Jordan Peterson: The Psychology of Bullying
HTML-код
- Опубликовано: 9 фев 2022
- Jordan Peterson and Rav Arora talk about bullying experiences and the psychology of bullying and victimhood mentality.
Rav Arora is an independent journalist based in Vancouver. He writes on a wide range of topics. Jordan Peterson is professor of psychology at the University of Toronto.
#Peterson #Arora
My bullies weren’t interested in figuring out the mystery of me. They were interested in inflicting suffering on me.
That’s a method of testing you
That is how you figure out the mystery of someone.
@@manhupta3005 thats a method of being evil and ruining an innocent childs life being terrified of people more than death itself. no excuse they deserve same treatment as ones in prison if you knew the longterm damage it does
There is a difference between testing someone or trying to figure out the mystery of someone (why not just talk to them and ask them straight away?) and abuse. Gossiping, spreading lies, sabotaging them, destroying their property, verbal abuse, physical abuse, sexual abuse is not testing someone or trying to figure out the mystery of someone. It is plain and simply abuse and the person who is the victim of that doesn't matter at all to the bullies but superficially, this person is only an object for the bullies to feel superiour over and satisfy their sadistic pleasures.
@@manmanman2000You can't figure out the mystery of someone by talking usually.
Because its easy to say the right things and show the right persona.
How someone handles conflict is when you truly get to know them.
Bullying doesn't stop after you finish school, the bullies just get older, but never wiser. Join a corporate environment and see for yourself the egomaniacs that proliferate these spaces. Some people don't grow out of it, and that's the saddest part. It stems mostly from insecurity, fear, and envy.
Seems like there is a lot of talk about bullying but most of the content talks about kids. I wasn't bullied til I was 28. It's gone on 5 years now in my condo association and it makes me want to end my life.
And they get more sly and devious, bullies are pathetic and small minded
Yes for sure and not all elderly people are sweet old people either. They are awfuls from the cradle to the grave. What a legacy being a lifelong bully. Not much to be proud of.
@@angelofchrist4494they are always over obsessed with small stuff that doesn't even impact them.
@@neasahayes6044 bullies are virmin
I was bullied until I fought my bully and easily won. I was never bullied again.
Yeah but what you do as a 40 years old woman that gets bullied by a 63 year old man and his wife and son who is police man and their other son and his daughter in laws and their friends? What you do then?
this is THE ONLY WAY.
I was bullied in school and then I attacked my bully. I was suspended from school for two weeks. When I came back to school he still bullied me but it was never as bad as it was before. almost as if he understood a line that could not be crossed. I was always told that words are only words but if someone touches you then you can do what you need to do.
He never touched me again and I never attacked him again. I feel that pain is a message that works. I do not fuck around with people, Not because I care about their feelings but because they could hurt or even kill me. I stay near the people who are kind and do not talk to the people who are not.
The reason you are bullied is because you don’t have support from your family and are pushed around in some way at home. Bullies sniff out the kids who have had their boundaries broken, and it wasn’t them that did it.
This is very true
You are absolutely right, this happens. And the same for kids that are sexually abused in churches, mosques, scouting and sports clubs by older kids and adults: they sniff out the ones that have already been "taught" to take it.
This is so true.
When I came to my job I wanted to be friends with my bully boss. After my ex beat me up so bad I had to call in, I let it slip. I told her and sent her pictures of me black, blue, and green. She got angry out of no where. She said I was stupid for allowing a white man to beat me. I needed to leave. She was done with me.
After I came back to work she began beating on me just like he was. She saw the chink in my armor and wanted to exploit it. It’s changed me forever. First my partner then my boss. I went in circles for years. Someone pushing here, pulling there, pushing me down over there. Now I feel like I’m tarnished and branded at this job. But where am I gonna go? I almost can’t leave my home, drive, sleep, talk to people, think, I’m failing my college classes and I can’t pull myself out.
This is the protection culture that appears in prison and some people let it stain their brain. Hence bullies
my problem is that exactly my family (2 sister and one brother ) is the biggest bullies ever I have faced. And still nowadays that we are old they still gang-up to bully and make me feel bad, talking horrible thing behind my back, and dispose me after being abused with the most humiliating accusation and falsehood and sometime even insult about my faith or my psychological well being ... it's horrible They ve been picking and picking on me whenever they had a chance and then in front of friends or in public acting like we are a lob=vable family. then they give you silent treatment whenever you dare to defend yourself... It's a nightmare. I am emotionally broken and the perpetrators are on my own family! and whenever they do this to another brother of mine whom they think is a easy pray and I stand for him, they put us in a basket of the bad persons!
I’m 33 and I regret not saying something, ANYTHING to those bullies. In middle school there was a kid named Vinny who was not even an acquaintance to me. However, he was an empathetic and kind person. He was the only person in my class who had the audacity to call out our classmate Nicole, as a racist. I will never forget his kindness and I can’t shake off the pain and shame from being a quiet wallflower who didn’t deserve to be humiliated in class. My bully is now an elementary teacher and I hope she’s grown out of her racism.
Ofcourse she gravitated towards a position of power 🫠
no if anything she's probably gotten worse
@@felistasmayombo3346 not really. A "position of power" ... if the only people she can dominate are kids then she is clearly powerless in an adult world.
Agreed..i wish i said something to those bullies.
This is where I disagree with Jordan... More often than not, bullies will not stop if you just laugh it off. You need to learn to hit back.
You're not entirely wrong, but he has stated in the past that if a bully doesn't stop, you need to stand up for yourself, because that is sometimes the only way to stop them. But in some cases, bullying might smooth itself over if you don't let the bullying (assuming it isn't severe) get too far under your skin.
I can think of three times as a young boy where I was being bullied. I found a quick left hook followed by a straight right cured them of their bully image.
For kids, yeah most probably (a lEdson zI learned at age 8). In adult life, your being will disable or nip in the bud any kind of bullying and make it impossible.
Yes , if you laugh stuff off there will always be people who will use that to bully you even more because you don't fight back , especially the weaker ones.
Yes they have to be scared of you or you lose always
How to defend yourself when you bullies are adults - teachers
And your parents wouldn’t have your back
I used to and still hear this all the time, “feel sorry for a bully, who knows whats happening in their home or life.” I let a lot of people off the hook during my youth because of this reasoning. Now that I am older, I realize thats not necessarily the case. Not all bullies are experiencing hardship as many would like to think. And, even if they are going through hardship, they are in no right to inflict pain to others. It is important to not ignore bullying or take it lightly. The bully wants to harm you period and its not right. By not doing much about the bullying, you are also teaching the bully how they should treat you. If you don’t like it then be direct and don’t beat around the bush. People need to stop being so empathetic to these people as they can care less about you, and derive pleasure in hurting others. Thats nothing to be empathetic about.
They don't deserve a drop of sympathy.
I was trying to find a video on the phycology of bullies who do not have a bad home life that is something I've not heard about before in description and something I'm more interested in learning at the moment
All bullies are narcissistic or toxic people with no moral compass.
I was bullied by a boy,then i asked him to meet me where no one is there.Then i told him about my life circumstances and also told how i feel,and asked him that you can be a better person.And then he turned into a really good person lol😂.
Yeah right, like psychopaths and sadistic people care 😂
People bully those they perceive as different. I saw it with Hispanic kids in my school. The ones that were completely indoctrinated into the culture and fit it perfectly were accepted, but the Hispanic kids that only spoke Spanish and dressed different were mocked and teased. It's not about race it's just people's perception of "different" from the rest.
No. There were plenty of people who were different and got along at my school. People were different from me and I never had an urge to be cruel to them.
@@pod9363 bullying has always been linked to tribalism or otherism. Just because you didn't experience it doesn't mean it is false.
@@amnfox pod is probably a bully himself lol
@@pod9363 both of our point of views are subjective in nature and therefore neither of us have the ability to tell the other person they're incorrect, but tribalism is a pretty well-known aspect of mankind and is that the root of a lot of historical conflicts.
I was bullied. Not physically bullied. Told teachers. Held mediation meetings with the principal and super Intendant. The bullying continued.
It was only during lunch time outside that I smashed a rock into the bully’s face. I broke his nose and smashed his entire front teeth.
I was actually let back into the high school after more 10 teachers came to my defense along with several dozen students about this bully and his behavior.
Needless to say I was NEVER bullied again in school for the four years i was there. Never ever.
Did they all clap and cheer too?
This never happened. Fake story.
Good for you. His legs should've been broken too.
@@Mr_Mistah you sound like one of them (in denial)
If your bully was not a pathetic coward, but someone who would square up to you one-on-one without hesitation, this story could have a very different outcome. If I'd have tried that with some people, I would have ended up being hurt extremely badly
Sometimes fighting is the biggest out
I was bullied horribly when I was young, we were so poor and the clothes I wore were probably obvious how poor my family was. But once it started it didn't stop even when I got to wear better clothes. It hurt but it also made my heart hard. That's the part that I still deal with, the hard heart
I'm so sorry you suffered and I feel your pain. Its so hard to let it go but you are strong and you will heal. Start taking your walls down and your heart will soften. Most people are kind. Xx
you could have em beat to death. the only way you come close to this is when you realize this is was a never-ending cycle. you become obsessed with death that you no longer fear pain and want to live so freely that you are ready to fight death. doesnt matter if you don't have technique skills or muscle to power through your enemies. But the will to spit at their faces when they beat you to hell. the reason to live for yourself takes over and you only fear your own inhibitions that stop you from them.
So it wasn't the clothes. And you're still abusing yourself after all these years.
Most likely you were bullied cause you were choosing to act stupid haha
@@Kochos Jesus, what is wrong with you
@@terrioestreich4007 well there you go, you engage in ad-hominem insults instead of taking an outside observer's advice and treating it as a sample size.
You're already behaving very annoyingly online, let alone IRL. Looks like you werent getting bullied but smacked for being annoying. Learn to put yourself on the cross and examine where you have been fucking up. Self disrespect send s signals outwards to otheres to disrespect you further
It is evil to suppprt bullying.
Yeah Peterson is an evil grifter and and idiot.
To anyone who was ever bullied, the pain caused to you is the reason you have the strength you do today. Although it hurt you, you have to always rise above and understand the people who bullied you did so because of their own insecurities and struggles. The suffering you experienced has built you up more than it has brought you down. Use that power to better the world and the people around you 💪
@PANTHERA where are you what's going on ?
Panthera
💗💗💗💗💗
The pain caused to me is the reason I have such little strength today.
The people who inflicted pain on me did so to try and impress others in their group and outside, especially female children. It had nothing to do with their own insecurities and struggles.
The suffering I experienced has not had any beneficial effect, it has contributed substantially to why, in my 40s, I can't write all of my achievements on the back of a postage stamp
@@kryzondaan1855 hi mate, I've just seen your reply. I didn't expect a reply after so long. I'm no therapist or expert but if you want/need someone to talk to, whether it's about stuff like that or for anything else I'd be happy to get in touch with you and talk. To be honest I could do with a completely unbiased conversation myself haha. And as little as your achievements may be in your eyes I know to someone else there is an entire list of things you have achieved for them.
Some bullies bully because they have reason, some are insecure ,and some are assholes. It's not because of mystery. I got bullied because I annoy them and they find me weird.
I experienced bullying as well. I used to live in a very small village with around 700 people. Everybody knew everyone. My family didn't attend the church service in this village. We attended a different church a little bit further away. In addition, most people there were farmers. My family wasn't. And we were 7 children and people did not understand why my parents had so many children, did not conform to their church and were not part of their farmers guild. I was bullied a lot at school. Kids would pretend that I was somehow "infectious" if they touched me. So they'd touch me and then run to an other child trying to touch them while screaming "I infected you!". I also remember that older boys around the age of 12-14 would run after my brothers trying to physically tackle them and push their heads in the snow. My brothers were only 7-9 years old and significantly smaller. I was around 10 years old and I vividly remember fighting those big boys physically with all I had in me, because I was scared for my younger brothers safety. I worried that they might suffocate if those big boys push their heads in the snow too long. I learned to fight for myself and for others and as traumatic as the bullying was, it made me stronger and I learned to grow a backbone.
My family later decided to move to a different village. The village was much bigger and we stuck less out. I really liked going to school there. I acctually made some of my first school friends and I didn't need to worry about safety or bullying anymore. I'm so grateful that my parents decided to move to a different village.
Kids can be brutal. But sometimes their bullying helps you further down in life... 🤔🤷
Well done you .
Well not always some never recover
@@ClarkBent68 they take their trauma to the grave....that's why they say adversity in your life reveals the type of person you are.
@@ClarkBent68 if you fight back you're no longer a victim so you don't need to "recover". those who never recover never had bravery to fight for themselves and still stuck in a victim mode.
Brave guy to open up about what must have been some very painful memories.
I find that most bullies (in early life) are the way that they are because of problematic issues at home. They are often bullied and abused themselves in some way by family members or they hear racist, bigoted, etc language at home.
That's true, or just they have never been told how to behave and once they grow up the damage is done
Bullying is also a trait of narcissistic personality disorder.
@@gaia7240 I think what you said is very true there a lot of kids who’s parents aren’t mean they just have a hard time accepting that their son or daughter might be as they see it as a personal attack when they should be objective and see if maybe their kid is bullying and then discipline the kid.
Doesn't justify anything, never have sympathy for bullies. NEVER
I think they are born with the ability to be assholes and the cunning to get away with it. For some no one need ever teach them. They somehow just know. It's an animal instinct. They should still never be left off the hook.
I've had my fair share of bullying through high school, but one thing I learned is that the reasons bullies use to make fun of you are just that - reasons. It could be about skin color, it could be because you're weird, it could be because you're fat, doesn't matter. The important thing to recognize is the underlying process of it: The act of bullying is an act of dominance in the essence, if you back off and don't stand up for yourself, the bullying continues and you get no respect. If you stand up for yourself, the bullying stops and you get respected. It's very primal at it's core.
I keep failing to understand this…honestly I don’t like the process at all
I disagree. I attempted to stand up for myself only to be humiliated and even bullied harder. Your comment may be real to you, but it wasn’t real for me. I stand up for myself many times, and it only made things worse. Also: I can’t phisically fight and my punches were laughable which was the problem.
If you’re being dominated by someone standing up for yourself often doesn’t work unless you literally totally kick their ass in a humiliating way. Someone who is verbally dominating you or pulling rank on you who has group favor there’s literally almost nothing you can do
There is a lot to be learned from this message. Thank you.
Dr. Peterson firstly thank you. Secondly I would like to say you are a hero for me and many others. I was getting to a very dark place when I first came into contact with you in a clip on Crowder or maybe Ben shapiro and I thought "go get em guy tell the other team how their outlook and behavior is wrong".so I started watching your lectures and debates with the intention to watch you school others and simply got schooled. You pointed out many things that I known about myself but refused to admit because I couldn't see a solution. Then you gave a few minor life and point of view change tips that opened my eyes to all these new paths and opportunities.
I’m just watching a documentary about Nadia Hussain, she was terribly bullied by her own religion pupils, the bullying was really extreme, far more than my experience of being bullied. She had her fingers deliberately put between a fire door and it was repeatedly slammed, hair pulled until it bled, at my school this would have been stopped, that’s England, in this day. Her head was put down a toilet and repeatedly flushed. I’m crying for her, all because she was a little darker than other Muslims, her tormentors were boys, in my school boys were taught to protect girls.
As horrifying and unfortunate what you have mentioned is, I don't appreciate how the cause of bullying is attributed to religion, when I can clearly judge solely by your words, since I haven't watched said documentary, that the difference is clearly based on color (lighter-darker) and gender (boys-Nadia).
@@Me-mi8tk They never said the bulliying was about religion, just pointing out that the bullying took place where both parties were the same religion.
@@allature Exactly. Even though it was not a factor, it was mentioned twice.
@@Me-mi8tk Spoken as somebody who has never studied muslim history or the Quran. You won't be as tolerant when it is your sister, mother or friend who is raped because she just happens to be a female and the muslims got a sight of her
@@Me-mi8tk You have proof that religion wasn’t a factor?
Your anger after being bullied is supposed to teach you how to set healthy boundaries with people, stand up for yourself without being rude, how to say no, how to deal with aggressive people without becoming aggressive yourself, etc. Until you learn those lessons, the pain doesn't stop, because the memories keep coming back to tell you to be the bigger demon. You should deal with this by becoming a better person that has the skills they once lacked in order to get the thoughts to go away.
I've suffered from this, it feels like i never learn when it comes to being bullied. I let my emotions get to me and it plagues my judgement severely, and the anxiety and anger consumes me. One day I will learn my lesson.
Dr. Namie has give an explanation. It is difficult for targets to defend themselves as their brain shuts down.
Mental bullying in any form can be worse than physical depending on the circumstances. But in my life sometimes I have had to fight. Better taking a beating than walking away feeling like a victim.
💯💯
Bullying can also be from a disturbed child a acting out , finding difference and taking it too far. I was super sensitive about being skinny and having red hair, it was miserable but occasionally when I got a chance I was probably even a bigger bully. I made sure no one else saw as I was so ashamed of what I was doing
I was bullied horrifically as a child with a different accent, kids will pick on any difference and poke it. I was white, Scottish and living in Scotland with no difference other than my voice. My son has multiple medical issues and my terror of him being bullied is shaping my whole view of his education. I have no support and the system has told me I can withdraw him but they will not support me.
Yea I was bullied from 3rd grade til I dropped out of high school. I also have autism and diagnosed but untreated adhd. This makes a lot of sense.
I being a second generation white Italian/Hispanic was bullied by my mother and father and brothers, much like Indian and Asian families can. It was either for poor grades, disobedience, or not living up to their expectations. This unfortunately carried over into my school where I was bullied by classmates and made fun of. The bullying continued until the death of my father when I was 17. My youngest brother took over the role. Imagine growing up in a small school of 300 students and when you go to your niece's funeral your fellow classmates and your brothers classmates declare that they did not know you were related to your brother. In fact they question you? You're so and sos sister???? Ouch!
I made it easy for others to pick on me and bowling me because I always did stand out differently. I now realize after most of my adult life that it was their problem not my problem. Today senior bullies try to intimidate me, but my love and faith in the Lord reigns true in my heart and all I'm concerned about is, God is for me, not against me.
I think many kids would greatly benefit from a degree of coaching on how to go about coping with being bullied, rather than the futile attempt to prevent bullying. It's a bit like saying you're going to try to stop a virus 😏
I'm high in neuroticism and found it incredibly difficult at school (back in the 90s). I spent much of the last 30 something years thinking there was something wrong with me. It would have been nice to have some insight back then, but the anxiety was overwhelming for me, and I naturally attached meaning to the feelings
I think you're right. I hope I succeed in raising my kids to be tough and resilient.
@@hunterbidensaidslesion1356 My problem was (and is) avoidance coping. Encourage your kids not to avoid things because they're apprehensive about the outcome. Help them approach life's challenges.
I didn't get that, so my nature asserted itself.
Damn, same thing for be except i'm also in school
Weirdly enough i only get those feelings there
@SecaKaizen Sorry I'm not certain how exactly. I'm in therapy for that. I find there's a big difference between thinking logically about doing that, but the rest of my brain apparently disagrees 😩
I go up and down in mood, sometimes thinking to myself that I'm alright, then slipping back down into thinking I'm fundamentally flawed.
@@letsgoBrandon204 there's nothing wrong with being fundamentally flawed (if we're talking about personality and its influence on our behavior). it happens, our personality develops in certain way, gets different from base one (if there's a trauma and personality disorders developed in response to trauma or other factors). we're all different and have own limits, own coping mechanisms, that's what makes us unique in a way. try to talk with your health provider about the flaws and ask what are the limits, about ways to replace flawed patterns with something working. when you have clarity, can understand your flaws and their reason, you'll be happier by avoiding hopeless tasks (where you know you'll sabotage it or will give up) and with time you will develop different approach by trial and error, by doing therapy.
The more I learn about how women attack each others' character, and relentlessly bully one another, it makes me feel really sorry for them. I mean men get it bad too, there's nothing worst than having a group of three black boys pin you to a locker and steal your walkmen (guess where I got that example from...), but once your bruises heal, you generally can move on from it, because you have a concrete understanding of yourself. But women....they go after your character. You're not just a fat girl, you're a useless unwanted low self esteem will probably die alone-fat girl, and that's just awful.
I think this talk has inspired me to do something about this. Not attack others, or shame them, but give some sort of support for people with respects to their personality and character. I don't know how to do that, but I just feel like it's the most effective way to _genuinely_ help people.
Also: Bought some tickets to your tour. Will see you in Boston.
Excellent points made
F them but what role does it play if they are black or white. I was bullied by whites im black
@@ClarkBent68 Only a minimal role
For example if you're a white kid in a black majority school you might be bullied but also culturally alienated and isolated from the rest of the kids because you just wont fit in with them
Imagine being bullied by both boys and girls
I had one bully as a child (for reasons I still couldn't hazard a guess) who was both verbally and one or two occasions physically abusive. I could have probably handled it better, maybe I could've pushed back a lot more than I did (I certainly had the capability of doing so having been in martial arts around that time if memory is correct), but I definitely tried the befriend the bully tactic because he was friends with some of my other friends which didn't really work. Thankfully he just moved away. It didn't really phase me too much in my day to day life after a point as much as it frustrated me why he would act this way towards me and none of our other friends. There were other attempted bullies in middle school and high school that didn't really go anywhere for a few reasons. First of all, I developed a sharp sense of humor and was generally had a wide array of friends and friendly casual acquaintances from a wide array of social circles and classes. Most everybody liked me or at least weren't offended by me even though I hung out with particular circles, and I had befriended enough upper classmen (just because, not to avoid bullying) that I suppose I may have been off limits. I suppose I also sort of developed my shadow enough to understand that I could easily handle myself in a fight (which I now I can from experience) and knew how to laugh at and stare down the occasional threats to my person that came around. For whatever reason, my own friends have told me that I looked and carried myself in such a way that they would think twice about crossing paths in a dark alley if they didn't already know me. I got lucky in that I either outmaneuvered or generally avoided bullying even though I somewhat fit into multiple bullyable categoties, particularly because I was a visually impaired guy who was kind of an unabashed nerd (I dabbled in nerd hobbies as well as showed an appreciation for stereotypical jock stuff, so I sorta played both fields so to speak) and wasn't a huge hit with the ladies romantically speaking (although I was friendly with many girls as well as boys my age). The key to overcoming bullying imo is to develop good humor, build physical confidence (learn how to carry yourself well) and learn how to handle yourself in a scrape. Most bullies either scamper off when you laugh at them or outsmart them. Others just need a light bruising. Prove yourself competant in one or more of these areas, and most bullies will respect you.
Really very good point in the beginning about bullying, then they only talk about racism.
I was bullied as well. I think that's all most of what people try to do. Even as an adult; it looks the same. Your parents still backstab because they regret having children; your friends all die off; other people look at you and make assumptions; and still no one cares. I have watched so many people bully that I wish they could learn to do something else. I loved my family so much and they loved me but it's definitely different as you continue to grow.
I was bullied a bunch while I was younger. I was smaller, had glasses, and I didn’t fit in. It wasn’t until I started taking kickboxing and jiu jitsu when I was 9 years old, and I finally fought back and took a little whooping, but I put in just a little more on this kid, and he never messed with me again. Flash forward 30 years, my son is in kick boxing and I have taught him to never take physical crap from a bully, or he can defend himself if needed. It’s terrifying to be bullied.
God has a time for fixing things and it may be during lifetime or in afterlife. My bullying problem caused by illness was healed at age 55, before that, suicide would have been a relief. I endured chronic shame, ridicule, ostracism which was a daily battle emotionally, having guard up at every turn etc but I survived somehow. God is with us all the time. This is a spiritual post because life is brutal and God knows what we need at every turn.
I relate to this so much. Thank you for sharing. I was bullied my entire school life until 9th grade when I moved to another country. I can recall so many awful moments and still have baggage from that. When people tell me "you are beautiful" I still don't believe it. I was called black and ugly and disgusting and no one ever stood up for me. Very very insightful video. Thank you ❤
Drop the bags ! The only one giving those memories any significance is you. Harsh, but that is the mindset you need. Good luck, it's easier said than done.....we all fail in some ways.
@@kennethalbert4653 not very empathetic comment. Sorry, but is easier said than done.
@@pritchettwendy33 It gets easier every time you try to do it. Keep going. (edit. You really are pretty)
@@kennethalbert4653 you’re really not as helpful as you might think you’re being
Well to quote Conan the barbarian: "To crush your enemies, see them driven before you, and to hear the lamentation of their women!" Clearly you have unsettled grudges which can only be alleviated by seeing all those responsible broken and distraught, either by ruining their lives or find them at their most vulnerable to strike.
People bully to get the happiness of " im not like that " because they are afraid to be bullied by being like that
Bullying is a direct way to practicing power .. it is a built in mechanism in humans.
Kids ( adults the same in a more hidden fashion) bullies a smaller, younger, weaker; less .... they never bullied a stronger one to not risk power taken away from them.
Kids don't "bully" each other if they are reasonably well brought up by their parents. Yes, they will _tease_ each other, but that is a completely different thing which is never based on any deliberate disrespect, and they will immediately apologise and set things right if someone does get hurt in some way.
I agree.. but that's a different aspect.
Am not saying how to address this.. which by the way what you said ( and maybe its good ) is oppressing kids into harmless beings..
Am saying where it comes from.
We practice power (godship) since day one.. and then we manifest our godship in a different ways according to the values we are repressed by.
I was a white kid in a predominantly black and Hispanic school. It works both ways. But they hit the nail on the head.
It’s like the truly mentally weaker people need to feel validation but standing behind these “high moral” issues.
Great video. Learned a lot🤞🏿
Appreciating Rav Arora. ❤❤❤
At moment I am facing the same problem. I have been bully by an Indian man at my workplace.
For that reason, I am here listening to RUclips stories regarding to this issue. However, I this motivates me to speak out against bullying in my next video.
🙏 God bless you all
And I hope we can deliver a better way to help each other.
G.
It makes me feel bad and cringed
Myself being Indian,
I hope that you will be strong figure things out correctly
👍.
I love this.
I was born NF TYPE 1 I had a tumor on back of my neck in 2004- 2008 grade 4-7 . People would make me feel bad about myself .I got it removed in 2007 in July . The new year starts and when a girl was near me . They scream and walk away from me .
I have 3 nationalities.
Am multi-national, multi-racial, multi-lingual, multi-religious and I'm from the 70s.
Growing up in 3 different continents I knew I was a bit different very early on but had no reference to understand it yet back then. To me, bullying was about them expressing their own social and personal vulnerabilities. The only way for me to find a way to deal with it was to understand it that way.
As ugly as it became at times at no time did I see the bullying towards me as racist. Not as a child nor as a young adult. Even when racial slurs were thrown in my direction.
True racism is a different mechanism in my experience.
It only became formally racial when other students complained that people where being racists towards me. Things could then get complicated quickly as the audience then toke over the narrative.
The Victim, the Perpetrator or the Hero? Try to select none of these.
Just beeing systematic bullied on a day to day basis in your young life is demolishing to your mind and trust….the thought of revenge to call your bully out…is nerve wracking….not been seen by teachers or people you are told to trust makes it even more paralyzing….the shame you feel aswel, and the feeling not liked by everyone in your direct surroundings is horrible….I’ve been bullied for 10+ years through 2 schools! I dream about of the past situations very vivid and take meds for them aswel…beeing bullied in my opinion is beeing in war…on your own…with little to no help…
If you agree by putting your thumbs up, don’t undo your thumb because you think someone would judge you…this thumb is not for the likes….this one is for the awareness…
One of my friends one day opened up how he's tired of me bullying him.
It was a shock to me, I didnt realize I was bullying him!!
I immediately asked for his forgiveness. I genuinely cared for him, and my bullying if him I always thought was just me being funny. I was crushed inside knowing all that time I was hurting him.
It made me question myself and my family, my upbringing, religious training, everything.
Jordan just enlightened about how viewing unknown others with disgust is worse than viewing them with fear. I'm still watching, but I so hope he extends this to the way in which the elites are using said disgust to demonise and coerce the unvaccinated.
check out his lecture series from UofT on his channel. He goes in deep on these ideas and others.
Your culture is much more impacting to us than skin color....which is not foreign to us at all ......your color doesn't make you different to what we are familiar with......but mannerisms would be hard to disguise... I was very skinny kid but my brothers were grapplers so I was mostly left alone. LoL....glad to see your toughness and perseverance.
It is a big jump from "I learned something from negative experiences" to "bullying is a necessary evil for everyone."
Very insightful and well explained by Jordan Peterson!
Adults who enable severe physical or psychological bullying in children and adults result in hatred driven incidents, serious injuries and fatal consequences. So many practical incidents but people learn lesson or realize when it comes back to haunt them or their children. How can someone fix a problem from the same mind that generated it? Statistics and historical facts show that incremental depression among children, mass shootings and genocides are not errors but conscious result of hatred, discrimination and bullying.
Innocent lives pay the price of toxic society that thrives on it and turn blind eye to effects. Coward men and women look for scapegoats and jump with joy when they hunt one. But does that solve the problem? NO. It is just an escape of inherent sadism and may be some temporary benefits. That's the truth.
The most stupid hot take I've heard during my adolescense was: "try to fit in, try to make friends".
While people not at all physically different from me decided that they are and I'm the incarnation of "being different".
I have been bullied most of my life because I'm not a mediocre low IQ person. Take it as a badge of honor.
I have a few choice words about bullies. Too long have I lied to myself about being unbothered by their agitations. It has festered into a constant, repressed, targetless rage that comes out every time something doesn't go to plan. It has penetrated every facet of my soul and has taken on such a will of its own that I find my true self in a state of violent decay. I don't know if I can stop it, and I don't know if I want to.
You are in a frequent circle of fighting back? Like a ghost that relives everything daily. If that fighting stops, you'd be forced to face the feeling of defeat and possibly blame. Like a feeling of sudden death, while now it happens slowly instead. ... Perhaps?
@@Proestetic That's how it feels on the inside. I know I have a primal, vengeful, demonic, extremely predatory side to me with all seven deadly sins rolled into a single lethal cocktail that REALLY wants to be set free. I try and "gas the system" a bit here and there so I don't explode on a _living person,_ but I'm not entirely sure what works and what doesn't in that regard. It can be pretty hard for me to keep my cool around disrespect, but somehow I always do it. I do figure that my rage sublimates in other ways - body language, word choice, facial expressions (in the past two days, I've started to develop a permanent sneer).
I understand that I have strong feelings of entitlement that can only be dealt with by trashing the things I want and challenging the people I desire, and that my younger years were DEFINITELY NOT what I imagined them to be. I do not feel strong or confident in any capacity and prefer to rely on the feedback of others to say otherwise. I would call it narcissism, but nobody knows what that really is anymore, so most people prefer the mythos of the unaware narcissist vampire who can't see his own reflection to peer-reviewed studies on this (serious, mind you) mental health condition.
Before you ask, I'm not interested in screwing my future with an NPD diagnosis just to give a bunch of hipster, know-it-all, mental health gatekeepers a cheap flipoff. These types of folks have something in common with me - neither of us will accept being wrong.
Possibly seek some help :/
@@jbird3214 I mean, it's certainly worth a try. Like I said, I don't know if I want it to stop. Discussion of taboo feelings is, well... taboo. I challenge you to find me even a single soul who understands the depths from which entitlement, envy, revenge, pettiness, and necessity for grandiose fantasies originate. So, I must repress and continue to repress until I transform into my guilty pleasure and am destroyed - the Good Guys™️win again and the peaceful village gets to live happily ever after! 😃
@@AlastorTheNPDemon
you do you, in whatever way you see fit :)
But the best of luck and maximum love sent your way (y)
On the subject of a single soul......
Without getting religious as that's the easy answer :/ God? God's.....
I feel it is only ourselves, and only some people can truly be that honest with themselves :/
When I say help, I know that's about as meaningful and helpful as fishing net made of air :/
But if you do find something,
Remember this comment and share the news ;)
(Y)
Peace out ombre
danke, the Time need to realize this; and become mature.
I was bullied by an entire class of girls the year I started school, aged 5, the only child who was so persecuted. It lasted a almost the full year. My mother said I used to say 'I'm all alone, I'm all alone' but she did not go to talk to my teacher until the final term. When she finally did, the teacher told her they were the nastiest group of children she had ever taught. The girls were led by one girl, named Martha, and used to chant round after me in the playground, a pack of about ten girls pursuing me wherever I went. I cannot even remember what her supposed reason was. But my mother persuaded me to go to her birthday party (whole class invited) and it was a revelation. The bully's mother treated her like a slave, it was perfectly, and I mean perfectly, horrible. Martha scuttled like some poor little animal to do her bidding. That mother - so called - was impatient and cruel and indifferent and angry. She was contemptuous to her daughter. I loathed her and at the same time felt what a pathetic woman she was. At age 5! The great and savage bully was destroyed, in her place was a tragic, savaged child, an abused child. I do not know what happened to her. We left Sydney to go to Bangkok at the end of the year (my father was a consulting civil engineer). I do sometimes wonder about Martha's fate in life. I do forgive her, she was tormented. But a consequence for me was that I became rather afraid of children my age until I was about eleven years old. I was more detached than average from my peers and when another girl rounded up the girls in 7th grade and prepared to bully a few whom she excluded, she wanted me to join her. I ignored her. I was so indifferent that two girls who were friendly with me were astonished. They were dying to be asked to be in this revolting 'gang'. The bully, named Cathy, never tried to attack me because I simply did not care what she did or who she was. Martha taught me to hold my own, I suppose. Although I did not escape a tendency at the same time to be a bit placatory to strangers from adolescence onwards. How old am I writing this? 62. I have only recently realised that I am placatory in the wrong way, but then another disaster, far worse, that of incest (a degree of incest, since much worse truly does occur than happened to me) when I was approaching 10 years old and I am not making this up. It sounds bizarre to me in black and white print but there it is. Life is hazardous, I think, evil is not a matter to be denied. It exists regardless and anyone who encounters it does not waste time pretending otherwise. Did I marry? no. Was I unable to free myself or cure the damage to our family? yes. Did I believe that with God's help, I could do both those things? I am not sure. Cure damage, yes, which was an illusion. Free myself, no, it is a misfortune that I never understood that I could free myself because I remained utterly terrified of ending on the street and being destroyed by the very behaviour against me that threatened to end my life within my own family. Was my mother divided between ridiculing and undermining me and opposing me as a person, on the one hand, while loving me on the other? yes. Did I resent it? yes. Did it badly influence my siblings to my detriment? yes. Was my father a divided person who was both good and extremely dangerous and possessed by an evil he could not defeat? yes. Was I heartbroken to lose my mother, to see her betrayed and see her suffer, and to see my father suffer? yes. Did he struggle to change? yes. Did he fail? yes. But did that battle in his life save his soul? yes. Did the Devil destroy my family in the end? yes. But did the result reveal how far we had strayed from God, without seeing it happening? yes. Did we lose our Catholic faith? no. By the grace of God, we did not. My younger sister was also harmed by incest. Our middle sister was unharmed and also was our father's favourite child. I feared greatly for my younger sister but never for the middle one. Did I have the delusion that one victim was enough and she would not be preyed upon? yes and was I wrong? yes. Bullying takes many forms and has terrible effects. When staying with my middle sister and her family for 2 years, during the family disintegration, I shouted twice at my eldest nephew in a terrorising way, in short, I bullied him on those occasions as badly as I had ever experienced myself. That is a wickedness which it took me years to perceive and to admit, and to tell him I was sorry. I have never paid for it as I should pay for harming another person, especially a young child. It dawned on me eventually that God's forgiveness and mercy are so profound and so generous that we do not pay for our sins as we should. The crucifixion and redemption are real. Christ redeemed each soul. Repentance is crucial. Charity is part of love. Without God, we die. To be humble because of acknowledging the immense purity and love, the power of the Almighty, the invaluable gift of His love, is to be brought to life. To breathe.
Fair play Rav .
So interesting story I'm about to share about me getting bullied throughout High School.
I had these two friends who I thought were my friends. We will just call the girl's name Shonna and Sam. There was a girl also named Kristi who I did not consider a friend but we're just going to add her in this scenario as well because she also contribute to the bullying throughout my high school years.
I don't want to make the story too long because it's very complicated but basically these girls have name called me. Disrespected my weight my height because I'm short but who cares. Shonna was the absolute worst and it's a shame considering we were friends since 2nd grade. This girl was tall so she felt the need to nitpick my height and my weight. Shonna was never supportive with my goals and endeavors.
Also anytime I received an award or an achievement Shonna always had something negative to say about it which made her come off like a complete hater.
Shonna would throw my homework. Grab my purse and have it over my head again teasing me about my height and what made it worse honestly is the fact that Sam and Christi would encourage the behavior of Shonna. And even when I defended myself it was basically one versing 3.
I was traumatized my high school years by a lot. There was also a guy that bullied me to for whatever reason.
Fast forward years later I have become successful fashion designer & editor. I work hard for everything I have and the irony a few days ago the same bully Shonna reached out to me on Facebook and sent me a friend request. Not only did she not apologize for what she did she expected me just to be cool with her like nothing happened. To sum it all up I basically told her that we did not end on good terms and I cannot respect her as a woman. I basically said to her if you're not willing to take no accountability then I want absolutely nothing to do with you. Shonna proceed to cuss me out and says I have a family now I don't need to work for the friendship. (Eye rolls) 😒 I said to her you need to work on it if you're the one sending a friend request reaching out talking about wanting to rekindle friendship with people that you bullied. It's giving being weird and indecisive.
I think what makes it kind of comical for me is the fact that not only did I not cuss her out even though she had it coming. I still remain classy and I still held Shonna accountable for her actions.
Shonna then goes to attempt to do reverse psychology on me and call me a bully. Which in my 31 years of living I have never bullied that girl. Shonna then starts to talk about what she accomplished which is giving birth but that's it. No shades of people who have kids. But at that point I did not care to hear anything else from her. I said to her the fact that you don't want to take no accountability we don't have nothing else to discuss. I do not care about what you're doing with your life I must have said this about three times.
Shonna tries to make me feel like I've done something wrong when I did nothing to her. Plus I have multiple people who have witnessed that I've done nothing to her.
The final thing I said to her is I'm more mature than you are right now making your exist do not send me no more friend requests and blocked her. Don't be afraid to hold people accountable for the things they've done wrong.
Very true
Great insight. Great tan.
It takes more integrity to give bullies zero reaction and choose classy and elegant
9:37 I don’t see anything wrong with that but you have to win the competition for whatever position you desire. Through legal means please.
Mr Raw Arora.... Reflections at young age is very appaudable... But what requires a deep contemplation, churning out from depths sitting on philosopher z stone..
🌴🐚 I lived in the Caribbean and I experienced racial slurs or mockery because of not tanning or not being tanned or dark enough.
Depending on where you are in The world you will be bullied. Only the strong willed survive. You have to be strong and confident. You have the ability to be the best you can be. Regardless of the environment. You have to be in sync with your environment or explore new places to grow. Don’t expect a sunflower to bloom in the shade, put it in the sun in fertile soil. Same thing with life. Don’t forget God because without Him it’s impossible. 😊
Things i wish i knew as a kid... 1 telling teachers will do nothing but label you a narc and you'll be outcast even more. 2 dont take comments seriously 3 if need be call the bully out to fight, even if you loose you'll be respect more.
Most bullying victims would suffer "bullying" No matter what race religion hight or weight.
Bullying a guy who's indian for being indian is different from bullying a guy who's white for the brand of shoes he wears.
@@Panthro-lo2lh that's racism not bullying
@@Panthro-lo2lh It might seem like that, but it's really not. Some things like skin color are just more easy to point out which is a good target of bullying. It's not the color of their skin, but just like Jordan said, it's about someone being different, and the bully being afraid and unsure about that. (and projecting that insecurity at the bullied)
So why do jews always get bullied no matter where they go?
@@joshjonson2368 Jews don't get bullied more than others
Being white and male in the film industry is also a problem… I was told by a major studio, but I could not direct my own movie because I was not a woman, and a woman had to re-write my script. Now I can’t work because I’m male.
Bullying for me stopped when I beat the hell out of him. It took one punch and he fell and then kicks to the body, as he starting crying. That is the only way. I do not trust anyone who doesn't learn to fight and stand up for themselves. Join a boxing gym, an MMA gym. No excuses when you know bullies are everywhere. You can't talk your way out of it, joke your way out of it all the time. They only understand pain, power, domination. Sure, you'll get suspended because bullies get rewarded, but they'll never touch you again and they'll think twice.
Maybe just go to good school where people who need to "learn a lesson" won't even be allowed to study in? It's not a secret bullying is the most widespread in poor schools and it is almost non-existant in high IQ populations. Explanation is simple, smarter people know that anybody can be dangerous and anybody can be pushed 1 bridge too far and the game is just not worth risk, while less intelligent people will know it way later.
Omg, finally the real truth is coming out. I always felt so offended and victimized by the left in the US while living there. Despite being a very privileged South Asian woman myself with so much opportunity offered by the Western system and colleagues.I have never felt like a victim and would feel like i had to identify as a victim because of the psychotic social justice warriors.The leftists are doing more damage to us than good , JP is one of the few INTELLECTUALS who speak truth and substance that makes sense.Thank you for standing up for your truth, great insights thanks so much, I hope more South Asians fight back against the toxic woke wannabe narratives, they are destroying our society. Love from Sri Lanka ❤️
Agreed. Love your reply. Respect.
Most of them don't even have kids anyway, they'll all be dust in less than a generation
@@joshjonson2368 haha valid point. It will be a mercy for all of us.
I’m a Sikh man and I agree it’s gross. No one is holding us back life happens to all of us but there is no law in place holding minorities back if anything they help us. Minorities have a better chance of getting into college.
0:21 Yes I Am
Our family moved almost every 2 years of my life. We were always moving to a small town where the kids had grown up together and seldom had “new” kids in school. I was always an outsider, but I learned how to be the outsider. I ignored everyone for the first couple of weeks. I was taunted and sometimes physically attacked, nothing serious, like trying to trip me in the halls, but no matter what I never responded. I had learned that a lack of response made the game of harassment less fun and it would eventually die off. During those weeks I would pay close attention to how individuals acted in class and with each other. I could always find the one or two people that would eventually become my friends.
I remember during my 8th grade year, again, being the new kid in a small town school, one individual had made it his mission to harass me as much as possible. Name calling, tripping, the works, every time he saw me. I ignored everything he did. After a week or so of constant bullying, he walked over and sat down beside me during lunch. I ignored him, although I could feel him staring at me. He eventually said, “Why are you so confident? How do you do that?” I almost choked on my lunch. I always thought of my self as being extremely insecure and definitely not confident. Interestingly, he saw my lack of reaction to his intimidation as confidence. I said, “I’m not”. I remember him laughing. We talked all lunch period and amazingly he ended up being one of my best friends. It was after our lunch time chat that I understood, those who intimidate or bully are insecure. I ended up moving my junior year to yet another small town school.
0:54 The military taught me that
The fact that I am unique and not following what everyone else is doing is the reason I’m being bullied ? Right. Because I recently dyed my hair an unnatural color, I usually do it blonde or brown but this was the first time I wanted to try RED- I was showing my boyfriend and the first time he saw it he loved it :) but the second time he saw it he told me “You look like a girl that didn’t make it into the Disney audition” and he thought it was a funny joke. He insisted he was just trying to make me laugh. But I feel like he wasn’t taking my feelings into consideration. It was my first time doing this type of color and everyday that I look in the mirror I’m just reminded that I have enough self esteem that I don’t need an asshole bully of a little boy to be around me. Commenting on my hair like he owns me TF ? This anger… I fu*king loathe him😒. Sincerely I have learned to accept the fact he’s always going to be a BULLY but I don’t need to accept him into my life anymore ❌
Human beings especially those with tiny narrow spiteful minds don't like any difference. But somehow they expect unlimited tolerance for themselves.
Racism is often thought of in the broad white-oppressing-black because of the history of colonialism and the African slave trade. But it is in fact a deeper rejection of any kind of otherness: diverging skin color is just the most salient feature that identifies one's otherness. The person may be of a different religion or ethnicity, speak with a certain accent, dress a certain way, eat "weird" food in "weird" ways, have a different mindset or whatever: an individual that rejects another because of any feature of superficial difference (and superficial they are compared to the underlying biological commonality and the primacy of consciousness) is manifesting the same psyquic energies behind all forms of the more virulent forms of racism (think of Nazis, "Mississippi-Burning" kind of towns). It is not a black-white issue (and certainly far, far deeper than the left-right political divide) where only the caucasian can be racist (utter nonsense): the feeling of the "weirdness" and "strangeness" and subsequent disgust and rejection of the other is deeply rooted in individual consciousnesses that, for lack of another word, I can only call spiritually unevolved: it exists everywhere and manifests itself in the endless xenofobias and ethnic or religious conflicts around the world. All I can say is I have met people where this particular kind of consciousness is totally absence or impossible in their being. In Brazil, with our own domestic-spun of racism (some quite subtle) and, yes, our own individual forms of xenofobia and in my city of Rio de Janeiro, the skin-color racism is practically incomprehensible for many who live in a city whose at least one redeeming feature is the very widespread acceptance, and indeed enjoyment, of the broad range of human otherness. Nonetheless, an African immigrant was recently beaten to death brutally and the community of Africans here describe what it's like to be seen by some locals "as animals." So, it does exist even in a place as ethnically diverse and miscigenated as Rio.
So what's responsible for this reoccurring cycle of hate, Satan? Malevolent entities? The various alignment of stars?
@@joshjonson2368 Blaming external entities or original sin and awaiting vicarious salvation from on high does not work. Our consciousness with its dualistic thinking is what has created all this hatred. If you are interested: Patanjali's "Yoga Sutras" and Sri Ramana Maharishi's "Who am I?" are treasures of spiritual wisdom regarding consciousness.
Jordan it seems like you’re cutting him off mid idea. Would you consider letting him finish his thoughts?
The Indian Public Health Association has regularly been reporting the “scary situation” in Indian hotels, restaurants and eateries. The last, in particular, do not follow hygienic practices, use unclean containers, utensils and cups and plates and are often located near open drains or garbage bins.
Most mid-day meal kitchens in schools are no better.
B.S. Raghavan
One of the latest stages (if not the latest) of mental development has to do with the recognizance not of “me vs. them” but “us vs. them”, that’s why universally, in all cultures, especially at adolescent age (before or later may talk of other pathological factors) there are so many bullies and “in group” and “outside the group” interactions. Racist remarks are merely one easy way for these children to channel such “we vs. you, as a different member that is not our tribe”, as Peterson said, there could’ve been anything that caught their attention: sometimes even pretty girls are bullied by other girls for being “the one who thinks she is too pretty”.
Thus, the guy is wrong in making the assumption that those children would grow up to become real, ideological, racist people: they could be, but most people grow out of that excuse for the “my group vs. your group” development stage. Surely enough, what we now see as a problem, sometime in the long evolutionary past it played some role in forging the sense of pertinence, as a ritual passage to demonstrate that you won’t betray the (primitive) group against whoever that could compete or outcompete for the resources. The problem is that trait (called “ethnocentrism” in anthropological terms) doesn’t adapt well to bigger-complex societies who evolved from such “my little tribe, my tiny survival” evolution.
i got bullied by my own friends but i knew they were the only ones willing to hang out with me and i knew i kinda deserved it because a was weak.
They were not your friends.
You don’t deserve it
I had red hair, lots of freckles and otherwise ghostly white skin, with blonde eyebrows and eyelashes. Plus I was taller by about 3,4 inches than all kids my age. They TRIED to bully me, I either laughed them off or intimidated them because my size. I moved a lot. So this scenario repeated at every new school. Once they learned it did not bother me OR learned to not bully me for their own safety, they stopped. After that I made friends easily because I was a genuinely nice kid.
Love this!!!
The best deterence to bullying (verbal) I ever used, was I told the dude the other guys who make fun of me are funnier
This is going to be a rant, but if the victim decides to turn on his bully and punch him so hard he loses the last of his milk teeth, take it as that is the bully Learning what happens when the victim decides enough is enough. Of course you can just fold your arms and let nature take its course, or you can teach your child to be loving and empathetic of others or create an environment for the children that doesn't result in bullying, bullying is something you DISCOURAGE swiftly and not something you try to explain away. You don't have to be bitten by a cobra to understand how dangerous they are.
Sometimes people just don’t like you. Doesn’t matter what or why dude…
💯 non of my business to know why
This is a topic that Jordan Peterson knows something about, so his views should be considered.
I wish he would stay within his expertise on RUclips videos. When he strays into areas outside his expertise, he gives incorrect and sometimes dangerous advice.
The better you are at taking a joke the less you will get tormented. this kind of contradicts his statement that the purpose of tormenting someone is to learn about them. Why does the learning (tormenting) stop if the person can "take the joke"?
Recently, Minister of Rural Development Jairam Ramesh courted a controversy with his remark that India needed more toilets than temples. Open defecation has become so rooted in India that even when toilet facilities are provided, the spaces round temple complexes, temple tanks, beaches, parks, pavements, and indeed, any open area are covered with faecal matter.
Some years ago, while staying at the Guest House of an undertaking, I watched with disbelief the wife of a fellow-guest occupying another room letting her child out into the compound to do its business. When I asked her why she was doing it when there was a good attached bath-room, she blandly said that the child was not comfortable with any other mode of evacuation. True story!
- B.S. Raghavan
Well really like what you said about systematic racism I'm owning your own experience
Jordan Peterson has said many times to fight back against bullying, harassment or any case of demeaning towards you, he never said to just "laugh if off", there's just two different occasions behind each reaction.
Ah yeah, ask questions? Treat like a human being or any other being? No let's instead knowngly and consciously hurt you. Thats a good way to really know someone.
Jordan Peterson's main thing is to excuse narcissitic and psychopathic behavior as a normal thing.
No wonder why homeschooling eith paid teachers might be a better option instead of putting your kids into a local school.
Mental prision...traumatising your child for other laziness to grow their kids properly
Knock the bully out or threaten him with dire consequences, it's the only way to stop bullying ! In India, The guy who is bullied often calls his 5-7 friends to beat the crap out of the Bully. He cannot report to the police because of misbehavior of Indian police(they act salty), and this is how the bully is defeated coz now he knows the dire consequences
I was viciously bullied long term by fellows blacks. I guess they detected that I was different too.
just becos you are different doesnt make you a god
You acted too white that's why
Any.
Well thanks Jordan I just learned that childhood bullying tells you alot about your looks lmao I had a big head.. looking back that wasn't too bad if all middle school kids could find was I had a big ass head and I did for the record I was like 5' but wore the same size motorcycle helmet as my dad from 10ish up then my body caught up and we were all good lmao thanks guys
I understand that generally most people do not subscribe to Bible based events, but the Noah story brings out how bullying was very prevalent at that time.
In the Genesis account, we read of the ones called Nephilim. They were these hybrid giant sons of the demons that had relations with women. They were these 8 to 9 foot tall, maybe taller, (Giants) as it were, that were much stronger than all other people, that bullied everyone.
It seems that their reason for bullying people was just because they wanted to, and because no one was stronger than them and were not able to over power them.
The point of my story is that there really is in my opinion no more reason for bullying than just the simple fact that people just do bad things because they want to.
Further, it’s a wicked world that we live in. It’s just as wicked as back in the time of an Noah, which was destroyed by God in the flood because of the violence/bullying that was carried out daily by the Nephilim and the people that eventually took on the same behavior. Who can deny, that the world today is not the same, if not worse in some ways.
Back in Noah’s day, it was God that put an end to the violence. Likewise today it will be God Almighty that will do the same.
Genesis 6:1-7
NEPHILIM- FELLERS, THOSE THAT CAUSE OTHERS TO FALL.
Nephilim likely weren't giants, in that sense. More like pillaging warlords who were polygamous, stealing peoples wives. They were fallen and wicked. Pretty apt description to call them bullies.
I get so annoyed when I'm talking to someone and they keep cutting me off by saying "yeah" "yeah" "mmhmm" . Like at not really the right times. It's as if they're a bit off beat and it throws me off, even if I've told the story 20 times before I lose my train of thought and feel like they are rushing me. And I can summarize so it's not like I'm going on and on. Any suggestions? In the past I've always just said how I felt to the other person and they maybe stopped but it seems there should be a better way to handle this because it's been pretty awkward. I want to be able to keep talking like Jordan does. It really messes me up. And I have very little to non-existent social anxiety.
I don't think this guy reAlly was interested in what JP was saying. He just wanted to keep talking about his 9th grade experience and his writing.
Bullies are idiots masquerading as leaders. You protect yourself (or your children) from bullies by having yourself (or them) armed emotionally, intellectually, and strategically more competently than the bully. Bullies distort the truth in a self serving way, (teach your child to) speak truth, and at the worst the bully will move on because theyll realize on a primal sense that they are in danger of jeopardizing their credibility with their crowd.
I got up and punched back the two male bullies who tried pushing or kicking me as a kid. I was weak but I was crazy. They never tried it again! :P
🤣🤣😂🙌👏