My wife is almost 10 years older than me, you know my family and the whole community was saying so many negative things about 'why you choose this old blah blah blah'. But the only thing I listened to was my heart and istikharah. We did ta'aruf and married two months later, I didnt care about the age I just loved everything about her. Now, we have children and she still looks young. That really doesn't matter though bc I already love who she is. So yeah, don't pay attention to men who see women like fruit. This one is ripe, this one is not. That's not the marriage you want anyway, you will wish you were single again haha. But don't get cynical too, bc from my wife's perspective, she was in her 30's and searching everywhere for a husband (she almost lost hope she said), then all of the sudden some foreign man approached her outside the masjid, asked to do ta'aruf, showed up at her house and proposed to her immediately 😅 things happen when Allah decrees, not by our own action. You look so young and are very beautiful, your personality seems very kind and sincere. You would be a great wife and mother, imo. Don't give up, there are still men who don't just care about shallow things like the number on your ID card. Your husband might be there the next time you get on the metro or go to the masjid. Like you said about the one who leave there house with a plan, it's true also for meeting your husband. Allah 'azza wa jal is the one in control and he only gives his servants what is good for them. We just need to have tawakkul and sabr. Allahumma barak sister
This was super sweet of you to type. May Allah increase the love and rahmah between you and your wife, ameen! And I pray this sister marries a kind and loving pious man, and has many beautiful noble children, ameen!
“If you think your alarm wakes you up, sleep next to a dead person” the deepest thing I’ve heard in a while. I’ll never forget that! Alhamdulillah SubhanaAllah.
I'm so sorry for sounding dumb - but can someone explain what it means? I don't understand it? I've tried to think - but i can't quite work it out. What does it mean???
Is it that sleeping next to the dead will infect me with deadness or? Because I personally can't consciously sleep next to a dead person, I'll stay awake because it's bothering me. So how does sleeping next to a dead person have anything to do with an alarm?
What's the analogy there ? Religion made you dumb it should not be that hard.. sleeping next to a deceased to see if they'll wake up if the alarm goes on 😂😂😂
You're acually a good story-teller. Please don't waste time addressing crazy comments. Continue telling us about your journey. Personally, stories about your career journey, lessons you've learnt in life so far and many more will be highly appreciated. Keep documenting your life. We'll keep watching. ❤
That is the best comment. Dont paid attention to such comments. We all have to be patient for some reasons or others in our life. Allah test our level of sabr in different level and way.
Honestly, I’m surprised that this mrs Kimberly jane Carl ,is mentioned here, came across a testimony about her from one of the beneficiaries on wallstreet, she seems to be doing great…
I’m 29 ( turning 30 tomorrow) and unmarried and I am getting pressured by my family to marry. I told them I will settle down when I find the right one. I pray to Allah everyday so Allahamdulilah it will be soon.
❤❤ my dear don't let them put you on pressure it will lead you to be desperate. So take it easy to yourself you aren't alone am in my 40s but am not yet married but I haven't lost hope and I believe my Mr right is coming in ALLAH 's perfect time
@@zoranabanana just turned 30 today. Not gonna lie, I was literally crying myself to bed that night because I haven’t archived anything and still unmarried. Seeing my cousins and my younger sister marry before me has affected me somewhat but that’s fine. Allah has a plan for everyone.
Don't wait forever. It doesn't get any easier to find someone as you get older. Have realistic expectations, whether now, or in a few years. But it is important to keep looking, you never know when you might find the one, but let them go because the "time isn't right." The time will never be right, but you'll regret letting them go.
Masha’Allah sister your videos are so real. When it comes to marriage, a lot of people don’t understand that ANYONE can technically get married at ANYTIME. Any woman can easily find a man online and quickly do ninkah. But it is very hard to get married to someone you actually like, are compatible with and who will genuinely enrich your life and make it better. It is better to stay single than to marry someone who will make your life miserable and add unwanted trauma to your life. Only Allah can bring you the person who was custom made for you. May Allah increase you in blessing sis and bless all my sisters who are praying to find their soulmate ❤ ameen.
Exactly! Thank you for saying this. I’m sick and tired of all these keyboard warrior Muslim men shaming and attacking unmarried Muslimahs online. One said “this is what happens when you don’t get married young” like and?? They genuinely expect women to just marry any random man just to be married.
Sister !! You have me laughing..as a 37 year old woman I can definitely relate😅..I spent my 20's surviving and taking care of bills and school. But marriage will come sis. Love from the Caribbean 🇹🇹
I am almost 4 years older than you yet still single, you have actually encouraged me to start documenting my personal life this way just so I can sometimes come back to this video either as therapy
As a south africa I love how you say "yoh" sister we all going through it . Marriage is no longer the aspiration. We want to better ourselves now,travel and enjoy life
Out of this whole video, I love the part you started reciting Surah Kafirun. Masha Allah. Btw, I subscribed a few days ago and I found your channel through a guy on Twitter advising girls to get married young and using you as an example of being “old” and unmarried. Take their critique as a blessing because I wouldn’t have discovered your channel if it wasn’t for them. Tawakal (putting trust in Allah SWT) and qadr (believing in his predestination) are crucial. You will get married if it’s meant and a blessing for you inshaAllah.
@@Whimswirlexactly men wouldn’t even do that themselves. They have certain boxes that she must tick and definitely can’t be divorced or with children. Not saying all men of course but A LOT of them.
You are so beautiful and bold with a lovely sense of humor.. Nevermind some people are too bitter and understand nothing in life. I married very late 42 years. I am 45years old enjoying my life with my husband and Son. Expecting baby number 2 by his grace. God is faithful hold on to him as you have been doing ,am super proud of you. Be you
I honestly think you want the best for yourself and have such high standards and you are a very hardworking woman and that may intimidate some men. However, sticking to your boundaries will actually help you find the right partner. Don't worry we are here for you!
الزّواج ليس إنجازا بيد الإنسان ..هو رزق من اللًه يكتبه لمن يشاء لحكمة و يمنعه عمًن يشاء لحكمة لكن نطلبه بالدًعاء لفطرة فينا و نرضى بحكمه كيفما كان ..الحمد للّه على كلّ حال
Its okay abayo its all Allah's qadr and he knows what's best for us am 28 and not married everyone around me got married people say hurtful things but Allah is the one in control
You’re very wise and intelligent.. I’m only 23 and I literally see people get married just for the name of it just because their parents told them or they see everyone doing. And they don’t know nothing about marriage or being parents. Marriage isn’t easy it’s two party partner ship in everything. I myself refused to get married at this young age because I’m distill working on myself internally and spiritually because I live in survival mood too and I’m trying to break it. I really thank allah i haven’t got married yet or was forced by parents or anyone. Alhamudallah for everything. Allah is the best planner and I trust him. Wallahi best thing to focus on allah and education.and be humble and work and make something for myself. just free yourself from society pressure to do this at this age or else your will feel into depression.
I am going through the same situation, and I am 22. This comment gives me peace to know I am not alone in this. And hope life goes as Allah deems it fit for us at the right time.
Marriage at a young age is good we only have limited time on earth. You can work on yourself while searching a spouse. Allah will bless you after you get married. We do our best while relying on Allah.
Ever since I randomly found your account I can’t stop watching your videos and always looking forward to your new videos!! I’m middle eastern and was born and raised in Germany, 26 years old. I can totally relate to you and what you are feeling. You know, I’m turning 27 this year and haven’t found the one yet. But a few weeks ago I thought to myself, you know what, maybe it’s because I’m not at the place I’m supposed to be at right now. So I keep trusting Allahs timing, just like you said in this Video and I’m really glad to hear it!! Much love to you ♥️
Believe me, being married over 20yrs, you don’t “have to” get married. Nothing’s wrong with enjoying your own company. If a right man comes along, you’ll know, but you can’t hurry love. 🌹🌹🌹
listening to you is almost like listening to a story about myself. I am 37 and i have heard the y are u not married, y do u not have children questions and the low key snidey comments when friends announce their upcoming weddings. I also do the joking thing as a coping mechanism. we are unique and life happens to everyone differently. Have i made mistakes along the way,? sure, who hasn't. Would i do things differently given the chance, probably not. So marriage or no, i am determined to make the most of my life as it is. People are always going to talk anyway no matter one's situation. I am an artist and I have a series of works on this very topic. It is amazing how much feedback i get on it. I am happy to have found your channel and you are definitely a great story teller! I am hooked😀
Ah thank you so much. I am happy to hear your story too…I agree marriage or not, we have other accomplishment that we need to be proud of and when the right comes we will cross that journey of marriage in Sha Allah. Sending you love sis….thank you for being here 🤍🫶🏾
May Allah bless you. I am astounded by your knowledge and wonderful responses to such challenging and sensitive issues. You reacted to each of them with great intelligence. I appreciate you saying that Islam is your greatest honour. It nearly moved me to tears. Allah Kareem, insha'Allah, His timing is perfect, and you will marry and have children. Amen
I'm 38 with no husband, and zero children. Allah SWT knows when that day will happen. I have great peace knowing that Allah SWT has the answer. Alhamdulillah, may I continue to wait patiently until that day comes. Alhamdulillah.
My cousin was asked why you are not married thousands times and she kept living her life not putting any pressure on herself she got married two years ago at age of 46 now she have twins
I’m jealous of how strong your faith is and how much you know about Islam. May Allah increase you. Everything is in Allah’s control and it will only happen when he says so. Don’t forget dua and charity. May Allah bless you with a righteous husband and righteous offspring.
I am 32 yr old this year and single. I decided to give my life and fully committed to God and remain unmarried just like Apostle Paul. Being single doesn't mean you are lonely... in solitude be with God always.
For some reason I feel very close to you even if we are not sharing the same country or religion. I find your voice and words very soft. And you are funny, you seem like a good person to be around as well. From what I can tell by the way you speak about life we somehow have very similar values. I am really glad that I randomly found your channel and I could listen to you for hours. Thank you!
If nothing else comes out of your videos then at least you can find a husband on here🤣. On a serious note, I’m enjoying your videos! The reminder about fajar made me particularly emotional. Also if your mum was on earth, she’d be so proud of you! Speaking as a wife and mother myself, I pray Allah blesses you with the companionship of a husband and love of a child/ren. You’d be amazing as both in sha Allah. ❤ I’ll keep u in my duas.
I love your humor and just how you can laugh at yourself. We need to stop putting pressure on ourselves with marriage, children and jobs. We always plan but the ultimate plan that will work out is that of God.
Hy Fatima. Thank you for sharing your story with us. I am a USIU-A student rn, majoring in International Relation (Concentrating in Development Studies) and I can resonate with every bit of USIU-A life. Besides, you are a heroine. You persevered and survived harder waves. Everybody has their own unique story. There is more to life than marriage. May Allah grant you whatever your heart desires provided it does not displease Allah.
Salam alaykum,, here am I,, 32 years old Malawian boy living in United Arab Emirate,, i get impressed by your story and am ready to get someone like you to get married with and live together have kids and move forward,,, insha Allah am wishing you the best in life
I’ve been asked millions times and we are about the same age. Allah knows best so I cannot live pressuring myself and forget to live my life. Some people judge and criticized me that I refused to get married and I cannot explain myself to all these people. Then when you get marry 4 months later they will ask you when the baby is coming🤰? Then when you have a child after while they will ask you how come you only have child since when are you going to have another one?some People like that mental torture to others so they can feel good and important . Just pray, be good, be happy for you and others. Leave everything to Allah. What you said about the uncle and aunties when someone is looking to get married they suggest their own children first specially if the person is a stable financially. Then sometimes when someone want to marry you they will be the first one to denied. Since your first video I understand everything you are saying because I am living the same thing. May Allah make it easy for all of us.
I love your accent and your style of story telling ❤ While I listened the whole video I accomplished chores that I did not feel like doing. You made me laugh I swear to Allah many of us are traumatized and the only way our brain taught us to cope is making other people lough and it’s proven that most comedians are actually traumatized people. Keep it up sister 🙌🏾
I also get a lot of pressure from family even tho I’m a guy. It doesn’t bother me much tbh. They care. As for why I’m not married, we have somethings in common. Education, works and not meeting the right person. Hopefully you find someone. It’s never too late. And thank you for sharing your story!
I loved to hear you say something in Swahili.. Nice to know you're our East African sister. Keep going and don't mind the negative things will tell you. Everyone has an opinion, but your life is yours to live and enjoy.
Guuurka farxada noloshaada dhan maku siiin karo may farxad ilaa xad lkn farxadda saxda iyo hasiloonida gurdahaaga ka bilane when u accept and love ur self❤❤❤
Sister dont push anything just relax and grow as a person and enjoy life. Allah is protecting you and will give you the best and you will be happy, just rely on him and grow in iman and hold on to your dignity and selfworth, its so important. May Allah bless you in this life and the herafter amin.
I’m going to make a generalisation it’s hard to marry now days, I know it’s not all females my generation but that minority is the loudest and they do the sickest things. I can speak from experience before I reverted Alhamdulillah, I use to be like that so it’s not just females that can be like that. Since finding Allah and putting my trust in him my life has become so much clearer and I hope to continue down this route inshallah. Put your trust in Allah and it will happen don’t rush it. This was a great video mashallah keep up the great work.
The reason why is because people love this world, and sin more than they love God. To find a God fearing man/woman can be difficult in our generation and society
@@zoranabanana that’s why I am glad I found Allah Alhamdulillah because without him I would be the same. Just from turning away from worldly pleasures and to Allah I have never been happier: no longer using Snapchat and reducing my following on Instagram and usage (when I do it’s to watch cat videos 😭😂) has allowed me to stop procrastinating when it comes to praying, reading more about Islam and become more fluent in Arabic Alhamdulillah.
You are a fabulous story teller. Plus whoever insults you It has backfired! 😂😂 I love your videos. Many people are hurting and they automatically hurt others. I love your life story. You're being married or not is up to God. I agree. Amen
You’re such an Inspiration. Studying and working Allahuma barik!! You’re better than many lazy men who has achieved nothing in their life. May Allah grant you a pious husband that sees how brave and smart you are. I will keep you in my dua’a.
Asalamualakum sis, Allahuma Barik sounds like you have accomplished so much in your life and aided many people along the way. I once heard a sheikh say “If Allah showed you the unseen, you would’ve chosen the same situation for yourself.” SubhanAllah Allah knows what is best for us and we should celebrate that! Alhamdullah
I don't remember if I've ever written comments on youtube but I have to let you know you inspire me, I've loved watching your videos for a long time now, mostly followed you interviewing on IG and your stories there! May Allah grant you blessings in this dunya and akhira and reward you for your patience and faith, in for being yourself and sticking true to your values! May Allah keep us all steadfast in our deen. Keep being great and living your life to the fullest!
Hi abaayo. I love ur storytelling. I try to blow dry my hair while listening to u but I stopped it that is how I like ur storytelling. You are just a beautiful human from inside and outside.
I applaud you for doing this! You are very brave and don’t pay attention to the negativity!! You are in control of your life and destiny!!❤❤❤ Keep posting these videos they will touch someone.
I cannot speak for the men making comments but I will say this: If there are any Muslim men telling this sister that she it "too old to be wanted" just remember that our prophet (SAW) married Khadija (RA) when he was 25 years old and she was 40 years old. If you truly follow in his footsteps then you should not put your sister down, instead honor her and make Dua for her to find a spouse who is dutiful, pious, exhibits the traits of Muhammad (SAW) and is fearful of God.
I think it’s horrible when people ask why you are not married. If somebody asks you that you should say, “Why do you ask?” It makes them sound stupid and nosy. I hope you have a happy and good life inshallah. You’re because and Intelligent mashallah, live your live and know marriage doesn’t define anyone. ❤
We are a sum total of our life's experience. If no one really mentioned marriage to you as a thing, your subconscious never registers it. At the right time everything will happen naturally. You seem like a woman that goes for what she wants in life and must understand her reason for her actions. You have the ingredients to know when life presents you with the opportunity. Keep your head up.
People don’t care what their words do to others …. They just want to express hate and be mean … but it’s not their business whether u r married or not and sometimes it’s not up to us ! People just don’t understand !
Sister you are such an inspiration for the sisters out there. You are beautiful, keep doing you Here I am 34yrs not married, no kids nothing but as you said everything is in Allah control Allah is the best planner I’m sure no one want to be in their 30s unmarried just ignore those people asking questions Why you still single
Kumbe wewe wa nyumbani dada!!!....the reason why your first video just popped up on my screen and i was curious and felt connected with your energy.Asante kwa video zako am learning alot,i thought am the one starting over alone😅....Mungu akuzidishie
If you red my question previously from the video you made out of the market or grocery shopping. I did ask you if you would be able to assist me furnish my store in west Africa Niger 🇳🇪 republic in exchange on a negotiated fee or premiums
WITH MARRIAGE AFFAIRS, ITS NOT ARUSH THING,,GOD IS THE ONE WHO KNOWS SEASONS OF EVERYTHING,,I SEE MY SELF AGING OLD BUT I KNOW TIME WILL WHEN I WILL MY PARTNER IN AGOOD PERIOD,,STAY STRONG AND POSITIVE MY DEAR SISTER
Remind youselves of the stories of our prophets n it all makes sense...everything has a reason n time. Remember how Allah granted Prophet Zakariya his dua...think of the trials of prophet yusuf and the longing of prophet yaqub. Trust in Qadr and just keep making dua.
Masha Allah abayo keep pushing walahi you are very open, a good storyteller, and the most humourous person I've ever seen. I have listened to your stories and I can't stop listening although I have a project to finish that is due Monday. Insha Allah, I wish you the best in your endeavors. Stop listening to these negative people because the more successful you are the more haters and enemies you will have.
Fatma think this video is for her self as therapy but little that she know that, many ladies out there and I appreciate the raw and honesty it really mean allot to me and maybe to other people we love you ❤
MaashaaAllah I am so proud of you my sister Fatma for your authenticity. Your story is very inspiring, informative, entertaining n motivating. May Allah answer all your duas❤🤲
I just came across your video today…you are funny😂, and I genuinely love your story❤️ & you. And yeah…I think you are well on yo way to be a good storyteller.
Abaayo you’re intelligent and wise. I’m going to be 40, not married and is at same exact story as you. Please ignore the negative comments. People always have on opinions for everything. 💜🌸
You’re amazing & very inspiring sis, thank you for sharing your story. May Allah always put kheyr in your path ❤️ rooting for you and your growth/happiness
Sister, There’s nothing wrong with your situation and as you said your life is just beginning, so there’s nothing wrong with you. Keep going and Allah will always be with you.
Usijali dada Mungu sio binadam mimi watu wananiuliza mbona mpaka sasa hujaoa, huna hata mtoto hatujawahi kukuona na jinsia tofauti lakini mimi hakuna anaejua hali yangu zaidi ya ndugu zangu maana miaka saba iliopita baada ya mimi kuhitimu shahada yangu ya kwanza. Nilipitia katika magumu sana na mpaka sasa sijaweza kufigured out nini. Lakini naona naimarika palipo kua mananiuma naona hali inakua bora. Nilihangaika sana hospitali lakini hawakuweza kugundua tatizo langu. Kwahiyo nachotaka kusema wakati wa Mungu ni sahihi ukiwadia .siwezi kumueleza mtu shida zangu alafu ni mtu sio wakukushauri, hadi nione mtu huyu naweza kumwambia tatizo langu akalipokea na sio kulitangaza
My wife is almost 10 years older than me, you know my family and the whole community was saying so many negative things about 'why you choose this old blah blah blah'. But the only thing I listened to was my heart and istikharah. We did ta'aruf and married two months later, I didnt care about the age I just loved everything about her. Now, we have children and she still looks young. That really doesn't matter though bc I already love who she is.
So yeah, don't pay attention to men who see women like fruit. This one is ripe, this one is not. That's not the marriage you want anyway, you will wish you were single again haha. But don't get cynical too, bc from my wife's perspective, she was in her 30's and searching everywhere for a husband (she almost lost hope she said), then all of the sudden some foreign man approached her outside the masjid, asked to do ta'aruf, showed up at her house and proposed to her immediately 😅 things happen when Allah decrees, not by our own action.
You look so young and are very beautiful, your personality seems very kind and sincere. You would be a great wife and mother, imo. Don't give up, there are still men who don't just care about shallow things like the number on your ID card. Your husband might be there the next time you get on the metro or go to the masjid. Like you said about the one who leave there house with a plan, it's true also for meeting your husband. Allah 'azza wa jal is the one in control and he only gives his servants what is good for them. We just need to have tawakkul and sabr.
Allahumma barak sister
This was super sweet of you to type. May Allah increase the love and rahmah between you and your wife, ameen! And I pray this sister marries a kind and loving pious man, and has many beautiful noble children, ameen!
Masha allah allah yahfadkum ❤❤
May Allah bless your marriage and BarakAllahu feek for your comment
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I found true love at 35.It’s better to wait for the right one than to get in a bad relationship.
“If you think your alarm wakes you up, sleep next to a dead person” the deepest thing I’ve heard in a while. I’ll never forget that! Alhamdulillah SubhanaAllah.
I'm so sorry for sounding dumb - but can someone explain what it means? I don't understand it? I've tried to think - but i can't quite work it out. What does it mean???
@@ladyslick121You have to be invited to pray fajr its not your alarm and even death people can get up without Allah!
@@ladyslick121Allah wakes you up, not your alarm.
Once Allah takes a life, not even an alarm can wake it up!
Is it that sleeping next to the dead will infect me with deadness or? Because I personally can't consciously sleep next to a dead person, I'll stay awake because it's bothering me. So how does sleeping next to a dead person have anything to do with an alarm?
What's the analogy there ? Religion made you dumb it should not be that hard.. sleeping next to a deceased to see if they'll wake up if the alarm goes on 😂😂😂
You're acually a good story-teller. Please don't waste time addressing crazy comments. Continue telling us about your journey. Personally, stories about your career journey, lessons you've learnt in life so far and many more will be highly appreciated. Keep documenting your life. We'll keep watching. ❤
That is the best comment. Dont paid attention to such comments. We all have to be patient for some reasons or others in our life. Allah test our level of sabr in different level and way.
Honestly, I’m surprised that this mrs Kimberly jane Carl ,is mentioned here, came across a testimony about her from one of the beneficiaries on wallstreet, she seems to be doing great…
Such information we don't it get from most RUclipsrs, I am getting in touch with her right away
I made some research about her I found her name on the browser she’s real.
Thanks so much for info I messaged her already and she answered immediately from Ukraine one love ❤️
I’m 29 ( turning 30 tomorrow) and unmarried and I am getting pressured by my family to marry. I told them I will settle down when I find the right one. I pray to Allah everyday so Allahamdulilah it will be soon.
That’s exactly it! so many of us are unmarried and single by choice. Because we haven’t found the right one and don’t want to settle for just anyone
❤❤ my dear don't let them put you on pressure it will lead you to be desperate.
So take it easy to yourself you aren't alone am in my 40s but am not yet married but I haven't lost hope and I believe my Mr right is coming in ALLAH 's perfect time
@@zoranabanana just turned 30 today. Not gonna lie, I was literally crying myself to bed that night because I haven’t archived anything and still unmarried. Seeing my cousins and my younger sister marry before me has affected me somewhat but that’s fine. Allah has a plan for everyone.
Don't wait forever. It doesn't get any easier to find someone as you get older. Have realistic expectations, whether now, or in a few years. But it is important to keep looking, you never know when you might find the one, but let them go because the "time isn't right." The time will never be right, but you'll regret letting them go.
Happy Birthday love!!
Off topic sister but you’re glowing!! you do not look 38..Allah blessed you with youthful beauty 💖
She looks like 26 / 27 ❤
Marriage isn't for everyone. If it's in your fate, you will trust me. You are not losing out. Enjoy life, dear
Smh. Don’t listen to these single women. Seek marriage.
@@GTP-sz3scGTP What A Loser Person. You Must Be Lesbians.
@@GTP-sz3scwell said I’m 36 male trying to seek
A God fearing women
U are wrong... Marriage is for all... But chosen the right husband or wife is the problem
@@unitedstatesofafrica5523 he’s not wrong
Behind every delay there is khayr. You will get married at right time with the right person insha Allah.
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Masha’Allah sister your videos are so real. When it comes to marriage, a lot of people don’t understand that ANYONE can technically get married at ANYTIME. Any woman can easily find a man online and quickly do ninkah. But it is very hard to get married to someone you actually like, are compatible with and who will genuinely enrich your life and make it better. It is better to stay single than to marry someone who will make your life miserable and add unwanted trauma to your life. Only Allah can bring you the person who was custom made for you. May Allah increase you in blessing sis and bless all my sisters who are praying to find their soulmate ❤ ameen.
Exactly! Thank you for saying this. I’m sick and tired of all these keyboard warrior Muslim men shaming and attacking unmarried Muslimahs online. One said “this is what happens when you don’t get married young” like and?? They genuinely expect women to just marry any random man just to be married.
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Sister !! You have me laughing..as a 37 year old woman I can definitely relate😅..I spent my 20's surviving and taking care of bills and school. But marriage will come sis. Love from the Caribbean 🇹🇹
No it won't. Stop deceiving her
are you kidding … look at yur profile pic
What guy will marry that thing XD
@@maalikserebryakov, manners my friend manners
@@maalikserebryakovwhere is your fear of Allah? Is it only for when men are being insulted? Dear brother italqillah fear Allah.
I am almost 4 years older than you yet still single, you have actually encouraged me to start documenting my personal life this way just so I can sometimes come back to this video either as therapy
Thank you sis…we are together in this 🤍🫶🏾
As a south africa I love how you say "yoh" sister we all going through it . Marriage is no longer the aspiration. We want to better ourselves now,travel and enjoy life
It's giving SA 😂😂😂😂
Yoooh
I noticed her say that and it and the Southy in me smiled lol
😂😂 then what?
What does it me😂😂
Out of this whole video, I love the part you started reciting Surah Kafirun. Masha Allah.
Btw, I subscribed a few days ago and I found your channel through a guy on Twitter advising girls to get married young and using you as an example of being “old” and unmarried. Take their critique as a blessing because I wouldn’t have discovered your channel if it wasn’t for them.
Tawakal (putting trust in Allah SWT) and qadr (believing in his predestination) are crucial. You will get married if it’s meant and a blessing for you inshaAllah.
Some people are just dim-witted 😢 truly hw do u do that to someone for something they hv no control of
Do they expect women to marry just any man they meet? 🙄
This is totally insane. You could say that the good thing is as you people will want to know about her and end up subscribing to her channel.
@@Whimswirlexactly men wouldn’t even do that themselves. They have certain boxes that she must tick and definitely can’t be divorced or with children. Not saying all men of course but A LOT of them.
@@Whimswirl and when the marriage fails they blame her and call her names. Every women should ignore those ignorant dudes.
You are so beautiful and bold with a lovely sense of humor.. Nevermind some people are too bitter and understand nothing in life. I married very late 42 years. I am 45years old enjoying my life with my husband and Son. Expecting baby number 2 by his grace. God is faithful hold on to him as you have been doing ,am super proud of you. Be you
Ma'sha'Allah. Congratulations sis x
Congrats 🎉. May you have an easy labor and happy healthy baby
@@naaaz4729 Amen. Thank you
@@naaaz4729 Thank you
Did you freeze your eggs or got pregnant naturally?
You sound like an honest, humble soul. May Allah guide your path to happiness and joyfull life by easing your journey.
I honestly think you want the best for yourself and have such high standards and you are a very hardworking woman and that may intimidate some men. However, sticking to your boundaries will actually help you find the right partner. Don't worry we are here for you!
الزّواج ليس إنجازا بيد الإنسان ..هو رزق من اللًه يكتبه لمن يشاء لحكمة و يمنعه عمًن يشاء لحكمة لكن نطلبه بالدًعاء لفطرة فينا و نرضى بحكمه كيفما كان ..الحمد للّه على كلّ حال
Girl, dont let this get you down. Gods time is coming but don’t beat yourself up. You are a beautiful human being . Hugs
Ignore hate comments. They are probably not happy with their lives .
or maybe they’re trying to tell her the truth?
just look at her. do u think boys were fighting over her in school 🤭
@@maalikserebryakovbro no need to be salty to her. She is a very good lady.
@@maalikserebryakovYou sound jelly
Your certainly someone who is marriage material. I hope the best for you, and you are beautiful!!!
I feel like I'm listening to my friend at a sleepover! You're such a loveable and witty person, we need more storytimes from you ❤
You’re hilarious 😅. Not being married isn’t everything but you have the perfect mindset of not being desperate. Keep sharing at your pace ❤
Its okay abayo its all Allah's qadr and he knows what's best for us am 28 and not married everyone around me got married people say hurtful things but Allah is the one in control
All will be well in Sha Allah
Girl u so young
@@RaimaAhmed-k5i 28 is not that much young for a woman
@@RaimaAhmed-k5i I don't think so.
You’re very wise and intelligent.. I’m only 23 and I literally see people get married just for the name of it just because their parents told them or they see everyone doing. And they don’t know nothing about marriage or being parents. Marriage isn’t easy it’s two party partner ship in everything. I myself refused to get married at this young age because I’m distill working on myself internally and spiritually because I live in survival mood too and I’m trying to break it. I really thank allah i haven’t got married yet or was forced by parents or anyone. Alhamudallah for everything. Allah is the best planner and I trust him. Wallahi best thing to focus on allah and education.and be humble and work and make something for myself. just free yourself from society pressure to do this at this age or else your will feel into depression.
I am going through the same situation, and I am 22. This comment gives me peace to know I am not alone in this. And hope life goes as Allah deems it fit for us at the right time.
Marriage at a young age is good we only have limited time on earth. You can work on yourself while searching a spouse. Allah will bless you after you get married. We do our best while relying on Allah.
Ever since I randomly found your account I can’t stop watching your videos and always looking forward to your new videos!! I’m middle eastern and was born and raised in Germany, 26 years old. I can totally relate to you and what you are feeling. You know, I’m turning 27 this year and haven’t found the one yet. But a few weeks ago I thought to myself, you know what, maybe it’s because I’m not at the place I’m supposed to be at right now. So I keep trusting Allahs timing, just like you said in this Video and I’m really glad to hear it!! Much love to you ♥️
I just turned 24 and i share the same ideas as you marriage is a big responsibility
@@Farxadiyoguul God can still bless u if u are single. It is better to marry at a later age & be happy than to marry early and be miserable.
The way you tell your story, so charming, can't get enough! Just want to continue watching!
Believe me, being married over 20yrs, you don’t “have to” get married. Nothing’s wrong with enjoying your own company. If a right man comes along, you’ll know, but you can’t hurry love. 🌹🌹🌹
I am your neighbor from Ethiopia 🇪🇹.. you are a beautiful soul
listening to you is almost like listening to a story about myself. I am 37 and i have heard the y are u not married, y do u not have children questions and the low key snidey comments when friends announce their upcoming weddings. I also do the joking thing as a coping mechanism. we are unique and life happens to everyone differently. Have i made mistakes along the way,? sure, who hasn't. Would i do things differently given the chance, probably not. So marriage or no, i am determined to make the most of my life as it is. People are always going to talk anyway no matter one's situation. I am an artist and I have a series of works on this very topic. It is amazing how much feedback i get on it. I am happy to have found your channel and you are definitely a great story teller! I am hooked😀
Ah thank you so much. I am happy to hear your story too…I agree marriage or not, we have other accomplishment that we need to be proud of and when the right comes we will cross that journey of marriage in Sha Allah. Sending you love sis….thank you for being here 🤍🫶🏾
🤗@@FatmaOdyssey
May Allah bless you. I am astounded by your knowledge and wonderful responses to such challenging and sensitive issues. You reacted to each of them with great intelligence. I appreciate you saying that Islam is your greatest honour. It nearly moved me to tears. Allah Kareem, insha'Allah, His timing is perfect, and you will marry and have children. Amen
Ameen Allahumma Ameen.. 🙏
I'm 38 with no husband, and zero children. Allah SWT knows when that day will happen. I have great peace knowing that Allah SWT has the answer. Alhamdulillah, may I continue to wait patiently until that day comes. Alhamdulillah.
Am also 39 no husband no child Alhamndulilah am well just waiting for Allah's time I know He has good plan for me.
May allah give you zawj Salih sisters read more istagfurallah allah mentioned in Surat Nuh
mashalah huno ur speech really attracted me you actually looks a nice person huno alaha kuhafido
i Concur with the Fajr Scenario..
Wallahi it's A Miracle i still can't explain till date..
Alhamdullilah! May Allah make it east for us All.
My cousin was asked why you are not married thousands times and she kept living her life not putting any pressure on herself she got married two years ago at age of 46 now she have twins
Mashallah 😘 tabarakallah 😊
But won’t be able to have any of her own biological children.
@@slovelyyx7718 she have twins now 🥰
@slovelyyx7718 If she still has a cycle she has the possibility to reproduce. Reproduction stage ends when you enter menopause.
Alhumdullilah 😊it’s always hope 😊
I’m jealous of how strong your faith is and how much you know about Islam. May Allah increase you. Everything is in Allah’s control and it will only happen when he says so. Don’t forget dua and charity. May Allah bless you with a righteous husband and righteous offspring.
I am 32 yr old this year and single. I decided to give my life and fully committed to God and remain unmarried just like Apostle Paul. Being single doesn't mean you are lonely... in solitude be with God always.
Maybe u can seek other means in your faith!
Youll find someone, no worries
be my friend please😊
May Allah give you a good halal patner
‘Seek ye first the kingdom of God and all other things will be given unto you’ Well done! God is with you.😊
I love the authenticity of this account. need more of this. ♥
And you’re a fantastic storyteller already!!!
I can sit and listen to you any day ! It’s the natural story telling for me! 😅❤
For some reason I feel very close to you even if we are not sharing the same country or religion. I find your voice and words very soft. And you are funny, you seem like a good person to be around as well. From what I can tell by the way you speak about life we somehow have very similar values. I am really glad that I randomly found your channel and I could listen to you for hours. Thank you!
If nothing else comes out of your videos then at least you can find a husband on here🤣. On a serious note, I’m enjoying your videos! The reminder about fajar made me particularly emotional. Also if your mum was on earth, she’d be so proud of you! Speaking as a wife and mother myself, I pray Allah blesses you with the companionship of a husband and love of a child/ren. You’d be amazing as both in sha Allah. ❤ I’ll keep u in my duas.
Me too, I'll keep her in my dua
You're an amazing woman. Insyaallah you will find someone soon. Keep praying and keep going!
It's nice how you naturally tell you're stories. As if you're just on the coach with a friend.
May be I should buy a couch 😭😂😂 and tell more stories
Yes to couch talks🙂
I love your humor and just how you can laugh at yourself. We need to stop putting pressure on ourselves with marriage, children and jobs. We always plan but the ultimate plan that will work out is that of God.
I am an actress and I can tell you that you are a good storyteller mashallah ❤. May Allah bless you and make it easy for you😊
omg as a somali sujui i relate, i love you habibty, may allah s.w make your life easier
Hy Fatima. Thank you for sharing your story with us. I am a USIU-A student rn, majoring in International Relation (Concentrating in Development Studies) and I can resonate with every bit of USIU-A life. Besides, you are a heroine. You persevered and survived harder waves. Everybody has their own unique story. There is more to life than marriage. May Allah grant you whatever your heart desires provided it does not displease Allah.
Salam alaykum,, here am I,, 32 years old Malawian boy living in United Arab Emirate,, i get impressed by your story and am ready to get someone like you to get married with and live together have kids and move forward,,, insha Allah am wishing you the best in life
I’ve been asked millions times and we are about the same age. Allah knows best so I cannot live pressuring myself and forget to live my life. Some people judge and criticized me that I refused to get married and I cannot explain myself to all these people. Then when you get marry 4 months later they will ask you when the baby is coming🤰? Then when you have a child after while they will ask you how come you only have child since when are you going to have another one?some People like that mental torture to others so they can feel good and important . Just pray, be good, be happy for you and others. Leave everything to Allah. What you said about the uncle and aunties when someone is looking to get married they suggest their own children first specially if the person is a stable financially. Then sometimes when someone want to marry you they will be the first one to denied. Since your first video I understand everything you are saying because I am living the same thing. May Allah make it easy for all of us.
People are never same abaayo, also their comments are different, take the good advices and keep chasing your dreams..
"Who's marriage?" Took me out 😅😅😅 so relatable
I love your accent and your style of story telling ❤ While I listened the whole video I accomplished chores that I did not feel like doing. You made me laugh I swear to Allah many of us are traumatized and the only way our brain taught us to cope is making other people lough and it’s proven that most comedians are actually traumatized people. Keep it up sister 🙌🏾
I also get a lot of pressure from family even tho I’m a guy. It doesn’t bother me much tbh. They care. As for why I’m not married, we have somethings in common. Education, works and not meeting the right person. Hopefully you find someone. It’s never too late. And thank you for sharing your story!
Subscribed a few days ago and started listening a bit. Naturally, yours is a very beautiful face to look at. Enjoy your journey. You’re a treasure
Mirror of my life right here, somali sis same no pressure from family .
I loved to hear you say something in Swahili.. Nice to know you're our East African sister. Keep going and don't mind the negative things will tell you. Everyone has an opinion, but your life is yours to live and enjoy.
Guuurka farxada noloshaada dhan maku siiin karo may farxad ilaa xad lkn farxadda saxda iyo hasiloonida gurdahaaga ka bilane when u accept and love ur self❤❤❤
Dah kumbe unaweza kuongea kiswahili
Love from Tanzania sis❤
Sister dont push anything just relax and grow as a person and enjoy life. Allah is protecting you and will give you the best and you will be happy, just rely on him and grow in iman and hold on to your dignity and selfworth, its so important. May Allah bless you in this life and the herafter amin.
I’m going to make a generalisation it’s hard to marry now days, I know it’s not all females my generation but that minority is the loudest and they do the sickest things. I can speak from experience before I reverted Alhamdulillah, I use to be like that so it’s not just females that can be like that. Since finding Allah and putting my trust in him my life has become so much clearer and I hope to continue down this route inshallah. Put your trust in Allah and it will happen don’t rush it. This was a great video mashallah keep up the great work.
The reason why is because people love this world, and sin more than they love God. To find a God fearing man/woman can be difficult in our generation and society
@@zoranabanana that’s why I am glad I found Allah Alhamdulillah because without him I would be the same. Just from turning away from worldly pleasures and to Allah I have never been happier: no longer using Snapchat and reducing my following on Instagram and usage (when I do it’s to watch cat videos 😭😂) has allowed me to stop procrastinating when it comes to praying, reading more about Islam and become more fluent in Arabic Alhamdulillah.
Women**✅females ❌
You are a fabulous story teller. Plus whoever insults you It has backfired! 😂😂 I love your videos. Many people are hurting and they automatically hurt others. I love your life story. You're being married or not is up to God. I agree. Amen
fatima you’re so fun to listen to and i love your laughter 😂 🤭🫶
Your channel has already become my favourite on RUclips, thank you for sharing with us sis. I love hearing your story ❤
Hi ,my dear,how is your day?
You’re such an Inspiration. Studying and working Allahuma barik!! You’re better than many lazy men who has achieved nothing in their life. May Allah grant you a pious husband that sees how brave and smart you are. I will keep you in my dua’a.
Sister you have a way of sharing stories, i loved watching this. ❤😂 Masha'Allah, you are so wise, may allah bless you ya rab
Never worry my sister coz we must put God's plan be4 ours nd marriage will jxt come inshallah ♥️
True God is the only person who has plans for us,marriage is a difficult institution.Take ur time sister❤
Asalamualakum sis, Allahuma Barik sounds like you have accomplished so much in your life and aided many people along the way. I once heard a sheikh say “If Allah showed you the unseen, you would’ve chosen the same situation for yourself.” SubhanAllah Allah knows what is best for us and we should celebrate that! Alhamdullah
Mashallah i have never heard of that pharase"if Allah showed you the unsee.... "but love it. Subhanallh
Yes I heard it from this sheikh in this video -
ruclips.net/video/sbdVMEUTsEY/видео.htmlfeature=shared
I don't remember if I've ever written comments on youtube but I have to let you know you inspire me, I've loved watching your videos for a long time now, mostly followed you interviewing on IG and your stories there! May Allah grant you blessings in this dunya and akhira and reward you for your patience and faith, in for being yourself and sticking true to your values! May Allah keep us all steadfast in our deen. Keep being great and living your life to the fullest!
Hi abaayo. I love ur storytelling. I try to blow dry my hair while listening to u but I stopped it that is how I like ur storytelling. You are just a beautiful human from inside and outside.
Pls it's not a story.refering to her ideal as a story is an insult
I love these earthy videos by Kenya's youth. Very refreshing content. Keep going.
I applaud you for doing this! You are very brave and don’t pay attention to the negativity!! You are in control of your life and destiny!!❤❤❤ Keep posting these videos they will touch someone.
I cannot speak for the men making comments but I will say this: If there are any Muslim men telling this sister that she it "too old to be wanted" just remember that our prophet (SAW) married Khadija (RA) when he was 25 years old and she was 40 years old. If you truly follow in his footsteps then you should not put your sister down, instead honor her and make Dua for her to find a spouse who is dutiful, pious, exhibits the traits of Muhammad (SAW) and is fearful of God.
Great comment brother
Exactly! He is the best example.
May Allah bless you brother 💓
you were randomly recommended to me and i'm happy because your videos are very interesting. Like others said you're a great story teller already.
I think it’s horrible when people ask why you are not married. If somebody asks you that you should say, “Why do you ask?” It makes them sound stupid and nosy. I hope you have a happy and good life inshallah. You’re because and Intelligent mashallah, live your live and know marriage doesn’t define anyone. ❤
I agree. people are nosy..they don’t ask because they care, but because they want to judge.
We are a sum total of our life's experience. If no one really mentioned marriage to you as a thing, your subconscious never registers it. At the right time everything will happen naturally. You seem like a woman that goes for what she wants in life and must understand her reason for her actions. You have the ingredients to know when life presents you with the opportunity. Keep your head up.
I love you, Fatma. Almighty God will fulfil your wishes and your dreams. Keep trust in Allah!
Thank you so much for sharing your story!
May your life be filled with all good things
People don’t care what their words do to others …. They just want to express hate and be mean … but it’s not their business whether u r married or not and sometimes it’s not up to us ! People just don’t understand !
Sister you are such an inspiration for the sisters out there. You are beautiful, keep doing you
Here I am 34yrs not married, no kids nothing but as you said everything is in Allah control
Allah is the best planner
I’m sure no one want to be in their 30s unmarried just ignore those people asking questions Why you still single
Kumbe wewe wa nyumbani dada!!!....the reason why your first video just popped up on my screen and i was curious and felt connected with your energy.Asante kwa video zako am learning alot,i thought am the one starting over alone😅....Mungu akuzidishie
Hahah…mi ni wenu kabisa 🤗. Asante for your message too my sister 🫶🏾
Karibu dada..ukija MSA nishtue nikuone live insha'Allah 🙏🏾❤️
Great answer my beautiful sister Fatima. ALLAH SWT is in control of all things. I salute you and your courage. Keep the faith up…
If you red my question previously from the video you made out of the market or grocery shopping. I did ask you if you would be able to assist me furnish my store in west Africa Niger 🇳🇪 republic in exchange on a negotiated fee or premiums
WITH MARRIAGE AFFAIRS, ITS NOT ARUSH THING,,GOD IS THE ONE WHO KNOWS SEASONS OF EVERYTHING,,I SEE MY SELF AGING OLD BUT I KNOW TIME WILL WHEN I WILL MY PARTNER IN AGOOD PERIOD,,STAY STRONG AND POSITIVE MY DEAR SISTER
Keep going Fatma. Ignore the negative comments. I like your delivery methods. I want to see your journey and growth.
In Sha Allah, thank you sis
Congratulations your channeled has grown more than mine which is 2 years old. All will be well in Sha Allah trust Allah and don't lose Hope
This is a therapy ❤
Remind youselves of the stories of our prophets n it all makes sense...everything has a reason n time. Remember how Allah granted Prophet Zakariya his dua...think of the trials of prophet yusuf and the longing of prophet yaqub. Trust in Qadr and just keep making dua.
Masha Allah abayo keep pushing walahi you are very open, a good storyteller, and the most humourous person I've ever seen. I have listened to your stories and I can't stop listening although I have a project to finish that is due Monday. Insha Allah, I wish you the best in your endeavors. Stop listening to these negative people because the more successful you are the more haters and enemies you will have.
Alot of wisdom from Fatimah❤... Allah knows best
Fatma think this video is for her self as therapy but little that she know that, many ladies out there and I appreciate the raw and honesty it really mean allot to me and maybe to other people we love you ❤
MaashaaAllah I am so proud of you my sister Fatma for your authenticity. Your story is very inspiring, informative, entertaining n motivating. May Allah answer all your duas❤🤲
I just came across your video today…you are funny😂, and I genuinely love your story❤️ & you.
And yeah…I think you are well on yo way to be a good storyteller.
Alahuma Baarik Sister, thanks for sharing your story. It's motivating walahi. May Allah give you what you want in life the kheir ❤❤❤
Abaayo you’re intelligent and wise. I’m going to be 40, not married and is at same exact story as you. Please ignore the negative comments. People always have on opinions for everything. 💜🌸
I absolutely love your attitude and personality. You're soo funny and genuine Allahuma barik ❤
I pray you find a decent man sis
Seriously speaking you entire life is fascinating 🎉🎉🎉
You’re amazing & very inspiring sis, thank you for sharing your story. May Allah always put kheyr in your path ❤️ rooting for you and your growth/happiness
Thank you so much. Ameen ameen ameen 🤲🏾
Sister, There’s nothing wrong with your situation and as you said your life is just beginning, so there’s nothing wrong with you. Keep going and Allah will always be with you.
Alhamdulillah. Thank you for your beautiful comment.
YOU KNOW WATCHING YOUR VIDEO HERE IS CRACKING MY RIBS😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Enjoy your life trust me.. Marriage is hardwork and it ain't easy.
Usijali dada Mungu sio binadam mimi watu wananiuliza mbona mpaka sasa hujaoa, huna hata mtoto hatujawahi kukuona na jinsia tofauti lakini mimi hakuna anaejua hali yangu zaidi ya ndugu zangu maana miaka saba iliopita baada ya mimi kuhitimu shahada yangu ya kwanza. Nilipitia katika magumu sana na mpaka sasa sijaweza kufigured out nini. Lakini naona naimarika palipo kua mananiuma naona hali inakua bora. Nilihangaika sana hospitali lakini hawakuweza kugundua tatizo langu. Kwahiyo nachotaka kusema wakati wa Mungu ni sahihi ukiwadia .siwezi kumueleza mtu shida zangu alafu ni mtu sio wakukushauri, hadi nione mtu huyu naweza kumwambia tatizo langu akalipokea na sio kulitangaza
You are naturally so funny and so wise Allahumma Barik!
Thank you lovely day 🫶🏾