You don't have to agree or disagree....because cheating is never black and white, regardless of whether the man or the woman cheats. It takes two people to have a relationship.
@@MimiIkonn it takes two people to have a realtionship . and one person to cheat !! if one drives the other one ' out' of the relationship , break up and do what you want . cheating is wrong !!
I agree with everyone here. Cheating is never ok. If you have a problem with your partner just talk about it or leave her/him and then sleep with whoever you want to
I remember when my parents would take a trip without me when I was a child, I loved it, it was exciting for me to spend time with other people, and still now I respect my parents for taking time for themselves and I think it set a great example for me.
You said you didn't have a mum here- but i remember Alex's mum stayed with you for six months after Alexa was born? how come you didn't talk about her?
I thought the same. I don't know if they think their followers are dumb/blind, but we have seen the help they have gotten. Especially those of us who live in South Ken and see them.
In the Czech Republic, where I come from, is a three-year paid maternity leave... It is not a huge amount of money, but worth for it! God Bless my country! Of course we have many other problems, but I am very glad for the opportunity to spend so much time with my small kids.
Why are people so harsh in the comments? Sure, they're not perfect, they're human beings! This is a VIDEO. We have no right to criticize their relationship. If you work together and spend as much time together as these two do, have a child together, be together like 10 years, then maybe you can talk. They've been through so much together. I am in a 10 year long relationship and we're also business partners so we work together, almost always together. I understand Mimi and Alex's dynamic. They are just so used to talking together, it's like a naturally choreographed "dance". Maybe they talk over each other sometimes but who cares? You know when you're excited to talk to your best friend and you just keep talking over each other but ultimately you're listening and you care about what they say? Anyway, I loved this video. Very real and authentic, not too filtered and lots of awesome advice. Thank you for keeping it real Mimi and Alex :)
I think it's because through the years they have become very preachy - and also, they have been caught being dishonest quite a bit. We get it, they want to sell an image but for those of us who have been following them for 10 years - it's disappointing.
I’m so happy you guys addressed your old videos and how much you’ve grown since then. I still remember seeing you guys say “oh yeah, our baby will adapt to our traveling and our lifestyle!” I remember thinking that was very naive! Hahah
Alex looks so bored in this video, fidgeting, yawning. It is good that you acknowledge just how much help you've had. Wish you were more open about that throughout the years. Women feel so much pressure to copy perfection they see on social media failing to realize that things are not as they seem and people have a lot of help behind the scenes.
What happened you guys. 😭😭😭 I saw your post on Instagram and I feel so bummed by it. I pray maybe you both come back together at some point. Hugs to you three! ❤
I feel like we sat down for a chat ❤️ I loved how real you guys were. children change your life and I'm happy I'm watching this way before I have a child. It's tough but rewarding and you gave great ideas about what needs to be discussed once the two become three. Or even more 🙈 oh and coconuts!!
He wasnt sweet or suportive '' helping '' you .... its his child too , i think its ' normal' !!. if he doesnt that would be not right !!! and COCONUT and i love the vibe of the video
@@ewagornisiewicz-kusiak6814 totally , or encourage men to compare themselves to fathers that do '' less '' like alex said on the video : atleats i do that , some guys .... !! for me its like saying '' I can be worst , so be gratful !! But atleast they have the same view about it , so its okay , its their mentality both and it works for them !!
Men have many many outside obligations so yes when a man helps from his heart and wanting to spend time with his baby that's a huge support. And I think we need to thank our men for everything they do. Gratitude shows respect. To everyone. Even strangers. So why wouldn't you thank your man? Being an ungrateful bitch will just turn him away so good luck let me know how it goes. Not everything has to be looked at through the equal rights lense
I think most couples need to realize that being a first time parent and the little children stage is just plain out rough, like a war zone rough. It’s a transitional season of life, parenthood and marriage. It’ll pass. If you both go into it with that mentality and both know no matter what you are in this together, you will survive and things will get better. Don’t give up, the other side of this season is amazing. Your love grows deeper and you appreciate each other so much more because of that bond and trust you develop during this season.
I dont have a second child, but I dont think you have to analyze things that much/and you also have to think about what Alexa would feel, how she would change, what she would learn from having a brother or sister, how she will grow not having your permanent whole attention etc/so this is just theory.....having or not having a second/third child. You have young parents, you are two, you have financial stability....so....I really dont know/before people used to have more children and the living conditions were way worse than today/only thinking about changing reusable diapers....after watching your video, I dont even think anybody would decide to have a child anymore.
Having a second child was a game changer for us. Especially when the two are so close in age. It is hard at first when they are under 2. But then they really grow together, play together, and learn so much from each other. It's a very enriching and bonding experience. And it's also helpful for the parent in terms of giving attention. As the children have a companion in each other, they don't demand your attention as much.
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I have 7 children. People like you are like spoiled children yourselves acting like 1 child is a big deal.
She’s always a know-it-all, shows a lot about a person. I view Mimi as an insecure person but trying to mask it by always taking the spotlight. Most intellectual people I know and seen are great listeners and more laid back coz they dont need the urge to sound smart all the time.
@@jadeaj7 I think she doesn't mind it in a bad way but going a step further she seems to be very CONTROLLING ( money, feelings, love, friendships) 🙄🙄🙄🙄
Having a child is "la prueba de fuego" for a relationship. True, the key is communication and please don't make assumptions. Also true, the first 3 months are the hardest, breastfeeding is intense, sleep deprivation is real!!! But everyday will be better, trust yourself and your partner.
My husband and I also had a 100% perfect relationship UNTILL kids. But I have to say , kids makes your life so more meaningful and joyful. You have to adapt for sure! Now we have a second baby of 7 months and a toddler of 3,5 year and its even MORE difficult. When the one is sleeping the other seeks attention. You don’t have any time for yourself anymore. But seeing my kids together is sooo rewarding
I immediately called my fiancee to tell him I´m gonna teach him how to cook when we are married, because I realized when the baby comes, I´m not gonna have time for that... Thanks a lot! ❤️
Great video! Thanks Alex & Mimi. After having three children, I relate to a lot of this. I have to agree when you say to have a conversation prior to the children with respect to expectations, what life will look like, etc... but in all honesty, I don't know if that conversation would have actually been constructive with my partner and I considering (in retrospect) we really didn't know what having a child was all about. We knew it was "great responsibility and our lives would change," but I don't think we actually knew-knew. The intensity of 24/7 is hard to comprehend.
Coconuts! We have 2 years old girl and we also went through all the stages :D amazing video, thank you so much for sharing! I read a beautiful article recently in New Yorker - When the father is doing things with and around kids, he is not "helping mom" he is BEING a father :) I'm so grateful to also have a man who loves being a father and spending time with our daughter. One suggestion: It might be really helpful to look into the "culture of a dialog" especially when you are so gracious to share your conversations with us. I used to interrupt my partner all the time, he also did not mind (just like Alex) but some friends told me it looks rude from the outside. It really helped our communication as well and he did not have to "try so hard" all the time to share his opinion. I learned patience and it helped me in other areas of my life also. I hope you don't mind me saying this, it really helped me and I know you're always looking for ways to improve. Lot's of LOVE ❤️
What is your maternity leave policy for your employees? And your paternity leave policy? How do you make it work? I’m curious because it’s sometimes hard for businesses to cover those costs even though people deserve maternity and paternity leave.
This definitely hits different now, the divorce makes sense... the failed Love hair business, their new daughter, not being active on RUclips anymore... Not posting many videos together anymore... :( I hope you will get back to each other someday
Mimi,thank you for everything you are doing! Once you help me to overcome difficult anxiety during hard times!Really wish you and Alex happiness and love ❤️
AWWWW YOU CUTIESSS 🥺 you both inspire me sooo so much, like in alllll aspects of life!! I’m constantly sending my boyfriend your podcast episodes too honestly hahaha ❤️
It's interesting because a friend of mine told me the same thing. How exactly does it get easier? I'm just wondering because now my husband and I have only one child and it was so hard for the first 2 years
It depends on a child you get 😉 it was true for me because my second is a much easier baby and sleeps so much better. For my cousins, on the other hand, it was much harder because the order was reverse for them and their second child is a handful.
It’s exactly the opposite for me, with child number 2 things became much harder, and if we had a bit of time for each other with baby number 1 , we were full hands with baby number 2 and left with no time what so ever to spend with each other, always exhausted!
Good old relationship videos is what I enjoy most here like from the beginning of this channel. It is beautiful to see how you change and evolve as a couple. This is great advice. Coconuts to you))
Coconuts! thanks for being so truthful, this was helpful....just after having my baby I had so much resentment for my husband and he was helping but not enough in my opinion and I always remember my mother saying...."stop expecting the level of effort between the two of u to be 50 50 when dealing with the baby, especially in the first year and u will be much happier, most men aren't built like that"...today I still don't know if I agree with her completely, but I do know that when I lowered my expectations of him it did improve my sanity some what lol
Great video, but with all due respect, Mimi you should let Alex speak and finish his point without interrupting him all the time! I’m sure you don’t notice and don’t do it on purpose but it’s respectful to listen fully to what the other person has to say before you make your point too. We as viewers would appreciate that, I hope you take it as the constructive criticism it means to be 🙏🏼
I was thinking the same thing. I felt uncomfortable or bad whenever someone keeps interrupting someone else because it happens to me all the time. Active listening is work, but it makes the other person feel respected.
🥥 🥥 🥥 !!! Thank you so much for creating this video! My husband and I have been together for ten years, but married for four years and we are beginning to try for a baby! I plan on watching this video again with my husband so we can discuss your key points. Thanks again! Stay well! ❤️
I am still wondering what is so special about being present with your child 😀. In Czechia mums stay at home with their children for 3 years (and they have no help).So its something everyone does in my community Btw many psychologis warn about sleeptraing . Term self-soothing its not natural.Its normal that babies wake up during the night.Its everyones choice but do a good research
Omg Mimi, I can't believe you have just done a new relationship video. I've just been re-watching some of your old ones this week. Love you two, and love your relationship! And love Alexa too.x 😊
Dang but dont put ur parents on spot like tht... its not fair to them they cant defend themselves i wonder why they havnt deleted their account by now :(
I absolutely LOVE these types of videos! Thank You Mimi and Alex for sharing this wealth of knowledge with your subbies. Coming from a happily married almost 24 years, together for 27, and mother of four I truly second EVERYTHING you said here! 👏🏽👏🏽 I cannot agree more! The best chance couples have at being a great team in parenting is having already established an incredible dynamic before baby. You and your partner are just as important as the child bc this beautiful baby will grow up and leave and your partner will still be there. God Willing. So it’s best to really communicate and stay in the same page with each other. I was very blessed to be a stay at home mother and have had the pleasure of raising my kids, hands on from the start. I truly believe that a child comes into YOUR life not the other way around. So if you’re already living a happy positive loving life the baby will usually just add more of those emotions to you. Sleep is incredibly important and I always say nap when baby naps and YES a great sleep schedule is CRUCIAL! You and your partner need to have special one on one time together so sleep training is so important. I also believe that happy couples are those who continue to date and woo each other. Date nights out are awesome but if you cannot leave the baby or go out have a date night at home! Just do your best to BE the best version of yourselves and you really will be able to weather whatever storms come your way. I say a relationship is like a balloon. You BOTH must always be blowing air into it or it will deflate. Mimi and Alex I also agree that you must give 100% and when ppl say it’s 50/50 that frustrates me bc it’s almost an excuse to just not use much effort. I want to give my best to the ppl I love and I really appreciate it and acknowledge it when they give their best to me in return. It’s just so important. I say if you love to travel or to eat out or go shopping whatever it is that you love and helps keep you sane. KEEP DOING IT when baby comes! It only helps your child be so much more outgoing more social more knowledgeable and well rounded. Sometimes I see a baby acting out or screaming in restaurants and the parents say to each other “this is why we never go out!” I say to my husband that if you take them out MORE they will learn how to behave and to express themselves in a more appropriate manner bc it will be something they’re used to. Things like that are so simple yet many parents avoid it. Anyway I went on a tangent and all over the place but I could literally listen to you both and conversate with you all day! 🥰👌🏽 I hope you have a great Sunday and Alex it’s Father’s Day here in America so Happy Father’s Day to you! You’re both an inspiration to many young and even older couples! Hugs and love to your family~Miranda 💜
Coconuts! 😂 Yes we made it to the end. My husband and I watched this entire video together today on Valentine's day. All I want to say is thank you! We could relate to a lot of what you discussed (we have an 8 month baby) and like you, we were in a long relationship/marriage before deciding to have kids. Your advice was so helpful and practical. Thank you again! 💕
The getaway thing is Amazing!! I did it for the first time when my oldest was 3 and youngest 1, and we had the best time! It was sooo hard leaving them, but I prepared mentally some weeks before and did it!!! I encourage you to do it!! ❤️
You guys inspire so many of us. Thank you for a rare positive presence on social media. Love you guys. Miss these kinda videos. Hope you grow & fulfill all your dreams & enlighten us with such words of wisdom!!
Coconuts 🤗 thank you for sharing your relationship journey, I always feel like I am evolving when I listen to you guys. I am currently a live-in nanny in an Australian family, and I have re-watched a couple of your videos a week ago, the ones where you traveled with Alexa, as well as your tips on parenting, and I have adapted the way I speak to the children since then. The parents use the word "no" very often, which is their way of parenting and totally respectable as well, but for me, I can already see an improvement in my relationship with the kids now that I speak mindfully to them, and this is all thanks to your beautiful self and all your advices. You educate yourself with tons of books, you have lots of friendships that are giving you different perspectives, and you have gained so much life experience.. For a 24 year old like me it's such a pleasure to listen to your advices and put them in practice. I am so grateful for you being part of my self growth, even virtually. You are a gem 🙏❤️
My parents have 6 kids... I don't know how they do it!!! I'm the oldest so I remember helping my mom but I wasn't able to actually help until baby 4 came around and I was 8. Haha
Coconuts!!! I just loved the video. Im going through this parenting-relationship situation and it is really helpful. Thank you guys for sharing! Sending you lots of love ❤️
COCONUTS 🤣🤣🤣 but to be serious, this video spoke so much to me! I read a few books on the topic and omg the sleep training was a life saver for me too! My daughter is almost 1, and it seems to be that she’s an early riser too and I’m so happy to hear that an early bed time is normal! 18:30 for us too and I enjoy those evenings with my hubby so much and I hope they last for a few years! And the one advice that I’m gonna focus on is dates. It’s hard to go out with the pandemic, but we can try to even do something romantic at home. I was not doing that! Thank you guys so much for the honest video!
Coconuts ❤️ you guys are amazing! Thank you for sharing your views on parenting and giving us access to your insights and private life. It's such a wonderful experience to witness how your YT channel changed and realize that both us the viewers and you the creators grow up together somehow. I send you lots of love ❤️
Мими, Алекс, большое спасибо за это видео! ❤️ Оно однозначно одно из лучших! Как сохранить хорошие, крепкие отношения после рождения ребёнка - вопрос, которым я задалась ещё во время беременности. Сейчас малышу три недели, и я уже замечаю, что многие вещи меняются. Но, как я могла заметить, главное - сохранять спокойствие и заботиться не только о ребёнке, но и друг о друге. Спасибо за ваши советы! ❤️
Love this, I wish I had it too! My husband and I fought so much when we never use to. We have also grown so much together since our daughter! Now our love is so strong and I'm grateful! Mimi, you mentioned basic needs have you researched Maslow's Hierarchy of needs? Sending lots of love xxx
I adore you two (three!) and appreciate your perspectives, no matter the topic. Although I’m not a parent, you and Alex always drop gems that are so applicable to life in general... Thank you for sharing...I’ve been walking alongside you both since 2014! I hope to see more videos soon. Much love from San Francisco 😘
Hi Mimi, since i have come across ur channel I m just hooked to it. I have watched each and every video till date..u bet! You little daughter is adorable just like her parents. I love to watch your videos be it QnA, travel, in general etc. You and alexa have such a beautiful smile. Its pure happiness to watch your videos when you shoot with your fmly. You both are so amazing n supportive towards each other. Great job! Love from India 😍
🥥🥥🥥🥥 Love love love this video! This was incredibly helpful, my partner and I are expecting our first baby next month and this could not have come at a better time! Love you both
Coconuts! Made it to the end, I don't have kids, I'm not married and I don't intend to have kids. But from you two guys there's always something to learn. Also, I enjoy seeing how you're doing every once in a while! Alex looked devastated in this video. Not only because of the constant swallowing yawns, but also some nervous ticks with his face and shoulders and his necks seemed tense or something. I hope it was just a matter of one night of very bad sleep. Sending you two guys some love from NYC 😘
Sounds like you missed having your Mum with you, which couldn't be helped. But having someone to talk to, give advice, offer support, love the baby as you do, share some if the experience with you, help clean up. These are probably the things your Mum would have done for you. But you got there Mimi, and you have a gorgeous little girl, so it was all worth it. The gift of having a child, which I have never had, is an amazing experience, special and so rewarding. I can see just by watching your videos how lovely and special Alexa is, she's so funny, smart, caring and a beautiful. So it was worth a millions times going through the difficult and trying times.x 😊
I always thought in this relationship, one of them wanted children more than the other one (mimi). I'm going through this with my partner. I feel that i want children more than he does. I know we love each other and I hope when kids comes we will woek it out.
Really happy to see a new video from you! Loved this in depth video Mimi (and Alex), i really resonated with pretty much all you said since I had my little one last year. Oh and Coconuts ;) x
Coconuts! I loved this video. My and my bf we have 7 years of relationship and we still feel like we don.t want a kid yet. That we are not ready. So I appreciate and love what u guys saying. Hugs and wish u all the best
Dear Mimi and Alex,i found the time to watch your entire video,and so glad I did,thank you so so much.Both of you are so much inspiring and encouraging.I just totally agree with every single point you share with so much pragmatisme and sincerity. You rock,merci beaucoup 🥰🥰🥰
🥥 it was very useful and insightful video, not only for married couples with kids, but also for couples in the long term relationship. Thank you Alex and Mimi for great tips, and very well done for investing in your relationship and trying to go through hard times together ♥️
great video! I agree with your father, Mimi :D bigger kids, bigger problems! I mean not problems but different concerns ;) my daughter is almost 13th years old and this time is not so easy, she's changing, her body is changing, her hormones and she's starting to manage by herself ups and downs. I mean she's all my world and I love her so much and I will always be with her whenever she needs it.....but right now is a little bit more difficult than when she was 4 :) ♥
Mimi I really disagree on the cheating point. Guys just so you know: if someone cheats on you, it's not your responsibility. It's their decision!
You don't have to agree or disagree....because cheating is never black and white, regardless of whether the man or the woman cheats. It takes two people to have a relationship.
Pretty Peach same here. I agree
Mimi Ikonn it’s very possible that one person gives everything and the other still cheats.
@@MimiIkonn it takes two people to have a realtionship . and one person to cheat !! if one drives the other one ' out' of the relationship , break up and do what you want . cheating is wrong !!
I agree with everyone here. Cheating is never ok. If you have a problem with your partner just talk about it or leave her/him and then sleep with whoever you want to
I remember when my parents would take a trip without me when I was a child, I loved it, it was exciting for me to spend time with other people, and still now I respect my parents for taking time for themselves and I think it set a great example for me.
Not having a child, not even being in a relationship, but watching this video right away 😅
Thank you darling :)
lol, same here :D
BE QUIET SNEEKY SMELLS
I could tell sleep was a very big part of Alex’s life by the fact that he was yawning for half of the video😂😂 so funny! Love you❤️
He was holding half of the time not to yawn :)
Coconuts 🥥
🤣 I wondered if I was the only one who noticed
You said you didn't have a mum here- but i remember Alex's mum stayed with you for six months after Alexa was born? how come you didn't talk about her?
I thought the same. I don't know if they think their followers are dumb/blind, but we have seen the help they have gotten. Especially those of us who live in South Ken and see them.
Lol Mimi and Alex are upper class London millionaires living in their bubble
In the Czech Republic, where I come from, is a three-year paid maternity leave... It is not a huge amount of money, but worth for it! God Bless my country! Of course we have many other problems, but I am very glad for the opportunity to spend so much time with my small kids.
Why are people so harsh in the comments? Sure, they're not perfect, they're human beings! This is a VIDEO. We have no right to criticize their relationship. If you work together and spend as much time together as these two do, have a child together, be together like 10 years, then maybe you can talk. They've been through so much together. I am in a 10 year long relationship and we're also business partners so we work together, almost always together. I understand Mimi and Alex's dynamic. They are just so used to talking together, it's like a naturally choreographed "dance". Maybe they talk over each other sometimes but who cares? You know when you're excited to talk to your best friend and you just keep talking over each other but ultimately you're listening and you care about what they say? Anyway, I loved this video. Very real and authentic, not too filtered and lots of awesome advice. Thank you for keeping it real Mimi and Alex :)
I think it's because through the years they have become very preachy - and also, they have been caught being dishonest quite a bit. We get it, they want to sell an image but for those of us who have been following them for 10 years - it's disappointing.
There was a lot bottled up, and just Kept on romanticizing their relationship.. 😢😅 🥥
I’m so happy you guys addressed your old videos and how much you’ve grown since then. I still remember seeing you guys say “oh yeah, our baby will adapt to our traveling and our lifestyle!” I remember thinking that was very naive! Hahah
The 2nd kid was so much easier for us. Knew what to expect, how to sleep train, and just more relaxed.
No one cares
SeekTruth You cared enough to reply, loser.
Now divorced..
Take a shot for every time Alex yawns. Good luck team
Alex looks so bored in this video, fidgeting, yawning. It is good that you acknowledge just how much help you've had. Wish you were more open about that throughout the years. Women feel so much pressure to copy perfection they see on social media failing to realize that things are not as they seem and people have a lot of help behind the scenes.
Thank you so so much for sharing all of this! Bookmarking this video to watch again with Louis when it is time for us 😊❤️
What happened you guys. 😭😭😭 I saw your post on Instagram and I feel so bummed by it. I pray maybe you both come back together at some point. Hugs to you three! ❤
I feel like we sat down for a chat ❤️ I loved how real you guys were. children change your life and I'm happy I'm watching this way before I have a child. It's tough but rewarding and you gave great ideas about what needs to be discussed once the two become three. Or even more 🙈 oh and coconuts!!
awww....thank you for watching till the end
He wasnt sweet or suportive '' helping '' you .... its his child too , i think its ' normal' !!. if he doesnt that would be not right !!! and COCONUT and i love the vibe of the video
This! I think we should stop praising men for doing the absolute normal thing. No one is clapping for mums for holding babies in their arms, right?
@@ewagornisiewicz-kusiak6814 totally , or encourage men to compare themselves to fathers that do '' less '' like alex said on the video : atleats i do that , some guys .... !! for me its like saying '' I can be worst , so be gratful !! But atleast they have the same view about it , so its okay , its their mentality both and it works for them !!
@@laseiz I hope it is! Mimi said she was not having it at the time.
@@ewagornisiewicz-kusiak6814 yes I hope so !! but since they said now its 99% so i guess ...
Men have many many outside obligations so yes when a man helps from his heart and wanting to spend time with his baby that's a huge support. And I think we need to thank our men for everything they do. Gratitude shows respect. To everyone. Even strangers. So why wouldn't you thank your man? Being an ungrateful bitch will just turn him away so good luck let me know how it goes. Not everything has to be looked at through the equal rights lense
I think most couples need to realize that being a first time parent and the little children stage is just plain out rough, like a war zone rough. It’s a transitional season of life, parenthood and marriage. It’ll pass. If you both go into it with that mentality and both know no matter what you are in this together, you will survive and things will get better. Don’t give up, the other side of this season is amazing. Your love grows deeper and you appreciate each other so much more because of that bond and trust you develop during this season.
I dont have a second child, but I dont think you have to analyze things that much/and you also have to think about what Alexa would feel, how she would change, what she would learn from having a brother or sister, how she will grow not having your permanent whole attention etc/so this is just theory.....having or not having a second/third child. You have young parents, you are two, you have financial stability....so....I really dont know/before people used to have more children and the living conditions were way worse than today/only thinking about changing reusable diapers....after watching your video, I dont even think anybody would decide to have a child anymore.
100 and 100 is 200.
Also 1 in 4 cannot be 46%.
Maybe she meant 1 in 2 couples that make 1 in 4 people
Having a second child was a game changer for us. Especially when the two are so close in age. It is hard at first when they are under 2. But then they really grow together, play together, and learn so much from each other. It's a very enriching and bonding experience. And it's also helpful for the parent in terms of giving attention. As the children have a companion in each other, they don't demand your attention as much.
I have 7 children. People like you are like spoiled children yourselves acting like 1 child is a big deal.
Mimi you kept interrupting Alex and that was driving me crazy darling!
She has been doing it since they together 😃
@@truffle_and_sony Yeahhh.. But OK
She’s always a know-it-all, shows a lot about a person. I view Mimi as an insecure person but trying to mask it by always taking the spotlight. Most intellectual people I know and seen are great listeners and more laid back coz they dont need the urge to sound smart all the time.
@@tamytonse8337 ohhh really...
@@jadeaj7 I think she doesn't mind it in a bad way but going a step further she seems to be very CONTROLLING ( money, feelings, love, friendships) 🙄🙄🙄🙄
Well maternity leave depends on the country you live in, in Poland we have up to 12 months, in Romania you have even 24 months
Yes,in Czech Republic we have 3 years🙂 . And no kinderagrten or nursery until your child turn 3
Having a child is "la prueba de fuego" for a relationship. True, the key is communication and please don't make assumptions. Also true, the first 3 months are the hardest, breastfeeding is intense, sleep deprivation is real!!! But everyday will be better, trust yourself and your partner.
The divorce makes sense now, 😢😢😢!!!
I can't steel believe they are not together anymore💔Hope they will be back together!
My husband and I also had a 100% perfect relationship UNTILL kids. But I have to say , kids makes your life so more meaningful and joyful. You have to adapt for sure! Now we have a second baby of 7 months and a toddler of 3,5 year and its even MORE difficult. When the one is sleeping the other seeks attention. You don’t have any time for yourself anymore. But seeing my kids together is sooo rewarding
Agree with you 100%, same case here with 2 kids x
I immediately called my fiancee to tell him I´m gonna teach him how to cook when we are married, because I realized when the baby comes, I´m not gonna have time for that... Thanks a lot! ❤️
Why would you get with someone who can’t cook???
It’s only the first few months where you don’t have time to cook but you’ll be able to do it sooner than later
Great video! Thanks Alex & Mimi. After having three children, I relate to a lot of this. I have to agree when you say to have a conversation prior to the children with respect to expectations, what life will look like, etc... but in all honesty, I don't know if that conversation would have actually been constructive with my partner and I considering (in retrospect) we really didn't know what having a child was all about. We knew it was "great responsibility and our lives would change," but I don't think we actually knew-knew. The intensity of 24/7 is hard to comprehend.
Coconuts! We have 2 years old girl and we also went through all the stages :D amazing video, thank you so much for sharing! I read a beautiful article recently in New Yorker - When the father is doing things with and around kids, he is not "helping mom" he is BEING a father :) I'm so grateful to also have a man who loves being a father and spending time with our daughter. One suggestion: It might be really helpful to look into the "culture of a dialog" especially when you are so gracious to share your conversations with us. I used to interrupt my partner all the time, he also did not mind (just like Alex) but some friends told me it looks rude from the outside. It really helped our communication as well and he did not have to "try so hard" all the time to share his opinion. I learned patience and it helped me in other areas of my life also. I hope you don't mind me saying this, it really helped me and I know you're always looking for ways to improve. Lot's of LOVE ❤️
Interesting! Loved hearing these perspective of parents cause I'll never experience it. Don't want children, never will.
What is your maternity leave policy for your employees? And your paternity leave policy? How do you make it work? I’m curious because it’s sometimes hard for businesses to cover those costs even though people deserve maternity and paternity leave.
This hits different now
I think it's time for Alex to get a nice haircut :D
He looks fine
This definitely hits different now, the divorce makes sense... the failed Love hair business, their new daughter, not being active on RUclips anymore... Not posting many videos together anymore... :( I hope you will get back to each other someday
The lightbulb moment, when you put shutters in the kids bedroom and they wont wake up with the sun anymore.
Mimi,thank you for everything you are doing!
Once you help me to overcome difficult anxiety during hard times!Really wish you and Alex happiness and love ❤️
AWWWW YOU CUTIESSS 🥺 you both inspire me sooo so much, like in alllll aspects of life!! I’m constantly sending my boyfriend your podcast episodes too honestly hahaha ❤️
Coconuts😅
Coconuts!! 😂
I really enjoyed everything you have shared with us. When I hear "couple goals" I think of you guys. Oh you are my favourite couple ❤️
Sitting there in your matching sweaters😆.... yeah I don’t think anyone can relate
I would say once you have your second kid, it actually gets (I feel ) a LOT easier!
It's interesting because a friend of mine told me the same thing. How exactly does it get easier? I'm just wondering because now my husband and I have only one child and it was so hard for the first 2 years
It depends on a child you get 😉 it was true for me because my second is a much easier baby and sleeps so much better. For my cousins, on the other hand, it was much harder because the order was reverse for them and their second child is a handful.
It’s exactly the opposite for me, with child number 2 things became much harder, and if we had a bit of time for each other with baby number 1 , we were full hands with baby number 2 and left with no time what so ever to spend with each other, always exhausted!
Coconut! Ahhh such a giving treat. Theres water, cocononut meat, coconut bark for gardening, coconut bowls.
A real zero waste gift from mother nature
Coconuts 🥰 I appreciate this video so much. My husband and I are going through everything your talking about now and I truly appreciate this advice.
Oh, I"m sure you are not the only one
@@MimiIkonn Thank you!!! 🥰❤🥰❤🥰
Good old relationship videos is what I enjoy most here like from the beginning of this channel. It is beautiful to see how you change and evolve as a couple. This is great advice. Coconuts to you))
Awwww....i missed your talking videos so muchh😘😘😍😍lovee youu mimi😘😘😘😘
Thank you Asha
@@MimiIkonn omg looking forward to it mimi😊😊😘😘
Coconuts! thanks for being so truthful, this was helpful....just after having my baby I had so much resentment for my husband and he was helping but not enough in my opinion and I always remember my mother saying...."stop expecting the level of effort between the two of u to be 50 50 when dealing with the baby, especially in the first year and u will be much happier, most men aren't built like that"...today I still don't know if I agree with her completely, but I do know that when I lowered my expectations of him it did improve my sanity some what lol
Great video, but with all due respect, Mimi you should let Alex speak and finish his point without interrupting him all the time! I’m sure you don’t notice and don’t do it on purpose but it’s respectful to listen fully to what the other person has to say before you make your point too. We as viewers would appreciate that, I hope you take it as the constructive criticism it means to be 🙏🏼
I was thinking the same thing. I felt uncomfortable or bad whenever someone keeps interrupting someone else because it happens to me all the time. Active listening is work, but it makes the other person feel respected.
🥥 🥥 🥥 !!! Thank you so much for creating this video! My husband and I have been together for ten years, but married for four years and we are beginning to try for a baby! I plan on watching this video again with my husband so we can discuss your key points. Thanks again! Stay well! ❤️
I am still wondering what is so special about being present with your child 😀. In Czechia mums stay at home with their children for 3 years (and they have no help).So its something everyone does in my community
Btw many psychologis warn about sleeptraing . Term self-soothing its not natural.Its normal that babies wake up during the night.Its everyones choice but do a good research
So, I am going to make myself some hot cocoa, burn some candles and run a bath and watch the video. Byeeeeee 😉
Are you Ok?
I miss your favorite month video little fashion and home vlogs! Great topics
oHHH YOU GUYS!!! I missed your videos so much. Thanks for getting back to it! Love this type of videos. Love you!
Thank you mimi !! I love your work
Omg Mimi, I can't believe you have just done a new relationship video. I've just been re-watching some of your old ones this week. Love you two, and love your relationship! And love Alexa too.x 😊
Thank you dear Beverley
Dang but dont put ur parents on spot like tht... its not fair to them they cant defend themselves i wonder why they havnt deleted their account by now :(
Great advice! You two are both amazing!
I absolutely LOVE these types of videos! Thank You Mimi and Alex for sharing this wealth of knowledge with your subbies. Coming from a happily married almost 24 years, together for 27, and mother of four I truly second EVERYTHING you said here! 👏🏽👏🏽 I cannot agree more! The best chance couples have at being a great team in parenting is having already established an incredible dynamic before baby. You and your partner are just as important as the child bc this beautiful baby will grow up and leave and your partner will still be there. God Willing. So it’s best to really communicate and stay in the same page with each other. I was very blessed to be a stay at home mother and have had the pleasure of raising my kids, hands on from the start. I truly believe that a child comes into YOUR life not the other way around. So if you’re already living a happy positive loving life the baby will usually just add more of those emotions to you. Sleep is incredibly important and I always say nap when baby naps and YES a great sleep schedule is CRUCIAL! You and your partner need to have special one on one time together so sleep training is so important. I also believe that happy couples are those who continue to date and woo each other. Date nights out are awesome but if you cannot leave the baby or go out have a date night at home! Just do your best to BE the best version of yourselves and you really will be able to weather whatever storms come your way. I say a relationship is like a balloon. You BOTH must always be blowing air into it or it will deflate. Mimi and Alex I also agree that you must give 100% and when ppl say it’s 50/50 that frustrates me bc it’s almost an excuse to just not use much effort. I want to give my best to the ppl I love and I really appreciate it and acknowledge it when they give their best to me in return. It’s just so important. I say if you love to travel or to eat out or go shopping whatever it is that you love and helps keep you sane. KEEP DOING IT when baby comes! It only helps your child be so much more outgoing more social more knowledgeable and well rounded. Sometimes I see a baby acting out or screaming in restaurants and the parents say to each other “this is why we never go out!” I say to my husband that if you take them out MORE they will learn how to behave and to express themselves in a more appropriate manner bc it will be something they’re used to. Things like that are so simple yet many parents avoid it. Anyway I went on a tangent and all over the place but I could literally listen to you both and conversate with you all day! 🥰👌🏽 I hope you have a great Sunday and Alex it’s Father’s Day here in America so Happy Father’s Day to you! You’re both an inspiration to many young and even older couples! Hugs and love to your family~Miranda 💜
Coconuts! 😂 Yes we made it to the end.
My husband and I watched this entire video together today on Valentine's day. All I want to say is thank you! We could relate to a lot of what you discussed (we have an 8 month baby) and like you, we were in a long relationship/marriage before deciding to have kids. Your advice was so helpful and practical. Thank you again! 💕
My parents told me that I was sleeping 11 hours a night. So it was much more easy for them ^^
The getaway thing is Amazing!! I did it for the first time when my oldest was 3 and youngest 1, and we had the best time! It was sooo hard leaving them, but I prepared mentally some weeks before and did it!!! I encourage you to do it!! ❤️
Let the man speak
You guys inspire so many of us. Thank you for a rare positive presence on social media. Love you guys. Miss these kinda videos. Hope you grow & fulfill all your dreams & enlighten us with such words of wisdom!!
Coconuts! You guys are my absolute favorite 🥰 the topics you post about are always aligned with my life. We are connected 💕✨
What was that about cheating? Its never one person’s fault? 🤦🏻♀️ just why?
I love all the points you’re making! Having a supportive and helping partner is so important
Coconuts 🤗 thank you for sharing your relationship journey, I always feel like I am evolving when I listen to you guys. I am currently a live-in nanny in an Australian family, and I have re-watched a couple of your videos a week ago, the ones where you traveled with Alexa, as well as your tips on parenting, and I have adapted the way I speak to the children since then. The parents use the word "no" very often, which is their way of parenting and totally respectable as well, but for me, I can already see an improvement in my relationship with the kids now that I speak mindfully to them, and this is all thanks to your beautiful self and all your advices. You educate yourself with tons of books, you have lots of friendships that are giving you different perspectives, and you have gained so much life experience.. For a 24 year old like me it's such a pleasure to listen to your advices and put them in practice. I am so grateful for you being part of my self growth, even virtually. You are a gem 🙏❤️
Coconuts! At exactly the same stage in my parenting journey, loved this!!
My parents have 6 kids... I don't know how they do it!!! I'm the oldest so I remember helping my mom but I wasn't able to actually help until baby 4 came around and I was 8. Haha
Coconuts!!! I just loved the video. Im going through this parenting-relationship situation and it is really helpful. Thank you guys for sharing! Sending you lots of love ❤️
Loved this video! So much truth and great realistic insight and tips! Please keep sharing!
Thank you so much for this video, Mimi and Alex!! It was so helpful and great! 🙏🏻💗
COCONUTS 🤣🤣🤣 but to be serious, this video spoke so much to me! I read a few books on the topic and omg the sleep training was a life saver for me too! My daughter is almost 1, and it seems to be that she’s an early riser too and I’m so happy to hear that an early bed time is normal! 18:30 for us too and I enjoy those evenings with my hubby so much and I hope they last for a few years! And the one advice that I’m gonna focus on is dates. It’s hard to go out with the pandemic, but we can try to even do something romantic at home. I was not doing that! Thank you guys so much for the honest video!
One of the best videos with realistic advice and down to earth!thank you for being so good influence and parents
🥥 Great video! I couldn't agree more with everything you guys mentioned :)
Are you native English speakers?
Coconuts ❤️ you guys are amazing! Thank you for sharing your views on parenting and giving us access to your insights and private life. It's such a wonderful experience to witness how your YT channel changed and realize that both us the viewers and you the creators grow up together somehow. I send you lots of love ❤️
Мими, Алекс, большое спасибо за это видео! ❤️ Оно однозначно одно из лучших!
Как сохранить хорошие, крепкие отношения после рождения ребёнка - вопрос, которым я задалась ещё во время беременности. Сейчас малышу три недели, и я уже замечаю, что многие вещи меняются. Но, как я могла заметить, главное - сохранять спокойствие и заботиться не только о ребёнке, но и друг о друге. Спасибо за ваши советы! ❤️
Love this, I wish I had it too! My husband and I fought so much when we never use to. We have also grown so much together since our daughter! Now our love is so strong and I'm grateful! Mimi, you mentioned basic needs have you researched Maslow's Hierarchy of needs? Sending lots of love xxx
I adore you two (three!) and appreciate your perspectives, no matter the topic. Although I’m not a parent, you and Alex always drop gems that are so applicable to life in general... Thank you for sharing...I’ve been walking alongside you both since 2014! I hope to see more videos soon. Much love from San Francisco 😘
Hi Mimi, since i have come across ur channel I m just hooked to it. I have watched each and every video till date..u bet! You little daughter is adorable just like her parents. I love to watch your videos be it QnA, travel, in general etc. You and alexa have such a beautiful smile. Its pure happiness to watch your videos when you shoot with your fmly. You both are so amazing n supportive towards each other. Great job! Love from India 😍
🥥🥥🥥🥥 Love love love this video! This was incredibly helpful, my partner and I are expecting our first baby next month and this could not have come at a better time! Love you both
Good luck! :) Such exciting time!
Coconuts! Made it to the end, I don't have kids, I'm not married and I don't intend to have kids. But from you two guys there's always something to learn. Also, I enjoy seeing how you're doing every once in a while! Alex looked devastated in this video. Not only because of the constant swallowing yawns, but also some nervous ticks with his face and shoulders and his necks seemed tense or something. I hope it was just a matter of one night of very bad sleep. Sending you two guys some love from NYC 😘
Sounds like you missed having your Mum with you, which couldn't be helped. But having someone to talk to, give advice, offer support, love the baby as you do, share some if the experience with you, help clean up. These are probably the things your Mum would have done for you. But you got there Mimi, and you have a gorgeous little girl, so it was all worth it. The gift of having a child, which I have never had, is an amazing experience, special and so rewarding. I can see just by watching your videos how lovely and special Alexa is, she's so funny, smart, caring and a beautiful. So it was worth a millions times going through the difficult and trying times.x 😊
Coconuts 😄 Currently home with a 2 week old, this video came just in time! Thank you!
Coconuts 🥥 Loved this video, keep them coming please! Missed these frequently ^_^
❤️So glad you made this!! Would love more Mama and parenting videos. Thank you ❤️🌈❤️
I always thought in this relationship, one of them wanted children more than the other one (mimi). I'm going through this with my partner. I feel that i want children more than he does. I know we love each other and I hope when kids comes we will woek it out.
Leave him. There guys out there who actually want to become a father.
Haven't seen videos by Leyla lately
Really happy to see a new video from you! Loved this in depth video Mimi (and Alex), i really resonated with pretty much all you said since I had my little one last year. Oh and Coconuts ;) x
Thank you guys, you inspire me so much! Thank you from the bottom of my heart. ♥️
Woooooooowwwww.. I have never been sooo early.. love you guys sooo much❤️
Coconuts! I loved this video. My and my bf we have 7 years of relationship and we still feel like we don.t want a kid yet. That we are not ready. So I appreciate and love what u guys saying. Hugs and wish u all the best
Dear Mimi and Alex,i found the time to watch your entire video,and so glad I did,thank you so so much.Both of you are so much inspiring and encouraging.I just totally agree with every single point you share with so much pragmatisme and sincerity.
You rock,merci beaucoup 🥰🥰🥰
Wonderful video Mimi. Always look forward to your videos. You guys are amazing & to look up to :)
Coconuuuuts! You are such an inspiration! Thank you for open up about something so important and personal. 🙏
🥥 it was very useful and insightful video, not only for married couples with kids, but also for couples in the long term relationship. Thank you Alex and Mimi for great tips, and very well done for investing in your relationship and trying to go through hard times together ♥️
great video! I agree with your father, Mimi :D bigger kids, bigger problems! I mean not problems but different concerns ;) my daughter is almost 13th years old and this time is not so easy, she's changing, her body is changing, her hormones and she's starting to manage by herself ups and downs. I mean she's all my world and I love her so much and I will always be with her whenever she needs it.....but right now is a little bit more difficult than when she was 4 :) ♥
coconuts.. I dont have any kids but i still like to watch the honesty and understanding you guys bring to the table. God bless your beautiful family!