as a Canadian 32 male it seems impossible at this time in life to even consider living alone when as a person I understand that the down payment alone is already so high so long before I even think of a house I gotta think "how much is the downpayment" then I think what's the cost to even "afford" a house and I see minimum is 700k so I mean ya times are hard
I'm 29 and living with my folks and I helped them with bills and stuff cause I ain't a freeloader. Things are too expensive so I consider myself blessed.
Same here. I do all the shopping, paying all the bills, tidy up around the house and honestly.. I feel the next generations are going to have it even worse with finding houses or being able to afford one
The fact that the door is locked and safe, there we go. Learning how to cook and clean from parents, and change a tire. They may have more time now that they r done high school.
My dad got a reality check when I got a job that pays 20$/hr and we couldn’t find an affordable apartment studio for me. He literally told me “I’d rather you live at home and save up instead of sharing a small space with a random person.” Honestly it’s crazy and we’re expected to be okay with it. Like people make it work because we have to, but the overall level of housing comfort is in the pits
It's a weird time to be younger right now. While there are a lot of opportunities out there, there are a lot of factors coalescing at the same time to hamper or outright crush your economic growth potential. - global labour market means more competition than ever - stagnant wage growth - money printing devaluing your dollar - virtually 0% interest rate for decades causing an asset and speculation bubble - oldest and wealthiest generation is pulling out markets and becoming an active drain on everyone else - population collapse across the developed world due to low birth rates - at risk of losing the current global trade system due to the US navy receding ability to patrol sea trade routes Bar some major innovations in technology, we're in a "it's gonna get worse before it gets better" kind of scenario. Luckily we have to the end of this decade or the next before things will likely start to get really questionable. Just wait for boomers to check out of the economy completely, then things will start to get fun.
And honestly who the heck cares what other people say If they want to judge, that’s fine that only means that there’s something they envy about it or they got no life
I know in Pittsburgh just for a Studio apartment it can be around $550 to $750 a month & it varies on the size of the apartment to. Edit: it can be more I was guessing on how hight it is on the high end as I said it all depends on where you live in Pittsburgh. I here that some 1 bedroom are going for like almost 2k a month & again it's all where you movie to in Pittsburgh
The ONLY people I've seen who give others sh1t for living with parents are the ones with outrageously WEALTHY parents, who pay for their lifestyle. So basically, they're actually more dependent on their parents than anyone actually living with their parents are.
@@WGPhil-uw5csI used to like him until I realized he was an extremist and also found out he’s a trafficker. And no, women don’t like dating abusive men, abusive men like dating insecure women.
I don't think people realize that for most of human existence, multigenerational households were the norm edit: First I had no idea this comment was going to become this popular. Few things I'd like to add, the internet has everyone believing that if someone comments "I like blue" then that means they hate every color that isn't blue. Telling me the fucking obvious thing that "not everyone" can do that isn't the gotcha you think it is because I never said that. I thought it was understood but apparently its not, never did I say people HAD to stay with their families. Obviously if you want to live alone, that's perfectly fine too. I simply stated a fact, multigenerational homes used to be norm in the US. It's not that it was neither good or bad, it was just normal. Now capitalism has us believing that it's not normal, and in fact something to be ashamed of when it's not.
I'm surprised this isn't higher. In most countries people stay with their parents unless they get married or have some other extreme circumstance going on, and housing has always been unaffordable for the non-wealthy. It's only Western countries (U.S., Canada, maybe Western Europe) where everyone's expectations have been set so high this is considered a problem.
@@Xiosoranox oh yes, you can clearly see that in Europe too. 20 years ago you could afford a flat as soon as you startet working but nowadays people stay much longer with their parents especially migrants. I moved with with my mom again after my father died bc I was the only child that isn’t married and until that I will stay with my mom.
Exactly man pretty much all of my Latino friends growing up, it wasn't uncommon to have seen them living with their parents as well as their grandparents, and possibly even some aunts, uncles, and cousins. It's basically as tight knit as a family can get, I don't see what the problem is. And that's just one regional example of the many cultures that do this worldwide.
In some places in Asia, you are a disgrace _for_ moving out without your parents because unless you have brothers, you are supposed to live with them until they die. If you have brothers, you can abandon the responsibility to them but you're still considered scum.
I was widowed early and my 2 grown sons live with me. This allows me to stay in my home and gives me company and helps them not have to pay rent. We share expenses and act more like roommates than parent / child. True be told none of us could afford to live independently.
My friend does this with her mom and brother and it works for them beautifully. I honestly would live back at home to save if I stayed in a healthier mentality when at home. I think having that opportunity, especially in times like this, very comforting and honestly lucky. It's tough out here for sure 😅
Thats wonderful..my grandma, mother, myself and my kids all live together. We have plenty of resources between all of us to live comfortably and have plenty extra to actually enjoy life. I think over the years community living will become way more normalized. It is so freeing
@@aquarius_bb6658 what’s beautiful is that they clearly respect you being a parent to your children and everyone respects each others Space! That’s truly beautiful! Happy for you! ❤
I needed to hear this. There is this feeling like I am some loser shut in for living with my parents for so long but in reality doing so would financially ruin me
Don’t let them…you live your life as you see fit…if it is something that works for you and you aren’t a problem to them then you stay there…kids need their parents and parents need their kids…
I mean when I borrow money from my room mates I get them back pretty quick, and when they borrow money from me they do the same. Why's it A bad thing to pick up A brother when he's down? As long as you know them and trust it'll get back to you one way or another there's no reason not to. My whole live has been pick up those around because they'll do it for you when your need it and that has been my strongest asset in life, having a village behinde even though I don't live with family anymore
@@LakeNell NOT bidenomics. IT started in 2008 with the housing crash due to banks and investors offering sub-prime mortgage loans to people with bad credit and low incomes to buy homes, which they then couldn't afford to pay for. THIS was the start of it. Since then, the meteoric rise in housing costs has been fueling the inflation of prices on everything else because CEO's and small business owners have housing costs, too, which they then pass those expenses on to their customers by increasing the cost of the products and services their business offers.
I agree 100% it's not easy. Our 34 yr old son just got married in July. He & his wife working full time live in an apartment bc they aren't able to afford a house. Our 20 yr old son lives in our home. We already told him that he can stay as long as he wants & for as long as he needs to. Family takes care of family✝️🙏🏽🙏🏼🙏
I mean it should be a given. Before I was a parent and now as a parent I’ve always said if you aren’t prepared to care for your kids unconditionally then you shouldn’t have them. The love you give comes back to you. I have lots of friends who went no contact with parents who treated them as an inconvenience and they’ll pass away the way they lived.. distanced and disgruntled
A friend of mine is a senior web developer, has a gf who is a nurse, he got a second job as a junior web developer for about 6 months, and they still haven’t gotten a house.
Yes! Amen.. EVERYTHING IS GOING UP...EXCEPT.. your pay...and if you have no savings..you'll never be able to save..it is hell out there...my 24yr old son still lives at home...what can you do?
@@rachaelmarrero8597When you speak about how they'll pass away, are you referring to your friends or their parents that didn't treat their children well?
I feel like this is also not mentioned but a lot of parents need their kids to live with them as well to help pay the bills. I have a friend right now who is literally looking into buying a house with his mom because alone even his parents can't own a home.
@@TheOMGRamensame and most people I know that grew up in the hood bro. Some people are probably generations away from owning a home it’s pretty sad tbh.
Let's rephrase that. It cost that much to live in a highly populated area. It is so much cheaper to live in a rural area but people are dbags that like to pretend to have a hive mentality and are so full of themselves that they HAVE to live around a fton of people and can't stand dealing with themsrlves on their own in order to pay cheaper bills. Period.
My mother (80s) and I (50s) both sold our houses and moved in together after my stepfather died. She can't live alone, and I'm her caregiver. She buys groceries, internet/satellite and incidentals, I pay for all utilities and insurances. I have the upstairs and she has the downstairs and we share common areas. It works for us.
My 22-year-old daughter moved back home, and I enjoy having her here. She has a 16-year-old brother that likes having her at home too. It's a win-win for everyone.
When I was in my early 20’s my older co workers gave me hell for living at home. Idk why they thought it was their business. Anyway it was just my mom and I. I’d give her money for utilities, I serviced her car myself and paid for the parts, and I’d meal prep for us/bought the groceries. We worked opposite shifts so it was ideal. I’d be at work while she was sleeping during the day and at night I was sleeping while she worked. Couldn’t have asked for better situation. Sunday night we’d grill steaks and have our mini family dinner. Did that until 25 when she wanted to move closer to work. I bought her house for fair market value and she lived there until for free till she found her house. Families are a team and her and i always have had each others back.
Sounds like my situation right now I'm 25 and honestly in my city there's no job opportunities to afford me bein able to live by myself so now it's just me and my mama I'm the only one working since she's retired most of the jobs only pay $8-$15 only way to make actually money at a business is to be a manager,a plant 30 mins or an hour away,, or own it so I made up my mind that after I get my eye surgery I'm just going to get my class B CDL the only way I can make real actually money we do good to get by since she does have SSI and waiting on disability if it wasn't for that idk what
This is honestly kinda nice to hear. As someone about to enter adulthood and college and is gonna be living with their parents for awhile it’s reassuring to hear that that’s normal and not something to be ashamed of right now
In the Philippines it's normal Since it's family culture People would still live with parents as to take care of them, hell parents usually lived with grandparents
It's a cultural thing. In other cultures, it's perfectly normal to live with your parents or even extended family. Idk people are so upset about in an economy where you can't support yourself. If people give you shit for it, ask if they're financially comfortable and their attitude changes real quick
No need to feel shame. It's the smart thing to do right now, and as others have mentioned, many other cultures live in multi-generational households. ❤
I agree, I’m a senior on a fixed income, so my single son who is 35 lives with me to share expenses. I would be homeless if it wasn’t for him. He would be too.
This is one of the many reasons to plan ahead with Life insurance policies to think about the future while you still can get it reasonably cheap, by the way you always need more than what you think you need
I actually needed to hear this, to be honest. I'm 27 years old and I currently live with my mother, grandmother and sister. I contribute to the household by paying bills and taking my grandmother to church, but always felt like a loser because I didn't have my own place at my age. It makes me glad to hear from someone that that's not a bad thing. EDIT: I posted this comment a week ago and I'm still getting so many encouraging messages from people who are in a similar situation and are getting by just fine. I've been feeling down for awhile now, but this has genuinely made me feel alot better about my situation by providing me a different perspective, and I sincerely hope that all you kind people continue to be happy in your lives and spread your positive outlooks to others as you have done for me.
Like as long as your helping out, there really is a problem with it. Like people really need to understand housing is gotten crazy expensive and not everyone is capable of living in their own
I'm a 34 year old lawyer. I'm living with my mom. She charges $200 for rent. It's the smartest thing to do at this point. I represent tenants, and most people don't have what we have. And landlords are shady. Count it as a blessing, not a shame.
It might be getting normalized, but it's not a good situation regardless. That said, it's not really a problem either since you seem to be carrying your load and helping out some. I think we all feel that burden becoming heavier every day we age, so we instinctively know we're not supposedly to be here anymore. However, we might be able to rid ourselves of this guilt by helping to buy the house they're currently paying for. That way, the whole family won't ever worry about working to pay rent. Thus, properly repaying our parents for everything they've done for us. That's how I see it anyway...
It also goes the other way. Not everyone has parents who are able to support them and who are respectful of boundaries and mental health. Those of us who start off with that already have a leg up, let alone into adulthood. You shouldn’t need to rely on your parents to have a place to live and the necessities, because not every one has that luxury (not because it’s a bad thing, I live with my parents and love it)
@@oliviac295 anything have it's own cost. You can't expect to live in your parents house and not helping them like when you're a little child. If you can't make a living and can't make your parents understand your boundaries, you should just accept it. Nowadays youngster can get mentally ill so easily so i don't think parents that still help you with financial can be that huge burden.
@@Mint_River11 agreed, though I don't think that's quite the point Olivia C was making. My understanding is that she agrees, and was simply adding more perspective in agreement. Because she's right, ignoring the horrible mental state of a lot of genZ (my generation) there are parents who just are not in a position to support there child, and who are genuinely bad for the child's mental health even if not one of the "stereotypical" mentally ill genZ
I was going to say the exact same thing! I’m a mother to 6 kids. There is one I will never allow to live under my roof again. She is the most disrespectful, self centered, selfish, falsely entitled human being! Raising her was a nightmare for us all. The way she played each other against each other was horrible and she would laugh with joy! Her moving out at 19 to go to college was the most peaceful day of mine and my husbands life in a very long time! She has burned that bridge many times over.
I feel bad for the kids who are kicked out, disowned, or just generally have a toxic household they have to escape. I hope they can find a safe space! without having to sell an organ or two....
Yep, it's normal in my culture but my mom is difficult and I'll have to move out unfortunately. I wouldn't mind paying rent but my dad would be mad if I even suggested it 💀💀
I’m 21 and have owned my house a little over a year now but I’m literally broke every time the mortgage comes out. If my wife and I weren’t working full time there’s no way we could get by.
My son lived with me til last year. I didn’t want him renting as he wouldn’t be able to save up for his own home. At 31 he’s now a homeowner, travels, and has money in the bank. People mocked me for having my son at home but their adult kids aren’t faring quite as well.
THANK YOU!!!!! You helped me explain this to my friends or others when they give me a look when I tell them that my parents are gracious enough to let me stay at home while going to college
Your "friends" forgot to mention they live with other people too. If your married or have roommates, it's the same as living with your family. Either way you need help from someone else to get by.
this makes me feel a lot better about living with my parents still. i’m 23 and i don’t make a lot of money. no friends to room with. we need this validity so thanks
Same here. 23, no friends or partner, a few failed attempts at a few things, tones of psychological issues, making just enough money to have fun by myself when I want to & throw my part to the bills
35, single dad, still at home. I take care of mom as she wouldnt be able to physically live on her own anymore, and she helps me keep a roof over my kids heads.
23 is still very young. Some people push for young adults to take on too much responsibility. My daughter is 25 and she just got her own place recently
@@TrickyClawmy son was diagnosed with a serious mental health issue hes a teenager and most likely he will continue to live at home with me because im afraid he will go into psychosis again living on his own and wont be able to call for help himself. I see nothing wrong with taking care of each other its family thats what family is about
Last time I mentioned moving out, my mom went around her friend circle and told everyone that I no longer love her. Moving out is not only a financial burden but also a status problem lmao
People really need to use this reason more imo. It seems people forgets that their parents are gonna be old, wrinkly, vulnerable and aren't gonna be as fit as they used to. They'll have difficulty in just going to the toilet, take a sh*t and wiped themself. And while it'll be a gross experience, i couldn't just left my parents like that.
@heh.5358 There's nothing funny about that where did you get that from they just have basic humanity and actually had a good parent so that they want to take care of now that she can't take care of herself any longer
There's nothing wrong w/ living with your parents as long as you're not bumming off of them. Meaning if you can't afford to give your folks rent help more with chores.
I moved out eagerly right at 18. Then things went to shit 20 years later, and my family was kind enough to let my husband and I live with them. Shit happens 😂 We live on our own now.
Seriously 😭😭😭😭 I moved out literally the week after graduation when I was freshly 18. Stayed gone for 2 years, came back for 2, gone for another 3 and now I’m back again 🥲 shit happens!
Yeah its always nice when fam has each others backs like that i currently live alone nearly 5 years but know the moment need help my fam has my back thru and thru
For me as an Asian its totally normal to stay with your parents even after you got married. We help with the bills and stuff. Plus we had each other company ❤
@@SHEEEEEPPPPP If only Japan means Asia. Have you ever heard about, u know, INDIA, Largest Asian country? Here if someone leaves their parents after marriage, that is shown as a selfish behaviour, we are expected to repay our part to parents after they retire. Unlike Japan's so called 'Collective society ' which only builds up unnecessary expectations and so high self harming rate, India has much better socity.
@@SHEEEEEPPPPP that's the sad part about japan. They are ruled by boomers who don't understand how inflation works, people who don't understand how hard it is to buy a house now. And now they are plagued with abandoned houses with no chance of renovations because costs are just sky-high. Calling these young population "losers" without knowing they are the majority. And now, majority of these people are dead because of suicide from depression and peer pressure, treating them as literal yesman slaves and "you don't have the rights to voice your opinion because I am older!" Senpai kouhai culture crap. Then they wonder why the younguns are not chiosing to have a child when it was already a literal hellhole for them. But sure, just "lol" about the issue. Might as well put emojis like this because they're treated as a joke😂😂😂
I'm proud of my 22 year old daughter she works minimum wage and lives with me along with my 15 year old twins (single dad of all 3 for 14 years)...she is working to save so by 25 she has a jump...I'm 42 and appreciate everything she does for me which is just being a beautiful smart young woman...I feel honored she lives with me and feels happy safe and loved here... don't feel bad young men and women it's ok
Honestly this video is flawed. Because economics changes depending on where you live. So using cold hard numbers can be disproven pretty easy. Rent where i live is generally around 900$ for 1. Jordan should have used percentages. 75k a year where i live is more than enough. But in LA, you would be homeless lmfao. I live on my own with 55k a year. Granted anyone working minimum wage cant live no matter that area.
This is exactly what’s happening I help try to keep the house bills and rent partially paid as me and my dad are the only working people in the house atm with full time jobs and even then with our combined income we still fall behind a majority of the time
True. my family is awful. I ask them for help and I get no response for months. As soon as I was able to get myself together all of sudden I get inbox about a eviction and a family member in need of living somewhere to stay to save up money, i told them no cause when i needed help i was ignored. Now I'm the disappointment and the most selfish person of the family cause I won't help them out.
I live with my mom again I was out on the street for a day. I was walking around for hours just living life. When you have a family that makes fun old your mental health or when you tried to commit suicide with a gun in your mouth it just sucks. I’m at a point now where I don’t wanna be around them in any capacity
I’m from Greece and over here it’s frowned upon to ask your adult kids to move out unless it’s their choice. Even then your parents will be inconsolable and will probably drop by with food every chance they get 😂
@@jamesdailing3198 In my country is couple toxic people that gonna kick out a 15 y.o kid. And when someone is 18 y.o then they are out of the house for good. It's pretty terrible : / Also i agree with you. America is weird asf. Why you walk in your house with boots on? And why your walls are from paper, your houses provide literally zero protection against anything.
@@anaone7923 Oh, don't worry about it. I'm talking about toxic parents. Most of them just kick their kids out when they are at least 18 ^^ Just i saw many pathologic families in my life : l Anyway most of the parents (at least in my region) doesn't care about their childrens at all even if they are 4 y.o I saw many mothers that leaves their daughters outside stores or don't care of them crying or walking 5-13 metres behind the mother who basically sprinting who knows where at this point haha... There are so much evil. Every kid deserves to have parents. But not every parent deserve to have kids.
@@anaone7923 Yeah, in many pathological families it's 15. They sold their daughter to some 50 y.o guy (the worst part is she doesn't mind droping School and earning money like this when she even doesn't finish School) or kick their son out of home many times, not opening door to him even when he knock on the door at 3 a.m. And you know what is the worst? It was my friend which who i never talked with.
I'm Greek, traditionally you live home with your parents until you get married. Then your parents live with you when they reach an age where they need to be taken care of.
@@aroccoification Well, first I said traditionally, it's not followed as much now, though of course some do, some may for economical reasons today not necessarily for the sake of tradition. I was married at 25, I had no problem living my life despite living home. Now for the last decade, my elderly mother (97) has been living with us. I wouldn't have it any other way. The thought of putting her in a nursing home is out of the question. She doesn't stop me from living my life. Covid stopped me for those 2-3 years of living my life, not my mom.
@@Surftouka Really you never felt restricted having other people around yourself your whole life? It was fine having other peoples opinions and patterns around you forever? Are your parents just really nice or something? Amd the hell does covid have to do with anything? We were all there we saw what happened. My entire family got covid multiple times and we were all just fine. As did the entirety of my 500 person warehouse and they were all fine. Even my infant niece got covid 3 times one of which times she was still in the womb. If it can't even kill infants or a fetus given multiple opertunities it must not have been too bad. Something to take precautions of and be aware sure but nothing to justify shutting down the world econemy for. It's awful our government took advantage of us and made us live like that to make a buck. I'm sorry it was hard on you it was hard on a lot of us.
@@Surftouka In my culture/ country that is the norm too. It is only in America where their media keep hyping about this issues. Forcing their people into so much debt just to keep a roof over their head and be debt slave.
My mother stopped trying to sell houses cause they aren't selling cause nobody is buying, least not fast enough to make the sale worth it for the time spent
As an asian, it's a very common thing to live with your parents. You help with the bills while also taking care of your parents. It's a way to show gratitude to your parents. And i believe most parents would love to stay with their kids and their grand kids.
That's what I want to do for my dad. I just want to make money and help him with everything. And I want to see if we can maybe buy the house we sre living in maybe. Then we will fix it a lot unless the trees that I will plant won't grow.
Im from Chile, 28 and still living with my mother. she has been a widow for a few years now so im happy to support her and pay the bills, I love her so that's a plus
People in the 60's and early 70's were able to move out early because of the MASSIVE post-war economic boom. Things hadnt crashed yet, and it was so common over that short time that for them it became the norm. They dont understand that it's effectively impossible to do that, when they could be a store clerk who bags groceries and afford to, but someone who is a contract welder or a highly paid mechanic can barely afford to despite the amount they make per year.
Clearly, you forgot about the gas going non existent in the 70's. Can't drive anywhere. People never moved out on 'their own' - they had roommates. Where is this with family or only on your own?
In the 70s there was still a lot of undeveloped land out there, we are near capacity at our current population, less building regulations, and less "not in my backyard" political roadblocks, also made things easier.
As someone who grew up in the 70's, you are completely wrong. Don't even get me started on the 80's. Look up government cheese lines and the rust belt job market. 😂
As a single father who cares about his child and ensures they're well kept. This hits harder than a double strike out from a short stop. Edit: Praise be to God.
Im from Chile and this has been normal for decades here. People cant afford to leave young, so we live with our parents until late age. Im 40, now I could live but I prefer to make company to my mom. I pay for my stuff and help her, I save money, so its a win-win. I have a beach apartment which I rent during the summer and other seasons, so when Im older Im moving there.
@@savvysavannah as someone with a disable uncle who lives with my grandparents(he has Down syndrome) I would say that that’s a different case. I think the general consensus in this persons comment was that if you are a capable, well-functioning person, you shouldn’t rely fully off of their hard work and hard earned money. If you ara capable of making your own income, and helping around the house, to a certain extent, you would most likely also be capable of living on your own and making it. If they’re allowing you to live in their house and you are able to help, then you should. That’s kinda what I got from it anyways
FACTS!!! This info needs to be on the news every single night. Hopefully it'll stop ignorant ppl from asking "when're u having kids? Getting married? Why's your car so old?" 🙄
My mom is 72, retired and has to do odd jobs to make ends meet, she started working on the books since she was 16. I'm 35 and live with my mom both for her and myself. I don't want her life to get more difficult than it has been, nor do I want to make my life more difficult than it could be. We help each other, we share all costs. Having this arrangement allows us to still enjoy life... I''m not ashamed of my situation
It is really strange how in the west this is a situation that some people are “ashamed of” yet this is what is expected in my culture. What is strange is abandoning your parents to live alone.
nope. that means youre such a good daughter. even when you finally marry someone, you can both live with your mom,ans your kids too. thats absolitely normal in other countries.
I'm 25 with my 4yo daughter and we have to live with my parents. I do all the laundry, dishes, and the deep cleaning because my parents can't be getting on their knees to clean the toilets. I also work and pay for daycare. After insurance, food, and daycare alone, I barely have enough money for gas to get to and from work. I'm a general manager for a well known resturant chain. It's absolutely ridiculous
Do you live on either coast or do you live in the Midwest, OP? If you live in California or Oregon, that's one of the first problems. NOBODY can afford to live there unless they're rich.
any place to live, not just stay a week, that's definitely nothing to scoff at. especially if you can relax enough bc you are able to trust that you won't be suddenly kicked out at random. it doesn't have to be great to be grateful.
Bro I love this guy he actually adds something funny to the video and doesn’t just say what just happened on the screen like we don’t have eyes like the OTHER react channels
Ah, the good ol' "Bryan just turned 18 and dad bought him a new Audi." I always loved that. It's up to you to take care of your own financial future. My parents weren't financially responsible and I didn't want the same fate. Not everyone has parents who can teach you how to properly manage/invest your money. Spend the time learning, it's never too late.
He forgot to mention that you could always relocate to a place that actually is affordable. In my neighborhood the houses are over a million dollars- would be a terrible place for someone to try to stretch their wings and fly lol
Yes. I'm out of the house now, but am so grateful for parents that didn't boot me out when I turned 18. They gave me the grace and time to get myself all the way together.
@@darrellJojo4990hopefully you have a good job or good romemates or a good partner who contributes. If it aint one of those 3, how did you do it and where do you live
@@KumarAnshs right now on my own car note one thousand dollar rent...for my apartment..plus car insurance...I save my money and I have no choice but to to food banks to help me out with food .. because everything is so expensive... I have three jobs I'm making it by but it's not easy either because I hate seeing my bank account hit below 1000.. as long as you can save money cut some loses on spending habits that's all I can do for now...till I can make more money..🤞
Considering your a child till you turn 25 (medically speaking as your brain isn’t fully formed until then), no parent should think of booting their children out just because a law created to enlist more ppl into the military ,says they’re “adults”
@@KumarAnshs l made lemonade when life gave me lemons l bought my dream house and um actually doing great started a car wash business and it's thriving
I'm 30 and I'm a nurse and I did just this. My sister and I went in together and brought a home. My mother and the rest of my siblings and I live together and it's definitely a big help. I lived on my own from 22 until here recently. Having four incomes in one household is much better than going at it alone in today's climate.
Definitely. I think that's a good way to do it. Buy a house, pay it off. Buy another one together and pay that one off too (if that's what you guys want)... And keep doing it until everyone is living in a house mortgage free
Since leaving home at 18, my son has moved back twice. Once when he was going through a rough financial time, and once when I was. Mom's door is Always open. ❤
if u have nowhere to go back to then it's easier for yall to find high paying jobs bc ur willing to travel, so yeah... having loving parents is actually kinda a disadvantage because you want to keep the same standard of living as you can get while living with your parents in their large houses and eating their expensive food
@@mochitoes8271did you honestly just tell someone that it’s a disadvantage to have home owning good parents to stay with vs not? Because…..of your own choice to keep expecting bougie housing/food standards when you move out? 😂 Just can’t make this shit up.
@@twdjt6245haha yeah that obviously sounds stupid but that's actually how human psychology works. sometimes to climb up from a mud to become a king is easier rather than coming from an upper-middle class background. and the only reason for that is that you.. don't have anything at all meaning you can't lose nothing. while having something makes you complacent most of the times. objectively tho obviously having loving parents is an apparent advantage over ppl not as fortunate. this only demonstares such terrific, tremendous, absolute power that a human mind possesses
@@yallknowtheresnofear1199 No? What pychology did you take in college?? The human mind literally needs social network to be happy. Yeah, you're more free to move (if you don't have health issues, abusive parents, pets, younger siblings) but you're still going to have it a lot rougher mentally and physically. Grit only gets you so far you need to find friends and loved ones and scramble to save, maybe end up homeless a couple times, and have some awful roommates. Defintely not an advantage friend. I wish it was but not in this economy.
i needed this 😭 i’m moving back in with my mom to actually have a chance at saving, and so i can finally afford to go back to college. it’s bittersweet but i’m lucky to even have a parent willing to let me back in because she understands that the cost of living is unaffordable for my generation
Sameeeee!!! I was off on my own and starting my masters program in august. Financially could not live in my own and pay for grad school so moving back with my parents it is ! 😢 but like you I’m super grateful to have my parents support !
Don’t trip about it, seriously. At the end of the day you matter, not our opinions. you wake up and make a living for you don’t worry about the outside noise.
I didn't feel bad about living with my mother through my early-mid twenties. She died about 5 months ago (unexpectedly) and I'm incredibly grateful I was able to spend more time with her than if I hadn't lived with her. If anything, I feel more people should live with their parents, especially if they're older. They'll only be around for so long.
Same I had just saved 15 grand for a down payment and my mom had a heart attack then went for surgery and then my dad was diagnosed with cancer he passed two years ago. I honestly would have felt horrible if I wasn’t here for them. They are good parents and did right by me as a child.
Agreed, I love my Mom to death. Already lost my Dad 2 years ago 2 days before his 55th birthday. He died of congestive heart failure and had lived with it for 9 years including 2 cardiac arrests and multiple times of his defibrillator/pacemaker shocking him. We were lucky to have him that long. If my fiancé of 13 years hadn't died a month after our son turned 11 and 4 1/2 months after we just got out first home as a family together then I wouldn't have gotten 13 more months with my Dad bc I had to move back in with my parents. I couldn't afford our home as a newly single mother who was a stay at home Mom due to covid bc my son had to do virtual schooling and I had to stay home with him.
And you didn’t even mention food which is your basic favorite topic. If you grow up in Italy you stay with your parents until you get married. That’s why most men have enough money to buy a house cash before they get married. Plus they have all that extra time with their parents that at some point will die or have an illness that takes them away in a different way. I wish my parents were alive so I could be with them again.
The saddest part of the internet is people talking to groups of people but never giving them group advice. Cost of living is not an individual problem, you want it to go down and wages to go up, you need to tackle it together. The system wants you to approach it alone, because alone you can't put a dent in it.
I agree that lack of actionable steps is the biggest issue with online activism to the point where people are just getting exhausted of hearing about all this nihilistic shit while being given no ways to improve their situation.
lmao this whole paragraph is a whole lot of nothing, what does that even mean? lets assume you overthrow the government then what? are you going to divide it equally? what about more skilled people like farmers? what will you do with the people previously in charge of food production who will be very angry about you stealing from them? you have 1 answer and its the same as the soviets and led to parents eating there children the harsh reality is we have to live in multigenerational houses again like we have been doing up until the last 100 years or so, personally though considering history its hardily that bad we live in the best and safest time in human existence, people need to remember how good they really have it
I’m 27 and live with my parents. They always say I can stay as long as I want💕 but honestly I love living with them they’re very supportive, wise and loving and I enjoy being able to help out and give back to them.
true. it's really really tough, especially when. you're a first child and you're just a "newly" adult who barely functioning and now you have to grow up beyond your age with the new responsibilities... (the constant feeling of helpless and loneliness didn't help either 😢)
I live alone and I’m barely making it. My parents are abusive and toxic so no chance of living with them and no siblings to reach out to, it’s a real struggle for those of us with little to no resources.
I’m an extreme introvert and I’m so unbelievably grateful that I got to live on my own from age 19 to age 34. No roommates or partners or family. Just me doing my own thing. And I worked in retail!! That just can’t happen anymore and it makes me so sad. I traveled and had a wonderful life back then. Young people today don’t get that opportunity.
Nice, how much money did you save? How much did it go into your IRA, ROTH? Do you have stocks you invested into? Do you have other assets that are worth money (Property, gold, bonds etc). As long as your parents arent toxic and you are playing them rent or supporting them just stay with them and SAVE money. People dont understand that if you play your cards when you do move out (mid to late 20s) you will be able to buy your own house and even have possible supplement income. Ofcourse if your parents are toxic etc just get out since peace of mind is above all!
It’s nice to hear sympathy from the older generation, rather than the usual “just pick yourself up by the bootstraps” lack of understanding. My hope is that we can fix it, and all generations in the future can live well within their means ❤
The pandemic scared people. My son's roommate wouldn't let him back in their apartment without a negative covid test. That was the weekend my son moved back home.
As someone who was on my own at 17, I will gladly allow my children to live with me as long as they are doing what’s right and Savin money. I will be charging them rent which I will save to give them in a lump sum for their house purchase. I’m gonna be the parent I desperately needed for them.
Damn, that's really sad man, I'm 16 and i can't even imagine imagine being on my own, i have no experience with anything. Kudos to you for staying strong and making it work
I felt this really hard. I ended up squatting in an old property at the age of 18 and didn’t have water or electricity. The only thing I had on me was an alarm clock, batteries for alarm clock, and a portable charger to charge my phone when I got home from work/school. If it says anything about my situation, I was late to work one morning because all of my batteries were stolen by my sister who found out where I was living. That being said, I have roommates and so my rent is cheaper right now- but they’re all leaving and I’ll be alone for the most part. I want to be independent but it’s so hard to be with how high rent prices are. I desperately want to be the father that I never had growing up, so here’s to both of our futures and being the best fathers we can be.
Living with your parents as an adult is like having roommates that actually care about you and can also provide sage life advice when necessary. Or at least that's my experience.
I don't remember if it was him or someone else but to loosely quote them 'living with your parents is like living with roommates that actually love you'
Nah. I live with my parents bcuz I have to. But they are toxic. Living with them is quite punishing. You are blessed to have great parents. Most people aren't lucky like that. And few things on this world.... drain your hopes... like being dependent... on the very people you wanna escape.
I take it your parents don’t mention that by the time they were your age they already were living in their own. You kind of lucked out. Hustle culture is a cancer.
What's crazy is that most adults I know right now that live with parents (my wife and I included) are actually helping keep the parents afloat as much as they are helping us, some of our parents can't afford for their kids to leave at this point, multi generation households are starting to be necessary for all the generations involved.
Exactly. I had a fucking argument with a neck beard over this exact thing. Like I don't live with my mom anymore, but 99% of the reason I lived the first half of my 20s with her was because I covered half of the bills. Like she supported me as much as I supported her
My parents are moving and can’t afford another 2 bedroom i only could afford rent a couple of times but im behind on my car payment i keep getting laid off and just got fired over some bs. I was keeping my mom somewhat sane with my dad😅 Edit: i didnt like that job anyway it was my fourth time working there and it was my only option left bc no other job’s actually called back or responded. I wont be doing anything for a couple weeks and my boyfriend whose older is going to let me stay with him would’ve been homeless.
I feel ya here. I'm pretty sure my parents would be homeless if I didn't pay rent. They keep telling me they're fine without :/ But I know better now that I'm old enough to understand the struggle.
im lucky that i come from a culture where generational households are a normal practice. you're able to support each other so well in many ways. when problems come up, we work on them together, instead of avoiding the situation and running away.
Thank you, this makes me feel better. I mean I'm 23, but seeing these young influencers buying giant houses at like 20 makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong
31 years old and my mom is living with me, and she's been struggling to hold down a job, but I'll be damned if I let her struggle through this alone, and I'll stay until she can get something solid, and even afterwards incase of a hard time hit. I'm lucky enough to earn around 40 an hour working 12hr shifts 4-5 days a week, and having her living with me is keeping food on the table and both of our cars in good condition. I don't regret it, we've had our fair share of struggles, but with the cost of living, I don't feel comfortable letting her living alone and vice versa for her. There's no shame living with your parents, the culture would have you believe you should be living alone, all the while completely fucking your financial situation 10 miles deep into an abyss, and it won't be getting better anytime soon. Be there for your family people, whatever the dynamic/situation is
@@sparklesp9304its unhealthy to people that have bad family morals and structure. If you are a functioning adult that knows how to take care of yourself but CHOOSE to live with your family members, specially if YOU are the one sustaining the household, theres nothing unhealthy about it.
@@Alpha_apex you took the response right out of my mouth, and I applaud you for it. It was never going to be sunshine and rainbows, and in all honesty, me and my brother didn't grow up with strong family ties or morals, but we've been through shit, and we choose to be there because we can. I have every reason to not be in this situation, but I have the wisdom to know that breaking the cycle of a broken family boils down to what decisions you choose to stand by, and I would rather have my mother be there when I have children than her not be due to my relationship with her. I'm not saying this works for everyone, but what I do know is that we individually have to carry the past with us, and I want her to look back and know someone was there for her when she needed someone to be, especially during a time when I easily could have chosen not to be. We'll deal with the problems down the road when we hit them, and with some luck, things will be different for the better
@@sparklesp9304 sometimes, you choose to go the unhealthy route to see someone else hopefully come out the other end a bit healthier than they currently are. Mental health is important, but sometimes, we have to set what we want for ourselves to the wayside. You gotta live your life with the scars you accumulated along the way, and do what you can to not fall to pieces because of them, sometimes we might fall apart, but we put those pieces we can get back together regardless
True..And if someone is making a person feel bad about living in a multi generational household too bad that's on them. Unless someone is paying your bills they should keep their comments to themselves
I always tell people I don't live with my mom, she lives with me. She's a low income recipient. I help her pay bills and make sure her health is in good condition. She's the only parent I have and I want to be close to her until her last day. Much better than letting her rot in loneliness or place her in the hands of people I can't trust.
💜💙🤍🖤 Be realistic about your needs and situation, and how you feel about things. No one else has a right to butt in on a personal situation of someone else's that they know nothing about, and that isn't their business - period. You don't need random people's parasitic interaction or ignorant opinions. Those random ass people are likely insecure regarding something. No one is ordained to decide your worth but you. Not a society - not an individual. Never decide you aren't good enough because you're not meeting someone else's ideals. 🤍🖤💜
I’m almost 30 and live with parents as well, get all the privacy I need…in med school so not doing much outside of that anyways and when I graduate I’ll be traveling…my mail is coming straight to my mama…what do I look like paying for an apartment or a mortgage and I’m about to be all over the world in a few months🤔🙄…on my down time I’ll be with my mama anyways that’s my girl🥰💪🏾…don’t matter as long as you’re doing something with your life not just sitting around acting like a child…I’d rather give my mom extra funds to have my stuff stored in an extra room at her house than pay a storage fee🤷🏾
@@-.Anima.- if you’re putting your situation out there on the Internet, everything you said can get flushed down the toilet like a big fat juicy turd, thank you.
THANK YOU! I am a single mkm on disability. My son has just turned 18 and is the most amazing kid ever. He's also on the Autism spectrum which of course makes him even more awesome, but it can be a real challenge when he is dealing with a world that is more accessible and built around neurotypical people. If I could not have lived here, I would have been in an extremely bad situation. And my parents are glad we are here. We all help each other. ❤
I stayed home until I was 29. Had a nice paying job. Grinded and saved for 6 years to buy a house on my own and lived in it for 5 years, paying all my bills on my own. I'm grateful my parents allowed me to stay and build a foundation for my future.
@@thekaren1111 how much was the home when they bought it? Yikes! I feel bad for them but I am glad they have a home. It is my dream to one day own my own home. The cost is just about impossible for me to take on. We need something to change in society
as someone who's lived alone since they where 17 just know that I am immensely jealous of people who have support/are able to live at home into adult hood. I'm 24 now and I've been working fulltime for 8 years and I have nothing to show for it. I wish I could go to college so badly. so yea, your privileged and appreciate the fact that you have that safety net, don't feel embarrassed. Edit: someone in comments said it's acctually a flex to have your parents helping you. I agree lmao. Don't feel embarrassed, stunt on all us loser, no support havin' asses lmao. Well. Maybe don't rub it in tho. I'm sensitive.
My Dad ALWAYS said that he wouldn't let me move out to pay someone else's mortgage. When I moved out I was able to pay my own mortgage. I'm grateful to my parents.
Multigenerational homes are the best tbh. I grew up with my cousins almost my whole childhood & we’re all so close now. We consider each other more like siblings 🫶🏻
I know people who have moved out and brag about how easy it is, and I know for a fact they often have their parents handing them money when they need it. Don't ever let them make you feel bad about staying home and doing what you can to make ends meet.
I had (key word *had*) a friend who used to talk like she had it all going for herself.... but then she let it slip that her grandparents were paying for everything and basically all she had to do was put gas in her car.
@@Puffy147x Usually people who brag about it, also brag about staying to themselves, being childless. Which isn't a problem, but my point is that career driven or single business professionals work long hours to live alone. Others work long hours usually find roommates if not with family.
The ones that judge you the most are people that live with their partner and therefore get to share rent. I can’t afford to pay 1800 rent all by myself.
Exactly this! There are plenty of people in relationships where they couldn’t survive solo. Someone in the comments was saying how they and their husband did it…Like 2 incomes aren’t better than one.
Facts. Between me and my wife she's recently making 24 an hour, I'm at 19 an hour and we just scrape by. Only recently since her pay had gotten bumped up to that 24 we're able to even start saving a tiny bit in month we're talking like maybe 50 to 100 in a month bucks but even that's a stretch, especially when gas likes to jump back up in price. Everything's too goddamn expensive. All my single friends still live at home and I don't blame them in the fucking slightest
Now that I'm older not living home I realized only my fake Broke friends with they broke a** parents who didn't own a house were jealous😅 and worried about me living at home because they didn't have those😅 Options so pay attention people ..some people are just jealous and trying to set you up for failure because They come from generations of broke a** people
I always tell younger people that if their parents are helping them by letting their kids still live in their homes then they have it really good. My parents made me move out a few months before my 18th birthday and told me I was never allowed to come back once I was gone. Which sucks because they meant it. I was nearly homeless a few years ago after a seriously bad relationship ended and they wouldn’t let me stay with them for even a few nights. If your parents help you financially in anyway you really do have it good and should respect the rules they put in place. Because they didn’t have to help you and chose to
@@kaleidoscopingme - I would prefer to sleep on a sidewalk, rather than living with my abusive alcoholic father. Unfortunately, some of us ended up getting the shaft, in this thing we call "life".
As a 25 year old who just moved out on my own, I can tell you it's OK to live with your parents, as long as you're working and helping around the the house or paying/helping with rent, suits expensive
Here in the Philippines, its only recently that kids moving out of their homes when they turned 18 be became a norm. For decades, living alongside your parents was actually the best choice, since not only you can save a lot of money, you are also taking care of your parents and their needs. We rarely send our parents and elderlies to old people homes/facilities, because we see it as disrespectful to them, like we're discarding them. You were actually frowned upon by society if you left your parents to fend for themselves, when you are fully capable of supporting them. It is also the norm back then to just establish a family compound, where you will just a build a new home in the same area that your parents home is standing, and as mutiple generations gone by, a small community of people will develop consisting of blood relatives. Not only will it make it a better environment for kids, it also double as a protection since everyone is a family member ready to protect everybody. Theres a lot of benefits to this kind of family set-up, compared to people getting out of their families.
I'm 41 and living at home with my parents while I figure out my next step. Granted I'm helping my dad with his medical stuff and my mom with everything around the house in the meantime. I couldn't afford life here near Seattle on my own. I know I'm older than your target audience for this post, but it made me feel better regarding my situation. I appreciate posts like these - it makes me feel less 💩 about my situations. Thank you.
The cost of living is AWFUL. Anyone who's judging you can come and pay your bills. You're doing the right thing, and you're fine. This is the new normal.
@@apara2005 exactly. it’s the old normal too. I could have gone home any time because I was blessed with wonderful parents. I hope my kids know they can do the same anytime they need.
I'm 51 and my daughter lives at home with us. She's 25. I'm glad she's home and not wondering what she's going to do for food. It's very tough right now. Anyone who tries to shame you should keep their opinions to themselves
More than just tough this is the WEF's plan for a global dependency on welfare and the inability to own things like vehicles and property. Only the top 0.5% of elites will own everything and corporations will sweep up everything and not allow the economy to balance. I'm only hoping the economy collapses so extremely hard this decade that we go into a second great depression that's destroys 90% of businesses to give a huge reset we all need.
I felt so validated by this. I'm 27 and live with my parents. I work full time and go to school full time. I always felt bad or felt I was a burden by staying with my parents and not working towards living on my own. I'm slowly coming to realize that staying with my parents not only helps me but also helps them because they also sometimes struggle, and there's no way I would leave them in the lurch. We all mutually help and care for each other. I'm glad I'm not alone and all your stories really help me come to terms.
@@Ggggggfefdffcontributing back doesn't exist in families.. Family members love each other regardless of anything. Unconditional love exist only in true families.
Your logic is flawed, and capitalism won’t just go backwards like that without serious consequences. What we need is a significant pay increase which would fall under a cost of living pay increase. This is not an unheard of concept. The amount of money people need to be making a livable wage has increased while pay rates have stagnated.
@kami.kaze23 the problem with wage increases is that the cost of goods and services go up along with it. I understand that prices on goods and services aren't just going to suddenly drop but, if we could get the remain static for a while and increase pay that would lower the cost of living expenses people pay.
I actually teared up because this is my situation right now, so hearing this does make me feel better. I still help pay rent, and I still have the other side of the house to myself. I always find myself thinking I should be moving out now. I’m learning its okay right now to be where I am, and I dont have to worry about the voices of other opinions but my own.
Don’t listen to hatters!! That is an old school way of thinking. As long as you contribute to your family, are respectful, have a good relationship with your parents- don’t listen to them!!! I am a parent and my son stays home & he is very much an ADULT! When you get enough to move out & want to - then & only then move. Some people are just so mean & jealous. Who said that you have to struggle to be successful in life. Haters just haters.
honestly i’d love to live with my parents again. save on the money and they’re pretty awesome. they won’t be around forever. multi generational houses are amazing. I live in the same city very close to my siblings and I love it. I wish I had bought the house next door to my brother when we had the chanxe
This came up when my mother is going on about how it's apparently people's fault for not managing money enough to live and not the endless raising of everything else and the adamant refusal to raise any wage whatsoever and how impossible it is to save even 100 because that 100 goes to 20 items of store brand groceries and even more if you want anything remotely healthy.
Shout out to my mom for letting me and my daughter live with her for 7 years. It’s definitely the only reason why my fiancé could get 5 engineering degrees so we could get out on our own.
STRONG MEN CREATE GREAT TIMES GREAT TIMES CREATE WEAK MEN WEAK MEN CREATE BAD TIMES. HAVING YOUR KIDS AT HOME AND NOT LETTING THEM LEARN HOW LIFE IS YOU ARE CREATING THE BOTTOM PART OF THAT GREAT SAYING.
@@ry1023.3 it’s been 12 years since I got out of high school. Dad lost his job then mom then it was just me for 2 years. Then my dad lost his vision and can’t work my mom can’t get hired still. I make 125,000 but I can’t keep doing this people have lived their lives and traveled I could have bought a house . But can’t cuz these folks dependent
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affording, let alone FINDING housing, is literal hell right now
Agreed.
Facts.
as a Canadian 32 male it seems impossible at this time in life to even consider living alone when as a person I understand that the down payment alone is already so high so long before I even think of a house I gotta think "how much is the downpayment" then I think what's the cost to even "afford" a house and I see minimum is 700k so I mean ya times are hard
Agree with that. Almost all of the houses around me are going for 500k and up.
who moves into a house when they first move out of their parents house?!!!
I'm 29 and living with my folks and I helped them with bills and stuff cause I ain't a freeloader. Things are too expensive so I consider myself blessed.
I cant see anything wrong with living with loved ones.
Asf !!
Same here. I do all the shopping, paying all the bills, tidy up around the house and honestly.. I feel the next generations are going to have it even worse with finding houses or being able to afford one
Theres absolutely nothing wrong with it. People who shame others for it are just mad they were duped that moving out at 18 is superior. 😂
The fact that the door is locked and safe, there we go. Learning how to cook and clean from parents, and change a tire. They may have more time now that they r done high school.
My dad got a reality check when I got a job that pays 20$/hr and we couldn’t find an affordable apartment studio for me. He literally told me “I’d rather you live at home and save up instead of sharing a small space with a random person.” Honestly it’s crazy and we’re expected to be okay with it. Like people make it work because we have to, but the overall level of housing comfort is in the pits
I lived in a city and had a 350 square foot studio apartment. $2600 a month and I still had to pay extra for utilities.
It's a weird time to be younger right now. While there are a lot of opportunities out there, there are a lot of factors coalescing at the same time to hamper or outright crush your economic growth potential.
- global labour market means more competition than ever
- stagnant wage growth
- money printing devaluing your dollar
- virtually 0% interest rate for decades causing an asset and speculation bubble
- oldest and wealthiest generation is pulling out markets and becoming an active drain on everyone else
- population collapse across the developed world due to low birth rates
- at risk of losing the current global trade system due to the US navy receding ability to patrol sea trade routes
Bar some major innovations in technology, we're in a "it's gonna get worse before it gets better" kind of scenario. Luckily we have to the end of this decade or the next before things will likely start to get really questionable. Just wait for boomers to check out of the economy completely, then things will start to get fun.
Who wants to live with their parents in their 20s anyways? There’s no freedom
And honestly who the heck cares what other people say If they want to judge, that’s fine that only means that there’s something they envy about it or they got no life
I know in Pittsburgh just for a Studio apartment it can be around $550 to $750 a month & it varies on the size of the apartment to.
Edit: it can be more I was guessing on how hight it is on the high end as I said it all depends on where you live in Pittsburgh. I here that some 1 bedroom are going for like almost 2k a month & again it's all where you movie to in Pittsburgh
The ONLY people I've seen who give others sh1t for living with parents are the ones with outrageously WEALTHY parents, who pay for their lifestyle. So basically, they're actually more dependent on their parents than anyone actually living with their parents are.
Nah,a lot of boomers talk like that
@@lindseyw9192”back in my day…”
Well we ain’t back in yo day grandpa
That makes absolute sense and so true
I swear this guy is one of the only consistent role models for young men on social media
There is nothing wrong with tate. Yeah, he says outrageous stuff, but that's kinda the point.
@@cloudyskiees so? Women like dating abusive men.
@@WGPhil-uw5csI used to like him until I realized he was an extremist and also found out he’s a trafficker. And no, women don’t like dating abusive men, abusive men like dating insecure women.
@@WGPhil-uw5csthere are 4 billion females in the world, just stfu thinking you know one of them well enough to come to that conclusion.
@@WGPhil-uw5cs”women like dating abusive men” source: I made it up lmao
I live with my parents and I don’t know how long I have with them. Their hugs when I come home keep me sane and alive.
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This is honestly just the sweetest, melted my heart comment. 🥺 beautiful! ❤️
Rising cost of living is really making Americans realize true happiness lies in human connection, not consumption.
At least you get hugs. All I get is grief.
I don't think people realize that for most of human existence, multigenerational households were the norm
edit: First I had no idea this comment was going to become this popular.
Few things I'd like to add, the internet has everyone believing that if someone comments "I like blue" then that means they hate every color that isn't blue. Telling me the fucking obvious thing that "not everyone" can do that isn't the gotcha you think it is because I never said that. I thought it was understood but apparently its not, never did I say people HAD to stay with their families. Obviously if you want to live alone, that's perfectly fine too. I simply stated a fact, multigenerational homes used to be norm in the US. It's not that it was neither good or bad, it was just normal. Now capitalism has us believing that it's not normal, and in fact something to be ashamed of when it's not.
I'm surprised this isn't higher. In most countries people stay with their parents unless they get married or have some other extreme circumstance going on, and housing has always been unaffordable for the non-wealthy. It's only Western countries (U.S., Canada, maybe Western Europe) where everyone's expectations have been set so high this is considered a problem.
@@Xiosoranox yeah my uncle who is almost 50 lives with my grandma, they live in another country do. South America
@@Xiosoranox oh yes, you can clearly see that in Europe too. 20 years ago you could afford a flat as soon as you startet working but nowadays people stay much longer with their parents especially migrants. I moved with with my mom again after my father died bc I was the only child that isn’t married and until that I will stay with my mom.
Exactly man pretty much all of my Latino friends growing up, it wasn't uncommon to have seen them living with their parents as well as their grandparents, and possibly even some aunts, uncles, and cousins.
It's basically as tight knit as a family can get, I don't see what the problem is.
And that's just one regional example of the many cultures that do this worldwide.
In some places in Asia, you are a disgrace _for_ moving out without your parents because unless you have brothers, you are supposed to live with them until they die. If you have brothers, you can abandon the responsibility to them but you're still considered scum.
I was widowed early and my 2 grown sons live with me.
This allows me to stay in my home and gives me company and helps them not have to pay rent.
We share expenses and act more like roommates than parent / child.
True be told none of us could afford to live independently.
My friend does this with her mom and brother and it works for them beautifully. I honestly would live back at home to save if I stayed in a healthier mentality when at home. I think having that opportunity, especially in times like this, very comforting and honestly lucky. It's tough out here for sure 😅
@@elliet1754 pathetic life basically sorry to say that but US is a pathetic country if you don't have money
Thats wonderful..my grandma, mother, myself and my kids all live together. We have plenty of resources between all of us to live comfortably and have plenty extra to actually enjoy life. I think over the years community living will become way more normalized. It is so freeing
Other cultures do this as a way of life. I think its beautiful.
@@aquarius_bb6658 what’s beautiful is that they clearly respect you being a parent to your children and everyone respects each others Space! That’s truly beautiful! Happy for you! ❤
I needed to hear this. There is this feeling like I am some loser shut in for living with my parents for so long but in reality doing so would financially ruin me
Don’t let them…you live your life as you see fit…if it is something that works for you and you aren’t a problem to them then you stay there…kids need their parents and parents need their kids…
You are not alone. Don't worry 😏
Nah you def not alone on this one im 25 still with my fam
If you love your folks, I see no reason whatsoever to feel like a loser. on the contrary, you're a winner.
No, you're not a loser. You're just smart.
id rather live with my elderly mother than live with someone who lives like "i'll pay you back next week"
Right? And then next week becomes next month lol
I'm stuck btwn that & under the bridge too, but DAMN, she threatens to shoot me twice a wk & she 85! Ol bat, smh
I mean when I borrow money from my room mates I get them back pretty quick, and when they borrow money from me they do the same. Why's it A bad thing to pick up A brother when he's down? As long as you know them and trust it'll get back to you one way or another there's no reason not to. My whole live has been pick up those around because they'll do it for you when your need it and that has been my strongest asset in life, having a village behinde even though I don't live with family anymore
Dam that hits hard as i had roommates in my old school and they owed me like 2k😂
@@KegaB3 not everyone is like you unfortunately
It’s not gonna get better, greed and real estate killed this country
Bidenomics
@@LakeNell NOT bidenomics. IT started in 2008 with the housing crash due to banks and investors offering sub-prime mortgage loans to people with bad credit and low incomes to buy homes, which they then couldn't afford to pay for. THIS was the start of it. Since then, the meteoric rise in housing costs has been fueling the inflation of prices on everything else because CEO's and small business owners have housing costs, too, which they then pass those expenses on to their customers by increasing the cost of the products and services their business offers.
I agree 100% it's not easy. Our 34 yr old son just got married in July. He & his wife working full time live in an apartment bc they aren't able to afford a house. Our 20 yr old son lives in our home. We already told him that he can stay as long as he wants & for as long as he needs to. Family takes care of family✝️🙏🏽🙏🏼🙏
Amen!! Wish you and your family the best! ❤
I mean it should be a given. Before I was a parent and now as a parent I’ve always said if you aren’t prepared to care for your kids unconditionally then you shouldn’t have them. The love you give comes back to you. I have lots of friends who went no contact with parents who treated them as an inconvenience and they’ll pass away the way they lived.. distanced and disgruntled
A friend of mine is a senior web developer, has a gf who is a nurse, he got a second job as a junior web developer for about 6 months, and they still haven’t gotten a house.
Yes! Amen.. EVERYTHING IS GOING UP...EXCEPT.. your pay...and if you have no savings..you'll never be able to save..it is hell out there...my 24yr old son still lives at home...what can you do?
@@rachaelmarrero8597When you speak about how they'll pass away, are you referring to your friends or their parents that didn't treat their children well?
I feel like this is also not mentioned but a lot of parents need their kids to live with them as well to help pay the bills. I have a friend right now who is literally looking into buying a house with his mom because alone even his parents can't own a home.
This is literally the story of my life right now.
Exactly, you have a lot of people who need to retire but sadly can't do to all sorts of reasons.
@@TheOMGRamensame and most people I know that grew up in the hood bro. Some people are probably generations away from owning a home it’s pretty sad tbh.
I wish luck to the both of them and hope they find what they're looking for. I wish all of you the best.
Let's rephrase that. It cost that much to live in a highly populated area. It is so much cheaper to live in a rural area but people are dbags that like to pretend to have a hive mentality and are so full of themselves that they HAVE to live around a fton of people and can't stand dealing with themsrlves on their own in order to pay cheaper bills. Period.
My mother (80s) and I (50s) both sold our houses and moved in together after my stepfather died. She can't live alone, and I'm her caregiver. She buys groceries, internet/satellite and incidentals, I pay for all utilities and insurances. I have the upstairs and she has the downstairs and we share common areas. It works for us.
But you have no sex life.
Sorry about your stepdad. I’m glad you and your mom found a situation that works for both of you
@@bubbacallingI bet you do😂
@@bubbacallingYou don't know what's going on upstairs lol
well I don't live with mummy like you guys, so..@@Penguinverse
My 22-year-old daughter moved back home, and I enjoy having her here. She has a 16-year-old brother that likes having her at home too. It's a win-win for everyone.
😏
When families get along well and like spending time with each other, living together is not a second option, it's the best option 🙂
@@samu-chanNo, Bad. What you smirking for?
Wanted to say f you, but I'm just jealous of your healthy family. Wish you the best
@@Captain-J-Amadaeus Hes been watching too much pornhub
When I was in my early 20’s my older co workers gave me hell for living at home. Idk why they thought it was their business. Anyway it was just my mom and I. I’d give her money for utilities, I serviced her car myself and paid for the parts, and I’d meal prep for us/bought the groceries. We worked opposite shifts so it was ideal. I’d be at work while she was sleeping during the day and at night I was sleeping while she worked. Couldn’t have asked for better situation. Sunday night we’d grill steaks and have our mini family dinner. Did that until 25 when she wanted to move closer to work. I bought her house for fair market value and she lived there until for free till she found her house.
Families are a team and her and i always have had each others back.
I love this story so much… I honestly wish more people understood this.
Awe, I love this
I’m really glad it worked out for you guys ❤
Aw i love this soo much!
Sounds like my situation right now I'm 25 and honestly in my city there's no job opportunities to afford me bein able to live by myself so now it's just me and my mama I'm the only one working since she's retired most of the jobs only pay $8-$15 only way to make actually money at a business is to be a manager,a plant 30 mins or an hour away,, or own it so I made up my mind that after I get my eye surgery I'm just going to get my class B CDL the only way I can make real actually money we do good to get by since she does have SSI and waiting on disability if it wasn't for that idk what
If you have a healthy relationship with your parent(s), I feel like staying with them is the smart and practical choice.
Haha..I like the qualifier because it's true
And especially if you're a woman it is a safer option.
was cute this guy looked after his mom and i realised as a teenager thats a way of living too
There comes a time when they *will* need the help, whether they like to admit it or not.
Not only that Im helping financially. Reasonable rent for me and they dont struggle with car payments. Win win
The moment you said "come here" I knew everything would be fine.
Facts 😂all the time with him
Wtf!!!😅
same
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂…….. u and him stupid(FUNNY) AF
yo nathanlikeschicken fan
This is honestly kinda nice to hear. As someone about to enter adulthood and college and is gonna be living with their parents for awhile it’s reassuring to hear that that’s normal and not something to be ashamed of right now
In the Philippines it's normal
Since it's family culture
People would still live with parents as to take care of them, hell parents usually lived with grandparents
It's a cultural thing. In other cultures, it's perfectly normal to live with your parents or even extended family. Idk people are so upset about in an economy where you can't support yourself.
If people give you shit for it, ask if they're financially comfortable and their attitude changes real quick
No need to feel shame. It's the smart thing to do right now, and as others have mentioned, many other cultures live in multi-generational households. ❤
I agree, I’m a senior on a fixed income, so my single son who is 35 lives with me to share expenses. I would be homeless if it wasn’t for him. He would be too.
This is one of the many reasons to plan ahead with Life insurance policies to think about the future while you still can get it reasonably cheap, by the way you always need more than what you think you need
Awww bless your heart mama! ❤
Sounds like you need to find a man and maybe help your son move out so he can have a chance in becoming one himself
@@andrewhall9851 The fact that they support each other doesn't make the son "not a man." Everyone's circumstance is different.
@@Beautifullytragic6 yeah maybe in fairy tales
I actually needed to hear this, to be honest. I'm 27 years old and I currently live with my mother, grandmother and sister. I contribute to the household by paying bills and taking my grandmother to church, but always felt like a loser because I didn't have my own place at my age. It makes me glad to hear from someone that that's not a bad thing.
EDIT: I posted this comment a week ago and I'm still getting so many encouraging messages from people who are in a similar situation and are getting by just fine. I've been feeling down for awhile now, but this has genuinely made me feel alot better about my situation by providing me a different perspective, and I sincerely hope that all you kind people continue to be happy in your lives and spread your positive outlooks to others as you have done for me.
@walter baldwin I do, yes
Like as long as your helping out, there really is a problem with it. Like people really need to understand housing is gotten crazy expensive and not everyone is capable of living in their own
I'm a 34 year old lawyer. I'm living with my mom. She charges $200 for rent. It's the smartest thing to do at this point.
I represent tenants, and most people don't have what we have. And landlords are shady. Count it as a blessing, not a shame.
You are normal. Don't feel bad about it.
It might be getting normalized, but it's not a good situation regardless. That said, it's not really a problem either since you seem to be carrying your load and helping out some. I think we all feel that burden becoming heavier every day we age, so we instinctively know we're not supposedly to be here anymore. However, we might be able to rid ourselves of this guilt by helping to buy the house they're currently paying for. That way, the whole family won't ever worry about working to pay rent. Thus, properly repaying our parents for everything they've done for us. That's how I see it anyway...
As long as you are welcomed by your parents, are respectful, and contribute to the household you're all good.
It also goes the other way. Not everyone has parents who are able to support them and who are respectful of boundaries and mental health. Those of us who start off with that already have a leg up, let alone into adulthood. You shouldn’t need to rely on your parents to have a place to live and the necessities, because not every one has that luxury (not because it’s a bad thing, I live with my parents and love it)
@@oliviac295 anything have it's own cost. You can't expect to live in your parents house and not helping them like when you're a little child. If you can't make a living and can't make your parents understand your boundaries, you should just accept it. Nowadays youngster can get mentally ill so easily so i don't think parents that still help you with financial can be that huge burden.
@@Mint_River11 agreed, though I don't think that's quite the point Olivia C was making. My understanding is that she agrees, and was simply adding more perspective in agreement. Because she's right, ignoring the horrible mental state of a lot of genZ (my generation) there are parents who just are not in a position to support there child, and who are genuinely bad for the child's mental health even if not one of the "stereotypical" mentally ill genZ
Gotta be welcomed😂
look, we love each other, but it's a meshable and unmeshable thing.
I was going to say the exact same thing! I’m a mother to 6 kids. There is one I will never allow to live under my roof again. She is the most disrespectful, self centered, selfish, falsely entitled human being! Raising her was a nightmare for us all. The way she played each other against each other was horrible and she would laugh with joy! Her moving out at 19 to go to college was the most peaceful day of mine and my husbands life in a very long time! She has burned that bridge many times over.
I feel bad for the kids who are kicked out, disowned, or just generally have a toxic household they have to escape. I hope they can find a safe space! without having to sell an organ or two....
You are blessed if you have parents or relatives that you can live with.
Say that !!!!!!
My brother took me in when I filed Chap 11 back in 06.
@@mattsnyderARTIST that mfk’er loves you! Make sure to get him a nice Christmas present 🎁
Yep, it's normal in my culture but my mom is difficult and I'll have to move out unfortunately. I wouldn't mind paying rent but my dad would be mad if I even suggested it 💀💀
Out at 16 club 😑
I needed to hear this... thank you. I'm 25, working 6 days a week fulltime and can't afford to move out even though I'm wokring in a moving service...
In my country people say “being broke is not a sin”. You’re working hard, and I’ve deep respect for you, especially when you’re only 25
EXACT situation - 25, full time, moving out is a distant thought.
I’m 21 and have owned my house a little over a year now but I’m literally broke every time the mortgage comes out. If my wife and I weren’t working full time there’s no way we could get by.
I guide others to a treasure I cannot possess.
At least you're trying. I have a cousin your age that don't do shit.
My son lived with me til last year. I didn’t want him renting as he wouldn’t be able to save up for his own home. At 31 he’s now a homeowner, travels, and has money in the bank.
People mocked me for having my son at home but their adult kids aren’t faring quite as well.
You have a right to be proud, and I hope your son appreciates your support.
@@mamabirdjr3194 oh he does - I think lol.
Thank you for your kind words
@@Irunwithscissors63you are a fantastic parent!
@@enderguardian7443 thank you for your kind words but fantastic may be an exaggeration lol. I am so proud of him though.
You’re a good mom. My mother wanted to charge me half my paycheck as “rent”.
THANK YOU!!!!! You helped me explain this to my friends or others when they give me a look when I tell them that my parents are gracious enough to let me stay at home while going to college
Yeah no those aren’t real friends if they’re judging ur life choices
Your "friends" forgot to mention they live with other people too. If your married or have roommates, it's the same as living with your family. Either way you need help from someone else to get by.
this makes me feel a lot better about living with my parents still. i’m 23 and i don’t make a lot of money. no friends to room with. we need this validity so thanks
28 make a lot of money as a nurse an still live with my dad … tf that’s one less expense I get to save
Same here. 23, no friends or partner, a few failed attempts at a few things, tones of psychological issues, making just enough money to have fun by myself when I want to & throw my part to the bills
35, single dad, still at home. I take care of mom as she wouldnt be able to physically live on her own anymore, and she helps me keep a roof over my kids heads.
23 is still very young. Some people push for young adults to take on too much responsibility. My daughter is 25 and she just got her own place recently
@@TrickyClawmy son was diagnosed with a serious mental health issue hes a teenager and most likely he will continue to live at home with me because im afraid he will go into psychosis again living on his own and wont be able to call for help himself. I see nothing wrong with taking care of each other its family thats what family is about
Last time I mentioned moving out, my mom went around her friend circle and told everyone that I no longer love her. Moving out is not only a financial burden but also a status problem lmao
Not to diagnose your mom, but she sounds fuckin wild.
Aww lol
😂 just cause you wanted to move out she thought you didn’t love her lol
Oof... This is a common story over on r/raisedbynarcissists I'm so sorry 🥲
Sounds like an Asian problem 😅
I live with my elderly mother and i take care of her. Idc if i get made fun of for that. I take pride in it
People really need to use this reason more imo.
It seems people forgets that their parents are gonna be old, wrinkly, vulnerable and aren't gonna be as fit as they used to. They'll have difficulty in just going to the toilet, take a sh*t and wiped themself. And while it'll be a gross experience, i couldn't just left my parents like that.
❤️ be proud 💯
Getting fun of for that is for sick people XD be safe
Uh..ok? I mean what's funny about you taking care of the person who gave birth to you and literally changed your diapers when you were a kid?
@heh.5358 There's nothing funny about that where did you get that from they just have basic humanity and actually had a good parent so that they want to take care of now that she can't take care of herself any longer
There's nothing wrong w/ living with your parents as long as you're not bumming off of them. Meaning if you can't afford to give your folks rent help more with chores.
I'm 58 and wish my folks were still around to live with.
I get it! I am 24 and i would do anything to live with my folks for even a day again!!
I'm 52 and no one to fall on for help or even ask
I second that
this is the other side of the story people don't talk about as much.
I am 36 and I would do almost anything for just one day with them.
I moved out eagerly right at 18. Then things went to shit 20 years later, and my family was kind enough to let my husband and I live with them. Shit happens 😂 We live on our own now.
Seriously 😭😭😭😭 I moved out literally the week after graduation when I was freshly 18. Stayed gone for 2 years, came back for 2, gone for another 3 and now I’m back again 🥲 shit happens!
Yeah its always nice when fam has each others backs like that i currently live alone nearly 5 years but know the moment need help my fam has my back thru and thru
No shame. Happy y'all were able to get help. It's rough out here!
@kumikor3392 to me what helps is seeing the positive in each negative to get thru the rough times
@@Theintrovertednow yes, some people think that can be delusional, but it really does help ❤️
For me as an Asian its totally normal to stay with your parents even after you got married. We help with the bills and stuff. Plus we had each other company ❤
i dont know which part of asia are you from but in japan youre considered a loser if you cant get your own house.
We just dont tell you lol
@@SHEEEEEPPPPP If only Japan means Asia.
Have you ever heard about, u know, INDIA, Largest Asian country?
Here if someone leaves their parents after marriage, that is shown as a selfish behaviour, we are expected to repay our part to parents after they retire. Unlike Japan's so called 'Collective society ' which only builds up unnecessary expectations and so high self harming rate, India has much better socity.
@@SHEEEEEPPPPP that's the sad part about japan. They are ruled by boomers who don't understand how inflation works, people who don't understand how hard it is to buy a house now. And now they are plagued with abandoned houses with no chance of renovations because costs are just sky-high. Calling these young population "losers" without knowing they are the majority. And now, majority of these people are dead because of suicide from depression and peer pressure, treating them as literal yesman slaves and "you don't have the rights to voice your opinion because I am older!" Senpai kouhai culture crap. Then they wonder why the younguns are not chiosing to have a child when it was already a literal hellhole for them. But sure, just "lol" about the issue. Might as well put emojis like this because they're treated as a joke😂😂😂
@@tinahalder8416 looks like someone hit a nerve...
Damn son
36 and still living at home with parents and no shame but I help them out and don't care what others think.
I'm proud of my 22 year old daughter she works minimum wage and lives with me along with my 15 year old twins (single dad of all 3 for 14 years)...she is working to save so by 25 she has a jump...I'm 42 and appreciate everything she does for me which is just being a beautiful smart young woman...I feel honored she lives with me and feels happy safe and loved here... don't feel bad young men and women it's ok
You sound like you have a great family 💕
@@ShimmerBodyCream thank you 🙂
Same here
Thank you thank you thank you
Good job🎉❤
Protect this man at ALL costs.
At least at a cost of 40 dollars/hour
Stfu no one needs to be protected. Please seek some originality asap.
@@tengo257 ... does this even make any sense?
@@sindri1447 😂
I flipped right from living with my mom because I couldn't afford to move out, to living with my mom because she can't afford me to move out.
Honestly this video is flawed. Because economics changes depending on where you live. So using cold hard numbers can be disproven pretty easy. Rent where i live is generally around 900$ for 1. Jordan should have used percentages. 75k a year where i live is more than enough. But in LA, you would be homeless lmfao. I live on my own with 55k a year. Granted anyone working minimum wage cant live no matter that area.
@@matt59fire nah man I live somewhere where rent is cheap and I still can’t afford to move out
Same.
Lucky I’m 15 and live with my mum for free let’s hope cost of living goes down when I become an adult so I have an easier life
This is exactly what’s happening I help try to keep the house bills and rent partially paid as me and my dad are the only working people in the house atm with full time jobs and even then with our combined income we still fall behind a majority of the time
As a person who came back to their parents house, I needed to hear that.
Unfortunately some of us have awful family and don’t really have a choice except to figure it out
True. my family is awful. I ask them for help and I get no response for months. As soon as I was able to get myself together all of sudden I get inbox about a eviction and a family member in need of living somewhere to stay to save up money, i told them no cause when i needed help i was ignored. Now I'm the disappointment and the most selfish person of the family cause I won't help them out.
@@sapphire9210-un3ho well continue to be the most selfish person to them. I don’t blame you at all.
car life 😪
I live with my mom again I was out on the street for a day. I was walking around for hours just living life. When you have a family that makes fun old your mental health or when you tried to commit suicide with a gun in your mouth it just sucks. I’m at a point now where I don’t wanna be around them in any capacity
sucks that your family is awful
I’m from Greece and over here it’s frowned upon to ask your adult kids to move out unless it’s their choice. Even then your parents will be inconsolable and will probably drop by with food every chance they get 😂
Fr I think the USA is like the only country kicking kids out as soon as they turn 18. And if they don't they will probably decide to move out anyway
@@jamesdailing3198 In my country is couple toxic people that gonna kick out a 15 y.o kid.
And when someone is 18 y.o then they are out of the house for good.
It's pretty terrible : /
Also i agree with you.
America is weird asf.
Why you walk in your house with boots on?
And why your walls are from paper, your houses provide literally zero protection against anything.
@@alternatives9254 15? Where are you from ?
@@anaone7923 Oh, don't worry about it.
I'm talking about toxic parents.
Most of them just kick their kids out when they are at least 18 ^^
Just i saw many pathologic families in my life : l
Anyway most of the parents (at least in my region) doesn't care about their childrens at all even if they are 4 y.o
I saw many mothers that leaves their daughters outside stores or don't care of them crying or walking 5-13 metres behind the mother who basically sprinting who knows where at this point haha...
There are so much evil.
Every kid deserves to have parents.
But not every parent deserve to have kids.
@@anaone7923 Yeah, in many pathological families it's 15.
They sold their daughter to some 50 y.o guy (the worst part is she doesn't mind droping School and earning money like this when she even doesn't finish School) or kick their son out of home many times, not opening door to him even when he knock on the door at 3 a.m.
And you know what is the worst?
It was my friend which who i never talked with.
I'm Greek, traditionally you live home with your parents until you get married. Then your parents live with you when they reach an age where they need to be taken care of.
That is how it should be everywhere. It's lovely.
That sounds horrifying... you just never get to be by yourself and do what you want to your entire life? Is that comfortable for you?
@@aroccoification Well, first I said traditionally, it's not followed as much now, though of course some do, some may for economical reasons today not necessarily for the sake of tradition. I was married at 25, I had no problem living my life despite living home. Now for the last decade, my elderly mother (97) has been living with us. I wouldn't have it any other way. The thought of putting her in a nursing home is out of the question. She doesn't stop me from living my life. Covid stopped me for those 2-3 years of living my life, not my mom.
@@Surftouka Really you never felt restricted having other people around yourself your whole life? It was fine having other peoples opinions and patterns around you forever? Are your parents just really nice or something?
Amd the hell does covid have to do with anything? We were all there we saw what happened. My entire family got covid multiple times and we were all just fine. As did the entirety of my 500 person warehouse and they were all fine. Even my infant niece got covid 3 times one of which times she was still in the womb. If it can't even kill infants or a fetus given multiple opertunities it must not have been too bad. Something to take precautions of and be aware sure but nothing to justify shutting down the world econemy for. It's awful our government took advantage of us and made us live like that to make a buck. I'm sorry it was hard on you it was hard on a lot of us.
@@Surftouka In my culture/ country that is the norm too. It is only in America where their media keep hyping about this issues. Forcing their people into so much debt just to keep a roof over their head and be debt slave.
My mother stopped trying to sell houses cause they aren't selling cause nobody is buying, least not fast enough to make the sale worth it for the time spent
As an asian, it's a very common thing to live with your parents.
You help with the bills while also taking care of your parents.
It's a way to show gratitude to your parents.
And i believe most parents would love to stay with their kids and their grand kids.
That is the correct way as a social being
Thank God I'm Asian
That's what I want to do for my dad. I just want to make money and help him with everything. And I want to see if we can maybe buy the house we sre living in maybe. Then we will fix it a lot unless the trees that I will plant won't grow.
Im from Chile, 28 and still living with my mother. she has been a widow for a few years now so im happy to support her and pay the bills, I love her so that's a plus
Same thing in Latin America. You can live with your parents as long as you'd like, as long as you contribute in some way.
People in the 60's and early 70's were able to move out early because of the MASSIVE post-war economic boom. Things hadnt crashed yet, and it was so common over that short time that for them it became the norm. They dont understand that it's effectively impossible to do that, when they could be a store clerk who bags groceries and afford to, but someone who is a contract welder or a highly paid mechanic can barely afford to despite the amount they make per year.
Clearly, you forgot about the gas going non existent in the 70's. Can't drive anywhere. People never moved out on 'their own' - they had roommates. Where is this with family or only on your own?
Mortgage rates in early 7s we're 15%
@@davidtaylor4053yeah, thank Carter (peanut man) for that one.
In the 70s there was still a lot of undeveloped land out there, we are near capacity at our current population, less building regulations, and less "not in my backyard" political roadblocks, also made things easier.
As someone who grew up in the 70's, you are completely wrong. Don't even get me started on the 80's. Look up government cheese lines and the rust belt job market. 😂
As a single father who cares about his child and ensures they're well kept. This hits harder than a double strike out from a short stop.
Edit: Praise be to God.
Damn, that was a "Dad" metaphor if I've ever seen one.
It's gonna hit harder when the kid grows up. Unless he's already grown up
As a single mom of 2 kids, i completely agree.
Amen all the way coming from the daughter of a single mom
Good metaphor
Im from Chile and this has been normal for decades here. People cant afford to leave young, so we live with our parents until late age.
Im 40, now I could live but I prefer to make company to my mom. I pay for my stuff and help her, I save money, so its a win-win. I have a beach apartment which I rent during the summer and other seasons, so when Im older Im moving there.
It's okay to live with your parents, as long as you can help them out with housework/ rent.
I was about to say the same thing.
I want to stay with my mom and dad and brothers cause I get anxiety being separated from them
Where are you supposed to live if you can't help them out? Disabled people exist.
@@savvysavannah just because your disabled doesn't mean you cant help, unless you cant move. you still should have responsibility's.
@@savvysavannah as someone with a disable uncle who lives with my grandparents(he has Down syndrome) I would say that that’s a different case. I think the general consensus in this persons comment was that if you are a capable, well-functioning person, you shouldn’t rely fully off of their hard work and hard earned money. If you ara capable of making your own income, and helping around the house, to a certain extent, you would most likely also be capable of living on your own and making it. If they’re allowing you to live in their house and you are able to help, then you should. That’s kinda what I got from it anyways
As someone in their early 30s, I wish more people understood this in the dating market lol
I agree! I feel people look down on me because I'm still at home with my family. But I'm happy being here!! I'm saving so much money hahaha
@@salgado0819 no offense but you are a woman. For men it's totally different
@@erickariuki6842 yes i do get that. Unfortunately it is the truth. I am the type to not care about that honestly, but a lot of woman do
I know your pain man. & in japan i believe that you take care of your parents when they get older instead of send them to a nursing home.
@@derekchubeck4428 And they have a very low birthrate.
That “car issues” sounded personal 😂
Car issues always are. 😂
Car issues are the most expensive inconvenience ever
FACTS!!! This info needs to be on the news every single night. Hopefully it'll stop ignorant ppl from asking "when're u having kids? Getting married? Why's your car so old?" 🙄
My mom is 72, retired and has to do odd jobs to make ends meet, she started working on the books since she was 16. I'm 35 and live with my mom both for her and myself. I don't want her life to get more difficult than it has been, nor do I want to make my life more difficult than it could be. We help each other, we share all costs. Having this arrangement allows us to still enjoy life... I''m not ashamed of my situation
It is really strange how in the west this is a situation that some people are “ashamed of” yet this is what is expected in my culture. What is strange is abandoning your parents to live alone.
Im 34 and my parent's built me a room on the side of their house.
Just looking at the rent prices in California...I just can't manage on my salary.
nope. that means youre such a good daughter. even when you finally marry someone, you can both live with your mom,ans your kids too. thats absolitely normal in other countries.
Good on you. That's a great relationship that a lot of individuals do not have.
You're a beautiful person for caring for your mother so much. ❤ God bless you
I'm 25 with my 4yo daughter and we have to live with my parents. I do all the laundry, dishes, and the deep cleaning because my parents can't be getting on their knees to clean the toilets. I also work and pay for daycare. After insurance, food, and daycare alone, I barely have enough money for gas to get to and from work. I'm a general manager for a well known resturant chain.
It's absolutely ridiculous
Mcdonalds?
💪🏾💪🏾you're doing geat
I work at McDonald's and I don't make 20 dollars an hour and I have my own place with my wife and I do just fine. I make about $30,000 a year
that's unfortunate u had intercourse at 20 years old
Do you live on either coast or do you live in the Midwest, OP?
If you live in California or Oregon, that's one of the first problems.
NOBODY can afford to live there unless they're rich.
If you even have parents with a stable living situation that can help consider it a blessing. Nothing to be ashamed about.
any place to live, not just stay a week, that's definitely nothing to scoff at. especially if you can relax enough bc you are able to trust that you won't be suddenly kicked out at random. it doesn't have to be great to be grateful.
Bro I love this guy he actually adds something funny to the video and doesn’t just say what just happened on the screen like we don’t have eyes like the OTHER react channels
As someone is who is surrounded by affluent American friends while not being one myself, I really needed to hear this.
Ah, the good ol' "Bryan just turned 18 and dad bought him a new Audi." I always loved that. It's up to you to take care of your own financial future. My parents weren't financially responsible and I didn't want the same fate.
Not everyone has parents who can teach you how to properly manage/invest your money. Spend the time learning, it's never too late.
Jus sorround yourself with people from other cultures. It is common and totally normal to live with your parents in most cultures around the world.
He forgot to mention that you could always relocate to a place that actually is affordable. In my neighborhood the houses are over a million dollars- would be a terrible place for someone to try to stretch their wings and fly lol
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@@MiVidaBellisima Have any places in mind?
Yes. I'm out of the house now, but am so grateful for parents that didn't boot me out when I turned 18. They gave me the grace and time to get myself all the way together.
Damn.😂 The moment l turned 18 my parents where asking when um planning to move out... been out ever since
@@darrellJojo4990hopefully you have a good job or good romemates or a good partner who contributes. If it aint one of those 3, how did you do it and where do you live
@@KumarAnshs right now on my own car note one thousand dollar rent...for my apartment..plus car insurance...I save my money and I have no choice but to to food banks to help me out with food .. because everything is so expensive... I have three jobs I'm making it by but it's not easy either because I hate seeing my bank account hit below 1000.. as long as you can save money cut some loses on spending habits that's all I can do for now...till I can make more money..🤞
Considering your a child till you turn 25 (medically speaking as your brain isn’t fully formed until then), no parent should think of booting their children out just because a law created to enlist more ppl into the military ,says they’re “adults”
@@KumarAnshs l made lemonade when life gave me lemons l bought my dream house and um actually doing great started a car wash business and it's thriving
I'm 30 and I'm a nurse and I did just this. My sister and I went in together and brought a home. My mother and the rest of my siblings and I live together and it's definitely a big help. I lived on my own from 22 until here recently. Having four incomes in one household is much better than going at it alone in today's climate.
Definitely. I think that's a good way to do it. Buy a house, pay it off. Buy another one together and pay that one off too (if that's what you guys want)... And keep doing it until everyone is living in a house mortgage free
Practicality goes a long way
So me and wife moved into my wife's moms house and all 3 of use pay the mortgage. It is expensive these days...
Since leaving home at 18, my son has moved back twice. Once when he was going through a rough financial time, and once when I was. Mom's door is Always open. ❤
Happy for those with a good household to go back to. Not all of us are so fortunate.
if u have nowhere to go back to then it's easier for yall to find high paying jobs bc ur willing to travel, so yeah... having loving parents is actually kinda a disadvantage because you want to keep the same standard of living as you can get while living with your parents in their large houses and eating their expensive food
@@mochitoes8271did you honestly just tell someone that it’s a disadvantage to have home owning good parents to stay with vs not? Because…..of your own choice to keep expecting bougie housing/food standards when you move out?
😂
Just can’t make this shit up.
@@twdjt6245haha yeah that obviously sounds stupid but that's actually how human psychology works. sometimes to climb up from a mud to become a king is easier rather than coming from an upper-middle class background. and the only reason for that is that you.. don't have anything at all meaning you can't lose nothing. while having something makes you complacent most of the times. objectively tho obviously having loving parents is an apparent advantage over ppl not as fortunate. this only demonstares such terrific, tremendous, absolute power that a human mind possesses
Exactly. Not since I was like 17. There is/was no safety net for a lot of us.
@@yallknowtheresnofear1199 No? What pychology did you take in college?? The human mind literally needs social network to be happy. Yeah, you're more free to move (if you don't have health issues, abusive parents, pets, younger siblings) but you're still going to have it a lot rougher mentally and physically. Grit only gets you so far you need to find friends and loved ones and scramble to save, maybe end up homeless a couple times, and have some awful roommates. Defintely not an advantage friend. I wish it was but not in this economy.
i needed this 😭 i’m moving back in with my mom to actually have a chance at saving, and so i can finally afford to go back to college. it’s bittersweet but i’m lucky to even have a parent willing to let me back in because she understands that the cost of living is unaffordable for my generation
Sameeeee!!! I was off on my own and starting my masters program in august. Financially could not live in my own and pay for grad school so moving back with my parents it is ! 😢 but like you I’m super grateful to have my parents support !
I had to do this a few months ago lol. I was so ashamed but it is what it is 🤷🏽♂️
Dont go to college if you want to save money.
Make sure you show love to momma!!! She deserves it for being there for you
Don’t trip about it, seriously. At the end of the day you matter, not our opinions. you wake up and make a living for you don’t worry about the outside noise.
I didn't feel bad about living with my mother through my early-mid twenties. She died about 5 months ago (unexpectedly) and I'm incredibly grateful I was able to spend more time with her than if I hadn't lived with her. If anything, I feel more people should live with their parents, especially if they're older. They'll only be around for so long.
Same I had just saved 15 grand for a down payment and my mom had a heart attack then went for surgery and then my dad was diagnosed with cancer he passed two years ago. I honestly would have felt horrible if I wasn’t here for them. They are good parents and did right by me as a child.
Agreed, I love my Mom to death. Already lost my Dad 2 years ago 2 days before his 55th birthday. He died of congestive heart failure and had lived with it for 9 years including 2 cardiac arrests and multiple times of his defibrillator/pacemaker shocking him. We were lucky to have him that long. If my fiancé of 13 years hadn't died a month after our son turned 11 and 4 1/2 months after we just got out first home as a family together then I wouldn't have gotten 13 more months with my Dad bc I had to move back in with my parents. I couldn't afford our home as a newly single mother who was a stay at home Mom due to covid bc my son had to do virtual schooling and I had to stay home with him.
Unexpected or jab?
So sorry for your loss ❤
And you didn’t even mention food which is your basic favorite topic. If you grow up in Italy you stay with your parents until you get married. That’s why most men have enough money to buy a house cash before they get married. Plus they have all that extra time with their parents that at some point will die or have an illness that takes them away in a different way. I wish my parents were alive so I could be with them again.
The saddest part of the internet is people talking to groups of people but never giving them group advice. Cost of living is not an individual problem, you want it to go down and wages to go up, you need to tackle it together. The system wants you to approach it alone, because alone you can't put a dent in it.
I agree that lack of actionable steps is the biggest issue with online activism to the point where people are just getting exhausted of hearing about all this nihilistic shit while being given no ways to improve their situation.
lmao this whole paragraph is a whole lot of nothing, what does that even mean? lets assume you overthrow the government then what? are you going to divide it equally? what about more skilled people like farmers? what will you do with the people previously in charge of food production who will be very angry about you stealing from them? you have 1 answer and its the same as the soviets and led to parents eating there children
the harsh reality is we have to live in multigenerational houses again like we have been doing up until the last 100 years or so, personally though considering history its hardily that bad we live in the best and safest time in human existence, people need to remember how good they really have it
Yup. Telling everyone 'you don't stand a chance' doesn't help
The one tooth saw
Best comment on here.
I’m 27 and live with my parents. They always say I can stay as long as I want💕 but honestly I love living with them they’re very supportive, wise and loving and I enjoy being able to help out and give back to them.
Do you help pay bills that you use
@@brandik1997they said they enjoy being able to help out and give back to them so it sounds like they do
Me too
I pay quite a bit (220USD a week) but also help mum with the mortgage which isn't super easy
@@Airofoil that's how it should be. You're doing a good job.
@@Airofoil you’re doing great. I know they appreciate it
People that still have their parents alive are so blessed to have that option. Once you are an orphan all you have is you to depend on. Its tough
true. it's really really tough, especially when. you're a first child and you're just a "newly" adult who barely functioning and now you have to grow up beyond your age with the new responsibilities... (the constant feeling of helpless and loneliness didn't help either 😢)
I just said I wish my parents were still alive so I could live with them and save something I didn't think of when I was young with no kids.
@@Yes-kc3dr grow up
@@Yes-kc3dryou have to be trolling pls
Well my father is bedridden and can't do anything for himself-I mean anything. Not a good way to end up at the end of your life.
My heart goes out to everyone in this financial struggle. I pray God fixes this and we are able to see some sort of relief very soon.
Ain't that the truth!
I live alone and I’m barely making it. My parents are abusive and toxic so no chance of living with them and no siblings to reach out to, it’s a real struggle for those of us with little to no resources.
What do you do for work?
How did you land a job that pays that much
Same.
Would you consider a roommate
I have lived alone during a time then I have made terrible money and amazing money .
Then it's time for you to obey them and follow their rules.
I’m an extreme introvert and I’m so unbelievably grateful that I got to live on my own from age 19 to age 34. No roommates or partners or family. Just me doing my own thing. And I worked in retail!! That just can’t happen anymore and it makes me so sad. I traveled and had a wonderful life back then. Young people today don’t get that opportunity.
Nice, how much money did you save? How much did it go into your IRA, ROTH? Do you have stocks you invested into? Do you have other assets that are worth money (Property, gold, bonds etc).
As long as your parents arent toxic and you are playing them rent or supporting them just stay with them and SAVE money. People dont understand that if you play your cards when you do move out (mid to late 20s) you will be able to buy your own house and even have possible supplement income. Ofcourse if your parents are toxic etc just get out since peace of mind is above all!
Shit I’m 42 with a 9 year old daughter who had to move back in with my mom. I make about $1,100 a week and trying to save money to get my own place.
That's crazy. Me too.
It’s nice to hear sympathy from the older generation, rather than the usual “just pick yourself up by the bootstraps” lack of understanding. My hope is that we can fix it, and all generations in the future can live well within their means ❤
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Pandemic humbled everyone,had parents moving in with their kids😳🍻🍺
What pandemic?
No no no.
The pandemic made the rich richer, and the poor more poor.
The pandemic scared people. My son's roommate wouldn't let him back in their apartment without a negative covid test. That was the weekend my son moved back home.
@@ItCameFromTheSkyBeLo my point 😅is why some parents moved in.
Yeah it taught the sheep not to step out of line they all went over the cliff together
I was thinking about this awhile back. I don't see how you younger folks are doing as well as you are. God Bless you.
As someone who was on my own at 17, I will gladly allow my children to live with me as long as they are doing what’s right and Savin money. I will be charging them rent which I will save to give them in a lump sum for their house purchase. I’m gonna be the parent I desperately needed for them.
Damn, that's really sad man, I'm 16 and i can't even imagine imagine being on my own, i have no experience with anything. Kudos to you for staying strong and making it work
A+ parenting!
I felt this really hard. I ended up squatting in an old property at the age of 18 and didn’t have water or electricity. The only thing I had on me was an alarm clock, batteries for alarm clock, and a portable charger to charge my phone when I got home from work/school.
If it says anything about my situation, I was late to work one morning because all of my batteries were stolen by my sister who found out where I was living.
That being said, I have roommates and so my rent is cheaper right now- but they’re all leaving and I’ll be alone for the most part. I want to be independent but it’s so hard to be with how high rent prices are.
I desperately want to be the father that I never had growing up, so here’s to both of our futures and being the best fathers we can be.
@@Reliztik82 why would you go squatting at 18?
@@classmst89 My living situation before squatting was worse.
Trust me, I don’t regret squatting but it was the last thing I wanted to do.
Living with your parents as an adult is like having roommates that actually care about you and can also provide sage life advice when necessary. Or at least that's my experience.
I don't remember if it was him or someone else but to loosely quote them 'living with your parents is like living with roommates that actually love you'
This…my mama is the best.
Nah. I live with my parents bcuz I have to. But they are toxic. Living with them is quite punishing. You are blessed to have great parents. Most people aren't lucky like that. And few things on this world.... drain your hopes... like being dependent... on the very people you wanna escape.
I take it your parents don’t mention that by the time they were your age they already were living in their own. You kind of lucked out. Hustle culture is a cancer.
@@Luckyjem27 sorry to hear that man. Hope your situation improves soon.
What's crazy is that most adults I know right now that live with parents (my wife and I included) are actually helping keep the parents afloat as much as they are helping us, some of our parents can't afford for their kids to leave at this point, multi generation households are starting to be necessary for all the generations involved.
Exactly. I had a fucking argument with a neck beard over this exact thing. Like I don't live with my mom anymore, but 99% of the reason I lived the first half of my 20s with her was because I covered half of the bills. Like she supported me as much as I supported her
My parents are moving and can’t afford another 2 bedroom i only could afford rent a couple of times but im behind on my car payment i keep getting laid off and just got fired over some bs. I was keeping my mom somewhat sane with my dad😅
Edit: i didnt like that job anyway it was my fourth time working there and it was my only option left bc no other job’s actually called back or responded. I wont be doing anything for a couple weeks and my boyfriend whose older is going to let me stay with him would’ve been homeless.
I feel ya here. I'm pretty sure my parents would be homeless if I didn't pay rent. They keep telling me they're fine without :/ But I know better now that I'm old enough to understand the struggle.
I agrée 💯 my youngest son and daughter-in-law live with me, we need each other, things are difficult now.
im lucky that i come from a culture where generational households are a normal practice. you're able to support each other so well in many ways. when problems come up, we work on them together, instead of avoiding the situation and running away.
Thank you, this makes me feel better. I mean I'm 23, but seeing these young influencers buying giant houses at like 20 makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong
I'm over 30 and still have never been able to buy a house, but I have my cats, have my job, and am able to pay all my bills.
31 years old and my mom is living with me, and she's been struggling to hold down a job, but I'll be damned if I let her struggle through this alone, and I'll stay until she can get something solid, and even afterwards incase of a hard time hit. I'm lucky enough to earn around 40 an hour working 12hr shifts 4-5 days a week, and having her living with me is keeping food on the table and both of our cars in good condition. I don't regret it, we've had our fair share of struggles, but with the cost of living, I don't feel comfortable letting her living alone and vice versa for her. There's no shame living with your parents, the culture would have you believe you should be living alone, all the while completely fucking your financial situation 10 miles deep into an abyss, and it won't be getting better anytime soon. Be there for your family people, whatever the dynamic/situation is
It's unhealthy in a normal economy.
@@sparklesp9304its unhealthy to people that have bad family morals and structure. If you are a functioning adult that knows how to take care of yourself but CHOOSE to live with your family members, specially if YOU are the one sustaining the household, theres nothing unhealthy about it.
@@Alpha_apex you took the response right out of my mouth, and I applaud you for it. It was never going to be sunshine and rainbows, and in all honesty, me and my brother didn't grow up with strong family ties or morals, but we've been through shit, and we choose to be there because we can. I have every reason to not be in this situation, but I have the wisdom to know that breaking the cycle of a broken family boils down to what decisions you choose to stand by, and I would rather have my mother be there when I have children than her not be due to my relationship with her. I'm not saying this works for everyone, but what I do know is that we individually have to carry the past with us, and I want her to look back and know someone was there for her when she needed someone to be, especially during a time when I easily could have chosen not to be. We'll deal with the problems down the road when we hit them, and with some luck, things will be different for the better
@@sparklesp9304 sometimes, you choose to go the unhealthy route to see someone else hopefully come out the other end a bit healthier than they currently are. Mental health is important, but sometimes, we have to set what we want for ourselves to the wayside. You gotta live your life with the scars you accumulated along the way, and do what you can to not fall to pieces because of them, sometimes we might fall apart, but we put those pieces we can get back together regardless
True..And if someone is making a person feel bad about living in a multi generational household too bad that's on them. Unless someone is paying your bills they should keep their comments to themselves
I always tell people I don't live with my mom, she lives with me. She's a low income recipient. I help her pay bills and make sure her health is in good condition. She's the only parent I have and I want to be close to her until her last day. Much better than letting her rot in loneliness or place her in the hands of people I can't trust.
God bless you and your sweet mother 🙏💕
Thank you bro, I as a woman about to turn 30, who currently lives with her parents, I needed this. 💚
Das a bit old for living with ur parents I think 27 max
💜💙🤍🖤 Be realistic about your needs and situation, and how you feel about things.
No one else has a right to butt in on a personal situation of someone else's that they know nothing about, and that isn't their business - period.
You don't need random people's parasitic interaction or ignorant opinions. Those random ass people are likely insecure regarding something.
No one is ordained to decide your worth but you. Not a society - not an individual. Never decide you aren't good enough because you're not meeting someone else's ideals. 🤍🖤💜
I’m almost 30 and live with parents as well, get all the privacy I need…in med school so not doing much outside of that anyways and when I graduate I’ll be traveling…my mail is coming straight to my mama…what do I look like paying for an apartment or a mortgage and I’m about to be all over the world in a few months🤔🙄…on my down time I’ll be with my mama anyways that’s my girl🥰💪🏾…don’t matter as long as you’re doing something with your life not just sitting around acting like a child…I’d rather give my mom extra funds to have my stuff stored in an extra room at her house than pay a storage fee🤷🏾
Almost 30 and living at home, I wouldn’t entertain being with someone of that stature.
@@-.Anima.- if you’re putting your situation out there on the Internet, everything you said can get flushed down the toilet like a big fat juicy turd, thank you.
THANK YOU! I am a single mkm on disability. My son has just turned 18 and is the most amazing kid ever. He's also on the Autism spectrum which of course makes him even more awesome, but it can be a real challenge when he is dealing with a world that is more accessible and built around neurotypical people. If I could not have lived here, I would have been in an extremely bad situation. And my parents are glad we are here. We all help each other. ❤
I stayed home until I was 29. Had a nice paying job. Grinded and saved for 6 years to buy a house on my own and lived in it for 5 years, paying all my bills on my own. I'm grateful my parents allowed me to stay and build a foundation for my future.
Wow if only I had done that. Glad I still can
Smart
@@thekaren1111 how much was the home when they bought it? Yikes! I feel bad for them but I am glad they have a home. It is my dream to one day own my own home. The cost is just about impossible for me to take on. We need something to change in society
as someone who's lived alone since they where 17 just know that I am immensely jealous of people who have support/are able to live at home into adult hood. I'm 24 now and I've been working fulltime for 8 years and I have nothing to show for it. I wish I could go to college so badly. so yea, your privileged and appreciate the fact that you have that safety net, don't feel embarrassed.
Edit: someone in comments said it's acctually a flex to have your parents helping you. I agree lmao. Don't feel embarrassed, stunt on all us loser, no support havin' asses lmao. Well. Maybe don't rub it in tho. I'm sensitive.
Depending on which country you live in there’s always the military, for US military they do pay for college
Aww.. Sorry for what you went through :(
My dudet land a trade job and you'll start making good enough money to do what you need.
@@MidpackxTrade school still costs money, unless you're lucky enough to have someone train you while still paying you enough to survive.
Aww this was sad to read. Hope you figure a way out
My Dad ALWAYS said that he wouldn't let me move out to pay someone else's mortgage. When I moved out I was able to pay my own mortgage. I'm grateful to my parents.
100% agreed. Things need to change.
Multigenerational homes are the best tbh. I grew up with my cousins almost my whole childhood & we’re all so close now. We consider each other more like siblings 🫶🏻
I was like that with my cousins until we moved. My cousins are still very close with each other and still close in location of each other
My 80 year old mother lives with myself and my 17 to 19 year old. I am so so glad that we have this time together!
@patchareeboyd7586 That's actually a good idea. It is either that pr roommates.
People back in the day lived in multigenerational homes.
I know people who have moved out and brag about how easy it is, and I know for a fact they often have their parents handing them money when they need it. Don't ever let them make you feel bad about staying home and doing what you can to make ends meet.
I always say ends meat (atleast where im from thats what people say) basically say make enough to atleast afford MEAT/food lol
I had (key word *had*) a friend who used to talk like she had it all going for herself.... but then she let it slip that her grandparents were paying for everything and basically all she had to do was put gas in her car.
@@Puffy147x Usually people who brag about it, also brag about staying to themselves, being childless. Which isn't a problem, but my point is that career driven or single business professionals work long hours to live alone. Others work long hours usually find roommates if not with family.
The ones that judge you the most are people that live with their partner and therefore get to share rent. I can’t afford to pay 1800 rent all by myself.
Exactly this! There are plenty of people in relationships where they couldn’t survive solo. Someone in the comments was saying how they and their husband did it…Like 2 incomes aren’t better than one.
Yea, nah i say theyre just too stupid to remember they had to start without 40 yrs work exp.....
Facts. Between me and my wife she's recently making 24 an hour, I'm at 19 an hour and we just scrape by. Only recently since her pay had gotten bumped up to that 24 we're able to even start saving a tiny bit in month we're talking like maybe 50 to 100 in a month bucks but even that's a stretch, especially when gas likes to jump back up in price. Everything's too goddamn expensive. All my single friends still live at home and I don't blame them in the fucking slightest
Now that I'm older not living home I realized only my fake Broke friends with they broke a** parents who didn't own a house were jealous😅 and worried about me living at home because they didn't have those😅 Options so pay attention people ..some people are just jealous and trying to set you up for failure because They come from generations of broke a** people
@@starrfoxkid64 24 is quite a lot though
I always tell younger people that if their parents are helping them by letting their kids still live in their homes then they have it really good. My parents made me move out a few months before my 18th birthday and told me I was never allowed to come back once I was gone. Which sucks because they meant it. I was nearly homeless a few years ago after a seriously bad relationship ended and they wouldn’t let me stay with them for even a few nights. If your parents help you financially in anyway you really do have it good and should respect the rules they put in place. Because they didn’t have to help you and chose to
I'm sorry that happen to you.
Just be happy you have supportive parents, and spend time with them.
True
I would aggree for tho whom your statement applies but some do have abusive parents and can not affort to get out instead.
@@kaleidoscopingme - I would prefer to sleep on a sidewalk, rather than living with my abusive alcoholic father. Unfortunately, some of us ended up getting the shaft, in this thing we call "life".
As a 25 year old who just moved out on my own, I can tell you it's OK to live with your parents, as long as you're working and helping around the the house or paying/helping with rent, suits expensive
Thats is. Contribute to the household needs, if not money then chores. As long as you do that, stay as long as needed. That's what Im telling my kid.
True and real.
Seesh 25
Nahhh bro. Y’all go move in with your friends, since u always 🧢 for them anyways. 😘
I just turned 37 and just wish i still had my parents.
I feel your pain
me too, me too
if im lucky i will join your parents soon. if im lucky
Yes😢 I miss them daily ❤
Me to
Here in the Philippines, its only recently that kids moving out of their homes when they turned 18 be became a norm. For decades, living alongside your parents was actually the best choice, since not only you can save a lot of money, you are also taking care of your parents and their needs. We rarely send our parents and elderlies to old people homes/facilities, because we see it as disrespectful to them, like we're discarding them. You were actually frowned upon by society if you left your parents to fend for themselves, when you are fully capable of supporting them. It is also the norm back then to just establish a family compound, where you will just a build a new home in the same area that your parents home is standing, and as mutiple generations gone by, a small community of people will develop consisting of blood relatives. Not only will it make it a better environment for kids, it also double as a protection since everyone is a family member ready to protect everybody.
Theres a lot of benefits to this kind of family set-up, compared to people getting out of their families.
I'm 41 and living at home with my parents while I figure out my next step. Granted I'm helping my dad with his medical stuff and my mom with everything around the house in the meantime. I couldn't afford life here near Seattle on my own.
I know I'm older than your target audience for this post, but it made me feel better regarding my situation. I appreciate posts like these - it makes me feel less 💩 about my situations. Thank you.
Yep. Same here. My mother in law lives with us and I’m begging my parents to move into our neighborhood. Cherish them while you can kids
The cost of living is AWFUL. Anyone who's judging you can come and pay your bills.
You're doing the right thing, and you're fine. This is the new normal.
@@apara2005 exactly. it’s the old normal too. I could have gone home any time because I was blessed with wonderful parents. I hope my kids know they can do the same anytime they need.
I’m 40 myself and I pay the bill help my mom anytime she needs help,
Don’t feel like 💩. Just don’t listen to haters!!
I'm 51 and my daughter lives at home with us. She's 25. I'm glad she's home and not wondering what she's going to do for food. It's very tough right now. Anyone who tries to shame you should keep their opinions to themselves
More than just tough this is the WEF's plan for a global dependency on welfare and the inability to own things like vehicles and property. Only the top 0.5% of elites will own everything and corporations will sweep up everything and not allow the economy to balance. I'm only hoping the economy collapses so extremely hard this decade that we go into a second great depression that's destroys 90% of businesses to give a huge reset we all need.
Facts on facts preach brother
You are a good person 💪😤
AMEN!!
I’m 23 and I live with my parents still. My dad feels the same way you do sir :) I’m sure she appreciates you both like I do my parents in these times
You have no idea how badly I needed to hear this. Thank you….🥺😔
*offers a fistbump*
As long as you’re working and helping your parents out, you’re fine don’t let people make you feel bad
😂😂I needed this video so bad thanks so much Jordan😂😂 Gen-Z never let u down with a laughter 😂😂
I felt so validated by this. I'm 27 and live with my parents. I work full time and go to school full time. I always felt bad or felt I was a burden by staying with my parents and not working towards living on my own. I'm slowly coming to realize that staying with my parents not only helps me but also helps them because they also sometimes struggle, and there's no way I would leave them in the lurch. We all mutually help and care for each other. I'm glad I'm not alone and all your stories really help me come to terms.
Your parents actually want you out so they can have their house back.
@@Ggggggfefdffcontributing back doesn't exist in families.. Family members love each other regardless of anything. Unconditional love exist only in true families.
Your right its usually not one sided. If you are in it one sided change that.
@@simplygame5530maybe not, but it definitely helps to have a hardworking kid who you know is working towards bettering their career and future.
Girl I'm 26 n everyone my age lives with their parents or grandma or uncles or a random person life ain't cheap
I've been saying this for like a decade we don't need another minimum wage increase we need a cost of living decrease
Your logic is flawed, and capitalism won’t just go backwards like that without serious consequences. What we need is a significant pay increase which would fall under a cost of living pay increase. This is not an unheard of concept. The amount of money people need to be making a livable wage has increased while pay rates have stagnated.
We need both 😭
@kami.kaze23 the problem with wage increases is that the cost of goods and services go up along with it. I understand that prices on goods and services aren't just going to suddenly drop but, if we could get the remain static for a while and increase pay that would lower the cost of living expenses people pay.
@@buddah1221they've been going up exponentially regardless of wage increases, so that argument is null
@Ghidei53 yes they go up regardless but wage increases incentivise them to raise prices
I actually teared up because this is my situation right now, so hearing this does make me feel better. I still help pay rent, and I still have the other side of the house to myself. I always find myself thinking I should be moving out now. I’m learning its okay right now to be where I am, and I dont have to worry about the voices of other opinions but my own.
Don’t listen to hatters!! That is an old school way of thinking. As long as you contribute to your family, are respectful, have a good relationship with your parents- don’t listen to them!!! I am a parent and my son stays home & he is very much an ADULT! When you get enough to move out & want to - then & only then move. Some people are just so mean & jealous. Who said that you have to struggle to be successful in life. Haters just haters.
@@aprilsudler8460 Thank you 😊 🙏🏾
You needed justification for being a loser😂😂😂
@@aprilsudler8460 just stop😂😂😂😂
honestly i’d love to live with my parents again. save on the money and they’re pretty awesome. they won’t be around forever. multi generational houses are amazing. I live in the same city very close to my siblings and I love it. I wish I had bought the house next door to my brother when we had the chanxe
This came up when my mother is going on about how it's apparently people's fault for not managing money enough to live and not the endless raising of everything else and the adamant refusal to raise any wage whatsoever and how impossible it is to save even 100 because that 100 goes to 20 items of store brand groceries and even more if you want anything remotely healthy.
Shout out to my mom for letting me and my daughter live with her for 7 years. It’s definitely the only reason why my fiancé could get 5 engineering degrees so we could get out on our own.
FIVE DEGREES?!
That’s feels a bit like taking advantage of your mom but ok 👍🏾
@@Itsroccib that’s exactly what it is, and there’s nothing wrong with that
Yes because you must have 5 degrees before getting a job and earning for your family.
FIVE, five, we need five to move out. We are doomed.
My babies don't never have to leave💯
I make 125,000 but my parents can’t find jobs and depend on me 😢 so even tho I can afford to leave on paper these folks are killing my dreams 😢😢.
@@backseateats9513they raised you all you have to do is cover their ass for a month or two while they find work.
STRONG MEN CREATE GREAT TIMES
GREAT TIMES CREATE WEAK MEN
WEAK MEN CREATE BAD TIMES.
HAVING YOUR KIDS AT HOME AND NOT LETTING THEM LEARN HOW LIFE IS YOU ARE CREATING THE BOTTOM PART OF THAT GREAT SAYING.
@@ry1023.3 it’s been 12 years since I got out of high school. Dad lost his job then mom then it was just me for 2 years. Then my dad lost his vision and can’t work my mom can’t get hired still. I make 125,000 but I can’t keep doing this people have lived their lives and traveled I could have bought a house . But can’t cuz these folks dependent
Well they need to leave and learn grammar