Beautiful words of wisdom - forgiveness will come in time. Thank you for this. I've used the same piece of advice to myself as you in order to not be so hard on my self, though I expanded it slightly more than you said here. Mine is 'you made the best decision you could, at the time, based on the information available to you then'. Of course we know more now than we did then but we didn't have that knowledge yet so one definitely should not be so hard on themselves for past decisions. I believe the goal is that if you find your original decision is not working, then as more information becomes available to you, course correct and make a new decision. Another thought I'd like to share is about the pinning for the person or situation. What I have learnt in my travels is that any major life experience / change takes 3 months (plus or minus 2 weeks on either side of that) for most people to adjust and come to terms with. My advice to friends near and far, especially when it comes to a relationship break up, is that I tell them to mark their calendars, literally.... mark it; put something there that highlights the 3 month mark of the end of the relationship. And then I tell them, should you find yourself second guessing your decision, look at the calendar to see where you are in comparison to that 3 month mark (including the 2 week window in either side); if you are in that time frame, do not make any rash decisions, do not reach out, do not contact them, DO NOTHING! Put yourself in a holding pattern and after the 3 month window has passed, revisit the idea that you want to reach it to them. Chances are, if you made the correct decision when you first left (definitely list them to remind yourself as needed), once you pass that 3 month mark, you will agree that you DID make the correct decision. Allow yourself to get through the in-between time by doing nothing (about the relationship) while doing everything you can for yourself! Put you first, enforce those binders, decide on what's best for you, now, based on the information you currently have. Love and light, have a blessed day. You are important, you deserve love and respect and kindness and much, much more! IT will get easier as time passes. Trust in that.
Thank you. I feel this inner urge to run. Can't do the retreat, not a woman. I so appreciate your channel. I want to ask you q's but I know this stuff is not free. Actually, so much free amazing content you put out on here... so thank you again *PS: The video where you said, (cuz i have watched it like 10 times), "to the degree that you were harmed, is to that degree your soul wants to go into hibernation.." i wish i could remember this video's title. I do feel broken from this experience. I was 'raised' by 2 malignant narcissists, and the result of 2 people like this coming together, is astonishingly grief ridden and angering for me." They're now in their 80s. They trampled my world as i got re-enmeshed with them in my 30s. Long painful story I hope you're retreat goes well i am sure it will. Many thanks 💛🙏
So happy to have found your channel. Thanks for spreading hope and wisdom. 💕
Beautiful words of wisdom - forgiveness will come in time. Thank you for this.
I've used the same piece of advice to myself as you in order to not be so hard on my self, though I expanded it slightly more than you said here. Mine is 'you made the best decision you could, at the time, based on the information available to you then'. Of course we know more now than we did then but we didn't have that knowledge yet so one definitely should not be so hard on themselves for past decisions. I believe the goal is that if you find your original decision is not working, then as more information becomes available to you, course correct and make a new decision.
Another thought I'd like to share is about the pinning for the person or situation. What I have learnt in my travels is that any major life experience / change takes 3 months (plus or minus 2 weeks on either side of that) for most people to adjust and come to terms with. My advice to friends near and far, especially when it comes to a relationship break up, is that I tell them to mark their calendars, literally.... mark it; put something there that highlights the 3 month mark of the end of the relationship. And then I tell them, should you find yourself second guessing your decision, look at the calendar to see where you are in comparison to that 3 month mark (including the 2 week window in either side); if you are in that time frame, do not make any rash decisions, do not reach out, do not contact them, DO NOTHING! Put yourself in a holding pattern and after the 3 month window has passed, revisit the idea that you want to reach it to them. Chances are, if you made the correct decision when you first left (definitely list them to remind yourself as needed), once you pass that 3 month mark, you will agree that you DID make the correct decision. Allow yourself to get through the in-between time by doing nothing (about the relationship) while doing everything you can for yourself!
Put you first, enforce those binders, decide on what's best for you, now, based on the information you currently have.
Love and light, have a blessed day. You are important, you deserve love and respect and kindness and much, much more! IT will get easier as time passes. Trust in that.
Thank you - good to see you again and hope all is well 😊
So true! Thanks for sharing 😊
Thank you. I feel this inner urge to run. Can't do the retreat, not a woman. I so appreciate your channel. I want to ask you q's but I know this stuff is not free. Actually, so much free amazing content you put out on here... so thank you again
*PS: The video where you said, (cuz i have watched it like 10 times), "to the degree that you were harmed, is to that degree your soul wants to go into hibernation.." i wish i could remember this video's title.
I do feel broken from this experience. I was 'raised' by 2 malignant narcissists, and the result of 2 people like this coming together, is astonishingly grief ridden and angering for me." They're now in their 80s. They trampled my world as i got re-enmeshed with them in my 30s. Long painful story
I hope you're retreat goes well i am sure it will. Many thanks
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The desire for hibernation makes sense. Keep taking care of yourself.
@@SoulGPS thank you so much 🧡🙏
Great message thanks.
I don't know how you can up on my Notices, but I am glad you did!! Very nice, gentle and yet pervasive!!
Happy Healing ❤🎉❤