The amount of anxiety I felt when I started riding was CRAZY, I was like - why am I even doing this to myself?! But lots of practice, stalling out, slow turns, and longer distances (plus a bigger bike) has got me feeling so free and confident. I still have nervous moments but working through that extreme anxiety was definitely worth it!
I have been riding for just over a year now and have been trying to decide if a bigger bike would help with my anxiety (on a 500 now). Glad to hear the bigger bike is working for you. Mind telling me what you're riding?
Mel Oro I started on a 05 Honda Rebel (250cc) and now I’m on a 82 Yamaha 750 Maxim XJ. I’ve been riding that for about a year and am ready for another upgrade.
@@phwar26 Maybe I should just take the leap and upgrade. I am currently on a H-D Street 500 but I also have a softail Deluxe available to me. I'm a little intimidated by the big leap up but maybe I should just suck it up! Thanks for the reply!
My girlfriend was in a bad accident a year ago. A driver was texting and ran right into her. She had just got back from a ride with her daughter and wanted to go around the block by herself so she didn't even think to wear her helmet that her daughter still had on. Well, they hit her doing 45 in a 30, 2 of the occupants in the vehicle fled, and the driver was entirely at fault, yet no citations were given. My girlfriends femur was broken in 2 places and protruding from her leg, broke her back in two places, shattered her foot which bones were also protruding, and had head damage. Doctors wanted to amputate her leg from her hip down. She has had multiple surgeries; one that almost killed her due to infection, and she even had to have a skin graft to replace the skin that was on her shin. 30 screws, 3 rods, and 2 plates running the length of her leg. And now, a year later, she is walking on both legs although she needs her cane sometimes due to the pain. She has built her courage up enough to get on my bike with me and go for rides and she has now said she is going to get another bike soon as her leg is good enough to hold it up. She is the definition of strength, courage, and an overall badass! Just thought I'd share.
Man thank god she’s alive and doing better. I had some friends of mine a married couple each on their own bike hit really bad by someone texting while driving. They both had their left legs amputated from above the knee. They since have worked and pushed really hard to pass the hands free law in our state so if you’re so much as looking at your phone in your hand while behind the wheel it’s an automatic ticket. It’s been a little over a year since the accident and they’re both doing really well on their prosthetics. Good luck to your girlfriend and her continued recovering.
Hmmm. Is this anxious riders post the right time to share these stories? I’m thinking not really. Plenty of other places to share about all the bad shit.
the driver was texting and drove right into her... while she was doing WHAT and looking at WHAT and riding without helmet and gear? you must be aware of everyone and everything around you while you are riding - when someone runs a red light then YOU have to see them coming and YOU have to avoid them its not fair and its not just but THATS THE WAY IT IS
Having grown up with zero motorcycles in my life, no riding experience, and also failing the MSF course my first go around at 26 years old, I had a really slow start with riding. The people I knew that rode made it harder because everything was so easy to them. They would give me advice and I just wasn't getting it. It made me feel like I wasn't learning quick enough. I got rid of my tiny first bike, and bought an 883 that was much more comfortable for me. That made a world of difference. I started setting a curriculum each day. I would tell my bike, "Today we're going to focus on getting into 3rd gear."... "Today we're going to try that gravel driveway really slowly."...Or, "Today we're going to try some techniques from RUclips on how to position your body in turns." Taking those baby steps in areas of minimal/no traffic, and slowly pushing myself out of my comfort zone taught me so much. Sometimes even now I'll have a "practice day" to brush up on my skills and see how far I've come. It just took time, practice, and more practice for me. I believe almost anyone can do it and love it. Also, your videos have changed me as a rider. Watching your hands, your techniques, etc.. you've really positively affected my daily riding.
Your comment helped SO much, too! I have been feeling the exact same way - like I have an undiagnosed learning disability or something because I was just NOT getting it. But after seeing so many videos and reading so many comments about the same thing, I feel SO much better and can't wait to get on my bike! Thank you!
@@throttle.therapist physically getting out on a bike and pushing yourself is already so much further than many people will even get! Enjoy the ride, you're awesome!
I just got my first bike yesterday with very limited experience. I dumped it (low speed/taking a corner), and now for the past 2 days I've been looking at it with such fear -- like I'm looking at monster who is to become a friend I respect... tomorrow, I attempt it again and give him a name. Thank you!
Similar for me. I passed my training course and found a good deal on a bike, got it, got licensed, insured, all the works. A month ago I had never even sat in a motorcycle. Anyway, so I passed the course and a week later bought the bike...and had to get it home. In the course we got it into 2nd gear in a parking lot. All of a sudden I was getting it way past 2nd into traffic going 40mph with stop lights. And my area has hills. I stalled it 2-3x on the way home and it was terrifying! So I took several days away from it to let my cortisol level stabilize and am trying to use it for short periods to get over the fear back to the exhilaration. Anyway, one of the problems is that my apartment building has a small parking lot and 1 exit, which is on a hill with a stop sign that's not quite at the top of the hill. It's frustrating and I haven't ridden it much. I know I'll get the hang of it. Just frustrating because I expected to take it home and just have fun on it without any problems.
As a rider you need to trust your intuition. When that still small voice says in a louder than normal tone, ‘Nope, not today’ it’s perfectly ok to agree with it and hop in the car instead. We all have those days and that wisdom and self-knowledge is exactly what differentiates us from all the other motorized vehicle pilots out on the road. The toughest thing I’ve ever done in my as yet young riding career was pull on my new helmet to test out my Sena after I’d been involved in an accident on my bike. The claustrophobia induced panic and anxiety were instantaneous and legit. The next time I pulled the helmet on I was standing in front of my bike. It was ‘go’ or ‘no go’ time. I was either going to get on the bike and continue riding that day or call it quits. 10 broken ribs, a collapsed lung with a chest tube, a restaurant quality hematoma on my thigh where my wallets was in my front right pocket (still a forget-me-not nearly 4+ years later) and a TBI will do that to a person. I decided to ride and am glad I did. I wear all the gear all the time. I’ll cool off when I get ‘there’. I don’t leave my house without my helmet on and buckled and jacket zipped. I know what my tire pressures are every time I ride because I check them every time before I get on my bike. I respect and talk to my bike. And I say a prayer generally every time before we leave the driveway. When I toggle the ignition switch and press it, it’s time to bring the thunder... and we do. Elmer, my 2019 Harley-Davidson Low Rider, and I have enjoyed some great wind therapy sessions and adventures together. I hope every rider will be as fortunate as I have been to enjoy and be a part of such a special community of people, who are just trying to get to the other end of the day like I am. Ride within your abilities, respect others on the road and most importantly - have somewhere to go and someone to see - on your motorcycle! You’ll be glad you did. Thanks again Jess for bringing us along with you.
Yep, safety course and just experience/practice/exposure! Like anything: the beginning can be rough. But the more you do it, the more you gain confidence and all that.
I agree take a safety course, you can learn a lot. If you can practice in a empty parking lot, that's equally awesome and advised. A year ago I took a riders course at a local Harley dealership, I bought my first bike a month later (2014 Fatboy) and proceeded to put 7000 miles on it. Unfortunately a 16 year old driver ran a red light and I had a choice of hitting the curb, a tree and signage; hitting the truck next to me, or brace myself and hit her SUV. I chose to hit her SUV, I was able to slow from the speedlimit of 55 down to 35/45 but still it was a hard hit. I walked away with a scratch on my elbow and a small concussion possibly, I can honestly say the riders course helped save me on that accident. I don't know what your first bike is but for me, location of controls, comfort on the bike, and overall feel mattered more then having a smaller starter bike. A Sportster would have been a better starter for me but the fatboy worked better because I wasn't cramped, I respected the "power" of the bike and rode my own ride but the smaller bikes, for my size made it uncomfortable and hard to shift and hit the rear brake, mostly because my feet and longer legs were usually left looking for the pedals as opposed to feeling natural as they did on the fatboy. Riding on less traveled roads and practicing also helped. Just my 2 cents
I prefer riding secondary roads than major highways. Most of the time anxiety is not an issue, but when it gets to me, riding on secondary roads is the cure.
I subscribed to “Her Two Wheels” because I relate to many of her videos, remembering my earIy riding years after my MSF course in 1980, I even became an instructor for MSF & Better Biking Course for 5 years. Yes, I still feel I’m learning with every ride. Mileage is trumped by riding technique & steady practice. Although secondary roads are a good “tonic.” But it is best to do a little 1/2 hour or so vacant lot warm up primer working up tight circles to achieve several tight left & right turns “lock to lock.” Use full eye & head turns all the way around the turn, using throttle & friction zone control with gentle rear brake. Do this as a warm up before ANY long ride, laden with all your gear by yourself. If possible, later do it with your passenger if you want to have a co-rider, where the skin in the skills you have are magnified. I highly recommend “Ride Like a Pro” videos with Jerry Paladino, are free on RUclips & I highly recommend you subscribe to it.
Got my first bike (Honda Rebel) earlier this year at age 74. Started slow in my neighborhood, then to back roads, 35 mph max. Practicing in parking lots, and now have my motorcycle license. Still have some anxiety on sharp curves, but I take them slow, and so far have not dropped my bike. Never to late to learn, if you have the strength to hold the bike up. Just don't start with one too heavy for you.
Just bought my first bike at 52 after wanting to ride my whole life!! (Husband was against it.) I am terrified and it feels so alien, but I LOVE it! Safety course is first on my list as soon as it opens up. You ladies and older riders are my inspiration!
@@suzannearent123 I'm still pretty terrified too. It does seem alien! (Good way to describe it.) My instincts want to do one thing, but sometimes it's the exact opposite of what I should do??? We got this!! We just need more seat time! Good luck!
Being a younger rider and daily commuter on a motorcycle, I definitely experience rider anxiety and also in real life. So it's nice to hear there are other people out there who worry about the same thing! Have a wonderful day
It ain’t the years, it’s the miles. Nothing beats seat time. It’s also a mental thing. I’ve been a licensed mc rider since 1972 and there are still days when I feel “off”. I have the experience to realize that those are days to take it easy and not push things. Then there are those days when you are so tuned in to your bike that you feel like you could thread through the eye of a needle. Those are the rides that stick in your mind and keep you on two wheels.
I've been riding for 19 years on different motorcycles across the country with over 150,000 miles in the saddle in all types of weather. I'm experienced, that's what I'm getting at. I talk to myself and to the bike, she's a member of the family and my friend. Sounds silly, but I don't want her to get hurt just as much as I don't want to get hurt. I'm more careful and more aware. But recently I was witness to a horrific event that claimed the lives of 4 bikers. It has shaken me to the core and I've been struggling with my riding because of it. I'm just now getting through making stupid mistakes because I'm afraid, whereas before, I was not. I'm getting over it slowly, but being scared is dangerous too, and I wanted to point that out. Over the years, I've had days where I didn't want to ride and so I didn't, but more often than not I ride near daily. I used to commute on the bike but now I have a company car and am not able to, but I'd prefer to if I could. All in all, I think it;s great advice. Especially, "Ride your own ride." Don't get sucked in to what others are doing. I do group rides also but would say that group rides are a more advanced form of riding and should not be done as a beginner, but, if possible, always ride with someone in the beginning. I did and I feel like it helped me get through that initial hurdle. Lastly, and this is tough for everyone I think; don't get so confident you forget to check simple things, cover your brakes at intersections, or think you can take that turn at that high speed. Never try to reach your limits, practice and push yourself to know where your limits are and stay under them.
I have been riding for 55 years and owned a Kaw dealership in NJ. This past January I was hit by a car and suffered a fractured hip, compound femur fracture and foot fractures. I decided I wanted to fix the bike and build a sidecar so I could ride again sooner than later. I have put 40 miles on it and working out issues with it and myself.
Your video is exactly what I needed. I took a beginner class last year and I was so excited and psyched myself up to succeed. Had never operated a bike before and thought this class would be perfect since it was a beginner learn to ride course. Well....it wasn't that day as the other 15 men in the class were taking the class to get the endorsement on their license for insurance reasons and had been riding for years and years. It was the first class offered after COVID so they all piled in. They were super supportive of this here newbie and I was holding my own through the exercises but it was very fast paced as they all were zipping through each skill set. I was having a hard time getting my bike in neutral and the one instructor was getting angry with me. One of the guys told her to check my shifter since he thought it was broken. It was so they got me another bike.....same issue. The one instructor was cool and trying to help me through but the other one told me I should have practiced before I came....don't know how as I didn't have a bike to practice on and it was supposed to be a learn how to ride class. Needless to say I didn't pass and I went out to my car and cried. I felt like I let myself down and my best friend who was supposed to take the class with me but she died from breast cancer the winter before. Every time I thought of that day I got so anxious about whether or not I could do this. I decided last week a year later to try again...different place and a course that is definitely designed for beginners. I am going to do this for me. Am I a mixed bag of emotions...you betcha but I want this and I will use your tips to get into the mindset I need to have. Thank you for your story!!!
At 1:35 you tell your viewers how you failed your motorcycle riding foundation course while your helmet-mounted GoPro captures the beautiful scenery as you ride along the backroads of your neighbourhood. Immediately, I clicked the like button. You’re a champion in my book! Keep on riding, and more power to you. Watching from Thailand. 🙏🏽🇹🇭
I had some anxiety, even after riding for 12 years. It took getting a bike that fit me better which caused me to have more confidence with the bike and watching Jerry "Motorman" Palladino's videos on RUclips (Ride Like a Pro), ordering his training videos, and practicing his lessons.
Awesome video, the big thing for me was confidence. It drove my anxiety crazy. but my wife and he family all got harleys and I wanted something to be part of the experience with them. So we got her a 883 low sportster for her second bike to ride with her dad and his triglide and after we got it home she told me to give it a try. Terrified of the worst, the worst happened I dropped her new bike in the first turn.. luckily nothing happened to the bike my shoe saved the paint from the ground. I was devastated but determined to prove myself that I can ride a motorcycle like when I was a kid on my xr75. So I got on it again after a few weeks and got practice. Passed the brc with 1 point from failing. Got a 350 dual sport rode it for a few months. Now I'm the proud owner of a 2008 cvo road king. Lol I'm still learning but it is now a dream come true to ride with my wife on her new 2020 street glide and be able to keep up. It is a long road but with loved ones support, it is possible. Sorry for the long post. I hope someone finds my story helpful. Anything is possible with help and believe in yourself like I should have. It is amazing to be on two wheels and see the world like that. Be safe!
I went to a motorcycle safety course earlier this week and failed it too. I was having issues learning at the same pace everyone else was and it really demoralized me. It's helped me feel a lot better to know and hear that it's not just me that had a similar issue. This video was helpful and the most encouraging and has given me a bit more comfort in myself trying to learn how to ride a motorcycle. Thank you!
I fid my cbt yesterday. Been wanting to do it since 15 years old. When i turned 16 mum wouldn’t let me. By 18 years old i had bad travel sickness. I suffer with anxiety and panic attacks among other mental disorders. I am 26 now btw. But yesterday the first 30-45 mins running the bike with engine on just riding on clutch biting point, i panicked cornering at 7mph i put my food down. I quickly got comfortable tiding in the carpark whizzing around, trusted myself and trust the bike. Everything went great, the u-turn, figure 8, emergency stop. Changing from first to second gear etc. was all going well. Then when we did the junction training and still practicing in car park, i stalled it coz when braking i forgot the clutch and the bike cuts out. But other than that everytbing was really well. They we’re confident in me being out on the road as i have shown i can control the bike, i do my safety checks and life savers, signal etc. but i struggle with roundabouts and motorways in any vehicle as a passenger (i know on a 125cc and as a learner cant go on motorways) So out on the road was supposed to be a minimum of 2 hours…. I managed 20-25 mins. In that time i did 2 roundabouts (i got stuck on them and stalled it a few times, also forgot to drop to first gear when reach junction) roundabout was very busy and i was intimidated by them. First roundabout i did 1st exit. 2nd roundabout i did 3rd exit. Being in that roundabout was terrifiying. Then when got out on main road, was getting comfortable at 15mph and got into 2nd gear. I ride smoother in 2nd gear and feel comfortable. I get to 20-25mph and my instructor told me to pick up the speed a bit more. I got it to 28mph and I panicked. I can hear the instructor but he couldnt hear me so i couldnt tell him i needed to stop. So i checked mirrors, did a life saver, indicated and pulled over to side of road and just dropped my head on the tank. Bursting in tears. And shaking like crazy. Was very overwhelmed as a lot was happening at once. So i took a breather. Still had to get the bike back whilst crying and watery eyes i stayed at 20mph in the little roads by houses but i had to conquer the roundabout near where our CBT was. And that was the worst coz how stressed i was. But i got bike back safely, no accidents. They want me to come back for a half day (will only cost me £90 to do, instead of the £179 i paid for this CBT) and they will put me on an automatic when out on the road so i can get comfortable with soeed without worrying about gears, stalling at junctions etc. so i can just focus on getting comfortable with speed. So when pass CBT, even tho im out on the road with automatic, my CBT full cover a manual too because they confident in me using it correctly, just need more practice. So i can buy a 125cc and practice in villages gain confidence. But i will be finishing the CBT with a 125cc automatic
Girl - you are my spirit animal! Exact same story! Got the bug this summer, bought my bike, and took the class. I’ve had so many people telling me how dangerous riding is that it gave me tons of anxiety. I’ve been doing same as you: riding each day. I’m slowly getting better....I know I’ll get there! Thank you for helping me feel less alone!
Been doing this for 50 years. And I’ll tell ya all. If you really ride we all go down sometime. There is only two kinds of bikers the ones that have fell and the ones that will again. Truth. Good luck it’s worth it.
I've had so much anxiety to try and overcome with riding but we bought a Honda Rebel a month ago and it has helped me gain a ton of confidence in that time. I have a sportster but it intimidated me so much that it impeded my learning. I've tried to ride every evening if only for 15 mins at a time. I ride over to my brother in law's house about 3 miles away and practice in his driveway with starting, stopping and u turns. I've slowly moved to the neighborhood and now to the surrounding back roads. Having a little motorcycle was key to my learning. I'm supposed to take my permit test on friday. I've been studying hard but I'm so nervous. When we get back from vacation I plan to sign up for the msf course. This has been a dream come true for me as I've wanted to learn to ride since I was a kid. 👍😊 My hubs has taught me so much and been so patient with me. I couldn't imagine doing this without his help and encouragement.
Carrie Flynn I’m in the same boat...have a HD sportster 1200; but i am intimated by it right now...was debating buying a honda rebel 500 as well; to learn on, then sell. Big drawback is the $$ for one; and then it doesnt have forward controls...i am tall and that is important. Uugh...my fiancé is about to give up on me; so really need to try!! We’re having 90 degree days and i cant get dressed to ride in this heat...oh the trouble....
@@Karenm1969 Hello, I definitely understand about not wanting to have to spend the money on another motorcycle. I dreaded to tell my husband that I needed a different bike, too. We found a really nice used 2013 Honda Rebel 250 for $1,500. It only has 4000 miles on it. I might even decide to keep it for a while just because it's so much easier for me to get it out and maneuver it around my treacherous yard filled with pine straw and holes. I'd be scared to attempt it on the sportster especially while my hubby's at work. I have fallen in love with this little bike just because it has made learning so much easier for me. I'm petite 5'2" and 110lbs and 45 years old so that comes with it's own challenges as I'm sure your being tall causes different challenges for you. I'm at the moment trying to find a helmet that I can tolerate and its been so frustrating because I wear either an x small or xx small and once I finally get one adjusted to fit my little chin it feels like its gonna block my wind pipe off by choking me.🙄😳 I asked my hubs tonight "why do the seemingly simplest of things always have to be so darn complicated when it comes to me and a motorcycle"? I didn't mean to respond here with a novel but I just wanted to let you know that I definitely understand what you are going through and I want to encourage you to keep at the learning in whatever way that's beneficial to you. For me, buying the little bike has been a game changer and worth every penny spent. A sportster is only small to people who know how to ride already. I think between the loud pipes, the lope of a harley v twin, the top heavy weight and the tremendous amount of heat rolling off of a sportster engine it really can get in your head and intimidate you. This little honda is really quiet, the clutch is really smooth and light and it doesn't put off near the heat that my sportster does. I believe all of these things are beneficial to someone who's trying to learn. I'm rooting for you, you can do it. 👍😉😊
I had a similar experience. I was learning on a bigger bike and I was feeling really intimidated, like maybe I wasn't really meant to ride. Then we got a little Honda Rebel and I gained much more confidence and started picking it up so much faster! I just took my permit test on Friday and I was SOOOO nervous but I got through it and I'm so happy!
@@jaxxlyn5185 Congratulations on passing your permit test. I'm trying to get in a msf course before the winter but I might have to wait til spring. I'm currently on the waiting list. I'm just gonna ride on my permit until then and get all the practice I can while on my Honda. However, I'm hoping to get my Sportster out on Friday and see if I can improve my abilities on it. My hubby is supposed to be off work so it's a rare opportunity I have to get to ride it. I'm nervous at the thought of even sitting on it. 😬🥺 I've managed to whip it into something way bigger than it is, in my head. I'm so ready to dispell it. It's been the big scary monster for too long. I hope to make some progress with it for my mental well being if nothing else. 😝 I don't want another winter to come and me have to sit with it in my head like this. It's getting rediculous at this point. I'm always excited to hear of other folks learning to ride and sharing their triumphs and struggles. As I guess we all have both. 👍😊
I’ve been riding for a little over a year. I’m the classic old guy on a motorcycle . I’ve been a paratrooper in the us army and taking that bike out for the first time was more fearful than jumping out of an airplane for the first time. I took my time and rode my own ride. I rode a lot and was willing to learn from others. Every ride is a learning experience . It does indeed get better and so much more fun as you hone your skills. Thanks Jess for sharing you experience.
I don't ride NEARLY as much as I want to and it reflects in my skill level. I'm not as comfortable as I want to be. I'm struggling to find a balance between being a mom to young kids who want to spend time with me and riding. When I'm finally on my bike I feel fairly comfortable riding within my skill level but actually putting on all my gear and backing my bike out of the garage, my heart pounds and I get that nervous adrenaline rush you get waiting in line for a roller coaster. I have to start pushing myself or I will never get the comfort and skill level I want to achieve.
Like someone else already said, Ride your own ride, don't push yourself to hard, this is suppose to be fun. Your not getting paid to ride a bike. Be safe.
I've been riding for nearly twenty years and I still have a moment of jitters before the first ride of the day. A healthy fear of what could go wrong is ok, just accept it and control the things you can, the rest will take care of itself. And always remember the rubber side goes down lol
Im terrified of making a mistake and of traffic. Without any cars on the streets it would be no problem, id feel less stressed and would not be thinking about making a mistake, having slow gearshifts or riding slower than some others, id simply enjoy learning without the pressure i make myself believe, traffic is putting on me to basically fit in perfectly. Its so frustrating 😑 i feel damn pathetic.. never drove a car, right away hopped on a bike so everything is new, there's noone sitting next to u helping u out or anything, telling u when to shift and pointing out mistakes or things to work on.. (and yes yes i know u can hear it from the engine when to shift gears, that feeling or hearing just hasn't had the time to develop yet).. anxiety sucks.. I hope i can overcome this fear soon like you did.. i rly wish for it to happen 💜
Oh man, I had such bad anxiety when I bought my bike. A few people I knew died in motorcycle accidents right after I bought my bike. I let my bike sit in front of my house for over a year with only having rode it twice. It finally clicked in my head that this was my dream. I had always wanted a motorcycle ever since I could drive. I needed up waiting til I was 28 to get my endorsement. I finally just started making myself ride. I had to make it worth it. Right now I use my bike for commuting and eventually, I’ll work my way up to leisurely riding. 😁 oh and I know all about stalling at a red light! Happened to me! And then the car behind me proceeded to hit me and knock me over. Most embarrassing moment ever. Took me a bit to realize it wasn’t my fault at all and he should have been paying attention
That reminds me of my early years riding a 1960 Matchless 650 in Boston. I stopped at a light. Light turned green, I began to take off and next thing I knew I was on the ground with cars blowing horns at me. I picked up the bike and pushed it to the curb. An oil line came off and dumped oil on the street in front of the rear tire. People were only interested in me blocking traffic lol.
Omg! I always get scared that'll happen. But I've stalled multiple times and I guess I was lucky because the drivers were patient. No honking nothing and I'm always so grateful!
When I first started riding I used to trip out over road surfaces. Tar snakes, uneven pavement, grooved surfaces, etc. I would tense up and stare down at the road and have a mini panic attack. Thought I'd never get over it and was super discouraged, but you're 100% right, if you keep riding you slowly gain more and more confidence. I think back to that time now and laugh at how much of a puss I was being LOL
@@SAVEmeFROMtheANTS Yep. Hate that feeling. Hit one of those on a turn and feel your back tire break loose for a second. I'm very wary of them, but they still get me once in a while
Hey Jess! I am a 48 yr old woman, wife and mother of 2 grown girls. I started riding about 4 years ago. I took the motorcycle course too and passed it. I was so proud of myself but when I got my own bike and started riding, I was petrified. The course was great for the know-how and for learning some skills but it did not help with my anxiety at all. So I just started out by sitting on my bike, starting her up, taking her for small trips around my neighborhood, all the things you listed. I did this for a while until I was brave enough to go on a longer rider...about 2 hours round trip. But I still wasn't gaining much confidence. I even stopped riding for a while feeling frustrated and like a failure. Then I starting thinking that my bike didn't fit me quite right. So I went shopping and found one that did. Now I am back out there, getting that riding experience again and telling myself that I can do this! I also just recently found your channel and watching your videos makes me feel not so alone in my struggles and has given some a sense of empowerment. So I want to thank you for that and for taking the time to share your experiences with us. I look forward to when I go on my first road trip!
“Proper planning and preparation prevents piss poor performance.” Riding a bike, driving a car, riding a motorcycle all require muscle memory, and to get muscle memory requires practice and patience. One thing all riders should do when they get a new motorcycle is take it to a quite well surfaced area (empty car park) and practice braking get some markers set up and start slow and gradually increase the force you brake with. You will be amazed by how much you can improve your performance and confidence in a short period of time. Think of it this way: You set up a braking marker and approach it at a safe set speed (30mph) and apply the brakes as you pass the marker steadily and mark the point you stop, then repeat the exercise over and over squeezing a little harder each time. (REMEMBERING IT THE BRAKE LOCKS, JUST RELEASE IT! After all you are in an empty car park, you aren’t going to hit anything!) The difference between your starting effort and the confident well practiced last run, should be clearly better. That distance you have saved in stopping might just be the difference between hitting the car that pulls out on you, and managing to stop before hitting it! This exercise costs you nothing but your time, a little fuel and a tiny bit of your brake pads. Remember to squeeze the brakes, don’t grab at them.
I inherited my fathers 01 Dyna Lowrider when he passed 3 years ago I’ve never drove one before but I’ve always had the passion and love for them. Your videos have been helping with my anxiety of getting on and just going so for that thank you!!! As soon as I save up the money I’m getting dads dyna some fresh rubber and having it gone through. Hopefully I’ll be riding sometime this fall. Thank you again for your confidence and motivation you’re awesome!!!
So true about accidents, I recently started and I laid down my bike 3 times, luckily no damage to myself of the bike besides the bar ends. I remember practicing in my neighborhood for 2months before I went out on the road. Again like you said experience, and also reflecting on that experience and thinking what can I do next time to be better. Thanks for sharing!
I laid mine down a few times practicing in my neighborhood too and after taking the riding course I realized what I was doing wrong and haven’t done it since. Thank god lol.
I grew up riding quads and having family members that always rode. So I always knew I wanted to get a motorcycle when I got older. When I turned 21 I went and took a riders course and got my license. I went out and purchased my first bike. A Suzuki boulevard s40. I did no research on any bike just walked in a dealership told them I wanted a motorcycle, they showed me one, and that was it. I think I sat on it for a second, then decided to get it(i was just excited to get my first bike) I think that’s when my anxiety started. Whenever I would get on her it just didn’t feel right. I rushed and got something without doing any research or seeing if it was a good fix for me, so now whenever I would get on and try to go for a ride I would get a straight anxiety attack. I’ve had my bike for about three years now and maybe put in 100 miles. Seeing you ride reminds me of how excited I first was to ride. I’ve decided to do my research and look into bikes that are better Suited for me. Love your videos!
So, I'll try to keep this short. Bought my first bike Last September, never rode before, Harley had to drive the bike to my house. I got the permit, took the safety class, failed and then the class stopped for the winter. Covid hit and the classes were cancelled. Then, the State of PA discontinued the classes, so I had to do the testing at the DMV. Took it and passed. I went through EVERY step you touched on in your video. This is all very real and you hit the nail on the head. I thought it was just me feeling bad. Thank you, you're very sensible!
I’ve been watching for a bit now and your one big reason I want to ride when I get older! My favorite Motorcycle/Harley-Davidson DYNA! I really love the older DYNA’s but it’s cool to see a Woman riding motorcycle’s. Your a big inspiration to me and thank you for being an amazing role model and making awesome videos! ❤️
I got my first motorcycle in 2023. The second day I had it I was in a wreck and fractured my eye socket in two places, fractured my cheek, whiplash, etc etc. So a year later I decided that it was time. I got on my bike maybe an hour ago and rode for about an hour just in my neighborhood. There is residual fear for sure but I'm with you, practice good frame of mind and when I'm ready I'll take it out on the open road. It's good to know that I'm not alone. Girl power!! 😊😊
Everything you mentioned was a reflection of how I’m overcoming my anxiety Jess. From just sitting on my bike in the garage at first, taking it to the edge of my driveway. Then riding it on my “dead end” street to now riding it with confidence and setting my anxiety off to the side. Thanks again.
I subscribed to “Her Two Wheels” because I relate to many of her videos, remembering my earIy riding years after my MSF course in 1980, I even became an instructor for MSF & Better Biking Course for 5 years. Yes, I still feel I’m learning with every ride. Mileage is trumped by riding technique & steady practice. Although secondary roads are a good “tonic.” But Jess was right, do small trips first, afterwards as your confidence rises take baby steps next; do a little 1/2 hour or so vacant lot warm up primer working your way up to do tight circles, to achieve several tight left & right turns “lock to lock.” Then do figure 8’s. Use full eye & head turns all the way around the turn, using throttle & friction zone control with gentle rear brake. As Jess did, she took time to build her abilities in small steps & time in the saddle. Do this next step as a warm up before ANY long ride. With bike laden with all your gear practice by yourself. If possible, later do it with your passenger if you want to have a co-rider, where the skin in the skills you have are magnified. I highly recommend “Ride Like a Pro” videos with Jerry Paladino, are free on RUclips & I highly recommend you subscribe to it.
I was SHAKEN when I went to take the MSF. My husband is a confident rider and riding with him knowing he'd be evaluating what I was doing and "judging" in a way gave me a LOT of anxiety. Now I feel a lot more comfortable and confident after a few months in the saddle, and go to ride to reduce the stress and anxiety from other parts of my life
Yesss riding is the best stress reliever in the world I think. Wind therapy is free minus a couple bucks for gas but definitely beats paying a Therapist $200 an hr lol. Non riders have no idea how much money they could be saving 🤣
I get it! I'm much more stressed riding with my husband. So i told him I wouldn't ride my bike with him until I'm fully comfortable. So whenever we want to ride toegther I sit behind him amd that's that!
Love your honesty, encouragement and advice. I have lots of anxiety to over come. i’m a new rider barely 1 month, i bought a new Kawasaki ninja 650, i have lots to learn so thank you, thank you, thank you!
Yes, I am still in the midst of rider anxiety. I have been fixing my bike and learning how to ride it. I get really scared around traffic. What really gets me is the riding with traffic. My bike is low power and that concerns me when riding with traffic. But when you get out on the open road and away from other cars it is just awe inspiring. Luckily I live is a semi rural area.
For someone who does not think she knows much about a brain I think you are doing pretty good Jess! Remember a little anxiety is good, you don't want to get too comfortable.
Lots of respect I have for you !! Thank you for this video !! You have a video you posted a while back taking about this ! It changed me and helped me a lot !! Once again this one is helping me again! I had a panic attack while riding ! And it set me back on my riding. I felt strange, like a failure for getting it. I have been avoiding my bike bc I'm terrified that it would happen again. I rode her again to the spot I had the panic attack to face my fear . I was shaking and the anxiety was all over. Thank you for sharing your experience, when you get anxious about riding in my case I feel " alone" I feel like I should not . I'm terrified of getting another panic attack but I know that consistency is the key! Your words in this video were keys for me to go back out there with my Clementine. Bc it is possible.
Man this just hit the feels today. I live in AZ and during my class I passed out from being so hot and stressed out with the anxiety that hit. I have my bike already but the class experience really put into question if I should still do this. After watching this I know I'm going to reschedule my class. Thanks!
I was once a pole climbing lineman. Climbing wood poles with hooks felt alot like riding anxiety. Like clockwork youd become over confident, cutout (a hook would lose grip) and come crashing down. Motorcycling is alot like that. Its a skill to be honed and also a balance to be maintained. And an adventure to be enjoyed. Some of those pole climbing views were so cool and beautiful, 15 years later I still recall vividly. Just like motorcycles has given me mental views I will also cherish for a lifetime. And just like dropping a bike now, there were cutouts then I can recall from then. Like watching a work bud skin a pole for 20' knowing that hitting the ground after that fall would end his life. But after enough cutouts he instinctively knew what to do and miraculously caught himself. There wasn't anything anyone else could do for him in that very moment but him. It was him, his equipment, and a 40' electric pole. His skill, and quick reaction literally saved his life. Its the same way with motorcycles. It takes practice, mistakes, and learning from those mistakes and the mistakes from others to know and create instinct. I love this lifestyle. I enjoy your videos. You're a very sweet generous soul. And I look fwd to seeing your stories when they pop up in my feed. Ever meet on the road, cool. Biker salute in the meantime, stay safe, keep rolling.
I’n nutty, but here is my anxiety: Riding lane position three setting up for a left hand turn. I need that part of the road if the curve requires it. I would tense up and get that feeling people who can’t swim get when tall water comes up around their chest. I was afraid of running off the road. I’m still not perfect, but some things help. Ride often. Get your mind ahead of the bike - setup for the corner - speed - etc. Learn trail braking. Practice being smoother on the controls. Go looking for those scary corners. Be loose, not tight. Relish the physical sensation of doing it right. Repetition/ refinement. I used to have a bike. Quit for a long time. Started back about a year ago.
Took your advice and jumped on it! 1hr later im back and feeling better. Even rode the twisties up to montage mountain ski resort in northeast Pennsylvania. Thanks again!
I still get anxiety from time to time. I still am not the greatest with hills and some curves are not my friend...lol. But when I only had my motorcycle and no care. You kind of have no other choice but to face your fears. I love riding, and sometimes getting into your own head will create more anxiety at times. Backroads are my happy place honestly, they really do help. As always, great video!
OMG! This sounds so much like my experience. Started riding a few years ago at age 51. Failed the MSF course but something about it pulled me in. Picked up a used Honda Shadow. Rode up and down my street. Got a little braver. Ventured into the neighborhood. Tipped over a couple times. LOL. Rode about 2 miles to an empty parking lot and practiced, practiced, practiced. My confidence slowly grew. Had a few panic moments. Went back to the parking lot. You get the idea. I just purchased my third bike, an Indian touring bike. So its back to the parking lot. Ultimately, practice builds confidence. The more I ride the more enjoyable it becomes. Great content. Keep it coming.
I think you're talking about exposure therapy. It works really well on motorcycles. I was always afraid of them when I was younger. But I found myself in a situation where my only way around was on the back of a friend's bike. It really caused me a lot of anxiety at first. But slowly the more I was on it with nothing going wrong, I began to lose that anxiety and actually enjoy the ride. That led to me learning to ride and getting my own two wheels.
I just bought motorcycle to try and combat my general anxiety. After noticing how much anxiety I experience just during my daily life, I developed a theory that adding another external stressor - for example, riding a motorcycle - would help train my brain to become accustomed to an even higher level of anxiety, and would therefore be calmer during my daily activities. This is not my first motorcycle - I'm 55 years old and have been riding off and on for 35 years, but I haven't had one for the last 3 years or so. Getting back in the saddle was a bit of a challenge, but I'm regaining confidence and learning more to become a better rider than ever. Like you said, you have to know your limits and ride your own ride. I got passed up last night by a guy on a sportbike who was pulling a wheelie that lasted for well over a mile straight (I checked on the odometer as I trailed along behind him). I have no intention or desire to ever ride like that, but again... ride your own ride. Put in as much saddle-time as you can and the confidence will come.
Awesome video! I had major riding anxiety after I failed my first attempt at the MSF course. My husband helped majorly with giving me the kick in the butt I needed to get back on. I would ride around our subdivision almost daily, getting my speed up and remembering what the instructor said “trust your bike”. I started thanking my bike (Sally) for keeping me safe. Went to retake the MSF course and the instructors noticed a huge difference and I passed - watching your videos helped with my confidence too. My husband has been riding 20+ years and he helps with giving me feedback. Ultimately, I prefer riding alone so I’m not getting anxiety about trying to keep up and reminding myself it’s my ride. Thanks again for the videos. Stay safe!
Hiya, old video but thought I'd comment as it's really helpful ☺️ I just got my first motorbike (a CBR125R) and I'm in love with it but absolutely petrified. I failed my CBT (UK MSF) first time as well! I also cried all day, then got my friend to take me to a car park where I shakily road my bike in huge laps of it 😅 I finally got my license last week but I am so so scared on the road. Went on a series of 10 minute rides with my friend in my empty neighbourhood and had to stand there in-between each run shaking and talking myself up to do it again. I'm forcing myself to go out on my own tomorrow for the first time.. I'm scared but I'm gonna do it thanks to your video :) ❤️
I just started riding a couple weeks ago. I stall my bike all the time! Thank you for this video it’s nice to hear the encouragement to ride at your own pace. The person teaching me at the moment has been riding bikes his whole life his whole family rides and he can get kinda pushy with how he wants me to learn. I am so glad I found your channel and l can feel support even though it’s not in person interaction! Thank you so much for making these videos!
I am 65 yrs old and have been riding for fifty yrs. and it thrills me to see and listen to new riders. I always encourage others to get a bike and ride. To me it's just good therapy for life's aggravations. I now ride a trike so I'm learning to ride all over again. Keep up the videos your doing a great job. Adam Sandoval said it best when someone is not sure about getting a motorcycle tell them "life is short buy the damn bike"..Happy rides.
I have been having a hard time getting back on mine after dropping it a few times. The anxiety is so high, but I have started in the parking lot and it's getting better. Thanks for the video
Good video! Similar experience to yours. Took my MSF course and passed, then got my motorcycle....and had a minor wreck a block from my house! Goosed the throttle and knocked myself over. So she sat in the garage for 2 weeks, and then I spent months riding to a parking lot nearby at 15mph. Now I talk to my bike and we have great rides!
I've been riding five years also. I was 52 when I took my mod 1 and 2 in the uk and my anxiety was through the roof, but I agree the more you ride helps and if I mess up I just tell my self out loud to breath and be calm, it really helps me. I but still get anxious if I don't ride often. Thanks for a really helpful video.
I am 56 and took the MFS course and was terrified. It was hot and I was the only female in the class and it was miserable for me. I failed. I didn’t feel that bad about it though because it was the first time I had ever rode a bike and I had horrible anxiety. I took the class again with a friend of mine a month later and we both failed. Then I was devastated. The instructor counseled me out of the test and told me I didn’t have good control of my bike and suggested I try a Spyder. I wanted to cry. I don’t have a bike. I was told to take the class first and make sure I like riding before I spend the money on a bike. After seeing your video I’m rethinking this. Maybe I will go get a bike and practice - I live really close to a church parking lot where I could practice everyday. I was happily shocked when you admitted you failed the MSF the first time. Thanks for posting. I was thinking about either a 2019 or 2020 Honda Rebel 300 ABS. Thoughts?
The best way to conquer your fears is to confront them, bit by bit over time. Be safe, practice, then practice more and just stick at it until you are happy. Confidence comes with practice, as does relaxing, being relaxed and confident makes you a smoother rider. It then becomes a self fulfilling prophecy of increasing confidence. The trick then is maintaining a level of respect before cockiness sets in :o) I also ride alone or with my partner only, I don't trust other people enough. That said, I'm always willing to ride with new riders, people who are still learning or have just passed their test to help them build confidence without being crazy. As for coming off... remember there are riders who have dropped their bike, and those that haven't....yet! I've dropped almost every bike I've owned, mostly when pushing them around the yard. It happens. And yes, most importantly biking is meant to be fun. I do think that there comes a point, where if you can't conquer the fear or anxiety for whatever reason, then you have to ask yourself why you are doing it. Peer pressure to have a bike licence and ride is a thing, and sometimes if you just cannot, despite trying everything, conquer it then you have to ask yourself that tough question. Why do you want to ride? If the reasons for doing it cannot outweigh your fear then perhaps it's not the best thing to be doing. Riding full of unconquerable fear is a sure fire way to have an accident. But I genuinely believe this is a tiny minority, most peoples fear or anxiety can be overcome with practice and putting miles under their belts at a pace that suits them. It's a tough subject, I'm not sure I articulated my points particularly well - I want to see more people, especially women, riding motorcycles and enjoying it and will always help anyone who wants to do it.
Riding anxiety knows no boundaries. I had taken a number of years away from riding. The first time I jumped back on a bike I was terrified. The 3 mile ride to the gas station was the most stressful thing I did that week. Our riding season is short here in Northern Canada. Already have snow, parked the bike two weeks ago. Every spring, that first ride I get anxious. I’m on high alert as drivers are use to seeing motorcycles out and I ride like everyone is out to play bumper cars with me. Lol. You gave great advice! Just keep pushing yourself further! It really quickly becomes second nature, but never stop improving your skills.
I've only been riding three yrs .I'm taking my first long trip or at least for me 41/2 hrs . I have anxiety everytime I ride turns are my issues. I get nervous when people get behind me . I'm like u I like to ride by myself .I'm a slow rider it's my life I ride for me.and enjoy it
Hi Jess. I have had many bikes but over the last few years I dropped my Softail, with injuries and dropped a bike in my garage moving it and in my driveway due to gravel. Now I experience anxiety braking to a stop at low speeds, expecting the bike to drop again! Crazy! So now I take every opportunity to practice slow speed braking to try rebuild my confidence. Our brains are certainly fickle!
I was pretty darn nervous. Heck, I'm still nervous. I've only been riding for about 2 months. Thanks for the different view points and tips on how to think while riding.
you are becoming quite the mentor to new riders and even helping the old guys see through a fresh pair of eyes you are officially an "experienced rider" at this point
My story is pretty similar to yours. I agree just get out there by yourself, get to know your bike, make it your best friend and talk to her. Practice, practice, practice. Seat time, seat time, seat time. I’m still learning and yes, ride your own ride. Thanks for all your inspiring videos. Ride safe. 👍🏻🏍💕
I can totally relate to your story. I'm a lady rider as well. I also got my own bike about almost 4 years ago a scooter un particular and doesn't really have any knowledge or whatsoever of driving one. It was stuck at my parking for a few weeks before a friend taught how to drive it. It definitely caused a lot of anxiety at first but the excitement and the challenge was there as well. I don't have any knowledge or whatsoever about bike either but as what they say, knowledge and things will come along if the willingness is there to learn. After having my scooter for almost 4 yrs now and watching your channel, it inspires me to get a bigger bike. Though still contemplating since I've been wanting to have an adventure bike since I love camping outdoors just like what you do. Given our situation now, iny situation ib my country is a bit limiting when going on camping tours i enjoy watching your sola campong trips and hoping that when this pandemic is over, I can also do what you do. Continue creating more contents as I always watch them. Stay and Ride Safe 🤟
Good info for the team, think the best issue you brought out was; 'ride your own ride', don't get caught up trying to keep up with riders going faster than you're comfortable with. I'm a returning rider after having been away from the bike for about 23 years, and having ridden for over 20 years prior to that. I'll confess that first ride taking the new bike home was an eye opener, realizing all the skills I'd known decades before were no longer available to me. One of the best things I did was watch Jerry Paladino, MC Rider, and Dan the Fireman, then go out to the high school parking lot and practice their lessons. Doesn't make you bullet proof, but it does help you build your skills, and building your skills will build your confidence, thus reducing your anxiety which makes you safer over all. Like you said brain training, and physical training-constant cycle. By the way, love the sound of your Dyna. She sounds quite bad ass. What pipes are you running?
This is the exact video I needed today. I took my bike out for the third day and I was totally terrified. I'm determined to go daily, until I reach that first level of confidence I so richly crave. And then, I'll continue riding every day!
I'm currently trying to overcome my riding anxiety. I took a MSF course for the first time last November and failed. I was the only person in the class who dropped the bike...twice. Then, I got a Honda Rebel 500 and was practicing, just trying to get comfortable. I had a permit so I had to ride with my husband, who rides and drives faster than me. I wanted to retake the course so I could get my license and ride alone to get comfortable. I focus best and feel most at ease when I'm alone. So I took the course again recently and I passed! (Dropped the bike once during one of those figure 8's, but otherwise it was a success). It really is a learning curve, and at first you feel like you're the only one messing up and you must be bad at this, especially being a female rider. I'm not a quitter, though, and I'm determined to be a confident rider! I like your content and it makes me feel like I'm not alone in my struggles. Thanks! Oh, also, I traded my Honda Rebel 500 for an Indian Scout Rogue and I feel way more comfortable on a bigger bike. It's so smooth when you ride it and it makes me feel like a badass that I can handle a sexy cruiser haha.
Thankyou! so much for motivating me. Your story made me take my vehicle from my garage and just start. Well Ik how to drive all I need is to be more confident.
2 years ago at 55 I took the course dropped the bike on Emergecy stopping. Embarrassing! Went across the street to dmv got my permit . Next day purchased a brand new 2018 heritage. Had it delivered first ride 10 miles nervous. Went back passed the test have gone over 7000 miles. Love it 😍!
David that is a common mistake people make. Their first bike is too big. As a rider for 45 years and with hundreds of thousands of miles under my belt I strongly believe people should start with a small dirt bike. A street legal dual sport bike is perfect to take the test and to learn because the upright stance and wide handlebars together with light weight makes it easy to control. Good luck with your ride!
I had my bike before I took the course at Harley-Davidson only to get familiar with riding and practiced a few times in my neighborhood and dropped it on like 3 different occasions and couldn’t figure out what I was doing wrong and my spirit more than anything was crushed and was losing my confidence. The course was very much needed and so glad I took it. I haven’t dropped my bike once since finishing the course and getting my license(knock on wood). I figured out what I was doing wrong and now know not to do again. Lol
Thank you Jess, really needed this video. I really have riding enxiety. It really doesn't feel good to be scared all the time. Instead of riding on my girl i found myself making excuses not to ride. When I am riding it really feels good, so yes it is just to set your mind right. Thanks for the video :-)
Great Video! I had to laugh when you said you use to have a carbureted bike and she was temperamental and you'd ask her if she is gonna act up today....I laugh b/c that is still me currently with my bike and probably a question I ask her everyday before I hop on LOL
I’m also in the same age and thanks to your YT channel I’ve started to ride on camp on my motorcycle. Your trully an inspiration. Best regards from Poland😎
IMHO - this is probably one of the best videos you've done in a while. Love the attention you always give to the new riders and their concerns. I don't suffer much in the anxiety department - been riding 2 wheels since I was about 4 yrs old; of course, that was a bicycle but that counts too. That being said, when I got back into motorcycles in Oct 2019, after being away for the better part of 25 years, I have to say that I bought way too much motorcycle (used) and the ride home was an eye-opening event. I really love your comment about spending 6 months in a parking lot if that's what it takes to get comfortable enough to ride on the streets. I took the better part of 2 months in parking lots before I got comfortable in the streets. But that practice allows me to now know I can do a U-Turn in the middle of a country road without duck-walking it, take corners at posted speed limits (my FLSTC doesn't lean far before scraping the footboards, so doing more than the posted is just not on), do the "slow race" in traffic without dragging my feet, and riding two-up with confidence. So, yeah, as you say - everyone needs to ride their own ride and do only what they are comfortable doing. That's the path the being happy and ridding oneself of the anxiety.
I have been riding since 1986. To this day I still practice and think about the basics of riding while I'm riding. You're never too experienced that you stop learning. As always, enjoyed the video 👍
It took me three tries to pass the MSF course. :) Third time was a charm, being taught one on one with an experienced instructor. I think at least half my problem was the group situation and having zero experience. I was literally learning from square one while being worried about all the other bikes around me. I still don't care for large group rides - spikes my anxiety.
Hi Jess, I love how you suggested that we talk to our bike and treat her as a best friend, our "trusted steed." And to focus on the positive. Thank you!
When I bought my Dina last year it had been 20+ years since I last rode. Needless to say I was a bit apprehensive when I left the dealership. As soon as I got out on the road though the feeling went away and I remembered why I rode in the first place.
The Father That would not have been good. I’ve recently graduated to a new Heritage Classic. Loved the Dina but the Heritage is just an Awesome bike and handles 2 up riding so much better.
Only been riding for about 8 1/2 years. Still get anxiety in certain situations. The key for me is ride my own ride! Have fun and stay relaxed yet focused. Riding is fun and therapeutic for me. When I’m riding in a tense situation I focus more on safety and riding out of the situation. Eventually that situation is behind you and back to the wind therapy.
Right now, I have to say I still feel some anxiety when turning on small corners. Thanks for your videos, you have been my motivation when I’m about to give up! 💙
Thank you for this video! This helped me get on my bike earlier when my anxiety felt like it was going to win. It didn't! Rode with my hubby a little. I'm a new rider, failed the course, failed the test.... I didn't quit and decided that I ride motorcycles, even when my nerves get out of wack. Thank you for this!!
Hi Jess thanks for the video. My fiance was thrown off a bike when she was 6 and is now petrified of motorcycles. I'll definitely pass this on to her. Please keep the great content coming 🤘🏻
I've been ridin since 1966! Living here in Florida i ride every day. 100% right. Experience is the best teacher. I had to take the riding course after a period of no bike. Out of 8 students 3 failed. Get back on the horse. Confidence is the biggest factor. My instructor saw how ood a rider i was and the owner of the dealership where i took the course wanted me to take their instructors course. 68 now the best advice i give to young riders is practice. That will instill your confidence. Just don't get cocky! Be safe.🏍✌
I'm currently experiencing the same sensation of anxiety when riding a motorcycle, especially a bigger one than the previous one I own. By watching your VDO, it helped me a lot and it' s nice to know that I'm not alone to feel that way on a new bike. Thanks for the thoughts.
Deer are my biggest anxiety while riding. Sure it’s nice when they’re deep in someone’s yard or walk slowly across the road well in front of you. What do you do if they T Bone you or leap right in front of you giving you no time to brake or react? I can plan 12 seconds ahead with traffic or see the person at an intersection but the deer aren’t as easy. I cover my brakes while riding rural roads and ride the speed limit or below but that’s really all you can do to protect yourself!
Kenneth Eroh That’s the kind of ‘unexpected’ we should all be prepared for and ready to react. After Jess saw deer twice, I was surprised to see her coasting along with one hand on the grips. If you see them once, or just see a ‘frequent deer crossing’ warning sign, do all you can to be on the ready and increase your chances of coming out of it on top.
I've only been riding for a year now and I have to say i love it, I talk to my bike all the time especially while I'm doing an oil change. Love the videos Jess keep up the good work!
The type of anxiety that I experience is more of a pre-trip anxiety. Even after planning and gearing up and being ready for just about anything the closer the day comes to leave I can literally feel anxiety building. Once I get underway everything seems to clear but getting to that point can be daunting... As a matter of fact, I'm leaving on Friday for a cross country west to east trip, the last few days have been kind of a drain.
That’s exactly the type of anxiety I get! I’m a newer rider, and I get so exhaustingly anxious before setting out on a longer ride. As soon as I get on the bike and get going, I’m absolutely fine! Logically, I know I’m going to enjoy the ride but I can’t seem to shake that pre-trip meltdown!
@@auty79 Hey there... The trip went without any issues whatsoever; I got to see some great sights and made good time when need be. One day in Arkansas was a washout but I stayed at a decent hotel for an extra night then hit the road when the weather cleared. It was all good, needed a little extra rest anyway. Any anxiety quickly evaporated once I got moving... Let's see what happens next trip :-)
Hi Jess. I bought my bike in late summer and parked him in the garage. It’s a gravel drive with a sharp turn once you pull off the road. Nothing like dealing with two hazards at once. It took me until Spring to pull him out of the garage and onto the road. Since then, I’ve been having a blast. Practice is key, and knowing your limits. Thanks for the videos.
I rode in my early to mid twenties, ( a Yamaha XS 650) then stopped . Life happened, got married, started a family, bought a house you know life. Well fast forward 25 years years bought a motorcycle ( Harley Vrod). Now I've been riding for about 10 years and still have those moments of nervousness. Just got to remember to ride safe and look out for all the other drivers. Jess I love your channel!! Just be safe out there.
Yes anxiety is very real I’ve experienced it and still go through a routine every time I get on my bike. I talk my self through turns , especially watching traffic come up behind me. I tell myself ride your own ride all the time. I prefer to ride alone as well lol. It’s funny how people that don’t ride or have only been on dirt bikes always have a solution or an opinion about your 700 lb FXR
I suffer with anxiety disorder and panic attacks everyday due to a someone running a stop sign on me and I T-boned the car and it put me in traction for 3months as I smashed out 5 teeth broke both wrists one of them in 2 places bust both knees one still has screws, tension bands and wire in it busted an ankle i have a cage around my spine and had hair line fractures through my pelvis then had to learn how to walk again years of physio and it took me 7.5yrs to get back on a bike. Now I have a nice FXSTC and almost every time I throw a leg over to go for a ride I'm flat out getting to the end of the street and the panic kicks in and I head straight back home. It's now pretty much a phobia. Its slowly killing me knowing how much I love riding. Sometimes I'd plan on just going for a cruise for a few hours and 3 days later I would return home. I now call them " the good old days " lol You stay up right 🙂🙂🙂
Damn dude. That was intense. I almost T-boned a car myself one day. I was shook so bad I had to pull over at the end of the road to get a grip on myself.
@@joetroutt7425 I feel for ya mate and know exactly what would be going through your head every time you throw a leg over. The people in cars that don't ride or never have think bikes can stop on a dime unfortunately it doesn't work like that. Need eyes in the back of your head
Great video as always!! The way you unashamedly share your experiences, good and bad, helps us all! I rode a little as a kid, my dad used to ride and routinely bought 'basket case' motorcycles to fix up, get running and sell. Much to my mom's chagrin, I wore a track in the yard, 'testing' the bikes my dad fixed up to make sure they were ready to sell, lol. Fast forward about a decade when I bought my first street bike in '79, a Suzuki GS1000E. I'd hardly ridden at all in 10 years when I rode that bike home for the first time, talk about anxiety!!! Rode that bike for about 7 years until having to sell it due to a divorce, etc. Didn't ride for 30+ years, second marriage, 3 kids, etc. So soon after retiring, at 67 years young, I bought a BMW R1250RT last fall as a retirement gift to myself. Boom!!! Anxiety!! WTF have I done?!?! Took a HD Basic Rider's course with my 23 year old son who had also just bought his first bike ... passed the course, had a great time ... helped a little with the anxiety. But getting on that new bike was a struggle each time for several months. As you describe, getting the bike out and riding is the only cure. Now, riding 75 - 100 miles to eat lunch in the mountains of NC, then ride home is one of my favorite things! Still occasionally deal with the anxiety until I'm out on the road thinking to myself "I got this". So, to anyone still reading this, just get on that bike and ride ... as Jess says, "ride your own ride", ride at your own pace, always stay alert and vigilant and enjoy the ride!
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The amount of anxiety I felt when I started riding was CRAZY, I was like - why am I even doing this to myself?! But lots of practice, stalling out, slow turns, and longer distances (plus a bigger bike) has got me feeling so free and confident. I still have nervous moments but working through that extreme anxiety was definitely worth it!
I had the same feeling last year when I got my first bike
I have been riding for just over a year now and have been trying to decide if a bigger bike would help with my anxiety (on a 500 now). Glad to hear the bigger bike is working for you. Mind telling me what you're riding?
Mel Oro I started on a 05 Honda Rebel (250cc) and now I’m on a 82 Yamaha 750 Maxim XJ. I’ve been riding that for about a year and am ready for another upgrade.
@@phwar26 Maybe I should just take the leap and upgrade. I am currently on a H-D Street 500 but I also have a softail Deluxe available to me. I'm a little intimidated by the big leap up but maybe I should just suck it up! Thanks for the reply!
@Jennifer Lynn This channel has helped me a lot too! I love the 883. It's a great looking bike
My girlfriend was in a bad accident a year ago. A driver was texting and ran right into her. She had just got back from a ride with her daughter and wanted to go around the block by herself so she didn't even think to wear her helmet that her daughter still had on. Well, they hit her doing 45 in a 30, 2 of the occupants in the vehicle fled, and the driver was entirely at fault, yet no citations were given. My girlfriends femur was broken in 2 places and protruding from her leg, broke her back in two places, shattered her foot which bones were also protruding, and had head damage. Doctors wanted to amputate her leg from her hip down. She has had multiple surgeries; one that almost killed her due to infection, and she even had to have a skin graft to replace the skin that was on her shin. 30 screws, 3 rods, and 2 plates running the length of her leg. And now, a year later, she is walking on both legs although she needs her cane sometimes due to the pain. She has built her courage up enough to get on my bike with me and go for rides and she has now said she is going to get another bike soon as her leg is good enough to hold it up. She is the definition of strength, courage, and an overall badass! Just thought I'd share.
Man thank god she’s alive and doing better. I had some friends of mine a married couple each on their own bike hit really bad by someone texting while driving. They both had their left legs amputated from above the knee. They since have worked and pushed really hard to pass the hands free law in our state so if you’re so much as looking at your phone in your hand while behind the wheel it’s an automatic ticket. It’s been a little over a year since the accident and they’re both doing really well on their prosthetics. Good luck to your girlfriend and her continued recovering.
Hmmm. Is this anxious riders post the right time to share these stories? I’m thinking not really. Plenty of other places to share about all the bad shit.
@@aristac9257 exactly.
Why the hell would you post this, Jesus
the driver was texting and drove right into her... while she was doing WHAT and looking at WHAT and riding without helmet and gear?
you must be aware of everyone and everything around you while you are riding - when someone runs a red light then YOU have to see them coming and YOU have to avoid them
its not fair and its not just but THATS THE WAY IT IS
Having grown up with zero motorcycles in my life, no riding experience, and also failing the MSF course my first go around at 26 years old, I had a really slow start with riding. The people I knew that rode made it harder because everything was so easy to them. They would give me advice and I just wasn't getting it. It made me feel like I wasn't learning quick enough. I got rid of my tiny first bike, and bought an 883 that was much more comfortable for me. That made a world of difference. I started setting a curriculum each day. I would tell my bike, "Today we're going to focus on getting into 3rd gear."... "Today we're going to try that gravel driveway really slowly."...Or, "Today we're going to try some techniques from RUclips on how to position your body in turns." Taking those baby steps in areas of minimal/no traffic, and slowly pushing myself out of my comfort zone taught me so much. Sometimes even now I'll have a "practice day" to brush up on my skills and see how far I've come. It just took time, practice, and more practice for me. I believe almost anyone can do it and love it.
Also, your videos have changed me as a rider. Watching your hands, your techniques, etc.. you've really positively affected my daily riding.
Your comment helped SO much, too! I have been feeling the exact same way - like I have an undiagnosed learning disability or something because I was just NOT getting it. But after seeing so many videos and reading so many comments about the same thing, I feel SO much better and can't wait to get on my bike! Thank you!
@@throttle.therapist physically getting out on a bike and pushing yourself is already so much further than many people will even get! Enjoy the ride, you're awesome!
thank you. I am in the same place but still do not have the courage to go do what I know I will love. Your comments and this video help me so much.
Lmao I practice on my gravel driveway. Can't wait to drop it
so helpful. I feel the same
I just got my first bike yesterday with very limited experience. I dumped it (low speed/taking a corner), and now for the past 2 days I've been looking at it with such fear -- like I'm looking at monster who is to become a friend I respect... tomorrow, I attempt it again and give him a name.
Thank you!
Similar for me. I passed my training course and found a good deal on a bike, got it, got licensed, insured, all the works. A month ago I had never even sat in a motorcycle.
Anyway, so I passed the course and a week later bought the bike...and had to get it home.
In the course we got it into 2nd gear in a parking lot. All of a sudden I was getting it way past 2nd into traffic going 40mph with stop lights. And my area has hills. I stalled it 2-3x on the way home and it was terrifying!
So I took several days away from it to let my cortisol level stabilize and am trying to use it for short periods to get over the fear back to the exhilaration.
Anyway, one of the problems is that my apartment building has a small parking lot and 1 exit, which is on a hill with a stop sign that's not quite at the top of the hill.
It's frustrating and I haven't ridden it much.
I know I'll get the hang of it. Just frustrating because I expected to take it home and just have fun on it without any problems.
PS whats its name?
As a rider you need to trust your intuition. When that still small voice says in a louder than normal tone, ‘Nope, not today’ it’s perfectly ok to agree with it and hop in the car instead. We all have those days and that wisdom and self-knowledge is exactly what differentiates us from all the other motorized vehicle pilots out on the road. The toughest thing I’ve ever done in my as yet young riding career was pull on my new helmet to test out my Sena after I’d been involved in an accident on my bike. The claustrophobia induced panic and anxiety were instantaneous and legit. The next time I pulled the helmet on I was standing in front of my bike. It was ‘go’ or ‘no go’ time. I was either going to get on the bike and continue riding that day or call it quits. 10 broken ribs, a collapsed lung with a chest tube, a restaurant quality hematoma on my thigh where my wallets was in my front right pocket (still a forget-me-not nearly 4+ years later) and a TBI will do that to a person. I decided to ride and am glad I did. I wear all the gear all the time. I’ll cool off when I get ‘there’. I don’t leave my house without my helmet on and buckled and jacket zipped. I know what my tire pressures are every time I ride because I check them every time before I get on my bike. I respect and talk to my bike. And I say a prayer generally every time before we leave the driveway. When I toggle the ignition switch and press it, it’s time to bring the thunder... and we do. Elmer, my 2019 Harley-Davidson Low Rider, and I have enjoyed some great wind therapy sessions and adventures together. I hope every rider will be as fortunate as I have been to enjoy and be a part of such a special community of people, who are just trying to get to the other end of the day like I am. Ride within your abilities, respect others on the road and most importantly - have somewhere to go and someone to see - on your motorcycle! You’ll be glad you did. Thanks again Jess for bringing us along with you.
So true my freind didnt listen ended up laying her bike down and broke her leg In 2. Place out of commission until next yr
I got my first motorcycle today and I was too scared to ride it. You have given me the confidence to have a go tomorrow (I hope), thank you!
Take the SAFETY COURSE or watch RIDE LIKE A PRO VIDEO WITH JERRY PALADINO!! You owe it to yourself and OTHERS!! PLEASE!!!
Yep, safety course and just experience/practice/exposure! Like anything: the beginning can be rough. But the more you do it, the more you gain confidence and all that.
James good luck 👍
I agree take a safety course, you can learn a lot. If you can practice in a empty parking lot, that's equally awesome and advised. A year ago I took a riders course at a local Harley dealership, I bought my first bike a month later (2014 Fatboy) and proceeded to put 7000 miles on it. Unfortunately a 16 year old driver ran a red light and I had a choice of hitting the curb, a tree and signage; hitting the truck next to me, or brace myself and hit her SUV. I chose to hit her SUV, I was able to slow from the speedlimit of 55 down to 35/45 but still it was a hard hit. I walked away with a scratch on my elbow and a small concussion possibly, I can honestly say the riders course helped save me on that accident. I don't know what your first bike is but for me, location of controls, comfort on the bike, and overall feel mattered more then having a smaller starter bike. A Sportster would have been a better starter for me but the fatboy worked better because I wasn't cramped, I respected the "power" of the bike and rode my own ride but the smaller bikes, for my size made it uncomfortable and hard to shift and hit the rear brake, mostly because my feet and longer legs were usually left looking for the pedals as opposed to feeling natural as they did on the fatboy. Riding on less traveled roads and practicing also helped. Just my 2 cents
I'm learning too, I still haven't taken the course, I will eventually but first i want to feel comfortable riding and getting to know my motorcycle.
I prefer riding secondary roads than major highways. Most of the time anxiety is not an issue, but when it gets to me, riding on secondary roads is the cure.
I prefer riding secondary roads because it's boring riding highways..Nothing to do with anxiety. I know anxiety and drepressing.
If you're coming in hot to a curve at about 60mph and have to slow down to about 20 and then throttle up to get back up to 90 now that's some anxiety.
I am with you on this! Backroads are the best.
I subscribed to “Her Two Wheels” because I relate to many of her videos, remembering my earIy riding years after my MSF course in 1980, I even became an instructor for MSF & Better Biking Course for 5 years.
Yes, I still feel I’m learning with every ride. Mileage is trumped by riding technique & steady practice. Although secondary roads are a good “tonic.”
But it is best to do a little 1/2 hour or so vacant lot warm up primer working up tight circles to achieve several tight left & right turns “lock to lock.” Use full eye & head turns all the way around the turn, using throttle & friction zone control with gentle rear brake.
Do this as a warm up before ANY long ride, laden with all your gear by yourself. If possible, later do it with your passenger if you want to have a co-rider, where the skin in the skills you have are magnified.
I highly recommend “Ride Like a Pro” videos with Jerry Paladino, are free on RUclips & I highly recommend you subscribe to it.
I absolutely love backroads. That's what it's all about for me. The vision I had when I bought it!
Got my first bike (Honda Rebel) earlier this year at age 74. Started slow in my neighborhood, then to back roads, 35 mph max. Practicing in parking lots, and now have my motorcycle license. Still have some anxiety on sharp curves, but I take them slow, and so far have not dropped my bike. Never to late to learn, if you have the strength to hold the bike up. Just don't start with one too heavy for you.
William...I also got my first bike, a Honda Rebel, last month. I'm 67 and glad there are others out there like me!!
Bought my first bike and it is a Honda Rebel as well ! It’s been 2 yrs and just starting to get comfortable on main roads.
Check out mcrider, he is all about being safe and learning.
Just bought my first bike at 52 after wanting to ride my whole life!! (Husband was against it.) I am terrified and it feels so alien, but I LOVE it! Safety course is first on my list as soon as it opens up. You ladies and older riders are my inspiration!
@@suzannearent123 I'm still pretty terrified too. It does seem alien! (Good way to describe it.) My instincts want to do one thing, but sometimes it's the exact opposite of what I should do??? We got this!! We just need more seat time! Good luck!
Being a younger rider and daily commuter on a motorcycle, I definitely experience rider anxiety and also in real life. So it's nice to hear there are other people out there who worry about the same thing! Have a wonderful day
It ain’t the years, it’s the miles. Nothing beats seat time. It’s also a mental thing. I’ve been a licensed mc rider since 1972 and there are still days when I feel “off”. I have the experience to realize that those are days to take it easy and not push things. Then there are those days when you are so tuned in to your bike that you feel like you could thread through the eye of a needle. Those are the rides that stick in your mind and keep you on two wheels.
Amen... Preach it...
Spot on bro🍻
When I feel "off" the bike stays parked.
Nail on the head right there.
I'm glad I'm not the only one with " off" days.....those days tho make me not ride.
I've been riding for 19 years on different motorcycles across the country with over 150,000 miles in the saddle in all types of weather. I'm experienced, that's what I'm getting at. I talk to myself and to the bike, she's a member of the family and my friend. Sounds silly, but I don't want her to get hurt just as much as I don't want to get hurt. I'm more careful and more aware. But recently I was witness to a horrific event that claimed the lives of 4 bikers. It has shaken me to the core and I've been struggling with my riding because of it. I'm just now getting through making stupid mistakes because I'm afraid, whereas before, I was not. I'm getting over it slowly, but being scared is dangerous too, and I wanted to point that out.
Over the years, I've had days where I didn't want to ride and so I didn't, but more often than not I ride near daily. I used to commute on the bike but now I have a company car and am not able to, but I'd prefer to if I could. All in all, I think it;s great advice. Especially, "Ride your own ride." Don't get sucked in to what others are doing. I do group rides also but would say that group rides are a more advanced form of riding and should not be done as a beginner, but, if possible, always ride with someone in the beginning. I did and I feel like it helped me get through that initial hurdle.
Lastly, and this is tough for everyone I think; don't get so confident you forget to check simple things, cover your brakes at intersections, or think you can take that turn at that high speed. Never try to reach your limits, practice and push yourself to know where your limits are and stay under them.
I have been riding for 55 years and owned a Kaw dealership in NJ. This past January I was hit by a car and suffered a fractured hip, compound femur fracture and foot fractures. I decided I wanted to fix the bike and build a sidecar so I could ride again sooner than later. I have put 40 miles on it and working out issues with it and myself.
This video has really helped my main fear is embarrassing myself but you are right I have nothing to prov!
Your video is exactly what I needed. I took a beginner class last year and I was so excited and psyched myself up to succeed. Had never operated a bike before and thought this class would be perfect since it was a beginner learn to ride course. Well....it wasn't that day as the other 15 men in the class were taking the class to get the endorsement on their license for insurance reasons and had been riding for years and years. It was the first class offered after COVID so they all piled in. They were super supportive of this here newbie and I was holding my own through the exercises but it was very fast paced as they all were zipping through each skill set. I was having a hard time getting my bike in neutral and the one instructor was getting angry with me. One of the guys told her to check my shifter since he thought it was broken. It was so they got me another bike.....same issue. The one instructor was cool and trying to help me through but the other one told me I should have practiced before I came....don't know how as I didn't have a bike to practice on and it was supposed to be a learn how to ride class. Needless to say I didn't pass and I went out to my car and cried. I felt like I let myself down and my best friend who was supposed to take the class with me but she died from breast cancer the winter before. Every time I thought of that day I got so anxious about whether or not I could do this. I decided last week a year later to try again...different place and a course that is definitely designed for beginners. I am going to do this for me. Am I a mixed bag of emotions...you betcha but I want this and I will use your tips to get into the mindset I need to have. Thank you for your story!!!
At 1:35 you tell your viewers how you failed your motorcycle riding foundation course while your helmet-mounted GoPro captures the beautiful scenery as you ride along the backroads of your neighbourhood. Immediately, I clicked the like button. You’re a champion in my book! Keep on riding, and more power to you. Watching from Thailand. 🙏🏽🇹🇭
I had some anxiety, even after riding for 12 years. It took getting a bike that fit me better which caused me to have more confidence with the bike and watching Jerry "Motorman" Palladino's videos on RUclips (Ride Like a Pro), ordering his training videos, and practicing his lessons.
All that - true stuff.
Jerry's the real deal
Love his videos and how he tells it like it is.
Awesome video, the big thing for me was confidence. It drove my anxiety crazy. but my wife and he family all got harleys and I wanted something to be part of the experience with them. So we got her a 883 low sportster for her second bike to ride with her dad and his triglide and after we got it home she told me to give it a try. Terrified of the worst, the worst happened I dropped her new bike in the first turn.. luckily nothing happened to the bike my shoe saved the paint from the ground. I was devastated but determined to prove myself that I can ride a motorcycle like when I was a kid on my xr75. So I got on it again after a few weeks and got practice. Passed the brc with 1 point from failing. Got a 350 dual sport rode it for a few months. Now I'm the proud owner of a 2008 cvo road king. Lol I'm still learning but it is now a dream come true to ride with my wife on her new 2020 street glide and be able to keep up. It is a long road but with loved ones support, it is possible. Sorry for the long post. I hope someone finds my story helpful. Anything is possible with help and believe in yourself like I should have. It is amazing to be on two wheels and see the world like that. Be safe!
I went to a motorcycle safety course earlier this week and failed it too. I was having issues learning at the same pace everyone else was and it really demoralized me. It's helped me feel a lot better to know and hear that it's not just me that had a similar issue. This video was helpful and the most encouraging and has given me a bit more comfort in myself trying to learn how to ride a motorcycle. Thank you!
I fid my cbt yesterday. Been wanting to do it since 15 years old. When i turned 16 mum wouldn’t let me. By 18 years old i had bad travel sickness. I suffer with anxiety and panic attacks among other mental disorders. I am 26 now btw.
But yesterday the first 30-45 mins running the bike with engine on just riding on clutch biting point, i panicked cornering at 7mph i put my food down. I quickly got comfortable tiding in the carpark whizzing around, trusted myself and trust the bike.
Everything went great, the u-turn, figure 8, emergency stop. Changing from first to second gear etc. was all going well. Then when we did the junction training and still practicing in car park, i stalled it coz when braking i forgot the clutch and the bike cuts out. But other than that everytbing was really well.
They we’re confident in me being out on the road as i have shown i can control the bike, i do my safety checks and life savers, signal etc. but i struggle with roundabouts and motorways in any vehicle as a passenger (i know on a 125cc and as a learner cant go on motorways)
So out on the road was supposed to be a minimum of 2 hours…. I managed 20-25 mins. In that time i did 2 roundabouts (i got stuck on them and stalled it a few times, also forgot to drop to first gear when reach junction) roundabout was very busy and i was intimidated by them. First roundabout i did 1st exit. 2nd roundabout i did 3rd exit. Being in that roundabout was terrifiying.
Then when got out on main road, was getting comfortable at 15mph and got into 2nd gear. I ride smoother in 2nd gear and feel comfortable. I get to 20-25mph and my instructor told me to pick up the speed a bit more. I got it to 28mph and I panicked.
I can hear the instructor but he couldnt hear me so i couldnt tell him i needed to stop. So i checked mirrors, did a life saver, indicated and pulled over to side of road and just dropped my head on the tank. Bursting in tears. And shaking like crazy. Was very overwhelmed as a lot was happening at once. So i took a breather. Still had to get the bike back whilst crying and watery eyes i stayed at 20mph in the little roads by houses but i had to conquer the roundabout near where our CBT was. And that was the worst coz how stressed i was. But i got bike back safely, no accidents.
They want me to come back for a half day (will only cost me £90 to do, instead of the £179 i paid for this CBT) and they will put me on an automatic when out on the road so i can get comfortable with soeed without worrying about gears, stalling at junctions etc. so i can just focus on getting comfortable with speed. So when pass CBT, even tho im out on the road with automatic, my CBT full cover a manual too because they confident in me using it correctly, just need more practice. So i can buy a 125cc and practice in villages gain confidence. But i will be finishing the CBT with a 125cc automatic
My experience and mistakes
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Girl - you are my spirit animal! Exact same story! Got the bug this summer, bought my bike, and took the class. I’ve had so many people telling me how dangerous riding is that it gave me tons of anxiety. I’ve been doing same as you: riding each day. I’m slowly getting better....I know I’ll get there! Thank you for helping me feel less alone!
Been doing this for 50 years. And I’ll tell ya all. If you really ride we all go down sometime. There is only two kinds of bikers the ones that have fell and the ones that will again. Truth. Good luck it’s worth it.
I've had so much anxiety to try and overcome with riding but we bought a Honda Rebel a month ago and it has helped me gain a ton of confidence in that time. I have a sportster but it intimidated me so much that it impeded my learning. I've tried to ride every evening if only for 15 mins at a time. I ride over to my brother in law's house about 3 miles away and practice in his driveway with starting, stopping and u turns. I've slowly moved to the neighborhood and now to the surrounding back roads. Having a little motorcycle was key to my learning. I'm supposed to take my permit test on friday. I've been studying hard but I'm so nervous. When we get back from vacation I plan to sign up for the msf course. This has been a dream come true for me as I've wanted to learn to ride since I was a kid. 👍😊 My hubs has taught me so much and been so patient with me. I couldn't imagine doing this without his help and encouragement.
Carrie Flynn I’m in the same boat...have a HD sportster 1200; but i am intimated by it right now...was debating buying a honda rebel 500 as well; to learn on, then sell. Big drawback is the $$ for one; and then it doesnt have forward controls...i am tall and that is important. Uugh...my fiancé is about to give up on me; so really need to try!! We’re having 90 degree days and i cant get dressed to ride in this heat...oh the trouble....
@@Karenm1969 Hello, I definitely understand about not wanting to have to spend the money on another motorcycle. I dreaded to tell my husband that I needed a different bike, too. We found a really nice used 2013 Honda Rebel 250 for $1,500. It only has 4000 miles on it. I might even decide to keep it for a while just because it's so much easier for me to get it out and maneuver it around my treacherous yard filled with pine straw and holes. I'd be scared to attempt it on the sportster especially while my hubby's at work. I have fallen in love with this little bike just because it has made learning so much easier for me.
I'm petite 5'2" and 110lbs and 45 years old so that comes with it's own challenges as I'm sure your being tall causes different challenges for you. I'm at the moment trying to find a helmet that I can tolerate and its been so frustrating because I wear either an x small or xx small and once I finally get one adjusted to fit my little chin it feels like its gonna block my wind pipe off by choking me.🙄😳 I asked my hubs tonight "why do the seemingly simplest of things always have to be so darn complicated when it comes to me and a motorcycle"?
I didn't mean to respond here with a novel but I just wanted to let you know that I definitely understand what you are going through and I want to encourage you to keep at the learning in whatever way that's beneficial to you. For me, buying the little bike has been a game changer and worth every penny spent.
A sportster is only small to people who know how to ride already. I think between the loud pipes, the lope of a harley v twin, the top heavy weight and the tremendous amount of heat rolling off of a sportster engine it really can get in your head and intimidate you. This little honda is really quiet, the clutch is really smooth and light and it doesn't put off near the heat that my sportster does. I believe all of these things are beneficial to someone who's trying to learn. I'm rooting for you, you can do it. 👍😉😊
I have a Honda Rebel too! It’s great 🙂
I had a similar experience. I was learning on a bigger bike and I was feeling really intimidated, like maybe I wasn't really meant to ride. Then we got a little Honda Rebel and I gained much more confidence and started picking it up so much faster!
I just took my permit test on Friday and I was SOOOO nervous but I got through it and I'm so happy!
@@jaxxlyn5185 Congratulations on passing your permit test. I'm trying to get in a msf course before the winter but I might have to wait til spring. I'm currently on the waiting list. I'm just gonna ride on my permit until then and get all the practice I can while on my Honda. However, I'm hoping to get my Sportster out on Friday and see if I can improve my abilities on it. My hubby is supposed to be off work so it's a rare opportunity I have to get to ride it. I'm nervous at the thought of even sitting on it. 😬🥺 I've managed to whip it into something way bigger than it is, in my head. I'm so ready to dispell it. It's been the big scary monster for too long. I hope to make some progress with it for my mental well being if nothing else. 😝 I don't want another winter to come and me have to sit with it in my head like this. It's getting rediculous at this point.
I'm always excited to hear of other folks learning to ride and sharing their triumphs and struggles. As I guess we all have both. 👍😊
I’ve been riding for a little over a year. I’m the classic old guy on a motorcycle . I’ve been a paratrooper in the us army and taking that bike out for the first time was more fearful than jumping out of an airplane for the first time. I took my time and rode my own ride. I rode a lot and was willing to learn from others. Every ride is a learning experience . It does indeed get better and so much more fun as you hone your skills.
Thanks Jess for sharing you experience.
Same here....
I don't ride NEARLY as much as I want to and it reflects in my skill level. I'm not as comfortable as I want to be. I'm struggling to find a balance between being a mom to young kids who want to spend time with me and riding. When I'm finally on my bike I feel fairly comfortable riding within my skill level but actually putting on all my gear and backing my bike out of the garage, my heart pounds and I get that nervous adrenaline rush you get waiting in line for a roller coaster. I have to start pushing myself or I will never get the comfort and skill level I want to achieve.
Like someone else already said, Ride your own ride, don't push yourself to hard, this is suppose to be fun. Your not getting paid to ride a bike. Be safe.
I would love to feel that rush again🤘
I’m the same way. I have dropped bike and stalked and now I have fear. I need to get back on and start slow.
I've been riding for nearly twenty years and I still have a moment of jitters before the first ride of the day. A healthy fear of what could go wrong is ok, just accept it and control the things you can, the rest will take care of itself. And always remember the rubber side goes down lol
Im terrified of making a mistake and of traffic. Without any cars on the streets it would be no problem, id feel less stressed and would not be thinking about making a mistake, having slow gearshifts or riding slower than some others, id simply enjoy learning without the pressure i make myself believe, traffic is putting on me to basically fit in perfectly. Its so frustrating 😑 i feel damn pathetic.. never drove a car, right away hopped on a bike so everything is new, there's noone sitting next to u helping u out or anything, telling u when to shift and pointing out mistakes or things to work on.. (and yes yes i know u can hear it from the engine when to shift gears, that feeling or hearing just hasn't had the time to develop yet).. anxiety sucks.. I hope i can overcome this fear soon like you did.. i rly wish for it to happen 💜
Trial by fire!!! You WILL stall, feel embarrassed and move on! Most drivers will be patient and helpful! Please don’t fret! ♥️♥️
Oh man, I had such bad anxiety when I bought my bike. A few people I knew died in motorcycle accidents right after I bought my bike. I let my bike sit in front of my house for over a year with only having rode it twice. It finally clicked in my head that this was my dream. I had always wanted a motorcycle ever since I could drive. I needed up waiting til I was 28 to get my endorsement. I finally just started making myself ride. I had to make it worth it. Right now I use my bike for commuting and eventually, I’ll work my way up to leisurely riding. 😁 oh and I know all about stalling at a red light! Happened to me! And then the car behind me proceeded to hit me and knock me over. Most embarrassing moment ever. Took me a bit to realize it wasn’t my fault at all and he should have been paying attention
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That reminds me of my early years riding a 1960 Matchless 650 in Boston. I stopped at a light. Light turned green, I began to take off and next thing I knew I was on the ground with cars blowing horns at me. I picked up the bike and pushed it to the curb. An oil line came off and dumped oil on the street in front of the rear tire. People were only interested in me blocking traffic lol.
Omg! I always get scared that'll happen. But I've stalled multiple times and I guess I was lucky because the drivers were patient. No honking nothing and I'm always so grateful!
When I first started riding I used to trip out over road surfaces. Tar snakes, uneven pavement, grooved surfaces, etc. I would tense up and stare down at the road and have a mini panic attack. Thought I'd never get over it and was super discouraged, but you're 100% right, if you keep riding you slowly gain more and more confidence. I think back to that time now and laugh at how much of a puss I was being LOL
The first time hitting a tar snake I will never forget that stomach drop
@@SAVEmeFROMtheANTS Yep. Hate that feeling. Hit one of those on a turn and feel your back tire break loose for a second. I'm very wary of them, but they still get me once in a while
Hey Jess! I am a 48 yr old woman, wife and mother of 2 grown girls. I started riding about 4 years ago. I took the motorcycle course too and passed it. I was so proud of myself but when I got my own bike and started riding, I was petrified. The course was great for the know-how and for learning some skills but it did not help with my anxiety at all. So I just started out by sitting on my bike, starting her up, taking her for small trips around my neighborhood, all the things you listed. I did this for a while until I was brave enough to go on a longer rider...about 2 hours round trip. But I still wasn't gaining much confidence. I even stopped riding for a while feeling frustrated and like a failure. Then I starting thinking that my bike didn't fit me quite right. So I went shopping and found one that did. Now I am back out there, getting that riding experience again and telling myself that I can do this!
I also just recently found your channel and watching your videos makes me feel not so alone in my struggles and has given some a sense of empowerment. So I want to thank you for that and for taking the time to share your experiences with us.
I look forward to when I go on my first road trip!
“Proper planning and preparation prevents piss poor performance.” Riding a bike, driving a car, riding a motorcycle all require muscle memory, and to get muscle memory requires practice and patience. One thing all riders should do when they get a new motorcycle is take it to a quite well surfaced area (empty car park) and practice braking get some markers set up and start slow and gradually increase the force you brake with. You will be amazed by how much you can improve your performance and confidence in a short period of time. Think of it this way: You set up a braking marker and approach it at a safe set speed (30mph) and apply the brakes as you pass the marker steadily and mark the point you stop, then repeat the exercise over and over squeezing a little harder each time. (REMEMBERING IT THE BRAKE LOCKS, JUST RELEASE IT! After all you are in an empty car park, you aren’t going to hit anything!) The difference between your starting effort and the confident well practiced last run, should be clearly better. That distance you have saved in stopping might just be the difference between hitting the car that pulls out on you, and managing to stop before hitting it! This exercise costs you nothing but your time, a little fuel and a tiny bit of your brake pads. Remember to squeeze the brakes, don’t grab at them.
Those who overcome failure are much stronger than those who never fail. Your strength is contagious.
I inherited my fathers 01 Dyna Lowrider when he passed 3 years ago I’ve never drove one before but I’ve always had the passion and love for them. Your videos have been helping with my anxiety of getting on and just going so for that thank you!!! As soon as I save up the money I’m getting dads dyna some fresh rubber and having it gone through. Hopefully I’ll be riding sometime this fall. Thank you again for your confidence and motivation you’re awesome!!!
So true about accidents, I recently started and I laid down my bike 3 times, luckily no damage to myself of the bike besides the bar ends. I remember practicing in my neighborhood for 2months before I went out on the road. Again like you said experience, and also reflecting on that experience and thinking what can I do next time to be better. Thanks for sharing!
I laid mine down a few times practicing in my neighborhood too and after taking the riding course I realized what I was doing wrong and haven’t done it since. Thank god lol.
I grew up riding quads and having family members that always rode. So I always knew I wanted to get a motorcycle when I got older. When I turned 21 I went and took a riders course and got my license. I went out and purchased my first bike. A Suzuki boulevard s40. I did no research on any bike just walked in a dealership told them I wanted a motorcycle, they showed me one, and that was it. I think I sat on it for a second, then decided to get it(i was just excited to get my first bike) I think that’s when my anxiety started. Whenever I would get on her it just didn’t feel right. I rushed and got something without doing any research or seeing if it was a good fix for me, so now whenever I would get on and try to go for a ride I would get a straight anxiety attack. I’ve had my bike for about three years now and maybe put in 100 miles. Seeing you ride reminds me of how excited I first was to ride. I’ve decided to do my research and look into bikes that are better Suited for me. Love your videos!
Whether you're a beginner or an experienced rider, knowing your limits is very important.
So, I'll try to keep this short. Bought my first bike Last September, never rode before, Harley had to drive the bike to my house. I got the permit, took the safety class, failed and then the class stopped for the winter. Covid hit and the classes were cancelled. Then, the State of PA discontinued the classes, so I had to do the testing at the DMV. Took it and passed. I went through EVERY step you touched on in your video. This is all very real and you hit the nail on the head. I thought it was just me feeling bad. Thank you, you're very sensible!
I’ve been watching for a bit now and your one big reason I want to ride when I get older! My favorite Motorcycle/Harley-Davidson DYNA! I really love the older DYNA’s but it’s cool to see a Woman riding motorcycle’s. Your a big inspiration to me and thank you for being an amazing role model and making awesome videos! ❤️
I got my first motorcycle in 2023. The second day I had it I was in a wreck and fractured my eye socket in two places, fractured my cheek, whiplash, etc etc. So a year later I decided that it was time. I got on my bike maybe an hour ago and rode for about an hour just in my neighborhood. There is residual fear for sure but I'm with you, practice good frame of mind and when I'm ready I'll take it out on the open road. It's good to know that I'm not alone. Girl power!! 😊😊
Everything you mentioned was a reflection of how I’m overcoming my anxiety Jess. From just sitting on my bike in the garage at first, taking it to the edge of my driveway. Then riding it on my “dead end” street to now riding it with confidence and setting my anxiety off to the side. Thanks again.
I subscribed to “Her Two Wheels” because I relate to many of her videos, remembering my earIy riding years after my MSF course in 1980, I even became an instructor for MSF & Better Biking Course for 5 years.
Yes, I still feel I’m learning with every ride. Mileage is trumped by riding technique & steady practice. Although secondary roads are a good “tonic.”
But Jess was right, do small trips first, afterwards as your confidence rises take baby steps next; do a little 1/2 hour or so vacant lot warm up primer working your way up to do tight circles, to achieve several tight left & right turns “lock to lock.” Then do figure 8’s. Use full eye & head turns all the way around the turn, using throttle & friction zone control with gentle rear brake.
As Jess did, she took time to build her abilities in small steps & time in the saddle. Do this next step as a warm up before ANY long ride. With bike laden with all your gear practice by yourself. If possible, later do it with your passenger if you want to have a co-rider, where the skin in the skills you have are magnified.
I highly recommend “Ride Like a Pro” videos with Jerry Paladino, are free on RUclips & I highly recommend you subscribe to it.
I was SHAKEN when I went to take the MSF. My husband is a confident rider and riding with him knowing he'd be evaluating what I was doing and "judging" in a way gave me a LOT of anxiety. Now I feel a lot more comfortable and confident after a few months in the saddle, and go to ride to reduce the stress and anxiety from other parts of my life
Yesss riding is the best stress reliever in the world I think. Wind therapy is free minus a couple bucks for gas but definitely beats paying a Therapist $200 an hr lol. Non riders have no idea how much money they could be saving 🤣
I get it! I'm much more stressed riding with my husband. So i told him I wouldn't ride my bike with him until I'm fully comfortable. So whenever we want to ride toegther I sit behind him amd that's that!
Love your honesty, encouragement and advice. I have lots of anxiety to over come. i’m a new rider barely 1 month, i bought a new Kawasaki ninja 650, i have lots to learn so thank you, thank you, thank you!
Yes, I am still in the midst of rider anxiety. I have been fixing my bike and learning how to ride it. I get really scared around traffic. What really gets me is the riding with traffic. My bike is low power and that concerns me when riding with traffic. But when you get out on the open road and away from other cars it is just awe inspiring. Luckily I live is a semi rural area.
For someone who does not think she knows much about a brain I think you are doing pretty good Jess! Remember a little anxiety is good, you don't want to get too comfortable.
Lots of respect I have for you !! Thank you for this video !! You have a video you posted a while back taking about this ! It changed me and helped me a lot !!
Once again this one is helping me again! I had a panic attack while riding ! And it set me back on my riding. I felt strange, like a failure for getting it. I have been avoiding my bike bc I'm terrified that it would happen again. I rode her again to the spot I had the panic attack to face my fear . I was shaking and the anxiety was all over. Thank you for sharing your experience, when you get anxious about riding in my case I feel " alone" I feel like I should not . I'm terrified of getting another panic attack but I know that consistency is the key! Your words in this video were keys for me to go back out there with my Clementine. Bc it is possible.
You are wise beyond your years. Great advice! I talk to my girl as well. Sometimes I even get a response. Love your channel.
Man this just hit the feels today. I live in AZ and during my class I passed out from being so hot and stressed out with the anxiety that hit. I have my bike already but the class experience really put into question if I should still do this. After watching this I know I'm going to reschedule my class. Thanks!
I was once a pole climbing lineman. Climbing wood poles with hooks felt alot like riding anxiety. Like clockwork youd become over confident, cutout (a hook would lose grip) and come crashing down. Motorcycling is alot like that. Its a skill to be honed and also a balance to be maintained. And an adventure to be enjoyed. Some of those pole climbing views were so cool and beautiful, 15 years later I still recall vividly. Just like motorcycles has given me mental views I will also cherish for a lifetime. And just like dropping a bike now, there were cutouts then I can recall from then. Like watching a work bud skin a pole for 20' knowing that hitting the ground after that fall would end his life. But after enough cutouts he instinctively knew what to do and miraculously caught himself. There wasn't anything anyone else could do for him in that very moment but him. It was him, his equipment, and a 40' electric pole. His skill, and quick reaction literally saved his life. Its the same way with motorcycles. It takes practice, mistakes, and learning from those mistakes and the mistakes from others to know and create instinct. I love this lifestyle. I enjoy your videos. You're a very sweet generous soul. And I look fwd to seeing your stories when they pop up in my feed. Ever meet on the road, cool. Biker salute in the meantime, stay safe, keep rolling.
I’n nutty, but here is my anxiety: Riding lane position three setting up for a left hand turn. I need that part of the road if the curve requires it. I would tense up and get that feeling people who can’t swim get when tall water comes up around their chest. I was afraid of running off the road. I’m still not perfect, but some things help. Ride often. Get your mind ahead of the bike - setup for the corner - speed - etc. Learn trail braking. Practice being smoother on the controls. Go looking for those scary corners. Be loose, not tight. Relish the physical sensation of doing it right. Repetition/ refinement.
I used to have a bike. Quit for a long time. Started back about a year ago.
Took your advice and jumped on it! 1hr later im back and feeling better. Even rode the twisties up to montage mountain ski resort in northeast Pennsylvania. Thanks again!
Heck yes!!!
I still get anxiety from time to time. I still am not the greatest with hills and some curves are not my friend...lol. But when I only had my motorcycle and no care. You kind of have no other choice but to face your fears. I love riding, and sometimes getting into your own head will create more anxiety at times. Backroads are my happy place honestly, they really do help. As always, great video!
OMG! This sounds so much like my experience. Started riding a few years ago at age 51. Failed the MSF course but something about it pulled me in. Picked up a used Honda Shadow. Rode up and down my street. Got a little braver. Ventured into the neighborhood. Tipped over a couple times. LOL. Rode about 2 miles to an empty parking lot and practiced, practiced, practiced. My confidence slowly grew. Had a few panic moments. Went back to the parking lot. You get the idea. I just purchased my third bike, an Indian touring bike. So its back to the parking lot. Ultimately, practice builds confidence. The more I ride the more enjoyable it becomes. Great content. Keep it coming.
I think you're talking about exposure therapy. It works really well on motorcycles. I was always afraid of them when I was younger. But I found myself in a situation where my only way around was on the back of a friend's bike. It really caused me a lot of anxiety at first. But slowly the more I was on it with nothing going wrong, I began to lose that anxiety and actually enjoy the ride. That led to me learning to ride and getting my own two wheels.
Heck yeah!
I just bought motorcycle to try and combat my general anxiety. After noticing how much anxiety I experience just during my daily life, I developed a theory that adding another external stressor - for example, riding a motorcycle - would help train my brain to become accustomed to an even higher level of anxiety, and would therefore be calmer during my daily activities. This is not my first motorcycle - I'm 55 years old and have been riding off and on for 35 years, but I haven't had one for the last 3 years or so. Getting back in the saddle was a bit of a challenge, but I'm regaining confidence and learning more to become a better rider than ever. Like you said, you have to know your limits and ride your own ride. I got passed up last night by a guy on a sportbike who was pulling a wheelie that lasted for well over a mile straight (I checked on the odometer as I trailed along behind him). I have no intention or desire to ever ride like that, but again... ride your own ride. Put in as much saddle-time as you can and the confidence will come.
Awesome video! I had major riding anxiety after I failed my first attempt at the MSF course. My husband helped majorly with giving me the kick in the butt I needed to get back on. I would ride around our subdivision almost daily, getting my speed up and remembering what the instructor said “trust your bike”. I started thanking my bike (Sally) for keeping me safe. Went to retake the MSF course and the instructors noticed a huge difference and I passed - watching your videos helped with my confidence too. My husband has been riding 20+ years and he helps with giving me feedback. Ultimately, I prefer riding alone so I’m not getting anxiety about trying to keep up and reminding myself it’s my ride. Thanks again for the videos. Stay safe!
Thanks for sharing your experience! I am still working up the nerve to get back on after failing my first attempt at the MSF course as well!
Hiya, old video but thought I'd comment as it's really helpful ☺️ I just got my first motorbike (a CBR125R) and I'm in love with it but absolutely petrified. I failed my CBT (UK MSF) first time as well! I also cried all day, then got my friend to take me to a car park where I shakily road my bike in huge laps of it 😅 I finally got my license last week but I am so so scared on the road. Went on a series of 10 minute rides with my friend in my empty neighbourhood and had to stand there in-between each run shaking and talking myself up to do it again. I'm forcing myself to go out on my own tomorrow for the first time.. I'm scared but I'm gonna do it thanks to your video :) ❤️
I just started riding a couple weeks ago. I stall my bike all the time! Thank you for this video it’s nice to hear the encouragement to ride at your own pace. The person teaching me at the moment has been riding bikes his whole life his whole family rides and he can get kinda pushy with how he wants me to learn. I am so glad I found your channel and l can feel support even though it’s not in person interaction! Thank you so much for making these videos!
I am 65 yrs old and have been riding for fifty yrs. and it thrills me to see and listen to new riders. I always encourage others to get a bike and ride. To me it's just good therapy for life's aggravations. I now ride a trike so I'm learning to ride all over again. Keep up the videos your doing a great job. Adam Sandoval said it best when someone is not sure about getting a motorcycle tell them "life is short buy the damn bike"..Happy rides.
I have been having a hard time getting back on mine after dropping it a few times. The anxiety is so high, but I have started in the parking lot and it's getting better. Thanks for the video
Good video! Similar experience to yours. Took my MSF course and passed, then got my motorcycle....and had a minor wreck a block from my house! Goosed the throttle and knocked myself over. So she sat in the garage for 2 weeks, and then I spent months riding to a parking lot nearby at 15mph. Now I talk to my bike and we have great rides!
I've been riding five years also. I was 52 when I took my mod 1 and 2 in the uk and my anxiety was through the roof, but I agree the more you ride helps and if I mess up I just tell my self out loud to breath and be calm, it really helps me. I but still get anxious if I don't ride often. Thanks for a really helpful video.
I am 56 and took the MFS course and was terrified. It was hot and I was the only female in the class and it was miserable for me. I failed. I didn’t feel that bad about it though because it was the first time I had ever rode a bike and I had horrible anxiety. I took the class again with a friend of mine a month later and we both failed. Then I was devastated. The instructor counseled me out of the test and told me I didn’t have good control of my bike and suggested I try a Spyder. I wanted to cry. I don’t have a bike. I was told to take the class first and make sure I like riding before I spend the money on a bike. After seeing your video I’m rethinking this. Maybe I will go get a bike and practice - I live really close to a church parking lot where I could practice everyday. I was happily shocked when you admitted you failed the MSF the first time. Thanks for posting. I was thinking about either a 2019 or 2020 Honda Rebel 300 ABS. Thoughts?
The best way to conquer your fears is to confront them, bit by bit over time. Be safe, practice, then practice more and just stick at it until you are happy. Confidence comes with practice, as does relaxing, being relaxed and confident makes you a smoother rider. It then becomes a self fulfilling prophecy of increasing confidence. The trick then is maintaining a level of respect before cockiness sets in :o)
I also ride alone or with my partner only, I don't trust other people enough. That said, I'm always willing to ride with new riders, people who are still learning or have just passed their test to help them build confidence without being crazy.
As for coming off... remember there are riders who have dropped their bike, and those that haven't....yet! I've dropped almost every bike I've owned, mostly when pushing them around the yard. It happens.
And yes, most importantly biking is meant to be fun. I do think that there comes a point, where if you can't conquer the fear or anxiety for whatever reason, then you have to ask yourself why you are doing it. Peer pressure to have a bike licence and ride is a thing, and sometimes if you just cannot, despite trying everything, conquer it then you have to ask yourself that tough question. Why do you want to ride? If the reasons for doing it cannot outweigh your fear then perhaps it's not the best thing to be doing. Riding full of unconquerable fear is a sure fire way to have an accident. But I genuinely believe this is a tiny minority, most peoples fear or anxiety can be overcome with practice and putting miles under their belts at a pace that suits them.
It's a tough subject, I'm not sure I articulated my points particularly well - I want to see more people, especially women, riding motorcycles and enjoying it and will always help anyone who wants to do it.
Oh. Oh yes!
Riding anxiety knows no boundaries. I had taken a number of years away from riding. The first time I jumped back on a bike I was terrified. The 3 mile ride to the gas station was the most stressful thing I did that week. Our riding season is short here in Northern Canada. Already have snow, parked the bike two weeks ago. Every spring, that first ride I get anxious. I’m on high alert as drivers are use to seeing motorcycles out and I ride like everyone is out to play bumper cars with me. Lol.
You gave great advice! Just keep pushing yourself further! It really quickly becomes second nature, but never stop improving your skills.
I've only been riding three yrs .I'm taking my first long trip or at least for me 41/2 hrs .
I have anxiety everytime I ride turns are my issues. I get nervous when people get behind me . I'm like u I like to ride by myself .I'm a slow rider it's my life I ride for me.and enjoy it
Made my trip great ride
Hi Jess. I have had many bikes but over the last few years I dropped my Softail, with injuries and dropped a bike in my garage moving it and in my driveway due to gravel. Now I experience anxiety braking to a stop at low speeds, expecting the bike to drop again! Crazy! So now I take every opportunity to practice slow speed braking to try rebuild my confidence. Our brains are certainly fickle!
Yes they are!
I was pretty darn nervous. Heck, I'm still nervous. I've only been riding for about 2 months. Thanks for the different view points and tips on how to think while riding.
you are becoming quite the mentor to new riders and even helping the old guys see through a fresh pair of eyes
you are officially an "experienced rider" at this point
Good morning. Awesome “ride” this morning. Thank you for your experience. It helps me tremendously.
I started riding when I was a kid on a mini bike. I have always loved motorcycles and am still riding at the age of 60..
My story is pretty similar to yours. I agree just get out there by yourself, get to know your bike, make it your best friend and talk to her. Practice, practice, practice. Seat time, seat time, seat time. I’m still learning and yes, ride your own ride. Thanks for all your inspiring videos. Ride safe. 👍🏻🏍💕
I can totally relate to your story. I'm a lady rider as well. I also got my own bike about almost 4 years ago a scooter un particular and doesn't really have any knowledge or whatsoever of driving one. It was stuck at my parking for a few weeks before a friend taught how to drive it. It definitely caused a lot of anxiety at first but the excitement and the challenge was there as well. I don't have any knowledge or whatsoever about bike either but as what they say, knowledge and things will come along if the willingness is there to learn. After having my scooter for almost 4 yrs now and watching your channel, it inspires me to get a bigger bike. Though still contemplating since I've been wanting to have an adventure bike since I love camping outdoors just like what you do. Given our situation now, iny situation ib my country is a bit limiting when going on camping tours i enjoy watching your sola campong trips and hoping that when this pandemic is over, I can also do what you do. Continue creating more contents as I always watch them. Stay and Ride Safe 🤟
Good info for the team, think the best issue you brought out was; 'ride your own ride', don't get caught up trying to keep up with riders going faster than you're comfortable with. I'm a returning rider after having been away from the bike for about 23 years, and having ridden for over 20 years prior to that. I'll confess that first ride taking the new bike home was an eye opener, realizing all the skills I'd known decades before were no longer available to me. One of the best things I did was watch Jerry Paladino, MC Rider, and Dan the Fireman, then go out to the high school parking lot and practice their lessons. Doesn't make you bullet proof, but it does help you build your skills, and building your skills will build your confidence, thus reducing your anxiety which makes you safer over all. Like you said brain training, and physical training-constant cycle. By the way, love the sound of your Dyna. She sounds quite bad ass. What pipes are you running?
This is the exact video I needed today. I took my bike out for the third day and I was totally terrified. I'm determined to go daily, until I reach that first level of confidence I so richly crave. And then, I'll continue riding every day!
Yes!!! I think you’ll be surprised how quickly it can come! Practice little by little every day if you can! You got this!
I'm currently trying to overcome my riding anxiety. I took a MSF course for the first time last November and failed. I was the only person in the class who dropped the bike...twice. Then, I got a Honda Rebel 500 and was practicing, just trying to get comfortable. I had a permit so I had to ride with my husband, who rides and drives faster than me. I wanted to retake the course so I could get my license and ride alone to get comfortable. I focus best and feel most at ease when I'm alone. So I took the course again recently and I passed! (Dropped the bike once during one of those figure 8's, but otherwise it was a success). It really is a learning curve, and at first you feel like you're the only one messing up and you must be bad at this, especially being a female rider. I'm not a quitter, though, and I'm determined to be a confident rider! I like your content and it makes me feel like I'm not alone in my struggles. Thanks! Oh, also, I traded my Honda Rebel 500 for an Indian Scout Rogue and I feel way more comfortable on a bigger bike. It's so smooth when you ride it and it makes me feel like a badass that I can handle a sexy cruiser haha.
I got my wife to sub also. I hope that she gets more comfortable with riding watching your videos, I know I enjoy them!
Thankyou! so much for motivating me. Your story made me take my vehicle from my garage and just start. Well Ik how to drive all I need is to be more confident.
2 years ago at 55 I took the course dropped the bike on Emergecy stopping. Embarrassing! Went across the street to dmv got my permit . Next day purchased a brand new 2018 heritage. Had it delivered first ride 10 miles nervous. Went back passed the test have gone over 7000 miles. Love it 😍!
David that is a common mistake people make. Their first bike is too big. As a rider for 45 years and with hundreds of thousands of miles under my belt I strongly believe people should start with a small dirt bike. A street legal dual sport bike is perfect to take the test and to learn because the upright stance and wide handlebars together with light weight makes it easy to control. Good luck with your ride!
I had my bike before I took the course at Harley-Davidson only to get familiar with riding and practiced a few times in my neighborhood and dropped it on like 3 different occasions and couldn’t figure out what I was doing wrong and my spirit more than anything was crushed and was losing my confidence. The course was very much needed and so glad I took it. I haven’t dropped my bike once since finishing the course and getting my license(knock on wood). I figured out what I was doing wrong and now know not to do again. Lol
Thank you Jess, really needed this video. I really have riding enxiety. It really doesn't feel good to be scared all the time. Instead of riding on my girl i found myself making excuses not to ride. When I am riding it really feels good, so yes it is just to set your mind right. Thanks for the video :-)
Great Video! I had to laugh when you said you use to have a carbureted bike and she was temperamental and you'd ask her if she is gonna act up today....I laugh b/c that is still me currently with my bike and probably a question I ask her everyday before I hop on LOL
I’m also in the same age and thanks to your YT channel I’ve started to ride on camp on my motorcycle. Your trully an inspiration.
Best regards from Poland😎
IMHO - this is probably one of the best videos you've done in a while. Love the attention you always give to the new riders and their concerns.
I don't suffer much in the anxiety department - been riding 2 wheels since I was about 4 yrs old; of course, that was a bicycle but that counts too.
That being said, when I got back into motorcycles in Oct 2019, after being away for the better part of 25 years, I have to say that I bought way too much motorcycle (used) and the ride home was an eye-opening event. I really love your comment about spending 6 months in a parking lot if that's what it takes to get comfortable enough to ride on the streets. I took the better part of 2 months in parking lots before I got comfortable in the streets.
But that practice allows me to now know I can do a U-Turn in the middle of a country road without duck-walking it, take corners at posted speed limits (my FLSTC doesn't lean far before scraping the footboards, so doing more than the posted is just not on), do the "slow race" in traffic without dragging my feet, and riding two-up with confidence.
So, yeah, as you say - everyone needs to ride their own ride and do only what they are comfortable doing. That's the path the being happy and ridding oneself of the anxiety.
I have been riding since 1986. To this day I still practice and think about the basics of riding while I'm riding. You're never too experienced that you stop learning. As always, enjoyed the video 👍
It took me three tries to pass the MSF course. :) Third time was a charm, being taught one on one with an experienced instructor. I think at least half my problem was the group situation and having zero experience. I was literally learning from square one while being worried about all the other bikes around me. I still don't care for large group rides - spikes my anxiety.
Hi Jess, I love how you suggested that we talk to our bike and treat her as a best friend, our "trusted steed." And to focus on the positive. Thank you!
When I bought my Dina last year it had been 20+ years since I last rode. Needless to say I was a bit apprehensive when I left the dealership. As soon as I got out on the road though the feeling went away and I remembered why I rode in the first place.
The Father That would not have been good. I’ve recently graduated to a new Heritage Classic. Loved the Dina but the Heritage is just an Awesome bike and handles 2 up riding so much better.
Only been riding for about 8 1/2 years. Still get anxiety in certain situations. The key for me is ride my own ride! Have fun and stay relaxed yet focused. Riding is fun and therapeutic for me. When I’m riding in a tense situation I focus more on safety and riding out of the situation. Eventually that situation is behind you and back to the wind therapy.
Right now, I have to say I still feel some anxiety when turning on small corners. Thanks for your videos, you have been my motivation when I’m about to give up! 💙
i dropped my bike approaching the gas pump. Stopping in small spaces, parking, etc. makes me insane. I hope i get better fast
Thank you for this video! This helped me get on my bike earlier when my anxiety felt like it was going to win. It didn't! Rode with my hubby a little. I'm a new rider, failed the course, failed the test.... I didn't quit and decided that I ride motorcycles, even when my nerves get out of wack. Thank you for this!!
Hi Jess thanks for the video.
My fiance was thrown off a bike when she was 6 and is now petrified of motorcycles. I'll definitely pass this on to her.
Please keep the great content coming 🤘🏻
I've been ridin since 1966! Living here in Florida i ride every day. 100% right. Experience is the best teacher. I had to take the riding course after a period of no bike. Out of 8 students 3 failed. Get back on the horse. Confidence is the biggest factor. My instructor saw how ood a rider i was and the owner of the dealership where i took the course wanted me to take their instructors course. 68 now the best advice i give to young riders is practice. That will instill your confidence. Just don't get cocky! Be safe.🏍✌
Good advice, I been riding over 30 years and the speed is what almost gets me everytime. Get too cocky i guess .
Good stuff Thanks and God Bless
I'm currently experiencing the same sensation of anxiety when riding a motorcycle, especially a bigger one than the previous one I own. By watching your VDO, it helped me a lot and it' s nice to know that I'm not alone to feel that way on a new bike. Thanks for the thoughts.
Deer are my biggest anxiety while riding. Sure it’s nice when they’re deep in someone’s yard or walk slowly across the road well in front of you. What do you do if they T Bone you or leap right in front of you giving you no time to brake or react? I can plan 12 seconds ahead with traffic or see the person at an intersection but the deer aren’t as easy. I cover my brakes while riding rural roads and ride the speed limit or below but that’s really all you can do to protect yourself!
Kenneth Eroh That’s the kind of ‘unexpected’ we should all be prepared for and ready to react. After Jess saw deer twice, I was surprised to see her coasting along with one hand on the grips. If you see them once, or just see a ‘frequent deer crossing’ warning sign, do all you can to be on the ready and increase your chances of coming out of it on top.
I've only been riding for a year now and I have to say i love it, I talk to my bike all the time especially while I'm doing an oil change. Love the videos Jess keep up the good work!
The type of anxiety that I experience is more of a pre-trip anxiety. Even after planning and gearing up and being ready for just about anything the closer the day comes to leave I can literally feel anxiety building. Once I get underway everything seems to clear but getting to that point can be daunting... As a matter of fact, I'm leaving on Friday for a cross country west to east trip, the last few days have been kind of a drain.
That’s exactly the type of anxiety I get! I’m a newer rider, and I get so exhaustingly anxious before setting out on a longer ride. As soon as I get on the bike and get going, I’m absolutely fine! Logically, I know I’m going to enjoy the ride but I can’t seem to shake that pre-trip meltdown!
Did you remember to pack a toothbrush? :-) Have a good trip.
@@kristanscanlon2835 Same! It's so annoying lol. I'm slowly getting better about that but I still have it.
Just wondering how your trip went? Your comment is from two weeks ago so I’m assuming you’ve went and maybe back by now? Was it a good ride?
@@auty79 Hey there... The trip went without any issues whatsoever; I got to see some great sights and made good time when need be. One day in Arkansas was a washout but I stayed at a decent hotel for an extra night then hit the road when the weather cleared. It was all good, needed a little extra rest anyway. Any anxiety quickly evaporated once I got moving... Let's see what happens next trip :-)
Hi Jess. I bought my bike in late summer and parked him in the garage. It’s a gravel drive with a sharp turn once you pull off the road. Nothing like dealing with two hazards at once. It took me until Spring to pull him out of the garage and onto the road. Since then, I’ve been having a blast. Practice is key, and knowing your limits. Thanks for the videos.
Yay! Dual GoPros again!
I rode in my early to mid twenties, ( a Yamaha XS 650) then stopped . Life happened, got married, started a family, bought a house you know life. Well fast forward 25 years years bought a motorcycle ( Harley Vrod). Now I've been riding for about 10 years and still have those moments of nervousness. Just got to remember to ride safe and look out for all the other drivers. Jess I love your channel!! Just be safe out there.
Yes anxiety is very real I’ve experienced it and still go through a routine every time I get on my bike. I talk my self through turns , especially watching traffic come up behind me. I tell myself ride your own ride all the time. I prefer to ride alone as well lol. It’s funny how people that don’t ride or have only been on dirt bikes always have a solution or an opinion about your 700 lb FXR
U gave a good and beautiful message to everyone. Some people aren't humble.
I suffer with anxiety disorder and panic attacks everyday due to a someone running a stop sign on me and I T-boned the car and it put me in traction for 3months as I smashed out 5 teeth broke both wrists one of them in 2 places bust both knees one still has screws, tension bands and wire in it busted an ankle i have a cage around my spine and had hair line fractures through my pelvis then had to learn how to walk again years of physio and it took me 7.5yrs to get back on a bike. Now I have a nice FXSTC and almost every time I throw a leg over to go for a ride I'm flat out getting to the end of the street and the panic kicks in and I head straight back home. It's now pretty much a phobia. Its slowly killing me knowing how much I love riding. Sometimes I'd plan on just going for a cruise for a few hours and 3 days later I would return home. I now call them " the good old days " lol
You stay up right 🙂🙂🙂
Damn dude. That was intense. I almost T-boned a car myself one day. I was shook so bad I had to pull over at the end of the road to get a grip on myself.
@@joetroutt7425 I feel for ya mate and know exactly what would be going through your head every time you throw a leg over. The people in cars that don't ride or never have think bikes can stop on a dime unfortunately it doesn't work like that. Need eyes in the back of your head
Great video as always!! The way you unashamedly share your experiences, good and bad, helps us all! I rode a little as a kid, my dad used to ride and routinely bought 'basket case' motorcycles to fix up, get running and sell. Much to my mom's chagrin, I wore a track in the yard, 'testing' the bikes my dad fixed up to make sure they were ready to sell, lol. Fast forward about a decade when I bought my first street bike in '79, a Suzuki GS1000E. I'd hardly ridden at all in 10 years when I rode that bike home for the first time, talk about anxiety!!! Rode that bike for about 7 years until having to sell it due to a divorce, etc. Didn't ride for 30+ years, second marriage, 3 kids, etc. So soon after retiring, at 67 years young, I bought a BMW R1250RT last fall as a retirement gift to myself. Boom!!! Anxiety!! WTF have I done?!?! Took a HD Basic Rider's course with my 23 year old son who had also just bought his first bike ... passed the course, had a great time ... helped a little with the anxiety. But getting on that new bike was a struggle each time for several months. As you describe, getting the bike out and riding is the only cure. Now, riding 75 - 100 miles to eat lunch in the mountains of NC, then ride home is one of my favorite things! Still occasionally deal with the anxiety until I'm out on the road thinking to myself "I got this". So, to anyone still reading this, just get on that bike and ride ... as Jess says, "ride your own ride", ride at your own pace, always stay alert and vigilant and enjoy the ride!