It feels like to me that she has no clue what happened to them after their father ditched them as children and absolutely refused to understand their side of it all.
Maybe before knowing them she might not have known but when the brother mentioned 18 years worth child support anybody could understand he was not in their lives and even without all this relationships should be made not forced on anybody
OP NTA, the audacity of this broad. Im glad the brother and OP checked her. The fact they both talked & met the new wife before the father is crazy work.
No you are not a jerk and if she keeps on trying to make you and your brother have a relationship relationship with your half brother you should get a restraining order
NTA. wtf is she trying to accomplish here ? Is she miserable that she wants you guys to be miserable with her or something? Did the deadbeat neglect this lady too? Is that why she’s trying to get op and her brother with her ? Showing up at someone’s house when they repeatedly asked not to contact them is just obsessive asf .
She sounded bit like a stalker honestly I know op didn't say but the "unannounced" part and how the father left the country .in my opinion that seems like she got address from stalking
@@wolfiadarkangel yes, I feel like she’s stalking them too. Honestly, they should slowly document this crazy lady’s behavior so that if she goes ape sh*t in future, they’ll have enough documentation with them to get legal counseling
@@agirlwithglasses246 No need to document anything go after the late child support payments. Unpaid child support is subjected to interest so he will have to pay more than he was suppose to for 2 kids. The man is gonna run and she is gonna try to find him and it will solve their problems.
Here is the rest of the story: We found out because she contacted us on social media. We ignored her the first time then she reached out again. The first time she was like “hi I'm married to your Dad we just moved here we're expecting a child together and we want you to know your new brother”. The second time, it touched on the move and the expecting a baby together thing but also went into how important family is and how we might be upset with our father but we have an innocent sibling who would love to grow up with his older brother and sister in his life. There was such a strong attempt to guilt us into responding, all the mentions of her child being innocent, using the word brother instead of half brother, talking about generational mistakes, etc. We again didn't respond and she tried to send us individual messages after that. This angered my brother. He met her once and he told her he hoped our father would leave her son the way he left us, and then she'd understand why she was wrong to try to guilt us or claim we had any obligation to her child. He also mentioned that our father owed tens of thousands in child support, and that he hoped they wouldn't need that money because if she made contact one more time, he'd pursue it and he didn't care about the consequences. My brother told me he'd met her but didn't give details about how it went and I didn't ask. Then suddenly she shows up at my aunt and uncle's house. She wanted to talk or whatever, but she basically tried to put what my brother said on me and also tried to guilt me for not showing interest in her son. She was also hoping I would criticize my brother for what he said to her. I told her I wasn't going to turn against my brother in favor of her or her child. I also told her, I am not responsible for my brother's actions and refuse to take any responsibility because she wants me to. Then, I closed the door in her face I didn't let her inside even though she's heavily pregnant. Now, she created another social media account and told me how rude I was to her. Saying she just wanted me to say I didn't agree with all the Terrible Things my brother said to her. AITA?
The son of the man you got knocked up with basically laid it all down as to why he hates him and wants nothing to do with you or your baby and your reaction is “why aren’t they being nice I’m gonna go and tattle” and not “I don’t know the man I married I need to have a serious talk with him and maybe try and see if he can pay that child support he owes” or “maybe I should find a way out” shows you have no self respect. Self respecting women don’t do this and don’t defend this.
NTA. Go for the back child support. Go for compensation for the initial abandonment and emotional distress caused by their forced reappearance. Then a cease and desist letter and a restraining order against them for both of you.
Sounds like step-monster thought she was going to wheedle a couple of free caregivers out of the siblings. But instead got a reality check when the metaphorical door was slammed in her face.
NTA, she clearly doesn't respect OP or the brother's feelings on the matter, that being said if the bro and/or OP went for the child support then kinda the Ahole, cuz owed or noth they'd be indirectly taking it out on the new child who doesn't need to get caught up in all that.
OP is better than me, I would've inmediately said "I'm not going to correct him because I agree with him" and then closed the door in her face lmao. Then block as many accounts as she makes.
Nta, make an accound and say you standby everything your brother said and you will go after the money if she contacts ypu again, and when she does, actally do it
NTA your dad wasn’t there for you guys but now he wants to run off and have a happy family with someone else and raise that kid with no complaints and expects you guys to be OK with that when he wasn’t even there to raise you and your brother. I would’ve told him I want nothing to do with him and as far as I know, we are not related that new child you had is the only child you should consider your own.
Before coming to the US I didn’t know what the term half sibling meant💀because where I’m from we’re just siblings 🤣🤣🤣how do u have a half sibling🤣🤣🤣🤣are yall related or not
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Nta, you guys should go for the money honestly.
Definitely go for the owed child support. And file restraining order on step mom
@@ri.b.8700absolutely!
Exactly since she wants to force herself in there lives if they take all that money she won’t have anything for her son
Yep tell her I will think about it after he pays for the missing child support
NTA he owes them everything the least he can do is pay them.
Sue them for child support. She’ll be running back to her home country real quick.
and he will probably flee the country and ditch her too.
It feels like to me that she has no clue what happened to them after their father ditched them as children and absolutely refused to understand their side of it all.
Maybe before knowing them she might not have known but when the brother mentioned 18 years worth child support anybody could understand he was not in their lives and even without all this relationships should be made not forced on anybody
Sounds like she did know and is the most tone-deaf person around.
Pursue 18 years worth of owed Child Support.
OP NTA, the audacity of this broad. Im glad the brother and OP checked her. The fact they both talked & met the new wife before the father is crazy work.
Nta, tell your brother about it and that he should sue for what is owed, your brother warned her, she knew the consequences when she approached you
No you are not a jerk and if she keeps on trying to make you and your brother have a relationship relationship with your half brother you should get a restraining order
NTA I would go after the child support now. And get a retraining order she nuts
Girl wants free babysitters lol...
1:06 for shorts
NTA
I would contact your brother and take legal action also report her for harassment
I would actually go through with the brothers words and get that child support
NTA. I swear all the people in these stories are delusional. SMH😒
NTA. wtf is she trying to accomplish here ? Is she miserable that she wants you guys to be miserable with her or something? Did the deadbeat neglect this lady too? Is that why she’s trying to get op and her brother with her ? Showing up at someone’s house when they repeatedly asked not to contact them is just obsessive asf .
She sounded bit like a stalker honestly I know op didn't say but the "unannounced" part and how the father left the country
.in my opinion that seems like she got address from stalking
@@wolfiadarkangel yes, I feel like she’s stalking them too. Honestly, they should slowly document this crazy lady’s behavior so that if she goes ape sh*t in future, they’ll have enough documentation with them to get legal counseling
@@agirlwithglasses246 definitely
@@agirlwithglasses246 No need to document anything go after the late child support payments. Unpaid child support is subjected to interest so he will have to pay more than he was suppose to for 2 kids. The man is gonna run and she is gonna try to find him and it will solve their problems.
Here is the rest of the story:
We found out because she contacted us on social media. We ignored her the first time then she reached out again. The first time she was like “hi I'm married to your Dad we just moved here we're expecting a child together and we want you to know your new brother”. The second time, it touched on the move and the expecting a baby together thing but also went into how important family is and how we might be upset with our father but we have an innocent sibling
who would love to grow up with his older brother and sister in his life. There was such a strong attempt to guilt us into responding, all the mentions of her child being innocent, using the word brother instead of half brother, talking about generational mistakes, etc. We again didn't respond and she tried to send us individual messages after that. This angered my brother. He met her once and he told her he hoped our father would leave her son the way he left us, and then she'd understand why she was wrong to try to guilt us or claim we had any obligation to her child. He also mentioned that our father owed tens of thousands in child support, and that he hoped they wouldn't need that money because if she made contact one more time, he'd pursue it and he didn't care about the consequences. My brother told me he'd met her but didn't give details about how it went and I didn't ask. Then suddenly she shows up at my aunt and uncle's house. She wanted to talk or whatever, but she basically tried to put what my brother said on me and also tried to guilt me for not showing interest in her son. She was also hoping I would criticize my brother for what he said to her. I told her I wasn't going to turn against my brother in favor of her or her child. I also told her, I am not responsible for my brother's actions and refuse to take any responsibility because she wants me to. Then, I closed the door in her face I didn't let her inside even though she's heavily pregnant. Now, she created another social media account and told me how rude I was to her. Saying she just wanted me to say I didn't agree with all the Terrible Things my brother said to her. AITA?
Is there any updates?
Where’s the rest of the story? You just repeated what was said. Fool
Sue them
Nta, sue em. They want contact so badly, they can have it through checks they send to u
Nta, the new woman is in for a world of hurt with that dad though 😬
I for one actually do agree with what the brother said and I think yall should just pursue leggally bc of child Support!!
Just do it!! No threats!
NTA also why would Op turn on her brother, who she has know her whole life for a women that’s tryna barge into their life?
Bet dad does the same to new wife
I say go to court and ask for back child support
NTA, go get that back support for your Aunt and uncle who actually care for you. She's got a boatload of audacity.
Her brother and op owe her nothing but her husband owed them child support
The son of the man you got knocked up with basically laid it all down as to why he hates him and wants nothing to do with you or your baby and your reaction is “why aren’t they being nice I’m gonna go and tattle” and not “I don’t know the man I married I need to have a serious talk with him and maybe try and see if he can pay that child support he owes” or “maybe I should find a way out” shows you have no self respect. Self respecting women don’t do this and don’t defend this.
Who the hell contacts a stranger, demands things from them and call them rude when they say no?
NTA. Go for the back child support. Go for compensation for the initial abandonment and emotional distress caused by their forced reappearance. Then a cease and desist letter and a restraining order against them for both of you.
Then say, you feel the same. Block her, end of discussion. NTA, the audacity!
Lmao youtube autoplay went to the song : praise abort - till lindemann. After this video 😂😂😂😂
He shouldn't have closed the door yet. He should have said he agreed with every word.
The children can still sue for child support. It never goes away.
I agree with OP. The current wife will learn what she got into. As for back pay, I would have a lawyer and sue the Sperm donor! lol
Sounds like step-monster thought she was going to wheedle a couple of free caregivers out of the siblings. But instead got a reality check when the metaphorical door was slammed in her face.
NTA, she clearly doesn't respect OP or the brother's feelings on the matter, that being said if the bro and/or OP went for the child support then kinda the Ahole, cuz owed or noth they'd be indirectly taking it out on the new child who doesn't need to get caught up in all that.
OP is better than me, I would've inmediately said "I'm not going to correct him because I agree with him" and then closed the door in her face lmao. Then block as many accounts as she makes.
Say you'll be a sibling to her child when your deadbeat dad pays back child support
Nta, make an accound and say you standby everything your brother said and you will go after the money if she contacts ypu again, and when she does, actally do it
NTA your dad wasn’t there for you guys but now he wants to run off and have a happy family with someone else and raise that kid with no complaints and expects you guys to be OK with that when he wasn’t even there to raise you and your brother. I would’ve told him I want nothing to do with him and as far as I know, we are not related that new child you had is the only child you should consider your own.
wtf is this woman's problem lmao
Before coming to the US I didn’t know what the term half sibling meant💀because where I’m from we’re just siblings 🤣🤣🤣how do u have a half sibling🤣🤣🤣🤣are yall related or not