Good God why do people like this become parents. What’s worse: a parent that’s outta their damn mind or one with no spine willing to put you through the worst of hells to play stupid games with living breathing human beings?
If someone took note OP’s ex-wife neglecting/abusing their kids, they’ll contact social services to take the kids away from her, place them in foster care, and then, with kind and loving adoptive families in Illinois or New York; in fact, the kids should’ve been taken away from their egg donor and placed with foster/adoptive families in the opposite side of the country, and they would have good lives.
Dude, he's so clueless that he probably didn't even think about it. As soon as the ex had mentioned they were 'attacked' by dogs, they should have been there and recording ant evidence of it.
Ok... something tells me that the "mother" is the one harming the kids. Will the courts listen? No. They won't even act unless the kids end up ded. Even then, they will find a way to blame the father. As for the people saying op is a coward... they need to put themselves in his shoes. They won't because that will shatter their bias of op. As for op wanting to sign over all rights just to get that crazy ex to leave him and his wife alone? Yeah......no. if you do that, tell the kids everything in a way that they will understand.
Story 1: I'm only part way through but with all of the text and email communications how has he not gotten sole custody of the kids yet? There's favoring the mother but then there's this. This is psych eval territory.
Family court hate fathers they want to see fathers miserable and take their money statistics shows mother are treated like angels and always get custody no matter if they are horrible mothers
Family court doesnt support women it supports keeping kids with the original caregiver or with joint custody. Sources can be found in the NIH database and the beuro of statistics. It just looks like courts favor women because women are more likely to be the primary caregiver during marriage. Also most men never file for custody during a divorce @JP-eh4ee
Story 2: I genuinely and wholeheartedly will never fully understand why people NEED to have their own biological child. There are literally hundreds of thousands of children you can adopt. Babies, toddlers, teens, special needs children, and so on that NEED a home. And at the end of the day, there's still the chance that you'd suffer from extreme Postpartum depression which has been known to cause Mother's to strangle their children minutes after birth. Do not get me wrong. I have nothing against normal births or people who go through I.V.F. it's just that adoption is always treated as a last ditch effort. As somebody who has been in the adoption system for years I find it absolutely baffling hearing these stories.
Because there are a shit ton of regulations and standards for adoption and most regular people can't meet those requirements. You can desperately want to adopt but there is a financial hurdle and red tap everywhere you sign. I couldn't adopt because my house wasn't up to their standards and I wasn't about to pay to get rid of the "mold" that they claimed existed.
How the hell could this guy ever play any of those games? I would have set strict boundaries with parenting apps, location sharing, and court appointed guardians. Then, not put up with one second of mind and power games. Easy. But I guess when you don’t know how to deal with crazy people you just let the craziness happen.
@@Innerpandora why should someone who doesn't want kids have kids? she isn't in a good place mentally and she's seeing how the other parents around her are treating their kids. she doesn't want to be that.
@Innerpandora I'm child free there's nothing wrong with that. Op in story will only end up resenting any children she has if she has any doubts about wanting them .😢
The fuck was he supposed to do? There was nothing he could have done without breaking the law It is the court system that failed those kids not their dad he was just following the rules
Good God why do people like this become parents. What’s worse: a parent that’s outta their damn mind or one with no spine willing to put you through the worst of hells to play stupid games with living breathing human beings?
The court is slanted towards women outside drugs it's. Damn near impossible to get the kids
S1: Only just started listening… However I’m wondering why the mother is talking about her children as if they are abstract objects? Just so weird.
Because for some people they don’t see people as people but rather as objects they can use, abuse, abandon, and repeat repeat with no consequences.
If someone took note OP’s ex-wife neglecting/abusing their kids, they’ll contact social services to take the kids away from her, place them in foster care, and then, with kind and loving adoptive families in Illinois or New York; in fact, the kids should’ve been taken away from their egg donor and placed with foster/adoptive families in the opposite side of the country, and they would have good lives.
S1: this OP had better be documenting all this shit and keeping the texts and pics in the parenting app.
Dude, he's so clueless that he probably didn't even think about it. As soon as the ex had mentioned they were 'attacked' by dogs, they should have been there and recording ant evidence of it.
Ok... something tells me that the "mother" is the one harming the kids. Will the courts listen? No. They won't even act unless the kids end up ded. Even then, they will find a way to blame the father. As for the people saying op is a coward... they need to put themselves in his shoes. They won't because that will shatter their bias of op. As for op wanting to sign over all rights just to get that crazy ex to leave him and his wife alone? Yeah......no. if you do that, tell the kids everything in a way that they will understand.
You posted this before watching the full video, didn't you?
Story 1: I'm only part way through but with all of the text and email communications how has he not gotten sole custody of the kids yet? There's favoring the mother but then there's this. This is psych eval territory.
This is all too common TBH. I've personally witnessed higher levels of crazy on my mother...
Because family court would still support the ex wife
Family court hate fathers they want to see fathers miserable and take their money statistics shows mother are treated like angels and always get custody no matter if they are horrible mothers
Family court doesnt support women it supports keeping kids with the original caregiver or with joint custody. Sources can be found in the NIH database and the beuro of statistics. It just looks like courts favor women because women are more likely to be the primary caregiver during marriage. Also most men never file for custody during a divorce @JP-eh4ee
Because the laws dont favor men
Story 2: I genuinely and wholeheartedly will never fully understand why people NEED to have their own biological child. There are literally hundreds of thousands of children you can adopt. Babies, toddlers, teens, special needs children, and so on that NEED a home. And at the end of the day, there's still the chance that you'd suffer from extreme Postpartum depression which has been known to cause Mother's to strangle their children minutes after birth.
Do not get me wrong. I have nothing against normal births or people who go through I.V.F. it's just that adoption is always treated as a last ditch effort. As somebody who has been in the adoption system for years I find it absolutely baffling hearing these stories.
Because there are a shit ton of regulations and standards for adoption and most regular people can't meet those requirements. You can desperately want to adopt but there is a financial hurdle and red tap everywhere you sign. I couldn't adopt because my house wasn't up to their standards and I wasn't about to pay to get rid of the "mold" that they claimed existed.
For the same reason why people don’t want to date or marry a single mom/parent.
Most people simply don’t want to raise another person’s kid.
OP's ex is so full of 💩
Well said. Due to all the 💩 OP’s ex put their kids through,
If this is happening in California, why does OP keep saying 'mum' and not 'mom'?
Exactly.
I think OP is a British immigrant to the US
How the hell could this guy ever play any of those games? I would have set strict boundaries with parenting apps, location sharing, and court appointed guardians. Then, not put up with one second of mind and power games. Easy. But I guess when you don’t know how to deal with crazy people you just let the craziness happen.
and money grows on trees...
Kids had 2 goofy parents
S2, wtf, please do NOT concieve, your mentality is incompatible with raising any mount of children.
How so😊
@@Innerpandora why should someone who doesn't want kids have kids? she isn't in a good place mentally and she's seeing how the other parents around her are treating their kids. she doesn't want to be that.
@Innerpandora I'm child free there's nothing wrong with that. Op in story will only end up resenting any children she has if she has any doubts about wanting them .😢
S1: damn, OP is the biggest loser of the year and it hasn't even been a month
The fuck was he supposed to do? There was nothing he could have done without breaking the law
It is the court system that failed those kids not their dad he was just following the rules
california loves to give women anything and everything they possibly can and screw over the father in all circumstances. It's mind bogglingly wild