Mufti Menk - How to Select a Good Spouse (Part 1/2)

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  • Опубликовано: 16 сен 2024
  • Mufti Ismail Ibn Musa Menk of Zimbabwe.
    Mufti Menk giving an Advice on how to select an appropriate spouse & What to look for in a potential Spouse.
    "And women of purity are for men of purity, and men of purity
    are for women of purity" [s.24;v.26]

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  • @DarronBrown88
    @DarronBrown88 5 лет назад +131

    You do not have to be Muslim to appreciate this message. 👌🏾👌🏾

    • @shaikmohammedmansoor
      @shaikmohammedmansoor 3 года назад +5

      May Allaah(SWT) grant u hidayah and may he shower his blessings upon you brother Aameen 🤲

  • @rickgut2004
    @rickgut2004 11 лет назад +106

    I love how he says "may-allah-protect-us-all" randomly. I'm not muslim, I am christian. I hope that we can all live in unity and peace some day.

  • @mecutepretty5064
    @mecutepretty5064 5 лет назад +234

    I am a christian woman.. but because of this man Sir Mufti Menk i am encourage more for converting to Islam.. but i need an advice and help on how and where i will begin? May Allah the Almighty will guide me.

    • @faheemafahmi9164
      @faheemafahmi9164 5 лет назад +5

      If your heart wishes so and Allah will ease you to your dream :)

    • @blackbeautifulandsmart2849
      @blackbeautifulandsmart2849 5 лет назад +8

      Mecute Pretty, May Allah guide you to Islam. Insha Allah go and speak to the Iman at a Sunni masjid (mosque) who will aid you assist you in your journey to take your Shahaadah. Also ask him to sign post you to practising sisters who have sound knowledge of the deen ( religion of Islam) so that they can support you in your life journey as a Muslim. Also accessing lectures like this to further assist you Insha Allah ( as Allah wills). May Allah grant you success Ameen.

    • @amalabdi2382
      @amalabdi2382 5 лет назад +7

      Mecute Pretty I swear you make me cry sis. I’m Muslim but I become better Muslim after I watch him.

    • @amalabdi2382
      @amalabdi2382 5 лет назад +5

      Mecute Pretty. Sis if you buy the Quran in English it will help you and if you know any Muslim person ask them for help and I’m sure They will.

    • @mecutepretty5064
      @mecutepretty5064 5 лет назад +2

      @@amalabdi2382 thank you so much sister. May Allah bless you..

  • @neyg9206
    @neyg9206 12 лет назад +79

    "...she developes wrinkles on her face, because beauty goes away...But the internal beauty developes with the wrinkles" Subhanallah! Love this sheykh

  • @cynicaldaria
    @cynicaldaria 11 лет назад +91

    i am an orthodox christian and i admire this man. one of the best advice ever.

    • @maddy00111
      @maddy00111 4 года назад +6

      it's not him who is to be admirable here, it's what he is advising or preaching, and that's the teaching of Islam. he does not say what he thinks, he is saying what he have learned from the Islam. So admire Islam, don't accept it if you don't understand it now. but do respect it. as we respect all other religion.

  • @xxillidinxx
    @xxillidinxx 12 лет назад +45

    We are soooo lucky to have this sheikh in our time.
    Alhamdulillah!

  • @loidamopal4453
    @loidamopal4453 9 лет назад +54

    I decided to be Muslimin, reverted to Islam to be very good spouse Subhanallah! In Sha Allah.... Allah blessed me to my right path... Ameen

    • @idileyidil9760
      @idileyidil9760 9 лет назад +1

      aaaahw....Welcome to Islam sister. I am very happy to hear that not everyone has fallen for the insane propaganda against islam. may Allah make your life easier and reward you and your family protection and with the highest level of jennah.

    • @loidamopal4453
      @loidamopal4453 9 лет назад +1

      +Idiley Idil ......thanks! anyway..... As I stay Saudi Arabia going to be almost 3years my employer the second family with I work with the madame or mama she asked me vvvvv much but I am bad I refused I was been a dark path until I meet a very esp person in internet anyway I will direct it Facebook then He started teaching me regarding about Islamic lecture.... values and this is it by December I am going home In Sha Allah will get marry also to this ESP person.... he Will coming from a distance only to proved to me that this is it no racist no color but In giving the new life in Sha Allah .... in Janna

    • @idileyidil9760
      @idileyidil9760 9 лет назад

      Loida Mopal which nationality are you? Well I am happy for you that you have met a great guy.

    • @kuriouskoopatroopa3129
      @kuriouskoopatroopa3129 8 лет назад

      I'm trying to convert my gf, do u think this would work? she believes in God but she doesn't know wut religion? I'm afraid I mite scare her with this :(

    • @dropletsofdeen6004
      @dropletsofdeen6004 5 лет назад

      Welcome to Islam sister, I hope you've been blessed with a great spouse considering I've stumbled upon this comment 3 years later.

  • @fariharoman6519
    @fariharoman6519 5 лет назад +21

    I pray salah five times along tahajjud Alham du lillah . But when I speak to my friends nobody prays for 5 times and top it they make me feel that I am alien. Because in todays world praying for 5times is difficult and people will tell you are doing this to show off but it is my routine Shukar Alham du lillah ...

    • @SAEECLIPSE
      @SAEECLIPSE 3 года назад +3

      Make dua to Allah that he keeps you and all of us sincere.

  • @beccaroman7820
    @beccaroman7820 9 лет назад +43

    Mufti Menk you are so purely so correct I strongly think us American human beings should carry with in your belief systems mentality's. I have complete Respect to you and your Muslim people. EyE will be sharing your words of pure wisdom full of true pureity. Will be my priority.☝

    • @phcahase
      @phcahase 9 лет назад +5

      What a lovely comment. May Allah swt bless u with great success and reward for being so nice! Ameen

    • @1994-l1m
      @1994-l1m 7 лет назад +5

      May Allah(SW) protect us All!!...

  • @seekingmercyfromallah3053
    @seekingmercyfromallah3053 4 года назад +11

    “The best among you are those who give the best treatment to their wives.” [Tirmidhi, Radah, 11; Ibn Majah, Niqah (Wedding), 50]

  • @patriciamaxey1464
    @patriciamaxey1464 11 лет назад +9

    Thank you for your teachings. I am an American, however I have always lived as a chaste woman. I have experienced terrible times through 27 years of stalking by a Black Italian Mafioso Pimp who although he never touched or had a relationship with me, after one encounter he decided to buy and sell something that was never intended to be bought or sold by Allah. He has since deceased, and it was only then that I regained my freedoms and life. I hope to give all women hope and faith in Allah.

  • @emaan456
    @emaan456 13 лет назад +3

    May ALLAH guide muslims and others to select a spouse according to sunnah...
    He is delivering in a great way...mashallah

  • @mariemaryam7091
    @mariemaryam7091 9 лет назад +9

    Jazakallah khair, for this most amazing lecture you given to everyone, especially us muslimah! SubhanaAllah

  • @zolaOT
    @zolaOT 13 лет назад +8

    he has alot of noor

  • @mishkaturrahman935
    @mishkaturrahman935 9 лет назад +20

    you r an amazing and influencing lecturer.i like you so much. may Allah grant us to follow what you
    say.ammen

  • @theshapeofmysoul3016
    @theshapeofmysoul3016 10 лет назад +10

    i wish to listen to your lectures all day

  • @farheenayaan7896
    @farheenayaan7896 7 лет назад +3

    amazing and you truly a blessed Muslim Allah protect you from all difficulty and your lectures are just eye opener .I was in a haram relationship and he was delaying marriage delaying and delaying ....I was very confused what to do but after listening you Allah has given me the hidayat .....god bless you mufti menk I will always remember you in duas

  • @NewNew-oe1hf
    @NewNew-oe1hf 5 лет назад +12

    While it's important for the primary caregiver-- statistically the wife-- to have good character, it's essential for the husband to have EQUALLY good character. Muhammad (pbuh) said of men who would marry your daughter to give preference to those who are God-fearing because he will be inclined to treat her right no matter how the marriage goes.
    And realistically speaking, so many people look for those who are more religious than they, but don't you think those same people are in turn looking for more religious people?
    If you want a certain level of quality, you should work on developing those qualities within yourself.

  • @mocro15A
    @mocro15A 4 года назад +4

    I wish it wasn't so hard to find a good man as a muslim woman. But soon inshallah I will...... find my man.

  • @zeinabmuhumed2376
    @zeinabmuhumed2376 4 года назад +2

    I love the sermon of sheikh mufti mnshllh may allah grant u in janah

  • @aprilapril4891
    @aprilapril4891 4 года назад +9

    Good spouse 😩 I admitted, I'm not so good,but I'm trying to be a GOOD MUSLIMAH 😇

  • @choudjist
    @choudjist 12 лет назад +7

    khalas i'm subscribing!!!! subhanaAllah what a reminder!

  • @nawazishkhan5831
    @nawazishkhan5831 8 лет назад +1

    Subhanallah jazakallah khair very well pointed out that beauty is temporary but taqwa/piety is permanent n anyway beauty lies in the eyes of beholder, really it's true

  • @madymadinah6425
    @madymadinah6425 9 лет назад +4

    May He da Almighty bless muft Ismail Menk

  • @graceamelia1331
    @graceamelia1331 3 года назад +2

    Am looking forward for the man of my dream, who is loving, caring and focus.

    • @abdursask
      @abdursask 3 года назад

      Pray to God first. Then try your best. And keep praying and trying. Prayers have a profound effect on our character it gives us strength and hope and keeps us optimistic in the Mercy of our Creator. The strongest people are the people of prayer. Pray for yourself and pray for others also. But pray to the One Creator who is alone in his Divinity and has power over all affairs.

  • @runnertowardslight9437
    @runnertowardslight9437 4 года назад +20

    Who searches a good wife, will find a good wife one time isha Allah.

  • @shallenlynn
    @shallenlynn 11 лет назад +9

    Islam encourages all to be critical thinkers. :)

  • @universeandbeyond3576
    @universeandbeyond3576 3 года назад +1

    Thank you so much Mufti Menk Sahab for guiding us. I feel blessed to have found your channel. Alhamdulillah!

  • @thahseenamariah2460
    @thahseenamariah2460 5 лет назад +3

    You are my role model, Subhan Allah

  • @ConciseAdvice21
    @ConciseAdvice21 12 лет назад +3

    Mashallah he mentions many beautiful advice.

  • @famaratraore7935
    @famaratraore7935 8 лет назад +4

    May god bless u mufti menk

  • @salhashillingssarah8217
    @salhashillingssarah8217 12 лет назад +1

    i like listening to his inspiring lectures

  • @abdurrahmanansari9443
    @abdurrahmanansari9443 5 лет назад +5

    O Allah grant us best spouses in india 🇮🇳 too

  • @maryamkalalagan8108
    @maryamkalalagan8108 9 лет назад +5

    mashaAllah
    well said
    very true

  • @ghazdaley2728
    @ghazdaley2728 6 лет назад +1

    You are a gift to us all from God with your wonderful teaching..thankyou for your words of wisdom

  • @trustsoulja
    @trustsoulja 11 лет назад +1

    i don't agree with the spirituality, but i agree 100% with the character part

  • @HayaMansur
    @HayaMansur 11 лет назад +2

    ma shaa Allah, this is the best advice.....

  • @hlmj5033
    @hlmj5033 9 лет назад +3

    so true dear Mufti so true,allah bless you Mufti(:

  • @behumantoallfirst2620
    @behumantoallfirst2620 4 года назад +1

    Very powerful advice Mashallah

  • @waytoguidance
    @waytoguidance 3 года назад +1

    SUB HAAN ALLAH It is true. I also pray to ALLAH to grant me a righteous and pious man who can bring me closer to ALLAH and to the correct sunnah of Prophet (S.A.W.W)

  • @barlinfarah6170
    @barlinfarah6170 11 лет назад +2

    Tabara llah!!! Jzk for posting. Nice lecture

  • @imranfarooqui5063
    @imranfarooqui5063 3 года назад +4

    Is it me or Mufti Menk said urdu word " CHALO" at 0:52? Walah! Mufti menk knows urdu:)

    • @yooshatarique019
      @yooshatarique019 3 года назад +1

      He has quite decent urdu. Just type mufi menk speaks urdu on RUclips

  • @faizanabbas4591
    @faizanabbas4591 4 года назад +1

    May Allah Help us on that matter also.Ameen.

  • @nangobirukaiya1911
    @nangobirukaiya1911 8 лет назад +3

    Mashaa Allah May Allah reward u abundantly

  • @sukaipenn8810
    @sukaipenn8810 3 года назад +2

    Peace and Blessings

  • @stinkyjimmy9336
    @stinkyjimmy9336 4 года назад +6

    Good video, but I wish he would have elaborated a bit on a woman’s perspective

  • @serediakite8549
    @serediakite8549 10 лет назад +2

    very true... Awakening

  • @abbs_996
    @abbs_996 4 года назад +1

    May Allah protect you❤

  • @abdullahrafiq3530
    @abdullahrafiq3530 5 лет назад +22

    At 0:52 He used urdu word "Chalo چلو" am i right?

  • @amitangara1064
    @amitangara1064 4 года назад +3

    MASHALLAH 🥰🥰🥰🥰

  • @khalil7708
    @khalil7708 6 лет назад +1

    Love listening to your talks ..always relatable .
    May Allah bless you

  • @Multazima
    @Multazima 12 лет назад +1

    @aalat Muhammad - as a practicing Muslim person, who respects the parents, pays charity both obligatory in my religion and voluntary, who prays five times a day to remember my creator and be thankful, fasts in order to correct the wrongs i commit, who tries their best to respect people, Muslim or non Muslim because my creator told me to. Is my brain really destroyed? No, if God wills. May God guide us to what is good.

  • @MsLovication
    @MsLovication 8 лет назад +6

    Mufti I love you, but why is someone with wrinkles automatically called ugly?
    That's kind of discirmination isn't it?
    I know women with wrinkles and they look good.

  • @trustsoulja
    @trustsoulja 11 лет назад +1

    I agree with you are the company you keep but it can vary

  • @shallenlynn
    @shallenlynn 11 лет назад +1

    The Quran relieved 1400 years ago what 'critical thinkers' are discovering just today . you are welcome to read 4 urself:"'If all the humans and all the jinns bonded together in order to produce a Quran like this, they could never produce anything like it, no matter how much assistance they lent one another.'" (Qur'an 17:88)
    And if you are in doubt as to which We have revealed to Our servant, then produce a sura like it, and call on your helper, besides Allah, if you are truthful. (Qur'an 2:23)

  • @maripedroza4376
    @maripedroza4376 3 года назад +1

    so what about a new convert Muslim like me? I pray that Allah guides me in Islam and submit my will to Allah. I also pray to Allah to give a Muslim husband to help me be a good Muslim wife, mother, and woman.

  • @abdulbasithassan403
    @abdulbasithassan403 4 года назад +1

    May Allah guide us all

  • @truth781
    @truth781 12 лет назад +2

    May ALLAH guide muslims

  • @natashamirza4026
    @natashamirza4026 4 года назад +1

    Well Said !!

  • @ummulkhairfatimahabibasakh9382
    @ummulkhairfatimahabibasakh9382 4 года назад +1

    Mashallah 😍

  • @julio14335
    @julio14335 11 лет назад

    WISDOM___For Men of understanding.

  • @unknown_system789
    @unknown_system789 2 года назад

    That's what matters

  • @rosedumerle4351
    @rosedumerle4351 5 лет назад +2

    Most cases I saw that even pious man will choose pretty girls over pious women. So what about the girls who aren’t pretty at all? I feel this discrimination that people care more about the look. No matter how kind you are, how pious you are, if you don’t have the look, it’s like, nothing.

    • @vegeta2261
      @vegeta2261 3 года назад

      It's not like that, I understand as humans, people tend to search for a face that pleases their eyes but not caring too much about pleasing Thier souls....and yes, sometimes i feel the same that without beauty we can't have a 2nd look, but stay firm on the path of ALLAH, for indeed ,if you happen to enter Jannah / heaven, there will surely be ultimate pleasure that you never want to trade for Worldly desires.....and for Noble men are nobel women and vice versa.

    • @siaseu7267
      @siaseu7267 2 года назад

      Some People who are behind girls for looks and shape, they're are people who destroy the life of girls after their desires are fulfilled and later they are harsh on them ,so even beautiful girls should look for a great charactered man.

  • @yahyaa321
    @yahyaa321 11 лет назад +3

    I will leave this to my parents

  • @ry-hw2fj
    @ry-hw2fj 3 года назад

    I am not married yet. A man who came to see me as a woman said he did not like me the reason is I can't speak English fluently. I worried It is impossible to get out of that anxiety
    What kind of people is this

  • @barristeraurinzahmed1728
    @barristeraurinzahmed1728 8 лет назад +1

    thank you brother..

  • @faquruddinaliahmed2115
    @faquruddinaliahmed2115 3 года назад +1

    Asalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu
    What shall I do bro, when parents & sister take a loan to build house & when we get good proposals at that time I cannot have to manage my marry. Then again we loss business & we reject from bride to late, they think I lied to them. What shall I do tell me. Sometimes I think being single is good. Alhumdulillah I Muslim I don't want to be single.

  • @bintehawa7712
    @bintehawa7712 2 года назад

    What are the qualities for choosing a husband in Islam?

  • @aprilsweetly2651
    @aprilsweetly2651 4 года назад +12

    Dear FUTURE HUSBAND,,,,,, where are you hiding 🤭 are u lost somewhere 🤭 do U need a MAP to find me in my country INDONESIA 😅

    • @SA-lr9co
      @SA-lr9co 4 года назад

      😂😂

    • @lilacblue783
      @lilacblue783 4 года назад +2

      My husband is playing hide and seek too. Honestly where on earth is he hiding!

    • @ajipratama5364
      @ajipratama5364 4 года назад

      Lain kali hati hati sma laki laki mbak, jd anak broken home itu sedih

    • @amitangara1064
      @amitangara1064 4 года назад

      April Sweetly 😂😂😂😂😹😹😹

    • @kaifianaaz9986
      @kaifianaaz9986 3 года назад +1

      Did he find the address my dear sister 😂

  • @adeniyisalimot6895
    @adeniyisalimot6895 6 лет назад

    Jazakum Lau Karen

  • @ahmrou82
    @ahmrou82 12 лет назад

    because he is the last messenger, and he is example to us even in the small matters. Jesus (pbuH) was a special prophet and he came to accomplish the message of Moses and bring the Jews back to the right path, but Mohamed was a messenger to whole mankind.

  • @unknown_system789
    @unknown_system789 2 года назад

    That's matters

  • @iamyawar7773
    @iamyawar7773 4 года назад +1

    Who noticed chalo for 10 the chalo word😄😄

  • @RS-yq1ty
    @RS-yq1ty 3 года назад +1

    How to know if a person swears and abuses if u are meeting him for the first time?

  • @sophiaahmed8267
    @sophiaahmed8267 12 лет назад +1

    yo, this maulana's so swaggie

  • @abahelayacoub6817
    @abahelayacoub6817 10 лет назад +1

    mashALLAH NICE

  • @vyonneeugine7507
    @vyonneeugine7507 4 года назад

    God bless you Sheikh good lecture to young people

  • @HakaFakarin
    @HakaFakarin 9 лет назад

    mashallah we all human and we all peatifull

    • @bestgktutorials7794
      @bestgktutorials7794 9 лет назад

      Ummu Muhammad yes of course my sister, beautiful isnt about having a pretty face its about having a pretty mind, pretty heart and pretty soul.

  • @sufiahossain9945
    @sufiahossain9945 6 лет назад +1

    JazakaAllah khair 💕💖💞❤

  • @SuperMakande
    @SuperMakande 12 лет назад

    MashAllah very nice

  • @neyg9206
    @neyg9206 12 лет назад

    Yes, indeed. You're right :)

  • @Moonlight-777
    @Moonlight-777 Год назад

    Facts.

  • @zeinabmuhumed2376
    @zeinabmuhumed2376 4 года назад

    Mnshllh may allah grant u in janaah

  • @jannatulferdaus9992
    @jannatulferdaus9992 2 года назад

    On behalf of a freind.
    She is in love with her cousin and her cousin loves her too (they are first cousin from mothers sidof the family). She spoke about it to her parents but her parents donot agree to it. They reason for their deniel is that it will bring problems to between two sisters. They say the boy is alright in everyway but they will not ruin two sisters relationship for this marriage. They give the reason that for two people 30 more relations will be ruined. The boys family says they do not have any problem to the marriage if the girls family agree.
    What should she do? How should she convince? She and the boy are very upset about this.
    Can muft menk help us eith the best advice Allah has given us.

  • @Lovelyshortstube8
    @Lovelyshortstube8 3 года назад +1

    he is talking like we have 1000 spouse around we cant even find 1 in this era of time every parents demading like the end of the world

  • @unknown_system789
    @unknown_system789 2 года назад

    I don't care what shape they are what they look like as long she loves me for the sake of Allah swt

  • @sayedaslam7138
    @sayedaslam7138 8 лет назад +1

    Sayed ASLAM good advice

  • @julio14335
    @julio14335 12 лет назад

    It goes both ways, also for women looking for husbands...Iternal beauty should come first. Im I making sense?

  • @cyrax70
    @cyrax70 11 лет назад +4

    continue hunting hahahaaa..! Very funny and intelligent sheik Mashallah!! :D

  • @ammarahjavaria7136
    @ammarahjavaria7136 4 года назад +1

    How to see his friends even we first time meet the person for marriage proposal. Can anyone suggest?

  • @anonymousb430
    @anonymousb430 3 года назад

    Im a female revert if i dont know much but im learning surely this will delay my whole completing half of my deen 😔

    • @Deen.Helper
      @Deen.Helper 3 года назад

      Don't worry, sister! May Allah guide you

    • @TyroneStitches
      @TyroneStitches 3 года назад

      we are learning until the day we die, God willing you'll have a righteous spouse so you can learn and grow together

  • @haadz135
    @haadz135 12 лет назад

    @highwind8124 bcoz he was 4 all nations till de day of judgement ....de bst
    jesus pbuh was de best at his time , moses pbuh was de bst at his time ......each prophet is de bst at thier times ...

  • @sydmaf
    @sydmaf 11 лет назад

    this man advices and says what has been said by Our prophet Muhammed peach be upon him. he imitates our Prophet Muhammed peach be upon him.

  • @waleedalghubrah
    @waleedalghubrah 10 лет назад +1

    Asalaamo alaikum
    Jazakallah

  • @hennapluscooking3169
    @hennapluscooking3169 3 года назад +1

    Does height matter when choosing a husband even tho he is practicing, good, good family and is loving ?

    • @aabidhussianlone1308
      @aabidhussianlone1308 3 года назад +1

      Indeed it doesn't matter.
      Religion and Good character matters and others are the secondary things depends on person to person.

    • @kaifianaaz9986
      @kaifianaaz9986 3 года назад +1

      May i get answer....for eg. If a marriage proposal has come n u saw picture of the guy..it made u angry and didn't like him. Does the verse of Quran (there's thing u like but its bad for u and there's thing u hate but its good for you) impacts here..may Allah forgive me for not quoting it properly

    • @abdursask
      @abdursask 3 года назад +1

      @@kaifianaaz9986 according to my understanding NO that does not apply here. I believe that verse is talking about trusting Allah in general and always being content with the Qadar of Allah. But at the same time listen to your heart. It you are not content ask yourself if you wanna keep searching. Don't get into something this important having negative feelings. Allah knows best.

  • @mecutepretty5064
    @mecutepretty5064 5 лет назад +2

    How can someone looks for his or her own spouse if thier parents is the one who arrange thier marriage?😢😢

  • @CatsandAnimals213
    @CatsandAnimals213 2 года назад

    Its almost impossible to look into how the potential person's friends are like nd everything. Because here in pakistan arranged marriages happen thru marriage bureaus and there is not much u get to know aboht unknown people. I am going thru this phase. And i hve already lost interedt in marriage since all of this has become very intimidating for me

  • @pnkkanngan5580
    @pnkkanngan5580 8 лет назад +1

    😇😇😇Good adviser 😇😇😇

  • @gazalamaster5562
    @gazalamaster5562 5 лет назад

    very logical explanation

  • @weerasamart4781
    @weerasamart4781 6 лет назад +1

    Wish to be good English one. Need to reach to know and understand all he said. May Allah helps me.