S.A I was an only child till I was 14. I was just fine and perfectly happy being an only child. I love my brother immensely of course, but not having a sibling while growing up was just fine by me 🤷♀️ I know many other only children who feel the same way
When I started a relationship with, now my husband, people asked when he was going to ask me for marriage. When we married people started to ask when we’re going to have a baby. And now we have a baby they ask when the second is coming. It’s so crazy. It’s like the standard questions people always have. Don’t ever feel pressure. I love this video so much! I kinda feel the same and are really happy to hear that I’m not the only one thinking like this!
Convey Beauty that’s true and sad in the same time ... I’m agree with you I feel the same way .. I been married for 5years now .. and we don’t want have kids yet.. but people ask those on my opinion personal question about kids it’s just nuts .. so annoying ..
I only had one child...a daughter who in now 24ys. i never wanted another one, and thats ok. I put every ounce of my energy into raising her. We are the best of friends.
There is nothing wrong with your kids 5-6 years apart. And there is nothing wrong with having 1 kid. Don’t let anyone pressure you into more kids if you don’t want more. Like I said if you only want just want 1 kid and that is fine.
I puroposly waited so my kids are over 5 years apart. Wanted to enjoy the 3 of us and be the best mom I could be. When I Saw moms with Kids close in age they were always stressed and overworked. 5 years works great my kids Love each other and I have not Lost my sanity ;)
Thanks for sharing! Would a love a parenting video, maybe from 0 to 2 years advices? (currently pregnant so would be helpful as I love how you take care of Alexa) 💕
I wasn't ready to have another child until my son was five years old.I felt that it was the best decision ever because I gave my full attention to my child that when I had my second child,my oldest child was so hands on and so helpful with his baby brother..Our decision was to have two kids,because we never wanted to be out numbered for many reasons lol!.My hubby and I nevered used birth control either...xoxo
Sophia Cabais my reality before having kids I have them two years apart...our daughter is 22 months old and I’ve made the decision to add another when she’s 5 (lol) it’s life changing.
We also waited 5 years and I'm so happy we did. I loved that the oldest was less dependent on me at that age so I wasn't as drained taking care of a newborn.
Wow! Your answers were so deep and meaningful! I totally agree with your viewpont on every question. I'm sure that you're an excelent parent and happy for you😚
Finally someone who has the same thoughts about birth control! I always find it a hard topic to talk about it with others, as I do not feel like using pills and a lot of people find this strange. I think that you just should choose the anti-contraception method that feels best to you and others should not comment.
My parents had my sister at 25 and 26, me at 28 and 29 and my little sister at 40 and 41. All three of us were planned, now my big sister and I are 19 and 22 and we are best friends, and our little one is 7 and she is the best thing that's ever happened to us all as a family! But everyone is different and it's totally okay to want 0, 2, 6 or 20 children. It is a really personal topic and people should really mind their own business- my parents were really judged for their decision to have a child in their 40s when we were already teenagers... it really made me realize that you should live your life without ever worrying about what people think about you! Love you mimi, great q&a💖
We had our first baby 5 years into our relationship. Our daughter is actually a month older than Alexa. It took me a while to get to a place where I was ready for a baby due to my parenting philosophy. Naturally people are asking when we'll have another but I'm just not at that place yet again. Our little family feels so 'right' at the moment ❤
Kids entertain each other so having one child is harder than having 2 in some ways .. my kids always play together when I had my first she wanted so much attention because she was so bored but having my last 2 they are 2 years apart and they play together all day it’s amazing! I don’t think you would ever regret giving your Alexa a sibling is a lifelong friend :)
Exactly! Her views would change so much after having her second. She would never regret having another child. For me I couldn’t imagine my kids not having siblings I thought I would be the worse mother for not doing that lol because when I’m gone they got each other but if they don’t have siblings it sucks!! Anyways I don’t wanna judge Mimi but her views are all about giving so much attention and loving on one child.. that’s amazing but you can give attention to each child even if you have 3 or 4. It’s more about loving yourself so much you want so much time for yourself than giving and serving I guess. But again everyone is different :)
@@luiza2021 Holy shit. You people are so weird. Can she not have another child without you judging her? You have your reasons for another child and she has hers for not having another one. Her business isn't any of yours.
Mommyslife21 Not for everyone. Many siblings just don’t get along together and they fight all the time. Also, what en egoistic choice to have another child, so that they can play together and don’t have to entertain them all the time.
I'm 24 and all my life I've always wanted to have a sister. Being an only child is super lonely in comparison, and ever if there are fights, having a sibling is a having a friend forever.
Everything you said about having your first child and about having a second and all your reasons is sooo me! I had my first five years after i got married (wed at 21) and 31yrs. of marriage later I still have my one and only baby.
My husband and I just had our babygirl Emilia 14 weeks ago. We have been married for over 6 yrs now. I wasnt ready to get off the pill until last fall & got pregnant right away. I feel blessed and she is my world. I always knew I only wanted one child. One child to give my all to ❤💜
I think it’s amazing how confident you are about telling people you’re not planning to have a second💘 My daughter is 4 1/2 and as soon as she was 1 people were CONSTANTLY asking when I was going to have a second! 😱😱 I was actually SHOCKED to hear how shaming people could be (even people who barely knew me) when I told them I wasn’t planning on it anytime soon (With my business and with channel I wanted to make sure I it was what we really wanted!) I gave up on the idea until this past year, I finally felt ready and now I’m so happy to be pregnant with my second! Honestly though, I’m so happy that I waited until I felt the time was right instead of letting people’s opinions and overall pushiness dictate how I lived my life. I am sure that whatever you and Alex decide will be right for you and by listening to yourself you’re in store for a beautiful life! ⭐️✨⭐️✨⭐️✨⭐️
Hi Mimi, I never comment, but I started following you since the first time you came to Costa Rica (so many years ago!) I’ve gone through this journey with you. Stood as a loyal follower since then. It’s been amazing to watch you grow, & be successful.. in your marriage, family & achieving your dreams. I love you & Alex so much. Sending you hugs from across the globe! I loved this video- please do more of these. I usually miss the opportunity to ask questions since I don’t check insta stories often but here are (a lot) of questions: 1. Tips for starting a new business. 2. What are your business principles? 3. In terms of parenting, at the beginning you mentioned you have a parenting style. Could you elaborate? 4. What tips would you give to new mothers to help prepare for maternity and the first 3 months. 5. What parenting books/podcasts/ etc do you recommend? 6. What are your favorite clothing brands for Alexa? 7. What is your parenting philosophy? (This is similar to the previous parenting question) 8. What is your favorite business that you own? 9. Where do you buy most of your clothes, online or physical stores. What are your favorite clothing brands? Ahhhh these are so many questions!!! But hope you at least answer a few. Love ya!!😘💝🎁
I think the questions like When are u getting married? When are u having a child? When are u having another baby? Should come under extremely personal questions and should be Considered socially inappropriate to be asked!
Smiled so many times watching this Mimi. You talked and addressed so many topics I needed to hear about in my life right now that I almost felt like I was sitting next to you as a friend. I have never agreed with everything you’ve talked about and sometimes have questioned your opinion (which is normal) but this video resonated so much with me. Thank you for answering such vulnerable questions on a public platform and being so honest with your answers. I know this video has made a little change in my life towards choosing happiness which was honestly so unexpected. Lots of love 💕
When you share your vulnerability with us, I truly feel you as a person. Know that it is appreciated. There is so much wisdom in you. Thank you for not completely quitting and constantly inspiring us. 😊 those positive vibes are contagious.
I feel the same way about having ONE baby girl, for now. People asked if we having another when she was still a newborn...I hate the pressure people put on women asking "are you having another?" It's a very personal decision, IMO. The way you explained parenting was very well put, could've said it better myself. I'm very hands on as well and I want to raise a strong, creative and intelligent girl. The first 5 years are very impressionable. Loved this real video Mimi!
Have you ever thought about a second baby from Alexas point of view? You are so close to Lela and have that experience. Would you like that for Alexa. Children learn ALOT from having siblings. Going to school doesn’t replace those lessons and neither does having parents around 24/7. No criticism, just a question x
Is Alexa going to go through the pregnancy? Is Alexa going to raise the second baby? Don’t think so. To bring a child into this earth with all its problems is so much bigger than just having a baby for the sake of Alexa having a sibling.
I get what you're saying. I'm an only child myself and it can be quite lonely sometimes, especially knowing I'll have no one there with me when I'm older. But Alexa also has her cousins that are her age and hopefully she'll share a lot of memories with them as she gets older.
I completely understand your stand on having children. My husband and I have been married for 7 years and we still don’t feel there yet. It is a huge commitment and I also want to be 110% like I am with everything else in life when I have children. I’m 32 and decided to go back to college this year so maybe in a few years but if not, there’s always adoption and SO many kids need the help! I appreciate your honesty and it’s refreshing to find someone that things like I do.
@@goggliesunshine7486 I am sure a women who is in her 30s is aware of the fact that there is a biological clock and doesn't need reminding of it from strangers.
@@KMartha22 how do you know? Maybe she isn't aware. Some people think they have all the time in the world then live to regret it. Why don't you go away
CHILL AF but what are you supposed to do if you’re already in your 30’s and your husband isn’t ready/doesn’t want kids?? That’s the situation I’m in, and it freaks me out...
I loved every single answer in this video. I think it's really important that you as such an influential person pointed out how much responsibility a child brings with it and I'm glad you are so aware of that and making other people aware of it by posting this video. Personally I think there are too many people out there who only have children just because that's what you do. Just because everyone has children. But I really love that you put so much thought into this and are therefore not readily going for baby no. 2. Especially as a youtuber who could spend so much (more) time only thinking about themselves and their career, I love that you put so much time and effort in your relationship with your daughter. I'd be really interested in hearing more about your parenting philosophy. I also LOVE that someone as influential as you reminds the world that condoms work perfectly fine as contraceptive. There are too many hormones out there and too many people who have been damaged by hormones and people need to be reminded that there are still different options. And even though condoms are in a way the most obvious contraceptive, we often tend to forget about it. So THANK YOU for reminding us!
I’ve been watching you for years Mimi and I feel like I’ve gotten to know you so much better in this video!! This was a real heart to heart I felt! Also I could relate to you about the working or staying too much at home comment!
The most beautiful thing you can give to your child is a sibling he/she can play with and experience the world with. I still 'struggle' with my two little ones (19 and 31 months old, one year gap), staying home with both, cooking etc. but when I see their love they give each other I know that was the best thing I''ve done in my mid 30's
I love your stance on parenting. No judgement whatsoever but I don’t understand how some just decide to have 4 then have them one after the other without really considering how their mental health, physical health or relationship is doing, let alone are the children getting the attention/love they need. Some people are fortunate to have lots of friends, grandparents, etc that love to pitch in and help babysit and help out but I don’t have that. So having children is much more serious of a decision to me then anyone I know. My son is 4 and we actually had a surprise pregnancy so my son will be almost 5 when my second is born. I think it will be a great age space, I’m glad it wasn’t a moment sooner but I’m also glad my son will have a sibling and I think my family will feel complete after this! ☺️❤️
My best friend has 7 siblings! Most of my best childhood memories are of me going to her house, it was always full of people, laughters -sometimes crying and noise, of course - in a word, LIFE. They are 8 sons + 2 amazing parents + 2 dogs & 1 bird 💕
Mimi, you described me to letter with your perspective on being a mom. I have a 10 year old little girl and feel it was the best decision I ever made. For me it was not an option to not be involved in every aspect of her and her life, I will never get that time back. It is still full on but different, it's shifted to academics, dance, etc. She is excelling and thriving but because she has all of my support behind her. Parents are different like you say and have different persectives & approaches to parenting..it was just a breath of fresh air to hear that someone else shares your perspective, as most dont! Love to you X
Please don't ever stop puttin content on youtube, you are an inspiration for most of us, I always ask myself how do you do what you're doing how are you so content and natural organic, please put more content about your DAILY life style, your care tips on health , soul and body
It's incredibly important to also take care of yourself, go out with friends and allow yourself to relax. Your mental health 100% affects your parenting. Of course you know yourself and your life better than anyone but just remember to take care of yourself ❤️
You are such a sweet, devoted spirit. I admire your giving spirit, and how much you want to pour every ounce of yourself into the love you give. However, friend, you are far too hard on yourself. Life with two children is not that much more difficult. Giving your child a best friend, playmate actually makes it much easier. I put my career on hold (I was in law school), to raise my babies. This is my calling. This is our legacy. These are the hands the you will hold on your dying day. Please don’t feel an overwhelming burden to be the perfect parent. You are enough. Your love is enough. Your sweet touch, eye contact and laughter is all the fuel they need to go into this world feeling loved and confident. Having one child is perfectly fine! But I don’t want you to stop having children because you feel like you don’t have enough to give.
Your point of view on motherhood is on point. You are completely right and I respect people who choose to parent lots of children but I feel that self care is SO important too 🙌🏼 Congrats on the plan you have for your family!
Seriously, you are the only person in RUclips who I can sit for hours and listen to coz I’m a person who get bored so quickly in listening to a speech in RUclips.so keep doing these kind of video , you are an amazing woman ,God bless you
I'm disappointed to see how many people judge your philosophy of being a parent. You are so generous to answer at this question. I respect your decision, everyone is different and feels in different ways.
Oh wow I can't believe how healthy her mentality is. Thank you for sharing your opinion about sex before marriage and bringing a child in this world. I feel the same way ! Thank you, thank you! You're a great human being
Sex before marriage is unwise advice .sex before marriage, exposes you to pregnancy without a commited relationship, exposes you to sexual transmitted disease, exposes you to spiritual curses, exposes you to sexual relationship with many partners. And exposes the latter effects to the younger generation . Because when two become one is much more than physical, it's spiritual, it's emotional, it's mental. When you love someone, if after marriage sex is a factor . Then you work it out like anything else you work out. But it must be in a relationship that is committed, which means after marriage. Because things can change! especially with the one you love And most of all for God fearing people, It's a sin, and can separate you from God, placing your relationship with you partner without God's blessing and covering.
Hi Mimi! Thanks for being so upfront with your viewers. It's refreshing to hear someone be so honest. I was thinking about your issues with birth control. I work as a health educator, specifically in sexual health, birth control and STIs. One option you might consider is an IUD. The Paraguard IUD is hormone-free because it's a small copper insert. It's good for up to 10 years and has a really low failure rate. A lot of women like it because you can avoid a lot of the issues you can get with hormone methods and it's basically impossible to use it wrong. Anywho, I thought you should know about another hormone free option that's more reliable than fertility tracking. If you're like to know more, I can definitely give you some resources!
I am more of an extrovert, but have quite a bit of introvert in me. But I 💯 am a very deep person and love meaningful interesting convos ...I guess no one is fully one, we all have a bit of both with a tendency towards one more .
I have 3 kids and I too feel immense responsibility for them. I think majority of families feel the same way. They are not a check mark. They are my family. I adore them and I am happy that they also have each other in life. I am as full on as they come and a stay at home mom.
This is how I feel about having a 2nd child - it's not easy! People might say this is selfish but what you feel is so important. Its huge decision and I wish people would appreciate that
Botox is way more effective if used preventively. If injected before you have wrinkles it will freeze the muscle and prevent the wrinkles from forming. You can still get Botox after you have wrinkles but it isn’t as effective. It would help but it won’t totally get rid of them. It’s way easier and more effective to prevent them instead of trying to get rid of already formed wrinkles. That’s why so many girls are getting Botox in their early twenties! It’s not because they think they have wrinkles, it’s to prevent them!
It's a neuro toxin though, right? I can't imagine it would be great if someone started that young. Are wrinkles really that awful? Too bad we got to this point where women feel they have to do this.
Mimi I loved this video. I feel like ur an older sister. not many you tubers are so raw, real, open, and genuine. Thank you for all the valuable advice you’ve given us; You are a real inspiration 💜
Thank you for being so candid. I respect everything you said in regards to whether you will ever have a second child. I have friends who got married and began having children in their early 20s, because they felt that was what they were suppose to do. Fast-forward ten years, and many of them admit to me (in confidence) that while they love their kids, they wish they would've waited to become patents, or had less children. Obviously, every situation is different. But I applaud you for being so honest because so many parents, especially moms, feel so much guilt around the subject.
Loved this Mimi! Very fresh, open and honest, and you look lovely! Would love a parenting Q&A and also about your current skincare/ vitamin A journey etc! Lots of love xxx
Everyone is different. Everyone is brought up different and I wish I had someone like Mimi to look up to way earlier in life. Of course there are things I still view differently but it doesn’t give me the right to bash her beliefs and views. Respect is respect and those who are negatively commenting, I’ll never understand. So much love for your family and your humbleness. Xoxo!
It makes me really happy to hear your reasoning about the importance of being present with your child and building a strong relationship with her. Every parent should think about that! Being neglected myself as a child (and still suffering from ptsd) I really can't stress enough how important that is. It is indeed a very big responsibility and you sound very wise talking about it. Keep bonding with your daughter! :)
Mimi, I think it’s completely okay to not want a second child. It’s everyone’s own choice to have even one child and no explanation needed. The way you raise Alexa is wonderful, you’ve dedicated so much of your life to her. Although I want to be an extremely hands on parent as well (I am currently expecting my first), I want to have 3 kids close in age, and raise them very hands on but I want them to have the closeness as siblings, it’s important to me. And that’s okay too. Everyone can do what they want as a parent and as long as you are dedicating your life and time to your child(ren) you’re doing what’s right :). I’m the same way as you in terms of pills- I’ve never taken any, not birth control or anything other than if I’m very sick....it scares me!!
People are different...some women are fine with taking care of 5 kids, others are overburdened with one. And also people have very different styles of how to raise their kids. That’s totaly fine...people are different!!!
Mimi I loved your honesty and positivity in this video! 😍 Your answers really made me think about certain aspects of my life. Thank you for spreading healthy mindset and positivity. Keep those amazing videos coming ❤️
Hey Mimi, I love what you had to say in your first question, my mom did the same :) For me as her first child, my mom knew she wanted to be there throughout her first baby's development and stages and when she wanted second child, my dad was finishing graduate school so they both waited when they were able to raise their second child with the same full attention :) My brother and I are 9 years apart and we get along, joke, and have fun just the same, the age gap doesn't affect us~ Only wishing the best for you and your family, you are so generous to share such personal questions online, don't ever feel worried for taking a break. You've done so much already...
Thank you for opening up and sharing your experiences especially with all the hate you get in the comments. It's really unbelievable that people online judge you like they do, and feel they have the right to do so and comment their opinions. Excited for another video like this
I understand where you are coming from as Im the same way. Super responsibile perfectionist that doesnt delegate. I dont have a child and I dont think I ever will because of my chronic illness (I can barely take care of myself, let alone another human being). By being this was we are putting so much stress on ourselves. Its a curse really. BUT! Do try to loosen up a little. You will still be an amazing parent.
"Super responsible perfectionist that doesn't delegate" I can totally relate to that! Although I do wanna have many kids. I really appreciate when I meet people who like to do things well done, that's when I feel that I can "loose up a little", otherwise I prefer to take care of things myself. It is definitely something to work on. I thought the same for Mimi while watching the video, good advice!
Mimi, I loved this personal Q&A. Watching it cheered me up and boosted my mood. There was just something about being able to agree with and relate to your opinions and your state of mind that made me feel better. Thank you for being so open.
it is normal to do everything about the Baby, to keep the House clean, to cook... it is normal to have no Time for other things. On the other side it is important Not to be a helicopter mum!! Now, You would be overwhelmed with a second kid . this is totally ok.
I love videos like this! I think you are very smart for thinking through the parenting scenario before having a second. You and your husband seem to enjoy travel and you can still do all of that with just one child so have fun! She is adorable!
So happy to hear you are still breastfeeding Alexa at two years old. It's not for everyone to breastfeed for this long but i admire you for being able to do that.
Thank you so much for sharing your journey with us Mimi ❤️ Yes please do an other Q&A vidéo about parenting and Alexa 😍 much love to you and your beautiful family 😘❤️
About having more kids, I waited 3 years myself on having my second child, I was so attached to my first son that I was afraid that if I have a second child things will change and I wouldn’t be able to give the same love and attention to him anymore but boy was I wrong, love for children isn’t divided it only multiplies and the joy I have seeing my two boys grow up together and take care of each other is just on another level,
Great video! I like how you are very confident in your personal decisions such as contraception and give no apology for what you believe to be best for you.
Your personality is perfect. I’m 19 now and just got proposed recently. I’m sure that in the future I’ll be coming back to your videos and learning the wise advice you give. Thank you, beautiful Mimi❤️
Completely agree with you about having and raising kids! It’s not something that comes lightly and everyone says you will never be ready but the truth is that you can get as prepared as possible to bring and raise a child in the world
i couldn't have related to you any more in this video .. you spoke every bit of what i feel in regards to having kids. My husband and i got married over 3 years ago and naturally this is the question we always get "when are you going to have a baby?"... everything you said in regards to the responsibility you feel, the deep relationships you just so naturally feel obligated to have and constantly work on, the fact that you don't want to and can never outsource any part of parenting ... ugh it made me feel like i wasn't alone in feeling like that. i felt like a crazy person.. because those feelings are so deep for me that it actually made me think that i can never have have a baby if im actualy this nutty.. but my perspective was wrong... it's not nutty .. it's smart.. it's aware.. I had to hear someone else say it so I stop viewing it as "crazy" Thank you for saying all that - it really helped me.
Mimi, I totally admire your honesty in answering all of these questions, some very personal. But I love listening to your wisdom, your attitude, and your take on things. I've lived in the UK all my life and was a home bird. My husband wanted to live in Spain. And I've totally fallen in love with it, totally opened my eyes to how another culture lives, and love, love, love the beautiful climate. Most of our day is spent outdoors, doing beautiful things, that don't cost loads of money and seeing the true beauty of the country. You are one of the first RUclipsrs I started watching when I first came here, and I am still watching! my favourite RUclipsr! 💞 x 😄
@@korinamouzaki8930 My world is shook. Breastfeeding for 3 years!? Wow. It's kind of perverted and weird, and for me personally too much time, like waay too much, my tits would fall of... It sounds painful. And why would you give your baby 'another creature's milk'? There are other options too. Every mother does her best in parenting nursing choices and rightfully she should. So each to their own.
@@vina Actually, it s not painful at all. And it is neither perverted nor weird. It has been the norm for thousands of years. The weaning age for human babies is between 2 and 6 years. But I agree with you that everyone can choose what is best for their family. Extended breastfeeding may be not usual, but is perfectly normal.
Its sad that people can have all the money in the world but still feel like they have to do everything by themselves. I felt as she kinda meant that she doesn't have the support of the father, we don't have to be everything for everybody including our kids but who knows time will tell
Oh my goodness This video was meant to be in my life. Thank you so much for sharing. I have so much anxiety surrounding childbirth, accidental pregnancy, etc but it’s compounded by the fact that I’m also terrified of hormonal birth control (in any form). I definitely know condoms “work” but part of me is so scared because if I were to get pregnant I would freak out having to deal with the after effects (whatever that may look like). I am getting married next month (!!!) and am a virgin so I’ve been freaking out a bit but just hearing someone talk about using condoms primarily as well as hearing that someone else sees BC the same way as I do- is soooo helpful. Thank you so much Mimi!
I have two Aunts who only have one child each. They both regret that now that their kids are in their 30/40’s.... neither of their kids want children, so there will be no grandkids ☹️
Shara Harper I know. It’s such a personal thing. People are so busy now, and they can’t see into the future. They don’t stop and think, that a sibling is a gift for the child, for when you are no longer here.
Thank you for your honesty, it's great to see more sit down videos from you recently, I've missed them. All the questions were truly interesting and I love how respectful of other points of views you were while answering them. In my current stage of life the most "useful" one was the one on sex before marriage. From the rational point of view I share your opinion in 100%. However, my religion does not "allow" it (I'm not a big fan of religious rules, love and relation with people and God is much more important to me, but still, religion serves me as a guideline and I suppose makes me feel more rooted in my spiritual life). I've researched the topic a little and I had problems finding people that had negative experiences with saving sex for marriage, but then I suppose those people are far less likely to share their experiences. I definitely want to know both sides of the argument as well as possible, before making a decision, so it was good to hear that you know people who have regretted that decision. Much, much love from Poland. Hope to see another video soon!
Even if there is sex compatibility after you get married the relationship would eventually break up due to other problems because he/she is not the one. Testing sexual compatibility is not a way to go about marriage.
Mimi I think it's really sad that you have to sit here and explain to everyone why you dont want second. It's none of their business. Some women have kids to trap a man so it would be very difficult for the man to leave that's why they want kids so desperately You and Alex dont have that problem. Please dont think that you need to explain yourself to these desperate women
Sweta Vyas i don’t think mimi actually explained herself, she just answered the question about having a second baby. i feel like she’s the one who knows best not to explain anything to anyone and just enjoy her life ❤️
I'm sure she knows that, and didn't feel like she had to. She just chose to. She chose to answer all these questions. She is confident in her choice and doesn't feel defensive about it. I think that's great. We should all know what works for us.
You don’t have to want a second child. Period. No explanation needed in my opinion.
Yep no more needed
S.A I was an only child till I was 14. I was just fine and perfectly happy being an only child. I love my brother immensely of course, but not having a sibling while growing up was just fine by me 🤷♀️ I know many other only children who feel the same way
True, but I really loved her reasons. She is a deep and dedicated parent unlike many people I know. I respect her for being the person she is
When I started a relationship with, now my husband, people asked when he was going to ask me for marriage. When we married people started to ask when we’re going to have a baby. And now we have a baby they ask when the second is coming. It’s so crazy. It’s like the standard questions people always have. Don’t ever feel pressure. I love this video so much! I kinda feel the same and are really happy to hear that I’m not the only one thinking like this!
Convey Beauty I agree with you 💯people ask me soo much when I am gonna have my child ..it’s soo annoying I can’t deal with such kind of stuff
Lol I never knew that this process is international.
funny
Convey Beauty that’s true and sad in the same time ... I’m agree with you I feel the same way .. I been married for 5years now .. and we don’t want have kids yet.. but people ask those on my opinion personal question about kids it’s just nuts .. so annoying ..
Convey Beauty same 😄
I only had one child...a daughter who in now 24ys. i never wanted another one, and thats ok. I put every ounce of my energy into raising her. We are the best of friends.
joanne hulsman that’s so sweet ❤️
me too. Although I do worry that i deprived her as she often wanted a brother or sister.
There is nothing wrong with your kids 5-6 years apart. And there is nothing wrong with having 1 kid. Don’t let anyone pressure you into more kids if you don’t want more. Like I said if you only want just want 1 kid and that is fine.
My brother and I are 9 years apart and we get along, mess with each other, and have fun! Our sibling relationship is just as awesome : )
I puroposly waited so my kids are over 5 years apart. Wanted to enjoy the 3 of us and be the best mom I could be. When I Saw moms with Kids close in age they were always stressed and overworked. 5 years works great my kids Love each other and I have not Lost my sanity ;)
I’d love to hear about your parenting philosophy
Kätlin Suimets yes please😊
Must be like her philosophy on everything else: unattainable for most people with regular budgets and regular jobs and schedules
Thanks for sharing! Would a love a parenting video, maybe from 0 to 2 years advices? (currently pregnant so would be helpful as I love how you take care of Alexa) 💕
LaurieAnne R yess
Me too!
THANK YOU for putting the time of each question in the description box!!!
Wow, this is really a very personal Q&A. Thanks so much, Mimi, for being so real and honest. ❤️
Alaina Park I really enjoyed it actually- who wants to see another one?! 😀
@@MimiIkonn Yes Part-2 of this video 😀
We love you Mimi! Thank you for being so open, vulnerable and honest, there is always something I can learn from you ❤️
*Thanks for answering such personal questions!*
Kristen Marie it was so much fun.❤️
I wasn't ready to have another child until my son was five years old.I felt that it was the best decision ever because I gave my full attention to my child that when I had my second child,my oldest child was so hands on and so helpful with his baby brother..Our decision was to have two kids,because we never wanted to be out numbered for many reasons lol!.My hubby and I nevered used birth control either...xoxo
Sophia Cabais my reality before having kids I have them two years apart...our daughter is 22 months old and I’ve made the decision to add another when she’s 5 (lol) it’s life changing.
We also waited 5 years and I'm so happy we did. I loved that the oldest was less dependent on me at that age so I wasn't as drained taking care of a newborn.
I agree.
Wow! Your answers were so deep and meaningful! I totally agree with your viewpont on every question. I'm sure that you're an excelent parent and happy for you😚
Wow her baby is 2 I guess I haven’t been to this channel in 2yrs
runrockwater lol true
runrockwater same haha
same lol
Finally someone who has the same thoughts about birth control! I always find it a hard topic to talk about it with others, as I do not feel like using pills and a lot of people find this strange. I think that you just should choose the anti-contraception method that feels best to you and others should not comment.
It’s not anti contraception. The word “contraception/contraceptive” means anti-conception (or against pregnancy).
Michelle A thanks! I got things mixed up. 😅
Renske ten Veen Yes! I feel the same way, condoms only
My parents had my sister at 25 and 26, me at 28 and 29 and my little sister at 40 and 41. All three of us were planned, now my big sister and I are 19 and 22 and we are best friends, and our little one is 7 and she is the best thing that's ever happened to us all as a family! But everyone is different and it's totally okay to want 0, 2, 6 or 20 children. It is a really personal topic and people should really mind their own business- my parents were really judged for their decision to have a child in their 40s when we were already teenagers... it really made me realize that you should live your life without ever worrying about what people think about you! Love you mimi, great q&a💖
We had our first baby 5 years into our relationship. Our daughter is actually a month older than Alexa. It took me a while to get to a place where I was ready for a baby due to my parenting philosophy. Naturally people are asking when we'll have another but I'm just not at that place yet again. Our little family feels so 'right' at the moment ❤
Kids entertain each other so having one child is harder than having 2 in some ways .. my kids always play together when I had my first she wanted so much attention because she was so bored but having my last 2 they are 2 years apart and they play together all day it’s amazing! I don’t think you would ever regret giving your Alexa a sibling is a lifelong friend :)
Exactly! Her views would change so much after having her second. She would never regret having another child. For me I couldn’t imagine my kids not having siblings I thought I would be the worse mother for not doing that lol because when I’m gone they got each other but if they don’t have siblings it sucks!! Anyways I don’t wanna judge Mimi but her views are all about giving so much attention and loving on one child.. that’s amazing but you can give attention to each child even if you have 3 or 4. It’s more about loving yourself so much you want so much time for yourself than giving and serving I guess. But again everyone is different :)
I agree with you!!
@@luiza2021 Holy shit. You people are so weird. Can she not have another child without you judging her? You have your reasons for another child and she has hers for not having another one. Her business isn't any of yours.
Mommyslife21 Not for everyone. Many siblings just don’t get along together and they fight all the time. Also, what en egoistic choice to have another child, so that they can play together and don’t have to entertain them all the time.
I'm 24 and all my life I've always wanted to have a sister. Being an only child is super lonely in comparison, and ever if there are fights, having a sibling is a having a friend forever.
Everything you said about having your first child and about having a second and all your reasons is sooo me! I had my first five years after i got married (wed at 21) and 31yrs. of marriage later I still have my one and only baby.
SO SO SO TRUE! MIMI Thanks for being so honest.
do you wish you had more or does your child wish they had siblings?
1004 AM No I’m happy with my one and she’s always been happy with her situation
My husband and I just had our babygirl Emilia 14 weeks ago. We have been married for over 6 yrs now. I wasnt ready to get off the pill until last fall & got pregnant right away. I feel blessed and she is my world. I always knew I only wanted one child. One child to give my all to ❤💜
I think it’s amazing how confident you are about telling people you’re not planning to have a second💘 My daughter is 4 1/2 and as soon as she was 1 people were CONSTANTLY asking when I was going to have a second! 😱😱 I was actually SHOCKED to hear how shaming people could be (even people who barely knew me) when I told them I wasn’t planning on it anytime soon (With my business and with channel I wanted to make sure I it was what we really wanted!) I gave up on the idea until this past year, I finally felt ready and now I’m so happy to be pregnant with my second! Honestly though,
I’m so happy that I waited until I felt the time was right instead of letting people’s opinions and overall pushiness dictate how I lived my life. I am sure that whatever you and Alex decide will be right for you and by listening to yourself you’re in store for a beautiful life! ⭐️✨⭐️✨⭐️✨⭐️
Ask Kimberly congrats dear Kim! And thank you so much for sharing that. 😘❤️
Mimi Ikonn Thank you for your congrats 💘💘🤗🤗 And love your content as always xo
I just love the positivity you and your husband exude. I love how you find simple pleasures in everyday. thanks for sharing.
Hi Mimi, I never comment, but I started following you since the first time you came to Costa Rica (so many years ago!) I’ve gone through this journey with you. Stood as a loyal follower since then. It’s been amazing to watch you grow, & be successful.. in your marriage, family & achieving your dreams. I love you & Alex so much. Sending you hugs from across the globe! I loved this video- please do more of these. I usually miss the opportunity to ask questions since I don’t check insta stories often but here are (a lot) of questions:
1. Tips for starting a new business.
2. What are your business principles?
3. In terms of parenting, at the beginning you mentioned you have a parenting style. Could you elaborate?
4. What tips would you give to new mothers to help prepare for maternity and the first 3 months.
5. What parenting books/podcasts/ etc do you recommend?
6. What are your favorite clothing brands for Alexa?
7. What is your parenting philosophy? (This is similar to the previous parenting question)
8. What is your favorite business that you own?
9. Where do you buy most of your clothes, online or physical stores. What are your favorite clothing brands?
Ahhhh these are so many questions!!! But hope you at least answer a few. Love ya!!😘💝🎁
Which video in costa rica :o
I think the questions like
When are u getting married?
When are u having a child?
When are u having another baby?
Should come under extremely personal questions and should be Considered socially inappropriate to be asked!
Agree, I would genuinely like to understand why people ask them.
Well, she did ask for people to ask really personal questions so...
@@beckym28 I know :) I'm not talking about her, I'm just curious in general.
ekta arora I think it’s so inappropriate too
People are nosey AF
Smiled so many times watching this Mimi. You talked and addressed so many topics I needed to hear about in my life right now that I almost felt like I was sitting next to you as a friend. I have never agreed with everything you’ve talked about and sometimes have questioned your opinion (which is normal) but this video resonated so much with me. Thank you for answering such vulnerable questions on a public platform and being so honest with your answers. I know this video has made a little change in my life towards choosing happiness which was honestly so unexpected. Lots of love 💕
Navroop Nijjar aww, I’m so happy you enjoyed the video and thank you so much for leaving your honest comment . ❤️
When you share your vulnerability with us, I truly feel you as a person. Know that it is appreciated. There is so much wisdom in you. Thank you for not completely quitting and constantly inspiring us. 😊 those positive vibes are contagious.
tshhh18 it truly is my pleasure to connect on a deeper level. ❤️
"For me, a child is not a check mark." This is so well-put, Mimi! Love it!
I feel the same way about having ONE baby girl, for now. People asked if we having another when she was still a newborn...I hate the pressure people put on women asking "are you having another?" It's a very personal decision, IMO. The way you explained parenting was very well put, could've said it better myself. I'm very hands on as well and I want to raise a strong, creative and intelligent girl. The first 5 years are very impressionable. Loved this real video Mimi!
Have you ever thought about a second baby from Alexas point of view? You are so close to Lela and have that experience. Would you like that for Alexa. Children learn ALOT from having siblings. Going to school doesn’t replace those lessons and neither does having parents around 24/7. No criticism, just a question x
Is Alexa going to go through the pregnancy? Is Alexa going to raise the second baby? Don’t think so. To bring a child into this earth with all its problems is so much bigger than just having a baby for the sake of Alexa having a sibling.
aale10 as I said in my original comment, I meant no criticism.
I get what you're saying. I'm an only child myself and it can be quite lonely sometimes, especially knowing I'll have no one there with me when I'm older. But Alexa also has her cousins that are her age and hopefully she'll share a lot of memories with them as she gets older.
awww so sorry @@1americanidol11
Having siblings is overrated. Trust me.
Can't wait for Vitamin A and parenting video! Thanks for putting together this video.
I completely understand your stand on having children. My husband and I have been married for 7 years and we still don’t feel there yet. It is a huge commitment and I also want to be 110% like I am with everything else in life when I have children. I’m 32 and decided to go back to college this year so maybe in a few years but if not, there’s always adoption and SO many kids need the help! I appreciate your honesty and it’s refreshing to find someone that things like I do.
Don't wait too long you could miss out on children all together or spend thousands on fertility
You will never be bc it has to happen naturally!
@@goggliesunshine7486 I am sure a women who is in her 30s is aware of the fact that there is a biological clock and doesn't need reminding of it from strangers.
@@KMartha22 how do you know? Maybe she isn't aware. Some people think they have all the time in the world then live to regret it. Why don't you go away
CHILL AF but what are you supposed to do if you’re already in your 30’s and your husband isn’t ready/doesn’t want kids?? That’s the situation I’m in, and it freaks me out...
I loved every single answer in this video.
I think it's really important that you as such an influential person pointed out how much responsibility a child brings with it and I'm glad you are so aware of that and making other people aware of it by posting this video. Personally I think there are too many people out there who only have children just because that's what you do. Just because everyone has children. But I really love that you put so much thought into this and are therefore not readily going for baby no. 2. Especially as a youtuber who could spend so much (more) time only thinking about themselves and their career, I love that you put so much time and effort in your relationship with your daughter. I'd be really interested in hearing more about your parenting philosophy.
I also LOVE that someone as influential as you reminds the world that condoms work perfectly fine as contraceptive. There are too many hormones out there and too many people who have been damaged by hormones and people need to be reminded that there are still different options. And even though condoms are in a way the most obvious contraceptive, we often tend to forget about it. So THANK YOU for reminding us!
Bea dC thank you for your comment and appreciation 🙏 it means a lot to me.
I’ve been watching you for years Mimi and I feel like I’ve gotten to know you so much better in this video!! This was a real heart to heart I felt! Also I could relate to you about the working or staying too much at home comment!
The most beautiful thing you can give to your child is a sibling he/she can play with and experience the world with. I still 'struggle' with my two little ones (19 and 31 months old, one year gap), staying home with both, cooking etc. but when I see their love they give each other I know that was the best thing I''ve done in my mid 30's
I love your stance on parenting. No judgement whatsoever but I don’t understand how some just decide to have 4 then have them one after the other without really considering how their mental health, physical health or relationship is doing, let alone are the children getting the attention/love they need. Some people are fortunate to have lots of friends, grandparents, etc that love to pitch in and help babysit and help out but I don’t have that. So having children is much more serious of a decision to me then anyone I know. My son is 4 and we actually had a surprise pregnancy so my son will be almost 5 when my second is born. I think it will be a great age space, I’m glad it wasn’t a moment sooner but I’m also glad my son will have a sibling and I think my family will feel complete after this! ☺️❤️
My best friend has 7 siblings! Most of my best childhood memories are of me going to her house, it was always full of people, laughters -sometimes crying and noise, of course - in a word, LIFE. They are 8 sons + 2 amazing parents + 2 dogs & 1 bird 💕
Mimi, you described me to letter with your perspective on being a mom. I have a 10 year old little girl and feel it was the best decision I ever made. For me it was not an option to not be involved in every aspect of her and her life, I will never get that time back. It is still full on but different, it's shifted to academics, dance, etc. She is excelling and thriving but because she has all of my support behind her. Parents are different like you say and have different persectives & approaches to parenting..it was just a breath of fresh air to hear that someone else shares your perspective, as most dont! Love to you X
Le Juan Shrives thank you for sharing your journey with your daughter ❤️ I love that we are all different - yet some are the same.
Please don't ever stop puttin content on youtube, you are an inspiration for most of us, I always ask myself how do you do what you're doing how are you so content and natural organic, please put more content about your DAILY life style, your care tips on health , soul and body
Beautiful Mimi ❤️ thank you so much for your vulnerability and honesty
That really was a great q&a. And a warmer place to live sounds good indeed, plus Alexa will learn a third language that way ;)
It's incredibly important to also take care of yourself, go out with friends and allow yourself to relax. Your mental health 100% affects your parenting. Of course you know yourself and your life better than anyone but just remember to take care of yourself ❤️
You are such a sweet, devoted spirit. I admire your giving spirit, and how much you want to pour every ounce of yourself into the love you give. However, friend, you are far too hard on yourself. Life with two children is not that much more difficult. Giving your child a best friend, playmate actually makes it much easier. I put my career on hold (I was in law school), to raise my babies. This is my calling. This is our legacy. These are the hands the you will hold on your dying day. Please don’t feel an overwhelming burden to be the perfect parent. You are enough. Your love is enough. Your sweet touch, eye contact and laughter is all the fuel they need to go into this world feeling loved and confident. Having one child is perfectly fine! But I don’t want you to stop having children because you feel like you don’t have enough to give.
Whitney Smith wow I really love the way you put this. Well said.
Your point of view on motherhood is on point. You are completely right and I respect people who choose to parent lots of children but I feel that self care is SO important too 🙌🏼
Congrats on the plan you have for your family!
Seriously, you are the only person in RUclips who I can sit for hours and listen to coz I’m a person who get bored so quickly in listening to a speech in RUclips.so keep doing these kind of video , you are an amazing woman ,God bless you
I'm disappointed to see how many people judge your philosophy of being a parent. You are so generous to answer at this question. I respect your decision, everyone is different and feels in different ways.
Oh wow I can't believe how healthy her mentality is. Thank you for sharing your opinion about sex before marriage and bringing a child in this world. I feel the same way ! Thank you, thank you! You're a great human being
Sex before marriage is unwise advice .sex before marriage, exposes you to pregnancy without a commited relationship, exposes you to sexual transmitted disease, exposes you to spiritual curses, exposes you to sexual relationship with many partners. And exposes the latter effects to the younger generation . Because when two become one is much more than physical, it's spiritual, it's emotional, it's mental.
When you love someone, if after marriage sex is a factor . Then you work it out like anything else you work out. But it must be in a relationship that is committed, which means after marriage. Because things can change! especially with the one you love
And most of all for God fearing people, It's a sin, and can separate you from God, placing your relationship with you partner without God's blessing and covering.
Hi Mimi! Thanks for being so upfront with your viewers. It's refreshing to hear someone be so honest. I was thinking about your issues with birth control. I work as a health educator, specifically in sexual health, birth control and STIs. One option you might consider is an IUD. The Paraguard IUD is hormone-free because it's a small copper insert. It's good for up to 10 years and has a really low failure rate. A lot of women like it because you can avoid a lot of the issues you can get with hormone methods and it's basically impossible to use it wrong.
Anywho, I thought you should know about another hormone free option that's more reliable than fertility tracking. If you're like to know more, I can definitely give you some resources!
It really surprised me when you said you were an extrovert. Never seen such a deep extrovert in my life.
As a "deep" extraverted myself, I would say that I usually don't show my deep side until I'm really close to someone.
I am more of an extrovert, but have quite a bit of introvert in me. But I 💯 am a very deep person and love meaningful interesting convos ...I guess no one is fully one, we all have a bit of both with a tendency towards one more .
Extroverts can be deep and thoughtful! Extraversion is only about preferring to direct your energy outside of you
I have 3 kids and I too feel immense responsibility for them. I think majority of families feel the same way. They are not a check mark. They are my family. I adore them and I am happy that they also have each other in life.
I am as full on as they come and a stay at home mom.
Mimi thanks so much for being so open with us! You are such a ray of light and positivity on social media. xx
This is how I feel about having a 2nd child - it's not easy! People might say this is selfish but what you feel is so important. Its huge decision and I wish people would appreciate that
Botox is way more effective if used preventively. If injected before you have wrinkles it will freeze the muscle and prevent the wrinkles from forming. You can still get Botox after you have wrinkles but it isn’t as effective. It would help but it won’t totally get rid of them. It’s way easier and more effective to prevent them instead of trying to get rid of already formed wrinkles. That’s why so many girls are getting Botox in their early twenties! It’s not because they think they have wrinkles, it’s to prevent them!
It's a neuro toxin though, right? I can't imagine it would be great if someone started that young. Are wrinkles really that awful? Too bad we got to this point where women feel they have to do this.
Blue Sky I agree. It’s sad that it’s come to that.
Blue Sky yes it’s a toxin. Why put that into your body especially Mimi who is against that?
Mimi I loved this video. I feel like ur an older sister. not many you tubers are so raw, real, open, and genuine. Thank you for all the valuable advice you’ve given us; You are a real inspiration 💜
I could honestly watch a 3 hr. Q&A of yours Mimi, and enjoy it thoroughly!! 💞💞💞
Thank you for being so candid.
I respect everything you said in regards to whether you will ever have a second child.
I have friends who got married and began having children in their early 20s, because they felt that was what they were suppose to do.
Fast-forward ten years, and many of them admit to me (in confidence) that while they love their kids, they wish they would've waited to become patents, or had less children.
Obviously, every situation is different. But I applaud you for being so honest because so many parents, especially moms, feel so much guilt around the subject.
Please do a second part!! Loved this one!!!
Loved this Mimi! Very fresh, open and honest, and you look lovely! Would love a parenting Q&A and also about your current skincare/ vitamin A journey etc! Lots of love xxx
PS: I watched the whole video but love how you've added time stamps of the questions in the description! Super helpful :)
Common guys this woman deserves
Sooo much the 1 million subs. She is just amazing♥️
Yessss pls do a video on parenting, what did u do to get yourself ready for alexa, your philosophy in bringing her up, books you read, etc
I'm so early! I want your makeup routine and your closet tour pleaseee😬😬😬
Everyone is different. Everyone is brought up different and I wish I had someone like Mimi to look up to way earlier in life. Of course there are things I still view differently but it doesn’t give me the right to bash her beliefs and views. Respect is respect and those who are negatively commenting, I’ll never understand.
So much love for your family and your humbleness. Xoxo!
A brother or a sister it’s the best gift you could give to the first child. I had my sister and i’m so happy that my parents decided to have her ♥️
This is NOT true in all cases.
It makes me really happy to hear your reasoning about the importance of being present with your child and building a strong relationship with her. Every parent should think about that! Being neglected myself as a child (and still suffering from ptsd) I really can't stress enough how important that is. It is indeed a very big responsibility and you sound very wise talking about it. Keep bonding with your daughter! :)
If you are breastfeading you shouldn’t be using retinol aka vitamin a on your skin!
Mimi, I think it’s completely okay to not want a second child. It’s everyone’s own choice to have even one child and no explanation needed. The way you raise Alexa is wonderful, you’ve dedicated so much of your life to her. Although I want to be an extremely hands on parent as well (I am currently expecting my first), I want to have 3 kids close in age, and raise them very hands on but I want them to have the closeness as siblings, it’s important to me. And that’s okay too. Everyone can do what they want as a parent and as long as you are dedicating your life and time to your child(ren) you’re doing what’s right :). I’m the same way as you in terms of pills- I’ve never taken any, not birth control or anything other than if I’m very sick....it scares me!!
I had 3 daughters never had any help except my husband and we are all okay.
Jabou baa exactly.
She drawns in a glass of water right?
People are different...some women are fine with taking care of 5 kids, others are overburdened with one.
And also people have very different styles of how to raise their kids. That’s totaly fine...people are different!!!
She has multiple businesses to run. I understand her struggles, not easy to juggle everything.
Everybody is different! I only have one and also it’s exhausting because every kid is different as well
Mimi I loved your honesty and positivity in this video! 😍 Your answers really made me think about certain aspects of my life. Thank you for spreading healthy mindset and positivity. Keep those amazing videos coming ❤️
Ring the bell! You are so cute Mimi. As cute as Alexa.
Hey Mimi,
I love what you had to say in your first question, my mom did the same :) For me as her first child, my mom knew she wanted to be there throughout her first baby's development and stages and when she wanted second child, my dad was finishing graduate school so they both waited when they were able to raise their second child with the same full attention :) My brother and I are 9 years apart and we get along, joke, and have fun just the same, the age gap doesn't affect us~
Only wishing the best for you and your family, you are so generous to share such personal questions online, don't ever feel worried for taking a break. You've done so much already...
Thank you so much Mimi ❤️ You got really personal and that needs a brave and humble heart.
Wow! Mimi thanks for opening up on such private topics! Really enjoyed the video and I absolutely support your views on things
Beautiful video. I had intimacy with my husband after we got married and we still married almost 9 years 😉🤩❤️
Thank you for opening up and sharing your experiences especially with all the hate you get in the comments. It's really unbelievable that people online judge you like they do, and feel they have the right to do so and comment their opinions. Excited for another video like this
I understand where you are coming from as Im the same way. Super responsibile perfectionist that doesnt delegate. I dont have a child and I dont think I ever will because of my chronic illness (I can barely take care of myself, let alone another human being). By being this was we are putting so much stress on ourselves. Its a curse really. BUT! Do try to loosen up a little. You will still be an amazing parent.
I can very much relate! I'm a total perfectionist and also have a chronic illness, so no children... yet.
Christina are you my twin? 😀
@@kristinakorenkova3340 Haha, maybe! 🤪
"Super responsible perfectionist that doesn't delegate" I can totally relate to that! Although I do wanna have many kids. I really appreciate when I meet people who like to do things well done, that's when I feel that I can "loose up a little", otherwise I prefer to take care of things myself. It is definitely something to work on. I thought the same for Mimi while watching the video, good advice!
Mimi, I loved this personal Q&A. Watching it cheered me up and boosted my mood. There was just something about being able to agree with and relate to your opinions and your state of mind that made me feel better. Thank you for being so open.
it is normal to do everything about the Baby, to keep the House clean, to cook... it is normal to have no Time for other things. On the other side it is important Not to be a helicopter mum!!
Now, You would be overwhelmed with a second kid . this is totally ok.
I love videos like this! I think you are very smart for thinking through the parenting scenario before having a second. You and your husband seem to enjoy travel and you can still do all of that with just one child so have fun! She is adorable!
you should look into getting a copper IUD! there are NO hormones and it makes things so easy in terms of not having to take any meds
They can have terrible side effects too
So happy to hear you are still breastfeeding Alexa at two years old. It's not for everyone to breastfeed for this long but i admire you for being able to do that.
Thank you so much for sharing your journey with us Mimi ❤️ Yes please do an other Q&A vidéo about parenting and Alexa 😍 much love to you and your beautiful family 😘❤️
About having more kids, I waited 3 years myself on having my second child, I was so attached to my first son that I was afraid that if I have a second child things will change and I wouldn’t be able to give the same love and attention to him anymore but boy was I wrong, love for children isn’t divided it only multiplies and the joy I have seeing my two boys grow up together and take care of each other is just on another level,
The best answer ever, totally agree about having a second child
Great video! I like how you are very confident in your personal decisions such as contraception and give no apology for what you believe to be best for you.
Pleas do a parenting Q&A 🙏🏻
alejandra cavazos I think it would be very controversial
Your personality is perfect. I’m 19 now and just got proposed recently. I’m sure that in the future I’ll be coming back to your videos and learning the wise advice you give. Thank you, beautiful Mimi❤️
Love your blouse! Where is it from? 😍
Completely agree with you about having and raising kids! It’s not something that comes lightly and everyone says you will never be ready but the truth is that you can get as prepared as possible to bring and raise a child in the world
After along time ... A good video where i felt it was real u ... U are kind
i couldn't have related to you any more in this video .. you spoke every bit of what i feel in regards to having kids. My husband and i got married over 3 years ago and naturally this is the question we always get "when are you going to have a baby?"... everything you said in regards to the responsibility you feel, the deep relationships you just so naturally feel obligated to have and constantly work on, the fact that you don't want to and can never outsource any part of parenting ... ugh it made me feel like i wasn't alone in feeling like that. i felt like a crazy person.. because those feelings are so deep for me that it actually made me think that i can never have have a baby if im actualy this nutty.. but my perspective was wrong... it's not nutty .. it's smart.. it's aware.. I had to hear someone else say it so I stop viewing it as "crazy"
Thank you for saying all that - it really helped me.
you are so soft and quiet, it is a happiness of looking at video. Thank you for is sharing!
love you !! :)
OG subbies will already know mimi's answers to question 1 and 2, she has answered these questions many times over the years.
I bet South Africa is on that list of moves.
Is Alexa vaccinated?
Mimi, I totally admire your honesty in answering all of these questions, some very personal. But I love listening to your wisdom, your attitude, and your take on things. I've lived in the UK all my life and was a home bird. My husband wanted to live in Spain. And I've totally fallen in love with it, totally opened my eyes to how another culture lives, and love, love, love the beautiful climate. Most of our day is spent outdoors, doing beautiful things, that don't cost loads of money and seeing the true beauty of the country. You are one of the first RUclipsrs I started watching when I first came here, and I am still watching! my favourite RUclipsr! 💞 x 😄
Did you said you are still breast feeding? Why?
Because it is the best for a child?
Because why give milk of another creature?
Because the World Health Organization recommends it?
Because why not?
@@korinamouzaki8930 My world is shook. Breastfeeding for 3 years!? Wow. It's kind of perverted and weird, and for me personally too much time, like waay too much, my tits would fall of... It sounds painful. And why would you give your baby 'another creature's milk'? There are other options too. Every mother does her best in parenting nursing choices and rightfully she should. So each to their own.
Why not?😊
@@vina Actually, it s not painful at all. And it is neither perverted nor weird. It has been the norm for thousands of years. The weaning age for human babies is between 2 and 6 years. But I agree with you that everyone can choose what is best for their family. Extended breastfeeding may be not usual, but is perfectly normal.
Alexa has just turned 2, so it's perfectly reasonable that Mimi is still breastfeeding
I love you doing Q&As like this!! Can you do more videos like this?!💞💞
Its sad that people can have all the money in the world but still feel like they have to do everything by themselves. I felt as she kinda meant that she doesn't have the support of the father, we don't have to be everything for everybody including our kids but who knows time will tell
Well actually she said se had the time to film this video PRECISELY because Alex was taking care of Alexa.
@@federicacaputo5631 I know...
Oh my goodness This video was meant to be in my life. Thank you so much for sharing. I have so much anxiety surrounding childbirth, accidental pregnancy, etc but it’s compounded by the fact that I’m also terrified of hormonal birth control (in any form). I definitely know condoms “work” but part of me is so scared because if I were to get pregnant I would freak out having to deal with the after effects (whatever that may look like). I am getting married next month (!!!) and am a virgin so I’ve been freaking out a bit but just hearing someone talk about using condoms primarily as well as hearing that someone else sees BC the same way as I do- is soooo helpful. Thank you so much Mimi!
I didn’t have a desire for another Child, until my Daughter was 40....then I realized what a mistake that was....Too late. 😢
You can have grandkids now :)
I have two Aunts who only have one child each. They both regret that now that their kids are in their 30/40’s.... neither of their kids want children, so there will be no grandkids ☹️
Shara Harper
I know. It’s such a personal thing. People are so busy now, and they can’t see into the future. They don’t stop and think, that a sibling is a gift for the child, for when you are no longer here.
Big heart for you Mimi! Hope you’ll have more time for these type of videos. You are such inspirational!
Thank you for your honesty, it's great to see more sit down videos from you recently, I've missed them. All the questions were truly interesting and I love how respectful of other points of views you were while answering them. In my current stage of life the most "useful" one was the one on sex before marriage. From the rational point of view I share your opinion in 100%. However, my religion does not "allow" it (I'm not a big fan of religious rules, love and relation with people and God is much more important to me, but still, religion serves me as a guideline and I suppose makes me feel more rooted in my spiritual life). I've researched the topic a little and I had problems finding people that had negative experiences with saving sex for marriage, but then I suppose those people are far less likely to share their experiences. I definitely want to know both sides of the argument as well as possible, before making a decision, so it was good to hear that you know people who have regretted that decision.
Much, much love from Poland. Hope to see another video soon!
Even if there is sex compatibility after you get married the relationship would eventually break up due to other problems because he/she is not the one. Testing sexual compatibility is not a way to go about marriage.
Hi Mimi. I love how open and honest you were answering all those questions. Please keep these types of videos coming!
Mimi I think it's really sad that you have to sit here and explain to everyone why you dont want second. It's none of their business. Some women have kids to trap a man so it would be very difficult for the man to leave that's why they want kids so desperately You and Alex dont have that problem. Please dont think that you need to explain yourself to these desperate women
Sweta Vyas i don’t think mimi actually explained herself, she just answered the question about having a second baby. i feel like she’s the one who knows best not to explain anything to anyone and just enjoy her life ❤️
I'm sure she knows that, and didn't feel like she had to. She just chose to. She chose to answer all these questions. She is confident in her choice and doesn't feel defensive about it. I think that's great. We should all know what works for us.