It all starts with a healthy relationship to yourself. Want good? Be good to yourself and you will naturally attract good healthy partners and repel bad ones 💯
This confirms two things I was taught early on: 1) Have a healthy self esteem before you enter a relationship. This is where my fitness and martial arts goals fit for me as well as the business I built around them later on. 2) Spend at LEAST 12-18 months getting to know someone before you consider marriage. My exes typically wanted to get married within six months or so and I always stood on my square. By the 8-10 month mark, I found out that we weren't compatible and since we didn't live together or have any children (I don't live with anyone I'm not engaged to nor have kids with anyone I'm not married to), no harm, no foul for either of us. Glad to see science confirming what good dating coaches were saying in the early 90s up until the loser redpill/manosphere started saturating airwaves. Great video!
@SunshineAndSnowflakes absolutely! Your 2.5 year mark isn't that far off from mine as it matches my timeline essentially. It's one of the reasons I move in only if I'm engaged. That to me is the trial period to see if we can TRULY stand each other whilst living together. I know I have a lot of habits that can drive people nuts. For example, I'll do things such as wash my clothes and toss them on my bed and put them away later (after I'm done working) which may be annoying to some. I'm also one to use the dishwasher (something my mom hated growing up because she viewed it as a waste of electricity). I also wash most of my dishes after I use them, but let them soak for a few minutes (another thing my mother hated). All that to say, I agree with you on your timeline and science is now confirming what people like us have known for years. Thanks for the kind words and making sense as always.
@SunshineAndSnowflakes hey, you're better than most. I knew a guy who didn't even bother using a hamper when his clothes were dirty, so they were all over the floor. At least yours are clean! 🤣🤣🤣
Law of magnetism. Be what you want to attract. If you want a loving relationship, have a loving relationship with yourself. Everyone's been screaming this one in our ears for decades and it truly is the only answer.
This video made me realize that when I met my ex severely DA partner I had a deep subconacious fear of rejection, and maybe I still have it to a degree, even though while we were together I was constantly fighting for and displaying intimacy. Thank you, I know what self-work to focus on because I'd rather die than be with an emotionally unavailable avoidant again.
Yes it taught me A LOT about myself. He was insecure and made me super stressed out. In the power struggle stage, we did in fact struggle and he just couldn’t take the criticism anymore and broke up with me. It hurt but I was holding onto an unhealthy relationship.
This one guy used a tactic beloved of many individuals since time begun. Introduce your girl to addictive drugs. Clean and sober eight years but he's trying to make friends with my Dad as we speak.
I've found a deep unconditional love for my self like no other after I healed and it's time to get my ex back and help her heal as a DA because she has been trying and I need your help, what advice do you have for me please 🙏
I watched the vulnerability webinar recently posted to RUclips and it made me miss PDS so much...ugh. Okay, okkkay, I have been missing it before that video, but avoided watching any content til that webinar and I really miss it. It made me emotional. Luckily, something good came from me leaving and that is I am now enrolled in vulnerability school and we have online live group meetings and I am making progress in my fears around being vulnerable. Also, I just got approved as a client of ketamine therapy and have a 1-to-1 therapist, something I have not been willing to do in years, bc I could not trust the therapist in order to open up. Thank you for sharing the vulnerability webinar on RUclips and for giving so much of yourself and your time to the PDS community and to your RUclips followers. I don't know how you do this much. AI will never catch up to you!!
My marriage was reverse. I was the one triggering my ex wife. Again this may be a different case but my ex wife had suppressed relationship trauma, so our marriage triggered her. She is now in therapy. She is an FA I don’t know if so from childhood or the past partner that really hurt her. I was over coupled in her trauma brain so I triggered her badly w/out knowing.
Thank you for the videos Miss Thais. I use these as tools to help me with my learning disability, I can see this working not just romantic relationships but for proper friendships as well for the opposite sex.
I finally got to a point to where I can meet all my needs so this idea that we need some one to know who we are so they can meet our needs is absurd and just goes to show how outdated relationships are
Me, the FA: dating for a year? 👀👀 My longest and healthiest relationship lasted about 18 months before i pulled the pin and 💥 I've a history of blowing past dating quickly. Trying to do things differently is awkward and uncomfortable but the old way does not work so here i go
Good and helpful, thank you very much! Many words are impossible to make out though, no matter how nay times I re-listen. The textmachine can sometimes do it, but if possible, please articulate each word clearly, since one spends a lot of one's life-time and nerve enewrgy listening on your videos. I resisted you at first because of this. Maybe someone else, as a proof-listener? Because your talks are good otherwise. Please do activate my full membership so that I can do my healing work now. Have waited in the air for too long , since Nov. 18th, your Q'nA, 5 months! I look forward to this. I have written to you (on YT) and Sylvia many many times. Thank you, and all the best tp you! Claudia.
It all starts with a healthy relationship to yourself. Want good? Be good to yourself and you will naturally attract good healthy partners and repel bad ones 💯
Having a healthy relationship to yourself is definitely crucial! Thank you for sharing! ❤
Exactly!
That's the root, other relationships blossom out of it
I'm finally falling in love with myself, and I'm 47!
This confirms two things I was taught early on:
1) Have a healthy self esteem before you enter a relationship. This is where my fitness and martial arts goals fit for me as well as the business I built around them later on.
2) Spend at LEAST 12-18 months getting to know someone before you consider marriage. My exes typically wanted to get married within six months or so and I always stood on my square. By the 8-10 month mark, I found out that we weren't compatible and since we didn't live together or have any children (I don't live with anyone I'm not engaged to nor have kids with anyone I'm not married to), no harm, no foul for either of us.
Glad to see science confirming what good dating coaches were saying in the early 90s up until the loser redpill/manosphere started saturating airwaves. Great video!
Thank you for sharing your experiences! ❤
@SunshineAndSnowflakes absolutely! Your 2.5 year mark isn't that far off from mine as it matches my timeline essentially. It's one of the reasons I move in only if I'm engaged. That to me is the trial period to see if we can TRULY stand each other whilst living together. I know I have a lot of habits that can drive people nuts. For example, I'll do things such as wash my clothes and toss them on my bed and put them away later (after I'm done working) which may be annoying to some. I'm also one to use the dishwasher (something my mom hated growing up because she viewed it as a waste of electricity). I also wash most of my dishes after I use them, but let them soak for a few minutes (another thing my mother hated).
All that to say, I agree with you on your timeline and science is now confirming what people like us have known for years. Thanks for the kind words and making sense as always.
@@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool you're welcome!
@SunshineAndSnowflakes hey, you're better than most. I knew a guy who didn't even bother using a hamper when his clothes were dirty, so they were all over the floor. At least yours are clean! 🤣🤣🤣
Law of magnetism. Be what you want to attract. If you want a loving relationship, have a loving relationship with yourself. Everyone's been screaming this one in our ears for decades and it truly is the only answer.
This video made me realize that when I met my ex severely DA partner I had a deep subconacious fear of rejection, and maybe I still have it to a degree, even though while we were together I was constantly fighting for and displaying intimacy. Thank you, I know what self-work to focus on because I'd rather die than be with an emotionally unavailable avoidant again.
Have you ever ended up in a relationship with the wrong person for you? What was your experience like? ❤
Yes it taught me A LOT about myself. He was insecure and made me super stressed out. In the power struggle stage, we did in fact struggle and he just couldn’t take the criticism anymore and broke up with me. It hurt but I was holding onto an unhealthy relationship.
I guess? Went from honeymoon to ghosted in 3 days. Lost.
This one guy used a tactic beloved of many individuals since time begun. Introduce your girl to addictive drugs. Clean and sober eight years but he's trying to make friends with my Dad as we speak.
I've found a deep unconditional love for my self like no other after I healed and it's time to get my ex back and help her heal as a DA because she has been trying and I need your help, what advice do you have for me please 🙏
I watched the vulnerability webinar recently posted to RUclips and it made me miss PDS so much...ugh. Okay, okkkay, I have been missing it before that video, but avoided watching any content til that webinar and I really miss it. It made me emotional. Luckily, something good came from me leaving and that is I am now enrolled in vulnerability school and we have online live group meetings and I am making progress in my fears around being vulnerable. Also, I just got approved as a client of ketamine therapy and have a 1-to-1 therapist, something I have not been willing to do in years, bc I could not trust the therapist in order to open up. Thank you for sharing the vulnerability webinar on RUclips and for giving so much of yourself and your time to the PDS community and to your RUclips followers. I don't know how you do this much. AI will never catch up to you!!
#it takes two
#it starts with you
This is the best lesson I've learned in my life!
My marriage was reverse. I was the one triggering my ex wife. Again this may be a different case but my ex wife had suppressed relationship trauma, so our marriage triggered her. She is now in therapy. She is an FA I don’t know if so from childhood or the past partner that really hurt her. I was over coupled in her trauma brain so I triggered her badly w/out knowing.
Thank you. I'm so glad and thankful that I found your channel last year.
Thank you for the videos Miss Thais. I use these as tools to help me with my learning disability, I can see this working not just romantic relationships but for proper friendships as well for the opposite sex.
Thank you so much for putting this information together and sharing it in this way, your videos are very helpful to me - I appreciate you! 🙏
Thank you for this!! It gave me some ideas!!
You're so welcome! I'm happy to hear that! 🤗
I finally got to a point to where I can meet all my needs so this idea that we need some one to know who we are so they can meet our needs is absurd and just goes to show how outdated relationships are
Me, the FA: dating for a year? 👀👀 My longest and healthiest relationship lasted about 18 months before i pulled the pin and 💥 I've a history of blowing past dating quickly. Trying to do things differently is awkward and uncomfortable but the old way does not work so here i go
Is there a link to the shadow work mentioned and other free resources ?
Lol, me & my dog watch these videos for entertainment purposes only. Woof !
We know, Gregory. You tell us every single video
My little sausage dog is snugged up around my neck while watching this😅
@@user-lolo14 / it helps the creator to leave a comment. Shalom
😂
@@gregorystinette8271 indeed it does. Peace be with you
Good and helpful, thank you very much! Many words are impossible to make out though, no matter how nay times I re-listen. The textmachine can sometimes do it, but if possible, please articulate each word clearly, since one spends a lot of one's life-time and nerve enewrgy listening on your videos. I resisted you at first because of this. Maybe someone else, as a proof-listener? Because your talks are good otherwise.
Please do activate my full membership so that I can do my healing work now. Have waited in the air for too long , since Nov. 18th, your Q'nA, 5 months! I look forward to this. I have written to you (on YT) and Sylvia many many times. Thank you, and all the best tp you! Claudia.