Dating a Drug Addict: What to do // Advice
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- Опубликовано: 8 сен 2024
- Hey ya'll,
Here are my tips on how to deal with a drug addicted partner. Of course this is not a one size fits all solution but if you find one part helpful, then my job is done.
1. You are not responsible for the addiction.
2. There is nothing you can do at the moment.
3. Stay away and if you cannot, then stay away when they are crashing.
4. It's your choice, make your own experience and know when you've really had enough!
5. Reach out to your loved ones to talk about it. Seek help with groups that will make you feel less alone in this situation.
6. It's ok to leave, even if it's just for now until your partner is sober.
Leave a comment if you are in a similar situation.
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I’m mourning an addict. I’m mourning the loss of a relationship and its potential, his potential, and the future we could have had together. Even though he’s still alive, the emotional connection died with him. My heart can’t reconcile between his physical presence and the emotionally distant man. I thought the breakup was all my fault, but the addiction played a bigger role. He couldn’t see how the substance abuse creeped into our relationship and destroyed US from the inside out. I feel robbed. It destroyed his mind, body, and soul, but most of all the man I love.
@@4thMonthB I’m dealing with the same with my gf, it’s slowly killing us, her family and the friends she has left. It’s horrible watching the person you love destroy themself. I don’t know what to do
@@cleshsesh6155 I’m sorry you’re going through this. It’s hard to watch. All I can offer you is hope or prayers that she gets better. 🙏🏼
@@4thMonthB my goodness I feel like I could’ve written this myself. This was worded perfectly, and describes my situation. Are you two still physically together? Still trying? No worry and no judgment, if not, often feels like you’re beating a dead horse.
@@scoobygirl576 Right now, no, but he does want to come back. He said he wants to change and I’ve seen some action to try and kick his habit, but I have to see consistency and him sticking to his word.
My ex-girlfriend was addicted to weed. She promised me when we met if we got together she'd quit smoking for me because she was surrounded by the wrong people in her life and her family was back home so she had no one here. I gave her that chance and she kept that promise for 2-3 weeks later we started having arguments due to smoking and the type of friends she was around. I told her I'd like you to slowly distance yourself from them but she got all defensive about it and she slapped me across the face proper hard and said no there my friend's because I told her I don't want you no where near them unless I'm there. I bought her into my place and my family treated her like her own daughter, she lived free rent and my mum gave her extra money for food and her last place she was paying 800 rent but no matter how much we did for her... just because we didn't want or allow her to smoke she got rebellious towards me and kept causing arguments with me over weed and her friends didn't like me and were trying break us up. No matter how much I tried she'd find any type of way to make me feel insecure so that we'd argue about it so she can find an excuse to go smoke once I told her to leave and give me space. We went through three breakups because she disrespected me twice as she walked out the house due to her addiction. She fuckdd up my holiday with my family because her friends were sending snaps of her ex to her with another girl and I'm like why causing crazy arguements between us.. If that's a friend wtf would they send that?... so once I came back I knew something was up she was hiding her phone from me a lot. Because she knew I wouldn't allow her to go anywhere near weed. So we broke up for 4 days and I told her to leave my house because I knew she was being suspicious with her phone and after that she left she asked a guy that is madly in love with her to come pick her up at my house that she used to smoke with before we got official and I told her to block him and she unblocked him and went to smoke weed with him and she kept it a secret from me and I gave her that chance to come back.. without me not knowing about it and she my saw her go with him and she told me afterwards as I kicked her out again because she wouldn't keep her phone anywhere near me. That's the some of it the shit but all this happened in a 4month relationship. No matter how much you do for someone if their addicted to drugs they can never let it go. Their in another relationship with that. That's a priority for them.
I've been looking up videos of this topic to find some kind of closure. I was with her for almost 4 years, many break-ups.MANY. She never admitted she was using drugs. Only seen messages, rumors , even a police officer told me once. 4 weeks ago we got into a huge argument, once again, because it was obvious she was high. She left while I was at work and died later that night. I have literally cried everyday since then, From feelings of guilt to never being able to see her beautiful face again. She was my everything. I was told mixing prescription pills and street drugs sent her into cardiac arrest. Im devastated. Although she had her problems with drug abuse, she was probably the kindest human being I have ever met. I love her..and hope I can come to terms with this loss. Thank you for your video
oh dear I am sorry for your loss! You will eventually come to terms, never fully heal but you will be able to move on and live without guild or negativity as long as you stay and fight... Someone told me that people tend to have three loves in their lives, the love that is pure and innocent and wild because it's your first, the love that is toxic and the love that turns into mature life long love. I hope you still get to experience all the different kinds in your future
I sorry for ur lose. However, u lost someone never existed. I have just lost the most amazing person I have ever had in my 48 years on this planet. Addicts r all creative and appear to be nice.
Thank you so much for that post, i had a similar situation, but he didn't die, but we broke up. Please know it is not your fault. Thank you for your candidness about your experience, i needed to hear it to know I'm not alone, you did everything humanly possible. Thanks again
My confidences
I am so sorry for your loss. This is my worst fear. I can't imagine it.
An addiction and relationship cannot coexist peacefully
That is not true. It is possible. My husband and I have both been clean for several years now and it’s the happiest I’ve ever been. Don’t judge and generalize others when you haven’t walked in there shoes.
@@cindymichelle2200 Yes if you are both clean but never in active addiction will it work or be healthy
False
Stop dating a drug addict. It is a lifetime of disappointment, betrayal, hardship. It is never over, never!
Everyone needs loves! Horrible advice!
Not horrible advice!! She is right!!!!
How about get clean first then get into a fucking relationship!!!
@@AlexanderGonzalez-qp4tj yes, learn to love yourself first, then find others who love themselves. Then love each other, best policy!
@@AlexanderGonzalez-qp4tj so keep allowing them to lie to you, Rob you blind, take advantage of your kindness? I have a person in my life now who can't be bothered to show up to our date TO A PARK! THE PARK IS FREE! Then a week after that asked me for money 😒 when I didn't have it? Radio silent again till yesterday when he asked to live with me because someone "stole his check and spent it on dope" he knows I love him and has no problem using that against me
So long as there is the addiction there is no realtionship
very true! thanks for sharing
There is a relationship, but it's between them and the drug. Ur second, third, or fourth on the list of priorities.
This is so hard. I love him. He just started using again I found messages on his phone. We were talking about getting married, having a baby buying a house. I can’t believe he would throw that all away for a little pill.
oh dear, I feel your pain. It's so hard to understand what a person may think or feel but the only difference you can make is in your life by moving on or staying with the person and supporting that person. I was foolish to stay initially and realized that nothing can change someone else unless they are willing to. But it's also not your job and not your responsibility since he is not your child. Wishing you all the best :*
Get out!!!!
Fight for him
What was the drug? My girlfriend was a frequent Molly and cocaine user. I didn’t know the extent until I realized things didn’t seem right when I had a dream and it made me think of something that didn’t make sense in her past/ stories and I checked her messages. She was using them extensively right into our relationship.
@@Hughkulele I know about those dreams❗️🤯
It’s one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to see in somebody I love him so much and only want the best for him but I can’t help him
its heart breaking ):
I know this is an old comment but i’m going through the same thing. I loved her more than anything, I wanted to help her and support her into our future but I did all I could. it’s extremely painful…
Thank u for this video. I don’t think people realize how hard it is to love an addict
Great video
Women LOVE addicts!
i felt you so much im in the same situation as your situation for almost 2years and its so fucking hard to get away to let go all of the happy memories but sometimes i realized happy memories is not enough reason to stay with the person you love but can't see your worth. for all the women who felt this way warm hugs for y'all!! 😞😞❤️❤️❤️
@Ayessa Legaspi heyy...I want to talk to you can u rply please
Just found out tonight. It was my final day speaking to this individual. The absolute pain and devastation from them using you is HORRIFIC. My ❤️ to you all.
I fell in love with a girl who is addicted to ice. She is still beautiful on the outside and has a really cool personality that I fell in love with. She ended telling me she got a boyfriend and didn’t choose me and led me on to think we were going to be in a relationship. It really sucks and hurts. Her excuse was because she was deep into drugs and that I have never done any type of drugs in my life. She said we live two different lifestyles. I’m trying to heal and it’s incredibly hard.
I found it yesterday night. I feel bad and weired
Thank you for this. I struggled for 2 years with a cocaine addict in denial. I did the same I tried everything to help him :( he eventually went to rehab for 21 days. Then relapsed after 3 days of coming out. Posted videos online partying and drinking with other women. Heartbreaking and devastating. Thank you for this
I lost my husband three years ago, he’s alive, and sober… Now. I left him for the second time… I made access to our child supervised. I was trying to force him into sobriety… So our boy could have a daddy. It worked, but I know no longer have a husband. He will never forgive me for what in his eyes was betrayal. He’s now been with his girlfriend 2 1/2 years and I cry every day…. I haven’t even been on a date yet. I miss him so much. I love you Brent I always will.
Just left my wife due to her drug use. It was the hardest thing I've ever done. I never thought in my life I'd have to watch someone slowly die.
i am in exactly the same situation, my boyfriend is addicted to opiates, i stayed by his side, i lost my family, my money, my school and my friends. i am completely broken and fallen and now that he is less addicted and cleaner, he said i can't stay and help you with the hell you are living, i have my life now...
oh dear how ungrateful...I'm so sorry that you are in that situation. But again just like all of us, we didn't think about ourselves and gave up everything for someone else which we should've never done in the first place... You will live and move on stronger than before and with that knowledge and you will be fine, because it's in your power! Lots of love from Germany :*
Same condition here. I want to talk to you. Any account on insta?
i've been looking for this kind of video im losing hope that maybe im the only one who going through all of this but im wrong. thankyou for sharing your story i keep thinking about the decision what i need to do.
Does this get easier? After 5 years I finally left him 2 weeks ago but he won't leave me alone and continues to promise me he's gonna get clean and go to rehab but I told him not to go to rehab for me because it will only be successful if he truly wants it for himself. He's done nothing but lie and keep things from me, he's drained me and now I'm sad unhappy and turned to alcohol to try and not feel the pain, it hurts knowing he's on the streets and he's only going to get worse. I know I'm better then this and I will overcome this period in my life that has left me broken. His heroin addiction is no longer my problem. I'm ready to conquer my life and be the strong women I was before I got with him. I tried to get him clean but if he don't want it there's nothing I can do anymore.
wow, yes thanks for sharing! It's rough but it does get easier! It's just a matter of letting go and letting time pass....distract yourself, focus on healing... it always helps if you actually start to hate the person initially to be able to let go...that's just what helped me in the short term... long term I had to mourn and cry and heal and listening to other people go through helped me not feel alone
Thank you for the post and for this video! I have been going through this for close to 6 yrs. From where I am now strength is really what helps the most. Like in the video. Knowing and owning yourself. I beat myself to a pulp not being able to help him. If I didn't gove give him money he said he was going to jail or was going to kill himself. Sadly, I lost a lot but will be okay. Thank you for this video and stay strong -
Omg I’m in tears I’m goin thou it now😭
I hope you'll have strength and I wish you just the best despite your situation 😘
Your not alone I’m going through this right now and it’s hurting me inside. 🥲
You're not alone since i'm also going through it right now. I feel helpless and it breaks my heart 😥🥺
I'm going through the same, he is out now buying drugs, I love him so much and every time is the last time until he buys again. I need help
I've been giving my partner countless chances and he keeps refusing to go to rehab... makes grand promises of change that never happen. We just had a baby together. I've been sober for 3 years and he keeps using. It's hard but I need to leave....but finding the strength is providing difficult
Wow... thank you so much for sharing your truth. This is something I really needed to hear. I'm sorry we have gone through such a heartbreaking thing by people who are supposed to love us.
Am currently in a relationship with a drug addict. We been together for seven years I keep going but am trying to get away from. Everything you said is true every morning she wakes up mad and aggressive with me and wanted a beer in the morning. Its so fucking hard to get away
I needed to hear this 🙏
It is literally the thing I need to hear. Just yesterday, I broke up with him because he slapped me so hard like five times. It's the second time he hurt me. I'm from Philippines, and I can relate to you. He's addicted to shabu, we've been together for 2 years. We love each other soo much, and we know that. I felt it. I am in great depression just to think I can't keep the person I loved, which is his good side. He is an angel, a God sent who's so nice but a demon also, that's gonna send me to hell here in earth.
Much love from Serbia. You're such a sweet soul. You wouldn't help him either way. I can see you're shifting between 'If I have...' and ' It's not on me'...It really isn't. You gave him that love, that ultimate soil to recover. He chose the opposite. Don't put the blame on you. I know it's easier said than done, but I've been the same way as a codependent person only to reach the point where I finally, truly know I'm not here to change people if they don't wanna change themselves in the first place. xoxo
Thank you... He is not even my boyfriend, we've been friends for around 3 or 4 months. We fell in love almost instantly, but decided to keep being friends besides all the dreams we had together and all the love we gave each other. I knew for the first moment that he was an ex-addict, but he said that he didn't do drugs anymore and was gonna get in rehab.
Thing is... Everytime we were in bad terms or i couldnt be there to support him, he started to consume again, maybe for just one or two days and then leave it... But idk... He is now in rehab and promised me he is gonna text me when he can right away, but i dont want to be his friend or whatever we are anymore...
I've thinking that maybe the best thing I can do is block him, even though it hurts like hell because i love him so much... But i know he doesn't wanna really recover and he's only doing this to keep his parents happy...
He makes me feel like i'm in heaven and in hell at the same time.
I need to talk please reply
Can we talk because i am going through the same exact situation
I hope he finds himself again. I love him so much but he keeps using . I feel guilty leaving him because i dont wanna leave someone in pain. I need to leave if he dont take his own responsibility
It feels like leaving them behind, and even though you wish they could come with you but they wont, or cant. Theyd rather stay where they are, or theyre stuck there.
It's such a gutwrenching powerless feeling when you realise that you can never ever fix someone. No matter what you do, no matter how much you truly love them, in the end its up to them. No one can force them.
And you dont stop caring, but you realise you have to save yourself and stop enabling them. Theres no winning when you date an addict, for either of you. The pain is like nothing else.
Thank you, she came back in to my life.. I was an addict myself. She seeks help from me, but it drags up my deamons and takes all my energy.. But still. I feel her pain, her sorrow it resonates so much with mine. I have to prioritize myself, protect myself.. Its hard, because its one of the major issues with (ex)abusers.. the lack of self love and self protection.. WTF life? Why?
Said with kindness, your words have made a difference for me and I hope to share them with another. Thank you
I really needed to hear this today 🥺💜
As soon as you said it’s not my fault..... I cried
I can relate to this video.
My boyfriend is a drug addict in recovery, still struggling. We’ve been together since October 2021 , but in that time he has relapsed 3 times , the first two times he was lost for about 3 months then got help. Got in the program detox, rehab, sober living home, then moved to his dads. Yes the time hes in recovery im there supporting him and living our best moments together including our kids on this pathway. Today I am once again suffering and hoping he gets help because its been a week that I haven’t heard from him.
Hes out there on the streets again and its hard to know that after everything we’ve been through, being his support unconditionally he throws it all away . I know he’s battling his demons and every day is a win , its a struggle and I feel I wont give up on him. Hope is what many addicts need , because everyone carries their own burdens in different ways and with just a little hope and faith it can make a difference and can save a life . At the end we are all humans and were not perfect.
Has he gotten better?
This was really helpful ....even I'm..facing same situation right now im..just 18 and..he is 28 n he take brown sugar I tried to help him out ...BT he never did ..that instead he showed anger...n snatched..my purse to buy his..drugs when he doesn't have money ....i m..broked..
I'm young ...instead..of enjoy my life..I'm crying all day . n focusing on..someone..else...this..video..really helped..me..😩
awww I hope the situation will get better. But here is a thought! You are accountable for whatever you think of and you do. It's your "fault" that you let this happen to you. That is harsh but it also means you have every power to change it ;) It's hard I know, but he doesn't rule your life, no one but yourself does. And when your young, you just wanna love passionately but we tend to lose ourselves in it. I wish you all the best and lots of love from Germany :*
Same situation with me dear he is taking drugs all day 1months back I try to help him asking 10k to my closest friend as a dept she gave me without hesitation . Now it’s like she need all her money back and my boyfriend is not responding to any of our calls and messages . What do I do ? I’m so helpless
Hey there, you need to get out and consider the money as lost...try asking his parents or any of his relative back for it, but take it as a lesson instead. Until he's clean, he might be doing the same thing all over again to you :(
Why don't you girls date someone who's atleast stable in his life?? Cant you find good guys out there?? If those guys really loved you, they would've done something about their addiction
@@Shiva-lb7oe I think it has nothing to do with dating someone stable, since my former bf seemed as if he was stable. It has a lot to do with deception and also your own self worth and self respect. Not many young women have that yet and cannot differentiate from a loving or toxic relationship perhaps due to the background.
I needed this .. out of all the RUclips videos .. I’ve never felt so relatable .. and I mean, I feel I’m alone .. and now
I see your story is exactly what I’ve been through .. so thank you
aww thank you for watching! I hope that your journey feels less alone and stressful in the future... it's hard and I read your other comment, so yes enabling and then getting out is tough too! All the best and remember you are never alone! lotsa love from Germany :*
Journals of Codependent yah can’t sleep now because I felt so stupid for so long and now .. I don’t but it kindof hurts more as a co dependent
Journals of Codependent .. I got out .. but I’m now watching him do the same to another beautiful women .. and I know words can’t help her .. but the feeling of danger and hating the world and die at the same time it was a rush but a bad one :( anywho thank you for your content
@@yodabtch21 that feeling is going to pass eventually..it helped when I worked out and focused all my hatred and energy on something completely different...no other person just hobbies....
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I needed to hear this, your advices and experience is golden. ♥️
This is the only real advice here on yt, just what I needed to hear. Thank you
thank you for this beautiful video & beautiful advice 🥺❤️
you're very welcome ❤
this video help me so much, recently my boyfriend started to consume again, we don’t know where he is, i’m scared for his life. I feel like I could have done something, but I don’t think that it would have change something. I keep thinking in the promises he made me, and how I believe him, it hurts my soul thinking he is in pain or in danger. I love him so much but I have to leave him, I promise that to myself but it’s so hard, I can just see the man that I love, I wanted to protect him from everyone but I couldn’t… I can’t sleep I’m so worried but this video help me calm down and for that i’m so thankful
and my advice for anyone entering a relationship with someone that’s an addict be really careful, they can be so nice and sweet but that doesn’t change the fact that they can hurt you deeply. I have the sweetest boyfriend I could imagine but I can’t be with him
Thank you for sharing this. So sad but incredibly insightful and informative.
I try to make it work and thing each time will be different:( but it’s the same pattern. I love him and wish this addiction wasn’t real :(
I know how that feels. Love yourself and take care of yourself. Nobody has to go through that. Think about the things that keep you with him and why that is more important than your heart. Maybe that helps breaking away. I wish you the best and lots of love from Germany!
Thank you for making this video it helps me not to feel alone.
I broke up with him many times. He has lied to me many times. He is always paranoid of me cheating, gaslights me so much, guilt trips me that he will harm himself. This has been hell ever since i met him.
He smokes percosets on foil and it is so hard to see it consume him. I feel stuck 😪
Leave him before he hurts you
Or worse you have kids with him you just described many reasons to leave a relationship pick one and run with it because attics will never love you you’ll never change them if they don’t want to change and if you’ve tried changing them and they failed it’s time to leave them because they don’t want to change because if they really loved you and really wanted to change they would go and get clean they would commit to getting clean and making sure that they are clean for you
@Helfirehydra Yes, that is all over with. Such an awful experience. I'm glad it is over. Ty for your advice ❣️
@Helfirehydra oh yeah, they would not change for anything or anyone. It is all on them. It's not something I would allow in my life ever again.
Get rid of toxic people, they have nothing to offer you, you will waste your life
Anyone who wastes their time has no self respect for themselves
Thank you so much for this video because I'm broken honestly, I'm in a relationship wellci guess it's not one now after watching this video but I'm love with someone who does need to get help I don't want to get into details but what I can say is I'm enabling her I keep giving her money and helping her find things so she's happy and not sick I don't want to becuase I don't feel happy about it I wish she would just stop and love me for me not to keep her afloat, she doesn't show me that love that I'm craving, I'm starting to feel used and I need to back away but I can't, I don't have anybody to talk to about this becuase nobody really understands they just think I'm crazy for even putting up with this shit.
Hey there, you are not crazy. It's a normal part of codependency. Your partner might also trigger that aspect because she is not giving you what you need the most; love and care. With that promise of caring and love with every hit or whatever drug there may be behind she gets, you are just a tool at that moment. You have to meet a person who is addicted when the person is sober to get a real picture of those feelings.
This is what I needed to hear
...and I'm pregnant by him...he gets mad when I try to help. He denies it.
Glad I could help. Make sure you prioritise you and your unborn first. Lotsa love from Germany
Thankyou, I needed to hear this.
I don’t think i wanna wait till it’s too much.
Thank you for this
Thank you so much. 6 years with a dab addict. It affects everything he/we do. It is his top priority. Realized that we will never have what other couples have.
Like you said, it's not really even a relationship. He is in a relationship with dabs. That's really who he's committed to. I'll always love him, but I left this morning.
Wow Awesome
We are 5 yrs and we just now HAD the serious talk.
My heart really hurts .He is a good person and REALLY want the best for him
oh my thank you so much i don't think you can understand how much i needed your strength right now
The guy I love is more interested in hanging out with his friends and do drugs than build a life with me ....no , I don't do drugs or drink alcohol beverage or smoke cigarette ...what do I do ?
Hey there, from what you said, your guy seems more interested in other things than you and with that behavior he is clearly showing you how much you mean to him. If you can be tossed aside that easily, you can toss him aside. No matter how much you think you love him now, there is always someone who will love you and appreciate you more than he will... lotsa love :*
In same boat...except mine has found a girl to do drugs with. Btw, we were together 8 years.
This is the best advice ever, thank you so so much. You’ve helped me tremendously. God bless you.
I haven't spoke to him in a while and the more I work on me; the more I feel I am able to support him. I believe he's worth it, he is truly amazing and treated me like a princess.. he used to tie my shoes, get my towel ready.. I have never felt so loved and supported during my mental crisis but he did it. I believe it's time I give back, I just gotta be strong and respect myself and limits. Haven't reached out to him.. his mom and I have a good relationship though. He was always honest about his recovery since day 1.. I just want to be sure if I ever appear on his life again..
same with my girlfriend, it hurts so much to be apart. I just don’t know what’s right for myself currently. I hope to know soon.
update: no contact still, it hasn’t gotten completely better but I think less about it. nothing more I could do. I still care.
@@nanobruv well I did. I reached out and told him I loved him and made the desicion to support him and slowly work on us. Until he cheated on me God knows for how long. I'm amazed what a good liar he is. Anyway, I wished him well then he came couple days later and tried to run me over to then chase me and tell me he loved me. I'm finally over him. So was it worth reaching out to him? Maybe some lessons in life cost your life.. show we go that far?
@@nata.7.7.7. I couldn’t stop myself from reaching out especially initially. It’s how I am, I like to get to the bottom of things. However, sometimes it really isn’t worth it. I was used as a doormat and lied to for far too long. I just didn’t realize it at the time.
advice? my boyfriend is changing his personality and losing himself because of poor mental health. it’s hurting me more everyday with more problems. he gives me mixed signals on our relationship, he’s reached a place where he can’t care of anything anymore. i wish that i could make him happy because he was open, but now he hides himself. i love him more than anything, everything is difficult because i know who he is. no one knows what to tell me, i’m slowly losing things especially in duration of the pandemic. i cant see him often, which is the problem. im scared of losing him. im scared of him losing himself.
Hey there, it sounds like your boyfriend is in need of professional care. You cannot provide that and neither should you. It's completely natural to feel lost and without control in a situation that you cannot control. Try to take a step back and think about your relationship and whether you would want to continue with it if he would be perfectly fine and still giving you mixed signals. His life is his responsibility not yours and his life will never be your responsibility unless you are his caretaker or guardian. What I am trying to get at is that often we focus so much on saving another person that we neglect or even bury our own feelings of disappointment within that. The love we may have or feel does not come from a safe and loving place within us or the partner.... If there is any specific question you have, feel free to just ask :) I don't know if you even wanted to hear this or not. Lotsa love from Germany :*
The first 5 years of our marriage were great. Her mom died 5 years ago and she relapsed. Crack and occasionally meth. She's been spending an average of $650 a month for the past 5 years!
I have been looking at videos all day! It’s obvious my boyfriend is still using meth, I knew he did years ago when he was fresh out of high school. He admitted he did it once and I asked him to leave my house I told him if he’s on that shit to stay the fuck away from me because I have kids and I don’t like that shit around my kids or myself.. I told him my home is drug free and he promised he’s done with that and I thought I could give him so much love and support and maybe he’d quit but a year after that (meaning one month ago) I moved in with him and he locks up his basement and I know his excuse is he has weapons and valuable things down there but I am not allowed down there and his friends (who I’ve never met) go down there to watch tv and have “beers” with him but one day I smelled something funny that I’ve never smelled before while I was upstairs in my room.. I’m pretty sure the odor came up through the vents and I had a feeling he was using meth :,( he is sweet one day and a complete asshole the next.. he lashes out almost every night about not being able to sleep and about me moving around at night and he also gets mad when my 9 month old baby cries at night or when my 12 year old son wakes up to go to the bathroom or if he makes noise in the kitchen and then he apologizes the next day for being grumpy he gets mad at me for wanting to wake up at 6am to get ready for work.. I am stiluck at this point and I feel I should’ve never moved in and I shouldn’t never gave up my apartment.. he picks fights for random shit and I never argue back because it’s pointless.. I just let him talk shit on his own.. I wish I would’ve never moved in with him.
oh gosh I hope things will get better for you! lotsa strength going out to you! You already sound like you know what you should do next...follow through and trust yput gut no matter what anyone says! lotsa love from Germany!
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☹ I am in the same boat as you Yvette..i hope things get better for you ☹
Hi. I’ve just recently found your channel. I am currently in a relationship with my significant other who is currently a recovering addict who is in a rehabilitation program. I am trying to find ways to help myself too in terms of trying to understand this and somehow let go of the idea that I can make a difference in his addiction. It’s true. I can’t. This solely depends on him. I am nothing more than motivation to a certain degree, but he needs to want to go through and stay on the sober path & recovery for himself. I too am looking for ways to cope and somehow heal my traumas too. It’s difficult on the addict and the partner. I have accepted that staying in this relationship is a choice. It’s a work in progress everyday. Good times and bad times.
I am glad i got out of the relationship, he stole from me and felt like his behaviour was really bad. Relationship it takes two of the relationship to work, if drugs are involved theres nothing but negativity. No cure for addiction
I'm dating a guy who is drugs accredited 😢now i don't know what to do i really love him i can't leave him alone
👍🏾 my girlfriend is spiralling out of control I can’t do any more for her ,I’ve tried for the last 5 yrs now an it’s destroyed me an my children’s lives.I’ve now walked away with my kids . Im hoping she changes but I’m not holding my breath ,it’s just sad.
I saw ur video an thought I’d watch cos I can relate💯❤️ thanx
My boyfriend is an addict 🥺😢he goes missing and disappearing on me to do drugs im so stress I give him money all the time .this is the first experience of dating a drug addict I love him so much. But he Really needs help
@BadgayalDrea, I'm sorry to hear about your boyfriend. Tell him If he doesn't get help he'll lose you, His everything he has and life. Don't give him any more money for drugs. You shouldn't be dragged into this. Give him an alutimatiam Me or the Drugs?
@@joecool97 he's already loosing me because I've found someone else that cares about me and love me but I still love him but not like before because he's hurting me but all I can do is move on because my all wasn't good enough for him to stop .
@@sheslogic1926 Follow God and What's inside your heart.
just broke up with my gf because of this, she is addict to cocaine since college, I knew already that she used to do but didnt know how much, I did sometimes before her but not even close of her quantities, I told her many times that we need to find a balance between our relationship and the drugs, I felt like ever free time we have she wanna use to that instead of spending some alone time with me, I felt that I would never be her choice for a fun time, on our last day I told her that we need to do something just the two of us, she told me she understood but she took me to the same place with her friends and started to prepare the drug on the car, I didnt say nothing at the time but I was clearly piss, and because of that after lefting everyone home she told me I was misstreating her and that I have a bad face on her side, and then told me that sometimes she doesnt even want to invite me to go out because she knows I wont like it, thats was it for me, I was begging for some alone time and got this instead, well it is hurting like a mf but I think I am doing the right thing, sorry for my bad english and for comment this 5 years later, you were very helpfull
Finally after 5 months I'm cutting him off. I need to feel better again. I love him so much but the person he becomes I don't recognise and it hurts.
This video is important, thank you. Also for saying I wasn't at fault.
My partner is also a crystal meth addict. He relapsed one day and suddenly my life was shattered too. I am slowly clawing my way back
Aww man, all the best to you! And yes it's not your fault and just keep fighting!
I really needed this... I'm going through the same thing she smokes weed and does other drugs because she is in depression and it's the only thing that makes her feel and I really want to help her and I'm trying my best and praying to god she stops I want her to be happy again but I ain't giving up just yet
She just has to do it herself unfortunately but I wish you all the best and hope things will work out. Lotsa love from Germany!
Same here my boyfriend is a stoner and I smoke as well but am not addicted to it. He really is..
Thank you....... I needed this❤️❤️❤️❤️
deep cutting video, thank you.
I'm so sorry Jessica, you were right.
Thank you for making these videos
thank you for watching them :)
Im done with her now
My ex boyfriend ended our relationship because he didn't want to drag me down in the process of recovery and felt he wouldn't be able to make me happy. He is really trying to recover but is difficult for him so wants to fight this once and for all and on his own. He said he was able to cut down a lot after meeting me and wanted to fix it on his own and not tell me but he just couldn't. We ended on good terms but he is struggling a lot. He is drinking a lot and is using the substance a little more. I am unsure what to do since I do love him and want to be with him and get back together but am not positive it is a good idea and think my ex doesn't want to get together.
At this point you need to focus on yourself. Love is not enough. Love will not get you self-respect and love will not cure his addiction. Only he can do that and you can start living your life. Make sure that you listen to why you want to be with him and what need that fills and where the lack comes from. Hope this helps
My problem is I can't prove or can tell If she is. I know she used to. And she fell a few months ago. But she got clean. Now, I don't know if she is besides her behavior of distance and lying. It could be something else but I don't know because I don't know anything about meth. She moved out recently. And said it's because we argued too much but I don't know.
Thank you…
My daughter is dating a meth addict that has about cost her her life but she will still live with him , so sad , im so tired its been a living hell for 2 years of my life , i have no life due to the prison of someone else , . Think about that for a min.
Hi there, I'm sorry to hear that. The most important thing is you in your life. Yes, I understand that your daughter's welfare means the world to you, but that's also her life. Your task and no matter how painful is not to fall victim to your own attachments. That means to detach yourself from it and not join that prison. It's the hardest thing because blaming is easier than taking responsibility for your own feelings and situation, but be sure that it will get better.
Thank you! I told my ex that I knew he was on drugs and he denied it ...
i dont know what to do with my boyfriend. we were together while i was using but he didnt know i was. after a month of being together i was sent to rehab and have been clean for a few months. he recently started doing the drugs that i am addicted to and im so stuck. do i stay? do i leave? he doesnt use around me and knows he needs to stop which is a step but, hes starting to say hurtful things and be emotionally abusive and its hurts me. i dont want to leave because i know how much it hurts to lose your biggest support because of your own addiction. i want to tell his mom but i dont want to start problems. im sorry its a lot but i need help
hey there, don't ever be sorry for seeking help. You need to know if what he does hurts you that you need to stay away or if you can actually bear it. Leaving doesn't always mean breaking up...neither does staying away.. you can support him from afar as well via phone or texts if you can't bear. That might give the needed leverage to make him realize he needs to change. Hope that helped and lots of love from Germany to you!
sometimes I can't handle his words, he is mean to me everytime. we've been dating for 7 months now and we had more than 5 break ups. I think he cheated on me and he is pretending like I'm cheating on him. he wasn't like that at the first, he says that he loves me and maybe he does or maybe not. I struggle with anxiety and I don't know what to do anymore... I couldn't let him go . I love him so much and I'm scared that one day that he will be overdosed from cocain. his addiction is forcing both of us I can't understand him...
the issue here is not your bf...it's you. Your lack of self respect and self compassion leads you to go back into something toxic as this. This is codependeny, you rely on his comfort too because you are reliving a trauma you might have experienced. The only way to learn is to live your own life. That way you can find distance and learn to be with you. Hope this helped
My boyfriend was drug user before and i know he already stopped it for years now but I just found out recently he's into it again because of the influence of his friends. He knows that I hated it and we've been in a relationship for almost 6 years. I love him but I can't tolerate him anymore. I'm so confuse if I should break up with him, I need some advice
I can’t tell you what to do but I can say that you should do whatever feels right to you specifically if you feel as though you can’t tolerate it you have to leave and I know that sounds fucked up and terrible I’ve been there but you have to choose yourself first no matter what you decide just know I support you
I quit for love.... Why can’t they...
I needed this..
my ex break up with me because i waS ON heroin for years but i never manipulate her only in the end i tell her straight to give my money to buy my dose and i will go to methadone program she says ok she gives 30 euros i buy 2 grams of heroin in greece one gram of heroin cost 7 euros the bad quality and with 15 euros the good stuf , after i go to methadone and stop using and she break up with me wtf????
Thank you.
Me and my boyfriend have only been dating for 3 months and a week ago i didnt see the guy I fell in love with anymore I found out he’d started using drugs and he’s saying he’s got clean on his own and can do it again I love him and don’t wanna lose him I wanna help him but I don’t know how when he doesn’t wanna go get help he just wants to stay stuck home and sober his own self up I wanna be there for him to support him to get better and be there when he needs me I just don’t know what to do
First of all, don't panic. Take a breath and think about yourself first. It may work out. It could be that he will sober up and be fine. It could also get worse. Think about what you would do if it does get worse and if it's worth the emotional struggle you are about to go through.
I m In this situation,I used drugs ,sell my laptop,things etc,for. A drug, n I don't want to let my love know this , because we r in long distance relationship, before we meet I want to quit so please help me through prayers
My prayers are going out to you
I was in relationship with my boyfriend for almost 2 and half years. He is addict to opiates even before our relationship and i was 18 yrs old when i started dating him. I didn't take seriously his addiction , neither i was familiar with any kinds of drugs before. This was the first time i knew that he is using opium. And slowly throughout the whole period of relationship, i started realising that it does take a lot of money even though opium doesn't alter his personality. He didnt want to do anything becz he felt tired all the time. I was scared for my future. And broke up. But can't hold myself longer than 1 week to call him and talk to him..i m confused. What should i do. It's been 4 months wr broke up officially. But not seriously.
You got to learn how to let go and why you are stuck with him. There is a reason why you two broke up in the first place. But you gotta ask yourself what kind of need you want to fill by going back to him... love is not enough...hope this helps
-I’m really going though the most and I really need someone to talk to like honestly like my partner as I’m typing this is in rehab😭😭😭
I fel pregnant to one hes inconstant , and he's a lier, he's been homeless ,no job sleeping around coutch to coutch. It's a choice of what he's done he's made that decision.
And I recent him I don't want or need him .
I have never been so alone and will always remember, what he's done
He's trying to make it back to me .but I deserve better and now I'm cold.
Anyone have a loved one that is addicted to ecstasy or Molly? Everywhere I search in the internet it keeps saying it’s not addictive. I beg to differ. Someone close to me has been on it 18 years and the crash faze is horrible and abusive. He hallucinates, becomes paranoid etc. I hate drugs !!! In this video Methamphetamine is mentioned and ecstasy is MDMA so it is an amphetamine.
i needed this.... 😭😭😭😭
Thank you sis for your sharing.
I just moved in with my boyfriend 1 month ago I left behind all of my family to live with him. He came to me 3 days ago and told me he needs help. He has been smoking fentanyl. He has been lying to me. I’m broken. I will be there for him while he is getting clean as long as he is on the right path I will be there. I don’t know what to do or how to handle this.
hey there! Glad you are reaching out! The fact that he clmes clean and says he needs help tells you a great deal about him and how much he may need you. If and once you can get over the pain of being lied to you can focus on educating yourself and helping him whichever way you see fit for yourself. Dont do anything you wouldnt do in a nother situation or something you dont feel comfortable with. Just dont forget the love even if the lie may be big. Lots of love from Germany :*
Your not alone just found out my bf of 2 years is a pill addict
Hasiyna Fall Same. I’m devastated.
@@Chantalthiel wow all the way from Germany thank you!!!!
@@candacebrown3518 girl...roller coaster of emotions drug tested him again yesterday and he lies about taking money out of his bank account...I'm going to keep u in my prayers
Thank you
How do i let go when i have the two most beautiful children with her, she isnt am addict but she is a narcissist, cold and makes me feels so bad like am nothing and i done nothing, after all it was her manipulation and her recovery that drained my energy i feel like like theres nothing i can do or say, i literally just met her 5yrs ago , i lost jobs i have compromised so much i wamted to do and now i am the bad person why? Why she doesnt want contact with me why she doesnt care about her hygiene or keeping the place clean why she turns evwrything into an attack , and why all she wants me to do is to know when to shut up when am just saying the truth that we dont communicate or have intimacy i feel betrayed, and alone
very couragous
Hey now I'm going through this..pls help me
what do you need?
Thank you 🙏🙏🙏💕
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How about don’t be around and tell them to get help. That’s emotional and mental
Abuse to stay in a relationship with one.
It's hard to just give up on her because we have 3 kids together 😔 and I love her so much I'm a just continue to pray 🙏🏾 for her that's all I can do in Jesus name lord watch over Tinisha 😢
My ex been in jail almost a year she was addicted to crack and about to get out she wants to get back together I told her no. I left her alone when it got to be too much cus I don't do crack had to dump her. She's not smoking cus she's in jail but I still answer her calls cus she sober. Sounds like the girl I met. I told her we going to be friends like we were before we got together. I love her but can't be with her. She needs to recover before I even think about us in a relationship with her.
I am with a guy how uses meth I just cannot do this to myself. He has cheated lied to me used me I cannot do this aanymore to myself its just to much am walking away. I took him to narcotic anonymous and he is still using. Am just walk away for my own mental health. Its just sad.
He tells me he's Ike that cause I cheated on him n lead him to that bs
Does treatments like methadone by the clinics works!
My gf said she was kicked out of the clinic as she didn’t show up for 3consecutive days. Will she ever recover? 😢
Now a days she eats something quietly, after that her lower face gets stiff for sometime ! What is she eating? (I am so confused with her behavior, now even more when she has started her recovery treatments)
hi, thank u for your video. i am in a currently distressed and disappointed mode. The guy that i have trusted with my whole life after seeing the changes in him and totally clean we got married.. and now we hv bn blessed with a beautiful baby girl.. but when our girl just reached 1yr old, i noticed the physical changes in him.. then to find out hes on heroin after he had a bad seizure at home in the toilet at 230am. i am really at my wits end now..😢
Hey, thank you for sharing. I feel you and it must be hard to be taking care of an infant and having to see that happening to your husband. It's important to not look for solutions but to feel your emotions and process what it is your inner guidance is saying to you right now. Trust your instinct/gut feeling! Being with an addicted person and staying with an addicted person could potentially endanger you and your child especially with a drug as aggressive as heroin. What type of environment would you want your daughter to grow up in? What type of marriage do you want to be in? These are my impulses for you ❤
@@Chantalthiel thank you so much for your every kind words, motivation and advise.💜..Its true and i totally agree with you that our gut feeling is our compass when facing such situation and person.. i kept telling myslf that never to be manipulated again. Stand firm as i need to be the 1 with the upperhand in order to make sure our marriage is under control. Currently hes doing well recovering and told him to stay focused with work and family. Thank you so much sweety, appreciate your effort in replying me. Have a blessed week ahead. Hugs🌻😘
@@maritzamirza5111hy pls tell Is everything oka now ,.is your husband clean now. .has he quit herione or not . Hope you nd your daughter okay now