Ps: just staying out of reach? Yak. If they don’t like you the way you are without that power game and need mystery to be fascinating: it’s a mismatch. Move on then. Self worth is to be who you are and leave others the space to not like or love you.
Main problem is this theory is based on thinking men want what is difficult to get. Scarcety theory a capitalist way of thinking about people. Darwinist thinking. Based on the idea life is a power game and that drive to lose a person or thing keeps you moving. If you believe that you always will chase or run. If you like that do it. If not: just be yourself. Good enough!
Why would anyone suggest you to play a game to be mysterious and have power this way to be chased? ? Maybe this are people/man that need a chase to be happy. You want to power play? Disgusting. Your relationship will be about power. Better it’s two individuals that come and stay together without a power game. This is probably a male advice? They seem to be raised in that way of thinking. Fear infused theory that presupposes that you will stay alone when you are yourself. If someone doesn’t value you the way you are and you have to play this power game. Walk on!
Disgusting it implies love is a power game and people are not intriguing the way they are. Mystery as a sort of weapon. Disgusting. I like to know who people are and then not having to hide anything to stay interesting. Bad advice. Why draw people into you. And try to make them obsessed. Game playing as an advice? Disgusting. It’s a turn off that sort of people.
So interesting and helpful for reflection and understand !!!! Thank you, merci from South of France
Read my comments at above please for another perspective if you want.
Ps: just staying out of reach? Yak. If they don’t like you the way you are without that power game and need mystery to be fascinating: it’s a mismatch. Move on then. Self worth is to be who you are and leave others the space to not like or love you.
Main problem is this theory is based on thinking men want what is difficult to get. Scarcety theory a capitalist way of thinking about people. Darwinist thinking. Based on the idea life is a power game and that drive to lose a person or thing keeps you moving. If you believe that you always will chase or run. If you like that do it. If not: just be yourself. Good enough!
Why would anyone suggest you to play a game to be mysterious and have power this way to be chased? ? Maybe this are people/man that need a chase to be happy. You want to power play? Disgusting. Your relationship will be about power. Better it’s two individuals that come and stay together without a power game. This is probably a male advice? They seem to be raised in that way of thinking. Fear infused theory that presupposes that you will stay alone when you are yourself. If someone doesn’t value you the way you are and you have to play this power game. Walk on!
Disgusting it implies love is a power game and people are not intriguing the way they are. Mystery as a sort of weapon. Disgusting. I like to know who people are and then not having to hide anything to stay interesting. Bad advice. Why draw people into you. And try to make them obsessed. Game playing as an advice? Disgusting. It’s a turn off that sort of people.
Thank you, you are right!
Had to make, learn painful lessons last year....
@ you are very welcome ❤️