate the idea of spending my life with someone I don’t like, nor am I in love with him and will be even harder to learn how to love. If I’m going to marry, I have to like him, be in love with him and have to know that he’s someone I’m can to learn how love over time. I hate wasted time and don’t want to look back over my life and regret many things.
May the algorithm bless this channel
I believe marriage should be more than love! It is a partnership!
Your explanation is way too good.
81% of japanese young adults earn less than 40k USD? Considering the cost of living in Japan, that's pretty tough
Meshida san, your videos are good, thank you!
Great explanation
Meshida u are so interesting. Good jokes n very charismatic...
Well done sir, well done and all with a smile and the ocassional wink . . .
very interesting video!
This one is really good. Lots of really funny humor! Really explains the sociology too. Much better than those awful NY Times articles lol
Good job Meshida.
Excelent video.
A well researched video. It's (content) seems credible.
There must be a lot of wizards lol, but seriously thank you for the vid. I'm not a fan of marriage and in the past it had a real reason as you've mentioned...but nowadays with the way divorce works, not actually sure if it works that way in Japan...being unhappy can lead to a one sided windfall. I do realize this is a more complex issue and this is a small window.
Honestly you've made some videos that are giving extra insight.
Thank you Meshida!
Wizards? Please elaborate
Rest assured, brother, divorce works exactly the same way in Japan, as in the West. As far as I know, the modern Japanese legal system was mostly inspired by the French legal system.
@@Drevenhaven They say if you make it to 30 without boinking you're a wizard in japan...most likely a meme honestly
@@AndroidTheLeader I...I hope people only marry now if they want to after a full risk assessment
@@Sin606
You mean, women should get married after a full risk assessment, right? Because, for men, the writing is clear on the wall, ALL OVER THE WORLD, unless they choose to fool themselves.
Nice narration meshida
Nice story. Nice video.
enjoyed the detailed explanations and comedy 👌🏿😄😆
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Not Ken!!!! The insults never cease between you two 😂😂😂😂
No matter what the topic being discussed is, I always come to the same conclusion; poverty is the root of all that's shit in the world 😬
Human nature is the root of all human troubles in the world
I don't know what happened to my last reply. I think I said Omimai was a great idea since there are less marriages in Japan and the country is suffering. I love Japan. And I hope it will increase it's population. I myself practice Shinto and Zen Buddhism. And like I said before I love this video. ❤
You are correct when you say " Women marry for Money "
And when a man has nothing left for a woman to steal she walks out the door.
Then what else a man can do? Most men dont take care of kids, dont cook, dont clean lmao
Ask him to live as leech?
@@mayshusakuhanamurasufferli5438 American men do all those things. it's the women who are LEECHES .
Good point!!!
@@Meshida are you an incel?
I've always wondered why Japanese love asking foreigners "Are you married?". They ask this a lot and it is not a personal question at all in Japan. It's similar to "How are you?". I guess now they won't be asking this question much to foreigners and Japanese in the future since many will be not married.
Same to S Koreans
good video
Very good video thanks
You're info bomb punchlines are on point today...
X'D
I really appreciated the part where you say that love is a temporary emotion. If not even a misunderstanding. Also, the part about marriage being like a rollercoaster.
Just a point of clarity, Meshida san; there are probably more women than men (globally, cumulatively speaking).
Here, in southern Africa, for example; a population of ten million people will normally contain 500 000 more women than men. We men are sometimes being encouraged to marry two women each.
Unfortunately, the phenomenon of single men is also growing. Not because we are too shy. But, actually because marriage is increasingly becoming too much of a hassle. Moreover, it is being viewed as tipping more in favour of women (legally).
We have never had a one child policy here. Furthermore, and because we are former western colonies, we don't really care that much, whether a pregnancy is that of a boy or girl. There are still those very few men, here; who leave their wives, if the wife churns out only girls (but, it is no longer such a big deal. The extended family will ensure that the girls get an education anyway).
Greatly appreciated the appearance of Mr Suzuki!
Not only in japan. Owing to skyrocketing cost of living, so many young adults are afraid to get marry as they’re afraid they won’t be able to provide for their children
So essentially what you're saying is that the key to a great relationship is having lowered expectations on both sides?
The way this man describes about dangers is so funny 😂😂😂
Jokes plus truth, this is an amazing comedy. Love it!
The more clearly you understand yourself and your emotions, the more you become a lover of what is.
There is a full web of problems too:
- everything getting expensive -> don't want kids
- overtime -> no time to go on dates/spend more time with their partners, etc
The solution?
The culture itself needs to change/evolve because PRIDE IS NOT NECESSARY for things like that:
- less overtime? more freedom to go on dates and stuff
- less stress? less dying/suiciding, more time to go on dates
- too expensive to want to get married and ultimately have kids? no overtime -> no stress -> no dying/no suiciding -> more taxpayers -> more money to help make things cheaper
As it stands, the remaining young people are just working to pay the old people's pension, the more young people die, the few taxpayers Japan has to help maintain stuff
So the other solution to that is increasing the population but Japan "does not want immigrants" (only temp workers from overseas lol) so they need to compromise with the Japanese born abroad (who in the eyes of the government are "not really Japanese") or Japanese who threw away their passport to live in other less stressful countries and give them dual citizenship, which means that there would be more workers and therefore more taxpayers, if they were to bring their kids, that means more daycares and schools, which means more jobs and therefore more taxpayers....
These solutions ARE REALLY SIMPLE!! The question is whether the old people in charge want to change for the better.....
OMG 💓 😲 I laughed a lot watching this video that is describing more than a Japanese phenomenon...but an Asian one! (Even global, as you mentioned!)
Meshida san, this is another great video that points to the reasons Japan is in that marriage crisis. Yes, love seems to be a misunderstanding, but I still want to marry a japanese woman (if she can watch and understand your videos). Thanks for another great video.
I'm surprised to see how low salaries are in Japan. I broke the $50k mark recently in the army and it surprises me that I out earn 80% of men there.
Fear Or Love
Death Or Life
Yin Or Yang
Meshida for president!
This is very much the case in a certain large east Asian nation near Japan where they often complain about '996' which is short for 9am-to-9pm 6 days a week. Weirdly, that increases to compensate for holidays. (so, if there is 1 day off, workers must add more hours to the preceding weak) but here's the same thing as Meshida describes: 12 hours a day where they waste time, stall, play little kinds of confusion games to pretend they're solving a lot of problems, interchanging duties and responsibilities so nobody ever really knows who's doing what or not doing what and stalling off everything. I have never in my life seen so many people in a single office accomplishing so few things in so many long long days and hours. Without exaggerating, a typical Canadian version would be somewhere near 5X more efficient in half the total time in a day. Seriously.
You don't need the subtitles, Meshida san. Every study combined with personal experience says that women do not marry down.
5:02-5:10 You and Ken Suzuki made my day. I cant stop laughing 😂🤣
Money is the key to starting a family. With low wages a young man can only provide for himself.
Mesh idea, I want to visit an onsen, pls recommend one in a natural spring! A
I as Leo want to visit the pearl culture
such great and intelligent video Meshida-san 👍🏻👍🏻
That's great thanks for the information 😊 bro
Hey, Meshida! Were you at Harry’s Sandwich Company last week?
Wow, in spite of cultural differences, human nature is really universal. I can't cite statistics, but my impression is that many if not most of your correlations are true right here in the USA.
I've love your perspective on Japanese society; It was so amazing to hear about matrimonial practices that are so common to India. We have almost all the same problems - Number of Male/Female births; expectations, love marriage ending but arranged marriages last 50 yrs; social credibility etc.,
I see a lot of unmarried or divorce people in US - I now believe marriage being optional is now gone global. This is very bad for demographics and overall health of Global economies.
There are "conspirative" theories that claim that they wanted to do it this way so we lose our cultures (both culturally and demografically) and are more easily controlled by superpowers or hidden global elites. What to do... some will survive and will start all over again. I shallowed the pill of "marriage is bad" and "traditional roles are bad" when younger and I am already paying the price for that. But anyway we'll make the most of what we get.
Mr. Meshida is funny because he knows that the truth is always funny. 👍🏻😂
You are an inspiration Mr. Meshida 😖😂🤣😆😣😑😤. The truth is funnier than the Disney happy ending that we all we're raised to believe
Meshida San, I was wondering: how on earth can you like and comment on so many of your viewers' comments? It must take you all day, every day!
Meshida has discussed so much going wrong in a single video! Congratulations! This is the way of the world bringing population back into control. Ying Yang.
Very useful - Japan now on the way to becoming a country of just the elderly.
Topic for a future video: where will all the young workers come from to support so many people collecting pensions?
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This is humorous of course but also makes perfect common sense 👌 I will ask you for advice if I'm ever in romantic love again with a woman. Wish to all Buddhas and gods I knew 50 years ago the vanity of love! Actually humor does heal, Thank You!