"your mother wouldn't approve of how my mother raise me but i do i think i do"- this is one of my favorite lines because i know her mom wouldn't approve of how my mom treats me both as a child and now
I had an argument with my boyfriend today (he’s American, I’m Mexican with Cuban parents) and he literally said his mother wouldn’t approve certain things about me and about how my parents raised me in a ways he doesn’t approve. This song hit my jackpot, it hurt my feelings very much, well thank you random strangers for listening to my rant 😚
"you're the sun you've never seen the night but you hear it's song from the morning birds, well I'm not the moon, I'm not even a star but awake at night I'll be singing to the birds."
i was in a call with some friends today and they started talking about me, the fact that I'm half mexican and asking if i had a higher tolerance to heat because i was Mexican. I answered that i don't, bc I'm born here and lived my entire life in this country, and one of them said "so basically you don't have any attribute that mexicans do except your skin color and your name!" and that, with the fact that they said and called me the b-slur as a "joke" made me feel like shit. I've been bullied for my ethnicity during my whole childhood, I've come to despise it, and now that I've finally started embracing it they're stripping me away from my own culture? what's worse, what made me feel bad wasn't even the fact that they make openly racist jokes, or that they say slurs, but it was that my own friends were saying these things, these jokes that feel like backhanded compliments and that make you feel like you're the sensitive one. I hate myself, and i hate them for making me feel that way.
If you can, change friends. I am italian and i have an egyptian boyfriend, and here in Italy we have a lot of stereotypes about all Arab speakers, so, I know for sure that people, including my parents talk behind (and not only) our backs. But, love is all that matters. To me the fact that you're Mexican means that I have the opportunity to learn something about a culture I barely know something about. It's something that enriches me. (I hope I used the right word) Have a good day
Even I'm Italian and I have a friend that she is mexican. I said how for me her skin is beatiful and she didn't believe me. Now I'm undestanding a lot of things. And for all people that read this comment. I'm Italian, I'm white, very white, I have blond hair, curly hair, blue eyes but I think the mexican and the dark skin are beatiful and I would a girl with brown eyes❤. Love you
i’m so sorry what the hell you don’t deserve any of this treatment they’re giving you!, if you are able to please try to change friends or try to talk to them about how badly it’s upset you even though that should be obvious already. no one deserves to ever ever be treated in that mean humiliating condescending way and as someone who’s been bullied their entire childhood and adolescence i know, i know how the littlest of “jokes” can make people who’ve been bullied feel. i hope you are okay and safe wherever you are, please take care ❤️
White woman are so lucky, the fact they'll never have to deal with the feeling of thinking you need to cut all ties with your ethnic features and culture and even skin color just so a dude can meet the beauty standards most dudes have makes me so mad, like I know it's not most of their fault but as someone who was bullied for being black and east African and geting rejected by my elementary school crush for being a "ugly dark fat black girl" it's just so infuriating at how unfair it is
I completely relate being the fat darker skin black girl with nappy hair when everyone else wants white girls or if they do like black girls only the skinny light skin with 3a hair
@@kc_but.pretty4886 I also went through being the the big black girl with 4 type hair ( but I'm not drakskin I'm more brown skin on the darker side, like two to three shades from being dark skin) and I got bullied so much in elementary and middle school for being darker than all the other kids, having 4 type hair,being taller and bigger and it really didn't help that me and my family members are east african immigrants ( kind of ironic that most of the kids bullying me had Mexican immigrant family members ) but it left me with so much hate to the point I refused to indulge in my culture in public and hate being black and tHis went on till about 6th grade ( I started to like my culture more and indulge in it in public a little) and I like being black a little more but some times I just wish I was born white my life would be so much more easy, I wouldn't have gone through that etc, I try to remind myself that I'm beautiful just the way I am.
i hate being a woc. i hate the fact that i’ll always be seen as “exotic”. i hate that i feel like i have no right to my culture because i’m so disconnected from it, i hate everything about it. why is it either that i’m liked for being chinese or that i’m bullied for it? i just want to be seen how white women are seen. i don’t want to be fetishised for the way i am, nor do i want to be made fun of for it. i can’t keep up with society’s beauty standards. i hate my black hair . i hate everything about being asian. it’s so unfair that i’m treated differently for being born chinese and filipino. i hate that i’m never seen as a normal person, it’s either that i’m seen as hot for being asian or i’m seen as dirty. i hate everything about being a woc.
hi luv, i am a poc as well (SE Asian), and i totally get this. we’ve all had the thoughts of not liking ourselves, and wanting to be like white people as they don’t feel prejudiced a lot. i’ve had the feelings the same way as you described. however, please do not take to heart about those comments and learn to love yourself. it may take time but please realize we’re all unique and different. who cares if we’re seen as dirty? they don’t know what we go through every single day. those who call us asians ‘exotic’ or fetishized us, every single day i always hoped for them to rot. these kinds people do not deserve our attention or our time. society’s beauty standards are always high, but that is to be expected. who cares if we’re not up to it? it’s our right to be who we want, what we want to be, how we want to dress, how we want to be perceived and how we want to look in and out. it’s our right to break these standards and go with what we feel. i hope for the people who mistreated you and make you feel like you are ‘not normal’, will never know peace. believe me when i say that you are enough, and please to always on how to love yourself, even when it’s just a tiny bit ❤️
I started crying reading this I’m so sorry that stuff like this happens to you:( I just want you to know that there is people out there who will see you for you and not your race. I’m also a poc and I know how it feels for people to only see my race and want nothing to do with me. I hope you know I accept you as the beautiful person you are
hii, pls dont hate being a woc!! as a fellow woc, i would like you to know that chinese & filipino culture is beautiful, and being a WOC is a beautiful thing to be -- our culture is rich, we are so beautiful, please know that we are beautiful, YOU are beautiful
If you are living in a white nation and you are a minority, you are by definition a rarity and exotic. That's demographics and white men are explorers at their best. You want to be seen as a standard beauty, but there is no such thing. Men will "fetishize" any feature of women, or as we call it, being attracted to certain features. Blond hair. Brown hair. Red hair. Freckles. Pink nipples. Brown nipples. Tall women. Short women. A cup. D cup. There are men who find amputees attractive. Men aren't as collective as you think they are. There's no patriarchy. There's barely a brotherhood. Men will have a handful of good friends in ONE lifetime. As for beauty standards and your personal culture, the best analogy I can come up with is YOU are your OWN Micronation. Your outward appearance is your tourism strip, your attractions, your resort areas. The areas people visit on only the most superficial levels. Your internal personality and your personal microculture. That's your service industry, your mom and pop stores, your start-ups and traditional restaurants, your exports and imports. The real heart and soul of your personal world. Having people visit the resort areas is fine. Its fun, but its also a flash in the pan. You want people to come in deeper and establish trade with you. The ones who are only interested in the resorts.. they're not going to want to go deeper. They're only interested in the latest amenities. When you have someone who wants to go deeper, your personal microculture has to be attractive, but in a different way. It has to be warm and inviting and welcoming. You can't have it be a toxic waste dump where people are eating each other for attention. Have something there that people want to take home with them. Or better yet, be someplace where someone wants to build a home and want to be a beneficial part of your community. And every once in a while, its ok to close your borders and let people know you have to work on your own infrastructure.
it's not as simple as 'only white women are seen as normal' jeez. everybody who's different from the major race of the country are not seen as normal. take a moment to read into asian men living in asian countries fetishizing white and black women cuz it's exotic to 'ride a white/black horse'. take a moment to read into the whole world fetishizing russian women cuz 'they're soooo pretty and more often than not are prostitutes plus they're submissive not like those dirty western femenists'
my boyfriend is an American Boy, and I’m a hispanic, listening to this makes me upset and cry because, white girls are the beauty standard as me, a hispanic girl, well...is different. Im afraid that he doesn’t see me as someone beautiful so I want to try my best to be seen as his best American girl.
Don't try too hard.nothing is more unique and beautiful than being your true self. If he can't love you the way you are then he doesn't deserve you. People who are proud of their culture are original and more attractive in my opinion.
being woc is actually so difficult, i love being a woc but....my culture is constantly being appropriated. i'm seen as the most undesirable or disgusting race (im bangladeshi, asian) and it feels strange to be so disassociated from your own culture bc white ppl have told u that its disgusting, but when white women wear our cultural clothing, theyre "exotic" and "beautiful" :/
I feel your pain. Native American women are sexualized and our cultures are only seen as a costume to wear or a mascot for your basic predominantly white public school. Even the things we make that have cultural significance is of course whitewashed. Dreamcatchers? Absolutely disrespected and only viewed as a piece of aesthetic decoration for some pale indie teen's bedroom or something. Luckily I'm exposed to my community and haven't really ventured outside of it, unless you count five years of my childhood being spent in a middle class town in Minnesota. What I learned attending their public school was that in their textbooks, they gave out misinformation about Native Americans and painted us as redskinned savages who were violent and hateful. My experience being the only native american in that school made me feel shameful and small. My mom has also drilled into my head that because I'm native american, I'll be shoved into a box while I'm walking on the street in some city and shipped off somewhere to some rich white dude's basement like I'm an expensive piece of jewelry. I just feel unsafe and as though I will never belong outside of my community. You'll see native Americans trying to speak up about our issues or correct misinformation and we're shut down and told we're already privileged enough just because of the benefits the government gives us, as if throwing money in our face is the right way to apologize for what we went through in history, which either nobody cares about or doesn't know. There's a lot I can say about our issues, such as MMIW or indian boarding schools, but the main part is that being a person of color in general sucks. Trying to get the right representation sucks. And it will always be very difficult, almost impossible to even get anybody who's getting their name out there turned into a household one. Why? Because white people :) Sorry for ranting. I just needed to get this out there.
I'm not american I'm Canadian however I'm black african girl who has lived in Canada for all my life I faced sm shit. I remember in 5th grade I wore bantu knots to school for my hair and a few racist boys started calling it "connect the dots" and said other mean things. It went as far as them tripping me and when me and my mum called the school they did NOTHING about it. The next time I had bantu knots was last year and I still felt so scared and traumatized literally I still cannot fully get over it. In my average town size my school is not rlly the most diverse given that it's pretty new but one of my friends is mixed (black and white) and she said me, my best friend (white and latina) and another friend who is 25% asian were her only poc friends pretty sad because I lived in Ottawa for most of my childhood and I atleast got to be connected to my Cameroonian culture and I had a community there. Last year they were boys saying cruel stuff to her telling her to kill herself and when she cut herself they told her it was good. They even went as far as making her CRY and she could have killed herself given the fact she was already dealing with mental issues. Her (black) dad called the school like 2 times they didn't do SHIT until I left my seat DURING CLASS marched to the principals office and told her everything and even when they were FINALLY in "trouble" they did not get suspended for almost KILLING her, no they just got a "talk" and were let go. Keep in mind they are white boys. One of those yt boys who keept talking that my nose is big literally created an insecurity. I kept hating my nose the way it went wide when I smiled and everything. I wished I had a small nose and even went as far trying to manifest a smaller nose. That same racist yt boy is friends with some mixed black passing nigga in my class. They keep trying to get the "n word pass" (like there is anything cool about a slur in the first place) and keep making steorytypes (probably spelt that wrong lfmao) by calling him "scary black man" and he literally just let his asshole of friends treat the two poc girls of his OWN RACE like trash. And I kinda given up on love atp. Most of my crushes r white boys and another boy who is racially ambigous will obiously go to the yt girl. Out of my years in middle school I only got called good looking by a guy ONCE and he was very much a PLAYER! I try so hard trying to please em with everything. I try loosing weight to be more slim only to see the same yt girls have the EXACT body type I HATE! The body type I NATURALLY have THEY get praised for! I always worry about my broad shoulders thinking they r too "masculine" same with my nose. My mixed friend is atleast lucky she's LGBTQ and has a supporting gf but I never had any. My white latina friend ended up dating that ONE racist yt guy only for him to dump her 3 weeks later so he very much was "experimenting" with her. My white latina friend is lucky that she can sometimes pass as white (she has brown eyes, tan skin and a long nose but they rest is yt). I'm so tired. I'm going to highschool next year and I'm going to the most diverse place in my town because it will be better I have someone who is like me there or I get a exchange program where I study in Toronto or something. sorry for the long paragraph I just needed to rant
I’m Canadian too and I live in Ontario as well so I know how bad the eurocentrism is as a poc (I’m desi). Even if schools preach all this stuff about “diversity” and “acceptance” they really don’t do jackshit about racism. All my childhood I felt so ugly for being brown and I have a pretty big nose too and it just feels so debilitating to try and keep up with all of these ridiculous standards. I hope you know your nose is beautiful and that your body is lovely at is. White men don’t deserve you and one day they’ll see what they’ve taken for granted. For now, I hope you know there’s another girl in Ontario wondering when she’ll be seen as pretty, too.
I know how frustrating it is. Those people act that way to make themselves feel better because they are really insecure inside. If you ask them what their favorite music, athletes, or celebrity is, chances are it’s a black person. They’re just jealous
I remember when I was younger I was embarrassed to say that I was from El Salvador, cause I didn’t know the reactions I would get. Some of my friends said “you don’t look Salvadoran” “I thought you were Mexican” “I don’t like Salvadorans or Hondurans” “well you’re Mexican now”. I would be embarrassed to say I was Salvadorans cause my friends use to say how loud Salvadorans were without knowing I was one. I love this song so much
when all your crushes are into pretty, skinny, blonde white girls and they all see you as a weird asian girl to toy around with. when you know you’ll never be seen as pretty because you just aren’t seen or taken as a joke.. that feeling of your heart dropping when you hear that your crush likes that one popular white girl everyone likes.
to be honest, i have this boost of confidence when i listen to this song. i used to cry so damn hard because i used to try so hard to adapt to such expectations, i just end up getting hurt because of my woc identity. but now, i’m freer than ever and i don’t have to change a thing about how i feel about being raised by such good people. woc should love who they are regardless of the beauty standards.
this song hit me so hard,i am from third world country and family issues girl and him is the opposite .he came from rich happy family and first world country we are so different 😢
this song hurts me so much. i'm a girl who's family immigrated from a poor country and now lives in the west. my boyfriend is ethnically western european and had the complete opposite experinces to me. i grew up with hardships such as leaving my whole life behind, being an outcast because i couldn't speak the language, abuse, toxic parenting, being raised by a single immigrant mom who's trying her best for her daughters. sometimes i feel like people judge him for dating me because of where i'm from, especially since his friends have the same background. i lost hope for my future many times but i keep going for my family even though i know it will be difficult. on the other hand he has many big plans for his future and isn't scared of it at all, his parents have the money to help him. i don't think he understands my point of view most of the time, and today it resulted in an argument. i wonder if he'd be better off with someone else.
While I will never be able to relate to this song for its intended purpose because I’m not a woc, I still relate to this song in so many different ways
@@mother3434 there's no need to, since you know Mitski's intentions, and simply relate to the song another way. It would be problematic if you said you relate to it the same way wocs do.
Broke up with my bf of a year recently and the “You have sm to do and I have nothing ahead of me” hits knowing he has so many friends while I was the loser gf with no life or friends
"you're the sun,you've never seen the night but you hear its song from the morning birds,well I'm not the moon,,I'm not even star"this line reminds me of my boyfriend and also my parents,I feel like I'm not good enough for either of them,I always feel like I'm disobeying my parents on accident when I seriously don't mean to disobey them at all,I love my parents a lot and I could never ask for a better mom and dad, this also goes to my siblings:) for the boyfriend part,this guy is literally one of the main reasons I'm glad I get to live another day,but sometimes I feel like I'm not enough for him,I always feel like he would be better off with someone who isn't me yet I don't wanna be separated from him, no matter how many times he tells me that I'm enough for him,I still feel like I can be better but no matter how many times I improve,I'll never be enough
this sounds really bad, but i would literally do anything to be white 😭 being asian really isn't as cutesy and aesthetic as people make it seem online. everybody loves skinny blue eyed blonde girls, and it's so unfair. i hate feeling like i shouldn't even bother with my crushes or even people I'd like to be freinds with, because they definetly wouldn't want to be with that one asian girl.
stop letting your insecurities and how other people see you shape the way you think about yourself. i promise you blonde blue eyed girls are an immense minority, and even among them you'll find the fat girls, the disabled girls, the girls with birthmarks or bodily disfigurements. i promise you they feel the same. the mainstream media makes you think beauty is something attainable and at the same time inherent, but this is not only contradictory but completely untrue as well. conventional "beauty" doesn't determine your worth as a person.
For some reason whenever I hear this song I picture present me singing it to little me. I know that doesn't make any sense given the "You have so much to do and I have nothing ahead of me" and "Your mother wouldn't approve of how my mother raised me" but for some reason those are also the lyrics that fit most to me for that-
I’m so embarrassed every time my bf says that I’m his gf , I don’t feel good enough. If I was a blonde light skinned girl maybe I wouldn’t feel so bad.
I'm not blonde, but I hate my sickly looking pale skin while the rest of the people around me have warm, darker skin. There is always a reason to hate oneself.
This song describes me so much. I have tan skin and I'm half Mexican and half American girl, i never felt Mexican enough or American enough i always never felt good about my skin color i wanted to have white skin and blue gorgeous eyes, i started crying one day because I felt like i could never be pretty, I'm in love with this boy that is the "all American boy" he's blonde he's smart he's funny he's white, but i never felt good enough i worry that he thinks I'm ugly i want to be the "best American girl" i want to make my hair more smooth i want to change my eyes, i can't change anything i wish I could, i don't even know that much about my culture :( Sorry for bothering you with my ploblems have a good day or night :)
I never really had a problem with being Asian because I never got any negative comments about it. Still, I did feel guilty and not good enough because I'm only half Asian, a quarter black, and a quarter Hispanic. so I never felt "full" anything. I was never "fully Asian", "fully black" or "fully Hispanic" and when I would casually mention to people I'm Asian because I have brown skin they all say " no your not" and my friends don't believe me until I have to explain to them. or when I tell people I'm black they act surprised because I'm a light-skinned person. so I'm too dark to be Asian but too light to be black. and sometimes I don't feel like I'm even Hispanic enough because I'm so disconnected from my culture. I don't know how to speak Spanish or any of my native languages. and I feel so bad about it all the time. and I often find myself asking people "what do I look like" because at that point even I don't really know.
"But big spoon, you have so much to do. And i have nothing ahead of me" is kind of how i feel bc my partner graduated a year before me and joined the marines. Meanwhile, im stuck here in my last year of school. No job, no car, no aspirations or plans.
Ive had crush on this girl for 4 years and I've been best friends with her that entire time. She's recently fell in love with a tall, pale, skinny, white, cishet American boy. He's 19 and she's 13 and whenever she talks about how she knows he'll never love her she always says I don't understand but I do because I love her. She's happy though so if that's what it takes I'll let her go
i was mad at my mum for feeding me thai food, i rejected my own culture for popularity... i hate this. im now trying to be more understanding and im trying more thai food. i used to be ashamed to say i was thai, never again.
I know this probably wasn’t the point but ever since I was a very little, my Thai neighbors used to bring my family (I’m Indian and Brazilian) homemade Thai food. When I got older we moved away but we used to takeout the exact same Thai dishes that my neighbors would bring us. It has become my comfort food and the culture and the food is absolutely beautiful. I know exactly how you feel and I’m so glad you’ve overcome that battle
"You're the sun you never seen the night but you hear its song form the morning birds im not the moon im not even a star but awake one night i will be sing to the birds" hurts me
So recently I had this friend and he made me feel like this song so I decided he wasn’t good for my mental health and now everyone is calling me childish for dropping him but he made me feel absolutely fucking worthless and I put so much effort into him all for him to not even give me the bare minimum
"you have so much to do, and I have nothing ahead of me" ik this song is ab being poc, but this resonates so much wt me, my twin has so many goals and hopes for the future, her grades are great and she seems to be on top of EVERYTHING. I'm not. I'm 8 months behind in art. simply just assignments not handed in. I don't "like" anything I do. my twin is miles ahead of me, and its just. I wish I were better. shes always been so much better, not genius level or anything, but like knowing division at 5. I'm worried I'm gonna end up deadbeat, just living with my parents as another expense to pay.
I'm actually a white polish girl but happend that i got rejected by ukrainian men (many ukrainian people live in our country). He rejected me because "I'm not that hard working like girls in Ukrain" "I'm not that smart like Ukrainian girls" etc. So I somehow relate to "your mother wouldn't approve of how my mother raise me" part of song. Also "you have so much to do and I have nothing ahead of me" too.
Im a poc, however ive always had paler skin and straighter hair. Though I've always had kinda a big nose. I always felt proud bc i could pass as a white person. Now, I feel insecure abt it bc i don't wanna be seen as a white woman. I want to feel proud abt being Mexican. Either way I don't feel pretty bc of my big nose. My parents never taught me much abt my culture. then they would make fun of me for not knowing anything.
@@drewwhasinsomnia WAIT, WAIT, I SEE IT. "You have so much to do and I have nothing ahead of me." THE WAY ACHILLES WAS ALWAYS DESTINED FOR GREATNESS AND PATROCLUS FELT SMALL, UNSPECIAL, AND INSIGNIFICANT.
Honestly this is really relatable. I don't really think about my ethnicity in realation to dating since im not really that type of person. Still, this song is awfully real, even when just in socializing. As a black woman, I feel so out of place. Almost all my friends are either white or Hispanic. Not even out of choice, really. Maybe they pity me, because im not pretty so other black girls seem to have something against me. Boys love picking on me. Im waiting for someone to just not care that im not a gorgeous black woman off of Pinterest and just want to be friends with me because they like ME. as a person.
is it weird i can relate to this as a male? men of my race are always stereotyped as weak, and it doesnt help that I am already "nerdy" spent all my time playing games and watching anime. In high school i felt like even among my own people i was unattractive and undesired, since i dont really fit the standard of either a big muscular chad or a cute flawless Kpop idol. I hated myself so much. I found my gf, a typical white American girl and I just dont know what she sees in me, honestly. we share the same interests, have the same sense of humor, are compatible in every way but i still cant see myself as "worthy" of her because i have such low self esteem. and she is so kind and sweet, and seems so in love with and attracted to me. But i constantly doubt myself, thinking i dont deserve it, thinking that she'll eventually come to her senses and leave me. At first, i pushed her away because i didnt think i deserved her, and it hurt her in the process. its been a long time since though and despite everything she stuck by me. I hope one day i can make peace with myself for her sake
honestly it’s not that weird. the songs all about wanting to fit in with white people because of somebody you’ve fallen in love with. so no!!! also i’m so sorry. you’re definitely a great person and i know you you will find it in you to love yourself
[Vent] It's so sad that knowing all of what I'm doing is pointless. I'll never be the "best American girl", hell I'm not even a girl. I've been starving myself, trying so hard to be more feminine, I'm trying everything to make him love me. But it's not enough, and it never will be, and I know it. Still, no one makes me laugh or smile like he does. I get so excited when he calls me or when we talk. I'm never going to find someone else like him. I don't want to live a life without him. I just wish he loved me as much as I love him. I'd do anything for him. Everything he does is perfect to me. I think about him constantly. Too bad I'm just a friend to him. I'll never be his best American girl.
vent!! i hate how everytime someone new sees me,instead of thinking im pretty or nice,they think im going to steal from them,or that I look ghetto. if only i were white. but i have to be black,and straighten my hair,and feel jealous everytime i see a white girl. if only i could swap places with someone,anyone,who isn’t black.
“You have so much to do and I have nothing ahead of me” hits hard bc most people have a plan for their future or a dream job plus even a favorite school subject but I hate every single school subject, jobs and don’t know abt my future :(
My father is white and my mother is black. I was born with brown skin, a large nose, and my appearance is strange, as I am short, unlike my brothers, who have white skin, soft hair, and beautiful eyes, and I envied them, and sometimes people are mean to me. This led to me having a lack of confidence and I left school, and now I will return after three years and feel lost and lose many opportunities just because being shy and I do not accept myself
I'm a halfy here(half Korean half white) I've always had such a hard time finding where to stand, and ever since moving and going into this new community it has become so much harder for me, I'm the only half-girl there with the higher cheekbones but asian but also not Asian eyes, and most of the girls there are so pretty, either the beautiful blond ones or the beautiful hispanic girls there(most of the community is a mix of white and Hispanic, so I'm not shaming anyone btw sorry if that came off wrong or offended anyone.) but all the boys there have fallen for the girls there, not saying I WANT someone to fall for me, I just wonder what it's like to have someone think of me as pretty. it's just sad knowing I fit none of their standards.
feel this so hard😭😭 i’m also korean and white and where i live people either fetishize me for it or dislike me since i’m just another dirty asian. i’m too asian for white people and too white for asian people
@@virus-jk2yf Im so sorry about that :( It is sad cuz we truly are all beautiful in our own unique ways, its just people like to one side things, that or your too much of something or too less of something. but im hoping we both find someone who appreciates us for who we are. :) (that is if you are wanting a s/o ofc ^^)
Wouldnt life be easier if i was a blond haired basic girl whos thinner than a stick? Whyd i have to fall for everyguy im not a girl. I hate being an asian guy im way too tall and big i dont want to be mocked by fellow asians but i am too much of a terrible person i dont deverse anything. How will i be pretty if i love food so much. I feel like i dont deserve to eat
“Your mother wouldn’t approve of how my mother raised me” is so real because his mom is homophobic and mine is accepting so he doesn’t want to date or even be in love with me because of the fear of his mother hating him. I’m not mad at him, we’re still young and he has the right to be afraid of a life without his mother because life with her is all he’s ever known. And honestly I’d be afraid too but it hurts even more knowing we could’ve been together if I was never trans (ftm) 🙂
i'm relieved that this comment section has become a safe space for so many of you
thank you
"well, i'm not the moon, i'm not even a star" this hurts.
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I came from a what mitski song r u video with what line number. THAT WAS MINE 😍
bro it does not hurt
@@RQ10V okay? then it's not for you
nothing hurts more than relating to Mitski's song
Same
how about a quadruple amputation?
@@NotDewan-oe8oiHELP??
Same🥲
"your mother wouldn't approve of how my mother raise me but i do i think i do"- this is one of my favorite lines because i know her mom wouldn't approve of how my mom treats me both as a child and now
It hits me alot having a toxic mom😃
real
omfg i remember i said mitski was overrated but when i really started listening to her i started to cry lmao
I’m a guy and this makes me want to tear up real shit
how dare u
@@nnoufaa ?
@@nnoufaa let people have opinions
❤ ,7
“You’re the one,you’re all i ever wanted i think I’ll regret this” -Mitski
scarapookie.
I had an argument with my boyfriend today (he’s American, I’m Mexican with Cuban parents) and he literally said his mother wouldn’t approve certain things about me and about how my parents raised me in a ways he doesn’t approve. This song hit my jackpot, it hurt my feelings very much, well thank you random strangers for listening to my rant 😚
It would he okay sweetheart, you're beautiful
« You are the sun , you never seen the night » pain.
Here is the slowed version of this song: ruclips.net/video/cailEyothNo/видео.html
"you're the sun you've never seen the night but you hear it's song from the morning birds, well I'm not the moon, I'm not even a star but awake at night I'll be singing to the birds."
The part where she says" and i have nothing ahead of me" and then comparing them to the sun saying we arnt even the stars gets me every time.
i was in a call with some friends today and they started talking about me, the fact that I'm half mexican and asking if i had a higher tolerance to heat because i was Mexican. I answered that i don't, bc I'm born here and lived my entire life in this country, and one of them said "so basically you don't have any attribute that mexicans do except your skin color and your name!" and that, with the fact that they said and called me the b-slur as a "joke" made me feel like shit. I've been bullied for my ethnicity during my whole childhood, I've come to despise it, and now that I've finally started embracing it they're stripping me away from my own culture? what's worse, what made me feel bad wasn't even the fact that they make openly racist jokes, or that they say slurs, but it was that my own friends were saying these things, these jokes that feel like backhanded compliments and that make you feel like you're the sensitive one. I hate myself, and i hate them for making me feel that way.
If you can, change friends. I am italian and i have an egyptian boyfriend, and here in Italy we have a lot of stereotypes about all Arab speakers, so, I know for sure that people, including my parents talk behind (and not only) our backs. But, love is all that matters.
To me the fact that you're Mexican means that I have the opportunity to learn something about a culture I barely know something about. It's something that enriches me. (I hope I used the right word)
Have a good day
ive been thru the same thing theyre just jealous lovely, ur beautiful and deserve sm better
Even I'm Italian and I have a friend that she is mexican. I said how for me her skin is beatiful and she didn't believe me. Now I'm undestanding a lot of things. And for all people that read this comment. I'm Italian, I'm white, very white, I have blond hair, curly hair, blue eyes but I think the mexican and the dark skin are beatiful and I would a girl with brown eyes❤. Love you
i’m so sorry what the hell you don’t deserve any of this treatment they’re giving you!, if you are able to please try to change friends or try to talk to them about how badly it’s upset you even though that should be obvious already. no one deserves to ever ever be treated in that mean humiliating condescending way and as someone who’s been bullied their entire childhood and adolescence i know, i know how the littlest of “jokes” can make people who’ve been bullied feel. i hope you are okay and safe wherever you are, please take care ❤️
White woman are so lucky, the fact they'll never have to deal with the feeling of thinking you need to cut all ties with your ethnic features and culture and even skin color just so a dude can meet the beauty standards most dudes have makes me so mad, like I know it's not most of their fault but as someone who was bullied for being black and east African and geting rejected by my elementary school crush for being a "ugly dark fat black girl" it's just so infuriating at how unfair it is
people who judge skin tones are self-conscious and ignorant. do not hate your features you are beautiful.
I completely relate being the fat darker skin black girl with nappy hair when everyone else wants white girls or if they do like black girls only the skinny light skin with 3a hair
@@kc_but.pretty4886 I also went through being the the big black girl with 4 type hair ( but I'm not drakskin I'm more brown skin on the darker side, like two to three shades from being dark skin) and I got bullied so much in elementary and middle school for being darker than all the other kids, having 4 type hair,being taller and bigger and it really didn't help that me and my family members are east african immigrants ( kind of ironic that most of the kids bullying me had Mexican immigrant family members ) but it left me with so much hate to the point I refused to indulge in my culture in public and hate being black and tHis went on till about 6th grade ( I started to like my culture more and indulge in it in public a little) and I like being black a little more but some times I just wish I was born white my life would be so much more easy, I wouldn't have gone through that etc, I try to remind myself that I'm beautiful just the way I am.
So sorry that happened to you luv❤
@@kc_but.pretty4886 Hope your doing well ❤
i hate being a woc. i hate the fact that i’ll always be seen as “exotic”. i hate that i feel like i have no right to my culture because i’m so disconnected from it, i hate everything about it. why is it either that i’m liked for being chinese or that i’m bullied for it? i just want to be seen how white women are seen. i don’t want to be fetishised for the way i am, nor do i want to be made fun of for it. i can’t keep up with society’s beauty standards. i hate my black hair . i hate everything about being asian. it’s so unfair that i’m treated differently for being born chinese and filipino. i hate that i’m never seen as a normal person, it’s either that i’m seen as hot for being asian or i’m seen as dirty. i hate everything about being a woc.
hi luv, i am a poc as well (SE Asian), and i totally get this. we’ve all had the thoughts of not liking ourselves, and wanting to be like white people as they don’t feel prejudiced a lot. i’ve had the feelings the same way as you described. however, please do not take to heart about those comments and learn to love yourself. it may take time but please realize we’re all unique and different. who cares if we’re seen as dirty? they don’t know what we go through every single day. those who call us asians ‘exotic’ or fetishized us, every single day i always hoped for them to rot. these kinds people do not deserve our attention or our time. society’s beauty standards are always high, but that is to be expected. who cares if we’re not up to it? it’s our right to be who we want, what we want to be, how we want to dress, how we want to be perceived and how we want to look in and out. it’s our right to break these standards and go with what we feel. i hope for the people who mistreated you and make you feel like you are ‘not normal’, will never know peace. believe me when i say that you are enough, and please to always on how to love yourself, even when it’s just a tiny bit ❤️
I started crying reading this I’m so sorry that stuff like this happens to you:( I just want you to know that there is people out there who will see you for you and not your race. I’m also a poc and I know how it feels for people to only see my race and want nothing to do with me. I hope you know I accept you as the beautiful person you are
hii, pls dont hate being a woc!! as a fellow woc, i would like you to know that chinese & filipino culture is beautiful, and being a WOC is a beautiful thing to be -- our culture is rich, we are so beautiful, please know that we are beautiful, YOU are beautiful
If you are living in a white nation and you are a minority, you are by definition a rarity and exotic. That's demographics and white men are explorers at their best. You want to be seen as a standard beauty, but there is no such thing. Men will "fetishize" any feature of women, or as we call it, being attracted to certain features. Blond hair. Brown hair. Red hair. Freckles. Pink nipples. Brown nipples. Tall women. Short women. A cup. D cup. There are men who find amputees attractive. Men aren't as collective as you think they are. There's no patriarchy. There's barely a brotherhood. Men will have a handful of good friends in ONE lifetime.
As for beauty standards and your personal culture, the best analogy I can come up with is YOU are your OWN Micronation. Your outward appearance is your tourism strip, your attractions, your resort areas. The areas people visit on only the most superficial levels. Your internal personality and your personal microculture. That's your service industry, your mom and pop stores, your start-ups and traditional restaurants, your exports and imports. The real heart and soul of your personal world.
Having people visit the resort areas is fine. Its fun, but its also a flash in the pan. You want people to come in deeper and establish trade with you. The ones who are only interested in the resorts.. they're not going to want to go deeper. They're only interested in the latest amenities. When you have someone who wants to go deeper, your personal microculture has to be attractive, but in a different way. It has to be warm and inviting and welcoming. You can't have it be a toxic waste dump where people are eating each other for attention. Have something there that people want to take home with them. Or better yet, be someplace where someone wants to build a home and want to be a beneficial part of your community.
And every once in a while, its ok to close your borders and let people know you have to work on your own infrastructure.
it's not as simple as 'only white women are seen as normal' jeez. everybody who's different from the major race of the country are not seen as normal. take a moment to read into asian men living in asian countries fetishizing white and black women cuz it's exotic to 'ride a white/black horse'. take a moment to read into the whole world fetishizing russian women cuz 'they're soooo pretty and more often than not are prostitutes plus they're submissive not like those dirty western femenists'
"I'm not even a star" and "you're the one you're all I ever wanted" hit so hard for some reason
my boyfriend is an American Boy, and I’m a hispanic, listening to this makes me upset and cry because, white girls are the beauty standard as me, a hispanic girl, well...is different. Im afraid that he doesn’t see me as someone beautiful so I want to try my best to be seen as his best American girl.
Your beautiful
Remember beauty is subjective
To him you’re the most beautiful Out there animo hermosa💖
i’m sure you’re gorgeous 💕 hispanic girls are the most beautiful girls i’ve ever seen
Don't try too hard.nothing is more unique and beautiful than being your true self. If he can't love you the way you are then he doesn't deserve you. People who are proud of their culture are original and more attractive in my opinion.
being woc is actually so difficult, i love being a woc but....my culture is constantly being appropriated. i'm seen as the most undesirable or disgusting race (im bangladeshi, asian) and it feels strange to be so disassociated from your own culture bc white ppl have told u that its disgusting, but when white women wear our cultural clothing, theyre "exotic" and "beautiful" :/
I feel your pain. Native American women are sexualized and our cultures are only seen as a costume to wear or a mascot for your basic predominantly white public school. Even the things we make that have cultural significance is of course whitewashed. Dreamcatchers? Absolutely disrespected and only viewed as a piece of aesthetic decoration for some pale indie teen's bedroom or something.
Luckily I'm exposed to my community and haven't really ventured outside of it, unless you count five years of my childhood being spent in a middle class town in Minnesota. What I learned attending their public school was that in their textbooks, they gave out misinformation about Native Americans and painted us as redskinned savages who were violent and hateful. My experience being the only native american in that school made me feel shameful and small.
My mom has also drilled into my head that because I'm native american, I'll be shoved into a box while I'm walking on the street in some city and shipped off somewhere to some rich white dude's basement like I'm an expensive piece of jewelry. I just feel unsafe and as though I will never belong outside of my community.
You'll see native Americans trying to speak up about our issues or correct misinformation and we're shut down and told we're already privileged enough just because of the benefits the government gives us, as if throwing money in our face is the right way to apologize for what we went through in history, which either nobody cares about or doesn't know.
There's a lot I can say about our issues, such as MMIW or indian boarding schools, but the main part is that being a person of color in general sucks. Trying to get the right representation sucks. And it will always be very difficult, almost impossible to even get anybody who's getting their name out there turned into a household one. Why? Because white people :)
Sorry for ranting. I just needed to get this out there.
I am also Bangla
most bangladeshi women in my city are quite desired dkwyoab
HELP IM ALSO BANGLADESHI AND THIS WWS SO RELATABLE
I’m South Indian and I understand you more than anything
"dont wait for me, i can't come." crying.
I'm not american I'm Canadian however I'm black african girl who has lived in Canada for all my life I faced sm shit.
I remember in 5th grade I wore bantu knots to school for my hair and a few racist boys started calling it "connect the dots" and said other mean things. It went as far as them tripping me and when me and my mum called the school they did NOTHING about it. The next time I had bantu knots was last year and I still felt so scared and traumatized literally I still cannot fully get over it. In my average town size my school is not rlly the most diverse given that it's pretty new but one of my friends is mixed (black and white) and she said me, my best friend (white and latina) and another friend who is 25% asian were her only poc friends pretty sad because I lived in Ottawa for most of my childhood and I atleast got to be connected to my Cameroonian culture and I had a community there. Last year they were boys saying cruel stuff to her telling her to kill herself and when she cut herself they told her it was good. They even went as far as making her CRY and she could have killed herself given the fact she was already dealing with mental issues. Her (black) dad called the school like 2 times they didn't do SHIT until I left my seat DURING CLASS marched to the principals office and told her everything and even when they were FINALLY in "trouble" they did not get suspended for almost KILLING her, no they just got a "talk" and were let go. Keep in mind they are white boys. One of those yt boys who keept talking that my nose is big literally created an insecurity. I kept hating my nose the way it went wide when I smiled and everything. I wished I had a small nose and even went as far trying to manifest a smaller nose. That same racist yt boy is friends with some mixed black passing nigga in my class. They keep trying to get the "n word pass" (like there is anything cool about a slur in the first place) and keep making steorytypes (probably spelt that wrong lfmao) by calling him "scary black man" and he literally just let his asshole of friends treat the two poc girls of his OWN RACE like trash. And I kinda given up on love atp. Most of my crushes r white boys and another boy who is racially ambigous will obiously go to the yt girl. Out of my years in middle school I only got called good looking by a guy ONCE and he was very much a PLAYER! I try so hard trying to please em with everything. I try loosing weight to be more slim only to see the same yt girls have the EXACT body type I HATE! The body type I NATURALLY have THEY get praised for! I always worry about my broad shoulders thinking they r too "masculine" same with my nose. My mixed friend is atleast lucky she's LGBTQ and has a supporting gf but I never had any. My white latina friend ended up dating that ONE racist yt guy only for him to dump her 3 weeks later so he very much was "experimenting" with her. My white latina friend is lucky that she can sometimes pass as white (she has brown eyes, tan skin and a long nose but they rest is yt). I'm so tired. I'm going to highschool next year and I'm going to the most diverse place in my town because it will be better I have someone who is like me there or I get a exchange program where I study in Toronto or something. sorry for the long paragraph I just needed to rant
Canada is part of America
I’m Canadian too and I live in Ontario as well so I know how bad the eurocentrism is as a poc (I’m desi). Even if schools preach all this stuff about “diversity” and “acceptance” they really don’t do jackshit about racism. All my childhood I felt so ugly for being brown and I have a pretty big nose too and it just feels so debilitating to try and keep up with all of these ridiculous standards. I hope you know your nose is beautiful and that your body is lovely at is. White men don’t deserve you and one day they’ll see what they’ve taken for granted. For now, I hope you know there’s another girl in Ontario wondering when she’ll be seen as pretty, too.
Is it better now?
🇨🇲 represented!!!!!! (Sorry i know it's a bad memory but i was uncannily over excited when i heard you mention the mother land)
I know how frustrating it is. Those people act that way to make themselves feel better because they are really insecure inside. If you ask them what their favorite music, athletes, or celebrity is, chances are it’s a black person. They’re just jealous
I remember when I was younger I was embarrassed to say that I was from El Salvador, cause I didn’t know the reactions I would get. Some of my friends said “you don’t look Salvadoran” “I thought you were Mexican” “I don’t like Salvadorans or Hondurans” “well you’re Mexican now”. I would be embarrassed to say I was Salvadorans cause my friends use to say how loud Salvadorans were without knowing I was one. I love this song so much
when all your crushes are into pretty, skinny, blonde white girls and they all see you as a weird asian girl to toy around with. when you know you’ll never be seen as pretty because you just aren’t seen or taken as a joke.. that feeling of your heart dropping when you hear that your crush likes that one popular white girl everyone likes.
im so sorry, ur beautiful, hopefully u will find somebody who loves u for who u are
I HATE BEING WHITE IM SO SORRY FOR U😣
Hey!! It's been a year now. I hope u found ur true love, someone who really loves and cares for u
Kisses from a stranger !!
Dude my crush has a massive crush on the popular girl 😭
It's been a year, I'm sure you are beautiful and I wish you the best♡
I love mistki she makes me feel so safe :((
to be honest, i have this boost of confidence when i listen to this song. i used to cry so damn hard because i used to try so hard to adapt to such expectations, i just end up getting hurt because of my woc identity. but now, i’m freer than ever and i don’t have to change a thing about how i feel about being raised by such good people. woc should love who they are regardless of the beauty standards.
this song hit me so hard,i am from third world country and family issues girl and him is the opposite .he came from rich happy family and first world country
we are so different 😢
this song hurts me so much. i'm a girl who's family immigrated from a poor country and now lives in the west. my boyfriend is ethnically western european and had the complete opposite experinces to me. i grew up with hardships such as leaving my whole life behind, being an outcast because i couldn't speak the language, abuse, toxic parenting, being raised by a single immigrant mom who's trying her best for her daughters. sometimes i feel like people judge him for dating me because of where i'm from, especially since his friends have the same background.
i lost hope for my future many times but i keep going for my family even though i know it will be difficult. on the other hand he has many big plans for his future and isn't scared of it at all, his parents have the money to help him. i don't think he understands my point of view most of the time, and today it resulted in an argument. i wonder if he'd be better off with someone else.
While I will never be able to relate to this song for its intended purpose because I’m not a woc, I still relate to this song in so many different ways
@@mother3434 there's no need to, since you know Mitski's intentions, and simply relate to the song another way. It would be problematic if you said you relate to it the same way wocs do.
This whole song is about being a woc, you can’t relate to this song in “so many different ways” if you are not a woc. Let woc have this one thing
@@Zumbiesocool I relate to this song as well even though I am not a woc. You don't own art. Don't tell people what to relate to and what not to.
@@chaplin006 womp womp
@@imnfewirose876 ?
Broke up with my bf of a year recently and the “You have sm to do and I have nothing ahead of me” hits knowing he has so many friends while I was the loser gf with no life or friends
I started crying even tho I never experienced the struggles of being woc in America.
pain is forever
Here is the slowed version of this song: ruclips.net/video/cailEyothNo/видео.html
You are correct
nice baby seungkwan pfp
real
i want more music like this
"you're the sun,you've never seen the night but you hear its song from the morning birds,well I'm not the moon,,I'm not even star"this line reminds me of my boyfriend and also my parents,I feel like I'm not good enough for either of them,I always feel like I'm disobeying my parents on accident when I seriously don't mean to disobey them at all,I love my parents a lot and I could never ask for a better mom and dad, this also goes to my siblings:)
for the boyfriend part,this guy is literally one of the main reasons I'm glad I get to live another day,but sometimes I feel like I'm not enough for him,I always feel like he would be better off with someone who isn't me yet I don't wanna be separated from him, no matter how many times he tells me that I'm enough for him,I still feel like I can be better but no matter how many times I improve,I'll never be enough
0:45
run that shit back :(
I think I know what volcanoes feel like
THE DICKINSON REF OMG
I WAS LOOKING FOR THIS
BYE
😭
DICKINSON MENTIONED‼️🦅🦅🦅🦅🔥🔥🔥🔥🦅🦅🦅🦅
"you have so much to do and i have nothing ahead of me" is how it feels to like someone older.
That's dumb because it's literally the opposite
OKKKK MITSKI I SEE U WITH THE VOCALSSS
this sounds really bad, but i would literally do anything to be white 😭 being asian really isn't as cutesy and aesthetic as people make it seem online. everybody loves skinny blue eyed blonde girls, and it's so unfair. i hate feeling like i shouldn't even bother with my crushes or even people I'd like to be freinds with, because they definetly wouldn't want to be with that one asian girl.
stop letting your insecurities and how other people see you shape the way you think about yourself. i promise you blonde blue eyed girls are an immense minority, and even among them you'll find the fat girls, the disabled girls, the girls with birthmarks or bodily disfigurements. i promise you they feel the same. the mainstream media makes you think beauty is something attainable and at the same time inherent, but this is not only contradictory but completely untrue as well. conventional "beauty" doesn't determine your worth as a person.
For some reason whenever I hear this song I picture present me singing it to little me. I know that doesn't make any sense given the "You have so much to do and I have nothing ahead of me" and "Your mother wouldn't approve of how my mother raised me" but for some reason those are also the lyrics that fit most to me for that-
I’m so embarrassed every time my bf says that I’m his gf , I don’t feel good enough. If I was a blonde light skinned girl maybe I wouldn’t feel so bad.
you're still perfect, he definitely thinks the same
Probs not, I myself am a blonde light skinned girl. I’m insanely embarrassed to even be seen outside.
I'm not blonde, but I hate my sickly looking pale skin while the rest of the people around me have warm, darker skin.
There is always a reason to hate oneself.
this is the only song that has ever made me cry
Every single line in this applies hits WAY to close to home ... Ouch. Beautiful.
drags down the walls*
This song describes me so much.
I have tan skin and I'm half Mexican and half American girl, i never felt Mexican enough or American enough i always never felt good about my skin color i wanted to have white skin and blue gorgeous eyes, i started crying one day because I felt like i could never be pretty, I'm in love with this boy that is the "all American boy" he's blonde he's smart he's funny he's white, but i never felt good enough i worry that he thinks I'm ugly i want to be the "best American girl" i want to make my hair more smooth i want to change my eyes, i can't change anything i wish I could, i don't even know that much about my culture
:(
Sorry for bothering you with my ploblems have a good day or night :)
my heart aches A LOT listening to this song
I never really had a problem with being Asian because I never got any negative comments about it. Still, I did feel guilty and not good enough because I'm only half Asian, a quarter black, and a quarter Hispanic. so I never felt "full" anything. I was never "fully Asian", "fully black" or "fully Hispanic" and when I would casually mention to people I'm Asian because I have brown skin they all say " no your not" and my friends don't believe me until I have to explain to them. or when I tell people I'm black they act surprised because I'm a light-skinned person. so I'm too dark to be Asian but too light to be black. and sometimes I don't feel like I'm even Hispanic enough because I'm so disconnected from my culture. I don't know how to speak Spanish or any of my native languages. and I feel so bad about it all the time. and I often find myself asking people "what do I look like" because at that point even I don't really know.
"But big spoon, you have so much to do. And i have nothing ahead of me" is kind of how i feel bc my partner graduated a year before me and joined the marines. Meanwhile, im stuck here in my last year of school. No job, no car, no aspirations or plans.
Ive had crush on this girl for 4 years and I've been best friends with her that entire time. She's recently fell in love with a tall, pale, skinny, white, cishet American boy. He's 19 and she's 13 and whenever she talks about how she knows he'll never love her she always says I don't understand but I do because I love her. She's happy though so if that's what it takes I'll let her go
that’s… illegal. 13 and 19 is pedophilia.
13 and 19.....
Your friend is a victim💀
@@lklovesyourmom2175 ONGG
help your friend 19 and 13? 😟
Victim victim
i was mad at my mum for feeding me thai food, i rejected my own culture for popularity... i hate this. im now trying to be more understanding and im trying more thai food. i used to be ashamed to say i was thai, never again.
literally same
I know this probably wasn’t the point but ever since I was a very little, my Thai neighbors used to bring my family (I’m Indian and Brazilian) homemade Thai food. When I got older we moved away but we used to takeout the exact same Thai dishes that my neighbors would bring us. It has become my comfort food and the culture and the food is absolutely beautiful. I know exactly how you feel and I’m so glad you’ve overcome that battle
i'm here again guys. living the "your best american girl life" again.
"you have so much to do and i have nothing ahead of me" "well im not the moon im not even a star" 😞 how are we feeling woc!
not great hahaha
i’m not feeling
not great
ALL OF YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. IF YOU SAY YOU AREN'T I WILL FIGHT YOU
Que canción TAN PERSONAL, GRACIAS MITSKI POR REGALARNOS UN PEDAZO DE TU VIDA
“I think ill regret this” real.
this hurts when your boyfriend is an all american boy when ur an asian american
"You're the sun you never seen the night but you hear its song form the morning birds im not the moon im not even a star but awake one night i will be sing to the birds" hurts me
“Well I’m not the moon, I’m not even a star.” I can relate to that line the most.
I am in my feelings. Jeff Holman, you got me WHIPPED.
So recently I had this friend and he made me feel like this song so I decided he wasn’t good for my mental health and now everyone is calling me childish for dropping him but he made me feel absolutely fucking worthless and I put so much effort into him all for him to not even give me the bare minimum
U did the right decision im so proud of u for cutting such a toxic relationships like this nd dw abt what they saying cause they dont know how u felt.
"you have so much to do, and I have nothing ahead of me"
ik this song is ab being poc, but this resonates so much wt me, my twin has so many goals and hopes for the future, her grades are great and she seems to be on top of EVERYTHING. I'm not. I'm 8 months behind in art. simply just assignments not handed in. I don't "like" anything I do. my twin is miles ahead of me, and its just. I wish I were better. shes always been so much better, not genius level or anything, but like knowing division at 5. I'm worried I'm gonna end up deadbeat, just living with my parents as another expense to pay.
Ty
Here is the slowed version of this song: ruclips.net/video/cailEyothNo/видео.html
i remember looking up how to get rid of slender eyes on wikihow religiously. i was 8.
2:30 This hit me the most
I'm actually a white polish girl but happend that i got rejected by ukrainian men (many ukrainian people live in our country). He rejected me because "I'm not that hard working like girls in Ukrain" "I'm not that smart like Ukrainian girls" etc. So I somehow relate to "your mother wouldn't approve of how my mother raise me" part of song. Also "you have so much to do and I have nothing ahead of me" too.
yea this song just hits too hard
Im a poc, however ive always had paler skin and straighter hair. Though I've always had kinda a big nose. I always felt proud bc i could pass as a white person. Now, I feel insecure abt it bc i don't wanna be seen as a white woman. I want to feel proud abt being Mexican. Either way I don't feel pretty bc of my big nose. My parents never taught me much abt my culture. then they would make fun of me for not knowing anything.
"but big spoon, you have so much to do and I have nothing ahead of me" 😭
This song goes hard fr
"WELL, I'M NOT THE MOON, I'M NOT EVEN A STAR"
this song makes me think of patroclus and achilles and now i'm sad.
Bestie literally how
@@plantyx978 I CAN'T EXPLAIN HOW IT JUST DOES 😭😭😭😭😭😭
@@drewwhasinsomnia IT'S THE UTTER DEVOTION AND YEARNING FR 😭
@@drewwhasinsomnia WAIT, WAIT, I SEE IT. "You have so much to do and I have nothing ahead of me." THE WAY ACHILLES WAS ALWAYS DESTINED FOR GREATNESS AND PATROCLUS FELT SMALL, UNSPECIAL, AND INSIGNIFICANT.
STOP I'M ALREADY CRYING
Honestly this is really relatable. I don't really think about my ethnicity in realation to dating since im not really that type of person. Still, this song is awfully real, even when just in socializing.
As a black woman, I feel so out of place. Almost all my friends are either white or Hispanic. Not even out of choice, really. Maybe they pity me, because im not pretty so other black girls seem to have something against me. Boys love picking on me.
Im waiting for someone to just not care that im not a gorgeous black woman off of Pinterest and just want to be friends with me because they like ME. as a person.
I never knew I would relate
Im not even a star
Pov you love him so much but you are polar opposites in everyway, culturally, mentally, spiritually. :' )
is it weird i can relate to this as a male? men of my race are always stereotyped as weak, and it doesnt help that I am already "nerdy" spent all my time playing games and watching anime. In high school i felt like even among my own people i was unattractive and undesired, since i dont really fit the standard of either a big muscular chad or a cute flawless Kpop idol. I hated myself so much.
I found my gf, a typical white American girl and I just dont know what she sees in me, honestly. we share the same interests, have the same sense of humor, are compatible in every way but i still cant see myself as "worthy" of her because i have such low self esteem. and she is so kind and sweet, and seems so in love with and attracted to me. But i constantly doubt myself, thinking i dont deserve it, thinking that she'll eventually come to her senses and leave me. At first, i pushed her away because i didnt think i deserved her, and it hurt her in the process. its been a long time since though and despite everything she stuck by me. I hope one day i can make peace with myself for her sake
honestly it’s not that weird. the songs all about wanting to fit in with white people because of somebody you’ve fallen in love with. so no!!! also i’m so sorry. you’re definitely a great person and i know you you will find it in you to love yourself
[Vent]
It's so sad that knowing all of what I'm doing is pointless. I'll never be the "best American girl", hell I'm not even a girl. I've been starving myself, trying so hard to be more feminine, I'm trying everything to make him love me. But it's not enough, and it never will be, and I know it. Still, no one makes me laugh or smile like he does. I get so excited when he calls me or when we talk. I'm never going to find someone else like him. I don't want to live a life without him. I just wish he loved me as much as I love him. I'd do anything for him. Everything he does is perfect to me. I think about him constantly. Too bad I'm just a friend to him. I'll never be his best American girl.
WHEN HES A WHITE BOY BUT UR NOT A WHITE GIRL SO HE WOULD NEVER GO FOR U 💔💔💔
gonna kms lol
exactly
SAME DUCKING THING EVERY YEAR WHY DO TJEY ALWAYS GO FORWHITE GIRLS WHYYYY WHYYYYYYY
"But big spoon you have so much to do, And I have nothing ahead of me."
You're the sun , you've never seen the night
vent!!
i hate how everytime someone new sees me,instead of thinking im pretty or nice,they think im going to steal from them,or that I look ghetto. if only i were white. but i have to be black,and straighten my hair,and feel jealous everytime i see a white girl. if only i could swap places with someone,anyone,who isn’t black.
“You have so much to do and I have nothing ahead of me”
hits hard bc most people have a plan for their future or a dream job plus even a favorite school subject but I hate every single school subject, jobs and don’t know abt my future :(
My father is white and my mother is black. I was born with brown skin, a large nose, and my appearance is strange, as I am short, unlike my brothers, who have white skin, soft hair, and beautiful eyes, and I envied them, and sometimes people are mean to me. This led to me having a lack of confidence and I left school, and now I will return after three years and feel lost and lose many opportunities just because being shy and I do not accept myself
I think I know what a volcano 🌋 feels like….
"You have so much to do and I have nothing ahead of me."
Kinda hurts me.
hello fellow woc 😭😭
hi😭😭😭
well, I’m not the moon I’m not even a star
"You're the one, you're all I ever wanted I think I'll regret this" ☹️
nothing hurts more than being told “nothing against u I’m just not into black woman”
its alr. you will be loved one day for who you are. don't let these things turn you down
You deserve more then them anyway ❤
0:47 - 1:13
crying
You have so much to do, and i have nothing ahead of me.
Hey mitski......its me again....
I'm a halfy here(half Korean half white) I've always had such a hard time finding where to stand, and ever since moving and going into this new community it has become so much harder for me, I'm the only half-girl there with the higher cheekbones but asian but also not Asian eyes, and most of the girls there are so pretty, either the beautiful blond ones or the beautiful hispanic girls there(most of the community is a mix of white and Hispanic, so I'm not shaming anyone btw sorry if that came off wrong or offended anyone.) but all the boys there have fallen for the girls there, not saying I WANT someone to fall for me, I just wonder what it's like to have someone think of me as pretty. it's just sad knowing I fit none of their standards.
feel this so hard😭😭 i’m also korean and white and where i live people either fetishize me for it or dislike me since i’m just another dirty asian. i’m too asian for white people and too white for asian people
@@virus-jk2yf Im so sorry about that :( It is sad cuz we truly are all beautiful in our own unique ways, its just people like to one side things, that or your too much of something or too less of something. but im hoping we both find someone who appreciates us for who we are. :) (that is if you are wanting a s/o ofc ^^)
Wouldnt life be easier if i was a blond haired basic girl whos thinner than a stick? Whyd i have to fall for everyguy im not a girl. I hate being an asian guy im way too tall and big i dont want to be mocked by fellow asians but i am too much of a terrible person i dont deverse anything. How will i be pretty if i love food so much. I feel like i dont deserve to eat
ALL MY IMMIGRANT GIRLIES RISE
"dont wait for me, i cant come"
“Your mother wouldn’t approve of how my mother raised me” is so real because his mom is homophobic and mine is accepting so he doesn’t want to date or even be in love with me because of the fear of his mother hating him. I’m not mad at him, we’re still young and he has the right to be afraid of a life without his mother because life with her is all he’s ever known. And honestly I’d be afraid too but it hurts even more knowing we could’ve been together if I was never trans (ftm) 🙂
I ❤ mitski
Mitski era un secreto
Jealous that white girls will never understand this feeling :(
Hurt
Here is the slowed version of this song: ruclips.net/video/cailEyothNo/видео.html
But big spoon , you have so much to do
And I have nothing Ahead of me
aku tidur dulu, still love you