WATCH THIS IF YOU HAVE Cleft Lip and Palate
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- Опубликовано: 10 фев 2025
- I have never talked about this before!! I was born with a Cleft Lip and Palate and never let it get me down or be insecure about the way I look. If you watch this and don't have a CL&P this will give you a chance to hear what its like growing up with this..And if you do have a CL&P I hope you enjoy hearing a relating story and please share your!
I was born with it too. I don't usually care about what others think... But recently, when I saw my prom pictures it was freaking hard to see it. I just wanted to look good, just on that day.. But yeah, I got over it, I may not be the prettiest, but I know I have other qualities that are way better than being pretty. I'm almost over with my surgeries and dentist treatment, and I am pretty happy with the results. So, don't give up. Everyone is different, we just have an original lip x) Be strong ;) ♥
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I was born with a cleft to and I want to talk to someone about the surgery and stuff
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I had a question did you ever get follow up treatment after a maxillofacial surgery. I'm also a cleftie. I had maxillofacial surgery on 2010. I never got the follow up treatment. If you did get follow up treatment, how did you go about getting the treatment. Out of pocket or health insurance coverage. TMJ or Orthodontic Follow up Treatment. If you did not get follow up treatment would you consider a Class Action lawsuit. Let me know at Rfernand3z844@gmail.com
The biggest challenge by far for someone who has a cleft is going to school. I hated my school years but I also met amazing people..bitter sweet I guess.. Still working on accepting my cleft but I have my days. Anyway thanks for sharing this video
+Mireya P everyone of us has been through this kind of situation but let's look at life positively :)
+Rujie Estrada I couldnt agree with you more
Mireya P me to I get asked what happened. And also your nose is crooked and ur so ugly but I think I'm ugly af lol.
reaallllyyy hard to face .................... :(
I dropout my clg.. I wnt to die now.. I dont want to go outside of my room...
What i do.. I don't know... What is going on... I wish i was never born...
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I really needed this tonight. I have cleft lip too. And well I'm 16 and I don't put makeup on my scar bc I've always felt it's what makes me, me. after surgeries I feel it's my "battle scar" and whether people judge me off it I feel stronger than they are. I know what it's like to have a problem with my scar and I can't tell anyone bc no one around me can relate but this video just made me feel like I wasn't alone. And thank you.
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I was born with a cleft palate and life is not the easy with talking a lot of people don't understand why we talk different and why they are not able to understand us. No one realize how hard it is to grow up with this.
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First of all Blake, thank you. The hardest part for me is not the lip it is the nose. Always had a problem with my nose. Thankfully I was able to have all the surgeries, but I did wish I had more. It is an everyday struggle, but honestly now a day I can wear a mask at work. So that has done wonders for my mental health. I really can't wait until I do not have to deal with the mental torment I have to deal with on a daily basis. One day I will be freed from this terrible world.
I was born with a Clef lip and palate. I'm only 13 years old but my whole life I've been bullied because of it. Not only by the kids at school but by my own family. It's been really hard. I've had three surgeries because of this. And until I watched your video I've hated myself, my face, my body and my voice. But because of you I can now say that I'm stronger and I'm proud of who i am. Thank you.
my son will be born soon with a cleft lip and palate. I really wish I could save this video and pull it out for him when he's old enough to need to hear it. What an amazing example you are. I hope to raise my son to have an attitude like you.
gina helms_sullivan I was born with cleft lip and palate. I was really only bullied a very small amount in elementary school. The occasional comment on my crooked nose was very hurtful but i didn't show it. I still, to this day, struggle with how i look and sound. HOWEVER, it has helped shape the person i am. I never actually talked about it much, growing up but it was ALWAYS on my mind. I do try to be confident and post pics of myself on social media. I never liked doing that but recently, i found that the likes actually do help with my self image, as if what i see as imperfections are normal to everyone else. Congratulations on your son's birth! Just wanted to share what my life was like so you can have some idea of what to expect. (I also just kind of spewed random little facts so there is so much more)
You are a monster and you will bring an other monster like me to this world of sh*ts
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I am 42 . I have found that my flaw makes women like me more . I have always hated my mouth , but I have had countless women tell me how much they like the way my lips and mouth look. I think it makes them more comfortable with their flaws . ( yes , even the finest girls have flaws).
I just hold my head up , look people in the eye and rock it .
When I do run across someone that wants to make fun of me ,,, well ,, I have been blessed with a very quick wit and I will blow them away .
I can vouch for this, as a woman I find cleft lip very attractive in both men and women, my first thought is not because it makes me more comfortable with my flaws (my character and sense of humor do that) it's because I find anything unique even more of a draw, it's just something so striking and beautiful and seems to give the individual this warrior feel. Who's not attracted to strength?
I'm 42 too. Born with bilateral cleft. Surgery was not done well. Front upper teeth are crooked till today. Im Blessed with a wife and 4 kids. My kids are all normal. Thank God
@@thykingdomworld did they ever question you??
@@HexAtom my kids? yes they have asked me what was wrong with my face..waited until they reached the age of understanding before i sat down and explained to them.
My mom has a cleft lip and palate and she is amazing. She was bullied in elementary school. She returned to elementary school as a teacher and is so well loved by all the kids. She is beautiful to me and is such a great role model for others. Thanks for your kind message. I wish others felt the same way.
Me also who was born with cleft lip and palate. Thank you for that video! Totally agree that school is the hardest time. And yes, there are days that im still insecure about that little piece of me. --- I love you all ! Stay strong brothers and sisters!
Congratulations Blake. You have cracked the case. So many of us have suffered and many still do. I was born in London 1968. Great Ormond Street Hospital was one of several homes for me whilst growing up. I was raised, poked, prodded, pulled, stretched, clamped, strapped down, placed in mittens, operated on more times than imaginable, the appointments, oh the appointments. Maxillofacial, Orthodontics, Plastics, Speech therapy, Hearing tests (Grommits). You know all this already. The list of reasons to not be in school or sports is endless. And when we are in school? It's hard to say the least. Fight, don't fight, educate, don't educate, confusion, upset, self-hatred and denial, bullying, misunderstanding...all part of our daily routine. The times as a kid that I would look around and see other kids laughing and playing would leave me confused as to why it's so simple for them. I deemed myself an adult from those moments and it was way too soon. My childhood was robbed of me. I urge anyone watching this to explore that especially if you have Cleft Lip - Palate. Safe to say I was never going to give up. I have a beautiful life and full of love. friendship, support and compassion. I believe we are the blessed one's Blake. We were given a gift of insight. A gift of insight into the cruelty, complexity and mis-educated minds of those all too easily lead. We have seen how this can damage, develop and obstruct a life worthy of living whether different or otherwise. People call us names, stare, make remarks without thinking because they are trying to be heard. Thier confusion is how to do that and remain respectful, loving and caring to their fellow human being, regardless of any difference. It's videos like this and people like you that exercise that right and educated those confused types, whilst offering support to those whom need it. More power to you brother. I for one will never let them get me down. My life is worth living because that in itself is precious enough. Thank you for your share.
SOUND OF GUGU Good man
lol honestly I started crying because I thought about how it'd feel like to be in a room full of people that has my clef lip and palet
SAMEE
im so sad about this unfair world
@@youcantgain100ksubscribers5 I have one I have struggled with it and almost committed suicide because of how bad the bullying was but this video stopped me he looks exactly like a dna copy of me but I have a worse condition but any he is a life changer
@Joshua Peacock I would say focus on the blessings and positive things that happen in your life. It’s not going to be easy but if you slowly work on that, you will eventually get there. Again, I don’t know you but i hope this made sense!
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HELLO!!!! I’m an 11 yr with a cleft lip and palet, on bolth sides, I’ve had five surgeries so far and I just wanted to say thank you for making this video because it really has change my life and perspective of my cleft lip and palet!
Hello
I have one too it's very noticeable the bullying abuse and public perceptions plus being called heir lip/ big lip nearly pushed me to suicide but i became a Christian and began to love myself again your video is really awesome for people like us
Aww I'm sorry 🥺 I'm glad you shared your story mine is pretty similar 🥺
This made me cry. Thank you. Hearing these kind words made my heart sore. I was born with bilateral cleft lip and palate. I remember boys and girls being mean to me and making fun of my "shit lip" and crooked nose and odd voice in middle school and elementary school. But now all he guys who were mean now want to talk to me. Girls are envoius of me for some reason many years later. All those 19 years of surgeries and self loathing drained me and now I'm at my last few procedures. I feel so much better in my own skin. Only because I got rid of all people who were toxic and mean. But thank you for this video. And anybody else who commented on the video. I love knowing that I'm not alone anymore.
I have cleft lip. Thank you for this. I am only thirteen and sometimes feel very insecure. I needed to hear this.
I feel you
Just be you.Be proud of yourself.I was born with a unilateral cleft lip and palate 45 years ago.Dont ever feel like you are not good enough, you are equal or better than others.
luckily im married i have four kids and all were born normal....i happy for them that they dont have to go through what i went thru....thank u for your clip..
Mohammad Sharif I'm a mom of two normal boys, I have Cleft lip and in my pregnancy It was hard to think that they can be like me, its hard I was bullied in the school, the worst part of all was that.
Normals a bit offensive
You are abrave young man your story made me cry
This made me cry! When you were talking about being chiseled and man made. My son was born with a bilateral cleft lip and palate. Hes had 2 surgeries so for. Hes now 6 and gets called FlatNose at school
i also get called flat nose.. god it makes me cry just hearing those words
You made me cry, I just wanna thank you for the kind words you said, even if it was 3 years ago. Everything that you said it's true, and some times it's hard to remind all the good things we are, and forget the things we don't like. Thank you, really.
you've said some amazing words here for anyone that has to deal with being different through the horrors of puberty! your gorgeous. thank you for your courage.
It becomes a part of you. I have never met another person with the same, so all my life I've always felt a little bit of an outsider it sometimes makes me angry. No matter how hard I try it's never going to be perfect. It made me angry, desperate and my teenage years hard. But I just told myself if I couldn't accept myself as I am nobody else will. And I try doing that every day counting the blessings.
Great video my man. Thank you for sharing. My little girl goes in for her first surgery next month and it is helpful for me to have watched your vid. More people need to be like you. Not just individuals born with a cleft. So many people are insecure over trivial things. Your strength shows through in this video.
35 year old male here with cleft lip/palate. Thanks for making this video man. It's hard growing up with something that literally NOBODY you know can relate to. People can say things that stick with you forever and can be absolutely devastating. I remember when I was a teenager in a small town, with a culture of "it's cool to be a dick", and thinking I'd NEVER find a girlfriend and I would NEVER fit in. I was completely wrong. The great thing about growing up is people grow out of that high school clique bullshit and start to see you for who you really are, but only if you let them.
I agree to a point. People do grow out of that high school bullshit, but by then my self esteem took a pretty big hit.
This made me cry my eyes out. You finally made me realize that my Cleft doesn't define me. I would love to talk to you personally one day to ask questions & thank you for this. You're perfect in every way possible.
He made me smile he made me laugh he made me cry I love this guy
Man seriously you are great i mean I don't even the boldness to speak to strangers bcoz clp here you are making this video . Truly remarkable and thanks for this message man. Anybody like to chat with me ping here
My daughter has a cleft lip and Palate
You are beautiful too! I am 40, have cleft lip and palate as well, and i needed to hear this tonight, so thank you for that! Yea, it does get easier as you get older...but i still struggle with thinking i am a freak occasionally. I am married with two beautiful girls who love me for me and a loving husband..but still haven't quite mastered loving myself-but working on it! Anyways, thanks for being you and inspiring all of us clefties out here :D
I was born with an isolated cleft palate. I believe it was caused by environmental factors. I’ve struggled my whole life trying to figure out why I was different. My parents kept this from me until I was 12 years old. Because you can’t physically see the differences in my features everyone acted like I was normal but I’m not normal I’ve always been different. Thank you so much for this.
this brought me to tears more times than I like to admit but thank you so much for reminding me it's not something I can change and therefore should not be ashamed of
You are doing a good job in reaching out to people with cleft lips and I salute you for that sir. People try to blend in so much, but it's the people that are different that often makes a difference in life. I can relate to everything you said, having a right cleft lip myself. To everyone else with a cleft lip that might read my comment, I'm happily married to my gorgeous wife, I have awesome friends and family all around the world, and I have my own company. Don't let your difference in appearance ever make you want to blend in. Like Blade said, let it push you forward. Use it to make a difference...
@@juancasedu2000 I'm own a brand development company that helps people start and maintain successful brands. Why did you decide to become a doctor?
@@bluesphynximageengineering1447 wowwww great👍
Thanks you for sharing your story, Blake! I never actually thought of documenting my cleft lip story. I was also born with a cleft lip, but not the cleft palate. I was slways told it was genetic, even though my mom swears it was the medicine given early in her pregnancy for bronchitis. I don't remember the name, but know that it hasnt been around in over 20 years. A couple years after I was born she remembers it was no longer safe for pregnancies. Like you, I am the only one in my family that anyone knows to have any cleft. At 1 year old, I had my first and only facial reconstruction surgery. I was told that if the scar bothered me, after all growth and my 18 birthday, I could have cosmetic surgery. Growing up I was insecure and was teased about my lip. But kids can be mean. By the time I turned 18, I was used to the scar. I felt like it was a part of what makes me "Me". Needless to say, I never got the cosmetic surgery. I will say, I am definitely a stronger, more confident adult. I have learned there are a lot worse things in the world and that EVERYONE has insecurities about something! It is true that with age comes wisdom. Although I will tell you that when my first child was born, I received a blow to the gut. I was told he has a cleft lip. When I asked very early in pregnancy, I was told not to worry. I "Only" had a 6% chance of having a child with a cleft. Then I'm being warned that my chances have gone up in having another child with cleft lip (and/or) palate to 9%. Four years later I had my second child. SUPRISE! He too has a cleft lip. But it's different and nothing I had seen or heard about prior. See... like me, neither of my boys had the cleft palate. Unlike me, neither one had an actual separation or opening in their lip either.. They have what is called a Microform Cleft lip. Which is a darker, raised line on the lip where the cleft would be. It looks like a scar after surgery. They look similar to the way mine looks today. They are "Mirror Images" of each other. One is on the right side, the other on the left. They have never had to have any surgery. A genetics doctor did a study determining my gene seems to be disintegrating as it's passed through generation. That was 15 years ago. Today both my boys are healthy, confident young men. Neither has ever had the insecurities I had growing up, even theirs at birth until today looks exactly as mine has since surgery. I hope that having me and each other, it was just the norm!
Beautiful boy in and out, loved every thing you said, we need more young men that think like you.
I loved this video so so so much. I am 18 and also have a cleft lip and palate and Its so inspiring to see your confidence. I don't even know how to explain how much it means to hear someone say these things!
Wish I heard this 45 years ago. 11 schools and lots of fights. Now I look back and wished I'd handled it differently. Great video for young people that have cleft. Thanks
I did the same thing. Someone says something shitty and i would beat hell out of them. Wish i could go back and do things different
i like your video. i too was born with a cleft lip and palate. my story isn't far from yours. except i was born an army brat so i moved alot. im 28 now and it took a long time for me to realize that i wasn't really different just looked a tad different. id be lying if i said that i was 100% okay with myself but i still have self esteem issues. It's gotten better over the years but i still have a long way to go. i havent met many people with cleft and i kinda wish i did because it makes me happy that someone else knows my story what we went through and how i feel and i feel connect to them. cheezy i know but ya know. but still your video is awesome and i hope more kids see this.
Rachel Wilder keep you head up..
I thank you for your inspiring video. I am 47 and live in the UK I have a bilateral lip and unilateral palate. I was on you tube looking for tips on applying lipstick! I wouldn't say that I'm insecure but sometimes feel self conscious, I completely relate to your story and wish it was something I could have see growing up, I know it will help many youngsters. One group of people who I am grateful to are the 'guinea pig club' a group of men who sufferer terrible burns during the second world war, these men helped pioneer the treatments that we have received.
Thank you for making a video about this, my daughter was born with a complete bilateral cleft lip and cleft palate, she's going to be 20 months old and it is actually really difficult to find resources of people speaking about their experiences with it.
I commend your spirit Blake. You are right about everything. The insecurities, being outcasted, the constant stare that you get 'cause your lip movement is different, the constant mockery, the bullying, are all part of you becoming stronger and resilient. I have had share of these experiences in life, as I have a cleft lip and palate too. Childhood was difficult, and sometimes it hurt, mentally. But, never let that get you down. You face it, endure it, and if they think you are an outcast, well you are better than them. They cannot comprehend the greatness that you are capable of.
To the ones that feel down, don't worry about it. The phase will pass. Be your best, endure, grow, be confident, be good. I'm 24 now and I'm occasionally get stares, but I smile back at them. Sometimes they ask me about my condition, I tell them. Some pass jokes, I laugh with them, makes them realize their error. Social skills are not hard. You can do it. It's something to be developed. You are awesome and a better human being.
Thank you.. So, so much for posting this. You took the words from my mouth!
Thanks for sharing. My story is not public. I was teased by others in school horribly. But now I am a collage graduate and teaching elementary kids. My students mean so much to me and they love me. You are so right, life does get easier as you get older. Thanks for sharing your story!!!
I was born with cleft lip and palate too! I had 4 surgeries total. My 4th one I had to get a bone graft with a bone taken out of my hip for bone structure in my upper jaw. I also had to have braces for 9 years and 2 of my front teeth never grew in. But after my braces and numerous surgeries, I have a retainer with teeth & I'm in the process of dental implants! The only problem I have is a speech problem. I just have a difficult time with S and SH sounds due to my weird airflow in my mouth because of my teeth. I think clefts are beautiful and we're special people. We're studs! It's nice to see someone who can relate with me!
very inspiring sharing.
Wow everything you said is what im about to go through
Ya, I'm lucky enough to have one too :) (seriously though) and GREAT video by the way. I'm 25 years old and it looks like you figured this stuff out much quicker, but all things considered I think going through this as children really gives us a leg up in adult a life as long as we can come to terms. I'm always amazed at how focused and yet heartful a person this condition has made me as I've grown older. The very thing that got me picked on as a kid is what forced me to look at the world from a more mature perspective from an early age (sounds like you're in the same boat). In my mid twenties now I feel like I can comfortably deal with extremely delicate professional and personal hardships in a way most of my peers can't. I always seem to run into other cleft lip and palate folks in random situations and always find myself humorously wishing we had some kind of baddass secret handshake we could bust out on the spot. Cheers -drew
Growing up, I never had any insecurities with my appearance. Some people (kids) would ask what my scar was, and I'd simply let them know I was born with a cleft lip and palate. Most didn't know what that meant. So I would explain to them the process in which your face is developed from the outside in, and sometimes it would not fully complete it's process.
Recently, starting in my late twenties to early thirties, as my face has grown more, I am more self conscious about it. Not my scar… I actually like it! Mainly my nose and facial structure.
I'm not sure if it's because there is so much emphasis on women to be beautifully perfect, or if it is all in my head (lol).
I hate that my nose is crooked, and one nostril is higher and larger than the other, I hate that one eye is wider and lower than the other, I hate that my chin blends in with my neck. I can't wear my hair in a pony tail or bun because of this… and have stopped since I was around 20. I hate that my head is so small compared to the rest of my body… but I am a confident person, and don't let it effect me much.
I work in retail, and with the public. Recently, as I said, I have become more self conscious of my looks, and will have times when I feel people are judging me… but I am a positive person, and dont care what others think… just what I think.
I think I have beautiful eyes, and a beautiful heart. I am loving , caring, nice, helpful, and all of these traits I have passed on to my two children, along with my cleft lip (my daughter was born with a cleft lip as well). She is beautiful! And knows it lol. I only hope she never feels badly about herself as we sometimes do.
You are so right, in saying our looks do not define who we are. And I honestly think the most attractive people are the ones with character. Whether it be a crooked nose, crooked teeth, crooked smile, etc.
Love who you are!!!
I was born with a cleft lip too & I'm really happy with the way I'm. You just need to make this flaws (as per people's views) into your core strength and thank Allah for making you different from everyone.
In my 18 years of life, I've never heard thoughts about clefts like these. I have a unilateral cleft lip- my eldest brother has a cleft palate- but, you're the first person I've heard who also has a cleft lip. I know what it's like, to have some random person walk up to you and question your lip, I know of the stares from young children. My family have never treated me as something damaged, someone who was deformed. Your video was just amazing. Thank you, very much.
Your some man, your mum and dad must be proud as punch of you. Great video.
Powerful message brother. Speak the truth. Your scars have built your character which is stronger than any deformity. One of my favorite movies is called Mask (made in the 80s with Cher as the star). Watch it if you haven't. Rocky Dennis suffered so much, but didn't try to let it define who he was.
i have a cleft palate too, im 23 , turning 24 this feb. got my degree and pass the board. going to start working after i find a work. lol but i dont see my cleft as disadvantage. my scar is more worst, still looking for a doctor. got my 6th operation. almost died in 5th since there were complication. but neverless it make me stronger who i am today. plan to let my name known as a great interior design. 👍 make more videos will be supporting you. great job, thanks for sharing your stories.
hi. im 26.. i only had 1 operation, but planning to undergo another. but still confused.
@@juancasedu2000 bachelor in science in interior design. Wow a doctor God bless. Hope you will be successful in your career. I'm already 30 now. All I could say Whenever life takes you down. You just go up. Very challenge take it with a leap of faith
I have never felt so alone in my life because of cleft palate. I've lost so many "friends" because of this. They left me because of something I could not control. As a result of this, I attempted to end the cycle of misery and attempted suicide. Unfortunately/fortunately, I was not successful. I truly respect how confident you are and wish I could obtain your confidence. It makes me feel some comfort seeing in the comments that others are struggling with this and I am not alone.
Amazing vid bro! I’m kinda late on it but glad I found it in the first place. You helped me change my view on my cl & p. Thank you
I envy your speech, it's like any other normal speaking voice :(
I have CL&P too btw
I'm 23 now and I'm going to have my bone grafting surgery to completely close out my bilateral cleft lip and palate ( I had my 1st surgery when I was 8mos old) 2-3 weeks from now and after I'm completely healed with it, I will undergo rhinoplasty for my nose. So 2016 is gonna be tough for me physically coz I have to endure a lot of painful procedures but I'm positive with the outcome. :)
THAT GREAT IM HAPPY FOR YOU MAN 😄😄😄
+Goku Pepe thank you :)
+GirlCalledMobeen And Proud thank you! my surgery recovery is at around 90% already and I'm back on my usual daily routine.
I'm 11 and ive had my bone graph. just letting you know it hurts but leaves a little scar. I had it when i was 8. next surgery, when i'm 13, is my nose, i get it fixed, i can't wait for that. my nose is the only thing that needs to be fixed now and then i'll be happy.
I'm 28 and lost count surgery. Last surgery 2013 but rhinoplasty wasn't as planned, life's changed. Wish I knew in the people who had same further repairs in uk.
Thank you so much for sharing your story. You truly are awesome! I have a 2-year old boy, born with cleft lip and palate. He is the most beautiful and charming boy I've ever met! He has already been through 3 operations and there are many more to come. You know the drill. I would lie if I said that I'm not worried for his future. Right he is struggling with speech. His palate does not work at all! Anyway, seeing you, all grown and confident, REALLY helps me and gives me confidence! Thank you!
Ma'am im from India n im happy to say that my doctors hav given their best n d cost is next to nothing.i ve been singing since past 8 yrs n im 21 now n i dont face any difficulty in speaking or lack of confidence.im saying this bcuz i ve seen my mum crying for me aftr every surgery thinking abt my future being a girl she was more conscious about me and so u are about ur son but dont worry mam one day u ll b proud of ur son just dont let him loose his strength n confidence at this age all he needs is ur mental support n lots of love.god bless u
Jelam Upadhyay
I had a question did you ever get follow up treatment after a maxillofacial surgery. I'm also a cleftie. I had maxillofacial surgery on 2010. I never got the follow up treatment. If you did get follow up treatment, how did you go about getting the treatment. Out of pocket or health insurance coverage. TMJ or Orthodontic Follow up Treatment. If you did not get follow up treatment would you consider a Class Action lawsuit. Let me know at Rfernand3z844@gmail.com
Robert Fernandez yes i ve followed up to my surgeons and dentist always i got my surgeries done in a government hospital so we didn't spend much compared to private hospitals and alsi my orthodontist has a passion for cleft patients so the charges we paid there was also affordable to us i couldnt get my maxillofacial done because my upper jaw bone is very brittle and doctors didn't wanted to risk but they found out other ways to improve.
Are you from America, what state. Tax payers paid for my half ass treatment, then the government cuts healthcare funding and increase military funding.
Robert Fernandez im from India :-) and for all my surgeries i have paid only for my medicines thats it and some little amount for a personal ward
I have a cleft lip and palate. I'm fourteen and I live in a small town in Indiana. No one really picks on me cause I'm bigger than everyone for the most part, but it's still easy to get insecure about it. I got selected in this experimental group and as of now I've had 14 surgeries. I'm getting my fifteenth surgery next year where they break my jaw and reset it. That should be the end of my surgeries. I don't do great in school but i definitely don't do bad. My mom has the second most painful disease ever (RSD) and has had it for 11 years so that doesn't help much. She's great though so it could be worse. My dad didn't want me to go through my surgeries so he's never there for me during them. My best friend is flying down for my surgery so that helps a lot. Feel free to reply with your story or how you can relate. It will always get better. Btw if you're reading this Blake thank you so much for this video.
Hey guys, for all you guys out there I'm 14 and I have a cleft palet. Here's a back round check, I am adopted from China because I was abanded by my family cause they couldn't take care of me cause of my cleff palet. School is amazing for me. All my friends support me and people really don't care about my nose. I do get teased time to time just by older kids bit that doesn't matter. I'm starting my new hjob at a food store and what I'm saying is if I can make it you can too. No matter what do not give up
It's cool that your friends support you
I have a cleft to, life is tough
I feel you
adrian wong no... people are cruel... your perfect they are not..
Seth Koch inspiration
I had a daughter 4 days a ago with cleft lip and nose , so I started looking at videos staff , thank you so much you encouraged me and my wife , wish you have healthy life
I feel ya man I myself have a cleft lip and pallet I had a class 1 & I've always been insecure my whole life and I've realized that you just have to be confident in yourself and you are different but you gotta embrace it though you can't play with your friends on the football team
Wow! I have a cleft lip and palate and run a blog called The Cleft Chronicles and one of my followers and friends shared this video with me. I watched it and am amazed at how empowering this video is! It's real and straight forward. You have such a good outlook on life! You have such honesty and simple, real power in your words. Thank you so much! I hope you don't mind if I share this with my blog. There's a decent sized community over there that I think needs to hear what you have to say :)
"Of all the people in the world why me?" Thats my question, I have a Cleft lip and palate but my life kinda differs from people with cleft lip and palate, i always end up on a brawl in school. They make fun of me, I make them pay... and soon they learned to respect me. But that life is not what I want, I change..... I learned to accept my self and along with it are the people who makes fun of me. I learned to deal with them in a peaceful way. Now I have a beautiful wife and 2 beautiful daughters
I'm 14 and I'm really insecure about myself and my face .. people were calling me Voldemort and I couldnt deal with it.. but when I talked about it noone really understood me. not even this girl from my town who also has cleft lip and palate she was just like 'oh ok. I guess'. but while watching your video I changed my opinion about myself. like I'm special. I'm different. and I'm proud. I dont care about what others think of me if it's not about my personality. thank you so so much you are amazing and I think your lips are perfect the way they are
just.smile did people really call you that? :o first that's stupid and mean, but second, if you allow me, and don't take this in the wrong way, but that's pretty badass! ;)
Blake ive never heard CLP speech like it!I was also born with bilateral clp im 27 now head strong fuck anybody elses opinions.....we are very strong people you dont realise it untill your in your 20s!
im from philippines. i have a cleft lip and palete, yeah your right it is really hard for us specially from me because in my 24 year having this my voice is not fix or i should say its not quite understandable yet...... when im studying from elementary to high school i didnt think that this is a obstacles to my success in school. i study hard so that imy parents will be proud of me,, i join in school as a journalist during my graduating year, i graduated with a flying colors in high school and in my vocational course. my struggle has gotten worse when im hunting a job.. no matter what you do good from school in the eyes of critizicing people your effort in school will become a waste from them.. you will feel insecure. its part of having this.. job hunting is really hard having this.. eventhough your really qualified in that position during the interview the interviewer will lougth. and they will look you with critizicing in their mind. you will ignored them hoping that you will passed the interview but in the end they will not hired you. right now having troubled looking for a job... i would like to worked abroad but i think it miles away from me. cause in my own country they critizicing me eventhough were the same nation. what if in the other country.. im really hoping thaat my dreams will come true to be able to worked abroad to give my parent a better life.
Awesome video! You're right everyone has a different story to tell, mine it's curious but never talk about it, maybe someday I'll do it, I'm from Colombia, and I'm so proud about it couse the support of my family helps to reach my goals even to learn a second language for now! Good story ! You're so strong
With a person with a clef lip and pallet.been picked on over the years when I was younger your not alone you are special and remember there are people know what you have been through and there to help you
Great video Blake! I hope that all young people with cleft lip and palate watch this video, because you are giving very sound advice! I am about to have a son in a few months that will have cleft lip and palate and your video was good for me to watch as a father as well. Thanks for posting!
I was born with a unilateral cleft lip. I've undergone 1 surgery when i was little and its so hard for me to accept all those insults that they are teasing me. I just want to look normal. 2 weeks from now, i will undergo with my 2nd surgery and i really hope that this would make my lip look normal because i'm tired of not being accepted by people. I hate it when it comes to my mind that i need to look good just to be accepted by this society
Hello,how are you now??
@@idontknow24 I'm good! How about you?
@@crapgaming3838 iam also fine,its so nice to see your comment dude,whre are you come from?
How lucky u all r.....i too born with cleft lip and palate....... I Am in to depression most of the time bcoz of my looks...... I have a great parents who loves me alot...... And I had awesome friends too......
nathalina deepika its to hard.. Sometimes i want to die.. I wish i was never born..
I'm 16 with a clef lip.I never noticed that i was different until i grew older. Life is beautiful.Enjoy it to the max. I may look different,people look at me.That's fine! If I saw another guy/girl i would probably look at him/her too.I understand that.Life is too short to worry about these things.Be happy and make your dreams happen no matter what! Maybe I'll do a video about my story too.I'm 16 btw
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I don't know what to say, thanks!
I was having a really bad day, then i watched your video. I also have cleft lip and cleft palate, and sometimes it's really hard, but i don't really care what other people thinks about me, that doesn't define me as a person. You're such an inspiration, i feel so much better. Thank you!!!!!!! hugs from Colombia.
I have a bilateral cleft lip and palate.. your not alone don't worry! Stay strong. ❤️
U also feel difficulty in speaking
you are beautiful
i am ugly
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Hi guys, I have cleft lip and palate and a couple of deformities with my nose too. I'm 19 years old, and at university so I've been through the tough teenage school years! I'm ok with my looks, I've got incredible friends and I haven't had a comment in a few years now. But relationships are a step too far at the moment. I am more than willing to give any of you advice or be someone you can message whenever you are feeling down because I check youtube most days. I know it can be tough at times! Stay strong you beautiful people! xxx
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i was born with a cleft palate and it was repaired this year during june holidays at Netcare parklane hospital by prof-LA Chait now am doing my speech therapy. My speech was very bad but now it has improved a lot. Thank you for this video am really inspired
thank you so much for this video
Hi, how are you now?
Thank you so much for this video! I was born with a cleft palate and have always been super insecure about feeling deformed and like a misfit. This is awesome!
There is something to be said about cleft lip/palette people. I have a son born with a cleft and he is the most beautiful human being with the most admirable qualities. Others I know with clefts are also wonderful, inspiring people. God's angels! Maybe we should have all been born with a cleft - the world would be a better place. I was so truly inspired by your story!
Thank you bro, I’m like 10 years late to the party but this makes me feel seen so much omg
I never had a problem with it when I was younger, (occasional kid coming up and asking but I would be okay explaining and they’re just curious anyways) but when I got older and reached my teen years it started getting to me more. (I’ve also met one other person my age so far with a cleft lip and palet, it was a surprise tbh, I met 1 other but he was a baby)
So far I’ve had 4 surgeries, 3/4 were mouth related. My most recent one was a little over a year ago I decided on getting lip-reshaping and it’s in the process of healing (I wanted to for me, and I’m happy 👍) and although it helped make my cleft less noticeable I felt subconscious about it still and how it skewed up my facial structure a bit (my face is kinda lopsided & my nose is uneven) but listening to your words is helping me accept that it makes me unique 💕
4 years later I found this video and I'm sitting here sobbing 'cause I'm so sorry for you man. I'm groving up the same way, I had a pretty rough childhood because of this but like I've never taken myself that way. But it all came to me one day and I was a mess since then. I though like...man there's a millions other people and it just have to happen to me. Like why me? What have I done to deserve something like this. I am diferrent and all these kids are making fun of me. I didn't understand. But you've opened up my eyes right now. I know what it's like and I feel you. I'm sorry you had to go through this. But hey after all like you've said we are all the same. We may be a little bit diferrent but we still are human beings and that's what counts. I love how you could open up about this and probably helped to lot of people. You are seriously a warrior man. Wishing you all the best. I know that you might probably not even see this nor reply but I just wanted to say a big thank you. Really. I appreciate it so much man. 🙏❤
I was also born with a upper cleft, my whole life I had to put up with people teasing me but I fought through it, you're awesome bro!
Thanks for a guy's perspective :) Keep them coming?
Hi I'm married and have four kids and I have clef too. I still struggle sometimes with insecurities at 24 but am very blessed anyways andjust wanted to TThank you for your encouragement and great video.
I was born with a partial cleft lip only. I can relate to Blake and others in a lot of ways. I am 40 years old and have my first child on the way. It was recently discovered that my child will be born with at least a cleft lip, still too soon to tell if it will be a palate as well. It's been a real struggle, mostly because I know exactly what he is facing. It's still hard for me to even talk about it.
My son, Zander, was born with WBCLP and is now eleven. As a parent of a child with cleft I am privileged to the joy he brings to my life and have also endured his surgeries along the way--his courage, as I'm sure yours and others on this path, provides inspiration and a cherished perspective on life to all of us. Zander, will be entering his teens in a few years and has many challenges ahead as you know, but I have seen him so loved by his family, peers and classmates that the few stares and cruel comments have no significance. What matters is the beautiful people that develop in spite of this unwelcome twist of nature. What I see is that the extra challenges make exceptional people as is evidenced by this video. Thanks for sharing your story.
Don’t believe that the stares and crappy comments are insignificant because as a child those stares and comments are burned into your mind. So please understand they may be insignificant to you but not your child. By the way 51 year old cleft lip and palate here!
I was born with cleft lip and pallet and have had 3 operations but having another one soon
I'm from Philippines ,I was born with cleft lip and palate too. thank you for this video. very inspiring. God Bless!! :)
hey you look great !!! :) i have a cleft lip and palate also...i really appreciate your video!!! I am now a clinical social worker and work with kids and teens and SOOOO many people have their insecurities and issues and honestly....I am so glad in some ways that all i have to worry about is my cleft lip and palate :)
Thanks men, You make me believe in my self. 👍
I love your spirit! You seem like a wonderful young man. I know you can achieve whatever you want to in your life.
I really liked your video and I applaud you for the message that you convey here,as it's a message that especially younger people with clefts need to hear. I can relate to so much of what you say and I've also felt strangely connected to the other videos on the topic that I've seen, even it's just mentally comparing surgeries or echoed childhood experiences. I wish I'd ventured on to YT and seen these types of videos when I was a teen, it would have helped a lot!
I was born with cleft lip and palate. I certainly know what it felt like for you, and just like it did for me, growing up from grammar school to graduating high school. Sone of my classmates would accept me, but there were some that would not. Some people would say, what happened to you there? Were you in an accident? But, you’re right, it certainly will affect your social life. Trying to get a date in high school, which is very hard to do, especially, when you don’t feel good about yourself (lack of self esteem). Most people back in the old days didn’t know what a cleft lip and pallet was? With organizations like Operation Smile and Smile Train, I believe most of the population now knows what this birth defect is, But, I feel thankful that I didn’t have one of the most common defect, which is heart defects. There are babies born every day they have worst birth defects than I did. In the United States: about 1 in every 1,600 babies is born with cleft lip with cleft palate. So, what causes it? To this day, I don’t believe that doctors really know what causes it? There are different studies that say, not enough of a certain vitamins or other nutritional supplements that a mother needs to take during pregnancy, especially, folic acid. I did not let my birth defect hinder my success in life. I moved on, and I have no regrets. I believe it made me the stronger person that I am today.
I only have cleft pallet but its abit more minor (isnt visble on surface) and is further deep around the nose but still for the sake of me I cant piece together a sentence without slurring and without painstakingly slowing down.
I needed this today, and im 36! Haha. Just started my Orthodontic journey, nose job etc to follow next year. Feeling like that scared little 9yr old all over again 😂
How did it go? I will have mine this fall I'm bit scared
@@JassuHuh These braces are taking so much longer than I expected! I'm still probably 5 months away from having them off. Meeting my surgeon next month, I'm going to ask if he'll consider rhinoplasty and lip revision while my braces are still on because I'm planning to move to England in May next year, and that doesn't leave enough time to have the orthodontics complete as well as the operation. I don't think that he will say yes, but I'm crossing my fingers. What surgery do you have coming up?
@@KaayBeeee we'll I had alveolar bone graft in Finland the surgery went we'll, but now I have coming up jaw and nose reconstruction surgery which stresses me out alot, my dental journey has been bit like yours I've been wearing mine sence I was 7,honestly can't believe how much it has helped it's pretty amazing ☺
I hope you are having an amazing day.
@@KaayBeeee sending an text just incase you missed my message sorry if you didn't
Another thing I really love is when boys have cleft lips it makes their voices sound really nice. It really changes the way is sounds but I like it.
My son is 16, he has unilateral cleft lip and palate, he is going thru a lot right now , his whole inner face has to be detached, a halo installed, and screws attached so that they can pull his inner face forward, then next summer he has to have whole upper jaw cut and moved forward 20 mm, his lower jaw cut and moved backwards. As a father it's killing me, he is a great kid, I hate the conflict y'all deal with with other kids. I want to take it for him. But I admire the other qualities it brings out, he is such a good, caring kid , I couldn't be more proud if what he has become.
Blake, you are truly a amazing person... I am 23 year's old and with a cleft lip and pallet, i still have 4 surgery's I have to get done and to be honest... i dont know if i will be able to get them done but regardless, you have really inspired me to try to be a better person. As a child i was always so self conscious about myself, but always had the attitude that screams out (i dont care, i am who i am and i dont care what you got to say!) You're a great guy, please remember that.
I come here to find up a sympathy from you.
Thank you so much !
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We are friends ! I love all of you so much
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In my country town no one has this condition which is interesting because there is actually a huge majority of people in the world with cleft lip and palate. I have this condition and I was lucky enough to have parents that loved me and supported me. Because of that I make amazing grades, I made it into All-State Choir and everyone in my school respects me as a very intelligent person and no one makes fun of me. But maybe that's because I have had some of the surgeries I needed at an early age. Well point is I know I'm a very lucky person and there are others who wish that they could feel like this. For those of you that do hang in there! Just keep hoping and your life will turn out for the better. I respect the man that made this video.
my son was born with it... happens 12 weeks of pregnancy when face is forming.... great treatment today for it... your not different your normal..
my son has both cleft lip and palate, and he has just undergone the first operation to fix the lip. when i consulted his doctor i was sad about the process to have the complete smile and physical functions as normal person, but as watching your video, i have more motivation to grow up my baby and help him to be confident to this life.
I am 11, and i have cleft lip and palate. I can assure you your child will grow up to be amazing, like any other person. i am in advanced math classes, and i'm also really smart,,
I really love myself, but when I see group photos that just made me to think I am weird, insecure sometimes but we are more than that guys. Love u all 🤗 ❤