All America's CRAZY Things That Shock Japanese People In 4 Minutes
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yassssss!!
when will you visit India!? India fans might be waiting for you!
What American state you go too, because you may get different experience from different states
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"If you make eye contact with someone in the city they might approach you like they do in Pokemon" is absolutely the perfect way to put it.
Only forgot to mention: you will not fight with your pokemon and can’t run away.
Crackhead wants to fight!
"I Like Shorts! They're Comfy and Easy to Wear!" then fights you.
If you lose you have to pay them money too.
What's worse about this, isn't that they may be on drugs, but the fact that you'll end up having to listen to their entire life story for hours on end with no escape.
One more rule for the police in America: if you're driving and get pulled over, do NOT get out of your car. There's a real chance they'll pull their guns on you for that. Stay in the car and wait for the officer to walk up to your window
Yes, and keep your hands on the steering wheel, don't start digging around in your car. When I was a teenager I got pulled over for speeding--I had turned onto a street that was a school zone and I didn't realize it--and after pulling over I got out of the car and started trying to explain my mistake. The police officer was very nice about it but told me, in the future, they really like it if you stay in the car.
99% of police officers are very kind, decent, and helpful people but they have to deal with ALL KINDS of crazy stuff on a day to day basis. When they meet somebody they don't know if you're also a kind and decent person or if you're a violent felon. So they want to see your hands, and if you need to get something from your pocket or backpack, say what you're doing first.
Also, you have the right to remain silent, do not talk to the police.
@@joshcarter-com
it's more like 80% of police officers, there are quite a lot of bad apples and they all cover for each other. actually entire stations can be corrupt so you really gotta be careful if you are not white. have a dashcam or something, they cost very little and can keep the facts on your side for when body cams "randomly" turn off.
that or just record with your phone, don't take the chance. yes most are fine but there are enough bad ones to warrant that kind of behavior.
@@dattebenforcer
>get pulled over for breaking the law. [speeding]
>cops asks basic questions.
>remain silent, its my right.
>WOAH WOAH WOAH, WHY AM I GETTING DRAGGED OUT OF THE CAR, AIEEEEEEE
thanks.
@@Usersunitedyour not allowed to ignore giving registration and name.
As an American, I instantly knew what was happening in all of these lol, when I saw the hand in pocket I was like "oh no, the cop's gonna think he had a gun" and omg the table thing is so true. But #4 is mainly a generational thing, most people don't care if you eat when you get your food unless they're older. #5 too, nowadays people say "I have to use the bathroom" but yeah talking about what you're doing in there is gross
I'm not old (22) and I think it's rude to start eating before everyone has their food. It's not a cardinal sin, but it's a courtesy thing.
@@argent790 so in other words you're southern
@@idkrossplay Midwestern, but close enough.
@@argent790 Often times in large parties (15+ people), it's rare for all of it to be served all at once. So if you happen to get your food served first, you might have wait 5-10 min before everyone else finally gets their food served. In cases like these it's actually polite for people who haven't been served yet to say "Go ahead and start without us", so you don't have to eat cold food.
@@idkrossplay I live in CA, in the Bay and I also think it's rude to eat before everyone gets their food. 26 y/o for context. i always wait, even when with friends.
As an American, advice for visitors based on my experience:
2: It’s okay to make eye contact with strangers, just be cautious of people who seem…off
4: It’s probably okay to eat before everyone’s food arrives; don’t want your food getting cold! Just check whatever everyone else is doing for social queues.
5: Just politely say “I’m going to the restroom, I’ll be right back.” No need to be crude, especially in a restaurant, but it’s probably better to explain where you’re going.
It’s probably because he was in a different part of America since it’s so diverse. Like all those things are true where I live except the last part because it really depends what kind of person you are and if it’s family. I typically just go to the bathroom without telling someone and others just say it or be specific about it. Anyways it definitely depends on where in the US.
@@bituinl Yes, this is just based on my experience. Although I think wherever you are in the U.S, it’s better to say “restroom” or “lady’s/men’s room” rather than “bathroom.”
The food thing is a regional thing for sure, where I live if you start eating before everyone else you will be seem as incredibly rude and arrogant.
I'm from the south and its seen as rude if you eat before others get their meals.
@@hunterlawrence3573huh? No, they’re interchangeable??
The last one is kinda true! In the US is common to in a low casual voice to say "Im going to the bathroom, I'll be right back" but not to say "Im going to pee" or anything specific. With business partners or friends, "I'll be right back" is more customary and more formal. With family or closer friends it's actually just as important to announce where you're going as it is in Japan!
Agreed. Closest friends it’s more like “I’ll be right back, I gotta take a massive dump” lol
I live on the west coast and we often say "I'm going to go use the restroom, I'll be right back" with everyone in all formal and non-formal situations
The only people who are comfortable going into detail with me about WHAT they are going to do in the bathroom are my dad (he is a blunt and jovial individual who doesn't care about being rude) and my closest of friends when we are already joking around
sometimes saying something euphemistic like "gotta use the little boys/girls room" or "hit the head" is acceptable. A lot of times, I just say "going to wash my hands real quick"
Same, unless I'm tryna say it in a way to make a buddy laugh
@@zibbyboneMy favorite is " dropping the boys off at the pool"
I’m down for more Sora does American social norms 😂
Same here!
i agree
It's his homeland after all, of course he knows a lot about America
Same
I mean lol for the first one putting ur hands in ur pockets to take something out when normally talking to police officers is a misconception believing that cops are just white people who are extremely serious when a lot are just actually chill if u just ask them stuff
Even as an American, Sora can experience cultural shock when being at home too
One of the weirdest experiences I had with a tourist was this Japanese guy who came to visit this rose garden that's actually fairly well renowned(I lived nearby so I went to visit often) and he practically came running up to me to talk about the rose garden and roses themselves and I just kinda stood there not knowing wtf was going on and before I could ask a question he practically went "well anyway bye!!! Nice talking to you!" And took off. It was so bizarre and the only thing I could figure is he maybe was either flirting and I was too dumb to notice or(more likely) he thought that was maybe a normal thing here. He was nice but admittedly kind of confusing.
Honestly I wish we could all be so friendly with one another
Oh yeah they'll do that, they'll like initiate a convo and then just bail out, same with you initiating conversation with them. Especially if they're a stranger/you're a stranger to them. They just bail out real fast. Basically, they're feigning interest. But they don't actually want to be having a conversation. Not all Japanese obviously, but I dod experience it a few times while visiting Japan lmao. Others are more interested in holding an actual convo and will keep asking questions until a comfortable silence settles over you both when you both feel satisfied with the conversation.
@@TopAnimeLoverEver That's so bizarre, if you don't want a conversation then don't randomly initiate one? 😭
@@Omnihiloits could be them feeling like the conversation is a norm they should follow.
@@aurum7695 Yeah, I considered that but… like in OP’s example for instance, he just randomly came “practically” running up to her, completely unprompted? 😭 It still makes no sense.
The gum thing happened to me in a Korean restaurant in the US, but it was the underside of the chair and not the table. It was so gross. I'm still grossed out til this day. Another weird food thing is that if sharing food, like an appetizer, it's rude to take the last bit unless you ask if people want it first. I've seen people leave one fry on a plate sooooo many times cause no one wanted to be rude and take the last fry.
maaaaaaan, gimme that last fry. my stomach ain't got time for these games! lol
Idk how its like with friends cause I don't have any, but with my family, if we're out at a restaurant, its an all out battle on who gets the last bit of an appetizer. Whoever snatches it first gets it.
The hell you guys eating at??
That sounds like those friends are insane???
@@drive2160 Does matter where you eat at. Check for it the next time you’re out to dinner amongst new acquaintances, colleagues, or strangers
@@thinktransnational I work in different job fields as a job hopper I’ve gone through many jobs more than the average person I’ve gone to different states none of my coworkers that I hanged out with cared about such things
the gum under the table one is actually hilarious and so true. i didnt even think about it until now but i learned very young to NEVER EVER feel the underside of public tables bc god knows who put what down there
Ditto. I don't even think about touching the underside of the table now. I'm sure it's not as bad as they used to be, but yeah, the chewing gum era did us dirty in the States
Even worse, you might find the dried up remains of some nose goblins some kid left under there.
Him saying he liked it because it was soft cracked me up🤣
I dont see anyone chewing gum, ever, yet somehow its still on sidewalks and under tables
Also, who cleans the underside of tables? Everyone’s knees and who knows what has been touching it for years.
As someone who lived in Japan and talked to many Japanese who visited the US, I’d recommend trying to also visit some cities other than New York or L.A. Most Japanese I talked to only visited those cities and the rest of the US can be VERY different (for instance, smaller cities or towns its considered normal to look at other people and even greet strangers). Unfortunately, gum stuck on the bottom of the tables is a thing everywhere. On rare occasions I forget and accidentally touch gum under the tables. 😅 It’s so gross.
Cities in general in the US are not that glamorous. We've existed for less than 300 years as a nation. If you want to tour the US, the nature is definitely the premier attraction. And I'm a history nerd.
we don't even consider places like New York or LA to be part of America
@@kingmasterlord lol, that's a good way of thinking of it. As the years have passed the biggest cities in the US have gotten further and further from being reasonable and civilized. Many people are fleeing big cities in favor of smaller cities and towns.
Genuinely so glad someone said it because when I was watching this, I was like “oh my god I make random eye contact with strangers all the time and that’s not usually a concern have I been living under a rock?!?” But not quite… just the suburbs. LMAO!
Gum under desk is only in school, mostly terrible school. No one do that in restaurant unless that person is an idiot, they put it on a piece of napkin.
With the toilet one, it has always been my experience (as an American) that it's fine to say "I need to use the restroom/bathroom" or "Excuse me Im going to the restroom/bathroom".
“I need to wash my hands” is a good excuse.
Yeah, he said “I’m going to take a sh*t” which is too much information, but “I’m going to the bathroom” is fine
True, people can feel awkward by you saying this, depends upon the group your with.
Bruh, anyone would feel awkward if you announce your bowel movements to the entire fucking restaurant.
"HEY!!! IMA GO AND DESTROY THE TOILET!!! RIGHT NOW!!!"
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@@SonjaHand yea it definitely depends on the group. with close friends we can definitely say, brb i gotta go take shit.
I really hope you enjoyed your time in America. I promise it varies from state to state and even city to city, what behavior is considered rude weird or dumb. Thank you for coming. Your videos are very educational and really funny.😊
I think so too. I’m guessing you probably checked out the western states on the coast, but the Great Lakes are really beautiful and Michigan has lots of pleasant places to visit like Mackinaw island and Frankenmuth and all the orchards and flower gardens. Plus we have really big farms for blueberries and strawberries and everything else really that you can go and pick yourself. I would recommend visiting mid to late summer just when all the berries are ready to be picked and it’s comfortably warm for people not from the area, if you want to see snow though, I’d suggest eastern Michigan near the Saginaw county around the middle of January and you can see the farms and trees just covered in snow and it’s like a painting. Plus the lakes freeze over. In any case I really love videos where we get to see what other cultures think of what we do and the same in reverse so thank you for making this.
#4 is really more of a formal thing. Like family dinners and what not. But at a restaurant, nobody really cares for the most part since it isn't uncommon for one or mutlple meals to be ready like 10 minutes after yours, so it's actually kind to let the people who get served first eat first, or say, "Go ahead and start without me/us" so they can enjoy their food while it's hot. #5 You can say, "I’m going to use the bathroom" but nobody wants to know what you're doing in there, especially if it's shitting.
Restaurants are supposed to bring all the food for the table out at the same time. At least, this is the case in full service restaurants. If you order at the counter then it's understandable.
@@kaedatigerAt the restaurants I have been to, that has not been the case most of the time. I think it must be a more swanky place if they are really careful about the timing. Or more strict rules for their employees.
@@aiiiia9971 I've pretty much never eaten at the fancy places. Usually when I eat at a family dining place with 2-4 people at the table they manage to bring the food out at the same time or close to the same time. I haven't eaten at national chain restaurants in a few years though so maybe those ones don't process the whole ticket in one go since people go there to drink and don't really care about the food.
@@kaedatigerIf you’re eating at a restaurant and they bring out two peoples meals first and then another two people’s five minutes later, that’s still not at the same time. Yet a couple minutes is pretty common, especially with large parties
@@hunterlawrence3573 Larger parties are a whole different beast. If your table is 2-4 people all on the same ticket then it shouldn't be too difficult to get them out at the same time. 5 minutes is also not a long time to wait. I wouldn't shame anyone for eating because we all have different backgrounds, but I would wait because that's what I was taught as a kid is the polite thing to do.
The no eye contact thing definitely depends on where you are. In smaller cities and towns, or in rural areas, people are *much* more friendly, and they *will* say hello to random strangers. Avoiding eye contact makes you look unfriendly. []
Or the southern US.
Nobody tours small towns though.
True enough they were my favorite to come across when trucking especially when it came to southern gals.. lol@@CrizzyEyes
He probably made eye contact with blacks.
@@CrizzyEyesWhich sucks, cuz people like to generalize America as a place with crazy people with guns on drugs everywhere when that's like only two/three cities (LA and New York City, Chicago).
I experienced the gum under table thing once in highschool and never touched under a table anywhere outside my home again.
Same experience. I'd like to think my reaction is exaggerated, but some people are so gross, and have no respect for other people's property.
It was back in elementary school, for me. Now, you could put a nuclear bomb under there and I wouldn't know.
Agreed. It got so bad at one school I was at that gum was outright banned in classrooms, was allowed in common areas though (the school hallways were outside).
This shows how safe and clean Japan is compared to the rest of the world. I remember a time in Tokyo where a customer had left their bag on the table unsupervised and All I could think is "That's gonna get stolen so fast." Went in, had drinks and dinner with family and maybe 50 minutes later the bag was still there, untouched, in TOKYO.
There are bars where, when you get up to use the bathroom, you leave your phone to let people know you're saving that spot
To be fair, being safer than USA is low hanging bar, i live in Poland and i feel endlessly more safe there than when i was on trip to USA
I was impressed how clean the streets are even in a huge city like Tokyo. Very respectful culture they have.
That's why they can have beer in vending machines. One out here wouldn't last a day.
Clean yes. Safe just means boring.
Number 4 and 5 can be disputed due to who you're with. Number 4 is normally if you're with a group that may be heavily religious or traditionalist. Number 5 just depends on who you're with as most people will either say, "I'll be right back" or "I'm gonna go head to restroom real quick." Though since I'm in the US Navy I'll tend to slip "I'm going to go use the head real quick" while I'm in civilian clothing and with friends. They look at me confused for a second sometimes.
I've never heard "use the head" in my entire life
@@deleteme924The restroom on a boat is called a head
I wouldn't say heavily. It's common courtesy to wait till everybody has their food before eating and helps avoid the awkwardness of one person being done with their food while another still has a bunch to eat. It's really more a matter of formality. If you're with people you know well who don't care, then do what you like. If it's a more formal setting or group, then you should wait and be patient. Group size also affects this. If it's a huge gathering, with long wait times for everyone's serving, you're probably okay to start eating if multiple people already have their food. If it's a smaller formal gathering, then just wait till everyone has a plate or chew on some bread in the meantime.
Being American myself, I want to say this is great entertainment and it made me smile. Thanks a bunch.
For those that are not American and are worried about social rules, it tends to vary state by state so don't worry too much about being impolite. I'm in New York and most people in the cities don't care unless you're a danger to the public.
My family had an exchange student from Japan stay with us for a few months when I was a kid. One cultural difference I remember was in America, we consider it rude to make slurping noises while eating soup. In Japan making some sounds while eating soup is actually considered a complement to the chef. I also have a memory of the exchange student being weirded out by oatmeal for some reason. 😂
Exact same in italy, that one's most likely a westVSeaat thing more than japan vs america
Weirded out by oatmeal but somehow natto aka rotten beans is okay maybe it a him problem
I wonder if misophonia is less common in Japan, then. I have misophonia and lots of noise people make while they eat just stresses me out. I try as hard as possible to eat without making noise
@@iiliiliiliil3444 nowadays they call it ASMR
In China, they slurp to cool the food before it hits the mouth.
It's also important to remember how different everywhere in the US is. Making eye contact in NYC is usually considered a bad idea, but in the midwest you can literally just talk to somebody for hours that you literally just saw. Seriously, one time at my job I was helping a man find something and somehow spent half an hour talking about the dairy industry?? I wasn't even interested until he started telling me about it. Around here you should absolutely make eye contact and even smile at people when you can.
Yeah, I think in any bigger city you should not make eye contact, but in small towns it's almost rude *not* to. Where I live we're masters of the "nod and smile" as we walk by each other on a sidewalk or hiking trail. However, in busy places like grocery stores, we try to ignore each other as much as possible.
People don't realize just how huge the USA is. Like they think they can vacation here for a week and see the white house, central park, Disneyland, and the grand canyon.
You’re definitely right about that. What’s considered “normal” is significantly different EVERYWHERE in the USA. I wouldn’t necessarily make eye contact too much in San Francisco, but in Santa Rosa? No big deal.
Yeah..... But that kinda friendliness usually only applies to white people...
Depends where you are in the Midwest. If I'm inside of a store or elevator, I will usually crack a polite smile and even strike up conversation. If I see someone standing around in a parking lot or on a sidewalk (they stay in the same spot), I am going to avoid them entirely. They are usually tweakers. We get a lot of them around the railroad tracks and highways (nearby buildings), and especially in parking lots. Just the other day I went to a restaurant and in the parking lot some guy (who was very obviously on drugs) stared at me as I walked by and then he yelled something about how he hates people. It was a little scary tbh but I mostly felt bad for him. I only saw him staring at me thanks to my excellent peripheral vision, but I imagine if I had made direct eye contact with him that he would've tried to hurt me (which I am grateful he didn't).
A lot of the Midwest has an issue with addiction (and quite a lot of meth too, I've known people personally who lost themselves to it). I know how to spot a tweaker, but for the most part yeah, we do strike up a lot of friendly conversation out here.
I love how he uses the word “ignorant” way more accurately than the average native speaker.
I didn’t know it can be used as a noun
Lol he is a native speaker. He's not actually Japanese
@@gorilla-san Real
@@gorilla-sanyou what...
@@gorilla-sannot sure where you got that misinformation. Directly from his bio: “I'm fluent in both English and Japanese, but I was born and raised in Japan.”
I’m glad you enjoyed your time in America! And I wouldn’t worry about any “mistakes”, half of the locals probably don’t remember them either most of the time lol.
Dude this definitely needs a part two! You nailed it
The first rule is the most important one to know. As an American I've broken all these "rules" except for the first, whatever you do just don't make quick movements in front of police
If that where true then the police would be sued to oblivion over rated comment like most of these so call rules.
@@southcoastinventors6583 Unfortunately people get guns and tasers pulled on them a lot for this and cops sometimes get sued for it (mostly when the person their pointing at gets hit) - look up "Police officer who fatally shot sobbing man temporarily rehired to apply for pension" the body cam footage is in the article.
@@southcoastinventors6583Hahaha, good joke. Even when American police get sued, most of them get to walk freely again. There are no serious repercussions for them.
Always love it when Americans don't even know how their own country works.
@@southcoastinventors6583 Based on this comment, I really hope that English is not your primary language.
@@InfiniteDeckhandusually if the police get sued, it's the police department, and therefore the local taxpayers, that pay, not individual cops.
Surprised you didn't also mention tipping culture, as apparently it's not really a thing in Japan. Also never get caught without any equivalent of traveler's insurance in case you ever get into a hospital.
You'd be surprised how cheap it is for someone traveling with no insurance. My friend from Australia broke his foot and the bill was barely over $100. They change the prices. Also if you're going back home they can't really pursue a large debt if you don't live here.
@@digiwatt In Canada, they just tell you to kill yourself to save them the hassle of giving you the medical care you need in a timely manner.
ITs not a thing in 99% of the world.
I went to an American hospital in the late 00s. They charged me $300 for a cup of water & for the privilage to sit in their lobby for an hour to fill out paperwork.
Yes! If you are not in the USA and want to travel here, check all your country's travel advisories and take them seriously. Keep in mind what diseases are prevalent in the US and be sure to be immunized. Make sure you have traveler's insurance.
The eye contact thing depends on the demographic you're around or culture of the area you're in. In many situations, not making eye contact instills a sign of disrespect, a lack of confidence, or a sign of social anxiety.
if you're in a conversation, eye contact is expected, but this was specifically about seeing a stranger out in public
Unless I need to actively talk with a person, I'm not making eye contact, and my nerves start working their way towards fight-or-flight responses if someone I have zero interest in talking with has been staring at me for too long.
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In large US cities, especially in the North, people tend not to make eye contact in the street because it is seen as invading someone else's personal space. Cities are crowded and people are often physically closer to each other than is comfortable so avoiding eye contact is a way to give others space mentally and allow the illusion of privacy. In small towns, it's often the opposite. Because there aren't many people around, making eye contact and giving a slight smile or head nod is a sign of friendliess. It's exhausting if you have to acknowledge thousands of people per day when you're trying to concentrate on your own thoughts (city) but it's not much of an effort to do that with a handful of people (small town).
In America you don't make eye-contact with strangers. With friends or acquaintances whom you're talking to, different story. Plus, you occasionally look away, then make eye-contact again. Keeping constant eye-contact is seen as very creepy or disturbing.
Dude, if I were to meet you in person, I'd totally hang out with you. Hopefully your experience in America wasn't trashy or rough, glad you made it back home safely.
This is funny asf. Videos like this are good reminders that sometimes the things were exposed to in our culture here in the states on a daily basis really is kinda weird/crazy. Everything we deal with is just considered “normal.” But in the eyes of other people, they provide insight as outsiders looking in.
Number 2 hurts me so bad... I went to Japan and wound up chatting with some Japanese people and they asked me about the drug epidemic in the US. Saying something like "Is it really like they're all zombies?" It was so shameful that our drug problem is THAT widespread.
Have you never been to the US? The drug abuse problem is bad, especially compared to somewhere like Japan, but to the point of saying "everyone is a zombie?" No. You may find the occasional whacked out junkie (depending on what area you're in) but you aren't going to find people like that in every single place you go or anything, especially not in tourist areas.
Maybe you shouldn't do drugs.
Funnily enough, drug epidemics are only rampant in certain states.
That are run by a certain progressive political party.
DO YOU LIVE IN SAN FRANCISCO?
@@deenzmartin6695 LMAO, I live near Portland. So it's even worse where I live than in San Francisco. But yes, for the most part, the drug problem isn't THAT bad.
Besides, I'm a libertarian; people should be able to do what they want, even if it's self-detrimental.
When I visited America I noticed a lot of small black circles on the ground, it's in Chicago, New York, Washington DC, everywhere and I don't know what they are so I asked my friend.
I was told that the black circles are chewing gum solidified and collected so much dirt that they become black circles permanently stuck to the ground.
Yep, unfortunate but true
True. And if a city wants to get rid of them, city workers have to come and pressure wash them off with special equipment.
I live in America and even I didn't know what they were. That's Nasty.
This was fun, most of it applies well to Canada since culturally we are so similar to the USA. It’s pretty normal to announce that you are going to the bathroom even in restaurants, however do not go into details about what you will be doing in the bathroom. Also if you visit Canada, don’t suddenly put your hands in your pocket around our police either, they will likely think you are going for a knife.
It's Canada, not the UK.
@@sanjeev.rao3791Name Canada's monarch.
@@Peannlui that Charles guy? Still don't consider him a king. That title should've died with the queen, Canada isn't as linked to the monarchy as the UK is. Not sure what your non sequitur of a comment is for.
Yeah I definitely can confirm all of those except the restaurant one. It's normal to say "I'm gonna go to the washroom", at least in Ontario.
In most countries it's pretty normal to say you're going to the washroom, but in France you won't precise if it's number 1 or 2 either.
I had a Japanese travel group of about 7-8 people visit the ice cream shop I worked at. We also had some local food options. I pulled our manager to the side and told her that they would probably ask if we had family style meals (we did not). We accommodated them the best we could and they had a great time! At the end taking their ice cream orders was a little hard but most of them enjoyed what the got.
The pretending to be octopus thing is kinda funny to me because I'll just wave my arms around like that when I'm being silly with my friends. Ive never done drugs but the people I've been around who I KNOW have been on drugs usually just seemed really zoned out and smelled like they needed a shower.
I tend to avoid eye contact a lot because I was taught it was rude and then later in life I was taught it was rude NOT to make eye contact during a conversion. So now I have to make a conscious effort to make eye contact with anyone I talk with. If I accidentally make eye contact with someone in passing, Ill simply smile and nod at them and continue on my way.
The eye contact thing varies so widely between cultures! Native American Diné(Navajo), for example, consider it discourteous, particularly if it is a young person staring at an elderly one.
I once had an employer who kept harping on eye contact, eye contact...
I have Autistic Spectrum Disorder(s),& it is extremely difficult for me to do so. It takes all my concentration. Trying to make me do so while giving me instructions/orders is self-defeating. So, I deliberately lied,& told him that I was brought up in a largely Navajo-populated area,& had been taught from a very young age that it was rude. His eyebrows went up, he apologized for his ignorance of Native American customs,& he stopped nagging me. No further discussion needed; it was something that he could easily verify was a true custom. Problem solved.😊
As an American, these are all actually true and helpful to foreigners.
The waiting for food thing is more about how restaurants sometimes don't serve everyone at the same time. It's rude to eat in front of the person who doesn't have their food yet. Drinks are different because usually everyone gets served at the same time, and always before food. The only time there is a delay is when there are mixed drinks and the bar is busy, but water is generally served first before any ordered drinks.
aside from the rude/not rude perspective, functionally if you eat your food before the other people's arrive you're going to just sit there waiting while other people eat. It's more fun to eat at the same time. (my personal take.)
The best advice you can give a foreigner is: "don`t go to the US"
I would only eat my meal at a restaurant before everyone is served if my dad tell mes that by waiting my food will get cold. Other than that I wait and try to wait as long as I can when I eat out with my parents who urge my sister and I to not let the food get cold.
A way to get around the food thing, if yours gets there first, is to eat some with confidence, then say "Hey this is really good, here you guys try some!" now everyone's eating and there's a positive and laid back vibe at the table. Also you'll most likely get to try their food when it arrives too, avoiding having to come back later and order more things to try them. Doesn't work that well with most old people though.
@@afrog2666 yeah right now is definitely not the best time to come
Just for clarification, if you need to ask where the restroom is, that's fine, and most people aren't going to care even if you say you're going to the bathroom, but it's a little better to be more discrete if possible.
It's really cool that Japan has its act together enough to not stick gum under the tables, by the way. I bet they even keep their bathrooms clean and put away their shopping carts.
My first thought was... I can't remember the last time I saw or heard of someone chewing gum. Decades ago probably.
@@Archangel144 Definitely dropped off in popularity. It's not as popular in other places I've lived but a lot of people still do here. I think there might be a difference in culture, with this being a southern, predominantly African American area.
There's no garbage ANYWHERE in Japan and what's even weirder, NO GARBAGE CANS! Where the hell do they put the garbage???
Yoo, let me talk about bathrooms in Japan!
Toilets in Japan are stuff from dreams, at least ladies ones, as I didn't visit men's. Aside from smart toilets, there was not a single toilet in Japan where there was no toilet paper. It only happened twice that a particular stall didn't have paper, but other stalls had paper. This is my observation from two holiday trips of 4 weeks each.
Even eco toilet in the middle of the forest on the trail to Jomon Sugi was decent, though it was smelly as it was eco (dry) toilet.
You have sanitising spray in majority of toilets, so I believe they are so clean because everyone sanitises seat to sit down (and toilet paper is nearly guaranteed, so there's literally no excuse to not to do it). When you sit down, it's a lot less likely to miss the bowl, so both floor and the seat is much cleaner.
Some of the toilets were 'dirty' with leaves and some sand/soil, especially in temples where entrance to the toilet is hidden with a divider, but otherwise without a door. Wind just blows dirt in, but it's hardly the dirt that would make you gag.
Hand soap is actually more rare than toilet paper, I'd say about 30-40% of toilets wouldn't have soap, with percentage increasing in less touristy areas. I saw ladies carry a small bottle of soap, or use hand sanitiser, and I joined them in this practice.
Hand towes are extremely rare, while air dryers are the more common than hand towels, but pretty much both of them only exist in urban areas or newly built toilets. In Oct 2022, all air dryers were still disabled due to covid. When I returned in May 2023, most air dryers were back in operation. Most women carry a small hand towel in a pouch, and you can easily buy them for $2-4, so I got two for myself. I observed that women are more likely to use personal hand towel than air dryer, which I guess is nice to save energy, as hand towel can be just thrown into the laundry for 'free'.
From my discussion with people, it's customary for men in Japan to sit to pee. This is partially due to smart toilets, to avoid peeing on the area where the water wand is hidden. This advisory was often featured on informational stickers in toilets. So I would expect mens toilet to be significantly above average in cleanliness in comparison to western world.
Another funny advisory on stickers was to not squat on toilet seat, something that you'd never see in western world, but I think squat toilets are still very popular in Asia, while not really a thing in the west. I noticed that if toilet had both squat and western toilet stalls, most women would prefer to wait for the western toilet, unless in a hurry or the queue was enormous.
And one thing that blew my mind. This was often a utility in toilets located in train stations. A small plastic board, that is either attached to the wall, or unfolds/drops down to the floor allowing you to step on it. Women use it to change clothing/shoes, as it will be less 'gross' to step on the board than to do a balancing act and risk stepping on dirty bathroom floor. Remember, they are mental about toilets being 'dirty' to a point where they have toilet slippers... Despite having the cleanest toilets I have seen anywhere in the world.
I also made a decision to get a smart toilet when I buy my own house, that stuff is just heavenly.
If you're hanging out with friends though.... game on for the pooping euphemisms..... "I gotta go see a man about a horse" or "I gunna go drop a bomb" or "BRB, gotta drop the kids off at the pool" or "I gotta drop a deuce" or any of a million other things...
Thanks for covering this. As someone who's grown up in the U.S., these rules feel like common sense to me, but I had no idea these rules weren't a thing in Japan and possibly other places in the world. It's honestly really interesting.
Yeah it's funny how many things that seem like "common sense" are actually not, they're just cultural and to individuals outside those cultures such unspoken rules aren't common sense at all. Certain things I think are seen as almost universally rude, like cutting in line, but others it really depends on the place, people you're with, time, and event. And then if you're neurodivergent or otherwise "socially awkward" a lot of "common sense" that neurotypical people take for granted isn't so for neurodivergent people.
I think maybe it's common sense over there too & he's just trolling with the "reasons" 😅
Thankfully many places throughout the world aren't paranoid or as atomized.
@@nataliaturner4845That’s an extremely American-centric view of the world. Go to other countries and you will quickly notice that culture as a whole does not revolve around the US. There are meaningful differences between cultures. What may be “common sense” to you could easily be entirely foreign to someone who grew up in a different culture.
Yeah same, I am always facinated by such differences in culture
Number 2 depends a lot on where you are and situational awareness. For the most part, you can make eye contact and flash a smile or a head nod. Number 3 gum isn't the worst thing you might feel under a public table. 🤣You nailed Number 4! Glad I learned about your drink rule. Good video, no cringe here!
For waiting for food, I think there is actually a practical reason for it. With drinks if you run out the waiter will refill it for you, but with food if you run out before everyone else you’re just kind of awkwardly waiting around for everyone else to finish, or if someone else starts before you it can make you hungry. I’d say there’s also an exception that if the food takes longer than like 10 or 20 minutes between them bringing dishes then it’s okay to start cause otherwise your food would get cold. Also America is particularly religious and some families/groups wait for all the food to arrive so they can say a blessing so that might factor into it as well.
Also for the bathroom thing, I think it’s a matter of phrasing. Like yeah if you say “I’m going to defecate” while people are eating food then you might gross them out, but I haven’t had any issues when saying it tactfully like “I’m going to the restroom real quick”. If you need to specify you’re going to take a while, you just say “I might be a bit” instead. It’s less that people don’t want to know you’re going to the bathroom and more that they don’t want to think of what you’re doing in there.
America has a system of rules of politeness that easily rivals Japan, or the UK. People get incredibly uptight about doing things "the right way." The biggest difference is that it isn't as strongly codified as it is in Japan, and varies from region to region. What's polite in New York is often different from what's polite in South Carolina.
For almost any Japanese bit of daily etiquette you can find a US analog, I think (the waiting for drinks/food example is one). As an example off the top of my head, in Japan you almost always get a big greeting when you enter a store, but not much when you check out; it's the reverse in the US.
Also, never use the word "toilet" in the US, period. If you do need to specifically indicate your need for a toilet, say "restroom."
I've got an unsavoury habit of just telling people outright that I "gotta pee" 😂 but I will admit that it is considered weird and I take that chance just for a laugh.
@@aiiiia9971 My American friends always said the same, too 😂 But I never felt bad, it's rather funny!
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To Texans at least, saying "i gotta pee" sounds juvenile. And saying toilet instead of restroom to them sounds awkward. To them (and most Americans, iirc) toilet is just the white thing with water, not the whole room. If you say you were in the toilet, they will ask you if you're ok, thinking you fell in while flushing 😅
Theres a restaurant owned and operated in my town by I BELIEVE a japanese family (it's possible they are Chinese) and when you enter all of the staff look up with a smile and loudly greet you. If you are not talking with somebody/preoccupied on your way out or it is not busy they also do this when you leave. I assumed it was a cultural custom. I'm not the most socialable person but I always enjoy seeing them.
Definitely varies from region. I’ve lived in America my whole life and never once been told not to eat until everyone’s food arrives, and would actually be very annoyed if that happened because I wouldn’t want my meal to get cold while I wait for someone else’s to be delivered.
Now I know what to expect when visiting America. Next thing to do is to have enough money to go to America.
I say save your money and spend it on weeb stuff instead
@@kogababe mmm🤔 maybe...
As an American, I just need enough money to go to Japan.
@@elfsong713Well the USD value is very high while as the JPY is very cheap in these days. And no one knows how long this will continue. I think it's earlier the better.
Don't worry about waiting to eat your food, unless maybe it's a formal setting.
The thing about waiting to drink/eat is so interesting to me. It's funny how they were reversed for our cultures 😂. Waiting for everyone's food to arrive before eating at restaurants is the same in Canada. It's funny how we don't think about these unspoken rules until someone points it out
I think it's more a Western thing in general but it might depend also on the country and people you are with
Corollary to the food rule is if everyone's food has arrived except for one (usually because they ordered something that takes longer) it is generally expected for that one person to tell everyone to "go ahead, don't wait for me."
Oh I definitely think about it, my father and grandmother both would've smacked the shit out of me if I started trying to help myself before everyone was seated and plated.
I have definitely encountered this kind of culture with certain groups in the past and I have never understood it. So if there is a table of 10, the people who got their food first will have to wait until their food go cold? It just seems so wild to me that people would engage in this self-detrimental behaviour just for the sake of formality.
Drinks in the US are often served to the whole table at once, while food can sometimes come out at different times. I think often restaurants try to bring out the food at roughly the same time, but it can often take a few minutes, especially if the waiter has to take loads.
Your voice is gorgeous! Perfect for skits and radio and whatnot.
The bathroom thing definitely depends on your social group. My friends and I compete to see who can say "I have to go to the bathroom" in the most creative (and sometimes crude) way when we go out to eat, so...
I need to deliver today's breakfast to its final resting place.
Most people don't want to think about that while eating
Dude yes same with my friends XD and creative ways to respond when they say so, like “hope everything comes out okay”
There are a lot of regional differences with different unspoken rules on courtesy, too! Rules of politeness in a big city are very different than in a small town. But I imagine that is similar in Japan too.
In a big city, leave people alone unless you've been acquainted through an event, mutual friends, or work.
In a small town, not acknowledging and conversing with someone is extremely offensive.
@@MortabluntDepends on the city. Basically only New York is full of total assholes. Most places you can talk to randos and nobody will mind unless they are super busy and in a hurry.
I'm so glad that you shared your experiences after returning to the US.
It must have been shocking to see how living in Japan changed you as a person and forgetting so many basic things.
Keep care of yourself!
I can't argue with any of these. Great video!
Haha this was great! As an American I can see why a lot of these might be strange to others. I personally understand ‘5’ as I do this all the time. I’ve never once had an issue of people looking at me weird or thinking me strange for this. I just find it polite to say where I’m going instead of just wondering off and saying ‘I’ll be right back’….
This is sooo interesting and amusing as we western people often think that we don't have "rules" yet it shows that we clearly do lol.
Not to mention it puts a new perspective as now I know how Japanese people feel when they watch video about their own country.
And yeah for Number 2 it's very wise not to look at too weirdly behaving people or people that are clearly on drugs because as mentioned in video they will see that "as invitation" and they will LITERALLY come to you as in Pokemon 😂
That's probably because they thinks it's just common sense and doesn't really think of it or classify it as a rule?~
What are you talking about - we DON'T have any rules! Sure, there are things you should, or shouldn't do, unless you want to suffer the consequences. But, no rules. 😒😆
Someone actually scolded you for eating before others?? Wow, that's intense. In my family or friend group, nobody would say anything! Especially if it's a hot meal, everyone would say "go ahead and eat it while it's hot!" (unless you're eating at someone's house, then you wait) I do live in a very casual part of the US, though. Most of the people I know are really laid back, and would not care. Especially if it was someone visiting from another country!
Yes around here people will say go ahead just so you know its ok. I believe this comes from the country being mostly Christian, where it was customary to say grace/pray before the meal as a group. Most stopped praying now but kept the pause, in case you have a religious person at the table who wants to. I believe this custom will continue to go away more.
I can see Sora being scolded if he was with some white people. White people love to harass Asians and even in a supposedly friendly, well-meaning group, they'll scold, correct, talk-down-to, etc to non-white people who are unfortunate enough to be nearby.
Same with my family. We don't wait because of the food getting too cold or warm before everyone has their food.
I've never experienced the 'waiting for food' or 'bathroom' thing before. I think it definetly depends on who you're with. In very casual settings, such as friends, you can kind of do whatever you want and nobody will care. Just don't say "I'm gonna take a piss/shit" because that *IS* very gross. "I'm going to go use the bathroom real quick" or "I'm going to go wash my hands" is perfectly fine.
Has to bring in the clicks man
I might say I need to check my blood sugar and take my pen to the restroom if the place is nice
With friends it's pretty common to say something like: "Imma go take a dump, be right back."
yeah what the guy above me said
i thought its normal to say things like “ima go piss” or “ima take a shit rq brb” with ur friends
@@Lycoriste It all depends who the friends are and the social situations
That would be fun to see another video on this subject.
As an American, I think this is the first time I’ve heard a Japanese person attempt an impression of an American, and it’s amazing!
Sora is back after 3 weeks explaining absurd rules in Japan. That "Sucks to be you" line never gets old.
WHAT???
@@neilkurzman4907 *CHEESHEN*
3:25 there are a lot of euphemisms for this in America. For instance, “I have to see a man about a dog“ or especially for women, “I have to go powder my nose“. Of course, the restrooms are usually in a strange place, and not well-marked, so you don’t say you’re going to the bathroom, but you end up asking if anybody knows where it is. Also, it is super extra strange to say that yours is big and then immediately announce that you’re going to the bathroom.
You are obviously pulling my leg, because you are out in left field and up the creek without a paddle!😊
The waiting for everyone's food to arrive before eating isn't something that is participated by too many people. I think it just depends on how chill you are with the group you're eating with or that it should be ok if you're sharing some of your food with them.
Yeah if my food gets to the table first then I’m “Wow this looks good, does anybody want a bite?” Also some restaurants bring everyone’s food at once, but it’s definitely not a hard cultural rule and it depends a lot on the restaurant and maybe even the server.
It depends where you are. I'm in the Southeast, and everyone I know follows this rule of waiting for everyone to have food.
My entire life in every group I've known people wait for everyone's food to arrive.
@@kaedatigeras someone in the south, it really depends, younger crowds seem to across the board be more casual about it while older crowds tend to stick to the tradition, though region Im sure plays a part in it regardless
The restaurant I worked in would bring everything at once so there was never any waiting for people
i love this channel i love learning about these little silly social differences theyre so neat thank you
I love your videos because it's enlightening to see little customs that I take for granted and don't realize might be different (like waiting for everyone to get their food). In a home setting, it's also customary to wait until all the serving plates have been passed around and everyone has dished up their food before eating. But that's such an ingrained thing for me, it never occurred to me to think that is a regional custom.
This was cool to see the inverse of all your skits!
In the US, we also do a lot of implying rather than saying. For instance, sometimes you might ask the table something like “where is the restroom” to imply you’re going there.
There’s a lot of stuff you don’t really say you just kinda do because people know you’re gonna do it and don’t need to hear about it.
A good example of this is using hand gestures at parties to, essentially, take a shot or go smoke, or leave when you’re bored. The idea would be to manipulate how people feel about the exit, as if a couple people announce they are leaving, it often leads to a larger exodus as ppl leaving can just kill the vibe.
Also, just little body language cues such as eye contact or being open, staying focused on conversation and interjecting, these things indicate whether ppl are into the conversation or if you should try to move on. I’m sure this is similar in Japan but different as people will just find a person that can’t read these cues as annoying… And no one is immune to this kinda judgement no matter how much “power” they hold in a group or company. cool stuff overall
What? When I ask where is the restroom, I mean it?
And this is something I hate about America. A lot of two-facedness, the badmouthing behind backs.
That is one criticism I will say I agree with.
Gum thing baffles me to no end (living in Serbia). There are so many ways to dispose of it and someone just go full barbarian. I went to business meeting in some fancy place in Belgrade and lo and behold there was a gum stuck to bottom of table...I was convinced that it was only done in elementary and high school by kids, but there you have it.
Even as an American, I still consider that vile. I'll never understand the juvenile lack of courtesy when most gum chewers are done. 🤢
The gum under the table is shocking to EVERYONE, though you usually only find it at very casual places to eat. Glancing at people and fleeting eye contact is normal, but if you stare people will be bothered (and in rougher areas it could lead to a fight at worst). The thinking is like, everyone keeps to themselves in public and there's usually no reason to look for longer than a glance, so if they see you staring it can sometimes be taken as "This person thinks/is saying there's something wrong with me in a rude and confrontational way"
All "American Sora" jokes aside, you're basically an honorary American with how in tune you are with the culture, lol. Watching this felt weird because I was like "Is this how those japanese youtubers feel when they see videos from Abroad in Japan?"
The gum under the table is a real concern even in expensive places. Also contrary to what Americans want to think about themselves, taking shoes off in an American house is *not* the norm. And American houses tend to be ... not very clean.
I always roll my eyes when some prick tries to correct what American norms are in the comments. We are truly a multicultural nation and it shows. My family is white as snow and we've never worn shoes indoors. It's just uncomfortable.
Thanks great content, sharing the differences between cultures I a funny way. ! Great Vid.
Wow! Decently accurate. I agree with most of them, but people don’t usually scold you for stuff. This is both good and bad because you don’t get scolded but you also never know what you’re doing “wrong”.
On the food thing: a little quirk of it is that it heavily depends on how many are at the table.
You generally don't want to eat until everyone gets their food - but if one person's order is taking especially long, or if you're in a group of like 20 or 30 people all having their food brought in at different times, then there's some leeway there. It's generally better to be slightly rude than to let food get cold, just so long as you wait a minute and don't chow down immediately.
EDIT: things might be different in different parts of the US. Golden rule of thumb is to copy whatever someone else is doing, and/or ask.
The eye contact thing must be a bigger problem in major cities out west and up north. I've lived in the South my whole life (Georgia, North Carolina, and Virginia) and not giving eye contact and saying hello or at least not nodding your head or giving a smile with eye contact when walking past someone is considered unacceptable behavior/bad manners when walking around outside. There are some exceptions such as when in a crowd in which case this would be impossible to do. All the other rules apply though...
I don't know about out west, but yeah its much more of a northern thing. I have lived in VA and WV all my life, and its not an issue around here but definitely starts becoming a problem in large cities north of Washington DC.
I live in a small-ish town rural MN and it is considered rude if you don’t make eye contact and either give a small nod with a smile or a small “farmer wave” with your pointer finger up. Even driving down rural gravel roads people make quick eye contact, nod their head and farmer wave. It feels slightly rude if someone doesn’t. And don’t even try to get past someone in an aisle in the store without smiling, making eye contact, and saying “Ope! ‘Scuse me! Sorry!”
Well you don't HAVE to do it, but other people definitely will, and you're expected to respond
Yeah... I lived mostly in the south (Virginia, Texas) but have family in NYC & throughout NY state. If you avoid looking at people, it just looks like you're socially awkward, shy or even disrespectful (if someone is talking to you or says hi).
And if you see someone on drugs in the middle of a public area, you can bet your ass people will be looking at them. That's not a common or socially acceptable thing anywhere you go, unless you're in the slums or something 🤣
Upstate New Yorker my whole life. I'll be polite and try to return a smile and greeting, if it's already given in quick passing by a stranger. Otherwise, I feel uncomfy initiating those small formalities, and dealing with too many cruel strangers and creepy druggies has made it even harder on me to feel okay about performing those polite greetings unprompted. Just please don't hold me up if I appear to be in a rush... (I know I move slower than the average individual, but still!) 😅
0:57 bruh lol. I remember a friend recently went to the US and there was a guy punching and fighting air in the middle of the street. he’s prob a weeb who though he was an epic ATTACK ON TITAN character
You perfectly summed up what can go wrong when interacting with American police. For anyone coming to America PLEASE remember to always keep your hands where the police officer can see them. It’s unfortunate that the police in this country are trained to be paranoid and anxious around citizens. Many of us hope for better training with the younger, upcoming recruits. 🤞
The result of better training is being more aware of how they can get hurt. They are literally trained to be defensive if someone puts their hand in their pocket.
Because there could be a weapon in their pocket. Just in case you missed that.
@@laurenalmeyda6916
Depends on the training. Some departments are now (albeit very slowly) introducing an approach of better communication rather than the usual tough and gruff tactics. We’ve developed a culture of distrust on all sides over several generations that isn’t going to go away anytime soon. Probably not even in our lifetime, but we can push for improvement so that a social impact for the better is felt inevitably.
I think of gum-underneath as being common with desks at school, I'm pretty alarmed that you ran into this at restaurants
The gum thing isn't universal. It's not a thing in California for the most part. On the East Coast I've noticed it a LOT more. They also spit gum on the sidewalk constantly which has always grossed me out. Also, I don't think it's rude in California to say you're going to the bathroom in a restaurant. I hear people saying that all the time here.
Gum in California is usually in schools or at park tables. Wish people wouldn't do it.
I'm Californian too, and the gum thing definitely used to be more of a problem for sure.
Now it's reserved to places that have been in business for decades with old tables.
And for context: Usually these places have old tables, some of which are embedded furniture which can't be removed and cleaned under easily, such as booth seating. A lot of restaurants in California are new enough to not have the gum problem (at least not yet, and hopefully it stays that way). Also, the places with new tables are more accessible to clean under if needed. Even newer booth seat tables are designed to have a hinge, so the table's top can fold up to clean under. Probably due to the whole gum thing is why those types of tables exist.
People also used to carve and write things on the tables at restaurants too. You don't see that much anymore either here.
@@Calphlur You might still find gum in places with outdoor tables too. Bleh XQ
Yeah that's true, now that I think of it: schools. But I haven't seen that in restaurants in forever. I guess I don't go to old diners much haha
@@bezoticallyyours83 Yeah, and sometimes it's not even from people who sat there, it's people passing by who can't find a trash can. I've seen that happen once... Dx
California cities have seemed to up the amount of trash cans around since I was a kid, so that's good. But there's always that one person who has to be gross.
Also, nothing like a new sidewalk on a college campus with a fresh gum blob... melting in the sun no less!
Here is an interesting note.. I'm Taiwanese-American, and I actually remember my friends reacting to me whenever I said things like, "I'll be right back, I have to go to the bathroom to poop." I don't do it anymore, somewhere along the line someone must have told me what to do, lol.
Sora said no one wants to know where you’re going, but actually it’s just that we don’t want to know what you’ll do when you get there 😅😂 take off the last two words and the rest of the sentence is perfectly normal in American restaurant conversation
It's definitely something like 'don't make us picture it.'
@@NathanielJordan85 exactly lol
In Japan I kept going to a cafe maybe four times or so and the people were really friendly. One day they asked lots of questions like my age, work, etc, and introduced their first names. I was happy making local friends (not to hang out with, but just making the cafe more familiar and warm). But the next time I kind of waved and acted cheerful again and they were kind of reserved. Was a young woman and a kind of “average mom age” woman. Not sure if they were just having a bad day, I accidentally did something rude or had been too friendly or what. 😢
I observed similar hot/cold behaviour and I think I figured it out.
If there aren't many people, or people present are mostly people the staff knows, then staff will be chatty and regulars will even join the conversation.
If there are more people who are not regulars or they are particularly busy, staff will be distanced. I believe staff is conscious of appearing intrusive, or possibly thinking that other guests will think staff is rude/impolite. If the place is busy, staff will not compromise hospitality for 5 mins of chatting, because again they will not want other guests thinking that staff is having a chat instead of working.
I have seen restaurant owner go cold, hot, cold, hot during one dinner I had. It's like a flip of a switch. When his wife returned and could serve tables, he just completely indulged, asked me if he can sit down, and offered me some free drinks (he also had a few) just to keep me from going home!
@@martam307 Really interesting, thanks for the explanation! Sounds very well possible that that’s the reason.
Interesting observations! I thought maybe the young one was chastised about talking too much while working by the older one - or that by being (unusually for them) friendly I was seen as odd(I only talked about what my job is, family, and innocuous things like that). And they imitated it and asked all the questions! While being aware of being polite here, I have to not try to read minds or think it’s only me…especially in a different place.
Update: I went back a couple of times. While the younger one was kind of working in the back the older one was a little formal/polite and gave my family a free beverage since it was hot. I wonder if she’s just more formal and more senior so just didn’t think the young one was being professional. Who knows? But now I think it’s a “them” thing and not about me-which is the case in your example.
That was really interesting. As an American, hearing these things from an outsiders perspective is facinating, especially the one about how you always wait for everyone to get their food.
I will say, that rule does get skipped if someone gets a salad or soup or something that comes before the main dish, but entree’s definitely all have to be present before we start in my experience.
I wonder if I could apply this video to my sociolinguistics homework...? 🤔
This class has been interesting, especially when looking at how language with action is used for different societies, so I can't help but wonder.
After all, it is quite intriguing how standards of etiquette differ between Japan and the U.S.!
(Also, fun fact, since this class is about the study of **practiced** language, even memes are valid subjects for study!)
These are generally accurate. It can depend on who you're with, or the regional difference.
My brother and I were always taught to announce our bathroom habits, (in private, not screaming "I have to take a shit!" In public.) This manages expectations on how long it will be until we return. With all the greasy oversized American portions, a bathroom break could be 20 minutes. This lets people know if they should go on without you, or how long to wait before sending help.
Lol, "how long to wait before sending help", why is this so true? 😂
It my case, I might give the others an estimated time (e.g., I might be a while). If I need to be more specific, I might say "I need to do a number 2". 99% of the people will understand at that point. 😅
All this 1 week, i had been watching this channel. Almost nothing left to watch. I have successfully converted into omega curingge.
Thanks to youtube algorithm and Sora, now this channel is part of my life.
Alligator!
A lot of this is true. Thanks for educating people about my country, Sora. Sometimes I wonder if it’s better that I’m in Japan, now, than living back. There’s a lot I miss, but Japan truly is safe.
This reminds me of ELF so much and I love it. The cultural differences are wild and I love that we are all so different.
Some things are different but at the core we are pretty much the same ;-)
I'm a Brazilian dude learning Japanese. I like this chanel a lot, I keep trying to understand at least a few words here and there. On this one I learnt "nonimono" because I already knew "nomimasu" and "tabemono " from "taberu" or "tabemasu".
As someone who lives out in the country I am kind of shocked at all the weird social rules cities have. The only one that holds kind of true where I live is #1 but if you state what you are getting (Ie. phone, translator, comparing service pistols to civilian, etc.) it normally is fine to take something out of your pocket.
I find this amazing because most are also true in the Philippines. Never touch under the tables and everyone waits until their food has arrived 😅 it’s ok to approach police, though - but a good chunk of people are mistrustful of them also.
Although, the bathroom thing. Here it’s ok just to say “going to the bathroom” so everyone knows where you are. They may joke about you taking a crap/clogging the toilet etc but this is mostly with very, VERY close friends/family you’re comfortable with/banter with normally. You don’t do it with coworkers or people you aren’t close with otherwise it’s creepy, weird and gross lol
#5 isn't uncommon actually. People say, "I need to go to the restroom/bathroom," all the time. In fact, more often than not, if you just stand up and say, "I'll be right back," you'll probably be asked, "where are you going?" Then again, in a professional setting, "be right back," might be more appropriate. I suppose it just depends who you're around. Either way, don't announce what you specifically intend to do in the restroom.
No.2 I think you meant don’t make eye contacts with New Yorkers. It’s pretty common in the south when people say hi to strangers. America has more than California and New York to offer.
No.4 Usually food are brought to the table together since waiters are aware of this rule. Unless it’s an Asian restaurant.
#5 changes from person to person. My friends and I tell each other if we have to hit the bathroom. Some of us will tell the group what to order for them in case the waiter comes while we’re gone. We want the group to know where we are if we don’t come back for a while.
The "If you make eye contact they might approach you like they do in pokemon" for #2 is so accurate lol. That's why I always make an effort not to ever look at someone in public.
In America, if you eat before everybody else at the table, they have the right to steal portions of your food. You are allowed to fight them off but whatever they grab is theirs legally.
This is 100% an official sibling/friend law. Stabbing with forks is permitted.
@@kogababewho needs tools? I just kick em under
Stand your plate laws
That's why we always carry guns. To keep our food secure from moochers
lol I love this comment thread
We missed you, dude! I seriously laughed so much at this. It’s amazing what you noticed and picked out of your list from the live. Welcome back! 😂😂😂
As an American, I agree 😂 here’s my thoughts:
Number 1: Yes, crimes are so common in dangerous areas that it’s normal to think it might be a weapon. Take care of yourself out there.
Number 2: Be careful in suspicious areas, drug addicts and thieves are common. Don’t get their attention 🫢
Number 3: DO NOT touch under the table. High chance for gum, and nobody cleans it anyways.
Number 4: Food is usually served together so that it’s not awkward when someone has their food and another person doesn’t. If it’s separate, I’ll eat if I’m close with the other person. If not, I feel bad for eating without the other person, so I’ll wait or ask them if it’s okay to eat without them. Eating over food makes great bonds ❤ (drinks are fine bc we’re just chilling and chatting away)
Number 5: True, we don’t need the details. Just a simple “brb” is enough 🙂
Overall, America can be fun, but avoid suspicious areas and nighttime. Poverty here is bad which leads to crime. Be safe and beware of scammers and liars!
The drink piece is really interesting.
In the U.S., meals usually start with free ice water, which often comes long before the food. Restaurants sometimes just give you water before you’ve even ordered a drink. And either way, basic fountain or bottled drinks are usually pretty simple to bring out all at the same time. So maybe that’s why we’ve never developed much etiquette around it.
If the drinks are more of a focal point-for example, you’re going to a specialty cocktail or craft beer or wine bar, it might be more likely that you’d wait til everyone had theirs to say “cheers”.
yea where my theory is that it was a religious thing, like we wait and then say grace after every meal but we don't do that anymore. where now i think people just don't want to eat in front of a "starving" person because it just feels weird to eat in front of someone who is also hungry.
Feels so good to see Sora back after a month or so 🥰
As an American an I can confirm most of these. The only thing is it's not considered Ryde to say your going to the restroom. If your with a group of friends and/or family you kinda want them to know where you are. Hope you had good experience sora😊
And if you’re a woman, a lot of your girlfriends will join you. No idea why. Perhaps instinct?
It's not rude to start eating immediately either
I think in the midwest eye contact in many situations isn't a problem either. Just depends on the body language
@@TocsTheWanderer I wouldn't ay it's rude, but would say it is common courtesy to wait until everyone gets what they order.
@@Mercurows That "common courtesy" isn't as common as you think.
Quick update for #4
You wait for everyone if the food is served cold: cold cut sandwich, some soups, etcetera
If the food comes hot it is okay to eat when it arrives. Mainly because it’s rude for others to make you wait for your food to get cold just cause there’s hasn’t arrived yet
I can't imagine Sora going to mexico, he would be so utterly shocked he could start yelling "wtf" every second lmao of course manners change in what state you are.
Provecho! 🌚
the gum thing depends on where you go, fast food, sure, but an actual dinner place, nah they are cleaning it, or people are more respectful there in general
In the South, if you are walking in an American suburb, you have to make eye contact with others and greet them or at least nod at them in acknowledgement
As an American, these were pretty spot-on. Glad you're enjoying your time in America!
Eh, I mean, something something if you don't like it go home lol
I was in NYC back in 2014 and when I approached the officers to ask for directions I made sure to keep my hands visible. And yes - they were super nice and showed me where to get super delicious apple and cinnamon pretzels. Next day I bumped into them near my hotel again and they said “hi” and asked what was I looking for this time, I just replied with one word “CHEESECAKE!” They laughed and pointed me to a cheesecake shop… that was so freakin delicious!
I actually didn't know Number 4 is a thing, but maybe here in Australia it is generally accepted that it is best to eat food as soon they arrive so they taste the best.
When it co,es to the “don’t look at strangers” thing, it depends on _where_ in America you are
A lot of places in the south (especially in smaller towns) people are very friendly, and will have casual conversations with complete strangers just to pass the time
I laughed so hard at the bit about not putting your hand in your pocket in front of cops. It's a really good way to get your head caved in.
As an American kid, I had never had interaction with any police outside of my hometown. Moved to Dallas Texas, my brother got arrested for some shit I cant remember, and i was basically on the side lines. Police came up to me and asked me questions, it was kind of cold, and I made the mistake of shoving my hands in my pockets. Saw my brother freak out in the car immediately and the cops reaching for their guns still in holster. Scarey shit. Never did that again. Suppose they didn't unholster because they saw my Tennessee License. Hard to say. But I'm not about to find out. Seems pretty stupid to think I'd try to challenge police in open terrain to a death match outgunned and upclose. But hey, I've never done the job myself so idk.