How to Find Balance in the Age of Indulgence - Dr. Anna Lembke

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  • Опубликовано: 25 дек 2024

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  • @AfterSkool
    @AfterSkool  2 года назад +363

    2:12 Big idea # 1: The Pleasure Pain Balance - In order to maintain homeostasis, every pleasure is countered by pain of equal magnitude.
    5:06 Big Idea # 2: Dopamine Overload - Easy access to pleasure is is crippling our ability to enjoy life.
    8:12 Big Idea # 3: Dopamine Fasting - Taking a break from dopamine will restore balance. To reset your dopamine brain, first abstain.
    9:36 Big Idea # 4: Self Binding - Create boundaries to keep your indulgence under control.
    12:05 Big Idea # 5: Pain as a Pathway to Pleasure - We can take advantage of the pleasure pain balance by pressing into pain. Pain is the price to pay for pleasure, BUT pleasure is also the REWARD for pain. Pursuing healthy methods of pain (like exercise) is better than any pill.
    I hope this video helps you in your daily life. It was an honor to collaborate with Dr. Anna Lembke. If you want to dive deeper into this subject, check out her book, "Dopamine Nation - Finding Balance in the Age of Indulgence". And if you liked this video and want to help create more, please consider supporting After Skool on Patreon. Every little bit helps. Thank you www.patreon.com/AfterSkool

    • @gregorykelly8000
      @gregorykelly8000 2 года назад +3

      The planet has always been abundant in resources. She accidentally lied.

    • @alienfeline1279
      @alienfeline1279 2 года назад +4

      Thank you for this video!!! It’s exactly what I needed to understand what’s happening to me and my family. Namaste 🙏🏼💗

    • @TheDarkness1
      @TheDarkness1 2 года назад

      @@gregorykelly8000 Yes and this video is biased from a woman with an addictive mindset. Healthy minded people would not inflict pain to receive pleasure. Society inflicts pain through fear and eventually most give up, succumb, and accept that's the way it is. The outcome of the dog experiment was analyzed completely wrong on top of being cruel AF. I could have pleasure the rest of my life without ever feeling pain again if it were possible.

    • @dcraexon
      @dcraexon 2 года назад

      don’t stop believing, Journey . malware … take the money and run … ✈️

    • @quinnmach535
      @quinnmach535 2 года назад +2

      Does this mean for Big Idea #5 people who slit their wrists when depressed are doing it to feel good? and would this be a good thing to do to reduce feeling bad?

  • @LacyJane
    @LacyJane 2 года назад +2831

    Overconsumption is a huge source of depression because get on social media and experience the feeling of missing out. We think that life is in the big moments (the vacations, the material items, the relationships) and we forget that it’s also the sunsets and the stillness and the fulfillment in waking each day.

    • @am4120
      @am4120 2 года назад +31

      That is so powerful and true!❤❤❤

    • @patriziodinicola9362
      @patriziodinicola9362 2 года назад +7

      💞🌠💞

    • @VeganSemihCyprus33
      @VeganSemihCyprus33 2 года назад +7

      This documentary was made to inform people about balance and harmony 👉 The Connections (2021) [short documentary] 💖🌻

    • @sr9tc
      @sr9tc 2 года назад +14

      amen. everyone’s new need for validation and recognition on social media, i believe, is one of the root causes of our societal decline.

    • @eyuelnegash2681
      @eyuelnegash2681 2 года назад +4

      That is true💚

  • @jsnel9185
    @jsnel9185 2 года назад +752

    Yoga is amazing for pressing the pain side for pleasure. Breathing to relax while your body is in uncomfortable positions and triggering a stress response, then using your breath to find calm and peace in a place that should be causing discomfort, is a very powerful way to train your mind to remain calm in situations that normally wig you out.

    • @donjaun8435
      @donjaun8435 2 года назад +32

      I never thought of it like this, thats a good way to look at it

    • @s.c.arlette1278
      @s.c.arlette1278 2 года назад +12

      @@donjaun8435 woah! This understanding just blew my mind! Only ever "experiencing" yoga from a voyer point of view, my judgements and strictly optical "understanding" of it totally put me off. I think Ill give it a go now! Thanks for the insight!!

    • @thisisnotoleg
      @thisisnotoleg Год назад +1

      Fantastic wording, breathing into that discomfort, forward folds and half pigeons.

    • @Garlicandonions
      @Garlicandonions Год назад

      Fr

    • @Kalebmyg
      @Kalebmyg Год назад +1

      I'm joining my next yoga class

  • @TW-rr6qb
    @TW-rr6qb 2 года назад +556

    i deleted all social media about 3 years ago. It really did increase my happiness level exponentially, and i found joy in nature and doing things outside the home. I started to enjoy my alone time as well. Its a great idea to take breaks from phone or other screens OR anything that causes instant gratification. We are in the instant gratification nation.

    • @hellogornto
      @hellogornto 2 года назад +3

      Thsts a. Fact. JACK..!!!

    • @VeganSemihCyprus33
      @VeganSemihCyprus33 2 года назад +4

      This documentary was made to inform people about balance and harmony 👉 The Connections (2021) [short documentary] 💖🌻

    • @hannahwillis9838
      @hannahwillis9838 2 года назад +6

      Do you only go on RUclips for media? If so, how long do you spend? Just deleted some of my media, trying to get better with the addiction

    • @TW-rr6qb
      @TW-rr6qb 2 года назад +9

      @@hannahwillis9838 pretty much, yeah. i have found several channels that i trust, and stick with them. I put YT on and listen while doing other things. As long as im not just following other peoples lives! Also, i didnt do it all at once, it was gradual ie facebook, then IG, then snapchat etc. It was weird at first, but really wasnt as bad as i thought after getting used to not going to the apps on my phone.

    • @TW-rr6qb
      @TW-rr6qb 2 года назад

      @@VeganSemihCyprus33 sounds like something i would like! ill check it out. appreciate it!

  • @Dajed259
    @Dajed259 2 года назад +482

    This whole channel has become incredibly profound and impactful in my life. Amongst several factors, these videos exactly highlight why I've left the tech industry making addictive websites and am now in school studying to be a therapist. Watching these videos have helped me feel less alone in my view on technology and modern western culture! I want to help support people in unplugging from their screens and plugging back into physical connection with our planet earth

    • @AfterSkool
      @AfterSkool  2 года назад +20

      Thank you for your comment and your contribution.

    • @moontiger5272
      @moontiger5272 2 года назад +7

      I was studing ict and came to the same conclusion. Now im going to be a vet, so i can help animals.

    • @SANTANA1deep
      @SANTANA1deep 2 года назад +10

      @@AfterSkool I wish for your beautiful team to stay protected at all times. You are tremendous bearer of the light within the darkest of times. Thank you for everything.

    • @AfterSkool
      @AfterSkool  2 года назад +5

      @@SANTANA1deep Thank you. Glad to be of service.

    • @laceydelayne8708
      @laceydelayne8708 2 года назад +2

      That's fucking awesome, Dan! We talk alot about these themes on the Rethinking Humanity Podcast!

  • @megafiremario12volt
    @megafiremario12volt 2 года назад +119

    I’m so glad this video exists because I live my life exactly how it recommends but rarely find people talking about this. My friends and family ask me why I’m so happy all the time and now i’ll just send them this video. They think my lifestyle is boring and don’t wanna try it out, but the science is all right here.
    It’s annoying that the world is increasingly being dominated by pleasure but I believe people are catching on to the side effects of all this. Everything has a cost.

    • @conorrogerson1297
      @conorrogerson1297 2 года назад

      @DeeDee do you use audiobooks or have tried them?

    • @megafiremario12volt
      @megafiremario12volt 2 года назад +15

      @DeeDee I wake up at 6 am
      Get ready for work, eat breakfast, and leave. I don’t scroll through my phone at all in the morning.
      Work 6 hours, work at 7 am and get off at 2 pm then I come home and eat lunch and watch 1 episode of a show while eating.
      After lunch I use the pomodoro timing 25 minute interval thing to do 25 minutes of editing photography or video projects I have, chores, and dog walking with 5 minute breaks in-between. Most days I just do like two 25 minutes sessions of creative work and housekeeping then workout for about an hour and 30 minutes.
      After that I eat dinner (no tv or phone), journal and plan my next day, then read and sleep at 11.
      *some key points:
      I don’t binge shows or game, and I don’t go on my phone that much unless im posting photos or videos. I post and get off.
      I also make it a rule not to worry about replying to messages until i’ve done my daily photo/video editing session so I don’t get distracted by my phone and lose creative flow. I also don’t talk to ppl on my phone 1 hour before bed time.
      Theres less dopamine in my life but it makes me happy cause science.
      **it helps a lot if you love the process of what you’re doing or working towards.

    • @megafiremario12volt
      @megafiremario12volt 2 года назад +4

      @DeeDee Its also less about replacing more activities with reading and more about finding a balance of things you enjoy that aren’t as dopamine filled. I don’t read that much during the day but i’d say timing how long you do things each day and setting limits helps to not go overboard especially with high dopamine activities

    • @megafiremario12volt
      @megafiremario12volt 2 года назад +1

      @DeeDee You’re welcome! I work a visual merchandiser position for the convenience stores on a military base!

    • @jackierugrat8680
      @jackierugrat8680 2 года назад +8

      @DeeDee
      Try gardening, getting a pet , puzzles, writing in a journal, volunteering, riding a bike, hiking or just going for a walk, cooking, baking. Pick up the hobby you loved doing as a child. Feel free to expand on these ideas.

  • @marionholtzmann6872
    @marionholtzmann6872 2 года назад +162

    My brother’s son was addicted to his gaming and computer, back when he was a teenager, he actually spent a few months at a facility that dealt with this kind of addiction. He got so bad that he couldn’t even hold an in person conversation. Today he is a well adjusted young man who rarely is on the internet and his social media. Thank goodness his parents stepped in when needed and got him help.

    • @donjaun8435
      @donjaun8435 2 года назад +8

      This is amazing and a true story about how a simple altering of toxic things when we're young can change our lives forever.

    • @SANTANA1deep
      @SANTANA1deep 2 года назад +4

      Thank you for this story.

    • @downbntout
      @downbntout 2 года назад +4

      Where was this facility? The world needs many more such centers. Edit: asking bc someone I love needs help as do I

    • @marionholtzmann6872
      @marionholtzmann6872 Год назад +2

      @@downbntout This was in Hamburg Germany, I am unaware of any facilities here in the United States. I would try a behavioral specialist/psychologist to help you get off the web. It's addictive for sure. I myself am on daily, but I try not to go into the negative sites like Twitter too much. I usually listen to interesting videos about history, animal stories, people stories how they live around the world. Also I unplug each night, I turn off my phone and iPad, I mean power down. I use my laptop at night running soothing videos such as meditation or easy listening stuff that helps me sleep. I have PTSD and cannot sleep in total darkness or without sound.

  • @oliroberts4802
    @oliroberts4802 10 месяцев назад +21

    For the creator and contributer to this magnificent piece, I say a heartfelt thank you. This specific video and it's knowledge, blended with our real-world experience, will be the basis of a conversation with our 15 year old son to guide him through the difficult process of understanding the effects of short term gratification offered by technology, into what we hope is a clear perspective on correct use thereof and a happy life. You folks are doing amazing work, and you're loved and appreciated for it!

    • @TruthKeepersOfficialHD2
      @TruthKeepersOfficialHD2 6 месяцев назад +1

      As a young person about as old as your son, I wish you both good luck and better relationship than I have with my family. I'm grateful for my negative father, because if he wasn't, I wouldn't realize that the world is in fact in a bad state, as well as looking for the cope thanks to which I found out that he isn't completely right either, that there are things and methods that can help and save.

  • @just1stone689
    @just1stone689 2 года назад +16

    Despite its lighthearted presentation, this message is more profound than you might think.
    The inclusion of Plato’s “Allegory of the Cave” and The Hegelian Dialectic / “Problem - Reaction - Solution” hints at the traps and over reaching narratives that govern of our modern times.

  • @ADUAquascaping
    @ADUAquascaping 2 года назад +86

    Playing music. Anyone who doesn't play a musical instrument with fullness of heart is really missing out on what reality has to offer. Playing music can be the most profound experience and form of meditation in my experience. I recommend everyone to learn a musical instrument

    • @diro3745
      @diro3745 2 года назад +3

      I concur

    • @adamshredder3142
      @adamshredder3142 Год назад

      Real shit

    • @travelchimps6637
      @travelchimps6637 9 месяцев назад +1

      i also use playing the piano to fight an addiction and the feeling u get when getting a couple of complicated crotchets right is indescribable.

    • @TREBLEBOOSTER65
      @TREBLEBOOSTER65 4 месяца назад

      100% and it helps people understand how to learn to love the process rather than the result alone because it feels incredible when you learn to do something new

    • @sunbeam9222
      @sunbeam9222 2 месяца назад

      I don't play an instrument but can very much understand this. Actually one of my biggest regrets in life, not playing an instrument.

  • @Stranger_Strange_Land
    @Stranger_Strange_Land 2 года назад +51

    My "drug" used to be reading (fantasy & scifi) novels. Once my head was in a book i could not escape and it changed my mood and attitude when i was interrupted for whatever reason.
    Now, it's definitely my phone. Watching videos on RUclips is depressing because it's either negative news/content or seeing someone live a more "productive" life than me.
    I've made the rule at home that once i enter my bedroom, no phone.
    I even bought an old school alarm. That way i have a room, at least, where i can separate myself from everything and use it for what my body and brain needs (sex and sleep).

    • @corgilover78
      @corgilover78 2 месяца назад +1

      I know this is a 2 year old comment but I relate to that, I used books as like escapism but now the phone is the new form of the books, I would never bring my phone into the bathroom, or at dinner or in bed, that's to collect boundaries

  • @syd_santon
    @syd_santon 2 года назад +108

    Sometimes I watch videos about dopamine feeling overwhelmed, but this one was different. Thank you! As a mother I really want to give my children the best life possible and build positive habits in the first 7 years of their lives. I know that I can’t do that unless I am also mindfully living it myself!

    • @Samantha-hj9bl
      @Samantha-hj9bl 2 года назад +8

      You'll be a great mom.. :)

    • @SANTANA1deep
      @SANTANA1deep 2 года назад +1

      I'm actually experiencing this myself, as a father. Luna will be one in less than a month. Time flies. 😩

  • @saini7786
    @saini7786 2 года назад +192

    My respect to Dr.Anna for providing us with such a wonderful presentation.

    • @VeganSemihCyprus33
      @VeganSemihCyprus33 2 года назад +2

      This documentary was made to inform people about balance and harmony 👉 The Connections (2021) [short documentary] 💖🌻

    • @Alex-sr3cm
      @Alex-sr3cm 2 года назад

      She delivers it in such a great way that I can't resist continuing to listen. Incredibly moving and insightful and I also believe now it's doable.

  • @chloegower1584
    @chloegower1584 Год назад +17

    That was UNREAL. Chalk full of value… if only everyone could see this, it would change their life. I was praying today and asked God to give me a concise explanation for why I was struggling in an area of my life and this video perfectly explained it!

    • @nehaather263
      @nehaather263 3 месяца назад

      Please read the translation of The Holy Quran at least once in your life and you'll be amazed.

  • @noewantstosleep
    @noewantstosleep 10 месяцев назад +2

    I’ve been trying to quit social media for a while now, and I’ve mostly stuck to this commitment with the exception of youtube [still working on it]. I’m also trying to quit added sugar and processed foods. For the past months I’ve been feeling a rise in anxiety, depression, insomnia, existentialism, etc…. And it makes sense: I’m going through withdrawals.
    I’m no longer distracted or indulging in constant pleasure, and damn is it hard! I’m really hoping to reach a state of homeostasis soon.

  • @ActionJackson3785
    @ActionJackson3785 2 года назад +16

    Human connection is what we need more of nowadays!

  • @elysianfields1671
    @elysianfields1671 2 года назад +36

    Balance will soon be considered as a great mind asset in a time where everyone seems to be going from one extreme to the other without even knowing why or how.

  • @Miller2h41
    @Miller2h41 2 года назад +9

    Joined a gym and I haven't been watching much TV lately and its great. Doing a lot of exercising such as running has been great.

  • @Nairod2
    @Nairod2 2 года назад +35

    o_o that explains why self harm alleviates depression temporarily, and I see a possible correlation with masochism... also why it feels so nice to do one more set even if you know tomorrow your knees will wobble.

    • @VeganSemihCyprus33
      @VeganSemihCyprus33 2 года назад

      This documentary was made to inform people about balance and harmony 👉 The Connections (2021) [short documentary] 💖🌻

    • @Nairod2
      @Nairod2 2 года назад

      ​@@VeganSemihCyprus33 Harmony and balance, but people like you fail to realize that nature self harmonize because both polarities remain functional. Society been suppressing a polarity for a couple of millennia trough the imposition of restrictive moral codes that simply do not align with the way reality works.
      We preach love, connection, and understanding but that only extend to those who think like us.
      If you are a human is wrong to kill, unless you aren't a human. then its ok for us to take the life of any creature on the planet and disregard the function that beings perpetuates in the mechanism of the planet as a whole.
      We need harmony and balance but not trough human morality. In nature life consume it self to self regulate we need to allow that to happen to our own society. so it can self regulate rather than be an artificially controlled hierarchy that subsidizes incompetency and waste.

  • @TheWisdom3
    @TheWisdom3 2 года назад +5

    Stopped smoking and started working out 2 years ago,.
    Its true, I feel much better, got physically in shape and am mentally much stronger.
    I enjoy more the little things and find it easier to adress other behaviours in my life.
    Not nearly there yet, but I strongly recommend working out.

  • @seand8415
    @seand8415 2 года назад +102

    The number of people that I see on a daily basis literally addicted to what’s on their phone screen is sad. I’m thankful for my 72 months of incarceration. It taught me that I can live life minimally. I’m at peace, have a successful real estate business and I’m the happiest person that I know. I hope whoever reads this learns to live life more in the real world and less in the world that’s on their phone screen

    • @scottjackson458
      @scottjackson458 2 года назад +7

      I'm intrigued on how you achieved that. i love a good success story, great to see an underdog rise up. Could you give a brief explanation for some inspiration?

    • @lumumbachooye8352
      @lumumbachooye8352 2 года назад +2

      Thank you.

    • @andreawhitman6419
      @andreawhitman6419 8 месяцев назад

    • @elev8tedconvers8tions71
      @elev8tedconvers8tions71 3 месяца назад

      Thank you for sharing ❤

  • @Kidddaytona05
    @Kidddaytona05 2 года назад +23

    work,drugs,staying to myself and shopping became my identity wtf!!?? I've numbed myself into existing an invisible life what's wrong with me?? How did it happen and truly no one cares I'm not a bad person but feel less worthy then a dog sticking its spoiled head out of a Mercedes hope Noone feels this way but I bet they are many out there like me,Thanks for your videos I so long for deep human conversations that no one I talk too seems capable of doing,

    • @anayoung319
      @anayoung319 2 года назад +6

      Just a thought …did you happen to feel invisible as a child? Were your emotional needs met with a genuine response and care?
      I grew up surrounded by alcoholics and consistent chaos. My mother was checked out most of the time. That left me in a state of continually finding ways to self soothe through stressful situations. Alcoholics are usually too wrapped up in their addiction to consider the feelings of those around them. Hence to balance the scales I became overly giving and caring about others but tend to choose those who do not treat me with the same regard unfortunately. Vicious cycle I’m healing from.
      I spend alot of time alone now with my dog as humans just seem to be too messy.
      Your sadly on point when you mentioned there’s probably many people who feel like you do. Everyone is just numbing the pain!
      Your not alone…

  • @CommanderOfLight
    @CommanderOfLight 2 года назад +9

    Came across this video while off grid camping (without phone reception) but I took a day to stay overnight in the nearest town.
    It's crazy that as I was watching this video I realized I was doing exactly what I was watching, not just that, but realizing I was actually way happier and felt better while I was alone at my camp site. Every thought and emotion was mine, with no outside stimulation. The feeling of connection to your truest self and the truth in general is heightened to a level that can't be described.
    Usually at this time I'd be watching the sky with my telescope for UFO's and found myself just binge watching videos here.

    • @ohmythirdeye
      @ohmythirdeye 2 года назад +1

      Did you see any of UFO's? :o)))

  • @MeiaLuaDeCompasso
    @MeiaLuaDeCompasso 2 года назад +103

    Really want to point out that martial arts has been the single greatest dopamine balance I have ever pursued. Capoeira specifically got me moving my body in ways I never thought possible, and the pains, joys, and freedoms granted by the beautiful art pushed my demeanor into the stratosphere. Muay Thai and Jiu Jitsu also get my recommendation, but capoeira is where my heart is personally.

    • @bb3llalove
      @bb3llalove 2 года назад +1

      PARANAUÊÊÊÊ PARANAAA!

    • @ADUAquascaping
      @ADUAquascaping 2 года назад +13

      For me it's playing music. Anyone who doesn't play a musical instrument with fullness of heart is really missing out on what reality has to offer. Playing music can be the most profound experience and form of meditation in my experience. I recommend everyone to learn a musical instrument

    • @MeiaLuaDeCompasso
      @MeiaLuaDeCompasso 2 года назад +3

      @@ADUAquascaping 100%. I play guitar, also music performance is a huge part of capoeira, which is one of the many reasons I say it's the ultimate martial art.

    • @ryangebo7220
      @ryangebo7220 2 года назад +2

      Agree. BJJ has been a big part of my life for many years, and I can personally attest to pain being a source of growth. Fighting adversity is always challenging, but is very much essential for a healthy lifestyle.

    • @ADUAquascaping
      @ADUAquascaping 2 года назад

      @@MeiaLuaDeCompasso that sounds awesome then! I will have to check it out

  • @tokocold
    @tokocold 6 месяцев назад +1

    I had the pleasure of reading her book for my senior year of highschool's english final. I learned so much about addiction and mindfulness that I never would've thought of before, and it ultimately sparked my love of psychology and neuroscience. I am now going into college finally excited with my future, knowing I will be doing what I want to do. Thank you Dr. Lembke, I don't know where I'd be without your book.

  • @lizzyluck1111
    @lizzyluck1111 2 года назад +4

    I’ve been off the Facebook for a month now. I feel great. I feel present.

  • @hannahd8731
    @hannahd8731 6 месяцев назад +2

    I really like that you encourage turning toward the world. One way to do that is to think more deeply about the things we see on the screen and the products we buy. "Who made this? Were they paid a livable wage to do so?"
    Obviously there are a lot of takeaways from turning toward the world, but I feel that making these connections especially brings us closer to our humanity

    • @leodtoro
      @leodtoro 6 месяцев назад

      So true

  • @ebonypierce5976
    @ebonypierce5976 2 года назад +36

    Thank you. My family and I have been struggling with this. I plan on showing this to my husband so we can come up with healthier lifestyle changes. Thanks again for creating these videos💖

    • @creativitysubs9935
      @creativitysubs9935 Год назад +2

      I love how these videos always fail royally by showing the issue upside down.
      It's not about gaming. it's about low/no dopamine activities like doing chores or relaxing.

  • @edwardlulofs444
    @edwardlulofs444 2 года назад +8

    Very good and helpful. As a senior citizen I have spent a few years on this Earth. I have found this information to be true in my life. Thanks.

  • @JohannY2
    @JohannY2 2 года назад +3

    I'm sending this to all my friends.

  • @mark9349
    @mark9349 2 года назад +2

    I've read this book and this video is brilliant, so much truth and all of this information needs to be taken seriously by governments world wide. Mental illness is the silent epidemic.

    • @savesoil3133
      @savesoil3133 2 года назад

      Since you are interested in truth, have you heard of the Save Soil movement before? You might find it interesting and intriguing #SaveSoil #ConsciousPlanet

  • @locustwalkman1894
    @locustwalkman1894 2 года назад +7

    So beautiful and simple; I couldn’t help but laughing through tears, at the gremlins staring at the empty pleasure side of the scale.

  • @pdjspodcasts8119
    @pdjspodcasts8119 2 года назад +2

    why is this the most informative video I've ever watched in my entire life

  • @Ailasalive
    @Ailasalive 7 месяцев назад +1

    Super super appreciate this difficulty message! Many people (me included) want to disagree or ignore as this countradicts the lie we are living... but like you said, lets face it head on!! We got ittttt

  • @inphinitezero5499
    @inphinitezero5499 2 года назад +5

    This is gold , this knowledge is necessary for our generation

  • @kahunaburgerr
    @kahunaburgerr 2 года назад +2

    She's genuinely the sweetest, I loved listening to her!

  • @tarokitano4021
    @tarokitano4021 2 года назад +7

    Perfect timing, as i have been on a NOFAP journey and am embracing change. Great video🌎

  • @therealist2000
    @therealist2000 Год назад

    This is my favourite from Dr. Anna Lembke; it is because of her I was convinced my anxiety and depression was coming from excessive masturbation and weed use and I decided to make efforts to quit, today I am on day 10 with no plans to go back.

  • @adamlovesserotonin6559
    @adamlovesserotonin6559 2 года назад +16

    Absolutely love Dr. Anna Lembke. This one and Huberman was an absolute treat as I’ve been following them for awhile

    • @VeganSemihCyprus33
      @VeganSemihCyprus33 2 года назад

      This documentary was made to inform people about balance and harmony 👉 The Connections (2021) [short documentary] 💖🌻

  • @happyfrenchbuddha21stsanct74
    @happyfrenchbuddha21stsanct74 6 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you for this visual representation , this has helped me ,as a person with neurodiverse brain, better grasp the construct. Ive been listening and watching your interviews and podcasts , youtubes but this, for me is it!! Thank you for your wonderful work and am so pleased you are so willing to give your time to do so many podcasts and public interviews …🙏🏽

  • @mason2953
    @mason2953 Год назад +6

    This is the best youtube channel on the platform for the modern world. This is a service for the children that need this, and I believe that this channel should be most heavily popularized among children, because after being a stressed child with no motivation for 2 years, this gives me the most hope in my future than I felt even before 2 years ago. Thank you so much for being here and making this. I wish everyone at this channel to realize how much they can do globally, because in the middle of the road of media I found this, and everyone else who watches over-pleasuring media and needs this can walk down the same road I was walking a find this as well.

  • @TakeControl1337
    @TakeControl1337 7 месяцев назад +1

    I believe this is the best video on the topic of addiction, dopamine, pain and pleasure that I've seen thus far.
    Great work, this collaboration was a huge success!

  • @GotDangJosh
    @GotDangJosh 2 года назад +5

    I was born a too much individual. Balance is a consistent goal.
    My abstinence is often based on proximity. Distance is a great tool for me.
    Intermittent exposure to pain gremlins feels overwhelming, but I feel great in 37* snow melt rivers.
    Plus the visual concept of pain gremlins is exciting. I find success in the stories/patterns I tell myself.
    Now I can see PAIN GREMLINS on a see-saw. I can control the characters of my story. Neato stuff. Great tools. Thanks.

  • @grambag7956
    @grambag7956 Год назад

    I quit crack, meth, opiates, heroin, alcohol, benzos multiple times. It took years of attempts to overcome the hellish grip of these drugs.
    Now I'm addicted to my phone mainly music and RUclips. Thankfully that's the only social media I use. But it still has a grip on me.
    Great video!

  • @lionking2733
    @lionking2733 2 года назад +6

    This is an awesome video. I recently quick smoking and it reminded why I am on the path. It helped me and I’m sure it will help many others. Thank you

  • @wjmascitello
    @wjmascitello 2 года назад +1

    "Genius" is not all about an individual knowing a great deal on any given topic. You lay out each "Big Idea" and the accompanying corollary actions we should take in response in clear, readily understandable, and realatable ways. True genius is more about having the capacity to explicate the topic in such a way that you bring others to- and even past- the level of understanding they ever could have had. In this sense you are clearly a genius.

  • @TheCeciliacalle
    @TheCeciliacalle 2 года назад +13

    One of the best books I’ve read, I recommend it to everyone, specially parents!. 🙏🏽

  • @kyreekenney5342
    @kyreekenney5342 Год назад +1

    Wow, this is the last peace I needed in order to beat spiritual warfare

  • @kaushikmukunda3095
    @kaushikmukunda3095 2 года назад +4

    I really enjoyed this video, calm and controlled speech without overdramatising the content

  • @SaraAmorelli
    @SaraAmorelli Год назад +1

    This video is great. Must watch

  • @zazabaldtv2313
    @zazabaldtv2313 2 года назад +28

    After a rough breakup I deleted social media at the top of summer 2019 prior to my junior year in college.
    Super hard at first, but about a month in I realized how much more in the moment I felt. It was amazing. I spent about 2 and half years off it. And since November '21 I've been on and off intermittently as I am now able to control myself and my mind with renewed and disciplined strength!

    • @sandrapicton6349
      @sandrapicton6349 Год назад

      Well done!

    • @aldra8507
      @aldra8507 Год назад +1

      Do you delete RUclips too? How do you not get addicted to RUclips or Netflix?

    • @zazabaldtv2313
      @zazabaldtv2313 Год назад

      @@aldra8507 I’m a proud addict of RUclips university lol! But in all seriousness though YT I use to research and further my education so i use it as a tool.
      And 2) When I was a kid Netflix was better so it was easier to induldge, but now I’m more disciplined so I try to do other things with my time If I catch myself watching tv for to long

  • @abrarSalehS
    @abrarSalehS Год назад

    I am adding this video to the list of videos that are worth watching every once in a while.

  • @fahimmaldar
    @fahimmaldar 2 года назад +7

    Ive learnt more stuff from this acccount than I have from 2 decades of formal and life education. Kudos to the creator , you are doing an amazing work!

  • @AdventuresofaPirateGirl
    @AdventuresofaPirateGirl Год назад

    This video speaks directly to me. My son and I are on a bad track with our habits. We got through years of massive rage and fits (by him), and was just recovering from that when lockdowns hit. Being alone together just intensified the trauma and now, a few years on, although I have been pursuing my RUclips/boat rebuilding pirate girl dreams, the addictions, my son to screen and me to MJ and sugar, are pulling us downward. I know we need to stop, but I dont often feel like I have the support or capacity to make that happen. But it does help to hear it so clearly.

  • @mollywright524
    @mollywright524 2 года назад +3

    This woman deserves an award.

  • @eldonpapa444
    @eldonpapa444 7 месяцев назад +1

    Amazing video ! All the questions I had about this, like being uncertain about the good effects, have been answered, and the fact that it is explained with drawings made it very easy to follow and digest the info for my adhd-esque brain. Thanks a lot !

  • @APOLLINAIREBARTHOLOMIEU
    @APOLLINAIREBARTHOLOMIEU Год назад +36

    Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

    • @steceymorgan814
      @steceymorgan814 Год назад

      Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!

    • @Jennifer-bw7ku
      @Jennifer-bw7ku Год назад

      Yes, dr.sporessss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

    • @patriaciasmith3499
      @patriaciasmith3499 Год назад

      I wish they were readily available in my place.
      Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
      He's constantly talking about killing someone.
      He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.

    • @steceymorgan814
      @steceymorgan814 Год назад

      Is he on instagram?

    • @Jennifer-bw7ku
      @Jennifer-bw7ku Год назад

      Yes he is. dr.sporessss

  • @bestwitch2931
    @bestwitch2931 2 года назад

    I love how after skool videos all fit together, like Alan watts says that when we are able to have luxury and everything we think we want it also leads to the solving of problems that are not actually problems and that comfort power and understanding of the physical world by dissecting every part just to find something new to try and understand only lead to dissatisfaction and anxiety

  • @michellelangley9854
    @michellelangley9854 2 года назад +9

    This needs to be shown in all high school health classes

    • @erinp.cutchin9345
      @erinp.cutchin9345 8 месяцев назад

      Needs to be done every year starting in 6th grade.

  • @deneigh9445
    @deneigh9445 2 года назад

    17:14 " what if we immerse ourselves in our world, face the life we've been given. "
    Dang, I love that

  • @typalfi7139
    @typalfi7139 2 года назад +9

    Im glad this video was made and I hope theres more awareness to this subject. I myself and so many people are trapped in this horrible cycle of over nourishment & depression in our first world countries. Mental health is always looked over with these factors, as well which makes it all even more scary.
    I like to think what our first world nations are going through as being equivalent to algal blooms and the production of dead zones in a way.
    I am optimistic about humanity’s future, but we have a few big walls to get over. Thank you for this awesome video!

  • @dj-jazzyjosie7675
    @dj-jazzyjosie7675 2 года назад +2

    Thank You Anna Lembke! I believe you are one of those people who truly desire to help others. 🥰

  • @mariaabreu9085
    @mariaabreu9085 2 года назад +3

    Excellent, brilliant 👏 simple, straight to the point; even children can understand it with those images!

  • @AdamElsayed-g4q
    @AdamElsayed-g4q Год назад

    I was very eager to read the "Push on the pain side" - part of the book. I've always been convinced that the idea of induced suffering subsequently induces pleasure. Whenever I have a shitty day I hop on a spinning bike and push myself to the extent where I'm geniuenly suffering for a duration way beyond comfortable. This works. Every. Single. Time. I was unanimous reading about this in the book and nodded to myself after every sentence while at the same time so happy to see the clinical evidence and get insights into the neuroscience behind the concept. Thank You Dr.Lembke!

  • @goo6
    @goo6 2 года назад +14

    i love the metaphors in this video, it helps illustrate the concepts very clearly.

  • @angelaminder9722
    @angelaminder9722 2 месяца назад

    I really appreciate the videos that give an intro by the speaker before the white board. I think it lends merit.

  • @jonathangauthier3549
    @jonathangauthier3549 2 года назад +9

    I am a prime example of all the major NCDs you mentioned in this video: sedentary lifestyle, bad eating habits, addiction to television and a daily cannabis user.
    When I had gainful employment, I could sense a positive shift in my moods and a dip in my depression. As I was preoccupied and sober during those hours at work, my brain had a chance for those "goblins" to go away.
    However, working in factories, in telemarketing companies, and other soul-crushing industries made my depression worse (I've unfortunately worked in many fields). Not everyone has access to meaningful work, or the means to buy good quality food (as you were kind enough to mention), which leads to a feeling of desperation. That despair is preyed upon by unscrupulous individuals who promise you a different life, and chain you to a contract that essentially makes you their property. THAT is why people are depressed, and we chase any high we can to escape the melancholy lives that we're stuck living.
    It would take a true humanitarian miracle to get the impoverished masses out from under the greedy thumbs of their bosses, industrial standards, uncaring civil servants, heartless politicians, greedy senates, as well as the ever-increasing ways to get people addicted to these seemingly harmless means of escape. And even with that change, there will be skepticism and abuse of generosity which would only help to further increase the divide between the "HAVES" and the "HAVE NOTS".
    In short, there are certainly SOME things that the individual can do to improve their own lives, such as: eating healthier, exercising, and stepping away from electronic devices. But this is all mere victim-blaming if industries keep cutting costs by using inferior ingredients (and in disproportionately higher levels in lower-cost foods), withholding proper wages in order to bolster their own bank accounts, and creating addictive products to hook us. It's not prostitutes and junkies that need to be arrested, but the pimps and dealers.
    So with all due respect. Please use your education and clout to fight FOR the underdog rather than telling us to AVOID the big dogs?

  • @bryanlankford8557
    @bryanlankford8557 11 месяцев назад

    As a masters level clinician, I use this information with my clients. This is an amazing and important video. Thank you.

  • @michaelt6792
    @michaelt6792 Год назад +5

    Wow! I read her book Dopamine Nation and it was wonderful to see the core points of the book presented with your amazing animations. Honestly one of the most important books and concepts of our times. Thank you for this.

  • @myoplex1
    @myoplex1 2 года назад +2

    I don’t usually leave comments. Something tacky about it to me. But this was just FANTASTIC!!! Worthy of the highest praise. If people could easily conceptualize this it would revolutionize the world almost over night. Bravo!!!!!

  • @controversialspeculation
    @controversialspeculation 2 года назад +43

    A very good message🙏🏿 Let’s find the balance!

    • @VeganSemihCyprus33
      @VeganSemihCyprus33 2 года назад

      This documentary was made to inform people about balance and harmony 👉 The Connections (2021) [short documentary] 💖🌻

    • @creativitysubs9935
      @creativitysubs9935 Год назад

      These video doesn't advocate balance. real balance would be 5 hours indulgence, 5 hours productivity, 5 hours relaxing (on top of 8 hours sleep)

  • @PedroPerez-kw8pf
    @PedroPerez-kw8pf 2 года назад +1

    I abuse Marijuana, I used to smoke everyday every hour unless I was sleeping & I even went far enough to get liquid marijuana (cartridges) I thought the smell goes away more people care less, but in really those cartridges are more potent so I was hurting myself even more, Thank God my friend told me I need to find a balance, he saw I was doing too much, I thank God he send me a friend like him. I still smoke but not everyday & I wake up with a clear mindset, I started taking cold showers & it makes my brain focus on what really matters. Thank you for these videos I hope they help people that don’t have those friendships that can push you up

    • @waynemoss9414
      @waynemoss9414 2 года назад

      Yeah I know that feeling, in the end its not even enjoyable anymore you just take it to stop yourself feeling rubbish. Getting high all the time really does lead to the ultimate low. How often do you consume it now?

  • @staplewarrior4903
    @staplewarrior4903 Год назад +6

    I actually already implement the “pleasure reward for pain” idea in my life, or at least I think I do, because I still play video games, but I always save them for after I have done all my productive tasks for that day, such as working out, going on walks, reading, or doing school work if I have any, which seems to be working pretty well for me so far.

  • @vinniesss
    @vinniesss Год назад +1

    This video has saved my life, Thankyou.

  • @joas162
    @joas162 2 года назад +7

    This was great, loved her book! I do think that our environment with easily accessible sources of dopamine is not the cause by itself. I think it interacts with our needs for meaning and connection. Combining her book with Johann Hari's 'Lost Connections' gives you a great vision of what changes we need in our society.

  • @aidanfitzgerald352
    @aidanfitzgerald352 2 месяца назад

    I love the way she explained all of this

  • @mkezel2593
    @mkezel2593 2 года назад +3

    This is a vital message for everyone at all ages today. Thank you fornsharong!

  • @TInyK12
    @TInyK12 2 года назад +2

    Eye opening revelations. Thank you Dr. Lembke.

  • @theJellyjoker
    @theJellyjoker 2 года назад +34

    "pain and pleasure are linked" and "pain can lead to pleasure" are things us masochists have know for years.

    • @dcraexon
      @dcraexon 2 года назад

      pit bulls

    • @jacobcarter5923
      @jacobcarter5923 2 года назад +5

      No that's not the same thing

    • @lilitLun
      @lilitLun 2 года назад +1

      😂

    • @VeganSemihCyprus33
      @VeganSemihCyprus33 2 года назад

      This documentary was made to inform people about balance and harmony 👉 The Connections (2021) [short documentary] 💖🌻

  • @gabrielorville5334
    @gabrielorville5334 2 года назад +1

    This is the best I've heard.

  • @bullyproof5707
    @bullyproof5707 2 года назад +3

    Thats such a good way to explain it

  • @gloryrow100
    @gloryrow100 2 года назад +2

    Thank you for doing clean work.

  • @Marolinism
    @Marolinism 2 года назад +4

    This is so eye-opening! We needed this!!!!

  • @missm2184
    @missm2184 2 года назад +1

    This laid it out for me to really understand me! and i will watch this over and over with my child, thankyou and god bless you

  • @NickSmalin
    @NickSmalin 2 года назад +6

    This is the greatest sex Ed talk I have ever heard, this is the greatest heroine talk I have ever heard, this is the greatest AAA meeting ever, this is how we should be teaching and spreading real change. It didn’t work to tell people what they can do, simply teach people how to find balance in their lives ❤️

    • @NickSmalin
      @NickSmalin 2 года назад +1

      This is the greatest addiction talk I have heard, what ever your drug of choice is

  • @sarahsitaraanandavelander9193
    @sarahsitaraanandavelander9193 2 года назад +1

    Thank you for raising awareness about these issues ~ and one leading cause of anxiety, depression and mental problems is nutrient depletion/ lack of good nutrition. Another reason why people dont feel good in their bodies and are self medicating. Bless us all in this crazy mixed up world. Your health is your greatest asset for experiencing your rewlity in a good way ~ take good care 💜

  • @claytonsmith3882
    @claytonsmith3882 2 года назад +3

    This was simply fantastic.

  • @bulbakip6380
    @bulbakip6380 2 года назад

    Man, this channel is saving LIVES

  • @VavaVoom47
    @VavaVoom47 2 года назад +11

    THIS is the best video on the internet. Definitely check out her book “Dopamine Nation”

    • @VeganSemihCyprus33
      @VeganSemihCyprus33 2 года назад

      This documentary was made to inform people about balance and harmony 👉 The Connections (2021) [short documentary] 💖🌻

  • @raselhasan430
    @raselhasan430 2 года назад +1

    Great lesson i've ever heard. Thanks Anna Lembke, for your beautiful presentation. I am truly honoured to see you on After Skool.

  • @Jenny_Lee_
    @Jenny_Lee_ 2 года назад +10

    This was really great Dr Anna. And very helpful. Thank you so much.

    • @VeganSemihCyprus33
      @VeganSemihCyprus33 2 года назад +1

      This documentary was made to inform people about balance and harmony 👉 The Connections (2021) [short documentary] 💖🌻

  • @dreamerxd7203
    @dreamerxd7203 7 месяцев назад

    This idea of germlin is new and I found it really interesting, giving a more specific character to the dopamine drop makes me feel like it is something I can control, thank you very much for sharing the idea💙

  • @nolanrheinish1904
    @nolanrheinish1904 2 года назад +3

    This is absolutely amazing!!! The ideas are expressed so clearly and visually that they can hardly be denied. Well done 👏🏼

  • @FalseCogs
    @FalseCogs 2 года назад +1

    Addiction is often only the symptom. When people seek escape, there is something from which they are running. Sometimes people run from unreasonable standards and expectations; sometimes society's lies and division; and sometimes inner truth which cannot be accepted.

  • @Alex-sr3cm
    @Alex-sr3cm 2 года назад +6

    Amazing video, it really put many things in perspective in a way I've never really scene. Especially the concept of pain and how it can be just as important as pleasure and we can help ourselves restore the balances we lose from overstimulation and indulgence. I look forward to applying this immediately and hopefully sustaining it to the best of my abilities. One day at a time I guess, like anything else... 🤷‍♂️

  • @stephaniejohnson229
    @stephaniejohnson229 Год назад

    For me, it was social media. It made me so miserable, and made my PTSD, anxiety, and depression worse. I made the decision in January to delete all of it, and it's the best decision I've ever made, and I don't have the desire to rejoin it ever. I've discovered a lot of more useful hobbies since.

  • @aidan4891
    @aidan4891 2 года назад +5

    I fucking love these videos man. I needed this one. Outstanding visuals to go with calming and easy to follow dialogue.

    • @VeganSemihCyprus33
      @VeganSemihCyprus33 2 года назад

      This documentary was made to inform people about balance and harmony 👉 The Connections (2021) [short documentary] 💖🌻

  • @brandonboswell6055
    @brandonboswell6055 3 месяца назад

    This is probably the most important video on the internet.

  • @Wargachuk
    @Wargachuk 2 года назад +7

    Always love these! Thank you

    • @VeganSemihCyprus33
      @VeganSemihCyprus33 2 года назад

      This documentary was made to inform people about balance and harmony 👉 The Connections (2021) [short documentary] 💖🌻

  • @oh2txb18
    @oh2txb18 Год назад

    As someone with addictive personality for sure, great advice. Been cutting out these things for years now and its sooo much better. Currently chilling on entertainment vids on RUclips, as well as sugar. Crazy how sugar is almost harder to stop than drugs.