😳 What I love the most about Don is his willingness to be open and honest and his ability to really allow his viewers to see/know who he is. I know of no one who can, or cares, to reveal themselves. I consider this choice to be a gift he is giving himself and to us, his fans.
Thank you so much for a balanced yet hopeful talk on a difficult topic (wiser and happier as you said)! In addition to your very significant caseload, you are much needed to educate and inspire many out there in the world, thanks to your youtube lectures. I have gained much more from your talks than the CPD events I declare in my annual return to the psychoanalytic professional body. Please do consider travelling to London to give a talk in person. I am sure there will be a lot of interest.
Hospice is already ending it for many. They starved my mother for 8 days before she died. She had lewy body dementia. If I lose my mind, please don't starve me to death. I like to have something quick and painless when nobody wants to put up with me anymore. That might be illegal.
I am afraid of the chaos of altzhiemers. Death seems a releasing from attachments, sturm und drang, craving. Breathing, Quiet, listening, pausing when aggitated , beginning with silence. Thank you for another clear shot at reality. Your dysphoric, partly sunny listener. Jenn F.
It’s interesting that most death concepts imply an afterlife within the very formulation of any “after I die, I will… “ statement. After I die, who is this “I” who will be wherever?
Dr. Carveth, thank you for this lecture. As you know, I’ve been grateful for the conversations we have had. This conversation is particularly meaningful to me right now given my father’s failing health. I will take you with me always in my continued work. I’m so grateful for your lectures and your influence on the way I practice. All the best to you
That was a great video. I'm a younger man and I went through a phase where i feared death to an extreme degree, but not because I feared death itself, but because I feared my wife and my kids what would they do without me it seems like if you didn't have those attachments in life death would be a cakewalk. In the book The gulag archipelago back when they wanted to get you to sign a confession Alexandra said that they would play tapes of women screaming from the other room so u would think it was your wife to get you to sign the confession. Alexandra quotes Christ after that and he says " how wise was the person who stated that a man's family are his enemies" although Alexandra and Christ meant to different things by the quote it seems like that " works in multiple situations because me having a family makes me fear things that without a family there would be no fear I would just face the problem head-on whether that be death or anything but this was a very great video professor although I don't agree with you on not liking Carl Jung lol
Don you are a genius, I love the way you play with the movement between depth and surface, between the unspoken and the spoken. You talk about death and present your life full of creativity and playful thinking. How lucky we are to have heard a person like you while we are still alive. You add a spice to our day-to-day therapeutic practice that turns imagination and love on . Thank you Don for who you are. Hello from Israel
Thank you for this wonderful video. It was one of the sweetest talks on this bitter topic of death and physicianly amusing also. Especially I liked min 27-28 on the importance of women appreciation and effect of hormones:) I truly wish some comfortable years for you and your loved ones ahead with not much pain. Sincerely.
Well here's hoping you will be with us for many many years to come as we need people like you at the top of the profession, who can talk about ordinary things in a way that both illuminates the psychoanalytic theories, and also speaks to human beings in a way that they can relate to and understand. We're all tiny specks in a great big universe, trying to work out what the heck it's all about. Thank you for continuing to share your life and professional experiences. They are so nourishing, and inspiring. So thank you again.
1 Tim 4:10 Faith comprehends as fact what cannot be experienced by the physical senses. When u know something, it's a product of learning; however, when you believe, belief is a product of faith, a product of trusting. It's a matter of heart. John 20:29 blessed An unbeliever can know of God. They can know there is a God who exists; however, a Christian believes in God. U don't have to see angels in order to believe the word of God that tells you that the angel of the LORD encamps around all those who fear him. U don't need to see the Holy Spirit in order to believe that he is there and that he is a helper. Believing is surrendering to Jesus Christ. Now we have a choice to either trust Jesus Christ or be overwhelmed with our circumstances. This doctor is blessed. 🙂
Something I want to ask old people (but I just never meet old people, or in an environment that allows me to ask like deep questions) is how they dealt with the death of their parents. Idk how I will handle that when it happens to me
Dr Carveth, could you give us a talk about working psychoanalytically with individuals that have a hx of drug and alcohol abuse, gambling, compulsive sexual behaviours but that are at present sober/abstinent? How would you best approach the work, assess risk during treatment, formulate etc.
I have worked successfully with alcoholics, but never with cocaine addicts. I draw attention to the defensive functions of drinking in numbing pain, defending against anger, and as a reaction to despair and self loathing. I explore of the reasons for the anger and the self-loathing. Sometimes the patient is in an unloving, even abusive relationship and is not really aware of the damage that is doing. These problems are rooted in childhood and so we explore their childhood situation, their identifications, the reasons their self-esteem is so eroded. I build a strong working alliance by being non-judge mental, warm, humane, forgiving in the face of setbacks, etc. I think the therapists warmth is a crucial factor. I am not an emergency psychiatrist and I do not feel it is my responsibility to keep patients alive or sober. If they can make it to my office, not under the influence of course [I tell them they’re welcome back when they can come sober], I analyze them. They know there are emergency rooms were needed and physicians who will prescribe if they feel that is needed. I have a patient who several times a year checks himself into a hospital addictions unit to dry out when his drinking has crept back up excessively. I am not an AA ideologye, Well that organization has been helpful to many people, but not all.
you didn't mention your own practice in the effects that ripple beyond our switch being on or off. Im positive that though unknown to you, you gave the many a meaningful page in their path for self discovery.. but does that ripple take effect in your own pond? (this was around 7 minutes in.) and though they are RUclips videos, I think from a viewpoint of death and the effects that live beyond that, these are rocks!
Maybe you will be pleasantly surprised when you die to know you still have consciousness but not a body and we return to the light where we all come from. The worst is the pain that can happen in transitioning out of the body - the same as pain experienced from transitioning/coming into the world through a woman. If psychoanalysis is spirituality as you say it is, - then maybe listen to Near death experiences- it’s more than a chemical reaction - the brain is only a transmitter and not the soul/consciousness- we are here to learn about self love and to give love-
Prof. Carveth, in the first minutes of the video you hinted at being unsatisfied with certain sociological perspectives in your early years of studying. I wonder if you, as an analyst and sociologist, have a take regarding the identity issues that seemed to have gained significance in the last years in the US and Canada, specifically newer claims of gender theories and critical race theory.
I can’t comment on critical race theory, but I must say the aspects of psychoanalysis that I have from the beginning found least interesting concern gender. What is most interesting in psychoanalysis concerns how we become a self at all, let alone a gendered self.
I am surprised that an alcoholism/any other addiction is just a bad habit though, according to Pr Don Carveth. I agree that's not an illness but bad habit isn't too simplistic for something that can cost some one life?
@doncarveth 😀 Prof. Carveth, the fact that a "heroin " addict calls it a habit doesn't surprise me. But it does surprise me that you seem to agree? I'd thought there was a more complex explanation? I have spent hours listening to your lectures that helped me understand certain complex psychoanalytical concepts and some maladaptive behaviours based on psychoanalytic thought. Respectfully, RG
@doncarveth I have a habit of eating eggs for breakfast, but I wouldn't commit a crime act if I don't/can't have them for whatever reasons. Are we talking about the same thing? What is a habit?
😳 What I love the most about Don is his willingness to be open and honest and his ability to really allow his viewers to see/know who he is. I know of no one who can, or cares, to reveal themselves. I consider this choice to be a gift he is giving himself and to us, his fans.
Dr Carveth, you are so alive! Thank you for this open and vibrant interview.
Thank you
Always a pleasure to listen to prof. Carveth
Thank you so much for a balanced yet hopeful talk on a difficult topic (wiser and happier as you said)! In addition to your very significant caseload, you are much needed to educate and inspire many out there in the world, thanks to your youtube lectures. I have gained much more from your talks than the CPD events I declare in my annual return to the psychoanalytic professional body. Please do consider travelling to London to give a talk in person. I am sure there will be a lot of interest.
Thank you
Always enjoy your videos Dr. Carveth
Those who can sit quietly at the end, know they have lived a life of meaning, for themselves.
Hospice is already ending it for many. They starved my mother for 8 days before she died. She had lewy body dementia. If I lose my mind, please don't starve me to death. I like to have something quick and painless when nobody wants to put up with me anymore. That might be illegal.
I am afraid of the chaos of altzhiemers. Death seems a releasing from attachments, sturm und drang, craving. Breathing, Quiet, listening, pausing when aggitated , beginning with silence. Thank you for another clear shot at reality. Your dysphoric, partly sunny listener. Jenn F.
Dysphoric, partly sunny: that’s a pretty good description of the depressive reparative position, Jenn
I never expected to agree so much with you on this topic, for whatever reason. Happy to hear you.
It’s interesting that most death concepts imply an afterlife within the very formulation of any “after I die, I will… “ statement. After I die, who is this “I” who will be wherever?
Dr. Carveth, thank you for this lecture. As you know, I’ve been grateful for the conversations we have had. This conversation is particularly meaningful to me right now given my father’s failing health. I will take you with me always in my continued work. I’m so grateful for your lectures and your influence on the way I practice. All the best to you
Christina, thank you so much. I wish you all the best.
That was a great video. I'm a younger man and I went through a phase where i feared death to an extreme degree, but not because I feared death itself, but because I feared my wife and my kids what would they do without me it seems like if you didn't have those attachments in life death would be a cakewalk. In the book The gulag archipelago back when they wanted to get you to sign a confession Alexandra said that they would play tapes of women screaming from the other room so u would think it was your wife to get you to sign the confession. Alexandra quotes Christ after that and he says " how wise was the person who stated that a man's family are his enemies" although Alexandra and Christ meant to different things by the quote it seems like that " works in multiple situations because me having a family makes me fear things that without a family there would be no fear I would just face the problem head-on whether that be death or anything but this was a very great video professor although I don't agree with you on not liking Carl Jung lol
Good point. Thank you
Don you are a genius, I love the way you play with the movement between depth and surface, between the unspoken and the spoken. You talk about death and present your life full of creativity and playful thinking. How lucky we are to have heard a person like you while we are still alive. You add a spice to our day-to-day therapeutic practice that turns imagination and love on . Thank you Don for who you are. Hello from Israel
Thank you so much.
Hi Don I like the way you offset the serious topic with lighthearted exuberance
Thank you for this wonderful video. It was one of the sweetest talks on this bitter topic of death and physicianly amusing also. Especially I liked min 27-28 on the importance of women appreciation and effect of hormones:)
I truly wish some comfortable years for you and your loved ones ahead with not much pain. Sincerely.
Thank you Sahar
@@doncarveth زندگی رسم خوشایندی است
زندگی بال و پری دارد با وسعت مرگ
پرشی دارد اندازه عشق
زندگی چیزی نیست که لب طاقچه عادت از یادمن و تو برود
Well here's hoping you will be with us for many many years to come as we need people like you at the top of the profession, who can talk about ordinary things in a way that both illuminates the psychoanalytic theories, and also speaks to human beings in a way that they can relate to and understand. We're all tiny specks in a great big universe, trying to work out what the heck it's all about. Thank you for continuing to share your life and professional experiences. They are so nourishing, and inspiring. So thank you again.
Well thank you very much, but I don’t think it’s hard for us to work out what it’s all about: it’s about loving one another.
@@doncarveth agreed, but some seem to find loving one another surprisingly difficult.
@@JM-xk3xs Yes, they’re angry and can’t get over it
Don was on fire here, 'Life is one damn thing after another'...'but we don't know what death is'...hopefully it's not another of those damn things:)
Amen
1 Tim 4:10
Faith comprehends as fact what cannot be experienced by the physical senses.
When u know something, it's a product of learning; however, when you believe, belief is a product of faith, a product of trusting. It's a matter of heart.
John 20:29 blessed
An unbeliever can know of God. They can know there is a God who exists; however, a Christian believes in God.
U don't have to see angels in order to believe the word of God that tells you that the angel of the LORD encamps around all those who fear him. U don't need to see the Holy Spirit in order to believe that he is there and that he is a helper. Believing is surrendering to Jesus Christ. Now we have a choice to either trust Jesus Christ or be overwhelmed with our circumstances.
This doctor is blessed. 🙂
Something I want to ask old people (but I just never meet old people, or in an environment that allows me to ask like deep questions) is how they dealt with the death of their parents. Idk how I will handle that when it happens to me
Dr Carveth, could you give us a talk about working psychoanalytically with individuals that have a hx of drug and alcohol abuse, gambling, compulsive sexual behaviours but that are at present sober/abstinent? How would you best approach the work, assess risk during treatment, formulate etc.
I have worked successfully with alcoholics, but never with cocaine addicts. I draw attention to the defensive functions of drinking in numbing pain, defending against anger, and as a reaction to despair and self loathing. I explore of the reasons for the anger and the self-loathing. Sometimes the patient is in an unloving, even abusive relationship and is not really aware of the damage that is doing. These problems are rooted in childhood and so we explore their childhood situation, their identifications, the reasons their self-esteem is so eroded. I build a strong working alliance by being non-judge mental, warm, humane, forgiving in the face of setbacks, etc. I think the therapists warmth is a crucial factor. I am not an emergency psychiatrist and I do not feel it is my responsibility to keep patients alive or sober. If they can make it to my office, not under the influence of course [I tell them they’re welcome back when they can come sober], I analyze them. They know there are emergency rooms were needed and physicians who will prescribe if they feel that is needed. I have a patient who several times a year checks himself into a hospital addictions unit to dry out when his drinking has crept back up excessively. I am not an AA ideologye, Well that organization has been helpful to many people, but not all.
@@doncarveth gracias! this is really valuable advise and helps to orient the work.
@@Vdor welcome
you didn't mention your own practice in the effects that ripple beyond our switch being on or off. Im positive that though unknown to you, you gave the many a meaningful page in their path for self discovery.. but does that ripple take effect in your own pond?
(this was around 7 minutes in.)
and though they are RUclips videos, I think from a viewpoint of death and the effects that live beyond that, these are rocks!
Yes, I hope the videos, and books, and the work with patients all send out positive ripples.
Another option could be that of ‘rational mystic’. The rational mind consubstatial with the mystical, so to speak. JennF.
your thoughts are always illuminaing. thanks. what are your thoughts on the truck convoy?
I hope you write that book.
Well it turns out that one of the chapters I had in mind has already been published in my 2018 book! But, who knows, maybe…
Maybe you will be pleasantly surprised when you die to know you still have consciousness but not a body and we return to the light where we all come from. The worst is the pain that can happen in transitioning out of the body - the same as pain experienced from transitioning/coming into the world through a woman. If psychoanalysis is spirituality as you say it is, - then maybe listen to Near death experiences- it’s more than a chemical reaction - the brain is only a transmitter and not the soul/consciousness- we are here to learn about self love and to give love-
That is a wonderful story. I hope it’s true.
Prof. Carveth, in the first minutes of the video you hinted at being unsatisfied with certain sociological perspectives in your early years of studying. I wonder if you, as an analyst and sociologist, have a take regarding the identity issues that seemed to have gained significance in the last years in the US and Canada, specifically newer claims of gender theories and critical race theory.
I can’t comment on critical race theory, but I must say the aspects of psychoanalysis that I have from the beginning found least interesting concern gender. What is most interesting in psychoanalysis concerns how we become a self at all, let alone a gendered self.
I am surprised that an alcoholism/any other addiction is just a bad habit though, according to Pr Don Carveth. I agree that's not an illness but bad habit isn't too simplistic for something that can cost some one life?
Interesting that heroin addicts often refer to their “habit”
@doncarveth 😀 Prof. Carveth, the fact that a "heroin " addict calls it a habit doesn't surprise me. But it does surprise me that you seem to agree? I'd thought there was a more complex explanation? I
have spent hours listening to your lectures that helped me understand certain complex psychoanalytical concepts and some maladaptive behaviours based on psychoanalytic thought.
Respectfully,
RG
@doncarveth
I have a habit of eating eggs for breakfast, but I wouldn't commit a crime act if I don't/can't have them for whatever reasons. Are we talking about the same thing? What is a habit?
@@L0ND0NMAN good habits, bad habits
@@L0ND0NMAN some people are habitually sadistic, some habitually masochistic, others habitually narcissistic
Yeah, Freud was a materialist too. A major limitation to his thinking, in my judgment
Once CC hits, doctors will be handing out sleeping pills to anyone wanting them.
Hi Don can I interview you as well?
We could arrange a Skype or Zoom call to discuss the possibilities. Email me. dcarveth@gmail.com
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