This is a very really deep song❤ very true… sad… us women play dumb because we really want our relationship to work so bad … love this song.. I feel the pain and hurt… ❤
As someone going through this currently…thank you for putting my life into words and a song. These are things we don’t go around telling our friends and family…feelings we can’t express…
Thanks for the song. Today, we women including Young and Old, going through these bitterness marriages. I pray that whoever going through this will become strong and independent with their own life or with their children.
Thank you, Ms.Deeda for this beautiful deep meaning song you wrote. Thanks for reminding us women we are still worthy, love ourself, refresh our mind, embrace ourself, reflect on our life. WE LOVE THIS SONG SO MUCH. ❤❤❤❤❤.
To the Hmong ladies: Don't put up with abuse. Walk away. Sometimes, the fastest way up is to step down from a toxic relationship. Best wishes to all of you beautiful ladies and keep your head high. You are amazing, don't let toxic Hmasculinity slow you down.
Song well written and beautiful voice. Deeda thank you for writting and singing this song. Many hmong women need to hear this. I hope this helps empower women to love themselves and dont stay in abusive relationships. Keep up the great work. 👏
My ex use to say “this is why I can never marry you, XYZ”. and I literally worked like a dog and did everything for him. He was unloyal and barely working. So thank you for this empowering song.
Great song Deeda ❤ lyrics hits home 😢 I'm sure many of us can relate. We are not dumb we just love their ob lub eye xwb os. Enough tears lost. Thank you for another great song.
Aww. I love this!! This song hit deep and some woman can relate...When we think they will change and give them more chances..in the end nothing change. Enough is enough..no more being nice and dump!! I can feel the hurt and pain in this song. To all the ladies, selflove is not selfish and know your worth!! On repeat!
This is also a good song also for all broken men to fix his marriage. Sometimes we men become broken in marriage, and take it out on their wife. In order to fix, have to fix yourself as a broken man to becoming a more Loving man.
So much emotion tied into the lyrics of this song. This was beautifully composed and told through a story. Thank you, Deeda. You are my forever favorite female vocalist.
Such a beautiful song with a beautiful meaning behind it. Especially, for those who has lived it can so relate and feel the pain. Not sure why some people are offended by this song and can'thear the clear message. Smh. 🤦♀️It's not to encourage divorce, but to know your worth and it's okay to let go. Marriage isn't easy, but when enough is enough know when to walk away. Letting go someone you love is the hardest. Writing a meaningful song is not easy! Deeda, you wrote and sang it with such beauty! Honestly, there isn't a lot of songs like this out there! Don't let anyone discourage you! Can't wait for instrumental so I can karaoke it!! Keep writing and singing beautiful songs!! ❤❤
This song brings all things in the past and present. The way you sing the song and the lyrics got me crying, especially the sequence of the lyrics. You're an amazing artist and like the way your music is evolving.
Deeda, this song has touched me and I've had in on repeat for a few days now. My husband of 22 years just passed away this July and this song was his and mines relationship. I loved him up to the morning he passed away in his sleep but I never was able to freely cry out my anger, sorrow and grief until now. I know I am still very young and I know not all men are alike but if I was in Hell once and just got out, I don't want to go back. Thank you.
What a beautiful song and such a true meaning. Most of the time, it is the women who have to forgive and let it go if we want our relationship to work. But why should we continue to do that? We need to learn to let go because we deserve to be loved and cherish correctly.
Being in a toxic relationship is a big regret once you've bared to your last limit. Thaum tsis tau lig kav tsij khiav kom dim os. Lub neej nyob nrog txoj kev tsim txom siab ntsws ces tsua nyob tos ntsoov hnub tuag xwb tsis xav ua neeg nyob. It's torturing, only those who've been in the situation will understand the pain.
Thank you for this song. I cried listening to this song. It reminded me of how my father treated my mother, and my step mom. He was ruthless when he was upset, and called them so many names. I tried my best to protect them, but my dad would start yelling at me. My mom snd step mom would feel bad and tell me not to say anything back to my dad... i dont know what to do anymore, and just pray they will have the strength to move on someday, or stand up for themself.
We’ll written song Dib! I can hear and feel the emotions of the lyrics in this song. I’m in a happy marriage and can still feel all the emotions it comes with this song. Bravo!
That’s why you got to marry someone you know forsho is down 100%. Not all men are the same. If someone wants u and love u they wouldn’t do what they do. That’s why be mindful before you head over hill. Bless ya all!
Hu tau zoo tiag tiag li os, Niam Laus. Yeej yuav muaj tus hlub yus tiag tiag xwb os mog. Yeej muaj tus zoo rau yus xwb xwb. Tus yus tau ntawd, nws tsis yog yus tus xwb os mog.
Same here. I cried listening to this song. It reminds me of the treatment my father bestowed on my mother and then my step mother. I have seen so many women, and some many, suffer in relationships like the one described in this song. ::(
This song is sung with the right lyrics in the right order in the right tone. I feel like it’s true for most women (Hmong women to be exact) going through. Deeda, can you also sing one about how in-laws called us nyabs with the same names? 😔 being a Hmong daughter isn’t the easiest. We are always told to be patient with our husband and in-laws that we’re losing ourselves in this “life” we’re living in trying to be the best wife and nyab. If you speak, you’re wrong. If you’re silenced then you’re basically absorbing all the negative comments.
Honestly A song I listen to 1 time for meaning then moving back to your old ones. Not that it’s bad, just honesty not everyone’s song. Bring back the joy of songs and upbeat like them old ones 😘
Great song. Describes so many relationships gone wrong. It's going to touch so many people. I always say to people...especially the bullies...just because you have the capacity to hate or bully doesn't mean that people LOVE YOU. They hate you just as much as you hate them. what makes you think you're so special? My only goal in life is to get rid of all the negativive people in my life. My mom used to let in all kinds of losers bc she considered them "friends" in her immense capacity to love and value ever little good thing she thought she needed. Once shewas gone, I slammed the door, locked it and threw away the key. MY LIFE improved by 1000%. Why should i waste MY TIME and energy to cater to people I dislike and don't respect? Ask yourself how many losers are in your life that you can kick out and do it. Clean house. it's about time people.
The lyrics from this song is from the heart and experiences. If you went through such experiences, sorry that you had to. I can relate. Thanks for doing what you do, great song!
Love it!! Seriously, the only Hmong meka singer that I like. I know making music for the Hmong community doesn’t bring much revenue, but remember to continue doing what you love even if it’s not for the money. ❤
Love this song. What a master piece. I love the tune in your voice when you sang the verses "tiaj teb ntawv no" and "tu tu lub siab, kua maug poob ntau lub."
Love the lyrics! Definitely have so much meaning and very deep feelings. Sometime we just have to love ourself more to let him go❤ Deeda, love your songs and please continue. We need more deeper lyrics like this one
There are lots of men and women in toxic marriages. Some marriages cannot be saved especially when its driving one or both to do sinful acts. I felt this song, the words are deep. Its for those who have been hurt by their spouse (damage beyond repair) but cant let go because they still love the other person.
To all the amazing Hmong women out there: We embody remarkable strength, rooted in our traditions and the wisdom of our elders. We uphold the cherished role of being a great "nyab" and honor our husbands, elders, younger ones, and relatives. We adeptly manage household duties, care for our children, and attend events to show our respect. In contrast to some other cultures where women have taken on more dominant roles, we remain steadfast in our commitment to our marriages, guided by the teachings of our elders. However, it's crucial to prioritize your mental well-being because it directly impacts your overall health. No one should endure unhappiness caused by an unappreciative partner. Life is too precious to be engulfed in darkness, blaming yourself for not meeting unrealistic expectations. Choose your mental health, for it is essential to your happiness and fulfillment.
Hello Nas Ej Deeda, thank you for open up your life to this world. I understand your pain but knowing that there are lots of fish out there in ocean who are still waiting for your love and tender. Don't give up.
Well written and sung. Save your heart ache, head ache. Love the one loves you and not the you love. Will do every thing for you and cherish you for life..... :)
I love you, you inspire me. I was once told that i reminded someone of deeda, so oneday i searched you up not knowing that i listened to your music just don't know who you are. Then started following you til this day. Love your songs and your personality. You are yourself, and you don't need anyone to make you happy. You can entertain yourself. You are an amazing woman.❤
This is a very really deep song❤ very true… sad… us women play dumb because we really want our relationship to work so bad … love this song.. I feel the pain and hurt… ❤
vice versa too
That’s true I just play dumb girl don’t know anything but me & myself have been cuss at a lot of time I start feeling like I am dumb face 😢😢😢
Likewise
@@shengmoua9897😊😊😊😊
Yog tshaj plaws!!!
Only those who went through this can relate to it! Great song! keep up the work!
As someone going through this currently…thank you for putting my life into words and a song. These are things we don’t go around telling our friends and family…feelings we can’t express…
Yog tshaj li os
Thanks for the song. Today, we women including Young and Old, going through these bitterness marriages. I pray that whoever going through this will become strong and independent with their own life or with their children.
Self Love is not selfish. Your lyrics are on point. Sending loves and hugs.
Thank you, Ms.Deeda for this beautiful deep meaning song you wrote. Thanks for reminding us women we are still worthy, love ourself, refresh our mind, embrace ourself, reflect on our life. WE LOVE THIS SONG SO MUCH. ❤❤❤❤❤.
I listen to this crying. I’m sure most of us can relate to the lyrics. The song tells story of my life..going 12 years with him..
Sending love and strength. Wishing you a happy ending ❤
Free yourself and walk away!
@@CheeNO_007wish it was that easy. Easy to say but hard to be done. 😢 when you have kids and you love your kids dearly.
@@Tomorrowisanewday if that’s ur excuse then good luck to u.
ขอบคุณมากๆคะที่ทำให้มีกำลังใจ ชีวิตหนูตอนนี้เหมือนเพลงที่พี่แต่งเลย🥲 ขอบคุณมากๆคะ หนูพพึ่งอายุ 20 ปีไม่กี่วันที่ผ่านมา หนูแต่งงานมาได้3ปีแล้ว หนูต้องทนและเจอแต่เรื่องเเย่ๆ ขอบคุณเพลงของพี่มาก ที่ทำให้หนูเข้าใจ และ รักตัวเองมากขึ้นค่ะ ติดตามพี่นะคะ ขอบคุณจริงๆจากใจค่ะ🥰
To the Hmong ladies: Don't put up with abuse. Walk away. Sometimes, the fastest way up is to step down from a toxic relationship. Best wishes to all of you beautiful ladies and keep your head high. You are amazing, don't let toxic Hmasculinity slow you down.
Same to men
Okay simp just stop, she will NEVER sleep with you. 😂
On repeat… I probably listened 200 times because this is what I’m going through right now.
Song well written and beautiful voice. Deeda thank you for writting and singing this song. Many hmong women need to hear this. I hope this helps empower women to love themselves and dont stay in abusive relationships. Keep up the great work. 👏
My ex use to say “this is why I can never marry you, XYZ”. and I literally worked like a dog and did everything for him. He was unloyal and barely working. So thank you for this empowering song.
Thank you & welcome. Know your worth!!
When a man doesn't want to marry you, that's his insecurity and a sign of lack of commitment.
Great song Deeda ❤ lyrics hits home 😢 I'm sure many of us can relate. We are not dumb we just love their ob lub eye xwb os. Enough tears lost. Thank you for another great song.
I cried when you sang this song during your concert in NC.
Thanks
Aww. I love this!! This song hit deep and some woman can relate...When we think they will change and give them more chances..in the end nothing change. Enough is enough..no more being nice and dump!! I can feel the hurt and pain in this song. To all the ladies, selflove is not selfish and know your worth!!
On repeat!
This is also a good song also for all broken men to fix his marriage. Sometimes we men become broken in marriage, and take it out on their wife. In order to fix, have to fix yourself as a broken man to becoming a more
Loving man.
Thanks
So much emotion tied into the lyrics of this song. This was beautifully composed and told through a story. Thank you, Deeda. You are my forever favorite female vocalist.
Thank you!!! 😢
Your first song about being a Hmong daughter in law stuck a chord in my broken 💔 heart. You did it again with this song. ♥️
Feeling worthless in this relationship enduring all this agony 😢. What a heartfelt song and lyrics pierces my aching heart right now. Great job Deeda.
Hope you're doing OK.
Such a beautiful song with a beautiful meaning behind it. Especially, for those who has lived it can so relate and feel the pain. Not sure why some people are offended by this song and can'thear the clear message. Smh. 🤦♀️It's not to encourage divorce, but to know your worth and it's okay to let go. Marriage isn't easy, but when enough is enough know when to walk away. Letting go someone you love is the hardest. Writing a meaningful song is not easy! Deeda, you wrote and sang it with such beauty! Honestly, there isn't a lot of songs like this out there! Don't let anyone discourage you! Can't wait for instrumental so I can karaoke it!! Keep writing and singing beautiful songs!! ❤❤
Thank you for continuing your artistry in music Deeda. God gifted you with a skill & you are uisng it to heal all Hmong women today. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Another beautiful song. Looking forward to your creative music video.
Damn Deeda! Most truthful song in such a long time
Thank you. Not true in my life but a lot can relate to
Omg, Deeda thank you so much, such a touchy song, so me and my husband 😭😭
Beautiful song, Deeda. The lyrics are powerful.
This song brings all things in the past and present. The way you sing the song and the lyrics got me crying, especially the sequence of the lyrics. You're an amazing artist and like the way your music is evolving.
Thank u
@@DibXwbniam laus kuv xav cover koj txoj nkauj luag leej tub vim kuv nyiam heev
@@DibXwb es koj puas kam kuv cover os
Deeda, this song has touched me and I've had in on repeat for a few days now. My husband of 22 years just passed away this July and this song was his and mines relationship. I loved him up to the morning he passed away in his sleep but I never was able to freely cry out my anger, sorrow and grief until now. I know I am still very young and I know not all men are alike but if I was in Hell once and just got out, I don't want to go back. Thank you.
Omg, sorry to hear that. It's so sad.
What a beautiful song and such a true meaning. Most of the time, it is the women who have to forgive and let it go if we want our relationship to work. But why should we continue to do that? We need to learn to let go because we deserve to be loved and cherish correctly.
Being in a toxic relationship is a big regret once you've bared to your last limit. Thaum tsis tau lig kav tsij khiav kom dim os. Lub neej nyob nrog txoj kev tsim txom siab ntsws ces tsua nyob tos ntsoov hnub tuag xwb tsis xav ua neeg nyob. It's torturing, only those who've been in the situation will understand the pain.
Y o g k a w g I agree too
Thank you for this song. I cried listening to this song. It reminded me of how my father treated my mother, and my step mom. He was ruthless when he was upset, and called them so many names. I tried my best to protect them, but my dad would start yelling at me. My mom snd step mom would feel bad and tell me not to say anything back to my dad... i dont know what to do anymore, and just pray they will have the strength to move on someday, or stand up for themself.
hugs!
Deeda you’re such a unique individual and your songs are so meaningful to me. This one and ua siab ntev has hit hard
We’ll written song Dib! I can hear and feel the emotions of the lyrics in this song. I’m in a happy marriage and can still feel all the emotions it comes with this song. Bravo!
Thank you
I love it. Thank you Deeda. This song is 1000000% esp txiv neej hmoob
Love the song so much already after listening to it once. Cov ntsias lus ua rau kuv mob siab tshaj li os.😭💔Such a huge fan of ur music Deeda❤️
Thank you for such a beautiful song Deeda! I cried so much listening to this songs. Hits so deep in my heart. 😢❤
Awww, let it out. Thank you os.
That’s why you got to marry someone you know forsho is down 100%. Not all men are the same. If someone wants u and love u they wouldn’t do what they do. That’s why be mindful before you head over hill. Bless ya all!
Hu tau zoo tiag tiag li os, Niam Laus.
Yeej yuav muaj tus hlub yus tiag tiag xwb os mog. Yeej muaj tus zoo rau yus xwb xwb.
Tus yus tau ntawd, nws tsis yog yus tus xwb os mog.
Xij peem os Deeda aw...koj twb zoo ntsej zoo muag thiab es mam nrhiav tus kom siab zoo2 los hlub koj mus lawm tom ntej es yeej tsis tau lig li os mog.
Lyrics spot on sister I would love to hear a male version in the future 👍
Yes, will have one
Yes please add a male version
miss deeda is gonna drop a BANGER every single time
☹️ reminds me of my parents' marriage... complete to the insults thrown at her. Unfortunately she couldn't leave him.
Same here. I cried listening to this song. It reminds me of the treatment my father bestowed on my mother and then my step mother. I have seen so many women, and some many, suffer in relationships like the one described in this song. ::(
This song got me everything 😢
And she does it again! Beautifully written and sung. Hlub22 koj os deeda 💕💕
Thank you so much!!
One of best meaning song to some real life of others. Love it. Keep up the good work.
Thank you
Zoo heev niam Lau ❤
This song is sung with the right lyrics in the right order in the right tone. I feel like it’s true for most women (Hmong women to be exact) going through. Deeda, can you also sing one about how in-laws called us nyabs with the same names? 😔 being a Hmong daughter isn’t the easiest. We are always told to be patient with our husband and in-laws that we’re losing ourselves in this “life” we’re living in trying to be the best wife and nyab. If you speak, you’re wrong. If you’re silenced then you’re basically absorbing all the negative comments.
Honestly A song I listen to 1 time for meaning then moving back to your old ones. Not that it’s bad, just honesty not everyone’s song. Bring back the joy of songs and upbeat like them old ones 😘
Thanks for this song Dee. The story of my life 😢😢😢😢
Great song. Describes so many relationships gone wrong. It's going to touch so many people. I always say to people...especially the bullies...just because you have the capacity to hate or bully doesn't mean that people LOVE YOU. They hate you just as much as you hate them. what makes you think you're so special? My only goal in life is to get rid of all the negativive people in my life. My mom used to let in all kinds of losers bc she considered them "friends" in her immense capacity to love and value ever little good thing she thought she needed. Once shewas gone, I slammed the door, locked it and threw away the key. MY LIFE improved by 1000%. Why should i waste MY TIME and energy to cater to people I dislike and don't respect? Ask yourself how many losers are in your life that you can kick out and do it. Clean house. it's about time people.
The lyrics from this song is from the heart and experiences. If you went through such experiences, sorry that you had to. I can relate. Thanks for doing what you do, great song!
Thank you. I didn't go thru this. It's what I saw from people around me.
Love it!! Seriously, the only Hmong meka singer that I like. I know making music for the Hmong community doesn’t bring much revenue, but remember to continue doing what you love even if it’s not for the money. ❤
Thank you very much
God created men and women very different. Unless we understand Gods plan for us, we will not have the peace and purpose for our lives
Thank you for this song. My relationship writing into a song!😭😭😭
Love this song. What a master piece. I love the tune in your voice when you sang the verses "tiaj teb ntawv no" and "tu tu lub siab, kua maug poob ntau lub."
Thank you os
Beautiful lyrics Deeda, even for those who are considering marriage.
This song is too true love it so much ❤
Love the lyrics! Definitely have so much meaning and very deep feelings. Sometime we just have to love ourself more to let him go❤
Deeda, love your songs and please continue. We need more deeper lyrics like this one
Thank you
There are lots of men and women in toxic marriages. Some marriages cannot be saved especially when its driving one or both to do sinful acts. I felt this song, the words are deep. Its for those who have been hurt by their spouse (damage beyond repair) but cant let go because they still love the other person.
Kho siab heev li os
I love love the lyrics! You are so good with Hmong words.
Nobody knows for sure what the future holds...
Just appreciate what you got, and keep going...
Damn. 😭 this has been on repeat for days.
Wow! I’m very impressed with the lyrics!! Telling it like it is! Great job!
Thank u
Nyiam heev li os zaj no na❤😢😅
I’m always amazed at how deep your lyrics are. Music to my ears as always.
Thank you!!!
Hu raug peb lub neej tshaj li os!!
To all the amazing Hmong women out there:
We embody remarkable strength, rooted in our traditions and the wisdom of our elders. We uphold the cherished role of being a great "nyab" and honor our husbands, elders, younger ones, and relatives. We adeptly manage household duties, care for our children, and attend events to show our respect.
In contrast to some other cultures where women have taken on more dominant roles, we remain steadfast in our commitment to our marriages, guided by the teachings of our elders. However, it's crucial to prioritize your mental well-being because it directly impacts your overall health. No one should endure unhappiness caused by an unappreciative partner.
Life is too precious to be engulfed in darkness, blaming yourself for not meeting unrealistic expectations. Choose your mental health, for it is essential to your happiness and fulfillment.
Wow... im speechless, every word is deep.
still one of the best female singer
Mloog tu siab kawg. Yog tus tus txiv tsis hlub tiag.
Love this! ❤ you never fail to amazed me Deeda!❤
This song Tu tu siab li os 😢
Really deeply meaningful 😢😢😢I think everyone have something hard life in a moments …
Omg I absolutely love this song. U never disappoint when u release a new song. I'm jamming to this new song. Love it ❤❤❤
Zaj nkauj no hu tau tu siab tshaj li😢
Hu tau zoo heev li os tu siab heev li os nyiam koj cov nkauj heev li
Love it. It’s very touchy
This is a beautiful song with such meaningful lyrics. ❤️❤️❤️
Hello Nas Ej Deeda, thank you for open up your life to this world. I understand your pain but knowing that there are lots of fish out there in ocean who are still waiting for your love and tender. Don't give up.
This song has nothing to do with her experience but her friend. She explained it in her short video!😉
Oh. I can't relate.
You are beautiful inside and outside as well 💕 ❤️ ♥️ 💛 😍
Yaaaaaaaaassssssssssss. Love the song.
Well written and sung. Save your heart ache, head ache. Love the one loves you and not the you love. Will do every thing for you and cherish you for life..... :)
hu zoo heev os
Great song, sing it from your heart!!!
The men too face the same! I like the song as a song itself! Keep up the good work!
Truth!
Thanks you for this lovely song.
Love your songs. Touching so many hearts.
Love it..!!!❤
Wow. You are my Hmong Taylor Swift!!!
I love you, you inspire me. I was once told that i reminded someone of deeda, so oneday i searched you up not knowing that i listened to your music just don't know who you are. Then started following you til this day. Love your songs and your personality. You are yourself, and you don't need anyone to make you happy. You can entertain yourself. You are an amazing woman.❤
Aww, thank you. I appreciate it. And you be amazing too!!!
Hais tau zoo kawg lis os
Beautiful sing and have a very strong meaning
Love song, amazing
Such a very touching song!!❤❤
Out of all your new songs, I like this one. Keep up your good work.
I really really love this song..... it really hits me deep 💔 great job on the lyrics deeda, it's like pain written in words
Wow..... Just wow... 🙌
Raug kiag txoj kev kv taug ❤😢
Beautifully said
sad when our brokenness seeps out and destroys the ones closest to us...
Love this ❤ Please learn to love yourself
True ❤ love it!!