Inspiring , young man . At such a young age his wisdom , advice he is giving his sisters commendable , didn't even realize he is that young in the documentary . Inspiring story and happy for you Pema and your siblings and to know your parents all doing well . and thanks for sharing your life story with us . and all the best to all of you .
Pema, you're a beautiful young man who faced having to make adult decisions as a young teenager. I wish you and your beautiful family the very best in your lives ahead. I certainly was educated by your documentary. Love from an Irish Mom xx
I'm in UK. I watched the film with a great deal of fascination. I then watched the above interview. You say how you regret certain attitudes towards your family as portrayed in the film. Inspite of your dilema, it came through very srongly the love and care you felt for your parents and family. You came across as a very lovely person. Congratulations in persuing your life in spite of a lot of opposition.
The best is to support him with donations so we can have more of their kids educated then back to the communities to help more people. So I donated and will continue to do so each year. Will love to meet Pema in Netherland next year. Keep up Pema. You are amazing!
I can understand how Pema's parents feel ,their hope and desire as well as Pema's dream for his future. The life in Dolpa is obviously a very hard and tough. Like most Asians, parents do depend or rely on their sons to help them out, therefore I can understand why they want their son to live or married and settle down with them or near them. It's pretty understandable if Pema finds Dolpa very isolated, having had experienced city life. Also it's not easy for Pema parents to leave their homeland either, .. It's a good that things work out well and Pema is constantly in contact with his parents & siblings and travel to see them as often as he can. Your journey is very inspiring ! Thanks for sharing your story. Would be great to be able to continue to hear your story and your parents story. Their life in Dolpa is so intriguing and eye opening for lot of us. Not many of us can travel so far .. something I would love to hear and hope u can update us. Thank you so much for sharing !
Am glad RUclips recommended this to me. After watching documentary last night till 3.30 am 🤗 was really curious and wanted to know how they r doing now, am happy that they r all doing well and good. God bless you n your family. 🙏
So glad to see him doing well and that his other sister continue her education this makes me so happy it be great to see them in their new life now as adults.
You are so amazing Pema ❤️❤️ I still remember that you was sat on the road near by lake with your sister that you told her “follow your heart and you decide” you are so lovely to your family! Hope your parents are still ok ..
Such a wonderfully mature and well-spoken young man. Also kudos to the foster parents for giving them better lives, education, and raising them to be productive citizens.
Thanks for this video I had just watched the documentary last night I felt so bad being a villager like him I can relate to his life story You're a blessing Pema to your family to your community and to all your viewers most especially to the villagers around the world Yes we must have to respect our traditions but not to let it a hindrance to our education so to cope up with the challenges in life Great respect to your father am sure that he had been teased by the villagers when he allowed you to leave but he was strong enough to stand behind your back and took you all to the plane the parting is so much heartbreaking I cried last night watching the documentary Congratulations Pema keep up sharing your life story it's a blessing it's like a fairy tale with a happy ending 👆😍♥️😍👆 May you find your soulmate am pretty sure your parents are very eager to see their long awaited grand children from you we know that in the village that's one of their happiness and pride having many children and grandchildren God bless you more Pema 🙏🙏🙏
Very inspiring young man, has a desire for his future and take care of his siblings, a very good and very responsible brother indeed. I'm happy that you decided to pursue your studies. God bless
The documentary is very touching. I can understand the dilemma he's going through. I also understand his parents how they were depending on him to take on the family property but it was too late for he was already exposed to the outside life.
NOT TO DISCREDIT PEMA'S MOM, SHE IS LOVINGLY LETTING GO OF HER KIDS JUST SO TO SATISFY THEM... ALL OUT OF HER LOVE... THANK YOU PEMA, REALLY, HELP IS A CONNECTING WORD TO LOVE...
I am mixed race Alaskan Native. Mixed Athabaskan/mixed white. There are 11 languages spoken by Athabaskan’s from Alaska and Canada. We are a large Tribe. I’ve seen in my life what can happen to a our culture that started 3 generations before I was born. Because of Harsh realities, In that timeframe, all our elders said this what was going to happen so get a education and do well in your life. Move forward and don’t look back. Now many many are well educated and run our Native Corporations. We don’t live on reservations, our elders said no to the US government, and told them this is our land and we will live free here like we have all our generations. Subsistence living is hard. I could live this way when I was young when traveling at -40*F was not a problem. I’m 63 now and am thankful I don’t have to chop wood or hunt for food. Thankful for where I am in my life. I live a very western lifestyle. I was given to my grandmother at 9 months old. It’s very hard to attach yourself you parents who love you but we’re not there. Though I love my parents for what they could do. My allegiance was with my grandmother always. I’ve tried to honor and respect my grandma, mother and father. In our culture it is up to us to decide. We don’t have arranged marriages any more. That went away with my mom’s generation. I understand the pull to remain, it was hard to reconcile my life when I was young. Now that I’m older and understand 2 cultures and can be a bridge and be helpful for all people. This young Man Pemba is very thoughtful and he brings understanding to the table. He walks in wisdom beyond his years. I pray that you continue with helping with your sisters life choices. I believe you will be helpful to many in your generation. I live a life of dreaming and visions and I believe this is why our strong elders said get ready for what will happen in this land of Interior Alaska. (Look up Tanana Chiefs Conference and Doyon Lmt our regional Corporation) For Some Alaska Natives and American Indians this is part of our reality. This is my Real Self, when I dream in my sleep. It’s where truth comes from. Discerning and understanding are key. Truth comes out of your spirit it’s in your belly, not so much your heart where your soul is. Still much to say but this is all for now. Thank you for your time. I hope you get this message. P.S. I just remembered that when I was young I dreamed of Tibet and spent some time there. I traveled their in mid 2000’s and found people very comfortable to be around as they resemble people from Alaska and native people called Navajo from the southwest of USA. Peace
This is one of the best documentaries I ever watched it was soo touching to see what they been through- I learned soo much - living there ancient ways - respect- living there parents etc I hope there all doing okay today how are all the kids parents and syblings?
I admire you. You were so young. I so very much appreciate the humility in retrospect. And strength of character. You are torn between two worlds. I understand your parents. I feel a mutual value of your tradition but understand the pull away. It is so very important to keep these old ways. I’m sending you love. I thank you for sharing your journey. Growth is amazing🥰. You’re figuring it out and I love coming along.🥰
I just watched "The Only Son," last evening. It really was amazing to see Pema's remote village and how they live. I'm so happy it worked out for Pema and his family even though his MUM was relentless.
Very proud of you and your younger sisters. I was so happy that you did the talk with your sister and helped convincing her not to go back home and get married. I hope and pray that she does not go back. Good luck to all of you. Justin USA
I loved the documentary so much. I cried a lot. I wish them all the best. I love the follow ups. My heart goes out to Pema’s parents. I hope to see them on Utube in the future as well. 🇿🇦
Prachtig wederom. I think we all could feel the deep love your mom has, but because of showing her determination to convey her son, it was more of her super strong message that we have to mutually care for each other in families. I think that that made the first documentary so impressive. The contrast made so much clear what is prevalent in the need of our human being, but not spoken about in other families. So eventhough you regret some things in the first documentary about the portraying of your mom, I found that it was therefor so powerful, so real, so recognizable.
This young man has more confidence and get up and go than many Western people. He speaks many languages and is willing to learn more every day. We can all take a page out of his book.
Pema I wished you do well and bring glories to your nepal and your hometown, all the best! I am Australian Japanese and presently living and working in Shanghai and I often tell people NEPAL is my second home, I visited nepal almost every year until the Covid started and I really cant wait to go back to nepal soon, in fact the time when Covid just started I was trekking in nepal Nargakot and have to leave nepal immediately as I was afraid I couldn't get a ticket back to Shanghai. Thank you Simonka for the documentary and also the people of Netherlands for giving Pema and his sister a chance to pursue their education there especially the families who adopted his sister in America and Netherlands. By the way dont feel bad about the decision you have made, there is no absolute right and wrong I think you did what you need to do and its all in good faith.
This is the most uneducated comment i have ever read. Pema was selfish and his parents were in a life and death situation that's not manipulation that's just the facts of being an agriculturalist in an extreme environment.
@@felixguerrero6062 …life or death?? They’ve been living that way for decades. Obviously, he can get an education and help his family financially way more than farming a poor land with more mouths to feed. Maybe your too stupid to see the value of education because you don’t have one.
@@belami_irl8543 Ad hominem is a sign you are unable to actually make an real argument beyond spiteful and emotional outbursts. His parent were getting older. Furthermore because they had done it for decades that is why he should have tried to help his parents out. His mothers was clearly in physical pain as she worked because she had problems with her hands. Working at some marketing firm in the Netherlands (which is where he works now) is not somehow better then farming in Nepal. What's the value of a socalled education if you abandon your parents right when they need your help. It's just childish and immature, like your comment and your entire worldview.
@@felixguerrero6062 ….obviously, your narrow minded thinking has blinded you from realizing Pema has already helped his family financially and has not abandoned them. However, just because you give birth to a child doesn’t mean they are indebted to you for life. I’m only stating my opinion and it’s by far “spiteful or an emotional outburst.” I guess your too insecure or immature to listen to another person’s point of view. Maybe this is due to your own oppressive misogynist culture. Never the less, good luck to you in the future.
Is there more than one documentary about Pena? I saw one years ago? But I feel like this isn’t the same one. A lot of it is the same. Maybe I am remember it incorrectly. I love how he still loves and respects his parents (mainly his mother because she is the one whom seems to have pressured him the most).
Very inspiring ,,life in rural remote area is very difficult ,they have to work so hard to have their food and health even if they work so hard they cannot earn completly all their needs
I love pema he is very strong no matter what happen to him he continue to pursue his dream, he inspire me so much even I'm a Filipino living thesame his status but now I am motivated by pema to be empower.
I have thought about this & gave a 4 page answer on the video, in 5 parts. I come from a different perspective.🤩 I'm not done hearing his answers but so far, so good, very interesting. He explains the challenges where he is - Holy cow, 1st he knows Tibetan & his local dialect, then he has to learn English, then Dutch. That is TOO MANY LANGUAGES! No one said life for anyone, anywhere, is automatically easy, not if you are ambitious & want to accomplish or achieve someting. They call this life 'the valley of tears' in the Catholic Church.
I think his ‘thinking’ makes great sense. Glad he did not cave for his parents. It is his life…I wish him well and hope he continues to chose well ! 🇨🇦🇨🇦🇨🇦
Hi Pema I really love your documentary on your travel back home with your sister's very sad leaving your mum & dad, you have your chosen your pathway and career hopefully one day you return and fulfill your mother's and father's wishes to marry and take over the family land with your siblings, carry on the legacy your forefathers left and build it up to be a success. All the best for the future 🌺👍😎😍
It is not unusual for parents managing generational farmland to want there children to not only take over the land but also help their aging parents their lives out in that lifestyle. As difficult as it was for Pema, I'm happy he stood his ground. His parents are uneducated and likely had no choice than take over their parents land and look after them in their old age. Being exposed to the modern world, as he was, it is pretty easy to understand the choice he made. I sense from comments in this video that he has a new found connection to Dolpa and a very important culture he never experienced.
As far as I know from studying tibetan buddhism, there are teachers that are called -la at end of their name as a very special title of respect. So she probably said pema-la.
I APPRECIATE VERY MUCH THE FATHER OF PAMELA. BECAUSE HE TRAVELLED AROUND, HE SAW THE OPPORTUNITIES SO HE BROUGHT HIS CHILDREN TO KATHMANDU. OPPORTUNITY FOR HEALING, EDUCATION, HIS FATHER IS AN ADVENTURER LIKE PAMELA, AND IT BENEFITTED HIS CHILDREN.
The documentary reminds me of the movie"Coming To America" where the Prince was supposed to go back to get married. And the Queen asked the King to change the r some of the traditions and culture. And King was confused to who is was supposed to change and the Queen said, if you can not do it, then who is going to do it. My point is that, these are some of the traditions they'll have to change to move with the time. For the manipulation of the parents, I have noticed it too that your mom would use words that were so hurtful to say to a child. "Doctor said you are ill because of your son who is refusing to listen to you". "If I die it will be your fault" and so on. I do understand that she is a strong character to the father but parents have to understand that children are not commodities. They are humans with feelings. You shouldn't apologise for the things that you said when you were young. Now you are growing up, you can see that it's not all bad thing to live there. But not to rely on farming and not establishing a business of some sort. The life I grew up is not different from the parents life. I spent 20years to never set my foot in the village but 5 years ago I went see where I grew up. There were no house left all had fallen down. I started to reflect on my life and thought, this is the place that made me to be who I am. After returning to the UK where I'm working I started rebuilding my village home and make suit the city life. I put solar, water with pump that brings water in the house just like in cities. The only difference is that there's a lot of animals that are I'm reeling. I'm so happy that your young sisters pursued with their education. I was so worried that the bigger one could have been married to some boy and used as a tool to do some field work. They were going to struggle given that they grew up not customed to that life. All the best with your sisters. Thank you for making the world know about the things that I know now
That is so wrong when you blamed or regret yourself saying negative descriptions about your hometown during the film. (You did a great job!) What you have been said on the film are all truth and fact. If you were not telling what was it is like way back, then there will be no progress or upgrade now in the Village. Think about, you are the reason why your village is slowly getting out from isolation area. People are slowly open minded now (not really ) but still you helped them out to get out from being closed minded. ( Sorry for my grammar 🙂)
I respect your decisions to seek your own destiny,,,but what are you doing to help your parents survive now? They do not have the support system that you have and I pray you use your influence and resources to help them.
I wish your parents give the land to a daughter that lives there or her children and who want to live on the land ..that is the only solution. They sent you to see this world so there is no point in unwinding all that you have become just because you are the only son. Firstly this patriarchal system should go away. It's a difficult thing. Since they only know that is the best way of life but then if everyone leaves the mountain then that way of life will be lost forever
The western world rubbed off on you, and you forgot how your culture works for itself. Western way doesn’t work that well for women either. The women end up with 2 jobs - formal work, and house/kids work. Independence is not all what it’s chalked up to be. I am happy you took the road to your own happiness. I wish you luck as you develop more in life.
Maybe you're right, but the "western" culture provides more options. Now some women can even choose to not get married or have children. And not just for culture, people in generally developed areas have a much wider scope of options and opportunities that you will not have in remote areas. Pema's mother lost 5 children and his sister 2 children due to situations that would have likely been fixed with a proper hospital around. Maybe not everything in the "western"/modern culture is good but I would argue there are more opportunities in almost all areas of life.
Pema's mother was right. She had suggested him that girl who had completed 10th grade and haad come back Pema's villagr. !! . He should have married her and gone back to his foster mom in Neatherlands!! 😀 and had little Pema's 😁😆😅😂
What a dilemma. Guilt for not being there to help your parents after they have helped you. Guilt that you are responsible for not carrying on their tradition and now they will not for fill their own obligations to their forefathers. Guilt for not being there when they grew very old. What is more important? Our own life or our parents. Such a dilemma.
I detest that some say the mother was 'manipulating' him. She was talking to her child as mothers do, because she wanted him to return and live a life of tradition. He was young, and wanted to see the world. I understand them both. When one is young, especially if they've had a taste of the world, it would be like caging an animal to prevent them from exploring everything they can. On the other hand, tradition and close community and family is not 'outdated' or wrong. It's how people have lived for the entire history of people, and it has only been recently , when comparing how long we've been here, that it has started to change. Traditions are a part of culture. Without traditions, you have no culture. Family and community teaches you your culture. Without family and a community, your culture becomes obsolete. In the future, they'll be saying the same thing that some say about Europeans (although it is untrue) - that they 'have no culture'. They do, but it's been pushed to the back, and most people don't know what the cultures are. That should never happen to any culture.
I am glad you admit that you were wrong because you were soooo rude to your parents and your older sister. You practically told them that they have no worth - your sister directly. It was hard to appreciate the work when you were such a turn off.
Leaving your aging parents to work themselves to the bones and to die alone, while you live a fantasy life in the Netherlands is absolutely shameful, not brave. It doesnt matter what culture you come from that is the lowest of the low.
@@DosYeobos His father carried him on his back for a month long trek through the Himalayan foot hills to take him to the city for better healthcare and education. His parents adored him and loved him the best they could---even risking their own lives for him. This is the very definition of being a good parent. You are completely self-centered and have no concept of the importance of family.
Are you kidding me??? They live in abject poverty and he had to grow up in an orphanage. "fantasy life"???? He has a right to his life and an education and to get out of the cycle of poverty. He can help them much more by using his education to help them and many others. He never abandoned them....that's their CHOICE if they want to stay in that situation. I would never want my kids to be burdened with caring for me and I also don't dictate who they love or marry or what to do. It's obvious you did not listen to the entire interview.
I would love to see a follow up video with his family.
Yes me tooo
Inspiring , young man . At such a young age his wisdom , advice he is giving his sisters commendable , didn't even realize he is that young in the documentary . Inspiring story and happy for you Pema and your siblings and to know your parents all doing well . and thanks for sharing your life story with us . and all the best to all of you .
Pema, you're a beautiful young man who faced having to make adult decisions as a young teenager. I wish you and your beautiful family the very best in your lives ahead. I certainly was educated by your documentary. Love from an Irish Mom xx
I'm in UK. I watched the film with a great deal of fascination. I then watched the above interview. You say how you regret certain attitudes towards your family as portrayed in the film. Inspite of your dilema, it came through very srongly the love and care you felt for your parents and family. You came across as a very lovely person. Congratulations in persuing your life in spite of a lot of opposition.
The best is to support him with donations so we can have more of their kids educated then back to the communities to help more people. So I donated and will continue to do so each year. Will love to meet Pema in Netherland next year. Keep up Pema. You are amazing!
I can understand how Pema's parents feel ,their hope and desire as well as Pema's dream for his future. The life in Dolpa is obviously a very hard and tough. Like most Asians, parents do depend or rely on their sons to help them out, therefore I can understand why they want their son to live or married and settle down with them or near them. It's pretty understandable if Pema finds Dolpa very isolated, having had experienced city life. Also it's not easy for Pema parents to leave their homeland either, .. It's a good that things work out well and Pema is constantly in contact with his parents & siblings and travel to see them as often as he can. Your journey is very inspiring ! Thanks for sharing your story. Would be great to be able to continue to hear your story and your parents story. Their life in Dolpa is so intriguing and eye opening for lot of us. Not many of us can travel so far .. something I would love to hear and hope u can update us. Thank you so much for sharing !
Am glad RUclips recommended this to me. After watching documentary last night till 3.30 am 🤗 was really curious and wanted to know how they r doing now, am happy that they r all doing well and good. God bless you n your family. 🙏
I cried 😭 when I watch your documentary
So glad to see him doing well and that his other sister continue her education this makes me so happy it be great to see them in their new life now as adults.
You are so amazing Pema ❤️❤️ I still remember that you was sat on the road near by lake with your sister that you told her “follow your heart and you decide” you are so lovely to your family!
Hope your parents are still ok ..
Such a wonderfully mature and well-spoken young man. Also kudos to the foster parents for giving them better lives, education, and raising them to be productive citizens.
Thanks for this video I had just watched the documentary last night I felt so bad being a villager like him I can relate to his life story
You're a blessing Pema to your family to your community and to all your viewers most especially to the villagers around the world
Yes we must have to respect our traditions but not to let it a hindrance to our education so to cope up with the challenges in life
Great respect to your father am sure that he had been teased by the villagers when he allowed you to leave but he was strong enough to stand behind your back and took you all to the plane the parting is so much heartbreaking I cried last night watching the documentary
Congratulations Pema keep up sharing your life story it's a blessing it's like a fairy tale with a happy ending
👆😍♥️😍👆
May you find your soulmate am pretty sure your parents are very eager to see their long awaited grand children from you
we know that in the village that's one of their happiness and pride having many children and grandchildren
God bless you more Pema 🙏🙏🙏
Very inspiring young man, has a desire for his future and take care of his siblings, a very good and very responsible brother indeed. I'm happy that you decided to pursue your studies. God bless
The only Son documentary means a lot to me. Very memorable. Last bonding moment with my late Father..
Until now still, i keep watching it ❤❤❤
It would make a great video to see how Pema's parents are adjusting to living in the city. Thanks for the update!
The documentary is very touching. I can understand the dilemma he's going through. I also understand his parents how they were depending on him to take on the family property but it was too late for he was already exposed to the outside life.
i watch him when he was and i want find him here in youtube but i cant find this man
NOT TO DISCREDIT PEMA'S MOM, SHE IS LOVINGLY LETTING GO OF HER KIDS JUST SO TO SATISFY THEM... ALL OUT OF HER LOVE... THANK YOU PEMA, REALLY, HELP IS A CONNECTING WORD TO LOVE...
I am mixed race Alaskan Native. Mixed Athabaskan/mixed white.
There are 11 languages spoken by Athabaskan’s from Alaska and Canada. We are a large Tribe.
I’ve seen in my life what can happen to a our culture that started 3 generations before I was born. Because of Harsh realities, In that timeframe, all our elders said this what was going to happen so get a education and do well in your life. Move forward and don’t look back. Now many many are well educated and run our Native Corporations. We don’t live on reservations, our elders said no to the US government, and told them this is our land and we will live free here like we have all our generations.
Subsistence living is hard. I could live this way when I was young when traveling at -40*F was not a problem. I’m 63 now and am thankful I don’t have to chop wood or hunt for food.
Thankful for where I am in my life.
I live a very western lifestyle.
I was given to my grandmother at 9 months old. It’s very hard to attach yourself you parents who love you but we’re not there. Though I love my parents for what they could do. My allegiance was with my grandmother always. I’ve tried to honor and respect my grandma, mother and father. In our culture it is up to us to decide. We don’t have arranged marriages any more. That went away with my mom’s generation.
I understand the pull to remain, it was hard to reconcile my life when I was young. Now that I’m older and understand 2 cultures and can be a bridge and be helpful for all people.
This young Man Pemba is very thoughtful and he brings understanding to the table. He walks in wisdom beyond his years. I pray that you continue with helping with your sisters life choices. I believe you will be helpful to many in your generation.
I live a life of dreaming and visions and I believe this is why our strong elders said get ready for what will happen in this land of Interior Alaska. (Look up Tanana Chiefs Conference and Doyon Lmt our regional Corporation)
For Some Alaska Natives and American Indians this is part of our reality.
This is my Real Self, when I dream in my sleep. It’s where truth comes from. Discerning and understanding are key.
Truth comes out of your spirit it’s in your belly, not so much your heart where your soul is.
Still much to say but this is all for now. Thank you for your time.
I hope you get this message.
P.S. I just remembered that when I was young I dreamed of Tibet and spent some time there.
I traveled their in mid 2000’s and found people very comfortable to be around as they resemble people from Alaska and native people called Navajo from the southwest of USA.
Peace
This is one of the best documentaries I ever watched it was soo touching to see what they been through- I learned soo much - living there ancient ways - respect- living there parents etc I hope there all doing okay today how are all the kids parents and syblings?
I admire you. You were so young. I so very much appreciate the humility in retrospect. And strength of character. You are torn between two worlds. I understand your parents. I feel a mutual value of your tradition but understand the pull away. It is so very important to keep these old ways. I’m sending you love. I thank you for sharing your journey. Growth is amazing🥰. You’re figuring it out and I love coming along.🥰
I just watched "The Only Son," last evening. It really was amazing to see Pema's remote village and how they live. I'm so happy it worked out for Pema and his family even though his MUM was relentless.
Very proud of you and your younger sisters. I was so happy that you did the talk with your sister and helped convincing her not to go back home and get married. I hope and pray that she does not go back. Good luck to all of you. Justin USA
I loved the documentary so much.
I cried a lot. I wish them
all the best.
I love the follow ups.
My heart goes out to Pema’s parents.
I hope to see them on Utube in the future as well. 🇿🇦
I salute you PEMA...,thanks for follow update👍♥️
Prachtig wederom. I think we all could feel the deep love your mom has, but because of showing her determination to convey her son, it was more of her super strong message that we have to mutually care for each other in families. I think that that made the first documentary so impressive. The contrast made so much clear what is prevalent in the need of our human being, but not spoken about in other families. So eventhough you regret some things in the first documentary about the portraying of your mom, I found that it was therefor so powerful, so real, so recognizable.
This young man has more confidence and get up and go than many Western people. He speaks many languages and is willing to learn more every day. We can all take a page out of his book.
Pema I wished you do well and bring glories to your nepal and your hometown, all the best! I am Australian Japanese and presently living and working in Shanghai and I often tell people NEPAL is my second home, I visited nepal almost every year until the Covid started and I really cant wait to go back to nepal soon, in fact the time when Covid just started I was trekking in nepal Nargakot and have to leave nepal immediately as I was afraid I couldn't get a ticket back to Shanghai. Thank you Simonka for the documentary and also the people of Netherlands for giving Pema and his sister a chance to pursue their education there especially the families who adopted his sister in America and Netherlands. By the way dont feel bad about the decision you have made, there is no absolute right and wrong I think you did what you need to do and its all in good faith.
Pema you are so amazing ❤️❤️
Such a brave man , Godbless his family in village
I’m glad you broke the chain… someone had to have the courage. Bravo
This is very good I hope have an in coming heart to heart interview .Thank you for this vlog .
Great to see he was able to get a good job and live an happy life.
Am from watching the documentary... so touching. how is your mother, father and all your sisters?
I saw this documentary and was touch by it,any follow up on this thanks
Really enjoyed watching
Thank you so much for sharing
It been great, he find a time to visit his family again, second part of the documentary
I’m so proud of Pema that he was wise enough at such a young age to not succumb to his mother’s manipulation, as well as, his sisters.
This is the most uneducated comment i have ever read. Pema was selfish and his parents were in a life and death situation that's not manipulation that's just the facts of being an agriculturalist in an extreme environment.
@@felixguerrero6062 …life or death?? They’ve been living that way for decades. Obviously, he can get an education and help his family financially way more than farming a poor land with more mouths to feed. Maybe your too stupid to see the value of education because you don’t have one.
its culture & tradition we cant say "manipulative"
@@belami_irl8543
Ad hominem is a sign you are unable to actually make an real argument beyond spiteful and emotional outbursts. His parent were getting older. Furthermore because they had done it for decades that is why he should have tried to help his parents out. His mothers was clearly in physical pain as she worked because she had problems with her hands.
Working at some marketing firm in the Netherlands (which is where he works now) is not somehow better then farming in Nepal. What's the value of a socalled education if you abandon your parents right when they need your help. It's just childish and immature, like your comment and your entire worldview.
@@felixguerrero6062 ….obviously, your narrow minded thinking has blinded you from realizing Pema has already helped his family financially and has not abandoned them. However, just because you give birth to a child doesn’t mean they are indebted to you for life. I’m only stating my opinion and it’s by far “spiteful or an emotional outburst.” I guess your too insecure or immature to listen to another person’s point of view. Maybe this is due to your own oppressive misogynist culture. Never the less, good luck to you in the future.
Is there more than one documentary about Pena? I saw one years ago? But I feel like this isn’t the same one. A lot of it is the same. Maybe I am remember it incorrectly.
I love how he still loves and respects his parents (mainly his mother because she is the one whom seems to have pressured him the most).
The Only Son inspired me alot 😚
I'm happy for u Pema u are Great 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻 hope ur parents & family's are still ok & doin good.
Thank you Pema you ignite the fire that slowly fading in me! Your life story really have a lot of good story to tell God bleas you more!
Pema you should have your own utube channel.
Very inspiring ,,life in rural remote area is very difficult ,they have to work so hard to have their food and health even if they work so hard they cannot earn completly all their needs
I love pema he is very strong no matter what happen to him he continue to pursue his dream, he inspire me so much even I'm a Filipino living thesame his status but now I am motivated by pema to be empower.
I have thought about this & gave a 4 page answer on the video, in 5 parts. I come from a different perspective.🤩 I'm not done hearing his answers but so far, so good, very interesting. He explains the challenges where he is - Holy cow, 1st he knows Tibetan & his local dialect, then he has to learn English, then Dutch. That is TOO MANY LANGUAGES! No one said life for anyone, anywhere, is automatically easy, not if you are ambitious & want to accomplish or achieve someting. They call this life 'the valley of tears' in the Catholic Church.
How's his family now and siblings.... Please kindly update..... His story is very inspiring...
I think his ‘thinking’ makes great sense. Glad he did not cave for his parents. It is his life…I wish him well and hope he continues to chose well ! 🇨🇦🇨🇦🇨🇦
I would also love to see a follow up video with all the children and family. What a conflict for him.
I really want see your next your videos. Your videos makes me crying 😢.same thing I was Born in small Village too so.
Hi Pema I really love your documentary on your travel back home with your sister's very sad leaving your mum & dad, you have your chosen your pathway and career hopefully one day you return and fulfill your mother's and father's wishes to marry and take over the family land with your siblings, carry on the legacy your forefathers left and build it up to be a success. All the best for the future 🌺👍😎😍
It is not unusual for parents managing generational farmland to want there children to not only take over the land but also help their aging parents their lives out in that lifestyle. As difficult as it was for Pema, I'm happy he stood his ground. His parents are uneducated and likely had no choice than take over their parents land and look after them in their old age. Being exposed to the modern world, as he was, it is pretty easy to understand the choice he made. I sense from comments in this video that he has a new found connection to Dolpa and a very important culture he never experienced.
Im very proud may god blesses you and family's amen
Your story Pema, very inspiring.
How's your parents and sisters?
A new subscriber here may God bless your channel keep up 🙂
Hope we can continue to follow their lives
Is there a follow up???
Pema 👍👍👍
He looks good
I've seen that video. It was inspiring and well made!
Documentry led me here. Want to more information about pema.
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Crying a lot when I watch this documentary specifically when they going back left there parents. I
Your village is beautiful. I hope you still get to inherit your father's lands.
I am so proud of you Peama la ,
you are a good young man.you promise them you will get some one to help them its an old life i understand i,m african.
Oooh been wondering what happened to Pema .. I was worried that he got married. Keep on Pema . We are praying for you
We are proud of you , take care of ur sisters. Can u tell me that ur sister didnt go to home after 10. Pls say tht i will feel relaxed
Hi Pema how is your family, hope you have solved your family problems 💕 take care
4am here in Saudi Arabia I finished documentary’ of his life
Interviewer keeps calling him pamela, not pema?? Inspiring story...good wishes for a fulfilling future...
As far as I know from studying tibetan buddhism, there are teachers that are called -la at end of their name as a very special title of respect. So she probably said pema-la.
Yes because his name is Pemalhamo Gurung 😚
I hope your 26 year old sister got help. She had sores all over her face it was very conserving. Any update on her?
I APPRECIATE VERY MUCH THE FATHER OF PAMELA. BECAUSE HE TRAVELLED AROUND, HE SAW THE OPPORTUNITIES SO HE BROUGHT HIS CHILDREN TO KATHMANDU. OPPORTUNITY FOR HEALING, EDUCATION, HIS FATHER IS AN ADVENTURER LIKE PAMELA, AND IT BENEFITTED HIS CHILDREN.
Pema where are you now ?
The documentary reminds me of the movie"Coming To America" where the Prince was supposed to go back to get married. And the Queen asked the King to change the r some of the traditions and culture. And King was confused to who is was supposed to change and the Queen said, if you can not do it, then who is going to do it. My point is that, these are some of the traditions they'll have to change to move with the time. For the manipulation of the parents, I have noticed it too that your mom would use words that were so hurtful to say to a child. "Doctor said you are ill because of your son who is refusing to listen to you". "If I die it will be your fault" and so on. I do understand that she is a strong character to the father but parents have to understand that children are not commodities. They are humans with feelings. You shouldn't apologise for the things that you said when you were young. Now you are growing up, you can see that it's not all bad thing to live there. But not to rely on farming and not establishing a business of some sort. The life I grew up is not different from the parents life. I spent 20years to never set my foot in the village but 5 years ago I went see where I grew up. There were no house left all had fallen down. I started to reflect on my life and thought, this is the place that made me to be who I am. After returning to the UK where I'm working I started rebuilding my village home and make suit the city life. I put solar, water with pump that brings water in the house just like in cities. The only difference is that there's a lot of animals that are I'm reeling. I'm so happy that your young sisters pursued with their education. I was so worried that the bigger one could have been married to some boy and used as a tool to do some field work. They were going to struggle given that they grew up not customed to that life. All the best with your sisters. Thank you for making the world know about the things that I know now
That is so wrong when you blamed or regret yourself saying negative descriptions about your hometown during the film. (You did a great job!) What you have been said on the film are all truth and fact. If you were not telling what was it is like way back, then there will be no progress or upgrade now in the Village. Think about, you are the reason why your village is slowly getting out from isolation area. People are slowly open minded now (not really ) but still you helped them out to get out from being closed minded. ( Sorry for my grammar 🙂)
Hows your parent now pema??
For real
I respect your decisions to seek your own destiny,,,but what are you doing to help your parents survive now? They do not have the support system that you have and I pray you use your influence and resources to help them.
He offered to have them move in with him and live together in the city
Why does she keep calling him Pamela?
She can't differentiate between Pema & Pamela. Lol
pema + (la) is honorific term in tibetan (dolpo) dialect
Is he married?
He’s still very handsome… are you ready to get married yet Pema ;)
I wish your parents give the land to a daughter that lives there or her children and who want to live on the land ..that is the only solution. They sent you to see this world so there is no point in unwinding all that you have become just because you are the only son. Firstly this patriarchal system should go away. It's a difficult thing. Since they only know that is the best way of life but then if everyone leaves the mountain then that way of life will be lost forever
The western world rubbed off on you, and you forgot how your culture works for itself. Western way doesn’t work that well for women either. The women end up with 2 jobs - formal work, and house/kids work. Independence is not all what it’s chalked up to be.
I am happy you took the road to your own happiness. I wish you luck as you develop more in life.
Maybe you're right, but the "western" culture provides more options. Now some women can even choose to not get married or have children. And not just for culture, people in generally developed areas have a much wider scope of options and opportunities that you will not have in remote areas. Pema's mother lost 5 children and his sister 2 children due to situations that would have likely been fixed with a proper hospital around. Maybe not everything in the "western"/modern culture is good but I would argue there are more opportunities in almost all areas of life.
I don’t agree with you about western education being more important than the life experience education. You Know this. Humility is key. I Know this.
What happen to his parents!? I m so sad that they end up alone... this is so wrong!
Hi hello.where your siblings. Hows your family.im from USA.Im native tribe.my tribe is Dine' Nation .
Pema's mother was right. She had suggested him that girl who had completed 10th grade and haad come back Pema's villagr. !! . He should have married her and gone back to his foster mom in Neatherlands!! 😀 and had little Pema's 😁😆😅😂
What a dilemma. Guilt for not being there to help your parents after they have helped you. Guilt that you are responsible for not carrying on their tradition and now they will not for fill their own obligations to their forefathers. Guilt for not being there when they grew very old. What is more important? Our own life or our parents. Such a dilemma.
I detest that some say the mother was 'manipulating' him. She was talking to her child as mothers do, because she wanted him to return and live a life of tradition. He was young, and wanted to see the world. I understand them both.
When one is young, especially if they've had a taste of the world, it would be like caging an animal to prevent them from exploring everything they can. On the other hand, tradition and close community and family is not 'outdated' or wrong. It's how people have lived for the entire history of people, and it has only been recently , when comparing how long we've been here, that it has started to change.
Traditions are a part of culture. Without traditions, you have no culture. Family and community teaches you your culture. Without family and a community, your culture becomes obsolete. In the future, they'll be saying the same thing that some say about Europeans (although it is untrue) - that they 'have no culture'. They do, but it's been pushed to the back, and most people don't know what the cultures are.
That should never happen to any culture.
How is your parents and your 2 younger sisters now?
No apologies needed.
Hebrews 4: 12 - 13🛐🔎🤲
Chose you're home my dear boy nothing is good in this world you will come to cry one day when u lost your mother and dad..?
Ann ….he has chosen his HOME.
Are u mad ann... Let him live
Don't guilt trip him. You sound like his mother. And like my own mother when l was young.
Good Son , so are you planning to get marry in your village some day?
I am glad you admit that you were wrong because you were soooo rude to your parents and your older sister. You practically told them that they have no worth - your sister directly. It was hard to appreciate the work when you were such a turn off.
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Leaving your aging parents to work themselves to the bones and to die alone, while you live a fantasy life in the Netherlands is absolutely shameful, not brave. It doesnt matter what culture you come from that is the lowest of the low.
His parents didn’t raise him, why should he be forced to take care of them?
@@DosYeobos
His father carried him on his back for a month long trek through the Himalayan foot hills to take him to the city for better healthcare and education. His parents adored him and loved him the best they could---even risking their own lives for him. This is the very definition of being a good parent. You are completely self-centered and have no concept of the importance of family.
@@felixguerrero6062 and now he is trying to take them to the city to take care of them, but they won’t do that..
He want a better life for his parent and sister he loves them somuch because in that remote area life is very difficult to have food and health
Are you kidding me??? They live in abject poverty and he had to grow up in an orphanage. "fantasy life"???? He has a right to his life and an education and to get out of the cycle of poverty. He can help them much more by using his education to help them and many others. He never abandoned them....that's their CHOICE if they want to stay in that situation. I would never want my kids to be burdened with caring for me and I also don't dictate who they love or marry or what to do. It's obvious you did not listen to the entire interview.
What a terrible way to live. They look very dirty too.