Please raise your kids bilingual or multilingual if you have the chance to do so. When I was younger, I thought my parents were weird because they would speak to me in English, French and Chinese. I can't even begin to explain you how grateful I am for having had such an opportunity.
YES! My 7 year old daughter speaks 3 languages. Growing up in a French American family, we kids learning French was the last thing our elders wanted. Because that was their secret code, for gossiping in front of young ears. But they made the fatal mistake of sending us to a kindergarten, owned by a Parisian woman, who taught French A LOT! And we soaked it up like sponges! I'll never forget, one day my cousin and I came home, laughing, and singing, and speaking in French! The old folks faces fell like avalanches, not because of us, but because of our older siblings! Priceless! What might they know? Anyway, knowledge is power, and more power to kids!!!
Exactly. A friend of mine from Puerto Rico spoke only English to his kids. His wife (also Puerto Rican) spoke only Spanish. His son would talk to me in Spanish or English depending upon what he was thinking in at the moment. After some initial issues in school, both did very well and are fully bilingual. Both of my kids HAD some German, but have mostly lost it (as have I unfortunately).
@@marcobossi1749, nice, but it's only possible if you're bilingual yourself (or your partner, or both in the same), otherwise you might teach your children mistakes in said languages, which they can't lose any more!
The funniest thing I ever saw language wise was friends family in Meran. The father was ethnically Italian, was having a conversation with his wife, an ethnic Austrian. The father was speaking German, the mother answering in Italian. The son was speaking English to both of them. The phone rang, the son answered in Italian, then held out the phone to the mother, saying it was for her in German. When asked no one realized they were doing this.
that's hilarious!! 😄 (although for that family it's probably just their everyday life; happens in my family too, and probably to many outside the English-speaking world)
Me and my wife are trying to do the same. I am Italian, she was born in Romania, and we both live in Germany. 😅 Our kid is coming soon, and it will be a mixture of languages for sure 🤣
Feli, I grow more impressed with Ben every time he appears on your channel. The wisdom you both show in using differences to build a stronger, more joyful relationship is a powerful lesson both for close relationships and in how we treat others daily.
@@MrLuigi-oi7gmgood point. The best proof of friendly intent in demeaning humor is that the author finds it equally funny if someone tosses a comparable barb back at them. So, hopefully, Brian got a good laugh at my reply.
I have been married to my German wife for 30 years. Many of cultural things you mention were relevant and continue to be relevant to this day. One of the magical things I learned from her was "Urmel aus dem Eis". Since living in Germany I've had the opportunity to visit Augsburger Puppenkiste.
I don't think the romantic type of love is special. And I am started to think that the romantic type of love isn't real. I mean about more than half of romantic couples either break up with each other or divorce each other, while most platonic best friends remain friends until death. I think that having a platonic best friend is a lot better than having a romantic partner or spouse is. Having someone who's like a sibling to you is a lot better than having a romantic partner or spouse. Also, you are more likely to be much more closer to someone who's like a brother or sister to you than you would be with a romantic partner or spouse. People tend to fight with their partner or spouse a lot more than they do with a platonic best friend, and you never fight with your best friend the way you fight with your partner or spouse. Partners and spouses are just temporary. If you break up or divorce them, it's hard to go back to them. With your platonic best friend, you're going to make things work, because they are your best friend, they are your go to partner. It's always easier to make amends with them than it is with a romantic partner or spouse.
@@icysnow57cold64Hey, I can tell that you're hurting. I want you to know that you don't need a romantic partner to be happy. Friends can be enough. However, if you want a long term romantic partner, they should ideally be your best friend too. A lasting romantic relationship needs two be built on at least two, possibly three types of love: 1 Agape (selfless love) 2) Philia (Affectionate/platonic love), and 3 Eros (Sexual/passionate love). There really are multiple different types of love. The English language really doesn't do it justice.
@@rosered5485 Most people consider their platonic best friend to be their soulmate rather than their romantic partner or spouse. Platonic relationships and romantic relationships may be two entirely different things, but that doesn't mean they are equal when it comes to the amount of love given in them. The love in platonic relationships seems to be way stronger than the love in romantic relationships is since platonic relationships are not fragile like romantic relationships are. Also, platonic relationships also seem to be a lot more intimate and comfortable than romantic relationships are. Platonic love is one of the most purest forms of love there is, while romantic love is one of the least purest forms of love there is. Most people seem to be a lot more comfortable around their platonic best friends than they are around their romantic partners or spouses. A platonic best friend is one of the best things you could ever have. A platonic best friend can be someone you trust the most, and they can be your confidant and coach. People tend to trust their platonic best friends more than their romantic partners, and that's a fact. The concept of romantic love and romantic relationships seems to mostly be a man-made thing.
The whole "pot vs pod" discussion is pretty hilarious because I'm not a native English speaker, and I had this very long discussion about "mass" and "mess". They sound _exactly_ the same to me, but a Canadian friend was "No, they sound similar, but still clearly different". My point is: Feli, you're not alone there; it happens to all of us.
Yeah, I spent hours trying to help my Russian friend figure out the difference, to no avail unfortunately. Oh and when it comes to pot and pod, the difference in American speakers is even more miniscule than you'd think: the t and d are both pronounced the same (alveolar flap), but there is a slight difference in vowel length in the o sound beforehand (longer in 'pod')
@@guy1524I disagree - they're very distinct in most of the US. I've never ever had trouble distinguishing between the two anywhere in the US. But the thing is, if you didn't grow up with certain sounds, after a certain point people generally lose the ability to hear the sounds their native language didn't have
@@guy1524The only US accents in which I'd imagine these two words could be hard to distinguish would be an either a "Boston" accent or certain NYC accents. But where have you noticed this?
@@FelifromGermany No one WANTS to shoot someone, but if they are threatening your safety it is justified and one can be in a situation where one HAS to. As bad as it is to have to do that, it sure beats being a victim yourself. We don't need to get guns off the street; we need to get violent people off the street. Virtually every homicide in my state ends with the reporter saying and the suspect has a long history of violent crime. My state has let violent people run loose with great frequency going on 6 decades now. That's what needs to stop. When Charlie Beck was police chief in Los Angeles, he said he doesn't want the law loosened to allow people to carry guns, never mind that the 6 safest states in the USA all allow carry, claiming it'd put his officers at risk. Those who are a risk to his officers all carry despite the laws against it. The only people stopped from carrying a gun by a law are those who would never dream of being violent. How odd that he thinks his officers should be able to carry their guns for defense, and that is why police carry guns, but the rest of us should not be able to. How is a police officer's life more worth defending than yours or mine? My mom worked for a sheriff's department when I was a kid, and one of the deputies said something I'll never forget. He said the last thing on most people's mind is harming anyone, and if you gave such a person a gun they could run around all week and STILL the last thing on their mind would be harming anyone. The only difference is that if they are attacked they can defend themselves. Indeed, when we did prohibit carry of guns in the USA the homicide rate was multiples higher than before or since. I didn't quite tell the whole truth. Vermont is the one state that never prohibited carry, and their homicide rate remained low all along. Allowing people who've proved themselves capable of wanton violence run free emboldens them, and if they "answer" to their continued violence is to disarm those who are not violence it emboldens them more. Since Ohio went to permitless carry it has seen a decrease in the homicide rate statewide and in 6 of the 8 biggest cities in the state. We have a real problem in left leaning cities like Los Angeles, New Orleans, St. Louis, NYC with district attorneys refusing to prosecute people for violent crimes and yet actually trying to prosecute those who have to shoot someone in self defense. That's absolutely backwards.
Fun show. I’m an American and my wife is English and we just celebrated our 47th wedding anniversary. We still enjoy the differences between our two cultures. I’m sure both of you will also.
My oh my! I am an American woman in my 70’s who has experienced two long term international relationships. The first was with a German woman who had lived in the US for nearly 20 years. I moved with her to Northern Germany (Husum, north of Hamburg) and lived there for ten years out in the countryside. This was more than 30 years ago and the only person at that time with whom I had contact who spoke fluent English, was her. My German language skills then included saying “my name is” and “where is a taxi”. She worked for Apple Computer at their international headquarters in Paris and was gone during the week, coming home on Friday evenings, flying back to Paris on Monday. “Home” was a house built in 1872 which underwent extensive reconstruction during the first two years. I lived there the entire time. The first architect spoke a limited English. When we first moved in, the house had a bathroom on the “bottom” floor and one on the upper floor. In JANUARY, this person decided that it would be practical to REMOVE both bathrooms at the same time, in order to better facilitate the reconstruction. When I protested, she was surprised and told me, “But you can easily go outside to the bushes.” !!!!???? I ask, “What about all the male construction workers?” “Oh they won’t mind!” “And how am I supposed to wash myself?” Rather puzzled she replied, “But of course you heat water on the stove.” An absolutely FRANTIC call to Paris put a stop to this architects “plan”. One morning some few months later, I woke up to male laughter. When I opened my eyes, three jolly bricklayers were making comments in Plattdeutschere while they removed the bricks from my bedroom wall in order to install new windows as I lay naked, sleeping in my bed. (I was covered by a sheet.) Can you imagine waking up like that? Fortunately these men were true gentlemen. When they were certain that I was awake, they left the scaffolding giving me time to grab my clothes and run. For the rest of their bricklaying work, they treated me with gentle respect, bless them. I PROMISE that I am neither exaggerating nor imagining! Not too long after, we hired a new architect. But talk about culture shock! 🤪☺️
Sie hatten es in Husum echt schwer! Keine Frau in Schleswig Hokstein würde sich aud solche Probleme einlassen.Ich wohne in einem Dorf 30 minuten entfernt. Hätte ich Sie nur damals gekannt! Ich war segeln ohne Klo,dass war der Horror. Liebe Grüsse aus Jübek❤❤❤
Always nice to get a little more personal look. Thanks for being open to sharing with us, Feli and Ben! Great video to end the year! P.S. 100% with Ben--schnitzel is delightful!
If I just stumbled into your channel and saw a muted minute of it I'd believe calm Ben was the German and smiling Feli was American. Happy new year both of you and keep on posting☺👍!
You guys need to do a Zoom or Facetime collab video with Nick (NALF) and his German girlfriend Laura. She's been on a few if his videos and comes across as sweet and smart and her English is very good.
A lot of times persons will speak in their 'native' language with another who understands it so can hide from those of another language to not know what they are talking about. Ben, go for the ring and go official. Don't let Feli get away from you ! I love how Feli speaks in English almost as quickly as a 3rd generation USA born American like me and I can understand her. Of course she has a great personality, beautiful and smart, a delight to see her videos.
it‘s funny as this is a video on intercultural differences, but as a German female (and I think this is something most German-raised people, male or female would agree with) I find the American mentality of „put a ring on it“ really strange and somewhat disconcerting. First of all, is anyone expecting me to just take off with someone else, if we aren‘t getting married? Second, is anyone saying that just because we got married, I might not still take off if it doesn‘t work out? I guess marriage to most people my generation at least (90s kid) is nothing more than a party with the family to publicly celebrate the sincerity both partners feel with regards to their relationship. And also tax benefits, at least in Germany 😅. Then again I do have some female friends who are sort of waiting for their boyfriends to propose already. They are on the same page with their partners regarding future marriage and, like Feli and Ben, have agreed on the „traditional“ proposal, but apparently the ladies want to just get on with it already. So that can happen in all-German relationships, too. I‘m hoping you aren‘t put off by a long comment on a 3-month old humorous post, I just realized an interesting cultural discrepancy and wanted to point it out, feeling as though you might find it equally interesting, since you just watched a video on intercultural differences 😅
Funny Misunderstanding: My Bavarian wife says she was "standing on the light", (waiting for the traffic light to change). I told her she better get down from there.
You guys were really open with so much here. This was really insightful because of that! To your question about arguing in German I remember my Pennsylvania Dutch grandparents, who grew up speaking both German and English, would sometimes discuss their disagreements (I never remember them actually arguing) in German. It's because I wanted to understand what they were saying that I learned to speak a fair amount of Pennsylvania Dutch. Thanks, guys. Happy New Year to you both! 🎆🎉
This is why I think why a lot of people who know just a few words in their parent's or grandparent's native language know just the swears and the insults. If they only time they switched from English to their native language were disagreements, it became motivation to learn those words
Being from the Pennsylvania Dutch and growing up as a military brat, I realized at a young age that the phone rang and my pop started to speak in Dutch, it meant bad news on the other end. Also figured out that when they switched from English to Dutch while you were present, they were talking about you!
I'm German and I don't understand much when hearing Pennsylvania Dutch bc it's not fully intelligible to modern German but I do understand Texas German which doesn't sound too different from regular German
@@edithputhy4948 I would agree, but in the area , it is just a given. When you go to most bars, you ask for a lager, you don't have to ask for a Yuengling Lager by name, it's a given. Also, a very popular saying is "If you ain't Dutch, you ain't much", only the locals get it!
Need to switch to German: Es ist immer wieder überraschend zu sehen wie gut gelaunt/glücklich du/ihr hier anzusehen bist/sind. Es gibt Channels da sind die Sprecher eher unemontional-sachorientiert. In zwei weiteren Kanäle die abonniert habe, da sieht man auch ... wie sag ich das jetzt... glückliche Leute. Spock von Startreck/"Raumschiff Enterprise" würde sagen: faszinierend. 🙂
I'd never evern considered that the different childhoods would be a bad thing! I'm from the US but in the UK and married an English guy - I moved here 9 years ago and met him about 6 months in, but after nearly a decade we still find random stuff the other has never heard of and get to enjoy it/laugh at it/realise how actualyl bizarre it is together! (Just last week I ended up googling Apple Jacks commercials. . . he showed me a Princess Diana flavoured soda from the 90s)
@@unniramesh5733well part of the reason why they aren’t part of Germany is thanks to Hitler annexing them and the Allie’s after the war going nope not again
@@FelifromGermany Nur mal so fürs Protokoll...NATÜRLICH WARTET man bis jeder sein essen serviert bekommen hat bevor man anfängt zu essen. Wenn man GEMEINSAM essen geht..dann isst man auch ZUSAMMEN. Is mir scheiß egal wo jemand herkommt. Und wenn ich jemals wieder da drüben im Urlaub sein und öffis nutzen sollte. Sollte ich jemals sehen das einer nicht für ne hochschwangere oder ne 98 jahre alte person aufsteht. Lass ich da den hammer kreisen...selbst in Brooklyn...Brownville...um 3 uhr morgens am samstag. 😁 #wordisbond
My gf and I went to high school together (class of 1976). We didn't see each other, and weren't really friends in school, and got together because we were on the reunion committee. We've been together for three years. We know so many of the same things from growing up together. I also dated a Swedish girl in the 80s and lived in Sweden for almost three years. That was fun too because we learned a lot about our cultures.
I think that the thing about switching to German when you're mad is a thing people do in a bilingual family. My cousins are bilingual in French and Dutch, and when I was at their place, I would hear them speaking Dutch (and my Dutch level is very low so I would not understand a thing) and then suddenly my aunt, when she was mad about something, she would start to yell in French even tho she was speaking in Dutch a second before. And she did it of course because she knew that my cousins and my uncle understand French
Liebe Feli,Deine Videos gefallen mir sehr! Ich (60+) lerne dadurch gutes Englisch und erfahre die kulturellen Unterschiede. Ich bewun9dere Deine schnelle Aussprache.Ben und Du, ihr seid ein tolles Paar!!! ❤❤❤ Ich wünsche Euch eine glückliche gemeinsame Zukunft!!! Uta aus SH
Love to hear that you watch Sissi as a Christmas movie in Germany. Love these 3 movies. Watch them so many times, Romy Schneider has been one of my favorites actress for a very long time. Wondering if Ben’s love the movies as much though, it is historical but mostly a love story. Happy New Year from 🇨🇦
My mother is an immigrant from England. My father is an immigrant from Brazil. I was 11 in 1982 when the Falkland war broke out. There were actually two wars. There was a war in the south Atlantic, and there was the war in our home . The war in the south Atlantic was over much faster. There’s is a lessons in this for couples from different nationalities .
Feli, Than you very much for this! I feel like as someone who has spent most of his childhood growing up in both cultures (living on a US Army base in Germany, but going to German school), I should probably start my own RUclips Channel talking about my very unique experiences - being totally comfortable with the habits and quirks of both societies (yet still preferring to live in the US vs. Germany)
Ben seems very bright and kind. As an American I'd say he's a breath of fresh air. I appreciate that Feli is very independent (like my wife)....I'm not fans of dependent people...and why doesn't he learn to speak German? I'm a combat veteran. Guns are not fun. They are tools, not toys. BTW, does he like spaetzle?
When it comes to shooting guns in the backyard, it depends on the backyard. If you have the appropriate backyard, set up properly, there a lot of rifles that you can safely shoot in that backyard which many gun ranges are not built for and do not allow. Of course, I’m not talking about backyards in subdivisions; it takes a good amount of land and proper care to have a safe backyard gun range. When it comes to self defense and defending your family, people should put as many barriers between themselves and both physical & legal peril as possible.
That's a mature sane attitude about a relationship: communicate, discover if you're on the same page about things. It's insane how many people get married and haven't discussed things beforehand.
One of the best Christmas stories I ever heard was when German and British troops began singing Christmas Carols on the battlefield on Christmas Eve during WWI. They stopped killing each other and enjoyed Christmas TOGETHER, even exchanging gifts. I'm mad I never hear about this in school and was an adult before I heard about it.
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During breaks in fighting, they also played football matches.
As a Brit, I joined Feli's channel partly because I wanted to see whether I identified more with Feli (we're both European) or with Americans (we both speak English plus the shared history and culture stuff).
@@donaldduck2621 Its tricky, but on balance I think my "European" side wins out - probably partly helped by the fact that Feli speaks perfect English! It's not an anti-American thing! And its probably because I've travelled Europe so much more. But despite the language issue, I think I feel more "at home" in most of Europe than in the USA. But I don't think all Brits would give the same answer!
Australian who was married to a German Woman for 17 years and have a bilingual daughter with, I see you guys are working together on the relationship, that's essential. Our marriage failed for many reasons. I have no family, so my wife. ( from typical German Family )struggled with feeling at home in Oz. Not an issue for you in either country. The one thing I have noticed is most relationships across cultures have much more chance of making it when the native speaker learns the others language to the very best they can " minimal high conversational level " read too. Not just Ich Liebe dich. The very best of luck.😃
Ben is right that if the girl insists on paying for herself on the first date, the guy is going to assume she doesn't want to go out again. It's like her way of saying "this isn't really a date, we're just hanging out together as platonic friends". At least that's how the guy will see it.
Yes, I speak perfectly Romanian and Italian. And now I use more English since I am living in the Netherlands. Romanian is dominant when I am mad or for expressing my emotions. So yes, I tend to switch to Romanian when I struggle emotionally, because it is my first language
Time to add another language 😉 Trying to learn to speak Dutch will become "difficult" if the conversation switches to English everytime. It will prevent you from practicing Dutch but just tell the other person you want to practice the language and they'll be more patient, I hope.🤔
My husband is from Romania and I've picked up saying Doamne ferește from his mom 😂 his favorite hobby is antagonizing her so as you can imagine she says it a lot 😅
@@bartholvangent3225 It's just that we are so used to using more than one language that we unintentionally switch to what we think the other party understands best. But just as you said, tell us to speak dutch and we wil.
My Family (Great Grandparents) were from Borgloh Germany and immigrated to Cincinnati and we were brought up to wait until everyone gets their food and/or drink before we start. Even though I am Three generations from my German Heritage, to me it is just rude to start eating before everyone gets their food. The only exception for me is at a big family gathering and the food is set up in a buffet style setting. It would not be practical to wait for everyone. I have thoroughly enjoyed your channel almost from the beginning, especially since I also live in Cincinnati !!! Happy New Year!!!😃😄😃😄
Christmas in the USA WAS a lot more special in times past. In the 70's - 80's, the era of mall shopping, nice department stores sold so many toys and beautiful Christmas decor it was like a wonderland in each one. Now it's difficult to find anything charming. Towns put up decor on lampposts and held parades. Of course Santa was in every mall too. Not as authentic as Germany, but it was better.
I think people get the changing of languages when fighting is taken from a trope in movies and TV, especially scenes in which the woman is storming off yelling or mumbling in their native language.
One thinks of the TV Western, _The High Chaparral_ from the late 1960s where the Anglo ranch owner in Arizona Territory had married a Mexican Hidalgo's daughter whose brother was at the ranch, and their characters had verbal tangles where she'd go off in rapid-fire Spanish while her brother was remaining calm (maybe).
Hey! American that was living outside of Munich in the early 2000’s 👋 Christmas in Germany was magical experience for my family when we lived there! Love your videos and content! Servus! 🇩🇪 🇺🇸
In all Europe, people learn how to drive a stick car. I took my driving licence in Italy and if you learn how to drive an automatic car when you take your driving licence for any reason, you are not allowed to driving the manual car, The other way around is allowed
This isn't true. My husband's friends daughter learned how to drive an automatic in Switzerland. For Switzerland, a lot of the younger people (not all) tend to want to learn to drive with an automatic.
@@jitterskater 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🙄🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. Thanks for the laugh. I really needed that today. Swiss are better drivers. Germans tend to be timid drivers (not all). A lot of of Swiss are grab the bull by the horns kind of people.
@@jessicaely2521 Yeah, right. The Swiss are absolutely terrible, especially on the German Autobahn where they think that they can "die Sau rauslassen" and drive their expensive cars to their limits. Every single time I'm in BaWü, it's the same sorry spectacle.
I am a Lutheran, so the Advent thing is second nature to me. I guess it also helps that my great grandma immigrated here from the Hamburg area of Germany.
I'm wondering if either of you have taken the Meyers-Briggs personality test? I think you two are very compatible despite the cultural differences. Perhaps your personality types are very well matched. Or.....its probably your great love for each other!! (Maybe you two can do an online personality test and discuss the findings on a future installment of FFG.)
I am of first generation of Canadian Dutch heritage; whereas, my wife is of first generation Canadian Italian heritage. Sharing these cultures are wonderful for your children.
Hi, I don't even recall how or because of what RUclips sent me to your channel, but...... I'm glad they did. I took three year of German in high school.... all "A"s. But, My ears can't keep up with the speed. Plus, I'm 70 now so that's 52 years ago. Wow! This was a great episode. Hearing you both sharing cross-cultural perspectives and perceptions is fantastic. Now, with so many comments odds are not great that you will read this especially since it is a year old. Well, thanks for the really cool and personal revelations. Blessings!!
One thing I've noticed about a lot of bilingual people is that when they're speaking English they'll swear in their native tongue and when they`re speaking in their native language they`ll swear in English. That never fails to crack me up.
also, counting. No matter how proficient you get in another language, how much you use it in everyday life, might even lose fluency or vocabulary in your native language. You will always continue to count in the language you first learned your numbers in. Especially when doing it quickly or only in your head, adding up numbers and so forth. Or doing the 2-4-6-8 thing, skipping the uneven numbers and just tallying up the pairs.
and to be fair, it‘s quite popular to swear in English even for people who don‘t otherwise speak any English at all. It‘s the words that rappers and other musicians use and that are used in film (and usually not censored outside the US) and thus kids learn as a cool swear word. The more English swear words you know, the higher your street cred on a German playground…
I am a native English speaker that speaks Spanish on a nearly-native level, and I prefer to swear in Spanish. It's more expressive and you can use entire phrases and sentences to swear rather than just one word. It's automatic to me these days. When I dream in Spanish, it's usually me being angry at someone and swearing at them in a rapid fire fashion.
In my family, My parents did put up Advent calendars for Christmas but then my mom's side of the family is German so we definitely have a lot of German traditions and some very British traditions because my dad's side is from Great Britain along with Ireland so our family always loved celebrating all of the traditions from our ancestry.
I have never seen "Sissi". I recently found out that "Die Hard" has, for some reason utterly inexplicable, become a Christmas movie, like " A Christmas Story" or "Miracle on 34th Street".. Ask Ben to explain "Die Hard" if need be. We live in an irony-rich environment. Happy New Year!
That's a very uncool thought for most modern-day European Union citizens. Obviously, the vicious Russians (= Russian dictatorship) are an exception right now, but the thought of someone having a private assault rifle and cleaning it with an 8-year old is just crazy and outlandish. We here have no need for such assault rifles, because common-sense people solve disputes with words, not by firearm ! Our approach of regulated but legal gun ownership is therefore the right thing to do. Not US-style "Shoot first, only then think." You need to think first, and preferably not shoot at all !
@@donaldduck2621 Give the definition of an Assult rifle, please. Cause if you don't know what an assault rifle is, it goes to show me, you don't know what you're talking about. So band guns, tell Me, weed, heiron, crack, and meth are illegal, yet people still get it. So banning guns will stop the problem? Yet 95% of crimes committed with a gun is with an illegal firearm, and 98% mass shootings take place in gun freezones. Plus the big black scary AR15 is the cause for most killings, right? Wrong, hand guns are, 92% are committed with hand guns. Which is mostly gang related. The AR15 is not an assault rifle, nor does it stand for assault rifle. It stands for Arma Lite rifle. Let me just explain what an Assault rifle is. Assault rifles are only owned by the military. The difference is, the AR is semi automatic only. That means you pull the trigger once and one round comes out. Where with an assault rifle, you have semi automatic capability, but, you also have automatic. That means you pull the trigger and as long as you are pulling the trigger, it would keep firing. Which again automatic guns of any sort is illegal. Which brings to, why don't I want my guns taken away? My cousin's grandfather was a Jew. When the Nazi's rose to power they took away people's guns. Him and his family had their gun taken away by the Nazis and than got thrown in a concentration camp. Luckily he escaped and made his way to the U.S. and joined up. He actually freed the camp he was put in. The government wants the American people de armed. They are nothing but fascist and communist. Both Republicans and Democrats. They want to control and rip away our freedoms. If that means killing people they will do it. They are God haters and our just like their father the Devil. They are terrified, if a rebellion happen, there is nothing the government can do to stop it. It would be like Vietnam. The government would not be able to tell who is the enemy. Plus who would fight for them, The military? The job of our soldiers is to protect us, not the government. Our military would turn on our government. The second amendment was given to us by our Founding Fathers to protect ourselves from invaders and a tyrannical government. Which that is what our government is now, tyrannical. Here's REAL STATISTICS IN THE U.S. OF GUN CRIMES. www.google.com/amp/s/www.louderwithcrowder.com/amp/gun-control-change-my-mind-2652514161
@@donaldduck2621 "Regulated bu legal gun ownership". Translation, we let Big Daddy and Mommy Government tell us what to do and we obey like good slaves.
@@detroitandclevelandfan5503 I am pro 2nd amendment and believe in gun ownership. One thing you said is wrong, the Nazi's did not confiscate all people's guns, but actually encouraged German citizens to own guns. They might have taken guns from the Jews, but certainly most people were allowed to have guns.
Wir sind seit 26 Jahren verheiratet . Wenn ihr jeden Tag als Geschenk nehmt und immer aufeinander neugierig ist seid,, wird es toll. Da ich von der Westküste bin und meine Frau hier aus Franken, haben wir in kleinem Kreis geheiratet. Derzeit leiden wir beide unter COVID, und verbringen die Silvesternacht mit College Football im TV. Liebe Grüße aus Mittelfranken.
In regards to the times when a German word is inadvertently slipped into the conversation, does it basically go unnoticed if Ben understands it? I think it would be great to share/teach cultures like you two do.
I had a friend in school, whose parents where German and Greek respectively and usually spoke French with each other, as that was the language they were both most fluent in. The kids spoke all three languages fluently and natively (they learnt native German and Greek from their parents and grew up in a French environment and education). Dinner at their home was interesting, as all three languages were used at the same time and interchangeably. And usually their was no need to translate anything, as the parents were also reasonably familiar with each others language and able to get the gist of what was said. I was cool for the French and German but had to pass on the Greek. I‘m not sure they even realized when they used Greek until I looked at them rather stupidly and they had to quickly translate 😅
My wife's family was from Germany and my 3 daughters put out stockings on Dec 6 or Nikolaus abend. We spent christmas eve at my inlaws. Now at my oldest daughters. My in .aws have passed away. In their 80s a few years ago. My 3 daughters always had advent calendars growing up.
I'm from Belgium and the "Sissi" movie tradition around Christmas was still a thing here too when I was a kid in the 90's/00's with my grandparents haha 😄 It reminded me good memories, vielen dank Feli !
It's always fun when Ben is present, bc I'm from Missouri, so the cultural references are similar, and it's nice to hear someone with a similar accent to my own.
That sounds good. I only hear English, and even have my little problems with it. This is probably due to my 30-year-old school English. But I understand that, because with us you can also hear from the dialect whether someone is from Bavaria, Rhineland-Palatinate, Baden-Württemberg, from eastern Germany such as Sachsen, Saxony-Anhalt, Brandenburg, the Berlin area, from Saarland or the Rhineland the Ruhr area or the north like Bremen, Hamburg or Schleswig-Holstein.
In the UK, "Father Christmas" traditionally leaves the stockings at the end of the childrens bed, not the fireplace mantle. Also, the stocking presents are the only ones he leaves. The big presents undernearth the tree are from your parents/family. A lot of times, this does end up meaning that you get more valuable stocking presents than you do in the US, and while the presents under the tree are larger and more valuable than the stocking gifts are, a lot of the times this can also mean less money is spent on large presents than in the US.
My family grew up with a very German culture that’s been handed down over the generations. Food, traditions, bit of language, lederhosen (still have mine they don’t fit anymore)
When I go to the store, I rarely use bags. At the grocery store, I just put things back into the cart and take it out to the car. I usually use the self-checkout, so I can do that. When there is no self-checkout, I sometimes have trouble convincing the clerks that i really DON'T want bags.
Oh totally feel Ben on the NFL thing :D As a German, in germany, I'll still watch NFL on american television just because the commentary is SO much better :D
One of my memories of Germany(I was stationed in Mannheim in the early 70's) was my wife and I being told by our neighbor, that we had to air our bedding every Monday by placing it in the open window, otherwise we would be considered to be messy, dirty. We weren't offended, it was thoughtful of her to talk about it, even tho it was alien to us(American washers/dryers)(we were living on the economy, not in base housing)
I have German heritage (great grandparents immigrated) and have noticed while watching your videos that many of the things you do and ways you think are the same as I think and do. I believe that even though I have only been exposed to a little German culture when compared to someone raised in Germany that people of the same or similar genetic stock have brains that are wired much the same way. This would lead us to reach similar conclusions when faced with similar stimuli and respond in similar ways. For example, I like things quiet, I would definitely speak up if I had told someone something and they ignored me, I prefer a structured environment for the most part etc. and there is more. All in all I think I think in a more German way than many people who do not have German ancestry. I have always been like this, even before I knew about my German genetics. I never seemed to fit in and always expect more of people in terms of manners and organized thinking. After watching so many of your videos and those of others, I feel like I have found myself and where I might belong. Sounds corny aber es ist was es ist. Of course there are points of divergence since I was raised here and other places when I was young.
I think that‘s mostly the cultural heritage you gain from your upbringing. When your ancestors immigrated, they were still culturally Germans and would have passed on a lot of those cultural traits to the children they were raising. And while this probably diminishes with every generation, the impact our home environment in our childhood has on our character development is really strong. I don‘t think cultural traits are passed on genetically so much. As a species we get born at a much earlier developmental stage than most other beings and thus are much more trainable and able to assimilate into a culture than other species.
You can easily have a "real" tree for more than 2 or 3 weeks, if you use a tree stand with a water reservoir and cut the trunk off before trimming the tree. It will last until february at least.
@@RandomNonsense1985 true I agree, at least you can use Spanish in Florida and everywhere in Latin America and understand Portuguese and French if you know Spanish
Regarding "pot" vs. "pod" : In English, if the t sound comes at the end of a syllable or word, it can be turned into a glottal stop. The d sound always has to be vocalized though, and that's how you can differentiate the two words. "Pot" will sound like Po' and "Pod" will sound like "Pod"
Feli, You and I would get along great! The straight forwardness is what I like about the Germans, as I have German in me , I have friends who tell me that I am too straight forward sometimes but That is ok. I live in California and I feel like people out here don't really say what they mean which is irritating.
Feli, I'm and old guy who grew up in northeastern Ohio, and like Ben drove a manual transmission tractor (and started it with a crank), and had a lot of guns, but we didn't shoot much. Like you, I hate eating in a car! It is uncomfortable and makes a mess. I have never bought a "big gulp" type drink in my life, and hate it when someone gets into my car carrying a drink that is full to the top---I know it's going to spill. I carry a thermos of water in my vehicle and have a tall thermal type cup to use. I live in a rural area and I have to drive a minimum of 40 minutes just to get to a small town (an hour and a quarter to a city), so I will eat things like apples or a bananas in the car----and at a wooded area I can with a clear conscience compost my core or skin. I've always gone for walks, since my teen years, and still do. I walk in all weather except when there is lightening. Yes, it is rude to start eating before others are seated. The whole wedding proposal crap is a ridiculous Hollywood trope. AND--I wish that Americans all had to supply their own bags at the grocery---as at Aldi.
Hopefully someone already said this, but the 2nd amendment has nothing to do with any kind of recreation. It is an acknowledgement of your right to defend yourself and your loved ones against deadly force with deadly force. IMO it's an inherent right, and no gov't can take it from me, but thankfully in the US (for now) it is officially recognized.
@@davesaunders7080 One doesn't have to be in a militia to have the right. If so, that'd make it a privilege. A well informed Congress, being necessary to the wise operation of government, the right of the people to own and read books, shall not be infringed. That sentence does not mean that only those in Congress have the right to own and read books. Nor does it mean someone gets to decide that some books aren't suitable for that purpose because the right isn't limited to that purpose. The right to arms is a direct extension of the right to self defense.
I’m living in Franklin, North Carolina about an hour or so from Asheville. I’m originally from the Cincinnati area(small rural town of Williamsburg). I’m a die hard Bengals fan and Buckeyes fan as well. Who Dey guys!!!!!
The not waiting for everyone to have food/drink is new. I grew up being taught to wait and I still wait, even for fast food. And it drives me nuts when others don't!
The pot/pod misunderstanding is funny and something I never would have thought of (although I know enough German to get by.) Of course, your children, if children there be, should have the advantage of bilingualism. I bungled into bilingualism myself, although having no cultural roots in the second language. If possible, and I don't know what resources are available in Cincinnati, they should learn as many languages as they can when young. It's the best time.
If a girl offers to pay, I am not going to offend them by not taking them at their word unless we are taking turns and it js my turn and there is nonreason for a gift. Honest communication is so important I think.
I’ve always liked learning about other cultures and I always find that the things Europeans are shocked by are the very things we have lost as a nation. We shared the same cultural things since many of us have immigrant grandparents from Europe and the rest of the nationalities were the same. Younger people here haven’t experienced that in their lives. My children and their generation were the last to grow up as their parents did in a much more civil society as the one you, Feli, talk about. I believe one of the factors for this was the return of most women to the workforce and the divorce rate. There are others but basically children are all over the place and a lot of schools are not the best either. But with all the migration into the country some of those values will come back so there is hope.
Feli in Indianapolis a man was shooting up a mall. Another man eating with his girlfriend sewn the shooter, he had his own gun and shot and stopped the killer. And we need protection from our government And ypu said I shoot a person great I don't want to live with that, but at least you're alive!
About Christmas trees... Granted that I don't know about trees in Germany, I lived in N. Carolina for a while, where they grew a LOT of trees, and buying a freshly cut there would last MUCH longer than when I lived in Florida. A freshly cut tree would still be quite green in February. Inquiring about that with one of the tree farmers, he said that the local trees were cut within a few days of when you would buy them, but the ones they shipped out would be cut in September or October.
I know more women who own guns, especially hand guns, than men. One was afraid of them until she started dating a guy who was a gun enthusiast. She got involved with guns and liked it. Now, she has a concealed carry and is an instructor.
I truly belive that if most people who are anti-gun would actually take the time to learn about them and how to safely use them, most of them would change their minds drasticlly about them.
Talking about language misunderstandings, I remember this… I was not long in Germany and after a night in a keller bar, I told this one girl, “Gute Nacht”, which means, “Good Night” of course. But…I said it like…”Gute Nakt”…which would translate into, “Good Naked”, which of course we laughed pretty hard over that and I was embarrassed but laughed also. That’s the fun stuff. Rand in Helen, Georgia
I watched all three finally. I have to watch them again now. I actually found it on an American platform. Have you seen the new movie about Sissi? I watched part of it. I have to sit down and watch it. I thinks it’s in German so I have to actually watch to understand, not that I mind. Also we have an advent candle wreath in our church. It’s a united Methodist church. I don’t take open beverages in the car. I can’t even do it with coffee.
I love German made Christmas ornaments, it's beautifully made. My fake Christmas tree I have had for the past 25 years. It has all German ornaments, I think the Germans do Christmas beautifully.
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Please raise your kids bilingual or multilingual if you have the chance to do so. When I was younger, I thought my parents were weird because they would speak to me in English, French and Chinese. I can't even begin to explain you how grateful I am for having had such an opportunity.
YES! My 7 year old daughter speaks 3 languages. Growing up in a French American family, we kids learning French was the last thing our elders wanted. Because that was their secret code, for gossiping in front of young ears. But they made the fatal mistake of sending us to a kindergarten, owned by a Parisian woman, who taught French A LOT! And we soaked it up like sponges! I'll never forget, one day my cousin and I came home, laughing, and singing, and speaking in French! The old folks faces fell like avalanches, not because of us, but because of our older siblings! Priceless! What might they know? Anyway, knowledge is power, and more power to kids!!!
Trying to raise him/her in 3 languages 😄
Exactly. A friend of mine from Puerto Rico spoke only English to his kids. His wife (also Puerto Rican) spoke only Spanish. His son would talk to me in Spanish or English depending upon what he was thinking in at the moment. After some initial issues in school, both did very well and are fully bilingual. Both of my kids HAD some German, but have mostly lost it (as have I unfortunately).
@@marcobossi1749, nice, but it's only possible if you're bilingual yourself (or your partner, or both in the same), otherwise you might teach your children mistakes in said languages, which they can't lose any more!
@@Quark0611 I agree. Fortunately my wife is
The funniest thing I ever saw language wise was friends family in Meran. The father was ethnically Italian, was having a conversation with his wife, an ethnic Austrian. The father was speaking German, the mother answering in Italian. The son was speaking English to both of them. The phone rang, the son answered in Italian, then held out the phone to the mother, saying it was for her in German. When asked no one realized they were doing this.
English-Spanish-Norwegian is also very amusing.......
that's hilarious!! 😄
(although for that family it's probably just their everyday life; happens in my family too, and probably to many outside the English-speaking world)
LOLOLOLOLLL...sounds similar to my parents and me, but not quite a a third language. More of the Engliman or Germlish.
That's crazy funny!
Me and my wife are trying to do the same. I am Italian, she was born in Romania, and we both live in Germany. 😅 Our kid is coming soon, and it will be a mixture of languages for sure 🤣
Feli, I grow more impressed with Ben every time he appears on your channel. The wisdom you both show in using differences to build a stronger, more joyful relationship is a powerful lesson both for close relationships and in how we treat others daily.
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Ben is totally whipped...
@@briansimson933steady, dude, this may come as a shock to you: Not everyone interprets this world in terms of people whipping other people.
@@TerryBollinger I think Brian was joking. Humor can be complicated, even within the same culture.
@@MrLuigi-oi7gmgood point. The best proof of friendly intent in demeaning humor is that the author finds it equally funny if someone tosses a comparable barb back at them. So, hopefully, Brian got a good laugh at my reply.
I have been married to my German wife for 30 years. Many of cultural things you mention were relevant and continue to be relevant to this day.
One of the magical things I learned from her was "Urmel aus dem Eis". Since living in Germany I've had the opportunity to visit Augsburger Puppenkiste.
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That's so nice. I loved it as a kid (also now, of course). There's something magical about it indeed which I quite can't put into words.
I don't think the romantic type of love is special. And I am started to think that the romantic type of love isn't real. I mean about more than half of romantic couples either break up with each other or divorce each other, while most platonic best friends remain friends until death.
I think that having a platonic best friend is a lot better than having a romantic partner or spouse is. Having someone who's like a sibling to you is a lot better than having a romantic partner or spouse. Also, you are more likely to be much more closer to someone who's like a brother or sister to you than you would be with a romantic partner or spouse.
People tend to fight with their partner or spouse a lot more than they do with a platonic best friend, and you never fight with your best friend the way you fight with your partner or spouse. Partners and spouses are just temporary. If you break up or divorce them, it's hard to go back to them. With your platonic best friend, you're going to make things work, because they are your best friend, they are your go to partner. It's always easier to make amends with them than it is with a romantic partner or spouse.
@@icysnow57cold64Hey, I can tell that you're hurting. I want you to know that you don't need a romantic partner to be happy. Friends can be enough. However, if you want a long term romantic partner, they should ideally be your best friend too. A lasting romantic relationship needs two be built on at least two, possibly three types of love: 1 Agape (selfless love) 2) Philia (Affectionate/platonic love), and 3 Eros (Sexual/passionate love).
There really are multiple different types of love. The English language really doesn't do it justice.
@@rosered5485 Most people consider their platonic best friend to be their soulmate rather than their romantic partner or spouse.
Platonic relationships and romantic relationships may be two entirely different things, but that doesn't mean they are equal when it comes to the amount of love given in them.
The love in platonic relationships seems to be way stronger than the love in romantic relationships is since platonic relationships are not fragile like romantic relationships are.
Also, platonic relationships also seem to be a lot more intimate and comfortable than romantic relationships are. Platonic love is one of the most purest forms of love there is, while romantic love is one of the least purest forms of love there is.
Most people seem to be a lot more comfortable around their platonic best friends than they are around their romantic partners or spouses.
A platonic best friend is one of the best things you could ever have. A platonic best friend can be someone you trust the most, and they can be your confidant and coach.
People tend to trust their platonic best friends more than their romantic partners, and that's a fact.
The concept of romantic love and romantic relationships seems to mostly be a man-made thing.
The whole "pot vs pod" discussion is pretty hilarious because I'm not a native English speaker, and I had this very long discussion about "mass" and "mess". They sound _exactly_ the same to me, but a Canadian friend was "No, they sound similar, but still clearly different". My point is: Feli, you're not alone there; it happens to all of us.
Yeah, I spent hours trying to help my Russian friend figure out the difference, to no avail unfortunately.
Oh and when it comes to pot and pod, the difference in American speakers is even more miniscule than you'd think: the t and d are both pronounced the same (alveolar flap), but there is a slight difference in vowel length in the o sound beforehand (longer in 'pod')
My German partner makes similar mistakes.
@@guy1524I disagree - they're very distinct in most of the US. I've never ever had trouble distinguishing between the two anywhere in the US. But the thing is, if you didn't grow up with certain sounds, after a certain point people generally lose the ability to hear the sounds their native language didn't have
@@guy1524The only US accents in which I'd imagine these two words could be hard to distinguish would be an either a "Boston" accent or certain NYC accents. But where have you noticed this?
@@guy1524Also, the d and t sounds in pod and pot are not pronounced the same. They're very distinctive
"It wouldn't make any sense being mad in German because he wouldn't understand" is the most German comment ever :)
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@@FelifromGermany No one WANTS to shoot someone, but if they are threatening your safety it is justified and one can be in a situation where one HAS to. As bad as it is to have to do that, it sure beats being a victim yourself. We don't need to get guns off the street; we need to get violent people off the street. Virtually every homicide in my state ends with the reporter saying and the suspect has a long history of violent crime. My state has let violent people run loose with great frequency going on 6 decades now. That's what needs to stop.
When Charlie Beck was police chief in Los Angeles, he said he doesn't want the law loosened to allow people to carry guns, never mind that the 6 safest states in the USA all allow carry, claiming it'd put his officers at risk. Those who are a risk to his officers all carry despite the laws against it. The only people stopped from carrying a gun by a law are those who would never dream of being violent. How odd that he thinks his officers should be able to carry their guns for defense, and that is why police carry guns, but the rest of us should not be able to. How is a police officer's life more worth defending than yours or mine?
My mom worked for a sheriff's department when I was a kid, and one of the deputies said something I'll never forget. He said the last thing on most people's mind is harming anyone, and if you gave such a person a gun they could run around all week and STILL the last thing on their mind would be harming anyone. The only difference is that if they are attacked they can defend themselves. Indeed, when we did prohibit carry of guns in the USA the homicide rate was multiples higher than before or since. I didn't quite tell the whole truth. Vermont is the one state that never prohibited carry, and their homicide rate remained low all along.
Allowing people who've proved themselves capable of wanton violence run free emboldens them, and if they "answer" to their continued violence is to disarm those who are not violence it emboldens them more. Since Ohio went to permitless carry it has seen a decrease in the homicide rate statewide and in 6 of the 8 biggest cities in the state. We have a real problem in left leaning cities like Los Angeles, New Orleans, St. Louis, NYC with district attorneys refusing to prosecute people for violent crimes and yet actually trying to prosecute those who have to shoot someone in self defense. That's absolutely backwards.
Have always been happy for you both, but this took my appreciation of your relationship to an entirely new level. 💛💛💛
Y'all communicate, which overcomes the vast majority of relationship issues
Fun show. I’m an American and my wife is English and we just celebrated our 47th wedding anniversary. We still enjoy the differences between our two cultures. I’m sure both of you will also.
My oh my! I am an American woman in my 70’s who has experienced two long term international relationships. The first was with a German woman who had lived in the US for nearly 20 years. I moved with her to Northern Germany (Husum, north of Hamburg) and lived there for ten years out in the countryside. This was more than 30 years ago and the only person at that time with whom I had contact who spoke fluent English, was her. My German language skills then included saying “my name is” and “where is a taxi”. She worked for Apple Computer at their international headquarters in Paris and was gone during the week, coming home on Friday evenings, flying back to Paris on Monday. “Home” was a house built in 1872 which underwent extensive reconstruction during the first two years. I lived there the entire time. The first architect spoke a limited English. When we first moved in, the house had a bathroom on the “bottom” floor and one on the upper floor. In JANUARY, this person decided that it would be practical to REMOVE both bathrooms at the same time, in order to better facilitate the reconstruction. When I protested, she was surprised and told me, “But you can easily go outside to the bushes.” !!!!???? I ask, “What about all the male construction workers?” “Oh they won’t mind!” “And how am I supposed to wash myself?” Rather puzzled she replied, “But of course you heat water on the stove.” An absolutely FRANTIC call to Paris put a stop to this architects “plan”. One morning some few months later, I woke up to male laughter. When I opened my eyes, three jolly bricklayers were making comments in Plattdeutschere while they removed the bricks from my bedroom wall in order to install new windows as I lay naked, sleeping in my bed. (I was covered by a sheet.) Can you imagine waking up like that? Fortunately these men were true gentlemen. When they were certain that I was awake, they left the scaffolding giving me time to grab my clothes and run. For the rest of their bricklaying work, they treated me with gentle respect, bless them. I PROMISE that I am neither exaggerating nor imagining! Not too long after, we hired a new architect. But talk about culture shock! 🤪☺️
Sie hatten es in Husum echt schwer! Keine Frau in Schleswig Hokstein würde sich aud solche Probleme einlassen.Ich wohne in einem Dorf 30 minuten entfernt. Hätte ich Sie nur damals gekannt! Ich war segeln ohne Klo,dass war der Horror. Liebe Grüsse aus Jübek❤❤❤
Always nice to get a little more personal look. Thanks for being open to sharing with us, Feli and Ben! Great video to end the year! P.S. 100% with Ben--schnitzel is delightful!
Feli unfiltered in this video makes it feel more authentic and genuine. Happy New Year!
If I just stumbled into your channel and saw a muted minute of it I'd believe calm Ben was the German and smiling Feli was American. Happy new year both of you and keep on posting☺👍!
TIE THE KNOT! You two are awesome together! SO glad you found each other!
The telegram is likely a scam.
You guys need to do a Zoom or Facetime collab video with Nick (NALF) and his German girlfriend Laura. She's been on a few if his videos and comes across as sweet and smart and her English is very good.
She did a video with Nalf alone a few years ago. That's how I found him and became a subscriber. And yes I think this is a great idea.
A lot of times persons will speak in their 'native' language with another who understands it so can hide from those of another language to not know what they are talking about.
Ben, go for the ring and go official. Don't let Feli get away from you ! I love how Feli speaks in English almost as quickly as a 3rd generation USA born American like me and I can understand her. Of course she has a great personality, beautiful and smart, a delight to see her videos.
Why are Americans keen to rush young people into marriage?
it‘s funny as this is a video on intercultural differences, but as a German female (and I think this is something most German-raised people, male or female would agree with) I find the American mentality of „put a ring on it“ really strange and somewhat disconcerting. First of all, is anyone expecting me to just take off with someone else, if we aren‘t getting married? Second, is anyone saying that just because we got married, I might not still take off if it doesn‘t work out? I guess marriage to most people my generation at least (90s kid) is nothing more than a party with the family to publicly celebrate the sincerity both partners feel with regards to their relationship. And also tax benefits, at least in Germany 😅.
Then again I do have some female friends who are sort of waiting for their boyfriends to propose already. They are on the same page with their partners regarding future marriage and, like Feli and Ben, have agreed on the „traditional“ proposal, but apparently the ladies want to just get on with it already. So that can happen in all-German relationships, too.
I‘m hoping you aren‘t put off by a long comment on a 3-month old humorous post, I just realized an interesting cultural discrepancy and wanted to point it out, feeling as though you might find it equally interesting, since you just watched a video on intercultural differences 😅
Funny Misunderstanding: My Bavarian wife says she was "standing on the light", (waiting for the traffic light to change). I told her she better get down from there.
Hahaha that's hilarious 😂
You guys were really open with so much here. This was really insightful because of that!
To your question about arguing in German I remember my Pennsylvania Dutch grandparents, who grew up speaking both German and English, would sometimes discuss their disagreements (I never remember them actually arguing) in German. It's because I wanted to understand what they were saying that I learned to speak a fair amount of Pennsylvania Dutch. Thanks, guys. Happy New Year to you both! 🎆🎉
This is why I think why a lot of people who know just a few words in their parent's or grandparent's native language know just the swears and the insults. If they only time they switched from English to their native language were disagreements, it became motivation to learn those words
Being from the Pennsylvania Dutch and growing up as a military brat, I realized at a young age that the phone rang and my pop started to speak in Dutch, it meant bad news on the other end. Also figured out that when they switched from English to Dutch while you were present, they were talking about you!
I'm German and I don't understand much when hearing Pennsylvania Dutch bc it's not fully intelligible to modern German but I do understand Texas German which doesn't sound too different from regular German
@@davidschumaker8107 it's weird when people shorten Pennsylvania dutch bc it's not actually Dutch
@@edithputhy4948 I would agree, but in the area , it is just a given. When you go to most bars, you ask for a lager, you don't have to ask for a Yuengling Lager by name, it's a given. Also, a very popular saying is "If you ain't Dutch, you ain't much", only the locals get it!
Need to switch to German: Es ist immer wieder überraschend zu sehen wie gut gelaunt/glücklich du/ihr hier anzusehen bist/sind. Es gibt Channels da sind die Sprecher eher unemontional-sachorientiert. In zwei weiteren Kanäle die abonniert habe, da sieht man auch ... wie sag ich das jetzt... glückliche Leute. Spock von Startreck/"Raumschiff Enterprise" würde sagen: faszinierend. 🙂
I'd never evern considered that the different childhoods would be a bad thing! I'm from the US but in the UK and married an English guy - I moved here 9 years ago and met him about 6 months in, but after nearly a decade we still find random stuff the other has never heard of and get to enjoy it/laugh at it/realise how actualyl bizarre it is together! (Just last week I ended up googling Apple Jacks commercials. . . he showed me a Princess Diana flavoured soda from the 90s)
Exactly!
@@FelifromGermany how austrian german different from germanic german ?!!! Why austria is not part of germany ?!!!
@@unniramesh5733well part of the reason why they aren’t part of Germany is thanks to Hitler annexing them and the Allie’s after the war going nope not again
@@FelifromGermany Nur mal so fürs Protokoll...NATÜRLICH WARTET man bis jeder sein essen serviert bekommen hat bevor man anfängt zu essen. Wenn man GEMEINSAM essen geht..dann isst man auch ZUSAMMEN. Is mir scheiß egal wo jemand herkommt. Und wenn ich jemals wieder da drüben im Urlaub sein und öffis nutzen sollte. Sollte ich jemals sehen das einer nicht für ne hochschwangere oder ne 98 jahre alte person aufsteht. Lass ich da den hammer kreisen...selbst in Brooklyn...Brownville...um 3 uhr morgens am samstag. 😁 #wordisbond
@juliab3326 it's more like if Vermont never left Canada joined the US and was separated from ever rejoining Canada
My gf and I went to high school together (class of 1976). We didn't see each other, and weren't really friends in school, and got together because we were on the reunion committee. We've been together for three years. We know so many of the same things from growing up together. I also dated a Swedish girl in the 80s and lived in Sweden for almost three years. That was fun too because we learned a lot about our cultures.
I think that the thing about switching to German when you're mad is a thing people do in a bilingual family. My cousins are bilingual in French and Dutch, and when I was at their place, I would hear them speaking Dutch (and my Dutch level is very low so I would not understand a thing) and then suddenly my aunt, when she was mad about something, she would start to yell in French even tho she was speaking in Dutch a second before. And she did it of course because she knew that my cousins and my uncle understand French
Liebe Feli,Deine Videos gefallen mir sehr! Ich (60+) lerne dadurch gutes Englisch und erfahre die kulturellen Unterschiede. Ich bewun9dere Deine schnelle Aussprache.Ben und Du, ihr seid ein tolles Paar!!! ❤❤❤ Ich wünsche Euch eine glückliche gemeinsame Zukunft!!! Uta aus SH
Love to hear that you watch Sissi as a Christmas movie in Germany. Love these 3 movies. Watch them so many times, Romy Schneider has been one of my favorites actress for a very long time. Wondering if Ben’s love the movies as much though, it is historical but mostly a love story. Happy New Year from 🇨🇦
He likes Rom coms and he really liked Sissi 😊
My mother is an immigrant from England. My father is an immigrant from Brazil. I was 11 in 1982 when the Falkland war broke out. There were actually two wars. There was a war in the south Atlantic, and there was the war in our home . The war in the south Atlantic was over much faster. There’s is a lessons in this for couples from different nationalities .
Feli, Than you very much for this! I feel like as someone who has spent most of his childhood growing up in both cultures (living on a US Army base in Germany, but going to German school), I should probably start my own RUclips Channel talking about my very unique experiences - being totally comfortable with the habits and quirks of both societies (yet still preferring to live in the US vs. Germany)
My wife and I met in Bogota, Colombia 22 years ago. We married and share a blended family and we have a son together who is 20 years old.
Such a lovely couple! Many blessings to you both for your exciting road ahead together.
Christmas in Germany was Beautiful ❤Bad Kreuznach was Magical!
Ben seems very bright and kind. As an American I'd say he's a breath of fresh air. I appreciate that Feli is very independent (like my wife)....I'm not fans of dependent people...and why doesn't he learn to speak German? I'm a combat veteran. Guns are not fun. They are tools, not toys. BTW, does he like spaetzle?
He's learning!! He's just not at the point yet where he can have a conversation in German. He can listen and understand things though
@@FelifromGermany What about spaetzle? He could learn to make it.
When it comes to shooting guns in the backyard, it depends on the backyard. If you have the appropriate backyard, set up properly, there a lot of rifles that you can safely shoot in that backyard which many gun ranges are not built for and do not allow. Of course, I’m not talking about backyards in subdivisions; it takes a good amount of land and proper care to have a safe backyard gun range. When it comes to self defense and defending your family, people should put as many barriers between themselves and both physical & legal peril as possible.
That's a mature sane attitude about a relationship: communicate, discover if you're on the same page about things. It's insane how many people get married and haven't discussed things beforehand.
One of the best Christmas stories I ever heard was when German and British troops began singing Christmas Carols on the battlefield on Christmas Eve during WWI. They stopped killing each other and enjoyed Christmas TOGETHER, even exchanging gifts. I'm mad I never hear about this in school and was an adult before I heard about it.
During breaks in fighting, they also played football matches.
Sabaton-Christmas Truce song
As a Brit, I joined Feli's channel partly because I wanted to see whether I identified more with Feli (we're both European) or with Americans (we both speak English plus the shared history and culture stuff).
And what is your conclusion ?
There's hardly a European culture, so I guess Brits and Americans are closer culturally speaking than Brits and other Europeans.
@@donaldduck2621 Its tricky, but on balance I think my "European" side wins out - probably partly helped by the fact that Feli speaks perfect English! It's not an anti-American thing! And its probably because I've travelled Europe so much more. But despite the language issue, I think I feel more "at home" in most of Europe than in the USA. But I don't think all Brits would give the same answer!
@@Siegbert85 Lol, what? Europeans have probably a richer and more diverse culture than anywhere else.
@@kryptonson I think the implication is that Brits don't really fit into European at least culture-wise
Discovered your channel recently Felicia and bern watching a lot of older videos. Lovely to see you are planning a life with Ben ❤ 🇬🇧
Australian who was married to a German Woman for 17 years and have a bilingual daughter with, I see you guys are working together on the relationship, that's essential. Our marriage failed for many reasons. I have no family, so my wife. ( from typical German Family )struggled with feeling at home in Oz. Not an issue for you in either country. The one thing I have noticed is most relationships across cultures have much more chance of making it when the native speaker learns the others language to the very best they can " minimal high conversational level " read too. Not just Ich Liebe dich. The very best of luck.😃
Spent 2 years in Germany. Enjoy Ed every minute. Thanks for drawing John doe public along. Love that parkbrau😊
Ben is right that if the girl insists on paying for herself on the first date, the guy is going to assume she doesn't want to go out again. It's like her way of saying "this isn't really a date, we're just hanging out together as platonic friends". At least that's how the guy will see it.
True, but there is also the growing idea if who asks is who pays.
This is great from the moment Ben told me about this girl when we worked at classic car care. and I told him to go for it glad he did .
Yes, I speak perfectly Romanian and Italian. And now I use more English since I am living in the Netherlands. Romanian is dominant when I am mad or for expressing my emotions. So yes, I tend to switch to Romanian when I struggle emotionally, because it is my first language
Time to add another language 😉
Trying to learn to speak Dutch will become "difficult" if the conversation switches to English everytime.
It will prevent you from practicing Dutch but just tell the other person you want to practice the language and they'll be more patient, I hope.🤔
My husband is from Romania and I've picked up saying Doamne ferește from his mom 😂 his favorite hobby is antagonizing her so as you can imagine she says it a lot 😅
@@bartholvangent3225 It's just that we are so used to using more than one language that we unintentionally switch to what we think the other party understands best. But just as you said, tell us to speak dutch and we wil.
My Family (Great Grandparents) were from Borgloh Germany and immigrated to Cincinnati and we were brought up to wait until everyone gets their food and/or drink before we start. Even though I am Three generations from my German Heritage, to me it is just rude to start eating before everyone gets their food. The only exception for me is at a big family gathering and the food is set up in a buffet style setting. It would not be practical to wait for everyone. I have thoroughly enjoyed your channel almost from the beginning, especially since I also live in Cincinnati !!! Happy New Year!!!😃😄😃😄
You two are so great.
Just love you guys.
Amazing couple!
Ich mag deinen Kanal wirklich. I love seeing the both of you and your opinions on each others cultures.
You're getting married! That is so cool you guys always seem like you fit together
@--Felifromgermany how nice to hear from you! I love watching your videos. What's this information you want to share it?
@@danferguson4004 That's not what they said 😂
26:53 Yeah, I'm absolutely still following! You're talking about Glottal Stops and "T" Glottalization.
Christmas in the USA WAS a lot more special in times past. In the 70's - 80's, the era of mall shopping, nice department stores sold so many toys and beautiful Christmas decor it was like a wonderland in each one. Now it's difficult to find anything charming. Towns put up decor on lampposts and held parades. Of course Santa was in every mall too. Not as authentic as Germany, but it was better.
I think people get the changing of languages when fighting is taken from a trope in movies and TV, especially scenes in which the woman is storming off yelling or mumbling in their native language.
Definitely happens with my parents and family so doesn't feel tropey to me.
Better than tossing each other plates in the kitchen!! 😂
One thinks of the TV Western, _The High Chaparral_ from the late 1960s where the Anglo ranch owner in Arizona Territory had married a Mexican Hidalgo's daughter whose brother was at the ranch, and their characters had verbal tangles where she'd go off in rapid-fire Spanish while her brother was remaining calm (maybe).
Hey! American that was living outside of Munich in the early 2000’s 👋 Christmas in Germany was magical experience for my family when we lived there!
Love your videos and content! Servus! 🇩🇪 🇺🇸
In all Europe, people learn how to drive a stick car. I took my driving licence in Italy and if you learn how to drive an automatic car when you take your driving licence for any reason, you are not allowed to driving the manual car, The other way around is allowed
This isn't true. My husband's friends daughter learned how to drive an automatic in Switzerland. For Switzerland, a lot of the younger people (not all) tend to want to learn to drive with an automatic.
We have the same rule in Germany. Thanks for sharing.
@@jessicaely2521 That's why the Swiss are such terrible drivers I guess, especially on the Autobahn...
@@jitterskater 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🙄🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. Thanks for the laugh. I really needed that today. Swiss are better drivers. Germans tend to be timid drivers (not all). A lot of of Swiss are grab the bull by the horns kind of people.
@@jessicaely2521 Yeah, right. The Swiss are absolutely terrible, especially on the German Autobahn where they think that they can "die Sau rauslassen" and drive their expensive cars to their limits. Every single time I'm in BaWü, it's the same sorry spectacle.
I am a Lutheran, so the Advent thing is second nature to me. I guess it also helps that my great grandma immigrated here from the Hamburg area of Germany.
I'm wondering if either of you have taken the Meyers-Briggs personality test? I think you two are very compatible despite the cultural differences. Perhaps your personality types are very well matched. Or.....its probably your great love for each other!! (Maybe you two can do an online personality test and discuss the findings on a future installment of FFG.)
I am of first generation of Canadian Dutch heritage; whereas, my wife is of first generation Canadian Italian heritage. Sharing these cultures are wonderful for your children.
Hi, I don't even recall how or because of what RUclips sent me to your channel, but...... I'm glad they did. I took three year of German in high school.... all "A"s. But, My ears can't keep up with the speed. Plus, I'm 70 now so that's 52 years ago. Wow! This was a great episode. Hearing you both sharing cross-cultural perspectives and perceptions is fantastic. Now, with so many comments odds are not great that you will read this especially since it is a year old. Well, thanks for the really cool and personal revelations. Blessings!!
One thing I've noticed about a lot of bilingual people is that when they're speaking English they'll swear in their native tongue and when they`re speaking in their native language they`ll swear in English. That never fails to crack me up.
also, counting. No matter how proficient you get in another language, how much you use it in everyday life, might even lose fluency or vocabulary in your native language. You will always continue to count in the language you first learned your numbers in. Especially when doing it quickly or only in your head, adding up numbers and so forth. Or doing the 2-4-6-8 thing, skipping the uneven numbers and just tallying up the pairs.
and to be fair, it‘s quite popular to swear in English even for people who don‘t otherwise speak any English at all. It‘s the words that rappers and other musicians use and that are used in film (and usually not censored outside the US) and thus kids learn as a cool swear word. The more English swear words you know, the higher your street cred on a German playground…
I am a native English speaker that speaks Spanish on a nearly-native level, and I prefer to swear in Spanish. It's more expressive and you can use entire phrases and sentences to swear rather than just one word. It's automatic to me these days. When I dream in Spanish, it's usually me being angry at someone and swearing at them in a rapid fire fashion.
In my family, My parents did put up Advent calendars for Christmas but then my mom's side of the family is German so we definitely have a lot of German traditions and some very British traditions because my dad's side is from Great Britain along with Ireland so our family always loved celebrating all of the traditions from our ancestry.
I have never seen "Sissi". I recently found out that "Die Hard" has, for some reason utterly inexplicable, become a Christmas movie, like " A Christmas Story" or "Miracle on 34th Street".. Ask Ben to explain "Die Hard" if need be. We live in an irony-rich environment. Happy New Year!
I love my second amendment. It protects all amendments. Me and my 8 year old nephew cleaned my AK, a couple of days ago.
That's a very uncool thought for most modern-day European Union citizens. Obviously, the vicious Russians (= Russian dictatorship) are an exception right now, but the thought of someone having a private assault rifle and cleaning it with an 8-year old is just crazy and outlandish. We here have no need for such assault rifles, because common-sense people solve disputes with words, not by firearm ! Our approach of regulated but legal gun ownership is therefore the right thing to do. Not US-style "Shoot first, only then think." You need to think first, and preferably not shoot at all !
@@donaldduck2621 Give the definition of an Assult rifle, please. Cause if you don't know what an assault rifle is, it goes to show me, you don't know what you're talking about.
So band guns, tell Me, weed, heiron, crack, and meth are illegal, yet people still get it. So banning guns will stop the problem? Yet 95% of crimes committed with a gun is with an illegal firearm, and 98% mass shootings take place in gun freezones. Plus the big black scary AR15 is the cause for most killings, right? Wrong, hand guns are, 92% are committed with hand guns.
Which is mostly gang related. The AR15 is not an assault rifle, nor does it stand for assault rifle. It stands for Arma Lite rifle. Let me just explain what an Assault rifle is. Assault rifles are only owned by the military. The difference is, the AR is semi automatic only. That means you pull the trigger once and one round comes out.
Where with an assault rifle, you have semi automatic capability, but, you also have automatic. That means you pull the trigger and as long as you are pulling the trigger, it would keep firing. Which again automatic guns of any sort is illegal. Which brings to, why don't I want my guns taken away? My cousin's grandfather was a Jew.
When the Nazi's rose to power they took away people's guns. Him and his family had their gun taken away by the Nazis and than got thrown in a concentration camp. Luckily he escaped and made his way to the U.S. and joined up. He actually freed the camp he was put in. The government wants the American people de armed.
They are nothing but fascist and communist. Both Republicans and Democrats. They want to control and rip away our freedoms. If that means killing people they will do it. They are God haters and our just like their father the Devil.
They are terrified, if a rebellion happen, there is nothing the government can do to stop it. It would be like Vietnam. The government would not be able to tell who is the enemy. Plus who would fight for them, The military? The job of our soldiers is to protect us, not the government.
Our military would turn on our government. The second amendment was given to us by our Founding Fathers to protect ourselves from invaders and a tyrannical government. Which that is what our government is now, tyrannical. Here's REAL STATISTICS IN THE U.S. OF GUN CRIMES.
www.google.com/amp/s/www.louderwithcrowder.com/amp/gun-control-change-my-mind-2652514161
@@donaldduck2621 "Regulated bu legal gun ownership". Translation, we let Big Daddy and Mommy Government tell us what to do and we obey like good slaves.
@@detroitandclevelandfan5503 I am pro 2nd amendment and believe in gun ownership. One thing you said is wrong, the Nazi's did not confiscate all people's guns, but actually encouraged German citizens to own guns. They might have taken guns from the Jews, but certainly most people were allowed to have guns.
@@detroitandclevelandfan5503 Thank you.
Wir sind seit 26 Jahren verheiratet . Wenn ihr jeden Tag als Geschenk nehmt und immer aufeinander neugierig ist seid,, wird es toll. Da ich von der Westküste bin und meine Frau hier aus Franken, haben wir in kleinem Kreis geheiratet. Derzeit leiden wir beide unter COVID, und verbringen die Silvesternacht mit College Football im TV. Liebe Grüße aus Mittelfranken.
In regards to the times when a German word is inadvertently slipped into the conversation, does it basically go unnoticed if Ben understands it? I think it would be great to share/teach cultures like you two do.
I had a friend in school, whose parents where German and Greek respectively and usually spoke French with each other, as that was the language they were both most fluent in. The kids spoke all three languages fluently and natively (they learnt native German and Greek from their parents and grew up in a French environment and education). Dinner at their home was interesting, as all three languages were used at the same time and interchangeably. And usually their was no need to translate anything, as the parents were also reasonably familiar with each others language and able to get the gist of what was said. I was cool for the French and German but had to pass on the Greek. I‘m not sure they even realized when they used Greek until I looked at them rather stupidly and they had to quickly translate 😅
My wife's family was from Germany and my 3 daughters put out stockings on Dec 6 or Nikolaus abend. We spent christmas eve at my inlaws. Now at my oldest daughters. My in .aws have passed away. In their 80s a few years ago. My 3 daughters always had advent calendars growing up.
I'm from Belgium and the "Sissi" movie tradition around Christmas was still a thing here too when I was a kid in the 90's/00's with my grandparents haha 😄 It reminded me good memories, vielen dank Feli !
It's always fun when Ben is present, bc I'm from Missouri, so the cultural references are similar, and it's nice to hear someone with a similar accent to my own.
That sounds good. I only hear English, and even have my little problems with it. This is probably due to my 30-year-old school English.
But I understand that, because with us you can also hear from the dialect whether someone is from Bavaria, Rhineland-Palatinate, Baden-Württemberg, from eastern Germany such as Sachsen, Saxony-Anhalt, Brandenburg, the Berlin area, from Saarland or the Rhineland the Ruhr area or the north like Bremen, Hamburg or Schleswig-Holstein.
In the UK, "Father Christmas" traditionally leaves the stockings at the end of the childrens bed, not the fireplace mantle. Also, the stocking presents are the only ones he leaves. The big presents undernearth the tree are from your parents/family. A lot of times, this does end up meaning that you get more valuable stocking presents than you do in the US, and while the presents under the tree are larger and more valuable than the stocking gifts are, a lot of the times this can also mean less money is spent on large presents than in the US.
My family grew up with a very German culture that’s been handed down over the generations. Food, traditions, bit of language, lederhosen (still have mine they don’t fit anymore)
When I go to the store, I rarely use bags. At the grocery store, I just put things back into the cart and take it out to the car. I usually use the self-checkout, so I can do that. When there is no self-checkout, I sometimes have trouble convincing the clerks that i really DON'T want bags.
You need a wedding event for all you're RUclips fans.
Oh boy 😅
Oh totally feel Ben on the NFL thing :D
As a German, in germany, I'll still watch NFL on american television just because the commentary is SO much better :D
One of my memories of Germany(I was stationed in Mannheim in the early 70's) was my wife and I being told by our neighbor, that we had to air our bedding every Monday by placing it in the open window, otherwise we would be considered to be messy, dirty. We weren't offended, it was thoughtful of her to talk about it, even tho it was alien to us(American washers/dryers)(we were living on the economy, not in base housing)
I have German heritage (great grandparents immigrated) and have noticed while watching your videos that many of the things you do and ways you think are the same as I think and do. I believe that even though I have only been exposed to a little German culture when compared to someone raised in Germany that people of the same or similar genetic stock have brains that are wired much the same way. This would lead us to reach similar conclusions when faced with similar stimuli and respond in similar ways. For example, I like things quiet, I would definitely speak up if I had told someone something and they ignored me, I prefer a structured environment for the most part etc. and there is more. All in all I think I think in a more German way than many people who do not have German ancestry. I have always been like this, even before I knew about my German genetics. I never seemed to fit in and always expect more of people in terms of manners and organized thinking. After watching so many of your videos and those of others, I feel like I have found myself and where I might belong. Sounds corny aber es ist was es ist. Of course there are points of divergence since I was raised here and other places when I was young.
I think that‘s mostly the cultural heritage you gain from your upbringing. When your ancestors immigrated, they were still culturally Germans and would have passed on a lot of those cultural traits to the children they were raising. And while this probably diminishes with every generation, the impact our home environment in our childhood has on our character development is really strong. I don‘t think cultural traits are passed on genetically so much. As a species we get born at a much earlier developmental stage than most other beings and thus are much more trainable and able to assimilate into a culture than other species.
You can easily have a "real" tree for more than 2 or 3 weeks, if you use a tree stand with a water reservoir and cut the trunk off before trimming the tree. It will last until february at least.
Im learning French right now, but she makes German seem really cool. I'm definitely open to learning it!
Nah French is much cooler
Spanish is cooler than both.
@@RandomNonsense1985 true I agree, at least you can use Spanish in Florida and everywhere in Latin America and understand Portuguese and French if you know Spanish
Regarding "pot" vs. "pod" : In English, if the t sound comes at the end of a syllable or word, it can be turned into a glottal stop. The d sound always has to be vocalized though, and that's how you can differentiate the two words. "Pot" will sound like Po' and "Pod" will sound like "Pod"
Feli, You and I would get along great! The straight forwardness is what I like about the Germans, as I have German in me , I have friends who tell me that I am too straight forward sometimes but That is ok. I live in California and I feel like people out here don't really say what they mean which is irritating.
From the PNW, Pod and Pot can definitely sound the same coming out of my mouth in a casual moment.
Feli, I'm and old guy who grew up in northeastern Ohio, and like Ben drove a manual transmission tractor (and started it with a crank), and had a lot of guns, but we didn't shoot much. Like you, I hate eating in a car! It is uncomfortable and makes a mess. I have never bought a "big gulp" type drink in my life, and hate it when someone gets into my car carrying a drink that is full to the top---I know it's going to spill. I carry a thermos of water in my vehicle and have a tall thermal type cup to use. I live in a rural area and I have to drive a minimum of 40 minutes just to get to a small town (an hour and a quarter to a city), so I will eat things like apples or a bananas in the car----and at a wooded area I can with a clear conscience compost my core or skin.
I've always gone for walks, since my teen years, and still do. I walk in all weather except when there is lightening. Yes, it is rude to start eating before others are seated. The whole wedding proposal crap is a ridiculous Hollywood trope. AND--I wish that Americans all had to supply their own bags at the grocery---as at Aldi.
Bavarian young woman wonderul Felicitas presenting fürth ihren Freund hier ein ...das ist echt klasse )
You guys seem to make a great couple. Good luck for the future. Keep being the way you guys are.
Hopefully someone already said this, but the 2nd amendment has nothing to do with any kind of recreation. It is an acknowledgement of your right to defend yourself and your loved ones against deadly force with deadly force. IMO it's an inherent right, and no gov't can take it from me, but thankfully in the US (for now) it is officially recognized.
And remember the first 4 words...
@@davesaunders7080 One doesn't have to be in a militia to have the right. If so, that'd make it a privilege.
A well informed Congress, being necessary to the wise operation of government, the right of the people to own and read books, shall not be infringed.
That sentence does not mean that only those in Congress have the right to own and read books.
Nor does it mean someone gets to decide that some books aren't suitable for that purpose because the right isn't limited to that purpose.
The right to arms is a direct extension of the right to self defense.
@@davesaunders7080 You need to read up on this and listen to the oral arguments in the Heller and NYSRPA v Bruen Supreme Court cases.
You two make a great couple and I wish you all the best.
I’m living in Franklin, North Carolina about an hour or so from Asheville. I’m originally from the Cincinnati area(small rural town of Williamsburg). I’m a die hard Bengals fan and Buckeyes fan as well. Who Dey guys!!!!!
The not waiting for everyone to have food/drink is new. I grew up being taught to wait and I still wait, even for fast food. And it drives me nuts when others don't!
Love the sweater Ben!!! Who Dey!!!
The pot/pod misunderstanding is funny and something I never would have thought of (although I know enough German to get by.)
Of course, your children, if children there be, should have the advantage of bilingualism.
I bungled into bilingualism myself, although having no cultural roots in the second language.
If possible, and I don't know what resources are available in Cincinnati, they should learn as many languages as they can when young. It's the best time.
If a girl offers to pay, I am not going to offend them by not taking them at their word unless we are taking turns and it js my turn and there is nonreason for a gift. Honest communication is so important I think.
There are so many great churches in both countries !! Christmas is awesome !! Thanks James Schulz
I go for long walks daily and drive a stick shift. I must be German.
Pretty much 😅
@@FelifromGermany I'll have to notify my DNA company. LOL
She really loves him. It shows!
Yea it's a scary sight. I don't envy him on that
I’ve always liked learning about other cultures and I always find that the things Europeans are shocked by are the very things we have lost as a nation. We shared the same cultural things since many of us have immigrant grandparents from Europe and the rest of the nationalities were the same. Younger people here haven’t experienced that in their lives. My children and their generation were the last to grow up as their parents did in a much more civil society as the one you, Feli, talk about. I believe one of the factors for this was the return of most women to the workforce and the divorce rate. There are others but basically children are all over the place and a lot of schools are not the best either. But with all the migration into the country some of those values will come back so there is hope.
Feli in Indianapolis a man was shooting up a mall. Another man eating with his girlfriend sewn the shooter, he had his own gun and shot and stopped the killer. And we need protection from our government
And ypu said I shoot a person great I don't want to live with that, but at least you're alive!
100%
@@Zombiexm How is he wrong in any way?
What about all the other incidents?
Protection from the government? Hilarious!
@@karinland8533 there's more of us than there is of them
The fighting in different languages comes from the TV show, “ I Love Lucy.” Ricky Ricardo would switch from English to Spanish.
About Christmas trees... Granted that I don't know about trees in Germany, I lived in N. Carolina for a while, where they grew a LOT of trees, and buying a freshly cut there would last MUCH longer than when I lived in Florida. A freshly cut tree would still be quite green in February. Inquiring about that with one of the tree farmers, he said that the local trees were cut within a few days of when you would buy them, but the ones they shipped out would be cut in September or October.
I used to love going on a volksmarch in the countryside while I was stationed at Hahn Air Base in the mid 80’s.
I know more women who own guns, especially hand guns, than men. One was afraid of them until she started dating a guy who was a gun enthusiast. She got involved with guns and liked it. Now, she has a concealed carry and is an instructor.
I truly belive that if most people who are anti-gun would actually take the time to learn about them and how to safely use them, most of them would change their minds drasticlly about them.
@Krypton Son this is so true. People are just too narrow minded to see it any other way.
@@kryptonson just look at the numbers where kids shoot each other accidentally. Guns are not save. If you think that, you are ignoring the fakts
@@karinland8533 my kids use guns all the. I shot them starting at age 5. There has never been an accident. Not once.
You two are an adorable couple!
Talking about language misunderstandings, I remember this…
I was not long in Germany and after a night in a keller bar, I told this one girl, “Gute Nacht”, which means, “Good Night” of course.
But…I said it like…”Gute Nakt”…which would translate into, “Good Naked”, which of course we laughed pretty hard over that and I was embarrassed but laughed also.
That’s the fun stuff.
Rand in Helen, Georgia
Re: pot vs. pods-I totally follow. Especially we Southerners drop the last consonant or, at the very least, it is softer. It’s just something we do.
Yawl two are awesome together! Best wishes for you both and have a wonderful future together!!!
Me from England. Currywurst has to be my favourite German food. Amazing Currywurst stool on the Kudamn, Berlin
I watched all three finally. I have to watch them again now. I actually found it on an American platform. Have you seen the new movie about Sissi? I watched part of it. I have to sit down and watch it. I thinks it’s in German so I have to actually watch to understand, not that I mind. Also we have an advent candle wreath in our church. It’s a united Methodist church. I don’t take open beverages in the car. I can’t even do it with coffee.
I love German made Christmas ornaments, it's beautifully made. My fake Christmas tree I have had for the past 25 years. It has all German ornaments, I think the Germans do Christmas beautifully.