thank you, the recollection "loved ones are a cause of suffering" was very comforting to me and instantly cut through the suffering/stress I was feeling from a former love
Why do you say that suffering comes from loved ones and loving is suffering? Is attachment not the source of suffering....it is possible to love without attachment.
I like what you said, and perhaps this is basically just agreement... The way I understand it, he is speaking of the love based in conceit (in “you” and “I”). Love absent conceit is non-ill will, i.e. love minus defensiveness. Does any particular event cause one to abandon the broadness of good will? Does the good will have any particular landing place? If so, it will be subject to passion, aversion, and ignorance-i.e. suffering. So this is very contrary to Western ideals of love. It’s more like choice-less love, but not in the compulsive way. Relationships are still practical and enjoyable, but not compulsive. Even committed, but not heedless.
Excellent excellent! Deep, subtle, gentle, genuine.... How helpful!
thank you, the recollection "loved ones are a cause of suffering" was very comforting to me and instantly cut through the suffering/stress I was feeling from a former love
instablaster...
Thank you Ajahn🌿
You do have a way of bring it all home.I like your mind. Well done!
Needed to hear this.
awesome teaching.
Thank you dear teacher
Excellent lecture thank you.
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Shadu Shadu Shadu.
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Why do you say that suffering comes from loved ones and loving is suffering?
Is attachment not the source of suffering....it is possible to love without attachment.
I think he is comparing piyata (dearness) with metta (friendliness). The former has a strong element of attachment while the latter doesn’t.
To me, craving/desire/attachment is mental longing with a strong eagerness. One can have relationships and love without craving/desire/attachment.
I like what you said, and perhaps this is basically just agreement... The way I understand it, he is speaking of the love based in conceit (in “you” and “I”). Love absent conceit is non-ill will, i.e. love minus defensiveness. Does any particular event cause one to abandon the broadness of good will? Does the good will have any particular landing place? If so, it will be subject to passion, aversion, and ignorance-i.e. suffering. So this is very contrary to Western ideals of love. It’s more like choice-less love, but not in the compulsive way. Relationships are still practical and enjoyable, but not compulsive. Even committed, but not heedless.