All i'm saying is if there's a will there's a way but most Americans will look down on certain jobs and think it's beneathe them a person can can make a way even without going to school
OP should have bought the loan, allowed his father to default on it & sued for ownership of the company. He then could have been his father’s boss & kept more control of the family’s situation while proving to his father the importance of an education.
The father should understand that times were different back then. Back then you could get by without education, now you need a high school diploma just to get a regular low pay job. In order to get into high paying jobs at a company, you do need higher education. My FIL is the same way, as in his day, so he claims, all you needed was to have a firm handshake. He’s always saying this to my husband; both he and I have a college education. However, I will say from experience, that a college education doesn’t guarantee anything either.
I am in my 60s. My grandparents were saying that "In my day, all you needed was a firm handshake" stuff. Contracts existed in the 1900s, 1800s, and before. Do I think OP should have made the loan himself, and set himself up as his dad's manager instead, yes. Longer term joy in the humiliation. But also, the recognition that his dad was a good cobbler, but not a good businessman. A sad collision between what works now and what worked in the past.
There is nothing wrong with trade school. There is something wrong with forcing your children to follow in your footsteps, just because. They aren't your property, they have a mind of their own, and they have a right to choose what they do with their lives. What an antiquated way of thinking.
You're right that his kids should have freedom. Now, the father is absolutely free to not fund that college education. He's also quite within his rights not to subsidize the life of a graduated son.
OP should have taught his Dad about opening a website so he could compete in today's world. His Dad may have begun to understand new ways of thinking as a result. That said, when he hit the Mom, it was game over, and that the kids had to walk on eggshells meant they were getting hit, too. I feel so terrible that those kids missed out on school with their peers
Thank you for the new story Mr. Reddito! You and everyone else involved in making these videos keep up the great work! I hope everyone is having a great day/afternoon/night! Peace ☮️, hugs 🤗 and love 😘!
There is absolutely nothing wrong with trade school. This father was acting like this guy was getting some social degree. Like gender studies. He was being an engineer which is like an awesome job opportunity. But trade school is not to be frowned upon and you can make good money as a Tradesman. This father was just a weird man
@@charleshuguley9323 I just wanted to give the message that you don't have to go to university to be something with yourself. It is very possible to make six figures as a Tradesman. This father was indeed acting like a buffoon. Engineering is like the bee's knees LOL. It's the ultimate trade
@@mikethoroughgood16 one of the best jobs you can get. It's like my uncle who's an architect. Makes good money and retired early but also my brother who is a truck driver makes six figures. Just works a lot
In my country lots of engineers is doing taxi driver and security guard, the father may be right in our country but he was the evil man for how he treat his son, if I had son i would support him and let him find his own path even if i know it wasn't the best option
I would have relocated the family from dad when I first heard he hit her. Personally I wouldn't have set him with the loan. I would have set him up to go back to school to learn about business before he got any money from me
Nope no loan but the moment I knew he hit my mom I would have opened a can of WHIP A** on him he never would have forgotten even to his nursing home days . How dare he
OP has a sadistic and bitter streak in him. Was there reason to not help at all? Surely there was. But OP went out of his way to deceive and harm. If he’s not careful, he’s going to slide into a bit of bad karma himself.
One thing I don't understand is why Mr. Reddito always says "It's cool to be kind." and yet nearly every video ends with the OP getting revenge on the antagonist by returning whatever bad juju the antagonist was dishing out. My personal "code of ethics" tells me to take the higher road, and to let karma have her way. I'm not saying to let the "bad guy" escape unscathed, but to allow natural consequences. It's not kind to set someone up to fail by making promises you never intended to keep. All that does is allow the OP to get down in the same dirt as the bad guy. That's not satisfying to me at all! It's almost like a denouement. I'd prefer for OP to take Mom and siblings to the new place one day when the father was at work so he comes home to an empty house. And let him deal with the fact that his business failed all on its own, without OP setting him up beforehand. Does anyone else feel like I do? I'd be happy to hear from you, if you agree with me.
The father's business was doomed anyway. Expanding would never allow him to compete with online businesses, plus he was too uneducated to start his own online business.
I think OP's father is going to regret kicking him out . Now I'll listen to the rest of the story. OP did EXACTLY 💯 the right thing. And yes karma is a witch.
It sounds to me like OP left his dad with no home, a failing business and a bleak future where he will have nothing. In short OP destroyed everything his old man built that’s a huge middle finger if you ask me.
Not sure if the fake loan promise was appropriate but what a great guy for helping out those who sacrificed for him. All too frequently in this world once people get what they want they forget their obligations (try loaning money to friends and family and see what happens). His mother and siblings look like they are set up for decent futures too. The father must have been extraordinarily cruel to his son to make him want to screw him over like that. Dad won't go hungry or homeless but his future looks to be rather modest, unlike his son. Hopefully the rest of the family does great. I say this as an outsider and knowing only what I just listened to. So I say that very carefully and would never question the person's actions. I had a lousy childhood myself.
I never even went to trade school. I grew up machining, woodworking, construction and working on basket case motorcycles. I started my mechanical engineering degree, but didn't want to finish. Besides CAD, I knew quite a bit of it already. In 10 years, I've climbed from a maintenance tech, supervisor and manager who makes more than most engineers with a decade in the field. My wife is a microbiologist. I make double what she does. I also own a gunsmithing business on the side that pulls in an additional $75K or so a year. I've had people ship me firearms from some very far states to get work done. College is a piece of paper that says you can show up and have basic knowledge. It does not mean you are intelligent. I fix expensive mistakes engineers who think they are smart make all the time. The last one cost the company $750,000. What did I know, though? I didn't finish my degree. Success is based on you, not an education.
Im torn. My opinion is that he should of given his das an ultimatum "i will take everything, the family and watch you ruin yourself" or "(arguably) close up shop, do this course in business and marketing and i will assist you in redevelop your business " Basically be the bigger man. Educate his farther, become a business partner. Prove to him that education and upskilling is the solution
My only problem with OP is that he lied and said he would repay the loan. He should not have done that. Instead he should ha e told his father to get the loan and repay it himself, knowing that his father would not be able to.
This story had to have happened in Africa. The mention of school fees ( for middle school/ high school) and eating biscuits and tea is a major sign of success there… at least in west Africa. I learned this from my Ghanaian husband.
If the dad was in trades, how did he get through without a car? Plumbers, etc all need a car to get to work and carry equipment. Same for construction.
I might be remembering wrong, but I think OP said that his father was a cobbler which means he likely had a shop and customers would come to him. The father's still an a**hole, but the cobbler trade is not one that requires travel.
@@uh8myzen Ok, that makes more sense. I must have missed the cobbler bit. Easy to do when often people will come talk over what I'm trying to listen to.
i worked for 25 years as a corrections officer at our local jail. you would not believe what men can do to their wives. I have seen things that personally should have been arrested for Aggravated Battery which is a felony. Personally im surpised O.P. didnt hit his father which would have been bad but He wanted to protect his mom and siblings.. i think he did the right thing in protecting his family. Trade school is fine but that wasnt what O.P. wanted. He father should have backed him.
While I feel a college education is a good thing, IF you're pursuing a career in a worthwhile field...most college students don't. It's sheer stupidity to spend thousands of dollars, and years of your life, for a degree that isn't worth the parchment it's printed on. Those people (and their parents) would be far better served by them learning a trade they might actually be able to make money from. What the OP wanted to learn though was much like the "Trades" his father was so interested in, only, he would be in charge of all those working that trade, and earning far more than any of them. The OP feeling it was disrespectful to not tell his father of his plans was somewhat misguided. Respect is something that's earned, not given. But, this is obviously not in the USA. He probably went a bit too far in his revenge, but I can't say the father was undeserving of it.
Nice move o p is greed cost him everything Hit my mom will you😊 I bet you could count the number of times he's starting his head I never should have been so selfish all my life
Absolutely correct. This guy went way too far. He should have just saved his family from this moronic old man and gone no contact and let him fail the best way he knows how. Don't set him up for immediate failure just let him fail little by little all by himself. The ultimate revenge is letting him lose everything bit-by-bit not all at once in one lump
Yep cause dad's Business was going to fail eventually without any help from his son helping it get there. Plus he should have let it be so dad couldn't put blame on his own son but on himself n shamed his own self instead of OP .
I think OP's solution was perfect. Jailtime isn't always the go to solution in cases of abuse, so long as the aggressor suffers apropriate consequences. The loan bluff made sure his dad had enough false assurance that he wouldn't abuse any one else in the time it took OP to furnish the apartment. In the end, the dad lost his whole family, his house, his business and the last shred of his stupid pride. Mom got away from her abuser and all the kids get to pursue the education they want. Few stories are as satisfying as this.
Pride goeth before a fall..the father was prodeful and scared. He didn't have an education the new ways of handling business was terrifying to him. Doesn't excuse him, but he never tried to change.
At the beginning I see that the father was trying to avoid op from failing. But if you ask me, history repeat itself. Op's father didn't want to end up like his father before him. Then Op had the same thoughts as his own father when he was young and didn't want to end up like his father. The difference is that op's father gave up and peeked. The meaning of passion is to suffer for what you love. Op suffered and gained greater abilities than his father because he wanted to do what he wanted to do. Op's father's pride didn't accept that he was in the wrong and didn't see a diamond in the rough. If I were op and I ended up much greater than someone the saw nothing but a failure in me, I would do exactly what op did but payed off the loan, tell him how his business is failing, lord it over his head for the rest of his life and tell him that it was going to be the last time I am bailing him out with money and to remember my advice on how his business was failing. With that, he would see the fails but it would eat at his soul that I was right and all of his children will never respect him and will go beyond his dead end of a mindset. Watch someone crumble would be a fun watch but knowing that someone's way of thinking was the cause of their financial demise and then see their pride, ideology, and sprite broken would put a bigger smile on my face.
The issue is simple that he hold up the money advantage on his own family. This is what is wrong in so many levels actually. He was absolutely a pathetic piece of shit who deprived his own family from everything simply because he was a absolutely failure. You know bare minimum doesn't mean you're great.
I went to college and obtained two very good degrees on my terms. After some time I found a clue collar job that blew the pay of my other jobs out of the water. Needless to say I chose this route because I’m now able to use my degrees from college and I’m collecting a hefty pension at a very young age. Some jobs in this world let u retire after a certain amount of years worked no matter the age. I get to either work or do nothing and get a nice wonderful package to get me through the rest of my life!! Everything is covered including anything you might think of!!! I’m set. I’m very young, worked hard and if I’m bored one day (doubt it) I can do anything I want with my degrees. I planned this out years ago so I could enjoy my life. I’m young, very young and worked so hard and having so many choices is great!! Do both if you can, I did and I’m happy. I paid my own way for everything. I don’t come from money and had student loans and I have no regrets. Having smarts and a trade is an excellent route to take everyone. Don’t listen to anyone but yourself in life. If I would’ve I’d be working for another few decades. Jokes on anyone who mocked me for being very very well educated but choosing the route I took. Lol I even had some morons apologize to me for doubting me. They failed to see my plans. My goals were ignored, shame though since I started working after them and retired before them. I’m not floating I’m just not into being judged by small minded elitist people. Follow all of your dreams guys. Sometimes combining white and blue collar works out so well!! Good luck out there and have the best life you can!!
OP's father's problem was not his lack of education but his ego and unwillngness to adapt to a changing business environment. Plenty of other busineemen with Ivy league educations and MBA's have similar personalities and made even more disastrous blunders.
I agree with what OP did for his mother and siblings but I disagree with the method he chose to use in dealing with his father. He very easily could have washed his hands of his father, his father’s business and helped/ protected his mother and siblings. His father’s business would have died without his interference
His father did not provide a thing for his children except a roof over their heads. He provided food when he felt like it. He did not provide them with any education, love or understanding. People like the Dad know everything and can not be educated on anything. They feel their word is final and unless they believe it or it was their idea it can not be true. The Dad got what he wanted and deserved.
Wow I'm glad that you went to school but you should've moved your mom and siblings out of that house because your father was abusing them by making them stop going to school. But in the end it all worked out for you. That's right give him the exact treatment he gave you and walk away never look back
Theres too much abuse with ops family, they had to leave pops, what if hes was striking and pounding on his sisters and brothers too, op would never forgive himself if he didn't separate them from pops.
Science is an exception and so are professions that require a degree. Gender studies and similar and most business journalism that short of stuff you are better off getting an internship. Even history English and some stuff like that unless it's a double major with education you can't do alot with it.
Those people feeling bad for the father have never been in an abusive household (not a flex just a sad fact that they will never understand how it feels)
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I agree with OP in helping mom and his sibblings.
SMDH..Dad was a real piece of work. He got what he gave!! KARMA
Helping people to learn from their mistakes is a form of education. Good on OP!
You did great, so proud of you and your going to do great
OP'S father is going to eat his words!!!!
That kind of a man will always thinks his words is gold.
I agree! OP did NOT go far enough!
What goes around, comes around!👏👏
OP, did the right thing and teaching his family a lesson that Education was important.
Education isn't for everyperson i have family that made it rich without going to school.
@@armandodiego478 Trade school is education to.
Yes it is but they never went to trade school they made it by being fisher men and then in my country Belize tourism exploded and they rich off of it
@@armandodiego478 Yet in the us most people can not do that. So trade school is a better option for them.
All i'm saying is if there's a will there's a way but most Americans will look down on certain jobs and think it's beneathe them a person can can make a way even without going to school
OP should have bought the loan, allowed his father to default on it & sued for ownership of the company. He then could have been his father’s boss & kept more control of the family’s situation while proving to his father the importance of an education.
Huh, neat!
I didn't know that was possible to buy a loan. One never stops learning (pun not intended but wish it was)
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The father should understand that times were different back then. Back then you could get by without education, now you need a high school diploma just to get a regular low pay job. In order to get into high paying jobs at a company, you do need higher education.
My FIL is the same way, as in his day, so he claims, all you needed was to have a firm handshake. He’s always saying this to my husband; both he and I have a college education.
However, I will say from experience, that a college education doesn’t guarantee anything either.
I am in my 60s. My grandparents were saying that "In my day, all you needed was a firm handshake" stuff. Contracts existed in the 1900s, 1800s, and before. Do I think OP should have made the loan himself, and set himself up as his dad's manager instead, yes. Longer term joy in the humiliation. But also, the recognition that his dad was a good cobbler, but not a good businessman.
A sad collision between what works now and what worked in the past.
There is nothing wrong with trade school. There is something wrong with forcing your children to follow in your footsteps, just because. They aren't your property, they have a mind of their own, and they have a right to choose what they do with their lives. What an antiquated way of thinking.
Third world country I think, the shoemaker father was unaware that time marches forward and even tradesmen have to March with the times
You're right that his kids should have freedom. Now, the father is absolutely free to not fund that college education. He's also quite within his rights not to subsidize the life of a graduated son.
Technically, not letting the kids go to school is child abuse.
💯 Thank you.
I was hoping someone would say something about this! Not letting them get an education is abuse and illegal, children have to go to school
Dad got an education whether he wanted it or not.
Mr. Reddito is the absolute best. I cannot get enough. During my visit to the gym, i listen to these stories.
OP should have taught his Dad about opening a website so he could compete in today's world. His Dad may have begun to understand new ways of thinking as a result. That said, when he hit the Mom, it was game over, and that the kids had to walk on eggshells meant they were getting hit, too. I feel so terrible that those kids missed out on school with their peers
I see him proving to his dad that he is successful
As a person who lived through dv i can say he is his mom and siblings guardian angel.
Amazing example of humanity!
OP did very well. Good on him and his mom.
You did the right thing for your self
Thank you for the new story Mr. Reddito! You and everyone else involved in making these videos keep up the great work! I hope everyone is having a great day/afternoon/night! Peace ☮️, hugs 🤗 and love 😘!
Yes, they don't get enough credit, so many of the other sites spit out repeats
There is absolutely nothing wrong with trade school. This father was acting like this guy was getting some social degree. Like gender studies. He was being an engineer which is like an awesome job opportunity. But trade school is not to be frowned upon and you can make good money as a Tradesman. This father was just a weird man
I don't think anyone said that there is anything wrong with trade school IF THAT'S WHAT YOU WANT TO DO. The father was a malevolent idiot.
@@charleshuguley9323 I just wanted to give the message that you don't have to go to university to be something with yourself. It is very possible to make six figures as a Tradesman. This father was indeed acting like a buffoon. Engineering is like the bee's knees LOL. It's the ultimate trade
There is nothing wrong with trade school but there is nothing wrong with college this man was abusive being an engineer is a good job
@@mikethoroughgood16 one of the best jobs you can get. It's like my uncle who's an architect. Makes good money and retired early but also my brother who is a truck driver makes six figures. Just works a lot
In my country lots of engineers is doing taxi driver and security guard, the father may be right in our country but he was the evil man for how he treat his son, if I had son i would support him and let him find his own path even if i know it wasn't the best option
I would have relocated the family from dad when I first heard he hit her. Personally I wouldn't have set him with the loan. I would have set him up to go back to school to learn about business before he got any money from me
Nope no loan but the moment I knew he hit my mom I would have opened a can of WHIP A** on him he never would have forgotten even to his nursing home days . How dare he
What I wish to happen probably won't. I wish OP's mom would divorce that pos husband, and get child support for her other children's education.
I on op side he did everything right I don't blame him
Father is a monster bully.I feel sorry for the family 👪 😢
I agree with you. There is no guarantee that the father wouldn't literally beat the tar out of all of them. He needs anger management.
The father is jealous of those who had/have a higher education.
OP has a sadistic and bitter streak in him. Was there reason to not help at all? Surely there was. But OP went out of his way to deceive and harm. If he’s not careful, he’s going to slide into a bit of bad karma himself.
A bit of his father in him, but it was well earned.
You did the right thing 👍😄🥰🤠😃😀😍🤭😁
As an adult u can do what u want. They don’t own u
Op did the right thing after he became successful.
My question is why didn't the dad go to the gradpas house to live after he lost his home seeing how he is the one that screwed his head up
One thing I don't understand is why Mr. Reddito always says "It's cool to be kind." and yet nearly every video ends with the OP getting revenge on the antagonist by returning whatever bad juju the antagonist was dishing out. My personal "code of ethics" tells me to take the higher road, and to let karma have her way. I'm not saying to let the "bad guy" escape unscathed, but to allow natural consequences. It's not kind to set someone up to fail by making promises you never intended to keep. All that does is allow the OP to get down in the same dirt as the bad guy. That's not satisfying to me at all! It's almost like a denouement. I'd prefer for OP to take Mom and siblings to the new place one day when the father was at work so he comes home to an empty house. And let him deal with the fact that his business failed all on its own, without OP setting him up beforehand.
Does anyone else feel like I do? I'd be happy to hear from you, if you agree with me.
I agree with you . I feel sory for his father. On educated man can do much better. I believe Karma will go around
Police!!!
The father's business was doomed anyway. Expanding would never allow him to compete with online businesses, plus he was too uneducated to start his own online business.
He did right thing
That means the family won and dad lost as simple as that.😊
Good riddance for bad behavior! I wouldn’t have given him a dime.
I think OP's father is going to regret kicking him out . Now I'll listen to the rest of the story. OP did EXACTLY 💯 the right thing. And yes karma is a witch.
I would stolen the business, made it viable again, gave OP mom a job, and force OP dad apply for his job again.
He's the only one who embarrassed of himself and not you, that's so funny 😁🤭😍😀😃🤠🥰😄👍
well he deserved it
My kind of payback😈 Dad was pissing me off!
It sounds to me like OP left his dad with no home, a failing business and a bleak future where he will have nothing.
In short OP destroyed everything his old man built that’s a huge middle finger if you ask me.
CONGRATS ON THE 100k!
Not sure if the fake loan promise was appropriate but what a great guy for helping out those who sacrificed for him. All too frequently in this world once people get what they want they forget their obligations (try loaning money to friends and family and see what happens). His mother and siblings look like they are set up for decent futures too. The father must have been extraordinarily cruel to his son to make him want to screw him over like that. Dad won't go hungry or homeless but his future looks to be rather modest, unlike his son. Hopefully the rest of the family does great. I say this as an outsider and knowing only what I just listened to. So I say that very carefully and would never question the person's actions. I had a lousy childhood myself.
I never even went to trade school. I grew up machining, woodworking, construction and working on basket case motorcycles. I started my mechanical engineering degree, but didn't want to finish. Besides CAD, I knew quite a bit of it already. In 10 years, I've climbed from a maintenance tech, supervisor and manager who makes more than most engineers with a decade in the field. My wife is a microbiologist. I make double what she does. I also own a gunsmithing business on the side that pulls in an additional $75K or so a year. I've had people ship me firearms from some very far states to get work done. College is a piece of paper that says you can show up and have basic knowledge. It does not mean you are intelligent. I fix expensive mistakes engineers who think they are smart make all the time. The last one cost the company $750,000. What did I know, though? I didn't finish my degree. Success is based on you, not an education.
Like the old saying goes “KARMA” is a MOTHER.
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Im torn. My opinion is that he should of given his das an ultimatum "i will take everything, the family and watch you ruin yourself" or "(arguably) close up shop, do this course in business and marketing and i will assist you in redevelop your business "
Basically be the bigger man. Educate his farther, become a business partner. Prove to him that education and upskilling is the solution
Your mother should have divorced him and them forced him to pay for your schooling
Wow no one's here. Welcome freins
This is the most hateful story... the son turn out to be an a-hole.
My only problem with OP is that he lied and said he would repay the loan. He should not have done that. Instead he should ha e told his father to get the loan and repay it himself, knowing that his father would not be able to.
This story had to have happened in Africa. The mention of school fees ( for middle school/ high school) and eating biscuits and tea is a major sign of success there… at least in west Africa. I learned this from my Ghanaian husband.
If the dad was in trades, how did he get through without a car? Plumbers, etc all need a car to get to work and carry equipment. Same for construction.
I might be remembering wrong, but I think OP said that his father was a cobbler which means he likely had a shop and customers would come to him. The father's still an a**hole, but the cobbler trade is not one that requires travel.
@@uh8myzen Ok, that makes more sense. I must have missed the cobbler bit. Easy to do when often people will come talk over what I'm trying to listen to.
My dad had a successful career as an electrician. His children went to college and have had successful careers in STEM.
There is nothing wrong with trade school....
However forcing one to is a problem.
Op did not go far enough.
He’s going to do good
that kid was no better than his father.
i worked for 25 years as a corrections officer at our local jail. you would not believe what men can do to their wives. I have seen things that personally should have been arrested for Aggravated Battery which is a felony. Personally im surpised O.P. didnt hit his father which would have been bad but He wanted to protect his mom and siblings.. i think he did the right thing in protecting his family. Trade school is fine but that wasnt what O.P. wanted. He father should have backed him.
Op was correct on everything but the loan
While I feel a college education is a good thing, IF you're pursuing a career in a worthwhile field...most college students don't.
It's sheer stupidity to spend thousands of dollars, and years of your life, for a degree that isn't worth the parchment it's printed on.
Those people (and their parents) would be far better served by them learning a trade they might actually be able to make money from.
What the OP wanted to learn though was much like the "Trades" his father was so interested in, only, he would be in charge of all those working that trade, and earning far more than any of them.
The OP feeling it was disrespectful to not tell his father of his plans was somewhat misguided.
Respect is something that's earned, not given.
But, this is obviously not in the USA.
He probably went a bit too far in his revenge, but I can't say the father was undeserving of it.
Two wrongs don’t make it right!
Op should have paid as he agreed to. He went to far
873👍's up MR RA thank you for sharing 😊
Nice move o p is greed cost him everything
Hit my mom will you😊
I bet you could count the number of times he's starting his head I never should have been so selfish all my life
he shouldn't have done the loan thing, just moved his mom and siblings out because of the abuse.
Absolutely correct. This guy went way too far. He should have just saved his family from this moronic old man and gone no contact and let him fail the best way he knows how. Don't set him up for immediate failure just let him fail little by little all by himself. The ultimate revenge is letting him lose everything bit-by-bit not all at once in one lump
Yep cause dad's Business was going to fail eventually without any help from his son helping it get there. Plus he should have let it be so dad couldn't put blame on his own son but on himself n shamed his own self instead of OP .
All these arguments are acceptable till the father hit his mother.. but he chose to hit mother..
You should never pull your kids out of middle school. Education is something you never stop learning.🤦♀️
A GOOD education.
Mostly what's taught in universities now, is how to be the biggest jerk, and greatest disappointment, you can be!
OP 👍 Petty 🤣✌️
I think OP's solution was perfect. Jailtime isn't always the go to solution in cases of abuse, so long as the aggressor suffers apropriate consequences. The loan bluff made sure his dad had enough false assurance that he wouldn't abuse any one else in the time it took OP to furnish the apartment. In the end, the dad lost his whole family, his house, his business and the last shred of his stupid pride. Mom got away from her abuser and all the kids get to pursue the education they want. Few stories are as satisfying as this.
Pride goeth before a fall..the father was prodeful and scared. He didn't have an education the new ways of handling business was terrifying to him. Doesn't excuse him, but he never tried to change.
At the beginning I see that the father was trying to avoid op from failing. But if you ask me, history repeat itself. Op's father didn't want to end up like his father before him. Then Op had the same thoughts as his own father when he was young and didn't want to end up like his father. The difference is that op's father gave up and peeked. The meaning of passion is to suffer for what you love. Op suffered and gained greater abilities than his father because he wanted to do what he wanted to do. Op's father's pride didn't accept that he was in the wrong and didn't see a diamond in the rough. If I were op and I ended up much greater than someone the saw nothing but a failure in me, I would do exactly what op did but payed off the loan, tell him how his business is failing, lord it over his head for the rest of his life and tell him that it was going to be the last time I am bailing him out with money and to remember my advice on how his business was failing. With that, he would see the fails but it would eat at his soul that I was right and all of his children will never respect him and will go beyond his dead end of a mindset. Watch someone crumble would be a fun watch but knowing that someone's way of thinking was the cause of their financial demise and then see their pride, ideology, and sprite broken would put a bigger smile on my face.
That’s called financial abuse
.... dad acted like a fool and now he's lost everything
Good for you
Father hit mother.. the deal is sealed.. simple
"Defied" not " defiled"
The issue is simple that he hold up the money advantage on his own family. This is what is wrong in so many levels actually. He was absolutely a pathetic piece of shit who deprived his own family from everything simply because he was a absolutely failure. You know bare minimum doesn't mean you're great.
Mr redditor, we need more mother in law stories!’ Animated!!
Cause grandpa is a college drop out no one can go? Frak that this is what happens in patriarchal societies
I went to college and obtained two very good degrees on my terms. After some time I found a clue collar job that blew the pay of my other jobs out of the water. Needless to say I chose this route because I’m now able to use my degrees from college and I’m collecting a hefty pension at a very young age. Some jobs in this world let u retire after a certain amount of years worked no matter the age. I get to either work or do nothing and get a nice wonderful package to get me through the rest of my life!! Everything is covered including anything you might think of!!! I’m set. I’m very young, worked hard and if I’m bored one day (doubt it) I can do anything I want with my degrees. I planned this out years ago so I could enjoy my life. I’m young, very young and worked so hard and having so many choices is great!! Do both if you can, I did and I’m happy. I paid my own way for everything. I don’t come from money and had student loans and I have no regrets. Having smarts and a trade is an excellent route to take everyone. Don’t listen to anyone but yourself in life. If I would’ve I’d be working for another few decades. Jokes on anyone who mocked me for being very very well educated but choosing the route I took. Lol I even had some morons apologize to me for doubting me. They failed to see my plans. My goals were ignored, shame though since I started working after them and retired before them. I’m not floating I’m just not into being judged by small minded elitist people. Follow all of your dreams guys. Sometimes combining white and blue collar works out so well!! Good luck out there and have the best life you can!!
That's a dirty move
OP's father's problem was not his lack of education but his ego and unwillngness to adapt to a changing business environment. Plenty of other busineemen with Ivy league educations and MBA's have similar personalities and made even more disastrous blunders.
I agree with what OP did for his mother and siblings but I disagree with the method he chose to use in dealing with his father. He very easily could have washed his hands of his father, his father’s business and helped/ protected his mother and siblings. His father’s business would have died without his interference
His father did not provide a thing for his children except a roof over their heads. He provided food when he felt like it. He did not provide them with any education, love or understanding. People like the Dad know everything and can not be educated on anything. They feel their word is final and unless they believe it or it was their idea it can not be true. The Dad got what he wanted and deserved.
OP did go a little bit over board but hey he gave him a taste of his own medicine
Kinda odd an engineer didn’t have a job before graduation.
OP father in the first story is an idiot. He failed his kids.
human beings like the father really existed ?
Ok ~~ that’s kinda rotten.
Ops is going to send his siblings to school. And make his father eat his words
His father should have gone to jail he did write getting his mom and his siblings away but he should have got his mom to press charges
I think OP will help his father get a contract working with his new job.
OP is an asshole. There was no need to be so hard on his father.
Nothing easy about being an engineer and a lot more people are picking trade schools over college now no shame in it
Wow I'm glad that you went to school but you should've moved your mom and siblings out of that house because your father was abusing them by making them stop going to school. But in the end it all worked out for you. That's right give him the exact treatment he gave you and walk away never look back
OP made a mistake by showing his father where the apartment is. He'll just bully his way in.
Theres too much abuse with ops family, they had to leave pops, what if hes was striking and pounding on his sisters and brothers too, op would never forgive himself if he didn't separate them from pops.
Most degrees are a waste of time and money but engineering is an exception.
There are Physicians, Nurses, Lawyers, Architects, Teachers, Advocates, Social Work, etc. I hope this helps.
Both my husband and I have degrees in biology and we've had successful careers
Science is an exception and so are professions that require a degree. Gender studies and similar and most business journalism that short of stuff you are better off getting an internship. Even history English and some stuff like that unless it's a double major with education you can't do alot with it.
I just didn’t like the way OP lied. Two wrongs don’t make a right. 🤷♀️
Those people feeling bad for the father have never been in an abusive household (not a flex just a sad fact that they will never understand how it feels)
What country is this?
I'm thinking India.