other holiday-related resources that may be helpful: 🎄🕎Tips for Staying Sober During the Holidays (or Supporting a Loved One's Sobriety)" 👉🏻ruclips.net/video/G718wM7V-X4/видео.html 🎁Is it Okay to Give Gifts to Someone Who Has Addiction Problems?"👉🏻 ruclips.net/user/liveB3ojN4AeY-U
Holy moly!! If it wasn’t for your gorgeous kind eyes I almost didn’t recognize you! You look amazing - thank you so much and for all you do and all your info
I don’t know how it comes about but I would love to see a call in show with you as an expert….. Hope this next year brings you continued success in both your personal and professional life…. I appreciate your concise and compassionate advice….
Love what you just said about being in nature, this is my favorite thing and my go to for everything. I was living in my own little five acres sanctuary and I miss it and having a difficult time since I moved and don’t have it now.
Away for holidays in Mexico, love not being “at home”. It’s not a present giving place. Warmth and food, smiles. Been here for holidays a lot, sun, walking on beach and swimming.
Amber, You are So Good at what you do! Thank you So So much for everything that you (all y’all) do for us! You look Marvelous, dear! I wish you all a Very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year! With love, Connie Aka: Cj Gia
Wow …… you are looking awesome 😍 Am having a hard time concentrating on what you’re saying cos I,m admiring how gorgeous you are looking,! Blessed Happy Holidays to you Xx
As an adult, my adult siblings don't connect with me during the year. And I feel it's fake to send me a say Merry Christmas text or phone call with their spouse if they choose not to talk to me during the year. I feel very disconnected ✋ Ill be taking lots of walks this next week.
My brother is in jail. He went in before t giving and now it's Christmas. I debated on sending him a card. He's alone. He is angry, his son is mad at the world and is staying away from everyone. I had to stay home here out of state. I cried a few times even though I've been invited to visit friends but I know I can rely on my faith.
I remember when my husband and I decided not to drink at a party. It was not received well, but not the worst. I said I couldn't drink because I was on antibiotics.
@ColtraneAndRain I'm feeling your pain, Sista😭 do you have any tips on how to handle this situation & how do you address the issue with your family member about drugs? I've tried everything! I'm basically never home these days BC I can't look @ it.. my nerves can't take it! 😢💔🙌🏻
@@anitabowdon9932 I just had to put the problem back in their lap. Let the consequences fall at their feet, not mine. It's hard to stop enabling, but I think that's the only way. I really had to take the "not my circus, not my monkey" approach. It's not easy, but I still have to live. So I go about my day, knowing that things still need to get done. It's hard some days, allow for sadness and seek self care. That's how I manage.
Hi Amber ,,, ❤ the new look ,, I hope you have a happy Christmas break …..Enabling for Xmas,, 🎄 the gift 🎁 ,, you just keep on giving,,let them back into your life for Christmas spirit is addictive , New Year’s resolution not to do that again next year 🎉 excuse,,I must have been drunk ,, New Year’s sobering 💭 thought
This is definitely not alanon... she isn't labeling she is speaking to us in terms that are easier to understand. Instead of focusing on being completely PC, she helps us focus on the right things to say and do to help our loved ones. If alanon works for you, that is great. This is helping us with real life advice to help our addicted loved ones and also helps our loved ones. Amber is always saying this is not a label and tells us the right thing to say, please consider how much we lose in the message when she would have to be focused on being PC 100%. I'm far more grateful for the advice, it has helped me help my loved one so much. I tried alanon, there was no advice and so much focus on being PC on the calls that it wasn't helpful. Amber please don't feel like you need to change the way you speak, all of us that have been listening for years appreciate your 'real' talk. And thank you for all you do!! Merry Christmas!!
@ wow, MD! I was watching RUclips and I saw this comment pop up! I feel so validated. Like I big hug 🤗 thank you so much for having my back 🙏You’re the best!
@PutTheShovelDown Honestly YOU are the best! I tried everything before I finally stumbled across one of your videos. YOU are a game changer for someone that wants to help their loved one not leave them. Doesn't mean that there aren't bumps in the road along the way but you are REAL, with REAL advice, talking to us like we are REAL people. Our loved ones are certainly not being PC and i would much rather pay attention to the helpful advice than pick apart the way you EFFECTIVELY get your point across. This is not meant to admonish anyone, just to remind why we are watching/listening to begin with. I was so excited to see this message because i myself have been like a psychonado this season because of my own issues lol. Thank you for the reminders and tips you gave. Some will help me personally. If my truth makes you feel validated, that is a fantastic bonus!
other holiday-related resources that may be helpful:
🎄🕎Tips for Staying Sober During the Holidays (or Supporting a Loved One's Sobriety)" 👉🏻ruclips.net/video/G718wM7V-X4/видео.html
🎁Is it Okay to Give Gifts to Someone Who Has Addiction Problems?"👉🏻
ruclips.net/user/liveB3ojN4AeY-U
@@PutTheShovelDown tyvm for your videos & support! Much appreciated 🙏🏻💚🎀🌲
!!!! Your hair looks fantastic!
I agree, it is gorgeous!!!!
Awww thanks 😊☺️
Agree, looks great
It does. It looks amazing
You have such beautiful eyes !!! Thank you so much for supporting us
@@glendiriotsz9620 thank you for your kind words and support!
I love your high lighted hair! You have beautiful eyes, too.
Thank you for the good tips.
@@vanoverd thank you so much!!!!
Holy moly!! If it wasn’t for your gorgeous kind eyes I almost didn’t recognize you! You look amazing - thank you so much and for all you do and all your info
Aww thank you for the kind words! 😊
Every day is a challenge and listening to you really helps
I don’t know how it comes about but I would love to see a call in show with you as an expert…..
Hope this next year brings you continued success in both your personal and professional life….
I appreciate your concise and compassionate advice….
I knew everyone would compliment you! Well deserved! Looks like your you’re putting in some work! Congrats!
Awww thanks! I'm trying! 😁
Love what you just said about being in nature, this is my favorite thing and my go to for everything. I was living in my own little five acres sanctuary and I miss it and having a difficult time since I moved and don’t have it now.
You are an amazing support and this morning your words were especially helpful. ❤
Look at you amber !! Looking fab I love this look on you . Happy holidays
@@TorinoYoga4335 awww thanks! Having to go with lighter hair cause my greys are coming in too fast! 😜😜😜
Away for holidays in Mexico, love not being “at home”. It’s not a present giving place. Warmth and food, smiles. Been here for holidays a lot, sun, walking on beach and swimming.
@@nancyluff that sounds awesome!
I love your hair like this! 😍
Awww thank you 😊☺️
Holidays are so hard.
On a separate note.. You look amazing Amber!
@@AMM3. awwww thanks!
Amber,
You are So Good at what you do! Thank you So So much for everything that you (all y’all) do for us!
You look Marvelous, dear!
I wish you all a Very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!
With love,
Connie
Aka: Cj Gia
You're too kind, Connie! Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to you, too! 🎄🎉
You look beautiful. Thank you for your videos, it has helped.
Awww, thanks so much! 🙏
You look beautiful, your hair color and style with the hoop earrings looks great, looks like your face has slimmed down. Merry Christmas Amber
Thank you, Patricia! You're too kind!
Wow! Glamorous
Oh Amber... You are speaking from my heart ❤️... My daughter passed away September 27th from a rare disease battle
WOWZZZZ your hair is gorgeous!! ❤️
Awwww, thanks 😀😀😀❣️
Thank you for your content. You look beautiful!
Thank you so much for watching!
Wow …… you are looking awesome 😍 Am having a hard time concentrating on what you’re saying cos I,m admiring how gorgeous you are looking,! Blessed Happy Holidays to you Xx
Awwww, you're making me blush! 😁😊
Looking good!
The moms at PALs were just saying that we can "opt out."
💯💯💯
As an adult, my adult siblings don't connect with me during the year. And I feel it's fake to send me a say Merry Christmas text or phone call with their spouse if they choose not to talk to me during the year. I feel very disconnected ✋ Ill be taking lots of walks this next week.
Wow, you look stunning! 🤩
Oh thank you!
My brother is in jail. He went in before t giving and now it's Christmas. I debated on sending him a card. He's alone. He is angry, his son is mad at the world and is staying away from everyone. I had to stay home here out of state. I cried a few times even though I've been invited to visit friends but I know I can rely on my faith.
Love your new look !
🎄🎁🧑🎄
I don’t like the holidays
Feel lonely alot 😢
It’s stressful
Merry Christmas 🎄
Merry Christmas, Florence!
I remember when my husband and I decided not to drink at a party. It was not received well, but not the worst. I said I couldn't drink because I was on antibiotics.
You look so beautiful!!
Thank you so much! Your too kind
No kept it small and simple and positive
Take care everyone.
Yeppers 👍 my sister made a snide comment to my son about his not drinking 😢😮
Thought you were Kim - so so cute hair! And you!
@@rosebird3021 thanks Rose, My Frey was clashing too hard with the dark hair!😳😜
😢I have an addicted family member who happens to be on drugs! But I'm trying really hard to smile! Over the holidays!! What can I do??
I've been faking it 😢
@ColtraneAndRain I'm feeling your pain, Sista😭 do you have any tips on how to handle this situation & how do you address the issue with your family member about drugs? I've tried everything! I'm basically never home these days BC I can't look @ it.. my nerves can't take it! 😢💔🙌🏻
@@anitabowdon9932 I just had to put the problem back in their lap. Let the consequences fall at their feet, not mine. It's hard to stop enabling, but I think that's the only way. I really had to take the "not my circus, not my monkey" approach. It's not easy, but I still have to live. So I go about my day, knowing that things still need to get done. It's hard some days, allow for sadness and seek self care. That's how I manage.
Gorgeous
😁thanks
🤚
I feel very separate on the inside
I went from black hair to her color. Certainly made her look 20 pounds lighter
👯♀️. My grey hair showed up way too much against the dark hair. Had to make the change.😅
@PutTheShovelDown me too
@PutTheShovelDown but you should put some black streaks in because it shows your blue eyes better. I always wanted blue eyes
Hi Amber ,,, ❤ the new look ,, I hope you have a happy Christmas break …..Enabling for Xmas,, 🎄 the gift 🎁 ,, you just keep on giving,,let them back into your life for Christmas spirit is addictive , New Year’s resolution not to do that again next year 🎉 excuse,,I must have been drunk ,, New Year’s sobering 💭 thought
@@davidcasson5602 thank you, David!
Absolutely you should hold back on gifts for your daughter. She owes you money and as an adult she hasn’t paid the loan back.
We say qualifier in Alanon because we don't think it's correct to label our person.
Thanks for the feedback on this Kathleen!
This is definitely not alanon... she isn't labeling she is speaking to us in terms that are easier to understand. Instead of focusing on being completely PC, she helps us focus on the right things to say and do to help our loved ones. If alanon works for you, that is great. This is helping us with real life advice to help our addicted loved ones and also helps our loved ones. Amber is always saying this is not a label and tells us the right thing to say, please consider how much we lose in the message when she would have to be focused on being PC 100%. I'm far more grateful for the advice, it has helped me help my loved one so much. I tried alanon, there was no advice and so much focus on being PC on the calls that it wasn't helpful. Amber please don't feel like you need to change the way you speak, all of us that have been listening for years appreciate your 'real' talk. And thank you for all you do!! Merry Christmas!!
@ wow, MD! I was watching RUclips and I saw this comment pop up! I feel so validated. Like I big hug 🤗 thank you so much for having my back 🙏You’re the best!
@PutTheShovelDown Honestly YOU are the best! I tried everything before I finally stumbled across one of your videos. YOU are a game changer for someone that wants to help their loved one not leave them. Doesn't mean that there aren't bumps in the road along the way but you are REAL, with REAL advice, talking to us like we are REAL people. Our loved ones are certainly not being PC and i would much rather pay attention to the helpful advice than pick apart the way you EFFECTIVELY get your point across. This is not meant to admonish anyone, just to remind why we are watching/listening to begin with. I was so excited to see this message because i myself have been like a psychonado this season because of my own issues lol. Thank you for the reminders and tips you gave. Some will help me personally. If my truth makes you feel validated, that is a fantastic bonus!
This Christmas sucks l won't get my dentures until after Christmas
I hear that.. also waiting on dentures.. good luck to you 😊
Yes your hair is great!
I swear you’ve lost weight
Thank you, Leslie! ❣️❣️❣️
Say chemically dependent loved one
Good advice!
In Naranon we say ALO
What is ALO?
@karenherrera287 Addicted Loved One
How about addicted loved one a l o. AL0 asin an aloe vera pronunciation