Thank you Clive, it meant so much to me to see where I came from genetically. I never wanted to disrupt their lives. Inside, when I do get together with them, I have a feeling, an instant comfortability that was unknown to me prior. Other people probably just take this good feeling for granted, it’s pretty incredible. Anyway, feelings aside, I wasn’t known or raised part of their lives, I’m not included in their family reunions; and I get that. I’m not family, I’m genetically linked. It’s strange because the ppl I grew up hearing about a lot, (because my adoptive mom was heavy into genealogy)- I have ZERO relation to! I sign on to 23-n-me… and I expect to connect with and see all my ‘relatives’. Yet, these are all names of strangers and idk a soul.
We actually did have months to speak together on the phone. I had spent time with my birth father because we found him first and my dearest friends for life flew me up to visit him, God bless them. My birth mother was found later and lived further, the show helped to bring us all together and they were very supportive. They even bussed my family, friends, and neighbors to the show and back.
Hey Maggie, I agree, these old shows stir up that nostalgia. Carol Duvall sure is something else, a woman ahead of herself, really, imagine what she would have done with Pinterest, Instagram, even Tik-Tok, and reality Maker-type shows, she would have dominated!! As it was she ran continuously on TV for about 20 years, most of that her OWN show doing Crafts! Amazing. As of July‘22, she is alive and well with her husband, 2 children, she is 74, living in Michigan. To read up more on Carol, here’s a link. Thanks for watching my video. I apologize for not responding earlier. en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Carol_Duvall
I LOVE these reunion videos but not when they're done on talk shows. I can't imagine how difficult this is for the participants. I know if it was me meeting a child I had given up at birth I would not want it to happen so publicly. I'm sure I'd be a bawling mess. There's no chance to greet each other with what you really want to say to each other when so many people are sitting there making you feel like you're on display in a zoo. And it was highly uncomfortable when Pam went to sit down, walked right past Ray and didn't look at him or even say "Hello". They must have felt very awkward at that moment.
Sorry for not responding to comments a long time ago. My birth mother and I did have many months of long phone conversations, we just weren’t able to meet in person until the show helped everything/everyone come together.
pretty rude birth mother didnt even greet the birth father at all despite he seemed really pleased to see her he remained a gentleman during the show..
That told me volumes. I don't think his story about not knowing and her family moving away is all there is to it. He knew and gave her no support at the time is my guess. As far as you calling her rude, the poor woman was very emotional and on camera. It was obvious to me it was not he choice to give her child up but something she was made to do. Give her a break.
Hey Lauren, Thanks for watching and responding. I apologize for not responding until now on any of the comments. There was an awful lot of emotions taking place within those few minutes, I wouldn’t hold it against Pam or try to read too much into it. I did find my birth-father first, was able to get together with him and talk face to face, also with his family. I was able to talk frequently with my birth-mother, but we weren’t able to physically get together until the show offered to bring us all together. Pam and Ray also had the chance to briefly speak on the phone prior to the show. We were ALL very nervous and we all had high hopes. At this particular moment, both Pam and Ray were single and individually they both confessed to me they had hopes of possibilities…. So that was also bubbling underneath because that love between them was never resolved, they both talked to me about that. I knew they both were envisioning the teenage version of the other, though. That’s no longer the case!! I knew more about the current versions, I knew, in my heart, that they just were no longer a ‘Match’ for each other. I didn’t want to discourage either of them, it’s not MY place, they found out pretty quickly, and that was a bit of a heartbreak for both of them ❤️
Thanks for uploading. Sad the nasty negative comments on here. It was a different time in the 60's when we were born. Things were more conservative and children born out of wedlock were usually placed for adoption. My mom said in high school that one girl she knew was absolutely devastated that she was forced into having her twin babies adopted. Are any of your birth or adopted parents still living? I'm so glad you were able to find them
Yes Gina, it was a very different time in the 60’s and it’s so strange that the pendulum is swinging back to the 60’s era again. That’s a very scary thought. Yes, my birth mother did not want to give me up but was forced to by her parents, there were attempts to have her miscarry but it was unsuccessful. They wanted NO ONE to know because of the shame it’d bring to their family. She was hidden away, whisked off in the night to St. Anne’s Maternity Ward in LA, until the deed was done. Told not to look or touch, she broke the rule and looked, her mother refused to look and told her it never happened, I was DEAD, to never discuss it, don’t mention it, nothing, ever again, period. Her mother held true to that to the end. My birth mother suffered greatly emotionally, depression, never receiving proper therapy, maybe even postpartum depression, who knows? She had a very hard time, life. Us meeting was helpful and healing for both of us, she had to know I was alright. I always just wanted to thank her for such an unselfish act of placing me for adoption, even though it wasn’t really her choice. I was glad to be raised by the parents I had, instead of a single teenage mother, who had no support from her family. It was the right choice, I ache she suffered because of it, that hurts.
BTW: Pam, my birth mother passed in 2017, My adoptive mother died in 2014 My adoptive father died in 2016 My husband died in 2002 (He is not on camera, but he is there) I have 4 children now, my youngest was born in 12-94
I’m still here, I had a 4th child, a girl in ‘94 so we had 2+2, that’s what my husband was really hoping for. Unfortunately my husband died in ‘02. I lost my adoptive mother in 2014, my adoptive father in 2016, my birth mother in 2017. My birth father is doing good. His house burned down with the horrible fires up in Oregon a cpl years ago. I have had my own health struggles and need surgeries (genetically discovered we have horrible back problems, oh yay) so I’ve been immersed in dealing with hospice here, myself, kids, home… They have their own lives, we stay in touch a bit. I know my place is here with my kids, I didn’t grow up around all of my birth fathers family, so I know I am only genetically linked.
The kids don't know Pam and Ray as grandparents. They just met. Pan and Ray weren't involved in the kids' lives before then. You can't just force people into a relationship instantly.
Unless there's a DNA test, we don't know if they are her birthday parents. She doesn't look like either one. I think that she might have been switched on the hospital.
We have easy DNA kits now. My birth father, Ray, had no doubt I was his as they were bf/gf for almost 2years in High School. We’re talking 1960 here, and Pam was 15 when they started dating. She wasn’t with anyone else and neither was he, they were in love and talked about getting married after High School. Yes, I am genetically linked to both sides thanks to the quick and easy 23nMe and also AncestryDNA. I was blown away how much I could see of myself, and my children, in the high school yearbook photos of my birth parents!!
I belong to 23-nMe as well as Ancestry and it’s No Doubt as I am linked to BOTH parents. I actually look just like both of them, but thanks for your scientific assessment
Yes, thanks, I was amazed. When I first found my birth father, after we spoke a couple times he dug out his last HS yearbook that had both their pictures and sent it to me. That was the first time I looked at an image of anyone I was genetically related to. I am tearing up now remembering how emotional that moment is. I was amazed how I look so much like both of them really.
FAMILY. ARE. VERY. IMPORTANT. GLAD. U. FOUND. EACH. OTHER
Thank you Clive, it meant so much to me to see where I came from genetically. I never wanted to disrupt their lives. Inside, when I do get together with them, I have a feeling, an instant comfortability that was unknown to me prior. Other people probably just take this good feeling for granted, it’s pretty incredible.
Anyway, feelings aside, I wasn’t known or raised part of their lives, I’m not included in their family reunions; and I get that. I’m not family, I’m genetically linked. It’s strange because the ppl I grew up hearing about a lot, (because my adoptive mom was heavy into genealogy)- I have ZERO relation to! I sign on to 23-n-me… and I expect to connect with and see all my ‘relatives’. Yet, these are all names of strangers and idk a soul.
Gawd, how inhuman to do this reunion on TV and not allow them a moment to speak to each other!
We actually did have months to speak together on the phone. I had spent time with my birth father because we found him first and my dearest friends for life flew me up to visit him, God bless them. My birth mother was found later and lived further, the show helped to bring us all together and they were very supportive. They even bussed my family, friends, and neighbors to the show and back.
Boy, this program sure brought back memories. It would be nice to see where everyone is now,especially Carol Duval.
Hey Maggie, I agree, these old shows stir up that nostalgia. Carol Duvall sure is something else, a woman ahead of herself, really, imagine what she would have done with Pinterest, Instagram, even Tik-Tok, and reality Maker-type shows, she would have dominated!! As it was she ran continuously on TV for about 20 years, most of that her OWN show doing Crafts! Amazing. As of July‘22, she is alive and well with her husband, 2 children, she is 74, living in Michigan. To read up more on Carol, here’s a link. Thanks for watching my video. I apologize for not responding earlier.
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Carol_Duvall
I LOVE these reunion videos but not when they're done on talk shows. I can't imagine how difficult this is for the participants. I know if it was me meeting a child I had given up at birth I would not want it to happen so publicly. I'm sure I'd be a bawling mess. There's no chance to greet each other with what you really want to say to each other when so many people are sitting there making you feel like you're on display in a zoo. And it was highly uncomfortable when Pam went to sit down, walked right past Ray and didn't look at him or even say "Hello". They must have felt very awkward at that moment.
Sorry for not responding to comments a long time ago.
My birth mother and I did have many months of long phone conversations, we just weren’t able to meet in person until the show helped everything/everyone come together.
pretty rude birth mother didnt even greet the birth father at all despite he seemed really pleased to see her he remained a gentleman during the show..
the girl is happy she found her birth parents. nothing else is important
I agree she should have at least have acknowledged him she’s so rude 💯 I don’t believe that she is happy I think she’s acting ‼️
I thought Pam was very cold to Ray. It was embarrassing to have them meet at the same time
That told me volumes. I don't think his story about not knowing and her family moving away is all there is to it. He knew and gave her no support at the time is my guess. As far as you calling her rude, the poor woman was very emotional and on camera. It was obvious to me it was not he choice to give her child up but something she was made to do. Give her a break.
Hey Lauren, Thanks for watching and responding. I apologize for not responding until now on any of the comments. There was an awful lot of emotions taking place within those few minutes, I wouldn’t hold it against Pam or try to read too much into it. I did find my birth-father first, was able to get together with him and talk face to face, also with his family. I was able to talk frequently with my birth-mother, but we weren’t able to physically get together until the show offered to bring us all together. Pam and Ray also had the chance to briefly speak on the phone prior to the show. We were ALL very nervous and we all had high hopes. At this particular moment, both Pam and Ray were single and individually they both confessed to me they had hopes of possibilities….
So that was also bubbling underneath because that love between them was never resolved, they both talked to me about that. I knew they both were envisioning the teenage version of the other, though. That’s no longer the case!!
I knew more about the current versions, I knew, in my heart, that they just were no longer a ‘Match’ for each other. I didn’t want to discourage either of them, it’s not MY place, they found out pretty quickly, and that was a bit of a heartbreak for both of them ❤️
Thanks for uploading. Sad the nasty negative comments on here. It was a different time in the 60's when we were born. Things were more conservative and children born out of wedlock were usually placed for adoption. My mom said in high school that one girl she knew was absolutely devastated that she was forced into having her twin babies adopted. Are any of your birth or adopted parents still living? I'm so glad you were able to find them
Yes Gina, it was a very different time in the 60’s and it’s so strange that the pendulum is swinging back to the 60’s era again. That’s a very scary thought. Yes, my birth mother did not want to give me up but was forced to by her parents, there were attempts to have her miscarry but it was unsuccessful. They wanted NO ONE to know because of the shame it’d bring to their family. She was hidden away, whisked off in the night to St. Anne’s Maternity Ward in LA, until the deed was done. Told not to look or touch, she broke the rule and looked, her mother refused to look and told her it never happened, I was DEAD, to never discuss it, don’t mention it, nothing, ever again, period. Her mother held true to that to the end. My birth mother suffered greatly emotionally, depression, never receiving proper therapy, maybe even postpartum depression, who knows? She had a very hard time, life. Us meeting was helpful and healing for both of us, she had to know I was alright. I always just wanted to thank her for such an unselfish act of placing me for adoption, even though it wasn’t really her choice. I was glad to be raised by the parents I had, instead of a single teenage mother, who had no support from her family. It was the right choice, I ache she suffered because of it, that hurts.
BTW: Pam, my birth mother passed in 2017,
My adoptive mother died in 2014
My adoptive father died in 2016
My husband died in 2002 (He is not on camera, but he is there)
I have 4 children now, my youngest was born in 12-94
I wonder how this went after show?
Ha, my B-day is October 12 as well........great video!
Hehehe- great day to have a birthday. Where were you born??
I wonder what happened to them after all these years.
I’m still here, I had a 4th child, a girl in ‘94 so we had 2+2, that’s what my husband was really hoping for. Unfortunately my husband died in ‘02. I lost my adoptive mother in 2014, my adoptive father in 2016, my birth mother in 2017. My birth father is doing good. His house burned down with the horrible fires up in Oregon a cpl years ago.
I have had my own health struggles and need surgeries (genetically discovered we have horrible back problems, oh yay) so I’ve been immersed in dealing with hospice here, myself, kids, home…
They have their own lives, we stay in touch a bit.
I know my place is here with my kids, I didn’t grow up around all of my birth fathers family, so I know I am only genetically linked.
Tell the kids to meet Pam and Ray? How about Grandma and Grandpa?
The kids don't know Pam and Ray as grandparents. They just met. Pan and Ray weren't involved in the kids' lives before then. You can't just force people into a relationship instantly.
Fortunately, she inherited neither the beauty of her father nor the intelligence of her mother.
Unless there's a DNA test, we don't know if they are her birthday parents. She doesn't look like either one. I think that she might have been switched on the hospital.
We have easy DNA kits now. My birth father, Ray, had no doubt I was his as they were bf/gf for almost 2years in High School. We’re talking 1960 here, and Pam was 15 when they started dating. She wasn’t with anyone else and neither was he, they were in love and talked about getting married after High School.
Yes, I am genetically linked to both sides thanks to the quick and easy 23nMe and also AncestryDNA. I was blown away how much I could see of myself, and my children, in the high school yearbook photos of my birth parents!!
I belong to 23-nMe as well as Ancestry and it’s No Doubt as I am linked to BOTH parents. I actually look just like both of them, but thanks for your scientific assessment
What cruel mother not informing the birth father
She looks like her mother
Yes, thanks, I was amazed. When I first found my birth father, after we spoke a couple times he dug out his last HS yearbook that had both their pictures and sent it to me. That was the first time I looked at an image of anyone I was genetically related to. I am tearing up now remembering how emotional that moment is. I was amazed how I look so much like both of them really.
somhow about the dad who dont know anything the pregnancy..
Julia child 😍
So awkward!