Loneliness is not that you’re yearning for someone outside of yourself; it’s because you are yearning for YOUR SELF. Now, don’t read this sentence and then think about it; instead let it enter within your heart and blossom.
Personally I don’t lecture for others.... if someone tells their feeling about I like to listen and comfort them ....if the one in pain is me I like to listen to her and remember
I feel like I've evolved past the need for a romantic partner. I left the dating world two years ago and haven't felt the need to return to it, or even just meet someone organically. This messes with people's heads so I don't mention it anymore... people often feel threatened by someone who is alone, yet content and fully complete. I love being alone. I don't know why, but I love it. 💗
I was the same for about four years and now would like to meet someone, Marsha Alison. It wasn't like what the speaker her references, I really didn't want a partner, so if one had emerged, I would have sent him away. I once annoyed the husbands at a dinner party when I spoke about how much I loved being alone. They couldn't believe I was happy. I don't know why people don't get that this is possible and can be perfect. I am still satisfied but would enjoy having a companion.
Omg I am going through this right now. I assumed that after a year of designated "alone" time (which came after 2 years of simply recovering from a traumatic breakup), I would feel a natural motivation to return to dating, but I don't think that's going to happen... much to what will be my mother's chagrin lol
Omandita4, dating seems like a chore because the odds are against anyone being "the one." I believe that these things can and sometimes do happen organically if we are expecting them or not. I am hoping.
The only person who can make you happy is YOU. It is very dangerous to rely on others for validation as if they change or leave you it will be very difficult to cope. Whether in a relationship or not, learn to know and love yourself. Teach your children this 💕
This is probably the second video that I watched of Kim Eng and I seem to get everything she has to say in a very big way. I see a counselor, psychotherapist, psychic, and a good friend in the way she answers questions. What a gift to see right through a person’s heart and offer advice. Bless you Kim.👼
This is such great advice. If only people got this the divorce rate would drop as people wouldn’t choose a partner from loneliness but from a safe happy place. Interdependent relationships are the healthiest. Not co-dependant. We come into this world alone and leave alone so be happy alone. Make that connection with your inner being and the rest falls into place 😊
Lisa Marie i got divorced when I was 27 and I pretty much have been single since then. I turned 40 four days ago, and I don’t have family of my own. I used to wonder why I’m in this situation and was blaming myself for not being able and also ashamed for not having a partner. But at the same time I’ve known that I won’t have that until I’m in peace with myself and find happiness within me. I’ve been desperately seeking for years, and have been wondering in darkness for a long time with no answers. But since half year ago, things has been revealed to me and i i know where to seek and I know the tools. I think that when I am in peace with myself and become the one I’m meant to be, the right person will show up. Somehow God will introduce that person to me. But most important I’ll be happy and have a meaningful life even without a partner.
I dropped the need to be with a woman a year and a half ago. Next month I celebrate my 1 year anniversary with the woman of my dreams. In my experience what she described is 100% true
If eckhart tolle would speak he would say: when you feel loneliness, you feel a lacking and a need for more. A need for the the ego personality to feel whole with another person. But a lacking and needing something is there when toughts arise in your mind. Dont resist them but observe your toughts. Be present and be in the now. Namaste
That is a dismissive comment and completely rude and very typical of a male chauvinist attitude. Why can’t you accept all that Kim said? It was perfect.
I love how honest Kim is about needing space in a relationship. Love relationships have been so overly romantized to the point where it seems to be symbiotic. This is to my mind why so many ppl nowwdays have committment issues....becaus they think they have to erase themselves. The best relationship is where everyone gets the space they nees without having to feel bad about it.
Can we please stop looking at Kim as a „substitute teacher“? She is her own entity, she brings her own flavor into the mix. She isn’t here to replace or rival with Eckhart. See it as peppermint and chamomile tea. Both help your tummy, but their taste is entirely different. No need to compare.
Way to work on your judgement, Mister! You see a video and project your opinion onto people you don´t know, "waste" your time on a comment about something you don´t like instead of clicking onto THE OTHER THOUSANDS of Eckhart videos available. She is on the thumbnail! It´s not like you we´re lured into believing it should have been him...
Loneliness is a frequency and just like every other frequency that you put out to the world you get back to you. So until you become aware of that feeling you will be stuck admitting that frequency to the world. if you become aware of this feeling of loneliness you can then move on to accepting this feeling. A powerful thing to do is to just lay down and feel the emotion fully no matter how much it sucks don't run, don't wish it was different, don't ask why this is happening to you. See it for what it is and shine the light of your presence on the situation. Once you reach that stage your frequency that you admit will be of higher vibration and then you will attract people and circumstances that match that vibration. Once you find the love within yourself it can shine through into the world and match with someone else's. Edit: thanks for the responses! I have more stuff that will help on my channel check it out♥️
Sumbee Thank you for your comment.☺I never saw it that way. And I really learned something from what you wrote. So ya.... thank you and much appreciation.🖒🌻🌻🌻
@@ianaustin5541 oh wow, I was not expecting that! I'm glad to help. I explain Eckhart's wisdom on my channel in a way that is different and perhaps helpful to my viewers. Take a look! -Sumbee
I wonder: when you truly find love within yourself, does this mean there is no desire anymore to connect with other people? Friendships or relationships
We are conditioned to think we need someone, its just a state of thinking but you need to find that out for yourself. No one can give us what we need to give ourselves❤🙏
I am absolutely blown away by the wisdom of Kim Eng, here I’ve been going about this all wrong! I’m about to lay all this down, because I truly am happy alone! She made me realize so much! I will be a willing student because at 64, I am still learning and hope to always be!
Since I was a child I needed my space, me-time, most of my life people judged me for not being "normal". Thank you for clarifying. I can't see myself living with a man in the traditional ways society taught us to be "normal". I feel empowered to stay true to my needs, connection with source, my ultimate love partner. Thanks🙏
We live in a ‘Coupled world’ I became widowed six years ago. It’s difficult to constantly be walking into social gatherings alone, seeing couples all around you. Also 80% of the time if your other friends are couples they won’t invite you to social gatherings they are having at their house or if they’re meeting at restaurants because they know you will show up by yourself. And being a single woman you become a threat to the other women that are paired up that do not have a lot of self-confidence about their own relationships. Believe it or not ....it’s in your face a lot when you go out into a social setting. I’ve been doing it for six years. You have to be strong and feel whole like she’s saying to keep putting yourself out there. It’s not easy.
Justine...I've been widowed for 6 years too and everything you wrote is accurate. But I do not miss the question, "What's for dinner?" Lol JG..you sound like a sensitive and fun man. May we all get through "whatever" this is without going nuts.
So true - we can wallow in that or think, well, I don't really need to be with my friends when they bring along their (sometimes!) not so interesting/engaging partners. I like being able to talk to my friends. Being with couples can feel 'clunky'. It is what it is. I don't take offence anymore. I feel I have to 'act' when I am in a group of couples as very often I am not as familiar with their partners, so conversation can be stilted. It depends on my mood! Ha! No ones fault .
Justine Szot I too lost my husband seven years ago. The first couple of years, I felt like I needed to find someone else...and I tried but it felt “off.” Instead, I started looking within myself and discovered a passion I had forgotten about since childhood. It was horses. I got involved with horses for many years and had absolutely no desire to be in a relationship. It grounded me and totally fulfilled me. I have since moved on from that and I’m pursuing new passions that have nothing to do with finding a partner. I go to many social events, where there are couples but also many other singles. Frankly, I really don’t ever notice it because it really doesn’t matter to me. Whether someone else is with a partner or not has no impact on me. I feel like if that is coming up for you and it seems to be all around you, then somehow you are drawing this awareness in for a reason. I actually have had times in my where I felt like what you’re describing and felt like the third wheel. But, when you truly are able to let that go, you won’t experience it anymore. I do think that sometimes we have a tendency to look for other people to fill a void, when the answer is possibly in a completely different place. And the only way to find that answer is to look within. Just my two cents and I wish you well!
This. Yes, and we are human, and therefore social by nature. Yes, loneliness is a state of mind, but when you're alone and you don't want to be it manifests as a real physical manifestation that can loop itself into a deep depression if you're not careful.
Black Bird Hollow - "Loneliness is a state of mind." -- Correct... But just because it's a state of mind doesn't mean it's illegitimate -- it's perfectly natural and a sign of a deficiency. It would be comparable to say: "Fill your stomach from within. Quit looking to food to sustain you. Hunger is a state of the body." ... Correct... It's natural, that's why we need to eat.
WHY does everyone minimize the NORMAL feeling of wanting to have a significant other to share life with? There's absolutely nothing wrong in wanting a life partner to share life with... everyone always makes the person who is ready, eager and happy to share life with a partner feel guilty about that want and sincere desire... You can have everything, and feel "Complete" in your own company, but having a significant other to maximize that feeling is always rewarding... Enough of making the ones looking to share life with a partner feel guilty or in a "Wrong Frequency".
Agreed! The fact that this woman "has it all" but still feels empty proves it. There is an innate need for loving human beings to be intimate with someone. To share thoughts feelings and life experiences with one another person. Just like there is an innate need for food, and water. You can fast, and discipline yourself but at one point you will have to eat and drink again. It isn't a co-incidence that one of the highest forms of punishment in our society is solitary confinement. It also isn't a co-incidence that serial killers are usually lonely outcasts of society. Perhaps there is a state of consciousness in which you suddenly do not desire human intimacy. If so, I certainly have not experienced it yet. :)
I don't think the point of this video was to say that this desire is wrong. It was more about being careful what you wish for: so often we head into new relationships because of this desire that are not good for us or the other person/people involved. We just kinda let this desire controll our actions without being conscious about it. We seek an ideal instead of a human and are surprised and hurt when the human comes to light.
I think the point she was trying to make is - happy if you are alone and happy if you are with a partner ...so many are not happy when they are alone and it is addressing this …..
I don’t feel incomplete, I do want a man in my life for the sharing, the growing and physical aspect of being with him. I feel happy. Wanting to have this only for an enhanced experience does not mean it is because of a need or belief. The woman who asked the question was right that this is a question all people would like to ask, that’s why the others laughed.
Frank Houttave Oh, well yeah :) But when I meet that crazy person haha I won’t want to be legally married to them because I don’t believe that the church or state really ought to be involved in romantic relationships. A ceremony/celebration of our love would be beautiful though 💜
With due respect, I don't agree with the answer she got. I don't think it is a belief, it is one of the greatest human needs and that is the need for intimacy. If it were a belief she wouldn't have enjoyed being alone for a long time. As human beings we have this urge to share and be intimate with someone. I think a human being is not created to be forever alone and shouldn't be taught to be fine with that. For some time ok, maybe years, but eventually this urge to share your internal world with someone will come up. I agree though that she should surrender to this feeling without resistance and from accepting a change will arise, either internally or externally. Even Eckhart chose to share his life with someone. My advice would be to have a pet and to surrender to the feeling. There are so many lonely women, I hope that men will soon start to wake up, we yearn for a healthy masculine energy. If God created us to be enough on our own, he wouldn't have made feminine and masculine energy, they are complementary.
Sandra Stojanović-okay I’m gonna leave the purpose of god aside here. I agree that humans have this biological need, but through the spiritual path, i believe it’s possible to transcend this evolutionary urge. This is also why there are humans that willingly lock themselves in a cave and live in solitude for years and experience the most blissful moments of their lives. You are a complete person.
The lady asking has not got to a place where she really needs an answer. Kim is correct 100%... Life has not humiliated her enough to get that she is latching on a belief so strongly...
The anger behind the resentment that the woman felt was for Kim Eng intellectualizing her comment and her not feeling understood or accepted for the loneliness. The woman raises her left shoulder 3 times or more and that is shame and anger for being alone and for unprocessed anger towards her husband. It's not about ego. Kim is angry during part of this interview for the woman to feel lonely and that is what everyone missed. What I think is the woman is unhappy because she's attached to having a partner, and that causes the loneliness but it's not about all the spiritual stuff and ego, it's a human being wanting love. I appreciate a lot of what I saw and for the courage to stand up and admit she was lonely was awesome.
Thank you Kim. Also for the honesty in not putting yourself and Eckhart on a "spiritual pedastal" This shows true wisdom. You aren't ignoring our human nature whilst pointing to the Divine within us that reveals itself more and more when we acknowledge and accept ourself. We know our deeper self is beyond thought and belief. You have helped me today and many people not just women. It made me cry as I felt your love and empathy. I love Eckhart and now I see why he loves you. Blessings to you both and to everyone on here who at times feels frustrated by their seeking to understand who they truly are at the deepest level because the mind or belief gets confused for who we are. It's OK to be human but be the Presence we are in our human ups and downs. Ups and downs are essential to experiencing in this world. There's no day recognized without night. 💗
Kim is a SPECTACULAR teacher. I just found her on RUclips today. I was looking for some good Eckhart videos to listen to; and I found videos of his wife teaching. Truly wonderful. Thank you both Kim and Eckhart!!!
Kim has a kind of bluntness that Exkhart doesn't, that really complements his teaching. I like to listen to one, then the other, like a constrast bath kind of thing haha. Sometimes she will say something blunt that irritates me slightly, and then I know right there she struck a hidden little thought I didn't notice I had. Thank you Kim
As long as you believe in the illusion of separation there will be loneliness. Loneliness can happen in relationships too, especially when you're married for many years. You are the universe as Deepak Chopra says. When you realize this you will never be lonely. Give to get. Be friendly and helpful and you will attract people naturally. We are one. Helping others means helping yourself. Do not focus on your needs too much. Also loneliness is a so called first world problem. When you struggle with feeding a family of 12 you won't have it.
@@peggyharris3815 Yeah, that's just for starters. Ideally you just give. After awakening you realize that you and the others are not separate so that what you give them you give yourself. Until then it's a bit like barter.
She's right. That loneliness is your teacher. And if you avoid being lonely you're abandoning yourself. I went into the loneliness and I saw that I didn't know myself at all and that's why I felt lonely. I'm still alone and I never feel lonely anymore. If I'm with other people and they can't meet me where I am. I can accept it because I am there with me and when they can be there with me I will be there.
I love how Kim didn't get stopped when the lady thanked her abruptly and sat down, and she asked her to look at why she ran away after the initial responses. Didn't get let her just slide. That was so powerful. So thorough through and through. Nothing stepped over. Thank you Kim!
This talk is great. Questioning the taboo of loneliness is really important. However, Kim misses an important point about partnering. They enable creativity and service. It isnt just inner work. Relationships can become too internally focused. There is an outer life aspect as well. The soul of the world. People need a worldly connection as well.
I feel this woman has a human need. Like I am hungry, I need food. Sometimes spirituality will help feeling connected...we live in society that creates a sense of separateness. I think Kim means well, but she over explains a very simple concept.
kim missed the boat with this answer. the correct answer is using acceptance to enter the now. thank you very much anyway was the lady's answer. she did not get an answer from Kim.
“Look at why you just ran away”…I feel like she ran away because her feelings were being slightly dismissed. We’ve all heard the same comment of “you need to be happy alone” but the women said she was happy. Life’s best moments are usually moments that are shared and this women clearly just wants to share her happiness with someone.
I wish there were more videos of Kim's lectures and classes. She has the ability to break through and help a person see and identify thoughts and feelings that one can express on their own and this allows understanding oneself.
I felt like her way of talking is more aggressive & straightforward than eckhart, but i understand more listening to her. She uses real example which is relatable & easier to understand. Thank you kim
I used to think that something was wrong with me for wanting what she has with Eckhart, this form of free and non attached love and also being totally fine alone but now I know something was actually right with me.
Thanks Kim! Lovely. Great to hear your beautiful insights. I can make sense of the times I walked on hot coals during relationships I've experienced. Thanks, I've come a long way since I first listened to Eckhart a year ago as I built my mountain bike track. I named a corner after him and think of him every time I whip through it. I no longer find a need to argue with my wife and teenage daughter. Life is now peaceful serene and creative as I experience this, now. I can't really put my finger on it with words so just thank you Kim.
I went deep, deeeep into my loneliness and found this video. Big aha moment. And yes, it is indeed a question many, many people may be having. THANK YOU ! to Kim and to the lady who asked this question _/\_
Very refreshing to hear her talk about her relationship with Ekhart. "You must fill yourself". The best advice ever. Finally, I see someone who needs her own space. I thought I was a weirdo. So glad I saw this video today Dec 31st. Thank you. This is perfect!
I just told myself there is nothing wrong with me. Unlike this lady, I’m not looking for a partner. However, what Kim is saying is true. The problem with looking for anything from another person, in my case approval, they are only human themselves. Thus, I need to approve.of myself. There is nothing wrong with me. I will say this to myself daily from now on.
I've spent 39 yrs leaving 3 relationships as soon as I felt they were starting to control me I hit the road, I married & he was mentally exhausting but he passed so now i am free I have always loved my own company, & i am growing more & more every day I love just going with the flow.
Thank you so much for sharing these videos. I am single for 4 months, and for the last 2 days I was thinking so much about my previous relationship, just wanted to call and accept everything he wanted, just forget myself, my needs. I was feeling really lost with my contradict thoughts, about what I should do, if my needs were not meant to be with him, etc. Then I saw this video, I wasn't really interested, not feeling lonely. But the teaching is so profund, so smart, so deep, so true, it blows your mind. Thank you again for helping so many people ❤️
Intimacy is a human need. Saying that you and your spouse enjoy living in separate quarters and enjoy spending lots of time alone, doesn’t translate for people who are experiencing constant loneliness. It would be like telling someone who is starving that you enjoy not eating between meals
Thank you for your insight Kim. We want, want, want, but when we get what we 'want' often we want something else, as is obvious by the high divorce rates, over consumption of food, things, drugs, etc. I personally believe loving what is, as hard as it may be, brings great wisdom, peace and growth.
Wow Kim, thanks so much for this video. After a 14 year marriage, I am in a place now of re-building myself and really finding within me everything that I used to seek outside but that I can only find within me: self love, self appreciation and all the other "selfs" :). Thanks a lot
Thinking you are lonely, and unfulfilled creates resistance and pain. Being at one with god, and finding stillness around you is very peaceful. It’s a state of knowing that it’s safe to be on your own. What you think is what you get.
Wow! This was everything I needed, even after working on myself for so long I still need these reminders! I need to go within and this lockdown time is really reinforcing this message to me
When your partner pass away all this hits you like a punch in your face. You realise how much you were relying on him and that now you have to stand on your two feet. I am not saying that I have found that presence within me, I still feel this desperation, and I totally understand it, but I have realised about it. I feel a lot of sympathy. Bless.
The conditioning from our parents is so deep inside of us...for hundrets of years people lived in codependency ....to change this pattern is the hardest challenge but its the only way to free our minds ...
this is both hilarious and genius. Kim is far more revealing of and in touch with her human side than Eckhart is and it's refreshing. many of my ideas have been set aside via this conversation alone.
The advice is sound. If you are feeling apprehensive, it is something you may need to clear in your own belief system. Try just listening with eyes closed. The eyes can be judgemental sometimes.
Loneliness is basically due to craving for socialization, this craving energy is already there in the subconscious mind of every human being when he is born, it intensifies when he grows older resulting in a state of mind called loneliness. that state is delusional and dominated by lack of companionship and feelings of left out from the society.
Two Points that were not covered- 1. Optimal relationships are about having and wanting to share. Sharing people are highly desirable. 2. Pairing-up is not for individuals to sort-out on their own. It is a cultural operation long before particular individuals show-up. Cultures have been successfully bringing heteros together, since forever. Family units are where the country's culture implements its ways of living. Black and Gay Subculture notwithstanding.
Besides, the questioner's problem, at least partially, lies in the weekend partner focus. The women's movement's great lie has always been, "we can have it all, at the same time"
Totally agree. I felt like that friday night, when I did not have plans..but then, on saturday morning upon waking up refreshed and ready to go to the beach, the thought or the judgment of friday night was long gone. Our ego is so annoying. :) as for a partner, I have desired to have one for the tingling, endeering feelings you can get when you are with someone but that is so short lived. Then the feeling of exhaustion from the hard work and the realization: I do not want a guy, I can't stand the complexity of relationships. It is a choice indeed and it is liberating to know that, at this day and age, we can choose. That alone is so very great.
This has surprised me - that enlightened teachers should need such space from each other. What it doesn't answer for me as a long term single woman is WHY some people find lasting romantic happiness, and yet some never do. Yes, I understand we should seek to marry our inner beings. But some people are also lucky enough to find lasting marital love. Why is that?
This really speaks to me as a single woman. I’ve been single since 2014 and we’re now in 2020. I often feel myself consumed by bitterness, resentment, jealousy and anger because I see so many people (often younger than me) moving through the healthy, “normal” stages of life such as being in relationships, engagements, marriages and babies. Loneliness twists everything pleasant in my life because like she said... I’m craving something external to complete me. I truly understand this is useless as my own completion already exists within myself. It really resonated with me that I’m still holding onto a belief of what is expected of me. I’m still placing the responsibility and expectation on an unidentified man to come riding in on a white horse to save me from myself. I hope one day I can let this fantasy truly go and marry myself like she mentioned as I know true contentment comes from within and having a partner is simply an extension or an external manifestation of the internal completion you already feel.
So encouraging and inspiring to hear about your and Eckhart's relationship -- the way that you have found creative ways to honour one another's space. Thank you for sharing!!!
That answer was so insensitive... i feel bad for the woman who had the courage to speak and had her feelings denied. Maybe a partner wouldnt be the answer, ok, but human connection is a serious need, and a partner surely helps a lot. Its too easy to say we need to "be complete" and "be independent" and all, but it is simply impossible to live alone.
We mustn't forget that as mammals, we are wired for connection. Pretty much every human being would suffer in isolation, except perhaps the most advanced souls. We most of us are not there, and we do 'need' each other. The self is grown in relationship with the other, and is maintained there as well. Having said that, that doesn't mean you must be in a romantic partnership. But let's not get too bogged down in the idea that we must be whole and complete individuals without needing other people. We need people, like we need food, air, water, warmth and shelter.
Human mind is like a double edged sword with one side covered in rust while the other flawlessly polished. Most are only aware of the rusted side, but once you become aware of the polished side, the rust on the other side will disappear. Becoming aware of physiological impacts and cultural conditioning on the body and mind respectively is a welcoming by life to give it your full attention.
I like your videos alot. So much pain in this world, because we are losing touch to ur true nature. Two beautiful people trying to help some other people :) Keep it up.
In other words, look within and fall in love with self. Then after truly loving 🥰 self, can we share that part of us with another to enjoy the dual completeness. Blessings
Wow....past few days I've been learning to say no to people coz I was always codependant on them to validate my existence. For the first time I'm spending time alone researching such topics and tapping into my conscious mind. I have stopped imposing myself on men to try get a rshp. I have told God...I leave it to you . Let him come
This is just amazing I just felt the same way as the lady who asked the question . I though I had found the partner and he showed me the other side . I mean tired, anxiety, and I just wanted to be alone again and my home took on a different energy. I've just fallen in love with BEING and being conscious that I am far more that any human relationship can give. In fact most not all of my relationships have not truly fulfilled me. So I now have only one relationship with God because his love is unconditional. Wonderful video, Thank you,🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
I feel the pain in her eyes. Bless her for having the courage to speak up!
Somewhere in Eckart presentations he said, it's the desire from our own mind.
Agreed. Saw that.
I don't see the pain. Maybe it's your pain you're projecting. No judgment, just maybe?🤔💗
MH S It makes sense. We are each other’s mirrors. I also see pain in her energy. Propbably coz this pain is also in me.
But she didn’t have the courage to say she is unhappy she was obviously but was saying I m not
Loneliness is not that you’re yearning for someone outside of yourself; it’s because you are yearning for YOUR SELF. Now, don’t read this sentence and then think about it; instead let it enter within your heart and blossom.
SighDown ⭐️💚⭐️
I never thought of this, true for me.
I believe there's a difference between 'thinking about it' and trying to analyze or rationalize it. Do the First, not the 2nd or 3rd
Wow
Personally I don’t lecture for others.... if someone tells their feeling about I like to listen and comfort them ....if the one in pain is me I like to listen to her and remember
I feel like I've evolved past the need for a romantic partner. I left the dating world two years ago and haven't felt the need to return to it, or even just meet someone organically. This messes with people's heads so I don't mention it anymore... people often feel threatened by someone who is alone, yet content and fully complete. I love being alone. I don't know why, but I love it. 💗
I was the same for about four years and now would like to meet someone, Marsha Alison. It wasn't like what the speaker her references, I really didn't want a partner, so if one had emerged, I would have sent him away. I once annoyed the husbands at a dinner party when I spoke about how much I loved being alone. They couldn't believe I was happy. I don't know why people don't get that this is possible and can be perfect. I am still satisfied but would enjoy having a companion.
Omg I am going through this right now. I assumed that after a year of designated "alone" time (which came after 2 years of simply recovering from a traumatic breakup), I would feel a natural motivation to return to dating, but I don't think that's going to happen... much to what will be my mother's chagrin lol
Omandita4, dating seems like a chore because the odds are against anyone being "the one." I believe that these things can and sometimes do happen organically if we are expecting them or not. I am hoping.
The only person who can make you happy is YOU. It is very dangerous to rely on others for validation as if they change or leave you it will be very difficult to cope. Whether in a relationship or not, learn to know and love yourself. Teach your children this 💕
@@gillianm9367 it does seem true that one is the most in charge of their own happiness.
So many people can’t admit that they are unhappy.
When Im feeling lonely and want to get back to my ex. i just played kim Eng and Eckhart teachings ... Thank you both 💖
Samesies lol
This is probably the second video that I watched of Kim Eng and I seem to get everything she has to say in a very big way. I see a counselor, psychotherapist, psychic, and a good friend in the way she answers questions. What a gift to see right through a person’s heart and offer advice. Bless you Kim.👼
I know why Eckhart chose a woman like her , you both are beautiful spirits , I love you two so much ❤️❤️
the most beautiful couple is:
two independent people, who loves themselves, are happy without a person, but enjoy s time with the partner.
Yepp.
If I could find her
Exactly!
Absolutely yes!
Pleasent wish
This is such great advice. If only people got this the divorce rate would drop as people wouldn’t choose a partner from loneliness but from a safe happy place. Interdependent relationships are the healthiest. Not co-dependant. We come into this world alone and leave alone so be happy alone. Make that connection with your inner being and the rest falls into place 😊
Lisa Marie i got divorced when I was 27 and I pretty much have been single since then. I turned 40 four days ago, and I don’t have family of my own. I used to wonder why I’m in this situation and was blaming myself for not being able and also ashamed for not having a partner. But at the same time I’ve known that I won’t have that until I’m in peace with myself and find happiness within me. I’ve been desperately seeking for years, and have been wondering in darkness for a long time with no answers. But since half year ago, things has been revealed to me and i i know where to seek and I know the tools. I think that when I am in peace with myself and become the one I’m meant to be, the right person will show up. Somehow God will introduce that person to me. But most important I’ll be happy and have a meaningful life even without a partner.
I think you meant to write "INDEPENDENT relationships are the healthiest."
Golden... Thanks. I need the patience.
No, I think she meant interdependent; next level.
M Munroe interdependent not independent x
“I’m married to the consciousness within myself” MIC DROP
lol ❤
I was like 👏👏👏
Lol😅
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I wish she could delve into THIS
Standing independently is our True Nature.
A real woman giving a real teaching- priceless!
Independently doesnt mean alone... It means that you are not in need.... Not much people having selfconfidance, so we dont beleive that we can have...
I dropped the need to be with a woman a year and a half ago. Next month I celebrate my 1 year anniversary with the woman of my dreams. In my experience what she described is 100% true
Gives me hope
@@giovannifabrik5003 3 years together now!
@@JoLaureys thank you for sharing this!
@@GillianMulholland getting married this summer 😄
If eckhart tolle would speak he would say: when you feel loneliness, you feel a lacking and a need for more. A need for the the ego personality to feel whole with another person. But a lacking and needing something is there when toughts arise in your mind. Dont resist them but observe your toughts. Be present and be in the now. Namaste
Jajaja thank you eckart namaste♡
That is a dismissive comment and completely rude and very typical of a male chauvinist attitude. Why can’t you accept all that Kim said? It was perfect.
I don't agree with Wotiluv. Man or woman it doesn't matter, what Divero said resonates better with me.
Absolutely!
Seems you listen to ekhart a lot. You have responded so well.
I love how honest Kim is about needing space in a relationship. Love relationships have been so overly romantized to the point where it seems to be symbiotic. This is to my mind why so many ppl nowwdays have committment issues....becaus they think they have to erase themselves. The best relationship is where everyone gets the space they nees without having to feel bad about it.
Well said. Yes
Can we please stop looking at Kim as a „substitute teacher“? She is her own entity, she brings her own flavor into the mix. She isn’t here to replace or rival with Eckhart. See it as peppermint and chamomile tea. Both help your tummy, but their taste is entirely different. No need to compare.
Thanks. I concur strongly xxx
Yes please and thank you!!
Thank you Moonshadow Garden
Way to work on your judgement, Mister! You see a video and project your opinion onto people you don´t know, "waste" your time on a comment about something you don´t like instead of clicking onto THE OTHER THOUSANDS of Eckhart videos available. She is on the thumbnail! It´s not like you we´re lured into believing it should have been him...
Daniel Eder ASMR Italiano Italian Still you waist your time with me on your high horse. Merry Christmas!
Loneliness is a frequency and just like every other frequency that you put out to the world you get back to you. So until you become aware of that feeling you will be stuck admitting that frequency to the world. if you become aware of this feeling of loneliness you can then move on to accepting this feeling. A powerful thing to do is to just lay down and feel the emotion fully no matter how much it sucks don't run, don't wish it was different, don't ask why this is happening to you. See it for what it is and shine the light of your presence on the situation. Once you reach that stage your frequency that you admit will be of higher vibration and then you will attract people and circumstances that match that vibration. Once you find the love within yourself it can shine through into the world and match with someone else's. Edit: thanks for the responses! I have more stuff that will help on my channel check it out♥️
Sumbee loneliness only exists in the mind.
Sumbee Thank you for your comment.☺I never saw it that way. And I really learned something from what you wrote. So ya.... thank you and much appreciation.🖒🌻🌻🌻
@@ianaustin5541 oh wow, I was not expecting that! I'm glad to help. I explain Eckhart's wisdom on my channel in a way that is different and perhaps helpful to my viewers. Take a look!
-Sumbee
@@Sumbee Oh ok, I'm gonna go check it out. Thank you☺
I wonder: when you truly find love within yourself, does this mean there is no desire anymore to connect with other people? Friendships or relationships
We are conditioned to think we need someone, its just a state of thinking but you need to find that out for yourself. No one can give us what we need to give ourselves❤🙏
I am absolutely blown away by the wisdom of Kim Eng, here I’ve been going about this all wrong! I’m about to lay all this down, because I truly am happy alone! She made me realize so much! I will be a willing student because at 64, I am still learning and hope to always be!
Since I was a child I needed my space, me-time, most of my life people judged me for not being "normal". Thank you for clarifying. I can't see myself living with a man in the traditional ways society taught us to be "normal". I feel empowered to stay true to my needs, connection with source, my ultimate love partner. Thanks🙏
We live in a ‘Coupled world’ I became widowed six years ago. It’s difficult to constantly be walking into social gatherings alone, seeing couples all around you. Also 80% of the time if your other friends are couples they won’t invite you to social gatherings they are having at their house or if they’re meeting at restaurants because they know you will show up by yourself. And being a single woman you become a threat to the other women that are paired up that do not have a lot of self-confidence about their own relationships. Believe it or not ....it’s in your face a lot when you go out into a social setting. I’ve been doing it for six years. You have to be strong and feel whole like she’s saying to keep putting yourself out there. It’s not easy.
Justine...I've been widowed for 6 years too and everything you wrote is accurate. But I do not miss the question, "What's for dinner?" Lol
JG..you sound like a sensitive and fun man. May we all get through "whatever" this is without going nuts.
J G I agree . And I also find that they’re throwing all of their time into their grandkids.
Peggy Harris that’s so true! Lol
So true - we can wallow in that or think, well, I don't really need to be with my friends when they bring along their (sometimes!) not so interesting/engaging partners. I like being able to talk to my friends. Being with couples can feel 'clunky'. It is what it is. I don't take offence anymore. I feel I have to 'act' when I am in a group of couples as very often I am not as familiar with their partners, so conversation can be stilted. It depends on my mood! Ha! No ones fault .
Justine Szot I too lost my husband seven years ago. The first couple of years, I felt like I needed to find someone else...and I tried but it felt “off.” Instead, I started looking within myself and discovered a passion I had forgotten about since childhood. It was horses. I got involved with horses for many years and had absolutely no desire to be in a relationship. It grounded me and totally fulfilled me. I have since moved on from that and I’m pursuing new passions that have nothing to do with finding a partner. I go to many social events, where there are couples but also many other singles. Frankly, I really don’t ever notice it because it really doesn’t matter to me. Whether someone else is with a partner or not has no impact on me. I feel like if that is coming up for you and it seems to be all around you, then somehow you are drawing this awareness in for a reason. I actually have had times in my where I felt like what you’re describing and felt like the third wheel. But, when you truly are able to let that go, you won’t experience it anymore. I do think that sometimes we have a tendency to look for other people to fill a void, when the answer is possibly in a completely different place. And the only way to find that answer is to look within. Just my two cents and I wish you well!
Life is not about having it all, otherwise you suffer and can’t appreciate anything 🌹
Fill your emptiness from within. Quit looking to others to make you whole. Loneliness is a state of mind.
@J G No, you only cover it up.
c fedyszyn - If it isn't about completeness, why is there so much emptiness when a relationship ends?
This. Yes, and we are human, and therefore social by nature. Yes, loneliness is a state of mind, but when you're alone and you don't want to be it manifests as a real physical manifestation that can loop itself into a deep depression if you're not careful.
Black Bird Hollow - "Loneliness is a state of mind." -- Correct... But just because it's a state of mind doesn't mean it's illegitimate -- it's perfectly natural and a sign of a deficiency. It would be comparable to say:
"Fill your stomach from within. Quit looking to food to sustain you. Hunger is a state of the body." ... Correct... It's natural, that's why we need to eat.
OK ? so how ?
WHY does everyone minimize the NORMAL feeling of wanting to have a significant other to share life with? There's absolutely nothing wrong in wanting a life partner to share life with... everyone always makes the person who is ready, eager and happy to share life with a partner feel guilty about that want and sincere desire... You can have everything, and feel "Complete" in your own company, but having a significant other to maximize that feeling is always rewarding... Enough of making the ones looking to share life with a partner feel guilty or in a "Wrong Frequency".
Agreed! The fact that this woman "has it all" but still feels empty proves it. There is an innate need for loving human beings to be intimate with someone. To share thoughts feelings and life experiences with one another person. Just like there is an innate need for food, and water. You can fast, and discipline yourself but at one point you will have to eat and drink again. It isn't a co-incidence that one of the highest forms of punishment in our society is solitary confinement. It also isn't a co-incidence that serial killers are usually lonely outcasts of society. Perhaps there is a state of consciousness in which you suddenly do not desire human intimacy. If so, I certainly have not experienced it yet. :)
People aren't all the same at all stages of life. We don't have to defend our feelings here, do we?
I don't think the point of this video was to say that this desire is wrong. It was more about being careful what you wish for: so often we head into new relationships because of this desire that are not good for us or the other person/people involved. We just kinda let this desire controll our actions without being conscious about it. We seek an ideal instead of a human and are surprised and hurt when the human comes to light.
You missed the point entirely...which is, seek a mate, but don't do it from your own place of loneliness. Do it from a place of inner fulfillment.
I think the point she was trying to make is - happy if you are alone and happy if you are with a partner ...so many are not happy when they are alone and it is addressing this …..
I don’t feel incomplete, I do want a man in my life for the sharing, the growing and physical aspect of being with him. I feel happy. Wanting to have this only for an enhanced experience does not mean it is because of a need or belief.
The woman who asked the question was right that this is a question all people would like to ask, that’s why the others laughed.
Thank you Kim :) Just married myself tonight cause I know I'm not marrying anyone else!
For now, untill you meet the 'crazy' person who's 'crazy' about you the same way you are 'crazy' about that person.
you can hide from yourself, but you can't hide from the nature honey XD
Erica- That would be a Loner Nun, honey.
Frank Houttave Oh, well yeah :) But when I meet that crazy person haha I won’t want to be legally married to them because I don’t believe that the church or state really ought to be involved in romantic relationships. A ceremony/celebration of our love would be beautiful though 💜
beamer Uhh, no, not as I see it. I just meant I never want to be legally married to someone because I think it’s a hassle :)
That is so incredibly wise. Being completely independent is SO hard for me.
With due respect, I don't agree with the answer she got. I don't think it is a belief, it is one of the greatest human needs and that is the need for intimacy. If it were a belief she wouldn't have enjoyed being alone for a long time. As human beings we have this urge to share and be intimate with someone. I think a human being is not created to be forever alone and shouldn't be taught to be fine with that. For some time ok, maybe years, but eventually this urge to share your internal world with someone will come up. I agree though that she should surrender to this feeling without resistance and from accepting a change will arise, either internally or externally. Even Eckhart chose to share his life with someone. My advice would be to have a pet and to surrender to the feeling. There are so many lonely women, I hope that men will soon start to wake up, we yearn for a healthy masculine energy. If God created us to be enough on our own, he wouldn't have made feminine and masculine energy, they are complementary.
Oh wow! Very well said and very true. Thanks!
Sandra Stojanović Thank you for this wonderful, soul-touching message.
That is not what she meant
Sandra Stojanović-okay I’m gonna leave the purpose of god aside here. I agree that humans have this biological need, but through the spiritual path, i believe it’s possible to transcend this evolutionary urge. This is also why there are humans that willingly lock themselves in a cave and live in solitude for years and experience the most blissful moments of their lives. You are a complete person.
At the level of the human form, we need a partner. At the level of the self, we are whole and complete. You decide where you want to reside.
The lady asking has not got to a place where she really needs an answer. Kim is correct 100%... Life has not humiliated her enough to get that she is latching on a belief so strongly...
"Look at why you just ran away."
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I think I ran away because I was looking for myself and didn't know it at that time...
@@lilianamorice7846 wait, were you there?
@@shubhamraj25 Was I where?
@@lilianamorice7846 I thought you were the women in the video
@@shubhamraj25 😂😂😂
The anger behind the resentment that the woman felt was for Kim Eng intellectualizing her comment and her not feeling understood or accepted for the loneliness. The woman raises her left shoulder 3 times or more and that is shame and anger for being alone and for unprocessed anger towards her husband. It's not about ego. Kim is angry during part of this interview for the woman to feel lonely and that is what everyone missed. What I think is the woman is unhappy because she's attached to having a partner, and that causes the loneliness but it's not about all the spiritual stuff and ego, it's a human being wanting love. I appreciate a lot of what I saw and for the courage to stand up and admit she was lonely was awesome.
Why would Kym Eng be "angry" during that interview? Can you please clarify for me?
“It is not the critic who counts…the credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena”. Teddy Roosevelt
I thought I saw and felt that, too, but didn't want to dwell on it... wasn't sure if I wasn't projecting some of my own stuff...
Kim is no comparison to ET. She’s not compassionate or warm.
"I'm married to the consciousness within me"..... so great to hear this, this is the place to always know how to start your day
Thank you Kim. Also for the honesty in not putting yourself and Eckhart on a "spiritual pedastal" This shows true wisdom. You aren't ignoring our human nature whilst pointing to the Divine within us that reveals itself more and more when we acknowledge and accept ourself. We know our deeper self is beyond thought and belief. You have helped me today and many people not just women. It made me cry as I felt your love and empathy. I love Eckhart and now I see why he loves you. Blessings to you both and to everyone on here who at times feels frustrated by their seeking to understand who they truly are at the deepest level because the mind or belief gets confused for who we are. It's OK to be human but be the Presence we are in our human ups and downs. Ups and downs are essential to experiencing in this world. There's no day recognized without night. 💗
Kim is a SPECTACULAR teacher. I just found her on RUclips today. I was looking for some good Eckhart videos to listen to; and I found videos of his wife teaching. Truly wonderful. Thank you both Kim and Eckhart!!!
Kim has a kind of bluntness that Exkhart doesn't, that really complements his teaching. I like to listen to one, then the other, like a constrast bath kind of thing haha. Sometimes she will say something blunt that irritates me slightly, and then I know right there she struck a hidden little thought I didn't notice I had. Thank you Kim
As long as you believe in the illusion of separation there will be loneliness.
Loneliness can happen in relationships too, especially when you're married for many years.
You are the universe as Deepak Chopra says. When you realize this you will never be lonely.
Give to get. Be friendly and helpful and you will attract people naturally.
We are one. Helping others means helping yourself. Do not focus on your needs too much.
Also loneliness is a so called first world problem. When you struggle with feeding a family of 12 you won't have it.
"Give to get" ? That sounds like manipulation, expectation, compensation...(I could go on) But I know, you only meant it in the 'beautiful' sense.
@@peggyharris3815 Yeah, that's just for starters. Ideally you just give. After awakening you realize that you and the others are not separate so that what you give them you give yourself. Until then it's a bit like barter.
@@onreact ...I'll buy that.
She's right. That loneliness is your teacher. And if you avoid being lonely you're abandoning yourself. I went into the loneliness and I saw that I didn't know myself at all and that's why I felt lonely. I'm still alone and I never feel lonely anymore. If I'm with other people and they can't meet me where I am. I can accept it because I am there with me and when they can be there with me I will be there.
Beautiful ❤
I love how Kim didn't get stopped when the lady thanked her abruptly and sat down, and she asked her to look at why she ran away after the initial responses. Didn't get let her just slide. That was so powerful. So thorough through and through. Nothing stepped over. Thank you Kim!
She ran away because Kim was too intimidating. I would run away too
This talk is great. Questioning the taboo of loneliness is really important. However, Kim misses an important point about partnering. They enable creativity and service. It isnt just inner work. Relationships can become too internally focused. There is an outer life aspect as well. The soul of the world. People need a worldly connection as well.
I feel this woman has a human need. Like I am hungry, I need food. Sometimes spirituality will help feeling connected...we live in society that creates a sense of separateness. I think Kim means well, but she over explains a very simple concept.
I agree.
kim missed the boat with this answer.
the correct answer is using acceptance to enter the now.
thank you very much anyway was the lady's answer. she did not get an answer from Kim.
She is a wonderful teacher. When people ask a question, she always manages to make a perfect lesson.
There's so much value contained in this video if you are only able to sit and listen without judging. Thank you, Kim!
“Look at why you just ran away”…I feel like she ran away because her feelings were being slightly dismissed. We’ve all heard the same comment of “you need to be happy alone” but the women said she was happy.
Life’s best moments are usually moments that are shared and this women clearly just wants to share her happiness with someone.
“ When I didn’t want it anymore Eckhart appeared” Wow
I wish there were more videos of Kim's lectures and classes. She has the ability to break through and help a person see and identify thoughts and feelings that one can express on their own and this allows understanding oneself.
That woman wants the feelings you get from a romantic sexual relationship and I understand that
lol
There is a type of love only a partner can give you.
Of course, the attention, the specialness, the exclusivity, the (mutual) attraction, the distraction,...
But all those last only for so long.
Wow, I've just gone through a breakup but this is so profound and beautiful. I'm saving it for later - thank you Kim!
Lol, coming back to my own comment more than a year later (by chance). Indeed the message is still as profound. I really love this segment.
What an brilliant response.. There is no half measures from Kim she is thorough in her offerings ❤️❤️
A need for intimacy is natural on all levels. Not a belief but her Saturday morning is a reminder of the absence
I felt like her way of talking is more aggressive & straightforward than eckhart, but i understand more listening to her. She uses real example which is relatable & easier to understand. Thank you kim
co dependent relationship 1 + 1 = 0
independent relationship 1 + 1 = 2
Interdependent relationship 1 + 1 = 11
It is so true, we have to come home to ourselves first.
I used to think that something was wrong with me for wanting what she has with Eckhart, this form of free and non attached love and also being totally fine alone but now I know something was actually right with me.
yes, I think it's safe to want to emulate success
I’m not even looking only for a partner. I’m looking for friends. I’m looking for companionship and sharing moments with others.
This answer has made me get in tune with my Divine Self and realise the depths of my Being.
Thank you - Kim
Thanks Kim! Lovely. Great to hear your beautiful insights. I can make sense of the times I walked on hot coals during relationships I've experienced. Thanks, I've come a long way since I first listened to Eckhart a year ago as I built my mountain bike track. I named a corner after him and think of him every time I whip through it. I no longer find a need to argue with my wife and teenage daughter. Life is now peaceful serene and creative as I experience this, now. I can't really put my finger on it with words so just thank you Kim.
I went deep, deeeep into my loneliness and found this video. Big aha moment. And yes, it is indeed a question many, many people may be having. THANK YOU ! to Kim and to the lady who asked this question _/\_
Very refreshing to hear her talk about her relationship with Ekhart. "You must fill yourself". The best advice ever. Finally, I see someone who needs her own space. I thought I was a weirdo. So glad I saw this video today Dec 31st. Thank you. This is perfect!
I just told myself there is nothing wrong with me. Unlike this lady, I’m not looking for a partner. However, what Kim is saying is true. The problem with looking for anything from another person, in my case approval, they are only human themselves. Thus, I need to approve.of myself. There is nothing wrong with me. I will say this to myself daily from now on.
I've spent 39 yrs leaving 3 relationships as soon as I felt they were starting to control me I hit the road, I married & he was mentally exhausting but he passed so now i am free I have always loved my own company, & i am growing more & more every day I love just going with the flow.
Thank you so much for sharing these videos. I am single for 4 months, and for the last 2 days I was thinking so much about my previous relationship, just wanted to call and accept everything he wanted, just forget myself, my needs. I was feeling really lost with my contradict thoughts, about what I should do, if my needs were not meant to be with him, etc.
Then I saw this video, I wasn't really interested, not feeling lonely. But the teaching is so profund, so smart, so deep, so true, it blows your mind. Thank you again for helping so many people ❤️
Embracing my own beautiful company embracing being alone.
Andreas Leon Landgren ❤️
MGTOW?
This really helped. I cried through it. Glad I watched it.
We do not need dependency but we are made to feel other skin 🙂
I wish you an conscious living with no touching nobody !!!!
Intimacy is a human need. Saying that you and your spouse enjoy living in separate quarters and enjoy spending lots of time alone, doesn’t translate for people who are experiencing constant loneliness. It would be like telling someone who is starving that you enjoy not eating between meals
WORD! Teach!!!
Thank you for your insight Kim. We want, want, want, but when we get what we 'want' often we want something else, as is obvious by the high divorce rates, over consumption of food, things, drugs, etc. I personally believe loving what is, as hard as it may be, brings great wisdom, peace and growth.
The divine Self for me is unconditional Love
Wow Kim, thanks so much for this video. After a 14 year marriage, I am in a place now of re-building myself and really finding within me everything that I used to seek outside but that I can only find within me: self love, self appreciation and all the other "selfs" :). Thanks a lot
Thinking you are lonely, and unfulfilled creates resistance and pain. Being at one with god, and finding stillness around you is very peaceful. It’s a state of knowing that it’s safe to be on your own. What you think is what you get.
Wow! This was everything I needed, even after working on myself for so long I still need these reminders! I need to go within and this lockdown time is really reinforcing this message to me
When your partner pass away all this hits you like a punch in your face. You realise how much you were relying on him and that now you have to stand on your two feet. I am not saying that I have found that presence within me, I still feel this desperation, and I totally understand it, but I have realised about it. I feel a lot of sympathy. Bless.
I think this blond lady is super confused and doesn't know what she wants. I love how Kim challenges her to make her think deeper about her situation💞
The conditioning from our parents is so deep inside of us...for hundrets of years people lived in codependency ....to change this pattern is the hardest challenge but its the only way to free our minds ...
this is both hilarious and genius. Kim is far more revealing of and in touch with her human side than Eckhart is and it's refreshing. many of my ideas have been set aside via this conversation alone.
The advice is sound. If you are feeling apprehensive, it is something you may need to clear in your own belief system. Try just listening with eyes closed. The eyes can be judgemental sometimes.
That's true
Loneliness is basically due to craving for socialization, this craving energy is already there in the subconscious mind of every human being when he is born, it intensifies when he grows older resulting in a state of mind called loneliness. that state is delusional and dominated by lack of companionship and feelings of left out from the society.
Two Points that were not covered-
1. Optimal relationships are about having and wanting to share. Sharing people are highly desirable.
2. Pairing-up is not for individuals to sort-out on their own. It is a
cultural operation long before particular individuals show-up. Cultures
have been successfully bringing heteros together, since forever.
Family units are where the country's culture implements its ways of
living. Black and Gay Subculture notwithstanding.
Besides, the questioner's problem, at least partially, lies in the weekend partner focus. The women's movement's great lie has always been, "we can have it all, at the same time"
There is a great lesson here for all of us that want to meet Eckhart. Stop wanting to, and _then_ Eckhart appears!
I love how she explains the need for your own space in relationships!!
Totally agree. I felt like that friday night, when I did not have plans..but then, on saturday morning upon waking up refreshed and ready to go to the beach, the thought or the judgment of friday night was long gone. Our ego is so annoying. :) as for a partner, I have desired to have one for the tingling, endeering feelings you can get when you are with someone but that is so short lived. Then the feeling of exhaustion from the hard work and the realization: I do not want a guy, I can't stand the complexity of relationships. It is a choice indeed and it is liberating to know that, at this day and age, we can choose. That alone is so very great.
Funny that she can’t admit that she is unhappy.
This has surprised me - that enlightened teachers should need such space from each other. What it doesn't answer for me as a long term single woman is WHY some people find lasting romantic happiness, and yet some never do. Yes, I understand we should seek to marry our inner beings. But some people are also lucky enough to find lasting marital love. Why is that?
Just lucky I guess.
Or maybe too dumb to find bliss in staying single.
The BEST advice after having a break up!! Thank you!
The need for a partner is valid but if the life doesn't provide it to you, it is valid.
Well that woman choose that and now he regrets she didn't want the responsibility now she wants it back
This really speaks to me as a single woman. I’ve been single since 2014 and we’re now in 2020. I often feel myself consumed by bitterness, resentment, jealousy and anger because I see so many people (often younger than me) moving through the healthy, “normal” stages of life such as being in relationships, engagements, marriages and babies. Loneliness twists everything pleasant in my life because like she said... I’m craving something external to complete me. I truly understand this is useless as my own completion already exists within myself. It really resonated with me that I’m still holding onto a belief of what is expected of me. I’m still placing the responsibility and expectation on an unidentified man to come riding in on a white horse to save me from myself. I hope one day I can let this fantasy truly go and marry myself like she mentioned as I know true contentment comes from within and having a partner is simply an extension or an external manifestation of the internal completion you already feel.
No wonder people like her! She's so sweet; so transparent. Good question- it's helped me...
So encouraging and inspiring to hear about your and Eckhart's relationship -- the way that you have found creative ways to honour one another's space. Thank you for sharing!!!
They’re fortunate they have the money to live separate but together....a lot of people do not.
💚💚🙏🙏
Why is this so good!!! The way she says it so succinctly... Definitely coming back to rewatch this!
That answer was so insensitive... i feel bad for the woman who had the courage to speak and had her feelings denied. Maybe a partner wouldnt be the answer, ok, but human connection is a serious need, and a partner surely helps a lot. Its too easy to say we need to "be complete" and "be independent" and all, but it is simply impossible to live alone.
We mustn't forget that as mammals, we are wired for connection. Pretty much every human being would suffer in isolation, except perhaps the most advanced souls. We most of us are not there, and we do 'need' each other. The self is grown in relationship with the other, and is maintained there as well.
Having said that, that doesn't mean you must be in a romantic partnership. But let's not get too bogged down in the idea that we must be whole and complete individuals without needing other people. We need people, like we need food, air, water, warmth and shelter.
Listen closely she never said that
Individual can never be complete cuz it means he is seperate.
Human mind is like a double edged sword with one side covered in rust while the other flawlessly polished. Most are only aware of the rusted side, but once you become aware of the polished side, the rust on the other side will disappear. Becoming aware of physiological impacts and cultural conditioning on the body and mind respectively is a welcoming by life to give it your full attention.
I like your videos alot. So much pain in this world, because we are losing touch to ur true nature. Two beautiful people trying to help some other people :)
Keep it up.
I still dread Friday nights alone like a plague. Fridays and New Years Eve.
Thank you so much. It makes so much sense to me know. One should love yourself first, before you can give love to someone else.
Beautiful Kim, totally honest " raw" and clear in a loving way. Much respect. We need that for 2020 and forward.
Eng is such a GREAT teacher sharing her own experiences
Thanks to the Lady for questioning such complex and true feeling.
In other words, look within and fall in love with self. Then after truly loving 🥰 self, can we share that part of us with another to enjoy the dual completeness. Blessings
I"m happy without a partner.
Wow....past few days I've been learning to say no to people coz I was always codependant on them to validate my existence. For the first time I'm spending time alone researching such topics and tapping into my conscious mind. I have stopped imposing myself on men to try get a rshp. I have told God...I leave it to you . Let him come
This is just amazing I just felt the same way as the lady who asked the question . I though I had found the partner and he showed me the other side . I mean tired, anxiety, and I just wanted to be alone again and my home took on a different energy.
I've just fallen in love with BEING and being conscious that I am far more that any human relationship can give. In fact most not all of my relationships have not truly fulfilled me. So I now have only one relationship with God because his love is unconditional. Wonderful video,
Thank you,🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏