Why Narcissists Ruin Valentine's And Other Special Occasions - The Benjamin Zulu Show

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  • Опубликовано: 28 окт 2024

Комментарии • 64

  • @bethtoox9435
    @bethtoox9435 2 года назад +20

    Narcissist are good actor's,b4 marriage,during dating,they r soo romantic,they really remember Valentine,when u say i do,they stop no celebrating,Anniversary,birthday.True Benjamin,they rush into marriage wasijulikane may God give as,discernment.

  • @sheexful
    @sheexful 2 года назад +5

    The harsh but true TRUTH is that these people CANNOT change; the hope we have in them we should refocus on our own lives, and the improvement that peace and happiness away from such people can bring into our lives. When you attract and TOLERATE a narcissist in your life, it's an indication that you need to look within yourself and re-evaluate your own self-worth & self-love. RUN AS FAR AND AS FAST AS YOU CAN in the opposite direction when you realize you're dealing with a NARC!

  • @bridgetjones6819
    @bridgetjones6819 2 года назад +8

    One thing about narcissistic partners they are so envious, they compete 24/7 they never stop they are such evil creatures…

  • @euniceodera9484
    @euniceodera9484 2 года назад +2

    You always nail it. The truth total truth.

  • @anitapeter6339
    @anitapeter6339 2 года назад +6

    Great insights here. I dealt with one and I saved myself early

  • @sssm8935
    @sssm8935 2 года назад +5

    Not believing that level of evil exists.... True

  • @mbutitileah
    @mbutitileah 2 года назад +5

    I know a lady who dated a narcissist,one minute they are out having fun next minute the guy is annoyed by a very very small issue,he will accuse her of wierd things just so that she gets upset and leaves then now he would invite his newest girl, needless to say she use to maintain him and he is the high standard types,we watched the lady lose herself everyday,she became so confused even to hold her prestigious job anymore,then she was dropped left penniless with a newborn in martenity,more than ten years later she is still trying to recover from the spell

  • @carolinemwazi5583
    @carolinemwazi5583 2 года назад +3

    This is wisdom. Take your time and don't be rushed into anything. If you realize you are with a narc RUNNN! Only God can help such people - if they are willing to be helped.

  • @LC_H
    @LC_H 2 года назад

    ❤️❤️❤️One thing that I've learned about Narcissist is that their conversation is usually VERY surface/shallow. They don't get deep with their emotions, pain or personal struggles in conversation. Never share personal business with people until you discern the fruit of that person's heart. That could take many months, or several years, but let a person prove to you that they are worthy of entering into your personal life. Also... Do NOT date or marry someone until you have dealt with your OWN childhood wounds, insecurities, trauma and personal struggles. You must learn to love YOU before trying to get someone else to.❤️

  • @geoffreykalume333
    @geoffreykalume333 2 года назад +7

    Great conversation!Great background,
    You can decide to be a decent human being, because it all depends on you--thank you for this.

  • @myownworld9435
    @myownworld9435 2 года назад +2

    I thank God i found you Benjamin. You’ve been an eye opener to my life . Be blessed 💯

  • @MisuZama
    @MisuZama 2 года назад +15

    Great conversation. Please keep backdrop simple. That wall may have just worked perfectly with a wall art or floor pot plant next a side table with vase. 👌 simple with visual focus on the panel. Thanks for great content always.

  • @joanmueni7292
    @joanmueni7292 2 года назад +3

    This is quite educative but scary at the same time. Lord help me.

  • @monicahmutuku3305
    @monicahmutuku3305 2 года назад +1

    Wow, this is so true. Thank you for enlightened us more.

  • @richauntie316
    @richauntie316 2 года назад +2

    When u talked about widows and widowers I remembered the crime show I watch called "deadly women,the women killed their husbands and married more than thrice and still killed them yet people always thought it's just sickness, accidental , nobody suspected foul play

  • @lyn254
    @lyn254 2 года назад +2

    This is Absolutely true.

  • @estherjynivev9295
    @estherjynivev9295 2 года назад

    please create another show like this of a narcissists..so helpful

  • @caterinat558
    @caterinat558 2 года назад +6

    Congratulations for background. And thank you for this podcast.

  • @sheyharnrukunga6878
    @sheyharnrukunga6878 2 года назад +4

    I always Like this conversations thank you benja. The background is beautiful but uweeeh I couldn't look at it with straight eyes I was seeing it move 😂

    • @ritamarie2546
      @ritamarie2546 2 года назад

      😂😂😂😂the wind was shaking it

  • @tabithakasina3711
    @tabithakasina3711 2 года назад +1

    Awesome! Eye opener..

  • @alfinsjoshua8098
    @alfinsjoshua8098 2 года назад +2

    Well thought out conversation Benjamin.Very educative 👍

  • @peninahmwende368
    @peninahmwende368 2 года назад +1

    Wow! very very true
    God bless you abundantly
    Never give in to desperation peninah
    Maintain your faith,I love that

  • @RipfumeloTiko
    @RipfumeloTiko 2 года назад +8

    Today I feel like I’m in psychology class (tertiary level) 🙏🏾

  • @godsfavour5665
    @godsfavour5665 2 года назад +7

    Weeee for the first time nimeona zulu akiwa serious kwa talk ya leo.

    • @bethtoox9435
      @bethtoox9435 2 года назад +2

      Narcissist is a very big problem,the major leading cause in family break up,divorce,this narcs r used by the devil.

    • @godsfavour5665
      @godsfavour5665 2 года назад +1

      @@bethtoox9435 you are very right

  • @ruthgitau1285
    @ruthgitau1285 2 года назад

    Great conversation over there.I love the background

  • @DrImah-qb9ku
    @DrImah-qb9ku 2 года назад +1

    This is very true....because I experienced this

    • @lucywanjiku8525
      @lucywanjiku8525 2 года назад +2

      I think these people don't deserve to be with humans.

    • @elizabethmuchai6641
      @elizabethmuchai6641 2 года назад

      This is true dealt with such a person didn't know the difference of social path and narcissistic

  • @user-gw5iy8fj9i
    @user-gw5iy8fj9i 2 года назад +1

    Thanks Benjamin for this Information.

  • @rossynextv71
    @rossynextv71 2 года назад +3

    Thank you so much Benjamin for this...in my case is not a romantic relationship But that narcissistic/personality disorder u explained just described my boss... if he is not the center of anything he won't give attention and always torment and oppresses us with his words especially those of us that are well put together and vision driven for our personal growth and development...he hates it when people smile at u or say nice things about you....my question is what do we do? Can't quit now cos i need the money please reply 🙏 🙂

    • @sheexful
      @sheexful 2 года назад +1

      Wow that's a really tough one!!!...I would say you just hang in there. Know that you're not the problem, he is. You might need to play along to boost his ego now that you understand the kind of response that will make him feel powerful. If you're a spiritual person just pray for a better situation but don't put yourself down before that manifests. Stay positive and eventually either he'll move away or you'll find a more condusive work situation. Keep the faith 😊

    • @rossynextv71
      @rossynextv71 2 года назад

      @@sheexful thank you so much for this comment ❤

    • @yaaqubmasoud6580
      @yaaqubmasoud6580 11 месяцев назад

      First of all if u know that you're dealing with a narcissistic person just keep it to urself and avoid him. At school I've already spotted a narcissistic person and he is my classmate🙆🙆😂😂so I just kept quiet coz I know that narcissists are like sorcerers coz sorcerers don't like pple who have a potential of being a great person. They'll do anything to demolish you just like a sorcerer a sorcerer's main work is to demolish you completely. Hve a good night

    • @rossynextv71
      @rossynextv71 11 месяцев назад

      @@yaaqubmasoud6580 thank you

  • @synergyswimacademy5114
    @synergyswimacademy5114 2 года назад +1

    What do you do when the narcissist is your adult daughter?

  • @MAXIMGLOB
    @MAXIMGLOB 2 года назад +1

    Wow 😁i love the change 👍

  • @juliankabarungi5851
    @juliankabarungi5851 2 года назад

    Thankyou so much for this

  • @maghangamngangu6347
    @maghangamngangu6347 2 года назад +5

    Do narcissism have a cure since panadol can't help them?

  • @precioussunya3809
    @precioussunya3809 2 года назад +1

    Kindly discuss about fearful avoidant attachment style.

  • @ooj100
    @ooj100 2 года назад +2

    You are not your body. Wonderful.
    My father is approaching 80 and I think he looks excellent. If I can get there be or look like him, I will have won the lottery.

  • @SandraTalks
    @SandraTalks 2 года назад +3

    why do we spiritualise everything in Africa? ??? a very good question

  • @CleanKenya
    @CleanKenya 2 года назад +3

    That bakground is so hideous aki

  • @godsfavour5665
    @godsfavour5665 2 года назад

    Oooouuuuuuuch you are very right

  • @thephoenixrose2
    @thephoenixrose2 2 года назад

    Wow this is so true

  • @norahnayebare5313
    @norahnayebare5313 2 года назад

    Mr wisdom 👌❤️

  • @kammusic22
    @kammusic22 2 года назад +1

    Is someone like Pablo Escobar today I have heard this name twice from two different platforms.

  • @eddie7910
    @eddie7910 2 года назад

    Benjamin always talks about narcissists but never gives the solution to solving such people. What should they do. You actually just make the narcissists laugh because you describe them well

    • @bethtoox9435
      @bethtoox9435 2 года назад +1

      Its sad,they can never see their narcs,they see themselves perfect,thus a narc can't change,they become worse,even when they age.

    • @eddie7910
      @eddie7910 2 года назад

      @@bethtoox9435 no they do but what is the solution

    • @ritahsworld608
      @ritahsworld608 2 года назад +1

      They can change if they drop the pride and ego...its difficult to advise a proud person ...so its all on them

  • @lucywanjiku8525
    @lucywanjiku8525 2 года назад +2

    BZ you look sharp,,,

  • @cynthiaanyango7945
    @cynthiaanyango7945 2 года назад

    Please I really need your contact to discuss something very important with you, in short I need your advice, please 🙏

  • @annem963
    @annem963 2 года назад +2

    The comment about widows is very mean...

  • @agnesmukhooli866
    @agnesmukhooli866 2 года назад

    Since GOD created all of us even narcist n psychopaths how can they be diagnosid when still babies and their treatment...

    • @bethtoox9435
      @bethtoox9435 2 года назад

      Narcissism is aquired in childhood,some children change due to being abused or given to much love,never corrected.

  • @jeannekaze560
    @jeannekaze560 2 года назад

    This is big problem in married ,these two categories:narcissists,thanks so much Sir.

  • @Vision-kl3mx
    @Vision-kl3mx 2 года назад +2

    Iyo curtain yenyu inamove

    • @queenlyne2363
      @queenlyne2363 2 года назад +1

      Are you here to learn or to fix curtains 🤔 .