Yooooo what a sensitive and touching topic. I think it all depends on the kind of relationship with baby daddy and maturity . I'm lucky to say I have both experience bcs I have 2 different baby daddies. 1st baby daddy is married and the wife is the sweetest , we have a good relationship. She love my child whole heartedly. My child has been staying with daddy and step mommy since he was 8, now he's doing 1st year . 2nd baby daddy , yoooo ke mathata. The daddy sends me money then I do for my child. I don't have a relationship with her girlfriend,
For me this boils all down to maturity she has a right as a wife to be part of the financial issues with regards to her household, and if both parties meaning the wife and the Baby Mama are matured and not insecure. Baby Mama wouldn't have a problem to communicate with someone who is surrounded by her children and is a female and secondly even if Baby Mama and Baby Daddy choses to have a direct healthy co-parenting you as the Wife should not have a problem because you trust your husband and know he can be man enough to understand the responsibility he has without being followed after.
When she said l can still have another baby with your husband it shows that baby mama's are disrepectull and why do want the wife to welcome you with both hands and trust you around their family because clearly you still want to destroy it while she is trying to keep it together that's my take so these 2 can never be In Harmony because the other wants to keep it together the other want to keep it together thus my take
I understand but l was talking based on the lady statement right it can work work out if both parties play their roll with clear communication and understanding and respect is there from both parties
@busisiwemichelle5391 can I ask this: why do wives feel the need to be involved with another woman's kids? Also why do they want to be respected by baby mama?what do they owe wives?
oooohhhh it was nice seeing you ko Peter Mokaba, we even took a video. Topic suggestion related to baby daddies. How do u feel when u have 2 different baby daddies. 1st baby daddy is well off , taking good care of his child , the child goes to Curro . daddy buying Nikes and Jordan , 2nd baby daddy is struggling financially and the baby goes to a public school and doesn't have Nikes. Both kids are staying with mommy
Maintenance agreement says the father can buy the clothes June(Winter) and December(Festive) nor mandatorily giving MONEY, meaning the Father can also have a right to buy and bring clothes for the kids. Baby Mama's must know that Father's can also buy clothes in our absence not that we always want to be part or buy for the kids. Baby Mama's also becomes bitter by assuming that it will be the lady involved with the Father being the one choosing clothes for the kids.
Happy to see you sagwi ❤ As a wife: I don't have time for the size of others people kids, I was not part of those child in the beginning. As a baby mama: nooooo I don't play that game with my kids size, the father must open account for his kids finish.
You never find men concerned about such 😂😂😂 it’s always the women wanting to control such dynamics. You find a man with a baby mama and kids outside and you shift to security gaurd mode. You can never stop him from sleeping with his baby mama Sis if that’s what he wants. That’s the unfortunate part.
I agree with Lerato with some few points. I am not becoming Chuck Norris and He's not afraid to speak for himself... You guys have broken up for some reasons and the reason i have to be a middle person regarding the communication and finance is because it was never build before i came in or EVEN before we become serious. Foundation built from co-parenting ALWAYS matters.
Me and baby daddy we where fine and co-parenting until one day he send me an text and telling me that i must speak with his girlfriend if I want anything ya ngwana...and before he was checking ngwana ,ba bolela leka video call sale girlfriend e fitla things has changed and he is not parenting anymore.He promised ngwana cake for his birthday and it was on the 13th October even today he has not said anything .
Stick to the maintenance order. If it says my husband must buy clothes that's exactly what will happen (without you being there as the baby mama). If the order says he must give you money for clothes that's exactly what is going to happen he will not be there for buying. I am not even going to insert myself mina, too much admin shem Boundaries create good relationships
😂Only insecure wives do this,send the baby mama money for the clothes. She will go buy alone with the kids, wena guard your husband. 😂😂😂 On the other hand, as a best wife we give you kids December and go live our best lives, wena keep trying to be the best wife😂.
Fun fact: Couples married in COP, do you know that should the husband lose his job , the wife is liable for maintaining the same children that yall are using to fight your ex partners? Its time women accept that some women out there have motherly love and have no bad intentions towards their kids. We are so far behind as the black community . We dont see healthy co parenting set ups/ blended families.
Let me guess the women love our kids as their own?😂😂 Kahleni😂 The fun fact is what wives should look into when getting married. THE MAINTENANCE IS A DEBT. Therefore, THE JOINT ESTATE must pay it. We cannot be held prisoner to a wife's decision to join the estate,they signed up for that and my kids have nothing to do with them joining the estate. Consequently THE JOINT ESTATE will pay the maintenance, let's not act like the wives are doing us baby mama's a favour, we did not ask for it mus😊
Babe It sounds like there's a underlying issue I so get you if it's his girlfriend they don't have to meet my kids but if it's a Wife you need to accept your baby daddy chose the Wife.
@hlengiwemathenjwa1371 i accepted,but the children dont need to meet am happy, his happy i think, the wife needs to stay far away from me and my children, periode
The problem is that people don't respect the institution of marriage and baby mamas seem bitter. You don't own your ex just because you have children with them, the wife and the husband are ONE and they have a right to decide how to be approached by you because they are a family not YOU. As long as your child is being well taken care of, you don't decide whom you should be in contact with in that family.
Haibo How is it the business of a baby mama to respect the institution of marriage between you and your husband? Wa bona as long as my child comes from my womb,No woman is going to tell me what to do. Even in maintenance court,the BIOLOGICAL parents convene and talk hayi wife. Wena wife focuses on your husband and KIDS. When you get married in of community of property, the children do not form part of the property unless legally adopted. Stop trying to please husbands using our kids,thina with our bitterness, we will communicate with the person who impregnated us hayi wena.
It is sad that black women are poor to an extent that they cannot afford to buy a few outfits for their children to wear. Black women are still poor. It is sad.
Lol my ccta kids are for 2 people, so even if am millionaire I am not going to pay 100 percent for my kids while the other parent goes on vacation. This thing of 💯 alone is the reason why people can't even buy themselves sunscreen..soze
Madam speaker the focus is thr child not about parents ai children suffer because of such things. You also expect the wife to love the child while your being difficult. How?
Yooooo what a sensitive and touching topic. I think it all depends on the kind of relationship with baby daddy and maturity . I'm lucky to say I have both experience bcs I have 2 different baby daddies. 1st baby daddy is married and the wife is the sweetest , we have a good relationship. She love my child whole heartedly. My child has been staying with daddy and step mommy since he was 8, now he's doing 1st year . 2nd baby daddy , yoooo ke mathata. The daddy sends me money then I do for my child. I don't have a relationship with her girlfriend,
Nna I don’t see a problem with them buying, ah nna my baby daddy buys the clothes. Gore who chose or what, I don’t care
I don't see the problem with wives asking sizes/buying clothes unless baby mama have other agendas with the baby dad's
The lady sitting next to Madam Speaker is childish and bitter😂😂😂
For me this boils all down to maturity she has a right as a wife to be part of the financial issues with regards to her household, and if both parties meaning the wife and the Baby Mama are matured and not insecure. Baby Mama wouldn't have a problem to communicate with someone who is surrounded by her children and is a female and secondly even if Baby Mama and Baby Daddy choses to have a direct healthy co-parenting you as the Wife should not have a problem because you trust your husband and know he can be man enough to understand the responsibility he has without being followed after.
😂😂😂 chuck norris killed me
When she said l can still have another baby with your husband it shows that baby mama's are disrepectull and why do want the wife to welcome you with both hands and trust you around their family because clearly you still want to destroy it while she is trying to keep it together that's my take so these 2 can never be In Harmony because the other wants to keep it together the other want to keep it together thus my take
We don't want to be welcomed,don't trust us. Wena focus on your kids and husband, nna le your husband we focus on the kids we made together.
Simple
I understand but l was talking based on the lady statement right it can work work out if both parties play their roll with clear communication and understanding and respect is there from both parties
@busisiwemichelle5391 can I ask this: why do wives feel the need to be involved with another woman's kids? Also why do they want to be respected by baby mama?what do they owe wives?
oooohhhh it was nice seeing you ko Peter Mokaba, we even took a video. Topic suggestion related to baby daddies. How do u feel when u have 2 different baby daddies. 1st baby daddy is well off , taking good care of his child , the child goes to Curro . daddy buying Nikes and Jordan , 2nd baby daddy is struggling financially and the baby goes to a public school and doesn't have Nikes. Both kids are staying with mommy
Ey 😢
Maintenance agreement says the father can buy the clothes June(Winter) and December(Festive) nor mandatorily giving MONEY, meaning the Father can also have a right to buy and bring clothes for the kids. Baby Mama's must know that Father's can also buy clothes in our absence not that we always want to be part or buy for the kids. Baby Mama's also becomes bitter by assuming that it will be the lady involved with the Father being the one choosing clothes for the kids.
Happy to see you sagwi ❤
As a wife: I don't have time for the size of others people kids, I was not part of those child in the beginning.
As a baby mama: nooooo I don't play that game with my kids size, the father must open account for his kids finish.
You never find men concerned about such 😂😂😂 it’s always the women wanting to control such dynamics. You find a man with a baby mama and kids outside and you shift to security gaurd mode. You can never stop him from sleeping with his baby mama Sis if that’s what he wants. That’s the unfortunate part.
I agree with Lerato with some few points. I am not becoming Chuck Norris and He's not afraid to speak for himself... You guys have broken up for some reasons and the reason i have to be a middle person regarding the communication and finance is because it was never build before i came in or EVEN before we become serious. Foundation built from co-parenting ALWAYS matters.
Ay 😂 if a baby mama is alive, phuma nje ko baby daddies 😂😂😂 ungaqali nokuqala.. After what Lerato said😂😂😂😮 iyho
That's why I will NEVER date a baby daddy. I know I have insecurities, I'll never have peace.
Hi Madam Speaker, it was nice to see you ko Peter Mokaba's stadium last Saturday
Some baby mamas are crazy bazalwane
My dad used to ask for sizes whenever I ask for clothes.He will buy the clothes then I take the slip to exchange.
My children have enough love from me,and my family, they dont need the wife's love no
You sound bitter
Dankie❤
Me and baby daddy we where fine and co-parenting until one day he send me an text and telling me that i must speak with his girlfriend if I want anything ya ngwana...and before he was checking ngwana ,ba bolela leka video call sale girlfriend e fitla things has changed and he is not parenting anymore.He promised ngwana cake for his birthday and it was on the 13th October even today he has not said anything .
i refuse to be a gate, i lets my husband do as he wish with his kids and the baby mama
Stick to the maintenance order. If it says my husband must buy clothes that's exactly what will happen (without you being there as the baby mama). If the order says he must give you money for clothes that's exactly what is going to happen he will not be there for buying.
I am not even going to insert myself mina, too much admin shem
Boundaries create good relationships
😂Only insecure wives do this,send the baby mama money for the clothes. She will go buy alone with the kids, wena guard your husband. 😂😂😂
On the other hand, as a best wife we give you kids December and go live our best lives, wena keep trying to be the best wife😂.
Fun fact:
Couples married in COP, do you know that should the husband lose his job , the wife is liable for maintaining the same children that yall are using to fight your ex partners?
Its time women accept that some women out there have motherly love and have no bad intentions towards their kids.
We are so far behind as the black community .
We dont see healthy co parenting set ups/ blended families.
Let me guess the women love our kids as their own?😂😂
Kahleni😂
The fun fact is what wives should look into when getting married. THE MAINTENANCE IS A DEBT. Therefore, THE JOINT ESTATE must pay it. We cannot be held prisoner to a wife's decision to join the estate,they signed up for that and my kids have nothing to do with them joining the estate. Consequently THE JOINT ESTATE will pay the maintenance, let's not act like the wives are doing us baby mama's a favour, we did not ask for it mus😊
I'm sorry but Lerato is too immature for this conversation. Her wife/main chick point of view is super floored.
Lorato s voice ekare Promise Makunyane
😂😂😂
Send photos for them to know each other,thats it,my children and the wife children will never meet
😂😂yass girl
Babe It sounds like there's a underlying issue I so get you if it's his girlfriend they don't have to meet my kids but if it's a Wife you need to accept your baby daddy chose the Wife.
@hlengiwemathenjwa1371 i accepted,but the children dont need to meet am happy, his happy i think, the wife needs to stay far away from me and my children, periode
@@Hadassah-mb7 I hear you sweets
I say woza December guys.
😂😂😂
But how do we.stay away from baby daddies when its hard to find people without kids now?
Aowa yall are angry and bitter askies😂😂😂
😂😂😂reno anger
😂 eish
The problem is that people don't respect the institution of marriage and baby mamas seem bitter. You don't own your ex just because you have children with them, the wife and the husband are ONE and they have a right to decide how to be approached by you because they are a family not YOU. As long as your child is being well taken care of, you don't decide whom you should be in contact with in that family.
Haibo How is it the business of a baby mama to respect the institution of marriage between you and your husband?
Wa bona as long as my child comes from my womb,No woman is going to tell me what to do. Even in maintenance court,the BIOLOGICAL parents convene and talk hayi wife.
Wena wife focuses on your husband and KIDS. When you get married in of community of property, the children do not form part of the property unless legally adopted.
Stop trying to please husbands using our kids,thina with our bitterness, we will communicate with the person who impregnated us hayi wena.
It is sad that black women are poor to an extent that they cannot afford to buy a few outfits for their children to wear. Black women are still poor. It is sad.
Ai your comment took a short left 😂. Are you watching and listening to the same podcast as the rest of us?
Lol my ccta kids are for 2 people, so even if am millionaire I am not going to pay 100 percent for my kids while the other parent goes on vacation.
This thing of 💯 alone is the reason why people can't even buy themselves sunscreen..soze
@@SibsM93heyi
Madam speaker the focus is thr child not about parents ai children suffer because of such things. You also expect the wife to love the child while your being difficult. How?
I expect the wife to love her own kids and leave mine alone ❤